Detransitioners of TikTok: The Other Side of the Coin
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- Опубликовано: 19 фев 2022
- Today we're exploring the world of Detransition TikTok, and the stories we're not supposed to hear.
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Normalize the existence of "tomboys" and "tomgirls" again
Oh yeah I was a big tomboy. My sister was the girly girl. I was digging up worms and baiting hooks the dirtier I had my jeans by the time it got dark the happier I was. 👍
every girl considered themself a tomboy, because it just means "normal" and traits that are actually typical in girls. Labels like that started the problem
@@lunalee3021 tomboy is a descripter for a personality type. Girls and woman can have different traits, and a lot of those traits follow a more 'fem' output and some a more 'masc'. This isnt sexist or anything, its just our best wording for these personality types. Once more fitting words come around that dont sound lame and forced, cause tomboy/girl literally is an easy and understood term which expresses a personality type, they will get used.
I was a tomboy growing up. While plenty of girls were the same, they were also tomboys and had different interests and behaviors then the girls who were considered girly. Those girls also had olenty just like them. We still played together and all got treated the same. Its literally just a descriptive term for behaviors. My bff was a girly girl and we played together and did the same things yet we still were considered opposites.
Thats not wrong
@@willowb1527 my kind of woman
True, tomboys exist. I was a tomboy growing up (i have two older brothers) so they’re my playmates and i naturally acts and played like boys (i don’t like to play with dolls, don’t get this wrong there are boys who likes to play it) to the point my dad wouldn’t allowed me to cut my hair because he’s afraid that people would think i’m not a girl lol. Up until my highschool years my hairs was up to my waist. 30 years later have my own son and i love everything about makeups & dresses lol.
My therapist told me that the majority of the time people come in saying "im trans" she says "okay great. But let's not focus on that yet. Let's focus on everything else" and usually the realize they don't want to transition
i don't think that's legal
@@HelenA-vz5wy why
@@driftaddict228 didn't you hear about ONLY affirmation therapy?
@@HelenA-vz5wy as long as the therapist isn't saying who the people are they can talk about it. It's when you identify the person that it breaks the law
Wow is it really THAT common for people to think they are trans now??
Remember when it was cool to have “gender neutral” toys and clothes and things not because of the trans issue, but because we wanted kids to be kids and not conform to gender stereotypes? Now we’re going backwards and people want to conform to gender stereotypes and feel it’s a sign to transition. We need to bring back the campaigns that told kids it was okay to be a boy that plays with dolls and a girl that plays sports and it’s okay to be different and weird and that it doesn’t make you less than. People are becoming increasingly uncomfortable in their skin and it’s resulting in unnecessary permanent/mostly permanent physical changes. It’s sad.
Exactly. It's basically old fashioned sexism in disguise. It's ok to present atypically as a woman or man, without rejecting your sex.
Thank you 100% yes!
what the hell is a “gender neutral” toy??? Aren't all toys just toys??
@@5starstudios818 well toys are “gendered” in the sense that dolls are for girls and trucks of for boys and stores used to have boys and girls sections, although not really labeled anymore, but yes. That’s my point: toys are toys and that was the “movement” when I was younger was to just be yourself and play with whatever you want regardless of labels they try to put on these things.
When I was in 7th grade a girl played football with all the guys and was a badass chick she's she's straight married female no need to transition discover yourself before you mutilate yourself
Ugh my therapist literally told me to ‘go on testosterone and see how you like it’ and it’s ‘just like trying birth control’. 🤦🏻 thank god I didn’t because I’m happy being a butch woman now and my ‘dysphoria’ is gone
I hope that therapist is out of business?
@@ixlnxs she should be but I'm sure she isn't. She was pretty awful overall--would say insensitive things that made me feel like shit and invalidate my feelings if I expressed any, interrupt me a lot, didn't take any criticism/flipped the tables onto me always. She was encouraging me to go on testosterone and saying I was probably trans and despite knowing I was in a rough mental state, I had a past of an eating disorder, body image issues, self-harm, depression, etc.
I was expressing a ton of uncertainty about T and some permanent effects that i wasn't sure I'd want, and she was completely dismissive of my concerns. Made it seem like the effects are nothing, reversible, and I'm being a baby for even worrying about them and caring how I'll feel in the future. Her complete dismissal of my concerns set off my inner skeptic, fortunately...I watched some detransitioner videos and I felt deep down I had other things to work on, like internalized misogyny and self-esteem.
Eventually, I ended therapy with her after I asked her if she could ask me more questions in the session (to help me open up and feel like I'm being listened to), and she said no she can't, and 'maybe therapy isn't for you.' She really shouldn't be a therapist and I feel pretty put off from therapy as a whole after those awful nine months with her.
@Ari So very pleased to hear about your inner skeptic kicking in JUST when you needed to hear that voice. As for the "therapist" you describe! 🙉 I'm old enough to know that some people are drawn to therapy training who should NEVER be therapists. Especially those with very fixed views, strong belief systems or activist intentions./Don't be put off seeking out a reputable therapist in future, should you feel you want some help with any issues. (Just check out their training, work methodology, and patient reviews first.) Despite the distress your therapist caused, she may have ultimately done you an enormous favor by showing you that, in fact, you can authentically rely on yourself to come up with solutions. That self-guidance is a great thing too.
Hell even BIRTH CONTROL causes major hormonal changes. Most are not told and do not know what BC basically does. In essence, this isnt exact. It puts a woman in the after state of her period. Believe its after state it may be the later portion of a normal period. Its one of the reasons women have been more "emotional" since its wide spread use. Cause they are being held in that more vunerable emotional state they are in during their period and after.
This is also why women have leaned towards more feminine men today. Because when pregnant most women instinctually gather with other women to help them through it. Well if the women is that way all the time then they are going to want Partners who are more that way, IE more Feminine. BUT they then go OFF BC while pregnant and MANY begin to question why they liked their partner, cause now their normal hormone levels are returning and that desire to surround themselves with more Feminine individuals is reduced.
Bottom line really is that fucking with somthing as complicated as the Hormonal Balance of a Human Being is the LAST thing we want to fuck with. Cause the unforseen effects can be disastrous.
Edit: Thinking on it its not the period I think, its that it keeps the woman in a hormonal level that is similiar to being Pregnant. Hence the attraction to more Feminine men.
@@nairobae sure!
A comment I saw on a live stream: *We went from "You're not allowed to play with that because you're a boy" to "You're not allowed to be a boy because you played with that".*
My name is masculine in ny culture.
Sike im a girl who likes power rangers and barbie movies
I find that weird too because if you’re a boy playing with a Barbie doll that doesn’t mean you have to transition. Nor does it mean you should stop playing with it simply because you’re a boy
My son is 3, autistic, and plays with almost all types of toys. He likes cars and trucks, puzzles, balls, trains, and yes, even baby dolls. I don’t discourage him from playing with “girl toys” because I believe playing with baby dolls encourages a caring and nurturing nature towards children. He feeds her, puts her to sleep, and hugs her. He’s a very well rounded, caring child. He also understands the concept of boy and girl and can differentiate between them.
Wow, well said!
@@ascendednightingale2456 There should be more parents like you
Detransitioners don't undermine the validity of trans people one bit. Instead, they highlight the failure of a society that medicalizes confused teens without offering them proper psychological help and intervention first.
Yes! Perfectly said!
Most (85%) of ‘trans people’ detransition. So your 1st sentence doesn’t make sense.
@@collyernicholasjohn think they were talking about real trans people who made their decision at an adult age. Saying that detransitioners don’t invalidate actual trans people.
Course that requires them actually explaining what a “real” trans person is. Which they can’t seem to come to an agreement on. They always contradicting each other. They are letting men who don’t do anything to pass, identify as women and go into female exclusive spaces. While telling us not to conflate gender identity with biological sex. Such spaces were separated by biological sex, not “feelings”.
So far the whole thing sounds like a sexist delusion, and detransitioners are like the anorexics who realized they weren’t fat at all. Even if a former anorexic were to tell a current anorexic the truth, they would still deny to their death. Literally. Ultimately it’s a choice for them to acknowledge or deny.
And so far nobody has proven otherwise. They only talk about “feelings” without explaining what those feelings are. I never felt like a man. I just am one. I’m an adult. I’m human. And I was born with the reproductive biology for only impregnating, aka male. I’m the definition of a man. I go into the male bathrooms cause the rules put in place to protect females from predatory males, tell me that I have to use the male designated bathrooms. Just common sense.
While they refuse to explain on what basis do they identify as a man. They always run away when asked for the distinction between a man and a woman for which to identify.
To expand: detransitioners don't invalidate real trans people (those who transitioned for their wellbeing after therapy or as adults and are happy) Detransitioners highlight the problem of self identifying without therapy and the medical system allowing speedy transitions. Most girls have body dysmorphia during puberty and what used to be called teen angst and tomboys is now being medicalized leading to detransitioners. The system is failing these kids. Gatekeeping is not an evil and is necessary when minors are involved to distinguish between people with genuine gender dysphoria and those with trauma and body issues which is awful but normal for teens.
@@collyernicholasjohn that’s just wrong. It’s less than one percent. Where’d you get your info bud?
