Detransition stories are SO important. When I was in high school, I 100% believed that I was ftm trans. I did a lot of research, listened to many ftm trans stories and did my best with what I had to present as male. It wasn't until the end of my senior year that I came across some detransition stories that caused me to self reflect and really consider what I was feeling, what was going on in my head and what transitioning would mean for me in the future. One story I listened to said some things about variety in binary male and females. All males are not ONE way and all females are not ONE way. There's no cookies cutter male or female. We can all have some variety of both male and female. For me it meant just because I tend to have more masculine thought processes than the "average" female doesn't make me any less of a woman. That story completely changed my life and I decided not to transition. I still have gender dysphoria sometimes but after having seen a therapist for other reasons we've discovered that it's due to a much different problem. Looking back at it all now I'm so thankful for detransition stories because it kept me from making decisions that would have been a horrible mistake for me personally.
Interesting story so thanks for sharing! I’m FTM myself and recently started hormones, I’m very thankful my mum made me wait till 16 until I saw a doctor (because of the wait over here in the UK it meant I would be seen closer to 18), as much as I hated it growing up it gave me that chance to really reflect on if this is what I want to do. And 100% it is for me, I’ve never doubted myself, the thought of me being anything close to female gives me crazy dysphoria. I was always the typical “Tom boy” my whole damn life, I knew something was off about me throughout school and after learning what being trans was it was a massive “Ohhhhhhhhhh.” Moment for me. If you don’t mind me asking, if you didn’t see the stories about detransitioning do you believe you would’ve medically transitioned and ended up regretting it?
@@elmoelmo9194 I definitely wanted to medically transition and go through surgeries. Toward the end of thinking I was ftm, I was 18 and was waiting until I was able to move out of my parents' to start hormones and look into surgery. As I am now, I know for a fact I would have regretted medically transitioning. Like I said before, I'm still fairly "Male-like" in a lot of aspects but I'm comfortable with it being mixed with my still strong female aspects. Not being able to do things like be a mom with my own biological children would crush me now. Even more so if I wasn't able to because of a mistake I had put myself through.
@@laurelthompson136 see your perspective is the kind that is dismissed as a rare occurence or just some weapon used by GC. This is why its good to have all perspectives heard. There is a genuine risk of people making a mistake they deeply regret later in life. But thats not to say someone like elmo elmo shouldnt be supported either who knows its what they want and took the time to process and understand better. Some just have this outlook if you question things then you are phobic etc. There needs to be better support especially for youth so they make the right decision for themself. Seeing you two discuss your individual stories and insights is so good to see rather than the toxic interactions we get nowadays.
I'm really glad you found out your issues and handled them. For me I need transition but I can't stand that detrans stories are being downplayed or ignored.
The ‘detrans stories are dangerous because they might make trans people doubt’ argument is such a self-own. Like if you’re so insecure in your belief that hearing a different opinion will cause you to crumble, clearly you weren’t medically transsexual in the first place and that detransition story has just saved you a whole bunch of trauma.
I still can't get my head around how it happened that a very rare, serious medical condition became a trend and how people are so desperate to label themselves 'trans'. True transsexualism is debilitating and life-long, why the hell would you WANT that?! The trans people I know generally did everything to deny that they could possibly be trans, tried to convince themselves for years they were 'just gay' etc. These tiktok people think it's like belonging to the cool kid's club or something.
tiktok is really toxic in general. it also promotes eating disorders and things like that to clarify, i understand you can find bad stuff on every and any social media platform, i just think that tiktok amplifies negative things and doesn’t have as many restrictions.
Yes fr!! I had tiktok around a year ago and I didn’t even realize how much it was negatively affecting me with the glorification of eating disorders and drug use
Hm...idk. Because it depends on what you like and share. Anything you don't want to see, just choose "not interested" and you won't see it again. My fyp is just cooking, dogs, and babies lul
@@ll890 its cause you searchrd and liked those things. I only get anime on my fyp snd people are so nice. They are 15 to like 30 years old typically cause anime community is quite diverse. Ive never seen anything bsd so far
Imagine being a kid and being pulled into this transgender fad by a bunch of adults and thinking your part of a community. Then realizing you were mislead/regret your decision only to be thrown away by the community as you served your purpose and are no longer needed. ....and yet this community wants to be taken seriously?
Have you read "Irreversible Damage" by Abigail Shrier? Or Desist, Detrans & Detox: Getting Your Child Out of the Gender Cult Book by Maria Keffler?? Both excellent books that explain this phenomenon with kids. I love how Based Blaire is!
9:31 I agree with Blaire. Telling someone you’re trans is A LOT more necessary than telling someone you’re bisexual. Sexuality and gender identity play largely different roles in romantic or sexual relationships
I disagree 100%!!!!! 90% of these married men or guys with girlfriends who publicly identify as heterosexual, and not telling their fiancé/partner that they’ve secretly hooked up with or experienced, or still experience trans women and other men behind closed doors.... withholding all that IMPORTANT information, is the SAME as not disclosing being trans. A man doesn’t tell his wife any of that shit, why should we trans females? Is how many of these girls look at it. I am one of those trans girls who 98% of the time tells the guy I’m trans. This specific subject can go deep!
detransition stories are not harmful at all, really really thinking about medically transitioning is important and knowing about people who did regret it is important and is a part of the trans community/expierence. trans people should question if transitioning is the right thing for them many times because there is no way back, there will be many irreversible changes. detransitioners should have the right to tell their story without getting shit from ANYONE. and this is coming from someone who transitioned when i was a minor
I agree. I wanted blockers when I was 15 and I'm 20 now, I still identify the same, but I also want children biologically related to me so I'm glad I didn't have that power because my only option would be adoption which is super expensive and really hard to go through as a "nontraditional" family
Detransition stories are what changed my mind on wanting to transition back in high school. They made me self reflect and really think about what transitioning would mean for me as I got older. I'm very thankful for those stories because it kept me from making decisions that would have been, for me personally, enormous mistakes.
So agree! It'd be like people advocating for people not to share their regrets/bad experiences with any other life altering surgery, even more minor ones. You want to be absolutely *sure* you want this change, because there is no undo button. How can you be sure if you don't have the full picture, knowing the pros and cons of others' experience with that same thing? You can't. Anyone wanting to transition should do their research and having access to those detransition stories could save so many from a painful and unnecessary process they can never take back!
Detransition stories are IMPORTANT. They give everyone an opportunity to examine their reasons and their feelings in regards to transition and hopefully cement their decision no matter whether it's to continue transition or stop.
Yeah, if a detransition story makes you second-guess yourself about transitionning, it's a GOOD thing. If you were 100% sure you were doing the right thing, it wouldn't have that effect.
The trans guy (or whatever) literally was like" if you detransition it's your own fault" lmfao talk about victim blaming. It's literally no one's fault that it didn't work out, sometimes transition is the right road and sometimes it isn't. But it's good healthy discourse to have these discussions about it so that people can see the other side of the coin and maybe people who suspect that they're trans may have a similar experience to those who detransition and have more in-depth analysis about their feelings. Just so toxic and disgusting. Like are you so self-centered that you can't even open your heart to people who were in your shoes, turns out that it wasn't the right road for them and now are severely confused and distressed over their identity and are dealing with irreversible changes to their bodies? What an utter sociopath.
My emotions kept me in a toxic relationship for a year, and that mistake that I made led to me losing so much self confidence it wasn't even funny. If I learned anything in life it's that it's best to never make a decision based on emotions alone.
Trusting your emotions is good advice for older people, Their emotions are backed up by experience. Like, when you've been cheated on, you often can recognize a cheater. Or worse, if you've BEEN a cheater, you recognize it in others. If you are 20 something years old, your emotions are mostly still about getting your needs met. Let's face it, babies ONLY emotions are directed to fulfill needs like food, stimulation, and comfort. Only when we grow do our emotions become a sort of preter-logical expression of our external perceptions. When we're young they are all internal feelings.
@@bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594 oh sure lets tell irrational people to trust their emotions. Nothing can go wrong there. Considering that a lot of emotions can come from impulsive reactions to certain things, i would say not a good thing to rely on. Rely on logic and rational thinking not emotions.
YEP. I'm bi, and it's nothing like being trans. Even so, that's a ridiculous comparison, as I have always been completely honest with anyone I have dated about being bi.
“informed consent”. how many times do we have to say children can’t consent? that’s the problem with permanent alterations to your body when you’re underage. just because you said you wanted it is not consent. kids can’t consent
but that doesn’t happen. the person mentioned in this video underwent surgery when she was an adult and is now trying to prevent trans kids from having access to hormone blockers which are completely reversible and safe. stop pulling the wool over your eyes for a minute and listen to the science.
@@rse3560 what person? i was referencing the tiktok about informed consent. no where was an adult getting a double mastectomy mentioned. i never mentioned puberty blockers which i know are reversible, i literally said “permanent alterations to your body”, don’t put words in my mouth. you tell me to listen to the science but their video didn’t reference any science at all, they mentioned the legal aspect of informed consent which is not science. there’s no wool over my eyes hun. you didn’t explain your stance or even debunk mine. try again when you can justify saying children can give consent, they can’t.
@@fatnissneverlean3536 but children don’t just “give consent” and are suddenly allowed to take hormones. they go through extensive screening and have to live as the gender they identify as for a few years, at least. those who detransition are such a small percentage that it hardly something to talk about, and study’s show that young trans individuals who start hormones experience a better quality of life than those who don’t.
Not disclosing being transgender in a relationship is automatically starting the relationship with deceit... some people just aren’t into that and it’s wrong to try to force them a different sexuality onto them. I don’t understand why this is such a problematic topic.
@@xxplasticxx4893 If you decide to sleep with someone but don't tell them that you're trans that puts you in even more danger. What happens when a trans women goes out and tries to sleep with a man only to get beat because "she" whips out a dick. You don't have to tell everyone, just the person that's about to get naked with you.
@@xxplasticxx4893 if you’re having a sexual relationship with that person you owe them that information. They need to be able to consent to being in a sexual relationship with someone like that because that can be very important to people. It can make people very uncomfortable and you lying to them is not okay
@@xxplasticxx4893 it’s incredibly unfair to not tell someone you’re having sexual relations with that you are trans, you are taking away their right to consent
See THIS is why I like Blaire, she keeps it real and doesn't bash people she disagrees with, she is respectful and consistent in her beliefs, and I really like how she shines a light on underage kids. Bravo.
detransitioners should share their stories because everyone has a right to share their story. some people can’t just be told to shut up about what ACTUALLY happened to them. especially when it’s so many people who have experienced it. ridiculous
Saying that detransition stories make transitioning invalid is a lot like saying bisexual isn’t a real sexual orientation because some people use the label as a stepping stone...that’s to say that its BS.
Omg, yes, I’m bi-curious/bisexual (I know confusing but if you want I explanation, just ask) I know some people who are say they bisexual but once you get to know they, it turns out they either straight or gay and it sad cuz it feel like a joke or a trend
@@zebruh2794 true, true. Same, I mean the trend thing but also people who think they are but aren’t. I have seen both circumstances. A classmate who I sat behind claimed to be bisexual but said that she would never date girls(she found it “gross” 😤). My brother on the other hand thought he was bisexual and came out as such, but later changed his label to gay. Edit: I on the other hand am bisexual, even though one of my parents told me it was a face. She was wrong. Bisexual is valid.
@@feelsrestricted8322 I agree, I did tell my mum and she still says to me ‘wait and till you get the boyfriend’ what dose getting a boyfriend how to do with my sexuality
If you want to "identify" as a dog, cat rabbit, table, whatever thats fine for a bit if escapism to destress, whatever. It is better than hard drugs. But that doesn't make you trans. You can take off the mask and be back to being what you were. Being trans is not donning a mask to escape sone momentary stress. If you think it is the same, you don't understand either.
