I just broke up with a guy because I was so frustrated trying to make him realize that he needed to do certain things. I was incredibly frustrated, but I told my dad about this, and he supported me wholeheartedly, saying, "Yeah, you did the right thing! If you want someone to treat you like a queen, there's nothing wrong with that because you deserve it." So girls, embrace your femininity, and you'll be surprised how your relationship is going to flourish. Also, remember that you're the prize that he can have.❤
Me watching this as a guy because I want to learn what princess treatment actually is and treat my girl like a princess Edit: our relationship is going very healthy so far as she treats me the same or maybe even better than I treat her so thank you for the video also today is our 1 year anniversary 🥳🥳
To me it's about generosity and details. Be attentive to what she wants and needs and try your best to cover it (emotionally and, depending on you and the girl mindset, financially, if you want and/or can). HOWEVER, relationships are work of two, so make sure the girl you choose reciprocates your actions with the equivalent interest and care for you. If she DEMANDS certain treatment without putting effort on her side or she just wants to take from you, red flag, run. Entitlement is not the same as knowing your worth. And there are sooo many toxic people out there
@@spagooter1807 No, you clearly didn't understand. It's not a one-sided relationship. It's a healthy relationship that each member is having a role. Women are better in some things and men in some others by nature. Trust me, if the roles are switched (I talk from a personal experience), it's gonna become toxic cuz the woman will not feel good and she will keep arguing all the time. If the man is not in his masculine, he will not try to fix the issue, so you're stuck in a toxic relationship where nobody is happy and fulfilled.
Queens don't attract 'simps' to my understanding who are 'yes guys'. They attract men who also have boundaries and know their worth and still love treating their partners as Queens
@@adammitry6011 kings aren't online trying to tell women What to think lmao thats low beta male behavior stay in your lane . No one cares here what you think . Boy bye
I think attraction is attraction. Sometimes you can get princess treatment from someone but that doesn’t mean he’s the right person. If you don’t have any chemistry mentally or physically its not gonna last long
I agree with the pink and blue job. I went out and beyond (due to lack of support in my relationship) and I failed to be in my feminine energy. And it cost my sanity at the end of the day. I had to be both feminine and masculine in the relationship and I was so tired. You are 100% right on this, I just learned this in a hard way.
idk how but your content has been aligning so much with what I need to hear recently! the money manifestation and dream body one are so good! this one? as always, like a big sister who spits straight facts and advice that every girl NEEDS to hear! thank you for creating content for us!
Nimeshaa, your content is straight fire! I love how you keep it so real and inspire me to be my best self. You're queen, and don't you forget it! Keep slaying,girl. I love you sm 🤍😚
For getting the queen treatment you need to be queen first! And a queen know her worth❤ She can lead, she can love, she can fight , she can protect she can nurture 🌻
My previous relationship was similar with yours. I đi all things, i fixed and resolved all issues. I earned money much more than him and responsible our finance. He became a baby boy and i was mother. It was so bad and as how it is, i was divored. In the very long time i was the man not princess and now im healing and reset my mind. Thanks for sharing. I wil cultivate more your lessons from now ❤
I would love to see a video from you about managing a long distance relationship during school. I'm struggling with balancing my relationship and my education, and I know you would have some amazing tips to share. Also, how do you deal with a partner who seems too busy to make time for you? I could use some advice on that too 😭
hey, you know, maybe its just not the right person for you if they cant make time for you & you cant spend quality time. it could just be a mismatch (& no, this is not a netflix series where the mismatch leads to a perfect partner, not always) we have love languages, if yours is quality time & your partner isnt able to provide it for you. talk to him first, & if you two arent able to establish a common ground, its not the right time for you two to be with each other & thats okay. just because someone loves you, doesnt make them "the one" for you. just consider it once & talk to him if you're still dealing with the same issue
I just desagree about the part that If you can't pay for things yourself, then he will think of you as " poor little thing" and cheat. Well, If he thinks and acts that way, he's a predator. People will cheat If their character and morals call to it, regardless of their partners income.
I love you Nimeshaa❤️ Your content really helps me as I have often been struggling with low self esteem and prone to backstabbing, really pulls down my spirits. I'am really grateful to you.
