@Marie It's an obsession with gender to the point it becomes the key facet of your identity... I think if society didn't enforce extreme gender rules and stereotypes then people could more happily exist as people.
@@thpisland2423 Yes and no. I think the point is that women should have space to be gender nonconforming without them being pressured to transition or identify as some kind of non-binary.
@@MmmMulholland The Truth is neither bitter nor hostile. If someone would have told her The Bitter Truth before she "Transitioned" maybe she wouldn't have done it. The people misleading the youth, to believe you can change your Gender/Sex, need to be Locked Up.
I'm a 46 year old woman who doesn't wear makeup at all. Ever. I also don't wear perfume, or even deodorant and I wash everyday with soap only not heavily scented shower gel. I don't wear nail polish either or have facials or manicures etc. I find it all unnecessary and intrusive. It doesn't make me any less of a woman though, I wear skirts, dresses, boots with heels and jewellery. My femininity and sense of who I am does not depend on externals.
@@saramonteiro4922 Ya know I probably should get around to visiting Europe in the next couple years. Depends on when they'll open travel up again, and if they'll let Americans in lol
I was the biggest tomboy ever. Got the same gifts as my boy cousins until I was 14 or so... if I had the toys back then that they have now...hog heaven! Pink and purple toy dump trucks! What?
YES!! Ugh so many fucked up ideas about what it means to be a woman. The trans community has really messed people up in my opinion. I do believe there are people who need to transition to another gender BUT many just are confused and want to fit into some sort of box.
@@fembot521 True! I'm 36 now, I remember when I was Younger, nobody questioned my sexuality, I am heterosexual. But today, totally different story. I don't wear dresses so I must be a lesbian. Pleaseeee people, cut it off...
I’ve been “confused” about my gender since I can remember, but while watching your video I realized that I didn’t want necessarily to be a man: I wanted to be perceived as one because I thought society would accept me better that way. Thank you for being so vocal about all of this x
I don't understand the narrative being heavily pushed in our society right now- that it's easier to be male. Maybe it's because I have a young son and I worry about all of the anti-male messaging around him. I don't believe for a second that men have it easier. All of the grouping and categorizing is really unfair to each of us as individuals, and so damaging in our culture.
@@mbwilson8592 ma’am let me tell you your son is going to be fine...it IS easier to navigate society as a male or as a male-presenting individual, there’s no question about it. I don’t know how old your son is but I’m only 17 and I’ve been catcalled since I was around 14. By grown men. Before that many classmates of mine touched me inappropriately and made nasty comments about my body. I remember running for my dear life at 11pm on a school night with some girl friends of mine because a group of drunk men kept following us and we were scared. Those experiences have had a great impact on me and how I perceived myself. I was uncomfortable (and still am) with showing any trace of femininity because I’ve seen first hand what being feminine can lead up to: I wanted to hide and salvage myself from all those nasty comments, for a long time I thought I was trans and I was super confused, but now I figured out it was just a way for me to protect myself as a woman in a society that is very male-centered. Not every woman needs to be feminine, femininity can be expressed in MANY different ways and I support all trans folks, but it is true that going about your day while male-presenting is easier. Please keep those things in mind and teach your son how to behave respectfully around women, we need more kind & educated people in the world 🙏🏻
@@mbwilson8592 and remember that when someone says that men have it easier in society isn’t saying that men cannot ever be sad or suffer in their lives
@@clair8880 I'm sorry for the abuse you have endured. I too, was sexually abused as a child and later as a teen. It's actually more acceptable in our culture, for women to speak out rather than male victims. Stats on suicide, crime, drug abuse..etc does not support the blanket assumption that men are guaranteed an easier life just for being male. Though I fully understand that this narrative is being heavily pushed in our schools and media. There are abusive people in all walks of life...all demographics. I know that you likely won't agree with the view I'm sharing here..and that's ok. Jordan Peterson is very intelligent and provides some good insight into this topic. This tedtalk is very interesting: ruclips.net/video/3WMuzhQXJoY/видео.html
I’m a 49 yr old suburban Mom with zero exposure to the trans community except through TV. I’m not sure how your page wound up in my feed but I watched this entire video. I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story and your faith. You’ve given me a level of empathy and compassion for those who struggle with their gender identity that I would not otherwise have had. It’s a blessing to have this opportunity to learn from someone who is so open and honest. God bless you and your future. ❤️
Me too. I mean, it's a world of experience that has not yet touched my friend/family group. It's amazing to listen to such a highly articulate person speak so honestly. Man, woman or other, being truthful is the most difficult thing. It's important to remember that detransitioning occurs to a tiny percentage of trans people. If you are as unaware/ unexposed to transgenderism, it's important to note that and perhaps to listen to some equally articulate trans people who are happy with their choices.
Well said, I've got trans friends and they grass and can go either way with their clothes. I love your comment great trans people are just like us we all have to live on this big blue ball floating around space
As a trans dude im not scared of this kind of conversations being made, I think its super valid to suddenly realize that you are in fact not trans. I only have a problem with the people who use you or any other detrans folks to prove their point against trans people. You are so strong and I just got recommend this video but you seem such a kind person so i hope you will have a happy life❤️
I think this merely supports the idea that full transitioning (hormones, surgery) needs to be reserved for those above the age of 21. That real therapy (not conversion cause that is horrible) needs to be okay and to help people find out what they really need so they can feel whole. ❤️
@@Monkey-D-Luffy911 No offence taken as this is just a discussion and my opinion on it from hearing from many sides - Both transitioners who it was right for and detransitioners.. But it seems there is evidence that many young people these days have thought they were needing to transition, do it then realize once they are adults (sometimes sooner) that they made a mistake, and if you’ve taken hormones and/or done surgery it can cause further emotional and mental distress as well as irreversible damage. Childhood is the shortest, most confusing, and volatile part of our entire lives and it seems the safest course to wait until fully grown.
@@reneekelly2911 I mean, transgender people have to take many tests and go to doctors to start hormones. I understand not letting very young people, like 10 year olds, take hormones. But many people need to take them, or puberty blockers, to stop feeling dysphoric. I have multiple friends that knew they were trans when they were young, so it’s not rare that people know their identity under 18.
@@Monkey-D-Luffy911 Oh I’m not saying that there aren’t young people these days saying/thinking/believing that they are dysphoric and that it may be the right move for some. But from stories/interviews on the other side that show that many medical professionals not doing proper evaluations out of fear of being called transphobic and losing their jobs. These things are happening (in Canada their is a bill that is being voted on right now that would basically criminalize not giving a trans diagnosis) and young people can be “so certain” of what they are feeling and then self diagnose themselves being of what they see or hear online. I support and recognize trans people and that it is real and that they deserve to be treated equally as anyone else. However I think it is a complex issue and in our rush to showing acceptance we are not seeing or hearing the other side of things. As I said before, I am a critical thinker, which is why I like to seek out all sides of stories/experiences since life is not black and white, but grey.
I’m trans myself, and have watched your videos for a little while now. I think many people fail to realise just how varied and complicated human experience is, it really can’t be boiled down into simple categories. You may not understand someones experiences, but that doesn’t mean they’re any less real. At the end of the day we just have to do what is right for ourselves and “follow our own truth” so to speak. Genuinely wish you the best Daisy, im glad that you have found the path that is right for you.
I have thirteen trans friends/colleagues and of that figure two have de-transitioned. I have noticed that sometimes the trans community rejects individuals that de-transition because of the impact they feel it negativity portrays to the community. You are proof of what your comment stated. Human experience is all unique. I'm so pleased to read your comment as we all need to support each other. Humanity is so complex and I truly appreciate reading comments like yours, especially being from the trans community.
She seems to be a realist. While your life is based on dress up. Whether ur dress-up is fabric or chemical or surgical. As long as you know your not actually a man right? If you're more comfortable presenting as a man and that's how you do it that's fine but if you actually believe that you're a man well now you're crossing the border into self-delusion
To the commenters critiquing her desire to have new clothes and the ability to put on makeup. She sounds like she wants those things as part of her style, not that those things make her more of a woman. It's ok to want to be a woman in any expression full glam to mud hippy.
"It's ok to want to be a woman in any expression full glam to mud hippy." In this context what does the word woman actually mean? Can you define "woman" without referring to aspects of being a biological female? I'm genuinely curious. I hear a lot about the "gender spectrum" but no one seems to be able to tell me how it's different from "style" or the old concept of gender roles (which used the word gender as a synonym for sex). When I've looked it up on the web I can't seem to find a definition that actually divorces the gender called "woman" from the female sex which seems to falsify the modern notion that gender is NOT a synonym for biological sex. Also just to be clear I don't care how anyone dresses or identifies, you do you, but I do care whether concepts and language make sense. I'm not going to learn 87+ different pronouns if they have no actual meaning.
@@ClockworkWyrm they have no definition of what a woman is they just use circular logic and say a “woman is anyone who identifies as a woman” or say “plays a woman’s role in society”. Of course anyone who points this is out is an evil TERF.
Rev. Wyrm Ok I think I know what you mean. Sex is what your chromosomes say you are . XX and XY . That happens at fertilization for most people ( note that I didn’t say all) . Gender happens when the brain develops to that point around 5 months later . This is still during fetal development. Some people just have a mismatch between their sex and their gender. It’s not a choice ,this happens before you’re born . I’m a typical cis het woman but I have a biology degree. Biological realities trump superstitious ignorant nonsense even if they’re based on religious beliefs. Some religious beliefs are toxic or abusive and some are just not true . Harassing or abusing gays and other non binaries is based on ignorance and lies. Just FYI I happen to be Christian and these lies about gays etc being unnatural , offend me as I think they’re blasphemy . Non binaries are part of God’s Creation and this does show up in other species, not just ours
Daisy, this was a very powerful video. Even though I’m personally not religious, I think that lots of people can agree with me on there being something very important and meaningful to what you said about accepting yourself for who you feel you TRULY are instead of trying to change yourself for shallow reasons. Also knowing you’re not really in “control” of who you are, so to speak, therefore you need to make peace with yourself and parts of you that you find difficult to accept. A lot of people can take something impactful from that, I’m sure. I know I can, be it from a different point of view than yours. The words still stand strong. I also am so incredibly happy you included the bit about Christianity, knowing you could potentially lose audience members because of that. I find what you said incredibly interesting (and moving), so thank you for letting us in on something that means a lot to you. I want to wish you the very best on your journey with “re-coming out” and detransitioning through the next few months and forward!! Sending love
I don’t find what she has to say has anything to do with anyone else. Herein lies the problem. You are openly detransitioning and instead of being applauded for correcting your misstep, people latch on to the things that fit THEIR narrative. Some people make the choice to transition for the wrong reasons. I am someone who is trans and have been for a long time and I am 100% happy with this choice. I am also a Christian. The two aren’t mutually exclusive..
Honestly, as a trans guy I was terrified to watch this video. But around halfway in I realised that the reasons I'm transitioning and the reasons you transitioned are so completely and utterly different. Im honestly glad that I watched this video because It helped to put my mind at peace from worrying that maybe I'd relate to you. So thank you for that. I hope you're doing well and I'm glad you're finally being your true self. - A trans guy
@@talithaleah6563 This is such an honest but almost non-traditional story given the influence of faith. For something more traditional and which many trans-people may identify with more easily you might want to check our other regretters: Cari Stella, Chloe Cole, Angela Samfjord and even Blaire White who is working to expose more of these catastrophic cases.
@@eccremocarpusscaber5159 Yes, she has a lower voice because she mutilated her body with extraneous hormones. It's not her actual voice, the one she was born with.
This is a fascinating detransition story, unlike any other i've heard. I desisted last year, after 6 years being a trans guy, and I related to a lot of it! Especially wanting to control how others see you, to the point of obsession. Anyway you are a lovely, glowing person and I wish you all the very best!
@@juliesprik9479 a lot of people? Do you mean like a lot of trans people detransition? Or a lot of trans people regret some sort of transitional necessity? If it’s the first, .5% of all trans people detransition which means you have a strange definition of “a lot”. If. It’s the second it’d be kinda hard to prove and not very believable but not entirely impossible. Say like ftm trans youth who use homemade binders and end up with a sore back or something, that’d technically count as a regret.
I’ll be real, I was really scared to watch this video when I saw it in my recommendations tab but I’m glad I watched it. The way you worded everything made it really easy for me to understand. I’m a trans person and I’m always scared to listen to people detransitioning but I think it’s a real discussion we (trans + detrasitioned people) need to have. This video might really help other people that are questioning their identity. I also liked hearing your thoughts on your religious beliefs. I’m very happy that you can finally feel comfortable living. I wish the best for you!
As a trans man who has been out and happy for almost 5 years, I hope people don't get the wrong idea from this video. I am proud of Daisy for coming forward and being brave enough to say she isn't trans. There are plenty of trans people who haven't and will probably never feel regret or detransition. I'm happy that you have found a religion that comforts you and helps you live a better life for yourself. I agree that there are gender nonconforming cis people who get pressured into transitioning and that is horrible. But from my side I see people pressure trans people into believing they are cis or something they're not just as much. I hope people realize that just because they detransition, does not mean that all trans people are pretending or making a huge mistake. Please do not use religion as a way to harm and invalidate people who's experience is different from yours as that is not what religion is for. I am not saying she is, but there are plenty of comments that are. I wish Daisy all the best and hope detransitioners and trans people can find more unity as they are not the enemy of eachother.
And I hope that people start to realize that NO ONE can invalidate you but you. Telling people that other people need to validate them is harmful and does not allow for other voices and nuanced conversation. Then we all lose. If people expect to be listened to and respected, then they should do the same for others no matter how much they hate their opinions. Otherwise, we are all just on opposite teams. It's disgusting how divided we all are and how entitled we all feel. Can't we all just be a little right and a little wrong? Maybe we have way more in common than we think.
I’d also appreciate if she’d refrain from using phrases like she’s been “saved” or “redeemed.” I’m glad she’s found a path in life that works for her, but to state she’s been “saved” or “redeemed” for finding god and detransitioning just doesn’t sit right with me, and I’m not even trans. It sort of implies that people who don’t believe in god or do not choose transition, have not been saved or redeemed in her eyes or God’s. I have noticed some religious folks say things like that, in order to act and feel superior.
@@ellag5151 well that’s a shame. She should have consulted with you before she posted just to make it would “sit right” with you. 🙄 Did it ever occur to you that people can say whatever the hell they want? The speech police need to climb in a hole.
As a trans guy, initially I thought I would balk at this video but I actually like it a lot. There's a lot of truth in what you said about the trans community's own internal narrative of why someone should transition, how they need to do it and what transitioning is meant to be and it's easy to get trapped in this idea that it's either transition (especially medical transition) or misery. In my case, I think of my identity as a man as just as real with or without medical transition, I'm not trying to be a cis man. That's my truth, in the same vein that your truth was that you are not a trans man. I hope you've found happiness now that you figured that out.
Gentle reminder that folks who detransion aren’t inherently transphobic! Even ignoring folks who detransition for social reasons, it’s an incredibly difficult thing to do that can feel like a betrayal to the trans community, so it’s important to be there for them
@@amyyost7022 Thank you for that PSA. Many detransitioners avoid the trans community after finding they are soundly rejected. But this may ultimately be for the best. While detransitioners and transitioners are often fundamentally the same types of people, let's just say gender nonconforming, the understanding of the rationale for transition is quite different and not very cross-compatible. Detransitioners follow a path back to an authenticity that doesn't involve lifelong medical intervention (unless they've already had procedures or health issues that require ongoing support) while transitioners, especially those in an emergency state of mental distress, don't feel they can survive being exposed to detransition narratives because the hope is that high medical intervention is going to be the path to authenticity and a fix for what's wrong.
@@raymcmahan5080 I mean, my friend group includes both, and I don’t really see your point. Harmful detransition narratives have so little to do with actual folks who detransition. They’re not an argument against trans folks and are actually often trans folks who just don’t wanna get hate crimed for being open. And even if they were just wrong about being trans, that’s not really an argument against trans people, so forcing that narrative on them kind of sucks for everyone but terfs.
