I’ve given up on dating. I’m a 32 year old lesbian. I got banned from a dating site for saying in my bio that I’m not interested in gender ideology or identity politics, I’m just living my life like anyone else and looking for another normal lesbian to date. The amount of hate messages I got was extreme. It’s very difficult to find a normal everyday person who doesn’t make being gay their entire life. It was my stated that being attracted to the same sex isn’t a personality trait and you aren’t special 😂 that was the ban.
“How dare you be reasonable! That’s not allowed here! Rule breaker! RULE BREAKER! You are BANNED from the dating site! Security alert! Security alert! Woo-Woo-Woo-Woo-WOOOOO!”
This is why they have such a huge echo chamber and believe everyone thinks like they do. It’s just like doctors, being auto banned, for not going along with the entire C19 narrative. Then some of us follow those doctors to other sites, and others think all doctors are in agreement and we’re nutty conspiracy theorists. It goes with all current narratives. Watch the move 1984. We’re there hun.
Sad how it seems for us in or 30's to just date 8 to 10+ years older. There seems to be none of this or a very low amount of insanity amoung he gen x'ers
I thought the left were the biggest champions of lesbians after all these years. Turns out I was wrong. I can't believe how often they actually end up throwing you guys under the bus when you don't talk in buzzwords or if you're simply not interested in being a mouthpiece for their activist groups.
WOW, that is maybe worse than me getting banned from Twitter for telling a Antifa account that threatened to "track me down" when I was critical of their violence I just said "you may regret that if you do find me" and they would have because I was a cop at the time,lol, Twitter banned me for "threatening people" yet the Antifa account that threatened to "track me down" had nothing done to them. The level of intolerance from the far left is unreal.
12:21 So true! As a lesbian myself, I’m expected to be attracted to non-binary people, demi girls, etc, and even LITERAL MEN. If I don’t, that makes me transphobic. Nowadays, lesbian doesn’t mean girl liking girl, it means non-man liking non-man. This needs to stop.
How can it even continue if they don't even know wat is a woman and man?? You just supposed to ask some1 their life story before addressing them or wat lol? Glad I'm a straight WHT guy tbh
Lesbian here and I've had hate for not been attracted to transwomen. It's like the word lesbian has a different meaning for me than it does for the rest of the world.
@@Ruth25853 if that... a lot of people just talk and say sht to be edgy and progressive. A lot of them are just saying they're bi and all this shit. Also a lot of trans aren't even bi they just do it cuz it's fun and cool.
I’ve battled mental illness my whole life (I have bipolar/OCD/anxiety), it really pisses me off to see so many people these days adopting a mental illness (usually through nonsense self-diagnosis) as if it’s some trendy/quirky/interesting personality trait, which they then proceed to pick up and put down whenever it suits them. I cannot believe he wrote ‘Mentally ill, but in a hot way.’ in his dating profile. My mind boggles at the world sometimes.
Yes! Being diagnosed with depression and been on medication for it for almost a decade it infuriates me when people use the term depression so loosely. It’s a genuine ilness, not something cool.
I've been diagnosed with bipolar 2 from about two years now and from talking to people online I've met multiple people who as soon as they learn I have it, they go "oh me too!!" and in actuality they think just because they're happy and sad sometimes that they are the same. they are not the same.
Like there's nothing hot bout my OCD, my hands are cracked and bleeding bc I'm washing my hands 24/7 and can't even handle hugging my friends for more than 2 secs. Tell me how any of that is hot
@@pepeeldelaspipas124 there's nothing hot about having week long manic episodes where I come to realizing a spent hundreds of my worked for money on things I didn't need, then having nearly month long depressive episodes whist feeling unsafe in my home yet for some reason my serious illness is a heavily self diagnosised "TikTok aesthetic", I totally understand dude, it's so fucking annoying
I've also found out recently that I'm a lot less liberal than I thought I was.. aka, Moderate liberal. I agree with.. 98% of the things I have heard from Moderate liberals, 80% of things from moderate conservatives and literally just found out about Detransitioners who have completely changed my mind about the current LGBTQ community. It's nice to see another mod liberal around.
@@maximusd26 I honestly didn't even know how bad it was though. Like, I basically stopped watching the news during lockdown because it was all depressing. I haven't lived in the US since early 2021. Aaand I basically had no friends before that. So I wasn't hearing much about how bad the dumbass libs had gotten. I was still in my, 2014 liberal bubble.
I used to consider myself far left but lately Ive realized I am just supportive of common sense economical policies that mirror the success of some European models. The mentally ill bit got me too!
One thing that REALLY bugs me about these people is that they glamorize mental illnesses… As someone who deals with anxiety & depression, I am not “proud” of my mental illnesses. I’ve accepted them, but I’m not putting them in my dating profile description 😂 It makes me think that they self-diagnose themselves & then brag about their “mental illnesses” because it’s qUiRkY 🙄 Really offensive honestly.
Very true. It is sad because I think a lot of them are genuinely mentally ill, but they've made it such a fundamental part of their identity they don't know how to live without it. They think they have no control, and are at the whims of their illness and use that as justification for every bad decision they make.
Facts though, my cousin recently decided she is autistic without any diagnosis or therapy and posts about being autistic constantly on snapchat stories & "relatable tiktok videos" of the most mundane stuff that MOST people can relate to like GIRL it is not your personality and tiktok videos are not a diagnosis
The problem is when we identify with mental struggle, we don't realise we put ourselves in a tight box, expecting to be or stay that way. This idea that you can stay perfectly sane in a crazy world is ludicrous, but its recognising and what you do with it. Peace comes from escaping the box, yet for the sake of having an identity, these people perpetuate the idea they're mentally ill when they could actually do something about it that isn't chomp down their big pharma marketing scheme that barely beats placebo in drug trials.
Absolutely hate people doing this!! I’m the same, I would be open if someone asked me but I don’t tell people my mental health issues because that’s my business not something to ‘brag’
Times have changed so much as soon as I "baby queer" I can't explain the cringe 🤣😂 I don't even scroll down to read more it's straight left omg.."baby queer"🤢🤢🤢😂😂 it sounds so cringe
I’m in my 40’s and a recent widow and I don’t think I’m going to bother dating ever again if this is what the dating world has become. I’ll just get cats and embrace that trope.
Don't give up entirely, I'm a 29 yr old man and I admit I am attracted to some 40+ yr old women. I also have seen in stores and bars in my area single men & women who don't seem super woke/crazy.
the dating world was always garbo, it's those people who meet through activities or hobbies that seem to form a connection that apps can't manage to recreate. Those apps are just 🍆🌮 Google. that's fine, but it's going to be much tougher to find genuine connections.
I just turned 40 and I married my wife who was my high school sweetheart. All the other women I dated between 18-38 just gradually got more mentally ill. I don't know if it's all the chemicals or just brainwashing but I would hate being a young heterosexual man these days. It really feels like we are watching the fall of Rome 2.0
As a 57 year old lesbian, I think that if I went back in time & was in my twenties I would stay in the closet rather than deal with all of this pro-noun nonsense.
@@rebeccao8895 yes, especially in woke cities. I was in Seattle for 2 years and legit 50% was either men claiming to be trans women, or couples on the apps looking for a 3rd. More "trans women" than the couple tho this was on a lesbian dating app too 😬
As a normal, non woke gay woman I struggle so much on dating sites - everyone is insane. Modern LGBT is literally a cult. I’ve matched with some weirdos, but the absolute craziest one was a woman I matched with a couple years ago. She was cool and we had a laugh about pretty much everything, it was all going so well until a couple months in… I told her that I was losing weight. She asked me why in such a degrading, dehumanising way and I said “because it’s unhealthy to be overweight/obese so I’m changing my life while I’m still young and able to do so”. She literally told me that I was fatphobic, a red flag to the body positive queer movement and that I need to see a therapist as the opinions and beliefs I have about being overweight is nothing short of sociopathic and that she has ‘told all her friends about how insane I am’. For context I was obese at the time so me wanting to lose weight was a good thing, if I was anorexic and stick thin I could probably understand her saying I need to see a therapist, but fact is I wasn’t skinny, I was severely overweight and NEEDED to lose weight for my health. But yeah I blocked her soon after - especially after she told me that she had basically doxxed me to her friends. She let it rip with me and all because I said I was on a weight loss journey. Looking back I’m glad she kicked off so early into it, could you imagine starting a proper relationship and moving in with something like that? Naaaaah. Best of luck to her next victims 😂
So if you are anorexic you should have been told to get therapy but since you were morbidly obese you didn't need therapy? You do get that morbid obesity is the opposite of anorexia right? You need the help just as much as an anorexic person would. Looks like you got it which is great! But maybe next time don't throw thin people under the bus just to protect your fat ass!
Good for her, no human being should be using dating apps. Tell her to go out and join club activities and shit in stead, meet and be with people in real life.
@@ryanwitwickifaddegon4291 I can see how it would be particularly difficult for gays, since gay bars aren't exactly a place to go to look for a healthy long term relationship and outside them you have to sus out the available minority of possible same sex partners without necessarily having obvious markers to go by.
i get hit on by guys alot, but im straight, i take it as flattery (since i dont get girl signals, never get hit on by them). I also have really rad pink shoes, but i dont know if thats giving off missed signals to guys sometimes XD
"What objectivity . . . require[s] is not an 'open mind,' but an active mind-a mind able and eagerly willing to examine ideas, but to examine them critically." Rand
Why do people feel the need to invade on others spaces, if your not a women don’t expect lesbians to date your not a man don’t expect gay men to date you 🤷♂️
And the whole expecting straight people to date them when they are trans... I'm a woman who is into men, I am not attracted to feminine features or bits no matter what you call yourself.
My best friend is a gay man. There was this one person* who claimed that they're male but didn't transition at all and also adressed that they don't want to (bcs now u can just be anything ig) and we had a huge drama bcs they kept attacking my friend for not wanting to date them or do anything with them.. I'm the supporter and LGBT myself my whole life, and I got called all types of phobic in just one week :)
apparently having any attraction to any kind of physical feature is evil nowadays. how dare lesbians like boobies and 'barbie pockets', how dare gay guys like big, throbbing...pecs.
I remember going through tinder seeing a couple of trans people feed through, most of them mention in their bio or tell you pretty early in convos, in my experience it doesn’t really feel like they’re invading if they’re honest and upfront. However I don’t imagine they’d have much luck in the dating scene
dude yes! i had this conversation with a few other girls recently. i actually took out my septum piercing because i was tired of people assuming i was nuts lmao. they always have blue or green hair, multiple face piercings, and a bunch of bad tattoos. whatever happened to alt people being the cool ones? everything is so backwards. now if i see you looking especially alt (and young) i'll probably assume you're an asshole and that's so sad.
Lol yeah, I automatically avoid the crazy hair color/pierced/tatted people. Sadly I’m judging them as annoying and ‘basic’ until proven otherwise. I remember the good old days when all those things indicated that you were cool with good taste in music. Now, all the people I meet that look like that-I can guess your political beliefs and music taste (which will both inevitably suck).
I’m bi and from what I’ve gathered, “pansexual” means “bisexual but with the reason that I don’t care what gender the person is”…….soooooooo literally bisexual with extra steps because they want to be special and unique, presumably because being bisexual isn’t good enough for some reason…
And I would revise the original comment as there is gay, straight, asexual, bisexual, and then 200 different words for mentally ill leftist that wants to be special.
@@apond04 I’m old too. Back in my day, identify as queer, just meant you were gay. Maybe a gay man, with a little extra flame to them, but they were still gay.
They all put “mentally ill” because we have glamorized it and it’s “cool”. One perk to their dating profile descriptions are that it makes it easy to avoid them! 😂
@Don K it makes people with actual anxiety feel like they can’t speak out. I’ve had severe social anxiety since i was a child. I puked for 2 years straight before school everyday because i was so anxious along with my face/hands going numb. Luckily i see a therapist and got that under control but i still get anxiety hives almost every time i’m anxious and i’ve been laughed at and people in highschool made up a rumor that i do coke because i “itch” but i was having anxiety hives. I have wished many times to just be normal. Be able to make friends. Be able to talk to someone without shaking. Be able to walk down a hallway without my heart rate hitting 122. If they wanna standout so bad, they can gladly take my anxiety from me😂😂
honest to God tho. i was diagnosed with ocd when i was 9 years old and a lot of the kids i went to school made fun of me for it and it fucking hurt! and now it’s in to be mental?? like in that case i was mentally ill before it was cool 😂😂 like they can have my ocd if they want it good effin riddance. ppl are fuckin wild honestly!!
