@ville__ You have no videos and only crummy community notes. Actually start posting content before deciding to troll spam a comment section only cuz you're not getting any attention in your pathetic day to day.
The sad beige moms saying stuff like "their bright and colorful toys are an eyesore" sooo... You didn't want kids? You wanted a decoration that won't talk back?
I mean, to some autistic people like me bright colors can be overstimulating so... yeah. Not all kids are a monolith. (Jesus, You guys REALLY shouldn't have kids if you are all mad that some kids don't like bright things and others do, because guess what? Sad beige moms were once children too. 😂 I mentioned that I was a goth kid that got glaring headaches from too bright, and my very existence y'all are in tears about it.)
Right? Kids don't choose their parents. If you're going to bully your kids and force them to always do what you want then maybe you shouldn't have any.
The saddest thing is that this trend was supposedly started to get away from plastic toys and more towards natural woods, cotton, wool, etc. Just spray painting a plastic toy in neutral colors (without sanding or a sealant mind you) negates everything the movement towards natural toys was going for.
@Akalim they're great and don't have to be expensive! Growing up my grandparents had this set of blocks from when my dad was a kid, and they were originally made out of lumber scraps (aka free/repurposed).
Pretty sure 'my tree' is the name of the actual tree. Correction, it is the name, they're called 'Step2 My First Christmas Tree' or simply 'Step2 My Tree' for short which is what the mother calls it. It's not good either way but at least she's not claiming it's for her (even though it is)
@@bendingdemon6483 to be fair you don't know if she was calling it by the name or actually saying it was her tree lol either way, it's pretty evident it's for her
Sadly, that’s been the societal belief since forever. Children are not human beings. They are property and an extension of the parent. Children are to be seen, but not heard. It’s so disgusting and is the leading cause to childrens mental health problems and behavior throughout their life.
i remember seeing a couple who lived exactly like the 1950s, they dressed and acted like a typical 1950s couple. the only room in the house that wasn’t 1950s was their son’s room. they wanted him to have his own choices in terms of style and i love that. you can have aesthetics without forcing them on others and your kids, they’re people not property
i love this! my ex's mom was overwhelmed easily by color and toys. she converted the office room of their house into a play room. the kids could have all the loud, colorful toys in there and make as big a mess as they wanted, and the rest of the house was spotless. instead of making them fit into her lifestyle, she adjusted and accounted for them and found something that worked for everyone. she had her issues, but i always really respected her for that.
What freaks me out the most is that they aren't even putting a protection layer on the spray paint, like your kids going to scratch that off and inhale it. That's not safe at all!
I'm a goth mom, everything in my house is black/gray, but my daughter's room looks like a unicorn vomited there. she loves expressing herself with colors and it makes her happy.
I immediately noticed that the first woman (undeserving of "mom" title in this context) kept referring to it as "my tree". No acknowledgement that she bought it for her child to play with. It's *hers* for decoration.
It's the "our children's toys don't look like an eyesore" for me. If your child's needs are an imposition on your life you're not willing to accept, you shouldn't have children.
Like a Kid cant Tell the Sky IS blue If you never Tell them, they plain do Not See that . . . Also children craved color!!! I am pretty minimalist when IT comes to colors, especially when IT comes to clothes in me, bright and high contrast plain unsettles me, even If I find it pretty for the Moment . . . .v.but even I Look Like a fountain of color next to that and I Recall having been drawn to brightet colors AS a child . . . .there IS Just so much Joy in colors, even now I get euphoria when I find the exact right shade of teal . . . .allow Kids color! Development of mental capacity, comfort, development of personality and preferences . . . .
It's actually insane how much damage you can do to a kid by just... Not providing something basic. Like everyone knows that ailments like pneumonia, hypothermia, or malnutrition in infants can cause lifelong health issues. But we don't really talk about the other stuff. Don't talk to your baby? Congratulations, they have an underdeveloped language center and will struggle with verbal communication for the rest of their lives! Don't expose your baby to bright colors? Hope you weren't counting on them being an artist! Or enjoying art! Don't play with your baby? Welp they're gonna struggle to develop general social skills, but how important are those, really? It's one of the things that puts me off having kids, tbh. I work in elementary special education; I've seen the kind of damage neglect in the early stages of development can do, and it isn't pretty. Those kids suffer, and they didn't even do anything wrong. And even if the parents are doing their best now... I mean, it's a bit of a too little, too late kind of situation. Those critical development stages are gone or almost gone by the time we get them, and we don't know how to "turn them on" again yet. So yeah. Talk to your babies. They may not understand you now, but if you don't, they might never understand you at all.
For the first video, I actually saw an update and she got her kid a new Christmas tree and actually thought it was very cute! I'm glad she kinda listened to people after realizing this behavior.
I have to say that it’s much better that she decided to change her ways! She could have ignored it and continued to do crazy for those sweet RUclips $$$. She could have sent her kid’s lunch to daycare with colourless food in a colourless lunchbox, dressed her kid in beige and other monstrosities!
i remember seeing a gothic mom who's whole house was different shades of mainly black but she still gave her baby an entire playroom full of vibrant colors for enrichment.
Children are not an aesthetic. Let your kids be who they want without you forcing them to like certain things. This is the new cycle of generational trauma.
Watch as these kids grow up and bring back the styles from the 80's in a big way. Big hair, big shoulder pads, big pink tiger striped sunglasses. It will be glorious 🤩
My sister is a mother and she loves the whole beige thing but she only has beige in her kitchen and HER room, EVERY other room is incredibly colourful she even painted a beautiful mural for her kids bathroom. she has 2 kids age 2 and 4, they are genuinely the most happy kids who are always playing in their playroom that they chose the colours for together!
The irony is that (along with religious/cultural tradition) Christmas Trees were invented precisely to bring color into our lives during white and colorless winters...
Yup! The Christmas or Yule tree was supposed to be the biggest pine or evergreen you could find. Decorate it with color and candles/lights. All to ward off the depression of winter and celebrate the solstice. It’s to bring color DANGIT
The problem with the "babies don't care" argument is that, at some point they DO start caring. And what is the plan then? Throw out the art your kids make that doesn't match your aesthetic? Spray paint the toys they picked out themselves? Force them to wear clothes they don't like? Like how is this going to be different from our parents that forced us to do shit we didn't want to while pretending we didn't have our own feelings?
I totally agree. I get it if you decide to leave the walls white because you don't know what your kid will like in the future. My parents did this, too, with the room I had to share with my brother until I was 8. But in that case, you have to at least let them have other colourful stuff that's easier to change if they don't like it anymore. What's absolutely not ok is parents who objectify their own kids and don't let them have their own room. The rule should always be that kids can make their room look the way they like it and can do it in it what they like (within reason of course) because it's their room. And if they are 8 and they get a new room or you're simply renovating their room, why not let them pick some colours when you're going to repaint the room anyway? You don't have to allow everything if you think it's something they will complain about in a year, but maybe give them a few options you think they might still like in 10 years so that they aren't completely unhappy with it.
As someone who works professionally with infants, toddlers, and 2-4 year olds, I can tell you that they certainly do care long before people realize. It’s true that their eyes aren’t as good during the first few months but yes, they like colors. Not only that, but colorful objects and clothing provide opportunities for education that can be retained before a child is even verbal. I sing to children about the individual colors of their clothes and shoes. I have a 13 month old student who already holds out her shoe to me when I come into the room. It’s good to show them colors and tell them what those colors are. They’ll retain that knowledge and it’s helpful for their mental development. You’re missing out on an opportunity for growth and bonding when everything they wear and own is beige. It makes me sad.
There was a show on Disney Playhouse/Disney Jr. from 2008 to 2013 called "Imagination Movers" where one of the characters named Knit Knots is obsessed with the color beige... I bet all of these moms painting their kids toys watched that show.
I loved that show! Knit Knots was a nice fellow and even though he was the opposite of the movers they liked him as he was. They even made him a boring Christmas Present of a bell that didn't ring lol
I watched that show many times and that specific episode. I loved it lol. But also small proves thag soeciety and us gwt lroe and more like caritcatures of what we used to believe.
my aunt is the perfect example of what a beige mom SHOULD be: all their furniture is neutral pimteresty things, her clothes are all solid color beige type things, but she doesn’t bring her toddlers into it. cmon. you can make your home aesthetic while still leaving places, toys, blankets, and rooms to your kids.
completely agree. my mom is also like that.. she practically hates any color in the house that’s not white, black, beige, or gray, EXCEPT from my room. i love vibrant colors and always have done, and she lets me express that which is how every parent should be.
I really think you shouldn’t have a child if you cant separate personal aesthetics from your child’s sense of self. God forbid the kid ever has an opinion when they get older
tbf. the majority of parents shouldn't have kids imo. Only a small number of parents are actually able and willing to put their children's needs and wants above their own
@@alexs.5871THANK U this is what i’ve been saying and people think i’m crazy!!!! most people aren’t qualified to be parents and i hate that we’re taught to belief that having kids is an important milestone in everyone’s life. it’s not something everybody should do!!!!!!!!
It’s very much millennials repeating their boomer parents saying “this is MY house, you can decorate how you like when you move out!” without even realizing it.
If you're losing faith, I saw a mom on tiktok that had a very pink and vibrant interior, and is allowing her son to choose his own colors, clothes, whatever. I forgot her handle :) The son loves it tho! He's like, idk, 6 from what i remember?
Can confirm as someone in development psychology right now, the beige and non stimulating colors are really extremely harmful to children’s development. If things don’t catch their interest, they have no reason to learn to hold their head up, look around or learn to walk and crawl. This is so selfish of parents to do just to fit their theme
This isn’t fully accurate though- as long as the kids are still being exposed to different environments occasionally they’ll be fine. They see the grocery store, look out the window in the car, things in TV etc. picture a child in a rural city in Iraq in present day- they aren’t exposed to many bright colors expect intermittently, but they grow up fine. Picture children growing up 1000 years ago. Brown and beige and earth tones with bright colors only intermittently isn’t bad for kids development at all, it’s just not what the average person is used to.
@@hanasanai665this is true to an extent, intermittently though is the key word there I feel, it is far better for a baby/toddler to have more exposure than occasionally seeing outside colors or things on TV, but you are right and I agree to an extent. Also as an edit: I’m speaking specifically to the parents who cut almost all color out as a choice, like the people displayed in the video, they are actively making the choice to stunt their children’s development.
What scares me about these “sad beige moms” is how saddened their children will grow up being. Imagine your mother throwing away your elementary art project because it doesn’t fit the “aesthetic” and having unused homemade Christmas decorations due to them being too colorful. These poor children
heck i'm 30 and i still get down about an instance in 2nd grade. i loved my teacher and would always draw and paint for her. and looking back, if i were a teacher, i'd love to hold onto my students art to remember them by and display it in my class. but at the end of the year, she handed me a folder with every painting and picture i ever made for her. looking back, she never once displayed any of her students' art. i suppose giving it back to me was better than just tossing it out. but it still made little seven year old me really sad. i still get a little :/ when i think about that vs. what i would have done in her position.
@@l.c.7955 maybe. but it was just me and one other girl that would draw and give her art. i had other teachers before and after her that displayed their students art on the walls, sometimes from years prior. they'd make collages out of them and it always looked very cool and was very touching they'd do that
I hate when these moms use "overstimulation" as an excuse to make everything on their kid's life boring. I'm autistic and as a child, I LOVED rooms and drawings full of colors and life, it made me so happy! I get so sad watching them strip away the joy from the toys and items meant for their babies :(((
Same. For me, bright, bombastic colors give me life, make me feel energized and engaged. My mom prefers natural, more muted colors, so when I go to her house I tend to feel a bit sadder, less energetic.
