I'm a mentor and I see this really bad with young women. The Good girls are not experienced with personalities, often also 🙅TIRED OF MANY GUYS IN THEIR FACES EVERY WHERE THEY GO, they feel insecure and a tough guy is like street security but she values him more and does to much and HIS SAFETY FOR HER IN LIFE, ON THE STREET, also he turns out to be CONTROLLING, hands on, parole officer, blocking her from family and any freedom BECAUSE HE'S💪🏾 FEELING POWERFUL sadly he's really weak! Once he's got her trained, he's now AFRAID HE WON'T FIND THIS KNOWING SHE'S REALLY GREAT BUT ALSO DOWN FOR THE BS AND CONTROLLABLE.... 👉🏾He becomes really dangerous UNTIL HE'S CHECKED BY SOMEONE he feels is powerful ( 🤳🏽he will dismiss her mom, dad, siblings, her friend ECT) it will be Popo, courts, or girl in a family DIFFERENT CULTURE, or crime before he wakes up. // On the flip alot of great young men raised well, givers, maybe his first or the ideal I have a girl esp if Introvert or she's built and the fellas were cheering him on as he persued OR IN BOTH CASES many yp don't want to hear I told you so.... 🤦🏽♀️Really nice men younger and older end up with THE WORSE women, especially if not mature and psychology background, get stuck if children and they have 18-20 yrs of drama and pain.🙋🏽♀️ PEOPLE PLEASE NOTE BE YOU'RE BEST, TAKE YOUR TIME, LEARN WATCH OBSERVE PEOPLE, ASK SUCCESSFUL OLDER COUPLES AND HAPPY BROTHERS AND SISTERS 24/7 WHAT WORKS...🗣️. FIND YOUR MATCH.... Way to many good people caught up when other great people looking for you 👀THE VILLAGE NEEDS THERAPY & PROTECTION, young people don't give yours away when people can see what you can't DON'T BE SNEAKY OR EARS👂🏾 PLUGGED, 🤚🏽you 👈🏽👈🏿👈🏻👈 will be the one unhappy, stresses and you're👣 children, lineage will suffer SO WILL SOCIETY! 👥
I'm trying to understand how this is because everywhere you turn you hear qomen talking about hiw there are no good neb out here. Yall cant have it both ways.
Everthing comes back to lack of respect and care towards the opposite sex. Men and women need to polishup on their personalities and come from a place of care not selfishness.
Sometimes, there genuinely is a person in your life that is like no other person in your life. As to whether a person who is not good for the other person, this kind of thing really depends on the situation between the couple who are the one's living their truth. I have family who don't fully understand my situation and therefore, their point of view is going to reflect a different perspective than that of what is reality.
Lmao when this man speaks to women men are like he panders to women. When he speak to men, men are like "women too 😑" 😂 damn if you do damn if you don't
@phenitagomes1292 Yeah you're right. Bottom line is there's good and bad people out there and it's up to each individual to figure out which is which. 💁♀️
Preach preach preach my brother. Be comfortable in our own skin and never sell yourself short. Don't let nobody put you in a box... I've been down that road if I'm being honest with myself. Now that I'm older experienced in life. I love myself, l love my wife (going on 17 yrs) and we both learn from each other and look forward in continuing the growth with each other
I was in a 9 year relationship with an amazing guy, he took a business offer which moved him to another state. Once we separated he became very permiscuous. Later he met a woman he thought was the one for him the relationship became physically abusive he stayed in that relationship because of the year's and time invested. Thinking he wouldn't find anyone else. Now he's healing from the toxic relationship. We recently reconnected there is a lot of healing he has to go through.
We also need to stop saying women are left by their child’s fathers. I’ve seen more women leaving men because we are tired. Men are irresponsible and aren’t capable of taking care of their families. Most of us can’t see the point in having men because most don’t add to her but subtract by stressing her out. She’d rather do it on her own because she’s doing everything anyway. She’s working. Rearing children. Paying bills. Fixing the house. She might as well leave.
