1.Get clearer objectives (and write them down) 2. Reduce difficulty (set smaller goals to accomplish the big goals) 3.Gameify resistance/ discomfort 4. Embrace risk 5. Reflect on the awards that life has to offer
@@krisztianfeher5665 That's what they all do. They are all the same. They think they stepped on some profound ideas but maak it with lo fi music and editing. Its their way of earning their bread.
Yeah, but for some of us it's like grinding away to get enough points to buy that pay-wall, but when you finally do and buy it, there's nothing on the other side.
I don't know what's different about this channel compared to other self help channels, but he's always able to come up with ideas I can actually relate to and advice I can actually execute in real life
Bcuz common self help stuff tend to be unrealistically demanding of unmotivated people. Using formal research data may be good in logic, but we're not robots who can be expected to do things that CEOs or prodigies like to do that makes them successful according to research, and we may feel like a failure when we can't fulfill those cold, data-based methods. This channel's approach I think is more like sharing the insights & ideas that an ordinary man gets in his own journey & experience, so it becomes more relatable to us common people who can relate that life isn't that easy. He shows understanding & empathy of those ordinary feelings. We're only human, and I think his approach is human, that's why it's more intimate & relatable like a heart-to-heart.
@@MrMDanny games are awesome, but you should treat them as a reward, they're not all there is Edit: very important: you likely will never get to shoot in real life (maybe at the range), which is good I guess, but you won't And you definitely won't shoot at aliens on a different planet, on an epic quest
Bro "by overcoming the resistance, you gain the resistance's power" IS THE MOST MOTIVATING THING IVE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE LIKE WOW NOTHING LIKE A OL' PROVERB SOUNDIN' THING TO GET YOU GOIN'
Can I still relate to this video even if I play different video games or progress in different ones? I gave up on SKyrim because I had trouble utilizing the map and did not make much progress
There's a hilarious irony to the fact I've added mods to Skyrim which mean if I don't use skills or get enough sleep in game then my in game character will actually atrophy skills and muscle... Even games aren't an escape for me anymore haha!
I've always found looking at life as a videogame with missions and side quests helped me keep a good amount of levelheadedness. Sometimes I just wish there was a HUD we could see through our own eyes telling us what to do to progress with the story.
A few ideas: write your quests or status on your bathroom mirror; take a photo of your goal and use it as your phone/computer wallpaper; ask a friend to chase you until you get your stuff done, and reward them for the work; count your steps; use triggers to remind you to save money, read books, etc; the elevator is lava... and so on
My personal trainer had told me "Resolve yourself to already be at your target weight." He gave me all of the tools, a quest log and an end goal. It's been pretty easy with those processes.
So yesterday I was eating with my family when all of a sudden a “crew mate” broke in through the front door. He had a ski mask on and a gun which was sus, but he a good skin. My father told us all to hide so we don’t get killed by the obvious imposter. I could see him from my hiding spot under the table and he looked sus. So I told my dad “DAD YOU THINK HE IS THE IMPOSTER? HE IS SUS!” I yelled as loud as I could. The imposter found us hiding and shot my father five times. The imposter was so dumb, who kills someone in front of crew mates? I ran to call the emergency meeting by grabbing my phone off the table when I heard my mother get shot and scream for me. Lol she was so bad at among us. My teammates sucked and were dying to the worst Imposter. So I called the emergency meeting and for some reason a S.W.A.T team rammed down the door and killed the imposter. Lol that’s not how the game goes, I think they were hacking.
@@GenericHandle01 my thoughts exactly. Quotes are awesome, but they usually contain packed wisdom that takes a long time to internalize. Or they just repeat common sense in fancy words. It's not often that a quote has the power to make you immediately think differently about things.
I made a Quest List on my phone for daily, weekly and main quest categories. I was able to check off my "Purchase a Home" main quest last year. It feels so satisfying!
@@user-rd3jw7pv7i Buy a cheap reliable used car, live in a 500sqft apartment, shop at the dollar store for food, save 50% of each paycheck for 4 years, and you'll be able to buy an entry lvl house depending on where you live. I was a home owner by 23 years old with that method in AZ
I wasted 3 years of my school life slacking off. But ever since i found your channel i have changed a lot. Thanks to your words they always have a huge impact on me. I cant thank you enough!
Most people in the self help world hate on video games, I found this video refreshing! The difficult part of life cannot be understated. However, I totally agree on the part with rewards. Even something as simple as losing weight can be unbelievably rewarding. Great video Joey!
@@GabrielSouza-ie1tt is it simple for people that have mental disoreders to create or follow workout routines? Is it simple for them to get over their negative thought patterns? It gets very complicated for people with eating disorders. At least that's what I believe. This is not my struggle, but I have known others with these problems
@@durpasaur3052 I do that. It's like what I know I need and what my moment-to-moment thoughts lead me to are in opposite directions. Whenever I feel I've changed in a core way for the better I end up going back to my anxiety patterns. I do feel like I keep a portion of the good stuff and it feels easier to be successful each time though. EX: I lost an absurd amount of weight (~100lbs) but regained most of it. Felt impossible to do it the 1st time but now I know I can. Trying to figure out atm if weightloss+muscle gain is worth trying at once or just muscle gain. Need to increase energy/focus and it seems like working out does that
Love this video. I actually started thinking of life as a game some years ago and everything been better since, career, romance, mental and physical health, you name it! What worked for me was eliminating the thought of failing and switched it with "Hey I'm just respawning", get back up and try again with a different approach because in the end the only thing we achieve by being passive is failing but we can actually win if we go for it, stay positive and confident in our moves while sticking to our goals.
come to think of it, the truth actually is that we don't really know when we have won the game. For life goals cannot be summed up like a video game. There's always the hunger for the next thing after achieving something
Same here I’m using life like how I play GTA 5 lol without the killing etc but getting money and building myself up buying houses and having a bunch of cars seeing myself and manifesting it as I play the game !
As a (future :D) game designer what I can add is that games are also a lot better at giving you feedback, telling you immediately that you just did good or that you just made a mistake. I think maybe that's why having a todo list where you cross-off or tick-off small tasks can help you be more productive, because in a sense, it's replicating the instant feedback videogames give you.
Not gonna lie...I needed this. I really, really did. I am currently on my third year of college, studying something I personally believe I do not really wish to pursue that much, but am also on an academical situation which got me away from keeping the opportunity to essentially seek opportunities in a way that was viable. From thinking "I finally made it...I'm finally here, after all the work.." I ended at feeling as if I was at the verge of losing it all. My family's faith in me, my "happy" and extroverted behavior, my academic "ranking"...essentially everything I had been working for ever since youth. And for the very first time in my life, in this specific situation, I felt...essentially...powerless. Alone. Regretful. I felt an indescribable amount of pain that would never leave. That emotion is still there, however, recently I've come to realize I cannot give up, nor stop moving forward, seeking that sentiment of tranquility and stillness (in a good sense, of course). This video...oddly enough, sort of helped to the point where I'm tearing up XD. I don't know how to say this, I...guess I just really needed to hear this. I do not know this channel, nor you as a person, but...I thank you for this. I just subscribed simply because this was great advice. And most certainly something I needed to hear. I wish you well, and I now leave you be. Of course, at this point I bet you already went camping XDXD but I still hope things went well and that they are still going well. Have a good day, or night..or...afternoon...and thank you.
This is exactly where I’m at. Burnt out with school, just broke up with a gf that didn’t respect me, and I’ve been struggling so hard to move forward. Good luck brother
I still can't believe you are only 23 dude. You definitely have more wisdom and direction then most people twice your age. Inspiring and sad, as I'm twice your age and learning a shit ton form you. Thanks buddy and you will still change plenty of lives for the better 👍
I thought this video would be a guy walking around with virtual reality glasses collecting power ups on the sidewalk… but instead I was told I’m in a state of decay. This went south real quick
I've been using this mindset on and off for probably almost 10 years and your video is the best description of the problems and useful solutions to lifestyle gamification I've ever seen!
If life allowed for 3rd person perspective, I swear I'd be much more inclined to treat life like a game. The ability to disassociate yourself from the games we play allow us to make decisions that purely benefit us in that moment or down the line. The always first person perspective makes things so personal and forces us to "be the player" at all times trapping us in the emotional and mental struggles that ultimately prevent us from making the best decisions to succeed.