@@DinkLover69 I mean i can explain exactly why that is incredibly wrong but if you want to compare playing pretend to the destruction of the lives of hard drug users and the people around them. I mean just to start, you won't rip holes in your face while pretending to be an animal, but you sure as shit will if you do hard drugs. You probably wont steal from your family and friends and anyone around you. Once again, i have more examples if you want.
"It teaches trans people not to trust their emotions", exactly, you should trust your reason and rationalise everything, especially when it comes to big, life-changing decisions, emotions shouldn't be making those decisions for you or condition them in any way.
Also, so to the person who thinks they don't need to reveal they are trans to a new partner...what happens when that partner tells you they want children? Then you have to explain why you two can't have biological kids together? Y'all keep running from the truth but it's gonna be there no matter what, because it's truth 😒.
Emphasis on "new partner." A transgender person doesn't have any obligation to tell someone they're trans unless they'll be having sex or in the future, having kids. Wanting children doesn't apply in this situation because it's a new partner.
@@CupcakesAreYummy667 Out of respect for someone's preferences, it is important to mention you're transgender for safety and stability. In many cases where it goes undiscussed, violence is inflicted on those who have transitioned. After discussing your transition, people may choose to discontinue or continue the relationship. It doesn't bother many males or females because they found the other person attractive. For example: Blaire doesn't have issues attracting straight men because she looks like a woman-what they are attracted to. Many people chose to continue the relationship but in some, they do not which is fine. Everyone's preferences should be respected.
Some girl joked that she was trans financial and I was rolling over in high school. She said, “ I’m a rich girl in a broke girl body.” Theatre was so funny
I'm a detransitioner by definition although I haven't done anything thing physically thank God but I was social for years. I was trans socially (even stealth because I could pass okay) when I was 13-15 and even that really messed me up. Those people are so awful who invalidate that. They are doing the very act they swear to hate and fight against. Invalidating and silencing someone's identity and experience.
Thank you for sharing here. I truly wish you the best. I’m sorry our new Inquisition has declared you a heretic! The ongoing campaign to silence detransitioners, desisters, and their stories is a scandal. When they deny your existence and your experience, they’re also making it that much harder for other young people to hear it. There are so many young people out there who need to hear stories like yours, but the ideologues are working overtime to insulate them from any alternative perspective or dissent.
I can't believe that person thinks he gets to decide who is allowed to tell their story. We need to hear the whole spectrum of possible outcomes to make an informed decision
“I still don’t get demigenders.” Well, let me explain it for you, Blaire: When you hear the term “demigender”, just think “special snowflake who wants to feel unique.”
typically just "demi's" I've met are gnc cis people and made to feel bad about it by either gender conforming cis people who don't like them being GNC, or the bad kind of trender trans people who tell them they can just not be cis. And that's coming from me, who is non-binary.
Adults wrongfully deciding to transition is an issue worth paying attention, there's seriously cases of people who make an opposite sex version of their fursonas and in a matter of months decide to transition. Autoandrophilia and autoginephilia are not the same as gender dysphoria!
Yeah, people act like turning 18 magically make you immune to all the social and cultural pressures you face. If you're part of a community, going against that community is HARD, regardless what that community is. If you take a 20yo who publicly transitioned at the age of 16, they might not be in a position where they feel they can change their mind. If people are being actively denied access to pertinent information because it's not socially acceptable to talk about, how can they make informed decisions?
This is just Tumblr 2.0, a lot of these are young people trying to find their identity... some will end up being trans but others will grow out of it. Be secure in yourself Blaire and fuck what people outside of the community have to say.
Omg YES. People are so free to express themselves online and experience support from people and it gives them the space and the courage to find themselves. I really feel as though experimenting to find yourself should be not only normalized, but encouraged. Maybe you are trans, maybe it IS a phase- and there’s no harm in that. Unless you immediately start hormones or something.
i remember when tumblr was going thru this gender identity crisis phase. it ended, this will too. most of the people experiencing this on tiktok are young, and later on in life will probably look back on themselves and see how cringe they were. this describes what happened with me at least, but with tumblr in 2015. lol
This is basically Tumblr. I was coming up as a teen during the era where Tumblr is where these kind of people congregated. All the "otherkins" and different genders or lackthereof and such. I was heavily influenced by that world and thought I was Asexual for years. Even going so far as to wanting a hysterectomy in my early 20's cuz I was so dead-set that I was not into sex or sexual relationships or having kids. Now I'm almost 30 and I'm so thankful that I have the chance to have children, I look forward to whenever God blesses me with a family. Anybody who thinks this world isn't incredibly influential and potentially dangerous to young malleable teenage minds, is really unaware and probably under this confusing spell as well. Even though I want kids now, I pray for them already...because this world...eesh.
@non_ 3xistant completely agree. I was so anti-children because of how expensive everything is nowadays but realized later on that shouldnt affect my heart for them and accomodations are always possible. Kids are not a burden 💖
@Crow Right lol. Same as you. I just wasn't into sex at 11 years old like some of my other friends lol, I matured later on in life and that's okay. We are always evolving, if you are not then you aren't learning and living. It's okay for someone to want to de-transition, it's okay for someone to start out not wanting a family and then wanting one. It's all okay. But these influences are getting into the minds that aren't strong enough yet to have discernment and better judgment to not commit to certain permanent changes. That is not okay.
I'm not into sex at all, but would never go so far as getting sterilized. That's not necessary. I never got the idea of not being into sex from the internet, it's more like the impulse just never developed.
I hate people who say "oh, not giving HTR to kids is harmful" and then say "it's your own fault for doing it to yourself". CHILDREN ARE *DUMB* . Believe me, I was one, and I was hella stupid. I don't think trusting young people with life-altering treatment is safe in any way. Silencing people for detransitoning is basically just hurting more kids. Kids need to be aware to not trust every emotion. And that's okay. Let them make an informed decision.
that logic is literally used to justify statutory rape. And drunk rape, or sex with powerful people who pressure you. These people always go on about how just because you consent, that doesn't mean there wasn't a power imbalance or pressure, yet they don't care if someone is brainwashed into hacking up their body bc a discord mod told them to.
Honestly I think even trusting an adult to make a decision that’s so life altering is a terrible idea. It’s such a massive thing to go through that no one should be going through it without a good therapist
Trust medical professionals. I don’t care how young a kid is, as long as there’s a qualified and caring professional to make sure they’re actually trans. I knew I was trans from 14, and it was painful going through it all and I’ll never pass now
@@wolfetteplays8894 problem is there's just no way of assessing who is really trans and who is just jumping on the bandwagon and confused - there seem to be a lot of young autistic females in this group right now. There really needs to be better investment in research. If it helps I have many female friends that barely pass for their own sex!
@Nagito needs cough drops Just because it feels right...makes it right? By that logic....we would all b dead by now I’ll bet shooting heroine feels right to..... If someone is wrong...I will tell them.... u and your bleeding heart 🤣
Letting someone inside your body who you think is possibly capable of violence upon you bc you’re trans is really not the move of a happy person 😞. A person like this really needs to take a breather and analyze a few things. Sexual pleasure/gratification should not come before your wellbeing.
The first girl was just a regular trans woman, she wasn't a detransitioner. That whole video was satire and iconic af, surprised about how many people didn't get it.
horribleluxury (the first clip) was joking, she’s very open about being a trans female, most of her videos on tiktok are story times about things she’s been through/seen in a “light hearted” manner. Actually very funny 🤣🤣😭
I’m a lesbian who would be interested in trans women or biological women, but I think I’d still be upset if someone didn’t tell me they were trans at all?? Like I’d be hurt if she didn’t think she could tell me yknow?
Yeah it seems like a whole aspect to yourself that you're not disclosing. Like you don't trust the person. Especially the example with the bisexual person in a straight relationship - it seems like that's something you'd want your partner to know just for the sake of knowing each other, not that sexuality is a huge personality trait but it'd still a thing, y'know? And being trans is kind of a bigger deal physically than being bi. Meh I hope that made sense
Its different, I mean people might not tell if its just a hookup, but if it proceeds to a relationship its very important. Also as far as "danger" the person on tiktok was talking about - saying nothing and than a person finding that out during an intimate moment could lead to danger as well.
@@ThinWhiteAxe Absolutely. I told my husband, then boyfriend, that I'm bi and that I have previously been with women in the very beginning of our relationship. Though it didn't change anything in terms of our relationship, I wanted him to really know me and know who I am. I can't imagine keeping it a secret, especially when you're in or are planning to be in a serious relationship. Of course, it's important to ensure own safety first as some people unfortunately might not be as understanding. It's especially dangerous for trans people I feel like, which is just horrible.
Lmao “Im binary but non-binary.” Yall making this shit way too complicated ill call a trans what ever they want but im not about to struggle to call you the right pronoun.
Most people who use she/they or he/they don’t mind whichever you use, it’s honestly that they identify with both so they don’t mind either. I don’t get it either, I’m non binary and strictly use they/them, I honestly just don’t feel like a boy or a girl and like the neutrality of in between. I feel more comfortable this way, and that’s all I care about. I guess a way to describe demiboy/girl is saying “I don’t really feel like any gender but if I had to pick I’d say I’m closer to a girl/boy” but I can’t speak on it because I do not identify that way.
Not disclosing being trans to someone with whom you want to have serious relationship is just heinous. Does this fool doesn't understand how important it is for some people to have biological children? I don't think that people who are willing to hurt someone so deeply for their "comfort" are deserving of respect or compassion
I mean, as society become less religious, fewer people really care about having biological children, so I don't really see that as an issue. Also, you could just easily say that if a person is partially-Jewish, they should have to disclose that fact, in case the person they are with is an anti-semite who wouldn't consent, if they knew that fact about them.
@@shimejih6359 Adoption is a wonderful thing but it's still very important for many to have a biological child with someone they love. But it's not the point. Not telling your partner that you can't do it or just don't want to do it causes pain and suffering to them. And if someone feels no concern about it then the others must not feel concern about them ot their feelings
De-transition stories teach us that you really need to think twice about if you really are what you think you are right now. It's also why minors shouldn't be allowed to get these surgeries and hormones, because their minds aren't done maturing.
That NB person who claims that "they/them" pronouns have been used for "centuries" is flat out wrong. We started using "they/them" pronouns specifically to refer to "Queer" identifying people who were in-between traditional gender roles in the '80s. Addison claims Shakespeare uses "they/them" to describe an individual. That may be so, bit I would guess it's in reference to "the Royal we". In monarchies, like Shakespeare lived in, the Royalty would refer to *themselves* as "we" specifically because *they* embody the entire state and represent all of *thier* subjects. It's not at all accurate to suggest that a common person can refer to him or herself as "we" or "they/them" in a Shakespearean context.
I personally believe it also should be some checks for adults. We have here still some psylogical/medial assesments mandatory for HRT. Adults might want to find an easy solution or are in a bubble as well. To ignore the detransitioning is very very wrong.
I think the issue ought to be less that detransitioners shouldn't be ALLOWED to tell their stories, and more that, as that guy said, they're often leveraged by transphobic people as 'proof' that transness isn't real, or as a way for parents not to believe their children when they say they're trans. There's a discussion to be had about to what extent minors should be able to medically transition (and frankly, in many cases, what we're talking about is hormone blockers, which there is discussion can be used to give kids time to live socially as the opposite gender without harmful ramifications if they change their mind), and that's a valid concern. However, it's reductive to pretend there's NO harm that is caused by those stories getting lifted up.
@@SamDNVS I do not nor did I in my comment say that anyone shouldn’t be allowed to tell their story, simply that it’s reductive to pretend that those stories aren’t very much leveraged by transphobic people in order to legitimize the oppression of trans folks.