When I was 10, I HATED my female body & anything girly. I even told my mom I wanted to transition. She was hurt & she kept asking me why. My first answer was because nobody loves me for being a girl & all of my male relatives gets more attention in the family more than I do. I'm 21 years old with a beautiful 4 year old & I'm currently pregnant again (due in Jan 2023) & I'm so happy I didn't transition.
congratulations on your pregnancy 🥰☀️wishing you and your children the best and happiest life together
@@priscillaspets thank you 🥰❤️
Congrats on the baby- thank god you grew out of it- which is the reason they're trying to get children of a younger age to make the same mistake. I believe the only reason there'd be so much hatred aimed at detransitioners is possibly down to their own regrets- some people feel better about making the wrong decisions when they're surrounded by people who've done the same. Hate makes no sense unless the person hating has their own hang ups about an irreversible op'.
@@stephenmcdonagh2795 thank you & ikr! It's very sad that detrasitioners get so much hate like it's ok to regret something. It is wrong to push the agenda onto children (I've also said at 10 years old that I wanted to be a cat lol). Let kids be kids....
May your baby be healthy when born! I know you’ll be an amazing mama, because you managed to have a nice 4 year old :)
As a woman on the autism spectrum, this whole thing has enraged me because I can see how easy it would be to manipulate an autistic girl into believing she’s transgender. You’re not as empathetic and nurturing as the other girls, you have more trouble with emotions than the other girls, you tend to hyper focus in a way that’s more similar to a lot of boys. A lot of the things all the other girls do (or seem to do) will seem strange. It would have been so appealing if someone had said I didn’t fit in with the other girls because I was actually a man or non-binary or something. Fortunately as a millennial I was in my 20s by the time this transgender kids stuff started and had enough years of second wife of feminism to believe that my personality and hobbies didn’t make me any less of a woman.
Well feminism exists today and vast majority of them support this and it’s the majority of women are the supporters of these so having enough exposure of feminism means shit if anything most feminists promote this so gtfoh
sadly that seems to be the case
my daughter is on the spectrum. she's started hormones after she turned 18 and moved out when I found out. she just started talking to me after months..she no longer sees a counselor and never saw a psychiatrist... it breaks my heart to hear her deep voice and see the beard.
i genuinely think this is why a lot of autistic people are found in trans/non-binary spaces. it’s not uncommon to find neurodivergent individuals identifying as a different gender or generally as something different, i think this is a type of confusion due to not really fitting in.
as another autistic female I agree 100%
So many of individuals are confusing gender dysphoria with body dysmorphia, and or clinically significant depersonalization and or identity confusion. It is tragic, and I blame the parents, the medical system, and society as a whole. This should never have happened. Being woke has gone way too far.
Has “gone way too far?”
That was the whole issue with it in the first place.
After homosexuality was normalized and allowed to marry through the state… should have stopped there.
Done. Over. Rights established.
Right now we’re forced to believe a lot of crap that is insanely delusional.
We need to tell people what’s really up and have them grow a spine.
Less shit about feelings
More about accomplishments…
You're right society as a whole is to blame, glad you included yourself.
I completely agree. I’m 41 and still learning about myself.
@@LeonardoDaVinciLulz Yeah, the people pushing back on this lunacy are to blame too because they too are _society as a whole_ ... totes.
Please take your lithium.
Look it's very simple people: If your _earliest memories_ weren't of gender incongruence, you're not trans... you're a fraud who hasn't detransitioned yet.
I feel like my stepkid is one of the people you're referring to. Had some trauma in life and we have spent years trying to get them mentally healthy but they met a group of friends and decided they were trans, then changed their mind and said they're not, then changed back again, then switched to non-binary and then back to trans. Of course when their dad and I questioned them, their answer was, "Because I don't feel like I fit the stereotype of a man"...and when we pointed out that doesn't make you trans and men come in all different varieties, we were met with irritation by their grandmother who is part of the LGBT community and unquestionably supports it even though she is well aware they're struggling with mental issues that have included hospitalization several times.
I insisted I was a boy since I could talk. I dressed, acted, and looked like a boy. One of my friends moms pulled me to the side and said, "I was just like you as a kid. You're a tomboy, and you'll grow out of it one day." And that felt so embarrassing and hurtful as a 8-9 year old.
In my early 20s I gained confidence in myself and my body. I didn't need to transition because I am more comfortable with non feminine things.
I can't imagine where I'd be if my parents pushed forward with transitioning me as a child or teen because of how adamant I was. I'm glad they let me explore and figure things out.
I was a tomboy as well but down deep always felt female.
As an adult I figured out I could wear makeup, dress girly and still like cars and guns.
I often think many ppl dont know or realize they can balance these things without transitioning.
I agree, parents should let kids be themselves but also be cautious and not force kids into either category(we see parents force trans kids into their birth gender and currently we see parents force the idea of being trans on their kids when they display and form of interest in things typical to the opposite gender. People can say what they want about Angelina Jolie..but one thing I always apprechiated was how despite the media claiming Shiloh to be trans and a "trans icon" she never once put that lable on her child and allowed Shiloh to express herself the way she wanted to at whatever age she was at. Now we see her in dresses with longer hair and make up, typical 14 year old girl. Imagine if Angelina and Brad had gone ahead and pushed her into that trans category since she was so adamate as a child that she wanted to be a boy. Shes still a kid so who knows who she will be or how she will identify when shes older, but its nice to see that she is allowed to make choices and grow and change without preassure from her parents which allows her to ignore the lables and expecrations placed by the media(who shouldnt be labling kids anyway).
Yup. Because you are a cisgender woman.
It’s almost like you’re NOT trans
Exactly alot of girls like doing boy things even after they grow up look at all the women that do jobs that are typically male dominated like mechanic or electrician, carpenters doesn't mean they want to be men.
I'm a detransitioner. I had no difficulties with coming out as trans - everyone I know, including my workplace, were super accepting of it. The only transphobia I ever faced was a few hate bots on my Twitch streams. When I detransitioned however, people were not shy in expressing their disapproval, probing the issue with extremely personal questions, and treating me entirely different. I lost friends from detransitioning.
They were just supporting you at first that. It doesn’t mean they accepting the trans thing. But once you’re figured it out your self… it is safe to talk about real opinion.
You are perfect how God made you. Love yourself.
That's so sad. There are SO many narcissists pushing people into transitioning, because it makes them feel like they're such good people. I hope your life is on track and you're doing really well now.
😢
They were never your real friends to begin with then
" I don't like how I sound when I sing anymore "
brought me to tears. imagine the joy she felt while singing.
“Being a woman has nothing to do with femininity.”
YES. This is my question for people who are toying with transgenderism; what does it mean to be female/male? Just because you like girly things doesn’t make you a female. I am interested in mostly masculine things, get along generally better with guys, and have a personality type that is 90%+ male. I was a tomboy growing up. But none of that makes me a male.
nope. you are just a "mens woman". a woman that men like to hang out with without the constant sexual innuendos. if a guy ever tells you "you are one of the boys" thats a huge compliment.
Yeah, to be told that the social aspects of gender (stereotypes of girly things and manly things) are more important than our biology is absolutely crazy.
**transsexualism but I agree 100%
Trans is definitely more of a mismatched body thing than a stereotype thing. Cuz as a trans man I’d say I’m definitely more on the feminine side in terms of interests and aesthetics, but I don’t feel any less of a man body wise, ya know? So I definitely understand the separation of gender and gender roles. I wish there was a definitive answer to why I feel this way other than “it is what it is”…
Matt Walsh asked these questions in Dr Phil's show and the people on the other side found it very very hard to answer.
I don’t know if this would interest you, but in our case my wife has severe PCOS, endometriosis, and PMDD and was unable to get a hysterectomy. She has been suffering for a decade and cannot get a doctor to talk about a hysterectomy in spite of being infertile, having tried many, many medications, therapies, and other surgical interventions… so six months ago she said she thought she was trans. Her hysterectomy is scheduled for next month.
It makes me angry that, as a woman, she was allowed to suffer like this for so long… as soon as she was viewed as a man, they were like “let’s move this up before everything else, no reason for you to suffer through this as a man!”
As soon as it’s done, we’re ditching the gender clinic. I know they do a lot of great things for actually trans people, but it’s been more than a little sickening to see how easy this was when they were prepared to let an infertile woman with no desire to have children continue to go through this for another decade or more, but the second she said she was a man they took care of her properly.
I'm guessing these doctors didn't want to get sued. Either way, it's a man's world isn't it
Life hack for someone going through gynecological issues tho! Thanks for the tip!
I have these same issues and every gyno I've had has been extremely rude and has not done anything to help me in 10 years. The only thing that helps the pain is marijuana.
That's disgusting sexism.. it proves my theory that many detransitioners are actually just women who were sick of being treated as a lesser beings in society.
Not to mention,
many trans men would point out how their social status had improved after transitioning and going on T, cuz people would just take their opinions and emotions seriously
This is what ticks me off the most is if you're a woman and ask for sterilization or ovary removals doctors are extremely hesitant to operate. "You'll change your mind", or "let's just give you drugs for your pain". Go trans and suddenly none of that matters. Btw I recommended to a coworker with ovarian cyst issues to identify as trans if they refuse to treat her.
A big problem is the gendernormativity behind a lot of transgender-storys. When you are a young girl you most likely have a tomboy phase. Being surrounded by sometimes a pretty radical LGBTQ community CAN definitely influence you into thinking that you are trans. Women don’t have to be „feminine“ to be women. But I feel like the people that are against this genderroles label the most.
They want gender roles to go but are also forcing it 🤦♀️
@@jessevans8982 yep, exactly
The biggest tomboy i grew up with became one of the most beautiful women in my hometown!
