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  • Опубликовано: 7 авг 2024
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    Gari & Raheem are exes, but more importantly friends, who have spent the past 7 years deeply involved in each other’s lives. The couple broke up after transitioning their romantic, monogamous relationship to an open relationship. After taking some space, the two share an intimate conversation about their feelings for one another and how the prospect of polyamory changed their dynamic. Don’t miss their full conversation, catch Part 2 here: bit.ly/GariRaheemP2
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    I Fell in Love With Someone Else | {THE AND} Gari & Raheem (Part 1)
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  • @TheSkinDeep
    @TheSkinDeep  4 года назад +65

    Watch Gari & Raheem dive even deeper into the dissolution of their relationship in Part 2 of their conversation: bit.ly/GariRaheemP2

    • @arnlofilt6577
      @arnlofilt6577 4 года назад +2

      Please please make sure that Gari gets his right eye checked. I fear that there is something wrong with it. I really hope it is nothing dangerous, but he must get it checked by a doctor. This is very important!!!!

    • @christine2952
      @christine2952 4 года назад +1

      I am not calling my son “mumbles” anymore! This is The original “mumbles!”!😆

    • @olgak.r8509
      @olgak.r8509 3 года назад

      My partner and I want to participate. How can we get in contact with you?

    • @vuyelwankomo6344
      @vuyelwankomo6344 3 года назад

      Which deck did they use?

  • @attractivegeek1649
    @attractivegeek1649 4 года назад +3710

    crazy how you can be fine living your own life, until that one individual comes along and affects you to the point of feeling incomplete without them

  • @AllEyezOnRod
    @AllEyezOnRod 3 года назад +822

    Best feeling on earth is to be loved. Hopefully everyone finds true love.

    • @kshavon478
      @kshavon478 3 года назад

      Indeed

    • @amareworku840
      @amareworku840 3 года назад

      Luck to be loved.!! መወደድ ፣ መታደል ነው።

    • @Deeplyrooted125
      @Deeplyrooted125 3 года назад +2

      ♥️♥️♥️

    • @93baby49
      @93baby49 3 года назад +3

      I get what you mean cos I'm in love with 6 different girls

    • @monamariin750
      @monamariin750 3 года назад

      You to❤️

  • @musajallow6586
    @musajallow6586 4 года назад +2215

    Better go back to her because she's the only one who can understand a word you said

  • @amazinggrace313
    @amazinggrace313 4 года назад +1076

    My ex would never do this..so sad how I'll never have questions answered , so I gave myself closure.

    • @Crosscutx
      @Crosscutx 4 года назад +12

      Same I went though the same thing they talking about hope things are better

    • @m00rem0ney24
      @m00rem0ney24 4 года назад +145

      Closure is overrated. Their disinterest in you should be all the closure you need. They no longer deserve your love or attention. Appreciate what you had and move on knowing you gave it your all. It was a lesson you needed to learn to become who you’re supposed to be. Something beautiful is on the horizon.

    • @amazinggrace313
      @amazinggrace313 4 года назад +51

      @@m00rem0ney24 thank you. And that's exactly how I saw it. If someone leaves you, especially under disrespectful terms like not even giving you a conversation , it's no mistake for me of how they feel. No need or a desire to chase that , and at no moment did I ever blame self or look at self as though I was defected..never. I understood though the kind of individual I was involved with., and felt pity for the childish mentality. Needless to say I cared about them , but to this day I dislike them as a person.

    • @Heyysisah2
      @Heyysisah2 4 года назад +31

      Typical men. A lot of them are scared of confrontation. If they can't properly give you closure, they didn't properly deserve you anyway.

    • @rustyshield
      @rustyshield 4 года назад +2

      @Amazing Grace YOU killed him!!!!?

  • @AmariHetep
    @AmariHetep 4 года назад +1028

    “I feel like I don’t feel like I’m allowed to feel a way.”
    I felt that.

    • @moniqueuu8777
      @moniqueuu8777 4 года назад +9

      Amari Inasad Feeling this way now. Afraid to feel and show how I feel; Some bs.

    • @jclarke90
      @jclarke90 4 года назад +7

      Monique UU then you shouldn’t be in it ,what’s the point if you can’t be your true self

    • @rahii
      @rahii 3 года назад +3

      justin Clarke easier said than dne 😔

    • @ashley_aquarius
      @ashley_aquarius 3 года назад

      Feel.

    • @KeishaCharmaine
      @KeishaCharmaine 3 года назад +3

      That was honest of her but it also sounds like shame. She is absolutely allowed to feel a way. It was still your experience with him whether or not if what you did may be deemed worse.

  • @davidnjoroge6115
    @davidnjoroge6115 4 года назад +649

    They both seem so emotionally mature, and still not over each other. Their relationship, just like many others had flaws and when not dealt with properly and fully, end up imploding.

