I just typed in “I hate my 22 yr old step daughter” and this is what came up. In the first few mins, she said “beat their a$$”. I LOVE IT! 🤣 Been with this man for 8+ years. My main problem is his 22 yr old demon daughter and 28 yr old heathen son LIVE with us. They moved in 2 years ago. PAY NOT A DAMN DIME. Leave all the lights on. AC units running 24/7 even when they aren’t home. I asked his daughter to turn her bedroom light out last month and all hell broke loose. She screamed and threw a tantrum for well over an hour. I can’t afford to move out bc I don’t make enough at this point to live alone. Let alone come up with the 6k I need just to move into a place. Ughs. It’s hopeless but I’ll keep praying. My man is not laid back. He’s a lunatic too. I loathe them all!
I am so sorry. Prayers for you. I am struggling too. My step daughter manipulate my husband and his ex too manipulate him. I just wanna go home in Philippines. To the home where I am happy with my families.
My adult step daughter would tell me stories about my husband's previous whorish activities. I saw through that and just really never took her seriously. I set boundaries and stopped giving the relationship with his children all of my attention. Once she told me she was shocked he married and was still married to me. I laughed. She's a baby mama. I'm a wife get on my level. Lol we had a great conversation years ago and we both apologized for everything across the board. Now I love her in my own way but I never let my guard down. Guard your heart hon.
Majority of time the kids have not been raised and one parent is lala chill and the other is an abusive narcissit then the kids in that situation start manipulating the lala chill parent ane take shit from the narcisstic one then project it onto the step parent and to the lala chill parent and cause shit.
I feel that both households have to be on the same page. Otherwise, things are going to get messy. Parents need to be on one accord so the child can respect both sides.
Man this is ME. Feels good I'm not alone but so sad... this is so wrong. My husband parents out of guilt and also he got his own mommy issues going on that he projects onto his son. They been in therapy. They got a little bit better but when mom acts abusive (usually it's neglect but he's 10 and fine playing video games), little (getting big) man wants to act psychotic at our house. And of COURSE I'm magically the abusive one even though all I've done for the past 8 years is try to protect this child from BOTH parents. I'm so over it. I got 2 kids of my own that deserves a mentally stable, happy mother!!!
Exactly the situation I ended up in...an abusive worthless drunk father and a chill mother (who I married), and inherited rude uncaring stepchildren that routinely walk all over their mother and I and their mother refuses to put her foot down and ever punish any of the kids in any way, so none of them ever learn and the BS never stops. It has gotten to the point where I am considering divorce myself, because these kids are slobs, rude and disrespectful, and too many fights have broken out due to their repeated behaviors.
I love this!!! I have a 11 year old stepdaughter, the disrespect is ridiculous & her dad is so damn soft on her bc she don’t have her Biological mother but there is no excuse for raising disrespectful children. She thinks she’s about 25 lol & Imma cud’s our my MIL too 😂 thanks for the advice!!!
Dads fall harder for their daughters but it’s definitely not an excuse for the disrespectful behavior. Stay prayed up. I hope things turn around for you and you all can have a better relationship as daughter and stepmom.
Exactly the same situation I am in but her Mum just came back after not being in her life for 6 years .. it’s even worse now ,, if I pull her up he pulls me up cause his scared she will run off to live with her mother if we pull her up when being a little shit .. been sitting here crying my eyes out wondering if I can keep living like this .. she calls me Mum (I never made her she did that herself not long after her father & I met) tells me she loves me always gives me cuddles but she can be so bloody mean
Hmmm I certainly agree. They grown cuss them out drag they raggedy ass for filth. Cuss they mama out if she comes for you. Check your husband. Protect your space. Protect your peace at all costs.
I dated a single dad. And I'll say this NEVER AGAIN!! The boyfriend Brandon was a softy every conversation was a reference of his son Roman he claim he hated his BM but all he did was talk about her. The lil boy would spend the night at my house cause he a crybaby and can't stay at his own own with his blood related aunt & uncle. The dude would wake up in the morning and kiss & hug on the boy while I had no affection He even would take his son on dates and show affection to him while I eat my food & take selfies alone. Plus the little boy had a bad attitude and smart mouth, ALSO the babymoma is a lazy deadbeat that live on assistance while having her new boyfriend & his child in her house the same house that she got rid of her demon son Roman to my boyfriend. So now my new rules are DONT DATE A SINGLE DAD AND DONT LET A CHILD COME TO MY HOUSE THAT ISNT MY RELATIVE.
I dated a few women with kids. They never brought their kids to my place and they never tried it. Not running a day care. My place is rated R and X. Kids were not allowed.
Once they turn 18 an they want to be disrespectful you through them out of the house because 2 bulls can't live in the same house,you in my home eating my food an want to run the show not under my roof.
I'm in this situation and I told my man that he son whenever I am around doesn't really wants me around and my boyfriend responded and said his son is 18 stressed about graduating and his car messed up, but that doesn't give him the right to ice me out when I'm there and you can tell that your father is happy with someone finally! I think he would be happy for his father he found someone genuinely in love with his father
My wife has 3 children. Her oldest is her 22 year old son. Me and my wife have a great relationship. My relationship with the 2 younger ones is great. However, my relationship with her son is not good. The heat between us started when I checked him for disrespecting his mother. For one thing he's spoiled rotten, with narcissistic behavior. He gets mad when he does not get his way. In the beginning, I would observe him verbally disrespecting his mother. I did not understand why she would not check him. But then I got tired of it. I approached him in a calm manner trying to tell him that he's being very disrespectful to his mother and its not right. His response was, "You both need to respect Me." After that my calm demeanor turned aggressive and I checked him in a way that it humiliated him. After that, there's been heat between us every since. Eventually his behavior led to me and his mother putting him out. He played victim, telling others that his mother cares more about me than him, which wasn't true. I do want a better relationship with him, but his way of us having a better relationship is me kissing his a**. That's not gonna happen.
Thank you ladies for this, I've been dealing with im not good, etc, etc, for over 8 years, while doing nothing. living like a prison in my own home, staying quiet just to keep the peace, I have more than a back bone, but I've had enough Great advise
Sorry to hear that you have been dealing with this for 8 years. I think it’s time for you to say something to your wife. Who wants to live like a prisoner in their own home? Who wants to live a life like that? It’s past time. If you haven’t done so already, you need to have a heart to heart with your wife and the kids. No one should live like they don’t have any say so in their own home. You are the man of the house. Now you’re at the point where you’ve had enough. This talk is way overdue. If you want your marriage, you need to make things happen right now. If they don’t want to hear what you have to say, it’s time for you to take a deep look within your soul and ask yourself some real questions. YOU have to make the decision on how you’re going to live your life. Happy or miserable! Thanks for watching and commenting. I pray things get better for you. 🙏🏽
@@tangyteaoflife7624 again, thank you, I have followed your advice, and its peaceful now, we plan to move to another state in 2 years, leaving the her two adult children on there on own, than ill really be able to breathe, my wife is very understanding, blessing to you both 😀
Im so sorry.prayers for you Sir.I am struggling to with this brat daughter that manipulate my husband.been stressed. And just wanted to go back home to Philippines.
@@tangyteaoflife7624 this is a very nice advice and comments. I wish my husband be a man in the house and not being manipulated by the daughter and ex. It’s very hard being in a house that makes you stressed. Philippines will always be my happy home.i wish i can go home soon
I was married for 27 years 3 adult children, been divorced now for 7 years from a woman that was extremely controlling, manipulative and verbally / physically abused at times. Started dating after she divorced me which was a blessing in disguise with a woman who have 3 adult children. I didn’t meet her children until much later in our relationship but when I did I found them to be stuck up, unfriendly, arrogant and extremely disrespectful for absolutely no reason! Even after all that I helped them to do and with especially her son who were in and out of trouble for the better part of his life....... after all that I did to entreat them, their disrespect was over to top. They are highly toxic people and don’t know it! I will never date another woman who have children.
I’m so grateful that my husband understands that God is first, and as his wife, I am second. His 17 year old has her mama’s ways. She has told my husband that he is a p**** whooped ass. It’s awful. I feel bad for my husband. But we just continue to pray for her.
That’s all you can do is continue to pray for her. She will wake up and realize one day the mistakes she has made by hurting her father. Wishing you all the best.
This also happens to men that become stepdads to non-biological children. This is very toxic behavior. I know in my case, the kids were not horrible and toxic. I would give chores and reward them for doing chores. I would let them go to where they would ask. UNTIL… I found out they were doing inappropriate things with money, hanging out at places they shouldn’t be, and listening to false information from the biological father. It’s not necessarily the behavior of the stepparent or stepfather; this is stepchildren creating an environment that is uncomfortable to live in.
I am so sorry to hear about everybody. I have a stepdaughter that cackles like a witch and lies and demeans me in every way and a meathead stepson who is cold and calculating and plays games with us. It’s a lonely feeling when he takes their side when l was with him for the 9 years before marriage but once he married me, I definitely felt so much relief in our relationship together instead of getting the sarcastic “girlfriend” from both his kids and Ex wife, it feels so much better that we proved to them that we rose above their evil games and manipulation
Im so sorry. I have a step daughter like that too. Im like a maid in this house. My husband that been manipulate. This 3 years in America was a crazy journey and just wanting to go back home to Philippines.
Just cussed out my 16 year old stepdaughter. Best thing I’ve done! My husband and I are black and Hispanic. My stepdaughters mother is white and my stepdaughter also passes as completely white. She has tried to treat me as the help. I cook for her when she comes over but she doesn’t even want to sit at the table with me. Constantly rolling her eyes, never says thank you, the list goes on. When I tell you I gave her the first cussing out of her life! And cussed out my husband too for not defending me. She had a Karen meltdown and tantrum then left. She and her mother know without an apology and change in behavior, she is no longer welcome in this house. Cussing out is necessary! And if you do it right, they will know not to try it again.
Wow. Sorry this had to happen. Sometimes children only act as such because someone is drilling that behavior in their head. Well, I hope she learned a lesson from all of this and the husband as well. I’m not sure how and why a parent sit back and watch this behavior go on and not say anything. I will never understand this. Do they not realize that, that child will continue to act that way towards their stepparent because their dad/mom is not stopping their rudely behavior. I pray it all works out for you all. 🙏🏽 Thanks for your comment.
