How to Deal with Overthinking Everything

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    This is (a tiny part of) my experience with overthinking and a few words on how I cope with it. I bring up an example of how it affected me when I went through a "career/future" crisis.
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  • @LanaBlakely
    @LanaBlakely  4 года назад +1682

    Why does my hair look like I rubbed my head against a balloon? Anyway. How do you deal with overthinking?

    • @infogyanchannel
      @infogyanchannel 4 года назад +78

      I have been thru all this...what I learnt is that at the end it does not really matter, no matter what we achieve and what we become it will end one day and people will forget us....so we should just enjoy what we have instead of thinking about what not..Nice video thank you so much...

    • @maryamhazem5936
      @maryamhazem5936 4 года назад +16

      Watching your videos💗

    • @deafn5741
      @deafn5741 4 года назад +53

      I don't. I just overthink until I start crying.

    • @toorimakun
      @toorimakun 4 года назад +21

      You look as beautiful as ever!!

    • @eli_man3811
      @eli_man3811 4 года назад +186

      Lana you're overthinking. Your hair looks fine.

  • @nehirbal4804
    @nehirbal4804 3 года назад +2155

    Once I read a quote that said “worrying doesn’t mean you care, it means you fear” I’ve never seen anything more true

    • @OlympiaSophie
      @OlympiaSophie 3 года назад +37

      That's so true. And we do everything to avoid feeling fearful

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 3 года назад +50

      When you care there is fear, fear shows care I think.
      You can't care about something and not have any fear of losing it. I believe there is healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Most of us put our effort into our studies so that we get an education and live a reasonably good life... why? The reason is because we were scared of not having a roof over our heads, going to bed on an empty stomach etc. Now that is healthy fear, we cared about our future

    • @gauravgovindam6073
      @gauravgovindam6073 2 года назад +1

      Where did you read that quote and who wrote it

    • @josephneedhamjr
      @josephneedhamjr Год назад +1

      Wow that quote is deep😀

    • @ARmy2510
      @ARmy2510 Год назад

      Anxiety neurosis is called "contant worrying" because you fear and don't know actually why. And that's also the reason to worrying;)

  • @somethingh4086
    @somethingh4086 4 года назад +2653

    Overthinking is like a curse.

    • @TheJustinHit
      @TheJustinHit 4 года назад +55

      Underthinking can put you in a derp state though. It's really about balance. Ying Yang.

    • @soulix9375
      @soulix9375 4 года назад +11

      And i'm cursed

    • @zaink7037
      @zaink7037 4 года назад +4

      There has to be a balance there. A girl I had a crush on I recently heard she might be married and has a child now. I'm sadly overthinking about her thinking is it true, must likely be someone in her family, what would I say to her if God made us come across each other again. It's really hard especially during lock down

    • @candy._.3274
      @candy._.3274 3 года назад +2

      u cant really call it a curse its just the way we think..we think to much..we go back and forth in our mind and in our life we’re hurting ourselfs with to many thoughts its not a curse its ourself who’s overthinking

    • @OlympiaSophie
      @OlympiaSophie 3 года назад

      With a chronic treatment

  • @maiamaiapapaya
    @maiamaiapapaya 3 года назад +1050

    "If you are depressed, you are living in the past.
    If you are anxious, you are living in the future.
    If you are at peace, you are living in the present."
    -Lao Tzu
    I made that quote my lock screen for AGES until it sunk in. There is no room to overthink when you are living in the present.

    • @Psychenfj
      @Psychenfj 3 года назад +26

      You can be depressed about the present conditions too...

    • @raneemdiary3925
      @raneemdiary3925 2 года назад

      Plan your new year from here🎄
      ruclips.net/video/2kpWi9R6eSk/видео.html

    • @diananurtlessova9388
      @diananurtlessova9388 2 года назад +2

      @Alan Costa same

    • @masterlim5809
      @masterlim5809 Год назад

      @Alan Costa cause he learn from fake lao tzu quote from internet lol. Tao the ching chapter 33 : A person understand the other is wise and a person understand himself is enlightened

    • @josephneedhamjr
      @josephneedhamjr Год назад

      This quote is powerful, depression can come from the past and part present.....

  • @twinobusingyedavis9123
    @twinobusingyedavis9123 3 года назад +54

    I think over thinking is a result of trauma..those experiences that have left us wounded and its hard to heal

    • @Asyma88
      @Asyma88 3 года назад +10

      I completely agree. I’ve been heavily traumatized by the people I loved the most in my life for the couple of years + bullying at school years ago left deep scars that led me to anxieties. Now, I overthink everything because I’m scared to be hurt or to fail again

  • @hiagoaquino4374
    @hiagoaquino4374 4 года назад +3588

    “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today." Matthew 6:34

    • @albertnaffy7436
      @albertnaffy7436 4 года назад +41

      Thanks...will take this as my day to day Bible verse when I try not overthink..