@Mostly Insects Groot is the tree guy from Guardians of the Galaxy he talks he's awesome but the only thing he can say is I am Groot. But his interactions are funny
@Mostly Insects its mains Virgo Blaire is exspressing single like exspressions that make you think thier thinking Holy shawt while observeing the films of others philosphy of thier perspective in thier state of minds.
I know this isn't the same thing but when you talked about regret and ex-communication, it reminded me of post-abortive women. We are shut out and not allowed to tell OUR stories. I have been blocked by Planned Parenthood when I very respectfully told my story on their IG. I fully believe in informed consent and everyone should be allowed to talk about their experiences; good or bad. Life is hard enough.
By post-abortive and the fact you mentioned regret, do you mean you had an abortion and regretted it, and now PP blocked you from commenting about your experience?
Well it's never an easy decision and i honestly if anything that would help explain women's points of view and why it's a "necessary evil", as in we don't do it for fun nor do we enjoy it but we do it anyways because unfortunately we HAVE to. And as a medical professional your doctor is held to a certain moral standard and SHOULD be telling you EVERYTHING, or that's low-key malpractice.
That person is a literal child. Children often say a lot and nothing at all. That person is a great example, however, of why we shouldn't be allowing children to alter their bodies chemically - blocking puberty stops the brain development that would allow the kids to learn to make sense.
11:00 honestly detransition stories are just as important as someone’s successful transitioning story, you can’t only showcase the good and bury the bad smh 🤦♂️
I didn’t realize what an amazing unicorn Blaire was until I started getting recommended other trans youtubers who just think everyone who disagrees with them on policy is transphobic.
@@nathanz6265 i had absolutely no idea how vicious there were. Especially to her. I love blaire because she’s more than just a trans person- meaning that’s not her main identifier. She’s a strong intelligent motived creative woman, who also happens to be trans. She doesn’t have a problem with pointing out flaws in logic and it doesn’t make her feel any less valuable. Her self worth is more than “the trans argument” and racial intersectionality. That’s why I love me some Blaire White.
I agree. Not because they’re trans but because a lot of LGBTQ+ members have conflicting opinions and it can confuse younger kids. If everyone’s saying something different how are they going to understand what’s right?
@@xlifexwithxlithiumx a quarter of its users are under 17, not even including those who lie and could be below TOS required age I’ve seen and know young middle schoolers who use tiktok
Hey as someone about to start transitioning, what made you think you were trans? And how did you realize you weren't? (I'm really trying to make as informed a decision as I possibly can)
@@Potatopot724 hey, I'm not the person you're responding to but I really hope this helps you. I'm a 24F. I had pretty much all the typical "trans kid" signs. Liking to play with boy toys, refusing to associate with anything girly the second I know that it's identified as such. Wearing the clothes that made me look like "one of the boys" getting really happy when people call me a boy and even thinking that I would at a point grow a penis. That might've just been bad sex ed and anatomy but still. That's all from as early as 3 years old up to 12 or 13. Even my family would adress me as one of the brothers and how they only had one sister/daughter. It's important to note that I had some intense body dysmorphia for years as well. I didn't know what I hated about my body I just did. I hated everything, I cried about it eveey single time I looked in the mirror. Then I started developing breasts oh boy... I start getting intense gender dysphoria at that age and before you ask, yes, gender dysphoria isn't a trans exclusive experience at all. It's quite common to get "rapid onset gender dysphoria" as a cis person. Most people grow out of it by age 25. My dysphoria went on for about 8 years, I used to bind religiously with things I should not have been binding with, like bandages. I binded it all the time for multiple days and while sleeping too. My breasts made me so dysphoric deapite being alsomt non existent. It was a nightmare. By age 14 I cut all my hair off and started presenting more and more masculine. Keep in mind I never could actually come out or transition where I'm from and that has for once played in my favour. If someone told 16y.o me heck even 20 y.o me if she wanted her tits choped off I would've done ot in a heartbeat. I loved being recognised as a boy and hated when people could see through that. I have a very high pitched voice ans the second I speak I stop passing or people think I'm a 10 y.o boy. This all lasted up until age 20. At that age I just started reflecting on everything that has happened and I realised that my feelings were all tied to the sexist environment I lived in. I wanted out and bring a guy was the closest thing to mentally escape despite transitioning being impossible. It made me mentally escape was presenting like a guy and feeling protected because of it. It's worth mentioning that my household was extremely abusive and I needed to see something that resembled strength in the mirror amd a girl wasn't that. I needed that to survive, quite literally. My body dysmorphia was due to being heavily sexualised from a very young age, my dysphoria was a sign of fear from a society that was so ready to make a feast of my body even as a child let alone a developing teen. My early childhood thoughts were me mimicking what I thought would get me by and protect me. It was all a coping mechanism from a cruel sexist world and an abusive environment. At age 19 I almost got raped by a cab driver and it all clicked after a while. I realised why I was doing all that and also faced the reality that that wouldn't protect me and then months later I changed. I changed everything about the way I present myself and was thankful that I didn't do any permanent damage to my body. My dysphoria was so bad I used to google how to get breast cancer just so I can get rid of my chest. In the end it was my brain decided to do to protect me and keep me surviving. I hope this helped
@@thatvampigoddess926 I’m always surprised to find ftm trans ppl Being a man in society really sucks You might have had a horrible family environment but being a man in general isn’t fun
I appreciate that you don’t feel the need to react in an exaggerated or malicious manner for the sake of being entertaining. You give an honest reaction and explain why and aren’t afraid to be agreeable.
Yes, you absolutely have to tell your partner that you're trans. What if the person wants kids? it's about respect.. As a woman attracted to men born men, I'd be so pissed if someone would keep that info from me.
Like you would know the difference between the two and it’s a lot easy for a trans man to get with a biological female can easily make an egg with the both you can’t the opposite way
@@simplyashley1658 Wtf are you talking about "can easily make an egg with both"? A transman is a biological female, therefore he doesn't produce sperm, and if he's with another biological female, they're not going to have biological kids together.
I think these tiktokers really don't accept the deep seriousness of a permanent change to your body. We have to be honest about this, and my only problem with them is that they are misleading.
But what about people that are infertile ? Should people disclose they are infertile just when they meet up with someone ? Also lots of people are infertile and just don't know about it, they also deserve being in relationships.
@@renuvee7397 yes? if you meet someone who is adamant about having biological children, that is absolutely a requirement for an honest relationship. If I met someone who wanted kids and strung her along for years without telling her I was shooting blanks, would that even be remotely fair? That's something you have a conversation about very early on, when relationships begin to get serious and couples start discussing what's important to them.
@@renuvee7397 yea if you know you are infertile, that should be something you are upfront about. Same with if you know you 100% dont want children thats also something that needs to be discussed.
@@renuvee7397 definitely would discuss this even before a first date. Hell personally I’d be open abt this on my social media. I only want somebody who knows me for what I am and still wants to date me. People are talking about stringing people along- but the reality is you should be honest about fundamental things before you even start dating. Like I’m confused what some people think “getting to know each other” actually means?? I low-key feel like this has something to do with how catfish-y social media is conditioning people to be.
Exactly what I was thinking! You don't go into a relationship without telling your partner something like that. Also for the person who said "they can say they're sterile" I also considered that but then I realized that that person also should have disclosed this info if they new it and their relationship was long term, not only would they be deceiving their partner on the biological aspect of their bodies but also lying about a medical condition all because they didn't care to tell the true. Their whole relationship would be a lie.
i mean in a relationship trans people has to tell their partner that they are trans. As long as they do that and their partner accept that, then good for them. Adoption is always available.
Well dating is just interviews for a long time partner. Having or not having kids in your future is always a deal breaker. One person is going to be miserable not having their dream of having/not having kids. A trans person can say they don't want kids and dating over. The point of not telling is so they can increase their dating pool. Maybe there's a dating site for trans and trans loving folks. But then again a dude looking for a trans woman will have to be clear that they are trans anyway... Nevermind on that point.
The trans fad is really terrifying to me, as a gay man I remember as a teen thinking I was transgender. I wasn't, I just had gynaecomastia and going through puberty. I'm glad I didn't end up going on hrt.
@GRACE NEMCIK you disagree that “doubt” is a good reason to simply rethink a position? Regardless of why you have doubts the fact of the matter is you have them. Any sensible person should promptly address self doubt. Doesn’t guaranteed out change your mind just guarantees price of mind in your decisions. don’t argue just to disagree
Exactly and if there trying to have a long term relationship it’s keeping a HUGE secret and no one should keep a secret like that is your wanted a “forever” relationship ya know? Starting a relationship with a lie/or based off a lie isn’t a good idea for anyone in general
Also she said “whatever surgeries you have or haven’t had”... like. No. You can’t surprise a lesbian or a straight man with a penis, that is borderline abusive. People have their own sexual orientation, and your validation is not more important than respecting them. They are giving consent to get naked with someone they think has a vagina, and many would not give their consent to get into that situation with someone with a penis.
the detransitioner's narrative is so important also bc one of the reasons I felt so sure that I needed to transition is from watching destransitioners' content. it made me think about transitioning from that perspective and made me realize that it was something I did in fact need to do. there are people who will have that internal battle and realize maybe transition isn't for them and we'll hopefully start to see less people detransitioning.
The first one, “HorribleLuxury” is definitely trolling lol. I lowkey love her tiktoks. She says the most random off the wall stuff and it’s hilarious. I think she actually used to be an escort with substance addiction, but now I’m 94% sure she’s just trolling. I hope. 😂
"No offense to the coochie sellers" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm dying of laughter right now actually crying. The way you said that was so funny Sincerely a coochie seller hahaha
It's really funny how these people who identity with something like "demi blabla" or anything else, they often wear a weird makeup and look like a total weirdos. That's just telling me that they are in weird phase of these modern days and try real hard to be different and edgy. it's not something real.
8:39 'telling someone you are trans' is a Trust Issue, for both parties. if you do not trust them enough to tell them that you are trans they you do not trust them enough to have 'intimate encounters' with them... mean while if you do not tell them before hand then you are violating Their Trust by keeping it a secret, lying but omission, and if you are going to LIE to someone DON'T date/f*ck them.
Why are there so many different labels floating around these days? Surely this just confuses young people coming to terms with who they are more than helps them? They have so much to question nowadays. Why do we need a label? As a 30 year old man who likes men I don't know that gay fits me 100% because it's limiting and it doesn't define who I am more widely than who I find sexually attractive. But I don't spend my life trying to align myself to a label because we are all unique in every aspect of our lives and I don't feel a need to force being a labelled sexuality on everyone I meet. In fact I don't tell people; straight people don't have to, they'll know if I introduce a boyfriend to them that this is the person that I'm in love with, why do I need to shout my sexuality from the rooftops? I feel like coming out has been made more complicated for people than it needs to be by the plethora of identities and the general pressure put on them to be some kind of advocate by the "community". I agree with your summary, it is like a church and it sometimes seems to preach harder than the priests (not hard to do I know) but to the point that the community is starting to feel a step away from radicalised.
I feel like it's because people that have a narrow feild of vision have very loud voices. People that don't understand that all these unique people still share a singular label. A person can be heterosexual or LGBT and still not be a stereotype or some other thing. All these labels have done is just enforce stereotypes where people have tried to stop them.
people dont need to have a label and because you choose not to have one, don’t enforce it on other people. Having labels feels comforting to many people so therefore... let them be. Also yes I agree that coming out is becoming a duty, some people (most straight people) are starting to encourage coming out to people which endagers the community. but if people who comfortably express their gender identity/sexuality and shout it from the rooftops, who cares? They’re comfy. And straight people do the exact same so it’s just hypocritical when they get mad at lgbtqia+ for the same things they do.