Plus, the sad beige aesthetic isnt the only way to minimize overstimulation. They could also go for dark or pastel colors, but nah they chose the hospital aesthetic lol
What they’re missing is colors are good for babies. Babies don’t see well at first, so bright reds and black and white contrast is good for development. Kids are drawn to colors. The key is to not have so much stuff. That’s what causes the overstimulation. A few brightly colored toys that show different functions (electronic and non) are way better than twenty toys in various shades of poo.
Won't forcing your child to be constantly surrounded by neutrals make them desperate for colorful things the moment they have the ability to get it in any way? Kind of like those kids who aren't allowed any candy and then go absolutely nuts for it as soon as someone as school or a friend's house offers it.
Can confirm my mother was someone who called anything not furniture clutter and now I have things covering every surface of my own home. It drives her mad every time she visits
@@ivytired5327 yeap. It was light yellow for my mom back then and ooh boi do I HATE light yellow. Still looks like pee. Now everything in my house is either neon-barbie-eye-hurting-pink or old-fantasy-wizard-blue (with golden stars because I hate yellow XD )
12:50 In other words, if you wanna go minimalist, don't go beige-core, go wood-core. Mix light woods with dark woods, just make sure the stains used are child-safe. Throw a little birch in with the cherry.
"Like, you can't blame us." No madame, I do blame you. YOUR CHILD IS NOT YOU. Just because you can't stand to see more than two colors at a time doesn't mean your child can't either.
Literally when the kids in kindergarten they are going to be slower with learning the colors of the rainbow because most of their life have been only grey,beige,white,or whatever other sad colors they have
If they’re truly worried about colors being “overstimulating” which, may be for some kids, they can opt for cute pastels that still provide COLORS AND FUN!!!
Pale colours might not be the best for small children as it's hard to differentiate colours and objects that are pastels. That's one of the reasons why everything is soo bright and bold.
Seeing that “birthday party” with everything being colored white had genuinely made me audibly cry. It’s so sad that these moms think that their aesthetic should be applied to even their children’s things. So sad 😭😢
Imagine growing up and your parents take all your Pokemon toys and bleach/spraypaint them white and brown. Kid me would cry if handed Caucasian Pikachu.
I think the biggest underlying issue is for sure that these moms are inadvertently teaching their kids that they always have to be picture Pinterest perfect. It’s going to be damaging to their mental health in the long run.
Oh it really, really will. I got a lot of perfectionism issues from my family, and that was long before social media. It hurts me so much to think about the damage the pinterest aesthetic thing is doing to these poor kids.
I’ve seen so many colorful aesthetics on Pinterest get super popular, so the argument that the mom is making to their children is pointless anyway, their child will find color regardless
The mom that did the Beige christmass tree recently got a new version of that toy and admitted her child needed color and showed her setting it up with all its vibrant colors.So some of these people can acknowledge the flaws in their line of thinking.
every time i see a beige mom i think of that one woman who had to start incorporating colors into her house because her toddler drew exclusively in brown at daycare
@ville__no seriously, nobody gives a damn about your sad, empty page. Your only post is a community text post trying to “flex” your ego. Narcissistic idiots trying to farm content without lifting a finger are a plague and I pray that you change for the better. (And don’t try to argue that I have no content either, as I’m an internet lurker who typically just observes. I could not care less about fame.)
Children like bright contrasting colours because they are more perceptive of colours than adults are that's why toy companies make them in so many different colours. These sad beige moms are not only depriving them of a normal childhood, but also hindering their development.
Hiya! Graphic designer here. We get taught that when we design for kids, the entire reason why we should focus on designing bright colourful graphics with lots of contrast, is because it is important for their neurodevelopment. We get taught to basically mix things up a little. Use bright colours but also use contrast between intensities of colour.
@@venomousbunny9875 😆🤣😂 Nah, that's a genetic thing. Mothers carry it, males are apparently most susceptible to the gene's effects on their eyes' development, and it tends to skip a generation (so if one of your parents is colourblind but you're not, then your kid might end up colourblind).
Here's my take as a psych major. Infants have bad vision that relies heavily on shapes and color. If everything in their room is colorless, it simply doesn't register. Color is so important for cognitive stimulation and it really worries and angers me that these moms have done zero research into childhood development before popping out a whole ass new person that they view as an obstacle for having what the internet says to be the perfect asthetic house. Hate to see it, and hate that I'll have those kids in my office one day trying to undo the trauma of never being allowed to express an original thought or asthetic for the most pivotal parts of their lives. This will breed a generation that has a panic attack over placing a navy beanbag chair in their college dorm.
Ikr! Most people without kids know more about childhood development than these sad beige moms do and it's so sad. It's giving "I had a baby on accident but I decided to be a mom anyway"
It's possible that the exact opposite will happen. It's said that those tend to crave the exact opposite of what they grew up in. This is why there are periods of min-max interior house design trends over the centuries. Color is unavoidable regardless of how sad these houses are. It's very likely that these kids might grow up to have extremists-level of maximal houses bursting with color. Heck, to go off on a tangent, worse case scenario, is that this might also make hording more common. Sad-beige moms don't seem to have a lot of, well, anything other than basic furniture in the house. When these kids grow up, it's possible for them to want to cram a lot of stuff in their homes as well. Then their kids will find all the 'junk' and colors everywhere to be too much, and when their kids grow up, we'll be back at square one. Maybe it'll be sad-dark-blue moms in 40 years, who knows.
@@thegoldenblob69 I grew up in a messy maximalist house and that's my aesthetic because it feels like home to me, and it gives me comfort. My aunt Martha also have a cottagecore-ish looking trailer. She loved country stuff and had one of those stars you see on houses. I like that aesthetic too because it just makes me think of happier times.
man this reminds me of a story i heard of a mom who *stopped* being a sad beige mom when her kid's teacher went "hey your kid is drawing exclusively in brown at school"
@@theitchdeepinsideyourcranium I do like brown but it's a choice, and I also do woodcarving so I'm familiar with the whole "brown is actually a lot of colors". Would I expect or want that of a child? Hell no
@@Kehy_ThisNameWasAlreadyTakenI also believe you chose that not when you where a toddler. You grew up being surrounded with many choices (colors) and chose the color brown as a way pf showing your individuality. These sad beige moms took away their children‘s choices which is so sad
"Beige is not a color. It's a distressed state of mind" Said by an architect friend of mine that had to design an entirely beige house almost 30 years ago. She would probably have a breakdown from this trend.
@ville__ so sad to see another kid that tries to plug into big youtube channels and say: "oH mY cOnTeNt iS sO mUcH bEtTeR" when in reality the only video they posted is stepping on a pride flag with less than 1K views
I took my kids to an "all white" themed birthday party - I guess I didn't read the instruction manual sent with the invite because I had no clue there was a dress code for kindergarteners. I showed up in my work uniform since we were coming right after my shift, and my kids had normal kid clothes on. The only reason the mom let us in their area was because the birthday girl spotted my daughter, best friends, and cried until mom let us in. But anytime the professional photographer thought my kids or I were in their shot we were yelled at to move. We left after like 45 minutes. It's really hard to explain to a 5 year old we had to leave because we weren't dressed appropriately for a party AT A PARK.
Jesus thats horrible. Not only did you have to leave the party, the poor birthday girl's mother was LITERALLY NOT ALLOWING her daughter to see her best friend OVER COLOUR CHOICE. TO THE POINT WHERE HER DAUGHTER CRIED. That person should not have kids.
I was actually wondering "would I be judging them this harshly if it was goths who had a goth house?" And then it turns out that apparently the goths with a goth house thought ahead & gave their kid a bright colorful room, which reminded me why i trust goths way more than beige parents
Leave the 10 year olds out of this; their frontal cortexes are not fully developed and have not yet conceived of the cold, iron death grip of capitalism.
The saddest part was that the "beige toy" trend started with people trying to minimize the harmful chemicals their kids would be exposed to with wood blocks and natural cloth plushies and the influencers only saw the colors that resulted and went "🤤 aesthetic 🤤"
Yeah, I nanny for a family that researches pretty much every single toy and item they get for their kids to make sure they aren't buying something with harmful chemicals. The result is a playroom that I would definitely call a bit more beige and "aesthetic" than the usual Fisher Price plastic wonderland. But guess what? THE KIDS STILL HAVE COLORFUL TOYS. They still have bright pink and purple and blue stuffed animals and wooden toys with non-toxic paint and organic cotton blankets with patterns of bumblebees and rainbows. The first mom spray painting the Christmas tree sent me to the fucking moon. Like, you're exposing your kid to toxic chemicals AND giving them a lousy toy. Just infuriating.
Exactly! Minimalism can be about being very mindful about what to buy and keep and to try to reduce clutter and overconsumption. It doesn’t inherently have to be colorless.
I said the same thing my OBGYN office has more color and life to then some of these homes, to be fair my OBGYN office has a bunch of funny and lively people that work there.
colors are important not only to children but to us all. there's a psychological torture method called the white room torture where you're devoid of any color in the white room you've been confided in. being in an environment like that can lead to psychotic breakdowns. we NEED colorful stimuli around us.
What if you only see black and white? I watched a tattoo artist who can only see in black and white so this got me thinking… but I can still see why shades of grey would be important for the mind.
@@JulieCreatesArtwas he born this way, or did it develop? I feel color would be a hard one to give, but if I never knew of its existence, then it would be of course my normal. I know those born color blind, when given corrective glasses....its beautifully emotional.
whats even worse about this, is childrens eyes are far more susceptible to colour than adults, our light receptors fade a bit as we get older, which means a toddlers eyes are seeing a mystical wonderland of colour compared to us, and these parents are depriving them of it, its more than deppressing, its cruel.
also, for babies and toddlers, high levels of contrast is genuinely important to their visual and mental development. Babies when they are born can't see much but contrast, that's why baby toys are so bright. Trying to focus on the cool bright things they see is what teaches them to focus their vision and it adds so much needed stimulus to their brain as they are learning to understand their world.
@@universal_stupidity You're absolutely correct - babies under a certain age can only see in black and white (or more like, shades of grey) as the colour receptors haven't yet developed. So yes, contrast is the BIGGEST thing that helps not just their brains development but also their eyes.
Ah. I’m going to be a kawaii aesthetic mom(yet a bit more minimalist than I’m going for now, since I’m a young teen) and I will leave my aesthetic out of my children’s things and not do the bad things that those sad beige moms do I’d like a bit more color in my walls once I’m an adult Like warm pale blue
I will say the Christmas tree painting mom has come back and she says she realizes how important it is for her kid to experience color and now the new one is pink
THAT SOUNDS AMAZING dude it's my birthday in a few months and I want that lmfaoo it sounds so fun I honestly think that would save the whole idea Edit: removed my age because I realized I shouldn't do that lol
I fuckin love your profile dude 😭 Good point as well, idk what it is with people acting like they pretty much own their kids and can decide what they want.
@ville__my guy I have seen you say stuff like this everywhere, don’t you have anything better to do with your life? This comment isn’t even losely related to video
placing your aesthetics over a child’s well-being to the point where you’re using toxic paint and stunting their development just to make your house ‘prettier’ (aka more boring) and even exploiting your kids for views is so selfish and cruel, they should be ashamed
Srsly, it sounds like an early 20th century dystopian short story. Something from the Twilight Zone or an even a subject of ML James. Gives me shivers tbh
As someone who's studying Early Childhood in college, rooms should have a variety of color to help a child develop healthy, both mentally and emotionally. Chidren can be bored in a room with only beige, white, grey, or black. They need to have sensory.