I proposed , and now I am getting the princess treatment too , a queen is not just a dressed up doll , she has to be a warrior to hold that throne , so you can also get the queen treatment if you take the lead , it's just about not taking disrespect, and you will be respected, it's so simple .
I disagree with the statement that we should be able to buy ourselves things we want . Nope ! Coming from poverty or middle class background and average jobs doesn’t mean you cannot deserve big things . What about ronaldos wife ? Men can cheat even if you are wealthy and you can still be at the receiving end of the stick being independent. Then why even seek princess treatment if you are so well off from a man ! It’s the mindset that gets you things you want . I understand the education and giving urself bare minimum stuff yourself but if I want a Gucci bag and I cannot give it to myself doesn’t mean I cannot expect from my partner
After listening to this vid i feel that yes that's why I got the gifts... Thank you to my mom for making me feminine woman Thank you so to the vid and the Admin for reminding me my standards
Sister you should make video on codependent and people pleasing persons cz most people are struggling with this.They always survive for living their life.Hope You'll keep my request.
Heyy nimesha!!Can you make a video on how to balance both masculine and feminine energy when it comes to work and relationships..(love your videos soo much❤)
Nimesha pls try to make a video on 'how to be a friendly person' like how to connect with people in our surrounding,let wherever we go,etc. Pls consider this❤😊
Now I know why I never treated like A queen. I always go to 50/50. I always done my things by myself. Im always in masculine era🙂. Ok then..I never get queen treatment in my lifetime. i will treat me like a queen 😂
Slayyyyy 💅 basically I get what she meant, like king should lead or guide his queen, for example a man is the head of the family which who lead, u feel me... Anyways amazing vid 👏
I feel insecure because I don’t have much to say. I just like being there with him. He is so much more successful than me and I feel he is more educated. I’m just a cat loaf that loves to eat and cuddle. I’m transitioning into having my own business, but it’s literally starting from the beginning stages of setting the foundation. How is this guy calling me when I don’t even have opinions on the things of the world? I’m stoic, feminine, and pursing business in nail art.
My ex was so femenine. He wanted to cook and clean house . When I tried to cook he didn’t eat my food. And he wanted me to work overtime while he was just relaxing working an easy relax schedule job . And he wanted me to pay for most of our dates . NEVER AGAIN!
I agree! but my husband doesn’t want to be in manly every or do anything… and Doesn’t know how to fix things or do home improvement, and he was raised to not lift a finger. He makes decisions without me like I don’t exist. He complains even that putting the new water bottle in the cooler is too hard, so I have to do it. He won’t even open the car door for me. I’d like to have a more feminine role but I’m already doing all the physical labor in the house, it doesn’t feel like a Queen, but like a servant :)
Used to watch u 2 years ago but somewhere between I don't know i didn't found a spark in your videos. And hence stopped watching it. But now it's near about a month and I have been binge watching ur videos. And hence for "me" welcome for the comeback Nimeshaaaaa💕🥺
how to end a toxic relationship, im tired… not happy anymore, everyday fighting, its 3 time, when I give myself a chance to find a good man, and again,😢 disappointment. my fiancé doesn't respect me, I think it's because of bad treatment already i don't love him. I thought he would be the one after earlier failed attempts but I was wrong again.. I don't believe in love anymore.. 💔
Even when God created Adam and Eve, he gave Adam the duty to name the animals , he never told women to do anything.. and after they sinned he cursed Adam with work.. not the woman.. 🤷♂️
I agree with everything you said , but I still wish you talk more to men to treat women better I mean what if you treat yourself like a princess but you still get treated bad , men have to be men again
Ive asked the men i wanted to date to make official that i want that old school romance, i want the chocolate, flowers, gentleman etiquette and absolutely I work hard and go to college I have money so I always tell him, if you choose to not treat me the way I want, its not a lot and its not expensive to surprise ur woman once in a while with a little 5$ bouquet or take the time to wrap some chocolate or write a little letter and you cant do that for me then they are OUT!!! Im lucky I had an amazing dad who treated me like this every bday every vday and never i argue with him cause he always treated me right. And any man that would try to debate my intentions for asking for something so minimal, i told them that if i end up having to show you what a date looks like or what being romanced is like FIRST, give him flowers and pay for the date make him feel spoiled I told him ...i was like ur going to look like a damn fool im warning you know right now and normally they have a double take and want to challenge it by doing it first. lol so yea
That’s def something that comes from men, if he’s masculine enough he will lead and you don’t even have to think about a thing ot to throw the trash or do anything . Men decide the rules not us. I didn’t decide to be feminine or receive princess treatment he tought me all of that honestly
Hey, I just enjoy watching your videos, you talk so confidently n ur points are acceptable. Keep it up dear. Please tell when you upload your videos and how often?