Why is it that so many women feel a man should not speak about or criticize anything they do. He is giving you a man's point of view, but you don't want to hear it. Then you say you don't understand men.
My two best friends are completely blinded. One dropped out of college and is now struggling to build his wealth after his now wife has controlled and tried to change him. The other is now a polarized political drone. He has become a narcissist and is essentially her servant to the point where he closed out his friends and family and is living in her world but lost himself
You are very good. You shine the light on things most of us don't have a clue is an issue. For me, you just confirm and make me more determined to wait on God to send who he has for me because I know he will not send any of the issues you are addressing to me. I'm beginning to be very content in waiting. It's been too long, or has it?? God knows all. Thank you for being obedient to God.
Don’t all people in love think that to one degree or another? I’m sure there is an extreme situation where there may be some abuse such that the abuser might say that they will never find someone like them again. On the other hand, anyone that thinks they have found “the one” for them is going to think they will never find anybody like them again.
😀😀😀 MY SISSY DAUGHTER AND NIECE AND I TALKED ABOUT MEN AND HOW THEY DONT WANNA LOSE THAT WOMAN THAT JUST AINT NO GOOD FOR HIM BUT HE SOOO IN LUV AND SHE GOTTEM WRAPPED AROUND HIER FINGER SHE SAY JUMP HE WANNA KNOW HOW HIGH BLINDED BY LUST NOT LUV 😅😅😅😂😂😂😂🙏🙏 POOR THANG. 🙏🙏🙏 SMDH😊😊😊
The paradox of choice, aka scarcity of options 50-100 years ago, is exactly why more people were married than now. NOT having a scarcity mindset makes both men and women DRAG their feet and remain single. 😂
And that why no matter how much you love her, as a man you never ever ever ever fear to lose a woman. Once you understand they're plenty of her out there, a part of you get the fact that's it's HER behavior that needs to keep the relationship NOT you deciding to stay despite the BS. Acception BS is call fearing the unknown and being weak minded. You will only have access to wife material women once you decide to refuse bad behavior coming from the one you want to call your GF, ONLY then will you be able to identify them.
Is the scarcity mindset automatic...Naturally evolved... Or is it created from the words implanted by the other person (e.g. YOU AIN'T GONNA FIND NOBODY ELSE LIKE ME... THAT DO "THIS" LIKE ME... THAT DO "THAT" LIKE ME.... PUT UP WITH YOUR _____ LIKE ME)?
That light skin the same one that prefers a younger woman with limited life experience because they are “more impressionable”. He sounded and looked like a foolish predator. Lol he doesn’t match Stephens mentality. How’d they end up on the same clip?🙄
But not having a "healthy" scarcity mindset can backfire. I have had more than 3 exes in my lifetime that repeatedly tried to come back to me. And what they all seemed to have in common as I'm hearing them out is: They were in their egos at the time, and thought they would find another me. They couldn't...so they tried to circle back around.
I don't want to be disrespectful but I have to completely disagree. I think this is a much deeper women's issue. Not to say that it doesn't happen to men at all, but I definitely feel like this is far more common in women.
Bullshit, I'm a female, I don't give a damn if I can find it again, if my man I was to separate, I don't want it anymore. I don't have the time to be trying to learn someone, build trust and all that. Nor being around my children..😂
Ladies, please stop saying "it happens to women too". Why can't you let men discuss these things without you being included? This discussion is for men to better themselves.
some of us women should be scarred too. These time let dudes and Gals find out and get to know who she or he really are now ,. And know that some people do Change just be cause you know something about another that may have , happen way back when ever or while someone is together ,. So the gossiping because some may not be telling the truth about another too oh I heard this and or maybe you know for sure a problem or wrong with. The same with a man some of us can tell a lot about another as time goes on too
That aint true sometimes that woman can be his karma or what he did to other people he gives his Beat. You don't know everything someone else did to someone else?.
Doesn’t that same mindset affects women as well?
I have heard many women say the same thing.
