I went through this as a child. My dad had really bad scitzophrenia and couldn't take care of himself but he took care of me - walked me to school, picked me up, and so many people would make such cruel comments... I was bullied for having my father as a dad I wish I could go back in time and tell my dad I loved him before it was too late to say those words.
Don’t feel bad. What’s done is done. Those wicked and cruel people making fun of your father and bullying you as a result will receive their karma. Best you can do now is not to hold onto the bitterness. Your dad was a hero.
You know this is a recap of a movie, right? Some person or group, probably not even in an English speaking country, I imagine, is making these movie recapping videos as a money making scheme. They can't get away with pirating the whole movie, so they just do this instead.
He proved he was a good father for 7 years! Plus, couldn’t they see that everything they put this little girl through was WAY more damaging than living with Sam could ever be???
Very true no the law and it’s society is stupid. We have children suffering in the hands of abusers who aren’t disabled because they choose to harm than do good. Being disabled mum myself love and basic survival skills is key to being a good parent.
that's Good. it makes me wonder why Society normalizes oppression in Disabled people. and even if Disabled People Do need other People to take care of them. they will still get judged. bullied. neglected. and even just ignored and oppressed. I also noticed how they're not being treated like human beings with feelings or emotions like everyone else.
When she pretended to not be able to read big words, Sam put his foot down and said, “No, I know you can read it!” And she said, “… but *you* can’t…” And Sam said, “But *you can!* ”
"I'm dumb." "No you're not, read the word." "I WONT " "LUCY. AS YOUR FATHER I WANT YOU TO READ THE WORD." This movie, to this day, still has a profound impact on me. I watched it for the first time ever, in my psychology class, and bawled like a baby when we watched it. It shows you that you just need love, pure. Love. To raise a child. 😭🥺
@@erenkurucu5750 i think a good parent fights to protect their kids and ensure their well being. But, "when you love something you let it go" as a parent protecting their kid, I'm thinking more like the story of The Judgement of Solomon when judging if they're good parents. These kind of stories often are modern retelling of this bible story as a component to the plot. --- Two women are fighting over a boy, literally pulling the child apart claiming it's their own, and king Solomon test them by ordering the child be cut in half and given to both mothers, and the real mother lets her child go to stop her child's suffering (and King Solomon decree's that was the child's true mother)
This recap didn't cover the movie's actually ending though. The foster mom didn't let Lucy go but she and Sam (Lucy's bio father) ended up with a deal outside of court that sam and Lucy could see one another as much as they want within reason. No more of Lucy sneaking out at midnight. The foster mom had nothing to do with whether or not Sam could legally be Lucy's guardian but she made it possible for the father and daughter to still be ale to see one another. It was an open adoption, where the Sam didn't have any legal rights over the child but he's not absent from the Lucy's life either.
@@dakotas8950 Adoptive perents are usually thoroughly vetted and and their are many time's kids actually have bad perents they need to be removed from.
I remember watching this as a child and thinking this sweet man deserved the chance to be a father. Here I am several years later, parenting a child with a disability. We have to do a better job of supporting those with disabilities in our community; and instead of infantilizing them, we should focus on accommodating them. They have just as much as a right to a normal life as any of us. I love this movie
@Destiny I completely understand where you’re coming from. My daughter is on the spectrum as well. I agree that we should see more disabled people representing themselves in the media.
@@diggs1989 Lol, so? Look at countries like India who had an education renaissance and people who's parents couldn't even read grew up to be heart surgeons.
@an endless forest Again, that doesn't put the child in immediate danger which is the only legal way to remove a child. She was well behaved, in school, up to date on her appointments, and he worked to pay the bills. Ironically he was more responsible then most normal people today.
@@diggs1989 The trauma of taking a child from a loving parent is the worst way to go. Especially when there's multiple avenues to make sure she's educated. There's after school programs, tutors, private lessons, and a vast array of options to utilize before you take a child from the only home and parent they ever knew because you believe them to be stupid. The amount of issues that will cause later is much worse than being smarter than your dad.
We, as a society; don't decry ableism as much as we do racism or sexism and that has to change. This story certainly feels like a fictional tearjerker, but in reality this is a very common problem for a lot of parents with various forms of mental disabilities. Even if they are indeed fully capable of raising children, there are so many nations with such harmful biases against disabled people that it's discriminatory.
I sort of understand the other nations. My mother has an anxiety disorder, and the way she handled us effected 3/4 kids. 3 of the 4 kids ended up needing therapy or counseling early on. They're still ongoing, and the mother continues to behave in negatively effecting ways towards all of us.
@@ikawba00 In this case it’s not the anxiety that’s the problem. It’s how your mom handles it that’s the issue. Which is a different topic than whether or not parents with disabilities should be allowed to have and parent kids. In my experience, the parent that didn’t have mental health issues has had the most negative effect on me. I don’t like talking about personal details about myself, so forgive the lack of details, but a person’s ability to cope with their own issues makes all the difference in the world about how people react to them. I hope you and your siblings can heal and find inner peace.
A mental disability doesn’t automatically mean mean they can’t be a good parents. It’s probably millions of parents with no mental disabilities that abuse and raise their children in hostile environments. Bless him. The child is in good hands
Newborns and toddlerd are much more difficult than 7 year olds. He's coped very very well for 7 years. All she needs is a friends mother or a female teacher she can go to for advice and maybe a tutor to help with homework that's all. The state would rather take a happy kid than organise something which would actual help
What is mind boggling to me is the fact children who are actual victims of horrific abuse aren’t taken seriously and stay with their abusive parents/guardians but a good couple who made a minor mistake or have a disability will have their kids taken away like??? It makes so little sense unless the whole thing is just a cover and has something more sinister to cover up for. Maybe I’m being paranoid but idk.
@@hadilayyad6147 no you’re not being paranoid. You are absolutely valid in your thinking and reasoning. I’m terrified of having children because of this particular reason
This reminds me. My parents dedicated their 51 years together to children in need. Anything from foster care to cooking for the hungry kids in the neighbourhood who's parents just could not make enough to last the month. Too what i would call emergency shelter I don't know how to say that in English. I will alway's remember the boy that was taken from his low IQ mother. Though a blind person could see she was a good mom it took YEARS of strugle... My parents testifying in court time and time again that the kid really should not be in fostercare and that with a bit of help it would turn out fine. Finally after 3,5 years it took 1 judge who was willing to look beyond the opinions of an inexperienced protective service employee and a short sighted prosecutor ( If that is the proper term) and go with the opinion of the school, social worker, and a pair of people that at that time had over 40 years of experience dealing with troubled kids from bad situations. My mom did not live to witness but i can see her smile and " I told you so" Because THAT boy recently was awarded his PHD with a very proud and dedicated mom present.