    • @kristhelh7103
      @kristhelh7103 4 года назад +59

      “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:5
      This is another good one. It basically means that thoughts have no power over us, and that by acknowledging them (not denying them) we can take them captive.
      What often works for me is asking myself whether a certain thought I’m thinking is productive and glorifies God, and gives me a sense of peace or not.

    • @albertnaffy7436
      @albertnaffy7436 4 года назад +51

      I use 1 Peter 5:7 ."leave all your cares to God, he cares for you."
      ..t'has been on my go-to verse when I feel down..

    • @rafabnerify
      @rafabnerify 4 года назад +34

      So true.
      I'm atheist but I will share this bible quote with my friends.

    • @ff38lg19
      @ff38lg19 4 года назад +8

      Amen, Brother

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 4 года назад +816

    *Overthinking* can be a consequence of large information stream, wanting everything to be as we plan but becomes too difficult to control.

  • @peterm2152
    @peterm2152 3 года назад +151

    "It never worked for me.. not because the advice was necessarily bad but rather because I think I had a difficult time
    buying-into-the-whole-stop-doing-this mindset. I guess i don't really believe that you can Stop your thoughts, but rather
    you can learn how to deal with them".
    Wonderfully said Lana.

    • @raularmas317
      @raularmas317 3 года назад +1

      Have you tried meditation? Have you realized that you are not your thoughts? But you can train yourself to become an observer of your thoughts; this is where having a quiet place to meditate is important. As an observer there is no need for you to form thoughts into words. You simply "act" as the observer of all your thoughts for a time without engaging the critical or judgemental part of your mind.

    • @peterm2152
      @peterm2152 3 года назад +1

      @@raularmas317 It is essential that as anyone grows they FORM THEIR CRITICAL IDEAS and views
      Towards that of present and existing authority. Learning basically HOW TO SIFT right from wrong
      better and better.. how to therefore become LESS AND LESS Extreme in one's own education and
      learning so to speak. And I should know just how objectively difficult this is with my own years
      and years of practise.. learning from my own rather uninstructive mistakes and the learning from
      them as such. Yet their is never No Good Reason to "give up" on this going forward.

  • @justme13131
    @justme13131 3 года назад +15

    Everytime i see her...i can relate myself of being introvert, sensitive, overthinking......

  • @Hysterpsy
    @Hysterpsy 4 года назад +2457

    When a woman is not just beautiful, but also intelligent that's more like divine beauty.

    • @kidakazeda9245
      @kidakazeda9245 4 года назад +88

      I agree! The natural embodiment of mother nature in a woman. Intelligence, beautiful, delicate yet strong.

    • @aliciaclark6863
      @aliciaclark6863 4 года назад +29

      Beauty and Brain is so amazing, if she got the behaviour as well she's absolutely a goddess (that's what I think about)

    • @Zhenya1499
      @Zhenya1499 4 года назад +73

      I think you are overthinking

    • @Hysterpsy
      @Hysterpsy 4 года назад +5

      @@Zhenya1499 =)))

    • @xFlared
      @xFlared 4 года назад +40

      I guess I'm one of the few people that find more beauty in innocence, average looks, and ignorance. To me people without corrupted minds who are humble are more attractive. Universally high intelligence doesn't equal to wisdom, and results in hubris. And to me nothing is more offputting than a blindly overconfident person with a tunnel vision. Usually that hubris comes due to several factors. Looks, wealth, or status. Intelligence also doesn't mean "smart". Ability to create an atom bomb or a virus is "intelligent", but it's not attractive.

  • @meganhodory6252
    @meganhodory6252 4 года назад +484

    Part of overthinking comes comes from judging others in ways that we aren’t proud of. Because of that, we assume people do the same to us and try to imagine what their criticisms might be.

    • @intentionalliving7326
      @intentionalliving7326 3 года назад +8

      So true Megan! We would do ourselves such favor if we were to fully address this habit!! My intention this year! 🙏🏻🤗💕

    • @Wellnessandbeautyhaven
      @Wellnessandbeautyhaven 3 года назад +4

      Wow! This is so raw!!

    • @jennas5809
      @jennas5809 3 года назад +7

      Wow... I feel like I just got called out.

    • @sankalp4422
      @sankalp4422 3 года назад +6

      You gave words to my recent realisations about myself. Thanks 🙏

    • @mercedes1988ful
      @mercedes1988ful 2 года назад

      Absolutely

  • @i-landeggie4738
    @i-landeggie4738 4 года назад +16

    She just got me. Whenever I overthink things, I would also google search advices. It’s because I want to understand, learn or justify the thoughts in my head and even emotions. And yes, I also found myself getting just more unproductive and it wasn’t good.

