Woke TikTok is Faking Mental Disorders For Attention
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- Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024
- Today we're diving into the most cringe TikTok community so far.. The Fake Mental Disorder community. I regret to inform you, that this is in fact a thing.
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I lost a friend who had DID…..
She grew up with HORRIBLE abuse and was drugged as a kid. Her symptoms started showing around like 16-17. She spent the next 8 years in and out of mental institutions and hospitals, she couldn’t hold down a job, social and intimate relationships were impossible for her to maintain, her life was a sht storm. I knew her since we were kids so I was one of the few who stayed around for her.
She felt like she couldn’t cope with reality and took her life.
DID is not quirky or cute!
DID is literally an extreme trauma response from the brain. It's a defence mechanism. It is so so rare and I can't imagine how awful it must be to be a person who is going through it/ someone who's brain NEEDED to do it. I know several people with crippling, anxiety, PTSD, etc I know myself have dealt with depression for 10 years. No one who genuinely has a disorder wants it the same way that trans women want periods but cis women don't. There's nothing glamorous in the truth
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@@ariana9941 Dissociative identity disorder.
Sorry for your loss. We have to have more understanding for those who commit suicide, that its not a selfish act it's a powerful move in response to a very real feeling that the world is not equipped to handle, and sometimes we have to respect their choice and see that there isn't always adequate help evn though ppepple want to believe there is.
Sounds like you were a very good friend and I'm glad she had you..your support may have helped her cling to life longer. Your description of your friend is the reality of "me" (I have to put it in quotes unfortunately) and probably a vast majority of people with DID.
My 13 year old was diagnosed with Tourette's syndrome when he was 10. I've literally sat up with him many nights while he sat devastated in his room because he thought he was broken. "Mom, why is this happening to me?". So many tears shed and constant worry about my child dealing with this syndrome while I just feel utter helplessness. This is disgusting and I mean this with the upmost disrespect, fuck these people.
Im sorry to hear that :( lots of hugs to you and your child ❤️ theres absolutely nothing wrong with him!!
I agree with you. I’ve been hospitazlied for tourettes. I’ve been bullied for it. I’ve cried about it. I’ve been in pain. And these people actually ruin my day. Faking something that’s actuall terrifying to live with.Sometimes it feels like my body is being zapped and people think it’s fun when it’s hell.Those people are sick
I’m so sorry about your son. I hope he’s doing better and his Tourette’s
My son has TS too, & I so feel for u, sister! I remember those nights, crying and praying for him. Knowing he was getting teased at school & feeling so alone. He’s going on 20 now and as he reached his later teen years his tics became less frequent and less intense. We were told by his psychiatrist that around age 15 that can happen to a lot of kids with TS. He still has them here & there but it’s mostly just a head bob that looks like he’s saying yes to everything lol. I just want to say that it can and does get better. Hang in there, our son is now a happy, well adjusted, confident, funny guy with a lot of empathy & the biggest heart for having lived with this syndrome. Don’t give up hope & know there is light at the end of that tunnel. Your son will be a better person for having gone thru this. Sending u & your son lots of love & positive vibes ❤️ ✌️.
Funny how a lot of these ppl faking Tourette’s are never saying embarrassing/foul things. I’ve literally ticced “r*tard!” in the middle of a store before; it was mad effing embarrassing. Everyone looks at you like you’re a POS or mentally unstable. And you feel like a complete asshole. People have asked if I’m on drugs before because of my neck/arm tics. No one thinks I’m cute and quirky for ticcing.
Some of the worst fakers are the DID fakers in my opinion. DID normally develops from acute and unbearable childhood trauma. The fact that people would feign that disorder and affect these pseudo-sensitive personalities just for clout on social media repulses me.
*cough* Trisha Paytas *cough*
and people with real did are SA as a kid and the alters will not come out to protect the host but are they and only come out if they feel threatened . i don't have did but seen phycologist talking about it. i do have autism and I hate it and hate being disabled as it stop me from having a normal life it not fun experiencing a mental disorders and physical disabilities
Except that, scientifically, it's not even clear that DID exists.
they're a bunch of sex monsters using "alters" to roleplay their depraved fantasies
@@FullyCharged22 it is it’s in the dsm
I hate when people romanticize mental illnesses, makes it harder for us who actually struggle with mental illness to be taken seriously.
This is incredibly true. People who say theyre suicidal are often labelled “attention seekers” it’s so difficult
I don't mind if mental illnesses are romanticized in movies because they are fiction (and people aren't taking them seriously right.. RIGHT?), but when they do it in real life then yeah I hate it too, it's disgusting
Agree
This is very true, once I opened up to my friend about my self harming tendencies (this was quite different due to the image of not wanting to look “sensitive”) and the first thing she said to me is that I’m “emo and attention seeking” It’s been a year know and she’s faking mental illness and romanticizing it.
@@Grant-sketches I’m sorry that happened to you, I hope you’re doing better now and have made better friends that understand you.
i’ve been hospitalized for OCD and i saw someone show their “cute compulsions” the other day. NOTHING about OCD is “cute”. OCD isn’t a disease that bothers, it tortures and i’m over seeing it be appropriated.
WAT. Seriously, people think OCD is quirky and cute? I have spent my entire life watching my sister struggle with OCD esp back when people thought women couldn't have OCD and...OH THE RAGE I FEEL RIGHT NOW.
I watched my brother go through an OCD phase, and it was completely detrimental to him. Why anyone would think it's cute is beyond me. It's maddening for the sufferer.
Don't forget about the OCD thought what if I'm faking my disorder which I have the thought all the time and it's miserable... Along with the awful list of intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors
@@Tabbyhasbees The irony towards the last part of your comment is that OCD is predominantly in women now. I too, have OCD & can confirm it's debilitating!!!
It drives me nuts when ppl say they have OCD because they're very particular regarding whatever tasks is being done. WTF? OCD has nothing to do with being anal. It literally controls You!! So now just becoming aware of this current trend surpasses nuts, to infuriating!!!
It's funny how that girl with the dreads who claimed she was "switching" did so exactly to the beat of the music three times. Huh. What a coincidence.
Like it happens on whim ... no it doesn't 😂😂😂
@@DrThree-hk9dc Lol, right?
I couldn't even watch that shit twice lol
My exact thoughts
Its not that fun to have...I have no idea why people think DID is somehow a fun disorder when really its a living nightmare. In order for someone to be diagnosed with a mental disorder there has to be a significant part of that persons life that is impacted by their symptoms. In fact, you cannot make a diagnosis without it. So, by default if they are glamorizing their symptoms then they are not ready to recieve a proper diagnostic. I bet though that at some point what is the initial underlying reasons for them faking disorders will become the primary reason they seek help.
I miss the early 80s when identity crises meant a piercing and coloring my hair.
Now ALL of these people have colored hair & their faces & ears look like pin cushions from all the piercings.
Same here.
Yes, we could accomplish the same with a single tattoo and and the right pair of boots. lol
@@DonnaBrooks who cares? dyed hair & piercings aren't the issue. critize people for their stupid behavior, not their looks
@@godisverygay and no, those things (in excess) aren't *the* problem. But they're a result of the current generation's "identity crisis".
People used to fight/brag for who had the best life, the new generational competition is who has the worst life.
right !!!
Ong
The issue with this gen is that now children are making up these things. I completely agree
This is so real
I too miss the "fuck labels" ideology. Labels can enforce stereotypes and pushing back against that felt like progress, but its gone full circle and we're back to having even more labels than before. We have sub-categories for gender and sexuality now, and people seem to need a label to excuse their behaviour when thats not the case. You don't need a hybrid gender to enjoy certian activities or look a certain way; you don't need a detailed label to let everyone know how your attraction to others manifests; who you are as a person is way more important than all those stupid labels.
Liberals love the label cage. I used to be one. I know.
My generation fought so hard against those soup can labels only to get smacked in the face with them
Totally agree
Say it louder for our mates in the back!🤟
People with Labels: “I’m a part of this group because of these reasons!”
Also People with Labels: “Don’t stereotype me because I’m just one person with this label.”
She nailed it on the head when she said “Not enough people feel special in their lives and that’s very sad”
Literally that’s the issue. These people just want to feel special.
Yet, instead of feeling special because of their quirky personalities, their achievements, their talents, their interests, etc., they turn everything into a pathology & then an identity.
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@@Noname-lw6hp That's what i wanted to write...a video speaking of using mental disorders for attention...queue all the comments using mental disorders seeking attention. I miss the 90s
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Blaire's audience is using mental disorders for attention? 0_o
Funny thing is they all display histrionic behaviour... basically supercharged narcissism, exhibitionism, rigorous attention seeking, gullibility, complete lack of sympathy.
1. Narcissists are usually smarter, but egotistical... they seek control and resources and want to remain secluded... so as to make their deception more effective.
2. Borderlines are always mass producing negative thoughts and emotions about themselves and others. They seek to avoid anything which will set off their psychosis and manipulate to keep people close or distance them from them.
3. People with Mood Disorders would generally be too busy trying not to be called "crazy" by the people in their lives...
4. Sociopaths manipulate and deceive to cause someone emotions and physical pain.
You nailed it. They use identity disorders as a replacement for a real personality.
And attractiveness
That’s a large part of it for sure. I think most of these fools are trying to find a handicap so you can feel bad for them. Blame something to explain why they aren’t successful and doing the things they want to be doing. I think it goes very deep……. I think it also ties into health. Imo, these kids need to get off their asses and go workout! Humans aren’t meant to sit in a nice air conditioned house on their cell phone all day, get a disability check in the mail, do drugs, and then have food sent to their house. Exercise, self-control, and good nutrition can fix a lot of these issues.
@@d3monsn0wkitty Hell yeah to all of that. They have no personality because they never developed one. Their brains have been on auto-pilot watching Tic Tok.
Unbalanced people go to extreme measures for attention. Some women have even poisoned their own babies just for the sympathy. Balanced people are busy bettering their lives and the lives of others and do not need sympathy or attention.
They invent a personality disorders because they have no personality.
@@d3monsn0wkitty this. I started working out and it's made a 🌎 of difference
"Yeah, that suc#s... I actually have it"
PTSD, on the autism spectrum, ADHD, Fibro, Medicine induced Tourette >> all actually diagnosed by multiple doctors, and specialists, something that took me 20-30 years for some of these.... It breaks me seeing that people just fake them as a way to flaunt or "look at me".
Convo with a random American who visited Bansko lately (where I live) - she asked me what videos I've seen to know I have ADHD and autism...
and not in a way to discredit my condition- but in order for her to know if she has them too !!!