What you call emergency shelter (which is a fine term to describe it), I believe, would be known as either a foster home or a group home in English, traditionally.
This movie will always have a warm spot in my heart. Saw it as a kid, first movie to ever make me cry, and to this day I still cry like a baby whenever I come across it.
Even if that's the truth, you can still improve Hell even I have a learning disability and if I can do it then you can do it too. So don't worry too much about others demotivating you just because they see you as an inferior being Prove them wrong and keep grinding bro
You ARE good enough, no matter what anyone says. We as people with disabilities may struggle with some things, we may struggle A LOT. But that doesn't mean we can't improve, we can always improve. It may be a little tougher for us but we are all worthy and capable of improvement. You're doing your best, and you're doing great. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. You are loved. Keep going, i'm proud of you.
What sucks is that he actually put in significantly MORE effort than some would-be fathers ever will but just got the middle finger by the government because of his intellectual disability. I get wanting to make sure the kid is in a safe environment to live at and so forth but damn….
Such a beautiful movie. Definitely something to be learned from individuals with disabilities. They see the world in a completely different manner. Something I feel we could all benefit from when really examined.
@@NehaSharma-jo5nj No, it's not. Their love is the same as ours, and putting them up on a pedestal like this is harmful. Disabled people just want to be treated like everyone else. We don't want pity, or people telling us we're not capable of being angry. You're undermining disabled peoples' emotions.
@@Incompetences Often, not always. Don't take my comment in a negative way. In my own experience, even my own parent's love is mostly conditional. However, I have a disabled brother in law who has taught me pure love without judgment or conditions. I am not undermining their emotions, I am saying they are often purer without ulterior motives. I hope you understand my intention, it isn't putting them on a pedestal or undermining them. However, if you still feel that I am wrong let me know, I will delete my comments.
''One of cinema's best dad's ever'' award goes to him - I love the visibility here, people with disabilities can definitely be wonderful parents (and always could be in the first place)
I do agree. But however in this film it showed that he still needed a lot of help. It was always about winning. With both the father and lawyer. It wasn’t about Lucy for them. Lucy made it very clear that he wanted her father in her life. She also made it clear that she gets upset when her friends teased her about her Dad mental disability. The innocent bit was she may have talked to the boy the same physical age as her. Not mental age as like her father. That boy may talked to his parents or a school teacher. I think all parents wants better for their child. But today in this society what is better. We put our elderly in care homes that are so understaffed. Both parents work full time. Divorce rates are incredible high. But obviously everyone still seems very sexual when it comes to relationships. So please think carefully when bringing children into the world. I think the father also wanted better for Lucy . How was Lucy this smart. I think it Ann the elder wiser lady. Lucy just wanted her father in her life.
I feel like if this happened in real life, they would have taken into a lot more consideration that he loves his daughter and did everything he could. The dcs lady and the people in court treated him terribly. He didn't need his daughter taken away. He needed someone to work with him on raising lucy maybe some extra help like a social worker... and he would have been fine. But my gosh... They put Lucy up for adoption while Sam was still trying to get her back, and the dcs lady was like, "We fully support this." I mean really?? He allready showed that he could take care of her as a baby and all the way up to age 7.
I have a sister who has learning disabilities, a girl who pretty much lived off her left her newborn child with my sister, no one has heard from her since. My sister gets help from all of us, but a learning disability makes no difference when it comes to love. She feeds, bathes her, loves her, everything that a child needs especially in those early years. I’m very proud of her I’m so happy my niece has her as a mother.
This film hits my soft spot because i was raised by my grandparents and one of them had a disability like sam and was also half blind. Despite this he was able to raise me the best he could. I am now 15 and i am just fine. This film made me cry because i know what its like.
I don't know about this one, someones definition of "love" might be completely different from yours. But I agree that a healthy loving relationship is part of being a good parent
@@listeed1995 But if the parents love their children, they will do everything to feed them. And i a first world country, if you do everything to feed them, they will be fed.
Not gonna lie, I cried when I was watching this movie and cried again watching this recap. Not only the story is good but the performances of the actors are outstanding.
I genuinely cried watching this video and what this movie was about. I feel like movies like these are quite rare to see now, so watching this was very emotional for me.
Just because someone may be mentally disabled, doesn’t mean they can’t love and raise a child. Math, science, etc, can be taught in school, but having a loving father at home, that will do anything in the world for her, can raise a perfectly “normal” child ❤️ and will probably raise a child who is extremely accepting and loving
I get what you mean. I also don’t want my kids to have my ADHD and other health conditions I have. But if our kids have any of our conditions, we will always be there for them and help them.
I'm 32 with high functioning autism and I don't have kids or a GF. But, if I do in like 10 years, I always think positive on them being wonderful. If they happen to have something, I have support in raising them. I even work at a non profit corporation in my city which hires adults with disabilities for training and work while NOT being paid below minimum wage. We have 6 retail locations, 6 non retail, and we have a 9000 sqft facility for 120 children with Autism per week.
I have autism, had my kid at 18. Kiddo is 13 now and has a wonderful and enthusiastic life full of love, learning, and challenges we know we can face and overcome. Don't be afraid, be aware and be loving and all will be OK. Much love to you and your family, brother 🙏
I loved this movie. He was such an amazing father and he tried his best to make sure his daughter was happy. He didn’t let his disability get in the way of him being a great father to his baby girl🥺❤️.
I don’t know if this is a true story or not, but I believe it can happen with our messed up system. The proper course of action to take if you’re afraid a disabled person can’t care for their children (when there are no signs of abuse or neglect) is to provide resources to the parent that will help ensure they can. Free tutoring, for example, or a person who checks in regularly and makes sure the family has what they need. The answer is not to take the child away. I remember a terrible story where children were taken away from a single mother because she was poor, instead of getting her help. She eventually got back her children and they grew up well and all had successful and lucrative careers. All except one boy. He had been tortured to death by his foster parent. He would have still been alive if he hadn’t been taken away, because the mother took great care of her children in spite of her poverty. Children should not be taken unless there is abuse.