What do we do when the man be it dad or partner does not or refuse to be masculine and we end up taking that role on survival basis? I feel most women in masculine energy is bcos the man just doesn't wanna be masculine though he may be a provider and thats the maximum.
@@kb8511 And they will never change or rather gaslight and abuse you when you call them out or express your bottled up emotions. Either way it’s our loss only.
I hope you read this comment, so i wanted to tell you that my ex came back in my life, he is trying to be friends and talk and we have talked a bit and cleared some past issues, but he likes me although he is in a 4 yr rltnship with someone else but he can't brkup bcz of family and so many other issues , he wants to brkup bcz the girl is very dominant and disrespects him for being middle class but i like him too, and if they brkup , our rltnship would work, but this time i really want to be the prize, but it is visible that i am being the second option but the thing is that it is his compulsion to be with her, also he said to one of my cousin that i am his dream girl, i am the type of girl he wants not the other girl with whom he is with and most of the stuff you said in the 4th point and also the example you shared when you were dominant that other girl is also like that and they are in same situation adn the boy says that there rltnship won't work but because he can't brkup with her he says that we can be friends.. i am not at all able to understand what do i do and how do i do ?
I just broke up with a guy because I was so frustrated trying to make him realize that he needed to do certain things. I was incredibly frustrated, but I told my dad about this, and he supported me wholeheartedly, saying, "Yeah, you did the right thing! If you want someone to treat you like a queen, there's nothing wrong with that because you deserve it." So girls, embrace your femininity, and you'll be surprised how your relationship is going to flourish. Also, remember that you're the prize that he can have.❤
Your dad is a king 😍
my dad could never😭 I agree with your (and his) statement though
Without men there is only single life. You are not the 💰 a mans greatest asset is his character.
If Fatima is getting treated like this we all should
Me watching this as a guy because I want to learn what princess treatment actually is and treat my girl like a princess
Edit: our relationship is going very healthy so far as she treats me the same or maybe even better than I treat her so thank you for the video also today is our 1 year anniversary 🥳🥳
To me it's about generosity and details. Be attentive to what she wants and needs and try your best to cover it (emotionally and, depending on you and the girl mindset, financially, if you want and/or can). HOWEVER, relationships are work of two, so make sure the girl you choose reciprocates your actions with the equivalent interest and care for you. If she DEMANDS certain treatment without putting effort on her side or she just wants to take from you, red flag, run. Entitlement is not the same as knowing your worth. And there are sooo many toxic people out there
There are still wonderful men,out there
@@spagooter1807 No, you clearly didn't understand. It's not a one-sided relationship. It's a healthy relationship that each member is having a role. Women are better in some things and men in some others by nature. Trust me, if the roles are switched (I talk from a personal experience), it's gonna become toxic cuz the woman will not feel good and she will keep arguing all the time. If the man is not in his masculine, he will not try to fix the issue, so you're stuck in a toxic relationship where nobody is happy and fulfilled.
Just be her atm machine and be her arrande boy
I love to see men like this are still out there
The way she is showing right paths for many girls who's parents are working and they are not taught all these she is helping alot ❤
"QUEENS DO NOT CHASE PEASANTS"
~NIMESHAA 2023
Love that,slay queeeennnn
Kings don't simp for women.
Queens don't attract 'simps' to my understanding who are 'yes guys'. They attract men who also have boundaries and know their worth and still love treating their partners as Queens
@@adammitry6011 kings aren't online trying to tell women What to think lmao thats low beta male behavior stay in your lane . No one cares here what you think . Boy bye
🐱🐈 MIAUW. Absolutely right.
my boyfriend literally treats me like a queen ✨he's succha green flag, imma still watch the video bcuz I loveee watching you💗
So happy for you ❤️
❤🧿
Its not going to be easy but its going to be worth it.