When I told her I went to actual doctors for these things, and they are the ones that need and should be diagnosing these conditions, she said that I was just complicating things and all doctors are liars who wanna push you their sponsored medicines.. (even though my doctors, as they are specialists- always pushed me towards taking as few pills as I possibly can - so that I can live longer...)
This is what happens when you praise everyone's problems because of acceptance. A wise person once told me, "mental illness isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility" after I tried to excuse a rant on an episode I had. I took that advice and learned a lot from it. I'm doing so much better by taking care of myself instead of just "accepting" it. Thank you random wise RUclips comment person.
A mentor once told me something similar. He also taught me a great deal on how to recognize and properly react to my mental illness when it flared up and even when it was relatively dormant(I'm a type 1 Bipolar for the record). The cognitive therapy techniques he instilled in me have literally saved my life and I don't understand why anyone would seek to emulate a severe mental or emotional illness unless they were suffering from an entirely different mental illness. Narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, Munchausen syndrome, any of these would likely be more accurate for the crazies that post this nauseatingly appropriating filth so why not just tout the actual fucking problems in your head instead of trying to pretend like you have others? My only conclusion is that they can't garner the same level of sympathy from such negatively connotated conditions and as narcissists that's unacceptable so they've deigned to co-opt the most extreme of mental illnesses in order to retain their special snowflake status without having to suffer the consequences of their actions
Soon we will have parsed the population into increasingly spurious categories of mental illness for everyone to blame their failings on that there will be only one person left as 'Normal'
They will realise one day that they are surrounded by by-products of drug therapy and college behavioural theses with no accountability or free will
Then they'll just stand up, walk away and never stop.
I have depression and I think it might be caused by demons who have possessed me but I’m not sure.
@@h..8083 ruclips.net/video/ekufVGBNlHI/видео.html -This has helped us. You can listen everyday. Read the comments too.
That's very good advice - thanks for sharing!
My 14 year old son has Tourette’s, was diagnosed at 8yrs old. Because of these people faking and making videos he’s been bullied and accused of faking. I am exhausted and infuriated of this crap. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for awareness from those with an actual disorder but people faking it is creating problems for those actually suffering from it.
🤬 So stupid. Your son is suffering while others are profiting. This will make him more aware of the BS out there. Remember, God sees them!
I feel you! I have had tourettes for seven ish years and now I can’t even tell people about my disorder without people thinking i’m faking it. Because of tik tok! It’s awful! It makes me sick to my stomach.
@Cece Marie ● I suffer from ADHD. I know its not as debilitating as Tourettes but its nonetheless debilitating. Your son is 14 and kids can be mean. I was mistreated as a teenager but im almost 55 and once hes older and out of the kid stage, it gets better. Its not gonna console him in the here and now, but it gets better. I hope this message from me finds you and your son well. I will keep yall BOTH in my prayers as it affects u also as a parent. 🙏🏻♥
I was clinically diagnosed with Persistent Depressive Disorder and GAD because of how debilitated and suicidal I was, but I get accused of “drama” the moment I open my mouth but people are willing to side with those who dramatise and exaggerate how anxious they feel while they who go about their lives socialising and living proper lives and jobs without seeking a diagnosis and having to depend on medication.
The real ones always get accused of faking and so many people I talk to are surprised mental illness still has a stigma at 2022.
I'm currently 14 and was diagnosed at 8 as well, People do that to me too, except the fact that I'm a girl with bright red hair makes it worse (I've learned that apparently girl=attention seeker?). People always have to find something to rip you apart for, and I feel for your son, I live in his shoes and understand his pain
she said what she SAID. i’m so sick of “woke” people doing all this shit for attention, it’s honestly infuriating. they want to try and pick fights with literally every single person that even slightly offends them/disagrees with their beliefs, yet they’re offending vast majorities of people doing shit like what’s seen/talked about in this video. smh.
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Instead of winning points they're pissing sane people off.
But if it wasn't for the woke community Blair wouldn't be a trans person being openly trans and talking freely about the issues she faces. Hypocritical.
@@rabbit3212010 the actual Conscience person doesn’t say they are woke, they wouldn’t be apart of the woke community just because it’s basic common sense humans have rights 😂 the person who always says they are tuff are always the ones who aren’t same rules apply to being WokE.. also woke literally just doesn’t exist you have people who pay attention and people who don’t it’s that simple, those who care and those who don’t. The only reason us trans women are doing this ish is because us Tran women are doing this ish with or without any ones help
@@ynamsoproductions8074 I'm not too clear on what you are saying. I can guess that you are a lot younger than me. You're probably not aware that woke has become a slur for people who stand up for the right to be whoever you are and make enough noise to change society.
You are obviously not old enough to remember when homosexuality was a crime and police routinely conducted raids and people served actual jail terms for what was termed 'sodomy'. That's just one example.
Go on using the woke slur and twisting your brain like a pretzel trying to differentiate from those who push to make this world a more inclusive place. I can assure you that without their help you wouldn't be living life as you are you'd be diagnosed with a mental illness or in jail. (Another historical reference there for you.)
Having seen someone suffer from tics and seeing how debilitating it is, I genuinely find it disgusting and baffling how someone could want to suffer from them
That’s just it though. They don’t want to suffer from it. They want the attention that comes from posting a minute long clip of “dealing” with the disorder. It’s different to “live” with something for a bit of time in a day vs all day everyday.
I have tics from another disorder. It’s horrible, painful and dangerous
I suffered tics from a medication and it was so horrible and painful
I dont know what i have is a tic. I wish to god i could stop. I try my best
My eye tics cause me to have a constant headache. It’s awful. It also looks fucking wonky so I hate when people see me tic. Idk how these people can take a video of themselves and think it’s cute and want to show it to others.
The fact that I've lost all my friends, been hospitalized, and endured the most traumatic, life-threatening things when my mental health was plummeting, yet these disturbing, attention seeking rats of tiktok get clout (whether that's good or bad) for faking disorders I have makes me sick
You could, of course, relieve some of your stress by NOT going onto TikTok and NOT reading or watching videos about TikTok, like this video. The silly people on TikTok are not to be taken seriously, certainly not by people with real problems.
@@calebmurdock2028 lol yeah no, these people need to be called out on their shit.... Leaving them to fester in this cesspool of an echo chamber is how this problem got as huge as it is. The big problem is when these people pretend like they have these disorders and make it more and more hard for people who actually have these mental disorders to be taken seriously by people and society at Large. There's already a huge stigma around certain mental disorders, and pretending like debilitating neurological/mental disorders are just quirky little personality traits is how a lot of people get turned away or written off when they need serious help. At this point it's not just "Silly people on tiktok".
@@calebmurdock2028 I second that. I had to uninstall the app. It was like I hated it but couldn't stay off of it. Almost seemed like in the end I wanted to be annoyed by searching out ridiculous people like this. Highly recommend getting rid of that app. I don't have Twitter for the same reason.
Definitely feel you on people blatantly faking the shit that you're going through, I uninstalled that shit ass app, it breads this toxic ass culture that everyone is pissy about but no one will change
I hope you're doing better. I'm salvaging everything at the moment. It was rough.
Is being mentally, psychologically, and emotionally healthy not trendy enough? This is so sad, cringe and infuriating.
Because its consider "privileged" to be any of those things, so it is the great competition to see who is the most special by being the most misunderstood. The most oppressed, making them the most special.
This generation, unfortunately, people just want ALOT of attention.
You don't get attention and sympathy that way, it is incredibly infuriating
They make a mockery out of real mental illness... wearing it like a costume for likes and attention. Meanwhile those who actually have it just want to blend in with society and be normal.
honestly when my friends make "lmao I'm so depressed" jokes I always respond now with "lmao can't relate I'm mentally stable"
*obviously I wouldn't respond like this to people actually struggling but the depression aesthetic is so old now
"Because there's not a lot of things going on in their lives." I agree with this 100%. People will always find a way to make problems when they're out of problems to deal with.
Very true. Many people refuse to be happy because they thrive off drama.
They're probably young kids struggling to establish an identity in high school/young adulthood, so they find pretending to have a disability as an easy way to distinguish themselves. It's fucked up and totally something they need to snap out of.
Which side (woke vs conservative) is right regarding men wearing dresses? What about bathrooms? Aren't conservatives making these out to be bigger problems than they are. How does men wearing dresses impact the average person or affect being masculine? And how is a sign on a door going to stop someone of the opposite sex from raping people when they haven't worked over the decades they've been used and look up high school sports hazing rituals and there's a lot of male on male rape (which means men shouldn't be alone in bathrooms with other men if the concern is that "all men are rapists" but if all men are rapists then why allow women to ever be alone with men).
As a person who actually has Tourette’s that cause a lot of problems (pulled muscles and bruised hands just to name a couple) this sht isn’t cute, it’s offensive, my disability isn’t some fun little make me famous/popular checkmark that ppl should be appropriating, it’s not fun it’s embarrassing and painful almost every time. Fuk outta here with all that bs
I tend to think social media exposure also spurred these unusual lists of disorders/sexualities/identities because they saw that not only were they not unique, but that there were hundreds of other people that were just like them. So now people curate these bizarre characters to present to the world so they can stand out and receive praise and attention.
Personality disorders are so hard to diagnose. I was diagnosed BPD a few years ago, but my current therapist is on the fence. I still show symptoms, and when I was diagnosed I checked LITERALLY every box, but it was at its worst when I felt like I was trapped by the disorder. I got out of that community and got so much better. I still struggle, but my symptoms are much more controllable. People who actually have a mental illness WANT TO GET BETTER. they document their HEALTH journey, showing how and why the got better, not just their demise 🙄🙄🙄
Definitely!!!
I always hide my scars from the self-injuries (only friends and family knows) cause I try to be as „normal“ as possible. Even at work nobody knows I have complex PTSD….
Yes! I’ve talked and interacted with these types of people faking mental illness and they talk about never wanting to get better bc “it’s fun” As someone who has (and still does) struggle with mental illness I will never say that it has been “fun” it’s caused so many terrible things to happen to me and the people around me.
As someone who's suffered from mental illness for over 40 years, it's insulting to me that these people mock the seriousness of it. It can be fatal. It's not a joke or a trend. The real world is gonna be hard on these idiots.
And my guess is you only share the details of your mental illness on a need to know basis.
That is a sign of real mental illness sufferer. You don't wear it as a badge of honor but spend day after day figuring out how to navigate life with it.
Yeah. I shouldn't feel ashamed of the things I have but I do sometimes. But at the end of the day I feel like it should he a neutral approach; you shouldn't be ashamed of having a mental illness but you shouldn't brag about it either.