I was banned from Tinder because I specified that I was only interested in dating straight genetic males. Not even joking. I only specified it because I kept getting swiped on by girls identifying as guys and I felt kind of belittled and bullied.
What's really sad is that these psychos who put their *a-hem* "personalities" on display don't seem to understand that bullying goes BOTH ways. Putting someone down, calling them hurtful names for merely disagreeing/having personal preferences IS bullying. The hypocrisy is strong with these...people.
As a lesbian, thanks for the support. It is fucking tough out here. Literally harassed at work by a guy who has a thing for me and stated "If you ever want to experiment with a guy let me know" I'm 30 and knew I was gay since I was like 5 years old. Lot of men don't take lesbian relationships seriously.
As a lesbian, we really do get the short end of the stick. We went from the original definition (woman loving woman) to non man loving non man, and then we end up with men who claim to be trans women or non binary trying to date us, and we're told we just have to accept it because that's how they identify. I've only ever seen this in lesbian spaces as well. Gay men don't have the issue of people changing terminology and trying to be included in their definitions. It's annoying, really. EDIT: When I mentioned trans women, I do not mean trans women who have transitioned and are legitimate trans women. I mean men so say they're trans women but don't do anything besides that to present or pass. Same with nonbinary. If you were born female then I suppose you can be a nb lesbian, even though I don't fully understand that. I'm talking about those who were born male, claim to be nb, and then claim to be an nb lesbian.
I have to agree, sometimes I lurk into r/gaybros and r/actuallesbians out of curiosity and the difference is so big. I came across a lot of posts in lesbian sub from trans woman asking if they pass and if they look cute, or whining because some woman didn't want to date them and getting rewards and upvotes for it. I've never seen anything like that in gay guys sub, they just share their intrests, give dating advice and talk about homophobia issues
My best friend is a single lesbian and it's become a running joke between us that she'll send me almost daily screenshots of scary Tinder "transbians" because there are just so many of them. How we laugh because if you didn't laugh you would cry.
They are all straight men with autogynephilia who have been influenced by feminisms demonization of men and also woke gender ideology. On behalf of all male attracted trans girls I apologize lol 😂
12:21 I appreciate your concern, I tried a lesbian dating app (HER) for some time and there's been a few confused men but I just ignored them, I thought maybe they'll get lucky with some bisexual girl. My real problem is how many "woke", far-left SJW they/thems there are. As if the lesbian dating scene wasn't small enough, I'm now yet to meet a rational lesbian who's not deep into that mindset.
A safe bet is probably if they are too wrapped in the ideology they aren't actually x y or z, they are only doing it for the attention.. just my opinion tho
Yep, I too as a lesbian only a few years ago started seeing there were other likeminded, rational, lesbians who weren't consumed by their #1 sexually, #2 gender, or #3 political standing, and or all three... I used to call myself a unicorn, (cheesy, i know. lol) because I honestly thought I'd never meet anyone else like me, so finding people who share my thoughts and knowing I watch videos with so many cool woman, makes me smile. 😊 P.S. I also never used a dating site because of this. Lol
As a straight woman we say the typical I might become a lesbian. U know men issues. U don't even dig them. U get me. Well can't even say that anymore because they're EVERYWHERE. Even in the lesbian sections 😢 wtf
I'm a middle-aged lesbian, I'm so glad I got to marry my school sweetheart ❤. I'm having a sudden realisation I'm pretty f-ing conservative, dating today would be a nightmare.
Honestly, I feel bad for anyone having to navigate the dating scene these days. You can't even get to know anyone because they don't know themselves. They're just possessed by nonsensical ideology and identify as that.
My boyfriend died 6 months ago. I can’t do it. I think I have to be single because there’s no way I could do dating apps again. That’s if I ever even feel ready to try. I’m 30, jaded and too old for that shit 😅
as a single woman, dating has been hard. One guy, took me out to dinner, paid and then expected a hookup. I hugged him, he said "oh wanna come to my car?" I said "I am good" He also had the flu (like why go on the date if you are sick? you ain't getting anything lol) -another, he had 6 kids and wanted a hookup, because he is bored in married life. a lot of married men. Another criticized me for being a stay at home mom, who is also a published author, and said I won't find anyone because again I won't hookup. Another said there is something wrong with me because I Don't do hookups. That is why I write what I write - when they want a hookup, I tell them to read my stuff and leave me alone lol.
Yeah like they're also always saying, "Mercury is in retrograde! Bad things are coming! Especially if your such and thus sign in sun and such and thus in high moon" or whatever the heck nonsense. I gave up on retrograde Mercury when I realized I was more powerful than planets going backwards, not subject to them. Bleh.
This shit makes me happy that I’m single and have no interest in dating. 😂 Also about lesbians getting the short end of the stick, it’s gotten so bad that wokes are trying to redefine “lesbian” as “non-men loving non-men”. 🙄
Is there anyone out there looking at these profiles thinking, 'Wow, what a catch! I want nothing more than to be with this person!'? Reading their profiles feels like someone trying to lecture me, so I can only imagine how much "fun" they'd be to hang out with where accidentally saying one wrong thing would cause them to explode in a fit of anger.
These people make me more ashamed about suffering from mental health issues than any high school bullying ever did. I genuinely feel scared to tell people about my struggles because I don't want them to see me like one of these people.
Don't worry hun, I think most ppl. Can tell the difference between someone genuinely struggling and trying to figure out how to heal. And all these Emos who whack on a label for attention and sympathy and to gain "victim privleages" for the rest of their lives...
It’s smart to keep that stuff hidden…at first. There’s many abusive sickos that SPECIFICALLY look for women (and men) with mental illness to abuse, use, and exploit. These people are vulnerable…many of them confused and perhaps insecure. Potentially, easy to manipulate and abuse. These young people don’t know the monsters that are out there. Don’t advertise that sort of stuff.
Maybe that has happened! Blaire’s been doing videos for nearly a decade, so maybe some fans have met in the comments section and gotten married or started dating!
@Alita See I tried meeting men in video games but they always ended up being very strange. Ended up finding my husband on Tinder and now we just play games together lol
Clay: has "communist" as the first word in their bio Also Clay: wear an Apple watch in their Tinder profile picture Kawaii: currently in a throuple Also Kawaii: looking for a third partner
I don't think you understand. If you are in a throuple then you have two partners. If there are four people in a relationship with each other, then each of them has three partners.
@@goldenrosie Yes I'm not disagreeing with that. The OP was implying it made no sense what she said, when it makes perfect sense, even if it's, in my opinion, morally reprehensible.
As a lesbian who's on dating apps, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's seeing this and has an issue with it. I have so many screenshots of men claiming to be trans women and it's just sad and also agrivating because I feel at this point there's more men than women on LESBIAN DATING APPS. Not even specifically general dating apps, apps designed for lesbians are bring taken over and I've almost given up on dating because of this reason.
😂😂 Down bad Men fr it’s freaking insane how these guy keep making the same mistakes over and over again and never realize that And screw dating apps. I honestly prefer just having a conversation while playing games is my favorite thing
I'm 35 and I don't feel old until I see this kind of stuff...But I'm so grateful I got to live in a completely different world as a teenager or even in my 20s. People were less confused, happier and believe or not but MORE open-minded that those open-minded now. Thank you Blaire for this video, the world needs people like you who are not afraid to call thigs what they really are.
This is a VERY recent development but I am seeing more of these profiles lately, you’re the first to discuss them! I’m a gay man and I have seen profiles pop up on my Tinder now of full-on biological women, showing off their boobs in a small dress and with long hair, ie presenting as full-on female as possible, and then have a paragraph long explanation of their genderfluid he/she/they, gay male identity! These are women trying to date gay men through the convoluted use of language and identity games!!!! And yet if I, an actual gay man, criticize them, I’m somehow a bigot?! This is insanity!!!
It disgusts me that they do that to you gay men. I honestly believe it's because they turned gay men into a fetish via videogames/anime and now all these girls want in on it because they think it's cute. They become "nonbinary" or "trans" in some way and then just date bisexual men in order to be "uwu so gay". It's just straight with extra steps and it hurts actual gays. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
Whats crazy is that like 10ish years ago when I was on dating sites I had guys literally shame me off of them because of presenting as female, I just hadn't put together that I was trans yet so I thought I was just "extra gay" or something. Now there are literal people of the genders a stated group is NOT ATTRACTED TO jumping in their spaces because these sort of people have no concept of actual gender as the rest of us see it. I dunno, it's just weird to see it come full circle I guess. I'm glad I'm married and away from all that.
One might question why these women don't just find a straight guy and pretend he's gay for her male self-image. If she can make believe that she is a gay male, then surely she can make believe that he is one too, though he may be somewhat surprised and confused the first time she asks him to fuck her in her boypussy.
Not all people who practice astrology are like that, tho. I don't blame bad behavior on my sign, I take responsibility for what I've done. Hate that she thinks we're all like that.
i knew this one girl at a desk job who would always bring up astrological signs about things that would happen or about my relationship... its those ppl that need to calm down on the daily readings i feel
Lesbian here. Yeah, it's really aggravating seeing whole men thinking they can call themselves a woman to get into our spaces. I'm a pretty liberal person, but I can't stand the way terminally online gay and trans people act online, being supremely hypocritical and ridiculous. I have a feeling that if I were born sooner, some kids online would be telling me I'm a trans boy because I grew up liking conventionally boyish things (alongside typically girly stuff). Thank you for vids like this!
The fact that the first person is working with other mentally ill people, especially young people, is frightening. It’s becoming more common, and I hope it will get talked about more, because putting someone’s mental health in the hands of someone like that is beyond dangerous.
They aren't therapists, they are coaches to make them worse and dependent on meds forever. Its a plus on an application and interview to be creepy and deranged as you will recruit more as theyncome to you for help
you can find love online and thats how i accadentley stumbled on the best BF in the world. (if you say yours is better i will fight you) but just dont count on it cause us meeting was basically lightning striking the same spot twice
Before I started dating my gf, every time I saw a "she/they" swipe left, one time I saw someone's occupation listed as "trying to be a better white person".. I could go on but the video substantiates how tough it is as a right leaning centrist to date these days
I have been abused for the fact i am white for no other reason than my skin colour. Its ridiculous. I dont care what race or ethnicity people are. If they are nice to me ill be nice back we are all humans dammit. Just because i was BORN white (cant change it) doesnt mean its a free pass to be horrible to me. I didnt do any of the horrible things that they mentioned. Im just an average person. I will date any person i think interesting regardless of colour
I'm a left leaning centrist, and this video alone is enough to make me a right leaning centrist. And I took a break from online dating months ago and I've had a peaceful existence since. Lol. Too much work for very little benefit. 🤦🏼♀️ And this nonsense....
I'm straight and I gave up on online dating years ago, because of how frustrating it was BACK THEN... And now, seeing all of this and knowing how people are now... SHEESH. So glad that's a no- go from me, and back then I was mostly concerned about men wanting hook ups/and the hook up culture... Now I have to be worried if the men even identifty as men??? PLUS hook up culture and polyamory! *shudders* so gross!
for real, my sister has seen me go into anaphylaxis shock and she still tries to test my allergies. I'd still rather go through that again than deal with this bull tho lol
I'm so glad I am 72 years old and came out when I was 18. Back then we had more of a clue about who we were. We also had meeting places called bars and actually talked to each other, danced, partied, laughed, made friends. I would hate to be a young gay or lesbian kid now.