This movie made me tear up man. You watch a lot of things and people always comment how they cried. But this one was so beautiful. It showed how some people are so misunderstood and judged.
A society is judged on how it supports and judges it’s most vulnerable citizens. We all have a right to exist. Love is what matters most no one is a perfect parent
I watch this movie and when I tell you I cried because he did everything a father was supposed to do. He didn’t even question anything about being a father 😢😢😢😢😢😢
This was my favorite movie. “When your son od’d…would you agree it’s fair to say that you felt like you had made mistakes. Mistakes that were huge? “ We are all just doing the best we can and Sam was my favorite on screen dad
Even for how short that story was it choked me up like crazy yeah I cried. I don't think it does matter if you have a disability if you have proven the fact year in and year out that you are a good parent that's what matters the most if you can fulfill on being a good parent than to me you got the job the state should leave his daughter be. I hope that he was able to keep his daughter and everything worked out for him and her
Gosh I remember watching this movie so young, I was like 9 or 10. I was sobbing and crying feeling so bad for the dad and his daughter and I was confused back then about why the state took her away from him when he treated her well. But now I am older, I understood and sorrow the fact that this is a common thing going around.
I’ve never understood cases like this. It’s beyond heart breaking. I have a syndrome. Williams. It’s been really hard I don’t allow it to define who I am
I don’t have heart problems but I am born with a disability called microcephaly similar to aurtisum that struggles academically. My real dad left when I was born . Never met him . Step dad mean too. I’m not allowed to be married, fall in love , date, have kids and have my own choice and not allowed to stay home alone because my mom and strep dad and my younger siblings been trying to boss me around when they only 16 and 13 years old . I don’t sound like those people but still. I can’t even go to college even though I paint and post on RUclips and Instagram. Im depressed because of my disability and how I go through in life when people stupidly in real life to complain about everything how their life but don’t see how people like me go through . Back in the days people use to do evil things to us . They use to put us in a mental hospital or home when we not mental . People complain about ea and only sims and painting And animals made my fell a little ok and my best friend that’s not dissabled that was forced to move back from his evil father in Taipei Taiwan and he’s depressed and pressured and he felt like doing suecidal and I am trying to check up everyday by calling him . My mom keeps saying every man will take advantage of me and do things to me and she evil claim Asians dislike blacks and never marry blacks but I’m not white or black and don’t look look black. I’m French Canadian nippising indigenous (native Indian) . He’s my only friend that understands being hurt and pain. People need to stop hurting us and stop saying things you don’t know or understand and complaining about your life that is not like ours and stop complaining about things that’s nonsense. Selfish people. My mother wished I will never have kids because if it’s possible to marry anyone even a friend and we want kids , her wish will come true . 27 and a half years I’ve been born like this and feeling this way even bullied . I want everyone to know that around the world !!
There is a possibility to go to college and to meet other individuals like yourself. Some universities have a two-year program for individuals with disabilities like yourself. It's an inclusionary program where you get to stay on campus with the other students, go to classes, and go to college events like football games, basketball game ECT. I go to a University here in America that has that program. However I know that they are probably some in Canada as well. If I were you I would Google inclusionary programs in Canada.
You can report mistreatment and have you known there are online colleges you can participate in? Your not dumb. Your hyper intelligent and you just don’t know it. Look online for colleges. You’ll find some that can help
@@TheEc14 I can’t I struggle academically. If i never struggled like that if i was not born dissabled I would’ve gone to college but I tell you that I don’t belive in going to college to be a artist but i also wanted to be a fashion designer
Oh my god! Just now I remembered this movie. I was watching this in the plane , I was trying not to cry , then I saw the girl in the isle next to my seat was openly crying, I can't stop my tears anymore. 😭 We don't know each other but we cry together😂
This used to be one of my favorite movies because I might still remember watching this with my dad before my parents divorce back in 2002/2003. Also due to him loving the Beatles and all. I like this video, never really watched something like this involving “I am Sam”. I honestly thought I was like the only one who “loved” this movie. I hope I can have children of my own one day.
Infants can be loud and so delicate. If he was able to raise that child from birth to age 7 then he is very capable. Plus he is able to hold a job and pay rent.
Sean Penn is an incredible actor. The part he played. He was so innocent and pure. If you didn't get tears you are cold hearted. This man was smart in his own innocent way. Great father. He was a much better father than some men without disability.
This story made me want to cry because it's very rare that disabled people become parents. Like everybody else, we're supposed to have the same rights and choices. That also goes for bringing children into the world. It is ridiculous that something or someone takes our children away just because we look or behave strangely in public around our children when all we want to do is love and care for them in our own way we can despite it being strange. It always upsets me! What does normal mean today and why can't disabled people just be parents when they choose to be?
the cold hard truth get you when you not having all the luxury of the main protagonist have. and it hurst even more when you find reality is relatable.
This reminds back when I was still on my internship theres this woman I would always talk to at the bus stop while waiting for the bus. At one time she started talking about her son who was autistic. "Hes treated pretty well at school. But I always worry about his future. What if people are just being nice to him because hes still a kid? What would happen to him after he turns 18 or if something happens to me? Will he be able to find a job? Would someone even want to hire him?" Then she started crying. Im not sure how she and her son is doing right now but I do hope they're ok.
I don’t want to sound negative but I come from a community where disabilities are common but not resourced enough and the parents don’t know how to parent them. I’ve heard awful things of the kids feeling unloved because parents will tell them they don’t want to be around them. My brother has a learning disability that isn’t researched enough and my father doesn’t believe my brother has a disability because it challenges masculinity. Anyways my brother has mental health issues due to the community we were raised in and he’s never been able to work because he’s avoidant to be around people except family. He was bullied in school and even from a teacher who was his special Ed teacher. If something happens to my mom, I his sister would have to take over to help him out and what doesn’t help is I don’t agree with the criteria of how they would handle services for my brother. The system is broken and I’ve spoken to those who try their best to be good people trying to help those get resources.
I remember watching this movie as a kid. I was all tears, as a kid who couldn't live with his parents. This movie has always hit hard, a deep string of my heart.