That’s called detachment from ones ego. Separating yourself from your emotions and gaining the ability to be able to think more logically. Through many meditation sessions, one can achieve it. But like the guy said in the video, everything takes time and dedication lol
@Prisoner of the Internet Honestly, just simply breathe and focus on the act of inhaling and exhaling. It will help with disconnecting yourself from your thoughts. You can always listen to natural sounds, (many different videos on RUclips) search up guided meditations to help with that. Deepak Chopra explains it well in his book ‘the seven spiritual laws of success.’ But I always go back to the simple act of breathing, and focusing on the inhalation, and exhalation. Feeling the air flow through your body. And listen to any natural sounds. Wind through the trees. The crash of waves. The chirps of birds. The roar of an engine as it goes on by. It’s all natural sounds. I hope this helps! I know it’s a long process, but stick with it and it should eventually help. Build a routine by doing just 2-5 minutes of meditation daily It’ll increase overtime.
I tried to go for "grew peaches". Then I got an infestation of spider mites that I can't seem to be rid of. A frustrating problem that you don't deal with in farming games.
@@Latronibus That's the brutal part about "organic" or "living with the land" tropes that some people never mention. You're not the only one that want to eat your food (bugs want it, coyotes want it, groundhogs want it, larvae want it). I guarantee that 100k or millions of paleolithic farmers died due to pests, droughts or otherwise. Growing food to feed yourself, let alone a family is Fing HARD, and you are likely at the whims of nature every step of the way. I helped a local farmer troubleshoot his hydraulic tiller, as an example, but even being able to weed his farm, it was decimated by cut worms - no yeild (he went organic; no pesticide).
@Pewi5 Definitely. But it's amazing because it isn't constantly great. No matter who you are, someone you love is gonna die, you're gonna get fired from your job, dumped by your significant other, etc. But it's the shitty things that help us appreciate the amazing.
*timestamps ⏱* 0:00 intro 2:12 objectives 4:25 difficulty 7:35 risk 8:46 rewards 10:25 how do we make our real life into a video game? 10:45 step 1: get clearer objectives 11:44 step 2: reduce the difficulty 15:21 step 3: embrace risk 15:51 step 4: remind yourself & reflect in the rewards that life has to offer 17:09 skillshare 18:48 outro
This also relates to watching TV. While watching Netflix the other day, I was getting frustrated with a character thinking that he just needed to say/do XYZ and the situation would resolve itself. The next day I found myself in almost that exact same scenario and felt silly for not seeing what was so obvious to me before. Since then I've tried to observe myself from a third-person's perspective as if someone is watching a movie of my life and it's really helped a lot
@@seaque. great stories tho and music omg those games were my childhood Fr fr I would rage at 5 o clock in the morning cause my ass couldn’t find no health when I was almost dead🤣🤣🤣🤣
About the "practice fifteen minutes" or "write 100 words," you'll probably end up doing more than that, because it's so little, and you'll get into the swing of doing something. But even if you only do the goal, you'll still be winning.
I like how candid this guy is. He takes his natural tendencies to make common mistakes and just kind of writes it into the script in a way that feels genuine and is even a little entertaining.
10:43 Get Clearer Objectives 11:38 Reducing the Difficulty 13:03 "When you overcome resistance, you absorb its power." 15:17 Gamify Discomfort, Embrace Risk 15:50 Be Present and Reflect
I treat every work project as a raid: 1. Get to know your teammates and test the waters to identify synergies 2. Adjust and fill in the gaps appropriately 3. Progress for objectives; document milestones 4. Receive and share the lewt Video games are far more educational than school in my honest opinion.
Fml this was probably one of the most eye-opening videos I’ve ever watched. Thanks for this, Joey. I mean, as a hardcore gamer for over 15 years, I’ve definitely heard of the concept of gameifying life to make it tolerable or easier. But the way you explained the concepts makes it so easy to even just execute. This is on the level of Mark Manson, James Clear-esque insight. 👏🏽 Turning my Reminders app (which I recently started incorporating into my life) into a video game quest log as I write this!!
Life is an RPG Game I thought I was the only one who did this… It makes life much more enjoyable, not as depressing and it makes life interesting (for me at least) Thanks for a great video bro! 🔥
@@franklayton2243 9-5 as an boring waggie, 6-12 as edgy gamer tho, healthy gamer GG made a video on 12 gamer rules for life and the one i like the most is "life is a sandbox game, where you do WHATEVER you want and you don't want to watch someone else's playthough"
As someone who has been a hardcore gamer my whole life, this really hit home for me. I've asked myself so many times why do games appeal to me so much. Trying to back off in favor of real life leveling up has been a real struggle. Often trading one distraction for another. Thanks for this.
I've been using Habitica where you can actually create a character and level up as you complete habits and other tasks that you set for yourself. Their slogan is literally "Gamify your life." Chat with other people, join "guilds" of different types of ways to make your real-life better, and battle monsters (with others in the party you join or create) as you complete your tasks. It's almost like D&D without rolling dice. Your attacks depend on how many of your tasks were completed that day. Another way to add video games to real life 😁
I joined it about 4 months ago and asked about how one of the features worked in the chat channel, later that evening one dude messaged me to join his party and that he was new too and saw my comment in the chat. I agreed we both formed a party and complete quests and everything and I don't even talk to the dude much we just simply do our tasks knowing theres one more guy beside me doing it.
idk man, habitica is great but, the rewards arent motivating, i think it would be better if you got recources and had to craft stuff, or maybe i just set it up wrong
I’ve been stuck for awhile now in life, aimless, not getting anything done and just doing the bare minimum, thanks for your thoughts man. It’s always refreshing/helpful to get someone else’s perspective on things! :)
This is a really good video for me. I have several autoimmune diseases and it’s always been so hard to leave my comfort zone. Video games are much easier and less painful for me than doing more physical things (walking, exercise etc), but thinking of them like power-ups like you mentioned is very cool and motivational. I’m going to rewatch this when I hit another wall in life, but this really motivated me to challenge my comfort zone. Thank you for making it!
“There are two Bells of Awakening.. one above, and one below…” After that, you see the gates of that weird fortress open. Then that leads into Anor Londo, where the Sun Princess tells you to fetch grand souls to fuel the Soulvessel. It’s a bit vague but not completely unclear
15:19 Principles of Operational Risk Management: 1. Accept risk when benefit outweighs the cost. 2. Accept no unnecessary risk. 3. Anticipate and manage risk by planning. 4. Make risk decisions in the right time at the right level. There's more to ORM, but as simple as it may sound, it's one of the most useful skills I learned in the military. We make risk decisions everyday.
The key in being a real life character is to start out as: Level 1 thief, then branch out into level 1 hacker. Increasing your endurance stat every morning through walks/gym is highly recommended, too.
I've watched this video three times now trying to understand how you made it so eloquent. This video has helped inspired me to try again at gamifying my life and it has greatly improved my standard of living. Thank you for being a part of that for me.
2:15 Objectives 4:22 Diffculity 7:35 Risk 8:45 Rewards Real Life to Video Games 10:25 1. Clear Objectives 10:45 a. small quest to daily activity or habit you like 11:50 i. write 100 words in 1 day 2. Gamify Resistence 13:25 3. Embrace Risk 15:20 4. Remember the Rewards Offer 15:50
I’ve been pushing off my assignments, feeling incompetent, and unmotivated. This video enlightened me and it’s the push I needed to start. Thank you Joey!
This is the type of videos that can really open someone's eyes. You really did a great job at explaining how video games connected in life. Keep walking your own path in peace, bro. Subscribed.
love this sentence! "in real life tho, we are kinda born to a random family, in a random part of the map, you have a random race and a random socio-economic class"
@@corsaire-0 Be grateful you can access RUclips. Some people can't. Don't you think it's awesome that you have the power of the internet, which, for a small fee, can grant you so much power if you use it the correct way.
I really like how your videos are not like "oh look how well I do by doing this and that" but like "This really helped me out, maybe you can try that too?", feels like we're all in the same boat, rowing to productivity island... and there is land in sight. Thanks for those videos mate!
interesting... I love the concept and for many I believe this approach actually works. I worked with a lot of people that get overwhelmed by the objectives. Especially if they see through the whole progress of the "game". It would be really cool to develop a method that shows people 1 objective at a time. But not the great picture. At least in Hungary where I'm from people tend to get really overwhelmed by greater vision. But this method really works well for leader type of people I believe. Who can see the greater vision and is not overwhelmed by it. Amazing Video!!!
"realize that by not taking risks in life, you are not saving yourself from pain. All you are doing is trading away the acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning, longer-lasting decay of inaction. Where feelings of regret and despair blossom". Beautiful Writing! Great delivery & Edit!