You can stilk have an aesthetic house and colourful children's toys.. because the toys are temporary and they make your kid happy. A happy child doesn't ruin the aesthetic of a home. My aesthetic is brown and green vintage style home but I would never deprive my kids of colourful toys. Cause my aesthetic is also vibrant rainbows and cute pastels and happy colours.
As soon as I watched this I immediately looked up the website of those bleak pieces of toddler/baby furniture and you’re right, not only was it the saddest most pathetic beige wasteland, but it was also horribly overpriced. It was selling a set of small alphabet letters made out of wood… for 105 DOLLARS.
As someone who gets overwhelmed by color I’ve decided that I just shouldn’t have kids because I know kids should be around color. I’m easily overwhelmed, not stupid. Edit- I’ve clearly started a war so explanation time! (Yay) There are a lot of reasons that I don’t want/shouldn’t,t have children and I have a condition that makes me easily overwhelmed :)
Imagine living in a bland white and beige house and suddenly your whisked to preschool where’re there are literally every colour imaginable, of course the kid is overwhelmed, they aren’t used to bright fun colours and seeing bright fun toys The issue isn’t the “overstimulating colours” it’s the lack of colour
heard that story of a mom who stopped the beige asthetic because her child started to draw exclusively in brown colours at daycare and I hope all these parents have a moment like this to realize how they are harming the development of their child
Yeah this is the thing that worries me- for very young children their toys are colorful in part to actually teach children what different colors are! Like it’s also why they have shapes and textures, so that kids can stimulate their senses and learn about the world. Their brains are still developing and I really wonder if kids who are only exposed to beige stuff will actually have worse color vision and diminished ability to distinguish colors. Like if they’re under pre-school age then unless they’re going outside a lot they just… won’t see colorful things at all during crucial years of brain development. It’ll be fascinating to see in the future if these kids’ brains end up different due to this. I just feel bad for the kids :(
That’s so sad honestly. My mom (the one who does most of the decorating in our house) and I have VERY different aesthetics. She likes gold shelves and vintage kinda stuff. I like really colorful, bright, neon, and a whole buncha different patterns. My mom still decorated my room and stuff how I like it and I really appreciate that. I’m so glad I don’t have a beige mom.
The sad part is that the moms are doing this for THEMSELVES. There are children with sensory issues who DO get overwhelmed by colors and do need these neutral colors. As an educator who worked as a building manager, I was in charge of ordering toys, furniture and decor for the classrooms. These neutral toys have existed for a long time for kids who do better in a classroom without a lot of stimulation, not to fit your ~~~~aesthetic~~~~
I agree the moms in the clips are being rather selfish and in some cases reckless. That said I do feel the need to point out that adults can have sensory issues too. I’m not trying to say that it justifies anything done, there has to be a balance between giving your kids proper toys for development and keeping your own sanity intact after all. I’m just pointing it out because I feel like adults are often forgotten about with discussions of neurodiversity and I honestly don’t like the idea of someone with sensory issues being lumped in with people who obsess over aesthetic.
@@HaruDoneYet agreed! I’m one of those adults with sensory issues! But I have made the choice to not have kids because that would be unfair to their development. Color is key to development for infants, so it’s important that adults with sensory issues that do have children find a balance of regulating themselves and providing a nurturing environment where a baby can properly develop! It didn’t seem like any on the sad beige moms here in these clips had sensory issues, more that they disliked the aesthetic. And it was pointed out that other families with very specific aesthetics still provide a room with all the regular colorful kids toys for the child.
I came to say the same thing, as someone with asd, when I was younger I was heavily overwhelmed by having extremely bright colours especially a lot of them in the same room so I mostly had wooden toys since their colours are much more muted. I don’t know why you would choose to do this to your kids if they don’t need a muted palette, it’s really just sad for those kids and will probably effect them later on since they don’t have the colour stimuli needed
I work in a toy store and I am STARTLED at the moms who are so entitled when it comes to beige toys. I once had a man return over $100 WORTH of toys because his daughter refused to take them because they we're rainbow and "didn't fit what she was going for". Mind you this was a gift from him.
@@comicallylargespoon9426 yo same 💀 I had to read it like 5 times to come to the conclusion that the daughter is an adult with her own child for whom her dad bought the toys
"These bold colors are a bit of an eyesore." Yes and so is childhood depression from being kept in a room with few toys to stimulate your brain and everything looks the same.
I did a paper for this in school, the amount of professional doctors, physiatrist, and neuroscientist that have advised against completely saturated home design was shocking. What’s good is I’ve seen instances where parents do design their home in beige but let their children have all the colors they want. It’s not just an aesthetic choice, it’s a sign that you respect your child enough to let them express themselves without judgement.
My daughter is like that. The home in general is very muted & neutral (which I find a little meh, but it's not my place) but when you go into the girl's rooms or back yard, it looks like a thousand unicorns had an orgy! 😆
I think goth baby is a perfect example of this (how to properly do it). The parents have a very goth home, dark and black and all that. But they gave a room fully dedicated to colour and toys and fun. The playroom looks like a unicorn exploded, and it's a good thing. The parents have their aesthetic, but they still let their kid be a kid. And if the kid didn't want to dress in all black when she's older, they'd let her
As someone that had a similar experience (I was not allowed to buy anything that wasn't approved) let me tell you those children will run for the hills when they realize what their life could be
My niece is a sad beige mom. She named her first child Ozwalt. She named her daughter Marley (like the dog). She named her dog Velma like the cartoon character. I told her I was crocheting her a bla ket for her new baby. She worried the color wouldn't match the decor theme of vegetable garden (for a baby's room?) I told her it would be soil colors. She loved it. I was kidding. So I had to crochet a gray and tan baby blanket. Now, her best friend wants one.
Their kids are additional decorations to them. They care about always being able to film or photograph. They don't care about their kids development or opinions. Some people only become parents because they like the idea of babies and toddlers they can carry around like accessories, not the idea of raising someone to adulthood with a strong sense of self.
I see this so fucking much dude. I work in pediatrics and man… the best I can do is give as many licensed character stickers I can to these kids. Like, quick, take these! Experience overstimulation while you still can!
My mom also wanted us to perform a perfect family for the outside world, and even at home, she wanted us to perform as perfect kids. It makes me so mad and sad to see parents use their children as possessions
it ain’t much but it’s honest work. For real tho, thanks for the validation in my mission to get Bluey stickers on the inside back windows of every Range Rover in the northeast US.
my high school boyfriend's mom was like this. only instead she converted the home office to a playroom. instead, she made an office nook for herself in the living room and turned that room into a play room for the kids. all the crazy, colorful toys could be in that room. and boy was there a ton of them! she had like five little ones and they could absolutely go wild in that one room. it was an absolute mess. the kids loved it. and the rest of the house? completely clean! instead of depriving her kids or making them fit into her mold, she adjusted for them and found something that worked for all of them. i loved that!
My brother and I had a playroom too growing up my mom kept the house decor simple (not necessarily beige but still) she didn’t even care that the playroom didn’t match the rest of the house even my GRANDMA was the same way
Fun fact: The reason children’s toys are colorful is because, below a certain age, children have a harder time seeing color, so making toys primary colors help children see them much better.
@@liadeindadani6913 “If you want to make sure your infant enjoys their room as much as you do, it is important to understand how they perceive color. According to the American Optometric Association, babies don’t fully recognize color until they are five months old. In fact, during those first few months, a newborn mainly sees in shades of black, grey and white. Contrasting colors send the strongest signals to a baby’s brain to help stimulate brain growth and aid in visual development, explains Dr. Sears Wellness Institute. By three months, a baby starts to see color and the addition of brighter, primary colors become important for their development. Between five and eight months, a baby’s color vision is fully developed, making it the perfect time to paint the nursery.”
UPDATE ON THIS!!! Sad beige Christmas mom has since corrected the tree, giving it a winter candy land theme, even started working on doing the same with a playground house. It's pink and purple and white and it's SO MUCH CUTER!! She learned and she grew.
Societal pressure from everyone around you to start popping out kids bc that's what's expected of you if you want a Proper Family (tm) is a bitch, unfortunately :S @@soupy_soup2
"The kids don't care" Lady, one of the few actual tantrums I threw as a child was when my father wanted to paint my room's walls white instead of purple, and everything in that room was neon colours already, so don't tell me kids don't care for colours
this is why i like goth baby - the mom has fully incorporated her aesthetic into her babys life while still treating her kid like a child and having a colourful play room
Rich people have hollow, empty, modern homes because it’s a MANSION and a couple of people don’t LIVE in that whole space. The “lived-in” marks, such as keys in the bowl, or magazines on the table, are so spread out because there is just so much HOUSE for them to go in. These rich people own WAYYYY more stuff than even a middle class maximalist. They just have a larger space to store it in.
Over ten years of experience working in yarn stores has taught me that babies LOVE bright red stuff. Knit a red baby blanket and it will become THE blankie.
@@TheVanillaCows This may be a stupid question and you may not know the answer either but maybe that ties into the fact that when babies are in the womb, all they can see is red? People think they can't see, and if they can they only see darkness, but its more like when you hold a torch to your hand and muffle the light, and it goes red. Hank Green has a nice video explaining it far better than I can :))
@@AJst6tz ooh interesting! I’ll have to check that video out! I just looked it up, and it said that babies are born only being able to see black and white and then eventually develop the ability to see red, but maybe the exposure to the red in the womb influences the eyes to perceive it first once they develop? 🤔 it’s cool to think about
5:55 the white birthday party is literally dystopian like imagine seeing your party as a kid and it genuinely looks like all the colors were sucked out of it
my birthday parties as a kid were shit, and yet i still at least was allowed to have colors. had my parents presented me with this as a kid id probably would just have started crying
I’m an artist and I know that every colour has a psychological effect. For example, a dull yellow is off putting to some people ( hey wow, similar to beige). If you want to ward off houseguests, paint your guest room and any attached bathrooms and closet yellow, because it reminds people of pee and unhealthy poop!
There was a guy on Reddit that documented his divorce from a baige mom because he wanted his daughter to enjoy her childhood. Its one of my favorite reddit threads.
This is what I was thinking too. I thought most children's toys were colorful, full of shapes and different textures to help young children develop their sensory skills.
This is so beautifully and succinctly said! Parents will go down the strangest rabbit holes of research to “protect their kids” and somehow kiss crucial research that COLOR IS CRUCIAL TO HEALTHY, AGE-APPROPRIATE CHILDHOOD DEVELOPMENT 😭😭
Babies eyes are literally still developing, so they can see high contrasts and bright vibrant colors better than varying shades of beige. Children in general also just seem to enjoy the more stimulation from lots of colors. Like there’s a reason why colorful toys are the go to, generally it’s what kids tend to pick for themselves
I don't think it's true only for babies, I'm an artist and I sometimes have a hard time between what some of these people think are different colors, we all experience vision differently.
@@bluester7177 That's actually true. For instance, communities that live isolated in snowy places, such as Eskimos, can differentiate shades of white with slight variances. Also, there's a linguistic peculiarity about colors in japonese. If I remember correctly, the same term can be used to refer to either blue or green colors, which implies that people may have different ideas about colors. I heard about that in my linguistics class :)
@@blazer4729 Yeah, colour terms in different languages are so interesting. Some languages only distinguish between light/warm and dark/cool colours, so basically everything that's closer to black than white is called black and everything else white. There's also a hierarchy of colour terms that languages tend to follow, first you have black/white, then red (which also includes other warm colours like orange or yellow), then there's some distinctions happening with blue/green/yellow and basically it gets more and more detailed. So, if a language has a seperate term for blue, it probably has seperate terms for everything before it in the hierarchy, too. Of course, there's variations, and not all languages develop all of those terms. And even within one language there's always disagreement. Like, when is a purple so blue-ish that it stops being purple? Or conversely, when is it so red-ish that it becomes red? When is an orange dark enough that it's no longer orange, but brown? As someone who is both into linguistics and colour theory, I find that fascinating.