@@unacceptablesisterpeter3431 I'm sorry to say I'm ashamed of it. I'm ashamed for people to know. I shouldn't be, but there you go.
I know.. I am 54 and have had mental health issues my entire life too.. and I am in a difficult relationship with a narcissistt and HE showed me this story about these people who were developing "ticks' and he had the gall to accuse me of doing that and I am like NO.. The world is seriously messed up... and dark.
We are in the last days. REPENT. Jesus Christ is coming SOON. Revelation 13. Trump is the antichrist. Do NOT worship the antichrist. REPENT.
It started with them saying "I HaVe AnXiEtY"..... now the ppl with actual anxiety can't get the proper medication prescribed because everyone and their mother (literally) wanted xanax.
Exactly thank you!
Seriously thou so many meds are becoming harder n harder to obtain because of these trend hoppers
Anxiety is so common
Used to work as a pharmacy tech and the amount of teenagers and people in their 20's that got Xanax constantly is unreal. I had one woman who was 24 years old and she got 150 Xanax 1 mg per month for her "anxiety." She took five mg of Xanax every day! I've seen terminal cancer patients who are within an arm's reach of death get the bare bones medication to help them calm down. The ADHD meds with college kids are the worst though. I've worked at the pharmacy for 6 years so I've seen these kids when they were in middle school. None of them were on ADHD meds but now that they're going to college (usually when half the of the first semester is over) like clockwork, they all start showing up with scripts for Adderall, Ritalin and Concerta. Public schools aren't allowed to fail kids anymore so when these kids go to college they face failure for the first time and realize they can't just stare at their phones all day, not pay attention, not do the work and be granted an automatic pass. If you want to see more on the state of public schools look up the channel Teacher Therapy.
@@AdviserMoppet dont they need a proper diagnosis of mental illness for these prescriptions??? From the way you talk abt this, it feels like certain ppl are a priority. I have diagnosed anxiety and to this day do not take any meds for it whatsoever. If anything I'm scared to start taking them bc of the side effects.
As a person with severe PTSD, I’ve been getting so many comments like "It’s so cool you can see and feel your past like you’re re living. I wish I could do that."
What do they think I see? Sunny walks on the beach?
OMG...do they think it's some sort of psychic power? Wtf is wrong with these people?
Srsly! Thank your lucky stars u aren't forced to have the memories we have. Like wtf...
What on Earth?? Wow. How could someone say that! It's the worst to have to deal with! It's not some cute quirky thing to blabber about on Instagram.
@SoftserveSodium I just so happen to have hyperphantasia, so if I have an attack, it often feels too real and almost like stepping into that moment, as I tend to dissociate as I'm having the flashbacks paired with being able to recall things far too clearly for my liking in these scenarios. I guess for me it sort of is like transporting back, and it's torture and debilitating. Not something anybody should want, wtf is wrong with these people.
Yikes i wanna punch those people in the face
I'm diagnosed Bipolar and only my closest friends and family know. That is not something that I want to share with the world. I can't believe that people are really faking mental health disorders and using them as their identity! That's just sad.
I have formally diagnoses of MDD and PTSD, but the SSRIs I’ve been on for years that I have been going from drug to drug for treatment caused mood cycling.
It’s thanks to these TikTokers that I can’t go back to a doctor to get an updated evaluation with this new information on drug side effects. I can’t get an appointment for another 3 years. That means 3 years no treatment and constantly worrying about being too unstable to be alone…
It is worse than death.
I know 😂 and I belong to the world
Lol girl you just shared it with the world by posting the comment, but that’s ok there’s nothing to be ashamed about if your bipolar and not faking it.
Same here! I 100% agree and feel you. I was devastated when I was diagnosed w bipolar 1 and borderline personality disorder. Everyone on tik tok says they are "manic"... it not funny. Mania is scary and can be dangerous. In the past, I have had terrible, rapid cycles that made me feel imprisoned in my own mind and body. It's not "aesthetic" or "cute." I wish people would educate themselves. Thank you for your comment! Much love ❤
I mean we all know now 🤷🏻♀️ but I sympathize with you. I have Asperger's, dyspraxia and bipolar and I can't even tell anyone because people get their information from tiktok about my conditions. ❤
I have anxiety and I used to have depression and even admitting that anonymously online makes me embarrassed. It’s not some badge of honour you wear to get attention. I told nobody. I was afraid of being lumped in with the young people who self diagnosed themselves to fit in with a trend. I can’t imagine what it’s like for people these days who genuinely suffer.
same, I lost jobs in the past because my anxiety was so bad. I have gotten better thankfully but it baffles me why someone would glorify this, it's awful. I also don't get the people who use it as an excuse for crappy behavior, we are not our mental illness, we are our own people. The whole point is to be able to live with it, not be defined by it. sorry rant lol
I was diagnosed with GAD since childhood and I’m 29 now. I used to be like you. I was so scared/embarrassed of people finding out about it but as I got older I realized that there was nothing to fear or be embarrassed about. I found that this actually helped me a LOT. It’s one thing to be wearing your disorder as a badge, and it’s another thing to be comfortable and open about your disorder with others. I mean people with physical illnesses are open about them so there is nothing wrong with being open about mental disorders. Don’t confuse those who make their mental illness a personality type, with those that are just open and comfortable with sharing their disorder.
Same, I have ADHD and never tell anyone because no one takes it seriously because of people like that. I have lost many jobs because of it and had a hard childhood. These people enrage me.
I promise you that there is NOTHING wrong with any of you or anyone else with visible or invisible differences.
I use the word disability personally as I have both and it happens not to bother me but that acceptance didn't happen overnight plus I'm quite old and have had a very long time to work on my confidence:) but I have overcome it and I wasn't very confident at all so if I can anyone can I PROMISE you, and it really really does get SO MUCH better!
Honestly our differences make us unique, they give us so much empathy and they can be our greatest superpowers!
There's something deeply wrong with the kind of person who chooses to dehumanise anyone else by putting them down in any way, so if that's happened or is happening to you please, please reach out to someone, me if you like, or I can suggest a whole lot of other ideas :)
I have ocd, adhd, lots of ptsd to be annoyed and traumatized by and I am offended and feel like shit
I know a girl whose bf left her after he realized he was gay. So now she’s transitioning into a man and it breaks my heart. You can’t undo those hormones. There needs to be some kind of waiting period. It’s wrong that being trans has become a solution whenever something goes wrong in a young person’s life. Being transgender is something people struggle with their entire lives. Not something you wake up and decide to do out of the blue…
Wow. That really is heartbreaking. She’s really gonna regret it later :(
I have an abusive, lying ex that immediately transitioned, cut off their breasts and identified as a fairy after our breakup. They had never indicated any sort of struggle with gender issues, but they were borderline and autistic and decided to try and ruin our friendships for attention. Luckily our closest friends know us well enough and are level-headed enough to see what is going on.
Yeah, she clearly needs help. She’s gonna become a man to get a man back!?! Sad.
@@JMCNYC79 The man won’t want her. Period.
This happens more often than you’d think
Having Tourette’s ruined my life, and there are people faking it for clout… I literally can’t find the words to express my anger.
My best friend also has Tourette’s and she’s so upset about this as well I’m sorry you have to go through this ❤
I am so sorry. Words cannot express.
My kids have tics & OCD. Do you think in weird way that it makes it cool to have it and also have brought attention to the issue. My oldest is 24 now & still deals with it but maybe as a kid now it’s not so bad if cool.
Can't speak for your kids but the last thing I wanted when growing up was attention being brought to my tics. What I wanted more than anything was to just blend in and be left alone.
My boyfriend was diagnosed with ADHD and it has honestly caused so much stress throughout our relationship, especially since we were Year 12 this year and we weren't even sure he'd be able to graduate (he just managed to graduate with me having to support him so much, which was extremely stressful for me too). We both had regular breakdowns when his work was incomplete, because he was truly trying his hardest. What disgusted me was when some girl who also went to my school posted a video on Tiktok, saying that this one playlist of music made her ADHD disappear, allowing her to get her work done. That's not how ADHD works... It doesn't just vanish with something you like. That's just called not having motivation to do work, which everyone gets at points in time. ADHD not only affects the person with ADHD but also those around them, so I literally despise when people use it as a 'quirky' aesthetic.
Omg! YES! 😂It gets me so much when someone says « I do this and it makes my ADHD go away ». The worst for me is when someone says « everybody is a little ADHD » as if them forgetting their keys once in a while and scrolling their phone all day meant they have ADHD. But my pet peeve are the ones who speak very fast, bounce around and act like some sort of pixie manic girls.
On top of that ADHD can affect other areas of life other than school or work and a lot of people don't see or realize it. So they're always going "oh my adhd went away when I finished school" that's not how it works but that's what they think
I appreciate your take Blaire. As someone with a masters in counseling, disorders were never supposed to be a label. They were supposed to just help professionals have some common language and symptoms that could help us have a better idea of what techniques would be helpful or if medication should be considered. Insurance companies have really messed it up for people in the helping profession. And for insurance, we often have to diagnose someone the first time we meet them. It’s a mess. Thanks for sharing as always!
Very insightful
This is an underrated comment.
But what if the diagnosis are wrong? And the pills that they’re given worsen them or the chemicals in the pills cause some other issue? That isn’t exactly helping the patient/client if treatment is started for something that’s nonexistent. I don’t know how therapists, psychiatrist, psychologist, etc. do it. This should be talked about way more, this has GOT to change. It’s destroying good people on both sides of the fence.
@@CannibalFetusRobbery as mentioned….. this is required by insurance companies in order to pay for services. It’s not the mental health community pushing early diagnoses, it’s the blood thirsty insurance vampires.
@@sumchick7850 that’s my point, you guys are on the same side of the fence. I just don’t understand why people in your position are okay with doing this to people or not doing something to make change? Idk to me messing around in someone’s head is a pretty big deal and just criminal to me to be toying around with that for the sake of insurance. I just couldn’t be in this line of work knowing the potential damage I’m doing to someone that came to me at the end of their rope, that trusts me enough to help with their psyche.
I’m not saying you’re to blame or you’re at fault, I’m speaking in general here. I’m truly curious and I just have questions.
I need us to reclaim the color hair trend, I absolutely hate going out on my beautiful blue hair worrying about people thinking I'm one of these individuals. I have blue hair but also common sense.
This so much!!! I love my bright hair but this shit almost makes me want to dye my hair back to a natural color.
I agree. I would also like to be able to go out with my magenta hair without having to worry about somebody assuming that I'm one of those people.