Yeah it seems like schizophrenic thinking at times. ie, Gender means everything, but it also doesn't mean anything.
If I was a kid now, I definitely think I would've been led down the transition path. And that scares me because I think I would've allowed myself to be led there. Let people be themselves!
It's okay to trans but not detrans. See how "tolerant" the whole community is.
It's fully okay to be detrans, just don't be anti-trans.
@@IchigoShinagamiyou are right but there are a lot of people in the community who confused detrans people with anti-trans. To the point where trans people feel scared to detransition for the backlash by the trans community.
Just because they’re sharing their story and the truth we need to hear doesn’t mean they are anti-trans.
@@LushyMossBread Well yes, and that's sad, it is a Community response to certain very loud Detransitioners being dragged around by Conservative media.
Blair you captured the reason why so many activist seem so misogynistic to me! Minimizing the loss of real breasts because you can just get implants as if they were just sex toys or accessories.Disgusting
I have to have a mastectomy for medical reasons, and views like the one you just commented here has made me not want reconstruction.
@@giantcheesegrater that’s your choice implant carry a risk.
@@peach411 I just hope you dont go around saying breast implants "arent real" or are just "sex toys or accessories". You have no idea if the women who overhear your comments are breast cancer survivors who chose reconstruction.
@@giantcheesegrater Aaaand you completely missed the point of the OP’s comment and made it all about to YOUR feelings🙄
@@Laura-Yu sorry for caring about cancer survivors, I guess.
What gets me is how people who push transitions on kids literally say, “yOu CaN rEvErsE it” like fuck outta here. If you won’t left a 7 year old get a face tattoo, then why let them transition so early. The selective energy around this issue is wild. Projecting these issues on kids is wicked.
You’ve expressed this just perfectly. 🙏
because you can reverse it lmao. i know for a fact no one is giving a 7yo hormones to transition, or surgeries. soooo yeh it isnt permanent. gtfo
@@mayadalsoglio8252 What aspect are we speaking of when you say it can be reverse? Y’all say it like there isn’t outlasting effects or like a transition will absolve all the issue centered around their identity and it rarely does the way we are led to believe. I never said kids were transitioning that young but reassignment surgery and etc is discussed with kids that young. Transition all you want but kids are kids. They can’t understand all the downsides.l, if many trans activist cared about the people and not pushing their points then they would see many young people who transitioned are living their best lives and they are attacked for saying otherwise. So you can gtfo, I know what I’m saying
@@mayadalsoglio8252 they do, search it up.
You can reverse tattoos easier than a transition yet its reasonable to let kids transition. Makes sense!
I thank my dad every now and then for loving me and trusting me but still telling me hormones are an adult decision. He let me be "Eathan". He called me his son and defended me. And then still supported me and never once said "I told you so" when I realized that I only wanted to be "Eathan" because I thought Athena liking girls was wrong. He never even told me liking girls was wrong. I just didn't like that part of me. Seeing all these beautiful people struggle is so hard because I see myself, a person who didn't fit in society, who tried to fit society's homophobia.
Your dad is awesome!!! Such a human!
Athena is such a pretty name!!
This ain't a bad tattoo, this is a massive physical and psychological impact. Irreversible
My husband's step sisters are the "trendy" mom's that honestly have pushed it on their kids. 1 has a 13 year old that is transitioning..he's autistic and honestly I feel is confused about why he is a boy now..The other one has a 2 year old boy, and is constantly saying it's ok if you want to be a girl, or if you transition, ect. Just because he dresses up...all 2 year olds dress up..there is a line to let kids be kids. My son most definitely wore tutus and heels with sparkly wings and wands when little, but that did not mean he identified as female...
That sounds on the line of parents forcing transitioning
What you've described is very disturbing. It's child abuse and those kids will be impacted by it for the rest of their lives.
You should take a picture of your son dressed like that and show it to him when he's 15 or an adult, it's going to be hilarious😂.
@@omnianimator8468 I have great videos of him dancing around all dressed up. He's 12 and has seen them, I gush how cute he was and he laughs. He knows what a cute toddler he was.
@@staceys2180 Adorable😆
I’m a very “masculine” woman. I liked a ton of boy things growing up, and the way my dad raised me it was definitely like he was raising a son. “Be tough and never cry” mentality. 100 percent, if social media was as prominent as it is now, back then? I probably would have assumed I am going through a gender crisis. I hope that doesn’t sound insensitive.
Same…I was the kid playing with train sets and I didn’t like anything feminine or pink. I think things would have been much tougher if I grew up a couple decades later. I’m an engineer now and I still don’t like pink
I was a "Tom Boy" growing up. Had 2 older brother's I followed around. Trust and believe, it did not mean I wanted to be a boy!! I am all woman! Have 3 beautiful girl's, LOVE men and LOVE being a woman. Yes, I agree, if things back then were the same as they are today, society might of tried to push/ persuade or convince me that I should be a boy. When all I wanted was to hang with my big brother's!!
it doesn't. I'm 19 & ever since I was little, I never liked doing girly things or dressing in girly clothes. my parents told me it's cuz I'm a tomboy. it makes me sad to see other girls my age being lead to think that they're trans just because they don't like conventionally feminine things - I wish tomboys were still popular, maybe then I could relate to other girls in my boat better.
Same.
The media carries a lot of blame for today's ills. Normal behaviour is made to be abnormal, and vice versa.
There is this thing called cohort effect - which is why you see so many who want to transition now. They see everyone around them doing it.
It's like the bacterial diseases of old - if you live with a colony of lepers eventually you will get leprosy . Similarly this thing is 'catching'. And the 'catching ' is sped up by a complicit media and progressive ideology. The latter is based on 'feelings' and immediate gratification without considering long term effects . Just because a transitioning process is available doesn't mean you should use it.
Notice when they detransition people no longer give them a platform, they suddenly aren't apart of the LGBT community. So it's so amazing to see Blair actually talk about a real issue that is sky rocketing thanks to the trans trend
I mean...... wouldn't they not be a part of the lgbt community cause they arent actually trans?
@@eddiemarshock7745 well maybe they are not trans but lgbt is also about gays lesbian pans etc... They could also be this.
@@antonindufournaud6572well unless they stated they’re any of the above others would assume
@@eddiemarshock7745well if this community is as accepting and as loving and inclusive as they claim to be, then they should offer help to a confused and suffering person
They literally forgot what the Q means in LGBTQ+ means. It's not ok to question or change your mind I'm a group that I supposed to advocate for exactly that. People today are scarily delusional. All groups have lost their minds on the internet then act normal in public. It makes me think most people really do know right and wrong, but the internet let people let their hate out.
One of the more famous and endearing characters struggling with his identity was Kermit the frog. In the song Bein Green, Kermit declared: "it could be nicer being red, or yellow or gold". We can only imagine how difficult it must be for a bright-colored frog trapped inisde a plain, green body. Ultimately, Kermit decided to forego color reassignment and accept himself the way Mother Nature made him. After some introspection, Kermit declared: "I am green and it will do fine. It's beautiful and I think it's what I wanna be."
That’s so sweet. I love Kermit.
I took this as so sarcastically wholesome at first and then halfway through I literally remembered the song 😂😂😂like yes it’s true. We love Kermit ❤& Old school Sesame Street!
It became so easy to transition, so normalized to try it out before evaluating your reasons, that all of those sad stories are poppig up now.
Back in the days I startet transition, I had to go through several checks, had to prove my point, had to see psychologists etc.. yet there are still people selling this evaluation process as a kind of transphobic oppression. This needs to stop, it only creates tragedy
Maybe because of the extreme high suicide rates of transexuals. Just saying it should only be one check and paid for this is life saving medications.
These checks are so important. Even though it might seem like a harder way for "real" trans people, it's important to protect the people who aren't. Who are misdiagnosed. It's really dangerous, these steps must be harder, unfortunately, so we can protect the other people.
@@MagpieAnnie73 Yup. For some it’s also internalised homophobia. It’s a kind of socially-permissible conversion therapy.
@@jayrose4748 The high suicide rate is likely a symptom of the disorder itself rather than environmental factors. Gender dysphoria comes with many comorbidities, including depression, OCD, social anxiety, eating disorders, personality disorders, etc.
You say that this is “life-saving” treatment but that isn’t borne out by the facts. Suicidal ideation is only marginally reduced post-transition, and in a risk vs benefits evaluation, it’s hard to make the case that any benefits of transition are enough to offset the health risks and high likelihood of regret.
@@ohwellwhateverr well many studies have shown that transitioning and undergoing srs can reduce suicidal tendencies up to 50% and that rate is getting better since surgical results are getting better, therefore increasing overall satisfaction with the results..
Getting srs or hormonal treatment for the wrong reasons on the other hand, can drastically increase suicidal behavior, that's for sure.
Blaire I’m honestly so thankful that I found trans people like you that are not afraid to criticise the toxic traits of the LGBT community. I used to be so on board with all these “woke” activists without seeing the harm this form of activism can cause. You really made me get a much broader and balanced view on these topics.
@SPIC-EE Clown I'm sorry to hear your idea of morality is based on some reward system in the afterlife instead of genuinely wanting to do good for its own sake. We're all dust in the end and your false beliefs are a tragic waste of time. Sad lol.
@SPIC-EE Clown okay. That's quite a thing to say to someone. What makes you think this person won't enter the kingdom of Heaven? I didn't see them say anywhere that they haven't accepted Jesus Christ as their personal savior. Because that is what it takes. That is the only way. If that isn't your belief that is fine also. Take care.
