There are thousands if not millions of females out there boys... They can come and go.. focus on your purpose and goals but also open your heart for relationships that can never touch your progress negatively
That's when you tell her "Thanks, but I'm not looking for more friends. I want a romantic partner." Be bold and confident to tell her exactly what you want. Best case, she'll give you a shot right then and there. Worst case, she says no thanks and then you saved yourself (and her) a ton of time. Or, if you do want to be friends, turn her into a wing woman and tell her to hook you up with her attractive friends. Good luck fellas.
Asking for her friends is a bit chasing and needy behavior, if you are a high value man you should have options and therefore wouldn't settle for all the leftover options someone else gave you
@01iverQueen I think you misunderstood. Telling her in a bold but playful way to hook you up with her attractive friends says a lot about you. 1 - You don't settle for something less than you want. (Makes her respect you) 2 - You're clear about your intentions, and back them up with congruent behavior. (Makes her realize that you mean what you say, and makes her trust/respect you even more) 3 - If she was the least bit attracted to you, she now knows she's going to be watching from the sidelines as a friend while you're with other women. (Calling her bluff is bold, and makes her at least a little bit jealous/getting FOMO, if she liked you at all) All that to say is you're a man in control of his own destiny, and you don't take any BS from women. If she doesn't want to be part of that success in some way, there will be plenty of attractive and fun women who gladly will. It's your job as a man to seek them out. I wish you well.
@@NG813 idk man it might be just our different views. I see what you mean but for me it looks like, oh I'm desperate so if I can't get you, give me alternatives at least, and since you ask HER instead of choosing yourself this is needy behavior, I like to be nonchalant about it, hold my pride and walk away as it is the strongest move by any man. Your first point even proves my view. Also being clear about your intentions, feelings is not good because women are generally attracted to you when they don't know your intentions and you keep leaving them wondering about you, you are a mystery to them. When they know your intentions that's it, you're no longer a puzzle and they stop chasing you, lose attraction to you. This is proven by others and by own personal experience as well. Third point well I'd say women are generally abundant af and these days they have more abundance than men so if you are not her BF and just went on a date with her or tried that and he rejected you she will forget about you in like 10 min usually and go to IG, snap or tinder or whatever other validation, attention seeking platform they use
One hint that you're wasting your time is if after every conversation or interaction with her, you feel a state of confusion as to how you feel about her feelings towards you. High interest women make it known that they're ready to make things happen "yesterday". Don't waste time on low interest girls.
Yeah, but how often does a girl make it known that she wants you? I can count the number of times that's happened on one hand, and none of them were above a 3 except one, and she broke my heart. Messed me up for years.
She likes you but is not attracted to you = she doesn't like you 😆...but she likes the gits and free meals she can get from you 😆 and also she'll talk to you about how Chad and Ty treat her like shit ( but enjoys that )....my lads, go focus on yourselves and reach your peak, be your best self ....
I used to like this girl and she always invited me over but not without a fifth of Hennessy and when I would get there. It was always a family member that was hanging out or some gay guy or gay girl, a transgender, it was always somebody around and never just me and her, the good thing is towards the end. I was able to tell her that the liquor store just closed or I didn't have the money this week and one day she invited me over and asked her over the phone if anyone else would be there and she said her brother was cooking out. I told her I would be there in about 45 minutes and never talked to her or saw her again and that was 2 yrs ago. Her name was jazz and what a bunch of jazz she was. I can just imagine who she's suckering today, at least it's not me
So true. I saw a girl for three years who didn't want to get serious, yet at the same time wanted me to be accessible when it was convenient for her. Then one day I respected myself enough to tell her this wasnt working and why.
@@titanmode3888 I gave a girl the summer because she kept saying she was busy with work and it would slow down around october. I was busy with work as well and still went on a date here and there with other girls. The point here though is to not put too much faith in any of these girls. They don't give a shit about you, don't give a shit about them.
What’s funny is when you ghost them and move on they come crawling to you suddenly wanting all the things you offered her before you finally moved on and get upset that you’re over it lol I swear some females just want dudes to be their little personal butlers that carry their bags and drool over them but never be happy with anyone
Why would you ghost her? she's done nothing wrong. It would be you who wants more she isn't obliged to. Act like an adult and appreciate you have a friend. If you can't handle that then act like a child and ignore her because you can't handle it.
@@Zx-hl1xm Has that ever actually happened to you? I've never once in my life been rejected by a girl, then either ignored her or treated her like a normal girl and had her suddenly become interested in me. Not once.
Once she tells me she likes me but doesn't want anything serious, that is when I tell her this is meaningless and I am going to move on and I cannot be her friend. Then I walk away, not another word nor glance.
@@abbz23 Would you want to stick around with someone that you want to be allot more than "just friends" with as only a friend, or would you move on too? Also, it will show her that you are never going to be an orbiter. Also, it very well might get her to think about me allot more and maybe even want me as more than "just a friend".
@@nickolaszissimos1189 I don't know be cause things like that Take time I have said il give it a year I'm on 6 months now and see how it goes I can remove feelings for a friend if I wanted too it will hurt but I can do it.. I have a friend who's a guy n I am friend zoned by him lol
Just get yourself another woman and you'll see how much she regrets it and will be non- stop calling/texting to the point of becoming a toxic pest.. I don't know why woman do this to themselves, when all of a sudden a guy they rejected or were playing too hard to get with him, that he becomes lucky to get himself into a new relationship with another girl that gave him a chance, and this other woman starts losing it as she is seeing you happy on your social media pictures with your new girl and she's losing her mind with comparing herself (on the looks dept.) with your New GF..🍷😂👌
I call it the Other Person's Toy Syndrome. I saw it in kindergarten. I'd play with a unused toy car then all of sudden other cunts would want to play with it.