third one, long story: So I grew up having a bunch of problems due to the absent of my father. He never communicate with me but only to take pictures or show me off to his alcoholic friends, I often yearn for him (I just do) but he never there, so I identify with my mother (she isn’t like western women, she doesn’t think women should control the men etc. until later on, she submits to her husband but my father was too weak (he’s more emotional, over protective, over bearing, abusive, angry etc.) to lead and so she did eventually fall into thinking women is the best for the home etc. because my father couldn’t lead) which means I got lost in my ego and grew up overthinking everything. A child that gets lost inside their ego is the worst place, I became depress and self hate etc. at 6 yrs old that’s when in my head “I thought to myself why can’t men marry men”, yes that’s the beginning of my bi curiosity, like I said the mind (overthinking, judging, self hate etc.) is the worst place. Long story short: I grew up hating my life and hating myself overtime and I have a high expectation with dreams/goals. The issue with having passion and dreams is that it’s “ego” and desires, if they don’t go according to my will, my depression etc. sky rockets. One day I’ve decided to invest in this “crypto” currency and it got me into crypto gambling, just right before a holiday. I ended up winning in the beginning then losing all my money I’ve saved for since forever, to me I was afraid of what others may think (I was stuck in my ego - yes it got worst) and during that time I’ve had “sleep” paralysis each day that seem so real, e.g. attack by the shadow thing on top of me and my heart dropped, I couldn’t breath for good few seconds etc. this went on for weeks everyday. Back to the story, So I lost all my money on that day and because my ego was getting bigger and bigger, I didn’t wanted to live anymore. So yes, I contemplated suicide, “I was thinking to myself, if life is meaningless then I should disappear and then people will see”. Mind you I’m not ugly or anything at all, I just hated my self and my bi curiosity etc. I just didn’t understand why God would let me become such a mess (at the time I was an agnostic or atheist, I didn’t believe in god or anything) so I said, “okay this is my final straw, so I said I’ll give God one last chance (something I shouldn’t say at all, since I’m commanding God)” What truly happens, open my eyes. I called out to three “Gods”. The first was the Islamic God, I said “Please Allah if you’re real please answer me, let me know”, then I did the same with second God, “Buddha”, I left one God to last which was the Christian God. To be truly honest, I don’t like Christians nor their God (that’s what society taught me but there was something about Jesus, yet still I left them to last because it was my least preferred - I was thinking of not even calling out to him) - So I said these words “Please God, if you are real please fill me with the holy spirit in Jesus name”, I said those words I remember from watching a video somewhere a long while ago. After I’ve said that, I was on my knees, I had my eyes open. I was at the moment really depressed, suicidal etc. There wasn’t tears but I was heart broken etc. After those words were said along with forgiven everyone I’ve ever hated (yes this was my final request, I wanted to let everyone and everything go), my body frozed still, my whole life flashed before my eyes, all the ego and issues in life were inside my head were lifted and became thin air vanishing from my head. I feel this unspeakable peace and my mind was so light, I felt like a child all over again, yes I felt as if I was a child with nothing to worry about. I had my eyes open yet I sat there for 20 minutes, tears came down on my face while those eyes are wide open. I didn’t even notice the time or anything, I felt as if my body has gone into heaven and I just knew, somewhere deep in my being I just knew God was real and Jesus was real. Aftermath, so as soon as I told God “please don’t let me come back down”, the peace was so amazing, it was everything in the world I can’t find yet everything I’ve wanted my entire life. It’s unexplainable, it’s like home and fulfilment of everything in the world yet cannot be found in the world. It’s like this is your existence and the peace/love that the world cannot offer. But as soon as I said, I don’t wanna go down, I went straight back into my body (It felt like I was in heaven, there’s no remembrance of anything on earth - not even my own blood family mattered in that moment) So after I returned to my body, I noticed I cried a bunch and my eyes were wide open yet I didn’t even know for 20 minutes. I was so incredibly happy at the time, I tried remembering the my horrible past and what my dad/brother had done to me (they were physically abusive, mentally etc. when I was a child) - I couldn’t remember anything, my mind was at so much peace, I was so happy like a child who saw Christmas for the first time. I ran downstairs, jumping and saying “God is real”, “God is real”, no one believed me. After that I haven’t had depression ever since. When nothing is more important to me than God, my life got easier and even having nothing and nobody in the world to love me (most of my friends were fake I can see it because I used to act and pretend like them so it’s not hard to see) - Life just started changing. What I’ve learnt is that, the world is like Adam and Eve all over again. Eve following the serpent and Adam following after Eve breaking the order God gave us which is “God over Christ over Man over Woman over Children” that’s how his love flowed. The thing is we try to tell kids “God isn’t this or that” makes it worse for them, I learnt that God is our father (not mother) - he sent his son (Jesus) to return us to the father, and when I realised that I identify with my mother instead of having the identity of the father, I fell away from God the father. My father probably has the identity of his mother aswell, he’s emotional, angry, abusive etc. this identity is of the world. I used to despised my father and hence despising God who is my father in heaven. So after I realised, God is my father, Christ is my saviour, I want to have their identity of love, peace, joy, happiness etc. just like Adam and Eve had before they fell away taking on the identity of the serpent when they believed their lies (Eve took on serpent’s identity, Adam took on Eve’s identity) - I began my search for truth after that incident and my life has been a blessing one after another. I found Jesse Lee Peterson when I was “becoming a Bible thumper” yes I was becoming one of those Pharisee because I was so into the Bible and got lost in my head again. Jesse showed me that salvation is of the heart and our mind is evil, and he isn’t wrong even Jesus said the “Kingdom is within us and told us to seek it”, and that God said “The cardinal mind of the world is an enmity to God and is not subjected to his laws”. My life has changed a lot, I don’t have depression anymore, I am still overcoming my bi curiosity naturally without doing anything (I stopped judging and comparing myself, still do at times but that’s the ego) - everything just falls into place when I return to my father and forgave, esp. my own parents. Thanks for reading. That must took forever for you. Life is only amazing when we stop judging, we are no better than anybody else. There’s really only good vs evil, right vs wrong in this world. And when we accept who God is, our father and return to him and the order he wants us to, everything just falls into place. Also there’s a lot of Christians, who go to church and read the Bible etc. But most do not have the heart God wants, they quote the scriptures etc. call people out etc. But there heart are far from God, the thing is they learned the Bible “intellectually” by ego of the mind just like the seculars who go to college and think they know it all, rather than living the word out through their hearts. Jesse Lee Peterson church, you should check it out. In my playlist “Best of JLP”, scroll down to the bottom and watch from bottom up. You’ll be fascinated by his church, it’s nothing like other Christians church where they quote scriptures all day. It’s more like “Who are you, how do you know yourself etc.” There’s a lot of people in the world but so very few know salvation is already inside them and they look into the world for guidance but is never satisfied. Everything we need and want is already in us. Have a blessed day and thank you for taking your time to read everything.
@Cupid Olympia That mindset unfortunately isn’t prevalent enough. Plenty of trans folks won’t respect even poor folks who can’t afford to transition, let alone folks who just don’t want to or aren’t ready. It might be the minority of trans folks, but they’re the loud ones and are the ones who are closest to mainstream acceptance
Daisy, as a cis man and a therapist in the UK I have been watching many videos made by people from all different backgrounds to help me understand. I know I can never feel what you feel but I can empathise and understand. What you’ve been through in search of peace and happiness within you is incredible. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you happiness, love, peace and contentment for your future life. You truly are a remarkable woman. You’ll never get to meet everybody that you’ve helped but know they’re out there and they have renewed hope because you shared.
The only traditional ''feminine'' thing about my appearance is that I have long hair. I haven't worn a bra in years, I put on make-up and wear a dress like 3 times a year like on special occasions. I usually wear a hoodie and I am fully comfortable being in a woman's body and being identified as a woman. Most of the time, I can say that I forget my gender, I am just me.
I’ve been struggling with my gender lately and I’ve come to the conclusion that I feel the same way. Although I can put on a dress and make up and think I look great, I’ve never really liked it or been comfortable with it, however, I love my body. I have insecurities ofc but overall I’m really happy with myself and luckily we live in a time where it’s perfectly acceptable to dress more masculine as a woman. I don’t really care much about pronouns are anything because, ultimately it’s just words, and nobody’s gonna be talking about me in third person when I’m around anyway so I don’t really care. I like appearing more masculine and androgynous but I still identify as a woman because, when it comes down to it, I’m happy being how I am and I couldn’t care less how other people perceive me.
exactly how i feel except i do have shorter hair but i really only chopped it all off just for a change and i’m growing it out rn! looks really cool so far
Same. I wear it for photos mainly. It feels like dress up to me. I identify as genderqueer. I feel i have a male brain. But i am content with being a woman in a womans body.
I'm 23 and have been trans since 15. Due to outside veiws I thought I was making a mistake. That I wouldn't be loved or that I make people uncomfortable. I admire your video and being yourself, but you helped me see that I made the right choice. I can't thank you enough
Yes this comment. I have top surgery in nine days and have found myself on trans youtube, researching other peoples experiences to set expectaions, and also it seems, researching my fears. But seeing all the similarities in this video, but more importantly the differences in the way I feel, this is actually making me see that the fear of regretting isn't a fear I actually have, but one I feel I should have because that's what people tell you. I feel calm, this is good.
@@erik-sr9bj Lol, too late. I'm nonbinary, and pretty happy with that. Transitioned like gradually over the last 5 years or so. I had surgery two days ago however, and actually feeling really good about it. I think maybe what I meant in my comment was that I don't fear 'realising i'm actually a girl' or 'not really trans', because I feel like my nonbinary identity has room for my gender feelings to change and my gender presentation to fluctuate. Also, so many people misgender me all the time, either male or female or whatever, and that's never gonna stop no matter what I look like, so that's gonna be part of my life regardless of any decisions I make. So I've pursued surgery as a means make my body feel more mine, and to be able to stop binding becasue after 6 years of binding, my back is very sore! But I'm an adult, my body is always going to have bits I'm not too happy with. With surgery, the worst thing that can happen is I get a chest I am deeply gender uncomfortable with, but actually I already have that! So how could surgery make my life any worse? Anyway, I fully respect people who make their own decisions about their body and their gender, and if detransitioning is a choice they make, then all power to them. Let's all make decisions about our own bodies that make us feel good.
Im trying to hear as many different trans perspectives as possible because im real worried about making a wrong decision in the future ahhhh its all very confusing, i relate to the feelings of both trans people and detrans people. Ive thought about transition for like 5 years now, but im gonna hold off until im fully clear out of the hormonal teenager stage of life Update for 2024: Just turned 20, I'm very much a woman. I still sometimes find comfort and power in behaving masculine, but that doesn't make me a man, that's just the nature of living in a society that devalues femininity. I'm glad I didn't choose to transition because I feel very confident as and grateful to be a woman. It's hard to embrace traits like sensitivity, grace, and softness when women and feminine traits are mocked so often, but ultimately, by doing so I feel happier and more peaceful. And no, none of this is the result of some sort of conservative conversion therapy tradwife brainwashing, it's a life decision I made independently.
i dont know you but i recommend looking into hormone blockers. they’re completely safe and you can stop them any time and continue puberty normally as your birth sex. im not an expert so definitely do your own research!
@@lyss.the.panini Absolutely this. Also, experimenting with names/nicknames and different gender markers (titles pronouns etc) online can rly help you figure things out, whether it turns out you're trans or not. I wish you the best of luck in figuring yourself out! Also if you're interested in skirts, regardless of gender, just a pro tip: you can put MASSIVE pockets in skirts if you learn some basic sewing skills. Actually, those same sewing skills are helpful in general.
Just remember that you have a lot of life ahead of you and you do not have to rush anything. At some point in your life you will - know - what's right for you. That can be in 2 months, in 2 years or in 10 years or anywhere in between or after.
I admire you so much. I am a is female and had both breast removed due to cancer. I did not reconstruct and do not wear a prosthesis. I also am a Christian. Hold your head high and be proud. You are a good person and deserve to be happy.
If you want to learn to do make-up, then more power to you, but for the record, doing make-up does not make you more of a woman and not doing make-up does not make you less of a woman ❤
Gatekeeping what women do isn't helping women. If some want to wear makeup, that's fine. If others don't, that's fine. Men are starting to wear more makeup, and it doesn't matter. It's just paint.
hi being female has NO bearing on what you "should" like, do, how you like to dress, etc. You are female. That doesn't have to mean you can't dress the way you want. That fact doesn't have to limit you into those "intelligible" boxes. There is no wrong way to be a woman. :) much love
Quick question. Then what makes you a woman? How do non-binary individuals know they aren't either men or women or both if there's no way a woman is identified?
@@deborahpipeloluwa3120 it is not a negative thing to have a female body. Women are defined as adult human females. The fact that we're shifting to defining sex based off of the things I listed above (stereotypes) is actually the negative thing. A woman is not someone who adores wearing high heels, makeup, uncomfortable clothing etc. A woman is not someone who "relies on emotions rather than logic" (as lots of incels would like to believe.) Being a woman is NOT an identifiable personality trait... Hence why sex roles and performances of femininity are different cross culturally. SO, how strong must these stereotypes be, if people are identifing with a different sex because they don't ascribe to the stereotypes about that sex? I think very strong. And very strongly enforced. If you don't love being told you have to shave, be a mother and wife, be a beautiful ornament for a man, then congratulations. You aren't necessarily nonbinary. You're a feminist.
@@Alex-wf9uw wow great! Except women have no obligation to appease men, especially not based off of things as irrelevant as the types of cloth we decide to wear! :)
I "dress like a man" and do a lot of "man stuff", including being trained as an industrial electrician :-D I get misgendered very often. I still consider myself a woman. You don't need to justify yourself. You don't need to follow society standards about what a woman should look (or a man should look). You can be yourself, whatever that is. You sexuality is nobody business (unless they want to date you or become your spouse).
It seems like any CIS female who is more comfortable wearing “boyish” clothes must be another gender or non binary, but your gender expression doesn’t equal being “other” when there’s plenty of women who just aren’t “girly”
100%. I have never been girly. I wouldn't consider myself, not do I wish to be seen as masculine in any way, but more androgynous if you will. I am comfortable with my sexuality, and my sex. Of course, a lot of people aren't, but it must be extremely confusing if you don't have a clue what or who or how you are.
Bruja Cat I do not see how not "being girly" translates into being a tomboy or wanting to change your gender. What does not liking frills or the color pink have to do with feminity ? These are separate issues.
This thing is so complicated omg I'm sorry just we need like a non emotional way to classify gender no offense to anyone just their to many gray areas with this
@Crawford Hogan I would have to disagree. Yes people can be have ugly personalities, but being authentic means that you can acknowledge those problems and start to fix them
@Maxine Ruprecht Are you being serious? I have literally never said anything about locking up transsexual people nor would I ever want that to be a thing. I don't care if someone is transsexual or not.
@Maxine Ruprecht I don't even know what you are talking about, "removal of our bodily rights". I'm pretty liberal about most things. Please stop assuming like you know what I'm thinking.
@Maxine Ruprecht Have I given you any reason why you can't trust me? I know there are people out there that lie for the sake of lying, or they want to be percieved in a certain way. I have no need to do so and you can either take my word for it or not. I know it's not nice to be lied to and if it happens in a big enough way it can make the trust for everyone to go away. But from my experience you reach out to other people knowing that they can lie. Just because people lie doesn't mean that you don't reach out to other people, you reach out to people while being informed with how terrible they can be. To start a dialogue you need to be courageous and to not have people trick you, you need to be informed by your past mistakes. So even if I do lie to you then you can be informed in life and it will help you with other in the future, and you shouldn't put so much power into the words I say because I'm just some stranger on the Internet, so you shouldn't care if I lie or not. But as stated before, I won't gain anything from lying to you so there's no reason to assume that I am lying.
@Tellos Travna Yeah I thought so too and I hope they were trolling because otherwise that would be pretty sad. On the off chance that they weren't, I thought I might as well say something.
this popped up in my recommended, thank you for being brave and sharing your story. i'm an atheist non-binary person and i used to identify as FTM for all the wrong reasons. i used to be scared of detrans because i didn't want my choices to hurt others (i hadn't done anything medical but i was pretty open about my transition and even talked about it in a documentary). I'm in no way a woman, but accepting that i am not a man either has brought me so much peace and happiness.
@@x.strangewerewolf.x9461 You may identify as non-binary, but you’re still a woman. Women are adult human females, and that’s what you are. You’re confusing gender (feelings/inclinations/behaviours) with sex (biological reality).
I'm so glad you found your peace through faith but please be careful, my Christian upbringing is the reason my sexuality and gender identity caused me so much shame and guilt in the first place. Just want everyone to know if they see this video and feel wrong or like a sinner etc: you are beautiful, you are loved, and you are worthy. Best of luck on your detransition and continuing journey in life. 🖤
@@natashaharsh9793 Conviction is not what I feel. I have felt guilty. I have also felt guilty for other things I did not need to feel guilt for things such as healthy eating (I delt with disordered eating, and would feel guilty when eating appropriately). I still felt guilty despite the reality - that I didnt need to feel bad - because of the distorted reality I had indoctrinated in me in my environment. What I felt was not conviction, for I did not do wrong for loving another. I felt guilty because I was told I was supposed to. Sending you love 💙
@@Theloveyoufive yes! Conviction should not feel like guilt. God does not make us feel that way. The enemy makes us feel that way. Why would God want us to feel guilty if He's already died for us to cover our sins? There have been so many times in my life that I would talk to God and tell Him straight up "Lord, I know I'm not supposed to do this, but I'm not ready to give it up yet" and I would feel the Holy Spirit tell me that it's okay and to just keep my eyes on Jesus. Over time, as I drew closer to Him, the thing I couldn't give up just became idk...blah. But He was patient and loving with me the whole time. It was my own thoughts and the enemy that made me feel I had to constantly press my face into the dirt with shame and guilt, when God only ever wanted to love me and build a relationship. I have also struggled with an eating disorder and I have also suffered from people in the church being so toxic. I hope that you'll be able to feel God's heart towards you and find solace in that. I obviously don't know you, but I pray you find rest in Him in a way you have never experienced before.
@@cutethulu_xo I'm sending love your way, on the topic of religion we are not going to agree though. I truly am glad you found your spiritual path! Do whatever makes you happy as long as you arent harming others. 😊
I don't understand why you feel the need to wear makeup or buy a whole new wardrobe. If the goal is to be your authentic self then wouldn't you dress however you like?
@@Dmchadra As one ftm destranitioner to another, people will find you unintelligible either way. Dress in a way that is comfortable to you and speaks to your own kind of femininity. People will refer to you with he/him pronouns with a full face of makeup and a dress on. I’ve been through so much shit at this point to turn back now and go back to dressing in a way that is uncomfortable and unnatural for me.
@@okthanks4792 this is true. the voice makes it difficult. no matter how drastically my appearance has changed, people will still call me he sometimes. but finding femininity after detransitioning is a journey in itself. it takes time to find a balance of who you are and who you’ve been. getting a new wardrobe and wearing makeup is part of that for some. it helped me. I realized I still don’t care for makeup, but I’ve immensely enjoyed evolving and growing my wardrobe.
I so see you as a college professor, a lawyer, CEO, or yes, a theologian at a seminary. Your speaking, your presence, just stunning. So easy just to listen to you in rapt attention. Amazing.
There’s more to life than ‘success’. Being a CEO is just a ridiculous ambition and you guys are setting yourself up for disappointment in life if that’s all will do for you.
Daisy, in the film, claims that she detransitioned because she would "never be a real man." In her video in 2020, however, she announced that she did so because she "read the scripture with a submissive heart" and detransitioned "ultimately for god" Guess the money was good to get you to say some different words.
@@Dmchadra Well then allow me to throw a completely different wrench in your Catholic Schoolgirl Fantasy. I can't wait to see what ship you jump to next. Also. I don't believe you do not profit from your nonsense. At the very least you are getting some sort of twisted self-righteous pleasure from your current bullshit, but all you really do is make others lives more difficult. SOME Of The Most Absurd And Unforgivable Things The Catholic Church Has Ever Done. Some old! Some fairly modern! 1. Pope Pius XII Denying Eyewitness Reports Of Mass Execution During The Holocaust 2. Systemically Covering Up Tens Of Thousands Of Cases Involving Sexual Misconduct 3. Terrorizing Jews And Muslims For 300 Years 4. Pretty Much Everything Done By Pope Boniface VIII 5. Burning Joan Of Arc For Dressing Like A Man 6. Burning William Tyndale For Making A Vernacular Bible For The Masses 7. Slaying Countless Women As Witches Because Pope Innocent VII Was Paranoid 8. Absolving Sins For Cash Payments, Including Sins Not Yet Committed 9. Orchestrating The Fall Of The Knights Templar To Appease A Broke King 10. Burning Someone 43 Years After He Passed Because He Upset Some Important Catholics 11. Executing Jan Hus For Working Out Some Tricky Theological Philosophy 12. The Joust Of Whores Organized By Pope Alexander VI 13. The Roman Inquisition, During Which Judaism And Love Magic Were Serious Crimes 14. Cutting Funding For Immigrants Because Of Their Connection To The LGBTQ+ Community
I love your comment section. much more positivity than negativity. I am a guy. I have always felt that way so I don't know what it is like to "feel like a woman". that said. everything I like has almost no "masculinity" associated to it. I am a guy that likes sewing. I like make-up (I don't wear it but I like make-up artistry). I like singing and dancing in Musicals. I hate watching sports (boooorrring). I like "rom-coms" generally. not all but some are pretty good. Pretty much the only thing about me that is a "man" is that I am attracted to women. Everything listed above doesn't make me less of a man for liking those things. I am just "in the minority" which is fine. Most men can like something and if you are a man and you don't like something "most men like".. That's A-OK.