I remember watching this movie in high school and it’s so touching. God, the Eternal Heavenly Father gave the gift of fatherhood motherhood every person God makes has a purpose including those with disabilities. ✝️🕊❤️🙏🏻
There's an old saying, in that it takes a village to raise a child - this film, and especially its ending, prove that. Sam might not be able to be like other parents, but he has nothing but unwavering love and care for the girl. With Laura Dern's character, his friends and the old lady, whose to say Lucy _wouldn't_ be able to grow up healthily?
Aww what a loving dad, his dedication to being a father reminds me of my own dad. Seems like a great movie. Also, when they showed "Annie" I recognized that pretty face from somewhere. She played Peg in Edward Scissorhands
That scene where sam was taken advantage of really pissed me off. This is pure proof that we need to work more with those who have these disabilities or the world is gonna tear them apart
I just cried watching that, I won't be seeing the movie because I know it will tear me up, my brother is special needs and I hope that one day he can find love and happiness
It’s horrible how people would even think that those with a disability wouldn’t be able to raise good kids. God gave people the capability to raise children no matter what their mental capacities are. What matters is if they truly love their kids or not.
Child me didn't understand people with intellectual disabilities so I would be rude and not understand until I got older and realized there issues and felt terrible so I always help people with them I actually work with them they have many stories too tell ❤️
With the right supervision depending on how severe the disability is, no father or mother should be taken away from their child. Outside individuals always say they know it's for the better, but do they really? No. The bond between the child and parent is immense, and promotes good mental development and a good future.
To be fair he is a better father than many of us get to experience… at least he shows he is trying and that he cares for her and he did take care of her. He’s not abusive or cruel or neglectful
similar to the indian movie called 'Deiva Thirumagal'. Except the mother dies and the father is left alone to raise the little girl, but mother's relatives file a custody case.
Movies like these hurts 😭 I haven't finished this movie but I re called it i hope they child isn't taken away. I literally paused the videos continuously to wipe my tears😭
I think it’d mean a lot to people if you didn’t use the term ‘mental retardation’. I know the movie probably said it, but society has grown since then. I say this in the kindest way possible.
@@futuristicgirl14 "Intellectual disability" is the appropriate term for this man's condition even if it is never specified. "Mental retardation" is older term for intellectual disability and is no longer used.
I went through this as a child. My dad had really bad scitzophrenia and couldn't take care of himself but he took care of me - walked me to school, picked me up, and so many people would make such cruel comments... I was bullied for having my father as a dad
I wish I could go back in time and tell my dad I loved him before it was too late to say those words.
Don’t feel bad. What’s done is done. Those wicked and cruel people making fun of your father and bullying you as a result will receive their karma. Best you can do now is not to hold onto the bitterness. Your dad was a hero.
@@grimgoreironhide9985 do you believe in hindusim
@@rohansuyal5602 No I don’t believe in Hinduism. But I can understand why you would think I do.
God loves you and is with you
Amen
I bet this man took better care of the child than all other so called 'parents'.
indeed he did
You know this is a recap of a movie, right? Some person or group, probably not even in an English speaking country, I imagine, is making these movie recapping videos as a money making scheme. They can't get away with pirating the whole movie, so they just do this instead.
This is a movie
This is a fictional story.
It was a movie.
He proved he was a good father for 7 years! Plus, couldn’t they see that everything they put this little girl through was WAY more damaging than living with Sam could ever be???
Very true no the law and it’s society is stupid. We have children suffering in the hands of abusers who aren’t disabled because they choose to harm than do good. Being disabled mum myself love and basic survival skills is key to being a good parent.
that's Good. it makes me wonder why Society normalizes oppression in Disabled people.
and even if Disabled People Do need other People to take care of them. they will still get judged. bullied. neglected. and even just ignored and oppressed.
I also noticed how they're not being treated like human beings with feelings or emotions like everyone else.
Literally all they could do was mind they business damn 😂 but fr tho she’ll be more traumatized then living with sam
It is fiction, losers. Wow. People have gotten real dumb.
The times then sucked didn't they.
When she pretended to not be able to read big words, Sam put his foot down and said, “No, I know you can read it!”
And she said, “… but *you* can’t…”
And Sam said, “But *you can!* ”
"I'm dumb."
"No you're not, read the word."
"I WONT "
"LUCY. AS YOUR FATHER I WANT YOU TO READ THE WORD."
This movie, to this day, still has a profound impact on me. I watched it for the first time ever, in my psychology class, and bawled like a baby when we watched it. It shows you that you just need love, pure. Love. To raise a child. 😭🥺
Can you please tell me the name of this movie?
@@Nightingale9979 it’s called I am Sam
@@TiffieT3 thank you
What a good father. The adoptive mom did the right thing in the end.
@@MyWillowcat imagine the only family left in your life is your daughter, the only thing you love left. I’d never want to let them go
@@MyWillowcat let your young daughter go live with total strangers?😂 yeah real “smart”
@@erenkurucu5750 i think a good parent fights to protect their kids and ensure their well being.
But, "when you love something you let it go" as a parent protecting their kid, I'm thinking more like the story of The Judgement of Solomon when judging if they're good parents. These kind of stories often are modern retelling of this bible story as a component to the plot.
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Two women are fighting over a boy, literally pulling the child apart claiming it's their own, and king Solomon test them by ordering the child be cut in half and given to both mothers, and the real mother lets her child go to stop her child's suffering (and King Solomon decree's that was the child's true mother)
This recap didn't cover the movie's actually ending though. The foster mom didn't let Lucy go but she and Sam (Lucy's bio father) ended up with a deal outside of court that sam and Lucy could see one another as much as they want within reason. No more of Lucy sneaking out at midnight. The foster mom had nothing to do with whether or not Sam could legally be Lucy's guardian but she made it possible for the father and daughter to still be ale to see one another. It was an open adoption, where the Sam didn't have any legal rights over the child but he's not absent from the Lucy's life either.
@@dakotas8950 Adoptive perents are usually thoroughly vetted and and their are many time's kids actually have bad perents they need to be removed from.
I remember watching this as a child and thinking this sweet man deserved the chance to be a father. Here I am several years later, parenting a child with a disability. We have to do a better job of supporting those with disabilities in our community; and instead of infantilizing them, we should focus on accommodating them. They have just as much as a right to a normal life as any of us. I love this movie
What’s it called?
@@oceanexblve884 I am sam .. just googled it
@Destiny I completely understand where you’re coming from. My daughter is on the spectrum as well. I agree that we should see more disabled people representing themselves in the media.