Exactly what happened to me. I admit I was too blind to see that a female kept me in the friendzone but got SO pissed if I associated with another woman. Then I met my (now wife) and when I introduced the 2 at my mother's memorial service guess who was too petty to even shake hands. Hint: It wasn't my wife lol. Later I find out the reason why she friendzone'd me was because I had my s*** together (Great job, my own place, car, father to my kids) and she was still working on herself and thought that she wouldn't be able to bring anything to the table. I told her communication is the key and all she had to do was talk to me. We could have worked on her end TOGETHER.
@@KHAOE1, sounds like you handled it well, and it turned out even better. I'm sure there was some heartache along the way for you, but remember yours was temporary - hers will be forever, now. 🤷
@roycewalters2752 yeah she's reminded all the time by her family about "The one she let get away". We still stay in touch but she said she will always regret that. All because she was not used to guys like me. She said she was intimidated which shocked me.
@@mrconfusion87 how often does any woman make a good wing person? If a woman stumps for you the other women will usually wonder: if he is so great why isn’t the wing woman with that guy? Guy doing this (wing man for woman ) usually is g-a-y
@@oscarperez5539 I've heard of him and I've checked out a few of his videos but imo fitxfearless is the g.o.a.t. Check him out and you'll see what im talking about
It's easy. When ladies don't want to date you but still contact you, they want to friendzone you as a backup guy (for lunch, dinner, social event or ego boost). If their looks or waistline ever suddenly go south horribly, they think you will be there for them because you're such a standup guy. She don't want you to enjoy the main course but will give you leftovers. You can be a friend if you want but don't wait around for her. Not ever gonna happen. Move on.
@@abbz23 Fair point but remember that only handsome &/or wealthy yet sleazy, smarmy guys play those games. That's only a fraction of the male population who can get away with such despicable scheming. Ladies have all the power & leverage in the relationship. Any ladies are guaranteed to get a date or phone number from any guys they ask. They just won't admit it. It doesn't work the other way around with guys (unless they're the aforementioned types). Thus, ladies can always manipulate guys to become their backup guys because they can, either subconsciously ("You're such a great guy....any girl would be lucky to have you....etc") or purposely by leading them on with sporadic dates & public appearances at social events which her dates cancelled at the last minute or she couldn't procure a date. Guys are that easily manipulated. This is not to say all ladies are manipulative or controlling but that their actions & behavior betrays them.
I graduated college with a med degree a good paying job i’m 35, have a car, a place to live, good health very athletic, I’m 5’5” 141 lbs, confident, extrovert. I’ve been single 12 years i have nothing to worry about 🤷🏼♂️
One won’t even waste their time playing these games and mental gymnastics. If you respect yourself, there’s only one decision and that’s to move on without a single thought of emotion or second guessing. Stand firm and that in turn will make your conviction of your decision intact.
Yup, went thru that myself. Everything seemed fine when I talked to her and all of that but one little thing was off, she always talked to me differently than other people. Then we both said we liked each other and went out on dates and dated for a month, and then I asked her what her intentions of dating me was because I was putting in most of if not all of the effort, and she said “idk just to have fun.” Never incorporated me in her future, not like “I can’t wait to spend the summer together” or anything. Not even like “idk have fun not and maybe build something.” In her “breaking up” bs she said it was too serious too soon. She’d only reach out first when I was the only one available to talk to or if she needed something, and I let her do that shit for a month. And it was never serious, when we were out in public she seemed to want to avoid me as much as possible. I ask her to do something like play a game and she’d be like “nah” but right away would do it with her friends. Never really asked how I was doing or anything. Then she got mad and said I needed validation we were dating too much and that was because it didn’t feel like we were even dating, she never put in an effort to even make it seem like we were together. Truly sickening, know your self worth fellas.
You should ask yourself what she did in the meantime. During you wait. If she did nothing, okay good. Otherwise you were option B and shouldn’t settle for that
She likes you but she’s seen someone else but she still wants you around to give her reassurance and gifts and all that that entails while she gives you nothing , at that point tell her that you don’t needs any friends that you already got enough friends and leave
That third one... I call it the "Bradley Cooper" test. Any time a woman says something which doesnt sound like it's the two of you moving forward together... ask yourself, would she say that to someone like Bradley Cooper? Like if Bradley Cooper showed interest in her, would she tell HIM that she isnt ready for a relationship, or that she "Needs time to heal"? If not... then you know where you stand with her. Then ask yourself, "Why is she saying this to me?" Examine, assess and then fix. So that the next one doesnt say the same thing. Yes, I understand that there are some women somewhere, who arent into Bradley Cooper specifically, but try not to get hung up on semantics here. If not him, then a guy who matches his qualities and attributes.
It makes sense, but most of the hottest girls I know and see are with the most average or below average guys imaginable. It makes absolutely no sense. Especially if you're an above average guy who they rejected, only to then get with said below average guy. It's like turning down a new Ferrari for an '89 Honda Civic.
@@fuzzypanda1684 because those girls had their fun and settled for those guys because they are comfortable knowing they wouldnt be playing games with them and give them the princess treatment. I dated a hot girl like that and it was a wholesome time we had but it was just that wholesome, she wasnt attracted to me on a primal level she just saw me as a safe guy and she was talking about kids and marriage on the 2nd date. Meanwhile i found out she was sexually active with multiple guys not long before me so that killed the vibe, had i not been informed of that i would of been another one of those average guys with a hot girl but i couldnt look at her the same way after that.
