I went back to relaxers 5 years ago, after my 3rd failed (& longest) attempt to remain natural. Haven't looked back since. Sometimes I wear my hair in braid-outs or perm rod sets, but it's the ultimate convenience to be able to just air dry my hair for a few hours and pass a straightener over it 1 time and be done. No overnight drying, no gel, no brushing or even combing. I used to worry that being relaxed was a statement that I took issue with my ethnic identity but eventually learned that it's a matter of preference, for me. I don't see it as being any worse or different from a body modification. If anything, it's not as bad as others because you can just chop the relaxed hair off and start fresh if you want to.
I think what people don’t talk about is the fact that natural hair is somehow deemed inconvenient by many ppl that go back relaxed. I think it has a lot to do with ppl not accepting their hair the way it is. For some it’s just simply their hair doesn’t look the way they want it. And natural hair has a mind of its own. It’s very low maintenance if you just let it be itself. You’d comb it once a week if that. It becomes high maintenance when there are expectations for it to be a certain way.
I thought it was just me that spent hours detangling. I had been natural for 12 years and it took me about 1-2 hours just to detangle. I tried everything. I decided to get a relaxer because doing my hair started to give me anxiety because it took so long.
Finally! A South African stylist who understood and executed the assignment perfectly 👌🏽 I recently relaxed my hair (for the first time in a long time) at a salon only to have the stylist practically pluck all my hair out during the blow dry and have it all over the floor which reminded me why I stopped relaxing in the first place 😭 I'm gonna have to learn to do it myself.
Ill never go back to relaxer I get bored with straight hair fast and miss my curls 🤣 I just get a silk press when I want straight hair. This is just me and my preference, there's nothing wrong with having relaxed hair. It's literally your own personal choice
Yeah right. So why did you write this comment since you're so happy with your natural hair? You don't even wear your hair "natural". Braid outs, wigs etc are not natural. Your natural hair is not straight so why silk press since you like your natural hair so much
Yes but people don’t talk enough of cancer breast because of relaxer (even the good ones) it’s really a things in the black community and people don’t make the link with breast problem and relaxer , i stop a year ago with my twin she had something in the breast a fibroadenoma (not a cancer) and i really hope we will resist 🙏
@@susanx6782 mmm... They're not tight but they're not loose either ? Idk if that makes sense 😂 my hair is very very thick & the roots... Yeah they like that 😂😂 like when I wear my hair curly it's in a big curly pretty fro and poofs out... But like, I can't run my fingers thru it and if I shake my hair it'll get stuck from how thick it is 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I wish I had lose curls. There's probably a product that can help with my issue but yeah. No I got nappy curls lol.
@@autumn_b905 lol you're judging me off of one profile picture on RUclips 😂😂😂 if you looked at my IG or fb, I always wear my hair natrul, curly, braids, twists. I do it all bookie. Don't judge a book by its cover. That picture on my RUclips profile pic is from like 6 months ago. The last time I had a silk press & before that silk press, I think it had been a year-a year & a half.... Wow. Loud and wrong that's embarrassing.
Woooooooow!!! That was a MAN!!!! The most beautiful application technique I've ever seen. Keeps the relaxer away from the scalp for an extended period AND the hair isn't bone straight. Wow so nice!!!
Anyone looking to get a virgin relaxer needs to go to him. You can clearly see the experience through the screen he did a lovely job. His technique was everything. Favorite virgin relaxer video :-)
@@Bee0826 a virgin relaxer is when all the hair on the head is natural, whereas a non-virgin relaxer is where a relaxer has been done a portion of the hair and the new growth has to be relaxed only
To my curly head sisters: Your hair can be relaxed & STILL healthy & BEAUTIFUL! Relaxing your tresses does not represent shame of your curls! It’s what you want to do with YOUR tresses. ‼️🤍 SN: My hair was relaxed for years & soft like a newborn babies hair SERIOUSLY! After shampooing with Ions Wellness shampoo from Sally’s Step1: Rinse with really Warm water Step2: Apply coconut oil (generous amount) to soaking wet hair Step3: Apply Ion Wellness Conditioner (generous amount) massage through Step4: Rinse with really cold water (no manipulation! Just a brief rinse) Step5:Blow Dry (Warm Heat) point dryer down your hair shaft toward ends to help close cuticle! Utilize this method with any MOISTURIZING shampoo & conditioner. 🤍
My favorite part is rinsing out the relaxer ☺️. I’m going back relaxed soon. I get so many single strand knots due to having kinky curly hair. & I rarely wear my natural hair out. It’s all about preference ♥️
Yes I just took braids out of my head last weekend and washed it last night now I just have it in two French braids because I have to work this weekend
This was so soothing and relaxing to watch. I've been natural for 14 years and I'm so ready to relax again but fear is holding me back for some reason.
Same with me @Taneshia... So for naturalist scared of relaxing their hair such as you and I, I would suggest the use of texturizers. It worked for me and still working for me.
A lot of us naturals have turn back to relaxed hair. I most definitely enjoy 😉 being one of those ladies. We have embraced the different textures and I think that was good while it lasted. And have learned how to take care of our hair. Now we can experience with our other texture smooth, sleek, shiny, and most of all HEALTHY! Congrats to us All still natural and relaxed!!😌
My stylist has told me the same. A lot of people in the begining of the pandemic went natural, now Two years later has turn back to relaxed. There's nothing wrong with that!!!! It's just hair, nothing wrong with going back and forth or coloring it, or wearing it long or short....do what you wish 🥰. I found this experience has taught me It's OK to experiment with my hair and not be stuck. I was always afraid to lose length...now I don't even care anymore!!!! Because it grows back, whoooooo knewwwwww 🤣🤣🤣🤣. I was Always taught if you cut it you would die and it will never grow back ever.