What is the movie called?
@@unusue5982 I am Sam
Never understood why they took her away. He did everything he needed to do. Schools are for education.
If you can’t understand you’re probably at the same intelligence
Because she was surpassing him in intelligence. He has the mind of a 7 year old. Still a heartfelt movie
@@diggs1989 Lol, so? Look at countries like India who had an education renaissance and people who's parents couldn't even read grew up to be heart surgeons.
@an endless forest Again, that doesn't put the child in immediate danger which is the only legal way to remove a child. She was well behaved, in school, up to date on her appointments, and he worked to pay the bills. Ironically he was more responsible then most normal people today.
@@diggs1989 The trauma of taking a child from a loving parent is the worst way to go. Especially when there's multiple avenues to make sure she's educated. There's after school programs, tutors, private lessons, and a vast array of options to utilize before you take a child from the only home and parent they ever knew because you believe them to be stupid. The amount of issues that will cause later is much worse than being smarter than your dad.
We, as a society; don't decry ableism as much as we do racism or sexism and that has to change.
This story certainly feels like a fictional tearjerker, but in reality this is a very common problem for a lot of parents with various forms of mental disabilities. Even if they are indeed fully capable of raising children, there are so many nations with such harmful biases against disabled people that it's discriminatory.
agreed.
I sort of understand the other nations. My mother has an anxiety disorder, and the way she handled us effected 3/4 kids. 3 of the 4 kids ended up needing therapy or counseling early on. They're still ongoing, and the mother continues to behave in negatively effecting ways towards all of us.
@@ikawba00 In this case it’s not the anxiety that’s the problem. It’s how your mom handles it that’s the issue. Which is a different topic than whether or not parents with disabilities should be allowed to have and parent kids. In my experience, the parent that didn’t have mental health issues has had the most negative effect on me. I don’t like talking about personal details about myself, so forgive the lack of details, but a person’s ability to cope with their own issues makes all the difference in the world about how people react to them. I hope you and your siblings can heal and find inner peace.
So glad you see it this way too
...Maybe because racism has been lingering in our society for over 400 years and still is in our society?
But I agree that ableism needs addressing.
A mental disability doesn’t automatically mean mean they can’t be a good parents. It’s probably millions of parents with no mental disabilities that abuse and raise their children in hostile environments. Bless him. The child is in good hands
Bad argument. 50 IQ ain't the same as 70 IQ for example. I am talling you, a 50 IQ parent would end up with a dead toddler.
Thissss. I gave ADD I'm a damn good mother. I love that lil boy more than life itself. He's my everything he's autistic so I fight for him
I have a mental disability and I would love to be a mother and be a better parent than mine ever were. ❤
Newborns and toddlerd are much more difficult than 7 year olds. He's coped very very well for 7 years. All she needs is a friends mother or a female teacher she can go to for advice and maybe a tutor to help with homework that's all.
The state would rather take a happy kid than organise something which would actual help
What is mind boggling to me is the fact children who are actual victims of horrific abuse aren’t taken seriously and stay with their abusive parents/guardians but a good couple who made a minor mistake or have a disability will have their kids taken away like??? It makes so little sense unless the whole thing is just a cover and has something more sinister to cover up for. Maybe I’m being paranoid but idk.
@@hadilayyad6147 no you’re not being paranoid. You are absolutely valid in your thinking and reasoning. I’m terrified of having children because of this particular reason
@@chocolatebunny3221 Guess I’m not the only one with that train of thought. It’s horrifying how evil humans can be.
@@hadilayyad6147 FOR REAL!
@@hadilayyad6147 you're onto something. Research Nancy Schaefer, and read the Bible.
This is the saddest movie I've ever seen. The acting is soo good, it makes u feel like it's real and heartbreaking.
I agree and I usually don't like inspirational movies like this. a great job.
What's the name of the movie?
@@memtub8782 The movie is "I Am Sam", 2001. Wonderful heartfelt movie.
@@queenofcheap6310 just saw its in the starting of the video only, this is so embarrassing 🤧
@@queenofcheap6310 True! This was my introduction to Sean Penn, and ever since then he's been my fav ❤
This reminds me. My parents dedicated their 51 years together to children in need. Anything from foster care to cooking for the hungry kids in the neighbourhood who's parents just could not make enough to last the month. Too what i would call emergency shelter I don't know how to say that in English. I will alway's remember the boy that was taken from his low IQ mother. Though a blind person could see she was a good mom it took YEARS of strugle... My parents testifying in court time and time again that the kid really should not be in fostercare and that with a bit of help it would turn out fine. Finally after 3,5 years it took 1 judge who was willing to look beyond the opinions of an inexperienced protective service employee and a short sighted prosecutor ( If that is the proper term) and go with the opinion of the school, social worker, and a pair of people that at that time had over 40 years of experience dealing with troubled kids from bad situations. My mom did not live to witness but i can see her smile and " I told you so" Because THAT boy recently was awarded his PHD with a very proud and dedicated mom present.
How lovely people your parents!!! Amazing story!!!
That is a wonderful story 😭
it feels good to know of niceness of people, very inspiring
Absolute W for everyone in this comment (except people like PSE).
What you call emergency shelter (which is a fine term to describe it), I believe, would be known as either a foster home or a group home in English, traditionally.
This movie will always have a warm spot in my heart. Saw it as a kid, first movie to ever make me cry, and to this day I still cry like a baby whenever I come across it.
what the name of the movie ?
@@alyiks same question
@@alyiks it’s “I am Sam”
I watched it for the first time in my high school creative writing class just a couple weeks ago and I cried so much
@@starryizu3678 I also watched it in highschool but in my psychology class. I'm glad I did, it was a great movie!
This is really special considering some people have healthy parents who bailed on them.
It will harder as she grows up and is of normal or high intelligence.
I have a learning disability and
have been made fun of
by adults & kids all my life
and have been told by teachers, I’m not good enough
Sorry about that, those people are assholes.
Even if that's the truth, you can still improve
Hell even I have a learning disability and if I can do it then you can do it too. So don't worry too much about others demotivating you just because they see you as an inferior being
Prove them wrong and keep grinding bro
I too have a disability but only a mild. However, i performed very well in school and i got good grades.
You ARE good enough, no matter what anyone says. We as people with disabilities may struggle with some things, we may struggle A LOT. But that doesn't mean we can't improve, we can always improve. It may be a little tougher for us but we are all worthy and capable of improvement. You're doing your best, and you're doing great. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. You are loved. Keep going, i'm proud of you.
