Is He The One? (true love and soulmate)
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How do I start over at 59 after being married for 42 years I haven't dated since I was 12
What about an older woman dating a young er guy can that work
Bonnie Stevens Take it slowly - give yourself permission to learn
I think you are very insightful but things change as you are. I am 66 and the dating scene and issues we deal with are more and more complicated....Peopleat my age have so much loss and disappointment by 5his time that we need some kind of real guidance that considers OUR REALITY....Thanks and can you try to get some kind of coaching for us seniors....
I'm afraid, I'm not relationship ready, I still have so many fears! 😬
I love your take on not over-analyzing why someone is not meeting out expectations or acting the way we want them to or treating us a certain way. I believe that if there is no reciprocity and connection then it is time to move on. No sense in waiting for people to change or change their minds about us.
Glad you like the take 🙏 Yes I agree with the moving on :)
Love your perspective on being in love with someone that shares your spiritual or religious beliefs. I find I am most drawn to men that share my moral values. I now know that is an area I will not compromise on. Trust, faithfulness, communication and compassion are paramount.
Yes - think that's so important. Good on you for knowing what's a priority to you 🙏🏻
Woow! You are so fluent in all of this. Thank you for sharing! Also, thanks for promoting men who invest in working on their relationships and personal/self-development.
Yes to men who are doing the work! Thanks for the feedback, that's nice to hear :)
The harsh truth, at least with me, when a man is not emotional available for us, is really because after the initial period he finds out that we are not enough..or not what he's looking for, although he may say that he is in stage of life that he doesn't want any commitment. When we see them after a few months, commiting to another person is very clear that....
I hear you - yep, that can happen. Sometimes it can help to de-personalize a little - 'this connection wasn't capable of commitment' or 'this connection wasn't wanting to manifest commitment'. 🙏
@@thejackbutler Thank you, for hearing 🙂, although in this case i think it would be a rationalization of what really happened..and but .I don' t know realy....Thank you!
I feel your pain. But ultimately we get to tell ourselves the story, why make it a painful one? I do that too. But change that habit! Because really you are worthy, some can’t or won’t see it. That’s not on you ❤️ what’s on you is what you tell yourself the experience means about you. Rise up beautiful, that’s where the right connection is... waiting for you to get there 😘
Just re watched as I missed most of the live stream. Really enjoyed it. So much to learn thank you. Keep up the amazing work
Annette Phillipsdelaney Thanks Annette! Appreciated your presence there and your going back to rewatch! 🙏
I’m no longer doing any deep investing unless I receive a ring. Until then you’re just a buddy. 💯
CherryBoo65 Boone I hear you. Just make sure you invest enough to know they are your guy!
Totally agree. I invented too much in dead end relationships. Just did that mistake again yesterday and I feel like shit. The man is to invest and run after you in the early days. us women are to lean back.
Women must Stand firm to PROTECT PRESERVE their PRECIOUS Dignity & INTEGRITY. SELF-ESTEEM. SELF-RESPECT. Self- VALUE with SELF-CONTROL. BE A 🏆 Winner! (Do not ALLOW the TRICKSTERS to STEAL & WRECK YOUR LIFE!!!😆
Was so nice to have a revealation of your mental analysis on important relationship issues with us... here. Thank you!!
You're very welcome!
Everything Jack teaches is so informative and helpful EXCEPT as a 72 year old female SENIOR with 63 year boyfriend I find many unanswered questions and situations. Is there ANY coach out there that specializes in that?
A drug addicted man is not interested in contacting you until he is available to get his fix from you. He says I want to take CARE OF YOU" "I WANT TO MAKE YOU HAPPY!!!😃" (sex is his NEED) He is NOT interested in her VALUES DIGNITY HONOR RESPECT, HONESTY. TRUTH.) Right?
I ran my 1st MARATHON with you today, Jack, and I feel the energy of it still live in me!!! A WATERFALL of Info, as usual💗
Marathon lol! 🙏☺️
An amazing and generous first live chat, Jack. Going forward, I would pace things out, go slower, and not be so concerned about answering all questions. And definitely set your water up and take time to take sips :) Personally, I feel your advice is so golden that folks should be encouraged to donate to ensure they are read -- not to the exclusion of others, of course. But space should be opened up for people to pay tribute. You are worth it! From a fellow UK/US transplant.
