My whole life I’ve put others first and myself last putting their feelings before my own for fear of hurting feelings and just wanting to make others happy😕it’s tired me out sooo much but even now I feel bad if I say no to something or even speak my feelings if it’s not what others want to hear🙏🏼I wish I was different as have so many regrets. Anyone reading this please take on this advice because you deserve to be happy and putting yourself first does not make you selfish only stronger and more confident and people will respect you for making your own choices🙏🏻🌸💕
Thank you for this comment. I’m sitting here alone at home today because I have COVID-19 and feeling guilty about not being able to be there for my family on Christmas.
@@user11mc I’m sorry you’re feeling this way it’s not nice and especially if your feeling unwell and still feel guilty😞you’ll know what I mean when I say it tires you out feeling this way” thinking of others before your your own well being🌸take this time alone and try to change your thought pattern😌build your strength and let yourself realise if people really care about you they’ll be happy for you when they realise your strength and self confidence has grown🙏🏻be kind to yourself and remember if you don’t put yourself first🤷🏻♀️who will? And you deserve to live a peaceful happy life just as anyone else. Take care and get well fast. Love and best wishes to you💕🌸
Thank you Chandra for validating ME! I too struggle all the time with always worrying about someone else's feelings and not my own! Then I get depression and horrible anxiety! Do others like me struggle with very bad anxiety?
@@user11mc I spent Christmas day completely alone too! Not because of covid ( I'm praying that you get well soon!) Or because I don't have family. I just could not do Christmas this year! I'm so glad I listened to myself and stayed alone! Don't feel any guilt....you did nothing wrong! I pray you are well by now! God bless you!
I have codependency. I am an empath and i found out this thing really hold me from become my best version. This traits of codependency appeared very clear after i was in love with narcs and attract toxic people. I am working on my inner self and my childhood trauma. This is the root. Journal ur self with ur trauma and work on it. Identify ur trauma response.. to break the chain of this toxic pattern.
Thank you, I have been dealing with these feelings for years more so the past 5 months. I really needed to hear i wasn't being selfish and I don't have to give details when I say no.
I am an empath and have had traits of codependency going on for years in my relationships. This is a great explanation of how to overcome codependency and gives practical tips which are to the point. I am looking forward to incorporating this from now. Thank you
I enjoyed this video it really broke down what is needed to not be codependent with my S/O and for so long I looked outwards for acceptance and validation it’s time I choose me !!
I just lost an amazing girlfriend because of my codependency and past trauma. It is time to work on myself and face my problems and be honest with myself.
Hi! Thanks you for sharing this tips! I wish I could have heard them (and be open to understand them) when I was younger, stronger and mentally healthier. It's wonderful to understand ourselves and the ways things turn out in our lives. To put an order in all of that it's completely different... One needs the stamina that is no longer there or the dispair of who has nothing to lose, which normally leads to inappropriate and precipitate decisions... I wish you all a wonderful, normal and healthier 2021!
No kidding...to that! I find it mostly hard, but I don't know any other way to be. Sometimes I hate it and other times it is the most comfortable and comforting feeling ever....do you feel that too? I'm trying so hard to get insight from everyone else who gets this thing!! 💜
I don't feel like I depend on anybody so to speak when it comes to verifying my worth. I do have an extreme problem though just touching base with people. If I've texted someone and they haven't returned my text and then others behave the same way I go into panic mode. I guess I do depend on others to acknowledge my existence. I guess in a way it makes me feel loved but I really push hard on people I love to at least let me know they're reading my text and responding with at least a hello. I do require respect which I think makes people run away. I feel like I do enough for them the least they could do is acknowledge me. And when they don't oh hell break loose. One of my shadow sides I need to fix
I'm always posting something from your page on my Facebook because I really believe and I know because I've experienced it myself, what you post helps with clarity to those who don't understand or I sure of how they feel or what you're feeling and what you're doing if that makes sense thank you
In my life I am very very codependent about my feelings on my girlfriend. And it is making my life more sad and complicated I cried for hours and hours for only little reason of her they make me sad and depressed and I am fully codependent on her but I will try to overcome on this
I'm just not able to be in a relationship with someone who has so many problems and needs so much help, I need to focus hard on myself and in the result of telling them I can't do it I was the one who was selfish and pushed away. She doesn't even want to be friends.