Hate to break it to you, but being attracted to women doesn't make you a man. ~ all lesbians 😂 But otherwise, yes, I completely love what you're saying
@@RaeLarz Curious, I just reread my post and don't know where I said that being attracted to women made me a man? Context was about stereotyping.. and the stereotype here is that I "should be gay" except I am attracted to women. Nothing too deep :) just surprised so many people read my crazy long post. :D
there's something in common between all the female detransitioners i've seen and it's insanely high verbal intelligence. you guys are so damn articulate. even though this isn't my issue, you're so pleasing to listen to!
I think it’s because the nerve to detransition nowadays takes an enormous amount of self-awareness. To admit that a path you once were so sure about isn’t for you is not something everyone can do.
Its found that the same group susceptible to eating disorders and cutting are also transitioning: bright, often academically gifted girls who are traumatized by puberty and identity because they recognize the full impact of being a woman in our society. As soon as you start to develop you are sexualuzed and treated differently. Many girls and young women reject that because they don't have a way to navigate it. They don't always understand that depression and anxiety is almost normal in adolescence, everyone suffers through their teen years. Its a female rebellion against the loss of freedom and the pressures of society.
@@goyboy9907 I mean there is a spectrum of potraying your 'gender'. If we like it or not most males and females dress and act in their stereotypical way. Because of that its easy to tell when someone stands out and leans to The opposite or is somewhere in the middle
Yeah im an agressive girl and my ex boyfriend said something to me about it and it was just like are you threatened by me now wanting to kiss your azz ? Then when I showed my vulnerable side he said something about that. You cant win lol.. damned if you do or don't.
As a fellow sister in Christ I'm so encouraged by your story and how the Lord impacted your life. Your story has purpose for his kingdom! Thank you for sharing in such a public way 🙌
I identified as a trans man for years and recently came out as nonbinary, still using male pronouns and mostly presenting masculine and I'm happy that way c: I'm not religious but finding yourself is always okay and I hope you only become happier
@ I do, but that's more tied to my financial and living situation. I have chest disphoria and still bind but transitioning isn't something I feel like I need personally.
What you need is to psychological deal with what's the root of the discomfort. It's all in your mīñd. Find it and then you have to start viewing life differently... Stop hating yourself and start finding beauty in what you have. Because this "identifying" as thing's is us running away from our emotional pain, Don't believe the lies of the Media. Gender identity is a fàrce, a put on we build to not have to deal with thing's. Start loving yourself and you'll see how Things will change. Gl
@Idk_Reveluv You can stretch all you want but you ain't reaching bub. Look if there's really self love right.. right? Then "labels" are completely utterly unnecessary. So then if there's no psychological issue per say what we are left off with is a narcissist af person that feels entitled to control language just cause... I mean we are seeing it in certain groups of people already and they're insufferable.
Instead of saying that you're not religious..why not just say that you do not know the God of the Bible, or that you do not know Hod personally..and that you have little interest in knowing God?
Hi, Transgender atheist here. Let me start by saying I am glad to hear you decided to detransition instead of stewing in what I would probably consider dysphoria, but you called it disonanse. Your happiness and your believes is what should be important to you. And it sounds like you despite being in a position of detransition that you understand that being trans is something else from you and I am glad to see a none Anti-trans video on the topic of detransitioning, because we need to take the issues that come with people transitioning without actually being trans seriously, even if it is a low percentage. The detrament of one person isn't worth the validation of others. We can't exchange things like this and we need to find way to be more accurate before we let surgeries happen. And we can't address that at all as long as it is a "Us VS Them" I am sorry you had to go through that, but I am happy you got somewhere where you feel like you.
The percentage of people transitioning that are not trans, and ultimately regretting that decision is very high, especially since the “trans-boom” when it became sensationalized and promoted to teenagers going through puberty as a cure to the discomfort every teen goes through as their body changes. “My body is changing, I hate it, maybe I’m trans.” In my opinion, when it comes to children and teenagers, it’s insane to make permanent changes to their bodies before they’ve had the opportunity to develop both physically and mentally, and it’s leading to devastating effects, with even more damage to come. When it becomes so “cool” to be trans that you have parents putting their 3 year olds on puberty blockers, it’s evident that in trying to repair one societal wrong you’ve created a thousand others.
This video just made me cry 😭 tears of joy. I learned so much through this video. Your testimony is so powerful, and it can definitely change the world 🌍. God Bless You, Daisy. 🙏🏽💐
I'm a relatively gnc woman, and a lot of the reasons you talk about transitioning are things I remember experiencing a a child. I was very lucky to grow up in a house that didn't enforce a lot of comphet stuff, so I never felt pulled to transition. I think we're in a really interesting place right now with the way we conceptualize womanhood as a gender. I didn't want to be a grown woman because I didn't want to be sexualized or viewed as an object, and so I grabbed the reins of my womanhood and expressed it the way I wanted to. I think often afab people who voice those feelings, that intense dread of what might come, are pushed to identify something other than a girl. It's so wonderful and amazing that nonbinary and trans people are able to exist openly and truly, but I'm afraid that at times, that's being used as an answer when it shouldn't be. I see a lot of people who don't identify as a woman in a traditional sense being told that it's a type of dysphoria when that's not always true. You can be a Woman and resist a lot of the things that are presumed to go with it. I think it's wonderful how much the gender spectrum is opening and broadening and I wish and hope that it will extend into how we let women identify and conceptualize themselves.
I actually really needed to read this, thank you. My entire life, I've felt disconnected from womanhood. I especially loathe the way society as a whole views and treats women. The way too many men refuse to listen to women's arguments, or feel the need to police every little thing they do. The way men treat women in general. I never wanted to live in this society and be a woman. My mother was abusive and used my femininity as a weapon against me every chance she had. When I used to dress up in my teens, she treated me the worst. Time and time again it was reinforced in my mind that being a woman = living hell. The second I cut my hair and began to dress more masculine, my mother changed. She went from tearing me down every chance she had to complimenting me. Eventually, I went on testosterone and realized I needed more time to think. I'm still figuring out where my gender identity lies, but I'm also undoing the hate and trauma I have towards womanhood. Hopefully I can find my answer.
@@odin4306 💖💖💖💖 good luck on your journey! A good therapist, if affordable, is helpful. There's nothing wrong with being a woman with short hair! Or being a man! You don't have to stick to any set of standards that anyone else gives you
@@odin4306 I’m sorry you had to go through that. I hope you’re doing well and get to a place of loving YOU and acceptance of your self and learn that You are Not your body.You’re body is amazing however it doesn’t define you as a person! Be yourself and nothing else matters! You’ll find joy through acceptance of who not what you are. ❤️✌🏼🙏🏼
I am happily transgender, a staunch athiest, and yes you did lose me when you got to your religious reasons but i wanted to shoot a comment out there that there are trans people who support people who detransition. Whatever your reasons are if what is right for you is to detransition then i wish you all the best and hope that you can find a place where you are able to be happy with the person you are!
@@nicoleneaga1153 Of course! Anyone's detransition should be accepted! If transitioning was not the right step for someone then i hope that they detransition as quickly as possible and that they are supported and loved through the process because it is even harder sometimes than transitioning is in the first place. I hope that we as a society can get to a place one day where only people who transitioning will genuinely help are the ones who are transitioning that people dont have to go through the process of transitioning and then detransitioning anymore. I respect people who detransition so much because honestly from what ive seen it is much harder than transitioning is for someone who needs to transition for their mental health. Im saying that from my own personal experience and from people who i have talked to, Im not trying to belittle anyones experiences with transitioning or detransitioning and hope no one interprets this like that.
I think you're brave for admitting all of this. But sadly, many of these comments seem to... miss the point of what you said about the fact that you are speaking for your own personal experience and no one else's. I am not Christian and I understand that differing religious viewpoints are very hard to reconcile when discussing something like detransitioning, but it seems that many people are taking this video as "accept yourself the way God made you" instead of "I accept myself the way I believe God made me". I'm honestly glad that you are finally happy with yourself. I just wish that others would understand that this is your experience with gender and faith, and that doesn't mean it should be other trans people's experience.
I thunk..what I got from her video was completely different than either thing you said.. I got this.. She discovered that there IS a God. She found out that God is knowable and she wanted to know Him.. Once she got to know Him she realized that she previously had only wanted to be her own god. She had made her gender identity her idol. Before she came to the realization that there IS only one God..and that she is not/ was not IT. There is a God and it's not her. She chose to submit to the will of The One Greater than herself.
@@sissyrayself7508 no offense, but there are other religions out there than christianity. you can believe or know that your religion is the "one true" one without telling other people they're wrong on their own comment.
Ya it’s clear you’re not religious because you’d understand that these comments are not meant to imply that all trans people should find god and except the sex they were born with. We understand the difference in her journey and yours but that doesn’t mean we can’t support her journey
I love how genuine and brave you are. There are those that would “use” you as the poster child for Christian theology . You are God’s child and you have a story. It is that simple.
As a trans person I can relate to the feeling of your body never being "a man's body", and there's a definite feeling of fear that you will be seen as a freak. I used to be paralysed by fear of regret, and the idea that I was making chancing my body into something that that nobody would want... but honestly once I got top surgery I never looked back. I also came to accept more that I am non-binary too, and that I'm actually pretty happy with the way I look; I feel more at peace with myself. I'm sorry you did not experience that, I cannot imagine how difficult that must have been. As an ex-christian from a non accepting family, I imagine that there will be a lot of gloating that you face in detransitioning from all those people saying "I was right", but just because you detransitioned doesn't mean that they were right. You did what you thought was right at the time and made decisions with the feelings and information you had at the time. I also appreciate that you only spoke for yourself. I've seen a lot of detransitioning people shit on the trans community because their journey with gender did not go the way they expected to, even going so far as campaigning against trans people. I've seen others who detransitioned because they realised they were nonbinary and that they were just putting themselves in a different box, I've seen others that couldn't handle transition because of personal circumstances (one poor friend of mine got sick and had sudden onset alopecia early in her transition and had to stop because she couldn't deal with all). I guess what I'm trying to say is that people detransition for various reasons, and I'm glad that you were honest in your own experiences and did not speak for others. I also want to recognise that some people I know had similar experiences to you and did detransition, and I'm not sure where they're at now, but if you do find that this was a choice motivated by other factors and want to retransition, that's ok too. Not everyone's journey to self acceptance is a clear pathway, and it's generally pretty messy, and most trans people will have empathy for that as we go back and forth in trying to grapple with gender dissonance before choosing a path. I wish you all the best with your journey!
I'm non-binary but don't really feel trans. I just feel more like gender doesn't apply to me (currently vibing with agender, but not totally sure), and I'd have waves of really bad dysphoria where I felt I must be a boy, even as young as 4 years old. But it would always come and go. Over the last year and a bit, I gave up on a lot of gender norms largely due to accepting my disabilities, and realized that I don't have to fit either box. I went to a very strange Christian school where we had one specific week where someone who was just a random woman from a church come in and talk about gendered actions, like if you look at your nails a certain way, you're a man, and if you hang up your coat a certain way you're a woman. My boyfriend and I were opposite of our assigned ones, and he's not trans, so that really helped me accept that I don't have to fit either one. I've been sewing some of my own clothes for a while, and I feel like I can finally be me. That being said, it's kind of stressful returning to church after lockdowns. I did find that after accepting myself, I feel I can get my spiritual life back on track, but I still feel pressured to wear dresses and skirts, and it's taking some time to figure out. There are a lot of things that society genders, and it can be hard to navigate them.
I am someone who else started thinking I need to go from one binary to another. Now I realized that despite having gotten breasts through hormones, they aren't right. But getting top surgery doesn't make someone a man, just as I see taking estrogen or testosterone doesn't make someone a man or a woman. It seems the gender we are born is will always be a apart of us regardless what we change externally. I've since moved to a more nonbinary masc person. Dressing how I want, without worrying about what it means.
I’m a 73 year old Christian and was ...proud of your honesty! We are All on a Journey with God and His wonderful Son Jesus! God just wants us to walk in the Garden with Him everyday like He did with Adam! He loves us and just wants us to just love Him back! Don think to deep He takes all our broken pieces and makes us whole! I was a Tom boy when I was young kinda still am!🤪 Bless you on your journey!
Videos like these are important for people like me who want to understand things that I haven't experienced or can't relate to. Thanks for sharing your story, and best of luck going forwards.
everyone in the comment section is talking about being tomboyish as if that's the main or only reason you chose to transition, i feel like people are overlooking the fact that you didn't accept yourself and wanted a way to escape from yourself. you're really strong for realizing that and choosing to face the truth. i'm a pretty hardcore atheist, but you were so genuine talking about your religion and how it has helped you, i'm really happy you found yourself (or found god) like that.
It’s so refreshing to see more lgbt or ex-lgbt Christians on youtube. I’m a Christian who’s decided to stay celibate because I’m bi (questioning if I’m a lesbian) and the treatment some of us get from both sides is exhausting. The stuff you said about social dysphoria really hit different because I’ve been there too. You’re so cool. 💕
I feel like your counsellor (if you had one) from your FTM transion failed you. Your reasons for transitioning in the first place where no physical dysphoria is present should not warrant surgery. Top and bottom Surgery should only be given to those who have physical dysphoria in relation to their private areas. Social dysphoria is a completely different kettle of fish and can be treated in other ways. I’m so sorry that other options were not presented to you earlier by medical professionals to prevent you from going through the turmoil you have suffered by needing to detransition. I hope you are on a path to where you feel complete and entirely you. I wish you all the best of luck in getting to where you need to be ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for clarifying that it's your personal experience and not deminishing the trans community despite your detransition. You brought up a lot of really good points, not only for people who may want to detransition but also those who want to transition and need confirmation of how they feel. It's always important to think about the what ifs before you transition and stories like yours help show the warning signs and signs of regret of such things. I am a trans man myself. And I expected this to be a video that would anger me but it gave me some points to think about which confirmed my decision to transition. But also helped me understand those who do detransition. So thank you for sharing your story and I wish you the best of luck with you life going forward, Daisy!
"When I was 13 I also felt like I couldn’t see myself having a future. Most painful time of my life" ^ This could be said by many people (of both genders). Teenage angst can be tough.
There’s some truth to this statement. These days I see tomboys and butch lesbians and people assume that they’re trans, constantly bring it up and literally ACCUSE them to the point they’re pressuring them into believing it. It’s dangerous. This is why there needs to be more psychological support for those questioning their identity so they don’t make life changing decisions and then regret them later. The pressure to force people to “come out” is out of control, I’m constantly seeing people accuse the popular RUclipsr James Charles of being trans just because of his femininity.
I really respect this video and your tone of voice talking about your own experience. I can’t relate to most of your experiences but I really sympathize with them. I am a trans guy that didn’t used to believe in blurring the lines until last year, that’s when I started to feel more confident and comfortable in my gender identity. But prior to that, I’ve sat with myself for years questioning if I was trans or not, that made me start dressing more feminine over the years ( even wore push up bras and shit ) to just challenge my own self and see if I actually am trans or not. And I was bothered by it, I’ve always hated my chest, I didn’t care if anyone else saw it or not back then but I was suffering with my own dysphoria that I didn’t know I had. I’ve always felt like “ one of the boys “ although I wasn’t that masculine. I even lost weight to just make sure that it’s not my obesity that is making me feel less of a woman. But nothing worked, nothing really changed mentally. My depression got worse, I developed a restrictive eating disorder because I didn’t like having a “ big chest “ although they’re normal. My own neutral ( feminine and masculine ) nature always made me question my gender in a society where gender means so much. My gender is not social, it’s not anyone’s business but me. I am forced to pass as a woman here because of my transphobic family, and although I get dysphoria from misgendering that doesn’t bother me because I am comfortable in my own gender identity. I don’t want anyone’s validation and I don’t seek it. I know this won’t last forever.
Thank you so much for this. I detransitioned 18 months ago and I am still struggling with it now. I also have been feeling drawn to God lately which has been very frustrating for me because I have been a lifelong atheist and I desperately want Christian faith but I can't find it within myself. But you voiced so much that I related to and that I really needed to hear right now. You are such a brave and articulate and strong young woman and I wish you all the best.
I’m not a member of the LGBTQ community but I relate to you in the wanting to be close to God but not finding a religion that sits well with your soul. I have found some solace in The Urantia Book. It’s a good read for those who long to be religious but despise religion because it harms those they love.
In the old testament, the Israelites would make sacrifices for various sins... and then they would ALSO sacrifice for unknown sins. The Bible makes it clear that obedience is better than sacrifice, but when we don't even know how we have offended our creator... we may not be sure where to go from there. If you read the story of Daniel, (ch5) you'll notice the priests said God would have to be a Spirit. In fact, later on, in John 16:13 another one of the Holy Spirit's titles is revealed, the Spirit of Truth. Notice what the Holy Spirit/Spirit of Truth does? He teaches us, we have only to ask. If you aren't sure how to pray/ask, take a look at the simplest prayer in the whole Bible... found in Mark 9:24. So to boil it down, this is what I'm saying. You seem to want a closeness with God, but are unsure what is in the way. I'm saying you can call on the Holy Spirit, in Jesus's name, (this is found in 1st Timothy 2:5) and he is able to answer your prayer (possibly convicting you of something you have failed to recognize as sin... thereby allowing you to repent of it) and granting you the closeness you desire. I really hope that helps. All the best.
Eve! Thank you for your honesty! It sounds to me like the Christian faith has already found you. Find a good Bible believing church, with leadership you can trust, people who are honest about their own struggles, find a good healthy safe group of people to belong to at that church, start reading your Bible regularly and your life will change dramatically. Wow, thank you so much for everything you shared. I am very inspired by you Eve!
I’m not trans, never questioned my identity. I don’t even know why this popped up in my feed. But I feel like I want to go home and pick up my Bible again. So I thank you for allowing God to speak through you and be a voice to something I needed to hear.
@@renny6151 as I have read about various religions I’ve seen just what you mentioned. Name a religion that doesn’t ultimately oppress those who follow in it. Most cruelly is self wo🤣😚
Ooooooops. I just tried to correct my spelling when those faces appeared!!! Self worship is probably the most cruel religion of all. Look at the world. Look at the faces- the eyes of people you pass and you will see sadness, fear, anger.
I had the exact same experience with going through extreme depression at the end of my transition and then detransitioning. I also wanted to be artsy gay guy and to be understandable to other ppl and to fit some nice box finally but then realizing I cant and I wont put myself in a box for other ppls comfort. I relate to your story a lot and I wish you all the best :)
What incredible freedom to realize we are God's, that we aren't our own creator! This video made me praise God aloud and remind me to centre my identity in Jesus. Amen
I feel so bad for transgender people. I can’t even begin to imagine the confusion and emotions you go through it must be soooo hard. Bless you all and I hope everyone can find there own form of happiness
God loves us to be who we are without makeup. The world makes us think we need it. He smiles down on those who are brave enough to walk in their true identity. God bless you sis. Praying for you as you continue to walk and grow with God.