Thanks Crystal! Lots to learn and fine-tune with livestreaming, was just happy to be doing it and with the level of engagement. :)
I took your 6 week program and loved it! This just added another layer to that and drove some points home. So good! Thank you!
Thanks for the feedback! Happy this was reinforcing 🙏
I enjoyed the information you gave us tonight. I learned some good advice that will help me go forward in my relationship.
Charlene Allen That’s great Charlene - look forward to hearing how you go 🙏
Extremely great information and just couldn't turn this off. I will be downloading this and watching as reminders. I love all the detail and just super realistic information given!! I currently really like someone for the last year who doesn't feel the same and trying to mend and keep my distance. The hardest thing I've ever had to do.
Thanks for your engagement - hope it became easier 🙏
I’ve never sent a comment before , here’s to hoping ..
You’ve changed my life in a beautiful way Jack.
Thank you for your teachings
Monique from Winnipeg Manitoba Canada
Well, thanks for taking the time to let me know. Happy to have helped. Merry Xmas 🙏
watched the first half live then had to go out lol...loved the insights in this video, very timely for me thank you
Wendianne Talbot I remember! Thanks for coming back for the ‘2nd half’ 👍
Wow , you are truly brilliant. I have been listening to so many couches and they are all pretty good. U are a cut above . Thank u fir sharing your knowledge
Hey Zoe - thanks for feeding that back. Glad this is resonating with you so much!
Changing doubt into curiousity and giving the right amount of time by listening to the gutt was so good to hear. Thank you.
Awesome
Always such well-thought out advice and suggestions. Very valuable. Thanks, Jack! -C
Christina O'Shaughnessy You’re welcome!
Thank you for your videos. I have been watching and have shared them with others.
Appreciate your sharing 🙏
Got good advices from you today and avoided great grief I think! Thank you!
Petra Bazán Awesome, Petra!
Oh My Gosh, Jack. This is so dense with insight - or more precisely, information which enables me to gain insight into how I can get through. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Love that you experienced it that way! You're really welcome! 🙏
Having several aha moments here. Also nice to learn more about you. Thanks for sharing.
Hey Linda! Love the aha moments and you're welcome! :)
I really enjoyed the live chat video tonight but gotta get my butt to bed you and every one have a goodnite,god bless!!
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@Jack Butler Hahahaha!! You are hilarious! ''If he is unconscious for 5 days''...brilliant!
asjeable Hehe!
@@thejackbutler You're funny...
Jack, have you done a video on “early pattern matching”? I’d love to hear more about that and maybe ways to be conscious of it and counter it. Thanks for always giving such wonderful honest info.
Hey Renee! I haven't but request noted! You're so welcome 🙏
There were some great points made here, thanks for this. Always amazing how things (both positive and negative) have a way of finding one at the correct time in order to teach and to tell. I think of some relationships almost like the scene from the Neverending story where Atrayu must past through the magic mirror gate and face his true self. At least that's how I feel after this last experience.
Glad you enjoyed it Melanie! Not sure I know that scene but facing the true self sounds on message!
@@thejackbutler That scene is from a movie called The Neverending story from the early 80s that came out when I was a kid. I've watched it so many times. I think they made three but only the first one honestly was good. I'd recommend checking it out :)
This was amazing, honestly.
FruitToFruition Yay! Thank you!
Every Relationship is a game. Testing each other out. Aim to prevent wrecking each others life. Entertain each other. Soothe each other, LIFT EACH UP!!😃 RESPECT IS MORE IMPORTANT than 💘 Love bond. Preserve each others DIGNITY & INTEGRITY. IMPORTANCE. BALANCE. MODERATION. STAY ALERT. KEEP your SENSES TO HAVING SERIOUS CONVERSATION IF the relationship is growing deeper/SERIOUSNESS. KEEP the New relationships LIGHT HEARTED. TALK. GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER KNOWLEDGE INTAKE.. DO NOT WRECK EACH OTHER. CONVERSATION on events & hobbies. Entertain each Other. Be playful. Life is a GAME.
Brilliant!!! As always. So helpful.