@@DistantSkies0 💙
I can't explain, how many times I controlled my tears during watching this!
This movie was hilarious
What sucks is that he actually put in significantly MORE effort than some would-be fathers ever will but just got the middle finger by the government because of his intellectual disability. I get wanting to make sure the kid is in a safe environment to live at and so forth but damn….
A curse, plague and pox upon the ableist government.
Such a beautiful movie. Definitely something to be learned from individuals with disabilities. They see the world in a completely different manner. Something I feel we could all benefit from when really examined.
We 100% need these people in the world to teach us to love simply.
Society: _”I’ll be honest with you, I don’t like people who are different”_ (family guy blue harvest episode reference)
Their love is often times more pure and unconditional than us "normal" folk.
@@NehaSharma-jo5nj No, it's not. Their love is the same as ours, and putting them up on a pedestal like this is harmful. Disabled people just want to be treated like everyone else. We don't want pity, or people telling us we're not capable of being angry. You're undermining disabled peoples' emotions.
@@Incompetences Often, not always. Don't take my comment in a negative way. In my own experience, even my own parent's love is mostly conditional. However, I have a disabled brother in law who has taught me pure love without judgment or conditions. I am not undermining their emotions, I am saying they are often purer without ulterior motives. I hope you understand my intention, it isn't putting them on a pedestal or undermining them. However, if you still feel that I am wrong let me know, I will delete my comments.
''One of cinema's best dad's ever'' award goes to him - I love the visibility here, people with disabilities can definitely be wonderful parents (and always could be in the first place)
I do agree. But however in this film it showed that he still needed a lot of help. It was always about winning. With both the father and lawyer. It wasn’t about Lucy for them. Lucy made it very clear that he wanted her father in her life. She also made it clear that she gets upset when her friends teased her about her Dad mental disability. The innocent bit was she may have talked to the boy the same physical age as her. Not mental age as like her father. That boy may talked to his parents or a school teacher. I think all parents wants better for their child. But today in this society what is better. We put our elderly in care homes that are so understaffed. Both parents work full time. Divorce rates are incredible high. But obviously everyone still seems very sexual when it comes to relationships. So please think carefully when bringing children into the world.
I think the father also wanted better for Lucy . How was Lucy this smart. I think it Ann the elder wiser lady. Lucy just wanted her father in her life.
I feel like if this happened in real life, they would have taken into a lot more consideration that he loves his daughter and did everything he could. The dcs lady and the people in court treated him terribly. He didn't need his daughter taken away. He needed someone to work with him on raising lucy maybe some extra help like a social worker... and he would have been fine. But my gosh... They put Lucy up for adoption while Sam was still trying to get her back, and the dcs lady was like, "We fully support this."
I mean really?? He allready showed that he could take care of her as a baby and all the way up to age 7.
Lol delusional, sit through divorce court proceedings and you'll find why.
Well first off all mentally disabled don't need to be born we find out and we abort the fetus
@@noorrougelewis6704 my comment says nothing about divorce
@@Abandonsoyciety Whats divorce got to do with anything? I'm talking about dcs.
@@Abandonsoyciety Who hurt you?
Ain’t nobody wrong with that child, he took care of her good
I have a sister who has learning disabilities, a girl who pretty much lived off her left her newborn child with my sister, no one has heard from her since. My sister gets help from all of us, but a learning disability makes no difference when it comes to love. She feeds, bathes her, loves her, everything that a child needs especially in those early years. I’m very proud of her I’m so happy my niece has her as a mother.
I watched this as a child and it definitely was a film that showed me empathy and love in a different form
What is this movie called
@@KINAQUDAM It's called I am Sam
This movie is the only movie that could make me cry every time. Idk why I clicked on this, don’t know why I do this to myself.
This film hits my soft spot because i was raised by my grandparents and one of them had a disability like sam and was also half blind. Despite this he was able to raise me the best he could. I am now 15 and i am just fine. This film made me cry because i know what its like.
The gf should have been arrested to begin with. The man obviously can't consent to sex. There needs to be a law
the girlfriend probably thought she had to sleep with him to stay in the house
People with disabilities still have sexual needs. They certainly can consent
@@RavenPendragon14 if he had the mentality of a 7 year old he can't. They should have neutered him
She was homeless.
I believe he had the mental capacity to understand the repercussions and risks associated with sex. Therefore he could consent.
Love for your child is the only thing a good parent needs.
No… just no, I’ve seen it in person, love is not enough
@@gamzeemakara7964 Tell me more
I don't know about this one, someones definition of "love" might be completely different from yours. But I agree that a healthy loving relationship is part of being a good parent
Love won’t feed them.
@@listeed1995 But if the parents love their children, they will do everything to feed them.
And i a first world country, if you do everything to feed them, they will be fed.
Not gonna lie, I cried when I was watching this movie and cried again watching this recap. Not only the story is good but the performances of the actors are outstanding.
I cried from the beginning to the end.
I remember this movie. It made cry years ago and it's still touching my heart right now.
I genuinely cried watching this video and what this movie was about. I feel like movies like these are quite rare to see now, so watching this was very emotional for me.
Just because someone may be mentally disabled, doesn’t mean they can’t love and raise a child. Math, science, etc, can be taught in school, but having a loving father at home, that will do anything in the world for her, can raise a perfectly “normal” child ❤️ and will probably raise a child who is extremely accepting and loving
I'm 29, with autism, and I'm afraid of kids with my GF, cause I don't want my kids to have what I have. 💔
I get what you mean. I also don’t want my kids to have my ADHD and other health conditions I have. But if our kids have any of our conditions, we will always be there for them and help them.
@@Cherryheartoffical I guess your right
I understand
I'm 32 with high functioning autism and I don't have kids or a GF. But, if I do in like 10 years, I always think positive on them being wonderful. If they happen to have something, I have support in raising them. I even work at a non profit corporation in my city which hires adults with disabilities for training and work while NOT being paid below minimum wage. We have 6 retail locations, 6 non retail, and we have a 9000 sqft facility for 120 children with Autism per week.