He don’t ever really defend me & it hurts like crazy! Well more Mad then anything some stuff I don’t get with folks! That is your child put them in their place and the rest won’t have too SIMPLE💯✌🏽
This sounds like my situation I've been with my husband for five years and been married for two. We have a 3 yr old together and the other four of his kids are from past relationships all of them are grown except our child together and his 17 yr old daughter. Me and his 17 yr old had always had a great relationship until she started getting jealous of me and his relationship and him doing things for me but the crazy part is I've treated her like my own and have all ways went outta my way for her and did more then her own mother has done for her and included her in everything we did as a family but for some reason she started hanging around her toxic mom and started to hate me because i (destroyed her fathers relationship with her) so she say and I've explained to her time and time again I can't destroy what was already there before i came into the picture. She turned on me because of her mom getting into her head which btw she has never got along with. Now she got to the point were i thought after our fallout and we talked that we were okhay but she was like i never forgave you and I'm someone her dad just happened to marry, I'm ugly now, she hates me, I'm not her mom, she would never need me, i dont need to contact her unless its about her babysister or father, I'm second nature i can be replaced etc.....and she was very disrespectful to me over text message. So now at this point i told my husband i don't want her over in our house I don't need to see her face she's too disrespectful and she's hateful not to mention she tried to buck up at her dad because she thought she was going to come in our home and say what was on her mind to me, no mam not in this house.She can destroy and fight her mom like she does at her mamas house because I'm not the same as her mother. My husband understood but now i know he's not too happy about it but it is what is. You never burn the bridge you have to cross again and she not only crossed me once the first time i forgave her for calling me out my name several times and then did it again . Two times to many and I don't think I'm wrong for feeling how I feel of wanting no parts of her right now or having her around my child right now.
You nailed it! Now all of a sudden we always seem to get into it when he comes around and I’ve did the same tried my best! But I’ve been crossed so many times, I don’t see why I’m the blame on why he can never live here again. No one deserves to be treated badly because their dating their parent. Respect should be laid down in the beginning I’m mentally drained and I feel Totally dumb if I tell you the rest 😔🙏🏽 Some folks you just can’t help 💯
I will never understand why parents would want to turn their children against the stepparent. If that stepparent has never done anything to that child but treated them with respect, why would you try to destroy that? Because you want your ex back or you don’t want to see them happy? That is the craziest thing to me. Just move on and let that child make the decision on how they feel about that stepparent. Well, you can only do your part. If that child doesn’t give you respect, then, oh well. You tried. No one wants to deal with a disrespectful child. I pray things will get better for you and your family. Thanks for watching and leaving your comment. 🙏🏽
Remember many times the daughter and son are the mouth pieces for the mother. Your husband needs to check his bratty skid. Keep your boundaries up with that brat.
I wish i can do that in my husbands house and say i dont want her here. But im not the priority its the daughter. A daughter that manipulate him and ex manipulate him. Everything was so hard since i got in this country. Homesick,pandemic,marriage,step daughter,ex wife and more. Good thing i always ask Jesus helps.
I raised 4 stepkids to best of my ability. They are mean little suckers. They put down their mom on social media after she did all she could ... ungrateful and immature ...we made sure they did better than us. And now they they feel theyre better than us. Sad if you ask me
I’m so sorry you both are going through this. Being a stepparent is no easy task especially when the kids don’t want to do their part. You all can only do your part. You raised them and now they are grown I’m taking it from your comment. They will realize one day what you and the mother have done for them. They will come back because they will need you all for something. Just wait for it. Only thing we as parents can do is pray for our children. Thanks for watching and leaving your comment. Keep your head up!
I'm getting a divorce right now my wife daughter's are so disrespectful and my wife also disrespectful and my wife also goes against me in every situation even when people come over my wife and her daughter's company also disrespect me in my house I am done and I'm getting out of this relationship I only been married for one year and I have never in my life had a problem like this when her daughter was 14 she was dating a 25 year old need I say more!
Omg love the advice lol exactly! y'all are the first I've seen to say stand up for yourself if the step kids and your man aren't doing it...thank you! Ya you have got to be respected if you are a step parent. I don't even ask they respect me as a parent, but they better respect me as a human, as an adult that is older than them, that I am not to be walked over, they cannot walk over adults in their life just cuz their parents are soft...
Thank you for your reply Sarah. Stepparents have to make the children give them the respect they deserve. If they don’t, the children will walk all over them and that’s not good.
@@tangyteaoflife7624 and this is what happen in my life now 😞. Having a teenager step daughter is a crazy life while me being a a teenager in Philippines grow up to a strict Dad with rules.I didnt rebel i just follow rules of my Dad.
This is under my “ fiancés email “ I love this video.. he is all about his kids even when I said our relationship is the foundation ,, was told the jump “ I had a dream that I stabbed you in my I sleep”.. I’m treated as a joke 13 years later when I will never tolerate disrespect. Walked out on .. I felt you n agree my friends ❤️😇
Lol my stepkids are still teens and I will cuss them out quick. Idc idc. Have to set boundaries and if that don't work fall back. You can still fall back from your step kids and maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
That husband is weak behind those girls. It's really sad the husband refuses to put the law down on his so-grown kids. Cursing at them isn't going to work. He enjoy what's going. Hell? They disrespect him😷It's been like that. And he's not going to do anything but let the wife walk on and do what ever what they do... So what. He'll get another.... Grant you this, let another one come in. That's going to be the one that pop that bubble!!! No. She's not the (The problem) Those rachet kids been like that. Leave his ass and them gutta rats......Many blessings
I need this .10 years relationship. 2step son one hates me. He have an idea in his head he could do what ever he want to people. I told his parents I will not stand for the bad behavioral.
no mam I do not want to seat woth them in the same room without the anger coming out of me after all I sacrificed for my children..they my babies who had other agendas smh
I swear I wish I had you two as my friends. I could really use some serious advice pretty similar to this except I don’t have any kids just 2 step daughters and the oldest is the problem, the younger one is really sweet and always considerate and well mannered.
Pray and live one day at a time. If this life style is for you, you will eventually find out. Live, laugh and love life! I hope it all works out for you.
My boyfriend/the father of my two girls tells me I must be the problem if his son disrespects me and disobeys me. He tells me I need to step my foot down but when I do he tells me “don’t be telling my son nothing”. I feel like leaving him already because I feel so unappreciated and stuck and confused. I’ve been in this boys life for five years. His mom left him, she lives in a different state, she only calls when it’s near Christmas Day to ask him what he wants then never sends his gifts and goes ghost. I watch him, I cook for him, I do his laundry, take him and pick him up from school, help with hw, buy him things, etc. He ignores me, talks under his breath, gives me looks, tells me I’m not his mom. When his dad is around he will act like he’s the sweetest boy to me. I feel like leaving him........... 😞
Sometimes we have to listen to our hearts. Sometimes we have to tune everyone and everything out and listen to our hearts... go with your heart. What is it saying? Don’t live a miserable life is all I’m saying. I hope things get better for you.
Wow this is exactly what Im going through I have been Married for 6 and a half years.....I left a comment and it is very similar to you! If your not married i would leave now for real!!!!!!
Try 30 years, where his kids are 39 and 40. They do not know what I have put up with. They refuse to take their Dad off the throne. I tried to bring unity to our family. You brought very good topics, It’s they want to look like the great parent. I have finally Let it GO!
My live in boyfriend, lets his daughter insert herself in our adult conversations, defending her saying she is family she has the right to be his lawyer because I’m angry at him drinking, almost 3 times a week now until he is completely drunk and he won’t take me out on a date, or get help for his alcoholism. He defends her when she threatens to throw me out of the house, she yells at me and says I’m a nobody and I do nothing, and I’m livid, extremely hurt, devastated and resentful at him, because this 20 year old has NEVER worked a day in her life, has no plans for the future, does no chores around the house, and doesn’t even stay with him, in the hospital when he has had a heart attack. He defends this behavior from her and if I dare say anything about this or try to demand respect, I’m the villain. So yes, I have cussed them all out and I’m planning my escape, he’s not in this relationship for us, he shouldn’t be in a relationship to begin with, he struggles with loyalty to his partner of 4 years, that has carried his ass to the toilet in the hospital, that has been with him and helped him with the finances of the home and has been his rock, saying I’m not his family and his duty is to defend his biological family and let them rule the house. So yes, I’m leaving... I will not live like this anymore. He can retire now with his daughter in tow, he can take her along to the retirement home with him lol and I will live the happiness, peace and stability I desperately want in my life. I didn’t sign up to clean up after any 20 year old adult child, that hasn’t even graduated from high school yet or tolerate insults and disrespectful behavior. Sorry! Thanks for this video!!
Wow... Well, it seems as though you already know and have plans on what you need to do. We all want someone we can love and care for but that person needs to share the same feelings in return. We all deserve to live happy lives and not have to worry about stressing every single day. Live your life honey and do what’s best for YOU! May you find that peace within and start living your best life! Thanks for watching! 💕
You are not alone. My husband fights for full custody of his son and wins in 2013. His son is 17 and very disrespect around me and my 2 other kids. He makes sexual comments, taunts my kids, steals things out of our house, few other things in our home I will not mention. My husband has defended me but Very little. We have had family discussions and everything will be ok at the moment then later it starts back again. Divorce is starting to creep up into my mind now. My husband is not so objective when I had mentioned divorce. So I'm not sure our 10 year marriage will survive much longer.
I’m so sorry to hear this. No one should be disrespected by a child yet alone in their house they pay bills in! Have you guys tried counseling? Hopefully divorce will be the last resort. Try talking going to family counseling first and see how that goes. If all else fails, at least you tried. I pray everything works out for you.
Tangy Tea of Life Sad part is, we aren’t married, one day he says we’re engaged, when I don’t remember him even asking me, lol, so immature I know, the next day he says he will NEVER marry me, if I dare get upset about his constantly defending his kids at our expense. He gets irritated when I even mention the word ENGAGEMENT, like it’s the kiss of death, when in the beginning, OMG he couldn’t wait to start living together to get ENGAGED!!!! So, no worries, no divorce, I’ll just cuss them all out for the last time, pack my things and leave. Nobody deserves to live like this for 4 years, in a fake life, full of lies and broken promises, and thinking your partner has your back and wants the same things you do, when he’s nothing but a buddy to his kids and a future faker. Funny how I’m good enough to help him with the finances and running the house, but not to have any opinions, and not even good enough to marry. Runs this house like a frat house, and I’m the stupid housekeeper!
Sounds like you already know what you need to do. YOU have to be happy. God did not give us life to be unhappy and miserable. LIVE and be HAPPY!! That’s what it’s all about. Living life to the fullest!! 💕
My stepdaughter keeps disrespecting me and my husband doesn't draw the line. I'm at the point where I am ready to file for a divorce. We have 3 kids and married for 8 years.