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In the first part of your video with a light behind you looks like a Halo on an angel. Thanks for your wisdom and knowledge. You shed a lot of light in certain areas. And made the things I was going through feel normal for me. Thank you so much
Aw thanks! 🙏🙏
This is super helpful advice, my heart is not ready to let go even do I know, he is no longer committed to this relationship, he looks for me occasionally, I know he is trying to fix things with the ex (attending Marriage counseling ) he said only doing it because she wanted to but he is divorcing , he said he loves me, but there is days he is gone, no calls, no visits , no messages, out of no were she shows up at my house. I feel like the plan B. he asked me for time and asked me to delete him from social media as well to protect me from his problems. before him and the ex started talking again he was making lots of plan together. I live in pain every day :(
Hope this has situation has resolved. Usually better to let the guy get himself figured out, then see if there's anything to pursue and be out of touch in the meantime.
Thank you Jack for your insight. So great!
Lorraine Couture Wow, thank you!!
I avoid guys who have just come out of a relationship. There is still a bond between himself and the person he broke up with. He could be choosing you because there is some resemblance between you and the ex.
Marilyn Bradley I think that’s good awareness
This was great! Thank you!
You're welcome Renee!
That is a great thing that you are doing such a deeply meant growth as a man yourself... Congratulations!!
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Thank you Jack, for helping me find clarity.
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Great content and delivery
Thanks Snoodle! 🙏🏼
Long distance dating and the potential for a real relationship at my age ( 66) isn't realistic. We have established lives, family ties and health concerns...Can you do a series for us seniors PLEASE...Id love to hear your take on some of our issues. You really are insightful and sensible so I'm sure you can help us some !! 😊
Request noted!
There is a difference between love and being in love. I love my friends , but that is different then being in love.
Absolutely
I think that's a great up front question...! (. Availability ) Sure would cut down on confusion...glad to hear this from a Man's point of view...Thank You.🙏
Marlean k. Yes! Available, available, available! 🙏
@@thejackbutler Thank you! You're the greatest .🙏
"What if l was never hurt before..." Contralto singer Amber Mark penned her best song yet, "What If". The wisdom, authenticity and vulnerability from this promising young woman gets me in the feels! You need to stay open, and allow the possibilities to unfold. Are you willing to put your heart on the sleeve? That's what you need in order to invite true love into you life.
arxsyn Yes to wisdom, authenticity and vulnerability. Yes to allowing possibilities to unfold. Yes to communicating from the authentic heart 🙏
Freedom. Talk about it. Beware of demanding needy plays. No sex. No wrecking each others TRUTH. SET LIMITATIONS FOR SECURITY. SAFETY. CHOICES TO RESPECT. RULES GOVERN ONES DIGNITY & INTEGRITY. Self Security. Safety. 😃😃👀💓
Thank you Jack as always. 🙂
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Thank you it's good advice 😊🙏
Appreciated ☺️
Have a nice day....Ty.😊
Jack, I'm kinda using your channel as my therapist 🤭💞. Also, have you ever seen the movie The Mountain Between Us, starring Kate Winslet and Idris Elba?
Marsha Brown Glad that you’re feeling so supported by it ⭐️. No I haven’t, is it worth seeing?
Greetings from Toronto 🇨🇦Canada
Hey Gratitude! Hey to Toronto!
Wow Jack thank you. So much to think about ......
Claire Foxall You’re welcome - yes surprised me how much I had to say 😆
I love it.
Thank you!
I went to Norwich two years ago. Really nice place! :)
+Petra Bazán Yes it’s a really nice city and has come on a lot even since I lived there FT.
hello from Saskatchewan Canada
Well, I made the move to stop his texting letting him know that didn't work for me and ...He never responded and evidently went away... :) Oh well... Guess he wasn't THAT addicted "after all"!!! Catch a clue Danita!
It's gonna take some time...I'm putting myself back out there hoping to help move past his effect on me, but so far..."Aint Workin"!
Danita Rhea Clarity, even if painful, is powerful
Danita Rhea Be kind and patient with yourself 🙏
Thanx things make more sense now with you comparmentizeing things
If someone asks... are you available? It would be hard to answer upfront. I think it depends. I am not available for just about any thing.
If it is for someone who I think is worth it, that we can grow together.. then yes, I am always available.
I hear that. Maybe it's the 'not-personal-to-you' component. Like I feel ready for a relationship. Or I don't feel ready. Of course, 'with whom' is highly conditional!
From grecce ...bless you 💐🌟🌎
Thank you 🙏⭐️
e.g. ~1hr44min timestamp... 🙏🏻 thank you for your offerings in the space in which you present, especially because of the important intersectional knowings you are rooting on Earth!