We appreciate you
Agreed
its transmedicalists like Blaire White that cause people to think that medically transitioning is the only way to be valid. Not LGBT people who are fine with people who don't medically transition right away or at all...
"i don't like how I sound when I sing anymore." That's heart breaking. I want to thank everyone in this video for their bravery! I've seen some videos where some transgender people treat detransitioners like less than human. It has to be scary to put their story out there. So thank you all for sharing.
I hated being female especially during my puberty years when I started getting breast and “the cycle.” I always was a tomboy growing and would cry whenever my mom would put me in a dress. During my teen years when I came out I did think what would it be like if I transitioned. I’m so glad I didn’t
I'm happy for you. It's so sick to hear of all the parents now that are willing to let their underage children transition. I can't imagine the anger a person might feel towards their parents or parent that allowed them to do such a drastic thing before their brain had even fully developed. Some of these detransition stories are truly brutal
I was a total tomboy....I'm about 58 now. Had I been asked at the time if I wanted to be a boy, I definately would have said yes!!! I didn't get my period till the age of nearly 15. I was playing football the day I got my period...and after that I didn't play football any more and I didn't want to be a boy, I wanted to kiss all the boys!!! Thank God I grew up then...had I been a kid now, I probably would have pushed to 'become' a boy and then, later regretted it!!!
I know old tom boys who have transitioned and they cannot leave the house due to anxiety. Happy for you.
I've definitely noticed that there is a lot of internalized misogyny in this community. The majority of trans and non-binary people, I've noticed, are biological females. There has been such an effort to neutralize female connotations, such as "chest feeding" and "birthing person", that it really makes sense that a lot of people in this community have a warped and toxic relationship with their own womanhood.
This right there. I have recently got to know a born dude call himself non binary and it's either that he doesn't feel secure in going the mile and calling himself a trans woman or that he's just severely insecure and doesn't feel confident in being a feminine man - which seems more likely to me. "being feminine is something bad" right?
@@dappidy3763 there is a whole subset of feminism that literally talks about how the trans movement harms women, but ok
The irony of them claiming we are “reducing them to their genitals” which is false, while they literally call real women “birthing person”. Which is literally reducing someone to their genitals.
Your genitals is what determines the reproductive role you and every other creature serve/play in reproduction. You exist, you was born because of that. Which is why such a distinction is important. Which is why in every language humans created 2 terms to identify and distinguish those 2. In English those born with the reproductive biology for only giving birth are called females and the other are called males for all reproductive binary creatures.
The terms man and woman were created to distinguish adult human beings based on their biological sex. To reduce the amount of words we use in a sentence. Instead of saying “I’m only attracted to adult human beings who are born with the reproductive biology for only giving birth”, it’s easier and simpler to say “I’m only attracted to women”.
Which comes to their biggest contradiction. Telling us not to conflate gender identity with biological sex, while literally conflating the 2 every time they speak. Such as “transwomen are women”. Right there they are conflating the 2 since woman is a term that was created to identify the adult human beings of the female biological sex. And don’t get me started on males forcing their way into private/exclusive spaces that were separated for those of the female biological sex in order to protect them from predatory males, and competitions that were also separated by biological sex so that women can also have a fair and equal chance of being successful as men without having to have the same physical advantages. No exceptions.
Terf is an oxymoron as it implies there’s trans inclusionary feminists. Well for starters real feminists want equality for both biological sexes. Misandrists, not so much. Second, one of the biggest issues feminists talk about are sexist stereotypes. The idea that women all behave, think, feel, and act a certain way. Which is literally what the concept of gender identity is based on. Therefor Transgenderism contradicts feminism. Which makes “Terf” nothing more than oxymoronic, misogynistic slur.
How did we go from the Right telling us how to act and behave according to our biological sex to the Left telling us how to identify based on how we act and behave? And any mention of biological sex is “phobic”. As a result they invalidate the identities of over 99% of the entire population who identify with their biological sex, such as the terms were created for.
What many people ignore is how anti-LGB the trans community has become. To deny biological sex is to deny sexuality. To erase homosexuality which is based on the attraction between 2 people of the same biological sex. Therefor erasing homosexual oppression.
I’ve asked thousands of these people to tell me the distinction between a man and a woman for which to identify. None of them ever gave me a straight answer. It’s always speeches and temper tantrums. Sometimes I’m blocked. But some would slip during their temper tantrum and others who have the figurative balls to tell their stories, always express internal sexism.
The sexism is so bad they develop this delusion they aren’t the biological sex that they are or they develop a form of body dysmorphia. Similar to anorexics and women who obsess over plastic surgery. They share the exact same symptoms.
I don’t care what trans people do with their own lives so long as their choices don’t affect others. That’s the main problem with this narcissistic community of deluded sexists.
Yes yes YES!!! All I see is womens health being silenced. We cannot call menopause a woman’s issue, or talk about the womb being a female body part. But no one gets upset when people talk about prostrate cancer or balding as mens issues! It’s disturbing and infuriating!
"birthing person" is so gross. gives me the handmaid's tale vibes. I'm a woman, please and thank you, not a vessel for babies.
There was a woman who transitioned to man after she was sexually assaulted. She felt disempowered after the assault and she felt that by transitioning to male she would regain that “power”. But she found that after she transitioned to male, she still didn’t feel empowered. Which is why she de-transitioned.
Thing is, men are sexually assaulted too. I don't know how the assaults are generally handled (against men) in the civilian sector, but what happens in military psych ward to survivors is a damn shame and tends to wreck any form of recovery for the males.
And that's the core of the issue. Body modification in many forms often results from unresolved trauma.
@@ltp9019 you might not realise it but coming to a comment about a woman being sexually assaulted to bring up men being sexually assaulted is actually rather rude and harmful to the topic. I understand you most likely had good intentions with it but there are too many with bad intentions that you will just end up hurting/angering people or not start it with “the thing is, men get sexually assaulted too” (which is the main part that is extremely rude) but maybe just “men/people in the military that get sexually assaulted…” cause we all know men get assaulted too
Hahaha wtf too funny
I am interested in this story if you can share the name or an article
I’m glad a person who is actually trans is covering this. Lately a lot of people are detransitioning, and others are starting to let go of their support as a whole, because the videos out there made by cis people are mixing up facts. This is a good balance of empathy and factual advice
The singers' stories made me cry. I'm a singer, and I cannot fathom what it would be like to lose my voice that way. It's so so sad I just want to give them a big hug.
I actually started to tear up with some of these stories.... I hope everyone finds their own path. Whether you transition or not.
I remember you from back in the day. You were one of my favourite channels:)
Joey, a lot of the stuff in the video is not fully researched and it was harmful to Alia since they didn’t regret the detransition 😭
Why care, it's there on doing!
@@Kim-id1tf how was this harmful?
@@kingmonde They included her in this video about de transitioning when they are not de transitioning. Basically saying that the person was going back to whatever they were assigned at birth for hundreds of thousands of people to see when they are not in fact doing that. If you don’t see the harm in that then you must be socially inept.
I was a tomboy growing up, still am. I think it’s normal for a lot of girls to be tomboys. It doesn’t mean that makes me trans or non-binary or whatever. Not everything needs to be categorised...in fact, I think labelling/categorising is quite damaging and I think there’s too much pressure and glamorisation of being ‘different’ or people overanalysing what or who they are. Love your work Blaire xx
I posted a similar comment a few minutes ago. It used to be "homophobic" to suggest that if your child didn't adhere to gender stereotypes, they must be gay. Now, the LGBTQ+ community does that when "advocating for trans rights". Interesting.
I'm so glad I was a tomboyish girl in the 2000s/early 2010s, because I definitely would have fallen down the trans/non-binary rabbit hole if I was a teenager now.
Seriously, what happened to adults not encouraging self-destructive teenage behaviour? Just imagine someone would have told all those 2000s emo kids that cutting is perfectly fine and 'empowering'.
If I didn’t embrace my tomboy hood from 2000-2016 I would’ve been down the rabbit hole big time
What sucks is that no matter what generation, tomboys seem to be confusing for people, except for Gen X. Gen X did not give AF if you were a tomboy. However, boomers, millennials, and zoomers seem to think that you’re a weirdo if you’re a tomboy. So glad I grew up in the 80s and 90s when being a tomboy was appreciated.
Anyone see My Girl? Great movie about a tomboy. In cartoons, there were cool girls like Gadget (Rescue Rangers) and Penny (Inspector Gadget) who were good with tech and mechanics but were still feminine too. It was a good time to grow up and be a tomboy.
I’m 40 and still a tomboy. Love being a mom and love being a tomboy.
@@umiluv yes inspector gadget! Ooh hoo!
Every time I mention Blaire to my liberal friends, she always claims blaire is a self-hating trans woman who is just trying to suck up to the right-wing extremists. Last month she said he thinks the left is a tiny bit crazy and maybe they're a bit out of line. For her, that is HUGE. I hope one day she actually watches your videos and isn't so closed minded.
seeing blaire on the verge of tears touched me so much, she's such a kind-hearted, empathic human being
i am so sad that so many girls feel so uncomfortable in their bodies or so outcast for being less feminine as women that they feel they need to change who they are and permanently alter their bodies. i am so glad i am not a young teen right now, as i can imagine myself going through a similar identity crisis. we are absolutely failing young women, and women as a whole. we are teaching them indirectly that their bodies are sex objects, and if they’re not comfortable being objects for men’s pleasure, then the only way out is to become a man…
darling you can hate dresses, dress in baggy clothes, love sports or cars or the gym, have short hair, play video games, and be a lesbian and still be completely valid as a woman. heck, you can be asexual and have no interest in anything remotely sexual and be a woman.
it’s the exact same thing that was happening back in the 90’s and 00’s.. except then the girls were developing eating disorders instead of identity disorders..
now imagine if back then there were numerous activists and medical professionals claiming that anorexia is a valid lifestyle and enabling anorexic girls to get bariatric surgery so that they “can live their truth” or whatever..