What? She just doesn't have eyeshadow but this is very, very heavy makeup. Look at her face, her whole upper face is white because of concealer and jaw is tanner because of darker makeup. So makeup, heavy concealer, powder, bronzer, mascara, bunch of lip gloss (and she has lip filling), eyebrow pencil. That's hardly light!
As someone who is detransitioning and has gone through a ton of counseling to get this point.....you can’t just trust your emotions. My emotions were twisted by self hatred, severe body dysmorphia, and suicidal depression. I’m turning 28 tomorrow. I transitioned from 24 to almost 28..... now obviously trans people are real and valid, but people like me exist too, and to be honest sharing any personal story in the utmost honesty should always be okay. It’s healthy for people to have different experiences in everything. And for anyone who reads this, don’t feel bad for me or pity me. I’m not embarrassed to have wrongfully transitioned and I’m not depressed about detransitioning. I went through what I needed to go through and I’m a healthy, mentally stable, person for the first time in my life. I think we should keep in mind that for people who’ve experienced severe trauma...the decision making process of someone with untreated ptsd, eating disorders, suicidal depression etc etc is not the same as a mentally healthy individuals. It was my decision and I fucked up, but i fucked up by trusting my fucked up emotions and my fractured psych.
As an English teacher, I think the hardest thing about calling people, "they/them," is when they're right in front of me. It feels rude to me, like I'm pretending they're not there/ignoring them. It's easier with he/him, she/her, because they're right there. Does that make sense?
It feels dehumanizing to refer to someone as them or they in certain context. It's confusing for native English speakers to just start automatically speaking a way they haven't been since birth and since the inception of the English language.
@@lunalalaurie1049 tbf if they want to be called they/them then why don't just do it? We use it all the time when we don't know someone's sex even if they're just one person. E.g Someone left THEIR wallet. THEY must've been in a hurry.
@@euphrasiepolly5575 well, what they meant was that it feels disrespectful to call these people they/them. As you just said, when you don't know the person you say 'they, their, them' but, imagine you DO know this person? In the native English language, it's slightly disrespect. Now I have no problem calling people they/them, but I'll always have this guilty discomfort whenever I do.
The first girl in the green dress is hilarious and amazing, if you watch her videos you would know she's joking. Please don't lump her in with the rest of these people. She's @horribleluxury
When I have anxiety and depression I have emotions that may not reflect reality at all. Emotions are not facts, hence why you should not trust them in all instances.
It’s so crazy the “trans trend” I can see the whole medical part if it. When your in the hospital everybody around you dotes on you more. I personally love being a women and I can’t lie was super Tom boy in middle school and felt self conscious but never felt I should be a boy. I’m just not a “girly”
“It was used by Shakespeare.” Yeah, because our language no longer has a singular non-gendered “Man” like German, which is why the Brits say “one” and Americans say “you.” Shakespeare wasn’t talking about you.
I love when they say literary work. As if normal people spoke that way on a daily, some cases yes but in most cases that was not the vernacular that most people spoke on a daily basis.
Yes it’s hardly just trans people that are cringe on Tick Tock and I bet most aren’t even really trans. This will be their emo or goth phase. They won’t actually be trans like Blaire is.
Saying that dressing up like a dog is "same thing as being trans" is actually so transphobic like omg Creating false equivalencies like that just hurts the cause, like MAPs claiming they're part of LGBT
I am so glad I went through an emo phase and that's whats on my moms facebook not an "I'm a dog" phase and then posting it myself all over everything where it will stay very much forever
Okay so not telling someone you are transgender before sleeping with them is so disrespectful and sneaky. That whole thing gave me ick vibes. Also I do think it’s just common decency to tell someone you’re dating, your sexual orientation. If I ever date again, I’ll definitely tell them I’m pansexual (I haven’t dated since I came out as pansexual). And it’s up to the person if they accept it or not.
6:00 I am a biological woman who suffers from PCOS and hirsutism. I can grow really dark and course facial hair in patches, but it is pathological rather than physiological. HOWEVER, no matter how much I love myself, you won't see me go out looking like this 💀
I don’t see the point in trying to silence detransition stories. Every group of people who are a minority need some sort of representation. I’m sure it’s easy to feel really alone and depressed when you make a mistake like that it’s more harmful to suppress these stories. It’s the peoples obligation to differentiate whether they should transition or not. If its unsure then I think they should wait till it is sure.
TikTok is as toxic as Twitter. TikTok is like the psychotic cousin of Twitter that everyone likes to hang out with.
Exactly.
Oh id say it’s worse
Wait ppl didn’t already know this ? :p both crazy af
I honestly believe that TikTok is an effort by the CCP to destabilize the west with utter insanity influencing young people.
@@tropicalpalmtree that makes zero sense
Detransition stories are SO important. When I was in high school, I 100% believed that I was ftm trans. I did a lot of research, listened to many ftm trans stories and did my best with what I had to present as male. It wasn't until the end of my senior year that I came across some detransition stories that caused me to self reflect and really consider what I was feeling, what was going on in my head and what transitioning would mean for me in the future. One story I listened to said some things about variety in binary male and females. All males are not ONE way and all females are not ONE way. There's no cookies cutter male or female. We can all have some variety of both male and female. For me it meant just because I tend to have more masculine thought processes than the "average" female doesn't make me any less of a woman. That story completely changed my life and I decided not to transition. I still have gender dysphoria sometimes but after having seen a therapist for other reasons we've discovered that it's due to a much different problem. Looking back at it all now I'm so thankful for detransition stories because it kept me from making decisions that would have been a horrible mistake for me personally.
Interesting story so thanks for sharing! I’m FTM myself and recently started hormones, I’m very thankful my mum made me wait till 16 until I saw a doctor (because of the wait over here in the UK it meant I would be seen closer to 18), as much as I hated it growing up it gave me that chance to really reflect on if this is what I want to do. And 100% it is for me, I’ve never doubted myself, the thought of me being anything close to female gives me crazy dysphoria. I was always the typical “Tom boy” my whole damn life, I knew something was off about me throughout school and after learning what being trans was it was a massive “Ohhhhhhhhhh.” Moment for me. If you don’t mind me asking, if you didn’t see the stories about detransitioning do you believe you would’ve medically transitioned and ended up regretting it?
@@elmoelmo9194 I definitely wanted to medically transition and go through surgeries. Toward the end of thinking I was ftm, I was 18 and was waiting until I was able to move out of my parents' to start hormones and look into surgery. As I am now, I know for a fact I would have regretted medically transitioning. Like I said before, I'm still fairly "Male-like" in a lot of aspects but I'm comfortable with it being mixed with my still strong female aspects. Not being able to do things like be a mom with my own biological children would crush me now. Even more so if I wasn't able to because of a mistake I had put myself through.
@@laurelthompson136 see your perspective is the kind that is dismissed as a rare occurence or just some weapon used by GC. This is why its good to have all perspectives heard. There is a genuine risk of people making a mistake they deeply regret later in life. But thats not to say someone like elmo elmo shouldnt be supported either who knows its what they want and took the time to process and understand better. Some just have this outlook if you question things then you are phobic etc. There needs to be better support especially for youth so they make the right decision for themself. Seeing you two discuss your individual stories and insights is so good to see rather than the toxic interactions we get nowadays.
Proud of ya for sharing your story, now you are the one helping people more deeply understand their own journey! :)
I'm really glad you found out your issues and handled them. For me I need transition but I can't stand that detrans stories are being downplayed or ignored.
The ‘detrans stories are dangerous because they might make trans people doubt’ argument is such a self-own. Like if you’re so insecure in your belief that hearing a different opinion will cause you to crumble, clearly you weren’t medically transsexual in the first place and that detransition story has just saved you a whole bunch of trauma.
I still can't get my head around how it happened that a very rare, serious medical condition became a trend and how people are so desperate to label themselves 'trans'. True transsexualism is debilitating and life-long, why the hell would you WANT that?! The trans people I know generally did everything to deny that they could possibly be trans, tried to convince themselves for years they were 'just gay' etc. These tiktok people think it's like belonging to the cool kid's club or something.
Exactly!
Detransitioning is as much a reality as transitioning. You can't silence it, just because you don't like what you're hearing.
Truly let the de-trans folks talk equally like the trans folks do.
I am groot
She was just a regular trans woman, she wasn't a detransitioner. It was satire
@Brittany Du nah
Its a much less likely reality. Less than half of 1% rate, actually 0.48% i believe?
tiktok is really toxic in general. it also promotes eating disorders and things like that
to clarify, i understand you can find bad stuff on every and any social media platform, i just think that tiktok amplifies negative things and doesn’t have as many restrictions.
Yes fr!! I had tiktok around a year ago and I didn’t even realize how much it was negatively affecting me with the glorification of eating disorders and drug use
Hm...idk. Because it depends on what you like and share. Anything you don't want to see, just choose "not interested" and you won't see it again. My fyp is just cooking, dogs, and babies lul
Yes. It is a dreadful place that generates dreadful "role models"
@@ll890 its cause you searchrd and liked those things. I only get anime on my fyp snd people are so nice. They are 15 to like 30 years old typically cause anime community is quite diverse. Ive never seen anything bsd so far
It’s also extremely cringe
Imagine being a kid and being pulled into this transgender fad by a bunch of adults and thinking your part of a community. Then realizing you were mislead/regret your decision only to be thrown away by the community as you served your purpose and are no longer needed. ....and yet this community wants to be taken seriously?
😥😥😥
Have you read "Irreversible Damage" by Abigail Shrier? Or Desist, Detrans & Detox: Getting Your Child Out of the Gender Cult
Book by Maria Keffler??
Both excellent books that explain this phenomenon with kids.
I love how Based Blaire is!
I almost did
9:31 I agree with Blaire. Telling someone you’re trans is A LOT more necessary than telling someone you’re bisexual. Sexuality and gender identity play largely different roles in romantic or sexual relationships
I disagree 100%!!!!! 90% of these married men or guys with girlfriends who publicly identify as heterosexual, and not telling their fiancé/partner that they’ve secretly hooked up with or experienced, or still experience trans women and other men behind closed doors.... withholding all that IMPORTANT information, is the SAME as not disclosing being trans. A man doesn’t tell his wife any of that shit, why should we trans females? Is how many of these girls look at it. I am one of those trans girls who 98% of the time tells the guy I’m trans. This specific subject can go deep!
No, actually. Both are equally necessary in ANY relationship.
@@king_cynder_8615 💯
I'd want to know in both cases- I'd feel deceived and used if someone was not up front
@@kailanistegehuis2460 lying about something you did is not the same as lying about who you are.
detransition stories are not harmful at all, really really thinking about medically transitioning is important and knowing about people who did regret it is important and is a part of the trans community/expierence. trans people should question if transitioning is the right thing for them many times because there is no way back, there will be many irreversible changes. detransitioners should have the right to tell their story without getting shit from ANYONE. and this is coming from someone who transitioned when i was a minor
I agree. I wanted blockers when I was 15 and I'm 20 now, I still identify the same, but I also want children biologically related to me so I'm glad I didn't have that power because my only option would be adoption which is super expensive and really hard to go through as a "nontraditional" family
Detransition stories are what changed my mind on wanting to transition back in high school. They made me self reflect and really think about what transitioning would mean for me as I got older. I'm very thankful for those stories because it kept me from making decisions that would have been, for me personally, enormous mistakes.
i don’t think detrans people are inherently harmful but a lot of them become transphobic just because they turned out to not actually be trans
So agree! It'd be like people advocating for people not to share their regrets/bad experiences with any other life altering surgery, even more minor ones. You want to be absolutely *sure* you want this change, because there is no undo button. How can you be sure if you don't have the full picture, knowing the pros and cons of others' experience with that same thing? You can't. Anyone wanting to transition should do their research and having access to those detransition stories could save so many from a painful and unnecessary process they can never take back!
@@elliot3938 exactly!!