I think attraction is attraction. Sometimes you can get princess treatment from someone but that doesn’t mean he’s the right person. If you don’t have any chemistry mentally or physically its not gonna last long
A very realistic comment
I’m assuming she means from a man you actually have interest in
I agree with the pink and blue job. I went out and beyond (due to lack of support in my relationship) and I failed to be in my feminine energy. And it cost my sanity at the end of the day. I had to be both feminine and masculine in the relationship and I was so tired. You are 100% right on this, I just learned this in a hard way.
Not all men will give you princess treatment even if you do everything of what she said you should pick the right man for that
I got mah bestfriend
idk how but your content has been aligning so much with what I need to hear recently! the money manifestation and dream body one are so good! this one? as always, like a big sister who spits straight facts and advice that every girl NEEDS to hear! thank you for creating content for us!
Her trying to improve us all? Yesss respect to u queen ❤
make a video on how to treat yourself as a princess
Absolutely, I do all the time. 😊
Nimeshaa, your content is straight fire!
I love how you keep it so real and inspire me to be my best self. You're queen, and don't you forget it!
Keep slaying,girl. I love you sm 🤍😚
For getting the queen treatment you need to be queen first! And a queen know her worth❤
She can lead, she can love, she can fight , she can protect she can nurture 🌻
you're so underrated?? bc wizardliz and tam kaur but youuu???? so goood >>>
My previous relationship was similar with yours. I đi all things, i fixed and resolved all issues. I earned money much more than him and responsible our finance. He became a baby boy and i was mother. It was so bad and as how it is, i was divored. In the very long time i was the man not princess and now im healing and reset my mind. Thanks for sharing. I wil cultivate more your lessons from now ❤
Can we appreciate her facial expressions ❤
I would love to see a video from you about managing a long distance relationship during school. I'm struggling with balancing my relationship and my education, and I know you would have some amazing tips to share. Also, how do you deal with a partner who seems too busy to make time for you? I could use some advice on that too 😭
Me too
I can't wait for this video. it's exactly what I need rn.
Yes,Nimeshaa pweaseee ❤
will need this in the future lol
hey, you know, maybe its just not the right person for you if they cant make time for you & you cant spend quality time. it could just be a mismatch (& no, this is not a netflix series where the mismatch leads to a perfect partner, not always) we have love languages, if yours is quality time & your partner isnt able to provide it for you. talk to him first, & if you two arent able to establish a common ground, its not the right time for you two to be with each other & thats okay. just because someone loves you, doesnt make them "the one" for you. just consider it once & talk to him if you're still dealing with the same issue
Cannot relate enough girl!!! I was the man in the relationship. Luckily now I date only masculine men. It's really nice to feel a woman again.
This girl is just magnetic❤❤❤
I just desagree about the part that If you can't pay for things yourself, then he will think of you as " poor little thing" and cheat. Well, If he thinks and acts that way, he's a predator. People will cheat If their character and morals call to it, regardless of their partners income.
I know most of the women would be triggered but she is spitting pure facts
If you want a 10 hour long video I'll definitely enjoy as always you're videos are like therapy
Daily dose of Nimesha 💆♀️💕
I love you Nimeshaa❤️ Your content really helps me as I have often been struggling with low self esteem and prone to backstabbing, really pulls down my spirits. I'am really grateful to you.
I nobody's princess but I going to create my own Queendom❤❤
Before a queen, I'm a wildflower first 🌻✨
Thank you nimesha,pls always come up with more lifesaving contents.
Slay queen❤
Congratulations that you got the man who has masculinity.
Wow! Wish I knew this 20 years ago. I achieved envying I have by being very self sufficient and being in my masculine energy.
I proposed , and now I am getting the princess treatment too , a queen is not just a dressed up doll , she has to be a warrior to hold that throne , so you can also get the queen treatment if you take the lead , it's just about not taking disrespect, and you will be respected, it's so simple .
I disagree. Masculine energy leads, not feminine energy
Agreed
Facts @@Padel78
I disagree with the statement that we should be able to buy ourselves things we want . Nope ! Coming from poverty or middle class background and average jobs doesn’t mean you cannot deserve big things .
What about ronaldos wife ?
Men can cheat even if you are wealthy and you can still be at the receiving end of the stick being independent.
Then why even seek princess treatment if you are so well off from a man !
It’s the mindset that gets you things you want .
