Yyyeesss‼️I agree especially if your dealing with a delicate situation. Moving in silence is safest method for certain. THERE’s TONS OF POWER IN SILENCE!!!
@@mousalini4095 I’m an all in type of person. An intimate relationship should be a safe space for all experiences. Downtime and crunch time, balancing togetherness and individuality. I’ll also wonder if I’m boring long before I start looking at someone else that way. I fix me. I don’t look for things to fix in others. I’m there for backup if my partner needs support in making their own changes they decided for themselves. If I get into a relationship I’m gonna know what downtime means to them- including the word boring- as well as everything else, before we adhere ourselves to deeper levels of commitment to each other.
@@onbutterfly_wings keep your hopes up in Goodness and keep your eye on becoming your own Greatest version of you that you can imagine. It's worth a lifetime of effort to have True Love and Connection with another who's in total Harmony with you. I wish you all the best on your journey my friend. You've got this! 💖 💖💖
This is so true! My ex wanted me back and I didn't reply. This would've been the perfect thing to say because it shuts down anything he could've offered. He was narcissistic and made me guess about everything. Thank you for this!
Exactly! Who got time for guessing games and gambling 🎰 with their heart ❤️ and life. A unprepared man is not suitable for a woman with vision and a interest in building a solid foundation with love 💗.
We all are flawed. You need to focus on your life, and your business, not his. That's his wife's territory and she has moved on. We all have. You should too. He has helped and continues to help thousands of women and changing our lives for the better. He is good for us. Let's be thankful for him.
Wow this is the exact situation I just dealt with. I ended it because he was never clear and talked in circles. Feel so much better now. He still reaches out. He fumbled the bag for sure.
@@nuwoman1828 when they bring up topics to garner your interest and then when you show interest then they dont answer with the original topic but change topic completely with something mundane and it goes on and on till you put a stop to it cos its game playing
@@nuwoman1828 I'll put it simpler for you. "If he SAYS one thing, but his ACTIONS show another, then MOVE ON." Or better yet, If you are getting mixed messages, then MOVE ON. SImple.
This is 💯 on point. I have learned the hard way and had my heart shattered by men who only know how to play and how to damage. I found out they leave real quick when you start asking the right questions
You are spot on young man…I pray your brethren get your message sooner rather than later. As for me I got tired of the guessing game. I’ve divested in their shenanigans.
On point. This is me to a T. I left my Ex because of Games. He is going through it because he lost a Good Woman. Don't know what you had until it's gone
@@WaitingForTheTrumpet I’m so happy for you. A new chapter, don’t look back! Close the book and the end, once you finish reading a book you’ll always know the end of the story can’t change it either. Meaning, you know the person well, that person it’s not going to change so it’s the end. Good luck and wish you nothing but the best!
it's about time that someone out there finally understands me instead of saying that I'm assuming and I ask too many questions and I just need to sit back and wait this is why I'm by myself now I choose to be by myself thank you so much
Honestly, I am tired of manipulations. I have got so much experience now with manipulators that I can smell manipulation very easily. I don't even know why guys manipulate. I mean can't they be real? If we like eachother as we are let's proceed otherwise let's not. It's as simple as that.
Most men came from employer/employee relationships. Where the woman was the employer and controlling them using various forms of control tactics. They feel they have to manipulate their way to turn the table so to speak where they can be the employer. Here's the kicker, still wont work out. That's not the right dynamic. It's equal partnership, or vested outsourcing is the only dynamics that will last for a relationship. And that don't mean I make the dough and give it to you to fix the place. That's employer/employee again. We both are equally earning and equally everything throughout all of it.
Yes - Good Women - once you’ve lost them…. It’s almost IMPOSSIBLE to get them back - primarily because they allowed time/opportunity to reciprocate what she was giving . I know for ME: I will love you & root for you/work with you as much as I possibly can before giving up. Once I do… it’s never the same thereafter 🤷🏽♀️
I think he is the only one who understood a womans mind who actually wants to get married and have a family. Everyone both men and women should take note.