As a trans female , I always tell me beforehand , because it’s very scary and just shady to deceive someone
Detransition stories are IMPORTANT. They give everyone an opportunity to examine their reasons and their feelings in regards to transition and hopefully cement their decision no matter whether it's to continue transition or stop.
Yeah, if a detransition story makes you second-guess yourself about transitionning, it's a GOOD thing. If you were 100% sure you were doing the right thing, it wouldn't have that effect.
I think the problem most people have is when transphobes use detransitioners to say that all trans people will regret it etc.
The trans guy (or whatever) literally was like" if you detransition it's your own fault" lmfao talk about victim blaming. It's literally no one's fault that it didn't work out, sometimes transition is the right road and sometimes it isn't. But it's good healthy discourse to have these discussions about it so that people can see the other side of the coin and maybe people who suspect that they're trans may have a similar experience to those who detransition and have more in-depth analysis about their feelings. Just so toxic and disgusting. Like are you so self-centered that you can't even open your heart to people who were in your shoes, turns out that it wasn't the right road for them and now are severely confused and distressed over their identity and are dealing with irreversible changes to their bodies? What an utter sociopath.
Bruh if idiots want to pretend they’re dogs okay fine. As long as you don’t come near me. But comparing it to being transgender...goodness no
I feel bad for trans people.
My kids wanted to be dogs. But they were 3 years old.
Not even comparing it, they straight up said “it’s the same thing”
I am groot
@@jaderiley4942 Hi Groot, Hodor, nice to meet you. I'm Batman.
The most important thing I learned through depression is NOT to trust my emotions... at least not about certain things.
Your emotions are not facts
I feel this
Why do people keep saying we need to trust our emotions ,where the fuck did that come from that’s completely false ,our emotions can lie to us.
Yep, emotions change, you body transitions for the most part are permanent
Not exactly. Your emotions can really tell you a lot about what you need. You can’t only listen to your emotions, but they need to come into play.
My emotions kept me in a toxic relationship for a year, and that mistake that I made led to me losing so much self confidence it wasn't even funny. If I learned anything in life it's that it's best to never make a decision based on emotions alone.
Trusting your emotions is good advice for older people, Their emotions are backed up by experience. Like, when you've been cheated on, you often can recognize a cheater. Or worse, if you've BEEN a cheater, you recognize it in others. If you are 20 something years old, your emotions are mostly still about getting your needs met. Let's face it, babies ONLY emotions are directed to fulfill needs like food, stimulation, and comfort. Only when we grow do our emotions become a sort of preter-logical expression of our external perceptions. When we're young they are all internal feelings.
@@bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594 oh sure lets tell irrational people to trust their emotions. Nothing can go wrong there. Considering that a lot of emotions can come from impulsive reactions to certain things, i would say not a good thing to rely on. Rely on logic and rational thinking not emotions.
"It's the same thing as being trans"
*and I took that personally-*
Can't blame you 😓
YEP. I'm bi, and it's nothing like being trans. Even so, that's a ridiculous comparison, as I have always been completely honest with anyone I have dated about being bi.
You made me snort in public😅😅🤣🤣
I’m not even trans and I took it personally lmao like the audacity
@@lizthedisjointedzebra692 I was talking about the dog person, but yeah I agree.
“informed consent”. how many times do we have to say children can’t consent? that’s the problem with permanent alterations to your body when you’re underage. just because you said you wanted it is not consent. kids can’t consent
That logic is so flawed
but that doesn’t happen. the person mentioned in this video underwent surgery when she was an adult and is now trying to prevent trans kids from having access to hormone blockers which are completely reversible and safe. stop pulling the wool over your eyes for a minute and listen to the science.
@@rse3560 what person? i was referencing the tiktok about informed consent. no where was an adult getting a double mastectomy mentioned. i never mentioned puberty blockers which i know are reversible, i literally said “permanent alterations to your body”, don’t put words in my mouth. you tell me to listen to the science but their video didn’t reference any science at all, they mentioned the legal aspect of informed consent which is not science. there’s no wool over my eyes hun. you didn’t explain your stance or even debunk mine. try again when you can justify saying children can give consent, they can’t.
@@milly5469 how so?
@@fatnissneverlean3536 but children don’t just “give consent” and are suddenly allowed to take hormones. they go through extensive screening and have to live as the gender they identify as for a few years, at least.
those who detransition are such a small percentage that it hardly something to talk about, and study’s show that young trans individuals who start hormones experience a better quality of life than those who don’t.
Not disclosing being transgender in a relationship is automatically starting the relationship with deceit... some people just aren’t into that and it’s wrong to try to force them a different sexuality onto them. I don’t understand why this is such a problematic topic.
Yes exactly
no nobody’s entitled to that kind of private information, not disclosing saves lives
@@xxplasticxx4893 If you decide to sleep with someone but don't tell them that you're trans that puts you in even more danger. What happens when a trans women goes out and tries to sleep with a man only to get beat because "she" whips out a dick. You don't have to tell everyone, just the person that's about to get naked with you.
@@xxplasticxx4893 if you’re having a sexual relationship with that person you owe them that information. They need to be able to consent to being in a sexual relationship with someone like that because that can be very important to people. It can make people very uncomfortable and you lying to them is not okay
@@xxplasticxx4893 it’s incredibly unfair to not tell someone you’re having sexual relations with that you are trans, you are taking away their right to consent
See THIS is why I like Blaire, she keeps it real and doesn't bash people she disagrees with, she is respectful and consistent in her beliefs, and I really like how she shines a light on underage kids. Bravo.
Other transgender youtubers like Samantha Lux always comes for her when Blaire says something bad.
She is soooo disrespectful she comes for people’s looks all the time that’s a bitchy move if I ever heard one😂
@Austin Lee Haters gonna hate, if that’s how you see her regardless of facts🤷♀️ You haters are her biggest simps.
you shouldn’t admire the fact that she targets children??? that’s really weird, actually
@@lamondaee 🥺
detransitioners should share their stories because everyone has a right to share their story. some people can’t just be told to shut up about what ACTUALLY happened to them. especially when it’s so many people who have experienced it. ridiculous
Furthermore, those stories should be shared so that people who are considering transitioning are completely aware of the possible risks as well.
Saying that detransition stories make transitioning invalid is a lot like saying bisexual isn’t a real sexual orientation because some people use the label as a stepping stone...that’s to say that its BS.
Omg, yes, I’m bi-curious/bisexual (I know confusing but if you want I explanation, just ask) I know some people who are say they bisexual but once you get to know they, it turns out they either straight or gay and it sad cuz it feel like a joke or a trend
@@zebruh2794 true, true. Same, I mean the trend thing but also people who think they are but aren’t. I have seen both circumstances.
A classmate who I sat behind claimed to be bisexual but said that she would never date girls(she found it “gross” 😤).
My brother on the other hand thought he was bisexual and came out as such, but later changed his label to gay.
Edit: I on the other hand am bisexual, even though one of my parents told me it was a face. She was wrong. Bisexual is valid.
@@feelsrestricted8322 I agree, I did tell my mum and she still says to me ‘wait and till you get the boyfriend’ what dose getting a boyfriend how to do with my sexuality
@@zebruh2794 exactly! I think she’ll get used to the idea. It took my mom 5 years to say that I was part of the LGBT community.
@@feelsrestricted8322 Yes!! Bi pride!!
If you want to "identify" as a dog, cat rabbit, table, whatever thats fine for a bit if escapism to destress, whatever. It is better than hard drugs. But that doesn't make you trans. You can take off the mask and be back to being what you were. Being trans is not donning a mask to escape sone momentary stress. If you think it is the same, you don't understand either.
Hard drugs are probably healthier
@@DinkLover69 In some way they might be XD They might fry your brain, but atleast they won't mess with your core identity and perception of yourself.
@@AM-fh7ek i don’t think you understand what hard drugs do to people or even acid LMAOOO
@@DinkLover69 I mean i can explain exactly why that is incredibly wrong but if you want to compare playing pretend to the destruction of the lives of hard drug users and the people around them. I mean just to start, you won't rip holes in your face while pretending to be an animal, but you sure as shit will if you do hard drugs. You probably wont steal from your family and friends and anyone around you. Once again, i have more examples if you want.
@@jordanrayne4779 nah I'm 100% correct. Drugs are nowhere near as dangerous as otherkin
"It teaches trans people not to trust their emotions", exactly, you should trust your reason and rationalise everything, especially when it comes to big, life-changing decisions, emotions shouldn't be making those decisions for you or condition them in any way.
Also, so to the person who thinks they don't need to reveal they are trans to a new partner...what happens when that partner tells you they want children? Then you have to explain why you two can't have biological kids together? Y'all keep running from the truth but it's gonna be there no matter what, because it's truth 😒.
Exactly. I told my fiance from day 1 he met me. These people are such a shame for the rest of us.
@@bibibratx I think it's badass you were open with him from day one. Congrats on the engagement and I hope many happy years for y'all ❤❤
Emphasis on "new partner." A transgender person doesn't have any obligation to tell someone they're trans unless they'll be having sex or in the future, having kids. Wanting children doesn't apply in this situation because it's a new partner.
@@CupcakesAreYummy667 Out of respect for someone's preferences, it is important to mention you're transgender for safety and stability. In many cases where it goes undiscussed, violence is inflicted on those who have transitioned.
After discussing your transition, people may choose to discontinue or continue the relationship. It doesn't bother many males or females because they found the other person attractive. For example: Blaire doesn't have issues attracting straight men because she looks like a woman-what they are attracted to. Many people chose to continue the relationship but in some, they do not which is fine. Everyone's preferences should be respected.
What happens when the partner is also trans? Everyone happy?
"God spoke to me and told me I needed to be a prostitute" I'm cackling, she's hilarious
Note to self, if a voice in my head tells me to be a prostitute, it's probably not God.
@@VioletDeathRei lol
Lmao
@@VioletDeathRei LMAO
hahahah i know, she was very clearly taking the piss.
Also, children can't really give informed consent to medical treatment. They can't be held to contracts...it's not quite the same thing.
And they don’t so what’s your point 😂
@@aliyax-skinner5926 therefore.. children don’t have to choice to start transitioning at young age.
I'm a trans rich person. I'm going from a poor person to a rich person. I use the pronoun Sir and Me Lord.
😂😂Hell yeah
The correct term is transfinancial 😂
😂😂😂
@@melodyvalentine8779 LMAOOO
Some girl joked that she was trans financial and I was rolling over in high school. She said, “ I’m a rich girl in a broke girl body.” Theatre was so funny
I'm a detransitioner by definition although I haven't done anything thing physically thank God but I was social for years. I was trans socially (even stealth because I could pass okay) when I was 13-15 and even that really messed me up. Those people are so awful who invalidate that. They are doing the very act they swear to hate and fight against. Invalidating and silencing someone's identity and experience.
I strongly agree... Good luck dear 🙏
Thank you for sharing here. I truly wish you the best. I’m sorry our new Inquisition has declared you a heretic! The ongoing campaign to silence detransitioners, desisters, and their stories is a scandal. When they deny your existence and your experience, they’re also making it that much harder for other young people to hear it. There are so many young people out there who need to hear stories like yours, but the ideologues are working overtime to insulate them from any alternative perspective or dissent.
@@edoboleyn thank you so much! I'm glad you understand
@@coolcat6341 thank you!
I can't believe that person thinks he gets to decide who is allowed to tell their story.
We need to hear the whole spectrum of possible outcomes to make an informed decision
“I still don’t get demigenders.”
Well, let me explain it for you, Blaire: When you hear the term “demigender”, just think “special snowflake who wants to feel unique.”
I mean, lord forbid you actually LISTEN to people. That'd be the end of life as we know it.
typically just "demi's" I've met are gnc cis people and made to feel bad about it by either gender conforming cis people who don't like them being GNC, or the bad kind of trender trans people who tell them they can just not be cis.