It’s because men shoehorned this movement, gay rights was never about the lesbians, just like this new “womens rights” isn’t about the women. The men are the ones leading this movement and grooming young girls into this.
@@SexyTCAPdecoy4Hansen I’m not disputing what you messaged. But why would men want to groom girls into becoming boys?
@@Guillhez Yeah girls were just being tomboys or emo back then and rock with it.
@@notmyrealname3403 Collateral damage. Unintended consequence. Pandora's Box. You name it. Also, they probably don't think that they can afford to admit that there is indeed a problem with the type of activism they have been promoting for years. As Daphne Rose indicates, it is because men shoehorned this movement. They assumed they were on the right side of history, and they failed to consider other stakeholders (i.e., women, children, parents). That is what it looks like anyway.
Here’s the clue. When woke people, teachers and activists are suddenly the “experts” and are drowning out medical specialists and scientists, it’s going to end in tragedy.
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That’s why people like Dr. Jack Turban are so dangerous. He’s a genuine doctor specializing in child psychiatry and recommends gender-affirming care for kids. They’re kids! Let them figure out their gender without interference from others
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These make me so sad. I’m a man, specifically a gay man, but I was VERY feminine & flamboyant as a kid. If a doctor would have said to me when I was like ages 5-12 & said to me that they thought I was trans, I would’ve 100% believed them & would have thought I was trans as well, & most definitely would have started transitioning into a woman.
Now as an adult, I know that I am not trans & that I don’t want to be a woman. But if i grew up in our current society where doctors are so quick to say kids are trans, I would be extremely regretful about the whole situation. We need to realize again that just because a girl is a tomboy, or just because a boy has more feminine hobbies as a kid, doesn’t mean you need to pump their bodies full of hormones that will change their bodies forever
your videos make me feel so much better about detransitioning
i didnt medically transition but the social aspect and the way i looked still effects me today
"My dysphoria was hatred of my body due to internalized misogyny" THIS !!!!!
I went through this as a teen, too.
@@daijoubu_desu Thank you for sharing, this takes a lot of courage to say especially on the internet.
what does this mean exactly?
@@oki7638 Internalised mysogyny (Hate for women) reflected on the person by making them feel (a woman) that their body was not sufficient enough / they hated their body / that they needed a man's body.
Both women and men experience this. I would say in equal measure. It was one of the factors my wife and I took into account when deciding not to have cable television in our house. We didn't want our children pounded with image after image, all day and all night, of the perfect bodies and the perfect, must have styles. We didn't want them to internalize the notion that unless you looked like these people, you were somehow less than.
It's almost like someone should have mentioned how severe and permanent transitioning is.
You mean like getting normal breasts hacked off?
If just the idea alone is not going to stop someone who is? We need strict laws in place that insist on therapy intervention but TRAS
shouted those ideas down and in most places it's affirmation only when someone says they are trans.
@@ohthelovelypoems Can't argue with this. It's 100% true.
Taking chemically altering medications and mutilating your body parts should be obvious enough that this is not a safe process 😆
Well luckily In my experience they tell you basically every time you see them (this is before you do any medical transitioning) and they put you through months of therapy and deep questions about how permanent it is to see if you have the mental capability to make that decision
I don’t know if they do this in other places like America though but it’s standard practice where I live
I admire and respect you so much for using your platform to share these peoples stories. They deserve to be heard.
Not gonna lie I was close to tears hearing that person talk about not liking the sound of their voice when singing after testosterone. If that person were to ever see this somehow I would tell them to please never stop singing. I can’t imagine what that must be like for you but please never stop singing. Just breaks my heart to hear.
when i was 13, people used to call me ‘he’ in a derogatory way and would call me a boy because i’m pretty masculine, and they even convinced me that i was a guy. plus, i also have anorexia and i have really bad body dysmorphia, so i mistook this for gender dysphoria. i socially transitioned to a guy to conform to gender stereotypes and i’m so lucky that it happened at such a young age so that i couldn’t go on testosterone or get top surgery. this is a really big problem, and i know i would have regretted it if i had physically transitioned. luckily, the people i surrounded myself with were supportive regardless, and i was accepted when i told them i wasn’t ftm
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@@DezuFuck lolll u have an anime pfp too XD
You actually can get those things done at that age...😬
@@material-cheshirekhatter2413 omg ,that's crazy
A topic like this needs to be discussed more.
Their stories deserve to be heard just the same as those who are happy with their transition.
Dylan Lemay, a Tiktoker, said this EXACT thing and was crucified for being “homophobic.” I discussed this with someone and their answer?
“These conversations are harmful to the trans community.”
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Does it though?
Why
@@BLiNGyourALARMclock but there are a lot of them already out there right..?
The one girl on here, I think she's after the girl with purple hair, she's a RUclips influencer her channel is called "Supervillian Salty". She educates about the negatives of jumping to transition at a young age, she speaks out against doing this to children. She's become a lot more comfortable now, has a good relationship and seems happy. She's a beautiful girl. I love her channel.
I really feel like these videos need to be seen more! Love that you’re able to address this!
this is why kids shouldn't be doing this, this is a decision that definitely needs to be made as an adult.
Absolutely like religious choices and pregnancy etc. ✌🏽
I don't know if that's what you should be taking out of this, a lot of people who transition young are fine happy and can pass a lot easier than those who are older.
Plus even in this video there were those who were basically adults when they transitioned and still de transitioned.
It shouldn'tt be made, period.
@@firasjemil213 it can be made as a adult,get a education so you can understand the difference between children and adults
@@Tia-Louisa religious choices aren’t permanent and unchangeable
How can people legitimately say that Blair doesn't care about the trans community, you can see very clearly that she is affected by these videos and for a brief moment looking at bianca505 you can see her eyes getting redder, she held back crying about the whole "I don't like my singing voice anymore".
Please continue supporting these young detransitioners, they probably need you.
im a happy trans male but let me tell you losing my singing voice was pretty sad dont get me wrong I can still sing good but its not the same
@lemonssssssss4 Oh wow thats very interesting!
@Joe Smith no
@Joe Smith why are you commenting the weirdest shit on all of her videos
@Joe Smith well your Grammars bad so I’m just gonna leave that there
Thanks for telling the stories of detransitioners and giving them a place to tell their stories. You can reach young impressionable kids who might not hear it from anyone else!
You are, quite literally, saving lives with your content. My admiration for you is enormous.
This video made me cry. I had a conversation with a guy who detransitioned after watching an interview he did on RUclips. He said when he decided to transition that he was welcomed by the trans and lgbt community and when he decided to detransition he was basically catapulted from it. All of the support he has was withdrawn and he said everytime he attends his therapy appt he has to sign a paper saying that nobody, not his therapist, family, social circle etc, is forcing him to do this. He said its far more difficult to detransition than transition. He said his first appointment to start his transition he was given hormones after meeting with his therapist for less than 2 hours. He thought that was crazy and said he held off for awhile before taking them. He said his issues were really about going through sexual trauma as a child, he was sexually abused by a relative and it messed him up. This is something that our medical field especially, should take their time with. Its disgusting that a surgeon would cut off a 14yo breasts, she isn't even finished going through puberty, its horrible. It seems also that there is a higher number of girls transitioning and detransitioning. There is a problem there that should be delved into deeper.
This is why informed consent hrt is dangerous. You have to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria. It's a medical process, not a social issue...
That's crazy...
I believe everything you’re saying. I overheard a friend of mine who was gay, he and 4 of his friends were hanging out just talking. They ALL agreed they thought they were gay because they were molested as children. 5 out of 5
I feel like the media presentation of women is a big issue. Are they girl-bosses, cliques, individuals, sexual objects, role-models, trophies, leaders, arm candy, queens, or princesses? Sure, men have similar conflicting images they get fed, but I do think some girls might transition as a way to escape the insane marketization of their appearance and the expectations or double-standards that get pushed on them. And later they might realize that was the real issue and not an inherent desire to be a guy or a mental image of themselves as male.
Figuring out your place in the world is hard enough without trying to drastically alter who you are too.
re the girls transitioning, I bet a considerable percentage is doing it for the "male privilege" and are mad it doesn't exist.
I could not BEGIN to imagine what it would be like to trans then regret and trans back to ones original gender. Horrifying...my heart goes out them and anger to those who may have pushed.
Hey, being transgender doesn't work like this. You don't "trans" your gender, if you're the opposite gender than your sex. You're transgender. In the case of most people (if not for safety like say, detransitioning so you don't get kicked out in which the person will likely retransition when safe) they're cisgender and we're experimenting and we're unfortunately wrong.