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +86

      thanks for your comment! I would agree that we are not 'over each other.' I will always love this man - he was my first love. I think he serves my life a lot better as a friend than as a romantic partner

    • @taintedlife2618
      @taintedlife2618 4 года назад +4

      Gari François thank you for being so open and honest for us to see you both. I don’t have a lot of relationship experience but opening up to being in one soon so this is insightful🤗

    • @joshstella
      @joshstella 4 года назад +2

      David Njoroge kwani wewe ni bishop ..wacha

    • @joycekilel4022
      @joycekilel4022 4 года назад

      @@joshstella 😁

    • @joshstella
      @joshstella 4 года назад

      Joyce Kilel ..sema

  • @jacydyer5489
    @jacydyer5489 3 года назад +463

    As I get older, the only regrets that I have is the times that I didn't speak up.
    Self-betrayal is harder to get over than anything else in my experience.
    If you're young and you find yourself kicking yourself in the ass at times for not having said what you should have and could have said when it mattered, start making a habit of standing up in those moments now. That habit of not standing up is hard to break, but conquering it is worth it.
    The "other person" already has the job of taking care of themself and fulfilling their own desires, you've gotta be there for yourself and do the same, otherwise you will feel your own wrath for putting others before yourself. Who's gonna take care of you and manifesting your desires if not you?
    Your feelings and desires are just as important as everyone else's, but you've gotta know that for yourself and be willing to stand up for your worth.

  • @Dres_Anatomy
    @Dres_Anatomy 4 года назад +146

    She is naturally pretty🌹. What makes her beautiful is you can see how comfortable she is in her skin. That makes her appealing. Its easy to fall for a person like that.

  • @Salsero81889
    @Salsero81889 4 года назад +964

    Is it me, or do these skin deep videos fly by? These 10 minute videos seems like 2 minutes.

    • @rashaadwhite7159
      @rashaadwhite7159 4 года назад +2

      Jeremy Lane on god

    • @iggsGH
      @iggsGH 4 года назад +1

      They fllllyyyyyy by

    • @WandersNotLost
      @WandersNotLost 4 года назад +1

      This one went by suuuuper fast. I paused to read some comments and was taken aback that I was a minute and some away from the end

    • @joi12345678
      @joi12345678 4 года назад +2

      Idk they seem long as hell to me.

    • @nonsoville
      @nonsoville 3 года назад

      Nah it seems like 10mins

  • @jessicahang9018
    @jessicahang9018 4 года назад +339

    I love the level of vulnerability each and every episode requires. On the surface, it appears two people are just talking but in actuality it's probably one of the most courageous acts on the internet...being open and honest!

  • @rudimakole7825
    @rudimakole7825 4 года назад +1331

    Watching these two interact expanded my mind beyond the lesbian/gay labels when it comes to feminine and masculine energies interacting. There was a part of me that kept nagging me to think he’s soo gay at the beginning. Then she started talking and I got it! They compliment each other so well. He expresses himself in a soft feminine manner, and she is the opposite, but obviously still in touch with her feminine side because she can be vulnerable and cry. Her Yang speaks to his Yin harmonically.

    • @oshinofalakoju5749
      @oshinofalakoju5749 4 года назад +166

      I love this comment so much. At first, I thought the same thing about the guy, but I quickly suppressed that thought because what about him did I think was gay? And why is it that certain behaviors automatically lead to labeling someone's sexual orientation? I always try to push myself out of that thinking because it can be really damaging to someone who isn't sure... At the same time, I agree that they compliment each other in ways that many people on the surface wouldn't be able to understand.

    • @kaylacosy
      @kaylacosy 4 года назад +54

      Yess, I’ve become less ignorant and have been seeing things in this way and I think its absolutely beautiful the way the everyone is different but people find their opposite to compliment them

    • @TheShahlife_CreateShareInspire
      @TheShahlife_CreateShareInspire 4 года назад +53

      Rudi Makole I think this I something that a lot of people struggle to understand. We immediately see a guy and if he’s not as masculine as we would expect a straight male to be, we assume he’s gay or bi. I had to get rid of this expectation when I started dating again after my breakup. The two guys I talked to were not super masculine, but were also not super feminine either. They had a softer quality about them that I never knew a straight man could have.

    • @genesisansbro4936
      @genesisansbro4936 4 года назад +17

      Rudi Makole I seriously thought he is a lot more feminine and she is definitely more masculine

    • @consciousbeauty9244
      @consciousbeauty9244 4 года назад +9

      Beautifully stated ✨💗

  • @LifeGuru16
    @LifeGuru16 4 года назад +1399

    Anyone else found it difficult to hear him clearly?

    • @TiggysTC
      @TiggysTC 4 года назад +39

      🙋🏿‍♀️I had a time understanding the topic in the beginning🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @lala55419
      @lala55419 4 года назад +24

      Very hard. So lost. Second time watching

    • @nolusizodlalisa5573
      @nolusizodlalisa5573 4 года назад +30

      I honestly don't know what he is saying half the time

    • @LifeGuru16
      @LifeGuru16 4 года назад +14

      @@TiggysTC Lol I didn't understand the entire conversation. I couldn't catch the gist of it.

    • @LifeGuru16
      @LifeGuru16 4 года назад +12

      @@lala55419 Lol I wouldn't watch this twice.

  • @kahyangni6808
    @kahyangni6808 3 года назад +68

    I'm trying to pay attention but y'all are doing too much in the comments and it's distracting to me

  • @emartins03
    @emartins03 4 года назад +330

    As a Black woman and a mom to three young Black women it makes me proud to watch these two very mature and articulate individuals express their feelings. Thanks for sharing this!

    • @deaniedean248
      @deaniedean248 4 года назад +11

      Feelings of adultary does make one feel proud eh?

    • @thisisallyouget2744
      @thisisallyouget2744 4 года назад +4

      Elizabeth Martins lmaaaooo wow!