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"organic modern vibe" has me reeling as she literally lathers her child's plastic toys in toxic chemicals
It's giving Lorax
@ville__ You have no videos and only crummy community notes. Actually start posting content before deciding to troll spam a comment section only cuz you're not getting any attention in your pathetic day to day.
@ville__ 30 years old you should go to the nursing home granpa
like, just buy baubles made of wood or straw, please, if the plastic is too colorful D:
“Organic Modern Vibe” is crazy
The sad beige moms saying stuff like "their bright and colorful toys are an eyesore" sooo... You didn't want kids? You wanted a decoration that won't talk back?
Can't wait for their kid to get older and be obsessed with like fluorescent orange or hot pink or electric blue or something like that 😅
@@WhatExcellentBoiledPo-ta-toeselectric blue sounds cool
@@qiqiland443 it's a great hair colour 🤣
I mean, to some autistic people like me bright colors can be overstimulating so... yeah. Not all kids are a monolith.
(Jesus, You guys REALLY shouldn't have kids if you are all mad that some kids don't like bright things and others do, because guess what? Sad beige moms were once children too. 😂 I mentioned that I was a goth kid that got glaring headaches from too bright, and my very existence y'all are in tears about it.)
like at that point just get a cat or something
As a young mom I find it horrifying that kids are treated like they aren’t people, but accessories by their own parents.
Yah acceptance only goes as far as... It might need a professional helper with an Md License
Right? Kids don't choose their parents. If you're going to bully your kids and force them to always do what you want then maybe you shouldn't have any.
sadly quite normal for narcissists to view their kids as personal belongings
As someone who's still treated like an accessory by my own mom, this felt like a warm hug. Thank you
Americans and a lot of humans but mainly americans treat children like property
Guys even BATMAN"I'm vengeance I'm the night" lets Robin be colorful they dont even have excuses anymore
SO TRUE
It’s also Robin’s safety outfit
@@ScarletShipp-fu4hh to make sure batman doesn't lose him?
@ exactly
@@indrimzabut it's also gorgeous and bright and CHILD :D
The saddest thing is that this trend was supposedly started to get away from plastic toys and more towards natural woods, cotton, wool, etc. Just spray painting a plastic toy in neutral colors (without sanding or a sealant mind you) negates everything the movement towards natural toys was going for.
WOW someone misunderstood the assignment! I didn’t know this.
Just another example of social media influencers taking an idea and twisting it WAY out of porportion
Spray painting the plastic toy with no sealant or sanding isn't even neutral, it makes it WORSE
Keeping this in mind for when I have kids ✍️ I never considered wood and cotton toys
@Akalim they're great and don't have to be expensive! Growing up my grandparents had this set of blocks from when my dad was a kid, and they were originally made out of lumber scraps (aka free/repurposed).
Gotta love the first mom continuously calling the tree "my tree" - it's clear who the tree's really for
I was thinking that too
Pretty sure 'my tree' is the name of the actual tree. Correction, it is the name, they're called 'Step2 My First Christmas Tree' or simply 'Step2 My Tree' for short which is what the mother calls it. It's not good either way but at least she's not claiming it's for her (even though it is)
@@bendingdemon6483 to be fair you don't know if she was calling it by the name or actually saying it was her tree lol either way, it's pretty evident it's for her
The children that only exist as a vessel for content…
@@bendingdemon6483In that case she would have said ‘THE My Tree’, which she did NOT.
"You can't blame us!"
But we can. Your child is not a ball of clay that you can forcibly mold into your liking.
fr fym "you cant blame us" you are depriving a whole as person of stimulation and color, fuck you
Sadly, that’s been the societal belief since forever. Children are not human beings. They are property and an extension of the parent. Children are to be seen, but not heard. It’s so disgusting and is the leading cause to childrens mental health problems and behavior throughout their life.
@@antisocialal4799 I have never seen anything more true on the matter.
Spot-on description, considering clay is also beige.
I think they'd prefer the ball of clay. At least it's beige.
The sad beige mom who painted the baby tree redeemed herself!!! She re-painted it this year to be SUPER COLORFUL
Three cheers for redemption!
Good to hear that :D
@@euphoria_the_hunter hip hip hurray
Redemption = got roasted to Hell and back. Walks it back this year.😂
Hopefully she used a sealant this time 😅
i remember seeing a couple who lived exactly like the 1950s, they dressed and acted like a typical 1950s couple. the only room in the house that wasn’t 1950s was their son’s room. they wanted him to have his own choices in terms of style and i love that. you can have aesthetics without forcing them on others and your kids, they’re people not property
The wife has a RUclips channel too where she does a lot of baking vids with vintage recipes and other stuff
That's actually awesome- thats a good example of what parents should do, if.. they have a specific theme-
Its like the goth family. 95% of their house is black and goth, and their youngest, who is a baby, has a room full of colour as their playroom.
my mom has a mid century modern theme in our house but she let me do whatever i wanted for my own room which i think is the best way of doing that
i love this! my ex's mom was overwhelmed easily by color and toys. she converted the office room of their house into a play room. the kids could have all the loud, colorful toys in there and make as big a mess as they wanted, and the rest of the house was spotless. instead of making them fit into her lifestyle, she adjusted and accounted for them and found something that worked for everyone. she had her issues, but i always really respected her for that.
What freaks me out the most is that they aren't even putting a protection layer on the spray paint, like your kids going to scratch that off and inhale it. That's not safe at all!
The pookie bear Arven pfp 🤩
aesthetic matters more i guess
Literally this!! It’s so hard to get the crafting community mad but here i am commenting about the importance of sealant
@@Morgan720-l4y KIERAN'S FOREHEAD ISNT BIG
@@shihohinomorisbiggestfan YES IT IS. I COULD LITERALLY GET LOST IN IT.
I'm a goth mom, everything in my house is black/gray, but my daughter's room looks like a unicorn vomited there. she loves expressing herself with colors and it makes her happy.
thats so adorable
Good for you! 😊also I love your username
There's a wall in my house that is painted rainbow and I love it ‼️
Im a goth (almost) mom but my house is green/botanic vintage 😂🌿
Relatable. I have her room pink, white, AND black and then her toys are all normal.
I immediately noticed that the first woman (undeserving of "mom" title in this context) kept referring to it as "my tree". No acknowledgement that she bought it for her child to play with. It's *hers* for decoration.
"Organic modern vibe" she says about a plastic ornament spraypainted with aerosol acrylic... Do words just not have meanings anymore?
No. No, they don't.
Imagine bying organic wooden toys when you could just buy toxic plastic and paint it with beige toxic paint ♥
Lol I just choked on my coffee
Soonest she said.organic I started laughing
Tbh those ornaments looked like grenades
It's the "our children's toys don't look like an eyesore" for me. If your child's needs are an imposition on your life you're not willing to accept, you shouldn't have children.
literally why does their "aesthetic" come before their own child's needs and wants?? it is so selfish of the parents to do this shit
no one asked@ville__
Yeah, tbh I think FF went super easy on these people. A little too easy, really. Notice that I called them people and not parents.
@ville__ I’ve literally seen you do this shit on multiple channels Lmaoo. Plugging your own channel in other people’s RUclips comments, low af.
true
As a child visual development specialist - a lack of colors will LITERALLY diminish a Childs visual system especially primary colors
As a graphic designer, we get taught this exact thing when it comes to designing spaces and interfaces for kids. Kids crave colour!
Please put out content to educate these moms. I'm getting my doctorate in clinical psych and I'm scared for my future patients 😅
Like a Kid cant Tell the Sky IS blue If you never Tell them, they plain do Not See that . . .
Also children craved color!!!
I am pretty minimalist when IT comes to colors, especially when IT comes to clothes in me, bright and high contrast plain unsettles me, even If I find it pretty for the Moment . . . .v.but even I Look Like a fountain of color next to that and I Recall having been drawn to brightet colors AS a child . . . .there IS Just so much Joy in colors, even now I get euphoria when I find the exact right shade of teal . . . .allow Kids color! Development of mental capacity, comfort, development of personality and preferences . . . .
Those ornaments had shapes on them (also good for mental development) before being painted over
It's actually insane how much damage you can do to a kid by just... Not providing something basic. Like everyone knows that ailments like pneumonia, hypothermia, or malnutrition in infants can cause lifelong health issues. But we don't really talk about the other stuff.
Don't talk to your baby? Congratulations, they have an underdeveloped language center and will struggle with verbal communication for the rest of their lives!
Don't expose your baby to bright colors? Hope you weren't counting on them being an artist! Or enjoying art!
Don't play with your baby? Welp they're gonna struggle to develop general social skills, but how important are those, really?
It's one of the things that puts me off having kids, tbh. I work in elementary special education; I've seen the kind of damage neglect in the early stages of development can do, and it isn't pretty. Those kids suffer, and they didn't even do anything wrong. And even if the parents are doing their best now... I mean, it's a bit of a too little, too late kind of situation. Those critical development stages are gone or almost gone by the time we get them, and we don't know how to "turn them on" again yet. So yeah. Talk to your babies. They may not understand you now, but if you don't, they might never understand you at all.
For the first video, I actually saw an update and she got her kid a new Christmas tree and actually thought it was very cute! I'm glad she kinda listened to people after realizing this behavior.
Yeah because if the internet was launching me into oblivion i'd do the same
I have to say that it’s much better that she decided to change her ways! She could have ignored it and continued to do crazy for those sweet RUclips $$$. She could have sent her kid’s lunch to daycare with colourless food in a colourless lunchbox, dressed her kid in beige and other monstrosities!
i remember seeing a gothic mom who's whole house was different shades of mainly black but she still gave her baby an entire playroom full of vibrant colors for enrichment.
Right!
That’s a wwe wrestler and his wife. I love their house!
I'm pretty sure she mentioned that near the end of the video
@ville__what the fuck is wrong with you
i saw that too
Bro even goth mom has a room DEDICATED to color for her baby’s development. There’s no excuse for these moms
she mentions goth baby later in the video
@@jessywessy5196 yeah I realized that when I got there 😅
these beige coded k4r3ns mom are usually just want to focusing on themselves and feed their ego to their child lol 😂😢
Even fuckn batman lets robin be a bit colourful
Children are not an aesthetic. Let your kids be who they want without you forcing them to like certain things. This is the new cycle of generational trauma.
They just have kids to take “big happy family” photos for their social medias. They don’t actually view their kids as people
Exactly! How do parents not see that.
@@NearsightedNarhwalYup.
Watch as these kids grow up and bring back the styles from the 80's in a big way.
Big hair, big shoulder pads, big pink tiger striped sunglasses. It will be glorious 🤩
social media is taking over people's brains so much that they think life must always be a photo op
My sister is a mother and she loves the whole beige thing but she only has beige in her kitchen and HER room, EVERY other room is incredibly colourful she even painted a beautiful mural for her kids bathroom. she has 2 kids age 2 and 4, they are genuinely the most happy kids who are always playing in their playroom that they chose the colours for together!