Have you all sat down as a family and had this conversation? Have you all tried family counseling? Try options before you throw in the towel. I know it’s hard but I’m also sure you love your husband. Don’t let a child make your decision for a divorce. Look at all the options first and then make that choice to stay or leave. Even if you have to sit that child down one on one and let her know enough is ENOUGH! I pray it all works out for you. 🙏🏽
That’s what I’m going through my wife has a daughter and she disrespects grandparents and mom it ridiculous I’m bout ready to sign been dealing with this for 3yrs and my wife is laid back and I’m tired of telling her bout it.
@@brandonnichols7999 Let me just give you an update, I spoke with my stepdaughter and I asked her "what was her issue with me?" and the said none. Then I told her that I was not going to put up with the disrespect and she stop her bad behavior. The crazy thing was that she called for mother's day and she was really nice to me. I was in total shock...my advise to you is that you have a conversation with your stepchild and her parent so that they both know that they need to respect you. Then, you make your decision.
I feel I have to leave my marriage due to my wife doesn't appreciate or respect me and lies. Then her kids do not respect me either. If I leave I'm being single 4 ever! Done with women
they fake and I definitely tried for them to love me to at least treat me like a human being with feelings they always self centered smh I had so much to say I wish I could say so more..
My girlfriends daughter thinks its acceptable to threaten me with kicking me in the leg, then even kicks me in the leg when she does not get her own way or I tell her off. The mother does nothing about it, just sits there like a potted plant and lets her behave like this despite me telling both of them how much I hate this behaviour. The times I have made my dislike known there is world war three, usually me and the mother end up arguing and ignoring each other for days on end creating a bad atmosphere. Then 5min later the kid is all happy with her mother.
My step children are corrupted till this day by their angry mom , 16 year old girl, 19 year old boy. My husband has 3 kids with other women, the last woman is the mom of the 16 and 19 year old. He and I only have 1, he always said he had plenty with the others 😡
My husband and I are going through something similar with his 2 sons. Only I am not the one being disrespected as the stepmom, but my husband is. He does most of the cooking, as the kids complain about the times I have cooked. The 18 year old won't even give my cooking a chance. But they have also started complaining about their father's cooking too.When they want food from outside, they will get food from outside. They also leave lights on after me telling them time and again not to. They both raise their voice to their father when they don't get their way. The boys came to the US from Egypt with their mother almost 2 years ago( who only comes around whenever she feels like it). They have lived with us since October 2022. I don't understand why my husband puts up with the disrespect like he does but I believe that it might be he feels guilty for leaving them when he came to the US in 2016. The kids were 11 and 4 at the time. But, anyways, I have considered leaving the marriage until he can get a backbone and put his foot down to his ungrateful kids
so for me I raised them helped them get a place close to us only to be betrayed and bullied 24 years 💔 invested my heart as my own his daughter tried to deface my name and my patience. stood up yelled at me in front of the father only for me to slap her for the disrespect for the confrontation that should have never happened and just like this man layer back and didn't put his foot down to the point where his son from behind put me on a chock hold for his sister now I want to leave but where can I go when all my life I did for them.
Dealing with the same stuff only I’ve been married 36 years! My husband had 3 kids and I had 3 kids when we married. He has twin girls and one older, the twins were 18 when we got married with babies! The older daughter who had a different mother live out of state and the twin’s mother remarried and died when they were like 13. They lived with their stepdad until he remarried. My husband remarried to another woman during that time as well! All before me. I had 2 sons 14, 12 and a daughter who was 5. We had a daughter together after 2 years. Now we got 7 kids. His daughters lived with him a few months before we got married then they got their own apartment together before we married. A little struggle in the beginning but nothing I couldn’t handle, until my husband’s sister started getting jealous of my husband....her own brother’s relationship! She was having problems with hers and hated to see us doing ok. So, she went after his twins and everybody on his side of the family to make them think it was all me who was creating the problems. I met my husband on the job and I owned my own house, car, taking care of my kids by myself after my divorce. My house was giving to me by my father, so it had nothing to do with my first husband. After my husband’s sister took over my husband’s responsibilities of being a father and I was against him doing that, it’s been down hill since then. My kids love my husband because I never allowed anyone to disrespect anyone in our household! When my kids did wrong, I didn’t take up for them I made them fix their wrong! When my husband step out of boundaries I would let him know to correct the situations. Too much to write by now his adult grandkids who I help raised are showing jealousy behavior just like their twin moms and my husband’s sister! After 36 years of putting up with their shit I’m finally done! My husband never came to my defense and would tell me there’s nothing he could do about the way they behave. I worked every hard to keep this family together because we all came from broken families. I’m only 12 years older than they and my husband is 11 years older than me. He had nothing, but together we built a comfortable life style not just for us but for them too, which was never enough. I’m just done 36 years is a long time. But I had to allow the timing of God to tell me it was time to come out the storm!
I’m so sadden to hear all of this. 36 years is a very long time to spend with someone and now to call it quits, wow. All of this could have been avoided if things were handled differently from the start. How we start things off is normally how they end up. If the father wasn’t putting the kids in their places from the beginning how were things going to change? This is just sad. I’m sorry you had to go through this and even sadder to know it has come to you leaving the marriage. I pray your strength in moving on with your life. We all deserve to be happy and live a life full of joy! God did not bring us here to live life unhappy and sad. Live your life to the fullest. Thanks for watching and commenting. May God be with you and continue to bless you. Take care. 🙏🏽
Tangy Tea of Life thanks for the reply and yes things could have been a lot different in this family relationship if my husband spoke up. I’m not leaving him. He had a stroke and I’m the one who’s taking care of him. He needs me more than ever now and has anxiety if I’m gone more than a couple of hours. His kids don’t call him nor see him very much at all. His sister calls every once in awhile too. My kids and our one daughter between us are always helping out. I’m in control of everything now! People don’t understand what real love is until it’s too late!
Marilyn Tucker wow. Look at how God work things out. People need to stop playing because God is real and he will get our attention one way or another. I’m proud of you for standing up and doing your part as the wife. I pray God will heal your husband. Take care and know that this too shall pass. Stay blessed. 🙏🏽
Question what about when it’s reversed. My step daughter is a headache. Disrespectful asf and I’ve been thinking of leaving my 9yr marriage. I helped raise her to 15 and it’s really got me no where
they loved me and needed me when they wanted help or behind my back they ask they daddy for help woth the car mechanic work and other things ..he is the enabler I already have my hands full ..the whole story if you help me
Hello Ladies 👋 I have a 14 year but he is very rude and doesn't want to listen me like when I tell him to pick up afterhimself. Example he pees always on the toilet my husband and I have been telling him for years and he still does it. He just disrupts my whole house hold! He just doesn't have my back he thinks I am too on him but I just expects for him to keep my house clean after I work so hard cleaning!
Hi there. These teenagers are from a different planet lol. For real, I’m not sure what to say about them because some of them act like we owe them something. NO, we gave you life YOU owe us. A lot of them want to fit in and follow the crowd. Thinking that the things they do are cool. I pray for this generation because they are lost and with all the things going on in the world, that’s all we can do is PRAY. Just hold on, it’s going to get better. Believe that... it’s going to get better! 🙏🏽
I have a son and she a daughter. The thing is her daughter is 16, and gets loud and respectful. Putting herself in our conversation or fights. My will talk to with kid gloves on. Hell at times yells or scream to just have her come out screaming. She thinks it's funny, but I don't. Making her feel I'm doing something to her mother. But when it comes to my son, who is a quiet boy and stick to himself. We argue about his laziness which he is but that becomes a big problem more so than her daughter being disrespectful to the both of us. What's your thoughts on that?!
I have a similar situation my step son is 20 and moved back in with us he's not verbally disrespectful but he undermines my authority because my husband won't make him listen and he babies him he don't clean up after himself so I let him know I'm not cleaning up after him and when I tell him to do something he looks at my husband and if my husband don't say nothing he will just walk away and he will never do what I say and my husband will step in and do what I told him to do I started out asking him nicely but now after him doing that every time I do not ask him I tell him but he just ignores me because his dad wont do anything basically he has it in his mind he don't have to listen to me because his dad wont make him and it's obvious that he thinks because he's grown he don't have to listen to me but he's living in our house and my husband will not put his foot down so he just continues making messes that I have to clean up when I get home from work he works second shift so he's at home all day eating and making all kinds of dishes in the sink and the whole kitchen is a mess when I get home I'm exhausted when it was just me and my husband I didn't come home to messes because we both work during the day and my stepson thinks because he works he don't have to do anything so I'm so fed up and exhausted I was just looking for advice
Wow.. at 20 years old you would think he would have a little more respect towards you then he does. Your husband shouldn’t have to tell a grown child to clean up after himself. Dad needs to tell him it’s time to start acting like a MAN. He have to grow up and take on responsibilities as an adult. I hate to say this but if he treated him that way all his life, it’s probably too late to try an change him. I pray things will get better for you and things will turn around for the better. 🙏🏽
he went the next day to cut a cake with the same kids I raised who jumped me from behind put me in a head lock how to forgive a man who literally went to their house after that episode
I have question how you deal with a grandchild doesn't want to be bother with you I have done wrong I love in N. C. Now was in New York until this day she never call anything I feel hurt inside I have cry many tears I love her
Stepparents are always turned in to the villain and treated poorly. It doesn't change and if your spouse isn't willing to stop that behavior, that says everything. You deserve better and are worth more than that. No matter how well you treat them, it won't matter. it's their blueprint and how they were raised. Any attention taken off the kids cause issues, especially when it's given to the stepparent. When you try to put in place healthy boundries and say no to allowing that treatment in your home to you or your spouse, the kids/teens don't like that, especially when they are used to running the household prior to you coming into it. Many divorced parents parent out of guilt and give their kids anything. Then when a new person comes into the picture it's a problem for the kids/teens.
I SWEAR it was almost like listening to my own story!! His kids are the MOST disrespectful people I’ve EVER seen!!! I love my bonus grandchildren but now the kids threatened to not see him or let him see his grandchildren 🙄 because they don’t like me!! His baby girl (24yrs old) attacked me PHYSICALLY and I didn’t even fight back because that was his child. These are ADULT kids, it doesn’t even matter what she did (which I don’t believe she did anything) but they are GROWN!! They don’t have to come around and if they do they don’t have to be disrespectful when they do!! That woman ain’t do nothing to them kids!! These 90’s and 2000’s babies are the most disrespectful people in the WORLD!!!