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🎮 *The speaker draws parallels between video games and real life, emphasizing how character progression in games mirrors skill development and improvement in real life.* 02:25 🚀 *Video games provide clearer objectives compared to real life, with defined goals, tasks, and rewards, reducing ambiguity and decision paralysis.* 04:52 💪 *Video games are easier than real life, requiring minimal physical effort and time commitment. The speaker contrasts tasks like finding a spouse in a game versus the complexity of real-life relationships.* 07:51 🎲 *Real life involves significant risks, whereas video games offer rewards without real consequences. The speaker encourages embracing discomfort in real life as a source of power and personal growth.* 09:47 🏆 *While video game rewards provide instant gratification, real-life rewards offer deeper and longer-lasting fulfillment, contributing to personal growth and a sense of accomplishment.* 11:45 🗺️ *To make real life more like a video game, the speaker suggests setting clear objectives, breaking down tasks into manageable daily habits, gamifying resistance, embracing risk, and reflecting on the meaningful rewards life can offer.* 16:36 🧠 *Reflecting on the rewards of real-life achievements, the speaker encourages viewers to pursue goals that lead to a sense of calm, peace, and personal satisfaction.* Made with HARPA AI
Wow. I am literally in awe after watching your master piece, man. THANK YOU. This has got to be one of the most useful videos on RUclips. May God bless you in all of your endeavours, because you have just been a real blessing to me. Thank you again.
I had this video on a open tab for a week, so glad I've watched it now, so incredible! Plus there's some strong, really strong phrases that I had to keep with me! "When you overcome resistance, you absorb its power. And the greater the resistance, the greater the power."
I fell at sleep in my early 20's and woke up at 30.mberassing.... I loved playing virtoual games,back then,me and the friends i used to have,made a weakly routine going on computer clubs,playing online mmos,and the time flyied passed me,losing my buddyes one by one due to lifes circumstances.Then i've started dating,experiencing all kind of relationships,traveled my country for some of them,even moved to itally.Then my world turned upside down...but you know what? better late than never. Thx man,this was food for the brain.
Video game can for sure be approached as a manner of viewing life, it’s like cleaning - you get instant physical recognition and respond for the time you put in something. Skill in real life however is so abstract, unlike video games as you say. Maybe this is why a lot of people are confused once you finish mandatory high school, you’re suddenly supposed to know without any guide or anyone telling you what to do. Love the approach!
Fax. Once you graduate high school, then what? It’s like going to school is pointless. You don’t know what to do and yet your parents and everyone expects you to know. I feel like the education system FAILED to help students decide what they want to do. I feel like it’s outdated and compare to other countries like Finland, their education system ranks top 3 in the world.
"Realise that by not taking risks in life, you’re not saving yourself from pain. All you’re doing is trading away the acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning, longer-lasting decay of inaction where things like despair and regret blossom." 🔥🔥🔥 Fantastic stuff!
Most video games target our evolutionary programming "better" than the modern context... they do many of the small things totally right. Slow change? Yup. Direct feedback? Yup. Multimodal? Yup. And so many more... They are often designed to match what our ancestors craved
Can I still relate to this video even if I play different video games or progress in different ones? I gave up on SKyrim because I had trouble utilizing the map and did not make much progress
@@Seasonal-Shadow_4674 how did you fail to understand skyrim's map? it's very simple. morrowind has no quest markers, instead making you have to read directions on the quest's journal. it's more vague, but it forces you to look around the world as if you're really travelling
Not even in my wildest dreams would I've imagined a brunette Johnny Sins would be the funniest and most uplifting RUclipsr I've ever seen, but here we are.
Man, I loved this video. My first thought was "WTF Joey, 20 minutes of video?!", but when I started to watch, the editing was so good, the content was so pleasurable...I loved. Thanks dude.
Just over 20 mins, so he gets 3 Ad breaks from the people with no Adblockers. It's just cold hard money calculations. Look at how many post a 10 mins and 5 sec video.
It's funny that we always notice the specifically detailed goals in a game and how well organized in a sequence they are but never think about applying that same structure to our plans. Yet it is not a brand new idea it feels so important and useful when analizing it in the video 😄
I’ve used the “life is like a video game” analogy before, but never as in depth as this. You’ve opened my eyes to entirely new perspectives that’ll not only help me, but will eventually help others with myself as the medium. Great video sir!
I can actually see Augmented Reality glasses being utilized in a cohesive way (to our life goals). Whoever creates it,, and does it well, will become very successful.
There are productivity apps you can add friends on. Maybe the same but you're competing against friends to create HEALTHY productivity habits for tangible goals.
This video is changing my life, not drastically bc I felt I was doing pretty well anyway. But I've organized my days and timeline more thanks to this. Best wishes to everyone trying to do something!
Man, I feel like you're a perfect example of what consistency looks like, I remember when you had that video about 'the power of habit' (or maybe it was just in the video) and now your channel is huge!!! Super cool, a lot of inspiration, its simple, clear, and fun, looks like I'll be defining some quests. Thanks for the reminder 🙋♂️
"A feeling of calm and peacefulness and tranquility..." "And I know for a fact that's a feeling video games can't give me" Ironically enough, Breath of the Wild is my favorite video game because I think it gives me the closest approximation to this feeling.
But the feeling when you're chilling in the plains and you see five lasers aimed at you, then your blood pressure wants to pull an Elon Musk and go to Mars.
I love that you were able to articulate what I've been trying to do, and excellent tips! took a bunch of notes and redesigning the character of Me right now :) Thank you
Oh yeah, that's actually why my channel is called level up. Was gonna a do a RUclips series on it but I decided I wouldn't find RUclips fun & it's not my passion, I don't have a drive to create these videos. So I just didn't.
It's incredible that every single analogy in this video are the ones I told myself when I wasn't having fun. I've known that I've always wanted to be a metal musician, so I really embrace the idea of 'you are not destined to decay'. The one time I jumped off an 85ft cliff was the best feeling in the world. My entire mindeset had turned into overcoming risk after that. I always compared my life after college to my maxed runescape character as well. "I can FINALLY play the game". Love the video
When i was young i used to track my skills (cooking, studying for school, running) like sims do, I somehow figured out how fast the skill bar is growing depending on my practice on that skills 😅 it was kind of motivating
"By not taking risks in life, you're not saving yourself from pain. All you're doing is trading away the acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning longer lasting decay of inaction."
Ok, i gotta confess. I've been seein this video suggested to me hundreds of times and i thought to myself, "that's dumb", but i played this in the background while i'm editing and dam you make some great points! Especially breaking down huge goals into daily goals or "side quests" cuz it seems more easier and rewarding to do. Thanks for makin this video man! 🙏📿
I've played video games for pretty much my entire life and only until recently did I really figure out why I was always so hooked: video games are probably the single most effective thing to trigger a flowstate for many people, and it's similar to what you described in this video. 1. Clear goals 2. Immediate feedback 3. The challenge to skills ratio Although it's a challenge, if people can keep those 3 things in mind when they're attempting to improve themselves in real life, they'd start to see that the game of life is really worth playing.
I got it from Thomas Frank Newsletter "On my business card, I am a corporate president. In my mind, I am a game developer. But in my heart, I am a gamer." - Satoru Iwata
So the essence of the video is spend more time in real life than in virtual/ non real worlds and brake down your life/career into small steps. And just do the things you find discomforting.
One more thing: Don't see uncomfortable obstacles just as an inconvenience blocking you from your rewards, rather enjoy them by observing them as a way to gain more experience, gain more power and level up, no matter if you fail or succeed.
@@barath4545 I can relate, maybe. At the same time, the pain of dying sucks. Especially when it feels like I'm gonna die with regrets, as that'll just make the dying process even more painful mentally. Friends seem to keep me sane, even imaginary ones. Humans are social animals, as expected
Summary: HOW TO MAKE REAL LIFE INTO VIDEO GAME- 1. Get a clearer objective (define goals, steps and rewards Write it down). 2. Reduce the difficulty (breakdown the quest into the smallest daily action). 3. How to handle quests that are difficult no matter what: "When you overcome resistance, you absorb its power: The greater the resistance, the greater the power." 4. Embrace risk (Not taking risks is not saving yourself from pain but you are just trading away acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning longer lasting decay.) 5. Remind yourself and REFLECT ON REWARDS that life has to offer ( 16:13 reward which he is working on)
HOW HE CAME TO ABOVE IDEAS- Analyzing video games and real life - >Video games have better clarity of objectives while in real life it's vague. >Difficulty level is way low in games than in real life. >In real life there is RISK in everything while in games there is no risk (risk losing supplies or things which don't really exist). >Video games rewards are superficial rewards (like doughnut sweet but 0 nutrition). While in life those are long-lasting.