@Heatha B. Yeah I just commented and said not good, but wise and logical because bad decision making processes is a common theme of females that been traumatized and don't have the life tools to heal aka therefore have low self-worth.
Amen brother you right ,to love and build, what I'm about,and u right it is like gambling and I don't like to lose so I've learned the hard way if a person don't put the same energy in me as I would them it's not gonna work for me
Your content is so insightful and on point. I've had men trying to persuade me that I'm too demanding because I wanted to love, build, invest in the relationship, and even told Ineeded to lowetmy standards because I would not accept any type of inconsistency. I'm truly wondering whether there are any good guys left...
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Thank you. No guessing, no games, no gambling. When she's done... she's done. I'm too valuable a person.
Thank you commentator speaking THRUTH!!
👍👍👍
💜💜💜💜
yes
Facts
On point, a woman with morals does not continue to sacrifice her integrity for a player.
I get you!!!!
No, no we do not. ❗💯❗
Amen. Well said.
Exactly
A woman with integrity never chooses a player
Inner peace is important. My heart is too precious.
Well said !
Yes, yes, very well said!!❤😊
Yeap🌻❤️🔥🥰💯
I need consistency in all areas of the relationship. I don't beg, chase, or manipulate. Say less silence is golden.
Hello 👋
Consistency is key
Woman, been there done that. I know what you mean. DONE!
Thank you! Why is consistency so difficult for men to maintain???? If I can do it, so can he... right? Uh apparently NOT!
That part about saying less.
I rather be alone than with someone who is not worth my time. Single and beyond happy.
Its not a good woman but a mature woman. One that has learned her value and has no time for immaturity and games.
Good woman💎💎💎
Well said it's all about a woman who respects herself you said it
Indeed ❤️
Great point
Yes!! Replace good with mature.
True...100%..A woman that know what she wants is often single..
Exactly me right now. I've been single most of my adult life because I won't settle for someone I don't want.
@@intelligententerprises5670 me too...i don't tolerate bullshit..
Facts
Facts
Or mingling
I wasn’t guessing … I was assessing in silence, then I decided “it’s time”to plan for ME ❤
Yyyeesss‼️I agree especially if your dealing with a delicate situation. Moving in silence is safest method for certain.
THERE’s TONS OF POWER IN SILENCE!!!
That'll do it!!!
Absolutely
@@redafro321that's what I did
Oooooweeeee that paRt!
Exactly, I just move on with my life don’t beg nobody to love you .
Yes lord you spoke truth amen ❤
I’m amazed how some men know women so well.
Exactly , I just move on with my life Don’t beg nobody to love you.
God love you and I love you for making this post.
How do you have so much female insight? Incredible awareness, and emotional intelligence
👍 I know right ✅️
Because of his own mistakes. Google him.
Because he's a serial cheat
Players are bound to have game...
He's getting rich off yall
I hope men are listening to you, because you are spot on
@standing in the Gap.... Yes Always
@@msblessedIAM ❤❤❤
We are not. Because he doesn't mean any of this. Just telling you what u want to hear
Sound good don't it
Men don't like him because he's making women smarter
Exactly that's how I've been feeling with these men. I'm enjoying being single. ❤
Clarity is kindness and caring. 😢
Amen! We don't have time for guessing games because time is too precious.
“The only thing on her mind is to love and to build.” 🔥
Excellent finish, too. 🤟
Exactly 💯💯
@Elizabeth00488 It sounds good don't it. Then they be like I got him wrapped around my finger. He's too boring
@@mousalini4095 clever men with great mind are not boring, they're just difficult to handle. 🤧🤧🤧🤧
@@mousalini4095 I’m an all in type of person. An intimate relationship should be a safe space for all experiences. Downtime and crunch time, balancing togetherness and individuality. I’ll also wonder if I’m boring long before I start looking at someone else that way. I fix me. I don’t look for things to fix in others. I’m there for backup if my partner needs support in making their own changes they decided for themselves. If I get into a relationship I’m gonna know what downtime means to them- including the word boring- as well as everything else, before we adhere ourselves to deeper levels of commitment to each other.