I have autism, had my kid at 18. Kiddo is 13 now and has a wonderful and enthusiastic life full of love, learning, and challenges we know we can face and overcome. Don't be afraid, be aware and be loving and all will be OK. Much love to you and your family, brother 🙏
I loved this movie. He was such an amazing father and he tried his best to make sure his daughter was happy. He didn’t let his disability get in the way of him being a great father to his baby girl🥺❤️.
Such a beautiful father and daughter relationship. Couldn't stop crying when I watched this movie. 💞👨👦
I don’t know if this is a true story or not, but I believe it can happen with our messed up system. The proper course of action to take if you’re afraid a disabled person can’t care for their children (when there are no signs of abuse or neglect) is to provide resources to the parent that will help ensure they can. Free tutoring, for example, or a person who checks in regularly and makes sure the family has what they need. The answer is not to take the child away. I remember a terrible story where children were taken away from a single mother because she was poor, instead of getting her help. She eventually got back her children and they grew up well and all had successful and lucrative careers. All except one boy. He had been tortured to death by his foster parent. He would have still been alive if he hadn’t been taken away, because the mother took great care of her children in spite of her poverty. Children should not be taken unless there is abuse.
I agree. the system is also very controlling.
Less than 2 minutes into the recap my eyes were already watery.... That has to be some kind of a record
This movie made me tear up man. You watch a lot of things and people always comment how they cried. But this one was so beautiful. It showed how some people are so misunderstood and judged.
I cried so much watching this movie. It’s so cute and heart warming
I'm not crying, you're crying!
I'm not crying either 😭😭😭
A society is judged on how it supports and judges it’s most vulnerable citizens. We all have a right to exist. Love is what matters most no one is a perfect parent
I've seen many movies, but I can honestly say that I Am Sam is the one that truly moved me as a man.
I watch this movie and when I tell you I cried because he did everything a father was supposed to do. He didn’t even question anything about being a father 😢😢😢😢😢😢
This was my favorite movie.
“When your son od’d…would you agree it’s fair to say that you felt like you had made mistakes. Mistakes that were huge? “
We are all just doing the best we can and Sam was my favorite on screen dad
I cannot watch this movie without bawling my eyes out.
Even for how short that story was it choked me up like crazy yeah I cried. I don't think it does matter if you have a disability if you have proven the fact year in and year out that you are a good parent that's what matters the most if you can fulfill on being a good parent than to me you got the job the state should leave his daughter be. I hope that he was able to keep his daughter and everything worked out for him and her
Movie name?
i would given anything to have a dad like this....
Gosh I remember watching this movie so young, I was like 9 or 10. I was sobbing and crying feeling so bad for the dad and his daughter and I was confused back then about why the state took her away from him when he treated her well. But now I am older, I understood and sorrow the fact that this is a common thing going around.
I’ve never understood cases like this. It’s beyond heart breaking. I have a syndrome. Williams. It’s been really hard I don’t allow it to define who I am
I don’t have heart problems but I am born with a disability called microcephaly similar to aurtisum that struggles academically. My real dad left when I was born . Never met him . Step dad mean too. I’m not allowed to be married, fall in love , date, have kids and have my own choice and not allowed to stay home alone because my mom and strep dad and my younger siblings been trying to boss me around when they only 16 and 13 years old . I don’t sound like those people but still. I can’t even go to college even though I paint and post on RUclips and Instagram. Im depressed because of my disability and how I go through in life when people stupidly in real life to complain about everything how their life but don’t see how people like me go through . Back in the days people use to do evil things to us . They use to put us in a mental hospital or home when we not mental . People complain about ea and only sims and painting And animals made my fell a little ok and my best friend that’s not dissabled that was forced to move back from his evil father in Taipei Taiwan and he’s depressed and pressured and he felt like doing suecidal and I am trying to check up everyday by calling him . My mom keeps saying every man will take advantage of me and do things to me and she evil claim Asians dislike blacks and never marry blacks but I’m not white or black and don’t look look black. I’m French Canadian nippising indigenous (native Indian) . He’s my only friend that understands being hurt and pain.
People need to stop hurting us and stop saying things you don’t know or understand and complaining about your life that is not like ours and stop complaining about things that’s nonsense. Selfish people. My mother wished I will never have kids because if it’s possible to marry anyone even a friend and we want kids , her wish will come true . 27 and a half years I’ve been born like this and feeling this way even bullied . I want everyone to know that around the world !!
I wish you happiness in the world, dear. 🫰🏻
Only love and prayers for your well-being in my heart ♥️
There is a possibility to go to college and to meet other individuals like yourself. Some universities have a two-year program for individuals with disabilities like yourself. It's an inclusionary program where you get to stay on campus with the other students, go to classes, and go to college events like football games, basketball game ECT. I go to a University here in America that has that program. However I know that they are probably some in Canada as well. If I were you I would Google inclusionary programs in Canada.
You can report mistreatment and have you known there are online colleges you can participate in? Your not dumb. Your hyper intelligent and you just don’t know it. Look online for colleges. You’ll find some that can help
@@TheEc14 I can’t I struggle academically. If i never struggled like that if i was not born dissabled I would’ve gone to college but I tell you that I don’t belive in going to college to be a artist but i also wanted to be a fashion designer
Oh my god! Just now I remembered this movie. I was watching this in the plane , I was trying not to cry , then I saw the girl in the isle next to my seat was openly crying, I can't stop my tears anymore. 😭
We don't know each other but we cry together😂
I cry every time I watch this. I try not to but I can’t help it .
As adoptive parents why not just accept both the father and child into the home? Seems like a perfect option that nobody thinks of.
i remember seeing this as a kid in theaters. I left sobbingggggggggg. Such a good movie.
Loved this movie as a kid, watching this with my mum. Very emotional.
What movie is it?
@@caitlynnee5115 “I am Sam”
This used to be one of my favorite movies because I might still remember watching this with my dad before my parents divorce back in 2002/2003. Also due to him loving the Beatles and all. I like this video, never really watched something like this involving “I am Sam”. I honestly thought I was like the only one who “loved” this movie. I hope I can have children of my own one day.
Infants can be loud and so delicate. If he was able to raise that child from birth to age 7 then he is very capable. Plus he is able to hold a job and pay rent.
Sean Penn is an incredible actor. The part he played. He was so innocent and pure. If you didn't get tears you are cold hearted. This man was smart in his own innocent way. Great father. He was a much better father than some men without disability.
Mental disability does not always mean parental inability.