I've recently overcome (another) several-months-long phase of addiction to an MMO, and the thing that was almost compelling me to come back every day was the system of both daily and weekly repeatable objectives which have certain rewards attached to them and are required to progress your character at endgame. Now, it's not like most of these objectives were even that fun. They were the same every day, every week, and they got monotonous very quickly. But I felt like I simply HAD to do them every single day, or I would be missing out on something "important". (And then of course once I completed those things, it was easier to just continue playing than to turn the game off.) Now that I've broken out of that cycle again, I've had the thought that I need to try to approach life this way, to break down my various goals into "dailies and weeklies" with specific rewards attached. The trouble is that a lot of my goals don't come with immediate, tangible rewards, like a handful of barter currency that I can save up and eventually spend on a new helmet. So I'm not really sure if it's best to attach a more arbitrary reward to these goals, like a piece of chocolate for daily art practice, or if I should just focus on appreciating the goals' natural rewards of fulfillment and improvement. I guess "whatever will help most" is probably the answer?
This is pretty cobbled together advice so take it with a grain of salt. I can think of two approaches to this. The first is "don't give cheap rewards to things that have deep, intrinsic rewards, because research shows that this makes the intrinsic rewards less satisfying and traps you into needing the cheap reward to be motivated, creating a new problem to fix". The second is "acheiving your goals is the most important because you can build a habit of doing those tasks, then changing the reward system may be difficult but the behavior will already be trained". I'm not sure which to endorse but both seem reasonable, so like you say it's best to see which will get you what you want.
I think sometimes we can either find rewards in activities where they can easily be overlooked. The lack of a feeling of guilt for example can be seen as a reward! Or the alignment with values/views. Or consciously reminding yourself that you made a tiny step towards a big goal. Also, sometimes one can modify the situation to create tangible rewards. I often find myself working towards very unspecified goals such as getting better at staying in touch with friends on messenger apps, or getting stronger/ more fit. In such situations i could set myself specific goals, for example in numbers. That way progress becomes more visible! Just two spontaneous thoughts, maybe they‘re interesting :)
Another thing about video games that is so appealing is that you get to be whoever you want to be. Unlike in real life, and depending on the game, you get to choose all your stats, backgrounds, skills, and starting equipment. You get to be exactly who you want to be and do what you genuinely want to do in-game. That's not a luxury life offers, and in fact very, very few ever are lucky enough to get the stats that most people seek to attain through video games.
I recently started labeling my daily to do list "sidequests" and it has somehow helped me be more productive
This makes me very happy
I procrastinate on side quests in games ain't no way I'm doing side quests irl
Nice.
Good! Now keep doing it for ~3 months and see if it's not just a phase. Good luck, I would salute you if you succeed.
Gold
I usually hit quicksave before going to job interviews. Works every time!
As in you're stuck?
@@ararix3722 No, as in he quick saves
@@wyatt4555 how to reload a quicksave thugh?
@@nightmarerex2035 Just press F8
I find this better tip then whole video
1.Get clearer objectives (and write them down)
2. Reduce difficulty (set smaller goals to accomplish the big goals)
3.Gameify resistance/ discomfort
4. Embrace risk
5. Reflect on the awards that life has to offer
Thanks dude.
Thank you!
Thanks man, you saved me 20 minutes. This could have been really squeezed into a max 10 minute video by just giving less examples...
@@krisztianfeher5665 Watch the video. Its alot better and makes you understand it more and makes you want to actually do it more.
@@krisztianfeher5665 That's what they all do. They are all the same. They think they stepped on some profound ideas but maak it with lo fi music and editing. Its their way of earning their bread.
"Rewards in life are hidden behind discomfort pay-walls", such an insightful and oddly-true concept!
and paywall paywalls too LMAO
I guess I'm stuck in the Free To Play area still, hahahahah!
Yeah, but for some of us it's like grinding away to get enough points to buy that pay-wall, but when you finally do and buy it, there's nothing on the other side.
@@fuzzypanda1684 I'm just glad to be part of the game..
@@barowt Lol, I can respect that. Plus your name is straight fire so I mean, come on, how can I disagree with the best South Park character ever?
I don't know what's different about this channel compared to other self help channels, but he's always able to come up with ideas I can actually relate to and advice I can actually execute in real life
Bcuz common self help stuff tend to be unrealistically demanding of unmotivated people. Using formal research data may be good in logic, but we're not robots who can be expected to do things that CEOs or prodigies like to do that makes them successful according to research, and we may feel like a failure when we can't fulfill those cold, data-based methods.
This channel's approach I think is more like sharing the insights & ideas that an ordinary man gets in his own journey & experience, so it becomes more relatable to us common people who can relate that life isn't that easy. He shows understanding & empathy of those ordinary feelings.
We're only human, and I think his approach is human, that's why it's more intimate & relatable like a heart-to-heart.
@@jjQlLlLq Yeah, that makes sense, I completely agree
He has better ideas:)))
So true. Schlatt as a profile picture feels so wrong here, but at the same time, so pleasing
He's able to come up with Better Ideas
If I grinded in real life as hard as I did in borderlands 2 to get legendaries, I’d be a millionaire by now
I really need to play Borderlands 2 again. Hands down one of the best games I ever played!
You see. Most people play gta doing glitches for money. If only they put that much effort irl. They’d actually own a penthouse by now.
@@Lightningspiner damn ma man you really didn't get the idea of the video, drop the games 😂😂😂
@@MrMDanny games are awesome, but you should treat them as a reward, they're not all there is
Edit: very important: you likely will never get to shoot in real life (maybe at the range), which is good I guess, but you won't
And you definitely won't shoot at aliens on a different planet, on an epic quest
@@MrMDanny I'll drop video games when people drop triple use of the same emoji
Bro "by overcoming the resistance, you gain the resistance's power" IS THE MOST MOTIVATING THING IVE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE LIKE WOW NOTHING LIKE A OL' PROVERB SOUNDIN' THING TO GET YOU GOIN'
agree!
Ikr? It makes you feel like a badass, destroying bosses and absorving their essence so you can become the biggest boss around.
@@wowwhyisthistaken why play dark souls when you can play... REAL LIFE ☠
I literally printed the video and now im using it as wallpaper
Read Steven's Pressfield's ''The war of art'' it's an entire book about the resistance. I think it's a quote from the book.
Damn this video is incredible, just got round to watching it from my watch later haha
lol same
lol the watch later part is relatable
Me too
same :)
Same. =D
The only thing I don't like about the "real life" game I'm playing, is that if I'm not continuously using my skills, I forget them.
Can I still relate to this video even if I play different video games or progress in different ones? I gave up on SKyrim because I had trouble utilizing the map and did not make much progress
stat decay is a pain
There's a hilarious irony to the fact I've added mods to Skyrim which mean if I don't use skills or get enough sleep in game then my in game character will actually atrophy skills and muscle... Even games aren't an escape for me anymore haha!
@@Seasonal-Shadow_4674 absolutely, I think the basis of every video game is to progress somehow even if it's not an RPG.
* 𝘛𝘏𝘈𝘕𝘒𝘚 𝘍𝘖𝘙 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘊𝘖𝘔𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛
𝘐 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘈𝘋𝘝𝘐𝘚𝘌 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘛𝘖 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘐𝘕𝘛𝘖 𝘊𝘙𝘠𝘗𝘛𝘖𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘠 𝘐𝘕𝘝𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘞𝘐𝘛𝘏 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘈𝘐𝘋 𝘖𝘍 𝘔𝘠 𝘛𝘙𝘜𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘋𝘌𝘙 𝘖𝘕 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛𝘚𝘈𝘗 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘔𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘎𝘖𝘖𝘋 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘍𝘐𝘛𝘚
I've always found looking at life as a videogame with missions and side quests helped me keep a good amount of levelheadedness. Sometimes I just wish there was a HUD we could see through our own eyes telling us what to do to progress with the story.
Follow your heart, and trust your gut
Its helped me forgive myself for wasting a day hitting chickens. I've left shitloads of side quests undone in games.
Fuck ikr, a Quest log reminder, maybe even a timer
A few ideas: write your quests or status on your bathroom mirror; take a photo of your goal and use it as your phone/computer wallpaper; ask a friend to chase you until you get your stuff done, and reward them for the work; count your steps; use triggers to remind you to save money, read books, etc; the elevator is lava... and so on
The HUD would be beneficial. Living with no HUD is weird.
"When you overcome resistance, you absorb it's power" I think I found my meditation mantra.
Same as you I'm shocked I've never acknowledged it but understood immediately when he described it
So good
@Дм Го seriously
Totally agree. Thats such a statement
I didnt quite catch this in video . Thanks for writing it here. Beautiful line
My personal trainer had told me "Resolve yourself to already be at your target weight." He gave me all of the tools, a quest log and an end goal. It's been pretty easy with those processes.
So yesterday I was eating with my family when all of a sudden a “crew mate” broke in through the front door. He had a ski mask on and a gun which was sus, but he a good skin. My father told us all to hide so we don’t get killed by the obvious imposter. I could see him from my hiding spot under the table and he looked sus. So I told my dad “DAD YOU THINK HE IS THE IMPOSTER? HE IS SUS!” I yelled as loud as I could. The imposter found us hiding and shot my father five times. The imposter was so dumb, who kills someone in front of crew mates? I ran to call the emergency meeting by grabbing my phone off the table when I heard my mother get shot and scream for me. Lol she was so bad at among us. My teammates sucked and were dying to the worst Imposter. So I called the emergency meeting and for some reason a S.W.A.T team rammed down the door and killed the imposter. Lol that’s not how the game goes, I think they were hacking.