frameing this in “he, him, himself” standard excludes women- when we are listening we are automatically imagining ourselves in these situations trying to heal- if you limit the language to a gender (male) it restricts the instinctual images that our brains create to relate to the content. For example you say him now I start relating the content to my ex without realizing why, when I’m trying to think of myself. It’s especially worse for your woman viewers with codep cuz it isn’t codep friendly- since it’s hard to think of ourselves in the first place and we are always thinking of others before ourselves.
Empath is just a term used by people with cptsd. It’s to do with how you appropriate others feelings in place of the ability to acknowledge, understand and accept your own. Allow yourself to heal
The doctor and taking meds. How did THAT get in there? That sounds like giving away your power!!! I’d like to add drinking lots of pure water is extremely important when talking about self care.
Ive been so detached that i cannot care about anything. I cant ever recall trying to please anyone . I hate dishonest people so much so i cannot just let them live without making sure their lie is exposed. Evan if it does know good for anyone. If i think you wrong im gonna tell you why i think this and i. My experience mist people dont appreciate this
It's very kind of you to care about Empaths' health. But, a real Empath has already discerned long ago when the time in their lives would finally be for just themselves, living alone, and loving it. Resting now and being thankful to ourselves for the gift of foresight. MERRY CHRISTMAS! 🥳🙏🎄👐💖✌️😷😁👍
Oh ...you ..will get there..it took me sometime to do so as well...look there's something's in life you cannot change and that's people...especially full grown adults who for whatever reasons ..refuse to take Responsability for themselves..call it moochers, leachers, whatever...until they change their own minds, hearts, & ATTITUDES towards life..Nothing will change..and it's 20yrs.later..forget it....🌞🔥⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰🔥🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞....MOVE ON!!...
Being an empath is different from being empathetic. Being empathetic is when your heart goes out to someone else. Being an empath means you can actually feel another person’s happiness or sadness in your own body. In empaths, the brain’s mirror neuron system - a specialized group of cells that are responsible for compassion- is thought to be hyperactive. As a result, empaths can absorb other people’s energies (both positive and negative) into their own bodies. At times it may even be difficult to tell if you are feeling your own emotions or someone else’s. In this video, we talk about how to break the chain on attracting energies that take and instead be with energy that gives. While Narcissists are always on the hunt for something they are never going to find. They pretend to be someone else to ensnare the victim with deception, lies, pretending to feel one way, when they feel the complete opposite. A Narcissist should not be trusted and are often toxic with an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others feelings, an inability to handle any criticism and a sense of entitlement. I used to think that love could cure anything but it only fed my narc's enormous ego. It is important to be wise when dealing with a narcissist and I’m glad that cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone. I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share his phone number with Cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone through a remote link to a programmed App containing cloned cell information. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m finally going through divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his deleted and recent chats on Whatsapp,Facebook,Skype,Twitter and Instagram. Hacker Gavin also helped me in checking if my phone number is being hacked and he secured all my numbers from unauthorized access with a very powerful encryption software. You can contact this great hacker “Gavin” through his email cyberhackinggenius@gmail. com and WhatsApp: +19256795146 and thank me later.
The suggestions in this video aren’t limited to any particular type. I actually don’t know of any codependent that is any kind of empath. Codependents cannot be empaths until they’ve gotten their recovery well worked out. Codependency is, like a narcissist, a controlling individual that gets their ego boosted by this covert prideful belief that they are long suffering martyrs. Begin by recognizing that, humbling yourself and accepting that you are no martyr or empath. We are all human and we are all damaged. We can’t fix a problem if we don’t first recognize that we have one. Let go of the “empath” 💩 and humble yourself to your brokenness.