    • @sophiaatn5339
      @sophiaatn5339 4 года назад +7

      @@deaniedean248 EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS... can you read?

    • @aepfelchen1181
      @aepfelchen1181 4 года назад +5

      Makes me proud, too; am a white woman!

    • @CashCowz962
      @CashCowz962 4 года назад +1

      Articulate...🤣🤣🤣...they are not mumbling the jibberish huh?...lol

  • @AmariHetep
    @AmariHetep 4 года назад +316

    I was completely confused during that entire second question....it seems like their responses are fragments of a larger discussion. Almost as if there’s a much needed backstory to fully comprehend what they’re saying.

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +48

      thanks for your comment! the whole shooting was about an hour, so you are accurate in saying that our responses are fragments of a larger discussion

    • @kadeeshajohn799
      @kadeeshajohn799 4 года назад +1

      Yes I became confused

    • @user-jk4jj4nm1q
      @user-jk4jj4nm1q 3 года назад +2

      To be honest, I didn't understand many of the words in that question.

  • @jennikalinsangan50
    @jennikalinsangan50 3 года назад +130

    The only thing that bothers me about this video are the haters. You wouldn’t go up to a person and make rude remarks about their complexion or about their speech. People on the internet just have no boundaries, and no consideration. They’re actual people y’all, with real feelings whether or not they read your comment. Just because they’re not right in front of you doesn’t mean you should and can say rude things freely.

    • @meganxotchilt
      @meganxotchilt 3 года назад +1

      THAT part.

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 2 года назад +1

      I appreciate that

    • @jennikalinsangan50
      @jennikalinsangan50 2 года назад +1

      @@GariTalks you guys are beautiful people! I appreciate you guys sharing your story and being so raw and transparent 🥰 I loved watching you guys.

  • @OMagnify
    @OMagnify 4 года назад +581

    What in the neo-soul is going on here???

    • @Rio-uv1gs
      @Rio-uv1gs 4 года назад +9

      🤣

    • @Relatablelexx
      @Relatablelexx 4 года назад +6

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌🏽

    • @kfrank9455
      @kfrank9455 4 года назад +3

      😂

    • @drknow1997
      @drknow1997 4 года назад +2

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you anit lie

    • @LiveLovePureNatural
      @LiveLovePureNatural 3 года назад +2

      Lol sound like keisha from treymoe lol what in the hip hop Atlanta is going on here lol. It's their when bae eats your food skit lmfaoooo

  • @chatp89
    @chatp89 4 года назад +698

    Now if he was ashy y’all would also have some to say

  • @KGoodHole
    @KGoodHole 4 года назад +44

    Her smile is BEYOND AMAZING! I think that is one of the MOST important, beautiful, STRONGEST features of a person. I love to see people smile. Genuinely anyway. I think that’s why I enjoy making people laugh. 💙

  • @NinaAngelina25
    @NinaAngelina25 4 года назад +256

    She still really loves him. She looks like she would take him back in a heartbeat. 🥺❤

    • @roronzoro9795
      @roronzoro9795 4 года назад +5

      Nina Bobina wait did she not leave him?

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +69

      thanks for your comment! I will always love Raheem. I would not 'take him back,' but I will always include him in my love network

    • @theazizagoreshow1527
      @theazizagoreshow1527 4 года назад +3

      Gari François hi! you seem like someone I’d love to get to know! definitely gonna shoot my shot and say email me? azizabackwards@gmail.com

    • @jamesEbrown-zw2fx
      @jamesEbrown-zw2fx 4 года назад +1

      Nina Bobina u look cute

    • @CashCowz962
      @CashCowz962 4 года назад

      Who cheated on whom?

  • @Ninersfootball
    @Ninersfootball 4 года назад +42

    It’s so refreshing to hear a woman bare her soul without any repercussions

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +1

      I appreciate this comment a lot! there has been hella backlash in the comments, but you're actually right

  • @THutch80
    @THutch80 4 года назад +92

    Idk how she didn’t fall asleep when they facetime’d until sunrise. His voice has a lullaby about it

  • @angelahamlett8249
    @angelahamlett8249 4 года назад +31

    It's hard to believe talking to someone from 10:00 p.m. until sunrise until it happens to you. Don't allow fear to keep you from jumping with your soul mate. It's not to good to be true. Love yourself first. Trust in God. Follow your intuition. Keep people out your business. Pray. Consult with God together.

  • @Queen_Justice_444
    @Queen_Justice_444 4 года назад +36

    These videos affect me profoundly eversince i met my soulmate. I use to disregard relationships and other people's feelings a lot, until I discovered what real love is, and its like I feel what my soulmate feels so deeply that it hurts. When I think back to our conversations I think to myself wow, have I ever really loved before I met this person?

  • @modestlycrowned
    @modestlycrowned 4 года назад +63

    I LOVE how she is so accountable for her actions and decisions!!!!!! People love to point the finger. But, to say, I can't feel any type of way about anything you've done, because I've done much worse, that is RAW!

  • @ladyfaye9903
    @ladyfaye9903 4 года назад +661

    I understand/ hear him just fine

    • @ruthied
      @ruthied 4 года назад +4

      Thank you!

    • @classykisses9654
      @classykisses9654 4 года назад +2

      Me too!