And that's coming from me, who is non-binary.
@Buzz Lippman yeah.
@@viktoriahelgeland7324 They make you guys look so bad-
Adults wrongfully deciding to transition is an issue worth paying attention, there's seriously cases of people who make an opposite sex version of their fursonas and in a matter of months decide to transition.
Autoandrophilia and autoginephilia are not the same as gender dysphoria!
Very true! Highlights the need for real expert help for trans ppl to make right decisions at the right time.
Yeah, people act like turning 18 magically make you immune to all the social and cultural pressures you face. If you're part of a community, going against that community is HARD, regardless what that community is. If you take a 20yo who publicly transitioned at the age of 16, they might not be in a position where they feel they can change their mind. If people are being actively denied access to pertinent information because it's not socially acceptable to talk about, how can they make informed decisions?
I am groot
Holy f
@@MistHarbinger wow, that's almost too intelligent and insightful for a youtube comment.
This is just Tumblr 2.0, a lot of these are young people trying to find their identity... some will end up being trans but others will grow out of it. Be secure in yourself Blaire and fuck what people outside of the community have to say.
Omg YES. People are so free to express themselves online and experience support from people and it gives them the space and the courage to find themselves.
I really feel as though experimenting to find yourself should be not only normalized, but encouraged. Maybe you are trans, maybe it IS a phase- and there’s no harm in that. Unless you immediately start hormones or something.
No, tumblr 3.0. Twitter is tumblr 2.0 lmaoooo
@@webbyishere how is tumblr, tumblr 2.0?
i remember when tumblr was going thru this gender identity crisis phase. it ended, this will too. most of the people experiencing this on tiktok are young, and later on in life will probably look back on themselves and see how cringe they were. this describes what happened with me at least, but with tumblr in 2015. lol
@@madylarata9835 2015 tumblr was the dark ages 😭😭
the first one was a joke, the rest of her profile explains it was sarcasm
This is basically Tumblr. I was coming up as a teen during the era where Tumblr is where these kind of people congregated. All the "otherkins" and different genders or lackthereof and such. I was heavily influenced by that world and thought I was Asexual for years. Even going so far as to wanting a hysterectomy in my early 20's cuz I was so dead-set that I was not into sex or sexual relationships or having kids. Now I'm almost 30 and I'm so thankful that I have the chance to have children, I look forward to whenever God blesses me with a family. Anybody who thinks this world isn't incredibly influential and potentially dangerous to young malleable teenage minds, is really unaware and probably under this confusing spell as well. Even though I want kids now, I pray for them already...because this world...eesh.
@non_ 3xistant completely agree. I was so anti-children because of how expensive everything is nowadays but realized later on that shouldnt affect my heart for them and accomodations are always possible. Kids are not a burden 💖
@non_ 3xistant Its Communist tactics 101
@Crow Right lol. Same as you. I just wasn't into sex at 11 years old like some of my other friends lol, I matured later on in life and that's okay. We are always evolving, if you are not then you aren't learning and living. It's okay for someone to want to de-transition, it's okay for someone to start out not wanting a family and then wanting one. It's all okay. But these influences are getting into the minds that aren't strong enough yet to have discernment and better judgment to not commit to certain permanent changes. That is not okay.
I slowly think tumblr became apart of MySpace. My niece asked me if that’s a blog of your generation.....I never felt so old
I'm not into sex at all, but would never go so far as getting sterilized. That's not necessary. I never got the idea of not being into sex from the internet, it's more like the impulse just never developed.
I hate people who say "oh, not giving HTR to kids is harmful" and then say "it's your own fault for doing it to yourself". CHILDREN ARE *DUMB* . Believe me, I was one, and I was hella stupid. I don't think trusting young people with life-altering treatment is safe in any way. Silencing people for detransitoning is basically just hurting more kids. Kids need to be aware to not trust every emotion. And that's okay. Let them make an informed decision.
that logic is literally used to justify statutory rape. And drunk rape, or sex with powerful people who pressure you. These people always go on about how just because you consent, that doesn't mean there wasn't a power imbalance or pressure, yet they don't care if someone is brainwashed into hacking up their body bc a discord mod told them to.
Honestly I think even trusting an adult to make a decision that’s so life altering is a terrible idea. It’s such a massive thing to go through that no one should be going through it without a good therapist
Trust medical professionals. I don’t care how young a kid is, as long as there’s a qualified and caring professional to make sure they’re actually trans. I knew I was trans from 14, and it was painful going through it all and I’ll never pass now
@@wolfetteplays8894 problem is there's just no way of assessing who is really trans and who is just jumping on the bandwagon and confused - there seem to be a lot of young autistic females in this group right now. There really needs to be better investment in research. If it helps I have many female friends that barely pass for their own sex!
I was a very dumb child but I always knew something was wrong. I didn't know what trans was or that it even existed
Demi boy or demi girl? Can I identify as a demi God? My pronouns would be "the great one"
@@coughdrops480 they are regular midwest straight teens who co-opted the gay cause for their narcissism sooooo......
@@coughdrops480 So what if he identifies as a demi God? he's just doing what feels right to him, there is nothing wrong with it, bigot.
@Nagito needs cough drops
Just because it feels right...makes it right?
By that logic....we would all b dead by now
I’ll bet shooting heroine feels right to.....
If someone is wrong...I will tell them.... u and your bleeding heart 🤣
The joke be flying past everyone's heads in this comment section omg.
I have no idea what these demi things are expect demigod, its child of human and god. Demigod even sounds cool so I would definitely pick that one too
Letting someone inside your body who you think is possibly capable of violence upon you bc you’re trans is really not the move of a happy person 😞. A person like this really needs to take a breather and analyze a few things. Sexual pleasure/gratification should not come before your wellbeing.
Preach!!
Facts
🗣🗣🗣🗣
The first girl was just a regular trans woman, she wasn't a detransitioner. That whole video was satire and iconic af, surprised about how many people didn't get it.
yeah i was like, “that can’t be real...” 🤔🤨
Usually I never fall for sarcasm but she was a bit too good at it 😭😭😭
It's hard to distinguish satire the days.
I didn’t get it at all, I understood she was joking, but I thought she was just ftmtf and making light out of the detransition
That woman was amazing regardless.
If i trusted my emotions i would be dead...
Ditto
horribleluxury (the first clip) was joking, she’s very open about being a trans female, most of her videos on tiktok are story times about things she’s been through/seen in a “light hearted” manner. Actually very funny 🤣🤣😭
Blaire was too dumb to miss the joke lol
Why am I not surprised that she AGAIN misrepresented another trans person
yes i love her
@@Anthony-br9us lmao right
@@Anthony-br9us how the fuck was she supposed to know it was joke she was reacting to the video as in shed never seen it before
I’m a lesbian who would be interested in trans women or biological women, but I think I’d still be upset if someone didn’t tell me they were trans at all?? Like I’d be hurt if she didn’t think she could tell me yknow?
Yeah it seems like a whole aspect to yourself that you're not disclosing. Like you don't trust the person. Especially the example with the bisexual person in a straight relationship - it seems like that's something you'd want your partner to know just for the sake of knowing each other, not that sexuality is a huge personality trait but it'd still a thing, y'know? And being trans is kind of a bigger deal physically than being bi.
Meh I hope that made sense
I am groot
Its different, I mean people might not tell if its just a hookup, but if it proceeds to a relationship its very important. Also as far as "danger" the person on tiktok was talking about - saying nothing and than a person finding that out during an intimate moment could lead to danger as well.
@@ThinWhiteAxe Absolutely. I told my husband, then boyfriend, that I'm bi and that I have previously been with women in the very beginning of our relationship. Though it didn't change anything in terms of our relationship, I wanted him to really know me and know who I am. I can't imagine keeping it a secret, especially when you're in or are planning to be in a serious relationship. Of course, it's important to ensure own safety first as some people unfortunately might not be as understanding. It's especially dangerous for trans people I feel like, which is just horrible.
I am groot
Lmao “Im binary but non-binary.”
Yall making this shit way too complicated ill call a trans what ever they want but im not about to struggle to call you the right pronoun.
Don’t stress your brain
Most people who use she/they or he/they don’t mind whichever you use, it’s honestly that they identify with both so they don’t mind either. I don’t get it either, I’m non binary and strictly use they/them, I honestly just don’t feel like a boy or a girl and like the neutrality of in between. I feel more comfortable this way, and that’s all I care about. I guess a way to describe demiboy/girl is saying “I don’t really feel like any gender but if I had to pick I’d say I’m closer to a girl/boy” but I can’t speak on it because I do not identify that way.
@@spazzticat1335 aren't they just feminine/masculine enbys? Or androgynous girls/boys?
Yeah at some point. If you struggle that much w how you identify, your identity isn’t your problem, how you see yourself is.
Not disclosing being trans to someone with whom you want to have serious relationship is just heinous. Does this fool doesn't understand how important it is for some people to have biological children? I don't think that people who are willing to hurt someone so deeply for their "comfort" are deserving of respect or compassion
I mean, as society become less religious, fewer people really care about having biological children, so I don't really see that as an issue. Also, you could just easily say that if a person is partially-Jewish, they should have to disclose that fact, in case the person they are with is an anti-semite who wouldn't consent, if they knew that fact about them.
@@lunchtimeiscrunchtime idk maybe adoption? Better to adopt then have kids
@@shimejih6359 Adoption is a wonderful thing but it's still very important for many to have a biological child with someone they love. But it's not the point. Not telling your partner that you can't do it or just don't want to do it causes pain and suffering to them. And if someone feels no concern about it then the others must not feel concern about them ot their feelings
Not all humans can have children...your argument is invalid
@@psalmanthamonroe7298 Pffft! Not all people are trans. So you're invalid. Can't you see where are we going by that logic?
De-transition stories teach us that you really need to think twice about if you really are what you think you are right now. It's also why minors shouldn't be allowed to get these surgeries and hormones, because their minds aren't done maturing.
Your not done maturing guess your not a man or a women yet uh
@@aliyax-skinner5926 What?
@@janicemacomber4092 you’re acting childish understand NOW 🙄or do I have to spell it out for you
@@aliyax-skinner5926 no... children are called boys/girls. After when someone matures/becomes an adults that person is a man or woman.
That NB person who claims that "they/them" pronouns have been used for "centuries" is flat out wrong. We started using "they/them" pronouns specifically to refer to "Queer" identifying people who were in-between traditional gender roles in the '80s. Addison claims Shakespeare uses "they/them" to describe an individual. That may be so, bit I would guess it's in reference to "the Royal we". In monarchies, like Shakespeare lived in, the Royalty would refer to *themselves* as "we" specifically because *they* embody the entire state and represent all of *thier* subjects. It's not at all accurate to suggest that a common person can refer to him or herself as "we" or "they/them" in a Shakespearean context.
Some Trans ppl: HOW DARE YOU SILENCE ME!
Also some trans people: STOP TELLING YOUR STORY!
cis straight white girl on the internet: trans people dis, trans people dat.
nobody cares, transphobe!
@@didi8615 looks like ya got out thumb’d👍 and no surprise because Logic/reasoning and critical thinking doesn’t equal hate...in the real world.
di di jealous?
I personally believe it also should be some checks for adults. We have here still some psylogical/medial assesments mandatory for HRT. Adults might want to find an easy solution or are in a bubble as well. To ignore the detransitioning is very very wrong.
I think the issue ought to be less that detransitioners shouldn't be ALLOWED to tell their stories, and more that, as that guy said, they're often leveraged by transphobic people as 'proof' that transness isn't real, or as a way for parents not to believe their children when they say they're trans. There's a discussion to be had about to what extent minors should be able to medically transition (and frankly, in many cases, what we're talking about is hormone blockers, which there is discussion can be used to give kids time to live socially as the opposite gender without harmful ramifications if they change their mind), and that's a valid concern. However, it's reductive to pretend there's NO harm that is caused by those stories getting lifted up.