@@Eriecartel Haha nooooo. There's no way the girls I've seen have had their fun and are looking to settle down. Most of them are either in high school or college, the precise years when girls WANT to have fun
@@fuzzypanda1684 thats a safer bet then because they havent been heartbroken if its their first love, its still a hit and miss though sometimes shit hits the fan for those couples later on in life
There is no such thing as liking, but not being attracted to lmao. This is the type of bs women create to not hurt your feelings, be all inclusive whatever. Translation is: you weren't good enough for her and that's that
Actually going thru this a second time, same gal. We made plans to go out three times now, and she has blown me off every time. In last three weeks, because of this, I haven't said 5 words to her since. FTS. Too much to do to waste for a woman.
I dedicated a lot of time to making this girl smile, but all she did was read my messages without responding. She used to respond, but then she stopped. After a few months, I decided to move on and stop wasting my energy on someone who didn't care about my well-being. Then, she messaged me when she saw me with a friend, assuming I was dating her, and asked if the friend was just a friend. I replied, questioning why she cared after ghosting me. She claimed she never ghosted anyone and was just going through a lot, then asked if I could come over later. I responded with laugh emojis and left her message unopened on Snapchat. It's funny how girls suddenly become interested in a guy when they see him with someone else, isn't it, boys? Karma is a bitch🤦♂️
She knows what she's talking about, I'm so done when it comes to women like this but I gotta not let it get to me and keep trying and move on and let the woman go 😄😊😄😊 saves me my time, energy, and effort
Sadly I Lost My Gf😢 I Lost Her In A Car Accident And Now Im Just Trying To Fix My Mental Health And Girls In My Class Are Just Terrible😢 They Keep Fuckin' Around And Its Not Funny But They Still Laugh At Me Because I Lost My Love❤
Most of us are just unattractive guys that hardly get any women at all and the ones we do get are desperate women that are just settling. It sucks to be average.
tgis true the girl i recently got was obly because she had a kid n eas looking for a step dad n i thought i was gonna pick up the mess which i was going for that n she waw attrative i can tell if she didn’t have a kid ik for a fact she wouldn’t give a chance
guys, you just really need to figure these things out for yourself because a girl giving you perspectives from her own unique perspective isn’t going to really tell you anything other than you’re gonna hear the same thing from various different people, you need to learn how to identify these things and nip them right in the ass, right there, the more time you give to people who put you in the friends zone the more time you’re wasting on top of that big is their head up a lot. I’m speaking from experience, there was one girl I was absolutely in love with, and she friend zoned me for years, but i started to ignore her requests and just stop giving her as much time in general she started to lose her mind and did things to get me to notice her again, like actually coming to my house uninvited, ect, You’d be surprised what reverse psychology can help you maintain or achieve
She called me for a booty call but she was so wasted I ended up taking care of her because she honestly hit her head when she fell. She got mad that I didn't want to sleep with her. I did really like her I explained that I just didn't feel comfortable taking advantage of a woman like that. Now she won't talk to me 😂
So youre talking about 98% of the women's population, the reason she puts you in the friendzone. Is bc she don't see any value in you, and that she's to scared to tell you to your face. Trust me, if you ain't good looking, have a reliable car, have lots of money, and have a house. You're pretty much invaluable to them, and women asks us why they're still single. So stay strong, and don't cave in. All they are, is Inconsiderate people in this day in age.
When you play with the feelings of people who are really serious about you, then rest assured that the woman will get worse in return in the future. That's the belief I've always remembered
I spent over a yr with a gal like that. Everytime I mentioned I'm looking for more than a "friend", then she wants to get together for dinner and a movie. Then says nothing more
I'd rather just not have a friend that's a girl unless I'm attempting to date them. You'll know within a couple weeks if she is into you. If she doesn't want to hangout yall definitely arent "friends" and more importantly she doesn't want to be w you lol
Well, it must be me... I've not had a date in around 8 months, no relationship in 18 months and no sexual contact (including a kiss) for around 24 months. I struggle but I would say I'm nice, thoughtful, workout, loyal, put in effort, take on their problems to help find a solution or encourage them to hit goals, drive an alright car, have an okay job (I save about 15-20% of it per month Yet no girl continues chatting, makes eye contact... Pretty much uses me for comfort or safety net then cut me off almost suddenly worn no reason or a cheap cop out answer.
I was minding my own business and she starts flirting and even winks at me , when I asked her out she said "no relationship now" and that she would give me a chance just not now
I've experienced it. It means she likes you enough to keep you around as her plan B if she doesn't find someone else. She likes the attention and validation that you give her but you're too nice for her to be in a relationship with you. She disregards your feelings and wants as a friend but as soon a she sees you talking to other girls she's instantly jealous and gives you attention until you stop talking to them. She likes you enough not to want you to go in a relationship with someone else but not enough to to date you herself.
@@Nothing-kz9pj Very well said. And yep, it happens a LOT. We're all good enough to string along, but should be smart enough not to allow it. She can be okay with having the best of both worlds while she allows us none. That is when we need to make it become none for both.
Translation: You don’t have enough money, you’re not shredded enough, you don’t have good D or it’s too small for her, you don’t give her a perfect mix of telling her what she wants to hear and what she needs to hear, you don’t have enough going on in your life. Lastly you’re not like her father figure and if she doesn’t have one you’re not going ghost on her enough.😂 OR she’s just for the streets.
maybe this is the answer i always looking for. Maybe i talk too much that i lose her that lets my tears go down. But as always its ok to let down sometimes but you need to move forward, time well tell who will respect and love you completely on your efforts and belief. Sometimes i talk too much but this time i learned so much about being mysterious is better than talkative about something.