And you came out during a time where yout life and livlihood were actually on the line. Its ironic how comming out today is actually scarier in some ways!
yeah we have to deal with all these literal men calling themselves lesbians plus i swear to god every lesbian is they/them and has top surgery. i'm so tired of it all
I feel sorry for you all. I mean, I love reading and writing lesbian stories, but I am nowhere near delusional enough to claim to be one (at least, not seriously; I used to make the "lesbian trapped in a man's body" joke when I was younger, but these people killed any humor there might have been in it), but you have to deal with these creepy pretenders.
I have a friend who has recently become very passionate about her polyamourism and kink lifestyle. I really do think that part of the fun is for them to feel like they're imparting something esoteric and enlightening you in the process. Something I think we all indulge in from time to time. It just gets exhausting when it effects every conversation.
I'm a man going through the gay section of dating apps, and I found it interesting (and unconfortable) to see profiles of women (straight up women; makeup, long hair and cleavage) claiming to be gay trans men Some people set up their profiles wrong (they accidentally put the gender they are looking for in the sections that asks them which gender they are) but it's always the alt chicks who are 18-20 y/o claiming to be gay men 🤔
Literally my coworkers. It's disgusting how much they have fetishized gay men and the LGBTQ community in general. I wish we could call them out, but we'd get canceled despite me being openly out for over 20 years. It's sick what we have to put up with now.
The left has effectively made sexuality and gender mean everything and nothing at the same time. It's like their obsession with transgenderism and gender identity completely - as well as their addiction to victim currency - neutralized sexual preference and now they have no clue what they want. They advocate for things that make no sense or things they made up like 5 minutes ago. This is what we got when these people wanted to reject biological realities.
I met my husband 10 years ago on a dating app but people weren't as crazy back then. I can't even imagine what it's like for people trying to date now.
If you can imagine a dumpster whose contents have been set on fire, being pushed down the street by flood waters while clowns chase it and jump in and out of it, that about sums it up.
I have friends ask "Would you try online da" "NO!!" I'd rather walk in an open field under 5000 flying elephants with diarrhea and no umbrella and bare feet
I found my boyfriend just three years ago on a dating app, and even then I rarely saw anything like this. Don't know if the app I used made a difference (Match), but still goes to show truly how recent and random all of this really is.
I love you blaire, I havent gone to school due to my anxiety with my psychotic illness for a few months so I watch people like you instead who help me atleast bring myself back to some sort of reality because when i go to school and i talk to people like this it just sets off my delusions a bit - its anxiety and I know i need to get over it.. I'm not gonna sit here and explain in depth my mental illness/es but I want to thank you because otherwise i would be basically acting somewhat delusional, this occupies me.
I just had the funniest thought...I imagined them having tho introduce themselves without using labels, like literally just having to say their name, they'd just implode
As a 30 year old lesbian living in SoCal, I relate to this so much. I've pretty much given up on dating, I'd rather be alone than accept this insanity! I'm also a first responder which is a big 'no no' for the woke community. I think I'll just become that cranky neighborhood crone with cats and guns 😂
@DeRock Media I had my kids pretty young and been with my man since I was 18. There were times back then I thought maybe I wished I got to date around more and all that....I know that is very untrue now lol. I'm grateful I don't have to mess with any of that. Best of luck to you! 😁
I was called transphobic on Tiktok just because I disagreed with puberty blockers for kids ... I told them Blaire White is way cooler then them, and they blocked me ! LOL
Soooo lemme just say, as someone who used to struggle a lot with severe depression, anxiety, eating disorders etc, I really and truly wanted to be a therapist for the longest time. Now that I’m mentally healthy, well adjusted, and successful in life, I can pretty clearly see that although my intentions were good, it was kind of silly. Literally what you said Blaire, the blind leading the blind. PS - this seems to be a pretty common pattern amongst mentally ill individuals (especially if one has a mental illness that isn’t incredibly debilitating)
Watching this affirms why I am grateful I am married and escaped the whole dating scene. My husband and I just celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary. We have been dating since I was as 19 and he was 21 and dam the dating scene seems as if it’s a absolute circus filled with gender confused circus acts.
I feel the same way. Been married 13 years and together 17 years. I was 18 and my husband was 21 getting ready to turn 22, we met at a trading card causal play with friends.
Seeing these bios is like me putting 'I have depression and I take my pills on time lmao'. It says a lot about someone if their mental illness is likened to a personality, when in reality, people with actual mental illness work hard to ensure that it doesn't define them
I love you ❤ As a teenager who had body dysmorphia and gender dysmorphia I’m so thankful for the laws that protected my child mind from making possible mistakes that I could never take back Why do certain clowns think children can choose their gender when we don’t trust them to drink, smoke, enlist in the military, or even consent to sex in most states Dylan is an insult to all trans women and biological women I would love to see a trans women (like you) as a voice for our country I’m so sorry you get so much hate when you deserve so much more positive coverage You have so much respect for how people want to live, you believe truly in freedom and the American dream We have people from so many walks of life being the stereotypical yes girl contradicting themselves by forcing people to “drink the koolaid” Your a real one Xoxo
Do more of these. Thank you for mentioning what lesbians have to endure when dating online. Wading through male profiles just to find one authentic lesbian.
I will never understand why people think it’s a good idea to put political beliefs in their bio. That’s so dumb to me. But then again it’ll help me to avoid people who clearly make their beliefs their whole personality.
Me too and I actually do astrology (I wouldn't put my astrological details in my profile though because that is not even really how it works.. and it's weird)
"Ace" means someone who doesn't enjoy sex and "Demi" means someone who needs to build an emotional connection with someone before developing feelings. 🙂
@@Loo8814 yeah good point. I think some people just like being extra and coming up labels for themselves to feel empowered. I say let them do it because they’re not hurting anyone. 🤪
@@Loo8814 demisexual is considered to be a type of asexual, as they don't have the potential to experience ANY type of sexual attraction until they know the individual well, meaning they don't find strangers attractive whatsoever. I wouldn't lump the whole grey-ace/demi talk with the insane wokeness, as it is just a way of describing a person's lack of sexuality.
@@vee1855 You make a good point but still I think that a sane person who can handle the average amount of trauma that naturally comes with living on this planet needs some kind of emotional connection in order to fuck someone, if you just sleep with people without even the smallest amount of said connection you’re just a degenerate, nothing wrong with that, I mean we all know it’s fun but still you kinda have to acknowledge that. Feels like there’s a need to find new terms to identify normal people since it’s becoming average to be a promiscuous individual
If they have to say they're a good guy/girl/person/androgynous robot from Mars, then they're probably not. Big red flags for a narcissistically abusive relationship with that one. Anyone can be narcissists not just straight people.
💯💯💯great tip. Please ladies take things slow and watch out for the red flags…. Stay away from abusive people. Women are most often murdered by their romantic partners. Abusive romantic partners is how many develop ptsd (not to mention anxiety, eating disorders, depression, etc.) which is extremely damaging. Literally causes brain damage. Please be smart y’all. Learn self-defense. Learn gun safety. Learn street smarts! Protect yourselves!
I actually did dating online for a while. Yes, you can get long-term relationships out of them, if you make it clear that you don't want sex. and you're on a Christian app, though there are a lot of people who aren't Christians on there... And you also have to be good at recognizing when they're using a VPN and know when you can give them a phone number. Just for chuckles, I wrote in my profile: "I don't have debt." I got a lot of interest. That was pretty funny. Who knew that coming into a relationship with no financial baggage would be viewed as so sexy?
@@h.s.6269 OP may have a different opinion, but what I did was chat online about values and interests using only the dating site for a month, then met in person at a neutral location for one hour only. I think it might have been after the third in-person date, still without revealing any specific home locations, that we exchanged phone numbers and went from there.
@@h.s.6269 Everyone is different. I take it out when it becomes a hindrance. I also prefer to go on a date pretty quick though. If I have issues with them and they try to harass me at my number I would block them. Simple enough. Has never happened yet, maybe I'm lucky.
This is exactly why bisexual individuals (like myself) are hardly ever taken seriously. I don’t know why everything has to be so complicated, you like who you like and that’s it. People want some intricate explanation for their sexuality when it really isn’t that deep at all 😂 thanks for always bringing stuff to light Blaire! I appreciate your voice 💗 you truly are such a great rep for the LGBT community, never stop babe!!!
Recession is rough had to move back in with folks Invested in an airfryer and eat airfried Chickpeas that plus the oil and different seasonings cost me only $50 a month for food. I steal my neighbor wifi and keep up to date with Bailey Jay, Annabelle lane, and Blondelashes19 is cool up and coming so my entertainment budget is free life is ok we gonna make it and yes I am a Hero.
@Jones Jermaine My old next door neighbor got his new next door neighbor raided by the FBI because he was watching cp on their stolen wifi. So depends on what youre doing on that wifi.
No, no. Don't fix their profiles for them it's better this way. They are showing their crazy up front, so people can avoid them. It's the ones that don't put it in their profiles that are why I refuse to use dating apps again. Lol
I met my bf on tinder, and a few exes before him on tinder… 😅 breakups were not related to tinder at least lol, so in my experience these apps aren’t futile, they just take dedication and persistence if you actually want to find someone special. But it is very exhausting scrolling through people like this constantly, but the only credit I’ll give “woke” people is they make it extremely obvious how insufferable they must be irl and therefore a very swift left swipe on my end ⬅️
Thankfully I don’t need to use them anymore, but the introduction of all these pronouns and other bio identifiers initially irritated me immensely, until I realise actually it was saving me a ton of time as I knew to swipe left immediately.
My oldest child who is in college just started using a dating app. She has showed us some of the men who have reached out to her. I am convinced that reading comprehension is no longer a thing. My daughter for example specified she is looking for someone who is active and into fitness like she is. Yet who is reaching out? Men who don't exercise and one guy who actually said to her ," You do crossfit? Yuck". Or the stoners and party boys who reach out even though her profile says she doesn't drink , smoke or use drugs.
Felt this. I feel like a complete outlier in my age group (early 20's) and don't think I'll ever get a partner because I don't want to endure being on one of those dating sites
I’m sorry the LGBTQ+ community has gotten so toxic to its own members that you have to go back in closet! But we do what we must to stay safe! Take care of yourself!
My husband and I met on EHarmony in 2010. These dating sites have gone to shit. EHarmony had a test you had to take, you had to be serious about a relationship. These people seem to want to list all their NEGATIVE attributes rather than their POSITIVE ones, perhaps because they want the other person to accept them right away. That's not how dating works.
Online dating is so hard for lesbians these days. My friend came out of a 5 year relationship about a year ago, She said she was ready to start dating but was having problems, me, not knowing she'd gone onto dating apps suggested she look on a lesbian dating app. She told me "I want to date WOMEN, NOT men, I was a little confused so she showed me. I couldn't believe the amount of men claiming to be lesbians, some in bio said stuff like 'lesbian with a 🍆' etc she even had to change her bio to say No men. Only interested in biological woman .
I feel like we should start putting BW in our dating profiles as code for Blaire white watcher, so us normied can find eachother without offending everybody
I recently started online dating and oh boy. One guy had on his profile “I will take as long to respond to you and you take to respond to me”. HE THOUGHT THAT WAS A GOOD THING.
Seen a guy with “if you don’t have sex with me on the first date then you’re paying for half the bill” scary that someone admits they have a r*pist mindset.
honestly? I love that energy though. you take 2 days to reply to me? I'm taking 2 days to reply to you, out of pure spite! I'm a big believer in, "if they want time with you, they will make that time."
You are one of the most intelligent and witty youtubers I ever saw. Its amazing how you hit the point and by doing that your staying respectful ❤ from Serbia
Most guys put woman in the bio to get around dating app blocks so that they can message more women, especially if the woman's bio says they are woman looking for women. It also matches them to more women. It's so hard because of that and stupid poly people and couples "looking for a third" that I gave up on dating apps a while ago.
The men who message me, when their bio says they are women, aggravate the hell out of me. I think it’s mostly scammers though. Once you set up certain parts of a bio, like age and sex, they can’t be changed. So, a lot of people have stolen profiles and changed them up. I have had multiple POF profiles hacked and taken over.