I'm a mentor and I see this really bad with young women. The Good girls are not experienced with personalities, often also 🙅TIRED OF MANY GUYS IN THEIR FACES EVERY WHERE THEY GO, they feel insecure and a tough guy is like street security but she values him more and does to much and HIS SAFETY FOR HER IN LIFE, ON THE STREET, also he turns out to be CONTROLLING, hands on, parole officer, blocking her from family and any freedom BECAUSE HE'S💪🏾 FEELING POWERFUL sadly he's really weak! Once he's got her trained, he's now AFRAID HE WON'T FIND THIS KNOWING SHE'S REALLY GREAT BUT ALSO DOWN FOR THE BS AND CONTROLLABLE.... 👉🏾He becomes really dangerous UNTIL HE'S CHECKED BY SOMEONE he feels is powerful ( 🤳🏽he will dismiss her mom, dad, siblings, her friend ECT) it will be Popo, courts, or girl in a family DIFFERENT CULTURE, or crime before he wakes up. // On the flip alot of great young men raised well, givers, maybe his first or the ideal I have a girl esp if Introvert or she's built and the fellas were cheering him on as he persued OR IN BOTH CASES many yp don't want to hear I told you so.... 🤦🏽♀️Really nice men younger and older end up with THE WORSE women, especially if not mature and psychology background, get stuck if children and they have 18-20 yrs of drama and pain.🙋🏽♀️ PEOPLE PLEASE NOTE BE YOU'RE BEST, TAKE YOUR TIME, LEARN WATCH OBSERVE PEOPLE, ASK SUCCESSFUL OLDER COUPLES AND HAPPY BROTHERS AND SISTERS 24/7 WHAT WORKS...🗣️. FIND YOUR MATCH.... Way to many good people caught up when other great people looking for you 👀THE VILLAGE NEEDS THERAPY & PROTECTION, young people don't give yours away when people can see what you can't DON'T BE SNEAKY OR EARS👂🏾 PLUGGED, 🤚🏽you 👈🏽👈🏿👈🏻👈 will be the one unhappy, stresses and you're👣 children, lineage will suffer SO WILL SOCIETY! 👥
Yep.
Definitely 👍🏽
@@tory198511 are you crazy you got social media 😂 Mr. Right is one swipe away
It definitely affects women as well. I’ve put those blinders on in the past, unfortunately.
We need a mindset that speaks clear and loud to our purpose when forming partnership 🙏🏾💕....above the surface traits
Exactly 💯 percent! R.C. Blakes is great at addressing this exact point. I like his RUclips videos also
@@nogreaterlove-ox1do ❤❤
I actually think women struggle with this more than men
I'm trying to understand how this is because everywhere you turn you hear qomen talking about hiw there are no good neb out here. Yall cant have it both ways.
If he breaks the heart of a good women...he won't find it again..
Everthing comes back to lack of respect and care towards the opposite sex. Men and women need to polishup on their personalities and come from a place of care not selfishness.
And ladies too!!
Sometimes, there genuinely is a person in your life that is like no other person in your life. As to whether a person who is not good for the other person, this kind of thing really depends on the situation between the couple who are the one's living their truth. I have family who don't fully understand my situation and therefore, their point of view is going to reflect a different perspective than that of what is reality.
Right thanks for bringing some reality into this.
Was waiting to find someone that says this…what if you let go and there will be no other like them…
@@ellesaa8290 I won't let go of this one. Him and his son mean too much for me to lose them. He is my eternity.
✨💕💘✨🕊
Usually happens to men who were out to trick someone and pretend to be what they are not. Undeserving in the first place. False confidence.
That true my brother what a sad broken 💔 world
Some Guys should actually think that:: because they loose awesome women
Finally, talking to men like he should have the whole time! ❤
women too. we are more alike than different
And this is a men and women issue ❤
Women go love blind. You can't tell us nothing.
SETTLING FOR NASTY GIRLS OR TAKING WHATEVER COMES ALONG IS SUCH A TURNOFF!