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My whole life I’ve put others first and myself last putting their feelings before my own for fear of hurting feelings and just wanting to make others happy😕it’s tired me out sooo much but even now I feel bad if I say no to something or even speak my feelings if it’s not what others want to hear🙏🏼I wish I was different as have so many regrets. Anyone reading this please take on this advice because you deserve to be happy and putting yourself first does not make you selfish only stronger and more confident and people will respect you for making your own choices🙏🏻🌸💕
Thank you for this comment. I’m sitting here alone at home today because I have COVID-19 and feeling guilty about not being able to be there for my family on Christmas.
@@user11mc
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way it’s not nice and especially if your feeling unwell and still feel guilty😞you’ll know what I mean when I say it tires you out feeling this way” thinking of others before your your own well being🌸take this time alone and try to change your thought pattern😌build your strength and let yourself realise if people really care about you they’ll be happy for you when they realise your strength and self confidence has grown🙏🏻be kind to yourself and remember if you don’t put yourself first🤷🏻♀️who will? And you deserve to live a peaceful happy life just as anyone else. Take care and get well fast. Love and best wishes to you💕🌸
Thank you Chandra for validating ME! I too struggle all the time with always worrying about someone else's feelings and not my own! Then I get depression and horrible anxiety! Do others like me struggle with very bad anxiety?
@@user11mc I spent Christmas day completely alone too! Not because of covid ( I'm praying that you get well soon!) Or because I don't have family. I just could not do Christmas this year! I'm so glad I listened to myself and stayed alone! Don't feel any guilt....you did nothing wrong!
I pray you are well by now! God bless you!
Hello, can i talk to you?? Im so down rn and i just want to talk with someone who can really understand me :((
I have codependency. I am an empath and i found out this thing really hold me from become my best version. This traits of codependency appeared very clear after i was in love with narcs and attract toxic people. I am working on my inner self and my childhood trauma. This is the root. Journal ur self with ur trauma and work on it. Identify ur trauma response.. to break the chain of this toxic pattern.
Same
Relationships with fake people are an illusion.
Thank you, I have been dealing with these feelings for years more so the past 5 months. I really needed to hear i wasn't being selfish and I don't have to give details when I say no.
I am an empath and have had traits of codependency going on for years in my relationships. This is a great explanation of how to overcome codependency and gives practical tips which are to the point. I am looking forward to incorporating this from now. Thank you
You’ve got this my friend. I love you very much.
Merry Christmas 🕯🕯🕯🕯🐾🐾😻🕯🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄
I LOVE this video! WOW...it spoke right to my heart and SOUL! It described me exactly!!
Oh dam i’m codependent this is why I am almost 39 and never married and no kids I don’t know how to change
right bro
I'm 43 and in the same boat. Don't freak out just work towards change and take it one day at a time. Selfcare is key!
I enjoyed this video it really broke down what is needed to not be codependent with my S/O and for so long I looked outwards for acceptance and validation it’s time I choose me !!
Very good message
Sounds familiar. Basicly shadow work and self love. Nothing I disagree with :)
I just lost an amazing girlfriend because of my codependency and past trauma. It is time to work on myself and face my problems and be honest with myself.
Was she really that great or are you better off without her? Just wondering.
It’s been a while. How did this go for you?
Hi!
Thanks you for sharing this tips!
I wish I could have heard them (and be open to understand them) when I was younger, stronger and mentally healthier.
It's wonderful to understand ourselves and the ways things turn out in our lives.
To put an order in all of that it's completely different...
One needs the stamina that is no longer there or the dispair of who has nothing to lose, which normally leads to inappropriate and precipitate decisions...
I wish you all a wonderful, normal and healthier 2021!
really concise and to the point. i enjoyed it, thank you.
Thank you for being here for us, Life. As a Empath is “GREAT” & hard!!!!
No kidding...to that! I find it mostly hard, but I don't know any other way to be. Sometimes I hate it and other times it is the most comfortable and comforting feeling ever....do you feel that too? I'm trying so hard to get insight from everyone else who gets this thing!! 💜
Yes true
yes bro
right
Merry Christmas Empaths Refuge. Thanks for all the great vids and support xo
Happy holidays, keep moving forward as one.