This story made me want to cry because it's very rare that disabled people become parents. Like everybody else, we're supposed to have the same rights and choices. That also goes for bringing children into the world. It is ridiculous that something or someone takes our children away just because we look or behave strangely in public around our children when all we want to do is love and care for them in our own way we can despite it being strange. It always upsets me! What does normal mean today and why can't disabled people just be parents when they choose to be?
the cold hard truth get you when you not having all the luxury of the main protagonist have. and it hurst even more when you find reality is relatable.
Omg this is such a sad story to have to go through all that. Glad the ending was so happy.
This reminds back when I was still on my internship theres this woman I would always talk to at the bus stop while waiting for the bus. At one time she started talking about her son who was autistic. "Hes treated pretty well at school. But I always worry about his future. What if people are just being nice to him because hes still a kid? What would happen to him after he turns 18 or if something happens to me? Will he be able to find a job? Would someone even want to hire him?" Then she started crying. Im not sure how she and her son is doing right now but I do hope they're ok.
God takes care of those who can't take care of themselves. I'm sure people like him are ok, there's always someone to protect these people I believe.
I don’t want to sound negative but I come from a community where disabilities are common but not resourced enough and the parents don’t know how to parent them. I’ve heard awful things of the kids feeling unloved because parents will tell them they don’t want to be around them. My brother has a learning disability that isn’t researched enough and my father doesn’t believe my brother has a disability because it challenges masculinity. Anyways my brother has mental health issues due to the community we were raised in and he’s never been able to work because he’s avoidant to be around people except family. He was bullied in school and even from a teacher who was his special Ed teacher. If something happens to my mom, I his sister would have to take over to help him out and what doesn’t help is I don’t agree with the criteria of how they would handle services for my brother. The system is broken and I’ve spoken to those who try their best to be good people trying to help those get resources.
If this movie doesn't make you cry, then you have no soul.
the child shows that the father was capable of raising a child alone but they still took the kid?
I remember watching this movie as a kid. I was all tears, as a kid who couldn't live with his parents. This movie has always hit hard, a deep string of my heart.
crazy thing is they never ask the kids what they want
I always think of that dialogue in “Tropic Thunder” whenever I see this movie
After listening the story i cried... what a beautiful story
This movie was EVERYTHING!!❤❤
I remember watching this movie in high school and it’s so touching. God, the Eternal Heavenly Father gave the gift of fatherhood motherhood every person God makes has a purpose including those with disabilities. ✝️🕊❤️🙏🏻
A child knows what love is and that means more than any materialistic thing given to a child.
What’s the title
This movie ALWAYS makes me cry
This is the most heart wrenching movie ever, name another one that’s that close to this one, can’t beat it👌
There's an old saying, in that it takes a village to raise a child - this film, and especially its ending, prove that. Sam might not be able to be like other parents, but he has nothing but unwavering love and care for the girl. With Laura Dern's character, his friends and the old lady, whose to say Lucy _wouldn't_ be able to grow up healthily?
His wife is a coward for running away
She probably ran to smoke cigarettes or buy milk.
I have not watched the movie in years. But, I think it was not his wife. It was a homeless woman who he took in.
Man this movie really makes you think about the moral and ethics of its subject
Aww what a loving dad, his dedication to being a father reminds me of my own dad. Seems like a great movie. Also, when they showed "Annie" I recognized that pretty face from somewhere. She played Peg in Edward Scissorhands
That scene where sam was taken advantage of really pissed me off. This is pure proof that we need to work more with those who have these disabilities or the world is gonna tear them apart
I just cried watching that, I won't be seeing the movie because I know it will tear me up, my brother is special needs and I hope that one day he can find love and happiness
These kinda of movie won't let you not cry...
It’s horrible how people would even think that those with a disability wouldn’t be able to raise good kids. God gave people the capability to raise children no matter what their mental capacities are. What matters is if they truly love their kids or not.
You clearly doesn't know what you are talking about. It simply requires a minimum intelligence to care for a child.
Single dads are so under-appreciated In society but that’s okay a man does what needs to get done either without any recognition for his family
Child me didn't understand people with intellectual disabilities so I would be rude and not understand until I got older and realized there issues and felt terrible so I always help people with them I actually work with them they have many stories too tell ❤️
With the right supervision depending on how severe the disability is, no father or mother should be taken away from their child.
Outside individuals always say they know it's for the better, but do they really? No.
The bond between the child and parent is immense, and promotes good mental development and a good future.
This brought tears to my eyes.
This movie made me cry. Today I am raising my 15 year old girl because her mom bailed on us. She’s doing great and we are both happy
I’m just tearing up 😢 beautiful movie & that strong bond between those 2 wooooooow ❤
An intellectual disability is not a valid reason for taking a child away from a parent.
That is disgusting.
There is an Indian movie named Deivathirumagal(Tamil) starring Vikram that is heavily inspired by this movie. That movie made me so emotional❤😢
To be fair he is a better father than many of us get to experience… at least he shows he is trying and that he cares for her and he did take care of her. He’s not abusive or cruel or neglectful
God this is heartbreaking
I remember our teacher showing us this in grade 5. Was very touching
I loved this show growing up watched so much and cried each time
The movie makes me cry every dang time
There's also an Indian version of this movie. I really wish I had a dad who unconditionally loves me like this guy
I wish I had a dad like this too but I ended up with a physically and verbally abusive one. My mother is also the same as him.
One of the best acting performances. So underrated.
similar to the indian movie called 'Deiva Thirumagal'. Except the mother dies and the father is left alone to raise the little girl, but mother's relatives file a custody case.
This is the most beautiful thing I can have seen. Thank you.
Movies like these hurts 😭 I haven't finished this movie but I re called it i hope they child isn't taken away. I literally paused the videos continuously to wipe my tears😭
Through this hes also gained a bigger support network also it must have been incredibly hard for the lady with agoriphobia to go to court and speak
I think it’d mean a lot to people if you didn’t use the term ‘mental retardation’. I know the movie probably said it, but society has grown since then. I say this in the kindest way possible.
I mean the movie doesn’t specify exactly what his condition is, so that term seems appropriate here I guess.
@@futuristicgirl14 "Intellectual disability" is the appropriate term for this man's condition even if it is never specified. "Mental retardation" is older term for intellectual disability and is no longer used.
@@futuristicgirl14
The correct term is "Intellectual Disability".
@@Iookism thank you’