Wow that’s my story but his are teenagers and are manipulative and sloppy and never pick up after themselves. And he won’t correct them like he corrects ours and mine.
Im 24 yrs old My girl is 30 She was in a 5 year relationship previously w her 2 kids. She had them at 17 and been raising them eversince. Our relationship started off 3 yrs ago only sexually and as a closet affair but we got older and responsibilities started to intertwine. We started to live w each other. They disrespect the both of us but me more of course im not their father. She has allowed them to disrespect me numerous times. Saying " these are not your kids, you have no authority, leave them alone, they already have a father, youre bullying them(when i assert myself) and that you dont live here. Weve had arguements and fights and she will sit there and say that is the reasoning they are disrespectful even though they were before things ever got out of hand. They even make jokes at me about how their former "step dad" was better and how im jealous. Her son even called me a nigga one time. Theyve called me crackhead bum etc. Shes 7 months pregnant w my child now and her daughter is even worse. She tries to justify it saying her behavior was way worse when she was her daughters age. I have never got a belt on them or anything. But i always find myself apologizing.
You have to decide if this is what you want. You have to make that decision if you want to live like this forever. Take a deep look inside and decide what YOU want and what is best for YOU. Thanks for watching and hopefully things will get better really soon! 💕
Have 2 stepkids and 1 mine, and another together. My SD kissed my butt to move in with us, then once here, she became very disrespectful. I tried to have her follow the same rules as the 3 boys but no, so she manipulated her father. She even got in the middle of an argument between us as adults and screamed at him to divorce me. Her mom is awful and she is now in my home. 2 of my sons no longer will talk to her, she also is disrespectful of them. I have a great relationship with my stepson. See daddy has zero rules with her, he is laid back- no curfew, goes wherever she wants with boyfriend, she was mad at me because i do not allow the boys to do the same. 15 yrs of marriage. I have known her most her life, but she has always been her mama.
Letting her move in was a huge mistake. Having an adult stepchild move into my home would not be an option. Grown kids need to live in their own place where they make their own rules. Moving back home to dictate the lives of their parent and stepparent is a recipe for disaster.
She is was 15 when she moved in and my husband makes the living- I had zero. However I fell for her bs- ow she just tries to get us to fight. Seriously she is a mole. She is 17 now and says she is moving in with bf( I feel so sorry for him - she controls him) I am like fine- get out! Please.
I wake up crying I go to sleep crying I feel like what was it what did I do why did this happen am so confused I dislike the situation but I was committed always been helping the entire family if I continue your whole video would be about me the inlaws and his only sister all disowned me told me I should have punched my daughter . hold up. me punch my daughter no she was yelling jump out of her chair to make her plea a point guess what I gave in enough is enough the disrespect is epic
I have an issue with my boyfriend's son and his step daughter having bad jealousy towards me because they feel like their dad treats me better than he did their mom. But what does that have to do with me tho? They've tried all types of ways of trying to talk bad about me. Trying to find things to demonize me about but they can barely find anything so it got to the point to where they started lieing on me and i found out and when i asked them about it they had like nothing to say
Children sometimes will do anything to try to turn all the attention their way. It’s sad that you have to go through this. Stand strong and show them who’s the adult. Hopefully your boyfriend is putting them in their place. That place being where children should stay and having respect for adults. Hopefully you’re showing them respect as well. I hope it all works out.
@@tangyteaoflife7624 the step daughter is in her late 20s. The son is almost 18. I've been with my boyfriend/fiance for 2 years. ... I noticed, from the stories I've heard and things I've noticed, that they've been on this mission to see him hurting since he left their mom. I think they just want me out of the way cuz they feel like he doesn't deserve to be happy. And they see that he's happy and being treated good. He treats me good and makes me happy too. We both been through some messed up relationships. That's why we embrace eachother so much and we understand eachother on a personal level like with personalities and everything. I feel like that bothers them hard. They're hating on their own dad which sucks. And i really think their obsession isn't going to stop until they see him suffer and they're satisfied
That is so messy of them. Who wouldn’t want to see their parents happy?! Unfortunately, you do have some children out there that would go the extra mile to see there parent miserable because they are not with their biological mom/dad. Live your best life honey! They will be just find. They are too grown to be acting that way. I wish you all the best! 💕💕
For me its my husbands adult children. They have been liars & disrespectful to me . He has not confronted them in my defense. Even if he wants to go see them it angers me . Why because he has not put them in their place.
My husband and I have been together for 13 years and his son has been disrespectful and entitled for so long. We’ve been together since he was 2, the mom has alienated him always but the last 3 years I thought we had come so far but right before he came for the summer he started his crap all over again and it was the most miserable summer. My husband feels guilty disciplining the son but he had so many talks and my husbands mom ended up meeting my stepsons stepdad but not before I told my stepson if he was one of our girls talking to me the way he was he would have been picking himself off the floor. The mom lets him speak disrespectful to her and I even told him he better start respecting her and his stepdad and for damn sure if he’s coming to my house he will respect me and his dad. I’m so sick of the mom and him being just complete A-holes. It’s part the mom but most importantly their 15 year old son needs his ass whooped. I don’t allow my kids to disrespect me in my house and I damn sure am not going to let him come up in my house and cause bs. We also told him from now on the video games aren’t allowed at our house. Seems to be part of it, won’t listen and get off the damn thing and we have let him game more than his mother. I don’t know what to do anymore but it won’t happen in my home anymore.
Lady's plz let me know how I can talk with u guys about my situation,I married a white woman with 2 kids from her 1rst marriage we got a 5 year old together .they mom basically is afraid of her own 16 years old son when ever I check him she start to defend them plz I need to talk to u.my name is olivier
Oh no people do just become evil. My husbands spawns decided not to like me before I met them. I did nothing to them, tried for nine years to be good to them, and now realized it’s their issues not mine, and I now reject them. Bye Felicia! He can go visit them they can’t come here.
Hi Skye. I pray it gets better for you. Just keep doing what you’re doing and hopefully the child and the parent will get on the same page and then you all can come together on one accord. 🙏🏽 Thanks for watching and keep the faith that things will get better.
My husband and I are currently in trouble because he will not be mad at me and punish me for telling his 24 year old and her girlfriend to learn shut their mouths because I'm sick of their constant racism and disrespectful behavior. Let that mama be mad 9 times out of 10 that woman is the core of the problem because she can't stand the fact that you are in her child's life or she's still angry at the daddy. My husband had told them multiple times over several years that their behavior was not appropriate they kept it up this is on them.
My stepdaughter take money from my wallet and go into my bag and take my belongings without asking me lies a lot to make her mother argue with me the saddest thing is my wife attack me instead of correcting her kid my wife let her brother and her dad ex woman in my house and took they side her parents also attack and disrespect me because everytime my wife and I get into an argument my wife call her parents and play the victim role my wife father ex woman went and tell my wife father and mother I feed my kids but I don't feed her daughter which is a lie I cook and severe dinner for the 3 kids and severe her father ex woman and I eat last I'm so fed up with this situation my wife mother use church to cover her wicked way her and her husband call me stupid, idiot, devil , abuser and all type of name's I called my wife phone her mom answered and told me don't call back this phone told my wife and my wife had the phone and speaker and her mom said I lie and the attack started they wanted me to come to they house for vacation in Jamaica and I'm so glad I followed my mind and decided not to go
If it’s not your children’s you have to make them your friend you are the adult nobody likes to be boss around when you give respect you will get respect she is not telling everything you can’t only show love to your children that my take on this topic bless and good luck with your marriage your husband is a good man he is layback and and not a fighter cussing out your husband will not make it better 🙏
Hi there! We’ve been going live since the pandemic. Things have slowed down a lot with all that’s going on but we try to go live at least once a week or every other week.
Your husband is married to you. Your husband has to set boundaries . He has to make sure his kids do not disrespect you . Bottom line step kids are a big problem. They are ungrateful, spoiled and do not deserve a good step parent. In your case a divorce might be your best choice.
Having step kids SUCKS! Don’t let those SKIDS push you around
If a man let’s anyone disrespect you whether it’s his children, his mom, his ex or anyone. He Is Not The One.
Im struggling on this.the daughter,the ex,the mom. 😞
💯The Bible says a man who finds a wife finds a good thing.
@@lilymunster7132 Fuck the bibe.
So is it the same when the roles are reversed?? 😮
How he not the one if the mother not siding with him?? The mother gonna go with her child that’s why kids so disrespectful
Hell yeah, 15 years of marriage can go down the drain behind demon seeds!
I just typed in “I hate my 22 yr old step daughter” and this is what came up. In the first few mins, she said “beat their a$$”. I LOVE IT! 🤣 Been with this man for 8+ years. My main problem is his 22 yr old demon daughter and 28 yr old heathen son LIVE with us. They moved in 2 years ago. PAY NOT A DAMN DIME. Leave all the lights on. AC units running 24/7 even when they aren’t home. I asked his daughter to turn her bedroom light out last month and all hell broke loose. She screamed and threw a tantrum for well over an hour. I can’t afford to move out bc I don’t make enough at this point to live alone. Let alone come up with the 6k I need just to move into a place. Ughs. It’s hopeless but I’ll keep praying. My man is not laid back. He’s a lunatic too. I loathe them all!
I am so sorry!
Contact a center for abused women to see if they’ll help you get a place. They helped a friend of mine and is paying a large portion of her rent.
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I am so sorry. Prayers for you. I am struggling too. My step daughter manipulate my husband and his ex too manipulate him. I just wanna go home in Philippines. To the home where I am happy with my families.
I feel your pain I'm dealing with bs myself but definitely about to get out of this
Adult children especially girls act like his wife
So true!
I have this problem
My adult step daughter would tell me stories about my husband's previous whorish activities. I saw through that and just really never took her seriously. I set boundaries and stopped giving the relationship with his children all of my attention. Once she told me she was shocked he married and was still married to me. I laughed. She's a baby mama. I'm a wife get on my level. Lol we had a great conversation years ago and we both apologized for everything across the board. Now I love her in my own way but I never let my guard down. Guard your heart hon.
Yes. One of them, not even his child, is telling him what to do.
Yes… extremely materialistic and manipulative in my situation.
Majority of time the kids have not been raised and one parent is lala chill and the other is an abusive narcissit then the kids in that situation start manipulating the lala chill parent ane take shit from the narcisstic one then project it onto the step parent and to the lala chill parent and cause shit.
I feel that both households have to be on the same page. Otherwise, things are going to get messy. Parents need to be on one accord so the child can respect both sides.