Your hair looks beautiful Tshego, can't wait to see part two 🥰 I've picked up a relaxer in store so many times only to put it down again, I'm raising a 5 year old natural and she says she likes her hair the way it is, proud mom...she managed to convince me to leave it alone...for now, lol.
Thanks so much Lufuno! I am so glad your daughter is enjoying her hair! That's so precious- an experience many of us did not have growing up and a HUGE well done to you for raising her this way! You're doing amazing mommy!!!
That's my thing as well. I am natural for 4 years now but I have been bully from people close to me just because my hair doesn't behave the way society thinks is appalling, and I still don't know how to manage it, but I want my kids to grow and see the beauty our natural state and break this stereotype that society define as beautiful. On the other hand, I really want to relax it again. 🤦🏾♀️
Thank you for convincing me to relax my hair, been meaning to do it Seinfeld December I just didn’t have the guts. Also your hair dresser knows what he is doing! Your hair is beautiful 😍
This technique is everything. As someone who has relaxed her own hair in the past it makes absolutely sense. The scalp is sensitive him relaxing the top first is to avoid burning, the reverse is usually for hair that has previously been relaxed and just requires the new growth to be touched up.
Your hair is so beautiful. Personally I won’t go back to relaxers but yoh I had the most beautiful relaxed hair. To the point where some asked me if I wore weave. It was nice long and healthy until grade 12 when it got damaged lol. One thing I like about relaxers is that there is more education on how to relax your hair and take care of it. It won’t be painful like it was growing up.
Your hair is absolutely stunning Tshego! I also recently relaxed in December after a 5/6 year natural hair journey! No regrets! Can't wait to see your relaxed hair regiment.
Me either the stylist broke my hair off I was hurt all that hard work I put in to keep my hair healthy. So I went back natural wen Tia new stylist got a silk press and she gave me heat damage 🤦🏽♀️. So for now I’ve broken up with stylist and do my own hair lol. The stylist in this video was professional I haven’t had any luck in that department a lot of the stylist in my area are intimidated or get frustrated with thick 4c hair.
Going natural can be tiresome, for some women. Especially, if you have thick hair! So, I understand this lady's decision! Black people run going natural in the ground 😂!
I'm going to use all my natural hair products up first then go back to relaxers, I've been natural(big chopped as well) for a little over 2yrs too and it's too stressful now because my hair is your length. I feel like I'm constantly detangling. Thanks for sharing.
Ive been natutal for over 7 years and Im tired of it too but I like that I can work out regularly without sweating out my relaxers so I'm on the fence about returning to the creamy crack.
Honestly I find this more of a guilt trip if anything so double standards on your part. There is such a thing as technological advancement and all such things as drugs, chemicals, gadgets are a result of the above. I would like to believe you refrigerate your food, microwave it, use soaps, creams, lotions to simplify your life even though you know of all their adverse effects. The same goes for hair chemicals they are meant to simplify your life. If u are having a hard time that is. If u can manage your hair without any need for chemicals good for you who knows you might even live a thousand years but stop guilt tripping those who opt for it. Let people live, let them catch a break. Better yet it's also a style to wear your hair straight let them be. I have seen naturals coloring their hair(also chemicals) don't see nobody guilt tripping them
@@rittahsent8121 Yeah there are technological advancements and stuff. But the main thing is that black women who straighten their hair want to be like white women . If natural hair people dye their hair, they ( for the most part) aren't trying to be like Becky because they just want a different color and there's nothing really white about getting a different color. But black women try everything to get straight white women hair on their head. Most white women nowadays don't try and get an afro, even when they do color their hair.
@@whitedogsblackcats Why so many rules for black women? Why people like you can't let them be free? Other women can do whatever they want with their hair, women from different races always change their hair not only color it, but curly people who are not black straighten their hair (flat iron, keratin treatment, japanese straight etc) and people who have straight hair curl their hair (curling iron, perm rods etc), their community don't harass them constantly like you do, they let them be free. No one tell them that they want to be other people. Stop acting like we all have to think and act the same way, this is not a cult let other people be free to make their own decisions!
@whitedogsblackcats you do realize there are black people with naturally straight hair?? Ethiopian and Somalian black women can have straight hair. It's literally just about preference, our hair doesn't have to be a political statement.
@rittah sent so because people relax their hair that makes them want to be like white women???? 🙄 that is so old a statement. Nobody should make anyone feel bad if this what they want to do. It is a choice not because we want to look like white women
I don’t think it’s always about not accepting one’s hair. Natural hair can actually be time consuming. Not always easily manageable. For me, natural hair is high maintenance 🤣 and not everybody has the means to have their hair done by a professional every single time hence it becomes very time consuming if you add it to other tasks. I felt bad and went natural since 2019 because of the narrative that I don’t appreciate the 4c hair that God has blessed me with 🤣 but I realized that this couldn’t be further from my truth. The reality is, I just don’t have the luxury of time to dedicate to loving on my natural hair even though I would have loved too. Now I’m going back to the perm 🤷🏽♀️☺️ if all fails, I’ll chop it off and restart all over
I'm looking to do something different with my hair too. I have a 2 year old and a 9 month old and they keep me too busy to be fooling around with my thick, long natural hair🥴 I was thinking of cutting it into a twa but seeing your video I may try the relaxer route. I love the way your stylist put the relaxer on your ends first then went to the roots last. I've never seen this method, but it totally makes sense since there is a limited amount of time the relaxer should be on the scalp. If I go this route I hope I can find someone who is willing and able to do it right like yours. Thank you for sharing! And yes, please share tips on how to care for your relaxed hair💜
Thank you so much for stopping by, I really appreciate it!! I agree, his methodology is incredible. I’ve never had such a well managed relaxer experience and I wish this for everyone who has ever experienced relaxer anxiety. Hoping you can find someone near you if you do decide to go the relaxer route. A TWA is also quite easy to manage and you can cut and manage it yourself so both options sound great 🌸 will definitely share whatever I find useful!
