Gonna make this story short most bw with kids had them with pookie's and Ray Ray's. 90 out of 100 of them will always sleep with their baby daddy or daddy's behind the new boyfriend or husband back. Not only her baby daddy you have to worry about what about all of her ex boyfriends and friends with benefits or the new men she gives her number to. Fellas do you think you will always be the only one. She is for the streets and no lie almost all of my friends still sleep with their baby momma's and these wolves in sheep's clothing bw got good men they cheating on. To the single and childless bm don't be fools you would waste your life being for her and them kids while she is being for everyone else with you dragging along
My Cousin got killed taking care of a woman and her child. The biological dad got jealous stalked him home one day after he got off of work and killed him. Now she’s back with her baby daddy. He never got convicted because Baton Rouge PD lost the dna evidence that had him on the scene.
I'm from Detroit most bw only date and have kids with killers drug dealers womanizers deadbeat dads jailbirds pookie's and Ray Ray's scammers felons women beaters drunks men getting high off their own supply men on the offenders list robbers goons thugs and most bw know what these men are about. But be so quick to friend zone a good man. This is why I tell single and childless BM to date outside of the race because the chances are greater. These evil bm have more kids than every legit bm in the whole state of Michigan so what that say about bw. I blame bw for everything they failed our race for pookie's and Ray Ray's
I've got a friend who had a child witha woman who had 3 kids with her previous husband. Now my friend pays all their bills. He is on a 120k salary but lives paycheck to paycheck. Totally Fked😂
Any honest man will tell the truth about this. Even the men I know personally who wifed up single mothers warned me to never do it. Let that sink in. Leave them alone!
I could never imagine showing up at my mothers house on thanksgiving day with another man’s kids🤣🤣🙅🏾♂️it’s self disrespect, men need to higher up their standards.
Black men are constantly complaining about black women’s standards being too high. Yet, standards for your type includes a woman being physically attractive, no kids, a virgin, a slut in the bedroom, perform all the duties of a traditional housewife, and pay half the bills. Or, be physically attracted, no kids, a virgin, a slut in the bedroom, stay at home and perform all the duties of a traditional housewife, and be happy with whatever mediocre life that you can financially provide for her. It’s hypocritical at best.
Agreed. 1. Best for childfree people to date childfree people. 2. If you are going to date a single mother or a single father DON'T live together and DON'T get married untill kids are over 18 and out of the house. And DON'T combine finances or take financial responsibility for the child. Keep you wallet closed.
Men are the provider and protector. Single fathers and single mothers are nothing alike. A single father must provide and protect take care of his children. If he gets another woman he has to provide for her too. Women don’t provide and protect.
This the realest advice I've ever heard. I dated a single mother for 8 years with 2 kids by different baby daddies. GLAD I LEFT THAT RELATIONSHIP NEVER AGAIN
8 Years...Bro WTF? You defenitley liked her bro...Like I want some context, whar happened that made you look passed the 8 years, I mean was it her personality...Let's be real, I feel single mothers playing the Game for the Playoffs fam...I have met some really dope women who are signle mothers, kind AF, responsible and super freaks...It's almost as if they are compensating for their Baby Mama BS. Cause I won't lie when it comes to her kid and her Baby Daddy, are like the only things that trip up her consistency...
Been there done that. Speaking from personal experience, don't let anyone butter sucker you into thinking going that route is "noble and honorable". You'll be setting yourself up for disappointment and heartache
There's nothing noble and honorable about it for most men. That's just how women sell it to make you buy into the b.s. Give a few mothers some tequila shots, then ask them if they would be cool with being stepmothers. They wouldn't. They know how catty, petty and trifling other women can be. No way would most mothers sign up to be stepmothers.
I used to think it was hilarious how kevin Samuels, would have these discussions with single women with children. He would ask if one of the children was a male. Well, after some discussion from the mother about how men should consider a single mother, he would ask her how she would feel if her son wanted to marry a single mother... the lady would always say no.
I tried to be a stepfather before because I had two great stepfather's growing up but these Sisters of today don't appreciate that s*** & i refuse to be a Simp.. #youaintmyDaddy
I had a step dad from age 5 to 13. We don’t talk anymore but he’s got his own children now. I thank him for his service but how my mom treated this man. I would have left her many years prior. And this is my mother.
I’m child free and married a man with a kid. I felt like I was in a 3way marriage. He also always reminded me that he would never love me the way he loves his kid. He told me his kid and babymama come first! I filed for divorce. Know your worth!
Yeah I would of left….. I’m married a single father and he puts me before his kid and baby mama. He loves his kid and takes care of him. But he understands he has to prioritize his marriage or he won’t have one.
I hate when people compare the two. The love is completely different. Let’s be honest men can’t live without sex or woman. They love their children but still won’t throw away their relationship or marriage over it.
@@lewis20002000 If a man is poor & loves the child, he will do ANYTHING to get it up. How can a man look in the eyes of a child and not get busy? These women pick sexy, buff losers with game to fuck. The responsible men are rarely seen. Its the mothers fault.
I agree and as a childless woman and i nean childless no miscarriage or abortion..im not marrying a man with kids.. no baby mama drama..kidless people shoukd marry kidless peot.. taking care of or being involved with a man with kids is horrible. he still dealing with the baby mama
Anton the crazy thing is my mother was a single mother when she married my Father. My brother and my Father never got along until this day, it was a bad move and that's crazy to say.
This is one of the realest videos ever. Only ones who are pissed are simps who are already step daddies and women with a bunch of kids who want to put the burden of their bad decision making skills on a man who didn’t make said child. The only ones who get a pass in my book are widows and that pass has conditions
Exactly, honestly the only scenario ive seem it work was a coworker dating a single mother who had a civil relationship with her children's father. They had joint custody and he basically dated her when her kids were with their father. They had problems and adjustments obviously but they're still together and married for 2 years now
When I met my wife, she was a single mom with two kids. I took the responsibility to help her raise and take care of the kids. I later had a child with her too. Raised the kids to be respectful, hard working, and good human beings. I can’t say whether it would be good for another man to do. I had no problem doing it. They are the sister and brother of my daughter. They will help take care of me with her just as they are going to do for their mother. Relationship wise, you sign up to help her raise her children. God blesses you for doing the rite things. I can tell you that it paid off!!!