  • @ariella75
    @ariella75 4 года назад +219

    It's crazy how a person you don't even know personally can make you feel so good and realtable.
    You have been a blessing to me.
    I really can't tell you how much it means to have the exact same mindset / overview on life as that of a complete stranger.
    You feel like a friend to me , like someone who I can come to for advice and someone who is not scared to share what's on her mind . Thank you so much for every video you make💗 sending lots of love your way 💗

    • @intentionalliving7326
      @intentionalliving7326 3 года назад +1

      So beautifully expressed Anushka! A few of us feel exactly that way 🤗💕✨

    • @ariella75
      @ariella75 3 года назад +1

      @@intentionalliving7326 😊

    • @askad8094
      @askad8094 3 года назад +1

      Mental chatters and trying to control your environment makes you depressed and anxious

  • @islandboybry
    @islandboybry 4 года назад +590

    Lana is the calmest girl on RUclips

    • @Mina_rzzk
      @Mina_rzzk 3 года назад +3

      check out latte Asmr u wont be that sure anymore

    • @usmileisinfectious1975
      @usmileisinfectious1975 3 года назад +7

      not busy arresting illegal lolicon? 😂

    • @kangkana-fs6dz
      @kangkana-fs6dz 3 года назад +1

      I agree..🙋‍♀️

    • @bjwkusgxjdks
      @bjwkusgxjdks 3 года назад +1

      1000%

    • @CarmelaBianchi
      @CarmelaBianchi 3 года назад +4

      I've had many people tell me I'm calm and they feel calm around me.... but don't be fooled, we are like a duck in a pond. On the surface we look like we are gliding along effortlessly, but underneath the surface we are paddling fast as we can.

  • @adrians.3165
    @adrians.3165 4 года назад +311

    This channel litteraly is my life tutorial

  • @Fukwadk
    @Fukwadk 3 года назад +7

    We overthink things bc of fear, don't let your fear destroy you

  • @psychoexplorer6110
    @psychoexplorer6110 3 года назад +6

    Sometimes we overthink to avoid worse things, like emotions we don't want to feel or traumas. Worry is more bearable than other intensely negative feelings.

  • @ccnvideo347
    @ccnvideo347 4 года назад +885

    Yesterday is history,
    tomorrow is a mystery,
    but today is a gift.
    That's why it's called the present.
    Thus, live each day as if it were your last. ✌🏼

    • @MangaMarjan
      @MangaMarjan 4 года назад +46

      Don't make me cry by quoting that damn turtle!

    • @nathan_drake1237
      @nathan_drake1237 4 года назад +1

      Your right my friend, Could not have said it better...

    • @Alan-kl9vr
      @Alan-kl9vr 4 года назад

      no

    • @qretan3750
      @qretan3750 4 года назад

      You know 'das Gift' means 'poison' in German, so...

    • @hghtdclbns6267
      @hghtdclbns6267 4 года назад +6

      Master shifu

  • @josepha133
    @josepha133 4 года назад +200

    I’m a professional worrier and it’s ruining my life 😞

    • @AmandeepKaurPathania
      @AmandeepKaurPathania 4 года назад +14

      It takes a lot of practice to change the way we think. I hope it gets better for you. I just tell myself that when it is all created in my mind, why not to create good?

    • @danabader218
      @danabader218 3 года назад +4

      A study shows that most thoughts actually negative thoughts..
      The best thing is to keep yourself busy with something.. for me, I read E-books summaries e=on my mobile.I do it even in the bathroom where most of the thoughts attack me.. Also, I don't fo to be unless I am very sleepy so I don't spend my time thinking...

    • @nimamahmoodian5549
      @nimamahmoodian5549 3 года назад

      don't worry

    • @RolemodelU
      @RolemodelU 2 года назад

      O -> a 💪🏻

  • @kennethpalomero8341
    @kennethpalomero8341 3 года назад +2

    0:05. It hit me. A video like this, shows that I'm not alone. It's keeping me sane.

  • @hannahk.7926
    @hannahk.7926 Год назад +4

    I am so glad that I found your channel. It made me realize that I am not alone. I really needed this. Thank you!

  • @MartinGsl
    @MartinGsl 4 года назад +69

    Whenever Lana's notifications pop up, I never overthink the situation. I press play right away.

  • @MichaelBordenaro
    @MichaelBordenaro 4 года назад +11

    Power of Now is the bomb! It helped me stop overthinking things well before I saw this video. Great recommendation Lana!

  • @itsbritneybitch9871
    @itsbritneybitch9871 3 года назад +4

    I have watched a few videos and I never thought I would find someone this identical to me. It makes me feel good that I'm not really weird. I'm me and they are might be people like me too. It's very comforting in a weird way.