Women do the same thing so men are not alone in this. 😑
Lmao when this man speaks to women men are like he panders to women. When he speak to men, men are like "women too 😑" 😂 damn if you do damn if you don't
@phenitagomes1292
Yeah you're right. Bottom line is there's good and bad people out there and it's up to each individual to figure out which is which. 💁♀️
I gained the most confidence when my ex told me I would never find another man like him. It was after that, that I was able to leave him. 🎉😂❤
I'm that homeboy and it messes me up
That happens to women as well, lol 😅
That mindset affects women even more than men.
Nah both this is scarcity mindset if you are irreplaceable
Hear that ladies don’t think u can’t find better don’t have blinders on or be in so in love that u can’t walk away
It also Happens to women
Preach preach preach my brother. Be comfortable in our own skin and never sell yourself short. Don't let nobody put you in a box... I've been down that road if I'm being honest with myself. Now that I'm older experienced in life. I love myself, l love my wife (going on 17 yrs) and we both learn from each other and look forward in continuing the growth with each other
I was in a 9 year relationship with an amazing guy, he took a business offer which moved him to another state. Once we separated he became very permiscuous. Later he met a woman he thought was the one for him the relationship became physically abusive he stayed in that relationship because of the year's and time invested. Thinking he wouldn't find anyone else. Now he's healing from the toxic relationship. We recently reconnected there is a lot of healing he has to go through.
This is a red flag 🚩 leave him alone
@@AyeJye you should mind your own business. What about you? You’re moving like you have no red flags.
We also need to stop saying women are left by their child’s fathers. I’ve seen more women leaving men because we are tired. Men are irresponsible and aren’t capable of taking care of their families. Most of us can’t see the point in having men because most don’t add to her but subtract by stressing her out. She’d rather do it on her own because she’s doing everything anyway. She’s working. Rearing children. Paying bills. Fixing the house. She might as well leave.
Why is it that so many women feel a man should not speak about or criticize anything they do. He is giving you a man's point of view, but you don't want to hear it. Then you say you don't understand men.
I also fall into that mindset as a woman
Self-centered
My two best friends are completely blinded. One dropped out of college and is now struggling to build his wealth after his now wife has controlled and tried to change him. The other is now a polarized political drone. He has become a narcissist and is essentially her servant to the point where he closed out his friends and family and is living in her world but lost himself
It works the other way, too
Self-centered
He isn't lying.
Young women too!!
You are very good. You shine the light on things most of us don't have a clue is an issue. For me, you just confirm and make me more determined to wait on God to send who he has for me because I know he will not send any of the issues you are addressing to me. I'm beginning to be very content in waiting. It's been too long, or has it?? God knows all. Thank you for being obedient to God.
This applies to both sides!
That mindset messes women up too. I am an example.
This is true of women too.
Don’t all people in love think that to one degree or another? I’m sure there is an extreme situation where there may be some abuse such that the abuser might say that they will never find someone like them again. On the other hand, anyone that thinks they have found “the one” for them is going to think they will never find anybody like them again.
😀😀😀 MY SISSY DAUGHTER AND NIECE AND I TALKED ABOUT MEN AND HOW THEY DONT WANNA LOSE THAT WOMAN THAT JUST AINT NO GOOD FOR HIM BUT HE SOOO IN LUV AND SHE GOTTEM WRAPPED AROUND HIER FINGER SHE SAY JUMP HE WANNA KNOW HOW HIGH BLINDED BY LUST NOT LUV 😅😅😅😂😂😂😂🙏🙏 POOR THANG. 🙏🙏🙏 SMDH😊😊😊
Same for women.
TRUTH!!
You know though.... you won't. Every single human IS unique. Yes , can you find someone similar > yes. The same, No.
Sometimes the man is more scared for the person than himself especially when you know the person have a lot of shortcomings
The same with women too
It happens to us women too
Yes sir. Cause we're not her.......
The paradox of choice, aka scarcity of options 50-100 years ago, is exactly why more people were married than now. NOT having a scarcity mindset makes both men and women DRAG their feet and remain single. 😂
We're all lazy now cause I've been sing le so long
I even met someone but I'm so lazy to even go see him 😂
But I am 58
And that why no matter how much you love her, as a man you never ever ever ever fear to lose a woman. Once you understand they're plenty of her out there, a part of you get the fact that's it's HER behavior that needs to keep the relationship NOT you deciding to stay despite the BS.