Love ya girl you're fucking awesome!! I'm a mother with 2 kids. I was a Tom boy most of my life and I thank God that I grew up in the 90s because my parents would have been pushed to transgender me lol my mother didn't even let me get tattoos until I was 18 and by the time i turned 18 I didn't want tattoos anymore lol
Know what always gets me? You literally have to select whether you're interested in men or women when you join the dating app. So what good does he/him do for me? It's just so bizarre selecting "interested in men" and then having the first man that pops up clarifying their pronouns. 😵💫
When I was single and on Tinder a few years ago, I must have swiped left on a hundred blue haired gender whatevers with incomprehensible sexualities in their bio 🤦🏻♀️
Asexual means not attracted sexually to others. I’ve used that term to describe myself sometimes because it’s just easier to say that then my contamination OCD is so bad that the thought of fluids in sex disgust me.
I was talking to a guy once that had a belly button kink. He said he wanted to blow raspberries on my tummy and leave a “sexy little pool of saliva” in my belly button. I tried so hard to be open minded about it but it was too much. I ran it by a bunch of friends and they agreed. I know people are into what they’re into but…a sexy little pool of saliva? Nope not for me. There’s a girl out there that would love to hear that, I’m sure, and will be his belly button queen but it just wasn’t me
My ex was a director for a local alternative school for at risk children. He said you can't believe the number of predator job applicants they have to screen out. Tragically, some actually get through.
It’s so crazy how the whole “poly” thing has taken off and is suddenly becoming a trend. IMO it’s completely cheating and I feel like most of these people are going to regret it, especially the people who agreed to it because their partner manipulated them into it. Also I feel so weird when people say they’re poly lol I’m like “ohh ok that’s cool I’m monogy” 😂
Eh have to disagree. I've known some really happy people who are poly and I don't consider it cheating. But I understand it's not everyone's cup of tea.
@@edithtierce8209 Known, yes. I don't keep up with EVERYONE I've ever met in my life. Do you? It's not uncommon for people to move to other states you know? I do still hang out with two of those friends regularly though.
The big word here is "ethical" in ethical non-monogamy. A lot of people are not equipped to handle that. It's a lot of responsibility. You need complete honesty, 0 secrets. You need to talk constantly. You need to set boundaries. You need to be very understanding of each others' needs. A lot of people I have met that engage in "ENM" will complain about their partners because they don't 100% feel the same about everything all the time and they'll be like "whatever they can leave if they don't like it". That's not ethical to me. You aren't compromising and communicating appropriately. ENM is a lot of hard work, it is damn near impossible to do if you don't have your shit together. It compounds all of your other issues and makes them bigger. Even as someone that engages in ENM I don't recommend it to anyone because it's a huge responsibility even for the best couples. Also ENM folks are often super mentally ill and woke. Aweful combo. Swingers are the most stable in my experience and usually aren't as crazy and political.
It totally is manipulation and gaslighting. Poly people have this “you should be grateful that I chose you to join my harem because I love you” attitude and if you question it, then it’s your problem and not theirs. It’s messed up. They’re using you for their own selfish and perverted needs. That’s not love.
Lmao since I was born and raised here in Austin, I’m probably gonna see some of the same cringey people I’ve seen on tinder here too. 😂 I have it set as man seeking men, and i see trans women, non binary people, trans men, etc. Idk how tf do just see guys. Tinder pushing their woke crap on me.
Some Trans women will put themselves in as men so as to avoid straight guys who are not into trans women. Some put themselves in as women so as to snag a man who is basically straight but also into trans women. The Tinder where you only see guys I guess would be Grindr.
Ahhh, the pushy lesbian. Yeah. Whenever that has happened to me, I looked them straight in the eyes & stated "I ride d1ck, not pu5Sy" and then walked away.
Yess!! Like if you're straight then you're lying! Then if you say the same thing to them and say no one is entirely gay then they get offended and claim how dare you say that. Double standards
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I’ve given up on dating. I’m a 32 year old lesbian. I got banned from a dating site for saying in my bio that I’m not interested in gender ideology or identity politics, I’m just living my life like anyone else and looking for another normal lesbian to date. The amount of hate messages I got was extreme.
It’s very difficult to find a normal everyday person who doesn’t make being gay their entire life.
It was my stated that being attracted to the same sex isn’t a personality trait and you aren’t special 😂 that was the ban.
“How dare you be reasonable! That’s not allowed here! Rule breaker! RULE BREAKER! You are BANNED from the dating site! Security alert! Security alert! Woo-Woo-Woo-Woo-WOOOOO!”
This is why they have such a huge echo chamber and believe everyone thinks like they do. It’s just like doctors, being auto banned, for not going along with the entire C19 narrative. Then some of us follow those doctors to other sites, and others think all doctors are in agreement and we’re nutty conspiracy theorists. It goes with all current narratives. Watch the move 1984.
We’re there hun.
Sad how it seems for us in or 30's to just date 8 to 10+ years older. There seems to be none of this or a very low amount of insanity amoung he gen x'ers
I thought the left were the biggest champions of lesbians after all these years. Turns out I was wrong. I can't believe how often they actually end up throwing you guys under the bus when you don't talk in buzzwords or if you're simply not interested in being a mouthpiece for their activist groups.
WOW, that is maybe worse than me getting banned from Twitter for telling a Antifa account that threatened to "track me down" when I was critical of their violence I just said "you may regret that if you do find me" and they would have because I was a cop at the time,lol, Twitter banned me for "threatening people" yet the Antifa account that threatened to "track me down" had nothing done to them. The level of intolerance from the far left is unreal.
Personally, I like the fact that they're waving all of their red flags around for everyone to see; makes it easier to avoid them entirely.
Good way to look at it lol 😭
Definitely
Yeh haha when I see these things on hinge, they get removed from my recommended, it's lovely
A man in the lesbian section who doesn't even claim to identify as a woman is DEFINITELY a red flag lol
that’s what i been saying 🤣
12:21 So true! As a lesbian myself, I’m expected to be attracted to non-binary people, demi girls, etc, and even LITERAL MEN. If I don’t, that makes me transphobic. Nowadays, lesbian doesn’t mean girl liking girl, it means non-man liking non-man. This needs to stop.
How can it even continue if they don't even know wat is a woman and man?? You just supposed to ask some1 their life story before addressing them or wat lol? Glad I'm a straight WHT guy tbh
I am a heterosexual woman and I totally agree with you @em4200, it is insane!
Lesbian here and I've had hate for not been attracted to transwomen. It's like the word lesbian has a different meaning for me than it does for the rest of the world.
a lot of the fluid sexualities they talk about its just being bi, lol
@@Ruth25853 if that... a lot of people just talk and say sht to be edgy and progressive. A lot of them are just saying they're bi and all this shit. Also a lot of trans aren't even bi they just do it cuz it's fun and cool.
I’ve battled mental illness my whole life (I have bipolar/OCD/anxiety), it really pisses me off to see so many people these days adopting a mental illness (usually through nonsense self-diagnosis) as if it’s some trendy/quirky/interesting personality trait, which they then proceed to pick up and put down whenever it suits them.
I cannot believe he wrote ‘Mentally ill, but in a hot way.’ in his dating profile.
My mind boggles at the world sometimes.
‘Mentally ill, but in a hot way’ - I guess that's one way to say he's a pyromaniac.
Yes! Being diagnosed with depression and been on medication for it for almost a decade it infuriates me when people use the term depression so loosely. It’s a genuine ilness, not something cool.
I've been diagnosed with bipolar 2 from about two years now and from talking to people online I've met multiple people who as soon as they learn I have it, they go "oh me too!!" and in actuality they think just because they're happy and sad sometimes that they are the same. they are not the same.
Like there's nothing hot bout my OCD, my hands are cracked and bleeding bc I'm washing my hands 24/7 and can't even handle hugging my friends for more than 2 secs. Tell me how any of that is hot
@@pepeeldelaspipas124 there's nothing hot about having week long manic episodes where I come to realizing a spent hundreds of my worked for money on things I didn't need, then having nearly month long depressive episodes whist feeling unsafe in my home yet for some reason my serious illness is a heavily self diagnosised "TikTok aesthetic", I totally understand dude, it's so fucking annoying
as a bisexual, it pisses me off that there is like 1000 different terms for being bi.
Same here, new days being bisexual has turn almost as bad as cis, if people can change gender with a drop of a dime. Then what does being bi means?
I don't understand why so many people need so many labels 🤔
Agreed. I’m just so glad I’m not dating anymore
@@raenunya6699 they want to be unique without putting in the work
@@joseroa5243 the LGBT community doesn’t even accept bi people. I’m bi and I don’t get involved in the community at all.
I’m a moderate liberal but when she said “I’m sorry but why are they all mentally ill” it sent me 🤣🤣🤣
I've also found out recently that I'm a lot less liberal than I thought I was.. aka, Moderate liberal. I agree with.. 98% of the things I have heard from Moderate liberals, 80% of things from moderate conservatives and literally just found out about Detransitioners who have completely changed my mind about the current LGBTQ community. It's nice to see another mod liberal around.
@@natashasullivan4559 liberalism and degeneracy aren't the same. they are mentally ill degenerates posing as liberals
@@maximusd26 I honestly didn't even know how bad it was though. Like, I basically stopped watching the news during lockdown because it was all depressing. I haven't lived in the US since early 2021. Aaand I basically had no friends before that. So I wasn't hearing much about how bad the dumbass libs had gotten. I was still in my, 2014 liberal bubble.
riight, that's because you can tell the difference between being liberal and being a fckn idiot LMAO
I used to consider myself far left but lately Ive realized I am just supportive of common sense economical policies that mirror the success of some European models. The mentally ill bit got me too!
One thing that REALLY bugs me about these people is that they glamorize mental illnesses… As someone who deals with anxiety & depression, I am not “proud” of my mental illnesses. I’ve accepted them, but I’m not putting them in my dating profile description 😂 It makes me think that they self-diagnose themselves & then brag about their “mental illnesses” because it’s qUiRkY 🙄 Really offensive honestly.
Very true. It is sad because I think a lot of them are genuinely mentally ill, but they've made it such a fundamental part of their identity they don't know how to live without it. They think they have no control, and are at the whims of their illness and use that as justification for every bad decision they make.
Facts though, my cousin recently decided she is autistic without any diagnosis or therapy and posts about being autistic constantly on snapchat stories & "relatable tiktok videos" of the most mundane stuff that MOST people can relate to like GIRL it is not your personality and tiktok videos are not a diagnosis
The problem is when we identify with mental struggle, we don't realise we put ourselves in a tight box, expecting to be or stay that way. This idea that you can stay perfectly sane in a crazy world is ludicrous, but its recognising and what you do with it. Peace comes from escaping the box, yet for the sake of having an identity, these people perpetuate the idea they're mentally ill when they could actually do something about it that isn't chomp down their big pharma marketing scheme that barely beats placebo in drug trials.
Absolutely hate people doing this!! I’m the same, I would be open if someone asked me but I don’t tell people my mental health issues because that’s my business not something to ‘brag’
ok but like how do you know they're bragging and not just giving potential matches a heads-up in case they don't want to deal with that?
“I don’t care if you’re an asparagus” has me CACKLING. Blaire is an absolute queen…out here spitting facts.
fr she’ssoreal 😂
Rhymes with Sagittarious.
I bet she would say she don’t care if I’m a candelabra (I’m a Libra).
Times have changed so much as soon as I "baby queer"
I can't explain the cringe 🤣😂 I don't even scroll down to read more it's straight left omg.."baby queer"🤢🤢🤢😂😂 it sounds so cringe
I literally laughed out loud 😂😂
I’m in my 40’s and a recent widow and I don’t think I’m going to bother dating ever again if this is what the dating world has become. I’ll just get cats and embrace that trope.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Don't give up entirely, I'm a 29 yr old man and I admit I am attracted to some 40+ yr old women. I also have seen in stores and bars in my area single men & women who don't seem super woke/crazy.
the dating world was always garbo, it's those people who meet through activities or hobbies that seem to form a connection that apps can't manage to recreate. Those apps are just 🍆🌮 Google. that's fine, but it's going to be much tougher to find genuine connections.