Imo it's not so much the colored hair you can just tell someone is like this from the vibe
I’m going to assume you are one of those crazies please go back to a natural hair color everyone who is sane will thank you
💯 We need to take it back! I love my wild hair and hate that it aligns me in any way with the woke craze or any of those ideologies.
The social contagion aspect, and wanting to fit in to the "trendy" group, is so old.
When I was a teen it was anorexia/bulimia. Then it was self-harm/cutting. Now it's this.
People really need to understand this aspect of why these waves occur.
Came here to say this. Circa lte 90s early 2000s it seemed like every girl was anorexic and cutting themselves. Now it's this, I guess?
I know…I was thinking this is just the new emo
and it’s almost always exclusively young and teenage girls. why? it seems they are so pathetic and desperate to fit in by being different (oxymoron and irony) - well, a LOT of them anyway. especially the ones that you could say nowadays are ‘chronically online’
Teens, more specifically teen girls are very easily lead astray.
The "groups" when I was young was stuff like Metal, Punk, Skater, Emo, Goth, etc.
I miss that era tbh.
i’m schizoaffective and one time i had a two year long psychotic episode where i posted nonsense on all my social media the entire time (i have absolutely no memory of it happening). when it was over, i was so embarrassed at what i had posted. lost pretty much all my friends. had some people i actually really liked making videos about it bc it was kind of an insane ride so i had to stop watching them. i really hope these kids look back when they get out of this phase and feel the same way if not worse for pretending to have a serious mental illness
I fucking get this ur not alone x
Just deactivated FB for this very reason of posting my rants on my profile and losing friends because of it.. it wasn't a total loss as those friends weren't good friends to begin with but it still sucks to currently have no one because I scared them off with my ranting.. I have BPD the one disorder no one wants to pretend to have because of the stigma towards it lol.
I had real anorexia. And I never felt the desire to display my eating disorder on social media…in fact I hid it. (Ps I’m not woke) 😂
I've had depression ptsd and bpd for literally 10 years. I work at a very ~fancy~ job. I tell NOBODY. Literally my mom, dad, significant other, and bestfreind know.
Hi Emily, big hug from me 🫂 I’m glad you made it out I know how it is
@@lArtemislll hi Lauren.. You can also get a massive hug 🫂 You are loved and needed
@@onlyascreenaway1022 awwwwwww you’re the sweetest ever ❤️ thank you!
Same literally
I had a friend who I sadly lost in 2016 who was diagnosed DID so seeing this massive rise of ppl faking it (trust me it's always existed) and a cutesy Instagram filter version at that.. it really stirs something in me. Ppl have this bcs as kids they suffered trauma so EXTREME no *one* person could take it all, so their very self shattered in order to survive... It's beyond insulting
As someone with genuine ADHD...
I wouldn't wish this shit on anyone, and wouldn't glorify it either. It's caused me so much grief in my professional and personal life; my marriage is on the brink because of it.
People who DO glorify having it kinda piss me off.
Same here- it’s not fun. I’ve been accused of faking and it’s so degrading. Nobody knows if a person has it for real or not anymore. I pray that everything works out for you.
Also let's not forget the constant harassment of being asked/accused of being on drugs! That alone would anger me regarding having ADHD, when one would think a symptom that is a daily basis struggle would ignite it. ...
No one should be ashamed, BUT one who truly has a disorder NEVER glorifies it either! Nothing about a disorder is life enhancing.
It’s really not fun when your doctor yanks you off the medication you’ve been on for over half your life because of a positive THC test.
It's one thing for someone has it makes a video, say like Jessica (How to ADHD) say hey there's some positive things about it but yeah it's still a real struggle. I'm all for that. But yeah saying OmG you have ADHD, you're the most creative person ever. You can be Michael Phelps or some famous CEO. Yeah no. They chances of that are super super slim. You're more likely to be unemployed/underemployed, have a drinking problem, issues with relationships, etc. These fucks on Tik Tok faking metal illness for attendance make it hard for people who actually have problems to be taken seriously and get help.
@@greenblue6935 ADHD doesn't exist...yeah you think that because you don't have it. There's medical history of ADHD symptoms all the way back to the 1790s. Let me guess you think all metal illness is just made up? Bi polar, depression, ADHD, schizophrenia, BPD, anxiety...yep all because of bad parenting. 🙄
The truth about mental disorders is desperately trying to act as normal as possible in society, and when it usually fails it means losing face, embarrassment, and even close personal relationships. I have burned so many bridges and have quite literally watched people completely lose their respect and understanding for me before my very eyes. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, and these people think it's something to strive for. Pathetic.
I'm 45 years old and was diagnosed with DID 10 years ago and almost lost everything from it because it was missed for the first 30 something years of my life. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and going through hell and back with this disorder and dealing with trying to find my way through it and fight my way back into society to live a normal life, this whole trend just eats at my soul. You can ask anyone who lives with this disorder that all we do is try to manage and survive and try to maintain a stable life, we don't find joy in it, we mostly suffer from it. I could go in to so much detail but trust me there is no glamour in DID, and the majority of the people that have it can't stand talking to people about because it's foundation is the base of not trusting people. What people won't do to gain 10 seconds of fame, but this is why the DID community struggles to get recognition and get the help they looking for. I'm just sad and the more I start to heal and feel like I'm getting there this world does something else to make me wonder what the hell is going on!
I just turned 30, and recently got diagnosed with DID after spending all of my life enduring a fuckton of abuse and constantly finding myself in and out of hospitals, missing out on so much of my life and childhood because of this actual fucking mental illness. I agree with everything you said here, and I'm so sorry you've had to deal with it to. I can't believe people have romanticized this on an app.
@@causticprince Always remember that what happened to you wasn't your fault an you did nothing wrong to deserve any of it. Stay strong and I wish you the best in your journey of recovery, from the bottom of my heart! My only advise is to remain positive and remove any negative people from your life, they will only make it harder, and I know it is hard enough in real life to do so, so make sure you don't let anyone in social media make any impact on your life. Only try to work on what is in your control and don't worry about what isn't in your control. Best wishes to you and your whole system!
@joey et al: Came here to say EXACTLY this. Except I'm 57.
And PS. Kudos to you. The fucking worst is not remembering shit (in terms of the daily grind). I'm leaving it there. To the folks looking for clout - those who fought to be here to survive and get on with it - KNOW you're full of shit. Read a book. Get a hobby.
Partner diagnosed at 46. Felt all of this.
I took my little cousin shopping one day she started telling my he was disassociating and them later texted me that she was a they/them. And then writing poetry about how she didn’t want to live anymore and was hurting herself. I wonder if these people on tiktok know what the fuck they are doing to kids watching them! Thankfully she got the help she needed, but I am convinced tiktok made her think she was sick!
Probably. One of my mom's best friends has a grand daughter who's become a them/they and I wouldn't be surprised it's because of tik tok and her own childhood trauma.
For sure! Tic tok was created by the Chinese company whawei and uploaded to infiltrate American kids to confuse, sow division and doubt and depression. Get these kids outside and off these apps
Tik tok can rewire specific parts of the brain after heavy use so it is possible, and it makes social contagions much more virulent than they normally would be. That's why 'tik-tok tics' are a real phenomenon. This app influences the dopamine reward system, and dopamine excesses can certainly cause behavioral problems depending on the quantity. I'm not sure if research has clarified just how much dopamine is released for the average adolescent using tik tok, but it may not be insignificant.
This comment is so on point!🗣 it’s so sad
That's so scary! I'm so glad she got help.
As someone medically diagnosed with Tourettes the people on here using it as an Aesthetic and their entire personality for views on TikTok is incredibly infuriating.
And because of the glamorization of the illness on this app, people think that statistics of people that have it skew on more females when reality is more boys will have tourette's than girls.
I have diagnosed OCD and i relate. My other mental disorders aren’t commonly faked thankfully but OCD is very commonly faked online and it hurts. They’ll never understand the true pain and stress of real OCD
I came here to say this.
Also medically diagnosed with tourettes from a neurologist, can confirm. I feel a white hot rage every time I see those clips anywhere, people already accuse me of faking my tics irl I don't need these children encouraging that.
I hate how they just follow the trends do the latest thing i wonder which will be next and which will die out. Ive related to alot of this adhd reels but do i say i have it no im probably just over stressed and i can get better and if i do see it not go away i would seek PROFESSIONAL HELP not social media and self diagnose and being clear i wouldnt put it for the world to know some things should be private not in the social media ....... take care guys be yourself be a leader not a follower and lets use our brains be able to accept criticism and grow as a person not throw tantrums because we dont get our way 😊
These people are suffering from acute narcissism. That's their issue. Thank you Blair for always being incredibly logical and reasonable. Your honesty is wonderful.
Vulnerable narcissism
spot on! totally agree!
I have autism, and I couldn’t even get through a compilation of people faking it, because it was so triggering and appalling. I hated it.
I was told by someone on a video about a RUclipsr coming out as Autistic that "Self-Diagnosis is valid." and screamed. People who self-diagnose lead to them showing more symptoms because they think they have it. Reality is A LOT of people don't want to be told that their flaws are just that. They want to be told that what's different about them either makes them mentally ill/special or can be fixed. Sometimes people just suck and they're not mentally ill.
I actually never thought about this sort of faking as triggering, but you are totally right. It triggers me into intense anger that I don't usually have.
@@screamingopossum7809 Self-diagnosis with gender dysphoria too apparently. In the old days they would get rejected. Like the villain from Silence of the Lambs.
elon musk is faking it
I feel you, i have autism too.
“Please take back the colored hair” Agreed!
And it’s disgusting how these people joke around with diagnosis that people actually SUFFER from. Same as the body positivity people that took something meant for people with war wounds, illnesses, and that have just in general been through traumatic events that have changed their bodies.
Omg fr! I wouldn’t mind body positivity if it wasn’t just for one type of body. Believe what you will about health at every size but in general obesity’s not good for your body! It also irks me that it’s become less about supporting everyone regardless of what they look like and instead promoting bigger bodies and shaming girls without curves
The second I see colored hair in a teacher I think groomer.
@@misstypo88 same.
@@misstypo88 Same.
Yeah I'm in a punk band my girlfriend wants me to dye my hair crazy colors, but I refuse to due to that.
I am autistic and genuinely do not fit in and it is not right that people want to exploit people who are different and mentally ill for clout when they had it easy fitting in and not being discriminated against or looked at funny on a daily basis when expressing themselves
Its even worse because they WANT to be looked at funny on a daily basis, its fucking sick.