Sounds like you’ve been married for a while brother, its a different breed out here these days and im glad you have a success story but alot of men dont want to take the risk anymore
Especially women with multiple kids from multiple men… 🤦♂️ I mean good lord, you got to be a damn fool to look at a woman and go oh yeah didn’t work with the first two or three fathers but imma go ahead and give this a go. Like damn dude, is it just desperation ? Or are they really under some kinda spell ? Suckaz.
Dawg ✌🏾🤣😂😂😂💀 “Oh Yea didn’t work with the 1st, two or 3 fathers, but I’ma go ahead & give this a try” I’m 😂😂💀⚰️ asf you snapped. Should be a Family Guy skit.
Gonna make this story short most bw with kids had them with pookie's and Ray Ray's. 90 out of 100 of them will always sleep with their baby daddy or daddy's behind the new boyfriend or husband back. Not only her baby daddy you have to worry about what about all of her ex boyfriends and friends with benefits or the new men she gives her number to. Fellas do you think you will always be the only one. She is for the streets and no lie almost all of my friends still sleep with their baby momma's and these wolves in sheep's clothing bw got good men they cheating on. To the single and childless bm don't be fools you would waste your life being for her and them kids while she is being for everyone else with you dragging along
@@thetruthtings most definitely, maybe I gotta big ego but I’m almost 100% certain I could get with my BM, it doesn’t phase her one bit. I try to see the good in most people but I’m telling ya, I think she’s hollow. Lights are on, nobody’s home. She’s a shape shifter and like water will take the shape of whatever gets her what she needs.
@@teddyblanco1898 I could go on forever rippin and roastin. But it is fascinating to me. The psychology of people, and why they do that kinda shit. Glad you liked that tho! Laugh at my pain right ?! 😂 o
@Frequent Flyer Thts crazy. Thts sounds exactly like my baby mama. I think she tried her best to put on her best roll in the beginning but it was only a matter of time her dingyness and unstable empty head ass will reveal to me. Thts why I had to leave. 😂
Being a stepparent is a thankless position if you make the wrong choice. Do blended families work? Absolutely. I've seen it. But you're one argument away from hearing, "That's not your child", "Those aren't your kids", or "You're not my father." Being a stepparent brings out the ungratefulness in people. It's hell on earth if you're with the wrong single mother. You won't have any peace. Choose wisely when dating single parents.
It's so ignorant for the manosphere guys to exclude widows. Being a widow doesn't make the kids disappear. Being a widow does not mean she was this saint like woman with a happy marriage then husband suddenly died. Being a widow doesn't mean she wasn't on her 2nd/3rd husband. Being a widow doesn't mean she wasn't a single mom with a baby daddy when she got married. Being a single mom doesn't mean her husband wasn't shot in a drug deal. She's still a single mom with single mom issues. She's in the same category with the rest.
Telling you by experience don’t do it! They will put their kids above you and you’re always wrong when it comes to their kids. It’s a nightmare don’t do it!
facts, unless she is widowed no man should consider being in a serious relationship with a single mom. On top of what Anton expressed, understand she will NEVER be completely yours. There will always be a part of her that belongs to the man that she birth a child with, regardless if they were married or not. She will act like that's not the case in order to please you and make you feel secure about the relationship, there will always be a part of her physically and spiritually that belongs to the father of her child and there's nothing she can do to change it. Think.
you will never be that kids father. you may get along with them and they'll let you entertain them but any time you try and "raise" them the woman will remind you it's her child and the child will remind you... your not their father. i just spent the last 20+ years trying to be a father and provider to a single mother and daughter. the dad was never in the picture. out of no where he shows up at her wedding playing the caring father. walked her down the isle and gave one hell of a speech at the ceremony. i was not told any of this was going to happen by either of them. at the end of his very well written speech i realized that all i had done for her mother and her was pay for the last twenty years of shit. neither one of them really respected me. it was like i didn't exist. i just shut my mouth and didn't say a word for the entire evening. on the ride home she(the woman playing my wife) gave me shit for being such a stick in the mud. i feel so embarrassed for allowing myself to be duped for the five millionth time. and this young lady that i thought was close to me... didn't say a word to me all night. I'm now 62 years old... i gave everything i had and was to those two women. and got kicked in the balls as a reward. the amount of grief these two have brought into my life... DO NOT RAISE ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD. DO NOT DATE SINGLE MOM'S. DO NOT DATE DIVORCED WOMEN... EVEN IF THEY DON'T HAVE CHILDREN.
I went out on a date with a woman who has two kids from two different fathers. Her six year old son kept calling her, while we were out, then the baby father, girlfriend called her. I was done after the first night.
@@sreynolds1488 I started moving on slowly whilst I was still with her and all the feelings went. Since the feelings went I decided that I wud leave without telling her. So I just bought an expensive present for her son then after that I cut off all communications. No calling ND texting. If she texts I used to reply after hours or days. Since I left it's been the best decision I made
He wanted me to financially take care of his kids while his baby mother kept the kids, food stamps and SSI checks while he was not working and when I run these concerns to the table, he told me that I was “itching”
People gotta understand that there are some guys that wanted to be with children’s mother. However, she fckd up and or he fckd up. It happens to both men and women.
Lol are you saying it’s righteous to take care of another man’s kids ? Or that it’s righteous to have your own, with your own woman who’s ready to start a family ?
@@lordniyo4979 whatever is good and proper for one man may not be the same for another. It takes a good and righteous man to raise children that are not biologically his. Even Jesus had an father who adopted him.
Is unnecessary baggage for any man that's trying to move up in life is gonna hinder your growth at the end there is no benefits on taking on unnecessary responsibilities and headaches just for some cheeks and companionship no thank you.
My man got with a women with 2 children already out if the goodness of his heart he helped her out & ended up having 2 more by her smh . I feel.bad he wasn't taught to choose his partners .wisely & to not date single mothers . She is now trying to ruin his life & reputation .
Its near impossible to find a man over 40 without children and bitter ex-wives/baby moms. When I was dating I met a great guy with a daughter. Well as soon as the mom found out he was serious everything was disrupted and the little girl turned on me…AND she stole my clothes and jewelry when I babysat. NEVER would I advise a young, single lady to enter into a ready made family, especially when girl children are involved.