@@justagirl4627 I know for me, I would love braids! But for some reason braids itch too much and I'll end up taking them out the next day. Also, my hair is almost to my butt and it is thick it'll cost so much🥴
goals, for those scared of relaxers try brazillian treatment or keratin treatment as an option. however brazillian works better on 4c hair it will give you the straightness without having to worry about the harshness that comes with relaxers. I do it once a year depending with your hair and how you want it to look it can last 4-6 months I wait 6 months and put my hair in a protective style for the remaining 6 then treat again. It's the best decision I ever made. It can be pricey to do the treatment but definitely worth it. else get your hairdresser to do home visits that way you skip paying the salon prices.
@@nishas2745 my hairdresser just calls it Brazilian blowout that's the one mostly suggested for black girl hair the keratin apparent just makes it soft and manageable but doesn't straighten. I go to partners hair design in cape town but hairdresser now comes to my house works put cheaper. Otherwise go to the salon especially the ones that work with white people mostly they're the ones who will specialize in Brazilian but make sure you work with someone who actually knows how to work with our type of hair. You don't want someone experimenting with your beautiful mane. Your hair is stunning 😍
Haha I love ur intro 😂 I recently just relaxed my hair after being natural for 5 years. I am currently 15 weeks post relaxer and you have officially tempted me to relax my hair so I can upload my results lol. But guuuurl your hair looks sooo good. Welcome to the relaxed hair club ✨✨✨
wish i could find a stylist like yours here in NY, the last person that did my hair was thereason i went natural because they over processed my hair so bad! Its about to be 5 years for me natural and huntyyy I AM OVER IT!! I'll prob just take my time and relax my hair myself! your hair came out beautiful!!
I relaxed for 10 years and struggle with hair growth so I stop relaxing and I have been 9 years natural ( still straight hair cuz I just love it ) however, this person who style did AN AMAAAAZIIIING JOB! And if I was still getting relaxer would of wanted someone like this to do it. Ps. This video was so relaxing ✨
You just came up in my recommended videos. Your hair is your business. Do whatever YOU want, but I’m here to tell you that you are one GORGEOUS young lady! ♥️
The person did a great job and your hair is gorgeous♥️.i personally would not not go back to relaxers because they burn too much and i dont know how to care of it so i just grew it out and locd it up.guess you have to jus do what works for you.
You have beautiful and healthy hair. Your hairdresser knows how to handle natural hair. I've been natural for 9 years and don't have the guts yet to relax my hair. 💓
Try keratin treatment . I also want my hair straight but not permanent as a result am considering doing a keratin treatment it gives you straight hair but after 6months the hair eventually goes back to it's natural state
But your hair was the perfect canvas for relaxing, thick, healthy and strong! I’m natural and want to go back to relaxing but my hair is currently damaged and fine so I’m going to make one last effort and nurse it back to health but after that I’m done because I don’t have a life outside this hair 😭😭
Still shocked i had to come see this when i saw your announcement on instagram 😂😂bathong but your hair still so beautiful and healthy 👌😍love it sis!!!!
For me its easy I'm hairdresser I used Rebonding cream for straightening hair and First we need to sectioning into 4 then apply the Rebonding cream in the down of hair into the top of hair soaked in 1 hour then rinse dont use conditioner or shampoo only water after that Iron the hair, it will nice and look younger hair shiny it will lasting 6months the straightening hair.
There shouldn't even be a debate. Some like natural some like textured some like relaxed etc. To each her own. I've been natural relaxed and textured for the last three years I relaxed. It's my hair and my choice however I want it to be. How am I hurting anyone else with my hair choice?
I love that she had her own blueprint of where to put the relaxer + how long + which section AND edges at the very last moment🥹 NEVER SEEN THIS METHOD🫂🫶
Please don't tempt me! I've been natural for 2 years after years relaxed. While I enjoy learning my natural hair the convenience of relaxed is drawing me in! 😳
The hair dresser did do a really good job. I noticed how she started from the ends working upwards. I just relaxed my extremely nappy 4c natural hair with the ends of my hair partially done and the roots to mid length completely relaxed! 😅 I'm wondering what I'm going to do the next time I get it done...
Haha I'm 14years relaxed... Now transitioning because I'm tired of the chemicals... Everything has its limits really... Relexed hair is nice to have until your hair starts breaking and thinning out beyond repair... Although I'm among the lucky few blessed by nature with some good hair, still doesn't repel the fact that my hair is damaged after all its been through with relaxers et al. Still I wish you all the very best in this journey sister...
Started keeping natural hair in 2012, in 2019 I chopped it all. Now my hair is 4 years old and I'm thinking of relaxing it coz I've an infant and to take care of my baby (hair lol) and infant is a big deal for me. Both need my attention of which definitely my hair is not getting much. I'm done!
I have attempted to relax my hair for like 5th times this year but every time I sit on that chair and my my Afro in the mirror I change my mind like I can’t let go of my big hair no
Thinking of relaxing ny 4c hair because of lice and its the most painful thing because I cried for 1 week straight and just broke down every second when I found out I had lice, I'm literally watching your video and I'm weeping cos it's so beautiful and I've never relaxed my hair and this is just so heartbreaking for me and I just hope i find the courage to walk into a salon without crying or breaking down
@@Greyce118 What is wrong with YOU. 1. The thread is over 1 year old. 2. I already know you are not black because theres FACTS about black hair which you'd have minimal clue about so you wouldn't have written back so hostile. Plus, reREAD slowly, unlike YOU, my comment had zero hostility towards anyone. 3. I didnt say it can _never_ happen. Clearly it CAN happen to BPeople or OP (with 4c hair) wouldn't have been considering cutting her hair off or using chemicals - assuming they didn't know what to do. Again, anyone who is black KNOWS head lice is NOT as prevalent to African type hair. The various hair products we use and our coily hair type is NOT what the critters EASILY thrive in. Lice is a way more common problem to nonB hair types. NonB parents of young kids are always complaining about the school having critter "outbreaks"🦑😬 If/WHEN it happens to a black person with (coily hair) the hygiene/environment has to be very "off" for those bugs to like/live/thrive in African type hair. Now that you're informed. Bye!