I'm autistic, too. I was diagnosed when I was 16, and the damage has already been done. I never learned how to communicate properly or to read people's expressions or realise when I'm going to far, etc.
I was bullied relentlessly when I was younger for being the weird kid and lived lonely, isolated and without a single friend for years because I never had the opportunity to learn how to initiate or maintain a healthy, genuine friendship. The isolation shattered my mental wellbeing to the point where I couldn't even bother getting out of bed, shower, eat or brush my teeth for days.
I was eventually diagnosed with AvPD (basically life-long social anxiety) and I constantly feel like I don't belong here. Like I'm just an outside observer and not actually taking part in society.
I would do anything to just be normal. I don't want to be special, I just want a normal life. Seeing people on TikTok celebrating their cute quirks and unusual interests pisses me off so much. And don't even get me started on the trend of self-diagnosing.
My older brother has Asperger’s and was literally treated so poorly and got into fights all the time just for being Asperger’s. Someone uploaded his senior picture to a website ridiculing people with Asperger’s (it was some kind of web dictionary like urban dictionary) calling him the perfect example of an Aspie. He’s so intelligent, so kind, creative, and successful and he never should have had to endure that humiliation. I can’t understand why anyone would glorify that for clout.
I’m glad you’re brave enough to actually talk about this
what's brave about it
Makes you miss the times when being "emo" was one of the few options if you wanted to stand out. Also, as a person suffering from C-PTSD and dissociation (not DID, though) the DID-fakers bother me the most. It's a real thing, but almost always related to severe childhood trauma and yeah, real people really suffer from it and sometimes struggle for many years being misbelieved and misdiagnosed.
wrong. DID isnt real.
Dissociation sucks so bad. It's terrifying to lose time.
Also an emo kid, also dissociation(not DiD, just general dissociation and 'day dreaming', going blank, feeling outside my body, feeling like I am in the matrix and my life is not mine, freezing, that type of things. Hopefully it went away. Having friends and staying away from stressing situation and triggers actually helped a lot.
Yeah I deal with dissociation due to PTSD and schizo-effective and it's always obvious when people are faking and larping. I think some of these people have issues but they are different than what they are portraying.
It’s truly disgusting how people are pretending to have something that stems from other peoples real intense mental trauma and suffering. I have multiple mental illnesses, one of them is faked all the time and that hurts yet i believe that the DID fakers are the worst ones. You have to have little empathy for others if you’re using their complex mental agony as a quirk for yourself.
As a mental health professional, I have a a few clients with DID. I know that they would be outraged by those who are faking this problem. DID is the result of very early, repeated extensive childhood trauma (think sex and physical torture). None of my clients would have ever put themselves out to social media to get clicks. DID is so painful and confusing, at times, to those who have it, that they would never want others to suffer as they have suffered. Also, unfortunately, people tend to focus on their diagnoses. Most therapists hate giving diagnoses, because of this problem. However, we have do to so in order to be paid by the insurance companies.
Thank you. I have DID from childhood sexual abuse and torture. Every day is hard :(
Also, Blaire calling it a controversial diagnosis and referencing split is seriously lazy. She could have spread awareness here, but no.
Excellent point about labels. I had a horrific childhood and I've been diagnosed with PTSD, but I think -- sometimes -- the requirement for labels can be counterproductive. . . Especially because response to trauma can initiate so many interrelated comorbidities.
But without an approved label, insurance won't cover our therapy.😞🤦🏾♀️
@@michellestelle it’s not really lazy. It IS controversial. Sorry if that’s offensive, but it is.
@@michellestelleit’s not really wrong to call DID controversial, I think for a disorder that is not even accepted by the entire mental health profession that is an apt word to use but I _do_ wish she hadn’t used Split as an example. I understand why Blaire mentioned Split, there are very few examples of DID in popular media to choose from and Split is probably the most well known example but it’s not a very helpful representation to point to
I studied orthoptics and apparently the amount of kids that came in with “limited vision” after Harry Potter came out was astounding…….
That’s nutty
Limited vision????? Like they wanted glasses?
@@lArtemislll yeah, they wanted glasses like Harry Potter. But they weren’t very good at faking it. It was very easy to tell if a child is a malingerer.
I'm guilty of doing that in primary school way back in the 1970s because I thought glasses were cool. At the grand old age of 58 I still don't need glasses but I'm perfectly happy with that now.
I'mvery visually impaired. I used to squint at everything. In theatre chart, I can only see the first letter and squint at the second line..
As someone who has been suffering from Depression their whole life, it drives me NUTS when people claim to have depression when they feel a little sad. REAL depression effects a person's whole life. If you are perfectly fine and functioning normally the very next day after crying for a day because you had a bad day, it's not depression. If I have a bad day, I struggle for a week if not more to get back to my normal state. It's a huge struggle.
Same here!! Same goes for burn out. They have no clue!
I agree with so much of this. I’m diagnosed with autism and fell into the woke identity crowd for several years. I became more autistic and more disabled as a result of making it my identity. It was extremely unhealthy. Once I left the community and started working on myself (nutrition, fitness, and other personal development), I lost the majority of my “autism” symptoms. I only had so many symptoms because I was thinking about autism too much and creating those symptoms in myself. The mind is very powerful and most people don’t understand how easily it can create or worsen symptoms.
Looking back on my time in the neurodiversity community, I believe I saw this happen to lots of other people. I saw people gradually taking on more and more autistic traits (which they’d never had before) under the guise of “un-masking.” Un-masking might be a real thing, but I believe the term is being misused by people who are simply very suggestible and are creating symptoms in themselves. I also think it’s used as a way for people to take on a more disabled identity without being accused of faking.
Yeah the mind is a powerful thing, once i had a pregnancy scare because I started freaking out i might be pregnant. My mind made me have morning sicknesses, cravings and because of those cravings i had weight gain.
The truth is that a lot of people ,especially young women ,that pretend to be autistic for attention . They don’t get diagnosis or lie about having one they look up the “signs” of autism and self diagnose I find it offensive towards people that are actually autistic ,especially level 3 and 4 which are the ones that need more support to get through life .
Yes, this definitely happens as well. I think some people are genuinely convinced they’re autistic (like I was), and others are faking for attention. And yes, it’s offensive to those who are genuinely disabled.
coming from a diagnosed autistic woman, masking is definitely a thing it’s basically just when you act as “normal” as possible in order to fit in or avoid bullying. However it is something that happens naturally. You do not have to think about masking or unmasking. That’s when problems occur, because you think about it so much that your mind makes you act “more autistic”.
I'm autistic too and I swear nutrition,fitness and life style is so important... I feel better now because I try to be healthier, try having more friends and to go outside more, etc. It helped me so much to feel more normal. I mean I still have many many struggles but its still autism
Blaire, I also think people are calling themselves Non Binary, Demi or even Trans because they WANT to feel oppressed and be on the struggle life especially those who have pretty great lives. Look at how people emulate hip hop and rap culture when they're not apart of it.
i swear we have the same thoughts
Yes because just because someone is rich they can’t be part of the lgbtq+ community
I love your hair so much in your pfp. You look like a goddess ✨️🔮🌠💜💖 This isn't related but you need to know this!
It took me a mean ass while to find out that I’m trans (this year, in fact, I’m 22), and when I say this exact same thing (that you said because I have the same thought) people would call me transphobic 😂😂people will literally just jump days to be trans because they think it’s a trend or they want to feel special (or as you said, oppressed🤦🏽♀️)
@@WhoIsJaiK I have been out as a Transman for over 10 years and I agree with you. I knew I was Trans from a pretty early age, but waited until I was 18 to even go to therapy & make sure I was right. I've never really fit in with the community because I would rather blend in than stand out (is that not the actual point tbh if someone genuinely struggles with dysphoria?) Its actually maddening to see how many people "want" to be trans now like it isn't this extremely big, life changing, scary decision that will literally effect you for the rest of your life in good AND bad ways. Its not an easy life & I can't understand why people are acting the way they do now. I wish you all the luck in your transition!
I remember saying I had OCD (diagnosed) recently and because it didn’t fit the person's idea of what OCD is they told me I might be bipolar.
I hate how people act like they are mental health experts based on information they get from Tik Tok and stereotypes from TV
Agreed. Somehow these ass hats who only made it through school because Busch put in that no child left behind bs think their input is as valid as a professionals all because they read a few buzzfeed articles or took some 10 question test online.
As someone with diagnosed OCD it really angers me. My OCD gives me very scary intrusive thoughts and worries. I am always in fear, guilt, anxiety and sadness because OCD is hard to live with. I’m so tired of people who are privileged enough to not have it faking it
@@makeitrainnnn Absolutely! Intrusive thoughts have isolated me from my family and friends. It's really scary and people assume we are just annoyingly clean
My counselor wondered if I might have OCD, and I laughed right out loud and said "Oh, no, what you're ACTUALLY seeing is a bunch of carefully crafted coping techniques to deal with my ADHD! I was actually somewhat surprised she even "noticed" them. I'm guessing what she saw is that I always do things in a certain order when getting up or sitting down, for example, so that I don't accidentally forget something important. It's a bunch of habits, "scripts", in a way, that make sure I don't miss things. Like when I come into my house, I immediately lock the door, the deadbolt, and turn off the outside light. Then I put down whatever I'm carrying, change from shoes to slippers, and continue into the house. EVERY TIME. Or else I'm sure to forget one of the steps - like leaving the light on, or not locking the deadbolt.
And OCD is such a spectrum, too - I've seen people with such severe OCD that they basically can't function - it's no wonder that, if you're milder, they might think it's something else!
@@makeitrainnnn Feel that. That’s how it is with adhd as well. My poor hubby has both!
“I’m in such a good mood today!… let’s ruin it”😂😂 also peep the cute dog napping on the couch in the back🥺❤️
That's so strange when I spent all my life making sure that my disorders were not what was defining me in the eyes of the rest of the society ... almost like I was trying to live my life as normally as possible... but whatever.
Spent my whole entire life to be like everyone else only for people to want this shit to happen to them. Like what??
Same with me and Autism. I've grown up being shamed and dismissed because I wasn't "smart" or "like everyone else" and I do my best to avoid the topic of Autism all together due to the bad memories associated with it. It comes out more in social situations because sometimes I don't always catch on to social interactions, so I've just replaced it with having social anxiety, which I do, but I just say I'm not good at talking because of my social anxiety rather than saying I have Autism.
Right… usually people with mental illness etc… don’t really talk about it.