Holy shit. I do know of someone who told me that... It's hard to make a friend out of someone by lying and not admitting they are looking for a relationship just not with you but can we still be friends - maturity matters and if they're actually willing to be friends and be more likely to support you and healthy relationships instead of feeling how we get a cock block anybody becomes around because what you said about being interested in amy relationships
I was friendzoned a lot in my late teens/early 20s, and I knew I was and I knew there was nothing I could do, but that little stupid hope borne of a complete lack of self esteem kept me coming back on the off chance she'd get knocked in the head and somehow decide I was the great guy I imagined myself to be. I wish I'd had the self awareness and self control to just walk away from them all. There's no need to say anything, to tell them anything, just leave it. They won't be that affected by it and neither will you.
everything went well for these 3 months then her energy was a turnaround instead of wanting something to i don't want a relationship now and wanna work on myself
Very hard too do but can be done i had too learn 🤷 gotta just go with the flow easier said then done but gotta get that mentality of not expecting much.
Is there anything weird about me just wanting a good close friendship with a girl ? I’ve been close with 4 friends over the past 5 years and we’ve never argued or been in a fight with one another and they’ve genuinely changed my life, I doubt I could find the same happiness I have around them then if I were to instead turn all my attention and time to someone who I might not be able to make up for if things go a little sour one day. I’m just simply asking because my friends are the best things in my life, I couldn’t live without them and I’m not sure it’s even worth going out of my way for a girlfriend when I just don’t care at the moment about those kinds of relationships
i spent 6 and 1/2 months in a talking stage with this one girl from my school, i was being so patient because i knew she wasn’t sensitive and i spark the question of actually wanting to start a relationship and i got hard declined but she still wanted to waste my time and still be in a talking stage. did i do something wrong?
I have a coworker who’s constantly checking up on me. When we work on projects together it’s very funny and flirty. But I did tell her early on, that women with kids are no go for me. she understands that, and we keep on jerking around anyway, but it does stop short of anything more serious.
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There are thousands if not millions of females out there boys... They can come and go.. focus on your purpose and goals but also open your heart for relationships that can never touch your progress negatively
Most of these tips are usually from the western culture. We as guys are tired and going to the south east asian countries 😅
im not open for that all my life. maybe ill offer her a business to increase my connections.
Bro said there are thousands if not millions of females- dude there are approximately 4 billion females
sorry but im clueless and dense like an ice cube
@@random22453 😂
Ladies, please be straight forward and let the guy down right away.
Hahahahaha.
I’m laughing and crying at the same time
Dam , I just tatted her name
@@nict5828Wilding🤣🤣
@@jamesrumer7935
I'm laughing and crying at your comment 🤣 😢
That's when you tell her "Thanks, but I'm not looking for more friends. I want a romantic partner." Be bold and confident to tell her exactly what you want. Best case, she'll give you a shot right then and there. Worst case, she says no thanks and then you saved yourself (and her) a ton of time.
Or, if you do want to be friends, turn her into a wing woman and tell her to hook you up with her attractive friends.
Good luck fellas.
Asking for her friends is a bit chasing and needy behavior, if you are a high value man you should have options and therefore wouldn't settle for all the leftover options someone else gave you
@01iverQueen I think you misunderstood. Telling her in a bold but playful way to hook you up with her attractive friends says a lot about you.
1 - You don't settle for something less than you want. (Makes her respect you)
2 - You're clear about your intentions, and back them up with congruent behavior. (Makes her realize that you mean what you say, and makes her trust/respect you even more)
3 - If she was the least bit attracted to you, she now knows she's going to be watching from the sidelines as a friend while you're with other women. (Calling her bluff is bold, and makes her at least a little bit jealous/getting FOMO, if she liked you at all)
All that to say is you're a man in control of his own destiny, and you don't take any BS from women. If she doesn't want to be part of that success in some way, there will be plenty of attractive and fun women who gladly will. It's your job as a man to seek them out.
I wish you well.
@@NG813 idk man it might be just our different views. I see what you mean but for me it looks like, oh I'm desperate so if I can't get you, give me alternatives at least, and since you ask HER instead of choosing yourself this is needy behavior, I like to be nonchalant about it, hold my pride and walk away as it is the strongest move by any man. Your first point even proves my view. Also being clear about your intentions, feelings is not good because women are generally attracted to you when they don't know your intentions and you keep leaving them wondering about you, you are a mystery to them. When they know your intentions that's it, you're no longer a puzzle and they stop chasing you, lose attraction to you. This is proven by others and by own personal experience as well. Third point well I'd say women are generally abundant af and these days they have more abundance than men so if you are not her BF and just went on a date with her or tried that and he rejected you she will forget about you in like 10 min usually and go to IG, snap or tinder or whatever other validation, attention seeking platform they use
Or toss her a couple bucks and never see her again after your done. 😎
Why even do that? Just go the other way don't even give her any more of your time
“I’m not looking for a relationship”
*ALWAYS MEANS*
“I’m not looking for a relationship with *YOU* “
One hint that you're wasting your time is if after every conversation or interaction with her, you feel a state of confusion as to how you feel about her feelings towards you. High interest women make it known that they're ready to make things happen "yesterday". Don't waste time on low interest girls.
Yeah, but how often does a girl make it known that she wants you? I can count the number of times that's happened on one hand, and none of them were above a 3 except one, and she broke my heart. Messed me up for years.
She likes you but is not attracted to you = she doesn't like you 😆...but she likes the gits and free meals she can get from you 😆 and also she'll talk to you about how Chad and Ty treat her like shit ( but enjoys that )....my lads, go focus on yourselves and reach your peak, be your best self ....