    • @zellemaleek
      @zellemaleek 4 года назад +7

      Lady Faye same, don’t understand what these other folks is saying

    • @IrishEvey
      @IrishEvey 4 года назад +1

      Lady Faye yeah I dunno what’s wrong with people. Not used to other accents or something?

    • @XxTeenageMomentsxX
      @XxTeenageMomentsxX 4 года назад +14

      They don’t understand calm, black, dialects

  • @1916shine
    @1916shine 4 года назад +370

    Man what are they talking about 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @kingjohnnyjohn5
    @kingjohnnyjohn5 4 года назад +33

    My level of respect for her owning up to not knowing a time he disappointed her 💯💯. That’s a real woman right there, it’s some people who still can’t own up to their mistakes of doing a person wrong.

  • @introvertedentrepreneur6651
    @introvertedentrepreneur6651 3 года назад +43

    If he would just open his mouth a little wider

  • @sherrylplekker51
    @sherrylplekker51 4 года назад +131

    This conversation was only for the people whom are willing to learn or who already talk on a deep & meaningful level. Many speak but say absolutely nothing of substance and stop being rude about the volume of his voice, if he was yelling the ones complaining would have called him out differently, but since he's composed and has a soft speaker it's another thing isn't it?! Buncho winos, check your phones and hearing..both might be slightly impaired.

    • @Amusegirl1980
      @Amusegirl1980 4 года назад +7

      I feel the same. There is nothing wrong with his voice, it's very soothing - it's people's inability to immerse themselves fully into another. It never occurred to me once about his voice, other than how authentic he sounds until I read the comments. This is a man speaking his truth, something women crave and men secretly wish they could drop their ego's to do! He should be heralded, not condemned. There is a lot of growth to be done for those who only leave a comment about such a mundane, superficial thing when they missed all the congruent glory taking place!!

  • @sheilam2047
    @sheilam2047 4 года назад +26

    He’s so monotoned that everything blends together.

  • @thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763
    @thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763 3 года назад +14

    I hate when people say "they fell in love with someone else " it implies that an individual has no control over their actions and that their infidelity was some act of god. Super irresponsible. You choose to put yourself in a position to develop feelings with someone else and that takes time. SMH

    • @kcourtney6826
      @kcourtney6826 3 года назад +4

      👏🏾 Thank you it’s a series of choices before you ever get to that point, which means there is the opportunity change course.

    • @ijustneedmyself
      @ijustneedmyself 2 года назад +1

      Yeahhh... It doesn't just happen. But I guess it could if you believe in love at first sight.

    • @thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763
      @thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763 2 года назад

      @@ijustneedmyself nope lust that develops into love.....yes.

    • @ijustneedmyself
      @ijustneedmyself 2 года назад +1

      @@thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763 I don't personally believe in love at first sight. But a lot of people do, so they would probably just say they had no control over it, as opposed to "falling in love" which requires time and putting yourself in situations with that person where such a bond could develop. I agree with you though based on personal experience. A few years ago, for a little bit (literally 2 or 3 days), I allowed myself to go down a path. At some point I snapped out of it and decided to remove myself from the situation to prevent it from getting more involved than it was. We have more control over who we decide to let into our hearts and most definitely who we decide to let into our beds moreso than we think.

  • @e.k.o5412
    @e.k.o5412 4 года назад +169

    Love doesn't die it evolves 💓

    • @user-gu6vf3je1d
      @user-gu6vf3je1d 4 года назад +1

      True.

    • @Food4Taught
      @Food4Taught 4 года назад

      Please explain?

    • @sweetflower8
      @sweetflower8 4 года назад +4

      Lol keep lying to yourselves hahaha if it is love people would not even separate. It is all infatuation.

    • @Illn8ture
      @Illn8ture 4 года назад

      That was a very interesting a thought provoking comment.

    • @kimberlyhome228
      @kimberlyhome228 4 года назад +1

      @@sweetflower8 this doesn't disprove the original comment, as the saying goes thin line between love and hate. When you love and it doesn't work out the new feelings whether hate, resentment or indifferent all are based on the foundation of the original feeling of love.

  • @ss-tl1ic
    @ss-tl1ic 4 года назад +884

    What are they talking about? Feel like it's a foreign language lol

    • @lottyessex6735
      @lottyessex6735 4 года назад +93

      J. Ward I’ve never felt so confused loool

    • @tiffanylj2004
      @tiffanylj2004 4 года назад +143

      I came to the comments to see if it was only me. I’m confused as hell.

    • @pweedyadele
      @pweedyadele 4 года назад +19

      😂😂😂

    • @ss-tl1ic
      @ss-tl1ic 4 года назад +125

      Trust me y'all are not alone. Like I felt I was losing it trying to comprehend what they were saying. Also, why is dude so shiney? 🤔

    • @1916shine
      @1916shine 4 года назад +24

      Lol, this has to be the worst I've seen.

  • @poetrycraft777
    @poetrycraft777 4 года назад +17

    This is my third time watching them. They are both so cute! I can't get over how attractive they are together

  • @k.m4170
    @k.m4170 4 года назад +384

    Imagine talkin on the phone w him 😩

    • @aliyahdel2721
      @aliyahdel2721 4 года назад +21

      Stopppp lmaoo

    • @Breeze2423
      @Breeze2423 4 года назад +21

      I love his calm voice. Mine is a yeller and I wish he would not be loud so much of the time

    • @elsabethsolomon2363
      @elsabethsolomon2363 4 года назад +3

      😂

    • @teatea6098
      @teatea6098 4 года назад +12

      K. M you took the words out of my 👄. His mumbling is annoying

    • @Yocyndie
      @Yocyndie 4 года назад

      😂😂

  • @jossyj1
    @jossyj1 4 года назад +38

    I feel like I need to take this much time to analyze myself and invest inner-g into truth the way they do. The connection seems so deep 💫

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +1

      thank you for your comment!