The irony is that (along with religious/cultural tradition) Christmas Trees were invented precisely to bring color into our lives during white and colorless winters...
omg......that makes so much sense!!
When I was little, I was disappointed when my parents chose to put white lights on the christmas tree.
Ik, right? That’s horrible! Imagine forcing your family to have a happy Christmas with a colourless tree!
Yup! The Christmas or Yule tree was supposed to be the biggest pine or evergreen you could find. Decorate it with color and candles/lights.
All to ward off the depression of winter and celebrate the solstice.
It’s to bring color DANGIT
@Ax-xo4ux it's a representation of the Light of the World, Jesus Christ
The gothic baby is a great example of parents combining their style and providing color for the child
Omg yes I was just talking about this with my husband! At least even it out a bit right? Let them have colourful bedrooms FFS 🤦🏼♀️😂
@ville__shut up uttp-looking ass
@ville__ loser
@ville__ Wheres your proof troll I already know you're just looking from clicks...you poor sad thing
@ville__You have.. zero uploads 💀
The problem with the "babies don't care" argument is that, at some point they DO start caring. And what is the plan then?
Throw out the art your kids make that doesn't match your aesthetic?
Spray paint the toys they picked out themselves?
Force them to wear clothes they don't like?
Like how is this going to be different from our parents that forced us to do shit we didn't want to while pretending we didn't have our own feelings?
I totally agree. I get it if you decide to leave the walls white because you don't know what your kid will like in the future. My parents did this, too, with the room I had to share with my brother until I was 8. But in that case, you have to at least let them have other colourful stuff that's easier to change if they don't like it anymore. What's absolutely not ok is parents who objectify their own kids and don't let them have their own room. The rule should always be that kids can make their room look the way they like it and can do it in it what they like (within reason of course) because it's their room. And if they are 8 and they get a new room or you're simply renovating their room, why not let them pick some colours when you're going to repaint the room anyway? You don't have to allow everything if you think it's something they will complain about in a year, but maybe give them a few options you think they might still like in 10 years so that they aren't completely unhappy with it.
@@schrodingerskatze4308
This is so bourgeoisie
@@sunnyday4055 Why?
As someone who works professionally with infants, toddlers, and 2-4 year olds, I can tell you that they certainly do care long before people realize. It’s true that their eyes aren’t as good during the first few months but yes, they like colors.
Not only that, but colorful objects and clothing provide opportunities for education that can be retained before a child is even verbal. I sing to children about the individual colors of their clothes and shoes. I have a 13 month old student who already holds out her shoe to me when I come into the room. It’s good to show them colors and tell them what those colors are. They’ll retain that knowledge and it’s helpful for their mental development.
You’re missing out on an opportunity for growth and bonding when everything they wear and own is beige. It makes me sad.
They view their kids as decoration for the internet
There was a show on Disney Playhouse/Disney Jr. from 2008 to 2013 called "Imagination Movers" where one of the characters named Knit Knots is obsessed with the color beige... I bet all of these moms painting their kids toys watched that show.
I loved that show! Knit Knots was a nice fellow and even though he was the opposite of the movers they liked him as he was. They even made him a boring Christmas Present of a bell that didn't ring lol
An amazing show, and you're absolutely right.
I watched that show many times and that specific episode.
I loved it lol.
But also small proves thag soeciety and us gwt lroe and more like caritcatures of what we used to believe.
my aunt is the perfect example of what a beige mom SHOULD be: all their furniture is neutral pimteresty things, her clothes are all solid color beige type things, but she doesn’t bring her toddlers into it. cmon. you can make your home aesthetic while still leaving places, toys, blankets, and rooms to your kids.
exactly! i think a good compromise at the very least is to have your kids room be colourful, let it be how children need it
Like someone else said you can decorate your house however you like but leave the kids bedroom colorful.
completely agree. my mom is also like that.. she practically hates any color in the house that’s not white, black, beige, or gray, EXCEPT from my room. i love vibrant colors and always have done, and she lets me express that which is how every parent should be.
Exactly
i think random little splotches of colour scattered throughout a colourless home would look way cooler anyways. contrast !!!
I really think you shouldn’t have a child if you cant separate personal aesthetics from your child’s sense of self. God forbid the kid ever has an opinion when they get older
tbf. the majority of parents shouldn't have kids imo. Only a small number of parents are actually able and willing to put their children's needs and wants above their own
@@alexs.5871THANK U this is what i’ve been saying and people think i’m crazy!!!! most people aren’t qualified to be parents and i hate that we’re taught to belief that having kids is an important milestone in everyone’s life. it’s not something everybody should do!!!!!!!!
It’s very much millennials repeating their boomer parents saying “this is MY house, you can decorate how you like when you move out!” without even realizing it.
For real, imagine the bitch fit if one of these kids wanted to dye their hair pink or something
If you're losing faith, I saw a mom on tiktok that had a very pink and vibrant interior, and is allowing her son to choose his own colors, clothes, whatever. I forgot her handle :) The son loves it tho! He's like, idk, 6 from what i remember?
Can confirm as someone in development psychology right now, the beige and non stimulating colors are really extremely harmful to children’s development. If things don’t catch their interest, they have no reason to learn to hold their head up, look around or learn to walk and crawl. This is so selfish of parents to do just to fit their theme
Funky frog, pls plis pin it
I feel like this is that part of information that should be common knowledge but somehow like most ppl have no idea
@@zouipl6181I really hope they pin this post too, PLS LISTEN FUNKYFROGBAIT!!! People need to realize that our concerns are scientifically backed.
This isn’t fully accurate though- as long as the kids are still being exposed to different environments occasionally they’ll be fine. They see the grocery store, look out the window in the car, things in TV etc. picture a child in a rural city in Iraq in present day- they aren’t exposed to many bright colors expect intermittently, but they grow up fine. Picture children growing up 1000 years ago. Brown and beige and earth tones with bright colors only intermittently isn’t bad for kids development at all, it’s just not what the average person is used to.
So like, manufactured baby depression?
@@hanasanai665this is true to an extent, intermittently though is the key word there I feel, it is far better for a baby/toddler to have more exposure than occasionally seeing outside colors or things on TV, but you are right and I agree to an extent.
Also as an edit: I’m speaking specifically to the parents who cut almost all color out as a choice, like the people displayed in the video, they are actively making the choice to stunt their children’s development.
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I, personally, think that the tree captures the Christmas spirit perfectly, and why the suicide rates are so high during winter.
woah there i didnt know that-
What scares me about these “sad beige moms” is how saddened their children will grow up being. Imagine your mother throwing away your elementary art project because it doesn’t fit the “aesthetic” and having unused homemade Christmas decorations due to them being too colorful. These poor children
heck i'm 30 and i still get down about an instance in 2nd grade. i loved my teacher and would always draw and paint for her. and looking back, if i were a teacher, i'd love to hold onto my students art to remember them by and display it in my class. but at the end of the year, she handed me a folder with every painting and picture i ever made for her. looking back, she never once displayed any of her students' art. i suppose giving it back to me was better than just tossing it out. but it still made little seven year old me really sad. i still get a little :/ when i think about that vs. what i would have done in her position.
My mom did that when u was in kinder and elementary, she isnt beige or anything she just doesnt like having "trash" lol
God right? Imagine your kid working really hard on an art project, and it DOESNT go on the fridge because its "an eye sore". Horrific....
@@promisemochi After 4 to 5 years you will have more than 100 drawings. If that is your career you just can't keep all of them 😅
@@l.c.7955 maybe. but it was just me and one other girl that would draw and give her art. i had other teachers before and after her that displayed their students art on the walls, sometimes from years prior. they'd make collages out of them and it always looked very cool and was very touching they'd do that
I hate when these moms use "overstimulation" as an excuse to make everything on their kid's life boring. I'm autistic and as a child, I LOVED rooms and drawings full of colors and life, it made me so happy! I get so sad watching them strip away the joy from the toys and items meant for their babies :(((
Same. For me, bright, bombastic colors give me life, make me feel energized and engaged. My mom prefers natural, more muted colors, so when I go to her house I tend to feel a bit sadder, less energetic.
Plus, the sad beige aesthetic isnt the only way to minimize overstimulation. They could also go for dark or pastel colors, but nah they chose the hospital aesthetic lol
same! i love color!
ABSOLUTELY. Like you know some (not all, but SOME) of them probably treat actual autistic people without a lot of respect.
What they’re missing is colors are good for babies. Babies don’t see well at first, so bright reds and black and white contrast is good for development. Kids are drawn to colors. The key is to not have so much stuff. That’s what causes the overstimulation. A few brightly colored toys that show different functions (electronic and non) are way better than twenty toys in various shades of poo.
Won't forcing your child to be constantly surrounded by neutrals make them desperate for colorful things the moment they have the ability to get it in any way? Kind of like those kids who aren't allowed any candy and then go absolutely nuts for it as soon as someone as school or a friend's house offers it.
I saw a tiktok where someone asked this question and the comments were fulllll of maximalists that had beige moms lol
Can confirm my mother was someone who called anything not furniture clutter and now I have things covering every surface of my own home. It drives her mad every time she visits
@@ivytired5327 yeap. It was light yellow for my mom back then and ooh boi do I HATE light yellow. Still looks like pee. Now everything in my house is either neon-barbie-eye-hurting-pink or old-fantasy-wizard-blue (with golden stars because I hate yellow XD )
Right? Like if ANYTHING they might grow up to be chromophilliacs and end up like those people on TLC
@@lovers807omfg my mum called anything that isn’t an appliance, tv, couch, desk, or bed trash
12:50 In other words, if you wanna go minimalist, don't go beige-core, go wood-core. Mix light woods with dark woods, just make sure the stains used are child-safe. Throw a little birch in with the cherry.
"Like, you can't blame us."
No madame, I do blame you.
YOUR CHILD IS NOT YOU.
Just because you can't stand to see more than two colors at a time doesn't mean your child can't either.
Exactly. They're so selfish, they just don't want to be blamed for anything
Literally when the kids in kindergarten they are going to be slower with learning the colors of the rainbow because most of their life have been only grey,beige,white,or whatever other sad colors they have
Painting everything “neutral” is some cartoon villain behavior that I personally thought was unrealistic as a child
Like that gray blob episode of fairly odd parents 😂
one show i grew up watching had a villain whose whole schtick was being beige and boring
Right like I swear I remember some plot about a villain stealing the rainbow and all the colours from the world lmao
It reminds me of that one episode of PPGs lmao.
doctor doofenshmirtz just whipped up a "beige-inator" to turn the whole tri state area neutral colors
If they’re truly worried about colors being “overstimulating” which, may be for some kids, they can opt for cute pastels that still provide COLORS AND FUN!!!
RIght, like hire interior design to curate & find the best options for your kids room. Pastel colors are the safest options there
The room itself should be pale, all the toys should be very colourful
Pale colours might not be the best for small children as it's hard to differentiate colours and objects that are pastels. That's one of the reasons why everything is soo bright and bold.
This is a smart compromise.
I swear, when I have babies, their room will have a rainbow M.C. Escher theme. Give their developing eyes some exercise.
Seeing that “birthday party” with everything being colored white had genuinely made me audibly cry. It’s so sad that these moms think that their aesthetic should be applied to even their children’s things. So sad 😭😢
“That is a toy, not a bomb threat. Why does it have to be neutralized?” really got me
" MA'AM THE EYESORE HAS GOT WORSE, WE LOST 7 GOOD MEN, WE NEED TO NEUTRALIZE THE TOY "
@@SucullentbutterTOO MUCH COLOR, TO VIBRANT, WE NEED TO END THIS TOY TREE’S REIGN! TOO COLORFUL!