The verse at the beginning of your video grabbed me. Grabbed me. When my son was 9 or 10 months old, he was puttering around on the carpet under our piano, his back to me. Exploring and doing baby things. I was quietly watching him and studying him and feeling such an intense and profound love for him and the joy of that. He suddenly realized he had been doing his own thing for a while, and he sat up and turned his head, looking over his shoulder to see where I was. His eyes met mine and when he saw that I was looking at him, and that I had been watching him, his whole face crinkled up into a grin of surprise and pure delight. It was such a lovely moment. I think that is what we feel like when we turn to look for God, and our eyes meet his, and we discover that we weren't alone at all and that he has been watching us, and loving us profoundly, and wanting us. I love your story, and I love your face, and I love your heart.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have been watching your videos for three years, and praying for you all the way because I could sense the pain behind the smile. I am so thrilled to hear that you found God through Christianity. Just don’t let the Christians who are bigoted ruin the experience for you - some people can’t and won’t understand your story. But there are plenty that will. I’m one of them :)
Dear Daisy, As a woman in my early 20’s I endured a type of “out of control” season. Different circumstances but equally as confusing. I tried everything to find some stability some greater meaning. One day I walked into this small church in NY and the very presence of God met me at the threshold. I heard in my soul, “you’re home”. I gave my life to Jesus and surrendered to His plan for my life. Thirty years on I am so grateful, full of His peace and surrounded by loving sisters and brothers. I pray this journey brings a deepening blessing....
I’m actually surprised at the lack of transphobia in these comments and honestly I’m thankful that for once terfs didn’t flock to the nearest detransitioner they saw
Thanks Daisy, I'm a man and had thought for years that i was a woman trapped in a male body since my teen years. But in the end i realized that i was just very sensitive and soft hearted in nature, and that i can still be a male and have that soft side aswel. I think it was becos i grew up surrounded by hard hearted males and thought it was only women that can be soft or tender hearted. Great video but i can't stand religion lol but more power to you in life! Sidenote: You are a very attractive lady with a very magnetic presence, you should guard yourself against the Wolves in Sheeps' clothing who call themselves 'born again xstians', they will befriend you with hidden agendas. You're best to stay away from mainline so-called 'Churches'.
The world needs more sensitive men willing to be themselves! All men deserve to feel emotions and express them. It’s our society that’s muffled men from the time they were tiny boys. I’ve tried my best to allow my boys to be sensitive and soft.
This was really interesting. I don't say that to be insensitive or play down the emotional aspect. I sincerely hope everything goes well for you Daisy. But I just found it interesting the parallel that I can draw between this and my own experience. As a feminine gay man I have been tortured as of late trying to find my place in the world. Be that socially, romantically or otherwise. I hated the fact I was a man because if I was a woman so much of what I wanted to express outwardly and how I wanted to be recieved would make more sense. As superficial as it sounds I wanted to be delicate and feminine and have a man protect me. I wanted to wear elaborate outfits, stilettos and makeup. There is of course more to it but to keep it short we'll leave it there. I considered transition so many times so that I could recieve the type of attention I wanted and so I could stop being a 'failure' of a man. If drag had not been around as an outlet I likely would of transitioned and regretted it. As far as the idea of rebirth goes I have also been toying with that idea in my own way. Each college semester I'd I'd reinvent my look, my style, my persona or my brand as a form of rebirth, to draw a line under everything that came before as if to say and I'll be happy and fulfilled starting now. It never worked of course. Then I got it in my head that the pain of rejection and failure was my purpose, my point of 'worship' if you like, and I should try to inflict as much misery on others as possible. Hurt people hurt people I guess. I've not had a road to Damascus moment regarding faith or anything else up to this point so in many ways I guess I'm still searching. While I think it's unlikely to be religion for me personally it is inspiring to hear about how you've kind of found your place. I think that it's important that we as gender non conforming people discuss this openly because while transition helps many people it can also be a mistake. That and we really do need to work towards a world where everyone can just live how they want regardless of gender.
Ryan, this is beautifully and sensitively expressed. Thanks for sharing. Do you think it would help to stop looking for answers within yourself yourself and start looking for answers beyond? I think that’s the great comfort of Christianity: you don’t have to be the solution (and it’s far too large a burden for anyone). The longer I live, the more I’m convinced that the answer lies outside outside of ourselves, and that extreme introspection only takes us further down the rabbit hole. I’m no scholar, just a fellow companion, and I do wish you well :)
@@kathryn6402 I have always, always wanted to believe in something higher than myself for that exact reason, that comfort of just knowing what to do with my life. But I guess life taught me quickly that that wasn't for me. I was young gay and rather interested and good at science subjects. It felt like the Church was casting me out because I was gay and that education would cast me out if I believed in something. But you know I was largely outcasted by everyone anyway. Because of who I was I was barred in participating in 'normal' things. I didn't belong on the sports field, the largely heterosexual parties or indeed in the Church. I was bullied and mocked relentlessly as a teen and then when I moved on to college I decided I had to change things. I had searched for a long time for a saviour or just someone to love me but I found nothing. I became resentful, I decided I could only rely on me. Everything had to come from my willpower. I still feel that way in many ways. Sure I might have friends and people who care now but they're busy with their own lives, their own problems and if there's a hierarchy there's almost always a partner, family member or 'best' friend above me. Maybe it's selfish to quantify love like that but is that not finding the 'one' is all about? To find someone loyal to you before others, someone you can rely on? Plus the Church here in Ireland is less about worship and spirituality and more about tradition, control and keeping it's power. Truly if there is a God I just feel he couldn't approve. So yes, the only place I have found meaning thus far is within myself. And is that not what modern culture is about? Confidence, boss bitch, etc. It is strange, people who aren't homophobic envy me because I have all the makings of a great person in their eyes. Youth, beauty, intelligence but all I feel is all of it slipping away with each passing day. I do feel scared I do. Perhaps I have over shared but these are my favourite types of conversations because it feels like maybe, just for a moment that I'm not alone in feeling empty or lost. So I'm sorry if I bored you with my ramblings there but I truly appreciate you taking the time to engage with me and give me something to think about.
I can relate to your feelings of wanting to be delicate, feminine and have a man protect me, but I’m a cis woman and have always enjoyed my femininity. My problem hasn’t been that my femininity isn’t fulfilled, my problem has been my need for a a loving father, which I never had. My femininity was not validated by any men, and I’ve always felt vulnerable. But I don’t think my problem could ever be solved by finding the right relationship or just accepting myself, or something like that. My need for a father-a protector who loves me unconditionally-could not even be properly fulfilled if I’d had a good dad raising me. That need is there because I have a need for my Heavenly Father, as he is the one mighty to save, good and kind but strong and fierce. Loving unconditionally, without fail, always able to provide. My strong tower, my hope, my safe place. My freedom. And I suspect we are of the same need.
Mainstream church might not be the place for you. Maybe you can find someone or some small study group to go through the Bible with you. You don't have to be a believer, because true believers will be eager to share the Bible with you. I pray God will send you someone like that.
Hm, this really made me think about myself as a person. For the past year, I’ve been trans ftm, but after listening to your video, I’ve seen that we have a lot in common. I have a lot of worries about coming out to people because my parents don’t support trans people, and every time I’ve come out to them, we get into really huge arguments, only throwing me into a wave of depression. I tried binding once, and I felt really comfortable as myself, yet I’m still surrounded by many fears. I’ve never really been very girly, but I can’t just erase that part of myself. I’ve been trying to, but I can’t. It’s always there, and fighting it rather than accepting that I’m feminine is only causing more strife within myself. Like what you said, I feel like gender is so much more than putting yourself in a box. I wish that there were no boxes, but that we can just be whomever we want to be. Then, I’d have more choices and more freedom in being who I want to be. I really found who I was during quarrentine last year because it was the first time I looked inwards. Thanks for making this video. I really think it helped me and made me realize that I need to just be myself to my best abilities, even if I don’t fit into the “general” gender norms. I’m just me, and I don’t have to claim to be any gender or try to fit myself into a box. Technically, I’m a combination of everything, and I’m not really scared about it anymore.
Of course you can be yourself!!! Being a female doesn’t mean to be the „archetype” of a female, let’s say. The sex assigned to you at your birth and your genitalia do not define who you are as a person, what you like and what you want to do in life! Female means everything! There is no box tou have to FIT into and do not let anybody tell you otherwise. Really. Accept every feature of you because that is what makes you... YOU! ❤️
I come from Russia where domestic violence towards women is legalized and gender norms are being reinforced. I wear whatever I want and dont let conservative Russians or "progressive" Westerners put me in any boxes.
You are and always will be female, there’s no changing that. But you have no obligation to be feminine. The only prerequisite to womanhood is being female - beyond that, you can be feminine, masculine or androgynous. It’s so sad that people are being coerced and even celebrated for what I see as self-harming. And please, please do not bind your breasts. It’s really dangerous and people have fractured ribs doing it.
This was an incredibly articulate telling of your experience, I pray that your decision to submit to Christ in every aspect of your life will fill you with hope and peace.
I am 60. I have never worn makeup. I was considered a Tom boy when I was young, but I got saved at age nine and have never looked back. I have never been in control, but I know the one who is. I will be praying for you Daisy. Keep studying Gods Word and you’ll never go wrong. May God Bless and keep you.
I cannot personally relate to this, but I'm glad to have seen this video. It's nice to see someone who's changed their opinion on transition, so clearly explain their reasons for changing their opinion, without trying to invalidating other people's experience. I hope you can be happy as who you are.
This is a very compelling and important narrative and I am very proud of you for publishing such a personal video and sharing your truth. I've been watching you for a long time and have always respected your consistency and dedication to truth and honesty, regardless of ideological alignment. A lot of trans people become obsessed with transitioning, engaging with the trans community, proving their gender or subverting gendered expectations, trans activism, and thinking about their gender/identity that their entire identity is Transgender. It is such an insignificant part of my life at this point that I rarely even think about it, but I know tons of people whose entire lives center around their gender identity. As you touched on in this video, that hyper fixation on transitioning is not healthy and not productive. I think people with unsupportive families are far more likely to feel this way as they are forced to spend a lot of their time defending something as simple as their gender. My advice for any transgender person out there who is reading this or watching this video or is scared that you may one day feel like this - get a fucking hobby. That could mean finding religion and connecting with God or another higher spiritual power, or maybe you just really like to decorate cakes, I don't know. You need something to occupy your heart and your thoughts and your life that isn't your gender. I am transgender. I am a student, a future professor, a son, a friend, a musician, a horseback rider, a cat lover, a vegan, a Quaker, an athlete, a brother, a conservationist, a scientist. I love maple syrup and am obsessed with mules. I want to get married and have kids and have a garden. I am straight, I am a man, and I am transgender. I am very pleased that it is such an insignificant part of my life. If one day I were to feel like I needed to detransition, it really wouldn't be that big of a deal to me because I never made my gender a big deal in the first place.
You do YOU, Daisy. Identifying as female in no way requires you to create an appearance that matches our crazy, restrictive cultural concept of what is "feminine." Makeup? No makeup? Pants? Dresses? Long or short hair? Doesn't matter. God loves you exactly how you are, and you will find your own style as you live your life and do your best to follow the Lord.
He isn't "doing him" though, he's doing what is currently normalised in society. Why do you people think everyone else is a product of their environment but you aren't. Why do you think you're so unique?
@@cockoffgewgle4993 I'm not sure I understand your comments. I mean. . . we're all unique, aren't we? AND yet there are also ways that we all conform and ways in which we're just like everyone else. We all do some of BOTH. **That's what it is to be human. We are both unique AND alike.** And if detransitioning is what feels genuine to Daisy right now, if she wants to express herself in what we consider traditionally female ways--or not--either one (or somewhere in between) is fine. If it really feels like the true Daisy, then why not do it? I'm not sure why you are disagreeing with me; if you have a problem with how Daisy is expressing herself, then talk to her.
Thank you for putting your truth into words. I am able to understand your reality and I'm sis. Profound statement: "A more genuine way to rebirth". You are serving by sharing my dear, your words will invoke many to knock and the door will open.
I hesitated to click on this because it randomly popped up on my timeline, but I decided I should. Your testimony is a blessing! It truly is! I think it’s encouragement to those who maybe are struggling with their faith and their self image. I pray you will keep seeking Jesus and continue to grow in your faith! If I never see you in person in this life(which is most likely what’ll happen) then I’ll give you a hug in heaven!
Hey I'm going through the same thing as you! I was on T for a year and a half before I decided to detransition. I had an experience with God in May 2020, and started going to church on and off between then and March 2021, when I started going every week. This is when I stopped T and began detransitioning. I started serving in my Church in the beginning of August and was baptized a month later. It is painful every day to feel the regret of changing my body and having to wait and see the extent of what will change back. What gets me through is giving that pain over to Jesus, every single day. He wins every battle, and He won't lose mine, and He won't lose yours. Stay strong!
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Many women don't wear makeup or high heels. It doesn't mean they're not women.
@Marie yep
@Marie exactly.
So true
@Marie It's an obsession with gender to the point it becomes the key facet of your identity...
I think if society didn't enforce extreme gender rules and stereotypes then people could more happily exist as people.
@Marie at first it was just for science community to label things to make it easier to research, but then it spiralled out
Straight women dressing androgynous and wearing suits should be more accepted.
Is it not already?
Even im gay gal I would agree with that
@@thpisland2423 Yes and no. I think the point is that women should have space to be gender nonconforming without them being pressured to transition or identify as some kind of non-binary.
atrapforfools I feel like men are more so pressured that way. I’ve never really seen anyone bat an eye at a woman wearing a men’s shirt
@@thpisland2423 Yep, go walk around as a man in a dress and find out.
Don't feel pressurised to learn how to apply makeup. It's not part of being a woman.
Yeah, I basically only use eyeliner, mascara and red tinted lip balm most days. Makeup is not a must!
@Erick Roblero You sound really bitter and hostile. Why are you trying to hard?
@@MmmMulholland The Truth is neither bitter nor hostile. If someone would have told her The Bitter Truth before she "Transitioned" maybe she wouldn't have done it. The people misleading the youth, to believe you can change your Gender/Sex, need to be Locked Up.
Woman who never wears makeup here, you don't need it. Also, you're beautiful! Welcome home sis :)
I'm a 46 year old woman who doesn't wear makeup at all. Ever. I also don't wear perfume, or even deodorant and I wash everyday with soap only not heavily scented shower gel. I don't wear nail polish either or have facials or manicures etc. I find it all unnecessary and intrusive. It doesn't make me any less of a woman though, I wear skirts, dresses, boots with heels and jewellery. My femininity and sense of who I am does not depend on externals.
The world needs more tomboys who are comfortable with themselves (being female), no matter their sexuality. There I said it
Come to Europe
@@saramonteiro4922 Ya know I probably should get around to visiting Europe in the next couple years. Depends on when they'll open travel up again, and if they'll let Americans in lol
@@TheLoneHiccup :)
Yes! And the same goes for men too, we should all feel comfortable with expressing ourselves :)
I was the biggest tomboy ever. Got the same gifts as my boy cousins until I was 14 or so... if I had the toys back then that they have now...hog heaven! Pink and purple toy dump trucks! What?
Don't own a single dress or a skirt. Still a full blooded woman.
Preach! For the past several years, I had buzz cuts, temp fades, and faded Mohawks, guess what? I'm still a woman!
@@54CFC And you're a cat person I see, same here, love that😻
I do, but I'll rock those pants, especially jeans, anytime!
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YES!! Ugh so many fucked up ideas about what it means to be a woman. The trans community has really messed people up in my opinion. I do believe there are people who need to transition to another gender BUT many just are confused and want to fit into some sort of box.
@@fembot521 True! I'm 36 now, I remember when I was Younger, nobody questioned my sexuality, I am heterosexual. But today, totally different story. I don't wear dresses so I must be a lesbian. Pleaseeee people, cut it off...
I’ve been “confused” about my gender since I can remember, but while watching your video I realized that I didn’t want necessarily to be a man: I wanted to be perceived as one because I thought society would accept me better that way. Thank you for being so vocal about all of this x
I don't understand the narrative being heavily pushed in our society right now- that it's easier to be male. Maybe it's because I have a young son and I worry about all of the anti-male messaging around him. I don't believe for a second that men have it easier. All of the grouping and categorizing is really unfair to each of us as individuals, and so damaging in our culture.
@MB Wilson What do you mean with anti-male?
@@mbwilson8592 ma’am let me tell you your son is going to be fine...it IS easier to navigate society as a male or as a male-presenting individual, there’s no question about it. I don’t know how old your son is but I’m only 17 and I’ve been catcalled since I was around 14. By grown men. Before that many classmates of mine touched me inappropriately and made nasty comments about my body. I remember running for my dear life at 11pm on a school night with some girl friends of mine because a group of drunk men kept following us and we were scared. Those experiences have had a great impact on me and how I perceived myself. I was uncomfortable (and still am) with showing any trace of femininity because I’ve seen first hand what being feminine can lead up to: I wanted to hide and salvage myself from all those nasty comments, for a long time I thought I was trans and I was super confused, but now I figured out it was just a way for me to protect myself as a woman in a society that is very male-centered. Not every woman needs to be feminine, femininity can be expressed in MANY different ways and I support all trans folks, but it is true that going about your day while male-presenting is easier. Please keep those things in mind and teach your son how to behave respectfully around women, we need more kind & educated people in the world 🙏🏻
@@mbwilson8592 and remember that when someone says that men have it easier in society isn’t saying that men cannot ever be sad or suffer in their lives
@@clair8880 I'm sorry for the abuse you have endured. I too, was sexually abused as a child and later as a teen.
It's actually more acceptable in our culture, for women to speak out rather than male victims. Stats on suicide, crime, drug abuse..etc does not support the blanket assumption that men are guaranteed an easier life just for being male. Though I fully understand that this narrative is being heavily pushed in our schools and media. There are abusive people in all walks of life...all demographics. I know that you likely won't agree with the view I'm sharing here..and that's ok. Jordan Peterson is very intelligent and provides some good insight into this topic.
This tedtalk is very interesting: ruclips.net/video/3WMuzhQXJoY/видео.html
I’m a 49 yr old suburban Mom with zero exposure to the trans community except through TV. I’m not sure how your page wound up in my feed but I watched this entire video. I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story and your faith. You’ve given me a level of empathy and compassion for those who struggle with their gender identity that I would not otherwise have had. It’s a blessing to have this opportunity to learn from someone who is so open and honest. God bless you and your future. ❤️
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Love this comment!