    • @jossyj1
      @jossyj1 4 года назад

      Gari François Thank you💕

  • @charlesmuneri
    @charlesmuneri 4 года назад +192

    Her voice is so strong

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +11

      thank you!

    • @charlesmuneri
      @charlesmuneri 4 года назад +3

      @@GariTalks oh my God, Gari. I loved you. I hope you are feeling better, really felt your pain 🤗

    • @dirkxi
      @dirkxi 4 года назад +2

      Deep Sharothi, her voice is so deep...

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад

      @@charlesmuneri thank you! I am feeling so much better

    • @queenofpurpose7382
      @queenofpurpose7382 3 года назад

      Yes, strong and beautiful 😍

  • @ohhhhhsolyrical9747
    @ohhhhhsolyrical9747 2 года назад +10

    Instead of focusing on the healing process of these two individuals people are worried about his face being “greasy” or he’s “mumbling “ people are weird and so opinionated. This is therapeutic, you rarely see people having deep conversations like this!

    • @See-if_I_care
      @See-if_I_care Год назад

      I just want to pat his face with a cloth or something....you know.

  • @CS-zu6jc
    @CS-zu6jc 4 года назад +7

    Open relationships are built on lust not love.

  • @amberleeeeeeee8131
    @amberleeeeeeee8131 4 года назад +124

    She speaks so beautifully

  • @Velcera
    @Velcera 4 года назад +2

    this is the one skin deep video i keep coming back to over and over.

  • @MrsBryant1024
    @MrsBryant1024 4 года назад +19

    This dude literally has no facial expressions. When she was speaking at 8.08, I literally felt like it was frozen on his side lol she's so pretty to me by the way..

  • @ginagrey5287
    @ginagrey5287 4 года назад +10

    This is the best therapy! This heals and educates us!

  • @Teddy-vv9iz
    @Teddy-vv9iz 4 года назад +5

    I love these sit down face to face conversations/questions.

  • @deemac6318
    @deemac6318 4 года назад +7

    Its crazy...my bf died and the day this video was put on here was the day I found out through FB my bf was in several relationships and "loved" those women. I wish I could have this moment with him. 5 months later I had to give myself closure and I had to realize that what I dont understand no longer matters.

  • @BB11249
    @BB11249 4 года назад +21

    His voice just makes me want to give him a hug 🤗

  • @zoen8810
    @zoen8810 4 года назад +29

    They are both so beautiful and seem so mature! ✨

  • @msblessed4115
    @msblessed4115 4 года назад +42

    I love it when my blk folks can sit down calmly with each other & talk about our problems. We need to adopt this way to communicate maybe we can better solve problems.

    • @SerendipitouslyMe
      @SerendipitouslyMe 4 года назад +12

      This implies that this is an anomaly among Black folks -_-

    • @obscurity87
      @obscurity87 4 года назад +4

      @@SerendipitouslyMe yea i'm unsure where that statement was going...

    • @freedmyselffromthenarcissi376
      @freedmyselffromthenarcissi376 4 года назад +1

      Ms Blessed we could overcome so much❤️

    • @ruj91
      @ruj91 4 года назад +2

      I don't know who you hang around, but in our parts we communicate well. Don't have the media make you think we don't by the misrepresentation shown on TV shows especially. This isn't an anomaly

    • @msblessed4115
      @msblessed4115 4 года назад +2

      @@chantelforrester8325 To whom ever may have side eyed my earlier comment to this beautiful video.. I first want to say I have my right to my OWN opinion lets clear that #1 up first #2 I'm speaking through personal experience #3 I don't understand how some people want to front like they don't know that a lot of Black/African Americans "NOT ALL" of us but a greater percentage of us don't sit down with each other & talk about certain issues in the BLK community that bother us,whether it be family neighbors friends or partners.. It usually ends badly all because 1 is talking over the other & nobody is listening that blame game is strong. I'm use to seeing certain Black folk putting each other down,seeing each other walk pass another without a HI being said or a smile to another,Black women walking around with a restless biych face all day bad attitude & looking like she don't want to be talked to at all.. Black men putting down their black women with music social media.. uplifting non black female.. Black parents cussing & yelling at their kids in public embarrassing them & themselves instead of handling the problem in the household privately. A lot of black folk like to holler out how real they're but everything from head to toe on them be fake,hair nails eyelashes etc. Assimilating to everything but their natural beauty & even sometimes their bodies/men their watches chains money & their character. Type of black people:
      (low vibrational) the type i was referring too. This video i liked because it gives me hope that my people can still thrive for each other in all things if we just talk about things. Oh i don't carry a sugar jar with me so my opinions can't be coated. Hello & good evening✨

  • @hollaatthekid1796
    @hollaatthekid1796 4 года назад +56

    Wow, ummmm. She wanted other relationships but was scared of him having someone else?! Very selfish heart. I don't get that. He dodged a bullet really.