Probably hard to find because those men date younger women, and by doing so decrease the likelihood they will encounter one of these bitter single mothers you don't want to deal with either
No self respect. Mf’s want to be captain save a hoe, for some extreme sense of purpose or something lol niggas want to be hero’s, instead of just being a father to their own kids with their own special woman SMH
Women today are difference then the women back then. I raise 3 kids that wasn't mine and still support them today! the problem is women wants the man to be baby sitters not fathers!
Keep the faith sweetheart. My Grandmother married my Grandfather after she had three children by 2 different men. They then had my mother and stayed together for 40- plus years. RIP to both of them. Despite what you heard there is always someone for somebody.🤵👰♀️❤👵 🧓
I got with a childhood fling after moving away from my hometown, she had her first child by me, in let’s just say a not so wholesome way, she played me. I kicked her to the curb, she’s now on a third guy with a third baby, she’s having them as fast as she can make them. Come to find out she was married while we were together, but not in a love affair kinda way, she was married to a friend or family member to get them citizenship. And no she is not Latina if that matters. So yeah, stick to your guns, God is important, have a list of questions to ask women, if they don’t have the perfect answer then move forward.
If you're dating a single mother, it's best if you come into the relationship with kids of your own or if you had a relationship or marriage with a single mother that failed. Why? Because you're coming into that new relationship with credibility. Lessons learned. If you don't have any kids of your own and you don't have history with her, you can't tell her anything about her kids because she doesn't trust you.
My step father was my only real father he changed my life into an amazing loving secure world without him I wouldn’t be who I am today. He passed away not long ago and I miss him every day. He showed me how to be a woman of integrity and self respect he showed me what a real man father husband friend a hardworking genuine amazing father he was the best and this is such a dumb idea to spread around I bet half the men in here were raised by a man not their father my step father was my father and changed my life for the absolute better it hurts my heart to hear this love me family is on a individual basis not just blood some of my blood family are the worst kind of people this video is sad
I don't know man. I have a kid but I have too much to lose. A single parent would be able to relate well, but I've just seen way too many cases of blended families not working out. You're gonna be expected to provide for a kid not yours. Especially with the economy nowadays providing for another kid that's not even yours just isn't worth it. I wouldnt mind mentoring kids, but step fathering is a whole other ball game. On the flip side I don't expect a woman to parent my child or provide. It takes a very special single Mom to make it work with but that's rare these days. I bet they're out there, a woman who can hold down a good job and respects her body, self and others.
For the women saying “Some baby moms don’t deal with their BD so that makes it ok for the man to be a step father” The point is she’s still used and a single man with no kids deserves his own pure woman with whole hearted intentions, and a virgin womb. That’s the point. It’s not about her drama, it’s self respect for the Man that not many of us seem to have anymore.
The Bible doesn't say that's your wife or husband because you slept with them that's called fornication. But a ungodly union does happen it's called a soul tie
I'm not an absolute person all these particular people in one way or another are bad, racist, liars whatever. I will say 99.8% of baby mommas AVOID EM!
The only way I’d ever do it is if I was living alone in no relationship. I would adopt a boy child out of the system that has absolutely nobody. In no other scenario would I consider it.
There are women without kids that do worse, should single mothers not be allowed to find love just because they're no longer with their child's father? Women still get pregnant even after taking pills not too. Should she have had an abortion? I'm sorry this is really sad. Men have multiple kids with multiple women and that's okay but single mothers need to stay single lol. This is really sad
I honestly do feel it not too much of a problem if she was divorced or widowed with one kid. I dated a widow for many years with one kid and we are still good friends. The real problem are these Kendra G baby mamas with three or four kids with three baby daddies and these women have pre-schoolers. And have the audacity to ask for a six figure man. These women should be off the dating market until their children are grown and out the house.Let their baby daddies take care of them.
Are there any men in here that says its a good thing and have experience with this? I need reassurance!! I am currently in the trenches, girl and 2 kids live in my place. Its got its ups and downs but the conversation and pressure keep building. Do I take my chance and leave? I have never been married, had kids of my own, own my place, but spent the year out of the office supporting. Should I run for the hills?
This comment was 5 months ago but what sort of pressure? Just keep your eyes peeled. Any red flags and toxicity will reveal itself after a year or 2. Before that you have no idea what you're getting yourself into.
@@snnn4818 nah, pressure from her pyshco ex and all the fun that comes with courts. I left, split a house in CO cash with my mom. I'm living good and it was a great decision. We are still together but I sold the house and left the state lol.
Guys who don’t have kids in their 20s and 30s who do this are so infatuated with the looks of the woman, they will accept anything! I’ve heard of a dude who dated a woman while she was pregnant with another man’s baby! He married her. But she completely ran the relationship and he did whatever she said till this day!
With all the child support I'm sure she is receiving life could be really great. Before you hook up make sure and find out how much child support she gets every week. Maybe you can stop working.
😂 I hope you're joking. My Aunts husband did this, most non respectable thing I've ever seen. Stopped working and got the child support as his personal allowance. Imagine being the Dad and not knowing this.
Every kid deserves a father. If a man wants to help a child that doesn’t have a dad that’s his business. But what we can’t do is save females that choose thugs. But that’s what the music tricked us all into. So a man saving a females is just cleaning up the mess the record labels made .
@@CadiKane I agree you can mentor a kid for like a Hr or 2 I see nothing wrong with that. But being a stepdad is 24hrs,7 days a week,12 months in a yr,365 days a yr 😂. That’s the Difference Childless black man need to know and understand. You don’t have to be a stepdad but you can mentor a couple of kids. And get paid for it or you could do it out the kindness of your heart. The decision is yours me personally I’ll do both get paid and do it cause I’m not a heartless person 😅.