I used to like this girl and she always invited me over but not without a fifth of Hennessy and when I would get there. It was always a family member that was hanging out or some gay guy or gay girl, a transgender, it was always somebody around and never just me and her, the good thing is towards the end. I was able to tell her that the liquor store just closed or I didn't have the money this week and one day she invited me over and asked her over the phone if anyone else would be there and she said her brother was cooking out. I told her I would be there in about 45 minutes and never talked to her or saw her again and that was 2 yrs ago. Her name was jazz and what a bunch of jazz she was. I can just imagine who she's suckering today, at least it's not me
She’s not interested in you + loves you like a brother = friend zoned
She like you as friend, but not romatically interested to date you.
@awangkuhafiz8569 that's the friend zone no doubt it sucks
So true. I saw a girl for three years who didn't want to get serious, yet at the same time wanted me to be accessible when it was convenient for her. Then one day I respected myself enough to tell her this wasnt working and why.
So what happened?
3 years? That’s a lot of wasted time
@@grasscutter88 Curious as well
@@titanmode3888 I gave a girl the summer because she kept saying she was busy with work and it would slow down around october. I was busy with work as well and still went on a date here and there with other girls. The point here though is to not put too much faith in any of these girls. They don't give a shit about you, don't give a shit about them.
Three years !!!! Really , u crazy !!
If she does any of these things, ghost her like she's Casper. Ain't nobody got time for that.
or dont give extra attention ggive her attention of a normal girl and she ll become intrested
What’s funny is when you ghost them and move on they come crawling to you suddenly wanting all the things you offered her before you finally moved on and get upset that you’re over it lol I swear some females just want dudes to be their little personal butlers that carry their bags and drool over them but never be happy with anyone
Why would you ghost her? she's done nothing wrong. It would be you who wants more she isn't obliged to. Act like an adult and appreciate you have a friend. If you can't handle that then act like a child and ignore her because you can't handle it.
@@Zx-hl1xm Has that ever actually happened to you? I've never once in my life been rejected by a girl, then either ignored her or treated her like a normal girl and had her suddenly become interested in me. Not once.
Some people in fact do❤
Once she tells me she likes me but doesn't want anything serious, that is when I tell her this is meaningless and I am going to move on and I cannot be her friend. Then I walk away, not another word nor glance.
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Why can't u Just be friends or is that too hard
@@abbz23 Would you want to stick around with someone that you want to be allot more than "just friends" with as only a friend, or would you move on too? Also, it will show her that you are never going to be an orbiter. Also, it very well might get her to think about me allot more and maybe even want me as more than "just a friend".
@@nickolaszissimos1189 I don't know be cause things like that Take time I have said il give it a year I'm on 6 months now and see how it goes I can remove feelings for a friend if I wanted too it will hurt but I can do it.. I have a friend who's a guy n I am friend zoned by him lol
How long were u friends for in the first place lol
Just get yourself another woman and you'll see how much she regrets it and will be non- stop calling/texting to the point of becoming a toxic pest..
I don't know why woman do this to themselves, when all of a sudden a guy they rejected or were playing too hard to get with him, that he becomes lucky to get himself into a new relationship with another girl that gave him a chance, and this other woman starts losing it as she is seeing you happy on your social media pictures with your new girl and she's losing her mind with comparing herself (on the looks dept.) with your New GF..🍷😂👌
I call it the Other Person's Toy Syndrome.
I saw it in kindergarten. I'd play with a unused toy car then all of sudden other cunts would want to play with it.
Exactly what happened to me. I admit I was too blind to see that a female kept me in the friendzone but got SO pissed if I associated with another woman. Then I met my (now wife) and when I introduced the 2 at my mother's memorial service guess who was too petty to even shake hands. Hint: It wasn't my wife lol. Later I find out the reason why she friendzone'd me was because I had my s*** together (Great job, my own place, car, father to my kids) and she was still working on herself and thought that she wouldn't be able to bring anything to the table. I told her communication is the key and all she had to do was talk to me. We could have worked on her end TOGETHER.
@@KHAOE1, sounds like you handled it well, and it turned out even better. I'm sure there was some heartache along the way for you, but remember yours was temporary - hers will be forever, now. 🤷
@roycewalters2752 yeah she's reminded all the time by her family about "The one she let get away". We still stay in touch but she said she will always regret that. All because she was not used to guys like me. She said she was intimidated which shocked me.
Preselection and group think are hard wired into women
Her: "I just want to be frien..."
You, interupting: "Aquaintances, we're just aquaintances."
Then Walk Away.
Psalms 119:164
Seven times a day do I praise thee because of thy righteous judgments.
Cut them lose. She puts you in the friendzone... put her in the permanent "goodbye zone!"
Unless you want a platonic woman friend who you think makes a good "Wing Girl" that is! 🤣🤣🤣
@@mrconfusion87 how often does any woman make a good wing person? If a woman stumps for you the other women will usually wonder: if he is so great why isn’t the wing woman with that guy?
Guy doing this (wing man for woman ) usually is g-a-y
If a woman doesn't want anything to do with you is a blessing in disguise
Agreed. It's a shame I didn't have someone telling me this when I was in my Early 20s
I married my friend zone girl. If she likes you, it means you’re already halfway there don’t give up.
I needed to hear that cheers!
hmm...i am boy and i am in the opposite sitution 😅 pls someone help me get out off it😅
99% of comments give up after 3 sentences lol. Goodjob
Trust your gut feelings and dont give up
She married you because she had no better option, you are still option B and her safenet watch out on signs, am not saying but she might cheat
High-school me would have really needed this advice
Literally, she thinks you arent good enough for her body.