Same! I have cerebral palsy (a mild case thank G-d) due to brain trauma at birth and have never let it stop me! Most people in my life (except close family members) didn’t even know… it’s not what defines me and I don’t want others to look at me as “the girl with the disability” I just want people to see me as myself
@@HawkinaBox I'm exactly the same with my autism, I don't really understand it at all. I like raising some awareness through my inta account by sharing educational and awareness posts and memes. You really don't want it to define you or be your whole personality.
As someone who has struggled with bipolar for decades these people really aggravate me. While it wasn't mentioned here I know people who claim to be bipolar too as an escuse to be moody or quirky or whatever.
As far as trans being a fad it is become clear that this is the case. My sister works at a exclusive performing arts high school in California and she says the kids who claims to be heterosexual and cisgender are in the minority. There are even at least a couple of students who are (or have) transitioned and the parents back in their home country appear to be unaware of it. They are just a bunch of entitled kids who think that being gay, bi, or trans is somehow artsy and cool.
It actually damages transsexuals the way it been made out. The on the weekend transwomen.
The bearded transwomen.
Taking resources and harming the previous acceptance, of transsexuals.
I love blaire calling them out. Truthful and honest our blairewhite
Honestly I'm so glad it's being said. I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder 6 years ago and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It's not cool to be a victim, it's frightening and a constant battle.
Drug Addiction is horrible as well. People simply saying, "They need better self-control," have no concept of WHY we do it and how we feel that drives us to continue doing it. From trauma to mental disorders we feel like we need it in order to even function. From opiates to benzos and all the stuff in between.
Speaking of, I think one of our greatest struggles with homelessness is not the homelessness itself, but mental health. A lot of homeless people are those who fell to the wayside because of a lack of psychological help. From schizoid tendencies to even addictions. It's the reason they can't exactly pick themselves up.
It's exhausting. All you want is for it to stop. You wish for peace. Not to record it. That's attention seeking from quirky Karen's
@@minstac1530 * Karens It's plural, as in more than one, so there's no apostrophe. "Karen's" refers to something belonging to Karen.
For real, I'm diagnosed depression ADHD anxiety and I take so much medication (adderall benzodiazepines and welbutrin) just to try and feel normal, and these people saying it's a "superpower" fuck outa here
Anxiety is bad. I struggle with generalized anxiety disorder which eventually lead to depression. Long story short, if my mom hadn't picked up my change in behavior, who knows how far I might have sunken into depression. Feeling much better now, but depression messes up the way I think. Always making my default mode of thinking negative.
I'm happy I never downloaded tik tok. People are crazier there than in other apps, it seems
I start feeling like a boomer, even though I’m in my mid thirties now, wanting to scream at the idiots faking eating and anxiety disorders. As someone who is taking medication for life for these issues and have lost SO much only to work my ass off now to be considered “successful” and recovered is absolutely not something I wish on anyone.
100%, people who actually suffer on a long-term basis rarely go out shouting to the world the problems we have, I just want to live a normal life not be excluded even more than I feel...
@@auroraf7337 I agree. I think those of us who have been dealing with chronic disorders & disabilities just wish we could have a normal life again. I feel awful when I remember how I used to be and not knowing how to "get back to me", as I like to put it.
Yes. And for the eating disorder I have been told that “wannarexia” is an eating disorder! As someone who’s struggled in that area of EDs I was so disgusted by it. I can’t even understand why someone would 1: post that on social media and 2: want that for themselves. It’s not quirky or cool to have any ED. It’s truly sad what people do/say for attention now.
1000% PTSD kept me imprisoned in an abusive relationship for years, that and my depression caused me to gain so much weight.
It's not "fun" it's not "cute" it doesn't make you "interesting" it's awful and isolating.
What medication do you take specifically for eating disorders? Zofran? I've tried Zofran, it's an anti nausea that helps you eat, they give it to cancer patients a lot of the time, as well as people with motion sickness. It's the only one I can think of, and it never worked for me. I am SOOO open to suggestions, if you have them. I'm sorry if I'm prying too much, if it's something you don't want to share publicly, you don't need to answer. I understand 💕
god this is going to be embarrassing for them when they're grown and have to look back.
so thankful my generation didn't have tiktok
Not to mention some of these videos have gone viral. This is going to impact job prospects lol.
You have NO idea how grateful I am that at least 90% of the internet I grew up with is LONG gone... As each piece has died, I have been increasingly grateful that that's one more thing nobody will be able to dig up on me! (Not that I was a bad kid, or anything like that, just A KID, and I didn't think enough about "The Internet is Forever" - and the last 10 years of social change have made it REALLY clear we should ALL be a lot more careful what we say and do online. I've even questioned some of what I've written in this thread today, but honestly, it's just nice to find some people who know what the heck I'm talking about, and I want to help people who are like me get the help they need (hopefully sooner than *I* did!) Our mental health system in the US is catastrophically bad, and we all need all the support we can find!
Treating a disorder as a badge of honor makes it a competioin on what is a worse situation to be in. I have epilpesy and even in this, it's not very popular. I have always felt overlooked for help because of it and things like this will just make it worse.
My brother has epilepsy. it started when he was 14 and continued for 18 years, averaging 1 seizure every 3 days.. thankfully he got a brain surgery about two years ago and has had only 3 since. It is honestly amazing! I often think about how difficult it would be to have epilepsy. You have seizures, hardcore meds, usually terrible side effects, and you live in a world where people are scared by seizures. I hope that you live a good, happy life and that maybe one day there is a way for you to cure it too! Until then, just know I admire that you could muster the strength you’re required to have by having epilepsy.
people are faking it now
I’m so glad tiktok wasn’t a thing when I was 13 it would’ve been so damaging for me
Listing out phobias on MySpace and early Facebook was so weird…it’s like telling your serial killer how to torture you.😅
Tumblr used to be bad enough “back in the day” but tik tok is on another level
Yeah the heyday of mental illness Tumblr was a trip but it was a bit easier to avoid than it is now. It has leaked into my life on every side.
Because tumblr is a privately owned american company while tik tok is a copy of vine and tumblr owned by the Chinese Communist Party. One just wanted to make money and be succesful,while the other wants to change people s views on everything,from politics,personal freedom to history.
I was waiting for Blaire to tackle the issue of these despicable people
Blaire delivers as always!
I have real mental health issues and it's not something to be happy about or excited about at all. It sucks, it's sad at times, and it makes life pretty hard to get through at times. And yes I've been diagnosed by actual psychiatrists and not myself.
It's already cringe enough when teens do it...
But when adults make these woke TikToks, it's just beyond nauseating.
I guess the silver lining in this whole situation is that it is all being recorded. Psychologists are going to have their hands full going through all this data. And future adults are going to have nightmares hoping their old tiktoks don't get discovered. That's if they ever grow out of it.
Spoken like a true scientist
Problem they'll never grow out of it.
dude most of these people are adults... just because they act like kids dont make them kids
I have schizoaffective, psychosis, and OCD. The intrusive thoughts alone took me almost 10 YEARS to overcome. People that think they aren't conforming is the most annoying part. You're still trying to fit in. Mental illness is NOT AN IDENTITY it's something that you have not something that you are. People are surprised when they learn about my illness. I'm open about it but it's not who I am. That's like saying “I'm cancer”. 🤦🏽♀️ Americans go from one extreme to another.
My mom is schizoeffective. They has been recently confirmed by a doctor. The medicine appears to be working well. I need to learn more about it so I can help my mom.
Excellent point of it being like saying, "I'm cancer." Real mental illness is a DISEASE, not an identity. I never even say, "I'm depressed." Sometimes I feel frustrated & exhausted over how much more difficult things are now than when I was healthy, but I don't go around calling myself PTSD or Major Depressive Disorder. I fight it. Some days I'm more successful than others.
That's a really good way to put it
@@DonnaBrooks If someone can make it in our culture with absolutely no emotional times then they are definitely rare. But now it’s like a badge of honor. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, sure, but trying to make it a cool factor is just bizarre. And I’m with you on that! Keep fighting!
@@sarahmeadows9441 My father had it too. He passed away a few years ago but he would often suffer when he would go off of his medicine. If she can take her medicine (after find one that works) and stay relatively healthy (no isolation, eating well, sleeping well, etc) she should be able to function. I wish you both all the best.
As an ACTUAL OCD+ADHD person who's been suffering from 5, aka before those "trend" starts.
They made it really complicated. every time I become friends with a new person and I tried to explain, they just treat me like a kid and laugh about it. Almost as if i'm in one of those "phases" .
Because of them I can't reach a help when I truly in need, I can't be taken seriously.
It's so ridiculous...
Ugh. Imagine having such a cushy life that you pretend to have a problem to get attention online. These people need empathy and a legitimate hobby thay doesn't involve TikTrash.
That would require too much effort though!
Remember when the media used to tell us all the time "Know The Signs to prevent gun violence and school shootings"? Now we have millions of teenagers who are mentally ill and are potential school shooters and displaying behaviors that eventually will become a real threat to society and no one is doing anything about it 😔 this actually very serious, creating a virtual reality in which everyone validates you no matter how crazy you are and then you go back to reality and once they realize that the real world does not work that way, those people are going to snap
100%. That's one of my biggest fears. These folks (as a whole) don't seem to take it very well when reality smacks them up the side of the head!
Jordan Peterson in one of his videos (I really don't remember which one, I'm sorry) talked about the Columbine shooters and their "manifesto", and it was extremely enlightening. They basically made themselves crazy (over time) until they simply broke and took kids out. His description is spectacular. It was an "Aha!" moment for me. (I had never really understood how someone becomes a school shooter until then.)
Mentally ill people are more likely to hurt themselves than others…
What’s sad is that by faking this stuff, they’re hurting themselves by avoiding treatment for what’s ACTUALLY wrong.
There’s nothing wrong with them clinically. Their parents failed to raise them properly .
I have friend with DID and these people really piss me off. She went through terrible abuse as a child. I’ve seen her change personalities and it’s nothing like these people portray in these videos. Like you said these people are pieces of sh*t.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but from what I know, people with DID don't refer to their alters/alternate states of consciousness as "personalities", because that downplays what they actually have (which is alternate states of consciousness).
@@soulikarus You are right. My friend refers to her alters by their names.
I mean it is scary to DID on top of that it is worse to see ppl do it for clout
I knew someone with DID (it was called MPD at the time) and all the years I knew her, she only ever switched a few times. Yet these people are switching on que and right along to the music. Also her DID made her embarrassed and suicidal. She'd give anything to get rid of it. She was horribly abused as a child & that's why she has these alters. She suffers from this disorder, she doesn't have fun with it.