    • @caracara300
      @caracara300 4 года назад +8

      Didn’t he suggest it though?

    • @kimberlyhome228
      @kimberlyhome228 4 года назад +4

      @@caracara300 seems like it was something she wanted to explore and he was willing to let her do that within a certain boundary.

    • @Angelica-vu3nk
      @Angelica-vu3nk 3 года назад

      Were they poly?

    • @Fortheloveoflore
      @Fortheloveoflore 3 года назад

      @@kimberlyhome228 it’s seems more like she told him she also likes women and he wanted to let her explore that by opening the relationship. She seems to have feared him falling in love with someone else, not having sex.

  • @Zoe_Langa
    @Zoe_Langa 4 года назад +36

    Her smile is everything😍

  • @CUtiiemeh
    @CUtiiemeh 3 года назад +30

    My ex of 3.5 years left me without any closure, nothing...it’s only been a few months but I still think about him and I miss all those times we were together, the goods and the bads. I haven’t talked to him since the breakup because he’s since blocked me from everything. It’s sad to see how someone who claimed to love you so much could just do that like you didn’t mean anything to them. I’m still very much hurt from it but I’m slowly healing as well. I know the break up was much needed because we weren’t happy with each other but I didn’t expect it to be this way. I miss waking up to his morning calls and his good night calls. This break up has definitely changed me. I know I will be ok but it will take a while because he was my best friend and my whole life.

    • @NykNuka
      @NykNuka 3 года назад +5

      It feels very similar to a death. I fully empathize with you. BUT, I can guarantee you that time is the number one prescription for those unresolved feelings. Allow yourself to feel all the feels and there will be a day when you have that awakening moment. I wish you healing and the clarity to be open to love again with better circumstances. ❤️🤎

    • @soeifong
      @soeifong 3 года назад +3

      Exactly. It's strange when someone who claimed to love you, doesn't act lovingly.

    • @RedHorseman66
      @RedHorseman66 3 года назад

      What happened? Did you cheat?

    • @yunofassh9345
      @yunofassh9345 3 года назад +1

      Work on yourself it is hard but trust me you will get through this🦋

    • @CUtiiemeh
      @CUtiiemeh 3 года назад

      @@RedHorseman66 I didn’t but he did

  • @loraineforrest2691
    @loraineforrest2691 4 года назад +419

    I'm struggling to understand what he's saying....mumble mumble 🤔

    • @charlescombs6767
      @charlescombs6767 4 года назад +35

      I could understand everything he said. However, I did have in my earphones so I don’t know if that is a factor.

    • @melissaj7504
      @melissaj7504 4 года назад +18

      Ok, so I'm not alone.

    • @SmilleeSims
      @SmilleeSims 4 года назад +32

      Well, there's this thing called "Closed Caption"...

    • @khaliyahliyah6444
      @khaliyahliyah6444 4 года назад +20

      Open ya ears. I could hear everything he was saying

    • @sirwill4945
      @sirwill4945 4 года назад +2

      Loraine Forrest he listens to too much mumble rap the last generation I guess

  • @ngarmur
    @ngarmur 3 года назад +20

    Can we just talk about how beautiful she is?

    • @Kaykay-jh1zu
      @Kaykay-jh1zu 2 года назад

      Let’s talk about it! First of all her skinnnn 🙆🏿‍♂️🙆🏿‍♂️🙆🏿‍♂️🙆🏿‍♂️😍😍😍😍😍

  • @SageMoon8495
    @SageMoon8495 3 года назад +7

    They're two people on different paths; I hope the best for them.

  • @dcoleman4444
    @dcoleman4444 3 года назад +10

    Him: "When was the last time I disappointed you?" Her: "Uh, in the way you just answered that last question."

  • @tima2553
    @tima2553 4 года назад +6

    Wow her voice is deep. I didn’t expect that. She’s pretty and different. 🤗

  • @ThatTalentedOne
    @ThatTalentedOne 3 года назад +2

    Whoever did the captioning for this needs a Nobel prize!

  • @talesofmodernlove
    @talesofmodernlove 4 года назад +1

    Maybe I am being naive because my relationship experience is limited but I cannot pick a “favourite moment”. In my old relationship yes, because it was up and down but in my current relationship? Every moment is my favourite moment, every new experience we create together becomes my new treasured memory. That’s why I really feel it’s right this time

  • @Annasmith13289
    @Annasmith13289 4 года назад +40

    She’s looks adorable when she smiles

  • @godzillanismo4892
    @godzillanismo4892 3 года назад +14

    She is the only one that gets him

  • @majose7787
    @majose7787 3 года назад +41

    Poly relationships are a MESS. Rooted in selfish desire. The healthiest type of romantic relationships are monogamous (esp if planning to marry and raise a family). God's design is best. It's no surprise that Gari had those fears.....

    • @TrancEndingMedia
      @TrancEndingMedia 3 года назад

      Poly relationships are a mess when women are out there willy nilly. Polygyny is more natural that that other BS

    • @AmaraOkpechi
      @AmaraOkpechi 3 года назад +2

      @@TrancEndingMedia
      Disgusting...I’m a woman!