  • @ZardoDhieldor
    @ZardoDhieldor 4 года назад +174

    Hmm. I overthink a lot, too. It' paralyzing. In the end, you feel like you'd rather not make a choice at all before you choose the wrong thing. I makes you feel overwhelmed with the responsibility you have for the decisions. It made me feel pretty helpless for a while. Now, I start to be a little more relaxed. I look at all the mistakes I made not with remorse but rather with sorrow. I accept that I cannot take responsibility for everything that goes wrong in my life. That I will make mistakes. And there's really not much I can do. I learned that I should to try to do things right. But I won't always succeed. That's life.

    • @cynthiarosearosian7622
      @cynthiarosearosian7622 4 года назад +3

      I'm also paralyzed when overthinking, but it's different for me. Everyday I wake ip with a positive mindset but so many things happen to me. Today I learnt that my best friend is diagnosed with terminal brain cancer and is scheduled for surgery with 70% failure. Also my other friends have travel to another country permanently and i have no clue what to do with my future. I wanna become a doctor but due to financial reasons, I dont think that I will ever become one. I'm happy that you feel this way now, any tips?

    • @ZardoDhieldor
      @ZardoDhieldor 4 года назад +3

      @@cynthiarosearosian7622 Ooff. I'm sorry about your friend. I've never had anything as drastic happen to my life (well, not since my dad died). Try to stay in contact with your friends who move away. About finding out what to do with your future, that's not easy, either. I haven't really figured it out yet either.
      The way I learned to relax is by making a few big mistakes and noticing that neither could I have done much better with the knowledge I had nor did I have much help. I wouldn't really recommend that. But then again, maybe there's not much you can do to avoid it.
      Don't think to much about what you could have done better. Think about what you will do better the next time. Focus on the future. Mistakes are made. Don't dwell on them too much.
      Concerning what to do? Try out things. Try doing things you do well, try doing things you enjoy. Try finding something that gives you enough money to survive. Not everybody has a dream job. That's ok. Some people find fulfillment in their hobbies or their family instead.
      Lastly, here is some advice from Anthony Hopkins I appreciate: Keep going! Don't let questiond in your head hold you back.
      ruclips.net/video/p3Un_eyuyOI/видео.html
      Anyway these are just the thoughts of a 24-year old. It's not like I have it all figured out. Good luck!

    • @cynthiarosearosian7622
      @cynthiarosearosian7622 4 года назад

      @@ZardoDhieldor I'm sorry about your dad, and thank you for all the support, I'm only 17 so I guess I can change some of my hobbies and create new ones.🙌🙌

    • @couldntfindagoodname9614
      @couldntfindagoodname9614 4 года назад

      Very well said

    • @diananurtlessova9388
      @diananurtlessova9388 2 года назад

      You just described my situation, and what I am trying to teach myself, that I can't always act right/ make right decisions.

  • @martijnspies9998
    @martijnspies9998 4 года назад +141

    Im a chronical overthinker.. Biggest fear is ending and dying alone. Im 33 and still single and everyone around me...yes are married and have children.. sometimes the lonelyness is killing me..☹️

    • @ahlamfarsi7000
      @ahlamfarsi7000 4 года назад +17

      dont lose hope , you will find the right one soon , but give it a chance .

    • @magdap28
      @magdap28 4 года назад +12

      Almost 30, single and back at my parents house. I am feeling so stack in my life right now.

    • @user-mm3hy1ov6c
      @user-mm3hy1ov6c 4 года назад +11

      I'm an overthinker too..
      I'm afraid ill end up alone as well cuz i push people away cuz of my fear of" rejection" or realizing people that I'm not good enough and dump me
      Dont worry if u reach 40 and u haven't found anyone yet u can text me lol

    • @guillem7729
      @guillem7729 4 года назад +3

      When you think to much, when the thoughs overwelm you try to distance the thouhts from you. They are not you. They are always there trying to demoralise you but you must think that they are not you.

    • @Rocketrudevids
      @Rocketrudevids 4 года назад +1

      @@magdap28 where you from?

  • @marinadokunikhina4457
    @marinadokunikhina4457 3 года назад +5

    I'm struggling with overthinking for 3 years already. It even got to the point when I started having panic attacks which is scary as hell. I can't say that I'm over it but a few weeks ago I travelled to another city (that I love) and on one evening walk I just realised that I'm so sick and tired of overthinking and that I stopped "living" and enjoying my life at all. As I returned home I started to be more present (which is hard) and doing some art or meditations. Hope to stay on this track :)

  • @MelissaSigrist
    @MelissaSigrist 4 года назад +5

    I completely relate to the stuck in an unfulfilling job thing, I've been overthinking my past and every decision I ever made for the last few years. Couldn't take it anymore and quit my job.