Christy Lynn Hogan Hey Christy - I enjoyed reading that reflection, thank you! 🙏
Can you give examples of strong muscling and famine characteristics in women and what men don’t like to see in a women?
I don’t want to emasculate men .
Thanks to you im so happy for you
Noor Lalali Appreciate that 🙏
Hi from U S A!
C Jennings 🙏
It seems every time I really need my guy he is gone and not there for me. but when he is bored or needs me there he is there till something better comes up. I finally told him I am not available for him when he is bored there are others who are willing to make me a priority.He is now taking time for me but not sure if it is too little to late
I feel you as a cancerian
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I am from Guyana....3 months now i found one from texes
Listening in Ireland ☘️👍😁
Majella Keane Yo to Ireland!
I really love to lessen the advice about relationships, incase I meet the guy I have already idea how to handle to be a strong relationship lol
RenMix Vlog Awesome - thanks for tuning in!
Hi from California
Nice 👍
Thank you!
Hi from Goa lockdown
Do u have video on Fidelity and trust?
Hello from Susan in Australia
Hey to Oz!
Hi from FRANCE ! Thank you for your contribution !
QUESTION : A guy who is pulling away (the first 2 months were perfect) concerning an online relation (I precise that we see each other once a month because both of us have a few free time) what does it mean? How can I change the situation ?
Nice shirt
peta williams Thank you!
Gmorning......ty.😊
You're welcome!
Can I please have a link to John Godmen video you’ve talked about ? Thank you Jack .
Do you mean John Gottman? If so, no particular video. One starting point to get to know him is his Ted talk.
Don’t have sex with anyone who is seeing other women. Period.
Loved it, thank you for your advice :) you are really special
Thank you! 🙏Have you ever read any David Deida?
@@thejackbutler No l have not been looking into it ☺️ l will look him up 🙏🏼✨⭐🌟
Bianca Maria Berg Let me know how you go 😊
@@thejackbutler l will 😊
Hi Jack. Do people really date for 7 or more years and still think that there is something there? That seems like a no brainer that you’ve wasted time with him when you could have been finding someone who really wants to be with you.
Yes some do, I know that from my coaching work. What you're talking to is generally right I think but sometimes easier said than done.
Hopefully....ty.😊
I think so....❤
When I'm I situation where we work and live toghether on a boat. That's the lifestyle of a crew members onboard yachts. He broke up with his girlfriend 6months ago, and he said hes not ready for relationship. But it's hard to do anything about it since we live and work together. Any advice?
That sounds difficult. Take care of your heart - sometimes that means changing roles or environments
Hello Jack
I asked a man today, one who I have been seeing casually as friend for over a year as to whether or not he was seeing someone over seas as felt this was something I needed to know for my own self preservation as didn't want to become too attached if this was the case. He is a colleague who is seperated but has family overseas, hence comes and goes for work every 2-3 months. He felt he didn't have to disclose this sort of personal information.
What is your take on this?
Bunty Trezise Ultimately his not wanting to reveal may be good info. What might be more revealed is to let him know why you want to know - because you want a potential relationship?
@@thejackbutler thankyou Jack. However I don't think a relationship is on his radar, or not with me. Potentially too many complications on both sides and thus too many barriers
What should I do, my fiancé gets cold feet, when we decide to by my engagement ring?
I would give yourself time so that you can both out where you stand and get professional support if needed
Intoxicating CHEMISTRY. WOW. Interesting. Troubling. Takes a lot of STRENGTH TO SAY "NO".
Not available for sex. Pursuing intimate FRIENDSHIP. REAL TIME to DEVELOP A RELATIONSHIP BUILDING.
ARE COMPATIBLE in daily RESPONSIBILITIES of everyday life. Is he RESPONSIBLE? Is he SANE? Is he GROWN UP?
Is HE SENSIBLE. HARDWORKER: problem solver.? Is he RESPONSIBLE?
I am not good at this. So i would say if God wills, or God's plan for us to be us, then it will be or we will be. Ty for helping. . I appreciate this video. 🍷i drink to this. 🐢taking my time or his time while he is showing ibterest/ thinking of me.❤
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Helen Williams 🙏🌟
Great insights but could you please slow down your monologue?