Me too. I mean, it's a world of experience that has not yet touched my friend/family group.
It's amazing to listen to such a highly articulate person speak so honestly. Man, woman or other, being truthful is the most difficult thing.
It's important to remember that detransitioning occurs to a tiny percentage of trans people.
If you are as unaware/ unexposed to transgenderism, it's important to note that and perhaps to listen to some equally articulate trans people who are happy with their choices.
Well said, I've got trans friends and they grass and can go either way with their clothes. I love your comment great trans people are just like us we all have to live on this big blue ball floating around space
Same 100%
As a trans dude im not scared of this kind of conversations being made, I think its super valid to suddenly realize that you are in fact not trans.
I only have a problem with the people who use you or any other detrans folks to prove their point against trans people. You are so strong and I just got recommend this video but you seem such a kind person so i hope you will have a happy life❤️
I think this merely supports the idea that full transitioning (hormones, surgery) needs to be reserved for those above the age of 21. That real therapy (not conversion cause that is horrible) needs to be okay and to help people find out what they really need so they can feel whole. ❤️
@@reneekelly2911 No, that’s a bad idea. No offense, but many people know they’re transgender at a young age.
@@Monkey-D-Luffy911 No offence taken as this is just a discussion and my opinion on it from hearing from many sides - Both transitioners who it was right for and detransitioners.. But it seems there is evidence that many young people these days have thought they were needing to transition, do it then realize once they are adults (sometimes sooner) that they made a mistake, and if you’ve taken hormones and/or done surgery it can cause further emotional and mental distress as well as irreversible damage. Childhood is the shortest, most confusing, and volatile part of our entire lives and it seems the safest course to wait until fully grown.
@@reneekelly2911 I mean, transgender people have to take many tests and go to doctors to start hormones. I understand not letting very young people, like 10 year olds, take hormones. But many people need to take them, or puberty blockers, to stop feeling dysphoric. I have multiple friends that knew they were trans when they were young, so it’s not rare that people know their identity under 18.
@@Monkey-D-Luffy911 Oh I’m not saying that there aren’t young people these days saying/thinking/believing that they are dysphoric and that it may be the right move for some. But from stories/interviews on the other side that show that many medical professionals not doing proper evaluations out of fear of being called transphobic and losing their jobs. These things are happening (in Canada their is a bill that is being voted on right now that would basically criminalize not giving a trans diagnosis) and young people can be “so certain” of what they are feeling and then self diagnose themselves being of what they see or hear online. I support and recognize trans people and that it is real and that they deserve to be treated equally as anyone else. However I think it is a complex issue and in our rush to showing acceptance we are not seeing or hearing the other side of things. As I said before, I am a critical thinker, which is why I like to seek out all sides of stories/experiences since life is not black and white, but grey.
I’m trans myself, and have watched your videos for a little while now. I think many people fail to realise just how varied and complicated human experience is, it really can’t be boiled down into simple categories. You may not understand someones experiences, but that doesn’t mean they’re any less real. At the end of the day we just have to do what is right for ourselves and “follow our own truth” so to speak. Genuinely wish you the best Daisy, im glad that you have found the path that is right for you.
Moe 🥰
I have thirteen trans friends/colleagues and of that figure two have de-transitioned. I have noticed that sometimes the trans community rejects individuals that de-transition because of the impact they feel it negativity portrays to the community. You are proof of what your comment stated. Human experience is all unique. I'm so pleased to read your comment as we all need to support each other. Humanity is so complex and I truly appreciate reading comments like yours, especially being from the trans community.
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She seems to be a realist. While your life is based on dress up. Whether ur dress-up is fabric or chemical or surgical. As long as you know your not actually a man right? If you're more comfortable presenting as a man and that's how you do it that's fine but if you actually believe that you're a man well now you're crossing the border into self-delusion
@@alb5632 fuck off xx
To the commenters critiquing her desire to have new clothes and the ability to put on makeup. She sounds like she wants those things as part of her style, not that those things make her more of a woman. It's ok to want to be a woman in any expression full glam to mud hippy.
"It's ok to want to be a woman in any expression full glam to mud hippy."
In this context what does the word woman actually mean? Can you define "woman" without referring to aspects of being a biological female? I'm genuinely curious. I hear a lot about the "gender spectrum" but no one seems to be able to tell me how it's different from "style" or the old concept of gender roles (which used the word gender as a synonym for sex). When I've looked it up on the web I can't seem to find a definition that actually divorces the gender called "woman" from the female sex which seems to falsify the modern notion that gender is NOT a synonym for biological sex. Also just to be clear I don't care how anyone dresses or identifies, you do you, but I do care whether concepts and language make sense. I'm not going to learn 87+ different pronouns if they have no actual meaning.
@@ClockworkWyrm they have no definition of what a woman is they just use circular logic and say a “woman is anyone who identifies as a woman” or say “plays a woman’s role in society”. Of course anyone who points this is out is an evil TERF.
@@ClockworkWyrm how on earth could the definition of 'woman' (or 'man') not be tied to biology?
Rev. Wyrm Ok I think I know what you mean. Sex is what your chromosomes say you are . XX and XY . That happens at fertilization for most people ( note that I didn’t say all) . Gender happens when the brain develops to that point around 5 months later . This is still during fetal development. Some people just have a mismatch between their sex and their gender. It’s not a choice ,this happens before you’re born . I’m a typical cis het woman but I have a biology degree. Biological realities trump superstitious ignorant nonsense even if they’re based on religious beliefs. Some religious beliefs are toxic or abusive and some are just not true . Harassing or abusing gays and other non binaries is based on ignorance and lies. Just FYI I happen to be Christian and these lies about gays etc being unnatural , offend me as I think they’re blasphemy . Non binaries are part of God’s Creation and this does show up in other species, not just ours
@@dancingnature what do you mean by "non-binaries" here? intersex? - how would "non-binary" show up in animals?
Daisy, this was a very powerful video. Even though I’m personally not religious, I think that lots of people can agree with me on there being something very important and meaningful to what you said about accepting yourself for who you feel you TRULY are instead of trying to change yourself for shallow reasons. Also knowing you’re not really in “control” of who you are, so to speak, therefore you need to make peace with yourself and parts of you that you find difficult to accept. A lot of people can take something impactful from that, I’m sure. I know I can, be it from a different point of view than yours. The words still stand strong.
I also am so incredibly happy you included the bit about Christianity, knowing you could potentially lose audience members because of that. I find what you said incredibly interesting (and moving), so thank you for letting us in on something that means a lot to you.
I want to wish you the very best on your journey with “re-coming out” and detransitioning through the next few months and forward!! Sending love
I don’t find what she has to say has anything to do with anyone else. Herein lies the problem. You are openly detransitioning and instead of being applauded for correcting your misstep, people latch on to the things that fit THEIR narrative. Some people make the choice to transition for the wrong reasons. I am someone who is trans and have been for a long time and I am 100% happy with this choice. I am also a Christian. The two aren’t mutually exclusive..
@@howtoapply3186 the American way
Well worded Kovu 🙌
Beautifully written.
@@cyclopz2410 bro, the original commenter is a trans person.
Honestly, as a trans guy I was terrified to watch this video. But around halfway in I realised that the reasons I'm transitioning and the reasons you transitioned are so completely and utterly different. Im honestly glad that I watched this video because It helped to put my mind at peace from worrying that maybe I'd relate to you. So thank you for that. I hope you're doing well and I'm glad you're finally being your true self.
- A trans guy
^Ditto
What an awesome comment. I love your heart💖
@@talithaleah6563 This is such an honest but almost non-traditional story given the influence of faith. For something more traditional and which many trans-people may identify with more easily you might want to check our other regretters: Cari Stella, Chloe Cole, Angela Samfjord and even Blaire White who is working to expose more of these catastrophic cases.
Thoughtful comment! ❤
You seem like a beautiful androgynous woman with strong masculine energy. Very 80s chic and I wish you all the best being you x
@Leon Chameleon oh come on. Lots of women have lower registered voices.
@Leon Chameleonthere are literal people with deeper voices?and y you saying it like a bad thing?
@Leon Chameleon Doesn't matter. Their voice is nice.
@@eccremocarpusscaber5159 I do
@@eccremocarpusscaber5159 Yes, she has a lower voice because she mutilated her body with extraneous hormones.
It's not her actual voice, the one she was born with.
This is a fascinating detransition story, unlike any other i've heard. I desisted last year, after 6 years being a trans guy, and I related to a lot of it! Especially wanting to control how others see you, to the point of obsession. Anyway you are a lovely, glowing person and I wish you all the very best!
this is extremely thought-provoking, thank you for sharing so bravely Daisy!!
Noo just ego in himself
@@nelhourit2654 you mean herself?
I heard that a lot of people people have regrets after transitioning.
@@juliesprik9479 a lot of people? Do you mean like a lot of trans people detransition? Or a lot of trans people regret some sort of transitional necessity? If it’s the first, .5% of all trans people detransition which means you have a strange definition of “a lot”. If. It’s the second it’d be kinda hard to prove and not very believable but not entirely impossible. Say like ftm trans youth who use homemade binders and end up with a sore back or something, that’d technically count as a regret.
@@infinkeo_archived I came across several stories of people who regretted transitioning in a row and I was surprised by that.
"I care ABOUT you, but I don't care if I offend you" - awesome quotable statement there!!
Time stamp?
@@MargauxNeedler 19:50 😊
I’ll be real, I was really scared to watch this video when I saw it in my recommendations tab but I’m glad I watched it. The way you worded everything made it really easy for me to understand. I’m a trans person and I’m always scared to listen to people detransitioning but I think it’s a real discussion we (trans + detrasitioned people) need to have. This video might really help other people that are questioning their identity.
I also liked hearing your thoughts on your religious beliefs. I’m very happy that you can finally feel comfortable living. I wish the best for you!
Of course you would be scared of the simple act of pressing play on a RUclips video LMAO
@@hunglikeaslave6793 Your comprehension skills are very poor.
@@johndoe4110 yuh got m33e3eee. i reedahrduddd
@@bcount1 they’re so spoiled and comfortable, that they’re able to survive. That’s how absurdly easy we have it in the western world.
Awww wow your words are so powerful thanks for sharing !
As a trans man who has been out and happy for almost 5 years, I hope people don't get the wrong idea from this video. I am proud of Daisy for coming forward and being brave enough to say she isn't trans. There are plenty of trans people who haven't and will probably never feel regret or detransition. I'm happy that you have found a religion that comforts you and helps you live a better life for yourself. I agree that there are gender nonconforming cis people who get pressured into transitioning and that is horrible. But from my side I see people pressure trans people into believing they are cis or something they're not just as much. I hope people realize that just because they detransition, does not mean that all trans people are pretending or making a huge mistake. Please do not use religion as a way to harm and invalidate people who's experience is different from yours as that is not what religion is for. I am not saying she is, but there are plenty of comments that are. I wish Daisy all the best and hope detransitioners and trans people can find more unity as they are not the enemy of eachother.
Amen
And I hope that people start to realize that NO ONE can invalidate you but you. Telling people that other people need to validate them is harmful and does not allow for other voices and nuanced conversation. Then we all lose. If people expect to be listened to and respected, then they should do the same for others no matter how much they hate their opinions. Otherwise, we are all just on opposite teams. It's disgusting how divided we all are and how entitled we all feel. Can't we all just be a little right and a little wrong? Maybe we have way more in common than we think.
thank you
I’d also appreciate if she’d refrain from using phrases like she’s been “saved” or “redeemed.” I’m glad she’s found a path in life that works for her, but to state she’s been “saved” or “redeemed” for finding god and detransitioning just doesn’t sit right with me, and I’m not even trans. It sort of implies that people who don’t believe in god or do not choose transition, have not been saved or redeemed in her eyes or God’s. I have noticed some religious folks say things like that, in order to act and feel superior.
@@ellag5151 well that’s a shame. She should have consulted with you before she posted just to make it would “sit right” with you. 🙄 Did it ever occur to you that people can say whatever the hell they want? The speech police need to climb in a hole.
As a trans guy, initially I thought I would balk at this video but I actually like it a lot. There's a lot of truth in what you said about the trans community's own internal narrative of why someone should transition, how they need to do it and what transitioning is meant to be and it's easy to get trapped in this idea that it's either transition (especially medical transition) or misery. In my case, I think of my identity as a man as just as real with or without medical transition, I'm not trying to be a cis man. That's my truth, in the same vein that your truth was that you are not a trans man. I hope you've found happiness now that you figured that out.
Gentle reminder that folks who detransion aren’t inherently transphobic! Even ignoring folks who detransition for social reasons, it’s an incredibly difficult thing to do that can feel like a betrayal to the trans community, so it’s important to be there for them
@@amyyost7022 Thank you for that PSA. Many detransitioners avoid the trans community after finding they are soundly rejected.
But this may ultimately be for the best. While detransitioners and transitioners are often fundamentally the same types of people, let's just say gender nonconforming, the understanding of the rationale for transition is quite different and not very cross-compatible. Detransitioners follow a path back to an authenticity that doesn't involve lifelong medical intervention (unless they've already had procedures or health issues that require ongoing support) while transitioners, especially those in an emergency state of mental distress, don't feel they can survive being exposed to detransition narratives because the hope is that high medical intervention is going to be the path to authenticity and a fix for what's wrong.
@@raymcmahan5080 I mean, my friend group includes both, and I don’t really see your point. Harmful detransition narratives have so little to do with actual folks who detransition. They’re not an argument against trans folks and are actually often trans folks who just don’t wanna get hate crimed for being open. And even if they were just wrong about being trans, that’s not really an argument against trans people, so forcing that narrative on them kind of sucks for everyone but terfs.
third one, long story: So I grew up having a bunch of problems due to the absent of my father. He never communicate with me but only to take pictures or show me off to his alcoholic friends, I often yearn for him (I just do) but he never there, so I identify with my mother (she isn’t like western women, she doesn’t think women should control the men etc. until later on, she submits to her husband but my father was too weak (he’s more emotional, over protective, over bearing, abusive, angry etc.) to lead and so she did eventually fall into thinking women is the best for the home etc. because my father couldn’t lead) which means I got lost in my ego and grew up overthinking everything. A child that gets lost inside their ego is the worst place, I became depress and self hate etc. at 6 yrs old that’s when in my head “I thought to myself why can’t men marry men”, yes that’s the beginning of my bi curiosity, like I said the mind (overthinking, judging, self hate etc.) is the worst place.
Long story short: I grew up hating my life and hating myself overtime and I have a high expectation with dreams/goals. The issue with having passion and dreams is that it’s “ego” and desires, if they don’t go according to my will, my depression etc. sky rockets. One day I’ve decided to invest in this “crypto” currency and it got me into crypto gambling, just right before a holiday. I ended up winning in the beginning then losing all my money I’ve saved for since forever, to me I was afraid of what others may think (I was stuck in my ego - yes it got worst) and during that time I’ve had “sleep” paralysis each day that seem so real, e.g. attack by the shadow thing on top of me and my heart dropped, I couldn’t breath for good few seconds etc. this went on for weeks everyday.
Back to the story, So I lost all my money on that day and because my ego was getting bigger and bigger, I didn’t wanted to live anymore. So yes, I contemplated suicide, “I was thinking to myself, if life is meaningless then I should disappear and then people will see”. Mind you I’m not ugly or anything at all, I just hated my self and my bi curiosity etc. I just didn’t understand why God would let me become such a mess (at the time I was an agnostic or atheist, I didn’t believe in god or anything) so I said, “okay this is my final straw, so I said I’ll give God one last chance (something I shouldn’t say at all, since I’m commanding God)”
What truly happens, open my eyes. I called out to three “Gods”. The first was the Islamic God, I said “Please Allah if you’re real please answer me, let me know”, then I did the same with second God, “Buddha”, I left one God to last which was the Christian God. To be truly honest, I don’t like Christians nor their God (that’s what society taught me but there was something about Jesus, yet still I left them to last because it was my least preferred - I was thinking of not even calling out to him) - So I said these words “Please God, if you are real please fill me with the holy spirit in Jesus name”, I said those words I remember from watching a video somewhere a long while ago. After I’ve said that, I was on my knees, I had my eyes open. I was at the moment really depressed, suicidal etc. There wasn’t tears but I was heart broken etc. After those words were said along with forgiven everyone I’ve ever hated (yes this was my final request, I wanted to let everyone and everything go), my body frozed still, my whole life flashed before my eyes, all the ego and issues in life were inside my head were lifted and became thin air vanishing from my head. I feel this unspeakable peace and my mind was so light, I felt like a child all over again, yes I felt as if I was a child with nothing to worry about. I had my eyes open yet I sat there for 20 minutes, tears came down on my face while those eyes are wide open. I didn’t even notice the time or anything, I felt as if my body has gone into heaven and I just knew, somewhere deep in my being I just knew God was real and Jesus was real.
Aftermath, so as soon as I told God “please don’t let me come back down”, the peace was so amazing, it was everything in the world I can’t find yet everything I’ve wanted my entire life. It’s unexplainable, it’s like home and fulfilment of everything in the world yet cannot be found in the world. It’s like this is your existence and the peace/love that the world cannot offer. But as soon as I said, I don’t wanna go down, I went straight back into my body (It felt like I was in heaven, there’s no remembrance of anything on earth - not even my own blood family mattered in that moment)
So after I returned to my body, I noticed I cried a bunch and my eyes were wide open yet I didn’t even know for 20 minutes. I was so incredibly happy at the time, I tried remembering the my horrible past and what my dad/brother had done to me (they were physically abusive, mentally etc. when I was a child) - I couldn’t remember anything, my mind was at so much peace, I was so happy like a child who saw Christmas for the first time. I ran downstairs, jumping and saying “God is real”, “God is real”, no one believed me. After that I haven’t had depression ever since. When nothing is more important to me than God, my life got easier and even having nothing and nobody in the world to love me (most of my friends were fake I can see it because I used to act and pretend like them so it’s not hard to see) - Life just started changing.
What I’ve learnt is that, the world is like Adam and Eve all over again. Eve following the serpent and Adam following after Eve breaking the order God gave us which is “God over Christ over Man over Woman over Children” that’s how his love flowed. The thing is we try to tell kids “God isn’t this or that” makes it worse for them, I learnt that God is our father (not mother) - he sent his son (Jesus) to return us to the father, and when I realised that I identify with my mother instead of having the identity of the father, I fell away from God the father. My father probably has the identity of his mother aswell, he’s emotional, angry, abusive etc. this identity is of the world. I used to despised my father and hence despising God who is my father in heaven. So after I realised, God is my father, Christ is my saviour, I want to have their identity of love, peace, joy, happiness etc. just like Adam and Eve had before they fell away taking on the identity of the serpent when they believed their lies (Eve took on serpent’s identity, Adam took on Eve’s identity) - I began my search for truth after that incident and my life has been a blessing one after another.