  • @teddie7845
    @teddie7845 4 года назад +61

    I overthink overthinking....I’m so glad you did a video on this. You are so inspirational 😅

  • @mrcwoodworks4523
    @mrcwoodworks4523 4 года назад +19

    I wish I had a friend that could talk to me like this

  • @tenport1181
    @tenport1181 4 года назад +5

    Why didn't she have millions of subscriber??????she is an 👼 teaching me I'm so focused when she teaches.

  • @hijabthread9271
    @hijabthread9271 3 года назад +6

    I love the way she talks with patience and love. She is mesmerizing.

  • @dudipolonia
    @dudipolonia 4 года назад +218

    I always thought in This world doesn’t exist similar prople to me until i found your channel.Good job :)

    • @i-landeggie4738
      @i-landeggie4738 4 года назад +1

      dudipolonia same..

    • @kevingonzalez284
      @kevingonzalez284 4 года назад +4

      We are beautiful prople.

    • @dianav9574
      @dianav9574 4 года назад

      Damian Dudek same

    • @priscilamenjivar6741
      @priscilamenjivar6741 4 года назад

      Me too! Thanks for the tips. I am a massive over thinker so hopefully this will help 👍

    • @sohinipaul2429
      @sohinipaul2429 3 года назад

      Even, I was overthing what to comment here,
      But writing my heart out .. It's so true, I found some people so much relatable.
      You helped me so much in the process of rebuilding myself through awareness,Lana❤

  • @fj4299
    @fj4299 4 года назад +163

    I don't know why, but I feel like she's speaking to me. Really fit in my situation right now. I wanted to change something in my life, also I kept overthinking what would happen if I do this, if I do that?

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  4 года назад +30

      I hope you found the answers :-)

    • @intentionalliving7326
      @intentionalliving7326 3 года назад +2

      Yes, Lana speaks from the heart 🙏🏻🤗💕

    • @shahinasudheer8404
      @shahinasudheer8404 3 года назад +2

      @@LanaBlakely you make me hopeful lana. I truly loves you

  • @rtamayo004
    @rtamayo004 4 года назад +2

    Here I thought I was the only one feeling similar to how you feel in your various videos, it's nice to know there are others who feel the same. Awesome video!

  • @shakira7301
    @shakira7301 Год назад +13

    Something i love about you is that you said how overthinking is different for everyone. Whenever it's olan overthinking video, i see them leaning towards a certain type of overthinking only. Mine is really a different overthinking, i overthink stuff that are out of my control and not even about myself.

  • @arcaneiconoclast319
    @arcaneiconoclast319 4 года назад +85

    I like listening to your voice , you put me to sleep.

  • @BK-ru9jz
    @BK-ru9jz 4 года назад +30

    So many thoughts in life can make you so ill and bring you down. 'Sometimes you need to leave it to the fate, what destiny and path you are going. Taking one path and striktly keeping that lifestyle, can make your life a living hell.

  • @loveoneanother-yt
    @loveoneanother-yt 3 года назад +6

    The reason. I like watching your videos Lana is that you make me think differently every time I listen. Love that you share your ideas and propel us to think more! God bless

  • @zoealessia755
    @zoealessia755 4 года назад +3

    i find myself in every video you put out. being an introvert isn't easy but your videos help me a lot of times. i really love how you edit and how you use your voiceovers.

  • @LordBarthez
    @LordBarthez 4 года назад +64

    I needed this right now, thanks Lana for being there on RUclips. I feel like RUclips needed this, channel like yours. There comes my life motto for everyone in need reading this - "Life isn't a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced". Have a nice day everybody, much love!

  • @dominikalegrand
    @dominikalegrand 4 года назад +34

    Power of now is my go-to, especially when I feel like I've fallen back to unconsciousness and my anxiety starts to come out. Its a never-ending learning curve, isn't it?

    • @Hafnalck
      @Hafnalck 3 года назад +1

      Power of now, power of now, power of now... i need to keep it in mind... Power. Of. Now. Thank you for sharing this

    • @intentionalliving7326
      @intentionalliving7326 3 года назад

      I also feel that book has so many layers too ✨✨✨
      They show up (I understand them) when I am ready 🤩

  • @panneberry2188
    @panneberry2188 3 года назад +2

    You are so good at speaking out those feeling which is so hard to pick appropriate words to explain. I just watch 2 videos of yours and it made me feel like I have sister who say things that make me have new ideas. So that I know what to do or what to think.

  • @tessnjokie4847
    @tessnjokie4847 4 года назад +5

    I've watched hundreds of thousands of RUclips videos and I feel like you're the most relatable RUclipsr. I just found this channel and am here to stay. Thanks for being you💜

  • @KuncanDastner
    @KuncanDastner 4 года назад +25

    so helpful. You're my hero

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration 4 года назад +34

    This is something I've struggled with, and I think many do. Love the point on being honest with yourself, it's hard, but so important

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  4 года назад +9

      Being able to be honest with yourself is liberating.