@@augustible9151 .... I was speaking about those who either perform physically altering surgery and / or hormone therapy to transition, only to later change their mind and try to do one or the other AGAIN in an attempt to undo what has been done. Clearly, Blaire does not have this issue, nor does Buck Angel, for two quick examples. I could not imagine the difficulty either had, but happy that it has indeed worked out for both. But to alter body and its chemistry TWICE when deep psychological aide would have avoided it all, is truly very, very sad :(
Yeah saw the video of how it's done. Fucking traumatised me.
@@NinjaKittyBonks Except, there is. In all cases you must be evaluated by professionals on physical and mental health. A clinic near me, for example provides HRT. You MUST have a note from the therapist you're seeing, and or the one you're provided with.
@@augustible9151 ... Oh, yes! We have heard of many cases of those who made at least some medical steps to transition, some quite extensive and others that included surgical alterations, and did so with VERY little intervention or psychological evaluations at all! These pathologically driven ideologically possessed cult-consumed "activists" for trans community, want ZERO questions or intervention in any way. Hell, they are 100% fine seeing a 3 yo boy playing with dolls or putting their foot inside of mom's high-heal and proclaiming they are trans.
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This should absolutely go without saying, but in today's idiotic word of leftist control, we must say it. There should be NO medical or medicinal intervention toward transition prior to 18 years of age. I have no issue with licensed therapists talking with them, say after maybe 16 yo, so long as parents or guardian is aware. I get that some kids are more "mature" than others at earlier ages, but legally, there MUST be some cut-off date (oops, that didn't sound very good, did it....? lol) for how young a person be, PRIOR to such specific conversations. I think 16 is probably a good age, but parents or guardian are STILL primary, when it comes to allowing others to intervene with conversations regarding transition.
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There is no perfect solution, but the age of legal adulthood is the best position in which to fall back upon.
This is why i took many, MANY years before transitioning to make sure this is what I wanted and properly educated myself. Unfortunately some people didn’t do that, mostly younger people. That doesn’t mean they’re not valid at all. They just weren’t educated properly and such. I will forever continue to support detransitioners because it can be hard. It is okay to experiment and explore your gender and sexuality, but please educate yourself on EVERYTHING permanent that comes from transitioning. Make sure it’s what you want. Don’t let others influence you. I do agree there should be more of a medical hold on these types of things just to absolutely make sure this is the right path. It’s unfortunate so many fellow trans folk shun detransitioners. There is no reason to.
You are the only person I’ve seen that can and should bring this stuff to light. I’m glad people have you to help speak up for them.
I'm a straight male, and when the red-haired lady said she didn't like her singing voice, I wanted to cry. This shit is so tragic, and in many cases avoidable. :(
She made that choice herself.
These are the consequences.
Instead there are activists who want to make them more common by preventing children from reaching puberty for gender identity reasons.
I agree it's sad. But it's hard living a life without regrets
Same :( I love singing too and I can’t imagine losing that
It is pretty common for cisgender girls to lose their preferred singing voice during puberty, becoming an alto and the like despite it being a great loss psychologically. She needs literal therapy as well as just get trained to sing properly again, because her change is one that many women naturally experience during puberty yet had to get used to. If she's using her throat and abdominal muscles wrong, then of course she's not going to be able to take advantage of her range.
So glad that you're using your platform to spotlight these stories. As a trans guy who's incredibly happy with my transition, it's so vitally important that people understand how big a decision transition is and that no one should decide to start transitioning without having all the information and going through all the necessary steps. Having experienced gender dysphoria, I would never wish that anyone would go through it because they're transition was a mistake.
Jeremy, it's not my intention to sound rude, but you're a woman. You will never be a man.
@@johnbenson4927 John, it's not my intention to sound rude, but why do you feel so threatened by the idea of a woman becoming a man? Does it affect you in any way? Does it reduce your worldview to shambles? A fragile worldview that you so carefully built over the years.
I noticed that when the subject of the conversation is about detransitioners, transphobia seems more.
@@johnbenson4927 your comment was unnecessary. It had nothing to do with the current topic.
@@johnbenson4927 If a person is making an effort to pass and is living their life as a certain gender, then you're kind of a giant asshole to go out of your way to "shame" them.
Thank you so much for continuing to show the unhappy stories. You are a perfect example of what people should aspire to be. It's so great to see the good and bad of the issues and get an honest take on it.
Thankyou for being soo empathetic and sharing that its a lot to go through and not spreading hate and spreading awareness!!!! This is so nice to say what the red flags are
"maybe I'm bisexual, maybe I'm gay"
So sad that so many feel so pressured to find a label for themselves! You don't have to be anything. Just knowing what you feel, want and value is enough to identify yourself. Even that will change and mature over time as you do. We don't need to have so many labels.
It is really a big problem in my generation. People are constantly trying to "name" themselves to be someone, I guess they can't accept the fact that it is ok just to be around and be you
It's supposed to be for inclusion so everyone has something they can identify with. That's what I've been told from my friends. With me, I've never cared about a label. I've known I like men and women since I was old enough to have crushes. I feared being judged, but I never needed a name for it. Guess everyone is different.
@@MagicalJuJuBee it's sad they feel pressured to do that just to feel included
That’s called far left politics. It’s really sad
@@hi86065 the fact that it's even politics at all is 🤦🏻
Normalize being a tomboy and a femmeboy. It's ok to just be you without medically changing your body. There is no rule to being either gender, you don't have to medically transition to dress or present as the opposite sex or neither sex. :)
I agree. Seeing Blair cry hits differently.
Where i grew up tomboys were actually encouraged. Femboys on the otherhand werent. But nowadays Femboys are normalised somewhat in the lgbt community
Your consistent honesty and integrity, thank you! The compassion and understanding and attempt to just discuss and clarify and learn is excellent and needed. You’re work is necessary
I love that you bring this issue forward and approach it in such a caring way. I adore you for your willingness to support this group and create a safe space.
Thank you, Blaire, for bringing attention to this issue when so many try to shut it down for idiological reasons. You are a light in the darkness!
That’s not true lots of liberals trans people I know and liberal trans people I follow acknowledge them and feel bad for them that it didn’t work out and wasn’t for them.
genuine question, who’s trying to “shut it down”?
There would be a lot more sympathy all the way around if people that were trans or detransitioning were not voting Democrat just because they were transgender and for no other reason.
@@geraldleyson1722 there's a difference between "liberal" and "leftist". To many people, they are interchangeable, but they're not. A leftist is basically a communist, a liberal is a person who believes in freedom for all.
Edit: so, there probably are liberals who talk about detransitioners, but a majority of mainstream folk are leftists, not true liberals. If they talk about detransitioners in a bitter tone, they're commies who can't look at anything that disputes their arguments.
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Hmm well for most of the trans and non binary people I know they are Democrat for personal reasons or just since it aligns more with their values not just cause they are trans and even if they weren’t trans they would still be democratic.
Blaire, thank you for reacting to my TikTok (mine was the last one) and thank you for listening to detransitioners! You are very brave to express opinions outside of what the mob deems acceptable. 💖
You are lovely. Take care
*hugs* thanks for sharing!
You’re awesome- sending you love and hope you’re having a good day 🤗
You are beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing! Sending you love and hugs! 💗🙏🏻😻🦋💜
Sending hugs to you, you’re powerful❤️
Thank you for making information known. I’m learning and feeling validated in some of my concerns I’ve felt with my child who is transitioning. There’s a lot of emotions I’m going through too.
I almost transitioned to male because I was treated as a tomboy a lot as a teen, so I thought "what if I'm trans?" When I was a teen. But transitioning and getting a therapist wasn't easy to get over here (I live in a third world muslim country, so a lot of things are taboo to even talk about) as I got older, I realized I was okay being feminine at times, and that sent me on another streak of questioning myself. I went by genderfluid for a long time. But now, I just be me, if I wanna be masculine, or feminine, it doesn't matter to anyone else. My heart goes out to them who had to de-transition. I can only imagine how it is. I remember feeling the fear when I realized I wasn't trans, thinking "omg what would happen if I actually transitioned over."
Why cant we be our biological selves but do things that dont stereotype the gender?
I was a tomboy from age 6-13, but down deep always felt and knew I was female.
As an adult, I figured out I could wear makeup, dress girly and still like cars and guns.
I often think many ppl dont know or realize they can balance these things without transitioning.
This could avoid a lot of detransitioning.
I was a tomboy too age 11-16, I just didn't like most girly things. I had very short hair, dressed fairly boyish and had more traditionally male hobbies/interests (though I always loved collecting dolls :D). I looked very much like a boy and many people saw me as one, or thought I was transgender. I always knew I wasn't, cause I felt really uncomfortable when I was viewed as a boy. So gradually I started to like dresses and makeup, all that "girly" stuff again. I also wish people would not directly assume someone to be transgender, I think if I were someone that listened to those people, I would have definitely questioned my gender identity and possibly transitioned.
You said it yourself: deep inside you always felt and knew you were female. But that’s precisely the point of being transgender: a transgender man is NOT simply a tomboy because deep inside they’ve always felt male and felt deeply uncomfortable with the idea of being a woman. Gender expression is not the same thing as gender identity.
But I agree that we should embrace gender non-confirming males and females (i.e. feminine males & masculine females) because gender transitioning is not something that should be taken lightly or something that people should feel pressured to do because of society or “woke culture.”
@@daniela_5542 I see what you are trying to say but it’s not correct. What does it means to feel like a boy or a girl « deep inside » ? Being a female or a male is not a feeling it’s innate, natural and determined by science. So how can you feel that you are born in the wrong body deep inside ? What they are feeling is because of what society has assigned to sex (feminity to female and masculinity to male)
Our bodies are not the problem. Societies and gender ideology are. And without noticing it you are in this ideology « gender identity » and « gender expression » are made-up terms. Gender identity is each person's inner and personal experience of their gender
Don’t you realize it means absolutely nothing ?