Man this is ME. Feels good I'm not alone but so sad... this is so wrong. My husband parents out of guilt and also he got his own mommy issues going on that he projects onto his son. They been in therapy. They got a little bit better but when mom acts abusive (usually it's neglect but he's 10 and fine playing video games), little (getting big) man wants to act psychotic at our house. And of COURSE I'm magically the abusive one even though all I've done for the past 8 years is try to protect this child from BOTH parents. I'm so over it. I got 2 kids of my own that deserves a mentally stable, happy mother!!!
Damn.. my situation exactly!!
Exactly the situation I ended up in...an abusive worthless drunk father and a chill mother (who I married), and inherited rude uncaring stepchildren that routinely walk all over their mother and I and their mother refuses to put her foot down and ever punish any of the kids in any way, so none of them ever learn and the BS never stops. It has gotten to the point where I am considering divorce myself, because these kids are slobs, rude and disrespectful, and too many fights have broken out due to their repeated behaviors.
If this isn’t my exact situation
I love this!!! I have a 11 year old stepdaughter, the disrespect is ridiculous & her dad is so damn soft on her bc she don’t have her Biological mother but there is no excuse for raising disrespectful children. She thinks she’s about 25 lol & Imma cud’s our my MIL too 😂 thanks for the advice!!!
Dads fall harder for their daughters but it’s definitely not an excuse for the disrespectful behavior. Stay prayed up. I hope things turn around for you and you all can have a better relationship as daughter and stepmom.
Exactly the same situation I am in but her Mum just came back after not being in her life for 6 years .. it’s even worse now ,, if I pull her up he pulls me up cause his scared she will run off to live with her mother if we pull her up when being a little shit .. been sitting here crying my eyes out wondering if I can keep living like this .. she calls me Mum (I never made her she did that herself not long after her father & I met) tells me she loves me always gives me cuddles but she can be so bloody mean
Tell me about it
Hmmm I certainly agree. They grown cuss them out drag they raggedy ass for filth. Cuss they mama out if she comes for you. Check your husband. Protect your space. Protect your peace at all costs.
The man has to get a backbone!
I dated a single dad. And I'll say this NEVER AGAIN!! The boyfriend Brandon was a softy every conversation was a reference of his son Roman he claim he hated his BM but all he did was talk about her. The lil boy would spend the night at my house cause he a crybaby and can't stay at his own own with his blood related aunt & uncle. The dude would wake up in the morning and kiss & hug on the boy while I had no affection He even would take his son on dates and show affection to him while I eat my food & take selfies alone. Plus the little boy had a bad attitude and smart mouth, ALSO the babymoma is a lazy deadbeat that live on assistance while having her new boyfriend & his child in her house the same house that she got rid of her demon son Roman to my boyfriend. So now my new rules are DONT DATE A SINGLE DAD AND DONT LET A CHILD COME TO MY HOUSE THAT ISNT MY RELATIVE.
I wish i can turn back time and not marry a man with a spoiled brat daughter. Struggling 😞
I dated a few women with kids. They never brought their kids to my place and they never tried it. Not running a day care. My place is rated R and X. Kids were not allowed.
@@MrBmicrated R and X😂😂😂 I love it
Once they turn 18 an they want to be disrespectful you through them out of the house because 2 bulls can't live in the same house,you in my home eating my food an want to run the show not under my roof.
I'm in this situation and I told my man that he son whenever I am around doesn't really wants me around and my boyfriend responded and said his son is 18 stressed about graduating and his car messed up, but that doesn't give him the right to ice me out when I'm there and you can tell that your father is happy with someone finally! I think he would be happy for his father he found someone genuinely in love with his father
My wife has 3 children. Her oldest is her 22 year old son. Me and my wife have a great relationship. My relationship with the 2 younger ones is great. However, my relationship with her son is not good. The heat between us started when I checked him for disrespecting his mother. For one thing he's spoiled rotten, with narcissistic behavior. He gets mad when he does not get his way. In the beginning, I would observe him verbally disrespecting his mother. I did not understand why she would not check him. But then I got tired of it. I approached him in a calm manner trying to tell him that he's being very disrespectful to his mother and its not right. His response was, "You both need to respect Me." After that my calm demeanor turned aggressive and I checked him in a way that it humiliated him. After that, there's been heat between us every since. Eventually his behavior led to me and his mother putting him out. He played victim, telling others that his mother cares more about me than him, which wasn't true. I do want a better relationship with him, but his way of us having a better relationship is me kissing his a**. That's not gonna happen.
Thank you ladies for this, I've been dealing with im not good, etc, etc, for over 8 years, while doing nothing. living like a prison in my own home, staying quiet just to keep the peace, I have more than a back bone, but I've had enough
Great advise
Sorry to hear that you have been dealing with this for 8 years. I think it’s time for you to say something to your wife. Who wants to live like a prisoner in their own home? Who wants to live a life like that? It’s past time. If you haven’t done so already, you need to have a heart to heart with your wife and the kids. No one should live like they don’t have any say so in their own home. You are the man of the house. Now you’re at the point where you’ve had enough. This talk is way overdue. If you want your marriage, you need to make things happen right now. If they don’t want to hear what you have to say, it’s time for you to take a deep look within your soul and ask yourself some real questions. YOU have to make the decision on how you’re going to live your life. Happy or miserable! Thanks for watching and commenting. I pray things get better for you. 🙏🏽
@@tangyteaoflife7624 again, thank you, I have followed your advice, and its peaceful now, we plan to move to another state in 2 years, leaving the her two adult children on there on own, than ill really be able to breathe, my wife is very understanding, blessing to you both 😀
Great news! Glad to hear.
Thank you. Be bless 🙏🏽 and stay safe!
Im so sorry.prayers for you Sir.I am struggling to with this brat daughter that manipulate my husband.been stressed. And just wanted to go back home to Philippines.
@@tangyteaoflife7624 this is a very nice advice and comments. I wish my husband be a man in the house and not being manipulated by the daughter and ex. It’s very hard being in a house that makes you stressed. Philippines will always be my happy home.i wish i can go home soon
I was married for 27 years 3 adult children, been divorced now for 7 years from a woman that was extremely controlling, manipulative and verbally / physically abused at times. Started dating after she divorced me which was a blessing in disguise with a woman who have 3 adult children. I didn’t meet her children until much later in our relationship but when I did I found them to be stuck up, unfriendly, arrogant and extremely disrespectful for absolutely no reason! Even after all that I helped them to do and with especially her son who were in and out of trouble for the better part of his life....... after all that I did to entreat them, their disrespect was over to top. They are highly toxic people and don’t know it! I will never date another woman who have children.
I’m so grateful that my husband understands that God is first, and as his wife, I am second. His 17 year old has her mama’s ways. She has told my husband that he is a p**** whooped ass. It’s awful. I feel bad for my husband. But we just continue to pray for her.
That’s all you can do is continue to pray for her. She will wake up and realize one day the mistakes she has made by hurting her father. Wishing you all the best.
Thats nice thats all i wanted always.God first and me second but i am the last. His daughter manipulate him and also the ex manipulate him.
GOD over man , man over wife , wife over children ⬜️◻️◽️▫️
In that order. 🙏🏽
This also happens to men that become stepdads to non-biological children. This is very toxic behavior. I know in my case, the kids were not horrible and toxic. I would give chores and reward them for doing chores. I would let them go to where they would ask. UNTIL… I found out they were doing inappropriate things with money, hanging out at places they shouldn’t be, and listening to false information from the biological father. It’s not necessarily the behavior of the stepparent or stepfather; this is stepchildren creating an environment that is uncomfortable to live in.
I am so sorry to hear about everybody. I have a stepdaughter that cackles like a witch and lies and demeans me in every way and a meathead stepson who is cold and calculating and plays games with us. It’s a lonely feeling when he takes their side when l was with him for the 9 years before marriage but once he married me, I definitely felt so much relief in our relationship together instead of getting the sarcastic “girlfriend” from both his kids and Ex wife, it feels so much better that we proved to them that we rose above their evil games and manipulation
Im so sorry. I have a step daughter like that too. Im like a maid in this house. My husband that been manipulate. This 3 years in America was a crazy journey and just wanting to go back home to Philippines.
They crazy thing is that, they’re not kids. They’re grown adults, they should know how to act
Well.. “fight the momma then”. 🤣
Just cussed out my 16 year old stepdaughter. Best thing I’ve done! My husband and I are black and Hispanic. My stepdaughters mother is white and my stepdaughter also passes as completely white. She has tried to treat me as the help. I cook for her when she comes over but she doesn’t even want to sit at the table with me. Constantly rolling her eyes, never says thank you, the list goes on. When I tell you I gave her the first cussing out of her life! And cussed out my husband too for not defending me. She had a Karen meltdown and tantrum then left. She and her mother know without an apology and change in behavior, she is no longer welcome in this house. Cussing out is necessary! And if you do it right, they will know not to try it again.
Wow. Sorry this had to happen. Sometimes children only act as such because someone is drilling that behavior in their head. Well, I hope she learned a lesson from all of this and the husband as well. I’m not sure how and why a parent sit back and watch this behavior go on and not say anything. I will never understand this. Do they not realize that, that child will continue to act that way towards their stepparent because their dad/mom is not stopping their rudely behavior. I pray it all works out for you all. 🙏🏽 Thanks for your comment.
Tangy Tea of Life very true! Thank you
He don’t ever really defend me & it hurts like crazy! Well more Mad then anything some stuff I don’t get with folks! That is your child put them in their place and the rest won’t have too SIMPLE💯✌🏽
And that’s why I hate my step mom even more cause she does the same thing
Good for you.
This sounds like my situation I've been with my husband for five years and been married for two. We have a 3 yr old together and the other four of his kids are from past relationships all of them are grown except our child together and his 17 yr old daughter. Me and his 17 yr old had always had a great relationship until she started getting jealous of me and his relationship and him doing things for me but the crazy part is I've treated her like my own and have all ways went outta my way for her and did more then her own mother has done for her and included her in everything we did as a family but for some reason she started hanging around her toxic mom and started to hate me because i (destroyed her fathers relationship with her) so she say and I've explained to her time and time again I can't destroy what was already there before i came into the picture. She turned on me because of her mom getting into her head which btw she has never got along with. Now she got to the point were i thought after our fallout and we talked that we were okhay but she was like i never forgave you and I'm someone her dad just happened to marry, I'm ugly now, she hates me, I'm not her mom, she would never need me, i dont need to contact her unless its about her babysister or father, I'm second nature i can be replaced etc.....and she was very disrespectful to me over text message. So now at this point i told my husband i don't want her over in our house I don't need to see her face she's too disrespectful and she's hateful not to mention she tried to buck up at her dad because she thought she was going to come in our home and say what was on her mind to me, no mam not in this house.She can destroy and fight her mom like she does at her mamas house because I'm not the same as her mother. My husband understood but now i know he's not too happy about it but it is what is. You never burn the bridge you have to cross again and she not only crossed me once the first time i forgave her for calling me out my name several times and then did it again . Two times to many and I don't think I'm wrong for feeling how I feel of wanting no parts of her right now or having her around my child right now.