If you look in the bottom right of the screen, you should be able to click on settings and slow the speed down! (Yes, I was a bit 'on' that day 🙏)
@Jck Bulter;tks for ur videos!! what can a man never forgive and why?? I have seen a guy just as a friend for long falling in love for him late,at the end for a misunderstanding it seems i ve offended him,he blocked me everywhere and never forgive me even if i ve apologized one million times and tried to do everything to please him, i cannot understand if it is totally my fault or what,I am so tired he cannot forgive me and mistreat me,even if it can be my fault,i do not find it right he keep on ignoring me rejecting me mistreating me i thought he was an angel i am overstressed,icannot overcome it
If you've made moves to apologize, sounds like it might be on his side of the fence. You can't avoid offending people you relate with at times.
I feel it's not worth wasting time with someone who has been hurt. That person needs have therapy and he can come back later. Lol!! Done enough time wasting with guys who have issues.
Definitely would encourage getting the right support. It can also be possible to do the work as you're engaging in relationship. Hoping you get more of what you want!
@@thejackbutler true and I am getting more satisfying relationship with a man who has already done the work to be ready to handle the challenges in a relationship. I like that you get to the point in your videos.
Sales Customer-Service Like hearing that. And thanks, doing my best to get to the essence of things 🙏
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Noor Lalali 🙏
@Jack Butler Hello, Astrid from Holland her. I didn't see this, bc. i just discover you just yesterday and i am always the slow one. I have a question: what to do if you had as a child an unsafe bonding. So i am very scared to let someone to come close...Now i am talking to refugees
asjeable I would include it in getting to know someone, in right timing let them in on your world that it’s scary to get close to someone 🙏
@@thejackbutler I tried that ones in my life. My friend, became my boyfriend well, basically, he hunts me down for years...After almost 10 years, he became my boyfriend and at 35 we got married and bring a beautiful girl in the world. After less than 2 years we got divorced because i could not give him what he needed...intimacy. Back then i was scared, before that i was scared and already more than 12/13 years alone bc. i am just to scared. And ''doctors'' refuse to help me in my hometown. But now i am used to be alone, i am not sad, i am always positive but of course like every other human being, i like to connect but i can't.
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Welcome
Thank you Jack; my problems are almost cleared up. I tell ya, there are some miserable men out there.
Olivia St. pierre Glad to hear you have worked through your problems. There are every kind of man out there! 🙏
Hi jack i would love your advice on a few question i have for you.. I love to know on How to reply/respond to any guy that says i love you ? No matter how long you knew them for short or long term. I have had a few of these guys that i knew for yrs but they have told me they love me knowing we are just friends and they only even message me once in great while and basically when its just convenient for them even knowing we are just friends still and even knowing we're not in a relationship But still have said i love you. Would love to know how to handle that if it happens again With any guy that your not in a relationship with. Also Would love to know on how to handle and respond to guys that ask you if you have a nice butt 🤔 or a guy that tells you, you have a nice butt or boobs or tries to even touch those areas and likes to slap your butt knowing your not even in a relationship. I'm trying to learn on how to respond better with warmth
I love you - take as a compliment. Touching you in an unwelcome way - assert yourself (allow anger), and report as needed
Hi am sally from Austria Europe
Hey Sally!
I ask about my bf,if he loves me or I'm optional of him? I'm LDR with him more than 1yr, I'm doubt because he never open about his family, even he go vacation with his family, and he told me he cannot message if he have holiday because his reason he take a rest in whole day,,,.
I hear you - sounds like you may want more than he's available for?
no,,I just confused if I'm optional of him, because he told me ,he have dream and he don't have time, always tell busy,he always have reason, so my answer always is take your time,.
Hello I appreciate you helping women okay what do you say to a man when he wants to be on social media talking to other women
What do you say about a man if he wants to be on social media talking to other women
And he says not flirting with them
Ultimately, if this were to become a real relationship or partnership, we would want to see; 1. can you trust him? Is he worth trusting? 2. can he receive your influence? If you feel uncomfortable with his social media way, is there an adjustment that you could both feel good with?
Slow down !
Have watched subsequent ones? This one I had made a commitment to keep up with all the questions.
How would you give yur self and the other person a chance without to much judgement
I just released a video on judgement, did you see it?
@@thejackbutler no I haven't seen that video but will check it out thank you so much every little bit helps
@@cherishparkhurst8124 Great, hope it's helpful!
What is partnership ?
Exclusivity (assuming monagamy) + mutual obligations + commitment
What is theres an age difference between us
See my dedicated video on that