3 MORE MEN HAVE BEEN LOST TO THE TOY PLACED BY WAR CRIMINALS
@@FN0844IVE BEEN HIT IVE BEEN HIT THE COLOR IS TOO EXTRAVAGANT !!!!
CODE R2D2! NEUTRALIZATION PROCESS TEAM IS ABOUT TO LAND FROM THE CHOPPER. EVERYONE EXIT THE SECNE AND TAKE A SHOWER. THE COLOR IS CANCER CAUSING
Imagine growing up and your parents take all your Pokemon toys and bleach/spraypaint them white and brown. Kid me would cry if handed Caucasian Pikachu.
Caucasian pikachu 💀
CAUCASIAN PIKACHU CRACKED ME TF UP
Which Caucasian Country?
Not the Caucachu
Not picashew🥜
I think the biggest underlying issue is for sure that these moms are inadvertently teaching their kids that they always have to be picture Pinterest perfect. It’s going to be damaging to their mental health in the long run.
Oh it really, really will. I got a lot of perfectionism issues from my family, and that was long before social media. It hurts me so much to think about the damage the pinterest aesthetic thing is doing to these poor kids.
Naww when the Creepy dystopia makes us all one monotone color it'll be cool.. Might be a good skill in the end of the world
Or RAINBOWS I miss color but.. Mehhh I Just
I’ve seen so many colorful aesthetics on Pinterest get super popular, so the argument that the mom is making to their children is pointless anyway, their child will find color regardless
Yeah, it's like subjecting your children to the whims and pressures of social media before they can even hold a phone!
The mom that did the Beige christmass tree recently got a new version of that toy and admitted her child needed color and showed her setting it up with all its vibrant colors.So some of these people can acknowledge the flaws in their line of thinking.
every time i see a beige mom i think of that one woman who had to start incorporating colors into her house because her toddler drew exclusively in brown at daycare
omg is it a real story???
@ville__nobody cares.
@ville__no seriously, nobody gives a damn about your sad, empty page. Your only post is a community text post trying to “flex” your ego. Narcissistic idiots trying to farm content without lifting a finger are a plague and I pray that you change for the better. (And don’t try to argue that I have no content either, as I’m an internet lurker who typically just observes. I could not care less about fame.)
@ville__you don't even have content tf?
@ville__silence, cretin
Children like bright contrasting colours because they are more perceptive of colours than adults are that's why toy companies make them in so many different colours. These sad beige moms are not only depriving them of a normal childhood, but also hindering their development.
Hiya! Graphic designer here. We get taught that when we design for kids, the entire reason why we should focus on designing bright colourful graphics with lots of contrast, is because it is important for their neurodevelopment. We get taught to basically mix things up a little. Use bright colours but also use contrast between intensities of colour.
Not only is it unpersoning the child into an accessory but it strips the child of necessary visual stimulus
Is that how colourblindness develops?
@@venomousbunny9875 😆🤣😂
Nah, that's a genetic thing. Mothers carry it, males are apparently most susceptible to the gene's effects on their eyes' development, and it tends to skip a generation (so if one of your parents is colourblind but you're not, then your kid might end up colourblind).
@@venomousbunny9875 Highly unlikely.
Here's my take as a psych major. Infants have bad vision that relies heavily on shapes and color. If everything in their room is colorless, it simply doesn't register. Color is so important for cognitive stimulation and it really worries and angers me that these moms have done zero research into childhood development before popping out a whole ass new person that they view as an obstacle for having what the internet says to be the perfect asthetic house. Hate to see it, and hate that I'll have those kids in my office one day trying to undo the trauma of never being allowed to express an original thought or asthetic for the most pivotal parts of their lives. This will breed a generation that has a panic attack over placing a navy beanbag chair in their college dorm.
Ikr! Most people without kids know more about childhood development than these sad beige moms do and it's so sad. It's giving "I had a baby on accident but I decided to be a mom anyway"
It's possible that the exact opposite will happen. It's said that those tend to crave the exact opposite of what they grew up in. This is why there are periods of min-max interior house design trends over the centuries. Color is unavoidable regardless of how sad these houses are. It's very likely that these kids might grow up to have extremists-level of maximal houses bursting with color.
Heck, to go off on a tangent, worse case scenario, is that this might also make hording more common. Sad-beige moms don't seem to have a lot of, well, anything other than basic furniture in the house. When these kids grow up, it's possible for them to want to cram a lot of stuff in their homes as well.
Then their kids will find all the 'junk' and colors everywhere to be too much, and when their kids grow up, we'll be back at square one. Maybe it'll be sad-dark-blue moms in 40 years, who knows.
@@thegoldenblob69this person made a short on it :)
@@thegoldenblob69 I grew up in a messy maximalist house and that's my aesthetic because it feels like home to me, and it gives me comfort. My aunt Martha also have a cottagecore-ish looking trailer. She loved country stuff and had one of those stars you see on houses. I like that aesthetic too because it just makes me think of happier times.
@@jocelynecupcake
you are valid, and i imagine your house looks beautiful
10:15 this is one of the best bits you’ve ever done I couldn’t stop laughing
man this reminds me of a story i heard of a mom who *stopped* being a sad beige mom when her kid's teacher went "hey your kid is drawing exclusively in brown at school"
wait WHAT. why is that so darkly funny to me 🤣😭
That is actually so depressingly funny like what? Jesus, imagine erasing color in your kid's life they only draw exclusively in *brown.*
@@theitchdeepinsideyourcranium I do like brown but it's a choice, and I also do woodcarving so I'm familiar with the whole "brown is actually a lot of colors". Would I expect or want that of a child? Hell no
@@Kehy_ThisNameWasAlreadyTakenI also believe you chose that not when you where a toddler. You grew up being surrounded with many choices (colors) and chose the color brown as a way pf showing your individuality. These sad beige moms took away their children‘s choices which is so sad
They’re turning their houses into sensory deprivation chambers.
I wouldn’t be surprised if the only meal this people could cook is rice and chicken.
unseasoned chicken at that
I think some people might not be able to cook rice correctly.
I doubt they'd know how to make rice correctly
@ville__isn't aspergers an ableist term for autism?
@@67niilo I thought it was an actual syndrome? I remember it was Aspergers Syndrome and was merged into the Autism Spectrum.
"Beige is not a color. It's a distressed state of mind"
Said by an architect friend of mine that had to design an entirely beige house almost 30 years ago. She would probably have a breakdown from this trend.
Even in Saudi Arabia there are plants with Color
Beige is absolutely a colour, it is the colour of chain smoking cigarettes working at 1980s computers.
@ville__ so sad to see another kid that tries to plug into big youtube channels and say: "oH mY cOnTeNt iS sO mUcH bEtTeR" when in reality the only video they posted is stepping on a pride flag with less than 1K views
@@michagarecki2402 they're literally a russian troll bot that spams a ton of different content creators. Report it.
@@BottomOfTheDumpsterFireah I see they want their kids to know about smoking by taking away the bright colors 😔😔😔
6:14 “At LEAST it will be easy to se if little Timmy lets out a chocolate surprise in his pampers!” I love that 😭❤️
LOL I SMILED AT THAT QUOTE
I took my kids to an "all white" themed birthday party - I guess I didn't read the instruction manual sent with the invite because I had no clue there was a dress code for kindergarteners. I showed up in my work uniform since we were coming right after my shift, and my kids had normal kid clothes on. The only reason the mom let us in their area was because the birthday girl spotted my daughter, best friends, and cried until mom let us in. But anytime the professional photographer thought my kids or I were in their shot we were yelled at to move. We left after like 45 minutes. It's really hard to explain to a 5 year old we had to leave because we weren't dressed appropriately for a party AT A PARK.
Jesus thats horrible. Not only did you have to leave the party, the poor birthday girl's mother was LITERALLY NOT ALLOWING her daughter to see her best friend OVER COLOUR CHOICE. TO THE POINT WHERE HER DAUGHTER CRIED. That person should not have kids.
Who does that omg thats horrible, and i dont think the kindergarden kid asked for an all white party so what the f
@@jorgyt754 and they couldn't even get a picture together. This was a bit before everybody had cameras on their phones.
@@Kathi2006 it was so weird to be there, too.
That kid deserves better parents
I was actually wondering "would I be judging them this harshly if it was goths who had a goth house?" And then it turns out that apparently the goths with a goth house thought ahead & gave their kid a bright colorful room, which reminded me why i trust goths way more than beige parents
Goths think. Silly beige girls don't.
Opposite for me. I saw a mom who literally black washed her child’s room.
It's a good thought process though!
There's a sexist undertone to that.... disgusting @Whimsy3692
@@edya.idiomas Listen to me. I was born a girl. Now let me say something. "Silly beige girls don't." Is that sexist to women? NO!
“It’s a toy, not a bomb threat.”
Had me laughing way harder than it probably should have
*THE CYLINDER*
I swear I love watching her videos because of this 🤣
Damn I missed that one 😂😂
Beige Mom: proceeds to turn the toy into an actual threat.
1:23 the way she was like: ‘ kids are just little goblins who like to play with trash’😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Funky uses they/them pronouns
This lack of color reminds me of the novel The Giver where color was blocked, and emotion was stifled.
the powerpuff girls episode where the clown stole all the colors of the world and it made everyone sad and lethargic
@@starflurries the Plague Inc. scenario where fun is banned
Yes. This beigeness reminds me of a robot hospital or dystopia society
The giver is such a good book
@@sloaney_baloneyagreed
Neutral moms and Sephora kids are the two plagues infecting your local mall
And they usually come in a pair 😬
They can have it. Malls are crap anyway.
The local mall opened back up?
Leave the 10 year olds out of this; their frontal cortexes are not fully developed and have not yet conceived of the cold, iron death grip of capitalism.
@@ThatOneChorusKidYeah, the beige moms birthed the Sephora tweens.
The saddest part was that the "beige toy" trend started with people trying to minimize the harmful chemicals their kids would be exposed to with wood blocks and natural cloth plushies and the influencers only saw the colors that resulted and went "🤤 aesthetic 🤤"
I'm going to try to do that version of it
Yeah, I nanny for a family that researches pretty much every single toy and item they get for their kids to make sure they aren't buying something with harmful chemicals. The result is a playroom that I would definitely call a bit more beige and "aesthetic" than the usual Fisher Price plastic wonderland. But guess what? THE KIDS STILL HAVE COLORFUL TOYS. They still have bright pink and purple and blue stuffed animals and wooden toys with non-toxic paint and organic cotton blankets with patterns of bumblebees and rainbows.
The first mom spray painting the Christmas tree sent me to the fucking moon. Like, you're exposing your kid to toxic chemicals AND giving them a lousy toy. Just infuriating.
@@samuelwoodouse4482 good! It's a good idea and it used to be pretty cheap too
@@samdaley8484 there is a way to make dyes with fruits and veggies! I’ve dyed some of my bunnies plain wooden toys this way
Kinda defeats the purpose if they are using spray paint on plastic.
8:04 T H E C Y L I N D E R
8:09 T H E P I T O F D E S P A I R
8:34 T H E A R C H E S O F S A D N E S S
@@who_is_rose11T H E A R C H E S O F S A D N E S S
@who_is_rose11, 8:34, T H E A R C H E S O F S A D N E S S
8:34 T H E A R C H E S O F S A D N E S S
There's a difference between making your home minimalistic and having the aesthetic of a dentist office
Exactly! Minimalism can be about being very mindful about what to buy and keep and to try to reduce clutter and overconsumption. It doesn’t inherently have to be colorless.
my local dentist's office has great decorations :)
I said the same thing my OBGYN office has more color and life to then some of these homes, to be fair my OBGYN office has a bunch of funny and lively people that work there.