Everyone has a different experience with his gender, some even decide to show how their experience fluctuate from feminity to masculinity (gender expression)
There are some days I want to be masculine so basically my gender identity is masculine but I never express it I keep wearing feminine clothes.
It doesn’t make me trans. It’s a shame that many people are falling for this and destroying their bodies.
And transitioning is not a solution it’s problem in disguise.
@@kassandra5212 Right, so we both agree that sex is determined by science and gender is a social construct. But like you mentioned, everyone has a different experience with his/her/their gender that is very personal to them. Of course we all have masculine and feminine qualities…we’re human first and foremost.
Medically transitioning is not something most people consider in order live their lives in an authentic manner. However, for a very small portion of the population, transitioning is the ONLY way to treat their gender dysphoria…and who are we to tell people what they can and cannot do with their bodies?
It is a problem with the body though. People use the term "feeling" to describe the problem but medically speaking a transsexual has an anomaly in the hormone processor in their brain.
There isnt a single person on this planet who is 100% happy with their body. We all have insecurities and shortcomings. You cannot cure this sensation. All you can do is build love for yourself.
thank u
@@Woofwoof369 Check what a Bioligst like Forrest Valkai has to say about that.
Oh, and 'Some More News' made a video about Queer-People AND the Grooming-Issue
JUST this Week.
@@Woofwoof369 Anytime. Happy to think these words helped bring you some degree of peace. Its a self quoted realization I had that saved me from an eating disorder, but I believe it applies here as well.
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I love this
Blair your honesty is so very much appreciated. This movement is extremely detrimental to the future of many of today's youth and it's so awesome to hear dissent coming from a member of the trans community especially one with, I assume, a positive outcome in your own transition. You're amazing and I respect you very much.
I'm all for letting people identify as whatever they feel most comfortable. To prevent the terrible regret of detransitioning people, perhaps we as a society should be more accepting of men wearing make-up and dresses, and of women cutting their hair short and presenting a more masculine appearance. That way, people don't feel pressurised to undergo medical or surgical transition, and if they decide that they are happier being cisgender, they can easily go back to that identity with no harm done.
I remember when the biggest problem I dealt with as a "tomboy" in middle school was people teasing me for being a lesbian. (I'm bisexual, but I hadn't come out.) Like, that was the thing. Of course, most of us know that it's ignorant to assume somebody's sexuality based on their clothing or hobbies, but here we are in 2022, advocating for 15 year olds to change their hormonal makeup and surgically alter their bodies because it's trendy. I couldn't imagine growing up with peers - or even parents - who reinforced toxic gender stereotypes and convinced me to transition when, in reality, I was just a girl with traditionally masculine or unconventional interests and a deep voice.
I transitioned soon before turning 15, was on hrt for almost 3 years and had a mastectomy, before turning 19 something clicked in my head and I was like: "oh, shit, what did I do?" I feel bad for teens who go through "gender dysphoria" but giving them what they want at the moment is the worst a parent can do, that's not support. Take their phones away, no internet, that's overwhelming. Take them somewhere peaceful until they calm down and start thinking like themselves again.
How are you doing now after you had a mastectomy?
No man knows what it's like to be a woman and vice versa. But giving puberty blockers to pre-teens (or teens who are still going through puberty) is another level. Because a boy doesn't even know what it's like to be a man. A girl doesn't know what it's like to be a woman. How on earth, then, can a girl know she really wants to become a man? Or how can a boy know he wants to become a woman? As pre-teens? What is happening now is immoral. It's medical experiments in the tradition of Dr Mengele.
i dont wanna be rude, im just genuinely curious, but what did u do after it "clicked" for u?
people underestimate how easily influenced teens are.
It's like cult deprogramming. I don't understand why psychologists can't see this.
When she said she loved to sing and can't anymore, that one got me. Ugh... that's really sad. I can't imagine if I lost my voice, I love to sing. I hope she is able to recover somewhat and learn to love her voice again because if you can carry a tune you can carry it, no matter what. Keep singing!
Your very compassionate in your discussion about these topics.
My concern for people who are thinking about transitioning, is the echo chamber that can be super pro transitioning that they don't give any healthy pushback to see if it is actually something you truly want.
Thank you for this video, Blair!!
At 15, when I got into cosplay, I discovered that I felt comfortable being perceived as male. Back then I had a friend who was having gender dysphoria since the time they were born, basically. And after they found that I went out with a wig and binder for no reason at all, they started to open up to me about their own experiences and said that I might be trans, too.
In the beginning, it felt like a revelation. I always compared myself to boys when I was younger and I was obsessed with being one of them on the outside. I never really fit in with the other girls, or was a very girly person. I had accepting parents, so they didn't mind or even think about me playing with legos, action figures and cars. I was allowed to just be at home.
So I spiraled into it. It started wearing binders regularly, and shopping in the men's section. I felt much more comfortable in my skin and in combination with my friends encouragement, I went more and more into the direction of transitioning.
At 16, I started thinking about surgeries and realised that I'd live top surgery but would hate bottom surgery. And I know that you don't have to get phallo to be a transman, but for me, it raised the question how I could be truly trans when I was fine with my downstairs and didn't really have much dysphoria about it.
I decided to not go further into the while trans thing. My trans friends reacted so shitty to it. They became verbally abusive and started to tell me that I was making the wrong decision. They attacked me for being confused about my gender identity and thus broke off the friendship with me.
A few years later I realised that I truly was not trans. That I'm just an androgynous person, a lesbian, and that's it. I was just uncomfortable with my body in general, suffering from anorexia, and I was suffering under the pressure of performing female gender roles in our society, especially because I've been told since I was a child that I'm doing the whole "being a woman" thing wrong, that I'm not a true woman, because I didn't look comfortable in female clothes/styles. Turns out that I only had this issue due to being on the spectrum and not being able to understand and internalise social norms correctly.
Now, 8 years after "detransitioning", I've realised that there is no wrong way to be a woman. I'm comfortable with my body, I dress and act however. I'm a human female, and that's enough for me. I don't need to identify with social norms in order to feel okay with myself any more, or in order to feel accepted by society and first and foremost myself.
Looking back I'm really glad that I decided to put things to a halt before I could get any hormones or surgeries and I'm proud with my younger self for going through with self discovery even though my own circle of friends mistreated me for it. I feel like I was a strong little girl for that and I'm just very thankful that I only have memories of this past struggle, and not any permanent changes to my physique to remind me of it.
thank you for sharing
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Glad that you held on to your own being in a world that is trying to name you.
You’re so lovely Blair, thank you for putting yourself out there and addressing these things that are so very important for people to hear, especially for our young people 🙏💕
thank you so much for doing these!!!
People often bring this up: Young females seem be suffering with "gender dysphoria" much more often than males. I understand that girls normally are allowed to break the norms by experimenting with their appearance. It is not always true. Some environments are strict on gender and especially on girls. To what extent has how gender roles have been perceived affected these people to take the path that they have taken? That is to transition as non-binary or trans.
@heavy metal 💥 people knows nothing
I think that women being taken in by trends far more than males is an angle that's not really talked about. From a young age their perspectives are warped by public schools and trends who indoctrinate them with a host of parasitic ideas do to the fact women are far more socially sensitive than males. Before gender dysphoria the trend was bisexuality/homosexuality which overtime lost it's punch when society began to shift to accommodate those ideas. Much Like a drug, there must always be another hill to climb that is a little steeper.
I've noticed a lot of females transitioning do so to escape the feeling of being powerless, and/or trauma.
@@fatasssquirrel1731 I think you hit the nail on the head. It also brings to mind that, historically, women have been quick to adapt to and accept the takeover of their tribe by an enemy force. They would then partner with those men and simply move on with life. What I mean by this is -- women are easily taken in by whoever is in power and whatever dominate culture is popular. It seems to be an unconscious survival technique.
@@fatasssquirrel1731 Yes, it’s what you would call a “social contagion”. It’s why female friend groups tend to get bulima or anorexia together. There is also more self hatred or misogyny to deal with. Now if men have self hate, they tend to lash out instead of directing the harm inwards. Many girls with gender dysmorphia have been sexually abused, and their brains associate the shame and helplessness with their gender, which they try to disassociate from later. Depression, disassociative disorders, body image disorders, feelings of worthlessness, sexual issues, etc are all reactions to sexual abuse. But it seems like right now there is one path that is extra trendy to funnel the reactions of your abuse into. ETA: Normally therapists would parse out your feelings about abuse and gender, so you can separate the two, but now that’s called conversion therapy and it isn’t allowed. Only full medicalization, chopping up body parts, and taking exogenous hormones are allowed as “cures”.
Just have to let you know: I am a white southern conservative male veteran. I find your videos to be intelligent and informative. I think you are a wonderful person and the world needs more people just like you. Your message reaches EVERYONE!
Amen and thank you for your service good sir!
THIS. See I argue if most Trans individuals where like Blair, meaning both in the openness and politeness in their discussion, AND in their drive and appearance, I feel most Conservatives/Republicans would have zero issue. Like anything else its the "Bad Eggs" that spoil the bunch.
