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Stop rolling your eyes and dismissing me when I tell you something is important to me. Treat me like I matter to you, like you value me. When I speak to you, dont scroll through your phone to imply you want me to shut up and go away. Then I won't resent you.
Sex is supposed to be one of the final bricks when building the pyramid, the base needs to be safe, supportive and sturdy beforehand, in order for the relationship to sustain you need to build a foundation that isn’t made of sex basically
Sex is directly proportional to relationship satisfaction for both genders. Look it up. The happiest couples have sex 3+ times per week, which intuitively makes sense, since in the honeymoon phase younger people usually go at it 3 times a day if they can. Even if you're a bit older 3+ times per week should be healthy and desirable. My greatest yardstick in gaging how well my relationship is going is sex. It naturally slows down a bit after the 3-6 month mark, but anything more than that outside of medical emergencies is usually an indicator that your partner is upset about something and isn't communicating properly about it. However, it should be understood that these are averages. You can have a healthy, satisfying relationships with less, or more sex. Sex will naturally slow down with age, starting around 40. I shoot for 7-10 times per week at 26 and that seems to be healthy and sustainable for me and my partners. If there are sexual mismatches it is perfectly normal and ok to go look for someone who better matches your sexual tempo.
Alright now you are getting to the heart of the matter. I have this issue, brought about by an illness. Medical treatment puts me in menopause, which causes sex to be painful. What was once an amazing sex life there's not really much happening there anymore. 😢 I'm doing therapies and medicine to try to make it better. ❤
And usually there already often having sex with someone else 💯 there just waiting for the 3rd party to commit for they can leave you. #theCovertNarcissist #TrueStory
I’ve noticed this has already started to happen with my husband and I and we’ve barely been married 4 years. He’s gained a lot of weight and I feel so guilty saying I’m not that attracted to him anymore but I can’t help it, I’m just not. I still love him for his personality but our sex is just not the same when I’m not as attracted to him as I used to be. :(
@@jingleballs9935 I mean I have tried to but I just say it in a joking manner, I’ve never flat out told him I’m not that attracted to him anymore. He knows he needs to work out he’s just low on time because of his job and motivation.
@@farcyde2948 Yes I’ve let him know he’s not in shape and he knows it too. I don’t sound serious though when I say it, we’ve always made fun of each other since we started dating so it’s hard for me to be serious about that kind of thing. And I go to the gym frequently and I’m naturally skinny but he’s low on time and he gains weight easily.
I don't feel sexual attraction for my husband. His desire and persistence had convinced me to date him. I do have resentment. I realized I had no boundaries. I didn't have any agency over my life. I had not discussed values and dreams before getting deep into it. I have sexual hang-ups. I thought he was the only man who would ever love me. He had almost died. For some reason, that convinced me to marry. My fear gripped me. I stopped having sex with him and asked for a divorce. Because he should feel the love I couldn't give him. I feel guilt and shame about it.
@madmonk0 We all do. God's love and forgiveness aren't enough to save my marriage. He is happier without me as a wife. He already had a young, attractive girlfriend. He has more time to connect with himself and his friendships.
@@jeverett1769 I'm the big forest troll! Who is they? Marriage is for life, if you think otherwise you will end up in these crazy situations. Can you divorce your parents? That's ridiculous. Exactly. It should be the same with your spouse. It should sound ridiculous to divorce your spouse. That way you'll think very hard before marrying someone. She absolutely did not do the right thing. First of all, she is clearly out of the guy's league. She only dated him because of his persistence. She should not have dated the guy, let alone marry him. Don't you Americans make an oath when you get married? For better or for worse and stuff. Words have meaning.
One partner withholds sex/affection from the other as a form of passive aggressive punishment. Or due to them avoiding being direct about things that are bothering them, but withdrawing from connection with the partner. Then eventually the other gives up being the nagging needy one.
it's not always malicious. sometimes the other partn4r doesn't feel emotionally sly safe or open anymore. . .or lose respect and attraction. wife can continue to do it with a guy out of duty... but that will eventually actually give her an aversion to said activity with him and inevitably it will decrease. cos morrow has lot on how to get back from his and did it himself... after hsi wife told him exactly that.
@@alextomlinsonif you always assume malicious intent than good luck ever having a successful relationship. It will me marked with resentment, bitterness lack fo empathy and revenge.