To love and build.....so profound
Speaking 💯 truth ... a grown woman will keep it moving and go about her grown woman business ✨️✨️🤗 Thank you Derrick 🙏🏾
So true, many men never mature enough to be able to understand this.
Well said. A good woman is not a gold digger❤
"Guessing is too close to gambling." ✍️
Amen! Took me a long time to KNOW this is True! Good luck and God bless all those refusing to take part in ANY toxic & manipulative behaviors.💖🙏💖
Me tooo😢
But. We know now!
@@onbutterfly_wings keep your hopes up in Goodness and keep your eye on becoming your own Greatest version of you that you can imagine. It's worth a lifetime of effort to have True Love and Connection with another who's in total Harmony with you. I wish you all the best on your journey my friend. You've got this! 💖 💖💖
@@Iamlearningtolove ,♥️🙌🏾
@@Freespiritedqueen back atcha babe! 🙌💕😁
*”The only thing on her mind is to LOVE and to BUILD.” D. Jaxn*
😂💓 Exactly Queen 👸🏽!!
Aji Laura
The only thing in a *good** woman's mind is love and build
He soooo full of it!
@@antoniotula262 You have to get his side of the story before you condemn him. Don’t believe everything you see here on social media.
My brother speaking from a personal experience, you are 2000 percent RIGHT. Thank you for enlightening them.!!!!
No mind games. Period. You can have the playing field on your own.
This is so true! My ex wanted me back and I didn't reply. This would've been the perfect thing to say because it shuts down anything he could've offered. He was narcissistic and made me guess about everything. Thank you for this!
Hello 👋
Thank you for addressing this and us in a positive light. Too many men not getting us when we just want to give and receive love.
She's going to listen, watch and pray and then make her decision.
Amen
AMEN
Real Men Finally Throwing All The Players Under The Bus🙌🏾
Thank you Brother for this message in JESUS name Amen 💯💯💯💯💯💯🌉🌉🌉🌉🌉🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐😇😇😇😇👍👍👍👍👍👍🌄🌄🌄🌄☀️☀️☀️
Exactly! Who got time for guessing games and gambling 🎰 with their heart ❤️ and life. A unprepared man is not suitable for a woman with vision and a interest in building a solid foundation with love 💗.
💯💯💯
ThankQ 💐
Well said, Ms. Shonda!
What does that mean? Building a solid foundation? What does that look like?
Yes, Sis! Just had this convo. Unprepared to me = he shouldn’t be looking. He should be preparing. IJS
I just see him so differently now every time I see his videos
We all are flawed. You need to focus on your life, and your business, not his. That's his wife's territory and she has moved on. We all have. You should too.
He has helped and continues to help thousands of women and changing our lives for the better. He is good for us. Let's be thankful for him.
Me too
People grow and change, I have too! I'm happy for him and us.
Same
I wasn't crucifying him like damn I was just saying how I feel I was just making no you know judgment on him I wish him the best
Wow this is the exact situation I just dealt with. I ended it because he was never clear and talked in circles. Feel so much better now. He still reaches out. He fumbled the bag for sure.
Hello, Shawn Love, in what ways was he talking in circles? I ask because I may be dealing with something similar, thanks😊
@@nuwoman1828 when they bring up topics to garner your interest and then when you show interest then they dont answer with the original topic but change topic completely with something mundane and it goes on and on till you put a stop to it cos its game playing
@@richrich2862 yup that too
Me too
@@nuwoman1828 I'll put it simpler for you. "If he SAYS one thing, but his ACTIONS show another, then MOVE ON." Or better yet, If you are getting mixed messages, then MOVE ON. SImple.
Truth be told thank you for sharing this powerful message 🙏 amen
This is 💯 on point. I have learned the hard way and had my heart shattered by men who only know how to play and how to damage. I found out they leave real quick when you start asking the right questions
Woof! Facts! And she knows when she’s found the real thing.