Love always and forever,
Hope Love
My therapist show me this video. 😃👍🏼 Is approved by a professional therapist. Thank You for a great video. Excellent information. It really helped me.
Practical and to the pt thumbs up thx
Very good. I am codependent. I was.
I don't feel like I depend on anybody so to speak when it comes to verifying my worth. I do have an extreme problem though just touching base with people. If I've texted someone and they haven't returned my text and then others behave the same way I go into panic mode. I guess I do depend on others to acknowledge my existence. I guess in a way it makes me feel loved but I really push hard on people I love to at least let me know they're reading my text and responding with at least a hello. I do require respect which I think makes people run away. I feel like I do enough for them the least they could do is acknowledge me. And when they don't oh hell break loose. One of my shadow sides I need to fix
I'm always posting something from your page on my Facebook because I really believe and I know because I've experienced it myself, what you post helps with clarity to those who don't understand or I sure of how they feel or what you're feeling and what you're doing if that makes sense thank you
In my life I am very very codependent about my feelings on my girlfriend. And it is making my life more sad and complicated I cried for hours and hours for only little reason of her they make me sad and depressed and I am fully codependent on her but I will try to overcome on this
right bro
Iam more on 4 and 5
And yet i would always feel
bad when i cannot do much to help my friends.
🎄🎁🍷Merry Christmas🎄thank you for this video, it is good to know, than not know, stay safe and kind to self and people. 🍷🍹☕🎄
Thank you so much for this :')
I am thoroughly codependent with my dogs. I don't think I can ever change this particular trait.
I'm just not able to be in a relationship with someone who has so many problems and needs so much help, I need to focus hard on myself and in the result of telling them I can't do it I was the one who was selfish and pushed away. She doesn't even want to be friends.
Awesome straight to the point ❤
frameing this in “he, him, himself” standard excludes women- when we are listening we are automatically imagining ourselves in these situations trying to heal- if you limit the language to a gender (male) it restricts the instinctual images that our brains create to relate to the content. For example you say him now I start relating the content to my ex without realizing why, when I’m trying to think of myself. It’s especially worse for your woman viewers with codep cuz it isn’t codep friendly- since it’s hard to think of ourselves in the first place and we are always thinking of others before ourselves.
Empath is just a term used by people with cptsd. It’s to do with how you appropriate others feelings in place of the ability to acknowledge, understand and accept your own. Allow yourself to heal
The doctor and taking meds. How did THAT get in there? That sounds like giving away your power!!! I’d like to add drinking lots of pure water is extremely important when talking about self care.
Really !!!! That’s a mess up thing to express when throw in an unpleasant situation by yours truly
This was really great ❤️
The irony of “but first, click the Like button” 😂
Thanks man 👍
Thank you!
Ive been so detached that i cannot care about anything. I cant ever recall trying to please anyone . I hate dishonest people so much so i cannot just let them live without making sure their lie is exposed. Evan if it does know good for anyone. If i think you wrong im gonna tell you why i think this and i. My experience mist people dont appreciate this
Spot On! Thank you 🙏
Very good.
I have no dependence problem I have lived alone for the past 20 years and wouldnt have it any other way
Interesting and informative
It's very kind of you to care about Empaths' health. But, a real Empath has already discerned long ago when the time in their lives would finally be for just themselves, living alone, and loving it. Resting now and being thankful to ourselves for the gift of foresight.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
🥳🙏🎄👐💖✌️😷😁👍
Oh ...you ..will get there..it took me sometime to do so as well...look there's something's in life you cannot change and that's people...especially full grown adults who for whatever reasons ..refuse to take Responsability for themselves..call it moochers, leachers, whatever...until they change their own minds, hearts, & ATTITUDES towards life..Nothing will change..and it's 20yrs.later..forget it....🌞🔥⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰⏰🔥🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞....MOVE ON!!...