While your hair looks lovely, i would rethink using relaxers.There have been many studies that have found links between the ingredients used in relaxers and cancers that women are developing. There are other ways to have a sleek and straight style if that's desirable but I would rethink using relaxers.
After seeing the instagram post I came to YT running and for reason could not find the video 😅I love this content! You have beautiful hair ❤️. Isn’t it amazing though that our hair is soo versatile 😍😍
OMG 😳 she started at the end first.The most fragile part. I’m not a specialist but I have been relaxing for over 20 years they always start from root to the end .But everyone is different.Wouldn’t let her touch my hair I have fine strands.So it’s a no for me.The root is the most rebellious part.
Neither is correct. You're suppose to start midshaft, then quickly get the roots and work it down to the ends. As the ends are the oldest more fragile n porous and the roots process quicker than the rest due to body heat from scalp.
I went back to relaxers 5 years ago, after my 3rd failed (& longest) attempt to remain natural. Haven't looked back since. Sometimes I wear my hair in braid-outs or perm rod sets, but it's the ultimate convenience to be able to just air dry my hair for a few hours and pass a straightener over it 1 time and be done. No overnight drying, no gel, no brushing or even combing. I used to worry that being relaxed was a statement that I took issue with my ethnic identity but eventually learned that it's a matter of preference, for me. I don't see it as being any worse or different from a body modification. If anything, it's not as bad as others because you can just chop the relaxed hair off and start fresh if you want to.
Very well said! 👏🏽
I think what people don’t talk about is the fact that natural hair is somehow deemed inconvenient by many ppl that go back relaxed. I think it has a lot to do with ppl not accepting their hair the way it is. For some it’s just simply their hair doesn’t look the way they want it. And natural hair has a mind of its own. It’s very low maintenance if you just let it be itself. You’d comb it once a week if that. It becomes high maintenance when there are expectations for it to be a certain way.
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Black women and girls should be able to do whatever they want to, It's their hair and the world says nothing about it but how good it looks.
I just started back getting relaxers and I don’t regret my decision at all. I don’t miss those long hours washing and detangling my hair.
Me neither! 🌸
I love wash day! 👩🏾🦱
Been natural 6 years and I think I am going back to relaxed just tired of the natural nothing more or less my personal preference
I thought it was just me that spent hours detangling. I had been natural for 12 years and it took me about 1-2 hours just to detangle. I tried everything. I decided to get a relaxer because doing my hair started to give me anxiety because it took so long.
Finally! A South African stylist who understood and executed the assignment perfectly 👌🏽
I recently relaxed my hair (for the first time in a long time) at a salon only to have the stylist practically pluck all my hair out during the blow dry and have it all over the floor which reminded me why I stopped relaxing in the first place 😭
I'm gonna have to learn to do it myself.
Finally a hairdresser that didn’t mess up the clients hair with the relaxer 😭 She did an amazing job and your hair looks absolutely beautiful ❤️
I think it's a male stylist
@@Ehhmm YUP!!!!! I peeped that half way through the application. UHMAZING job!!
@@Littlething41 Not with all that over manipulation n excessive smoothing on certain stands. That is not good at all.
Starting at the ends of the hair, with a relaxer, that's a no no
@@TeenaDavis101 right! (social media has messed up many)
Ill never go back to relaxer I get bored with straight hair fast and miss my curls 🤣 I just get a silk press when I want straight hair. This is just me and my preference, there's nothing wrong with having relaxed hair. It's literally your own personal choice
Yeah right. So why did you write this comment since you're so happy with your natural hair? You don't even wear your hair "natural". Braid outs, wigs etc are not natural. Your natural hair is not straight so why silk press since you like your natural hair so much
Yes but people don’t talk enough of cancer breast because of relaxer (even the good ones) it’s really a things in the black community and people don’t make the link with breast problem and relaxer , i stop a year ago with my twin she had something in the breast a fibroadenoma (not a cancer) and i really hope we will resist 🙏
You must have loose curls then, my hair is low-key a huge task but well I will try heat training for now
@@susanx6782 mmm... They're not tight but they're not loose either ? Idk if that makes sense 😂 my hair is very very thick & the roots... Yeah they like that 😂😂 like when I wear my hair curly it's in a big curly pretty fro and poofs out... But like, I can't run my fingers thru it and if I shake my hair it'll get stuck from how thick it is 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I wish I had lose curls. There's probably a product that can help with my issue but yeah. No I got nappy curls lol.
@@autumn_b905 lol you're judging me off of one profile picture on RUclips 😂😂😂 if you looked at my IG or fb, I always wear my hair natrul, curly, braids, twists. I do it all bookie. Don't judge a book by its cover. That picture on my RUclips profile pic is from like 6 months ago. The last time I had a silk press & before that silk press, I think it had been a year-a year & a half.... Wow. Loud and wrong that's embarrassing.
Woooooooow!!! That was a MAN!!!! The most beautiful application technique I've ever seen. Keeps the relaxer away from the scalp for an extended period AND the hair isn't bone straight. Wow so nice!!!
You get it!!!!!!! 😮💨♥️
@@KaizenTshego Please can you tell me which relaxer he used?
Anyone looking to get a virgin relaxer needs to go to him. You can clearly see the experience through the screen he did a lovely job. His technique was everything. Favorite virgin relaxer video :-)
But who and where is he😩?