Gonna make this story short most bw with kids had them with pookie's and Ray Ray's. 90 out of 100 of them will always sleep with their baby daddy or daddy's behind the new boyfriend or husband back. Not only her baby daddy you have to worry about what about all of her ex boyfriends and friends with benefits or the new men she gives her number to. Fellas do you think you will always be the only one. She is for the streets and no lie almost all of my friends still sleep with their baby momma's and these wolves in sheep's clothing bw got good men they cheating on. To the single and childless bm don't be fools you would waste your life being for her and them kids while she is being for everyone else with you dragging along
Being a stepfather is not a good deal there's no love in it the kids as they get older will remind you that you are not there father and the mother will expect you to feel like she does for her kids even though she's knows you are not the dad what's up with that picture? and then comes the time when they want to know what to call you it's not a happy journey my wife was complaining about getting pregnant again so we ended up not having any kids together no one appreciates you even though they say that they do but actions speaks louder than words take it from someone who's living that life it's not a picnic 😮
I divorced my first wife in my early thirties. I’m not particularly into younger women. So the likelihood of me finding a woman that fit my age preference with no kids is extremely slim. And I’ll tell anyone that marrying my current wife, who at the time was a single mother, was the best decision I’ve made in all my 41yrs of living. And we’re living a life of prosperity that most of you fake alphas can only dream of.
@@kevincunningham3655 marrying a single mom is not wise for any man. Because you made a risky decision that turned out well for you does not mean it is a path others should follow. I can go from LA to Vegas by walking there but it’s still not the ideal way to travel. I’m glad everything worked out for you but advising others to walk a risky path is not wise in my opinion.
@@70two41five It 100% depends on the woman. I’ve married two single mothers. One was disastrous. One was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. I think advising men to shun all single mothers is silly. Especially as we age. But I do advise men dealing with single mothers to not ignore the red flags because they show up early and often.
I made this mistake please do not do it
Why did you do it?
@Issac Einstein you know why....
Heavy on the 🗣️”PLEASE”
Bc he like most of the men in our community, we thought we were doing the right thing based on what we saw from everyone else around us
Gonna make this story short most bw with kids had them with pookie's and Ray Ray's. 90 out of 100 of them will always sleep with their baby daddy or daddy's behind the new boyfriend or husband back. Not only her baby daddy you have to worry about what about all of her ex boyfriends and friends with benefits or the new men she gives her number to. Fellas do you think you will always be the only one. She is for the streets and no lie almost all of my friends still sleep with their baby momma's and these wolves in sheep's clothing bw got good men they cheating on. To the single and childless bm don't be fools you would waste your life being for her and them kids while she is being for everyone else with you dragging along
I married a single Mother, she turned me into a single father.
What a mistake…
Lol same here
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Damn
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My Cousin got killed taking care of a woman and her child. The biological dad got jealous stalked him home one day after he got off of work and killed him. Now she’s back with her baby daddy. He never got convicted because Baton Rouge PD lost the dna evidence that had him on the scene.
That’s fucked up!😤 Rip to bro
Mannn that's sad...
Man RiP that sound like sum BR shit smh
Why you didn’t slide for your cousin?
@@roadrunnertrav7179 I never liked guns & I was a kid.
Being a stepfather is like paying full price for a Whopper that someone already bit into
Simp customer: give me a whopper
BK: here’s one with just 2 bites. The same thing with just 2 bites
Simp customer: ok I’ll take it.
real shit. and you'll find its ALL about them and THEY kids. not u. u just end up serving
Two bites and passed around outside for a week then put back into the wrapper
Women are not whoppers.
@@LiterallyTho it's called an analogy madam.
Exactly! If you’re single without kids & gettin’ to the bag, NEVER play step daddy
In Jesus name
I'm from Detroit most bw only date and have kids with killers drug dealers womanizers deadbeat dads jailbirds pookie's and Ray Ray's scammers felons women beaters drunks men getting high off their own supply men on the offenders list robbers goons thugs and most bw know what these men are about. But be so quick to friend zone a good man. This is why I tell single and childless BM to date outside of the race because the chances are greater. These evil bm have more kids than every legit bm in the whole state of Michigan so what that say about bw. I blame bw for everything they failed our race for pookie's and Ray Ray's
Amen preach I concur
I've got a friend who had a child witha woman who had 3 kids with her previous husband. Now my friend pays all their bills. He is on a 120k salary but lives paycheck to paycheck. Totally Fked😂
Facts never
Any honest man will tell the truth about this. Even the men I know personally who wifed up single mothers warned me to never do it. Let that sink in. Leave them alone!
My auntie husband told me “don’t ever get with a woman who have kids”
Those men can't leave. They'll get trashed in the divorce. It's cheaper to keep her.
Absolutely correct
I could never imagine showing up at my mothers house on thanksgiving day with another man’s kids🤣🤣🙅🏾♂️it’s self disrespect, men need to higher up their standards.
Lil nigga eatin up all the turkey , mac n cheese, and sweet potato pie
Black men are constantly complaining about black women’s standards being too high. Yet, standards for your type includes a woman being physically attractive, no kids, a virgin, a slut in the bedroom, perform all the duties of a traditional housewife, and pay half the bills. Or, be physically attracted, no kids, a virgin, a slut in the bedroom, stay at home and perform all the duties of a traditional housewife, and be happy with whatever mediocre life that you can financially provide for her. It’s hypocritical at best.
@@dirtysouthg4l kids eat 1st remember 😆🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah these brothas standards are at the lowest at this point. They love these lil chicken heads 😂
@@dirtysouthg4l 🤣🤣🤣lmao
Agreed.
1. Best for childfree people to date childfree people.
2. If you are going to date a single mother or a single father DON'T live together and DON'T get married untill kids are over 18 and out of the house. And DON'T combine finances or take financial responsibility for the child. Keep you wallet closed.
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Men are the provider and protector. Single fathers and single mothers are nothing alike. A single father must provide and protect take care of his children. If he gets another woman he has to provide for her too. Women don’t provide and protect.
@@geebee8989 facts
@@geebee8989he doesn’t have to provide shit that’s the problem women be dating y’all for money and dating guys like me for fun lmaoo
@@1909_RIC😂😂🤣🤣
This the realest advice I've ever heard. I dated a single mother for 8 years with 2 kids by different baby daddies. GLAD I LEFT THAT RELATIONSHIP NEVER AGAIN
What was main reason for leaving after being with her so long?
You must have been fresh out, or missing all the teeth from your mouth for being so DOWN BAD. What was your reasoning for that, sir?