Yes. Blair makes awesome content 🎉
You, James Stewart, are a very good man. Thank you for your service and keeping America free and safe for all 🙏❤🙏
Looks like more discussion is allowed as of recently which is great. It's really needed. Love that you are always speaking up, so important. 💝
Thank you for helping making this information more accessible and helping making these people be seen, heard and validated.
It’s “trans hype” because everyone makes it trendy and how these poor people can’t go back to normal again.
Not really being trans isn’t a hype at all and for most of the trans people I know were effeminate or tomboyish growing up so it’s something they’ve always felt it’s nothing new.
@@geraldleyson1722 For many yes it is an attempt to fit, look and surveys and the explosion in numbers of "trans" as well as the explosion in numbers who say they made a mistake, especially among very young transitioners
I made the parallel of the “gay hype” in the mid 00s.
It was cool to be “gay” and a lot of the time there were “gay tenders” pretending to be gay to get with/hang out with women and such.
Granted there were a few that genuinely were finding themselves… but out of the fifty there were maybe two that actually were…
@@Jim87_36
Oh wow I’m younger and didn’t know about that, but with a lot of the fellow gen z non binary people and trans people I know they were effeminate or tomboyish growing up, and always had dysmorphia and didn’t fit in with their assigned gender at birth.
@@geraldleyson1722 A lot of those femmy and tomboyish individuals are confusing not ascribing to society's norms of masculinity and femininity as body dysmorphia. So yes, it seems like a trend
You should interview the MTF detransitioner Cluniac (Isaac). He confronted his therapist and uploaded it to YT.
not emotional stable at the moment.
There is also sy roger he should be listen too. Something Blair has not heard.
wow
@@bsrfuchs55 That’s not true
Why would Blaire spotlight Isaac lmao. He's literally a transphobe? Unlike Blaire who just deals with stuff logically, Isaac full on pushes transphobic rhetoric. I mean one of the comments on his videos that he liked was "being trans is BS, they are lying to themselves" like what the fuck lmao and he regularly refers to trans women as "men in wigs"
Definitely agree with the "dysphoria coming from internalized misogyny" thing. I thought if I became male, I could escape sexual harassment and confronting my own femininity, but the confusion and self-hatred never went away. I was just lucky to have a great support system to help me out of that.
Feminists are partly to blame for the trans craze. Demonizing males for decades has females not wanting to be “victims of the patriarchy” or the “male gaze” 🙄 and males not wanting to be seen as “oppressors”! This is why so many people are scrambling to become part of an oppressed class, so they aren’t cis white straight people who are “bad” according to this woke generation!
I love your videos. Thanks so much for raising awareness to this topic.
Just gonna put this out there. You have helped me walk through my dysphoria. I don't trust many people, and haven't even been able to talk to my doctor due to small town closeness and my own insecurities. I have learned so much from your videos and your honesty has helped me choose to not transition. I still have days where I feel extremely depressed, but not as suicidal, about the knowledge that I will never be a male no matter what. I'm just trying to live one day at a time at this point. My husband and close friends are great supports, but, I just wanted to say thank you for being here and doing what you do.
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What made you feel that way about yourself in the first place? What was the trigger? When did you start to believe you’re male and why?
I ask these questions to try and figure out the common dominator. Does not appear therapists are interested in figuring out the root issue. I have my theory that has yet to be debunked, only confirmed. But it’s still a theory.
The fact many are pushing this onto kids only confirms my theory more. But I want to hear it from the people themselves.
@@catsarerude hello
@@paradoxexposer4820 I dated someone who came out as having dysphoric feelings and he basically admitted that it all started in childhood when his parents were emotionally distant and physically abusive. He came to associate his body as a source of shame. Not sure if that chimes with your theory?
So glad that you were able to make that decision for yourself. Sending you love, light, & healing ❤️
"it can't be about other people" Internalized homophobia needs to be part of this discussion because kids really think this can cure them of shaming their families from them being homosexual.
true but this only applies for the ones who are gay/lesbian. many of those that transition are also attracted to the opposite gender.
Idk most parents that hate gays will hate trans people more lately. I feel gay is more accepted.
Many, MANY lesbians online are identifying as non-binary and I suspect have extreme lesbophobia... Many of them seem to think on some subconscious level that they're disinterest in men makes them less of women. Which is incredibly sad. And I've seen many Butch lesbians being weirdly and creepily pressured by other people online to "try out" being a trans guy, tomboys and feminine guys seemingly aren't allowed to exist anymore. In a weird way, there is a lot of reinforcing of gender roles in an ideological structure that claims it's trying to deconstruct them. Like if you're a very masculine woman or a very feminine man you should "try out" being non-binary or trans.... It's really toxic and gross.
Idk how many gay men go through a phase of being trans, or transition but I know a lot of lesbians do, both irl & online. Part of it is thinking that is they are a boy, then liking girls will be ok, or thinking you can't be a masculine woman. However many say that they want to make themselves unattractive to men, so they don't receive unwanted attention. The way people explain this gender confusion sounds very similar to some people who develop anorexia nervosa, psychologists are failing these poor vulnerable people.
Wow! I just went down a rabbit hole watching your videos and I have to say that you are doing amazing. I’ve been trying to understand those who are trans better, just because I don’t have many people in my life who I know are trans and I want to be able to help when I can. Your videos are eye opening and I really appreciate that you take the time to talk about these topics that make the trans community seem so different than what it really is now that I’ve seen your side of things. I don’t know if this made sense, I just wanted to say thanks because I want you to know that what you’re doing has helped at least one person (and I have no doubt, many more people) understand those who are trans on a deeper and more loving level. There’s so many aspects that I haven’t even considered and struggles I hadn’t known about.
Blaire, thank you so, SO much for your voice. You speak with such clarity and wisdom on these issues. Your voice is so important and helps many people.
Honestly, I wouldn’t assume someone de-transitioning is lying or was ever lying. My instant thought is sadness that they didn’t receive the proper guidance and support they actually needed. They were obviously going through an identity crisis and the people that were supposed to help them failed them miserably for whatever reason and unfortunately the individual is the one paying the consequences. So now not only are they still dealing with an identity crisis, they also have to deal with whatever permanent changes they’ve made and the extra psychological trauma that comes along with that.
@yari139, I'm going to agree and disagree with you. These people transitioning and de-transitioning are adults. They might be young, but they were legal adults. You have no idea how many people in these other people's lives who tried to caution them to not transition, but were rebuffed. How much help can you really give a legal adult if they do not seek it out, do what is suggested? There was a saying "marry in haste; repent at leisure." Now it could be "transition in haste; repent at leisure." I think the real issue is a person not proceeding cautiously and jumping in without a lot of critical thinking skills.
Each generation has a problem with people "acting in haste."
There are people who are truly trans, like Blair. They’re much happier with themselves and their lives presenting as the opposite sex.
But being trans has seriously been a trend. It’s been new and different and even cool to a lot of people. They don’t understand the ins and outs of being trans at all. They are Tom-girls or feminine boys so they think.. why not transition? Especially if they’re really young and their parents go along with it or even encourage it. And the world sees it as a cool trend so.. they become trans and regret it when they realize it was a phase. Because they’ve permanently sterilized themselves for nothing, they’ve gotten rid of their natural parts. There’s no going back and it’s sad
It’s because transitioning shouldn’t be available for everyone and doctors should be more strict and better to diagnose real trans people. And they don’t “become trans”, they weren’t born trans to begin with that’s the reason they detransition.
Some people have way too much money. Back in the day, you would rebel against the system and that was okay.
Not sad , parents are supposed to protect their kids not mutilate and sterilize them it’s EVIL
Ever heard of transphobia? Literally nobody is encouraging it
@@heytherenordic7230 oh jesus no
So as an adult woman i would struggle to convince a doctor in the usa to tie my tubes if i didnt want any more kids and need my husbands consent...... which is steralisation......but if a 15 year old girl wants to transition they can just sterilise themsekves no questions?...make it make sense
Great video Blair!!!!!!! I appreciate your high intelligence and how you courageously are aware of all aspects of this situation and plight !!
I think you are able to be unbiased and empathetic in this age of narcissistic people who sometimes-shame their own community as traitors for realizing they may have made a hasty decision after transitioning and wanting to detransition !!!!
Thanks for calling out different peoples experience and truth!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
It feels like tomboys and feminine men aren’t allowed anymore… these poor kids growing up on the Internet probably feel if they aren’t the “stereotypical” man or women they must be something else, and that’s not always the case
If someone's dumb enough not to understand gender nonconformity and gender stereotypes to an extent where they think they want to transition, I don't feel empathy for them.
@@rasul01 emotions are hard to grasp for some people. Maybe take a break from social media so your compassion bone will grow back in 🙄
@@dianeaishamonday9125 😢
Massive respect to you for highlighting these things. You’re secure in who you are and it shows.
I actually don't see that, I feel she is just as much talking to/about herself but not really seeing it
@@magnusgranskau7487 That's because you're so used to seeing trans people trying to shut down detransitioners and express discomfort and discontent for these people speaking openly.
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@@Peacefulpreface6323 no I'm not used to that at all. I was dating transgirls before all this became popular. And one thing I've noticed is that there is some insecurity around this. Many seems almost oppsessed with how they look and so forth. But then again who knows
@@magnusgranskau7487 Blaire is literally the least oppressed feeling person...
It’s the lack of empathy for hurting humans from the community that demands love and acceptance. I just want to hug them all 🥺
In a few years there are going to be so many more of these videos and people are going to be pissed that more wasn't done to protect them when they were children.