Being an empath is different from being empathetic. Being empathetic is when your heart goes out to someone else. Being an empath means you can actually feel another person’s happiness or sadness in your own body. In empaths, the brain’s mirror neuron system - a specialized group of cells that are responsible for compassion- is thought to be hyperactive. As a result, empaths can absorb other people’s energies (both positive and negative) into their own bodies. At times it may even be difficult to tell if you are feeling your own emotions or someone else’s. In this video, we talk about how to break the chain on attracting energies that take and instead be with energy that gives. While Narcissists are always on the hunt for something they are never going to find. They pretend to be someone else to ensnare the victim with deception, lies, pretending to feel one way, when they feel the complete opposite. A Narcissist should not be trusted and are often toxic with an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others feelings, an inability to handle any criticism and a sense of entitlement. I used to think that love could cure anything but it only fed my narc's enormous ego. It is important to be wise when dealing with a narcissist and I’m glad that cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone. I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share his phone number with Cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone through a remote link to a programmed App containing cloned cell information. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m finally going through divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his deleted and recent chats on Whatsapp,Facebook,Skype,Twitter and Instagram. Hacker Gavin also helped me in checking if my phone number is being hacked and he secured all my numbers from unauthorized access with a very powerful encryption software. You can contact this great hacker “Gavin” through his email cyberhackinggenius@gmail. com and WhatsApp: +19256795146 and thank me later.
Empathy huh thing I always put out but almost never get back?
Self love is the first step to overcome dependency and co-dependency:
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The suggestions in this video aren’t limited to any particular type. I actually don’t know of any codependent that is any kind of empath.
Codependents cannot be empaths until they’ve gotten their recovery well worked out.
Codependency is, like a narcissist, a controlling individual that gets their ego boosted by this covert prideful belief that they are long suffering martyrs.
Begin by recognizing that, humbling yourself and accepting that you are no martyr or empath. We are all human and we are all damaged. We can’t fix a problem if we don’t first recognize that we have one.
Let go of the “empath” 💩 and humble yourself to your brokenness.
Get some hobbies that goes a long way to enjoying time alone and not depending on others
So Nice 💘💘💘💘💘💘
👍
Do this by not giving anyone free will. Nobody has free will except for you
No offense, but are these steps, suggested from a professional standpoint? If so, by who?
Is this an AI voice?
👍🏼
Good. I wait for love from you 💝💖
Lol
😢😢😢😢😢
Thus
I'll be full filled when god starts doing what he says until then he is just a liar and I'm stupid for believing!!??
Woow woow 😍💋 💝💖❤️
Computer talking.😒
Oh yeah. Do you love me? 😍💋 💝💖❤️
13:43 I love that. Do you love me? 😍💋 💝💖❤️
Going to a doctor and taking medication??? Please,,, anyone who is listening to this garbage???? Think for yourself, ok?
azap ..Until the coming of Jesus I'm your leader...I am the expected savior in the scriptures...There are 2 ways, no other..heaven and hell...I declare that you have only one salvation..save yourself and your loved ones from eternal torment..ruclips.net/video/_smQUFCKUX8/видео.html estas llevando gente al infierno .no ocultes los hechos ..Soy el ultimo estímulo.. .Jesucristo no está muerto, dijiste ¿por qué está muerto?..aprender los hechos ..mensaje del salvador..sálvate a ti mismo y a tus seres queridos del tormento eterno ruclips.net/video/oOZYj5lmuTA/видео.html Jesus não está morto..a chegada dele está muito perto ruclips.net/video/rFl0Cb1C7ks/видео.html Иисус не умер, его прибытие очень близко..3 мировые войны и факты.сообщение спасителя ruclips.net/video/jXdbOAGo6sg/видео.html Ісус Христос не помер, написано його від'їзд..3 світові війни..факти, які ви знаєте ruclips.net/video/hbbv2IbzxeU/видео.html
So Nice 💘💘💘💘💘💘
13:43 I love that. Do you love me? 😍💋 💝💖❤️