Nurturing watering pruning and picking leaves 😂🤦🏽♂️🎯💯
8 Years...Bro WTF? You defenitley liked her bro...Like I want some context, whar happened that made you look passed the 8 years, I mean was it her personality...Let's be real, I feel single mothers playing the Game for the Playoffs fam...I have met some really dope women who are signle mothers, kind AF, responsible and super freaks...It's almost as if they are compensating for their Baby Mama BS. Cause I won't lie when it comes to her kid and her Baby Daddy, are like the only things that trip up her consistency...
@@AmuMabasa Still waiting for the dam answer
Wasted 4 years on this BS trust me it ain’t worth it ‼️
Me to
You thought you were a playa while hitting from the back huh 💀
Been there done that. Speaking from personal experience, don't let anyone butter sucker you into thinking going that route is "noble and honorable". You'll be setting yourself up for disappointment and heartache
There's nothing noble and honorable about it for most men. That's just how women sell it to make you buy into the b.s. Give a few mothers some tequila shots, then ask them if they would be cool with being stepmothers. They wouldn't. They know how catty, petty and trifling other women can be. No way would most mothers sign up to be stepmothers.
Definitely dumbest thing I've ever done. Found a Bajan woman with no kids and got engaged and had my first kid.
Barbados! A rare find
@stephendavis4480 Been nothing but a blessing to me and an incredible Mother. You couldn't get me to date another American woman 😄
Hard to take care of something that you didn't have any fun making
If you haven't gotten her pregnant get the hell out of there and FAST!
Smart
Facts
Dating a single woman with another man’s kids is like a eating a bitten fruit that’s been thrown away .. just a rotten apple I don’t wanna eat !!
I was told once "you're not my daddy".
Never again😢
That shit did hurt
🤣🤣😂😂😂
I used to think it was hilarious how kevin Samuels, would have these discussions with single women with children. He would ask if one of the children was a male. Well, after some discussion from the mother about how men should consider a single mother, he would ask her how she would feel if her son wanted to marry a single mother... the lady would always say no.
Everytime 😅
Because it’s common sense, she knows she’s a liar and a hypocrite. That’s how those women are, manipulative and indecisive.
@@lordniyo4979big facts
I tried to be a stepfather before because I had two great stepfather's growing up but these Sisters of today don't appreciate that s*** & i refuse to be a Simp..
#youaintmyDaddy
Sheesh 😂 you said you had two step daddies our mother's failed us I HATE to say it SMH
@@d.t.williams5034 yeah now that I'm also most 50 I realized that my mama always picked jailbirds & ain't shit niggas..
@@d.t.williams5034 Bruh really said 2 with no shame. This is a DIRECT effect of the matriarchy . WOW.
@@EsauistheCaucasian 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@d.t.williams5034 I wonder how many "uncles" he done had too.....
I had a step dad from age 5 to 13. We don’t talk anymore but he’s got his own children now. I thank him for his service but how my mom treated this man. I would have left her many years prior. And this is my mother.
I’m child free and married a man with a kid. I felt like I was in a 3way marriage. He also always reminded me that he would never love me the way he loves his kid. He told me his kid and babymama come first! I filed for divorce. Know your worth!
He’s right that that makes a lot of sense. He will never love you the way that he loves his kids. You’re in your own bracket as a wife.
Yeah I would of left….. I’m married a single father and he puts me before his kid and baby mama. He loves his kid and takes care of him. But he understands he has to prioritize his marriage or he won’t have one.
I hate when people compare the two. The love is completely different. Let’s be honest men can’t live without sex or woman. They love their children but still won’t throw away their relationship or marriage over it.
I understand the thought, but I’m grateful for my stepfather nevertheless.
Appreciate that comment 🙏
There needs to be hard consequences for having a child from the wrong man. Those women dont deserve opportunities to be saved from single motherhood.
I think more of the problem is having a child from a guy with NO resources, not willing to support/provide, and/o didn't want a child.
Wow this is a horrible thing to say 😔
@@KonsciousKomedyKay Stop making bastards & pick better dicks, the days of mercy are over. Pick better or suffer.
@@lewis20002000 If a man is poor & loves the child, he will do ANYTHING to get it up. How can a man look in the eyes of a child and not get busy? These women pick sexy, buff losers with game to fuck. The responsible men are rarely seen. Its the mothers fault.
@@KonsciousKomedyKayits true too bad
I agree and as a childless woman and i nean childless no miscarriage or abortion..im not marrying a man with kids.. no baby mama drama..kidless people shoukd marry kidless peot.. taking care of or being involved with a man with kids is horrible. he still dealing with the baby mama
Shut your bitter self up.
Exactly, you'll be dating the baby mama as well and dealing with her jealous drama.
Anton the crazy thing is my mother was a single mother when she married my Father. My brother and my Father never got along until this day, it was a bad move and that's crazy to say.
@money manifestor No that's crazy too
@@rooseveltdarbey9493 DNA
Never become a stepdad fellas it’s a thankless job
This is one of the realest videos ever. Only ones who are pissed are simps who are already step daddies and women with a bunch of kids who want to put the burden of their bad decision making skills on a man who didn’t make said child. The only ones who get a pass in my book are widows and that pass has conditions
Alot of them widows is from pookie being the victim of a drive-by as well.
Exactly, honestly the only scenario ive seem it work was a coworker dating a single mother who had a civil relationship with her children's father. They had joint custody and he basically dated her when her kids were with their father. They had problems and adjustments obviously but they're still together and married for 2 years now
When I met my wife, she was a single mom with two kids. I took the responsibility to help her raise and take care of the kids. I later had a child with her too. Raised the kids to be respectful, hard working, and good human beings. I can’t say whether it would be good for another man to do. I had no problem doing it. They are the sister and brother of my daughter. They will help take care of me with her just as they are going to do for their mother. Relationship wise, you sign up to help her raise her children. God blesses you for doing the rite things. I can tell you that it paid off!!!
How did she breakup with the bd? If u don't mind
Could a woman with no kids have provided the same?
Sounds like you’ve been married for a while brother, its a different breed out here these days and im glad you have a success story but alot of men dont want to take the risk anymore
Good to hear my brother happy for you and your family but didn't go to well for me.