In a world where "common sense" doesn't seem to actually be that "common" Blaire is such a breath of fresh air!
I love her! Been a follower on YT for years.
As mental health professionals we have been talking about this for a while. I have seen it a lot where I work. It is a huge problem.
What usually happens with those cases? Like how are they treated by staff?
It's kind of sad that some people are faking mental illnesses. It is not fun to have one. My mother has paranoid schizophrenia since she was 24. With all the medication she took during all those years and not being to work (I mean she never stopped trying) and now at 63, she is developing dementia and is stuck in a mental home. No one realises the hardship mental illness brings, not just to the person but to their family. It's nothing to be envied and faked.
As someone who is diagnosed with BPD and has struggled to learn how to cope with it and become able to hold down a full time job etc. Seeing these people just makes me angry.
I wouldn't wish a serious mental illness on anyone and these people are damaging to those who want to be taken seriously and receive the help they need.
They are adding to the stigma not taking it away.
Agreed, I have BPD too. It’s hard enough having that as it is without being further invalidated and stigmatized. I feel like this whole Amber heard trial shit is stigmatizing that disorder further. So many people want to assume everyone who has it is an abuser when we’re not. We’re far more likely to have been abused and still the victim of abuse.
@@NaNa-re3wc so glad you mentioned amber Heard! Had the exact same thought as well :/ hugs to you friend x
Awe im sorry :/
My own sister in middle school pretended (or maybe genuinely thought) she was trans just because it was trendy. She has struggled with doing things just to be popular for a while and now she’s back to being a girl. So it pisses me off when people have the audacity to say not a single kid pretends to be trans or is wrong about saying their trans. It’s obvious and blatant agenda pushing.
I am disabled both physically and mentally and it hurts my heart to see people faking this for clout. What I would give to not be in pain 24/7 so I could go on a nature hike as long as I wanted, or not have to have someone with me in case I have flashbacks or overstim. Please stop this, those of us who are disabled are watching you with tears on our eyes!
Exactly, well said. ❤️
My husband has ADHD and has been diagnosed for over ten years, and shockingly enough as ADHD has been such a popular tiktok trend, they noticed such a ridiculous jump in prescriptions especially with younger people that he cannot even get his medication because there’s a shortage.
I’m all for people taking care of their mental health but I can’t help notice the timeline.
I see a lot of these ‘disorders’ are actually just part of having a personality. Disliking something isn’t a phobia necessarily. Being more angry, sad, happy, timid, brave or whatever doesn’t mean you have a mental disorder. The endless list of sexual preferences aren’t genders, they are expressions of your likes and dislikes when it comes to intimacy. And most of it is nobody’s business but your own.
Ah, a voice of sanity! :-D
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Rrrrrreeeeeeeeee!
@@a.m.2066 Your comment was shadowed. Naughty opinions!
Careful you're using logic and reason on the internet!
I am glad you made a video highlighting this. I am autistic and I am a blogger for autism advocacy. There is a cult of autism activists called the actually autistic cult and they make a brand out of their disabilities and chastise people for not following their narrative of the victim cult on society. It is a very embarrassing thing to see them acting this way and making my condition a fashion trend. I have been in bitter posting spats with then because of the way I promote a postive aspiring autism narrative and they accuse me of having internalised ableism. I think you have done the disability community a favour by highlighting this stupid crime of undermining our fight for freedom and equality.
I’m autistic too, and it’s so hard to advocate for us because of the “#actuallyautistic” people on social media, making pins and badges that say stuff like “pls be patient i have autism!!” as if everyone with autism is as “functional” as they are. it’s profiting off of a disability that some have so bad that they can’t even do basic things like walking or talking. It’s sickening. but god forbid you criticize, you’ll be an ableist!!!!
The fact “internalized ableism” is even a concept is confounding…and sad.
@@rosecoloredhusky5118 there is a lot of good autistics who can make a great niche for themselves here. I am making my own niche out of autism and showing people that within neurodiversity there is intelligent people who can make great things. My ideas for autism is to show the way of conservative ideas for autism by encouraging autistic people to share their gifts for making a rich and prosperous life, resisting eugenics by combating the narrative that we are all useless hopeless creatures, and celebrating our unique character that inspired people.
@@rosecoloredhusky5118 well thank you very much. I am glad that there are some autistic people with common sense values. I am pretty much in the same capacity as a Blaire White where I call myself an autistic conservative on my own channel. I have a couple of good platforms where I use my platform to push for self-determination and comment on the culture of this corrupted neurodiversity movement.
It's said that if you've met one Autistic person, you've met... one Autistic person.
It infuriates me when these self-absorbed little shitheads think that being Autistic is 'trendy', and do it just for attention. They've never suffered from a Meltdown, they don't know what it's like to feel bad about upsetting people, or how a lack of empathy actally feels.
Of course I have to tell people I'm Autistic. I don't have a flashing sign on my head. But when people are faking it, they make it very hard to be believed - especially when the fakers love to tell people I'm just being Ablist.
As someone with Tourette's, attention is the last thing I want from it. I'd much prefer if people just ignored my tics. It's embarrassing, and in certain circumstances can be debilitating. I'm perplexed as to why anyone would want to act like they have it.
Also, at least in my case, it doesn't present the way these people are making it look like. The reality looks much more boring than that.
Exactly
as someone who actually has adhd, i personally wouldn't recommend it. i've had many friendships end because i am far too invasive and i don't typically take people's emotions into account, which causes me to say stuff without thinking about the potential consequences it might have. it also makes doing any sort of task that im not interested in incredibly hard and i often procrastinate on a lot of stuff.
it's not a quirky trait where you're just a "goofball" or whatever these people think.
Ahh can't wait for your podcast to drop!!
Im bipolar, have body dismorphia, and am in anorexia recovery. It's not fun or cool or anything to be celebrated. Those things make me miserable if I focus on them. Talking about them and making them apart of my presenting identity would only serve to make my life a nightmare.
These kids turning themselves into victims and embracing mental disorders they don't have feeds into dilution and narcissism 😮💨
Well said!!!!
Schizo-effective bipolar type with BDD and other things, so I get the struggle, friend. I tried to commit suicide a couple months ago and I have dealt with intense invasive thoughts and dissociation since I was about 11. To see people do this stuff is sickening and I have to actively stay away from places where I know it is frequent because I cannot stand it.
Y’all are just as bad as those fakers… why do y’all have to list 3-4 mental illnesses when you tell ppl your nuts? What’s wrong with just sticking with one disgnoses? Why list out all that stuff so ppl think ur extra crazy? Its not a competition ppl.🤦♀️
@@hereforthecomments6860 well ass hat, it's because people can struggle from multiple things.
@@hereforthecomments6860 When you cope with something happening in your life, multiple mechanisms are used simultaneously to handle the situation. This means that multiple mechanisms can fail at the same time resulting in multiple mental illnesses. It gets even worse when events continue to damage an already malfunctioning system. If you don't understand something, instead of being rude to people who say that they have already been through something tough via presenting their illnesses just asks nicely.
Getting colored hair used to be flashy and pretty cool. Now it’s the mark of a crazed, fanatic and woke individual. I would with the brown but if you do get a wild colored hair, please put a disclosure at the beginning of the video. Can’t wait for your podcast.
My hair colour has changed. It used to be brown. Now it's grey.
I'm probably in the minority thinking here but it has always screamed I need attention and please think I'm cool ... always been "try hard" and lame imo
Wait what…
I can still tell who are the crazies, because they usually do their hair themselves, and it looks like cotton candy. It’s usually also a terrible haircut. If I see colored hair that looks good, I am pretty sure they are sane
Gosh I’m one of those colored hair people and do it all myself (stupid clothes too) and I probably look like I’m that woke crazy person but I’m not. I mean come on, I don’t even have tiktok! But I do look like a f**king clown.
When I was really young (think 10/11), I used to read a lot of fanfiction that used to heavily glorify depression, making it seem cute and quirky and mysterious. It got to the point where I wanted to be depressed because of how it was portrayed in the stories I was reading. A year later, I got depression (due to personal issues, not performatively lmao) and I was so miserable that it wasn't how I thought it was going to be. I think people need to take accountability for the stuff they put out there; especially on tiktok
It’s such a shame because in the UK now we have a massive backlog for people waiting to get tested/diagnosed for disorders like this (4 years for ADHD I believe) partially because it’s become such a trend to self diagnose these disorders .
Honestly, I thought I had DID when I was 13-14 (thanks Tumblr) but I totally didn't. I was just in puberty lol and didn't know who I was. I'm glad I didn't post it on a digital platform for the whole world to see lol
I was diagnosed with severe OCD and it's so fucking miserable that it's difficult not to be harsh and unempathetic towards other people who are also professionally diagnosed but aren't as severe. To me, their lives look so much easier.
My OCD is severe too. It’s not about being clean or organizing. OCD makes me afraid all the time. The intrusive thoughts are like being trapped in a violent jail cell you can’t escape 😣
My friends son tries to pull the “I have ocd because I put my shirts in my closet a certain way” shit yet his room and bathroom are a complete mess. I don’t know if he thinks it’s cool to have ocd or if it makes him interesting, but I just can’t help but laugh at him when he says shit like that.
I know what it's like to want to stab your brain with an ice pick in the hopes of getting some peace and quiet for awhile. Idiots faking it because they think it make them seem quirky and unique need to stop.
Agreed. It’s an entire mind framework & it’s ducking and doing hurdles around triggers all day every day. I just want to live my damn life like anyone else. It’s NOT cute or funny, it has manipulated my life.
@@Shipwreck15151 the term OCD is often associated with having to be organized or being anal abt something. It is more of a slang term than an actual disorder. For those with actual OCD it is crippling & its my understanding they work to overcome their OCD its not used as an excuse for the things being done.
So I really appreciate that one of the first things you mentioned is that even in the psychology field DID is debated on its existence. I'm a Psychologist who works in the dual diagnosis field (people who have development disabilities and also have mental health needs) and through all the people I have worked with and the years that I've worked I have seen just about every disorder you can think of except DID. The sheer prevalence on tik tok is scientifically astounding and disturbing that people go to such lengths... I agree with you too that these people are looking for ways to substantiate their lives.. really sad - wish i knew what the solution was... :/
Part of the solution is if they stopped thinking they're the center of the universe, but as long as pride has its own month that's not likely to happen.
