I have a 58-year-old failure to launch brother that I've inherited property with. Talk about a living nightmare. My mom absolutely ruined him by allowing him to do absolutely nothing.
I don't know enough about your situation (family culture, social culture, etc.) to give you specific advice, but I can tell you one thing: the only person you can control is yourself, which means you can choose calmness and maturity. You can choose to show love for someone, even if they are choosing not to show it to you. You can decide that you aren't going to continue with the same behaviors that you're surrounded with if they don't match what you feel is best for you and your family. You can choose to improve yourself by deliberately learning skills and principles that will help you become a better, more well-rounded person. There are lots of options, even if it seems like there aren't. This option that I offer for free has been a huge blessing for many people, whether they have children or not: teachingselfgovernment.com/calm-parenting-toolkit/ I hope that helps some!
Oh Nicoleen, please can i send my 18 year old to you? She is giving us such a hard time. I feel like a terrible Mom, with a 3 year old, 6 year old and running the admin of my husband's 3 businesses.
I think she should emphasize more that the relationship with the parent has a bigger impact on them developing purpose. They don’t develop it on their own successfully without a healthy relationship to the caregiver
My older brother has been unable to launch out and has become disrespectful to us all, destructive to the home environment and brought much heartache to my parents over the years. He's intelligent and an engineer but hasn't worked in over 10 years and has no social life. The patents are now elderly and even though my mother enabled mych of his behaviour we can't blame and point fingers anymore cos she's old and has dementia. How can we as siblings help prevent his continuing decline and further destruction to the family home? We're all in our 50s, my mother is 84 and my father is no more.
I have a 58-year-old failure to launch brother that I've inherited property with. Talk about a living nightmare. My mom absolutely ruined him by allowing him to do absolutely nothing.
I don't know enough about your situation (family culture, social culture, etc.) to give you specific advice, but I can tell you one thing: the only person you can control is yourself, which means you can choose calmness and maturity. You can choose to show love for someone, even if they are choosing not to show it to you. You can decide that you aren't going to continue with the same behaviors that you're surrounded with if they don't match what you feel is best for you and your family. You can choose to improve yourself by deliberately learning skills and principles that will help you become a better, more well-rounded person. There are lots of options, even if it seems like there aren't. This option that I offer for free has been a huge blessing for many people, whether they have children or not:
teachingselfgovernment.com/calm-parenting-toolkit/
I hope that helps some!
The look she gives when she says “they have to know somebody who has purpose” and then goes “So hopefully that’s you” cracked me up😂
Sometimes I watch my videos and think the same thing. :)
Thank you this is a great video. We tend to get very lazy in the every day.
Agreed. You're very welcome!
Thank you. This was very helpful. 🙂
Glad it was helpful!
Pure genius!
Sorry for the late response. I'm glad you found this video helpful!
Thanks you so much nicholee
Great video! Thank you!
Oh Nicoleen, please can i send my 18 year old to you? She is giving us such a hard time. I feel like a terrible Mom, with a 3 year old, 6 year old and running the admin of my husband's 3 businesses.
Thank you for your work 🙏
Sorry for the late response! You're most welcome!
I think she should emphasize more that the relationship with the parent has a bigger impact on them developing purpose. They don’t develop it on their own successfully without a healthy relationship to the caregiver
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
My older brother has been unable to launch out and has become disrespectful to us all, destructive to the home environment and brought much heartache to my parents over the years. He's intelligent and an engineer but hasn't worked in over 10 years and has no social life. The patents are now elderly and even though my mother enabled mych of his behaviour we can't blame and point fingers anymore cos she's old and has dementia. How can we as siblings help prevent his continuing decline and further destruction to the family home? We're all in our 50s, my mother is 84 and my father is no more.