Good way to put it. If I'm not good enough for her body, she's not good enough for my attention.
And Also in the 80% of the times they overrated themselves 😁
And unfortunately, in this modern age, you have fat, out of shape girls who for some reason think they're hot.
@@kyoza1911 she doesn’t think she ‘feels’ but yes this is really what it boils down to
This women actually knows well about relationships, listen to her to save your time guys
It’s like she’s actually telling you what not to do 😂
This same thing happened to me for months
Lol nah watch fitxfearless instead, he's legit asf. Remember don't ask the fishes how to catch fishes, always ask the fishermen
@@SamsungGalaxy-ib7dy Johnanthonylifestyles
@@oscarperez5539 I've heard of him and I've checked out a few of his videos but imo fitxfearless is the g.o.a.t. Check him out and you'll see what im talking about
It's easy. When ladies don't want to date you but still contact you, they want to friendzone you as a backup guy (for lunch, dinner, social event or ego boost). If their looks or waistline ever suddenly go south horribly, they think you will be there for them because you're such a standup guy. She don't want you to enjoy the main course but will give you leftovers. You can be a friend if you want but don't wait around for her. Not ever gonna happen. Move on.
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What if it's the other way around the man does this lol
@@abbz23 Fair point but remember that only handsome &/or wealthy yet sleazy, smarmy guys play those games. That's only a fraction of the male population who can get away with such despicable scheming.
Ladies have all the power & leverage in the relationship. Any ladies are guaranteed to get a date or phone number from any guys they ask. They just won't admit it. It doesn't work the other way around with guys (unless they're the aforementioned types). Thus, ladies can always manipulate guys to become their backup guys because they can, either subconsciously ("You're such a great guy....any girl would be lucky to have you....etc") or purposely by leading them on with sporadic dates & public appearances at social events which her dates cancelled at the last minute or she couldn't procure a date. Guys are that easily manipulated. This is not to say all ladies are manipulative or controlling but that their actions & behavior betrays them.
@@huenhuan2103 when u say ladies have the power not in my world I have none the men take over sad but yeah I do agree tis easier for women lol
I graduated college with a med degree a good paying job i’m 35, have a car, a place to live, good health very athletic, I’m 5’5” 141 lbs, confident, extrovert. I’ve been single 12 years i have nothing to worry about 🤷🏼♂️
They always come back when they are 30 lbs heavier or after they had a baby
Not that I'd take them at that point, but I've literally never had that happen.
I used to set a dates, the girl would say yes and just cancelate at the last hour
Tell me you replied "thanks for saving me some money!"😆
@@R.Sole88109 that would a great response😅
@@Luis-cr1tw
I'm glad you like it, legend👍🏻
I’m gonna try this next time it happens to me
Oh yeah, that's kinda SOP these days.
Gotta ghost these types of girls, your mental health is worth way more than
A validation vampire !
One won’t even waste their time playing these games and mental gymnastics. If you respect yourself, there’s only one decision and that’s to move on without a single thought of emotion or second guessing. Stand firm and that in turn will make your conviction of your decision intact.
Yup, went thru that myself. Everything seemed fine when I talked to her and all of that but one little thing was off, she always talked to me differently than other people. Then we both said we liked each other and went out on dates and dated for a month, and then I asked her what her intentions of dating me was because I was putting in most of if not all of the effort, and she said “idk just to have fun.” Never incorporated me in her future, not like “I can’t wait to spend the summer together” or anything. Not even like “idk have fun not and maybe build something.” In her “breaking up” bs she said it was too serious too soon. She’d only reach out first when I was the only one available to talk to or if she needed something, and I let her do that shit for a month. And it was never serious, when we were out in public she seemed to want to avoid me as much as possible. I ask her to do something like play a game and she’d be like “nah” but right away would do it with her friends. Never really asked how I was doing or anything. Then she got mad and said I needed validation we were dating too much and that was because it didn’t feel like we were even dating, she never put in an effort to even make it seem like we were together. Truly sickening, know your self worth fellas.
I got mine this way lol. She was worth the wait
You should ask yourself what she did in the meantime. During you wait. If she did nothing, okay good. Otherwise you were option B and shouldn’t settle for that
She likes you but she’s seen someone else but she still wants you around to give her reassurance and gifts and all that that entails while she gives you nothing , at that point tell her that you don’t needs any friends that you already got enough friends and leave
men don't be in the friend zone , women are not your friend
That third one... I call it the "Bradley Cooper" test. Any time a woman says something which doesnt sound like it's the two of you moving forward together... ask yourself, would she say that to someone like Bradley Cooper?
Like if Bradley Cooper showed interest in her, would she tell HIM that she isnt ready for a relationship, or that she "Needs time to heal"? If not... then you know where you stand with her. Then ask yourself, "Why is she saying this to me?" Examine, assess and then fix. So that the next one doesnt say the same thing.
Yes, I understand that there are some women somewhere, who arent into Bradley Cooper specifically, but try not to get hung up on semantics here. If not him, then a guy who matches his qualities and attributes.
Lol Bradley Cooper is a funny example. I the point though
It makes sense, but most of the hottest girls I know and see are with the most average or below average guys imaginable. It makes absolutely no sense. Especially if you're an above average guy who they rejected, only to then get with said below average guy. It's like turning down a new Ferrari for an '89 Honda Civic.