    • @TrancEndingMedia
      @TrancEndingMedia 3 года назад

      @@AmaraOkpechi good luck finding a husband if you think not being thot is disgusting...I’m a Man 🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @AmaraOkpechi
      @AmaraOkpechi 3 года назад +1

      @@TrancEndingMedia
      Polygynous relationships encourage thot-ism...
      I prefer monogamy, as a woman...marriage to 1 man, 1 woman.
      If men find polygyny glamorous, by my not getting married, I think I dodged MAJOR BULLETS, there!
      Call me old-fashioned, but that was the household from which I came. Marriage. 1 MAN. 1 WOMAN!
      🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @TrancEndingMedia
      @TrancEndingMedia 3 года назад

      @@AmaraOkpechi no. Polygynous is 1 man many wives.
      Concubines are the ones that go about their business without being made wives. Thats what we have today. World full of male and female concubines 🤦🏾‍♂️

  • @S0ulB3autee
    @S0ulB3autee 2 года назад +3

    The best love you’ll ever know will be unexpected. If you lose it, you’ll forever chase it. -signed, a broken hearted girl 💔

  • @briandawsonii4451
    @briandawsonii4451 4 года назад +8

    Love is so confusing man yet it also makes so much sense. The paradox that is love.

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +2

      "the paradox that is love" BIG facts, Brian! thank you :)

    • @heikika6078
      @heikika6078 2 года назад +1

      absolutely!! thank You!! ♥️

    • @briandawsonii4451
      @briandawsonii4451 2 года назад

      @@heikika6078 welcome 🙏🏿

  • @e.k.o5412
    @e.k.o5412 4 года назад +77

    Wow black lady is gorgeous

  • @Ayesha_Michelle
    @Ayesha_Michelle 3 года назад +2

    I ❤ that it's like they almost forget this is being recorded.

  • @UneakTershai
    @UneakTershai 3 года назад

    What a good episode thank you for sharing this 💕✨

  • @jt3512
    @jt3512 4 года назад +6

    Now, him mentioning that she was abused in the past... That explains her anger, and being mean at times.

  • @EboJ13
    @EboJ13 4 года назад +8

    I love this so much. Gari's voice is great!

  • @manznothot4114
    @manznothot4114 3 года назад +2

    The fact she’s louder then him explains everything.

  • @Alphacentauri819
    @Alphacentauri819 4 года назад +5

    Very interesting. I do always applaud vulnerability and the lessons learned from those in our lives... past/ present. Not everything is meant to be resolved in the sense of ending up together...but what did they teach you, how did they point you closer to yourself & did you even see the opportunity..or were you too distracted looking at the wrong things?
    A side note, their voices are in the same pitch range 😁

  • @mine332way069
    @mine332way069 4 года назад +8

    They are so bare with each other . I am obsessed plus they are both so gorge

  • @tiddo8620
    @tiddo8620 4 года назад +3

    This is not over, there is still some love here

  • @ipelengmathabe3702
    @ipelengmathabe3702 4 года назад +4

    Love the way these questions are structured, looking at how hard the disappointment question hit her, just put MORE perspective of something she was already aware of but didn't realise the full magnitude of what it means.

  • @aliyyaa431
    @aliyyaa431 4 года назад +2

    Thought I was the only one that didn’t know what the hell they were talking about. I’m so happy RUclips has captions. 😂😂😂

  • @chatp89
    @chatp89 4 года назад +4

    I started smiling almost immediately

  • @CharlotteWebb1952
    @CharlotteWebb1952 3 года назад +14

    The over-analyzing, talking to death gives me a massive headache...

  • @rainwhite2707
    @rainwhite2707 4 года назад

    I truly respect their honest and feel like they should explore trying to take a second chance together

  • @Thegarciasjourney
    @Thegarciasjourney 4 года назад +28

    Man.. this is a different type of hurt 😫😭

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +4

      thanks for your comment! yeah that shit was so different

    • @valerieshinia8526
      @valerieshinia8526 3 года назад

      @@GariTalks hugs 😭❤

  • @TeaEndBlog
    @TeaEndBlog 3 года назад +28

    So, let me see. You want a polyamorous relationship where each of you explore the relationship outside of the context of the relationship but when she begins a relationship with another man you feel hurt and betrayed in the relationship and so the relationship ends and you are confused some time later why the relationship didn't work out.
    Got it.

    • @infotech6075
      @infotech6075 3 года назад +13

      No she took advantage of the opportunity, used his trust against him, then stabbed him in the back.

    • @enyonamagbemadzo8684
      @enyonamagbemadzo8684 9 месяцев назад

      @@infotech6075no she didn’t, you bitter ass Incels need to grow. Go heal that trauma in therapy 😂

  • @nakialindsey5684
    @nakialindsey5684 4 года назад +10

    Two beautiful souls 😍 love is a strong powerful emotion I can't wait to find my soul mate 😋.

  • @soeifong
    @soeifong 3 года назад +2

    She's really pretty, especially when she smiles. Why would he want or need others in their relationship?

  • @lovebunniemack
    @lovebunniemack 4 года назад +2

    the way she speaks about how she disappointed him just makes me think what can you do that’s possibly THAT bad

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +2

      hey booski, thanks for your comment!
      in full transparency, I was crying about having hurt him by falling in love with Nate while Rah and I were in our open relationship

  • @jennae033
    @jennae033 3 года назад +41

    When you say “exes 7 years” do you mean they’ve been exes for 7 years or they were together for 7 years???