I've spent two years in various mental institutions having been diagnosed with schizophrenia, and of all the hundreds of people I met, two were diagnosed with DID (insofar I know; not all patients talk to each other, but most do). Neither of them displayed behavior that was even remotely similar to what you see in this video. They did not have "alters" in the sense of persona with actual names and stuff. Rather, they sometimes sort of snapped out of themselves and start humming or crying and seemed just complete spaced out and incapable of making contact. Personally, I think the concept of DID is more a result of an overanalysis by psychiatrists and them trying to find meaning behind something that doesn't really have meaning. The patients just have severely damaged minds in different ways resulting in behavior that isn't really explainable.
Sometimes I wish I could get rid of my autism cuz there are those that seem to believe that only men can get it so people have assumed I'm faking it. Mostly my inability to look at people and lilapsophobia (fear of severe weather) give me away though.
I mostly want to get rid of it because of the lilapsophobia, insistent hand flapping that I sometimes have no control over, lack of balance, the depression and anxiety that comes with it and over-talking at times. I was diagnosed at 5 years old.
I am autistic too and it’s so sad how people think it’s “fun” that I get accommodations and that I am faking it or that I am abusing my accommodations or that I just do things to wind people up, it’s sad and honestly I wish people would understand that it isn’t something that I can control
me too, i understand its so frustrating as i have always struggled and people thinking i’m faking makes me SO annoyed. especially as i got diagnosed at 14 and had no idea ab it took around 13
That’s because for a long time they thought that it only presented in boys. Its a large reason why so many of people, particularly women in my age group got misdiagnosed with something else, or didn’t find out they were autistic until in their 40s/50s. I remember when they publicly updated the knowledge that girls could also be autistic and adhd. It doesn’t surprise me that many people believe outdated information, most of us think whatever we learn will always be true, and don’t bother keeping up with changing knowledge
Yes, let coloured hair be normal again. I never got the chance to dye my hair and now it is ruined by the crazies.
I dyed my hair pink and blue back when I was so mentally disordered I got kicked out of college and put in the nuthouse. People thought I was lying about being put in the nuthouse. I have a picture of me with that hair color with the kitten I got as a birthday present on my shoulder. That kitten is ten years old now.
You still should!!! Its still fun fuck what they think!
Same! I have vowed that when I am an old woman (my hair shows every sign of going white eventually) I will dye it whatever crazy colors I want, just for "sh*ts and giggles" as they say!
As a person with actual tics these are so ridiculous lmao. For most people they're not usually even noticeable to others. Minor muscle movements like excessive blinking or cracking joints. Tics and tourretes fakers could at least try to be realistic
100% i didnt even know i had tics till the people testing me for adhd said they had noticed my muscle movements in my arms and legs as being tics its not throwing your whole body around on camera
Some people do have really bad loud ticks. But yes, most do not. And faking it is disgusting.
Let's not forget that if Tics/tourette's get paired with OCD or some other problem that causes extra stress, they tend to feed off of eachother causing an particularly nasty feedback loop.
Have you guys seen the episode on South Park where Eric pretends to have Tourette’s? That’s what the people who do it on TikTok remind me of, and that is not a good thing. I work with a kid who has Tourette’s and my brother does. You can barely tell they do unless you close pay attention
Exactly! My tics are so very slight and most people dont even know other than my mom who saw it start off louder and then as I got older I have learned to make them less noticeable and still be able to do it in a way that satisfies. It's much more rare for people to have them in a way where it is loud and yelling. Mine are whistling, flexing and blinking and totally not super noticeable.
I was just venting to my wife about how I feel like this is a new trend, I was diagnosed at 7 with ADHD and Autism (not self-diagnosed and when it wasn’t cool). It literally pisses me off so much, how people are like this is now my new thing! Thank you Blaire for speaking out 🙌🏽
It’s a humiliating slap to the face. I hate it.
I’m the same (diagnosed at 5) - my 40yr old brother recently diagnosed himself as autistic 🙄 He’s not, 100% he’s not, he’s just an arsehole, and uses the line “sorry, it’s my autism” when he insults people
Yeah as someone diagnosed with several mental disorders from a young age it sucks. Especially since people will laugh about how i talk sometimes because i don’t present as the stereotypes, whenever it’s caused from my depression they just say “oh really?” It feels like a slap to the face.
i’m a diagnosed autistic woman and i agree. people think autism is cute and quirky yet they are weirded out by my extensive knowledge on the dark web or get upset when i don’t understand a joke or use the wrong tone of voice. They only romanticise the traits that they feel are “cute” like flapping your hands. I’m getting really tired of it.
All kids have "adhd" at that age you not special 😂
grew up with family members who had DID and heres what actually goes on:
-first off, most people dont name their alters. they cant count their alters. they dont know when an alter is coming out. its not activated by clothes, hair color, or anything else. alters are given descriptions rather than names because you literally dont know which is which.
-your alters are not different genders. period. they dont use different pronouns, and you arent even aware of most of your alters because you dont have a good grip on actual reality.
-your alters are NOT conscious entities!!!! they are different personalities or behaviors that are triggered by certain circumstances.
Thank you, Blaire! I suffer from anxiety, depression and ocd. And I have adhd. I find people who fakes mental illnesses and disorders absolutely despicable... it's extremely insulting to all of us who actually suffers with these things. It's not funny!
I have OCD too. It’s SO commonly faked. My OCD is severe and causes so much stress for me. It’s not a fun little quirk.
Same. I have ADHD, depression, and anxiety. I don’t have OCD but I have obsessive compulsive tendencies that stem from my anxiety. It’s debilitating. I’m currently trying to figure out my medication because my marriage is falling apart.
@@csebesta84 I'm so sorry to hear that
@@makeitrainnnn oh definitely not a fun quirk. It's not about being a neat freak either, like so many people seem to think. I hate when people say "I'm so ocd" just because they like to have a tidy home.
Yeah as someone with severe anxiety, to the point that I could turn agoraphobic people acting like my mental illness is a joke or cute, is awful.
I was recently diagnosed with autism and honestly seeing these people really makes me sad. Never in my life would I flaunt my autism around as some kind of quirky trait or badge of honour. It’s made my life really freaking hard (I had to drop out of school and do online school because I couldn’t cope) and my family find it hard to deal with me. It feels like a burden. Pls pls do not think you need a mental disorder to be ‘special’. Have a nice day.
🫂 🤗 👐. I was diagnosed at 16 and I don't find a lot of autism some "quirky trait" same family issues and you're either treated as an equal by your friends or an annoyance. If you don't know what to look for the more sociopathic will prey on you and you might suffer a lot of gas lighting and people explaining things like you're four.
Dude thank god someone said it, i have SLD and i feel like it affects my hands alot like i cant do tiny buttons or tie stuff on my back and i feel like if i drove that my reaction time is super shitty
I got fired from a childrens clothing store for not meeting they're requirements which im assuming i was too physically slow
Ah sorry that happened to you. It really does suck having these kind of problems 😞
The actual disorder gets so minimallized and triviallized when people take it on as some sort of quirk of their persona. It's been happening with OCD for so long already. People claim it's just this wierd little part of them that makes them keep everything 'just so', when really the disorder is f***ing hell but nobody except sufferers and those who know sufferers really understand that. I'm sure it's really similar with some of these other disorders too. These people don't understand what they're trying to emulate.
“Quietly” OCD here, only starting to feel comfortable selectively using the label this year & let me agree a million percent it IS hell.
So true. OCD has the worst stigma. Like you can say ‘oh I have anxiety’ and people would at least show some sympathy but if you say ‘I have OCD’ people respond with ‘oh yeah I’m a cleaning freak’. So you just gotta sigh and realize it’s not worth telling
Exactly. Speaking of dissociative disorders...how would you feel if you're a parent who loves their child. Then suddenly you suffer an amnesiac episode (due to intense trigger most often related to the original trauma or abusers from the past etc). And while you're blacking out , you try to set the house on fire...the house where your child is sleeping . That's dissociation for ya...fun huh
i used to have an ocd "attack" when it came to my oven. i was fearful it was on so i would literally get out or bed open it touch the burners to make sure it was off, turn it on and off several times walk away id get scared i left it on then id come back to the oven do the same thing.. itd last 15- 30 minutes of me doing this over and over again and id be unable to sleep and have to check the oven again. sometimes the reasons were insane.. "what if the cats got inside while i was checking it, i have to get up and make sure they didnt sneak in while checking it" and off i go again checking the oven. it caused so much stress it felt like i had no control of my body. id never willingly show my face and proudly talk about this because i actually want to have friends and meet people i dont want anyone thinking im crazy.
My OCD legitimately ruined my life for years and prevented me from so much. Why would anyone want that?
I remember the Myspace phobia lists, I remember being emo and 'it's not just a phase MOM!,' I remember the desire to shift your entire persona to be accepted by society. My best friend growing up fit more into the 'popular kids' demographic and I was an 'oddball' (though there were many of us so it wasn't that odd). Both of us changed our hairstyles, clothing, the words we said, and the shows we watched to fit into our own respective groups.
When you are young you are trying on different hats, exploring how you feel engaging in different communities, and discovering yourself outside of being a fully dependent child. If you are vulnerable as a kid you will likely get even more wrapped up in trends and fads. If you weren't able to have a solid sense of self-identity (for whatever reason) it is very easy to become like modeling clay.
I remember feeling so unique, so righteous, so misunderstood... and at times I was. But for the most part, I was growing up and reacting to my own trauma, familial relationships, and friendships, and learning what kind of person I would want to ultimately be.
In my High School poetry class, my teacher read us a poem by an elderly poet who had been writing for quite some years. It was beautiful. He then went on to share that she had written that poem in her 70s and when asked about it later in her 90s she responded "I was so immature then."
Hearing that phrase saved me in a lot of ways. It helped me realize that we are responsible for ourselves. If we want to grow, be happy, and find success (whatever that means to you) we will have to continue learning and unfolding. I realized I don't have to stick with a thought or ideology just because I was once committed to it. Sometimes what felt right at the time doesn't feel right after a new experience or idea comes your way.
This is a part of life. This is natural. Unfortunately now it seems that too many people have chosen not to take accountability for themselves. I know, it can be a heavy burden to carry, but it is our own burden not the burden of someone else. Now it feels like plenty of 'adults' are overgrown children who avoid critical thinking and responsibility at all costs.
Unfortunately, these are the adults that are 'leading' (or often grooming) the youth. There are millions of level-headed and amazing young people out there, as well as adults. But, we do seem to be facing a crisis of lack of integrity and critical thinking across the board.
It is not shocking to me that we are where we are now. And I believe this is a huge wake-up call to the average North American (or westerner). We must stop allowing madness to run the show if we don't want to cannibalize ourselves as a whole.
You said everything beautifully. I fully agree with you