Thank you bro
THATS FACTS BRO, sex IS marriage but we not ready for that conversation
Except for the Bible also mentions prostitutes and concubines.
Especially women with multiple kids from multiple men… 🤦♂️ I mean good lord, you got to be a damn fool to look at a woman and go oh yeah didn’t work with the first two or three fathers but imma go ahead and give this a go. Like damn dude, is it just desperation ? Or are they really under some kinda spell ? Suckaz.
Dawg ✌🏾🤣😂😂😂💀 “Oh Yea didn’t work with the 1st, two or 3 fathers, but I’ma go ahead & give this a try” I’m 😂😂💀⚰️ asf you snapped. Should be a Family Guy skit.
Gonna make this story short most bw with kids had them with pookie's and Ray Ray's. 90 out of 100 of them will always sleep with their baby daddy or daddy's behind the new boyfriend or husband back. Not only her baby daddy you have to worry about what about all of her ex boyfriends and friends with benefits or the new men she gives her number to. Fellas do you think you will always be the only one. She is for the streets and no lie almost all of my friends still sleep with their baby momma's and these wolves in sheep's clothing bw got good men they cheating on. To the single and childless bm don't be fools you would waste your life being for her and them kids while she is being for everyone else with you dragging along
@@thetruthtings most definitely, maybe I gotta big ego but I’m almost 100% certain I could get with my BM, it doesn’t phase her one bit. I try to see the good in most people but I’m telling ya, I think she’s hollow. Lights are on, nobody’s home. She’s a shape shifter and like water will take the shape of whatever gets her what she needs.
@@teddyblanco1898 I could go on forever rippin and roastin. But it is fascinating to me. The psychology of people, and why they do that kinda shit. Glad you liked that tho! Laugh at my pain right ?! 😂 o
@Frequent Flyer Thts crazy. Thts sounds exactly like my baby mama. I think she tried her best to put on her best roll in the beginning but it was only a matter of time her dingyness and unstable empty head ass will reveal to me. Thts why I had to leave. 😂
Being a stepparent is a thankless position if you make the wrong choice. Do blended families work? Absolutely. I've seen it. But you're one argument away from hearing, "That's not your child", "Those aren't your kids", or "You're not my father." Being a stepparent brings out the ungratefulness in people. It's hell on earth if you're with the wrong single mother. You won't have any peace. Choose wisely when dating single parents.
Or just don’t do it all. Until the child grows up and turns 18, then she can try again.
@@lordniyo4979 amen
Stepfathers finish last, not nice guys 😂
Both of them Finish last 🤝🏾💯😂😂😂💀🤦🏾♂️ 1A. StepFathers and 1B. Nice Guys.
I tried it and one day her kids said u ain’t my daddy relationship was over after that 😂
I will never ever do it again
Step fathers were respected back in the 70's, but now the way these kids are,no freaking way,they think they know everything, fellas dont do it!
I think the best thing a woman can do is pair with a man that has his own, and is actually active.
Agreed
It's so ignorant for the manosphere guys to exclude widows. Being a widow doesn't make the kids disappear. Being a widow does not mean she was this saint like woman with a happy marriage then husband suddenly died. Being a widow doesn't mean she wasn't on her 2nd/3rd husband. Being a widow doesn't mean she wasn't a single mom with a baby daddy when she got married. Being a single mom doesn't mean her husband wasn't shot in a drug deal. She's still a single mom with single mom issues. She's in the same category with the rest.
I 100% agree
I almost went down this rabbit hole until I watched a video from Kevin Samuels
I do believe nice guys! finish last! 💯
I stand by that statement 💯
But righteous guys stay blessed. Be blessed, brother🙏🏾😇
Dating a single mom is like a dishonorable Samurai warrior 😂
These comments are PURE GOLD...!!!!
Telling you by experience don’t do it! They will put their kids above you and you’re always wrong when it comes to their kids. It’s a nightmare don’t do it!
facts, unless she is widowed no man should consider being in a serious relationship with a single mom. On top of what Anton expressed, understand she will NEVER be completely yours. There will always be a part of her that belongs to the man that she birth a child with, regardless if they were married or not. She will act like that's not the case in order to please you and make you feel secure about the relationship, there will always be a part of her physically and spiritually that belongs to the father of her child and there's nothing she can do to change it. Think.
Dese simp ahh nikkaz don't care, they think they lucky to get even 1% her
Shit these days everyone gotta kid unless you choose fresh outta high school
That's not true at all.
No fam not true. Didn’t have my first until 39. And she didn’t have kids either
@@nevertoolate7120 idk to many who waiting till 40 to have kids
@@KapitalKel you don't know many smart people then...
@@terrycampbell5503 that’s possibly true
In nature mammals usually erase their mates previous kids
yeah cause a lion ain’t no punk
So the kids become forgotten about?
you will never be that kids father. you may get along with them and they'll let you entertain them but any time you try and "raise" them the woman will remind you it's her child and the child will remind you... your not their father. i just spent the last 20+ years trying to be a father and provider to a single mother and daughter. the dad was never in the picture. out of no where he shows up at her wedding playing the caring father. walked her down the isle and gave one hell of a speech at the ceremony. i was not told any of this was going to happen by either of them. at the end of his very well written speech i realized that all i had done for her mother and her was pay for the last twenty years of shit. neither one of them really respected me. it was like i didn't exist. i just shut my mouth and didn't say a word for the entire evening. on the ride home she(the woman playing my wife) gave me shit for being such a stick in the mud. i feel so embarrassed for allowing myself to be duped for the five millionth time. and this young lady that i thought was close to me... didn't say a word to me all night. I'm now 62 years old... i gave everything i had and was to those two women. and got kicked in the balls as a reward. the amount of grief these two have brought into my life... DO NOT RAISE ANOTHER MAN'S CHILD. DO NOT DATE SINGLE MOM'S. DO NOT DATE DIVORCED WOMEN... EVEN IF THEY DON'T HAVE CHILDREN.
I went out on a date with a woman who has two kids from two different fathers. Her six year old son kept calling her, while we were out, then the baby father, girlfriend called her. I was done after the first night.
I dated one nd it was hell. She ruined my birthday coz her son was her first priority
Same here.