What’s the difference between a regular relaxer and a Virgin relaxer?
Who is he and where?
@@Bee0826 a virgin relaxer is when all the hair on the head is natural, whereas a non-virgin relaxer is where a relaxer has been done a portion of the hair and the new growth has to be relaxed only
He was so gentle 😍
To my curly head sisters:
Your hair can be relaxed & STILL healthy & BEAUTIFUL! Relaxing your tresses does not represent shame of your curls! It’s what you want to do with YOUR tresses. ‼️🤍
SN: My hair was relaxed for years & soft like a newborn babies hair SERIOUSLY!
After shampooing with Ions Wellness shampoo from Sally’s
Step1: Rinse with really Warm water
Step2: Apply coconut oil (generous amount) to soaking wet hair
Step3: Apply Ion Wellness Conditioner (generous amount) massage through
Step4: Rinse with really cold water (no manipulation! Just a brief rinse)
Step5:Blow Dry (Warm Heat) point dryer down your hair shaft toward ends to help close cuticle!
Utilize this method with any MOISTURIZING shampoo & conditioner. 🤍
It can't be, relaxers are carcinogenic. They're literally so bad for your body and can cause complications later in life.
Beautiful head of hair sis! Welcome to the Relaxed Hair Community :)
Thank you so much!! ♥️
😒Seriously..? Don't put her in a box.
It’s the health and the length for me chile 💁🏾♀️
Yaaasssss Chile!!!!!
My favorite part is rinsing out the relaxer ☺️. I’m going back relaxed soon. I get so many single strand knots due to having kinky curly hair. & I rarely wear my natural hair out. It’s all about preference ♥️
Hey, natural is not for everyone!
Yes I just took braids out of my head last weekend and washed it last night now I just have it in two French braids because I have to work this weekend
This was so soothing and relaxing to watch. I've been natural for 14 years and I'm so ready to relax again but fear is holding me back for some reason.
I’m so glad that you enjoyed the video. There’s absolutely no rush 😊
For me it was fear and judgment. And now I faithfully wear a silk press or braids.
Same with me @Taneshia...
So for naturalist scared of relaxing their hair such as you and I, I would suggest the use of texturizers.
It worked for me and still working for me.
This is so beautiful, I watch the video over and over again, that looks so great on you sister.
Going through the same thing been natural 12 years and want to relax but fear is holding me back
A lot of us naturals have turn back to relaxed hair. I most definitely enjoy 😉 being one of those ladies. We have embraced the different textures and I think that was good while it lasted. And have learned how to take care of our hair. Now we can experience with our other texture smooth, sleek, shiny, and most of all HEALTHY!
Congrats to us All still natural and relaxed!!😌
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
My stylist has told me the same. A lot of people in the begining of the pandemic went natural, now Two years later has turn back to relaxed. There's nothing wrong with that!!!! It's just hair, nothing wrong with going back and forth or coloring it, or wearing it long or short....do what you wish 🥰.
I found this experience has taught me It's OK to experiment with my hair and not be stuck. I was always afraid to lose length...now I don't even care anymore!!!! Because it grows back, whoooooo knewwwwww 🤣🤣🤣🤣. I was Always taught if you cut it you would die and it will never grow back ever.
17 natural, and my hair is healthy, as it was when relaxed.
Your hair looks beautiful Tshego, can't wait to see part two 🥰
I've picked up a relaxer in store so many times only to put it down again, I'm raising a 5 year old natural and she says she likes her hair the way it is, proud mom...she managed to convince me to leave it alone...for now, lol.
Thanks so much Lufuno! I am so glad your daughter is enjoying her hair! That's so precious- an experience many of us did not have growing up and a HUGE well done to you for raising her this way! You're doing amazing mommy!!!
It’s her hair don’t relax it if she doesn’t want to…just take care of it
That's my thing as well. I am natural for 4 years now but I have been bully from people close to me just because my hair doesn't behave the way society thinks is appalling, and I still don't know how to manage it, but I want my kids to grow and see the beauty our natural state and break this stereotype that society define as beautiful. On the other hand, I really want to relax it again. 🤦🏾♀️
@@luneuforever8790 Afro is the way to go
This was sooo satisfying to watch 😍 I can’t believe your growth in just 2 years! Please tell us how to take care of relaxed hair next 😂
so glad you enjoyed it! Will defs take everyone along on the journey
Thank you for convincing me to relax my hair, been meaning to do it Seinfeld December I just didn’t have the guts. Also your hair dresser knows what he is doing! Your hair is beautiful 😍
The way your hairdresser is soo patient with your hair. It's soo amazing
I know... childhood hair salon trauma taught us this is not possible!
@@KaizenTshego where is the shop and what is the name...hair looks fantastic 👏
@@KaizenTshego please share the salon details
I miss the way it feels to have a comb glide through my hair like that. Especially after a wash and condition!
The strange thing I didn’t know I missed was feeling the shape of my head 😂😂😂😂
This technique is everything. As someone who has relaxed her own hair in the past it makes absolutely sense. The scalp is sensitive him relaxing the top first is to avoid burning, the reverse is usually for hair that has previously been relaxed and just requires the new growth to be touched up.
Your hair is so beautiful. Personally I won’t go back to relaxers but yoh I had the most beautiful relaxed hair. To the point where some asked me if I wore weave. It was nice long and healthy until grade 12 when it got damaged lol. One thing I like about relaxers is that there is more education on how to relax your hair and take care of it. It won’t be painful like it was growing up.
Thank you so much! I absolutely agree!!!! Relaxed hair education has come such a long way; especially the technique.
Your hair is absolutely stunning Tshego! I also recently relaxed in December after a 5/6 year natural hair journey! No regrets! Can't wait to see your relaxed hair regiment.