I am a guy in the same boat, get messaged all the time on dating sites but 99% scare me, I went with dogs myself but cats are nice as well.
I just turned 40 and I married my wife who was my high school sweetheart. All the other women I dated between 18-38 just gradually got more mentally ill. I don't know if it's all the chemicals or just brainwashing but I would hate being a young heterosexual man these days. It really feels like we are watching the fall of Rome 2.0
As a 57 year old lesbian, I think that if I went back in time & was in my twenties I would stay in the closet rather than deal with all of this pro-noun nonsense.
Yep, I'm in there 🚪 I don't want to be associated with this madness
To be fair, we all use pronouns, but I get what you're saying. People rely on too much on too many labels these days.
@@officerari she , he , him , her , but when they start making up crap that's where I draw the line.
@@lookingglass9966 I 100% agree
If someone is too dumb to realize that you're a woman without the pronouns in your bio, then you dodged a bullet
thank you for calling out the amount of men in the lesbian section on dating apps!
I’m old. And married. Does this really happen? Tedious.
@@rebeccao8895 ALL THE TIME
It’s all heterosexual men with autogynephilia. Transvestic fetishists.
Constantly
@@rebeccao8895 yes, especially in woke cities. I was in Seattle for 2 years and legit 50% was either men claiming to be trans women, or couples on the apps looking for a 3rd. More "trans women" than the couple tho this was on a lesbian dating app too 😬
As a normal, non woke gay woman I struggle so much on dating sites - everyone is insane. Modern LGBT is literally a cult. I’ve matched with some weirdos, but the absolute craziest one was a woman I matched with a couple years ago. She was cool and we had a laugh about pretty much everything, it was all going so well until a couple months in… I told her that I was losing weight. She asked me why in such a degrading, dehumanising way and I said “because it’s unhealthy to be overweight/obese so I’m changing my life while I’m still young and able to do so”. She literally told me that I was fatphobic, a red flag to the body positive queer movement and that I need to see a therapist as the opinions and beliefs I have about being overweight is nothing short of sociopathic and that she has ‘told all her friends about how insane I am’. For context I was obese at the time so me wanting to lose weight was a good thing, if I was anorexic and stick thin I could probably understand her saying I need to see a therapist, but fact is I wasn’t skinny, I was severely overweight and NEEDED to lose weight for my health. But yeah I blocked her soon after - especially after she told me that she had basically doxxed me to her friends. She let it rip with me and all because I said I was on a weight loss journey. Looking back I’m glad she kicked off so early into it, could you imagine starting a proper relationship and moving in with something like that? Naaaaah. Best of luck to her next victims 😂
Probably had no friend to tell lol. How ridiculous. Happy for you
Good for you!❤
So if you are anorexic you should have been told to get therapy but since you were morbidly obese you didn't need therapy? You do get that morbid obesity is the opposite of anorexia right? You need the help just as much as an anorexic person would. Looks like you got it which is great! But maybe next time don't throw thin people under the bus just to protect your fat ass!
Yeah I seen that too, wanting to be slim and maintain that figure is considered fatphobic as you have a fear of becoming that size… wild shot man
you dodged a bullet!
Yes 👏 My sister stopped using her dating profile because old men in bad wigs kept hitting her up claiming to be lesbian. Make it stop.
Good for her, no human being should be using dating apps. Tell her to go out and join club activities and shit in stead, meet and be with people in real life.
Yikes. I thought it was bad enough for straight men.
@@CordovanSplotchVT That's healthy. I wish I could stop using Grindr I go back and forth.
@@ryanwitwickifaddegon4291 I can see how it would be particularly difficult for gays, since gay bars aren't exactly a place to go to look for a healthy long term relationship and outside them you have to sus out the available minority of possible same sex partners without necessarily having obvious markers to go by.
i get hit on by guys alot, but im straight, i take it as flattery (since i dont get girl signals, never get hit on by them). I also have really rad pink shoes, but i dont know if thats giving off missed signals to guys sometimes XD
"This is what happens when you're so open minded your brain falls out." I laughed outloud. 😂😂
An oldie but goldie. 😁
thats like a classic saying
"What objectivity . . . require[s] is not an 'open mind,' but an active mind-a mind able and eagerly willing to examine ideas, but to examine them critically." Rand
Why do people feel the need to invade on others spaces, if your not a women don’t expect lesbians to date your not a man don’t expect gay men to date you 🤷♂️
And the whole expecting straight people to date them when they are trans... I'm a woman who is into men, I am not attracted to feminine features or bits no matter what you call yourself.
My best friend is a gay man. There was this one person* who claimed that they're male but didn't transition at all and also adressed that they don't want to (bcs now u can just be anything ig) and we had a huge drama bcs they kept attacking my friend for not wanting to date them or do anything with them.. I'm the supporter and LGBT myself my whole life, and I got called all types of phobic in just one week :)
🙏🏼
apparently having any attraction to any kind of physical feature is evil nowadays.
how dare lesbians like boobies and 'barbie pockets', how dare gay guys like big, throbbing...pecs.
I remember going through tinder seeing a couple of trans people feed through, most of them mention in their bio or tell you pretty early in convos, in my experience it doesn’t really feel like they’re invading if they’re honest and upfront. However I don’t imagine they’d have much luck in the dating scene
I sincerely hate that dying your hair crazy colors automatically makes people think you are woke crazy person. We aren't ok, I promise 😭
dude yes! i had this conversation with a few other girls recently. i actually took out my septum piercing because i was tired of people assuming i was nuts lmao. they always have blue or green hair, multiple face piercings, and a bunch of bad tattoos. whatever happened to alt people being the cool ones? everything is so backwards. now if i see you looking especially alt (and young) i'll probably assume you're an asshole and that's so sad.
Lol yeah, I automatically avoid the crazy hair color/pierced/tatted people. Sadly I’m judging them as annoying and ‘basic’ until proven otherwise. I remember the good old days when all those things indicated that you were cool with good taste in music. Now, all the people I meet that look like that-I can guess your political beliefs and music taste (which will both inevitably suck).
I love dyeing my hair weird and crazy colors but I've shied away from it because of the crazies.
Feels you on that but I'm a dude I dress like a a punker with a a green mohawk and people think I'm a wokester 🙄
@lixmylove_ dress how you want who cares what people think 👍
What I've gathered about sexualities online so far is that there is gay, straight, ace and then 200 different words that that all just mean bisexual.
I've seen a million explanations on how pansexual and bisexual are different and yet none of them ever make sense
I’m bi and from what I’ve gathered, “pansexual” means “bisexual but with the reason that I don’t care what gender the person is”…….soooooooo literally bisexual with extra steps because they want to be special and unique, presumably because being bisexual isn’t good enough for some reason…
And I would revise the original comment as there is gay, straight, asexual, bisexual, and then 200 different words for mentally ill leftist that wants to be special.
I must be really old...back in my day bisexuality was being into men and women...didn’t even include being into trans/nonbinary/gender queer 😳😂
@@apond04 I’m old too. Back in my day, identify as queer, just meant you were gay. Maybe a gay man, with a little extra flame to them, but they were still gay.
I saw one where the profile picture was a cop in uniform and the description said something like " fuck the police, here's your chance" 😂😂
Nice play on words.
omg thats too funny XD
great ice breaker 😂😂
Brilliant
i would hit
They all put “mentally ill” because we have glamorized it and it’s “cool”. One perk to their dating profile descriptions are that it makes it easy to avoid them! 😂
100% the whole 'mentally ill in a sexy way'? Excuse me? So youte just faking it to be unique?
There is nothing sexy about having OCD. That shit is hell.
@Don K it makes people with actual anxiety feel like they can’t speak out. I’ve had severe social anxiety since i was a child. I puked for 2 years straight before school everyday because i was so anxious along with my face/hands going numb. Luckily i see a therapist and got that under control but i still get anxiety hives almost every time i’m anxious and i’ve been laughed at and people in highschool made up a rumor that i do coke because i “itch” but i was having anxiety hives. I have wished many times to just be normal. Be able to make friends. Be able to talk to someone without shaking. Be able to walk down a hallway without my heart rate hitting 122.
If they wanna standout so bad, they can gladly take my anxiety from me😂😂
@Don K that means more than you know. Thank you so much, don. 😊
honest to God tho. i was diagnosed with ocd when i was 9 years old and a lot of the kids i went to school made fun of me for it and it fucking hurt! and now it’s in to be mental?? like in that case i was mentally ill before it was cool 😂😂 like they can have my ocd if they want it good effin riddance. ppl are fuckin wild honestly!!
I was banned from Tinder because I specified that I was only interested in dating straight genetic males. Not even joking. I only specified it because I kept getting swiped on by girls identifying as guys and I felt kind of belittled and bullied.
How is that possible? Well, I have some gay-straight solidarity here. They call us "genital fetishists", I thought I'd make a banner
What's really sad is that these psychos who put their *a-hem* "personalities" on display don't seem to understand that bullying goes BOTH ways. Putting someone down, calling them hurtful names for merely disagreeing/having personal preferences IS bullying. The hypocrisy is strong with these...people.
@@varjaprotassova196 crazy how they think some of us are weird for having a preference on who we wanna bang
As a lesbian, thanks for the support. It is fucking tough out here. Literally harassed at work by a guy who has a thing for me and stated "If you ever want to experiment with a guy let me know" I'm 30 and knew I was gay since I was like 5 years old. Lot of men don't take lesbian relationships seriously.
I'm sorry. I see you are a Lesbian now. But you started as a Gay since 5 years old. So you transitioned.
@@SSGLGamesVlogs this was a joke right lol
When are some straight men going to learn that sapphic sexuality doesn't exist for a man to magically change it?
Some people think they are so amazing that they cause others to change their sexuality just for them. It's not limited to straight people either.
As a lesbian, we really do get the short end of the stick. We went from the original definition (woman loving woman) to non man loving non man, and then we end up with men who claim to be trans women or non binary trying to date us, and we're told we just have to accept it because that's how they identify.
I've only ever seen this in lesbian spaces as well. Gay men don't have the issue of people changing terminology and trying to be included in their definitions. It's annoying, really.
EDIT: When I mentioned trans women, I do not mean trans women who have transitioned and are legitimate trans women. I mean men so say they're trans women but don't do anything besides that to present or pass. Same with nonbinary. If you were born female then I suppose you can be a nb lesbian, even though I don't fully understand that. I'm talking about those who were born male, claim to be nb, and then claim to be an nb lesbian.
@B-B-B-Bobbi Nicole literally 😆🤣 it's so embarrassing
Rohan enjoyer
Hey we have something in common cuz straight men are told they're transphobic for not liking trans women
I have to agree, sometimes I lurk into r/gaybros and r/actuallesbians out of curiosity and the difference is so big. I came across a lot of posts in lesbian sub from trans woman asking if they pass and if they look cute, or whining because some woman didn't want to date them and getting rewards and upvotes for it. I've never seen anything like that in gay guys sub, they just share their intrests, give dating advice and talk about homophobia issues
Wtf do you expect with this woke and broke Trans movement where ppl get to just feel their way into an identity and the world totally affirms it.
My best friend is a single lesbian and it's become a running joke between us that she'll send me almost daily screenshots of scary Tinder "transbians" because there are just so many of them. How we laugh because if you didn't laugh you would cry.
I mean I feel bad for her but the humor almost makes up for it..almost. Goodness that sucks though.
I send my friend screenshots too! Yes, we have to laugh or else we cry!🙏💜💜
They are all straight men with autogynephilia who have been influenced by feminisms demonization of men and also woke gender ideology. On behalf of all male attracted trans girls I apologize lol 😂
Its great to keep a sense of humor about it.
Thats how I get through my daily life.
I literally do the same thing to my things! It's crazy the amount of men who feel it's okay to invade lesbian spaces :/
12:21 I appreciate your concern, I tried a lesbian dating app (HER) for some time and there's been a few confused men but I just ignored them, I thought maybe they'll get lucky with some bisexual girl. My real problem is how many "woke", far-left SJW they/thems there are. As if the lesbian dating scene wasn't small enough, I'm now yet to meet a rational lesbian who's not deep into that mindset.