@@sreynolds1488 I started moving on slowly whilst I was still with her and all the feelings went. Since the feelings went I decided that I wud leave without telling her. So I just bought an expensive present for her son then after that I cut off all communications. No calling ND texting. If she texts I used to reply after hours or days. Since I left it's been the best decision I made
He wanted me to financially take care of his kids while his baby mother kept the kids, food stamps and SSI checks while he was not working and when I run these concerns to the table, he told me that I was “itching”
Been there 2 times never again got drugged threw the mud
People gotta understand that there are some guys that wanted to be with children’s mother. However, she fckd up and or he fckd up. It happens to both men and women.
Nice guys may finish last but righteous guys stay blessed. And that's a fact.
PERIOD!!
Lol are you saying it’s righteous to take care of another man’s kids ? Or that it’s righteous to have your own, with your own woman who’s ready to start a family ?
@@lordniyo4979 whatever is good and proper for one man may not be the same for another.
It takes a good and righteous man to raise children that are not biologically his. Even Jesus had an father who adopted him.
@@The1995Stoic you again🙄
Is unnecessary baggage for any man that's trying to move up in life is gonna hinder your growth at the end there is no benefits on taking on unnecessary responsibilities and headaches just for some cheeks and companionship no thank you.
My man got with a women with 2 children already out if the goodness of his heart he helped her out & ended up having 2 more by her smh . I feel.bad he wasn't taught to choose his partners .wisely & to not date single mothers . She is now trying to ruin his life & reputation .
Don’t take him back at all sweetheart he need healing
Its near impossible to find a man over 40 without children and bitter ex-wives/baby moms. When I was dating I met a great guy with a daughter. Well as soon as the mom found out he was serious everything was disrupted and the little girl turned on me…AND she stole my clothes and jewelry when I babysat. NEVER would I advise a young, single lady to enter into a ready made family, especially when girl children are involved.
Probably hard to find because those men date younger women, and by doing so decrease the likelihood they will encounter one of these bitter single mothers you don't want to deal with either
Imagine starting a soccer game and the score is already 1-0?! Dear childless people, may we please date other childless people...
No self respect. Mf’s want to be captain save a hoe, for some extreme sense of purpose or something lol niggas want to be hero’s, instead of just being a father to their own kids with their own special woman SMH
I’m a single dad who has three daughters . My girls keep problematic women at bay for me. which is great.
All facts Big Bro been there done that please keep telling the truth it’s a dead end move and when it’s over you gonna miss them kids that’s not yours
Women today are difference then the women back then. I raise 3 kids that wasn't mine and still support them today! the problem is women wants the man to be baby sitters not fathers!
your a great man. i raised 1 kid that wasn't mind and dont think twice about it
Dont want kid dont want there kid
At my age of 30 plus thats all i see and meet
Hey would if the baby daddy is dead? Should I still give her a chance
Damn by reading these comments I am going to be a single mother forever 😢
Keep the faith sweetheart. My Grandmother married my Grandfather after she had three children by 2 different men. They then had my mother and stayed together for 40- plus years. RIP to both of them. Despite what you heard there is always someone for somebody.🤵👰♀️❤👵 🧓
You’ll find a simp
If you’re willing to be good to a man and don’t burden him with your problems then you might snap someone
I got with a childhood fling after moving away from my hometown, she had her first child by me, in let’s just say a not so wholesome way, she played me. I kicked her to the curb, she’s now on a third guy with a third baby, she’s having them as fast as she can make them. Come to find out she was married while we were together, but not in a love affair kinda way, she was married to a friend or family member to get them citizenship. And no she is not Latina if that matters. So yeah, stick to your guns, God is important, have a list of questions to ask women, if they don’t have the perfect answer then move forward.
If you're dating a single mother, it's best if you come into the relationship with kids of your own or if you had a relationship or marriage with a single mother that failed. Why? Because you're coming into that new relationship with credibility. Lessons learned. If you don't have any kids of your own and you don't have history with her, you can't tell her anything about her kids because she doesn't trust you.
My step father was my only real father he changed my life into an amazing loving secure world without him I wouldn’t be who I am today. He passed away not long ago and I miss him every day. He showed me how to be a woman of integrity and self respect he showed me what a real man father husband friend a hardworking genuine amazing father he was the best and this is such a dumb idea to spread around I bet half the men in here were raised by a man not their father my step father was my father and changed my life for the absolute better it hurts my heart to hear this love me family is on a individual basis not just blood some of my blood family are the worst kind of people this video is sad
If yall both got kids go ahead do what you do
I don't know man. I have a kid but I have too much to lose. A single parent would be able to relate well, but I've just seen way too many cases of blended families not working out.
You're gonna be expected to provide for a kid not yours. Especially with the economy nowadays providing for another kid that's not even yours just isn't worth it. I wouldnt mind mentoring kids, but step fathering is a whole other ball game.
On the flip side I don't expect a woman to parent my child or provide. It takes a very special single Mom to make it work with but that's rare these days. I bet they're out there, a woman who can hold down a good job and respects her body, self and others.
😢😢🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️ worst mistake I probably ever made
Dummy 😂😂
You wife her?
Hard to disagree 🤷🏽♂️
For the women saying “Some baby moms don’t deal with their BD so that makes it ok for the man to be a step father”
The point is she’s still used and a single man with no kids deserves his own pure woman with whole hearted intentions, and a virgin womb. That’s the point. It’s not about her drama, it’s self respect for the Man that not many of us seem to have anymore.
What does “out of wedlock” even mean if the Bible says you are married after you lay with her?
It means nothing but ignorance Fam 😂😂😂. Cause we both know how becoming married truly happens
The Bible doesn't say that's your wife or husband because you slept with them that's called fornication. But a ungodly union does happen it's called a soul tie
Being a single father is like going to prison for a crime you didnt commit 😂
I'm not an absolute person all these particular people in one way or another are bad, racist, liars whatever. I will say 99.8% of baby mommas AVOID EM!
I TOO WAS A SIMP ...AND I AGREE 💯...NEVER EVER AGAIN WILL I SAVE A 304
Anton always givin raw truth. 😂🎉
The only way I’d ever do it is if I was living alone in no relationship. I would adopt a boy child out of the system that has absolutely nobody. In no other scenario would I consider it.