I found Jesse Lee Peterson when I was “becoming a Bible thumper” yes I was becoming one of those Pharisee because I was so into the Bible and got lost in my head again. Jesse showed me that salvation is of the heart and our mind is evil, and he isn’t wrong even Jesus said the “Kingdom is within us and told us to seek it”, and that God said “The cardinal mind of the world is an enmity to God and is not subjected to his laws”.
My life has changed a lot, I don’t have depression anymore, I am still overcoming my bi curiosity naturally without doing anything (I stopped judging and comparing myself, still do at times but that’s the ego) - everything just falls into place when I return to my father and forgave, esp. my own parents.
Thanks for reading. That must took forever for you. Life is only amazing when we stop judging, we are no better than anybody else. There’s really only good vs evil, right vs wrong in this world. And when we accept who God is, our father and return to him and the order he wants us to, everything just falls into place. Also there’s a lot of Christians, who go to church and read the Bible etc. But most do not have the heart God wants, they quote the scriptures etc. call people out etc. But there heart are far from God, the thing is they learned the Bible “intellectually” by ego of the mind just like the seculars who go to college and think they know it all, rather than living the word out through their hearts.
Jesse Lee Peterson church, you should check it out. In my playlist “Best of JLP”, scroll down to the bottom and watch from bottom up. You’ll be fascinated by his church, it’s nothing like other Christians church where they quote scriptures all day. It’s more like “Who are you, how do you know yourself etc.”
There’s a lot of people in the world but so very few know salvation is already inside them and they look into the world for guidance but is never satisfied. Everything we need and want is already in us.
Have a blessed day and thank you for taking your time to read everything.
@Cupid Olympia That mindset unfortunately isn’t prevalent enough. Plenty of trans folks won’t respect even poor folks who can’t afford to transition, let alone folks who just don’t want to or aren’t ready. It might be the minority of trans folks, but they’re the loud ones and are the ones who are closest to mainstream acceptance
Daisy, as a cis man and a therapist in the UK I have been watching many videos made by people from all different backgrounds to help me understand. I know I can never feel what you feel but I can empathise and understand. What you’ve been through in search of peace and happiness within you is incredible. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you happiness, love, peace and contentment for your future life. You truly are a remarkable woman. You’ll never get to meet everybody that you’ve helped but know they’re out there and they have renewed hope because you shared.
The only traditional ''feminine'' thing about my appearance is that I have long hair. I haven't worn a bra in years, I put on make-up and wear a dress like 3 times a year like on special occasions. I usually wear a hoodie and I am fully comfortable being in a woman's body and being identified as a woman. Most of the time, I can say that I forget my gender, I am just me.
This is exactly how I feel and live
I’ve been struggling with my gender lately and I’ve come to the conclusion that I feel the same way. Although I can put on a dress and make up and think I look great, I’ve never really liked it or been comfortable with it, however, I love my body. I have insecurities ofc but overall I’m really happy with myself and luckily we live in a time where it’s perfectly acceptable to dress more masculine as a woman. I don’t really care much about pronouns are anything because, ultimately it’s just words, and nobody’s gonna be talking about me in third person when I’m around anyway so I don’t really care. I like appearing more masculine and androgynous but I still identify as a woman because, when it comes down to it, I’m happy being how I am and I couldn’t care less how other people perceive me.
I heard a saying somewhere. That "to forget oneself is to love oneself" or something like that. But basically what you said is how it should be.
exactly how i feel except i do have shorter hair but i really only chopped it all off just for a change and i’m growing it out rn! looks really cool so far
Same. I wear it for photos mainly. It feels like dress up to me. I identify as genderqueer. I feel i have a male brain. But i am content with being a woman in a womans body.
I'm 23 and have been trans since 15. Due to outside veiws I thought I was making a mistake. That I wouldn't be loved or that I make people uncomfortable. I admire your video and being yourself, but you helped me see that I made the right choice. I can't thank you enough
Same boat here. I hope that whatever their outcome, they find contentment, as that's the goal we all share.
One of the most honest, interesting videos I've watched. The comments are actually positive, which is wonderful.
Yes this comment. I have top surgery in nine days and have found myself on trans youtube, researching other peoples experiences to set expectaions, and also it seems, researching my fears. But seeing all the similarities in this video, but more importantly the differences in the way I feel, this is actually making me see that the fear of regretting isn't a fear I actually have, but one I feel I should have because that's what people tell you. I feel calm, this is good.
@@catlinboy bro don’t do it.
Which gender are you transitioning to?
@@erik-sr9bj Lol, too late. I'm nonbinary, and pretty happy with that. Transitioned like gradually over the last 5 years or so. I had surgery two days ago however, and actually feeling really good about it. I think maybe what I meant in my comment was that I don't fear 'realising i'm actually a girl' or 'not really trans', because I feel like my nonbinary identity has room for my gender feelings to change and my gender presentation to fluctuate. Also, so many people misgender me all the time, either male or female or whatever, and that's never gonna stop no matter what I look like, so that's gonna be part of my life regardless of any decisions I make. So I've pursued surgery as a means make my body feel more mine, and to be able to stop binding becasue after 6 years of binding, my back is very sore! But I'm an adult, my body is always going to have bits I'm not too happy with. With surgery, the worst thing that can happen is I get a chest I am deeply gender uncomfortable with, but actually I already have that! So how could surgery make my life any worse?
Anyway, I fully respect people who make their own decisions about their body and their gender, and if detransitioning is a choice they make, then all power to them. Let's all make decisions about our own bodies that make us feel good.
I hope this video isn't used to discredit trans people. They are just as valid as this person, this person is just as valid as them, etc.
@Kenzi Blue what
why does everything have to be VALID? jesus fu...get a grip
@@thegirlinquestion because people don’t believe that trans people deserve to live, so valid is the only word that straight cis people understand.
@@sae_decay such dramatic bollocks, critiquing your ideology doesn’t mean we want you dead.
@@thegirlinquestion and what’s even wrong with saying somethings valid? It’s just validating something, you’re the dramatic one
Im trying to hear as many different trans perspectives as possible because im real worried about making a wrong decision in the future ahhhh its all very confusing, i relate to the feelings of both trans people and detrans people. Ive thought about transition for like 5 years now, but im gonna hold off until im fully clear out of the hormonal teenager stage of life
Update for 2024: Just turned 20, I'm very much a woman. I still sometimes find comfort and power in behaving masculine, but that doesn't make me a man, that's just the nature of living in a society that devalues femininity. I'm glad I didn't choose to transition because I feel very confident as and grateful to be a woman. It's hard to embrace traits like sensitivity, grace, and softness when women and feminine traits are mocked so often, but ultimately, by doing so I feel happier and more peaceful.
And no, none of this is the result of some sort of conservative conversion therapy tradwife brainwashing, it's a life decision I made independently.
i dont know you but i recommend looking into hormone blockers. they’re completely safe and you can stop them any time and continue puberty normally as your birth sex. im not an expert so definitely do your own research!
@@lyss.the.panini Absolutely this. Also, experimenting with names/nicknames and different gender markers (titles pronouns etc) online can rly help you figure things out, whether it turns out you're trans or not. I wish you the best of luck in figuring yourself out!
Also if you're interested in skirts, regardless of gender, just a pro tip: you can put MASSIVE pockets in skirts if you learn some basic sewing skills. Actually, those same sewing skills are helpful in general.
that's a really wise decision! All the best!
@@lyss.the.panini hormone blockers are not safe! evidence shows that they have lasting effects and have not been found to alleviate dysphoria
Just remember that you have a lot of life ahead of you and you do not have to rush anything. At some point in your life you will - know - what's right for you. That can be in 2 months, in 2 years or in 10 years or anywhere in between or after.
I admire you so much. I am a is female and had both breast removed due to cancer. I did not reconstruct and do not wear a prosthesis. I also am a Christian. Hold your head high and be proud. You are a good person and deserve to be happy.
Beth, congratulations on your recovery. Praying you continue to heal. I agree with everything you said about Daisy! Praise the Lord!
The will to live is strong. You made the right decision. Congrats on your recovery! :D
We will be praying for you Daisy, God has you do not worry 🙏❤
I don’t wear makeup or high heels but am 💯 a woman.
Same.
And some men also wear makeup and heels
If you want to learn to do make-up, then more power to you, but for the record, doing make-up does not make you more of a woman and not doing make-up does not make you less of a woman ❤
Yes yes yes to this comment❤️
But apparently it can change the way you feel about your presentation as a woman.
Gatekeeping what women do isn't helping women. If some want to wear makeup, that's fine. If others don't, that's fine. Men are starting to wear more makeup, and it doesn't matter. It's just paint.
That is a very shallow reply to a very deep message
She doesn't seem to need it. She's very lucky in that department.
we all have masculine and feminine energies within us
hi being female has NO bearing on what you "should" like, do, how you like to dress, etc. You are female. That doesn't have to mean you can't dress the way you want. That fact doesn't have to limit you into those "intelligible" boxes. There is no wrong way to be a woman.
:) much love
Quick question. Then what makes you a woman?
How do non-binary individuals know they aren't either men or women or both if there's no way a woman is identified?
@@deborahpipeloluwa3120 it is not a negative thing to have a female body. Women are defined as adult human females.
The fact that we're shifting to defining sex based off of the things I listed above (stereotypes)
is actually the negative thing.
A woman is not someone who adores wearing high heels, makeup, uncomfortable clothing etc. A woman is not someone who "relies on emotions rather than logic" (as lots of incels would like to believe.)
Being a woman is NOT an identifiable personality trait... Hence why sex roles and performances of femininity are different cross culturally.
SO, how strong must these stereotypes be, if people are identifing with a different sex because they don't ascribe to the stereotypes about that sex?
I think very strong. And very strongly enforced.
If you don't love being told you have to shave, be a mother and wife, be a beautiful ornament for a man, then congratulations. You aren't necessarily nonbinary. You're a feminist.
A boy wants a woman who drrsses like a woman
@@kysmarcy oh thank you for answering
So you don't believe in the non-binary spectrum? Because it's heavily based on gender being a personality trait
@@Alex-wf9uw wow great! Except women have no obligation to appease men, especially not based off of things as irrelevant as the types of cloth we decide to wear! :)
Just vibe on Tilda Swinton all day. One of the coolest chics ever, completely feminine but also totally androgynous.
I "dress like a man" and do a lot of "man stuff", including being trained as an industrial electrician :-D I get misgendered very often. I still consider myself a woman. You don't need to justify yourself. You don't need to follow society standards about what a woman should look (or a man should look). You can be yourself, whatever that is. You sexuality is nobody business (unless they want to date you or become your spouse).
True
Amen to that!! Well said.
It seems like any CIS female who is more comfortable wearing “boyish” clothes must be another gender or non binary, but your gender expression doesn’t equal being “other” when there’s plenty of women who just aren’t “girly”
100%. I have never been girly. I wouldn't consider myself, not do I wish to be seen as masculine in any way, but more androgynous if you will. I am comfortable with my sexuality, and my sex. Of course, a lot of people aren't, but it must be extremely confusing if you don't have a clue what or who or how you are.
Can all this nonsense language just go away and we go back to being men and women again...
@@DanaAshlie absolutely
Bruja Cat I do not see how not "being girly" translates into being a tomboy or wanting to change your gender. What does not liking frills or the color pink have to do with feminity ? These are separate issues.
This thing is so complicated omg I'm sorry just we need like a non emotional way to classify gender no offense to anyone just their to many gray areas with this
You've got yourself a beautiful testimony. God Bless you and thank you for sharing it with all.
No matter what it ends up looking like, I think it's very important to be your authentic self.
@Crawford Hogan I would have to disagree. Yes people can be have ugly personalities, but being authentic means that you can acknowledge those problems and start to fix them
@Maxine Ruprecht Are you being serious? I have literally never said anything about locking up transsexual people nor would I ever want that to be a thing. I don't care if someone is transsexual or not.
@Maxine Ruprecht I don't even know what you are talking about, "removal of our bodily rights". I'm pretty liberal about most things. Please stop assuming like you know what I'm thinking.
@Maxine Ruprecht Have I given you any reason why you can't trust me?
I know there are people out there that lie for the sake of lying, or they want to be percieved in a certain way. I have no need to do so and you can either take my word for it or not.
I know it's not nice to be lied to and if it happens in a big enough way it can make the trust for everyone to go away. But from my experience you reach out to other people knowing that they can lie.
Just because people lie doesn't mean that you don't reach out to other people, you reach out to people while being informed with how terrible they can be. To start a dialogue you need to be courageous and to not have people trick you, you need to be informed by your past mistakes.
So even if I do lie to you then you can be informed in life and it will help you with other in the future, and you shouldn't put so much power into the words I say because I'm just some stranger on the Internet, so you shouldn't care if I lie or not. But as stated before, I won't gain anything from lying to you so there's no reason to assume that I am lying.
@Tellos Travna Yeah I thought so too and I hope they were trolling because otherwise that would be pretty sad. On the off chance that they weren't, I thought I might as well say something.
this popped up in my recommended, thank you for being brave and sharing your story. i'm an atheist non-binary person and i used to identify as FTM for all the wrong reasons. i used to be scared of detrans because i didn't want my choices to hurt others (i hadn't done anything medical but i was pretty open about my transition and even talked about it in a documentary). I'm in no way a woman, but accepting that i am not a man either has brought me so much peace and happiness.
Do you hate men
@@RG_Rizzy LOL you’re lost
@@RG_Rizzy no i don't i'm just not a man
I’m also a non-binary person and I agree that for me accepting that I am neither helps a lot of The anxiety 💖
@@x.strangewerewolf.x9461 You may identify as non-binary, but you’re still a woman. Women are adult human females, and that’s what you are. You’re confusing gender (feelings/inclinations/behaviours) with sex (biological reality).
I'm so glad you found your peace through faith but please be careful, my Christian upbringing is the reason my sexuality and gender identity caused me so much shame and guilt in the first place. Just want everyone to know if they see this video and feel wrong or like a sinner etc: you are beautiful, you are loved, and you are worthy.
Best of luck on your detransition and continuing journey in life. 🖤
Thank you for this 💜
Feeling conviction is good it's the work of the Holy Spirit. It's what makes us hopefully choose the route of Christ.
@@natashaharsh9793 Conviction is not what I feel.
I have felt guilty.
I have also felt guilty for other things I did not need to feel guilt for things such as healthy eating (I delt with disordered eating, and would feel guilty when eating appropriately). I still felt guilty despite the reality - that I didnt need to feel bad - because of the distorted reality I had indoctrinated in me in my environment.
What I felt was not conviction, for I did not do wrong for loving another. I felt guilty because I was told I was supposed to.
Sending you love 💙
@@Theloveyoufive yes! Conviction should not feel like guilt. God does not make us feel that way. The enemy makes us feel that way. Why would God want us to feel guilty if He's already died for us to cover our sins? There have been so many times in my life that I would talk to God and tell Him straight up "Lord, I know I'm not supposed to do this, but I'm not ready to give it up yet" and I would feel the Holy Spirit tell me that it's okay and to just keep my eyes on Jesus. Over time, as I drew closer to Him, the thing I couldn't give up just became idk...blah. But He was patient and loving with me the whole time. It was my own thoughts and the enemy that made me feel I had to constantly press my face into the dirt with shame and guilt, when God only ever wanted to love me and build a relationship.
I have also struggled with an eating disorder and I have also suffered from people in the church being so toxic. I hope that you'll be able to feel God's heart towards you and find solace in that. I obviously don't know you, but I pray you find rest in Him in a way you have never experienced before.
@@cutethulu_xo I'm sending love your way, on the topic of religion we are not going to agree though. I truly am glad you found your spiritual path! Do whatever makes you happy as long as you arent harming others. 😊
I don't understand why you feel the need to wear makeup or buy a whole new wardrobe. If the goal is to be your authentic self then wouldn't you dress however you like?
I like to be intelligible to others
@@Dmchadra I just hope it doesn't cause you more pain.
@@jw5386 so far it hasn’t
@@Dmchadra As one ftm destranitioner to another, people will find you unintelligible either way. Dress in a way that is comfortable to you and speaks to your own kind of femininity. People will refer to you with he/him pronouns with a full face of makeup and a dress on. I’ve been through so much shit at this point to turn back now and go back to dressing in a way that is uncomfortable and unnatural for me.
@@okthanks4792 this is true. the voice makes it difficult. no matter how drastically my appearance has changed, people will still call me he sometimes. but finding femininity after detransitioning is a journey in itself. it takes time to find a balance of who you are and who you’ve been. getting a new wardrobe and wearing makeup is part of that for some. it helped me. I realized I still don’t care for makeup, but I’ve immensely enjoyed evolving and growing my wardrobe.
I so see you as a college professor, a lawyer, CEO, or yes, a theologian at a seminary. Your speaking, your presence, just stunning. So easy just to listen to you in rapt attention. Amazing.
I agree with this
There’s more to life than ‘success’. Being a CEO is just a ridiculous ambition and you guys are setting yourself up for disappointment in life if that’s all will do for you.
"Her speaking, her presence, just stunning. So easy just to listen to her in rapt attention. Amazing."
^ 100% concur.
Yes. She's captivating isnt she?
Just so lovely.
Daisy, in the film, claims that she detransitioned because she would "never be a real man."
In her video in 2020, however, she announced that she did so because she "read the scripture with a submissive heart" and detransitioned "ultimately for god"
Guess the money was good to get you to say some different words.
I’ve never made money through my media appearances
@@Dmchadra Well then allow me to throw a completely different wrench in your Catholic Schoolgirl Fantasy. I can't wait to see what ship you jump to next.
Also. I don't believe you do not profit from your nonsense. At the very least you are getting some sort of twisted self-righteous pleasure from your current bullshit, but all you really do is make others lives more difficult.
SOME Of The Most Absurd And Unforgivable Things The Catholic Church Has Ever Done. Some old! Some fairly modern!
1. Pope Pius XII Denying Eyewitness Reports Of Mass Execution During The Holocaust
2. Systemically Covering Up Tens Of Thousands Of Cases Involving Sexual Misconduct
3. Terrorizing Jews And Muslims For 300 Years
4. Pretty Much Everything Done By Pope Boniface VIII
5. Burning Joan Of Arc For Dressing Like A Man
6. Burning William Tyndale For Making A Vernacular Bible For The Masses
7. Slaying Countless Women As Witches Because Pope Innocent VII Was Paranoid
8. Absolving Sins For Cash Payments, Including Sins Not Yet Committed
9. Orchestrating The Fall Of The Knights Templar To Appease A Broke King
10. Burning Someone 43 Years After He Passed Because He Upset Some Important Catholics
11. Executing Jan Hus For Working Out Some Tricky Theological Philosophy
12. The Joust Of Whores Organized By Pope Alexander VI
13. The Roman Inquisition, During Which Judaism And Love Magic Were Serious Crimes
14. Cutting Funding For Immigrants Because Of Their Connection To The LGBTQ+ Community
@luvcopia I’m a woman so you’d call me she/her. so much for respecting pronouns!