You nailed it! Now all of a sudden we always seem to get into it when he comes around and I’ve did the same tried my best! But I’ve been crossed so many times, I don’t see why I’m the blame on why he can never live here again. No one deserves to be treated badly because their dating their parent. Respect should be laid down in the beginning I’m mentally drained and I feel
Totally dumb if I tell you the rest 😔🙏🏽 Some folks you just can’t help 💯
I will never understand why parents would want to turn their children against the stepparent. If that stepparent has never done anything to that child but treated them with respect, why would you try to destroy that? Because you want your ex back or you don’t want to see them happy? That is the craziest thing to me. Just move on and let that child make the decision on how they feel about that stepparent. Well, you can only do your part. If that child doesn’t give you respect, then, oh well. You tried. No one wants to deal with a disrespectful child. I pray things will get better for you and your family. Thanks for watching and leaving your comment. 🙏🏽
Remember many times the daughter and son are the mouth pieces for the mother. Your husband needs to check his bratty skid. Keep your boundaries up with that brat.
I wish i can do that in my husbands house and say i dont want her here. But im not the priority its the daughter. A daughter that manipulate him and ex manipulate him. Everything was so hard since i got in this country. Homesick,pandemic,marriage,step daughter,ex wife and more.
Good thing i always ask Jesus helps.
I raised 4 stepkids to best of my ability. They are mean little suckers. They put down their mom on social media after she did all she could ... ungrateful and immature ...we made sure they did better than us. And now they they feel theyre better than us. Sad if you ask me
I’m so sorry you both are going through this. Being a stepparent is no easy task especially when the kids don’t want to do their part. You all can only do your part. You raised them and now they are grown I’m taking it from your comment. They will realize one day what you and the mother have done for them. They will come back because they will need you all for something. Just wait for it. Only thing we as parents can do is pray for our children. Thanks for watching and leaving your comment. Keep your head up!
You two ladies are adorable! Thanks for the good message.
I'm getting a divorce right now my wife daughter's are so disrespectful and my wife also disrespectful and my wife also goes against me in every situation even when people come over my wife and her daughter's company also disrespect me in my house I am done and I'm getting out of this relationship I only been married for one year and I have never in my life had a problem like this when her daughter was 14 she was dating a 25 year old need I say more!
Omg love the advice lol exactly! y'all are the first I've seen to say stand up for yourself if the step kids and your man aren't doing it...thank you! Ya you have got to be respected if you are a step parent. I don't even ask they respect me as a parent, but they better respect me as a human, as an adult that is older than them, that I am not to be walked over, they cannot walk over adults in their life just cuz their parents are soft...
Thank you for your reply Sarah. Stepparents have to make the children give them the respect they deserve. If they don’t, the children will walk all over them and that’s not good.
@@tangyteaoflife7624 and this is what happen in my life now 😞.
Having a teenager step daughter is a crazy life while me being a a teenager in Philippines grow up to a strict Dad with rules.I didnt rebel i just follow rules of my Dad.
I have this too 10 years
I dont have children with him
But his adult brats ugh
So sorry for the late response.
Lol... gotta love ‘em. They know they are brats too lol. 🤷🏽♀️
Mine are actually proud of being petty brats and are in their 30’s.
I would give them a Peace of my mind and Leave.
This is under my “ fiancés email “ I love this video.. he is all about his kids even when I said our relationship is the foundation ,, was told the jump “ I had a dream that I stabbed you in my I sleep”.. I’m treated as a joke 13 years later when I will never tolerate disrespect. Walked out on .. I felt you n agree my friends ❤️😇
He disrespected himself becoming a step father in the first place
What does that even mean?
@@NursingHannahh Being a stepfather is disrespecting yourself as a man you don’t think you’re good enough to have your own kids
Cuss em out lol point blank 🤣
I am for that.
I’m here for it. 😂
Lol my stepkids are still teens and I will cuss them out quick. Idc idc. Have to set boundaries and if that don't work fall back. You can still fall back from your step kids and maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
That husband is weak behind those girls. It's really sad the husband refuses to put the law down on his so-grown kids.
Cursing at them isn't going to work. He enjoy what's going. Hell? They disrespect him😷It's been like that. And he's not going to do anything but let the wife walk on and do what ever what they do...
So what. He'll get another.... Grant you this, let another one come in. That's going to be the one that pop that bubble!!!
No. She's not the (The problem) Those rachet kids been like that. Leave his ass and them gutta rats......Many blessings
I need this .10 years relationship. 2step son one hates me. He have an idea in his head he could do what ever he want to people.
I told his parents I will not stand for the bad behavioral.
no mam I do not want to seat woth them in the same room without the anger coming out of me after all I sacrificed for my children..they my babies who had other agendas smh
I swear I wish I had you two as my friends. I could really use some serious advice pretty similar to this except I don’t have any kids just 2 step daughters and the oldest is the problem, the younger one is really sweet and always considerate and well mannered.
Pray and live one day at a time. If this life style is for you, you will eventually find out. Live, laugh and love life! I hope it all works out for you.
My boyfriend/the father of my two girls tells me I must be the problem if his son disrespects me and disobeys me. He tells me I need to step my foot down but when I do he tells me “don’t be telling my son nothing”. I feel like leaving him already because I feel so unappreciated and stuck and confused. I’ve been in this boys life for five years. His mom left him, she lives in a different state, she only calls when it’s near Christmas Day to ask him what he wants then never sends his gifts and goes ghost. I watch him, I cook for him, I do his laundry, take him and pick him up from school, help with hw, buy him things, etc. He ignores me, talks under his breath, gives me looks, tells me I’m not his mom. When his dad is around he will act like he’s the sweetest boy to me. I feel like leaving him........... 😞
Sometimes we have to listen to our hearts. Sometimes we have to tune everyone and everything out and listen to our hearts... go with your heart. What is it saying? Don’t live a miserable life is all I’m saying. I hope things get better for you.
Sometimes you don’t leave bc you may or he mentally has you thinking , no one will want you . That’s why you feel stuck
Wow this is exactly what Im going through I have been Married for 6 and a half years.....I left a comment and it is very similar to you! If your not married i would leave now for real!!!!!!
This right here!!..
Haha I love this advice. You totally just made me lol going through this demonic step daughter behavior great advice ladies
That bird on the left is awsome lol
When she said cuss em out the second time 😂
Try 30 years, where his kids are 39 and 40.
They do not know what I have put up with.
They refuse to take their Dad off the throne.
I tried to bring unity to our family.
You brought very good topics,
It’s they want to look like the great parent.
I have finally Let it GO!
My live in boyfriend, lets his daughter insert herself in our adult conversations, defending her saying she is family she has the right to be his lawyer because I’m angry at him drinking, almost 3 times a week now until he is completely drunk and he won’t take me out on a date, or get help for his alcoholism. He defends her when she threatens to throw me out of the house, she yells at me and says I’m a nobody and I do nothing, and I’m livid, extremely hurt, devastated and resentful at him, because this 20 year old has NEVER worked a day in her life, has no plans for the future, does no chores around the house, and doesn’t even stay with him, in the hospital when he has had a heart attack. He defends this behavior from her and if I dare say anything about this or try to demand respect, I’m the villain. So yes, I have cussed them all out and I’m planning my escape, he’s not in this relationship for us, he shouldn’t be in a relationship to begin with, he struggles with loyalty to his partner of 4 years, that has carried his ass to the toilet in the hospital, that has been with him and helped him with the finances of the home and has been his rock, saying I’m not his family and his duty is to defend his biological family and let them rule the house. So yes, I’m leaving... I will not live like this anymore. He can retire now with his daughter in tow, he can take her along to the retirement home with him lol and I will live the happiness, peace and stability I desperately want in my life. I didn’t sign up to clean up after any 20 year old adult child, that hasn’t even graduated from high school yet or tolerate insults and disrespectful behavior. Sorry! Thanks for this video!!
Wow... Well, it seems as though you already know and have plans on what you need to do. We all want someone we can love and care for but that person needs to share the same feelings in return. We all deserve to live happy lives and not have to worry about stressing every single day. Live your life honey and do what’s best for YOU! May you find that peace within and start living your best life! Thanks for watching! 💕
You are not alone. My husband fights for full custody of his son and wins in 2013. His son is 17 and very disrespect around me and my 2 other kids. He makes sexual comments, taunts my kids, steals things out of our house, few other things in our home I will not mention. My husband has defended me but Very little. We have had family discussions and everything will be ok at the moment then later it starts back again. Divorce is starting to creep up into my mind now. My husband is not so objective when I had mentioned divorce. So I'm not sure our 10 year marriage will survive much longer.
I’m so sorry to hear this. No one should be disrespected by a child yet alone in their house they pay bills in! Have you guys tried counseling? Hopefully divorce will be the last resort. Try talking going to family counseling first and see how that goes. If all else fails, at least you tried. I pray everything works out for you.
Tangy Tea of Life Sad part is, we aren’t married, one day he says we’re engaged, when I don’t remember him even asking me, lol, so immature I know, the next day he says he will NEVER marry me, if I dare get upset about his constantly defending his kids at our expense. He gets irritated when I even mention the word ENGAGEMENT, like it’s the kiss of death, when in the beginning, OMG he couldn’t wait to start living together to get ENGAGED!!!! So, no worries, no divorce, I’ll just cuss them all out for the last time, pack my things and leave. Nobody deserves to live like this for 4 years, in a fake life, full of lies and broken promises, and thinking your partner has your back and wants the same things you do, when he’s nothing but a buddy to his kids and a future faker. Funny how I’m good enough to help him with the finances and running the house, but not to have any opinions, and not even good enough to marry. Runs this house like a frat house, and I’m the stupid housekeeper!
Sounds like you already know what you need to do. YOU have to be happy. God did not give us life to be unhappy and miserable. LIVE and be HAPPY!! That’s what it’s all about. Living life to the fullest!! 💕
My stepdaughter keeps disrespecting me and my husband doesn't draw the line. I'm at the point where I am ready to file for a divorce. We have 3 kids and married for 8 years.