Exactly. And when she hasn't
Spot on👌 it’s not about bitterness. We just ain’t got time and it’s definitely not worth the risk. Well said✊
You are spot on young man…I pray your brethren get your message sooner rather than later. As for me I got tired of the guessing game. I’ve divested in their shenanigans.
Ayeeeeee, HELLO and And Again Thank you for bringing that Knowledge because you for sure GOT IT🤞🏾
You’re absolutely correct 👍🏽.. We truly deserve better…
On point. This is me to a T. I left my Ex because of Games. He is going through it because he lost a Good Woman. Don't know what you had until it's gone
Hello 👋
It's like seeing a murderer teaching a class entitled...Pro Life
😆😆😆😆😆
The truth never stops being the truth no matter who says it! Learned this from an Elder person!
@@swillis8824 I agree. But its still heard to watch and listen to these people that ain't living right and we seeing it clear as day🤷🏾♀️
Oh Lorddy 😏😏🥴🥴
No THANK YOU!
Make her guess.. That'll do it. 🔥🔥🔥
Indeed!!
You nail it!!
It will IMPRESS ME HOW THEY LOVE N HOW HE BUILDS HIS PERSONA, HIS BUSSINESS, HIS LIFE AS A WHOLE!🎉🎉🎉
Hallelujah You got that right In Jesus Name Amen 🙏🏾🙌🏽❤️💯👏🏽💪🏾
And I’m moving out, he doesn’t get it I don’t want gifts I want love and honesty I’m tired I had enough.
Yeah I'm in the same position with you. Lease ends in 30 days, after that he's never going to see me again.
@@WaitingForTheTrumpet I’m so happy for you. A new chapter, don’t look back! Close the book and the end, once you finish reading a book you’ll always know the end of the story can’t change it either. Meaning, you know the person well, that person it’s not going to change so it’s the end. Good luck and wish you nothing but the best!
He articulates the things I’ve been through so well, it’s so validating.
Hello 👋
Ask me to be his “special friend “because he likes me a lot but I said “no thanks,” i am too much of a good woman to be someone’s special friend.
You go Baby!
Special friend this MF!!!!
Yes👏👏
walk away💅
In other words he wanted to waste your time 😒
I just learned this lesson. Never again will I gamble with my heart. ❤
U can't. Once u learn thats it. You can smell a player a drug addict an abuser etc.
Good for you!
FACTS!
I love your delivery, to the point and accurate, you should have a RUclips channel!!! And spread the world to a wider audience 💚
Amen! Just broke it off with someone because of this. 🙌🙏❤️
Amen
It's someone who has standards
it's about time that someone out there finally understands me instead of saying that I'm assuming and I ask too many questions and I just need to sit back and wait this is why I'm by myself now I choose to be by myself thank you so much
Excellent Service Spiritual Teacher! We Love You Sooooooooh MUCH!
Yes and Amen !! My heart is too pure for guessing
Your insight and intellect in understanding Quality Woman is unparalleled! speaking to my heart. thanks Derrick
This right here!!!!!! “Love & build” vs “play & damage.”
That part!!
💯👍🏼. Spot on .
Good woman wants to love ❤️ and Build 💯. 🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It's like you know me. You describe exactly how I am
Honestly, I am tired of manipulations. I have got so much experience now with manipulators that I can smell manipulation very easily. I don't even know why guys manipulate. I mean can't they be real? If we like eachother as we are let's proceed otherwise let's not. It's as simple as that.
And that's the truth!!
Most men came from employer/employee relationships. Where the woman was the employer and controlling them using various forms of control tactics. They feel they have to manipulate their way to turn the table so to speak where they can be the employer. Here's the kicker, still wont work out. That's not the right dynamic. It's equal partnership, or vested outsourcing is the only dynamics that will last for a relationship. And that don't mean I make the dough and give it to you to fix the place. That's employer/employee again. We both are equally earning and equally everything throughout all of it.
@@ronheiland6250 sounds more like roommates!
They Didn’t Know! Real Talk 💯
For sure. It is all from the heart. What is the heart made of. Two cannot grow together unless they agree.