Tried it. Don’t do it fr fr.
I made this mistake. The Billy goat's daughter the primate got pregnant at 18 with a baby hyena. They turned me into a monster.
There are women without kids that do worse, should single mothers not be allowed to find love just because they're no longer with their child's father?
Women still get pregnant even after taking pills not too. Should she have had an abortion?
I'm sorry this is really sad. Men have multiple kids with multiple women and that's okay but single mothers need to stay single lol. This is really sad
I honestly do feel it not too much of a problem if she was divorced or widowed with one kid. I dated a widow for many years with one kid and we are still good friends. The real problem are these Kendra G baby mamas with three or four kids with three baby daddies and these women have pre-schoolers. And have the audacity to ask for a six figure man. These women should be off the dating market until their children are grown and out the house.Let their baby daddies take care of them.
Are there any men in here that says its a good thing and have experience with this? I need reassurance!!
I am currently in the trenches, girl and 2 kids live in my place. Its got its ups and downs but the conversation and pressure keep building. Do I take my chance and leave?
I have never been married, had kids of my own, own my place, but spent the year out of the office supporting. Should I run for the hills?
This comment was 5 months ago but what sort of pressure? Just keep your eyes peeled. Any red flags and toxicity will reveal itself after a year or 2. Before that you have no idea what you're getting yourself into.
@@snnn4818 nah, pressure from her pyshco ex and all the fun that comes with courts.
I left, split a house in CO cash with my mom. I'm living good and it was a great decision. We are still together but I sold the house and left the state lol.
@@Mo-_-Slyhow are you still together if you left?
Guys who don’t have kids in their 20s and 30s who do this are so infatuated with the looks of the woman, they will accept anything!
I’ve heard of a dude who dated a woman while she was pregnant with another man’s baby! He married her. But she completely ran the relationship and he did whatever she said till this day!
Lol that seed analogy killed me. No I can't get it outa my head.
Women are all the same brother
Facts
wished I knew this when I was younger smh
With all the child support I'm sure she is receiving life could be really great. Before you hook up make sure and find out how much child support she gets every week. Maybe you can stop working.
😂 I hope you're joking. My Aunts husband did this, most non respectable thing I've ever seen. Stopped working and got the child support as his personal allowance. Imagine being the Dad and not knowing this.
Every kid deserves a father. If a man wants to help a child that doesn’t have a dad that’s his business. But what we can’t do is save females that choose thugs. But that’s what the music tricked us all into. So a man saving a females is just cleaning up the mess the record labels made .
Absolutely horrific logic. Say less, son.
@@uncleb7821 I know it sucks that’s just the facts . I’ve lived it , loved it , hated it , hates it
@@uncleb7821 I agree 😂bro worded it wrong but I’m going word it right for him.
@@CadiKane I agree you can mentor a kid for like a Hr or 2
I see nothing wrong with that.
But being a stepdad is 24hrs,7 days a week,12 months in a yr,365 days a yr 😂.
That’s the Difference Childless black man need to know and understand.
You don’t have to be a stepdad but you can mentor a couple of kids.
And get paid for it or you could do it out the kindness of your heart.
The decision is yours me personally I’ll do both get paid and do it cause I’m not a heartless person 😅.
Gonna make this story short most bw with kids had them with pookie's and Ray Ray's. 90 out of 100 of them will always sleep with their baby daddy or daddy's behind the new boyfriend or husband back. Not only her baby daddy you have to worry about what about all of her ex boyfriends and friends with benefits or the new men she gives her number to. Fellas do you think you will always be the only one. She is for the streets and no lie almost all of my friends still sleep with their baby momma's and these wolves in sheep's clothing bw got good men they cheating on. To the single and childless bm don't be fools you would waste your life being for her and them kids while she is being for everyone else with you dragging along
You’re going to have to deal with a widower kids as well?! So what’s the difference? The difference is that he can’t come back alive and check you?
This is one of the reasons me a my ex broke up…🤷🏾♂️.. I’m better off.
Anton is evolving into a kinda of the GodFather with money capital insight add up
I lost it when he started naming the positions that baby daddy had her in. 😂😂
Damn bro😮 You speak alot of facts on this subject
Being a stepfather is not a good deal there's no love in it the kids as they get older will remind you that you are not there father and the mother will expect you to feel like she does for her kids even though she's knows you are not the dad what's up with that picture? and then comes the time when they want to know what to call you it's not a happy journey my wife was complaining about getting pregnant again so we ended up not having any kids together no one appreciates you even though they say that they do but actions speaks louder than words take it from someone who's living that life it's not a picnic 😮
I’ve been watching this channel for a minute I’m going to subscribe today !😂 🔥🔥🔥
"You are in a relationship with both if them"...bingo!
I told mines that if we ever split up. Im still coming back around 2 smash when i pick the kids up. 😂😂😂
I divorced my first wife in my early thirties. I’m not particularly into younger women. So the likelihood of me finding a woman that fit my age preference with no kids is extremely slim. And I’ll tell anyone that marrying my current wife, who at the time was a single mother, was the best decision I’ve made in all my 41yrs of living. And we’re living a life of prosperity that most of you fake alphas can only dream of.
Nothing says i don't actually live a life of prosperity by patting yourself on the back for simp shit
@@trombonefellowI’d be willing to bet everything I have that I’m living better than you🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
@@kevincunningham3655 marrying a single mom is not wise for any man. Because you made a risky decision that turned out well for you does not mean it is a path others should follow. I can go from LA to Vegas by walking there but it’s still not the ideal way to travel. I’m glad everything worked out for you but advising others to walk a risky path is not wise in my opinion.
@@70two41five It 100% depends on the woman. I’ve married two single mothers. One was disastrous. One was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. I think advising men to shun all single mothers is silly. Especially as we age. But I do advise men dealing with single mothers to not ignore the red flags because they show up early and often.
As a former stepdad of 4 years….don’t do it…not worth the pain of losing +1 and not having ANY rights….
I seen friends do it. And I told them
This video well said....made me subscribe and I'm really going through this now fr.... how can we chop it up off RUclips
Maaaan the closing note of this video is insane