Thank you Dee-Dee! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ oh wow! Congrats!!!! I also have NO regrets hey 😂😂😂 it’s the convenience for me. Will default be sharing this and more 🌸
I didn’t see him use any comb in the video,
I would be relaxing my hair next weekend and I want to do it right
So so tempted to go back to relaxers myself. I was however always prone to scalp burn and really don’t want to experience that again
Me either the stylist broke my hair off I was hurt all that hard work I put in to keep my hair healthy. So I went back natural wen Tia new stylist got a silk press and she gave me heat damage 🤦🏽♀️. So for now I’ve broken up with stylist and do my own hair lol. The stylist in this video was professional I haven’t had any luck in that department a lot of the stylist in my area are intimidated or get frustrated with thick 4c hair.
I'm natural and will always stay natural. Perms broke my hair completely off
Going natural can be tiresome, for some women. Especially, if you have thick hair! So, I understand this lady's decision! Black people run going natural in the ground 😂!
I relaxed my hair after about 10 years natural and I love it!!
I'm going to use all my natural hair products up first then go back to relaxers, I've been natural(big chopped as well) for a little over 2yrs too and it's too stressful now because my hair is your length. I feel like I'm constantly detangling. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for stopping by and all the best Kayla!
Ive been natutal for over 7 years and Im tired of it too but I like that I can work out regularly without sweating out my relaxers so I'm on the fence about returning to the creamy crack.
That's massive growth in two years 😍😍
My hair is also two years and it's 22 cm long.. I'll be relaxing it in a few days
Omg wishing you all the best!
Get it done. My favorite hair is OURS straightened. It's interesting and unique.
LMAO!! The intro!
😂🤭
It was so relaxing ❤
I pray that the future generations learn to embrace their natural hair 🙏🏽 Our hair is BEAU-TI-FUL.
Honestly I find this more of a guilt trip if anything so double standards on your part. There is such a thing as technological advancement and all such things as drugs, chemicals, gadgets are a result of the above. I would like to believe you refrigerate your food, microwave it, use soaps, creams, lotions to simplify your life even though you know of all their adverse effects. The same goes for hair chemicals they are meant to simplify your life. If u are having a hard time that is. If u can manage your hair without any need for chemicals good for you who knows you might even live a thousand years but stop guilt tripping those who opt for it. Let people live, let them catch a break. Better yet it's also a style to wear your hair straight let them be. I have seen naturals coloring their hair(also chemicals) don't see nobody guilt tripping them
@@rittahsent8121 Yeah there are technological advancements and stuff. But the main thing is that black women who straighten their hair want to be like white women . If natural hair people dye their hair, they ( for the most part) aren't trying to be like Becky because they just want a different color and there's nothing really white about getting a different color. But black women try everything to get straight white women hair on their head. Most white women nowadays don't try and get an afro, even when they do color their hair.
@@whitedogsblackcats Why so many rules for black women? Why people like you can't let them be free? Other women can do whatever they want with their hair, women from different races always change their hair not only color it, but curly people who are not black straighten their hair (flat iron, keratin treatment, japanese straight etc) and people who have straight hair curl their hair (curling iron, perm rods etc), their community don't harass them constantly like you do, they let them be free. No one tell them that they want to be other people.
Stop acting like we all have to think and act the same way, this is not a cult let other people be free to make their own decisions!
@whitedogsblackcats you do realize there are black people with naturally straight hair?? Ethiopian and Somalian black women can have straight hair. It's literally just about preference, our hair doesn't have to be a political statement.
@rittah sent so because people relax their hair that makes them want to be like white women???? 🙄 that is so old a statement. Nobody should make anyone feel bad if this what they want to do. It is a choice not because we want to look like white women
I somehow knew you were going miss realxed hair, I tried going natural but quickly went back to relaxed hair, it's more manageable
Her hair looks nice but I personally would never relax my hair again.
I don’t think it’s always about not accepting one’s hair. Natural hair can actually be time consuming. Not always easily manageable. For me, natural hair is high maintenance 🤣 and not everybody has the means to have their hair done by a professional every single time hence it becomes very time consuming if you add it to other tasks. I felt bad and went natural since 2019 because of the narrative that I don’t appreciate the 4c hair that God has blessed me with 🤣 but I realized that this couldn’t be further from my truth. The reality is, I just don’t have the luxury of time to dedicate to loving on my natural hair even though I would have loved too. Now I’m going back to the perm 🤷🏽♀️☺️ if all fails, I’ll chop it off and restart all over
I'm looking to do something different with my hair too. I have a 2 year old and a 9 month old and they keep me too busy to be fooling around with my thick, long natural hair🥴 I was thinking of cutting it into a twa but seeing your video I may try the relaxer route. I love the way your stylist put the relaxer on your ends first then went to the roots last. I've never seen this method, but it totally makes sense since there is a limited amount of time the relaxer should be on the scalp. If I go this route I hope I can find someone who is willing and able to do it right like yours. Thank you for sharing! And yes, please share tips on how to care for your relaxed hair💜
Thank you so much for stopping by, I really appreciate it!! I agree, his methodology is incredible. I’ve never had such a well managed relaxer experience and I wish this for everyone who has ever experienced relaxer anxiety. Hoping you can find someone near you if you do decide to go the relaxer route. A TWA is also quite easy to manage and you can cut and manage it yourself so both options sound great 🌸 will definitely share whatever I find useful!
Hey! Have you tried braids? They can last 3 months and are a good low maintenance protective style.