@@SamDNVS I do not nor did I in my comment say that anyone shouldn’t be allowed to tell their story, simply that it’s reductive to pretend that those stories aren’t very much leveraged by transphobic people in order to legitimize the oppression of trans folks.
Welcome to America 2021 where everyone has lost their damn minds
Dont think you’re excluded from that.
America?
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 IM DEAD 💀
For the rest of the world it sure seems like an asylum
We had a good run and it was a nice experiment. RIP America 1776-2021
Blaire's facial expressions have been fucking sending me holy shit
I am groot
@Mostly Insects I am groot
@Mostly Insects Groot is the tree guy from Guardians of the Galaxy he talks he's awesome but the only thing he can say is I am Groot. But his interactions are funny
@Mostly Insects its mains Virgo Blaire is exspressing single like exspressions that make you think thier thinking Holy shawt while observeing the films of others philosphy of thier perspective in thier state of minds.
@@jaderiley4942 I am groot
I know this isn't the same thing but when you talked about regret and ex-communication, it reminded me of post-abortive women. We are shut out and not allowed to tell OUR stories. I have been blocked by Planned Parenthood when I very respectfully told my story on their IG. I fully believe in informed consent and everyone should be allowed to talk about their experiences; good or bad. Life is hard enough.
By post-abortive and the fact you mentioned regret, do you mean you had an abortion and regretted it, and now PP blocked you from commenting about your experience?
Well it's never an easy decision and i honestly if anything that would help explain women's points of view and why it's a "necessary evil", as in we don't do it for fun nor do we enjoy it but we do it anyways because unfortunately we HAVE to.
And as a medical professional your doctor is held to a certain moral standard and SHOULD be telling you EVERYTHING, or that's low-key malpractice.
The reason why u got sensory chipped(sp as my post will be deleted for using that word)is because it goes against the agenda.this is all connected.
If I was dating a guy who was even BI I would want to know that.
I have been with a couple women that had bottom done. Hate to say it but there is a humongous difference.
Like what? Do tell lol
I need to know!
You just gonna stop right there huh..
I imagine the pubic mounds would be much smaller and it probably feels different inside
@A L I heard it doesn't lubricate naturally and Lube needs to be used..i also jeard that there is course hair inside...
The demigender person said a lot of words, but really said/explained anything at all.
That person is a literal child. Children often say a lot and nothing at all. That person is a great example, however, of why we shouldn't be allowing children to alter their bodies chemically - blocking puberty stops the brain development that would allow the kids to learn to make sense.
how did you not understand that.
They don’t need to
The real problem here would be anyone looking for meaning from someone who “identifies as demigender”
11:00 honestly detransition stories are just as important as someone’s successful transitioning story, you can’t only showcase the good and bury the bad smh 🤦♂️
I didn’t realize what an amazing unicorn Blaire was until I started getting recommended other trans youtubers who just think everyone who disagrees with them on policy is transphobic.
So true... Most trans people on youtube are very phobic obsessed. They see bigotry everywhere. If they'd just chill everyone would be happy.
@@nathanz6265 i had absolutely no idea how vicious there were. Especially to her. I love blaire because she’s more than just a trans person- meaning that’s not her main identifier. She’s a strong intelligent motived creative woman, who also happens to be trans. She doesn’t have a problem with pointing out flaws in logic and it doesn’t make her feel any less valuable. Her self worth is more than “the trans argument” and racial intersectionality. That’s why I love me some Blaire White.
Good thing about Blaire is, that she keeps it real
Welcome to the world of identity politics, where everybody can be a victim.
I agree ☝️
This is extremely concerning, considering tick tock is used by mostly children.
Yeah the "woman" with beard is a dangerous person.
I agree. Not because they’re trans but because a lot of LGBTQ+ members have conflicting opinions and it can confuse younger kids. If everyone’s saying something different how are they going to understand what’s right?
1. Majority of users are between 18-25
2. TIKTOK not Tick Tock LOL ITS NOT A CLOCK
I am groot
@@xlifexwithxlithiumx a quarter of its users are under 17, not even including those who lie and could be below TOS required age
I’ve seen and know young middle schoolers who use tiktok
For people that preach about being accepting and "loveable". They happen to be the most unaccepting and hateful bunch~
girl im a de-transitioner put me on the podcast 🙄✋
Uhhh hey I'm sorry that your femaleness got erased
Hey as someone about to start transitioning, what made you think you were trans? And how did you realize you weren't?
(I'm really trying to make as informed a decision as I possibly can)
@@Potatopot724 hey, I'm not the person you're responding to but I really hope this helps you.
I'm a 24F. I had pretty much all the typical "trans kid" signs. Liking to play with boy toys, refusing to associate with anything girly the second I know that it's identified as such. Wearing the clothes that made me look like "one of the boys" getting really happy when people call me a boy and even thinking that I would at a point grow a penis. That might've just been bad sex ed and anatomy but still. That's all from as early as 3 years old up to 12 or 13. Even my family would adress me as one of the brothers and how they only had one sister/daughter.
It's important to note that I had some intense body dysmorphia for years as well. I didn't know what I hated about my body I just did. I hated everything, I cried about it eveey single time I looked in the mirror.
Then I started developing breasts oh boy...
I start getting intense gender dysphoria at that age and before you ask, yes, gender dysphoria isn't a trans exclusive experience at all. It's quite common to get "rapid onset gender dysphoria" as a cis person. Most people grow out of it by age 25.
My dysphoria went on for about 8 years, I used to bind religiously with things I should not have been binding with, like bandages. I binded it all the time for multiple days and while sleeping too. My breasts made me so dysphoric deapite being alsomt non existent. It was a nightmare.
By age 14 I cut all my hair off and started presenting more and more masculine. Keep in mind I never could actually come out or transition where I'm from and that has for once played in my favour. If someone told 16y.o me heck even 20 y.o me if she wanted her tits choped off I would've done ot in a heartbeat. I loved being recognised as a boy and hated when people could see through that. I have a very high pitched voice ans the second I speak I stop passing or people think I'm a 10 y.o boy.
This all lasted up until age 20. At that age I just started reflecting on everything that has happened and I realised that my feelings were all tied to the sexist environment I lived in. I wanted out and bring a guy was the closest thing to mentally escape despite transitioning being impossible. It made me mentally escape was presenting like a guy and feeling protected because of it.
It's worth mentioning that my household was extremely abusive and I needed to see something that resembled strength in the mirror amd a girl wasn't that. I needed that to survive, quite literally.
My body dysmorphia was due to being heavily sexualised from a very young age, my dysphoria was a sign of fear from a society that was so ready to make a feast of my body even as a child let alone a developing teen. My early childhood thoughts were me mimicking what I thought would get me by and protect me. It was all a coping mechanism from a cruel sexist world and an abusive environment.
At age 19 I almost got raped by a cab driver and it all clicked after a while. I realised why I was doing all that and also faced the reality that that wouldn't protect me and then months later I changed. I changed everything about the way I present myself and was thankful that I didn't do any permanent damage to my body.
My dysphoria was so bad I used to google how to get breast cancer just so I can get rid of my chest.
In the end it was my brain decided to do to protect me and keep me surviving.
I hope this helped
@@thatvampigoddess926 I’m sorry to hear. I know your life will get better. I’ll keep you in prayer.
@@thatvampigoddess926 I’m always surprised to find ftm trans ppl
Being a man in society really sucks
You might have had a horrible family environment but being a man in general isn’t fun
I appreciate that you don’t feel the need to react in an exaggerated or malicious manner for the sake of being entertaining. You give an honest reaction and explain why and aren’t afraid to be agreeable.
I feel like because of the recent Kelvin drama this is what she is trying to represent?
Kalvin *
@@chalktearsemmy9932 maybe. I’m never gonna be mad about growth.
@@alexisoutt1428 true, true
I hope it’s genuine as I do like Blaire
i assume the terms 'demiboy' and 'demigirl' just refer to a nonbinary person who is either more masculine/feminine presenting, but idk
So demi is basically 1 quarter trans, according to that girl.
Wouldn't it be 25% or 75%?
@@JourneysCurrentEvents did you miss the three quarters part of my comment?
I still don’t understand it xd but I guess I don’t need to understand it...
@@JoyJoy-se9sx it's being a girl or being a boy, but quirky
@@anthropomorphicpeanut6160 perfect explanation
Yes, you absolutely have to tell your partner that you're trans. What if the person wants kids? it's about respect.. As a woman attracted to men born men, I'd be so pissed if someone would keep that info from me.
Like you would know the difference between the two and it’s a lot easy for a trans man to get with a biological female can easily make an egg with the both you can’t the opposite way
@@simplyashley1658 Wtf are you talking about "can easily make an egg with both"? A transman is a biological female, therefore he doesn't produce sperm, and if he's with another biological female, they're not going to have biological kids together.
@@simplyashley1658 Yea, we can hope science soon allows us to grow a par of functional testicles in our backyards eh?
@@valoxsen6003 trans male a trans person who used to be a male and is now trans
@@simplyashley1658 you have to tell them out of pure respect. Not everyone is pansexual. Gotta respect that.
I think these tiktokers really don't accept the deep seriousness of a permanent change to your body. We have to be honest about this, and my only problem with them is that they are misleading.
It matters that ppl disclose because their boyfriend may want children
And it's creepy not to.
But what about people that are infertile ? Should people disclose they are infertile just when they meet up with someone ? Also lots of people are infertile and just don't know about it, they also deserve being in relationships.
@@renuvee7397 yes? if you meet someone who is adamant about having biological children, that is absolutely a requirement for an honest relationship. If I met someone who wanted kids and strung her along for years without telling her I was shooting blanks, would that even be remotely fair? That's something you have a conversation about very early on, when relationships begin to get serious and couples start discussing what's important to them.
@@renuvee7397 yea if you know you are infertile, that should be something you are upfront about. Same with if you know you 100% dont want children thats also something that needs to be discussed.
@@renuvee7397 definitely would discuss this even before a first date. Hell personally I’d be open abt this on my social media. I only want somebody who knows me for what I am and still wants to date me. People are talking about stringing people along- but the reality is you should be honest about fundamental things before you even start dating. Like I’m confused what some people think “getting to know each other” actually means?? I low-key feel like this has something to do with how catfish-y social media is conditioning people to be.
10 years later
"Honey let's have kids"
Post op trans: "ummm..."
They can say they're sterile
Mhm that’s why you need context and need to tell someone your in a relationship with
Exactly what I was thinking! You don't go into a relationship without telling your partner something like that. Also for the person who said "they can say they're sterile" I also considered that but then I realized that that person also should have disclosed this info if they new it and their relationship was long term, not only would they be deceiving their partner on the biological aspect of their bodies but also lying about a medical condition all because they didn't care to tell the true. Their whole relationship would be a lie.
i mean in a relationship trans people has to tell their partner that they are trans. As long as they do that and their partner accept that, then good for them. Adoption is always available.
Well dating is just interviews for a long time partner. Having or not having kids in your future is always a deal breaker. One person is going to be miserable not having their dream of having/not having kids. A trans person can say they don't want kids and dating over. The point of not telling is so they can increase their dating pool. Maybe there's a dating site for trans and trans loving folks. But then again a dude looking for a trans woman will have to be clear that they are trans anyway... Nevermind on that point.
The trans fad is really terrifying to me, as a gay man I remember as a teen thinking I was transgender. I wasn't, I just had gynaecomastia and going through puberty. I'm glad I didn't end up going on hrt.
If someone else's story makes you doubt your own, maybe you should rethink your story.