@@fuzzypanda1684 because those girls had their fun and settled for those guys because they are comfortable knowing they wouldnt be playing games with them and give them the princess treatment. I dated a hot girl like that and it was a wholesome time we had but it was just that wholesome, she wasnt attracted to me on a primal level she just saw me as a safe guy and she was talking about kids and marriage on the 2nd date. Meanwhile i found out she was sexually active with multiple guys not long before me so that killed the vibe, had i not been informed of that i would of been another one of those average guys with a hot girl but i couldnt look at her the same way after that.
@@Eriecartel Haha nooooo. There's no way the girls I've seen have had their fun and are looking to settle down. Most of them are either in high school or college, the precise years when girls WANT to have fun
@@fuzzypanda1684 thats a safer bet then because they havent been heartbroken if its their first love, its still a hit and miss though sometimes shit hits the fan for those couples later on in life
There is no such thing as liking, but not being attracted to lmao. This is the type of bs women create to not hurt your feelings, be all inclusive whatever. Translation is: you weren't good enough for her and that's that
Actually going thru this a second time, same gal. We made plans to go out three times now, and she has blown me off every time. In last three weeks, because of this, I haven't said 5 words to her since. FTS. Too much to do to waste for a woman.
I dedicated a lot of time to making this girl smile, but all she did was read my messages without responding. She used to respond, but then she stopped. After a few months, I decided to move on and stop wasting my energy on someone who didn't care about my well-being. Then, she messaged me when she saw me with a friend, assuming I was dating her, and asked if the friend was just a friend. I replied, questioning why she cared after ghosting me. She claimed she never ghosted anyone and was just going through a lot, then asked if I could come over later. I responded with laugh emojis and left her message unopened on Snapchat. It's funny how girls suddenly become interested in a guy when they see him with someone else, isn't it, boys? Karma is a bitch🤦♂️
They dont want to be lonely.
Jealousy is a bitch trait good on you for nor feeding her fomo of you.
This is exactly my current situation,its the cold hard truth and you are hearing it from this woman.
"Focusing on herself" 😂😂😂 That is the most told lie by women. They can never be without company.
Tbf tho I do say this and I mean it 🤣
The fact is she liked me first we went on several dates and then it just sort of faded away and I can’t stop thinking about her
Great advice!
She knows what she's talking about, I'm so done when it comes to women like this but I gotta not let it get to me and keep trying and move on and let the woman go 😄😊😄😊 saves me my time, energy, and effort
Sadly I Lost My Gf😢
I Lost Her In A Car Accident And Now Im Just Trying To Fix My Mental Health
And Girls In My Class Are Just Terrible😢
They Keep Fuckin' Around And Its Not Funny But They Still Laugh At Me Because I Lost My Love❤
So I Might Not Be Able To Find Another One
Most of us are just unattractive guys that hardly get any women at all and the ones we do get are desperate women that are just settling. It sucks to be average.
tgis true the girl i recently got was obly because she had a kid n eas looking for a step dad n i thought i was gonna pick up the mess which i was going for that
n she waw attrative i can tell if she didn’t have a kid ik for a fact she wouldn’t give a chance
She basically will emotionally use you. Peace
guys, you just really need to figure these things out for yourself because a girl giving you perspectives from her own unique perspective isn’t going to really tell you anything other than you’re gonna hear the same thing from various different people, you need to learn how to identify these things and nip them right in the ass, right there, the more time you give to people who put you in the friends zone the more time you’re wasting on top of that big is their head up a lot. I’m speaking from experience, there was one girl I was absolutely in love with, and she friend zoned me for years, but i started to ignore her requests and just stop giving her as much time in general she started to lose her mind and did things to get me to notice her again, like actually coming to my house uninvited, ect, You’d be surprised what reverse psychology can help you maintain or achieve
Thank you thank you thank you you're the best
finding love is not always so easy but it's never impossible to have relationships with others .
She is basically a narcissist, its simple, if she doesn't reciprocate, dont duplicate. There is a million girls out there.
Just because there are millions of girls out there doesn't mean any of them are interested in you.
Please stop chucking out labels like narcissist and bipolar...
This has really opened my eyes
She called me for a booty call but she was so wasted I ended up taking care of her because she honestly hit her head when she fell. She got mad that I didn't want to sleep with her. I did really like her I explained that I just didn't feel comfortable taking advantage of a woman like that. Now she won't talk to me 😂
You prob dodged a bullet. Could’ve been up on a rape case in the worst case scenario
Yep, somehow that's probably "toxic" behavior too!!! 🤦
I just rejected the one girl because of the second reason today… i was in tears today
So youre talking about 98% of the women's population, the reason she puts you in the friendzone. Is bc she don't see any value in you, and that she's to scared to tell you to your face.
Trust me, if you ain't good looking, have a reliable car, have lots of money, and have a house. You're pretty much invaluable to them, and women asks us why they're still single.
So stay strong, and don't cave in. All they are, is Inconsiderate people in this day in age.
I've never dealt with this mainly because I wait until those feelings wither away and die then I just forget about it
When you play with the feelings of people who are really serious about you, then rest assured that the woman will get worse in return in the future. That's the belief I've always remembered
Thank you.. she definitely likes me but not more than a friend!!
Good thing this only lasted for a week.. time to focus on new targets!
Not sure how to DM but Dates please god Dates Dates, I'm not good at this at all
Probably copied from IG or something. You could look her up over there. I don't think there's any DM here on YT.
Thanks for explanation!
Really helped to me at least
Single 49 & gave up a long time ago.
افا 😢
Truth...wisdom! Thank you!
This is all after she’s hooked up with you and many others that you’re just finding out about.
damn...this is accurate. I'm literally going through this right now.
That's me
I spent over a yr with a gal like that. Everytime I mentioned I'm looking for more than a "friend", then she wants to get together for dinner and a movie. Then says nothing more
Guys, do not simp, and never allow her to place you in her friend zone.