@@justagirl4627 I know for me, I would love braids! But for some reason braids itch too much and I'll end up taking them out the next day. Also, my hair is almost to my butt and it is thick it'll cost so much🥴
Same with my 2 year old and work I was thinking on a short cut but now I want a relaxer I know with my red and peek a boo black it’s gon be fire 😍
Glad you did what makes you happy! Where are you located? I need his information so I can get a relaxer in this type of environment.
goals, for those scared of relaxers try brazillian treatment or keratin treatment as an option. however brazillian works better on 4c hair it will give you the straightness without having to worry about the harshness that comes with relaxers. I do it once a year depending with your hair and how you want it to look it can last 4-6 months I wait 6 months and put my hair in a protective style for the remaining 6 then treat again. It's the best decision I ever made. It can be pricey to do the treatment but definitely worth it. else get your hairdresser to do home visits that way you skip paying the salon prices.
I agree. By the way, do you have a Brazilian treatment suggestion? Thanks in advance ☺
@@nishas2745 my hairdresser just calls it Brazilian blowout that's the one mostly suggested for black girl hair the keratin apparent just makes it soft and manageable but doesn't straighten. I go to partners hair design in cape town but hairdresser now comes to my house works put cheaper. Otherwise go to the salon especially the ones that work with white people mostly they're the ones who will specialize in Brazilian but make sure you work with someone who actually knows how to work with our type of hair. You don't want someone experimenting with your beautiful mane. Your hair is stunning 😍
@@cushielifestyle Thank you 😊
Thanks for this.
I would never do a relaxer again to my 4c hair. But they did a good job on yours 👍🏽
He did such a good job!! You’re hair looks gorgeous and full 😍😍😍
Thank you so much Shamyra
I never expected this at all when you said you have an announcement! Your hair still is 100
Thanks fave!!!
Haha I love ur intro 😂 I recently just relaxed my hair after being natural for 5 years. I am currently 15 weeks post relaxer and you have officially tempted me to relax my hair so I can upload my results lol. But guuuurl your hair looks sooo good. Welcome to the relaxed hair club ✨✨✨
Thank you so much! I’m glad you enjoyed the video 😃♥️
Pls av been meaning to ask this question, once u relaxed ur hair is no longer natural hair rite,I was told there's a relaxer for natural hair itself
wish i could find a stylist like yours here in NY, the last person that did my hair was thereason i went natural because they over processed my hair so bad! Its about to be 5 years for me natural and huntyyy I AM OVER IT!! I'll prob just take my time and relax my hair myself! your hair came out beautiful!!
I relaxed for 10 years and struggle with hair growth so I stop relaxing and I have been 9 years natural ( still straight hair cuz I just love it ) however, this person who style did AN AMAAAAZIIIING JOB! And if I was still getting relaxer would of wanted someone like this to do it. Ps. This video was so relaxing ✨
I’m so glad you enjoyed it!
You just came up in my recommended videos. Your hair is your business. Do whatever YOU want, but I’m here to tell you that you are one GORGEOUS young lady! ♥️
Thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️
Do what makes you happy girl 💗
The person did a great job and your hair is gorgeous♥️.i personally would not not go back to relaxers because they burn too much and i dont know how to care of it so i just grew it out and locd it up.guess you have to jus do what works for you.
You so gorgeous Tshego, your hair is just wow so rich and healthy❤👌
You have beautiful and healthy hair. Your hairdresser knows how to handle natural hair. I've been natural for 9 years and don't have the guts yet to relax my hair. 💓
Thank you so much!!! ♥️
Try keratin treatment . I also want my hair straight but not permanent as a result am considering doing a keratin treatment it gives you straight hair but after 6months the hair eventually goes back to it's natural state
@@I_love_science thanks, I'll give it a try as I don't want to put a relaxer yet x
@@I_love_sciencehairdresser here. Keratin is horrible for 4C hair.
@@lindyk42don’t do keratin
But your hair was the perfect canvas for relaxing, thick, healthy and strong! I’m natural and want to go back to relaxing but my hair is currently damaged and fine so I’m going to make one last effort and nurse it back to health but after that I’m done because I don’t have a life outside this hair 😭😭
OMG, you really did it! 🔥 looks beautiful.
Yes sis! Thank you!
You have such gorgeous hair dear and l love the result,welcome to the relaxed hair journey
Thank you so much 🤗
I love how she even took care of your natural hair before relaxing it
We were blessed with our hair...we have so many choices with our hair... whether natural or processed, its all beautiful!
I’m about to relax my hair again tomorrow I’ve been looking for relaxed hair channels for motivation 💗💗
Good luck!
Hairlicious or saved and fabulous are two really good ones
The way he combed your hair made me nervous. Your hair looks beautiful ❤️❤️
LOVE this application. He killed it! 👏👏👏 if I ever go back to relaxers, imma have to find him lol
Your hair 👌🏿👌🏿Thank you for sharing this process with us.
Still shocked i had to come see this when i saw your announcement on instagram 😂😂bathong but your hair still so beautiful and healthy 👌😍love it sis!!!!
Yeah I know... nobody could have predicted it lol... glad you like the change!
Amei o resultado 🌹Isso que é profissional❤
I say each to their own but I wept for your natural hair. It was genuinely nice
You truly cried over her natural hair?
@@GodsDaughterQ no. Welcome the internet.
For me its easy I'm hairdresser I used Rebonding cream for straightening hair and First we need to sectioning into 4 then apply the Rebonding cream in the down of hair into the top of hair soaked in 1 hour then rinse dont use conditioner or shampoo only water after that Iron the hair, it will nice and look younger hair shiny it will lasting 6months the straightening hair.
He’s definitely a master stylist 🔥
I've noticed so many are going back to relaxing or texlax. The natural hair community can be brutal but you just do what is best for you
8 years natural and 2 big chops in I must say I am very tempted to relax my hair
She's pretty ❤️❤️
There shouldn't even be a debate. Some like natural some like textured some like relaxed etc. To each her own. I've been natural relaxed and textured for the last three years I relaxed. It's my hair and my choice however I want it to be. How am I hurting anyone else with my hair choice?