A safe bet is probably if they are too wrapped in the ideology they aren't actually x y or z, they are only doing it for the attention.. just my opinion tho
I feel you 😢same with me
Yep, I too as a lesbian only a few years ago started seeing there were other likeminded, rational, lesbians who weren't consumed by their #1 sexually, #2 gender, or #3 political standing, and or all three... I used to call myself a unicorn, (cheesy, i know. lol) because I honestly thought I'd never meet anyone else like me, so finding people who share my thoughts and knowing I watch videos with so many cool woman, makes me smile. 😊
P.S. I also never used a dating site because of this. Lol
Fr it’s rare to find just a literal woman wtf 😭
I just wanna get a gf whos not totally libbed out
Yeah as a lesbian I absolutely agree. It’s a nightmare out here. We stand in solidarity with the Bisexuals
I'm a bisexual male just watching the dumpster fire with my popcorn
As a straight woman we say the typical I might become a lesbian.
U know men issues. U don't even dig them. U get me.
Well can't even say that anymore because they're EVERYWHERE.
Even in the lesbian sections 😢 wtf
I'm a middle-aged lesbian, I'm so glad I got to marry my school sweetheart ❤. I'm having a sudden realisation I'm pretty f-ing conservative, dating today would be a nightmare.
As a bisexual, I agree. I stand with lesbians.
Honestly, I feel bad for anyone having to navigate the dating scene these days. You can't even get to know anyone because they don't know themselves. They're just possessed by nonsensical ideology and identify as that.
My boyfriend died 6 months ago. I can’t do it. I think I have to be single because there’s no way I could do dating apps again. That’s if I ever even feel ready to try. I’m 30, jaded and too old for that shit 😅
@@DankrumStar So sorry to hear that. My condolences. When you're ready to try again, you'll know. Don't rush yourself 💯
These people are definitely the minority on dating apps. I’ve never actually seen anyone with profiles like these people have.
@@whatever.1765 That's great to hear 💯
as a single woman, dating has been hard. One guy, took me out to dinner, paid and then expected a hookup. I hugged him, he said "oh wanna come to my car?" I said "I am good" He also had the flu (like why go on the date if you are sick? you ain't getting anything lol) -another, he had 6 kids and wanted a hookup, because he is bored in married life. a lot of married men. Another criticized me for being a stay at home mom, who is also a published author, and said I won't find anyone because again I won't hookup. Another said there is something wrong with me because I Don't do hookups. That is why I write what I write - when they want a hookup, I tell them to read my stuff and leave me alone lol.
"Everyone always wants to blame all their behavior on their sign, it's like, I don't care if you're an Asparagus, just don't be a b*." - Blaire, 2022
Yeah like they're also always saying, "Mercury is in retrograde! Bad things are coming! Especially if your such and thus sign in sun and such and thus in high moon" or whatever the heck nonsense. I gave up on retrograde Mercury when I realized I was more powerful than planets going backwards, not subject to them. Bleh.
Lol right? Like no you’re a narcissist trying to justify your shitty behavior
This shit makes me happy that I’m single and have no interest in dating. 😂
Also about lesbians getting the short end of the stick, it’s gotten so bad that wokes are trying to redefine “lesbian” as “non-men loving non-men”. 🙄
They may as well just ban the word lesbian. I've been censored on RUclips for making lesbian references. It's comparable to Chinese censorship.
@Green Marble True
@Green Marble You do realize that you are watching the channel of a trans woman? But lesbians are perverts? LOL 🤣
@Green Marble how is homosexuality a perversion? a consentual relationship between adults isn't wrong.
It was better back when lesbian meant: female-alined loving female-alined. That makes more sense and it's trans inclusive
Is there anyone out there looking at these profiles thinking, 'Wow, what a catch! I want nothing more than to be with this person!'? Reading their profiles feels like someone trying to lecture me, so I can only imagine how much "fun" they'd be to hang out with where accidentally saying one wrong thing would cause them to explode in a fit of anger.
These people make me more ashamed about suffering from mental health issues than any high school bullying ever did. I genuinely feel scared to tell people about my struggles because I don't want them to see me like one of these people.
Don't worry hun, I think most ppl. Can tell the difference between someone genuinely struggling and trying to figure out how to heal. And all these Emos who whack on a label for attention and sympathy and to gain "victim privleages" for the rest of their lives...
It’s smart to keep that stuff hidden…at first. There’s many abusive sickos that SPECIFICALLY look for women (and men) with mental illness to abuse, use, and exploit. These people are vulnerable…many of them confused and perhaps insecure. Potentially, easy to manipulate and abuse. These young people don’t know the monsters that are out there. Don’t advertise that sort of stuff.
@@tigerkahlua1609 a true "emo" would never use mental health struggles for sympathy and clicks. Those wannabe's do.
@@Muniaczek90 bro..
That’s how I feel about being trans - if I tell people I don’t want them assuming I’m a libtard
"Mom, dad how did you two meet?"
"Blaire White's comment section"
Maybe that has happened! Blaire’s been doing videos for nearly a decade, so maybe some fans have met in the comments section and gotten married or started dating!
@@goldenrosie she's been doing videos since 2015, I wouldn't call that nearly a decade lmao don't make me feel old, I been here since the beginning g
We're so old one of my kids grabbed a ipod and asked me if it was a tiny cell phone ☠
@Alita See I tried meeting men in video games but they always ended up being very strange. Ended up finding my husband on Tinder and now we just play games together lol
Maybe she should make a dating app. It would be free of this SJW nonsense.
THE FACT BELLA STARTED WHINING AS SOON AS SHE SAW HIM- 💀✋🏾 y’all I can’t
😂😂😂 it was perfect!
That sound was edited in
Clay: has "communist" as the first word in their bio
Also Clay: wear an Apple watch in their Tinder profile picture
Kawaii: currently in a throuple
Also Kawaii: looking for a third partner
LOL
I don't think you understand. If you are in a throuple then you have two partners. If there are four people in a relationship with each other, then each of them has three partners.
Ah shit, you beat me to it.
@@jacoblehrer4198 Isn’t that just cheating? 😅
@@goldenrosie Yes I'm not disagreeing with that. The OP was implying it made no sense what she said, when it makes perfect sense, even if it's, in my opinion, morally reprehensible.
PLEASE make this a series. I have third-hand embarrassment.
Hahaha I hope Blaire does!
Edit:
I want to see a Blaire react to woman on gay man dating app and cringe anime weebs on Tik Tok.
At first i thought i had second hand embarassment. Now i think it's more third and fourth hand embarrassment.
As a lesbian who's on dating apps, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's seeing this and has an issue with it.
I have so many screenshots of men claiming to be trans women and it's just sad and also agrivating because I feel at this point there's more men than women on LESBIAN DATING APPS. Not even specifically general dating apps, apps designed for lesbians are bring taken over and I've almost given up on dating because of this reason.
You should make a video presentation for us. I would love to watch lol. Especially with an entertaining commentary. 🤪🤡🥰
😂😂 Down bad Men fr it’s freaking insane how these guy keep making the same mistakes over and over again and never realize that And screw dating apps. I honestly prefer just having a conversation while playing games is my favorite thing
Yes, it's so hard to meet women.
@@whatta1501 your not wrong
@@whatta1501 and trying to have a conversation that interesting is damn near impossible
I'm 35 and I don't feel old until I see this kind of stuff...But I'm so grateful I got to live in a completely different world as a teenager or even in my 20s. People were less confused, happier and believe or not but MORE open-minded that those open-minded now. Thank you Blaire for this video, the world needs people like you who are not afraid to call thigs what they really are.
This is a VERY recent development but I am seeing more of these profiles lately, you’re the first to discuss them! I’m a gay man and I have seen profiles pop up on my Tinder now of full-on biological women, showing off their boobs in a small dress and with long hair, ie presenting as full-on female as possible, and then have a paragraph long explanation of their genderfluid he/she/they, gay male identity! These are women trying to date gay men through the convoluted use of language and identity games!!!! And yet if I, an actual gay man, criticize them, I’m somehow a bigot?! This is insanity!!!
It disgusts me that they do that to you gay men. I honestly believe it's because they turned gay men into a fetish via videogames/anime and now all these girls want in on it because they think it's cute. They become "nonbinary" or "trans" in some way and then just date bisexual men in order to be "uwu so gay". It's just straight with extra steps and it hurts actual gays. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
Whats crazy is that like 10ish years ago when I was on dating sites I had guys literally shame me off of them because of presenting as female, I just hadn't put together that I was trans yet so I thought I was just "extra gay" or something.
Now there are literal people of the genders a stated group is NOT ATTRACTED TO jumping in their spaces because these sort of people have no concept of actual gender as the rest of us see it.
I dunno, it's just weird to see it come full circle I guess. I'm glad I'm married and away from all that.
One might question why these women don't just find a straight guy and pretend he's gay for her male self-image.
If she can make believe that she is a gay male, then surely she can make believe that he is one too, though he may be somewhat surprised and confused the first time she asks him to fuck her in her boypussy.
I’m so happy I was born in the 80s. Everyone went to a bar, talked to each other, and wasn’t insane. I’m old enough to say “those were the days”
:(
Missed out on that entirely and makes me want to burn my house down in envy. Lol (hyperbole)
Ditto.
Both my parents were born in the mid 50's. I've told them multiple times I'd give anything to be born back then.
i wasn't even alive in the 80s but i agree, those were in fact the days
I was Born in 2002 And wish I was in those years to
"I dont care if youre an asparagus just sont be a b***h"
And again blaire has given us our daily words of wisdom.
Not all people who practice astrology are like that, tho. I don't blame bad behavior on my sign, I take responsibility for what I've done. Hate that she thinks we're all like that.
Priceless.
i knew this one girl at a desk job who would always bring up astrological signs about things that would happen or about my relationship... its those ppl that need to calm down on the daily readings i feel
Lesbian here. Yeah, it's really aggravating seeing whole men thinking they can call themselves a woman to get into our spaces.
I'm a pretty liberal person, but I can't stand the way terminally online gay and trans people act online, being supremely hypocritical and ridiculous. I have a feeling that if I were born sooner, some kids online would be telling me I'm a trans boy because I grew up liking conventionally boyish things (alongside typically girly stuff).
Thank you for vids like this!
The fact that the first person is working with other mentally ill people, especially young people, is frightening. It’s becoming more common, and I hope it will get talked about more, because putting someone’s mental health in the hands of someone like that is beyond dangerous.
The nuts are running the nuthouse as the saying goes. 🙄
even if it was a way of him making a “quirky” joke, it’s genuinely concerning
@Haley yup. nowadays the patients are healthier and more rational than their therapists 😭
They aren't therapists, they are coaches to make them worse and dependent on meds forever. Its a plus on an application and interview to be creepy and deranged as you will recruit more as theyncome to you for help
Online dating feels like trying to find Prince Charming in a trainwreck next to a dumpster fire at Walmart 😂 I loved seeing the reactions tho 😂
So accurate, it hurts! 😂💀
This comment deserves all the likes. Literally the most accurate depiction. 😂
At least Walmart has affordable prices for anyone to enjoy
This made me chuckle.
you can find love online and thats how i accadentley stumbled on the best BF in the world.
(if you say yours is better i will fight you)
but just dont count on it cause us meeting was basically lightning striking the same spot twice
Before I started dating my gf, every time I saw a "she/they" swipe left, one time I saw someone's occupation listed as "trying to be a better white person".. I could go on but the video substantiates how tough it is as a right leaning centrist to date these days
Preach! 🙌
A guy once matched with me to tell me that I should get shot in the head because I was named after Ronald Reagan :))))
I have been abused for the fact i am white for no other reason than my skin colour. Its ridiculous. I dont care what race or ethnicity people are. If they are nice to me ill be nice back we are all humans dammit. Just because i was BORN white (cant change it) doesnt mean its a free pass to be horrible to me. I didnt do any of the horrible things that they mentioned. Im just an average person. I will date any person i think interesting regardless of colour
I'm a left leaning centrist, and this video alone is enough to make me a right leaning centrist. And I took a break from online dating months ago and I've had a peaceful existence since. Lol. Too much work for very little benefit. 🤦🏼♀️ And this nonsense....