I love your comment section. much more positivity than negativity.
I am a guy. I have always felt that way so I don't know what it is like to "feel like a woman".
that said. everything I like has almost no "masculinity" associated to it.
I am a guy that likes sewing. I like make-up (I don't wear it but I like make-up artistry). I like singing and dancing in Musicals. I hate watching sports (boooorrring). I like "rom-coms" generally. not all but some are pretty good.
Pretty much the only thing about me that is a "man" is that I am attracted to women.
Everything listed above doesn't make me less of a man for liking those things. I am just "in the minority" which is fine. Most men can like something and if you are a man and you don't like something "most men like".. That's A-OK.
So true. Thanks for sharing.
Hate to break it to you, but being attracted to women doesn't make you a man. ~ all lesbians 😂
But otherwise, yes, I completely love what you're saying
@@RaeLarz Curious, I just reread my post and don't know where I said that being attracted to women made me a man?
Context was about stereotyping.. and the stereotype here is that I "should be gay" except I am attracted to women.
Nothing too deep :) just surprised so many people read my crazy long post. :D
@@th3n3wk1dd I think she was just joking.
@@dailybls hard to tell in text only. Worst case I was just clarifying my position.
there's something in common between all the female detransitioners i've seen and it's insanely high verbal intelligence. you guys are so damn articulate. even though this isn't my issue, you're so pleasing to listen to!
I think it’s because the nerve to detransition nowadays takes an enormous amount of self-awareness. To admit that a path you once were so sure about isn’t for you is not something everyone can do.
I actually tested my verbal intelligence and its waaay above average (which did surprise) /detrans woman
Its found that the same group susceptible to eating disorders and cutting are also transitioning: bright, often academically gifted girls who are traumatized by puberty and identity because they recognize the full impact of being a woman in our society. As soon as you start to develop you are sexualuzed and treated differently. Many girls and young women reject that because they don't have a way to navigate it. They don't always understand that depression and anxiety is almost normal in adolescence, everyone suffers through their teen years. Its a female rebellion against the loss of freedom and the pressures of society.
@@beautifulspirit7420 well put!
@@beautifulspirit7420 oh my actual goodness you make perfect sense
I'm a 'manly' woman and I love it. I don't want to be a stereotype. Everyone is on a spectrum of gender.
Still just a woman tho no spectrum needed
@@goyboy9907 I mean there is a spectrum of potraying your 'gender'. If we like it or not most males and females dress and act in their stereotypical way. Because of that its easy to tell when someone stands out and leans to The opposite or is somewhere in the middle
@@aaa5126 That's personality and personal mannerisms and fashion taste.
And there is no problem with that at all :)
Yeah im an agressive girl and my ex boyfriend said something to me about it and it was just like are you threatened by me now wanting to kiss your azz ? Then when I showed my vulnerable side he said something about that. You cant win lol.. damned if you do or don't.
As a fellow sister in Christ I'm so encouraged by your story and how the Lord impacted your life. Your story has purpose for his kingdom! Thank you for sharing in such a public way 🙌
You need to be a spokesperson for teens, you can help shed a lot of light on the discovery of identity, and the fear of if it’s the “right” identity.
I identified as a trans man for years and recently came out as nonbinary, still using male pronouns and mostly presenting masculine and I'm happy that way c: I'm not religious but finding yourself is always okay and I hope you only become happier
@ I do, but that's more tied to my financial and living situation. I have chest disphoria and still bind but transitioning isn't something I feel like I need personally.
What you need is to psychological deal with what's the root of the discomfort. It's all in your mīñd.
Find it and then you have to start viewing life differently... Stop hating yourself and start finding beauty in what you have. Because this "identifying" as thing's is us running away from our emotional pain, Don't believe the lies of the Media. Gender identity is a fàrce, a put on we build to not have to deal with thing's. Start loving yourself and you'll see how Things will change. Gl
hell yeah dude !!! :D - a fellow enby
@Idk_Reveluv You can stretch all you want but you ain't reaching bub. Look if there's really self love right.. right? Then "labels" are completely utterly unnecessary. So then if there's no psychological issue per say what we are left off with is a narcissist af person that feels entitled to control language just cause... I mean we are seeing it in certain groups of people already and they're insufferable.
Instead of saying that you're not religious..why not just say that you do not know the God of the Bible, or that you do not know Hod personally..and that you have little interest in knowing God?
Hi, Transgender atheist here. Let me start by saying I am glad to hear you decided to detransition instead of stewing in what I would probably consider dysphoria, but you called it disonanse. Your happiness and your believes is what should be important to you. And it sounds like you despite being in a position of detransition that you understand that being trans is something else from you and I am glad to see a none Anti-trans video on the topic of detransitioning, because we need to take the issues that come with people transitioning without actually being trans seriously, even if it is a low percentage. The detrament of one person isn't worth the validation of others. We can't exchange things like this and we need to find way to be more accurate before we let surgeries happen. And we can't address that at all as long as it is a "Us VS Them" I am sorry you had to go through that, but I am happy you got somewhere where you feel like you.
I do agree...great comment.
This comment is literally what I was thinking! It’s the truth!! Also hello fellow atheist
@@katsukibakugoalt.snakesbac4660 Hello fellow atheist. And thank you ^^
@@LeeJuniper you’re welcome!
The percentage of people transitioning that are not trans, and ultimately regretting that decision is very high, especially since the “trans-boom” when it became sensationalized and promoted to teenagers going through puberty as a cure to the discomfort every teen goes through as their body changes. “My body is changing, I hate it, maybe I’m trans.” In my opinion, when it comes to children and teenagers, it’s insane to make permanent changes to their bodies before they’ve had the opportunity to develop both physically and mentally, and it’s leading to devastating effects, with even more damage to come. When it becomes so “cool” to be trans that you have parents putting their 3 year olds on puberty blockers, it’s evident that in trying to repair one societal wrong you’ve created a thousand others.
This video just made me cry 😭 tears of joy. I learned so much through this video. Your testimony is so powerful, and it can definitely change the world 🌍.
God Bless You, Daisy. 🙏🏽💐
I'm so proud of you! What an amazing testimony. May God bless you immensely for your bravery.
It's 2020. Damn, what a year. Did not expect this. Good on you, it's got to take a lot of courage to go against the narrative.
what an amazing story. THANK YOU for sharing. praying that Jesus leads this video right to the hearts of those that need to hear it most ♥️
I'm a relatively gnc woman, and a lot of the reasons you talk about transitioning are things I remember experiencing a a child. I was very lucky to grow up in a house that didn't enforce a lot of comphet stuff, so I never felt pulled to transition. I think we're in a really interesting place right now with the way we conceptualize womanhood as a gender. I didn't want to be a grown woman because I didn't want to be sexualized or viewed as an object, and so I grabbed the reins of my womanhood and expressed it the way I wanted to. I think often afab people who voice those feelings, that intense dread of what might come, are pushed to identify something other than a girl. It's so wonderful and amazing that nonbinary and trans people are able to exist openly and truly, but I'm afraid that at times, that's being used as an answer when it shouldn't be. I see a lot of people who don't identify as a woman in a traditional sense being told that it's a type of dysphoria when that's not always true. You can be a Woman and resist a lot of the things that are presumed to go with it. I think it's wonderful how much the gender spectrum is opening and broadening and I wish and hope that it will extend into how we let women identify and conceptualize themselves.
Absolutely agree. I think we often forget that it's ok to not know and take time to explore without the pressure of labels
I actually really needed to read this, thank you. My entire life, I've felt disconnected from womanhood. I especially loathe the way society as a whole views and treats women. The way too many men refuse to listen to women's arguments, or feel the need to police every little thing they do. The way men treat women in general. I never wanted to live in this society and be a woman. My mother was abusive and used my femininity as a weapon against me every chance she had. When I used to dress up in my teens, she treated me the worst. Time and time again it was reinforced in my mind that being a woman = living hell. The second I cut my hair and began to dress more masculine, my mother changed. She went from tearing me down every chance she had to complimenting me. Eventually, I went on testosterone and realized I needed more time to think. I'm still figuring out where my gender identity lies, but I'm also undoing the hate and trauma I have towards womanhood. Hopefully I can find my answer.
@@odin4306 💖💖💖💖 good luck on your journey! A good therapist, if affordable, is helpful. There's nothing wrong with being a woman with short hair! Or being a man! You don't have to stick to any set of standards that anyone else gives you
@@autumn7809 I'm working with a therapist now. I agree! Thank you :)
@@odin4306 I’m sorry you had to go through that. I hope you’re doing well and get to a place of loving YOU and acceptance of your self and learn that You are Not your body.You’re body is amazing however it doesn’t define you as a person! Be yourself and nothing else matters! You’ll find joy through acceptance of who not what you are. ❤️✌🏼🙏🏼
I am happily transgender, a staunch athiest, and yes you did lose me when you got to your religious reasons but i wanted to shoot a comment out there that there are trans people who support people who detransition. Whatever your reasons are if what is right for you is to detransition then i wish you all the best and hope that you can find a place where you are able to be happy with the person you are!
That was nice of you to accept his detransition!
@@nicoleneaga1153 Of course! Anyone's detransition should be accepted! If transitioning was not the right step for someone then i hope that they detransition as quickly as possible and that they are supported and loved through the process because it is even harder sometimes than transitioning is in the first place. I hope that we as a society can get to a place one day where only people who transitioning will genuinely help are the ones who are transitioning that people dont have to go through the process of transitioning and then detransitioning anymore.
I respect people who detransition so much because honestly from what ive seen it is much harder than transitioning is for someone who needs to transition for their mental health. Im saying that from my own personal experience and from people who i have talked to, Im not trying to belittle anyones experiences with transitioning or detransitioning and hope no one interprets this like that.
@@lilyizquierdo6341 👍🏻
I think you're brave for admitting all of this. But sadly, many of these comments seem to... miss the point of what you said about the fact that you are speaking for your own personal experience and no one else's. I am not Christian and I understand that differing religious viewpoints are very hard to reconcile when discussing something like detransitioning, but it seems that many people are taking this video as "accept yourself the way God made you" instead of "I accept myself the way I believe God made me". I'm honestly glad that you are finally happy with yourself. I just wish that others would understand that this is your experience with gender and faith, and that doesn't mean it should be other trans people's experience.
I thunk..what I got from her video was completely different than either thing you said..
I got this.. She discovered that there IS a God.
She found out that God is knowable and
she wanted to know Him..
Once she got to know Him she realized that she previously had only wanted to be her own god. She had made her gender identity her idol.
Before she came to the realization that there IS only one God..and that she is not/ was not IT.
There is a God and it's not her.
She chose to submit to the will of The One Greater than herself.
@@sissyrayself7508 no offense, but there are other religions out there than christianity. you can believe or know that your religion is the "one true" one without telling other people they're wrong on their own comment.
Ya it’s clear you’re not religious because you’d understand that these comments are not meant to imply that all trans people should find god and except the sex they were born with. We understand the difference in her journey and yours but that doesn’t mean we can’t support her journey
I love how genuine and brave you are. There are those that would “use” you as the poster child for Christian theology . You are God’s child and you have a story. It is that simple.
As a trans person I can relate to the feeling of your body never being "a man's body", and there's a definite feeling of fear that you will be seen as a freak. I used to be paralysed by fear of regret, and the idea that I was making chancing my body into something that that nobody would want... but honestly once I got top surgery I never looked back. I also came to accept more that I am non-binary too, and that I'm actually pretty happy with the way I look; I feel more at peace with myself. I'm sorry you did not experience that, I cannot imagine how difficult that must have been. As an ex-christian from a non accepting family, I imagine that there will be a lot of gloating that you face in detransitioning from all those people saying "I was right", but just because you detransitioned doesn't mean that they were right. You did what you thought was right at the time and made decisions with the feelings and information you had at the time. I also appreciate that you only spoke for yourself. I've seen a lot of detransitioning people shit on the trans community because their journey with gender did not go the way they expected to, even going so far as campaigning against trans people. I've seen others who detransitioned because they realised they were nonbinary and that they were just putting themselves in a different box, I've seen others that couldn't handle transition because of personal circumstances (one poor friend of mine got sick and had sudden onset alopecia early in her transition and had to stop because she couldn't deal with all). I guess what I'm trying to say is that people detransition for various reasons, and I'm glad that you were honest in your own experiences and did not speak for others. I also want to recognise that some people I know had similar experiences to you and did detransition, and I'm not sure where they're at now, but if you do find that this was a choice motivated by other factors and want to retransition, that's ok too. Not everyone's journey to self acceptance is a clear pathway, and it's generally pretty messy, and most trans people will have empathy for that as we go back and forth in trying to grapple with gender dissonance before choosing a path. I wish you all the best with your journey!
I'm non-binary but don't really feel trans. I just feel more like gender doesn't apply to me (currently vibing with agender, but not totally sure), and I'd have waves of really bad dysphoria where I felt I must be a boy, even as young as 4 years old. But it would always come and go. Over the last year and a bit, I gave up on a lot of gender norms largely due to accepting my disabilities, and realized that I don't have to fit either box. I went to a very strange Christian school where we had one specific week where someone who was just a random woman from a church come in and talk about gendered actions, like if you look at your nails a certain way, you're a man, and if you hang up your coat a certain way you're a woman. My boyfriend and I were opposite of our assigned ones, and he's not trans, so that really helped me accept that I don't have to fit either one. I've been sewing some of my own clothes for a while, and I feel like I can finally be me.
That being said, it's kind of stressful returning to church after lockdowns. I did find that after accepting myself, I feel I can get my spiritual life back on track, but I still feel pressured to wear dresses and skirts, and it's taking some time to figure out. There are a lot of things that society genders, and it can be hard to navigate them.
I am someone who else started thinking I need to go from one binary to another. Now I realized that despite having gotten breasts through hormones, they aren't right. But getting top surgery doesn't make someone a man, just as I see taking estrogen or testosterone doesn't make someone a man or a woman. It seems the gender we are born is will always be a apart of us regardless what we change externally. I've since moved to a more nonbinary masc person. Dressing how I want, without worrying about what it means.
And she did that very thing. I got curious because of the detrans pragerU video she was a part of. Now she thinks no one should transition.
I’m a 73 year old Christian and was ...proud of your honesty! We are All on a Journey with God and His wonderful Son Jesus! God just wants us to walk in the Garden with Him everyday like He did with Adam! He loves us and just wants us to just love Him back! Don think to deep He takes all our broken pieces and makes us whole! I was a Tom boy when I was young kinda still am!🤪 Bless you on your journey!
Videos like these are important for people like me who want to understand things that I haven't experienced or can't relate to. Thanks for sharing your story, and best of luck going forwards.
everyone in the comment section is talking about being tomboyish as if that's the main or only reason you chose to transition, i feel like people are overlooking the fact that you didn't accept yourself and wanted a way to escape from yourself. you're really strong for realizing that and choosing to face the truth. i'm a pretty hardcore atheist, but you were so genuine talking about your religion and how it has helped you, i'm really happy you found yourself (or found god) like that.
Honestly I relate I was like that too and I wanted to transition but later on in my life I had to come to terms with my assigned at birth gender
It’s so refreshing to see more lgbt or ex-lgbt Christians on youtube. I’m a Christian who’s decided to stay celibate because I’m bi (questioning if I’m a lesbian) and the treatment some of us get from both sides is exhausting. The stuff you said about social dysphoria really hit different because I’ve been there too. You’re so cool. 💕
oh wow that's so great and I am so happy for you
ut benedicat tibi Deus
eat shit loser
@@lilfryy5614 stfu
Not to you,babe
@@lilfryy5614 no u 💕
It took me until I was 50 to find out God loves me Just the way I am The way He created me God bless you
I have no clue why this popped up when I was trying to watch Raini Rodriguez memes, but hope you're doing good random person.
I feel like your counsellor (if you had one) from your FTM transion failed you. Your reasons for transitioning in the first place where no physical dysphoria is present should not warrant surgery. Top and bottom Surgery should only be given to those who have physical dysphoria in relation to their private areas. Social dysphoria is a completely different kettle of fish and can be treated in other ways.
I’m so sorry that other options were not presented to you earlier by medical professionals to prevent you from going through the turmoil you have suffered by needing to detransition.
I hope you are on a path to where you feel complete and entirely you. I wish you all the best of luck in getting to where you need to be ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for clarifying that it's your personal experience and not deminishing the trans community despite your detransition. You brought up a lot of really good points, not only for people who may want to detransition but also those who want to transition and need confirmation of how they feel. It's always important to think about the what ifs before you transition and stories like yours help show the warning signs and signs of regret of such things. I am a trans man myself. And I expected this to be a video that would anger me but it gave me some points to think about which confirmed my decision to transition. But also helped me understand those who do detransition. So thank you for sharing your story and I wish you the best of luck with you life going forward, Daisy!
I felt the abyss comment. When I was 13 I also felt like I couldn’t see myself having a future. Most painful time of my life.
"When I was 13 I also felt like I couldn’t see myself having a future. Most painful time of my life"
^ This could be said by many people (of both genders). Teenage angst can be tough.
Reject Modernity, Embrace Tomboys.
This isn't a tomboy, sounds like a prepubescent boy
@@Roaming8667
She was a tomboy. She mistook being masculine with transsexuality/transgenderism.
it might sound funny, but it's true what was merely a gracious affectation now it's some sort of existential statement
Hhhahhaha
There’s some truth to this statement. These days I see tomboys and butch lesbians and people assume that they’re trans, constantly bring it up and literally ACCUSE them to the point they’re pressuring them into believing it. It’s dangerous. This is why there needs to be more psychological support for those questioning their identity so they don’t make life changing decisions and then regret them later. The pressure to force people to “come out” is out of control, I’m constantly seeing people accuse the popular RUclipsr James Charles of being trans just because of his femininity.
I admire your reflection, intellectual honesty, and self-awareness in coming to this decision. Praying with you!
Well said, Michael!
I really respect this video and your tone of voice talking about your own experience. I can’t relate to most of your experiences but I really sympathize with them.
I am a trans guy that didn’t used to believe in blurring the lines until last year, that’s when I started to feel more confident and comfortable in my gender identity.
But prior to that, I’ve sat with myself for years questioning if I was trans or not, that made me start dressing more feminine over the years ( even wore push up bras and shit ) to just challenge my own self and see if I actually am trans or not. And I was bothered by it, I’ve always hated my chest, I didn’t care if anyone else saw it or not back then but I was suffering with my own dysphoria that I didn’t know I had. I’ve always felt like “ one of the boys “ although I wasn’t that masculine.
I even lost weight to just make sure that it’s not my obesity that is making me feel less of a woman. But nothing worked, nothing really changed mentally. My depression got worse, I developed a restrictive eating disorder because I didn’t like having a “ big chest “ although they’re normal.