@@Quadingly Shush, child.
Your personal trainer is poggers
@@Quadingly This comment makes me sad for some reason.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
“When you overcome resistance, you absorb its power. The greater the resistance, the greater the power.” 🔥
The one line was worth all 20 minutes of this video. I am adding this video to my motivational playlist.
@@GenericHandle01 my thoughts exactly. Quotes are awesome, but they usually contain packed wisdom that takes a long time to internalize. Or they just repeat common sense in fancy words. It's not often that a quote has the power to make you immediately think differently about things.
@@GenericHandle01 would you like to share this playlist please?
@@gilgamesh156 Never done this before so I hope this works for you. ruclips.net/p/PLxGTkV6sB4EP1ql-V-9GtRZKcMvBaDTo4
@@GenericHandle01 it worked. Thank you very much🙏
I made a Quest List on my phone for daily, weekly and main quest categories. I was able to check off my "Purchase a Home" main quest last year. It feels so satisfying!
How exciting is it to start a new main quest? With your same character! Way op.
+5000 xp
any walktrough bro?
Congrats!
@@user-rd3jw7pv7i Buy a cheap reliable used car, live in a 500sqft apartment, shop at the dollar store for food, save 50% of each paycheck for 4 years, and you'll be able to buy an entry lvl house depending on where you live. I was a home owner by 23 years old with that method in AZ
I wasted 3 years of my school life slacking off. But ever since i found your channel i have changed a lot. Thanks to your words they always have a huge impact on me. I cant thank you enough!
5. Take it or leave it
Most people in the self help world hate on video games, I found this video refreshing! The difficult part of life cannot be understated. However, I totally agree on the part with rewards. Even something as simple as losing weight can be unbelievably rewarding. Great video Joey!
Probably because for many, losing weight isn't simple
@@durpasaur3052 correction: isn't easy.
It is actually pretty simple.
@@GabrielSouza-ie1tt is it simple for people that have mental disoreders to create or follow workout routines? Is it simple for them to get over their negative thought patterns? It gets very complicated for people with eating disorders. At least that's what I believe.
This is not my struggle, but I have known others with these problems
@@durpasaur3052 I do that. It's like what I know I need and what my moment-to-moment thoughts lead me to are in opposite directions. Whenever I feel I've changed in a core way for the better I end up going back to my anxiety patterns. I do feel like I keep a portion of the good stuff and it feels easier to be successful each time though.
EX: I lost an absurd amount of weight (~100lbs) but regained most of it. Felt impossible to do it the 1st time but now I know I can. Trying to figure out atm if weightloss+muscle gain is worth trying at once or just muscle gain. Need to increase energy/focus and it seems like working out does that
@@durpasaur3052 if you don't know through personal experience then shut up and go ask yourself those questions in the corner
Love this video.
I actually started thinking of life as a game some years ago and everything been better since, career, romance, mental and physical health, you name it!
What worked for me was eliminating the thought of failing and switched it with "Hey I'm just respawning", get back up and try again with a different approach because in the end the only thing we achieve by being passive is failing but we can actually win if we go for it, stay positive and confident in our moves while sticking to our goals.
This was a pretty good breakdown of this video
come to think of it, the truth actually is that we don't really know when we have won the game. For life goals cannot be summed up like a video game. There's always the hunger for the next thing after achieving something
@@Ronaldo-cj4zl that's what the last part of the video is about
Same here I’m using life like how I play GTA 5 lol without the killing etc but getting money and building myself up buying houses and having a bunch of cars seeing myself and manifesting it as I play the game !
@@SharlenesJourney Like a wise man ounce said:
visualise what you're trying to do and do the rime home girl, don't like the time do you
As a (future :D) game designer what I can add is that games are also a lot better at giving you feedback, telling you immediately that you just did good or that you just made a mistake. I think maybe that's why having a todo list where you cross-off or tick-off small tasks can help you be more productive, because in a sense, it's replicating the instant feedback videogames give you.
Your comment has given me a thought that having smaller tasks could also give instant feedback. Thank you sire!!
Not gonna lie...I needed this. I really, really did. I am currently on my third year of college, studying something I personally believe I do not really wish to pursue that much, but am also on an academical situation which got me away from keeping the opportunity to essentially seek opportunities in a way that was viable. From thinking "I finally made it...I'm finally here, after all the work.." I ended at feeling as if I was at the verge of losing it all. My family's faith in me, my "happy" and extroverted behavior, my academic "ranking"...essentially everything I had been working for ever since youth. And for the very first time in my life, in this specific situation, I felt...essentially...powerless. Alone. Regretful. I felt an indescribable amount of pain that would never leave. That emotion is still there, however, recently I've come to realize I cannot give up, nor stop moving forward, seeking that sentiment of tranquility and stillness (in a good sense, of course). This video...oddly enough, sort of helped to the point where I'm tearing up XD. I don't know how to say this, I...guess I just really needed to hear this. I do not know this channel, nor you as a person, but...I thank you for this. I just subscribed simply because this was great advice. And most certainly something I needed to hear. I wish you well, and I now leave you be. Of course, at this point I bet you already went camping XDXD but I still hope things went well and that they are still going well. Have a good day, or night..or...afternoon...and thank you.
Glad the video you needed came and reach you. Good luck onto your studies, and other life situations. Good luck, and make sure to level up yourself.
This is exactly where I’m at. Burnt out with school, just broke up with a gf that didn’t respect me, and I’ve been struggling so hard to move forward. Good luck brother
I still can't believe you are only 23 dude. You definitely have more wisdom and direction then most people twice your age. Inspiring and sad, as I'm twice your age and learning a shit ton form you. Thanks buddy and you will still change plenty of lives for the better 👍
This man is a lot older than me, so I can’t really comment, but I can tell you are right. I learned a lot from this video and his insight.
Eh that bald really adds a lot of age huh
He's only 23??? Literally thought this dude was several years older than me and I'm 27.
@@alexcampbell7218 I thought he's older than me and I'm 30.
He sounds too experienced for a 23 years old. I can't believe he is 23
There’s always something to learn from a video game
I learned socializing skills from playing/watching games and social aspects within them.
Some games are very emotional, then you appreciate life more, same with movies
yeah, like postal
@@jake8836 suggest some
@@hussainrixx4328 the last of us part 1
I thought this video would be a guy walking around with virtual reality glasses collecting power ups on the sidewalk… but instead I was told I’m in a state of decay. This went south real quick
We are both white
@@sirus5469 lol
@@sirus5469 And I am white but with a cat
@@Skemmm lol, I got a cat to!!
I've been using this mindset on and off for probably almost 10 years and your video is the best description of the problems and useful solutions to lifestyle gamification I've ever seen!
Hey codinginflow, I watch your videos, you helped me make my first game! Thank you!
If life allowed for 3rd person perspective, I swear I'd be much more inclined to treat life like a game. The ability to disassociate yourself from the games we play allow us to make decisions that purely benefit us in that moment or down the line. The always first person perspective makes things so personal and forces us to "be the player" at all times trapping us in the emotional and mental struggles that ultimately prevent us from making the best decisions to succeed.
Actively thinking of yourself as the player and not the player character does help though.
Try psychedelics
youre in VR
That’s called detachment from ones ego. Separating yourself from your emotions and gaining the ability to be able to think more logically. Through many meditation sessions, one can achieve it. But like the guy said in the video, everything takes time and dedication lol
@Prisoner of the Internet Honestly, just simply breathe and focus on the act of inhaling and exhaling. It will help with disconnecting yourself from your thoughts. You can always listen to natural sounds, (many different videos on RUclips) search up guided meditations to help with that. Deepak Chopra explains it well in his book ‘the seven spiritual laws of success.’ But I always go back to the simple act of breathing, and focusing on the inhalation, and exhalation. Feeling the air flow through your body. And listen to any natural sounds. Wind through the trees. The crash of waves. The chirps of birds. The roar of an engine as it goes on by. It’s all natural sounds. I hope this helps! I know it’s a long process, but stick with it and it should eventually help. Build a routine by doing just 2-5 minutes of meditation daily It’ll increase overtime.
seeing Better Ideas run like a videogame character at the beggining made me laugh so hard
When you speed run your morning routine and get a sub 15 min bathroom
bro a sub 15 shower... goddamn thats goals
Breaking the 14 minute barrier might be impossible for a human, given current TAS routes
i sometimes do shower skip but it makes rest of the game harder
You may have just created the best thread for this video XD look at the comments.
