Wow, Stacey. People are making some incredibly rude and insensitive comments regarding your story and the life you and your family have chosen to pursue. Let it be known, Stacey here doesn’t have to explain herself. She owes nothing. To the people on blast, who made you god? Does your life experience matter more than hers? Are you perfectly navigating the complexities of life? If your comments do not offer encouragement, sit on your hands. If you choose to attack her for her story, don’t watch the video. Be mindful of others who choose to fight for their marriages post affair. Let people choose to do what they believe is best without condemnation, whether it be to stay, separate, or divorce. All paths forward from an affair are brutal. The least we can do is be supportive and encouraging for those who are trying to move forward with their lives.
As a betrayed spouse, I wholly agree. It's sickening really to read those things. Not only for those who strayed,, but for those of us on the other end working through recovery, especially when staying. It has a chilling effect and makes it harder to heal and find community in this.
I would rather a person not be called an affair 'partner', as they are not your partner, but someone else's. Affair person or limerant object has less of a sting. Thank u for all u do Stacy. Your podcasts have helped & continue to help me so much.
I can say as a betrayed spouse life gets way better after divorcing a cheating wife. It may hurt at first but always improves in every aspect. Especially in the relationship domain in which you are free to satisfy your sexual needs and free to choose someone who shows commitment,loyalty, honer and respect for your partnership.
@@staceychenevert you are right some men want to fix something that they didnt broke. But as a father i wouldnt want my son or daughter to be a doormat and trade their self respect and dignity by staying with someone who doesnt show honor, commitment and loyalty.
That is understandable but my children dont see it that way. They see a love that conquers all and the power of god to heal and restore. And that is what i want them to know, @luisenamorado2703
@@staceychenevert Understandable you are christian and I am not. Different upbrings could be, i was raised to love hard and be loyal but at the same time have zero tolerance for disrespect. And in a marriage cheating is the greatest form of evil, disrespect and selfishness. Total break of the vows. I think that by staying,since my wife wanted reconciliation, i would have taught them that one can cheat and still get away with it without consequences.
@@luisenamorado2703i understand your feelings sir. Recovering from betrayal is the hardest to do. Its been more than a year since we agreed to settle the issue but i can still feel the pain and anger the same as ever. My confidence and self worth is damage and i know only God can heal me.
You never loved him!!you believed his lies,his reasonings,meanwhile you lost your family for a piece of garbage. You gave it all up for a feeling,.He or she was more important than your spouse, your parents,your children, your god,.Someone you barely know,makes sense😢
Actually, I did love him and it's wrong for you today what someone else is feeling, there is no way for you to know that. So maybe stop dismissing other peoples feelings and that will help you have better relationships. God forgave me and restored my marriage so I was blessed to not have loss my family. God is no respecter of person if he did it for me he will do it for others.
@@reyeshernandez5720 I would not like it but if he wanted to work on the marriage I would be willing to do that. Im not going to let go without a fight. I signed up for better or worse.
@@reyeshernandez5720 Because I realized that I wanted to be with my husband more and that just because I didn't feel "in love" with my husband didn't mean the marriage was over. And I knew that my ap and I would not make it because he was not sent by God so God is not obligated to bless the relationship. Besides that, our core wounds and unhealthy coping skills would have driven us apart at some point. I choose to follow peace instead of my feelings.
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Wow, Stacey. People are making some incredibly rude and insensitive comments regarding your story and the life you and your family have chosen to pursue. Let it be known, Stacey here doesn’t have to explain herself. She owes nothing. To the people on blast, who made you god? Does your life experience matter more than hers? Are you perfectly navigating the complexities of life? If your comments do not offer encouragement, sit on your hands. If you choose to attack her for her story, don’t watch the video. Be mindful of others who choose to fight for their marriages post affair. Let people choose to do what they believe is best without condemnation, whether it be to stay, separate, or divorce. All paths forward from an affair are brutal. The least we can do is be supportive and encouraging for those who are trying to move forward with their lives.
Yes people are full of opinions and judgments about moving on after infidelity. But thank you so much for your kind words. I appericate it!
As a betrayed spouse, I wholly agree. It's sickening really to read those things. Not only for those who strayed,, but for those of us on the other end working through recovery, especially when staying. It has a chilling effect and makes it harder to heal and find community in this.
@@mclazerz8931 good on you! Stay the course
I would rather a person not be called an affair 'partner', as they are not your partner, but someone else's. Affair person or limerant object has less of a sting. Thank u for all u do Stacy. Your podcasts have helped & continue to help me so much.
Welcome
You can stay together even after a betrayal but the relationship will ALWAYS be stained!!
I must disagree our marriage is better now. If you don't know how to forgive it will be stained
I can say as a betrayed spouse life gets way better after divorcing a cheating wife. It may hurt at first but always improves in every aspect. Especially in the relationship domain in which you are free to satisfy your sexual needs and free to choose someone who shows commitment,loyalty, honer and respect for your partnership.
That's great for you but not everyone wants to end their marriage. Divorce doesn't have to be an option.
@@staceychenevert you are right some men want to fix something that they didnt broke. But as a father i wouldnt want my son or daughter to be a doormat and trade their self respect and dignity by staying with someone who doesnt show honor, commitment and loyalty.
That is understandable but my children dont see it that way. They see a love that conquers all and the power of god to heal and restore. And that is what i want them to know, @luisenamorado2703
@@staceychenevert Understandable you are christian and I am not. Different upbrings could be, i was raised to love hard and be loyal but at the same time have zero tolerance for disrespect. And in a marriage cheating is the greatest form of evil, disrespect and selfishness. Total break of the vows. I think that by staying,since my wife wanted reconciliation, i would have taught them that one can cheat and still get away with it without consequences.
@@luisenamorado2703i understand your feelings sir. Recovering from betrayal is the hardest to do. Its been more than a year since we agreed to settle the issue but i can still feel the pain and anger the same as ever. My confidence and self worth is damage and i know only God can heal me.
what if he works with her?
It's still possible
Maam, how long did it take you to completely move on with your feeling for your affair partner?
It5 took me about 3 years because I didnt know how to stop thinking about him
@@staceychenevert thanks for the info maam.
So me right now. It’s tough.
Im so sorry Iknow its hard.
I don’t understand why your husband stayed. There is not that much love in existence.
Love is not just a feeling, Love never fails!!
Because her husband was an affair partner as well.
Because he's a low value low self esteemed simp.That's why
Yes😂😂😂@@bigo6154
He loves the kids more than you, You moved from first place to last place in his heart.
You never loved him!!you believed his lies,his reasonings,meanwhile you lost your family for a piece of garbage. You gave it all up for a feeling,.He or she was more important than your spouse, your parents,your children, your god,.Someone you barely know,makes sense😢
Actually, I did love him and it's wrong for you today what someone else is feeling, there is no way for you to know that. So maybe stop dismissing other peoples feelings and that will help you have better relationships. God forgave me and restored my marriage so I was blessed to not have loss my family. God is no respecter of person if he did it for me he will do it for others.
How would you feel if you're husband loved someone else?would you be ok with it?
If you loved him ,then why are you not with him?
@@reyeshernandez5720 I would not like it but if he wanted to work on the marriage I would be willing to do that. Im not going to let go without a fight. I signed up for better or worse.
@@reyeshernandez5720 Because I realized that I wanted to be with my husband more and that just because I didn't feel "in love" with my husband didn't mean the marriage was over. And I knew that my ap and I would not make it because he was not sent by God so God is not obligated to bless the relationship. Besides that, our core wounds and unhealthy coping skills would have driven us apart at some point. I choose to follow peace instead of my feelings.
Ok