I love that she had her own blueprint of where to put the relaxer + how long + which section AND edges at the very last moment🥹
NEVER SEEN THIS METHOD🫂🫶
That’s why perms is so addicting the easy maintenance it helps with
Please don't tempt me! I've been natural for 2 years after years relaxed. While I enjoy learning my natural hair the convenience of relaxed is drawing me in! 😳
Tell me about it
This was so relaxing to watch. Loved it.
Your hair, Your Way!!! Beautiful!
He’s so good and leave your hair looking full and healthy.
The hair dresser did do a really good job. I noticed how she started from the ends working upwards.
I just relaxed my extremely nappy 4c natural hair with the ends of my hair partially done and the roots to mid length completely relaxed! 😅 I'm wondering what I'm going to do the next time I get it done...
This is my fear in relaxing all natural 4c hair. I uduslly have to cut most of thr ends off because its not relaxed properly
@@michellemalla4365 You shouldn’t have to cut the ends off unless they are damaged. Under processed hair can be corrected.
Relaxing my hair is out of the question for me. My hair grows way too fast for me to be wasting my time and money like that again.
Haha I'm 14years relaxed... Now transitioning because I'm tired of the chemicals... Everything has its limits really... Relexed hair is nice to have until your hair starts breaking and thinning out beyond repair... Although I'm among the lucky few blessed by nature with some good hair, still doesn't repel the fact that my hair is damaged after all its been through with relaxers et al.
Still I wish you all the very best in this journey sister...
You are VERY BRAVE... i can NEVER NEVER NEVER, i say NEVER relax my hair.....
Beautiful hair , long ,healthy and strong. And your hairdresser was amazing and gentle with your hair 👍
Your hair still gorgeous ❤️
Thank you so much 😀
Started keeping natural hair in 2012, in 2019 I chopped it all. Now my hair is 4 years old and I'm thinking of relaxing it coz I've an infant and to take care of my baby (hair lol) and infant is a big deal for me. Both need my attention of which definitely my hair is not getting much. I'm done!
That stylist blow dried her hair for its life!!!! Yaaasssss
I have attempted to relax my hair for like 5th times this year but every time I sit on that chair and my my Afro in the mirror I change my mind like I can’t let go of my big hair no
Chilllllle that fro😍😍😍 i wish i had that density
My hair. My choice. Natural or relaxed.🇨🇦
Thinking of relaxing ny 4c hair because of lice and its the most painful thing because I cried for 1 week straight and just broke down every second when I found out I had lice, I'm literally watching your video and I'm weeping cos it's so beautiful and I've never relaxed my hair and this is just so heartbreaking for me and I just hope i find the courage to walk into a salon without crying or breaking down
It's NOT very common for BPeople to get head lice 🙄 You probably need to check your environment, personal grooming and tools
Please Treat your hair first and then your home if you haven’t already. Once every this clear you can proceed to get a consultation from a stylist.
@@beeznhoney4323It's not common but It can happen, what is wrong with you🙄🤮
@@Greyce118
What is wrong with YOU. 1. The thread is over 1 year old.
2. I already know you are not black because theres FACTS about black hair which you'd have minimal clue about so you wouldn't have written back so hostile. Plus, reREAD slowly, unlike YOU, my comment had zero hostility towards anyone.
3. I didnt say it can _never_ happen. Clearly it CAN happen to BPeople or OP (with 4c hair) wouldn't have been considering cutting her hair off or using chemicals - assuming they didn't know what to do. Again, anyone who is black KNOWS head lice is NOT as prevalent to African type hair. The various hair products we use and our coily hair type is NOT what the critters EASILY thrive in. Lice is a way more common problem to nonB hair types. NonB parents of young kids are always complaining about the school having critter "outbreaks"🦑😬
If/WHEN it happens to a black person with (coily hair) the hygiene/environment has to be very "off" for those bugs to like/live/thrive in African type hair. Now that you're informed. Bye!
The hair stylist was whipping that round brush! 😂😂
While your hair looks lovely, i would rethink using relaxers.There have been many studies that have found links between the ingredients used in relaxers and cancers that women are developing. There are other ways to have a sleek and straight style if that's desirable but I would rethink using relaxers.
Your hair looks amazing😍 do you mind sharing your hairdressers details, they did such an amazing job
Thank you! Unfortunately this is a salon I would not recommend :( will address it in the next video.
Would be nice if she styled it too and put into a singular underbraid.
I'm going to miss your natural hair content 💔
Beautiful hair.But I have issue with how the hair dresser was combing the wet hair. She need to be more gentle and section the hair
After seeing the instagram post I came to YT running and for reason could not find the video 😅I love this content! You have beautiful hair ❤️. Isn’t it amazing though that our hair is soo versatile 😍😍
Awww Ntsako! Thanks so much for your consistent support and love- you make this worth it!!
You made me want to relax my hair😍😋
Hahahaha that was not the intention but I am glad you enjoyed the video :)
Your hair is soooooo BEAUTIFUL 😍
Thank you!! ♥️
I'm surprised your scalp wasn't based prior to applying the relaxer 😲
OMG 😳 she started at the end first.The most fragile part. I’m not a specialist but I have been relaxing for over 20 years they always start from root to the end .But everyone is different.Wouldn’t let her touch my hair I have fine strands.So it’s a no for me.The root is the most rebellious part.
Neither is correct. You're suppose to start midshaft, then quickly get the roots and work it down to the ends. As the ends are the oldest more fragile n porous and the roots process quicker than the rest due to body heat from scalp.
You have beautiful healthy hair ❤️ can't wait for part 2.
Love the texture for sure! Worst comb to use after and before washing your hair. At least part it into smaller section.
Relax my hair yesterday after 8 years I'm happy 😊
That’s so wonderful to hear!
Where did you have your relaxer done? It was done so beautifully 😍
this is so informative and relaxing to watch
Lovely hair but he could have been more gentle when combing and blow drying your hair.