Even as a left leaning centrist its really awful for the same exact reasons. Everyone wants to be different whilst ending up the exact same
I'm straight and I gave up on online dating years ago, because of how frustrating it was BACK THEN... And now, seeing all of this and knowing how people are now... SHEESH. So glad that's a no- go from me, and back then I was mostly concerned about men wanting hook ups/and the hook up culture... Now I have to be worried if the men even identifty as men??? PLUS hook up culture and polyamory! *shudders* so gross!
If you can stomach it, please do a sequel to this or maybe even an entire series! Amazing!
Yes PULEAAASE 🙏 😂😢😅
Yesssssssssssss, I have plenty of screenshots to supply too 😈
100%
These people don't want relationships they want validation.
Exactly, and attention
"you just haven't met the right man" feels like those people who "test" allergies because they don't believe you actually are allergic.
for real, my sister has seen me go into anaphylaxis shock and she still tries to test my allergies. I'd still rather go through that again than deal with this bull tho lol
You missed some gold in Kawaii's profile - "currently in a trouple seeking someone for myself". Absolute gold
I'm so glad I am 72 years old and came out when I was 18. Back then we had more of a clue about who we were. We also had meeting places called bars and actually talked to each other, danced, partied, laughed, made friends. I would hate to be a young gay or lesbian kid now.
Back when people new what was going on and were more peaceful and new if a person was a women or men and gender wasn’t peoples personality and crap
Now they try to trans-away the gay, because if you like the same sex it means you're the wrong sex....? We looped back to being homophobic lol
@@Lilaco_ amazing, isn’t it?
And you came out during a time where yout life and livlihood were actually on the line.
Its ironic how comming out today is actually scarier in some ways!
I'm 34 and it's really damn hard to meet women. I feel like I don't belong in my own community anymore.
As a lesbian, thank you for talking about that. I've adored you for about six years, and I just love you all that bit more now :)
My bisexual heart seconds this ❤️❤️
Same. I dont understand whats going on with the community and I'm glad there are other lesbians feeling the same.
yeah we have to deal with all these literal men calling themselves lesbians plus i swear to god every lesbian is they/them and has top surgery. i'm so tired of it all
I feel sorry for you all. I mean, I love reading and writing lesbian stories, but I am nowhere near delusional enough to claim to be one (at least, not seriously; I used to make the "lesbian trapped in a man's body" joke when I was younger, but these people killed any humor there might have been in it), but you have to deal with these creepy pretenders.
Yep
I have a friend who has recently become very passionate about her polyamourism and kink lifestyle. I really do think that part of the fun is for them to feel like they're imparting something esoteric and enlightening you in the process. Something I think we all indulge in from time to time. It just gets exhausting when it effects every conversation.
some people need to stfu about their sex lives and not make it a part of their identity
I'm a man going through the gay section of dating apps, and I found it interesting (and unconfortable) to see profiles of women (straight up women; makeup, long hair and cleavage) claiming to be gay trans men
Some people set up their profiles wrong (they accidentally put the gender they are looking for in the sections that asks them which gender they are) but it's always the alt chicks who are 18-20 y/o claiming to be gay men 🤔
Cis women say they’re gay men? What??!
Literally my coworkers. It's disgusting how much they have fetishized gay men and the LGBTQ community in general. I wish we could call them out, but we'd get canceled despite me being openly out for over 20 years. It's sick what we have to put up with now.
@@lork92 Right? It literally sounds like they're trying to live out their fujoshi fantasies.
@@SinTeller Honestly had to look that up, but yes! Alot of them are obsessed with this and anime culture in general.
The left has effectively made sexuality and gender mean everything and nothing at the same time. It's like their obsession with transgenderism and gender identity completely - as well as their addiction to victim currency - neutralized sexual preference and now they have no clue what they want. They advocate for things that make no sense or things they made up like 5 minutes ago. This is what we got when these people wanted to reject biological realities.
The dog wining had me ☠️😂
fr😭😭
I met my husband 10 years ago on a dating app but people weren't as crazy back then. I can't even imagine what it's like for people trying to date now.
If you can imagine a dumpster whose contents have been set on fire, being pushed down the street by flood waters while clowns chase it and jump in and out of it, that about sums it up.
I have friends ask "Would you try online da" "NO!!" I'd rather walk in an open field under 5000 flying elephants with diarrhea and no umbrella and bare feet
Tinder is crazy stupid. The other apps seem to have normal people
I found my boyfriend just three years ago on a dating app, and even then I rarely saw anything like this. Don't know if the app I used made a difference (Match), but still goes to show truly how recent and random all of this really is.
@@melrobertson2743 While walking through no man's land during ww1 under heavy fire from enemy machine guns.
I love you blaire, I havent gone to school due to my anxiety with my psychotic illness for a few months so I watch people like you instead who help me atleast bring myself back to some sort of reality because when i go to school and i talk to people like this it just sets off my delusions a bit - its anxiety and I know i need to get over it.. I'm not gonna sit here and explain in depth my mental illness/es but I want to thank you because otherwise i would be basically acting somewhat delusional, this occupies me.
I hope you get well soon, that sounds really difficult. Stay safe!
I just had the funniest thought...I imagined them having tho introduce themselves without using labels, like literally just having to say their name, they'd just implode
"I am they/them and my pronouns are Jacky"?
As a 30 year old lesbian living in SoCal, I relate to this so much. I've pretty much given up on dating, I'd rather be alone than accept this insanity! I'm also a first responder which is a big 'no no' for the woke community. I think I'll just become that cranky neighborhood crone with cats and guns 😂
Wait why is something as important as a first responder a no no?? What's their reasoning? Who do they call then lmao
@@catsarerude more than likely the morons from the ACAB movement. Yet when things truly go down they make the call. Funny how that works. 🥴🤷
what? please explain that first responder part because I'm not getting why that's so controversial?
Yeah please explain the first responder thing I’m genuinely curious.
@@poluki First responder as in cop? I think woke people hate all and every cop no matter what.
I'm only 34 and I swear I feel like an 85 year old woman most days who just doesn't get "this generation". 👵😂
37 single man here, been single for over 6 years and am in great physical shape... I dont get dating now and feel like im an alien.
Same, I'm like damn is this how older people when I was a teen felt or is it that this new generation is just the definition of extreme.
Try being 18 and feeling the same way- :') I feel you man
@DeRock Media I had my kids pretty young and been with my man since I was 18. There were times back then I thought maybe I wished I got to date around more and all that....I know that is very untrue now lol. I'm grateful I don't have to mess with any of that. Best of luck to you! 😁
@@nightflurry410 😂
I was called transphobic on Tiktok just because I disagreed with puberty blockers for kids ...
I told them Blaire White is way cooler then them, and they blocked me ! LOL
Soooo lemme just say, as someone who used to struggle a lot with severe depression, anxiety, eating disorders etc, I really and truly wanted to be a therapist for the longest time. Now that I’m mentally healthy, well adjusted, and successful in life, I can pretty clearly see that although my intentions were good, it was kind of silly. Literally what you said Blaire, the blind leading the blind.
PS - this seems to be a pretty common pattern amongst mentally ill individuals (especially if one has a mental illness that isn’t incredibly debilitating)
My psychologist literally will not see juveniles anymore because of how bad it is.
Women like that are over-represented in the helping professions. It's a way to overcompensate for their own lack of self-love.
Watching this affirms why I am grateful I am married and escaped the whole dating scene. My husband and I just celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary. We have been dating since I was as 19 and he was 21 and dam the dating scene seems as if it’s a absolute circus filled with gender confused circus acts.
Same. I love my husband a little more after watching this.
Congratulations 🥳
@@Rose-of-autumn-2002. Thank you been together for 12 years married for 6!
God bless you and your spouse
I feel the same way. Been married 13 years and together 17 years. I was 18 and my husband was 21 getting ready to turn 22, we met at a trading card causal play with friends.
Seeing these bios is like me putting 'I have depression and I take my pills on time lmao'. It says a lot about someone if their mental illness is likened to a personality, when in reality, people with actual mental illness work hard to ensure that it doesn't define them
Exactly! Like if you’re trying to look for a potential partner online I don’t think the fact that you’re mentally unstable is a good opener.
EXACTLY
Well said!
I love you ❤
As a teenager who had body dysmorphia and gender dysmorphia I’m so thankful for the laws that protected my child mind from making possible mistakes that I could never take back
Why do certain clowns think children can choose their gender when we don’t trust them to drink, smoke, enlist in the military, or even consent to sex in most states
Dylan is an insult to all trans women and biological women
I would love to see a trans women (like you) as a voice for our country
I’m so sorry you get so much hate when you deserve so much more positive coverage
You have so much respect for how people want to live, you believe truly in freedom and the American dream
We have people from so many walks of life being the stereotypical yes girl contradicting themselves by forcing people to “drink the koolaid”
Your a real one
Xoxo
Do more of these.
Thank you for mentioning what lesbians have to endure when dating online.
Wading through male profiles just to find one authentic lesbian.
I will never understand why people think it’s a good idea to put political beliefs in their bio. That’s so dumb to me. But then again it’ll help me to avoid people who clearly make their beliefs their whole personality.
I do it so these people avoid me (I'm a traditional Conservative). And I'm glad they do too so I can avoid them.
"I don't care if you're an asparagus" made me laugh sooo hard 🤣
I know! I wanna change from Libra to Asparagus now, not that it ever matters in the first place
😂😂😂
Me too and I actually do astrology (I wouldn't put my astrological details in my profile though because that is not even really how it works.. and it's weird)
"Ace" means someone who doesn't enjoy sex and "Demi" means someone who needs to build an emotional connection with someone before developing feelings. 🙂
So basically an asexual and just a normal person, how can the two things just coexist completely baffles me
@@Loo8814 yeah good point. I think some people just like being extra and coming up labels for themselves to feel empowered. I say let them do it because they’re not hurting anyone. 🤪
@@skycolinregan That makes sense, though someone could argue that by hurting themselves they’re hurting society too
@@Loo8814 demisexual is considered to be a type of asexual, as they don't have the potential to experience ANY type of sexual attraction until they know the individual well, meaning they don't find strangers attractive whatsoever. I wouldn't lump the whole grey-ace/demi talk with the insane wokeness, as it is just a way of describing a person's lack of sexuality.
@@vee1855 You make a good point but still I think that a sane person who can handle the average amount of trauma that naturally comes with living on this planet needs some kind of emotional connection in order to fuck someone, if you just sleep with people without even the smallest amount of said connection you’re just a degenerate, nothing wrong with that, I mean we all know it’s fun but still you kinda have to acknowledge that. Feels like there’s a need to find new terms to identify normal people since it’s becoming average to be a promiscuous individual
If they have to say they're a good guy/girl/person/androgynous robot from Mars, then they're probably not. Big red flags for a narcissistically abusive relationship with that one. Anyone can be narcissists not just straight people.
The fact they have say person says it all
💯💯💯great tip. Please ladies take things slow and watch out for the red flags…. Stay away from abusive people. Women are most often murdered by their romantic partners. Abusive romantic partners is how many develop ptsd (not to mention anxiety, eating disorders, depression, etc.) which is extremely damaging. Literally causes brain damage. Please be smart y’all. Learn self-defense. Learn gun safety. Learn street smarts! Protect yourselves!
Right!!!
I actually did dating online for a while. Yes, you can get long-term relationships out of them, if you make it clear that you don't want sex. and you're on a Christian app, though there are a lot of people who aren't Christians on there... And you also have to be good at recognizing when they're using a VPN and know when you can give them a phone number.
Just for chuckles, I wrote in my profile: "I don't have debt." I got a lot of interest. That was pretty funny. Who knew that coming into a relationship with no financial baggage would be viewed as so sexy?