I don't agree because too many use fear mongering tactics
@GRACE NEMCIK you disagree that “doubt” is a good reason to simply rethink a position? Regardless of why you have doubts the fact of the matter is you have them. Any sensible person should promptly address self doubt. Doesn’t guaranteed out change your mind just guarantees price of mind in your decisions. don’t argue just to disagree
it does matter u tell someone r intimate with or have a relationship with. u can not have kids and thats a deal breaker for most people.
Exactly and if there trying to have a long term relationship it’s keeping a HUGE secret and no one should keep a secret like that is your wanted a “forever” relationship ya know? Starting a relationship with a lie/or based off a lie isn’t a good idea for anyone in general
Not to mention it completely denies them agency over their own sexual orientation.
Also she said “whatever surgeries you have or haven’t had”... like. No. You can’t surprise a lesbian or a straight man with a penis, that is borderline abusive. People have their own sexual orientation, and your validation is not more important than respecting them. They are giving consent to get naked with someone they think has a vagina, and many would not give their consent to get into that situation with someone with a penis.
@@DeepRedBlue 👍🏼 I agree! And I feel like this should be common sense!! Like duh 🙄 otherwise don’t be surprised when you get a reaction you don’t like
I can't have kids regardless because I have endometriosis. 🤷
the detransitioner's narrative is so important also bc one of the reasons I felt so sure that I needed to transition is from watching destransitioners' content. it made me think about transitioning from that perspective and made me realize that it was something I did in fact need to do. there are people who will have that internal battle and realize maybe transition isn't for them and we'll hopefully start to see less people detransitioning.
“the blaire white project” i get it lol
I don’t get lol can you explain it pls?
@@operabybahar1130 the blaire witch project is a movie, just a tiny play on words
Better than the original.
The first one, “HorribleLuxury” is definitely trolling lol. I lowkey love her tiktoks. She says the most random off the wall stuff and it’s hilarious. I think she actually used to be an escort with substance addiction, but now I’m 94% sure she’s just trolling. I hope. 😂
She does remind somewhat about Victoria Sellers.
"No judgement to the coochie sellers" lmfao. Not a line I ever expected to hear.
"No offense to the coochie sellers" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm dying of laughter right now actually crying. The way you said that was so funny
Sincerely a coochie seller hahaha
Lmao agreed and the (pretty) smile she made after saying “It’s just, you know- I’m gonna do a podcast😁” was so great
I am groot
Lmao right tho I died 🤣
"Im gonna do a podcast!"✨
I mean, if Blaire White had an Onlyfans, I think she'd be popular & successful lol.
@@FamousWolfe agreed
Tik Tok is rubbish.
Bonjour 🍍
ello bri ish
Is youtube any better?
@@marcuschauvin7039 anything is better than tik tok
Meh, it's a fun app. I actually use it to get away from politics and just for some feel good content.
Blaire has had such a glow-up in the last year. It’s nearly 2023 and she looks even better than she does here. Queen
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It's really funny how these people who identity with something like "demi blabla" or anything else, they often wear a weird makeup and look like a total weirdos. That's just telling me that they are in weird phase of these modern days and try real hard to be different and edgy. it's not something real.
or they're just expressing themselves differently than you??
Just like SJWs with their purple and blue hair.
@@ovrcstkds nope, those people almost always outgrow this phase.
I rely on my own personality to demonstrate uniqueness, so... 💅💅💅 Lol
they're the modern day emo's just louder and a billion times more obnoxious.
8:39 'telling someone you are trans' is a Trust Issue, for both parties. if you do not trust them enough to tell them that you are trans they you do not trust them enough to have 'intimate encounters' with them... mean while if you do not tell them before hand then you are violating Their Trust by keeping it a secret, lying but omission, and if you are going to LIE to someone DON'T date/f*ck them.
I love this background. I never knew I needed pink brick in my life.
Why are there so many different labels floating around these days? Surely this just confuses young people coming to terms with who they are more than helps them? They have so much to question nowadays. Why do we need a label? As a 30 year old man who likes men I don't know that gay fits me 100% because it's limiting and it doesn't define who I am more widely than who I find sexually attractive. But I don't spend my life trying to align myself to a label because we are all unique in every aspect of our lives and I don't feel a need to force being a labelled sexuality on everyone I meet. In fact I don't tell people; straight people don't have to, they'll know if I introduce a boyfriend to them that this is the person that I'm in love with, why do I need to shout my sexuality from the rooftops? I feel like coming out has been made more complicated for people than it needs to be by the plethora of identities and the general pressure put on them to be some kind of advocate by the "community". I agree with your summary, it is like a church and it sometimes seems to preach harder than the priests (not hard to do I know) but to the point that the community is starting to feel a step away from radicalised.
I feel like it's because people that have a narrow feild of vision have very loud voices. People that don't understand that all these unique people still share a singular label.
A person can be heterosexual or LGBT and still not be a stereotype or some other thing.
All these labels have done is just enforce stereotypes where people have tried to stop them.
Sem bro....sem
As my mom says... "Why can't people just be?"
people dont need to have a label and because you choose not to have one, don’t enforce it on other people. Having labels feels comforting to many people so therefore... let them be. Also yes I agree that coming out is becoming a duty, some people (most straight people) are starting to encourage coming out to people which endagers the community. but if people who comfortably express their gender identity/sexuality and shout it from the rooftops, who cares? They’re comfy. And straight people do the exact same so it’s just hypocritical when they get mad at lgbtqia+ for the same things they do.
Mama says "I could be anything I wanted to be in life." I chose to be a dog
I wonder how these people feel about people who eats dogs. Would it be cannibalism?
Your transition is literally the best I have ever seen
It is SO BAD on TikTok 😭
You look pretty w light makeup.
Agreed
What? She just doesn't have eyeshadow but this is very, very heavy makeup. Look at her face, her whole upper face is white because of concealer and jaw is tanner because of darker makeup. So makeup, heavy concealer, powder, bronzer, mascara, bunch of lip gloss (and she has lip filling), eyebrow pencil. That's hardly light!
@@sanxxxx
I was looking for someone to point out how over done her under eye concealer is.
@@sanxxxx i mean light or heavy makeup blaires always popping honestly
As someone who is detransitioning and has gone through a ton of counseling to get this point.....you can’t just trust your emotions. My emotions were twisted by self hatred, severe body dysmorphia, and suicidal depression.
I’m turning 28 tomorrow. I transitioned from 24 to almost 28..... now obviously trans people are real and valid, but people like me exist too, and to be honest sharing any personal story in the utmost honesty should always be okay. It’s healthy for people to have different experiences in everything.
And for anyone who reads this, don’t feel bad for me or pity me. I’m not embarrassed to have wrongfully transitioned and I’m not depressed about detransitioning. I went through what I needed to go through and I’m a healthy, mentally stable, person for the first time in my life.
I think we should keep in mind that for people who’ve experienced severe trauma...the decision making process of someone with untreated ptsd, eating disorders, suicidal depression etc etc is not the same as a mentally healthy individuals. It was my decision and I fucked up, but i fucked up by trusting my fucked up emotions and my fractured psych.
Wow I hope more people learn/ hear your story. I totally agree and hope you reach your goals !
As an English teacher, I think the hardest thing about calling people, "they/them," is when they're right in front of me. It feels rude to me, like I'm pretending they're not there/ignoring them. It's easier with he/him, she/her, because they're right there. Does that make sense?
Wouldn’t you feel the same way if someone was in front of you that goes by he/him/she/her...?
It feels dehumanizing to refer to someone as them or they in certain context. It's confusing for native English speakers to just start automatically speaking a way they haven't been since birth and since the inception of the English language.
Just use there name
@@lunalalaurie1049 tbf if they want to be called they/them then why don't just do it? We use it all the time when we don't know someone's sex even if they're just one person. E.g Someone left THEIR wallet. THEY must've been in a hurry.
@@euphrasiepolly5575 well, what they meant was that it feels disrespectful to call these people they/them. As you just said, when you don't know the person you say 'they, their, them' but, imagine you DO know this person? In the native English language, it's slightly disrespect. Now I have no problem calling people they/them, but I'll always have this guilty discomfort whenever I do.
The first girl in the green dress is hilarious and amazing, if you watch her videos you would know she's joking. Please don't lump her in with the rest of these people. She's @horribleluxury
...girl that dress is yellow.
@@dianeaishamonday9125 is it though...jk
When I have anxiety and depression I have emotions that may not reflect reality at all. Emotions are not facts, hence why you should not trust them in all instances.
these genders are getting out of hand..
So are heterosexual 😂
There’s too many gender identities that mean the same thing.
I need Jesus after watching this
Lmaoooo same *crosses self*
I am groot
love you girl
Poor Jesus didn't die for this 😆
im promoting jesus after watching this and im atheist
It’s so crazy the “trans trend”
I can see the whole medical part if it. When your in the hospital everybody around you dotes on you more.
I personally love being a women and I can’t lie was super Tom boy in middle school and felt self conscious but never felt I should be a boy. I’m just not a “girly”
“It was used by Shakespeare.” Yeah, because our language no longer has a singular non-gendered “Man” like German, which is why the Brits say “one” and Americans say “you.” Shakespeare wasn’t talking about you.
I love when they say literary work. As if normal people spoke that way on a daily, some cases yes but in most cases that was not the vernacular that most people spoke on a daily basis.
From anything and everything I’ve ever seen that comes from tiktok, trans aside, is that tiktok is a literal cesspool.
Yes it’s hardly just trans people that are cringe on Tick Tock and I bet most aren’t even really trans. This will be their emo or goth phase. They won’t actually be trans like Blaire is.
Our language is constantly evolving and adapting, so I'll call it "Addison's disease" 😆
Saying that dressing up like a dog is "same thing as being trans" is actually so transphobic like omg
Creating false equivalencies like that just hurts the cause, like MAPs claiming they're part of LGBT
transphobia doesnt exist because transgenders dont exist
@@Materva-hv6sz Guess i'm a fucking ghost then🤪
@@ko1619 Hello, fellow spirit! 👋👻
@@MSorge13 Hey, how are ya this day, while still being nonexistent and invisible?
@@ko1619 I’m doing quite well, thank you... Well, except for the fact I’m typing this but I don’t exist, and it’s really confusing me. 😩
I am so glad I went through an emo phase and that's whats on my moms facebook not an "I'm a dog" phase and then posting it myself all over everything where it will stay very much forever
Okay so not telling someone you are transgender before sleeping with them is so disrespectful and sneaky. That whole thing gave me ick vibes. Also I do think it’s just common decency to tell someone you’re dating, your sexual orientation. If I ever date again, I’ll definitely tell them I’m pansexual (I haven’t dated since I came out as pansexual). And it’s up to the person if they accept it or not.
the dog fetish thing is not actually something too new, I remember this particular fetish depicted in pop culture as long ago as 1970s
Doing something for comfort-? Okay so now I’m starting to think some of this stuff is delusion to be lazy not to find who you really are in the world.
Yep, its a whole new level of reality escapism
The 1st video, the woman in the chartreuse dress is trolling. Like I’m not speculating, she literally said it’s a troll video.
What in the lion witch and the wardrobe did I just watch lord o lord
@Erica Draven people just don't know gold when they read it
You're comment is basically the teacher from Danny Phantom that cursed in book titles. XD
Please don't stop, I love it.
No one can wear the crown but Blaire.
True that 👸🏻
Agreed
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6:00 I am a biological woman who suffers from PCOS and hirsutism. I can grow really dark and course facial hair in patches, but it is pathological rather than physiological. HOWEVER, no matter how much I love myself, you won't see me go out looking like this 💀
I don’t see the point in trying to silence detransition stories. Every group of people who are a minority need some sort of representation. I’m sure it’s easy to feel really alone and depressed when you make a mistake like that it’s more harmful to suppress these stories. It’s the peoples obligation to differentiate whether they should transition or not. If its unsure then I think they should wait till it is sure.