Paul M
There are two places it’s possible to save time
Morning dump and shower
The tas got a sub 10 but I’m not dumping in the shower
sweating in apex: ❌
sweating in the gym: ✔
The other day I was growing stuff in minecraft, now I'm growing food in my actual backyard. Going for "grew tomatoes" achievement.
that's fucking awesome
I tried to go for "grew peaches". Then I got an infestation of spider mites that I can't seem to be rid of. A frustrating problem that you don't deal with in farming games.
@@Latronibus I think there's livestock for that. Probably gunnies or something.
@@Latronibus that depends on how hardcore realistic you have modded your farming game haha!
@@Latronibus That's the brutal part about "organic" or "living with the land" tropes that some people never mention. You're not the only one that want to eat your food (bugs want it, coyotes want it, groundhogs want it, larvae want it). I guarantee that 100k or millions of paleolithic farmers died due to pests, droughts or otherwise.
Growing food to feed yourself, let alone a family is Fing HARD, and you are likely at the whims of nature every step of the way.
I helped a local farmer troubleshoot his hydraulic tiller, as an example, but even being able to weed his farm, it was decimated by cut worms - no yeild (he went organic; no pesticide).
Life is basically Minecraft in hardcore mode. Sometimes easy, sometimes hard, but ultimately very cruel
And 1 lives only
@@thatoneasianguy6969 totem of undying: hello!
more like rl craft ;-;
* 𝘛𝘏𝘈𝘕𝘒𝘚 𝘍𝘖𝘙 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘊𝘖𝘔𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛
𝘐 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘈𝘋𝘝𝘐𝘚𝘌 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘛𝘖 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘐𝘕𝘛𝘖 𝘊𝘙𝘠𝘗𝘛𝘖𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘠 𝘐𝘕𝘝𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘞𝘐𝘛𝘏 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘈𝘐𝘋 𝘖𝘍 𝘔𝘠 𝘛𝘙𝘜𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘋𝘌𝘙 𝘖𝘕 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛𝘚𝘈𝘗 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘔𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘎𝘖𝘖𝘋 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘍𝘐𝘛𝘚
@Pewi5 Definitely. But it's amazing because it isn't constantly great. No matter who you are, someone you love is gonna die, you're gonna get fired from your job, dumped by your significant other, etc. But it's the shitty things that help us appreciate the amazing.
The production on this video is incredible!! felt like watching a movie..
*timestamps ⏱*
0:00 intro
2:12 objectives
4:25 difficulty
7:35 risk
8:46 rewards
10:25 how do we make our real life into a video game?
10:45 step 1: get clearer objectives
11:44 step 2: reduce the difficulty
15:21 step 3: embrace risk
15:51 step 4: remind yourself & reflect in the rewards that life has to offer
17:09 skillshare
18:48 outro
This also relates to watching TV. While watching Netflix the other day, I was getting frustrated with a character thinking that he just needed to say/do XYZ and the situation would resolve itself. The next day I found myself in almost that exact same scenario and felt silly for not seeing what was so obvious to me before. Since then I've tried to observe myself from a third-person's perspective as if someone is watching a movie of my life and it's really helped a lot
Wow.. that's actually a really interesting perspective!
same here! i think a lot of how annoyed i get at dumb decissions on tv and then embrace the discomfort hahah
You just need to open the devconsole and write "/force /view-3rd-person" and hit . Enjoy
I think so too but everytime i go to i dunno school i forget this idea ever existed😂
Same man, the 3rd person perspective of self goes super deep as well.
Him: Video games are extremely easy
Me: *flashbacks* to GTA Vice City helicopter mission
BRUH VICE CITY WAS THE HARDEST GTA EVER
well at least you can restart from the begining without loosing anything. in real life if you fail, you fucked up
@@BabyGotBack12 nope. III is easily harder.
@@seaque. great stories tho and music omg those games were my childhood Fr fr I would rage at 5 o clock in the morning cause my ass couldn’t find no health when I was almost dead🤣🤣🤣🤣
Don't forget the damn train
About the "practice fifteen minutes" or "write 100 words," you'll probably end up doing more than that, because it's so little, and you'll get into the swing of doing something. But even if you only do the goal, you'll still be winning.
It's like the "bonus" in game. Like "do this level within 3 min".
I like how candid this guy is. He takes his natural tendencies to make common mistakes and just kind of writes it into the script in a way that feels genuine and is even a little entertaining.
10:43 Get Clearer Objectives
11:38 Reducing the Difficulty
13:03 "When you overcome resistance, you absorb its power."
15:17 Gamify Discomfort, Embrace Risk
15:50 Be Present and Reflect
Thank you!
Thanks!!! :)
I was about to do that comment. Thnak you mate, you just earned 300xp
Here's a military salute from me .
Thanks! I almost stopped watching cause the first half was a waste of time
I treat every work project as a raid:
1. Get to know your teammates and test the waters to identify synergies
2. Adjust and fill in the gaps appropriately
3. Progress for objectives; document milestones
4. Receive and share the lewt
Video games are far more educational than school in my honest opinion.
Fml this was probably one of the most eye-opening videos I’ve ever watched. Thanks for this, Joey.
I mean, as a hardcore gamer for over 15 years, I’ve definitely heard of the concept of gameifying life to make it tolerable or easier. But the way you explained the concepts makes it so easy to even just execute. This is on the level of Mark Manson, James Clear-esque insight. 👏🏽 Turning my Reminders app (which I recently started incorporating into my life) into a video game quest log as I write this!!
the problem is that some of us have shitty genetics / personality which make some of this impossible.
@@Danuxsy you found a perfect excuse for you 😂
@@TishSerg 🙄😔
Life is an RPG Game
I thought I was the only one who did this…
It makes life much more enjoyable, not as depressing and it makes life interesting (for me at least)
Thanks for a great video bro! 🔥
can you make examples of what you do to make life like a videogame?
Yeah please
@@franklayton2243 9-5 as an boring waggie, 6-12 as edgy gamer
tho, healthy gamer GG made a video on 12 gamer rules for life and the one i like the most is "life is a sandbox game, where you do WHATEVER you want and you don't want to watch someone else's playthough"
Yup
You start karate 🥋 as a white belt and you can level up to black belt 🥋
You also start cooking or piano as a white belt.
As someone who has been a hardcore gamer my whole life, this really hit home for me. I've asked myself so many times why do games appeal to me so much. Trying to back off in favor of real life leveling up has been a real struggle. Often trading one distraction for another. Thanks for this.
Ask yourself “what am I searching for?” when wondering why you like it
I've been using Habitica where you can actually create a character and level up as you complete habits and other tasks that you set for yourself. Their slogan is literally "Gamify your life." Chat with other people, join "guilds" of different types of ways to make your real-life better, and battle monsters (with others in the party you join or create) as you complete your tasks. It's almost like D&D without rolling dice. Your attacks depend on how many of your tasks were completed that day. Another way to add video games to real life 😁
I joined it about 4 months ago and asked about how one of the features worked in the chat channel, later that evening one dude messaged me to join his party and that he was new too and saw my comment in the chat. I agreed we both formed a party and complete quests and everything and I don't even talk to the dude much we just simply do our tasks knowing theres one more guy beside me doing it.
idk man, habitica is great but, the rewards arent motivating, i think it would be better if you got recources and had to craft stuff, or maybe i just set it up wrong
@@EdwardENGLERI somehow have made myself lots of weird skill trees on habitica (it took a while lol) and i feel like that makes it a lot more fun.
I’ve been stuck for awhile now in life, aimless, not getting anything done and just doing the bare minimum, thanks for your thoughts man. It’s always refreshing/helpful to get someone else’s perspective on things! :)
This guy has changed my mindset and life completely
This is a really good video for me. I have several autoimmune diseases and it’s always been so hard to leave my comfort zone. Video games are much easier and less painful for me than doing more physical things (walking, exercise etc), but thinking of them like power-ups like you mentioned is very cool and motivational. I’m going to rewatch this when I hit another wall in life, but this really motivated me to challenge my comfort zone. Thank you for making it!
wonderfully explained, Thank you
aggreed
"Video games have better clarity of objectives."
Souls games : "really??"
“There are two Bells of Awakening.. one above, and one below…”
After that, you see the gates of that weird fortress open. Then that leads into Anor Londo, where the Sun Princess tells you to fetch grand souls to fuel the Soulvessel. It’s a bit vague but not completely unclear
I played my first souls....demon's souls remake! The game was frustrating as hell!
Hunter: "what's the plot again? pale blood? the fuck is that!? guess i kill some monsters till i see destiny beckoning"
Souls game: objective: die.
*Pain
Thank you for this video. Really needed this as I fall into a deep rut.