I understand the education and giving urself bare minimum stuff yourself but if I want a Gucci bag and I cannot give it to myself doesn’t mean I cannot expect from my partner
After listening to this vid i feel that yes that's why I got the gifts...
Thank you to my mom for making me feminine woman
Thank you so to the vid and the Admin for reminding me my standards
Sister you should make video on codependent and people pleasing persons cz most people are struggling with this.They always survive for living their life.Hope You'll keep my request.
Watching your videos became a part of my daily routines ❤
Nimesha, I don’t know if this comment will reach you but trust me,,,,,, you have became like my elder sister 🥺
This is taking women 10000 before in history
GIRL THANK YOU SO MUCHHH
Heyy nimesha!!Can you make a video on how to balance both masculine and feminine energy when it comes to work and relationships..(love your videos soo much❤)
u are underrated
Your words ❤❤❤
"How to manifest specific person" could you please make a video on it ?
This queen is changing my life. Thankyou so much I love you queen 👸👑❤
Queeeeennnnnnnnnn 👑🏆
Youuu go gurllll!👀🖤
This just came in at the perfect time
Your straight forward nature is best...you help girls to be Queen not narcissist❤❤❤
Love ur words❤
Thank you ❤️
When i realize my feminine era, i always treat by his Queen and i am more comfortable and clam
Nimesha pls try to make a video on 'how to be a friendly person' like how to connect with people in our surrounding,let wherever we go,etc.
Pls consider this❤😊
Now I know why I never treated like A queen. I always go to 50/50. I always done my things by myself. Im always in masculine era🙂. Ok then..I never get queen treatment in my lifetime. i will treat me like a queen 😂
Mommy i really needed this, it really means alot to me!! I’ll do the same as you said:)
Hey nimeshaa please make a video on how to deal with long distance relationship
yes....
like my parents.
my mom would do the grocery shopping and my dad would bring them in the house.
I think you are sick or tired, take care ❤❤ your contact is very powerful 😉
Period sis💕 thank you for this amazing video.
Thank you for being magic ⭐️ you deserve it and happy for u! ❤
Slayyyyy 💅 basically I get what she meant, like king should lead or guide his queen, for example a man is the head of the family which who lead, u feel me...
Anyways amazing vid 👏
I love this high value woman content, keep inspiring nimesha ❤❤❤
I feel insecure because I don’t have much to say. I just like being there with him. He is so much more successful than me and I feel he is more educated. I’m just a cat loaf that loves to eat and cuddle. I’m transitioning into having my own business, but it’s literally starting from the beginning stages of setting the foundation. How is this guy calling me when I don’t even have opinions on the things of the world? I’m stoic, feminine, and pursing business in nail art.
Nimeshkaa i am super happy for you your face glow shows how much you are blessed about your partner ❤
I really love this video. This is so truthful. I really needed to hear this. Thank You 😊
My ex was so femenine. He wanted to cook and clean house . When I tried to cook he didn’t eat my food. And he wanted me to work overtime while he was just relaxing working an easy relax schedule job . And he wanted me to pay for most of our dates .
NEVER AGAIN!
girl how did you get that man.
"Queens" are because of that often Single
I agree! but my husband doesn’t want to be in manly every or do anything… and Doesn’t know how to fix things or do home improvement, and he was raised to not lift a finger. He makes decisions without me like I don’t exist. He complains even that putting the new water bottle in the cooler is too hard, so I have to do it. He won’t even open the car door for me. I’d like to have a more feminine role but I’m already doing all the physical labor in the house, it doesn’t feel like a Queen, but like a servant :)
Stop treating him like a king and start treating him like a servant .
Used to watch u 2 years ago but somewhere between I don't know i didn't found a spark in your videos. And hence stopped watching it. But now it's near about a month and I have been binge watching ur videos. And hence for "me" welcome for the comeback Nimeshaaaaa💕🥺
Welcome to my channel ❤️ hope you enjoy my content 😂💪🏽
5:30 I agree. It's so embarrassing if a woman proposes 😭
Watching your full video and agree with your all point.its help me alot thank you ❤
You are On fire ...
how to end a toxic relationship, im tired… not happy anymore, everyday fighting, its 3 time, when I give myself a chance to find a good man, and again,😢 disappointment.