My own neutral ( feminine and masculine ) nature always made me question my gender in a society where gender means so much.
My gender is not social, it’s not anyone’s business but me. I am forced to pass as a woman here because of my transphobic family, and although I get dysphoria from misgendering that doesn’t bother me because I am comfortable in my own gender identity. I don’t want anyone’s validation and I don’t seek it. I know this won’t last forever.
Thank you so much for this. I detransitioned 18 months ago and I am still struggling with it now. I also have been feeling drawn to God lately which has been very frustrating for me because I have been a lifelong atheist and I desperately want Christian faith but I can't find it within myself. But you voiced so much that I related to and that I really needed to hear right now. You are such a brave and articulate and strong young woman and I wish you all the best.
I’m not a member of the LGBTQ community but I relate to you in the wanting to be close to God but not finding a religion that sits well with your soul. I have found some solace in The Urantia Book. It’s a good read for those who long to be religious but despise religion because it harms those they love.
Why do you want to be a Christian? What about the religion draws you in?
In the old testament, the Israelites would make sacrifices for various sins... and then they would ALSO sacrifice for unknown sins. The Bible makes it clear that obedience is better than sacrifice, but when we don't even know how we have offended our creator... we may not be sure where to go from there. If you read the story of Daniel, (ch5) you'll notice the priests said God would have to be a Spirit. In fact, later on, in John 16:13 another one of the Holy Spirit's titles is revealed, the Spirit of Truth. Notice what the Holy Spirit/Spirit of Truth does? He teaches us, we have only to ask. If you aren't sure how to pray/ask, take a look at the simplest prayer in the whole Bible... found in Mark 9:24.
So to boil it down, this is what I'm saying.
You seem to want a closeness with God, but are unsure what is in the way. I'm saying you can call on the Holy Spirit, in Jesus's name, (this is found in 1st Timothy 2:5) and he is able to answer your prayer (possibly convicting you of something you have failed to recognize as sin... thereby allowing you to repent of it) and granting you the closeness you desire.
I really hope that helps.
All the best.
Eve! Thank you for your honesty! It sounds to me like the Christian faith has already found you. Find a good Bible believing church, with leadership you can trust, people who are honest about their own struggles, find a good healthy safe group of people to belong to at that church, start reading your Bible regularly and your life will change dramatically. Wow, thank you so much for everything you shared. I am very inspired by you Eve!
I’m not trans, never questioned my identity. I don’t even know why this popped up in my feed. But I feel like I want to go home and pick up my Bible again. So I thank you for allowing God to speak through you and be a voice to something I needed to hear.
Why do people keep supporting religions that oppress others?
@@renny6151 as I have read about various religions I’ve seen just what you mentioned. Name a religion that doesn’t ultimately oppress those who follow in it. Most cruelly is self wo🤣😚
Ooooooops. I just tried to correct my spelling when those faces appeared!!! Self worship is probably the most cruel religion of all. Look at the world. Look at the faces- the eyes of people you pass and you will see sadness, fear, anger.
It popped up on your feed to perpetuate the idea that trans people don’t exist. Shame how she makes actual trans people look bad.
I had the exact same experience with going through extreme depression at the end of my transition and then detransitioning. I also wanted to be artsy gay guy and to be understandable to other ppl and to fit some nice box finally but then realizing I cant and I wont put myself in a box for other ppls comfort. I relate to your story a lot and I wish you all the best :)
What incredible freedom to realize we are God's, that we aren't our own creator! This video made me praise God aloud and remind me to centre my identity in Jesus. Amen
Hey is that Lana del Rey in your profile picture?
“Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are”
Sage!!! ❤️👏🏽💕👏🏽
Happiness is not a goal but a by product of our actions...
I think this new generation of Christians are going to be an interesting bunch. Myself included.
We're gonna be special beans, Ow0🧚♀️
Love this comment ❤ 👏
I am a Christian and Gay.
@@therchas I am a Christian and nonbinary. And bi
@John Coffey thats a really good way of putting it :)
Having God's love makes me feel whole and safe, the peace. Sending you a big hug
I feel so bad for transgender people. I can’t even begin to imagine the confusion and emotions you go through it must be soooo hard. Bless you all and I hope everyone can find there own form of happiness
God loves us to be who we are without makeup. The world makes us think we need it. He smiles down on those who are brave enough to walk in their true identity. God bless you sis. Praying for you as you continue to walk and grow with God.
Amen to that!
This was really profound. You are one of the most truthful and brilliant people I have ever come across. And a truly beautiful soul.
The verse at the beginning of your video grabbed me. Grabbed me. When my son was 9 or 10 months old, he was puttering around on the carpet under our piano, his back to me. Exploring and doing baby things. I was quietly watching him and studying him and feeling such an intense and profound love for him and the joy of that. He suddenly realized he had been doing his own thing for a while, and he sat up and turned his head, looking over his shoulder to see where I was. His eyes met mine and when he saw that I was looking at him, and that I had been watching him, his whole face crinkled up into a grin of surprise and pure delight. It was such a lovely moment. I think that is what we feel like when we turn to look for God, and our eyes meet his, and we discover that we weren't alone at all and that he has been watching us, and loving us profoundly, and wanting us. I love your story, and I love your face, and I love your heart.
This is soooo beautifully written. Not even religious but I almost cried lol
Well said. Very nice.
Im crying- thank you for sharing 💕
You are" Fearfully and wonderfully made!" May the Lord bless you and keep you Daisy, " you are a blessing💕
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have been watching your videos for three years, and praying for you all the way because I could sense the pain behind the smile.
I am so thrilled to hear that you found God through Christianity. Just don’t let the Christians who are bigoted ruin the experience for you - some people can’t and won’t understand your story. But there are plenty that will. I’m one of them :)
All I see is a smart and beautiful human being❤️Wishing you nothing but love❤️
Dear Daisy, As a woman in my early 20’s I endured a type of “out of control” season. Different circumstances but equally as confusing. I tried everything to find some stability some greater meaning. One day I walked into this small church in NY and the very presence of God met me at the threshold. I heard in my soul, “you’re home”. I gave my life to Jesus and surrendered to His plan for my life. Thirty years on I am so grateful, full of His peace and surrounded by loving sisters and brothers. I pray this journey brings a deepening blessing....
I’m actually surprised at the lack of transphobia in these comments and honestly I’m thankful that for once terfs didn’t flock to the nearest detransitioner they saw
there is no such thing as a terf; you have been brainwashed
@@dianemorrison1921 terf: trans exclusionary radical feminist
I’ve met quite a lot
@@dianemorrison1921 they exist, and pretending they don't helps no one
Yeah, look now.. it’s so depressing
@@dianemorrison1921 Yes there is I've met plenty of them
Thanks Daisy, I'm a man and had thought for years that i was a woman trapped in a male body since my teen years. But in the end i realized that i was just very sensitive and soft hearted in nature, and that i can still be a male and have that soft side aswel. I think it was becos i grew up surrounded by hard hearted males and thought it was only women that can be soft or tender hearted. Great video but i can't stand religion lol but more power to you in life! Sidenote: You are a very attractive lady with a very magnetic presence, you should guard yourself against the Wolves in Sheeps' clothing who call themselves 'born again xstians', they will befriend you with hidden agendas. You're best to stay away from mainline so-called 'Churches'.
The world needs more sensitive men willing to be themselves! All men deserve to feel emotions and express them. It’s our society that’s muffled men from the time they were tiny boys. I’ve tried my best to allow my boys to be sensitive and soft.
This was really interesting. I don't say that to be insensitive or play down the emotional aspect. I sincerely hope everything goes well for you Daisy. But I just found it interesting the parallel that I can draw between this and my own experience.
As a feminine gay man I have been tortured as of late trying to find my place in the world. Be that socially, romantically or otherwise. I hated the fact I was a man because if I was a woman so much of what I wanted to express outwardly and how I wanted to be recieved would make more sense. As superficial as it sounds I wanted to be delicate and feminine and have a man protect me. I wanted to wear elaborate outfits, stilettos and makeup. There is of course more to it but to keep it short we'll leave it there. I considered transition so many times so that I could recieve the type of attention I wanted and so I could stop being a 'failure' of a man. If drag had not been around as an outlet I likely would of transitioned and regretted it.
As far as the idea of rebirth goes I have also been toying with that idea in my own way. Each college semester I'd I'd reinvent my look, my style, my persona or my brand as a form of rebirth, to draw a line under everything that came before as if to say and I'll be happy and fulfilled starting now. It never worked of course. Then I got it in my head that the pain of rejection and failure was my purpose, my point of 'worship' if you like, and I should try to inflict as much misery on others as possible. Hurt people hurt people I guess.
I've not had a road to Damascus moment regarding faith or anything else up to this point so in many ways I guess I'm still searching. While I think it's unlikely to be religion for me personally it is inspiring to hear about how you've kind of found your place.
I think that it's important that we as gender non conforming people discuss this openly because while transition helps many people it can also be a mistake. That and we really do need to work towards a world where everyone can just live how they want regardless of gender.
Ryan, this is beautifully and sensitively expressed. Thanks for sharing. Do you think it would help to stop looking for answers within yourself yourself and start looking for answers beyond? I think that’s the great comfort of Christianity: you don’t have to be the solution (and it’s far too large a burden for anyone). The longer I live, the more I’m convinced that the answer lies outside outside of ourselves, and that extreme introspection only takes us further down the rabbit hole.
I’m no scholar, just a fellow companion, and I do wish you well :)
@@kathryn6402 I have always, always wanted to believe in something higher than myself for that exact reason, that comfort of just knowing what to do with my life. But I guess life taught me quickly that that wasn't for me. I was young gay and rather interested and good at science subjects. It felt like the Church was casting me out because I was gay and that education would cast me out if I believed in something.
But you know I was largely outcasted by everyone anyway. Because of who I was I was barred in participating in 'normal' things. I didn't belong on the sports field, the largely heterosexual parties or indeed in the Church. I was bullied and mocked relentlessly as a teen and then when I moved on to college I decided I had to change things. I had searched for a long time for a saviour or just someone to love me but I found nothing. I became resentful, I decided I could only rely on me. Everything had to come from my willpower. I still feel that way in many ways.
Sure I might have friends and people who care now but they're busy with their own lives, their own problems and if there's a hierarchy there's almost always a partner, family member or 'best' friend above me. Maybe it's selfish to quantify love like that but is that not finding the 'one' is all about? To find someone loyal to you before others, someone you can rely on?
Plus the Church here in Ireland is less about worship and spirituality and more about tradition, control and keeping it's power. Truly if there is a God I just feel he couldn't approve.
So yes, the only place I have found meaning thus far is within myself. And is that not what modern culture is about? Confidence, boss bitch, etc. It is strange, people who aren't homophobic envy me because I have all the makings of a great person in their eyes. Youth, beauty, intelligence but all I feel is all of it slipping away with each passing day. I do feel scared I do. Perhaps I have over shared but these are my favourite types of conversations because it feels like maybe, just for a moment that I'm not alone in feeling empty or lost.
So I'm sorry if I bored you with my ramblings there but I truly appreciate you taking the time to engage with me and give me something to think about.
@@ryanhanton6205 No, not bored at all. Never apologise for comments like these - no one has to read them if they don’t want to :)
I can relate to your feelings of wanting to be delicate, feminine and have a man protect me, but I’m a cis woman and have always enjoyed my femininity. My problem hasn’t been that my femininity isn’t fulfilled, my problem has been my need for a a loving father, which I never had. My femininity was not validated by any men, and I’ve always felt vulnerable. But I don’t think my problem could ever be solved by finding the right relationship or just accepting myself, or something like that. My need for a father-a protector who loves me unconditionally-could not even be properly fulfilled if I’d had a good dad raising me. That need is there because I have a need for my Heavenly Father, as he is the one mighty to save, good and kind but strong and fierce. Loving unconditionally, without fail, always able to provide. My strong tower, my hope, my safe place. My freedom. And I suspect we are of the same need.
Mainstream church might not be the place for you. Maybe you can find someone or some small study group to go through the Bible with you. You don't have to be a believer, because true believers will be eager to share the Bible with you. I pray God will send you someone like that.
Hm, this really made me think about myself as a person. For the past year, I’ve been trans ftm, but after listening to your video, I’ve seen that we have a lot in common. I have a lot of worries about coming out to people because my parents don’t support trans people, and every time I’ve come out to them, we get into really huge arguments, only throwing me into a wave of depression. I tried binding once, and I felt really comfortable as myself, yet I’m still surrounded by many fears. I’ve never really been very girly, but I can’t just erase that part of myself. I’ve been trying to, but I can’t. It’s always there, and fighting it rather than accepting that I’m feminine is only causing more strife within myself.
Like what you said, I feel like gender is so much more than putting yourself in a box. I wish that there were no boxes, but that we can just be whomever we want to be. Then, I’d have more choices and more freedom in being who I want to be.
I really found who I was during quarrentine last year because it was the first time I looked inwards.
Thanks for making this video. I really think it helped me and made me realize that I need to just be myself to my best abilities, even if I don’t fit into the “general” gender norms. I’m just me, and I don’t have to claim to be any gender or try to fit myself into a box. Technically, I’m a combination of everything, and I’m not really scared about it anymore.
Of course you can be yourself!!! Being a female doesn’t mean to be the „archetype” of a female, let’s say. The sex assigned to you at your birth and your genitalia do not define who you are as a person, what you like and what you want to do in life! Female means everything! There is no box tou have to FIT into and do not let anybody tell you otherwise. Really. Accept every feature of you because that is what makes you... YOU! ❤️
I come from Russia where domestic violence towards women is legalized and gender norms are being reinforced.
I wear whatever I want and dont let conservative Russians or "progressive" Westerners put me in any boxes.
This person never said they are a woman
You are and always will be female, there’s no changing that. But you have no obligation to be feminine. The only prerequisite to womanhood is being female - beyond that, you can be feminine, masculine or androgynous. It’s so sad that people are being coerced and even celebrated for what I see as self-harming. And please, please do not bind your breasts. It’s really dangerous and people have fractured ribs doing it.
@@sjking1111 Absolutely Agree! Never be ashamed of your body bcuz it has nothing to do with the person that you are! ❤️
This was an incredibly articulate telling of your experience, I pray that your decision to submit to Christ in every aspect of your life will fill you with hope and peace.
I am 60. I have never worn makeup. I was considered a Tom boy when I was young, but I got saved at age nine and have never looked back. I have never been in control, but I know the one who is. I will be praying for you Daisy. Keep studying Gods Word and you’ll never go wrong. May God Bless and keep you.
You’re a strong woman. Thank you for sharing ❤️
@Alex P no, I didn’t assume anything. She says it at the end of the video.
@Moises shes a woman lmao
"You can't die to yourself and be born again without God." That is a great thought. So much love and prayers to you on your journey 💗
God doesn't exist.
I cannot personally relate to this, but I'm glad to have seen this video.
It's nice to see someone who's changed their opinion on transition, so clearly explain their reasons for changing their opinion, without trying to invalidating other people's experience.
I hope you can be happy as who you are.
This is a very compelling and important narrative and I am very proud of you for publishing such a personal video and sharing your truth. I've been watching you for a long time and have always respected your consistency and dedication to truth and honesty, regardless of ideological alignment.
A lot of trans people become obsessed with transitioning, engaging with the trans community, proving their gender or subverting gendered expectations, trans activism, and thinking about their gender/identity that their entire identity is Transgender. It is such an insignificant part of my life at this point that I rarely even think about it, but I know tons of people whose entire lives center around their gender identity. As you touched on in this video, that hyper fixation on transitioning is not healthy and not productive. I think people with unsupportive families are far more likely to feel this way as they are forced to spend a lot of their time defending something as simple as their gender.
My advice for any transgender person out there who is reading this or watching this video or is scared that you may one day feel like this - get a fucking hobby. That could mean finding religion and connecting with God or another higher spiritual power, or maybe you just really like to decorate cakes, I don't know. You need something to occupy your heart and your thoughts and your life that isn't your gender.
I am transgender. I am a student, a future professor, a son, a friend, a musician, a horseback rider, a cat lover, a vegan, a Quaker, an athlete, a brother, a conservationist, a scientist. I love maple syrup and am obsessed with mules. I want to get married and have kids and have a garden. I am straight, I am a man, and I am transgender. I am very pleased that it is such an insignificant part of my life. If one day I were to feel like I needed to detransition, it really wouldn't be that big of a deal to me because I never made my gender a big deal in the first place.
Very well written! It’s important to have many sources of strength and it sounds like you have a lot of them.
You do YOU, Daisy. Identifying as female in no way requires you to create an appearance that matches our crazy, restrictive cultural concept of what is "feminine." Makeup? No makeup? Pants? Dresses? Long or short hair? Doesn't matter. God loves you exactly how you are, and you will find your own style as you live your life and do your best to follow the Lord.
He isn't "doing him" though, he's doing what is currently normalised in society. Why do you people think everyone else is a product of their environment but you aren't. Why do you think you're so unique?
@@cockoffgewgle4993 I'm not sure I understand your comments. I mean. . . we're all unique, aren't we? AND yet there are also ways that we all conform and ways in which we're just like everyone else. We all do some of BOTH. **That's what it is to be human. We are both unique AND alike.** And if detransitioning is what feels genuine to Daisy right now, if she wants to express herself in what we consider traditionally female ways--or not--either one (or somewhere in between) is fine. If it really feels like the true Daisy, then why not do it? I'm not sure why you are disagreeing with me; if you have a problem with how Daisy is expressing herself, then talk to her.
@@cockoffgewgle4993 you know Daisy was born FEMALE
"What's most terrifying to us, we make less real" is a REAL thing
what does this mean?
I will pray for you sister.
Thank you for putting your truth into words. I am able to understand your reality and I'm sis. Profound statement: "A more genuine way to rebirth". You are serving by sharing my dear, your words will invoke many to knock and the door will open.
I hesitated to click on this because it randomly popped up on my timeline, but I decided I should. Your testimony is a blessing! It truly is! I think it’s encouragement to those who maybe are struggling with their faith and their self image. I pray you will keep seeking Jesus and continue to grow in your faith! If I never see you in person in this life(which is most likely what’ll happen) then I’ll give you a hug in heaven!
Good luck and best wishes Daisy - you have the support of so many. So glad you've found peace in yourself and in God
Dang. Your hair is boss. Jealous af.
Hey I'm going through the same thing as you! I was on T for a year and a half before I decided to detransition. I had an experience with God in May 2020, and started going to church on and off between then and March 2021, when I started going every week. This is when I stopped T and began detransitioning. I started serving in my Church in the beginning of August and was baptized a month later. It is painful every day to feel the regret of changing my body and having to wait and see the extent of what will change back. What gets me through is giving that pain over to Jesus, every single day. He wins every battle, and He won't lose mine, and He won't lose yours. Stay strong!