15:19 Principles of Operational Risk Management:
1. Accept risk when benefit outweighs the cost.
2. Accept no unnecessary risk.
3. Anticipate and manage risk by planning.
4. Make risk decisions in the right time at the right level.
There's more to ORM, but as simple as it may sound, it's one of the most useful skills I learned in the military. We make risk decisions everyday.
The clips of you walking around filmed in 3rd person perspective like a video games are so cool!
The key in being a real life character is to start out as:
Level 1 thief, then branch out into level 1 hacker. Increasing your endurance stat every morning through walks/gym is highly recommended, too.
And then end up as lvl 50 Mafia Boss.
I've watched this video three times now trying to understand how you made it so eloquent. This video has helped inspired me to try again at gamifying my life and it has greatly improved my standard of living. Thank you for being a part of that for me.
2:15 Objectives
4:22 Diffculity
7:35 Risk
8:45 Rewards
Real Life to Video Games 10:25
1. Clear Objectives 10:45
a. small quest to daily activity or habit you like 11:50
i. write 100 words in 1 day
2. Gamify Resistence 13:25
3. Embrace Risk 15:20
4. Remember the Rewards Offer 15:50
I’ve been pushing off my assignments, feeling incompetent, and unmotivated. This video enlightened me and it’s the push I needed to start. Thank you Joey!
Hi. Still on track?
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One thing I've learnt from video games is that if you don't encounter enemies, you're going in the wrong direction. :)
Great video btw. :D
As someone whos been neglecting my life for the past few months by playing an unhealthy amount of video games, I needed this video today.
This is the type of videos that can really open someone's eyes. You really did a great job at explaining how video games connected in life. Keep walking your own path in peace, bro. Subscribed.
Salute to everyone watching this from their bed ✌🏽
😆🐭
Sofa...
Nice and cosy under the blacket 👌🏼
Eyy ✌️
What?! I’m actually in my bed haha!
love this sentence!
"in real life tho,
we are kinda born to a random family,
in a random part of the map,
you have a random race
and a random socio-economic class"
Looks like my game is on "Hardcore" difficulty bro
Yesss
Minecraft with extra steps
Soooo truuuuuth
@@corsaire-0 Be grateful you can access RUclips. Some people can't. Don't you think it's awesome that you have the power of the internet, which, for a small fee, can grant you so much power if you use it the correct way.
I really like how your videos are not like "oh look how well I do by doing this and that" but like "This really helped me out, maybe you can try that too?", feels like we're all in the same boat, rowing to productivity island... and there is land in sight. Thanks for those videos mate!
interesting... I love the concept and for many I believe this approach actually works. I worked with a lot of people that get overwhelmed by the objectives. Especially if they see through the whole progress of the "game". It would be really cool to develop a method that shows people 1 objective at a time. But not the great picture. At least in Hungary where I'm from people tend to get really overwhelmed by greater vision. But this method really works well for leader type of people I believe. Who can see the greater vision and is not overwhelmed by it. Amazing Video!!!
"I'm going camping to let the worries of life f*** off for a bit" = I subscribed instantly.
"realize that by not taking risks in life, you are not saving yourself from pain. All you are doing is trading away the acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning, longer-lasting decay of inaction. Where feelings of regret and despair blossom".
Beautiful Writing! Great delivery & Edit!
"Getting a sqaud wipe in game pales in comparison to..." Getting a squad wipe irl?
Pfff yess
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@@spiderninja804 these bots are so damn annoying
@@kakerake6018 always on the most random comments
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🎮 *The speaker draws parallels between video games and real life, emphasizing how character progression in games mirrors skill development and improvement in real life.*
02:25 🚀 *Video games provide clearer objectives compared to real life, with defined goals, tasks, and rewards, reducing ambiguity and decision paralysis.*
04:52 💪 *Video games are easier than real life, requiring minimal physical effort and time commitment. The speaker contrasts tasks like finding a spouse in a game versus the complexity of real-life relationships.*
07:51 🎲 *Real life involves significant risks, whereas video games offer rewards without real consequences. The speaker encourages embracing discomfort in real life as a source of power and personal growth.*
09:47 🏆 *While video game rewards provide instant gratification, real-life rewards offer deeper and longer-lasting fulfillment, contributing to personal growth and a sense of accomplishment.*
11:45 🗺️ *To make real life more like a video game, the speaker suggests setting clear objectives, breaking down tasks into manageable daily habits, gamifying resistance, embracing risk, and reflecting on the meaningful rewards life can offer.*
16:36 🧠 *Reflecting on the rewards of real-life achievements, the speaker encourages viewers to pursue goals that lead to a sense of calm, peace, and personal satisfaction.*
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As someone who is in his early 20s and going through some difficult times, watching your videos give me hope and inspiration . Thank you.
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3:40 Better Ideas: The Game looks pretty good. Guess i'm buying the new PS6 now.
Or a gaming pc with a rtx 10 000, ryzen apu @ 100Ghz, 1000 core with 2000 threads
Hey fancy seeing you here man, I like your Queens of The Stone Age videos
@@curtisarnold9245 Hey thanks ;) I guess we're both into personal growth and qotsa then.
The main character's head looks kinda big though
jk, I like this guy
Wow. I am literally in awe after watching your master piece, man. THANK YOU. This has got to be one of the most useful videos on RUclips. May God bless you in all of your endeavours, because you have just been a real blessing to me. Thank you again.
I had this video on a open tab for a week, so glad I've watched it now, so incredible! Plus there's some strong, really strong phrases that I had to keep with me!
"When you overcome resistance, you absorb its power. And the greater the resistance, the greater the power."
I fell at sleep in my early 20's and woke up at 30.mberassing.... I loved playing virtoual games,back then,me and the friends i used to have,made a weakly routine going on computer clubs,playing online mmos,and the time flyied passed me,losing my buddyes one by one due to lifes circumstances.Then i've started dating,experiencing all kind of relationships,traveled my country for some of them,even moved to itally.Then my world turned upside down...but you know what? better late than never. Thx man,this was food for the brain.
“Wow, very inspiring”
*goes on to play a game*
Hello loba, fancy seeing you here apex legend
Can’t change yourself in one day
Gg
@@woohoo3021 lmao
Sadly relatable
Video game can for sure be approached as a manner of viewing life, it’s like cleaning - you get instant physical recognition and respond for the time you put in something. Skill in real life however is so abstract, unlike video games as you say.
Maybe this is why a lot of people are confused once you finish mandatory high school, you’re suddenly supposed to know without any guide or anyone telling you what to do.
Love the approach!
Fax. Once you graduate high school, then what?
It’s like going to school is pointless. You don’t know what to do and yet your parents and everyone expects you to know.
I feel like the education system FAILED to help students decide what they want to do. I feel like it’s outdated and compare to other countries like Finland, their education system ranks top 3 in the world.
"Realise that by not taking risks in life, you’re not saving yourself from pain. All you’re doing is trading away the acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning, longer-lasting decay of inaction where things like despair and regret blossom."
🔥🔥🔥 Fantastic stuff!
Most video games target our evolutionary programming "better" than the modern context... they do many of the small things totally right. Slow change? Yup. Direct feedback? Yup. Multimodal? Yup. And so many more... They are often designed to match what our ancestors craved
Can I still relate to this video even if I play different video games or progress in different ones? I gave up on SKyrim because I had trouble utilizing the map and did not make much progress
@@Seasonal-Shadow_4674yeah kinda. The video is not about games actually.
Wow. That’s eye opening
@@Seasonal-Shadow_4674 how did you fail to understand skyrim's map? it's very simple. morrowind has no quest markers, instead making you have to read directions on the quest's journal. it's more vague, but it forces you to look around the world as if you're really travelling
Not even in my wildest dreams would I've imagined a brunette Johnny Sins would be the funniest and most uplifting RUclipsr I've ever seen, but here we are.
Bruh 💀
Well Johny sins has a lot of jobs and constantly has more, so i guess he had to become a wholesome RUclipsr at some point
Not too clever though showing your face on dirty videos with nothing to learn.
Man, I loved this video. My first thought was "WTF Joey, 20 minutes of video?!", but when I started to watch, the editing was so good, the content was so pleasurable...I loved. Thanks dude.
Just over 20 mins, so he gets 3 Ad breaks from the people with no Adblockers.
It's just cold hard money calculations. Look at how many post a 10 mins and 5 sec video.
It's funny that we always notice the specifically detailed goals in a game and how well organized in a sequence they are but never think about applying that same structure to our plans. Yet it is not a brand new idea it feels so important and useful when analizing it in the video 😄
I’ve used the “life is like a video game” analogy before, but never as in depth as this. You’ve opened my eyes to entirely new perspectives that’ll not only help me, but will eventually help others with myself as the medium. Great video sir!