@@lnaph what are you talking about. You gave me a bunch of nonsense excuses and said it's not always malicious. I'm saying no matter the excuse or justification and whether it's unconscious/subconscious or not it is still passive aggression and therefore by definition it is malicious
@@alextomlinson no. It isn't nonsense I'm sorry you don't understand women. For us intimacy is connected to feeling emotionally open and safe. If she doesn't feel that it borderline would be like grape.
Is it not obvious? Resentment is a negative emotion about another person. It takes hold due to a lack of forgiveness. What is preventing the forgiveness? Is it that your partner is unaware of the issues that bother you? Things have not been addressed? If they have not been addressed, if you have not been heard or empathised with then that can prevent forgiveness. But the key is in your question. Letting go. You have to let go of your ego that is holding that resentment. You have to see that both of you are flawed humans that unintentionally disgruntle eachother. You have to see that you are no better. Once you realise that you're equally as flawed. Maybe you can see them in a good light again. Maybe you can have a positive emotional attitude towards them once again. And begin to seek out that connection in a positive way with full forgiveness and without feeling any negativity. Good luck
Yep, conflict is inevitable and if one is unwilling to engage in relationship repair then resentment builds up. If one is in a constant state of fault finding, that means they are closed off to forgiving the other person for basically anything.
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Stop rolling your eyes and dismissing me when I tell you something is important to me. Treat me like I matter to you, like you value me. When I speak to you, dont scroll through your phone to imply you want me to shut up and go away. Then I won't resent you.
The biggest attraction killer is „living together“
I think this is it .... I sometimes wonder if I’m normal to think we don’t have to be under one roof
@@tebogomagz5797I agree lmao. I rather we have different places or different rooms but the different places thing is hard in the us.
And then she tells you sex isn't an important part of the relationship
Sex is supposed to be one of the final bricks when building the pyramid, the base needs to be safe, supportive and sturdy beforehand, in order for the relationship to sustain you need to build a foundation that isn’t made of sex basically
Sex is directly proportional to relationship satisfaction for both genders. Look it up. The happiest couples have sex 3+ times per week, which intuitively makes sense, since in the honeymoon phase younger people usually go at it 3 times a day if they can.
Even if you're a bit older 3+ times per week should be healthy and desirable.
My greatest yardstick in gaging how well my relationship is going is sex. It naturally slows down a bit after the 3-6 month mark, but anything more than that outside of medical emergencies is usually an indicator that your partner is upset about something and isn't communicating properly about it. However, it should be understood that these are averages.
You can have a healthy, satisfying relationships with less, or more sex. Sex will naturally slow down with age, starting around 40. I shoot for 7-10 times per week at 26 and that seems to be healthy and sustainable for me and my partners. If there are sexual mismatches it is perfectly normal and ok to go look for someone who better matches your sexual tempo.
Wish I could love these videos, although he hasn't personally coached me. These videos have helped me so much.
Yup
Had to get out of that relationship
Alright now you are getting to the heart of the matter. I have this issue, brought about by an illness. Medical treatment puts me in menopause, which causes sex to be painful. What was once an amazing sex life there's not really much happening there anymore. 😢
I'm doing therapies and medicine to try to make it better. ❤
Lube doesn't help? You should still please ur man regularly.
And usually there already often having sex with someone else 💯 there just waiting for the 3rd party to commit for they can leave you. #theCovertNarcissist #TrueStory
I’ve noticed this has already started to happen with my husband and I and we’ve barely been married 4 years. He’s gained a lot of weight and I feel so guilty saying I’m not that attracted to him anymore but I can’t help it, I’m just not. I still love him for his personality but our sex is just not the same when I’m not as attracted to him as I used to be. :(
Tell him this lol. Literally talk to him. He’s a man he will understand and try for u.
Just tell him to go to the gym. If ur a beginner go with him at an hour where the gym is less busy...
Welp might as well cheat now lol
@@jingleballs9935 I mean I have tried to but I just say it in a joking manner, I’ve never flat out told him I’m not that attracted to him anymore. He knows he needs to work out he’s just low on time because of his job and motivation.