Have you all sat down as a family and had this conversation? Have you all tried family counseling? Try options before you throw in the towel. I know it’s hard but I’m also sure you love your husband. Don’t let a child make your decision for a divorce. Look at all the options first and then make that choice to stay or leave. Even if you have to sit that child down one on one and let her know enough is ENOUGH! I pray it all works out for you. 🙏🏽
@@tangyteaoflife7624 Something to think about!
Thanks...
So sorry to hear that Ms Laura.
Me too been struggling and just wanted to go back home to Phillipines and not return here. 😞
That’s what I’m going through my wife has a daughter and she disrespects grandparents and mom it ridiculous I’m bout ready to sign been dealing with this for 3yrs and my wife is laid back and I’m tired of telling her bout it.
@@brandonnichols7999 Let me just give you an update, I spoke with my stepdaughter and I asked her "what was her issue with me?" and the said none. Then I told her that I was not going to put up with the disrespect and she stop her bad behavior. The crazy thing was that she called for mother's day and she was really nice to me. I was in total shock...my advise to you is that you have a conversation with your stepchild and her parent so that they both know that they need to respect you. Then, you make your decision.
I feel I have to leave my marriage due to my wife doesn't appreciate or respect me and lies. Then her kids do not respect me either. If I leave I'm being single 4 ever! Done with women
they fake and I definitely tried for them to love me to at least treat me like a human being with feelings they always self centered smh I had so much to say I wish I could say so more..
Finally some real advice and true statements. I love you guys!
My girlfriends daughter thinks its acceptable to threaten me with kicking me in the leg, then even kicks me in the leg when she does not get her own way or I tell her off. The mother does nothing about it, just sits there like a potted plant and lets her behave like this despite me telling both of them how much I hate this behaviour. The times I have made my dislike known there is world war three, usually me and the mother end up arguing and ignoring each other for days on end creating a bad atmosphere. Then 5min later the kid is all happy with her mother.
I just reciprocate the energy to all parties!!
My step children are corrupted till this day by their angry mom , 16 year old girl, 19 year old boy. My husband has 3 kids with other women, the last woman is the mom of the 16 and 19 year old. He and I only have 1, he always said he had plenty with the others 😡
Wow 😮. I hope it all works out for you.
Same!!
Yall gont get me in trouble on here...lol.
Lol... we don’t want that to happen 😂
thanks yall, i needed to hear this
You’re welcome Mike! I pray things work out for you. 🙏🏽 Thanks for watching.
My husband and I are going through something similar with his 2 sons. Only I am not the one being disrespected as the stepmom, but my husband is. He does most of the cooking, as the kids complain about the times I have cooked. The 18 year old won't even give my cooking a chance. But they have also started complaining about their father's cooking too.When they want food from outside, they will get food from outside. They also leave lights on after me telling them time and again not to. They both raise their voice to their father when they don't get their way. The boys came to the US from Egypt with their mother almost 2 years ago( who only comes around whenever she feels like it). They have lived with us since October 2022. I don't understand why my husband puts up with the disrespect like he does but I believe that it might be he feels guilty for leaving them when he came to the US in 2016. The kids were 11 and 4 at the time. But, anyways, I have considered leaving the marriage until he can get a backbone and put his foot down to his ungrateful kids
so for me I raised them helped them get a place close to us only to be betrayed and bullied 24 years 💔 invested my heart as my own his daughter tried to deface my name and my patience. stood up yelled at me in front of the father only for me to slap her for the disrespect for the confrontation that should have never happened and just like this man layer back and didn't put his foot down to the point where his son from behind put me on a chock hold for his sister now I want to leave but where can I go when all my life I did for them.
Dealing with the same stuff only I’ve been married 36 years! My husband had 3 kids and I had 3 kids when we married. He has twin girls and one older, the twins were 18 when we got married with babies! The older daughter who had a different mother live out of state and the twin’s mother remarried and died when they were like 13. They lived with their stepdad until he remarried. My husband remarried to another woman during that time as well! All before me. I had 2 sons 14, 12 and a daughter who was 5. We had a daughter together after 2 years. Now we got 7 kids. His daughters lived with him a few months before we got married then they got their own apartment together before we married. A little struggle in the beginning but nothing I couldn’t handle, until my husband’s sister started getting jealous of my husband....her own brother’s relationship! She was having problems with hers and hated to see us doing ok. So, she went after his twins and everybody on his side of the family to make them think it was all me who was creating the problems.
I met my husband on the job and I owned my own house, car, taking care of my kids by myself after my divorce. My house was giving to me by my father, so it had nothing to do with my first husband. After my husband’s sister took over my husband’s responsibilities of being a father and I was against him doing that, it’s been down hill since then. My kids love my husband because I never allowed anyone to disrespect anyone in our household! When my kids did wrong, I didn’t take up for them I made them fix their wrong! When my husband step out of boundaries I would let him know to correct the situations. Too much to write by now his adult grandkids who I help raised are showing jealousy behavior just like their twin moms and my husband’s sister! After 36 years of putting up with their shit I’m finally done! My husband never came to my defense and would tell me there’s nothing he could do about the way they behave. I worked every hard to keep this family together because we all came from broken families. I’m only 12 years older than they and my husband is 11 years older than me. He had nothing, but together we built a comfortable life style not just for us but for them too, which was never enough. I’m just done 36 years is a long time. But I had to allow the timing of God to tell me it was time to come out the storm!
I’m so sadden to hear all of this. 36 years is a very long time to spend with someone and now to call it quits, wow. All of this could have been avoided if things were handled differently from the start. How we start things off is normally how they end up. If the father wasn’t putting the kids in their places from the beginning how were things going to change? This is just sad. I’m sorry you had to go through this and even sadder to know it has come to you leaving the marriage. I pray your strength in moving on with your life. We all deserve to be happy and live a life full of joy! God did not bring us here to live life unhappy and sad. Live your life to the fullest. Thanks for watching and commenting. May God be with you and continue to bless you. Take care. 🙏🏽
Tangy Tea of Life thanks for the reply and yes things could have been a lot different in this family relationship if my husband spoke up. I’m not leaving him. He had a stroke and I’m the one who’s taking care of him. He needs me more than ever now and has anxiety if I’m gone more than a couple of hours. His kids don’t call him nor see him very much at all. His sister calls every once in awhile too. My kids and our one daughter between us are always helping out. I’m in control of everything now! People don’t understand what real love is until it’s too late!
Marilyn Tucker wow. Look at how God work things out. People need to stop playing because God is real and he will get our attention one way or another. I’m proud of you for standing up and doing your part as the wife. I pray God will heal your husband. Take care and know that this too shall pass. Stay blessed. 🙏🏽
Tangy Tea of Life 🙏🏾
At this point, all this entangled marriages and step families, y'all should just chill out. Why the hell must you be involved in all this chaos?
Question what about when it’s reversed. My step daughter is a headache. Disrespectful asf and I’ve been thinking of leaving my 9yr marriage. I helped raise her to 15 and it’s really got me no where
they loved me and needed me when they wanted help or behind my back they ask they daddy for help woth the car mechanic work and other things ..he is the enabler I already have my hands full ..the whole story if you help me
Going through this now 😫😫😫 it is horrible
Hello Ladies 👋 I have a 14 year but he is very rude and doesn't want to listen me like when I tell him to pick up afterhimself. Example he pees always on the toilet my husband and I have been telling him for years and he still does it. He just disrupts my whole house hold! He just doesn't have my back he thinks I am too on him but I just expects for him to keep my house clean after I work so hard cleaning!
Hi there. These teenagers are from a different planet lol. For real, I’m not sure what to say about them because some of them act like we owe them something. NO, we gave you life YOU owe us. A lot of them want to fit in and follow the crowd. Thinking that the things they do are cool. I pray for this generation because they are lost and with all the things going on in the world, that’s all we can do is PRAY. Just hold on, it’s going to get better. Believe that... it’s going to get better! 🙏🏽
❤️ The content ladies. Great discussion
Thank you for watching. 🙏🏽
I have a son and she a daughter. The thing is her daughter is 16, and gets loud and respectful. Putting herself in our conversation or fights. My will talk to with kid gloves on. Hell at times yells or scream to just have her come out screaming. She thinks it's funny, but I don't. Making her feel I'm doing something to her mother. But when it comes to my son, who is a quiet boy and stick to himself. We argue about his laziness which he is but that becomes a big problem more so than her daughter being disrespectful to the both of us. What's your thoughts on that?!
My 13 years step daughter very rude even I talk to her in nice way.
Keep doing what you’re doing. Eventually she will notice that her way is not working. 🙌🏽
I have found my people finally !!!!!!!
lol exactly… grown children… tell them off.
I have a similar situation my step son is 20 and moved back in with us he's not verbally disrespectful but he undermines my authority because my husband won't make him listen and he babies him he don't clean up after himself so I let him know I'm not cleaning up after him and when I tell him to do something he looks at my husband and if my husband don't say nothing he will just walk away and he will never do what I say and my husband will step in and do what I told him to do I started out asking him nicely but now after him doing that every time I do not ask him I tell him but he just ignores me because his dad wont do anything basically he has it in his mind he don't have to listen to me because his dad wont make him and it's obvious that he thinks because he's grown he don't have to listen to me but he's living in our house and my husband will not put his foot down so he just continues making messes that I have to clean up when I get home from work he works second shift so he's at home all day eating and making all kinds of dishes in the sink and the whole kitchen is a mess when I get home I'm exhausted when it was just me and my husband I didn't come home to messes because we both work during the day and my stepson thinks because he works he don't have to do anything so I'm so fed up and exhausted I was just looking for advice
Wow.. at 20 years old you would think he would have a little more respect towards you then he does. Your husband shouldn’t have to tell a grown child to clean up after himself. Dad needs to tell him it’s time to start acting like a MAN. He have to grow up and take on responsibilities as an adult. I hate to say this but if he treated him that way all his life, it’s probably too late to try an change him. I pray things will get better for you and things will turn around for the better. 🙏🏽
He would have to go!
he went the next day to cut a cake with the same kids I raised who jumped me from behind put me in a head lock how to forgive a man who literally went to their house after that episode
I’m truly sorry you had to go through that. 😢
I have question how you deal with a grandchild doesn't want to be bother with you I have done wrong I love in N. C. Now was in New York until this day she never call anything I feel hurt inside I have cry many tears I love her
Stepparents are always turned in to the villain and treated poorly. It doesn't change and if your spouse isn't willing to stop that behavior, that says everything. You deserve better and are worth more than that. No matter how well you treat them, it won't matter. it's their blueprint and how they were raised. Any attention taken off the kids cause issues, especially when it's given to the stepparent. When you try to put in place healthy boundries and say no to allowing that treatment in your home to you or your spouse, the kids/teens don't like that, especially when they are used to running the household prior to you coming into it. Many divorced parents parent out of guilt and give their kids anything. Then when a new person comes into the picture it's a problem for the kids/teens.