Acception BS is call fearing the unknown and being weak minded. You will only have access to wife material women once you decide to refuse bad behavior coming from the one you want to call your GF, ONLY then will you be able to identify them.
Is the scarcity mindset automatic...Naturally evolved... Or is it created from the words implanted by the other person (e.g. YOU AIN'T GONNA FIND NOBODY ELSE LIKE ME... THAT DO "THIS" LIKE ME... THAT DO "THAT" LIKE ME.... PUT UP WITH YOUR _____ LIKE ME)?
True
Goes both wayzzz😑
So a person thinks, so they are. Watch your thoughts yeah. You're too powerful. But if you don't realize it .....
That light skin the same one that prefers a younger woman with limited life experience because they are “more impressionable”. He sounded and looked like a foolish predator. Lol he doesn’t match Stephens mentality. How’d they end up on the same clip?🙄
That scarcity also funnels over into their lives as well.
And vice versa ❤
True ❤🙏🏽
ll I need one like that...cause wtf they at
The feelings are mutual in women
But not having a "healthy" scarcity mindset can backfire. I have had more than 3 exes in my lifetime that repeatedly tried to come back to me. And what they all seemed to have in common as I'm hearing them out is: They were in their egos at the time, and thought they would find another me. They couldn't...so they tried to circle back around.
I don't want to be disrespectful but I have to completely disagree. I think this is a much deeper women's issue. Not
to say that it doesn't happen to men at all, but I definitely feel like this is far more common in women.
Yes indeed
Bullshit, I'm a female, I don't give a damn if I can find it again, if my man I was to separate, I don't want it anymore. I don't have the time to be trying to learn someone, build trust and all that. Nor being around my children..😂
This applies to both Men and Women EVERYDAY 🤷🏽♀️
Women also- I’m guilty.
Women as well and it be nothing smh
So true
This is a fact
And women
It don’t mess a lot of dudes up. He don’t have one statistic and never has the numbers . I wish I could talk to him.
Ladies, please stop saying "it happens to women too". Why can't you let men discuss these things without you being included? This discussion is for men to better themselves.
This Video is called "be aware of men with a scarcity mindset." Do you think it is only for men with this title? I dont think so
Yes, this is vice versa. However, he is speaking from the perspective of a man.
His hairline is equivalent to those girls that do the thick baby hairs down close to the eyebrows 📐
Its both ways
What about the women who like 'BAD BOYS'
So true.
Looks are duplicated the world over. Find them.
Don’t feel too bad bro, he’s been there before.
Women do the same thing.
some of us women should be scarred too. These time let dudes and Gals find out and get to know who she or he really are now ,. And know that some people do Change just be cause you know something about another that may have , happen way back when ever or while someone is together ,. So the gossiping because some may not be telling the truth about another too oh I heard this and or maybe you know for sure a problem or wrong with. The same with a man some of us can tell a lot about another as time goes on too
Some are made for one another too
There is a backstory to that, that man has been mistreated so many times he is permanently damaged and is trying to be grateful
Lol, scarcity...you bruh its crazy
How do I get past it?
Lol I pray 🙏 I don't find bullshit like that again 😅
What's the full talk/interview of this clip? Love to watch the whole thing
Reallynow? I hear guys saying that they can snap their fingers and chics will come running. And I say snap, snap BYE
Interesting ❤
It's a human thing
Amen 🙏 so so true bro 😎
❤❤
I know she ain't my level but I feel she was my lost younger self
don’t save her she don’t wanna be saved
He talking to weak men. He taking to 5% of men.
a dime a dozen.
Maybe the scarcity mindset isn’t so bad. The men are better lovers and committed. The opposite creates players. Not good for the man or anyone else.
That aint true sometimes that woman can be his karma or what he did to other people he gives his Beat. You don't know everything someone else did to someone else?.
so what we are born with a Cinderella mindset
Simping
Not just men lol
Please don't refer to women as "chicks". Really?
Thats what happened to Johnny Depp