  • @anitakatsarska65
    @anitakatsarska65 3 года назад +4

    One of the techniques that has helped me end cycles of overthinking that can last for a few days is telling myself "I am thinking this/that" or "I am feeling that...".
    By putting yourself as the subject and cause of your thoughts, and by taking accountability that it is you who are thinking them, you suddenly realize that they can just come and go, without changing the world or, more imortantly, without being caused by anything that is happening around you.
    Suddenly, you know that there is a high chance nobody else is thinking the same things and that they have not even noticed your insecurities.
    Usually, as soon as I say this to myself, I have a moment of epiphany kinda and I know the worries from the past few days have been foundationless. However, the important thing then is to learn not to beat yourself up for "wasting time" thinking unproductive thoughts. It won't take you anywhere.

  • @daemondif7051
    @daemondif7051 4 года назад +10

    I love your channel, your personality makes me feel calmer, like the world becomes more organized and the anxiety disappears. I think I overthought this lol.

  • @felipebaro-tayahua8756
    @felipebaro-tayahua8756 4 года назад +24

    You need to upload more, I can’t get enough of your videos

  • @nightskycandles1
    @nightskycandles1 4 года назад +4

    seems to me the more insecure my foundation is, the more stress and everything occurs for me.
    ty for your videos.

  • @nandudas1992
    @nandudas1992 4 года назад +2

    There are people who lift you up and Lana Blakely is definitely one of them. Very helpful content. Thanks a lot .

  • @chaseprice3484
    @chaseprice3484 4 года назад +1

    So I’ve stumbled across your channel somehow and all I can say is that it’s helped me tremendously. I’ve been fighting my personal demons for a while now but your channel has helped. Your looks are a 10/10 but the wisdom of your soul and heart is 100/100. Keep being you!

  • @lia8302
    @lia8302 4 года назад +7

    Why is this girl so mentally & physically pretty 🥰 I genuinely love your videos keep it up 👍🏼

  • @mirasakurakee
    @mirasakurakee 4 года назад +9

    Wow sis, u always post videos exactly the time when i need it the most. It's like u can read my mind. Thank you!

  • @awesomemax3330
    @awesomemax3330 3 года назад +1

    I listen to ur videos as my personal emotional tutor guide.Thank u for talking so calm and gentle.I see the benefits of being a person who speaks gently and slowly.Makes friends understand better.Wish u the best Lana

  • @coasterb1
    @coasterb1 4 года назад +2

    Doing something is better than doing nothing at all. I really appreciate hearing that right now.

  • @orianswordsberg7963
    @orianswordsberg7963 4 года назад +8

    Thank you Lana, lately for some unknown reason I have been thinking terrible things. That I will never do. Thank you for this help, you just need to stay calm, and tell yourself your ok

  • @majamierzwinska5543
    @majamierzwinska5543 4 года назад +3

    Such good timing with this video Lana, thank you. In a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions in a time in my life where I am seriously considering making a big change, possibly a step back or step forward, I don't know which one it really is yet, hearing you put it all into words really helped to settle my mind :)

  • @EviLilianCherry
    @EviLilianCherry Год назад

    Lana, watching your videos always has the biggest Power of Now for me. Listening to you brings me to this moment, fully present.

  • @fauzanramadan5024
    @fauzanramadan5024 3 года назад +2

    Your aura is very positive and makes me very calm.

  • @marinaSassygUrl88
    @marinaSassygUrl88 4 года назад +7

    I love you so much Lana you are such a model to me ❤️❤️
    Thanks for helping me so much and many others , it’s like when you upload the video, all my problems are gone . I feel like you are my closest friend yet we never met... I look up to you always . Hope you are in a good health💜💜 forever
    I usually don’t comment even on the RUclipsrs I love, but you just win my heart every time because you give me such strength .

  • @sourabhs14
    @sourabhs14 4 года назад +15

    The way I dealt with overthinking is by wtriting my thoughts, like a diary.

  • @kswr2778
    @kswr2778 Год назад +1

    you look so clear and clean ! it’s great !

  • @NguyenPhuongAnhA-ux6qi
    @NguyenPhuongAnhA-ux6qi 2 года назад

    I'm just feeling so blessed to be here , subscribed to this beautiful woman's channel and start to learn new things about life , relationship , and learn how to understand myself .