A VPN explains a lot. Duh, I hadn’t figured out how they were gaming the distance part, of one app I’m on. I knew they were gaming it, just not how.
Any tips on knowing when is ok to exchange numbers to take the middleman (app) out? I'm very new to online dating apps
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OP may have a different opinion, but what I did was chat online about values and interests using only the dating site for a month, then met in person at a neutral location for one hour only. I think it might have been after the third in-person date, still without revealing any specific home locations, that we exchanged phone numbers and went from there.
@@h.s.6269 Everyone is different. I take it out when it becomes a hindrance. I also prefer to go on a date pretty quick though. If I have issues with them and they try to harass me at my number I would block them. Simple enough. Has never happened yet, maybe I'm lucky.
Well I like the fact that they’re up front with all their problems
Makes it easier to swipe left
You're brave for even downloading it!
the dog crying is sending me 😭😭😭😭
This is exactly why bisexual individuals (like myself) are hardly ever taken seriously. I don’t know why everything has to be so complicated, you like who you like and that’s it. People want some intricate explanation for their sexuality when it really isn’t that deep at all 😂 thanks for always bringing stuff to light Blaire! I appreciate your voice 💗 you truly are such a great rep for the LGBT community, never stop babe!!!
I’m the same way, my sexuality means nothing to me except I like both genders lol. Nothing deeper than that.
@@evelynnnyt exactly- I’ve never gone out of my way to find a certain gender either, it just happens! People make it sooo difficult like chill out 😂
Recession is rough had to move back in with folks Invested in an airfryer and eat airfried Chickpeas that plus the oil and different seasonings cost me only $50 a month for food. I steal my neighbor wifi and keep up to date with Bailey Jay, Annabelle lane, and Blondelashes19 is cool up and coming so my entertainment budget is free life is ok we gonna make it and yes I am a Hero.
@Jones Jermaine My old next door neighbor got his new next door neighbor raided by the FBI because he was watching cp on their stolen wifi. So depends on what youre doing on that wifi.
No, no. Don't fix their profiles for them it's better this way. They are showing their crazy up front, so people can avoid them. It's the ones that don't put it in their profiles that are why I refuse to use dating apps again. Lol
I met my bf on tinder, and a few exes before him on tinder… 😅 breakups were not related to tinder at least lol, so in my experience these apps aren’t futile, they just take dedication and persistence if you actually want to find someone special. But it is very exhausting scrolling through people like this constantly, but the only credit I’ll give “woke” people is they make it extremely obvious how insufferable they must be irl and therefore a very swift left swipe on my end ⬅️
Thankfully I don’t need to use them anymore, but the introduction of all these pronouns and other bio identifiers initially irritated me immensely, until I realise actually it was saving me a ton of time as I knew to swipe left immediately.
True they are pretty obvious thankfully they love to scream from the mountain tops who they are.
"that's like the blind leading the blind, b*tch" I'M HOWLING LMAOOOOO
My oldest child who is in college just started using a dating app. She has showed us some of the men who have reached out to her. I am convinced that reading comprehension is no longer a thing. My daughter for example specified she is looking for someone who is active and into fitness like she is. Yet who is reaching out? Men who don't exercise and one guy who actually said to her ," You do crossfit? Yuck". Or the stoners and party boys who reach out even though her profile says she doesn't drink , smoke or use drugs.
Tell her to ask if the dudes are into strongmen competitions, if they don’t know what that is then they're truly lying
As a lesbian I see that online dating has nothing to offer to me anymore >___
It's all about politics nowadays man.
Felt this. I feel like a complete outlier in my age group (early 20's) and don't think I'll ever get a partner because I don't want to endure being on one of those dating sites
Agreed
Women’s profiles are always boring I swear to god
I'm straight but if I was dating, I'd probably just stay single.
I'm so glad I deleted my social media and basically went back into the closet. It has gotten SO BAD. Social media ruined society! Love you Blaire ❤!
I’m sorry the LGBTQ+ community has gotten so toxic to its own members that you have to go back in closet! But we do what we must to stay safe! Take care of yourself!
My husband and I met on EHarmony in 2010. These dating sites have gone to shit. EHarmony had a test you had to take, you had to be serious about a relationship. These people seem to want to list all their NEGATIVE attributes rather than their POSITIVE ones, perhaps because they want the other person to accept them right away. That's not how dating works.
Too bad it's not free though. At the same time, at least it keeps the casual freebie hookupers away
Online dating is so hard for lesbians these days.
My friend came out of a 5 year relationship about a year ago, She said she was ready to start dating but was having problems, me, not knowing she'd gone onto dating apps suggested she look on a lesbian dating app. She told me "I want to date WOMEN, NOT men, I was a little confused so she showed me. I couldn't believe the amount of men claiming to be lesbians, some in bio said stuff like 'lesbian with a 🍆' etc she even had to change her bio to say No men. Only interested in biological woman .
As a lesbian i am just looking for a normal woman .... A rare thing these days 😔
At least you know what a woman is.
I am hi I want a normal women too lol
I feel like we should start putting BW in our dating profiles as code for Blaire white watcher, so us normied can find eachother without offending everybody
Hell I’m a straight man and still can’t find a normal woman
@@raaaaaaarr They might think BW stands for something else though :/
Poor Bella!! She was so scared. 😅 thanks for what you do, Blaire. x
"You're collecting as many non-sensical words as possible and constructing an alternate reality." So much wisdom in that sentence.
I recently started online dating and oh boy. One guy had on his profile “I will take as long to respond to you and you take to respond to me”. HE THOUGHT THAT WAS A GOOD THING.
Seen a guy with “if you don’t have sex with me on the first date then you’re paying for half the bill” scary that someone admits they have a r*pist mindset.
Sounds petty but not necessarily terrible
honestly? I love that energy though. you take 2 days to reply to me? I'm taking 2 days to reply to you, out of pure spite! I'm a big believer in, "if they want time with you, they will make that time."
@@leaf6356 correct. Don't expect me to respond to you in minutes when you just took a week to respond to me.
@@leaf6356 sounds toxic AF but do you
You are one of the most intelligent and witty youtubers I ever saw. Its amazing how you hit the point and by doing that your staying respectful ❤ from Serbia
"Have the confidence to understand that not everyone's gonna get it."
Bless Blaire for being a light in a fucked out, insane world.
Most guys put woman in the bio to get around dating app blocks so that they can message more women, especially if the woman's bio says they are woman looking for women. It also matches them to more women. It's so hard because of that and stupid poly people and couples "looking for a third" that I gave up on dating apps a while ago.
Eww
The men who message me, when their bio says they are women, aggravate the hell out of me. I think it’s mostly scammers though. Once you set up certain parts of a bio, like age and sex, they can’t be changed. So, a lot of people have stolen profiles and changed them up. I have had multiple POF profiles hacked and taken over.
THIS IS EXACTLY MY EXPERIENCE AND WHY I GAVE UP.
Love ya girl you're fucking awesome!! I'm a mother with 2 kids. I was a Tom boy most of my life and I thank God that I grew up in the 90s because my parents would have been pushed to transgender me lol my mother didn't even let me get tattoos until I was 18 and by the time i turned 18 I didn't want tattoos anymore lol
Know what always gets me? You literally have to select whether you're interested in men or women when you join the dating app. So what good does he/him do for me? It's just so bizarre selecting "interested in men" and then having the first man that pops up clarifying their pronouns. 😵💫
So wait, you’re telling me that these people are actually trying to date? They seem like they’re trying to scare away dates with this..
When I was single and on Tinder a few years ago, I must have swiped left on a hundred blue haired gender whatevers with incomprehensible sexualities in their bio 🤦🏻♀️
My psychology professor told us on the first day that her passion is social justice. It's just a thing now.
I would’ve walked out right then and there.
Lmao she needs a lobotomy 😭
That person and that school do not deserve your money
I mean... what's wrong with social justice? Doesn't mean you're a liberal wacko imo
@@JJ-cg9rj it does now
Asexual means not attracted sexually to others. I’ve used that term to describe myself sometimes because it’s just easier to say that then my contamination OCD is so bad that the thought of fluids in sex disgust me.
I was talking to a guy once that had a belly button kink. He said he wanted to blow raspberries on my tummy and leave a “sexy little pool of saliva” in my belly button. I tried so hard to be open minded about it but it was too much. I ran it by a bunch of friends and they agreed. I know people are into what they’re into but…a sexy little pool of saliva? Nope not for me. There’s a girl out there that would love to hear that, I’m sure, and will be his belly button queen but it just wasn’t me
This is so funny girl lol
My ex was a director for a local alternative school for at risk children. He said you can't believe the number of predator job applicants they have to screen out. Tragically, some actually get through.
It’s so crazy how the whole “poly” thing has taken off and is suddenly becoming a trend. IMO it’s completely cheating and I feel like most of these people are going to regret it, especially the people who agreed to it because their partner manipulated them into it. Also I feel so weird when people say they’re poly lol I’m like “ohh ok that’s cool I’m monogy” 😂
Eh have to disagree. I've known some really happy people who are poly and I don't consider it cheating. But I understand it's not everyone's cup of tea.
@@juangalton999 You’ve known? Past-tense… lol
@@edithtierce8209 Known, yes. I don't keep up with EVERYONE I've ever met in my life. Do you? It's not uncommon for people to move to other states you know? I do still hang out with two of those friends regularly though.
The big word here is "ethical" in ethical non-monogamy. A lot of people are not equipped to handle that. It's a lot of responsibility. You need complete honesty, 0 secrets. You need to talk constantly. You need to set boundaries. You need to be very understanding of each others' needs. A lot of people I have met that engage in "ENM" will complain about their partners because they don't 100% feel the same about everything all the time and they'll be like "whatever they can leave if they don't like it". That's not ethical to me. You aren't compromising and communicating appropriately. ENM is a lot of hard work, it is damn near impossible to do if you don't have your shit together. It compounds all of your other issues and makes them bigger. Even as someone that engages in ENM I don't recommend it to anyone because it's a huge responsibility even for the best couples.
Also ENM folks are often super mentally ill and woke. Aweful combo. Swingers are the most stable in my experience and usually aren't as crazy and political.
It totally is manipulation and gaslighting. Poly people have this “you should be grateful that I chose you to join my harem because I love you” attitude and if you question it, then it’s your problem and not theirs. It’s messed up. They’re using you for their own selfish and perverted needs. That’s not love.
6:10 baby queer just means that you’re new to being out/exploring your sexuality like being a baby gay being a newly out gay term been out for decades
Never heard of it. Sounds stupid.
This makes me so happy that I was able to find love outside of dating apps.
Found my husband on one, but it’s so rare. Lol.
Sameeeeee
Lmao since I was born and raised here in Austin, I’m probably gonna see some of the same cringey people I’ve seen on tinder here too. 😂 I have it set as man seeking men, and i see trans women, non binary people, trans men, etc. Idk how tf do just see guys. Tinder pushing their woke crap on me.
Some Trans women will put themselves in as men so as to avoid straight guys who are not into trans women. Some put themselves in as women so as to snag a man who is basically straight but also into trans women. The Tinder where you only see guys I guess would be Grindr.
You MUST be "pansexual" or else you're a BIGOT and a PHOBE. Lmaooo
@@HontasFarmer80 Apparently even non-men have infiltrated Grindr
@@HontasFarmer80 But Grindr is seriously just a hookup app while Tinder is that and also used for serious dating.
@@phangirlable tinder never seemed the place to find serious relationships to me LOL
My wife has had several lesbians try and push themselves on her bc “no one is entirely straight”
Bruh 😭
I'm so sick of that being pushed on everyone. She obviously knows what she likes being she's MARRIED. Goodness..
Ahhh, the pushy lesbian. Yeah. Whenever that has happened to me, I looked them straight in the eyes & stated "I ride d1ck, not pu5Sy" and then walked away.
Yess!! Like if you're straight then you're lying! Then if you say the same thing to them and say no one is entirely gay then they get offended and claim how dare you say that. Double standards
as a queer girl myself, you have my permission to slap the absolute 💩 out of them for violating your wife's standards.