@@farcyde2948 Yes I’ve let him know he’s not in shape and he knows it too. I don’t sound serious though when I say it, we’ve always made fun of each other since we started dating so it’s hard for me to be serious about that kind of thing. And I go to the gym frequently and I’m naturally skinny but he’s low on time and he gains weight easily.
I don't feel sexual attraction for my husband. His desire and persistence had convinced me to date him. I do have resentment. I realized I had no boundaries. I didn't have any agency over my life. I had not discussed values and dreams before getting deep into it. I have sexual hang-ups. I thought he was the only man who would ever love me. He had almost died. For some reason, that convinced me to marry. My fear gripped me. I stopped having sex with him and asked for a divorce. Because he should feel the love I couldn't give him. I feel guilt and shame about it.
You need Jesus!
@madmonk0 We all do. God's love and forgiveness aren't enough to save my marriage. He is happier without me as a wife. He already had a young, attractive girlfriend. He has more time to connect with himself and his friendships.
@@Madmatilda42 For better of for worse, in sickness and in health!
@@madmonk0can't tell if you're a troll or misguided. They did the right thing by letting him be with a better match & have a happier life
@@jeverett1769 I'm the big forest troll!
Who is they?
Marriage is for life, if you think otherwise you will end up in these crazy situations. Can you divorce your parents? That's ridiculous. Exactly. It should be the same with your spouse. It should sound ridiculous to divorce your spouse. That way you'll think very hard before marrying someone.
She absolutely did not do the right thing. First of all, she is clearly out of the guy's league. She only dated him because of his persistence. She should not have dated the guy, let alone marry him. Don't you Americans make an oath when you get married? For better or for worse and stuff. Words have meaning.
This is me and my boyfriend...
No way 😂😂😂 not a problem here sir
Where can I find this entire video?
If you're just sharing the same space, just leave.
Even his dress pants have holes.
I have was having sex almost daily when I almost got divorced
One partner withholds sex/affection from the other as a form of passive aggressive punishment. Or due to them avoiding being direct about things that are bothering them, but withdrawing from connection with the partner. Then eventually the other gives up being the nagging needy one.
it's not always malicious. sometimes the other partn4r doesn't feel emotionally sly safe or open anymore. . .or lose respect and attraction. wife can continue to do it with a guy out of duty... but that will eventually actually give her an aversion to said activity with him and inevitably it will decrease. cos morrow has lot on how to get back from his and did it himself... after hsi wife told him exactly that.
@@lnaph of course it is. It may not be conscious and intentional but it's always malicious
@@alextomlinsonif you always assume malicious intent than good luck ever having a successful relationship. It will me marked with resentment, bitterness lack fo empathy and revenge.
@@lnaph what are you talking about. You gave me a bunch of nonsense excuses and said it's not always malicious. I'm saying no matter the excuse or justification and whether it's unconscious/subconscious or not it is still passive aggression and therefore by definition it is malicious
@@alextomlinson no. It isn't nonsense I'm sorry you don't understand women. For us intimacy is connected to feeling emotionally open and safe. If she doesn't feel that it borderline would be like grape.
Is there a follow up to how to let go of resentment and how to start having sex again? 😂 asking for a friend
Is it not obvious? Resentment is a negative emotion about another person. It takes hold due to a lack of forgiveness. What is preventing the forgiveness? Is it that your partner is unaware of the issues that bother you? Things have not been addressed? If they have not been addressed, if you have not been heard or empathised with then that can prevent forgiveness. But the key is in your question. Letting go. You have to let go of your ego that is holding that resentment. You have to see that both of you are flawed humans that unintentionally disgruntle eachother. You have to see that you are no better. Once you realise that you're equally as flawed. Maybe you can see them in a good light again. Maybe you can have a positive emotional attitude towards them once again. And begin to seek out that connection in a positive way with full forgiveness and without feeling any negativity. Good luck
nope, the ability not to forgive is why relationships fail, plain n simple
it'd a little more complicated than that
Yep, conflict is inevitable and if one is unwilling to engage in relationship repair then resentment builds up. If one is in a constant state of fault finding, that means they are closed off to forgiving the other person for basically anything.
and the Mindset of Woman thinking we can read her Mind, hello when men are in Stress Our socials skills converge to zero
it's all about communication and honesty. don't bottle emotions and it won't lead to building regret.
Eh I need a new ex girlfriend.
lmfao.
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