  • @abotlekgosiemang4008
    @abotlekgosiemang4008 4 года назад +5

    This is exactly what I needed to hear in my life rn. Thank you 😊

  • @jackariel9580
    @jackariel9580 4 года назад +5

    I came across your channel about a month ago, and wow. It’s crazy to me how every video you’ve made sums up my life, but you provide guidance which is super helpful and I’m slowly progressing myself. Thank you Lana

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  4 года назад +2

      Glad to hear. Thanks Jack!

  • @pebbun3283
    @pebbun3283 2 года назад

    she speaks really smart. the choice of her words are understandable for everyone but also they are the perfect ones to describe the situation.

  • @chbn131_5
    @chbn131_5 3 года назад

    I overthink a lot and for a clumsy person that is as bad as it gets - thank you for putting these worries into some sort of perspective lana - here I am binge watching your videos cause you are one of the few things which makes calm. Please please always know you are amazing. Sending love from my end of the world

  • @matthewentwistle8284
    @matthewentwistle8284 4 года назад +42

    It’s great to have people like you, Lana, who I could easily relate to. I was in denial of my true feelings for this girl for so many months, and what you described sounded very familiar with what I was going through. Please don’t stop making videos. Keep them going!

  • @inthebathroom8319
    @inthebathroom8319 4 года назад +3

    I don't know about over thinking, but I am over watching your videos. Keep this thing going, Lana. This is super, super and super amazing channel.

  • @fancycanuck
    @fancycanuck 3 года назад

    Good stuff Lana. Congratulate yourself for being an excellent speaker. Writing a public comment, knows there’s overthinking.

  • @viviviva7495
    @viviviva7495 Год назад

    thank you so much for this❤ i’ve recently been really struggling with extreme overthinking that has been affecting my mental health a lot. this video however gave me so much amazing tips for coping, i seriously can’t thank you enough!💓

  • @Sheetalc
    @Sheetalc 3 года назад +90

    just subscribed! I love your channel, and cant wait to binge on your videos! ♥

    • @brolone110
      @brolone110 3 года назад +1

      She is really helpful !!

    • @phungdao9184
      @phungdao9184 3 года назад +1

      @Clinton Shaun wtf? lmao

    • @adrianenciso612
      @adrianenciso612 2 года назад

      Honestly I’ve been dreading to watch her videos cause i know how right she’s gonna be about going about emotions, situations and life’s struggles and how to find a solution.
      Particularly from the past two years as not only myself but i am betting that a lot of people across the globe have gone through some kind of mental health struggles and character/personality changes. And seeing the way she expresses her own struggles and weakness or personal issues and how she has somewhat pushed through is aspiring, and also gives some piece of mind that we are not alone in this journey. (Hope i have made sense LMAO )

  • @gem5244
    @gem5244 4 года назад +5

    thank you for giving me confidence, Lana.

  • @PearloftheParticular
    @PearloftheParticular Год назад +1

    You are a heaven sent angel. Thank you so much for your words, you & your channel are such a blessing ❤️

  • @jaydevenadera4448
    @jaydevenadera4448 3 года назад +1

    overthinking brings you to a state of fear that most likely you quit of what you've started doing something, anyway i love the way you explain and seems you have a lot experience about life. thanks for sharing

  • @aneeshgeorge9307
    @aneeshgeorge9307 4 года назад +3

    Lana you are true person that changed my thinking from worst to a postive manner your words helped me expecting more from you😊

  • @mohannedj8099
    @mohannedj8099 4 года назад +6

    I couldn't agree more. I can relate to everything you said in the video because I do struggle sometimes from overthinking, especially when it comes to making decisions about my future.
    I think the reason for that is because I love seeking out logical reasons and analyzing things, so If I couldn't find any valid reason to do something, I would just either leave it or overthink about it until I found a valid reason. However, over the past 3 years, I've been dedicating myself to take actions rather than think about them because I have realized that the amount of time I spend on thinking in comparison to doing is ridiculous. In short, one piece of advice I would give is to focus on productive overthinking because I believe that if overthinking is accompanied by a lack of productivity, it will make you less energized and more anxious.

  • @arulyashwanth5314
    @arulyashwanth5314 3 года назад

    Exactly!! You were right. Journalising ourselves is the best tool to heal ourselves from the chronic pain that we go through in everyday life...

  • @essa1687
    @essa1687 3 года назад

    im so glad I found your vlog, its like finding someone who really understand what I'm going through. thank you so much and I hope your having a nice day, Take care. I wish I could meet and hug you, thank you!!!!!

  • @chondublin
    @chondublin 4 года назад +3

    I'm 52, Irish and I've had 37 different jobs since leaving school in 1985. I was fired only once and enjoyed most jobs, I have also studied at 8 different College's. I'm a electronic musician now and very content where I am in my life. Don't overthink work or leaving a job too much, it gets easier the more you do it so just find and follow your true passion and keep on keeping on. Cheers CHON Dublin!