    • @Fatima-rz9vt
      @Fatima-rz9vt 3 года назад +5

      That's my question

    • @moneyisweird7862
      @moneyisweird7862 3 года назад +17

      Someone from skin-deep said the years mean how long they've known each other - they really need to make that clear cus I read it like exes for 7 years?! Whaaa how do you speak 7 years later?! Lol

    • @aissdiouf9624
      @aissdiouf9624 3 года назад +3

      So randomly Gari was my best friend growing up lmao so I can answer you, they were together for 7 years. Through college and some years after that

  • @aepfelchen1181
    @aepfelchen1181 4 года назад +3

    Is there a discord server or something for this channel? I'd love a place for this group of people to connect. I feel like it would result in beautiful conversations.

  • @OfficialMeechMusic
    @OfficialMeechMusic 2 года назад +2

    Buddy greased tf up😂

  • @mdooms76
    @mdooms76 Год назад

    He's so cute❤ . I understand him just fine. I see comments about his speech. He has an accent and talks low and calm but he's not incomprehensible.

  • @ldriempartha5374
    @ldriempartha5374 4 года назад +14

    She's so beautiful..and her voice is something I always wanted to have..🥰

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +2

      thank you

    • @ldriempartha5374
      @ldriempartha5374 4 года назад +1

      @@GariTalks omg thank you for replying me.. lots of love from India(Manipur).❤️

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +1

      @@ldriempartha5374

  • @jaysonmuzuruk6604
    @jaysonmuzuruk6604 4 года назад +32

    I believe that them opening up to an open relationship was them uncovering Unconditional Love for others and themselves. We are all one. You can see they don't completely love themselves. Godspeed to that journey. Too often, couples break up because they arent truly their best selves because they don't know how to become that. Nutrition, energy, understanding the mind, psyche, religion, truth.

    • @jaysonmuzuruk6604
      @jaysonmuzuruk6604 4 года назад +1

      @J Dolo but thats the problem. Sexuality is used to show that pain and love we harbor within us. Not gonna say they aint a little freaky but still.

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад +1

      thank you for your comment!

    • @jaysonmuzuruk6604
      @jaysonmuzuruk6604 4 года назад

      @@GariTalks absolutely, have you ever been interested in energy work? Subconscious imprinting, etc? Acupuncture too.

    • @jaysonmuzuruk6604
      @jaysonmuzuruk6604 4 года назад

      @@GariTalks i just think its a good idea to see all the fortress' we've built up to true love. A lot, sitting in the recess' of our minds.

    • @GariTalks
      @GariTalks 4 года назад

      @@jaysonmuzuruk6604 I am SO interested in energy work, subconscious imprinting (what is that??), and acupuncture. both in having it done and eventually doing it for others

  • @officiallostcause7300
    @officiallostcause7300 4 года назад +2

    Different level of cool when you wear martial arts sneakers as part of your outfit. Salute to the young woman with the blonde hair lol.

  • @celesteeeeeeeeeeeeeee
    @celesteeeeeeeeeeeeeee 4 года назад +13

    I wish you guys would sell this game in Spanish! :( such a lovely video.

    • @TheSkinDeep
      @TheSkinDeep  4 года назад +7

      We do!! 😊Check out our 3 Spanish Editions in our shop: bit.ly/TheAndSpanishCG

    • @celesteeeeeeeeeeeeeee
      @celesteeeeeeeeeeeeeee 4 года назад +1

      The Skin Deep amazing!!!! Gracias! :P

  • @mellajoe
    @mellajoe 4 года назад +15

    Never tell a guy you love them first!

    • @martelljhixson
      @martelljhixson 3 года назад +3

      These are the type of rules that create dysfunctional relationships. There is nothing wrong with vulnerability...just don't let your feelings dictate your decision making.

  • @ellief4277
    @ellief4277 3 года назад +2

    6:50 I completely understand this. Thank you for putting it into words.

  • @tamaraeitson1661
    @tamaraeitson1661 3 года назад +2

    Both beautiful people..good to have such deep conversations

  • @shalisealphonse3362
    @shalisealphonse3362 3 года назад +5

    active listening in a man is so attractive

  • @lolthatstough1301
    @lolthatstough1301 4 года назад +5

    I'm over this generation's bullshit, imma stay single and my career is my only relationship, oh btw y'all getting my 4th year of med school results, then I'm off to my fifth and final year, so pray they turn out good.
    God bless y'all x

  • @jennygoodwine2494
    @jennygoodwine2494 4 года назад +2

    i love them. so gentle. so sweet. so honest. i love them.

  • @dolled-upjen3606
    @dolled-upjen3606 3 года назад +6

    I find him very coherent personally

  • @diehardpatriot2231
    @diehardpatriot2231 4 года назад +164

    They way he talk is aggy asf 😂

    • @user-gu6vf3je1d
      @user-gu6vf3je1d 4 года назад +6

      DieHardPatriot
      Truly annoying. Worst than her yelling.

    • @bradwoods371
      @bradwoods371 4 года назад +13

      I know what you mean. I can't stand it when a grown damn man can't speak up.

    • @tawannasteele4534
      @tawannasteele4534 4 года назад +4

      N for dat reason i can not watch.....

    • @j.riffney7939
      @j.riffney7939 4 года назад +1

      Yup

    • @Matoaka365
      @Matoaka365 4 года назад +2

      😂 I think any voice in comparison to his, would sound like yelling. 😂