Thank you sir for truth.
👏🏼👏🏼
This is so true it happened to me.. ❤❤❤... Thank you for this powerful reminder
Amen!🙏🏾 Well said!
So true. Be up front with your intention and don't let me wait, because I won't!
Derrick definitely was not up front with his own intentions!
"If you got to guess, get ready to be stressed."~Me. I said this. Period
Yes - Good Women - once you’ve lost them…. It’s almost IMPOSSIBLE to get them back - primarily because they allowed time/opportunity to reciprocate what she was giving . I know for ME: I will love you & root for you/work with you as much as I possibly can before giving up. Once I do… it’s never the same thereafter 🤷🏽♀️
Your insights are 100% on point!
Hello 👋
Amen So True ! l am more of honesty and Real Love ! l want a Strong relationship in truth ! 👍 thank you , no more risk ! 🙂
"2 luv & 2 build" that's correct
thsnks, Derrick,
you nailed it,
blessings !!
Amen! Life's to short to be playing games!
I think he is the only one who understood a womans mind who actually wants to get married and have a family.
Everyone both men and women should take note.
Marilyn A. Amen brother to all that. 🖐️🖐️ Speak the truth. God bless you
I wouldn't say a good woman I would say a smart woman, good women still mess up even though we went through the madness before
yeap that's real talk 💯 👏
@Heatha B. Yeah I just commented and said not good, but wise and logical because bad decision making processes is a common theme of females that been traumatized and don't have the life tools to heal aka therefore have low self-worth.
Smart/Good woman are same💎
THAT PART!!!🎯🎯🎯🎯
Guessing is too close to gambling..
Love that! 💚
I’m loving your videos. You are a literally speaking about the space I’m in right now.. I need a closure so help me God
Thank you for the word you talking to me God bless you 🙏 ❤️ 🙌 ♥️ 💓 💖 🙏
Amen alot of men need to hear this were too grown to play games
Hello 👋
@@AlexOLoughlin-sp3nd hi
@@queenb31100 greetings from Hawaii pretty lady 🌹
@@queenb31100 how are you doing?
i love this Black King 🥰❤️🙏🏽✌🏽
Hallelujah somebody! .....🙌
Love this...👌💃💃💃
Your so ON POINT! Thank you for sharing your knowledge...
thank u it feels like ur taking to me u know exactly how I'm feeling Amen" Couldn't been said any better!"May God bless all.
Yeah this is what I'm dealing with
My boyfriend doesn't tell me what he feels...I get tired about and IAM About to walk away ♥️♥️
@daria Move, now! Lock up the cookie jar, stop compromising your body and your personhood. Return to Jesus and build yourself up with Him. - Michelle
@@JSmedic1 you are so right... It's hard but I will do my best ♥️♥️
Amen brother you right ,to love and build, what I'm about,and u right it is like gambling and I don't like to lose so I've learned the hard way if a person don't put the same energy in me as I would them it's not gonna work for me
Swear you be spitting fire 🙌🏽👏🏽
Perfectly said, thank so much. Sir God bless you
Boom!!!!!! Thank you for articulating my thoughts and feelings so well 😊
U spoke to me this morning. 🤝🏽🤝🏽🤝🏽❤️🇿🇦
This speaks volumes!! All men need to hear this!
So True 👍
Oooowie!!! Asè 🙌🏾 Amen 🙏🏾 On point
Your content is so insightful and on point. I've had men trying to persuade me that I'm too demanding because I wanted to love, build, invest in the relationship, and even told Ineeded to lowetmy standards because I would not accept any type of inconsistency. I'm truly wondering whether there are any good guys left...
I love this and I appreciate it . Thank you so very much, for both men and women.
Amen 🙏 A good women don’t play games Thank you 🙏 amen
I had to play this twice and you’re so right! ❤
Hello 👋
Thank you , let them know.
A good woman there’s always someone waiting for her
*that WILL do it! Hahahaha well spoken good sir.*
You are so right on that one!