  • @katrin7057
    @katrin7057 4 года назад +39

    I've been overthinking a lot lately so I can relate so much. Drawing or some other hobbies helps me to deal with it.
    I love your videos ❤️

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  4 года назад +4

      Thanks Katrin

    • @ramramanathan4760
      @ramramanathan4760 3 года назад

      Katrin mam i have a dought

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад +3

      @@ramramanathan4760 How are you now? To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in college, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.

    • @ramramanathan4760
      @ramramanathan4760 2 года назад

      @@shyaaammeneen63 thank you❤😊 mam...

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад +2

      @@ramramanathan4760 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Read my msg and do the practice regularly. Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.

  • @thescream1868
    @thescream1868 4 года назад +1

    you are a wise young lady. Your parents should be very proud of you. Your messages are truly helpful to many.

  • @entenglishnewspapertrainer6421
    @entenglishnewspapertrainer6421 3 года назад

    how gradually she is delivering her message. I am being a fan of her. true beauty has no limit

  • @timpiper7943
    @timpiper7943 4 года назад +8

    Wow, you blew me away by alot of emotional feelings that I never spoke about but always thought about and you just threw it out there. It was almost a little scary, 43 years old and you just made me felt like a kid, lol. Going to need a little time to really absorb this and process.

  • @hard2kill16
    @hard2kill16 4 года назад +9

    Yaay another vid!! I was actually overthinking when Lana would came with a new video!

  • @coolmike4441
    @coolmike4441 4 года назад

    I catch myself over thinking most of the time , this video helped me to realize that it’s not good to overthink. I realized that I have to grow as an individual and leave my job that I’ve been with for seven years and find something more fulfilling. Thank you

  • @hopehu9585
    @hopehu9585 3 года назад

    I'm reading The Power of Now and I'm struggling with the postgraduate offer choice these days. I feel like I'm stuck in the hole and this video just shows up on my RUclips home page. Thanks a lot!

  • @sosaalejandro5536
    @sosaalejandro5536 4 года назад +21

    Beautiful mind.

  • @trancesoul3323
    @trancesoul3323 4 года назад +4

    Googling things like how do I stop over thinking 💭 so me.. Um so glad ppl like me exist.

  • @KhoaTran-dl7sc
    @KhoaTran-dl7sc 3 года назад

    Thank again Lana. I'm also like you, but now you are free, I'm still on my way to get out. ...i was trying so hard to fit in the world , and the thinking world, it's a long run to get back to the true self.
    Wish you always happy, thank for sharing...

  • @huynhthanhthao9628
    @huynhthanhthao9628 Год назад

    this is the first time I have visitted your channel and your voice attracts me so much. I love the way you tell your story

  • @personalfinance9045
    @personalfinance9045 3 года назад +4

    We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, we can simply try to make the best decision with the information we have at hand, and hope for the best! Lana, if you're reading this, I want you to know that you're my favorite RUclipsr!

  • @Aethereal666
    @Aethereal666 4 года назад +3

    New Subscriber as of today. Some of your videos have really made me look at my current situation in a new light. I have been self evaluating and coming to some of the conclusions you bring up in past videos. This one really resonates with me. It's one of the reasons I need a change in my life, overthinking. You can get to the point of no return by listening to your unproductive thinking, as you put it in this video. Becoming a new and improved, more positive, person is much harder with negative thoughts in the back of your mind.
    The Power of Now is going to be the next book I get from audible, for sure. Thank you, for these insightful videos. I never thought I would want to join a book club, but this seems like the perfect time to start something new.

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  4 года назад +1

      Thank you. Would love to have you in the book club. :-)

  • @abdelhadihajraoui4309
    @abdelhadihajraoui4309 3 года назад +1

    WOW, your language is perfect and your sentences are so clear and easy to understand. There is a lot of value in this video, thank you so much for your effort, and keep going you're wonderful

  • @victoriaadeniji2050
    @victoriaadeniji2050 3 года назад

    I really enjoyed this video. It gave me a better idea how to process through overthinking as a new mom. I’m enjoying life more when I work through these thoughts rather than avoiding them.

  • @loneswan3728
    @loneswan3728 4 года назад +3

    This was in my recommendations today .. just saw my toxic ex today after years. Been through hell because of that person. I would've fallen into that shit hole of anxiety and depression all over again. Thank you universe for always taking care of us 💫💜

  • @hard2kill16
    @hard2kill16 4 года назад +6

    Start the morning with grounding yourself it will lessen the overthinking and also think about the present moment because that's all there is, easier said than done.

  • @Julianaayad023
    @Julianaayad023 3 года назад +1

    I can't stop watching your videos. You're truly amazing

  • @anthonycastro2146
    @anthonycastro2146 4 года назад +1

    Im always in awe of her beauty.