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I can actually see Augmented Reality glasses being utilized in a cohesive way (to our life goals). Whoever creates it,, and does it well, will become very successful.
Literally all it needs to do is show me some fake xp for doing something positive
There are productivity apps you can add friends on. Maybe the same but you're competing against friends to create HEALTHY productivity habits for tangible goals.
@@YukyDoodle whats the name of that app
@@jeffreyredding9229 Flora and Focus To-Do
@Joshua Smith Flora and Focus To-Do
This video is changing my life, not drastically bc I felt I was doing pretty well anyway. But I've organized my days and timeline more thanks to this. Best wishes to everyone trying to do something!
Man, I feel like you're a perfect example of what consistency looks like, I remember when you had that video about 'the power of habit' (or maybe it was just in the video) and now your channel is huge!!! Super cool, a lot of inspiration, its simple, clear, and fun, looks like I'll be defining some quests. Thanks for the reminder 🙋♂️
"A feeling of calm and peacefulness and tranquility..."
"And I know for a fact that's a feeling video games can't give me"
Ironically enough, Breath of the Wild is my favorite video game because I think it gives me the closest approximation to this feeling.
Life is strange gives me that feeling tbh
At least until you start getting chased by a guardian.😄
Same with Minecraft and even sometimes fallout and Skyrim. Breath of the wild was a saving grace when my mom died. It’s a beautiful game.
But the feeling when you're chilling in the plains and you see five lasers aimed at you, then your blood pressure wants to pull an Elon Musk and go to Mars.
Me who risks my mental health every match of LoL:
I'm somewhat of a risktaker myself
Don't play LoL if you want to stop being a looser.
That's why I stopped playing Overwatch
I think my brain Burns away little by little every second I play Lol
Lmao
wellll its the big shooooooooooooooow
I love that you were able to articulate what I've been trying to do, and excellent tips! took a bunch of notes and redesigning the character of Me right now :) Thank you
you have no idea how helpful this was. No freaking idea!
This has been my life philosophy for almost 6 years now. I've always viewed everything as a video game since about mid-high school.
Oh yeah, that's actually why my channel is called level up. Was gonna a do a RUclips series on it but I decided I wouldn't find RUclips fun & it's not my passion, I don't have a drive to create these videos. So I just didn't.
My therapist and I were discussing this subject before.
As a video game addict, I love this approach!
"You need to be *bald* and courageous."
It's incredible that every single analogy in this video are the ones I told myself when I wasn't having fun. I've known that I've always wanted to be a metal musician, so I really embrace the idea of 'you are not destined to decay'.
The one time I jumped off an 85ft cliff was the best feeling in the world. My entire mindeset had turned into overcoming risk after that.
I always compared my life after college to my maxed runescape character as well. "I can FINALLY play the game".
Love the video
When i was young i used to track my skills (cooking, studying for school, running) like sims do, I somehow figured out how fast the skill bar is growing depending on my practice on that skills 😅 it was kind of motivating
"By not taking risks in life, you're not saving yourself from pain. All you're doing is trading away the acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning longer lasting decay of inaction."
Is that jordan peterson?
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Ok, i gotta confess. I've been seein this video suggested to me hundreds of times and i thought to myself, "that's dumb", but i played this in the background while i'm editing and dam you make some great points! Especially breaking down huge goals into daily goals or "side quests" cuz it seems more easier and rewarding to do. Thanks for makin this video man! 🙏📿
Same RUclips just wouldn’t stop suggesting it to me and I finally decided to click it, glad I did.
I've always been telling my friends that I'm in my own open-world-exploration game. There's so much to see and do.
I've played video games for pretty much my entire life and only until recently did I really figure out why I was always so hooked:
video games are probably the single most effective thing to trigger a flowstate for many people, and it's similar to what you described in this video.
1. Clear goals
2. Immediate feedback
3. The challenge to skills ratio
Although it's a challenge, if people can keep those 3 things in mind when they're attempting to improve themselves in real life, they'd start to see that the game of life is really worth playing.
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I got it from Thomas Frank Newsletter
"On my business card, I am a corporate president. In my mind, I am a game developer. But in my heart, I am a gamer." - Satoru Iwata
So the essence of the video is spend more time in real life than in virtual/ non real worlds and brake down your life/career into small steps. And just do the things you find discomforting.
Better to feel the success/failure/mehness rather than the regret of not doing it at all.
One more thing: Don't see uncomfortable obstacles just as an inconvenience blocking you from your rewards, rather enjoy them by observing them as a way to gain more experience, gain more power and level up, no matter if you fail or succeed.
The is nothing more discomforting than living life. It sucks. Every fucking day.
@@barath4545 I can relate, maybe. At the same time, the pain of dying sucks. Especially when it feels like I'm gonna die with regrets, as that'll just make the dying process even more painful mentally.
Friends seem to keep me sane, even imaginary ones. Humans are social animals, as expected
@@barath4545 sending u some good vibes bro. Hope your outlook on life gets better. Ik sh*t can be rough sometimes, especially atm.
this video editing and directing is off the charts and way underrated
Summary:
HOW TO MAKE REAL LIFE INTO VIDEO GAME-
1. Get a clearer objective (define goals, steps and rewards Write it down).
2. Reduce the difficulty (breakdown the quest into the smallest daily action).
3. How to handle quests that are difficult no matter what:
"When you overcome resistance, you absorb its power: The greater the resistance, the greater the power."
4. Embrace risk (Not taking risks is not saving yourself from pain but you are just trading away acute discomfort of action for the slow-burning longer lasting decay.)
5. Remind yourself and REFLECT ON REWARDS that life has to offer ( 16:13 reward which he is working on)
HOW HE CAME TO ABOVE IDEAS-
Analyzing video games and real life -
>Video games have better clarity of objectives while in real life it's vague.
>Difficulty level is way low in games than in real life.
>In real life there is RISK in everything while in games there is no risk (risk losing supplies or things which don't really exist).
>Video games rewards are superficial rewards (like doughnut sweet but 0 nutrition). While in life those are long-lasting.
"Life is more difficult than a video game"
Dark Souls: "Hold my beer"
But you can beat dark souls.... You can't beat life 😉
@@MrEjblanco I mean, beating life is so easy life itself gives you a lot of ways to speedrun it, even when u don't want to
@@walphka Depends on your definition of beating life
@@teamziros1675 :)
@@walphka no point speedrunning this game, impossible to get the WR now
I've recently overcome (another) several-months-long phase of addiction to an MMO, and the thing that was almost compelling me to come back every day was the system of both daily and weekly repeatable objectives which have certain rewards attached to them and are required to progress your character at endgame. Now, it's not like most of these objectives were even that fun. They were the same every day, every week, and they got monotonous very quickly. But I felt like I simply HAD to do them every single day, or I would be missing out on something "important". (And then of course once I completed those things, it was easier to just continue playing than to turn the game off.)
Now that I've broken out of that cycle again, I've had the thought that I need to try to approach life this way, to break down my various goals into "dailies and weeklies" with specific rewards attached. The trouble is that a lot of my goals don't come with immediate, tangible rewards, like a handful of barter currency that I can save up and eventually spend on a new helmet. So I'm not really sure if it's best to attach a more arbitrary reward to these goals, like a piece of chocolate for daily art practice, or if I should just focus on appreciating the goals' natural rewards of fulfillment and improvement. I guess "whatever will help most" is probably the answer?
This is pretty cobbled together advice so take it with a grain of salt. I can think of two approaches to this. The first is "don't give cheap rewards to things that have deep, intrinsic rewards, because research shows that this makes the intrinsic rewards less satisfying and traps you into needing the cheap reward to be motivated, creating a new problem to fix". The second is "acheiving your goals is the most important because you can build a habit of doing those tasks, then changing the reward system may be difficult but the behavior will already be trained". I'm not sure which to endorse but both seem reasonable, so like you say it's best to see which will get you what you want.
I think sometimes we can either find rewards in activities where they can easily be overlooked. The lack of a feeling of guilt for example can be seen as a reward! Or the alignment with values/views. Or consciously reminding yourself that you made a tiny step towards a big goal.
Also, sometimes one can modify the situation to create tangible rewards. I often find myself working towards very unspecified goals such as getting better at staying in touch with friends on messenger apps, or getting stronger/ more fit. In such situations i could set myself specific goals, for example in numbers. That way progress becomes more visible!
Just two spontaneous thoughts, maybe they‘re interesting :)
Another thing about video games that is so appealing is that you get to be whoever you want to be. Unlike in real life, and depending on the game, you get to choose all your stats, backgrounds, skills, and starting equipment. You get to be exactly who you want to be and do what you genuinely want to do in-game. That's not a luxury life offers, and in fact very, very few ever are lucky enough to get the stats that most people seek to attain through video games.