The dentist I went to as a child was colorful as fuck. Maybe because that dentist usually worked on kids' teeth
colors are important not only to children but to us all. there's a psychological torture method called the white room torture where you're devoid of any color in the white room you've been confided in. being in an environment like that can lead to psychotic breakdowns. we NEED colorful stimuli around us.
I read that if we lived on the moon we'd all go crazy because of the grey everywhere.
What if you only see black and white? I watched a tattoo artist who can only see in black and white so this got me thinking… but I can still see why shades of grey would be important for the mind.
@@JulieCreatesArtwas he born this way, or did it develop? I feel color would be a hard one to give, but if I never knew of its existence, then it would be of course my normal. I know those born color blind, when given corrective glasses....its beautifully emotional.
White Room torture is A LOT more than just having beige and white decorations.
i wasn't having it when my stepdad made everything greige at the house. i'm an adult and that shit drives me sad
whats even worse about this, is childrens eyes are far more susceptible to colour than adults, our light receptors fade a bit as we get older, which means a toddlers eyes are seeing a mystical wonderland of colour compared to us, and these parents are depriving them of it, its more than deppressing, its cruel.
This must be why I'm always chasing colors!
Exactly. I'm envious of children being able to see colours in ways we can no longer see them. Why take away such a gift?
also, for babies and toddlers, high levels of contrast is genuinely important to their visual and mental development. Babies when they are born can't see much but contrast, that's why baby toys are so bright. Trying to focus on the cool bright things they see is what teaches them to focus their vision and it adds so much needed stimulus to their brain as they are learning to understand their world.
@@universal_stupidity You're absolutely correct - babies under a certain age can only see in black and white (or more like, shades of grey) as the colour receptors haven't yet developed. So yes, contrast is the BIGGEST thing that helps not just their brains development but also their eyes.
Ah. I’m going to be a kawaii aesthetic mom(yet a bit more minimalist than I’m going for now, since I’m a young teen) and I will leave my aesthetic out of my children’s things and not do the bad things that those sad beige moms do
I’d like a bit more color in my walls once I’m an adult
Like warm pale blue
I will say the Christmas tree painting mom has come back and she says she realizes how important it is for her kid to experience color and now the new one is pink
Okay this white b-day party could be fun if they give kids markers and let them draw over everything.
YES!!!
that's what I was *hoping* was going to happen!!
What LIKE gaint had paint paper activities
that is literally the only way i see that idea surviving in any kind of market
Paint fight!
THAT SOUNDS AMAZING
dude it's my birthday in a few months and I want that lmfaoo it sounds so fun
I honestly think that would save the whole idea
Edit: removed my age because I realized I shouldn't do that lol
She sprayed a plastic ball beige and called it organic.
Thanks for explaining what greenwash is in a few simple steps.
People often don't seem to know what words mean on social media. Apparently you can call anything everything as if meaning doesn't exist
Plastic toys on top!
@@nic969wtf? They suck for the environment AND they can be broken and made into something as sharp as glass shards.
@@Just.ButterImo, wood toys are probably better than plastic or metal.
brown
They don’t see the humanity in their own kids. The kids have their own interests and forcing your own aesthetic onto them is borderline objectifying
They see their kids as a way to further their aesthetic, not as individuals with personal styles
I fuckin love your profile dude 😭
Good point as well, idk what it is with people acting like they pretty much own their kids and can decide what they want.
@ville__you haven't even been alive for 10 years
@ville__my guy I have seen you say stuff like this everywhere, don’t you have anything better to do with your life? This comment isn’t even losely related to video
In general, society doesn't view kids as humans
7:15 Frog laughing at their own joke got me😭
I literally once heard a beige mom on TikTok say she didn’t allow her kids to have rainbow toys because it’ll turn them gay
Ha, as a queer mum, bring it on 😂 the stupidity astounds me
@@alyshakingas a queer kid I can safely say that playing with rainbow mlp and super bright toys did not turn me gay 😂
Oh ffs
ah, yes, i'm asexual because i played with my little pony toys years ago.
@@strawburri420 they gave you too much cake and garlic bread/j
The only way to stop the Sad Beige Moms is build an army of Happy Color Dads
YES
Joining
I would follow them
That raises a question though... Where are the dads? do they exist?
@@exomake_mehorololo they have been neutralized lol
placing your aesthetics over a child’s well-being to the point where you’re using toxic paint and stunting their development just to make your house ‘prettier’ (aka more boring) and even exploiting your kids for views is so selfish and cruel, they should be ashamed
Also a lot of the fumes can be toxic to inhale, let alone accidentally ingest! 🙃
7:44
victorian kid: that looks depressing, i don't want to play with it **go's back licking the lead paint off their toys**
An army of mothers sharing their unhealthy obsession with neutral, non-stimulating colors through a glowing nightmare box sounds so Orwellian
Srsly, it sounds like an early 20th century dystopian short story. Something from the Twilight Zone or an even a subject of ML James. Gives me shivers tbh
Its like they saw the Simpsons Ayn Rand daycare and decided it needed more uniform color coordination and less overt individualism aimed at toddlers.
You can just take the kid outside and let them develop with colors outside
@niamhturner1451 keep the kid outside for 24/7? Do you even know how important colors are for a child's development?
glowing nightmare box is very funny in a slightly sad way
There's a particular reason why kids toys are this colorful - THEY DEVELOP EYESIGHT. They literally can harm the kid because of✨AESTHETICS✨
As someone who's studying Early Childhood in college, rooms should have a variety of color to help a child develop healthy, both mentally and emotionally. Chidren can be bored in a room with only beige, white, grey, or black. They need to have sensory.
Omfg maybe that's why i was the only person in the family that needed glasses (mine was a sad white mom)
@@cryswei8915Oh my gawd same!
(I swear my eyes always hurt when I open the curtains…)
Yeah and beige is too boring in general
This is true AND I love ur pfp
Children aren’t for your ‘ aesthetic ‘ . If you want your house to have an aesthetic, don’t have children.
my aesthetic is laughing kids in a slightly messy but still cozy living room
If ADHD rainbow doom basket chaos is an aesthetic, I’ve nailed it.
Or let them decorate their room
My “aesthetic” is definitely random clutter, and colors everywhere. It just feels cozy
You can stilk have an aesthetic house and colourful children's toys.. because the toys are temporary and they make your kid happy. A happy child doesn't ruin the aesthetic of a home. My aesthetic is brown and green vintage style home but I would never deprive my kids of colourful toys. Cause my aesthetic is also vibrant rainbows and cute pastels and happy colours.
As soon as I watched this I immediately looked up the website of those bleak pieces of toddler/baby furniture and you’re right, not only was it the saddest most pathetic beige wasteland, but it was also horribly overpriced. It was selling a set of small alphabet letters made out of wood… for 105 DOLLARS.
The kids when they grow up:
SHAPES AND COLORS THE LIKES OF WHICH IVE NEVER SEEN
😅 like a regular person on LSD
They’ll all have maximalist homes lol
Or like “the kids when they visit their friends house for the first time” lol 🤣🤣
These kids are going to grow up desiring the ability to see shrimp colors.
"Colors unlike any seen on Earth"
As someone who gets overwhelmed by color I’ve decided that I just shouldn’t have kids because I know kids should be around color. I’m easily overwhelmed, not stupid.
Edit- I’ve clearly started a war so explanation time! (Yay) There are a lot of reasons that I don’t want/shouldn’t,t have children and I have a condition that makes me easily overwhelmed :)
preach!!
As someone who loves color but can’t stand to much of it at a time, same
I don’t think anyone paints their house based on kids liking color 🤣 maybe their bedrooms.. but that’s it.
5:54 I THOUGHT IT WAS SNOW
me too!!
Imagine living in a bland white and beige house and suddenly your whisked to preschool where’re there are literally every colour imaginable, of course the kid is overwhelmed, they aren’t used to bright fun colours and seeing bright fun toys
The issue isn’t the “overstimulating colours” it’s the lack of colour
Late 2024 update on the first lady, she has posted a redemption video where she paints the tree very bright colors for Christmas
heard that story of a mom who stopped the beige asthetic because her child started to draw exclusively in brown colours at daycare and I hope all these parents have a moment like this to realize how they are harming the development of their child
OH MY GOD! that’s terrifying :((((
This is so sad. Any obsession of mom turns into kid’s trauma real fast
Yeah this is the thing that worries me- for very young children their toys are colorful in part to actually teach children what different colors are! Like it’s also why they have shapes and textures, so that kids can stimulate their senses and learn about the world. Their brains are still developing and I really wonder if kids who are only exposed to beige stuff will actually have worse color vision and diminished ability to distinguish colors. Like if they’re under pre-school age then unless they’re going outside a lot they just… won’t see colorful things at all during crucial years of brain development. It’ll be fascinating to see in the future if these kids’ brains end up different due to this. I just feel bad for the kids :(
@ville__ shut the fxck up you fxcking idiot. also their pronouns are they/them. also you dont have any videos lmao get off the internet
That’s so sad honestly. My mom (the one who does most of the decorating in our house) and I have VERY different aesthetics. She likes gold shelves and vintage kinda stuff. I like really colorful, bright, neon, and a whole buncha different patterns. My mom still decorated my room and stuff how I like it and I really appreciate that. I’m so glad I don’t have a beige mom.
The sad part is that the moms are doing this for THEMSELVES. There are children with sensory issues who DO get overwhelmed by colors and do need these neutral colors. As an educator who worked as a building manager, I was in charge of ordering toys, furniture and decor for the classrooms. These neutral toys have existed for a long time for kids who do better in a classroom without a lot of stimulation, not to fit your ~~~~aesthetic~~~~
personally, I would have loved a beige and boring house as a small kid. I've hated bright colours since I was like 2
I agree the moms in the clips are being rather selfish and in some cases reckless.
That said I do feel the need to point out that adults can have sensory issues too. I’m not trying to say that it justifies anything done, there has to be a balance between giving your kids proper toys for development and keeping your own sanity intact after all. I’m just pointing it out because I feel like adults are often forgotten about with discussions of neurodiversity and I honestly don’t like the idea of someone with sensory issues being lumped in with people who obsess over aesthetic.
@@HaruDoneYet agreed! I’m one of those adults with sensory issues! But I have made the choice to not have kids because that would be unfair to their development. Color is key to development for infants, so it’s important that adults with sensory issues that do have children find a balance of regulating themselves and providing a nurturing environment where a baby can properly develop! It didn’t seem like any on the sad beige moms here in these clips had sensory issues, more that they disliked the aesthetic. And it was pointed out that other families with very specific aesthetics still provide a room with all the regular colorful kids toys for the child.
I came to say the same thing, as someone with asd, when I was younger I was heavily overwhelmed by having extremely bright colours especially a lot of them in the same room so I mostly had wooden toys since their colours are much more muted. I don’t know why you would choose to do this to your kids if they don’t need a muted palette, it’s really just sad for those kids and will probably effect them later on since they don’t have the colour stimuli needed
do you think has the price for neutral coloured objects because of this trend or were they always expensive?