Yes kids can be that way for their own selfish reasons
She shouldn't have to say anything dad post to have that in check them his kids. That shows he don't have much respect for her to let them do that
Ain’t no way I could’ve put up with that shit
I SWEAR it was almost like listening to my own story!! His kids are the MOST disrespectful people I’ve EVER seen!!! I love my bonus grandchildren but now the kids threatened to not see him or let him see his grandchildren 🙄 because they don’t like me!! His baby girl (24yrs old) attacked me PHYSICALLY and I didn’t even fight back because that was his child. These are ADULT kids, it doesn’t even matter what she did (which I don’t believe she did anything) but they are GROWN!! They don’t have to come around and if they do they don’t have to be disrespectful when they do!! That woman ain’t do nothing to them kids!! These 90’s and 2000’s babies are the most disrespectful people in the WORLD!!!
What if it were the mom who was not putting her foot down?
Wow that’s my story but his are teenagers and are manipulative and sloppy and never pick up after themselves. And he won’t correct them like he corrects ours and mine.
Im 24 yrs old
My girl is 30
She was in a 5 year relationship previously w her 2 kids.
She had them at 17 and been raising them eversince.
Our relationship started off 3 yrs ago only sexually and as a closet affair but we got older and responsibilities started to intertwine. We started to live w each other. They disrespect the both of us but me more of course im not their father. She has allowed them to disrespect me numerous times. Saying " these are not your kids, you have no authority, leave them alone, they already have a father, youre bullying them(when i assert myself) and that you dont live here. Weve had arguements and fights and she will sit there and say that is the reasoning they are disrespectful even though they were before things ever got out of hand. They even make jokes at me about how their former "step dad" was better and how im jealous. Her son even called me a nigga one time. Theyve called me crackhead bum etc. Shes 7 months pregnant w my child now and her daughter is even worse. She tries to justify it saying her behavior was way worse when she was her daughters age. I have never got a belt on them or anything. But i always find myself apologizing.
You have to decide if this is what you want. You have to make that decision if you want to live like this forever. Take a deep look inside and decide what YOU want and what is best for YOU. Thanks for watching and hopefully things will get better really soon! 💕
Fuck that.... leave it's only gonna get worse.
I know this situation but as a man.
Have 2 stepkids and 1 mine, and another together. My SD kissed my butt to move in with us, then once here, she became very disrespectful. I tried to have her follow the same rules as the 3 boys but no, so she manipulated her father. She even got in the middle of an argument between us as adults and screamed at him to divorce me. Her mom is awful and she is now in my home. 2 of my sons no longer will talk to her, she also is disrespectful of them. I have a great relationship with my stepson. See daddy has zero rules with her, he is laid back- no curfew, goes wherever she wants with boyfriend, she was mad at me because i do not allow the boys to do the same. 15 yrs of marriage. I have known her most her life, but she has always been her mama.
Thissss thisss thiss!!!!!!!
Letting her move in was a huge mistake. Having an adult stepchild move into my home would not be an option. Grown kids need to live in their own place where they make their own rules. Moving back home to dictate the lives of their parent and stepparent is a recipe for disaster.
She is was 15 when she moved in and my husband makes the living- I had zero. However I fell for her bs- ow she just tries to get us to fight. Seriously she is a mole. She is 17 now and says she is moving in with bf( I feel so sorry for him - she controls him) I am like fine- get out! Please.
I wake up crying I go to sleep crying I feel like what was it what did I do why did this happen am so confused I dislike the situation but I was committed always been helping the entire family if I continue your whole video would be about me the inlaws and his only sister all disowned me told me I should have punched my daughter . hold up. me punch my daughter no she was yelling jump out of her chair to make her plea a point guess what I gave in enough is enough the disrespect is epic
I have an issue with my boyfriend's son and his step daughter having bad jealousy towards me because they feel like their dad treats me better than he did their mom. But what does that have to do with me tho? They've tried all types of ways of trying to talk bad about me. Trying to find things to demonize me about but they can barely find anything so it got to the point to where they started lieing on me and i found out and when i asked them about it they had like nothing to say
Children sometimes will do anything to try to turn all the attention their way. It’s sad that you have to go through this. Stand strong and show them who’s the adult. Hopefully your boyfriend is putting them in their place. That place being where children should stay and having respect for adults. Hopefully you’re showing them respect as well. I hope it all works out.
@@tangyteaoflife7624 the step daughter is in her late 20s. The son is almost 18. I've been with my boyfriend/fiance for 2 years. ... I noticed, from the stories I've heard and things I've noticed, that they've been on this mission to see him hurting since he left their mom. I think they just want me out of the way cuz they feel like he doesn't deserve to be happy. And they see that he's happy and being treated good. He treats me good and makes me happy too. We both been through some messed up relationships. That's why we embrace eachother so much and we understand eachother on a personal level like with personalities and everything. I feel like that bothers them hard. They're hating on their own dad which sucks. And i really think their obsession isn't going to stop until they see him suffer and they're satisfied
@@tangyteaoflife7624 thank you for replying! I appreciate you taking the time out to respond! 💖
That is so messy of them. Who wouldn’t want to see their parents happy?! Unfortunately, you do have some children out there that would go the extra mile to see there parent miserable because they are not with their biological mom/dad. Live your best life honey! They will be just find. They are too grown to be acting that way. I wish you all the best! 💕💕
This is true!
For me its my husbands adult children. They have been liars & disrespectful to me . He has not confronted them in my defense. Even if he wants to go see them it angers me . Why because he has not put them in their place.
My husband and I have been together for 13 years and his son has been disrespectful and entitled for so long. We’ve been together since he was 2, the mom has alienated him always but the last 3 years I thought we had come so far but right before he came for the summer he started his crap all over again and it was the most miserable summer. My husband feels guilty disciplining the son but he had so many talks and my husbands mom ended up meeting my stepsons stepdad but not before I told my stepson if he was one of our girls talking to me the way he was he would have been picking himself off the floor. The mom lets him speak disrespectful to her and I even told him he better start respecting her and his stepdad and for damn sure if he’s coming to my house he will respect me and his dad. I’m so sick of the mom and him being just complete A-holes. It’s part the mom but most importantly their 15 year old son needs his ass whooped. I don’t allow my kids to disrespect me in my house and I damn sure am not going to let him come up in my house and cause bs. We also told him from now on the video games aren’t allowed at our house. Seems to be part of it, won’t listen and get off the damn thing and we have let him game more than his mother. I don’t know what to do anymore but it won’t happen in my home anymore.
I have two who came through the door desrespecting me.
mind you we are a blended family he is a trini I am Latina Italian..I am trying so hard people I need help...
But what I’d they’re not grown??? Then what to do?
You said Like Right!!! 😊
Girl... you know I’m from the south! 🤷🏽♀️
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Lady's plz let me know how I can talk with u guys about my situation,I married a white woman with 2 kids from her 1rst marriage we got a 5 year old together .they mom basically is afraid of her own 16 years old son when ever I check him she start to defend them plz I need to talk to u.my name is olivier
Hi Oliver. Email us at TangyTeaOfLife@Gmail.Com
Got it
Oh no people do just become evil. My husbands spawns decided not to like me before I met them. I did nothing to them, tried for nine years to be good to them, and now realized it’s their issues not mine, and I now reject them. Bye Felicia! He can go visit them they can’t come here.
I have a question. When Is it okay for a man to slap his teen stepchild for being rude and disrespectful or is it wrong?
Never. My ex left me for doing exactly that.
maybe it was for the best
Did the lady from this topic ever respond?
Wish I found your videos sooner! Dealing with the same thing right now except the stepson is 16 and our son together is 11 months old
Hi Skye. I pray it gets better for you. Just keep doing what you’re doing and hopefully the child and the parent will get on the same page and then you all can come together on one accord. 🙏🏽 Thanks for watching and keep the faith that things will get better.
I probably cut them out😂😂
My husband and I are currently in trouble because he will not be mad at me and punish me for telling his 24 year old and her girlfriend to learn shut their mouths because I'm sick of their constant racism and disrespectful behavior. Let that mama be mad 9 times out of 10 that woman is the core of the problem because she can't stand the fact that you are in her child's life or she's still angry at the daddy. My husband had told them multiple times over several years that their behavior was not appropriate they kept it up this is on them.
My stepson got smacked the other day
These two are the types that bring the disrespectful children.
My stepdaughter take money from my wallet and go into my bag and take my belongings without asking me lies a lot to make her mother argue with me the saddest thing is my wife attack me instead of correcting her kid my wife let her brother and her dad ex woman in my house and took they side her parents also attack and disrespect me because everytime my wife and I get into an argument my wife call her parents and play the victim role my wife father ex woman went and tell my wife father and mother I feed my kids but I don't feed her daughter which is a lie I cook and severe dinner for the 3 kids and severe her father ex woman and I eat last I'm so fed up with this situation my wife mother use church to cover her wicked way her and her husband call me stupid, idiot, devil , abuser and all type of name's I called my wife phone her mom answered and told me don't call back this phone told my wife and my wife had the phone and speaker and her mom said I lie and the attack started they wanted me to come to they house for vacation in Jamaica and I'm so glad I followed my mind and decided not to go
Bruh. Leave
If it’s not your children’s you have to make them your friend you are the adult nobody likes to be boss around when you give respect you will get respect she is not telling everything you can’t only show love to your children that my take on this topic bless and good luck with your marriage your husband is a good man he is layback and and not a fighter cussing out your husband will not make it better 🙏
When are you guys going to make more videos!!!! ?????
Hi there! We’ve been going live since the pandemic. Things have slowed down a lot with all that’s going on but we try to go live at least once a week or every other week.
They look like they got good couchie
help me answer this please
Your husband is married to you. Your husband has to set boundaries . He has to make sure his kids do not disrespect you .
Bottom line step kids are a big problem. They are ungrateful, spoiled and do not deserve a good step parent. In your case a divorce might be your best choice.
Wtf they 25