Are we being a toxic masculine entity again?? How do you propose you do that?
You're a sweetheart for caring 💕
I'd rather just not have a friend that's a girl unless I'm attempting to date them. You'll know within a couple weeks if she is into you. If she doesn't want to hangout yall definitely arent "friends" and more importantly she doesn't want to be w you lol
Well, it must be me... I've not had a date in around 8 months, no relationship in 18 months and no sexual contact (including a kiss) for around 24 months. I struggle but I would say I'm nice, thoughtful, workout, loyal, put in effort, take on their problems to help find a solution or encourage them to hit goals, drive an alright car, have an okay job (I save about 15-20% of it per month
Yet no girl continues chatting, makes eye contact... Pretty much uses me for comfort or safety net then cut me off almost suddenly worn no reason or a cheap cop out answer.
I was minding my own business and she starts flirting and even winks at me , when I asked her out she said "no relationship now" and that she would give me a chance just not now
Wtf does it mean that she liked you but she’s not attracted to you
It means she has too many guys chase her but you have a change for a hook up at least
I've experienced it. It means she likes you enough to keep you around as her plan B if she doesn't find someone else. She likes the attention and validation that you give her but you're too nice for her to be in a relationship with you. She disregards your feelings and wants as a friend but as soon a she sees you talking to other girls she's instantly jealous and gives you attention until you stop talking to them. She likes you enough not to want you to go in a relationship with someone else but not enough to to date you herself.
@@Nothing-kz9pj Very well said. And yep, it happens a LOT. We're all good enough to string along, but should be smart enough not to allow it. She can be okay with having the best of both worlds while she allows us none. That is when we need to make it become none for both.
@@Nothing-kz9pj hit the nail on the head mate
100% accurate information !!!!!
I'm facing this shit
I've been there n are u still facing it now
I am as we speak
Move on
Same 3 signs i put them in the delete block zone
I call it the Block Delete Zone
If your not sticking your” girl friend” she ain’t yo friend and ya best step away!!!
This thing was truely helpful
Translation: You don’t have enough money, you’re not shredded enough, you don’t have good D or it’s too small for her, you don’t give her a perfect mix of telling her what she wants to hear and what she needs to hear, you don’t have enough going on in your life. Lastly you’re not like her father figure and if she doesn’t have one you’re not going ghost on her enough.😂 OR she’s just for the streets.
Pretty spot on
Protect her at all cost.
Definitely need more women like you ... Even tho its outrageous that men have to hear this shit from a female😂
maybe this is the answer i always looking for. Maybe i talk too much that i lose her that lets my tears go down. But as always its ok to let down sometimes but you need to move forward, time well tell who will respect and love you completely on your efforts and belief. Sometimes i talk too much but this time i learned so much about being mysterious is better than talkative about something.
Means, don’t dump those types of woman… move along, let them hit wall.
I needed this. Thank you so much 😊
Somehow I needed to hear this thanks
No issues being in the friend zone. Those relationships tend to stand the test of time.
Idk why but I honestly never really needed advice from situations like that, I know from the jump if a woman is playing games or not
Thank you for coming by you look prettier in person especially on the bus
I can say from experience this is accurate advice
U r the best councilor.. I like your tips.. It's helpful for me
Proverbs 17:27
He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit.
Yep, just went through every word of this… imagine if men were like this with girls…
Holy shit. I do know of someone who told me that... It's hard to make a friend out of someone by lying and not admitting they are looking for a relationship just not with you but can we still be friends - maturity matters and if they're actually willing to be friends and be more likely to support you and healthy relationships instead of feeling how we get a cock block anybody becomes around because what you said about being interested in amy relationships
I was friendzoned a lot in my late teens/early 20s, and I knew I was and I knew there was nothing I could do, but that little stupid hope borne of a complete lack of self esteem kept me coming back on the off chance she'd get knocked in the head and somehow decide I was the great guy I imagined myself to be.
I wish I'd had the self awareness and self control to just walk away from them all. There's no need to say anything, to tell them anything, just leave it. They won't be that affected by it and neither will you.
Thank the lord I was not going crazy lol this is so true. These videos me so much
I've never had that problem..thanks 😉
Anything is possible in the end !
everything went well for these 3 months then her energy was a turnaround instead of wanting something to i don't want a relationship now and wanna work on myself
Very hard too do but can be done i had too learn 🤷 gotta just go with the flow easier said then done but gotta get that mentality of not expecting much.
Is there anything weird about me just wanting a good close friendship with a girl ? I’ve been close with 4 friends over the past 5 years and we’ve never argued or been in a fight with one another and they’ve genuinely changed my life, I doubt I could find the same happiness I have around them then if I were to instead turn all my attention and time to someone who I might not be able to make up for if things go a little sour one day. I’m just simply asking because my friends are the best things in my life, I couldn’t live without them and I’m not sure it’s even worth going out of my way for a girlfriend when I just don’t care at the moment about those kinds of relationships
So glad I'm in my fifties now and all the game-playing years are over
Excellent advice.
i spent 6 and 1/2 months in a talking stage with this one girl from my school, i was being so patient because i knew she wasn’t sensitive and i spark the question of actually wanting to start a relationship and i got hard declined but she still wanted to waste my time and still be in a talking stage. did i do something wrong?
Stay single, its less hassle 😊
This is a major issue in Toronto
I have a coworker who’s constantly checking up on me. When we work on projects together it’s very funny and flirty. But I did tell her early on, that women with kids are no go for me. she understands that, and we keep on jerking around anyway, but it does stop short of anything more serious.