I work in a toy store and I am STARTLED at the moms who are so entitled when it comes to beige toys. I once had a man return over $100 WORTH of toys because his daughter refused to take them because they we're rainbow and "didn't fit what she was going for". Mind you this was a gift from him.
thats awful and everything but the phrasing made me think this was a dad returning gifts because his toddler daughter was beigemaxing or something 😭
@@comicallylargespoon9426 yo same 💀 I had to read it like 5 times to come to the conclusion that the daughter is an adult with her own child for whom her dad bought the toys
Am I the only one who both noticed and for some reason got irrationally angry about the ONE CORNER THAT DIDN'T GET SPRAY PAINTED (0:20)
oh my gosh now I noticed.
HOW DARE YOU! 😢😢😢😢😮😮😮😮
I also got that irrational rage from that
AAAAAAAAAA WHYYYY
Not me just grabbing a marker and coloring that one corner bc I hate that that’s not colored😭😭😭😭
ME 😨😨😭😭😨😭😨😭😭😨😭😭😨
"These bold colors are a bit of an eyesore." Yes and so is childhood depression from being kept in a room with few toys to stimulate your brain and everything looks the same.
“Bold colors” she will be so scared when she finds out how popular Nike is with young boys.
I did a paper for this in school, the amount of professional doctors, physiatrist, and neuroscientist that have advised against completely saturated home design was shocking. What’s good is I’ve seen instances where parents do design their home in beige but let their children have all the colors they want. It’s not just an aesthetic choice, it’s a sign that you respect your child enough to let them express themselves without judgement.
The issue is that most people, including the government, don't respect children. Children are considered property by both the parents and the law.
My daughter is like that. The home in general is very muted & neutral (which I find a little meh, but it's not my place) but when you go into the girl's rooms or back yard, it looks like a thousand unicorns had an orgy! 😆
I think goth baby is a perfect example of this (how to properly do it). The parents have a very goth home, dark and black and all that. But they gave a room fully dedicated to colour and toys and fun. The playroom looks like a unicorn exploded, and it's a good thing. The parents have their aesthetic, but they still let their kid be a kid. And if the kid didn't want to dress in all black when she's older, they'd let her
I like to think that when the kids go through the “rebellious teenager” phase, they will start decorating their room with bright colours
As someone that had a similar experience (I was not allowed to buy anything that wasn't approved) let me tell you those children will run for the hills when they realize what their life could be
haha, as opposed to kids replacing the pink and blue in their rooms with black in a normal rebellious phase?
@@reign_issue hahahah my room was pink as a child, painted it gray later
Sounds like the 2000's scene aesthetic 2.0
YEAH FRRR
My niece is a sad beige mom. She named her first child Ozwalt. She named her daughter Marley (like the dog). She named her dog Velma like the cartoon character. I told her I was crocheting her a bla ket for her new baby. She worried the color wouldn't match the decor theme of vegetable garden (for a baby's room?) I told her it would be soil colors. She loved it. I was kidding. So I had to crochet a gray and tan baby blanket. Now, her best friend wants one.
Their kids are additional decorations to them. They care about always being able to film or photograph. They don't care about their kids development or opinions. Some people only become parents because they like the idea of babies and toddlers they can carry around like accessories, not the idea of raising someone to adulthood with a strong sense of self.
I see this so fucking much dude. I work in pediatrics and man… the best I can do is give as many licensed character stickers I can to these kids. Like, quick, take these! Experience overstimulation while you still can!
@@YourDadsWaifu you my freind are a hero
My mom also wanted us to perform a perfect family for the outside world, and even at home, she wanted us to perform as perfect kids. It makes me so mad and sad to see parents use their children as possessions
@@YourDadsWaifuI would like to thank you for your services
it ain’t much but it’s honest work. For real tho, thanks for the validation in my mission to get Bluey stickers on the inside back windows of every Range Rover in the northeast US.
my high school boyfriend's mom was like this. only instead she converted the home office to a playroom. instead, she made an office nook for herself in the living room and turned that room into a play room for the kids. all the crazy, colorful toys could be in that room. and boy was there a ton of them! she had like five little ones and they could absolutely go wild in that one room. it was an absolute mess. the kids loved it. and the rest of the house? completely clean! instead of depriving her kids or making them fit into her mold, she adjusted for them and found something that worked for all of them. i loved that!
My brother and I had a playroom too growing up my mom kept the house decor simple (not necessarily beige but still) she didn’t even care that the playroom didn’t match the rest of the house even my GRANDMA was the same way
THIS!
THIS IS WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT!
Fun fact: The reason children’s toys are colorful is because, below a certain age, children have a harder time seeing color, so making toys primary colors help children see them much better.
Really? I thought they only made it colorful because children love colors. That’s pretty cool
Also these are stunting their children’s growth
What's your source?
@@liadeindadani6913 “If you want to make sure your infant enjoys their room as much as you do, it is important to understand how they perceive color. According to the American Optometric Association, babies don’t fully recognize color until they are five months old. In fact, during those first few months, a newborn mainly sees in shades of black, grey and white.
Contrasting colors send the strongest signals to a baby’s brain to help stimulate brain growth and aid in visual development, explains Dr. Sears Wellness Institute. By three months, a baby starts to see color and the addition of brighter, primary colors become important for their development. Between five and eight months, a baby’s color vision is fully developed, making it the perfect time to paint the nursery.”
@@mybaguettes5937 they do love colours. cos they have a hard time picking up on dusty pastels
UPDATE ON THIS!!!
Sad beige Christmas mom has since corrected the tree, giving it a winter candy land theme, even started working on doing the same with a playground house. It's pink and purple and white and it's SO MUCH CUTER!!
She learned and she grew.
What gets me is how self aware these moms are. They know they’re doing a disservice to their children and yet they keep doing it.
I work with a lot of mid to late 30's parents and they always talk about how much they hate their kids. It makes me sad :(
@@moykoy5609 Why even have kids if you don’t want them? It doesn’t make sense to me. Those kids don’t deserve to be hated.
@@moykoy5609gosh, that’s just miserable. 😩
The ragebait generates more views and more money. These moms are more focused on being influencers than parents
Societal pressure from everyone around you to start popping out kids bc that's what's expected of you if you want a Proper Family (tm) is a bitch, unfortunately :S @@soupy_soup2
"The kids don't care" Lady, one of the few actual tantrums I threw as a child was when my father wanted to paint my room's walls white instead of purple, and everything in that room was neon colours already, so don't tell me kids don't care for colours
Mood
A good influencer who knows the balence is makeitwithmicha sorry if i spelt that wrong but she handles it well and is a good example of what to do
Same i cried in my teens when my mom wanted to paint my room beige
@@flufy15341 :(
I’m sorry but “colours” made me laugh out so hard
this is why i like goth baby - the mom has fully incorporated her aesthetic into her babys life while still treating her kid like a child and having a colourful play room
She also takes her out frequently to colourful places like parades, Disneyland, etc
"I see a red door
And I want it painted beige
No colors anymore
I want them to turn beige"🎶🎶🎶
😂😂
Rich people have hollow, empty, modern homes because it’s a MANSION and a couple of people don’t LIVE in that whole space. The “lived-in” marks, such as keys in the bowl, or magazines on the table, are so spread out because there is just so much HOUSE for them to go in. These rich people own WAYYYY more stuff than even a middle class maximalist. They just have a larger space to store it in.
They also have people who can clean, move things to and from storage for them.
I just wanna kniw where in the world are they getting their money from to afford such things?!
@@DrinkYourNailPolishBy nepotism and leeching off the labor of the working class and just filling out a few word documents a day.
Indeed. It's to match their hollow, empty souls.
Over ten years of experience working in yarn stores has taught me that babies LOVE bright red stuff. Knit a red baby blanket and it will become THE blankie.
Why red specifically?
@@venomousbunny9875I believe I read somewhere that red is the first color babies can see!
@@TheVanillaCows
This may be a stupid question and you may not know the answer either but maybe that ties into the fact that when babies are in the womb, all they can see is red? People think they can't see, and if they can they only see darkness, but its more like when you hold a torch to your hand and muffle the light, and it goes red. Hank Green has a nice video explaining it far better than I can :))
@@AJst6tz ooh interesting! I’ll have to check that video out! I just looked it up, and it said that babies are born only being able to see black and white and then eventually develop the ability to see red, but maybe the exposure to the red in the womb influences the eyes to perceive it first once they develop? 🤔 it’s cool to think about
@@TheVanillaCows
Glad I could stimulate your brain! 💚
5:55 the white birthday party is literally dystopian like imagine seeing your party as a kid and it genuinely looks like all the colors were sucked out of it
my birthday parties as a kid were shit, and yet i still at least was allowed to have colors. had my parents presented me with this as a kid id probably would just have started crying
Ikr it’s not even, like, an intentional-looking shade of white. It just looks like someone forgot to paint it
Ikr it’s not even, like, an intentional-looking shade of white. It just looks like someone forgot to paint it
God, it's unironically giving The Giver by Lois Lowry.
My jaw dropped whenever I first saw it
I’m an artist and I know that every colour has a psychological effect. For example, a dull yellow is off putting to some people ( hey wow, similar to beige). If you want to ward off houseguests, paint your guest room and any attached bathrooms and closet yellow, because it reminds people of pee and unhealthy poop!
There was a guy on Reddit that documented his divorce from a baige mom because he wanted his daughter to enjoy her childhood. Its one of my favorite reddit threads.
Lol please link
@@themusicofLK I'll see if I can find it
@@lordvoldemort5586did ya find it?
Lol I saw that 😭🔥
sure it's not an invented story to karma farm from this hating craze towards this alleged epidemic of "beige moms"?
Like- did they ever stop to think that MAYBE there’s a reason those toys were so colorful to begin with?!?!
@ville__I love all the variety of no videos you have on your channel 😂
This is what I was thinking too. I thought most children's toys were colorful, full of shapes and different textures to help young children develop their sensory skills.
They're too busy being boring.
This is so beautifully and succinctly said! Parents will go down the strangest rabbit holes of research to “protect their kids” and somehow kiss crucial research that COLOR IS CRUCIAL TO HEALTHY, AGE-APPROPRIATE CHILDHOOD DEVELOPMENT 😭😭
Babies eyes are literally still developing, so they can see high contrasts and bright vibrant colors better than varying shades of beige. Children in general also just seem to enjoy the more stimulation from lots of colors. Like there’s a reason why colorful toys are the go to, generally it’s what kids tend to pick for themselves
Sad beige hell
I don't think it's true only for babies, I'm an artist and I sometimes have a hard time between what some of these people think are different colors, we all experience vision differently.
@@bluester7177 That's actually true. For instance, communities that live isolated in snowy places, such as Eskimos, can differentiate shades of white with slight variances. Also, there's a linguistic peculiarity about colors in japonese. If I remember correctly, the same term can be used to refer to either blue or green colors, which implies that people may have different ideas about colors. I heard about that in my linguistics class :)
@@blazer4729 Yeah, colour terms in different languages are so interesting. Some languages only distinguish between light/warm and dark/cool colours, so basically everything that's closer to black than white is called black and everything else white. There's also a hierarchy of colour terms that languages tend to follow, first you have black/white, then red (which also includes other warm colours like orange or yellow), then there's some distinctions happening with blue/green/yellow and basically it gets more and more detailed. So, if a language has a seperate term for blue, it probably has seperate terms for everything before it in the hierarchy, too. Of course, there's variations, and not all languages develop all of those terms. And even within one language there's always disagreement. Like, when is a purple so blue-ish that it stops being purple? Or conversely, when is it so red-ish that it becomes red? When is an orange dark enough that it's no longer orange, but brown? As someone who is both into linguistics and colour theory, I find that fascinating.
you litteraly see more colors when your younger, and these dumbos want to make sure you never see color
5:28 "I need to admit my bias -- not the kpop kind" My Korean ass thought that was pretty funny