my fiancé doesn't respect me, I think it's because of bad treatment already
i don't love him. I thought he would be the one after earlier failed attempts but I was wrong again.. I don't believe in love anymore.. 💔
U look gorgeous. Thanks for the video 💜
Even when God created Adam and Eve, he gave Adam the duty to name the animals , he never told women to do anything.. and after they sinned he cursed Adam with work.. not the woman.. 🤷♂️
Hi nimesha can you make a video on "How to have friends and still be mysterious"
Too good, needed to watch this video
I agree with everything you said , but I still wish you talk more to men to treat women better I mean what if you treat yourself like a princess but you still get treated bad , men have to be men again
im trying to achieve my feminine side because my masculine side is making me tired
Ive asked the men i wanted to date to make official that i want that old school romance, i want the chocolate, flowers, gentleman etiquette and absolutely I work hard and go to college I have money so I always tell him, if you choose to not treat me the way I want, its not a lot and its not expensive to surprise ur woman once in a while with a little 5$ bouquet or take the time to wrap some chocolate or write a little letter and you cant do that for me then they are OUT!!! Im lucky I had an amazing dad who treated me like this every bday every vday and never i argue with him cause he always treated me right. And any man that would try to debate my intentions for asking for something so minimal, i told them that if i end up having to show you what a date looks like or what being romanced is like FIRST, give him flowers and pay for the date make him feel spoiled I told him ...i was like ur going to look like a damn fool im warning you know right now and normally they have a double take and want to challenge it by doing it first. lol so yea
That’s def something that comes from men, if he’s masculine enough he will lead and you don’t even have to think about a thing ot to throw the trash or do anything . Men decide the rules not us. I didn’t decide to be feminine or receive princess treatment he tought me all of that honestly
Believe you don’t “let him” be dominant 🤣
Hey, I just enjoy watching your videos, you talk so confidently n ur points are acceptable. Keep it up dear.
Please tell when you upload your videos and how often?
I’ve been acting like a man for so long that I’ve forgotten how to act like a lady. 😢
Adding one more thing: Weak men won't give loyalty , respect even if that's the only thing you need
QUEEN 👸❤🙌
🥺❤️
I can relate myself with you. Your words helps me a lot.😌
What do we do when the man be it dad or partner does not or refuse to be masculine and we end up taking that role on survival basis? I feel most women in masculine energy is bcos the man just doesn't wanna be masculine though he may be a provider and thats the maximum.
Exactly! I need to always step up because a lot of these men in my life don’t do the masculine things they are supposed to do.
@@kb8511 And they will never change or rather gaslight and abuse you when you call them out or express your bottled up emotions. Either way it’s our loss only.
Dear yt, why tf u kept her acc hidden from me , she is such a gem godddddd thankyou for coming on my fyp 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
We gotta be friends!!!!
Weeeeeellllllllll..... Firrrrrst......... Woop!!! Wooop!!! 🦋🦋
Oh my god! I love thisssss womennnnnnnnnn 👀♥️
Love your vids❤
you're SO pretty omg. love xoxo.. from another brown girl from Jamaica
Our saviour ♥️. Lots of love big sis
Can you make a video on online dating while long distance relationship?
i love what she said, and agree🧡🧡🧡
I wish I saw this video 20 years ago
I love ur vids they are so helpful.💗
allright darling keep cooking 😂
Keep these content coming girl!!!!! 💞💞
Hey how you healed your feminine energy!?
I always love your video Nemi!!! Keep up the good work
Exactly ❤luv ur energy nimisha❤
Thank you for sharing. I learned a lot.
You a real princess and a queen Nimeshaaaa
I hope you read this comment, so i wanted to tell you that my ex came back in my life, he is trying to be friends and talk and we have talked a bit and cleared some past issues, but he likes me although he is in a 4 yr rltnship with someone else but he can't brkup bcz of family and so many other issues , he wants to brkup bcz the girl is very dominant and disrespects him for being middle class but i like him too, and if they brkup , our rltnship would work, but this time i really want to be the prize, but it is visible that i am being the second option but the thing is that it is his compulsion to be with her, also he said to one of my cousin that i am his dream girl, i am the type of girl he wants not the other girl with whom he is with and most of the stuff you said in the 4th point and also the example you shared when you were dominant that other girl is also like that and they are in same situation adn the boy says that there rltnship won't work but because he can't brkup with her he says that we can be friends.. i am not at all able to understand what do i do and how do i do ?