Shame that i put my gf thru this. I feel lost! My brain tells me i see things but i know i dont. Its like visualizations is stuck. So what feeling? Empty, afraid, almost paralyzed😢
Thank you. The OCD and the shame that comes with it have stopped me from having intimacy for many years. I was so afraid of my thoughts. I struggled with HOCD, POCD, and ROCD. Now, I won’t let it control me anymore because I’m learning to accept my thoughts. I know that OCD is the reason I don’t have a wife and kids, which is something I’ve always wanted. Thanks to CBT and SSRIs, I’ve come a long way, but it has taken time. It started in my teens, and I’m now 45. I was diagnosed with OCD at 37.
Can “hyper-confession” be a ritual of reassurance? Like feeling the need to tell others about my thoughts or past actions in order to get their approval/forgiveness/reassurance… even if ive already gotten it before
See brother your OCD will do all its things to make you react about the thought.As you react and gave importance to it it amplifies.no need to do about the thoughts no matter hiw much discomfort they produce let it stay with you.And move on with your life as they dont matter to you.with time you will feel better
Thank you sir for this wonderful vedio I had been suffering from real life event ocd since my childhood and was always taught that we are the product of our thoughts and we always need to do daily self introspection it made my condition worse . I just became overthinker and the most cautious person because of this I never tried anything new and I feel that OCD is root cause of every mental disorder .
This video feels like it was made for me. So it can be intrusive thoughts AND real memories of things youve done? Didnt know that! Its the “figuring it out for me”. I spend a majority part of my day trying to figure it out and it seems like i am looking for the “key” that will let it go and why does no one else have these thoughts or continue to harp on those things that they remember. Cognitive restructuring has helped fuel it. I didnt realize.
Same I can spend the entire day trying to figure it out and when I think I got it, I doubt it and do it again the next day. It's like mental compulsions, but I also haven't gotten a diagnosis cause I keep doubting I have it. It could be pure o or Meta o but not sure.
Just the feeling stay no need to: 1.fix 2.focus 3.fight 4.frustrate 5.fear About the feeling they are just access adrenaline burn off thats it. With time with your correct response you brain stops adding emotinal puch on the thoughts.
I haven’t been diagnosed yet, but I think I might be struggling from ocd. Especially hocd, I’ve been straight my whole life and have never been attracted to men. But around 2 months ago after being teased about being gay, I started questioning everything I did, seeing if it was gay, like if I sat weirdly, if how I spoke was gay, if how I acted was gay, etc.. idk what to do and it’s getting worse
I had this theme too actually. The worst part was that I was in a great relationship so it made me feel like I could lose everything - OCD targets focus on the things you care about most. This is what I did to get better ruclips.net/video/ZgrRnt76K_s/видео.html.
@ alright thanks man. I’ve had anxiety for about a year and a half now, and I was way better but this has just brought me down to around the same spot or probably worse than when I started,
@ like sometimes I don’t even wanna leave the house or I think ill feel attracted to guys, for example the gym or if I go get food. Which I had never had a problem with before. And I get these responses with my body and feelings which makes me think I have an “emotional pull”. Like I’ve been trying to ignore it, but if I don’t feel anxious It makes me think I actually am gay, which is driving me crazy.
Idk bc if someone told me they were having certain thoughts I'm not sure I'd know if it was normal or OCD so I still have a hard time knowing if I'm normal lol
Does ocd make bdd ? Sometimes i look pretty and i try to convince my self, but my brain still produce flash backs that make me feel anxious about my appearance so i pick my phone selfie for reassurance
@@safi9411hlo safi you are just trying to feel better about you thoughts. Do not do that feel the discomfort and let it be and focus on your work in hand.As you seek reassurance you are fueling it.next time the thoughts occurs let be. Do what you want paying it no respect.after some time your brain understands that its not important for you and the thoughts vanish by their own.
Are you saying like being raised in a troubled household or area? Because i grew up in a really good environment and still ended up with severe OCD. In my late teens I did have stress and a particular job that looking back on I showed early signs of ocd. But I can't say my ocd stemmed from growing up in a traumatic environment. Although I can fully understand why it would!
I didn’t know shame is part of the ocd, now makes sense why I feel shame of things I’ve done, or words I’ve said, not bad things, just normal things makes me feel shame, even things I haven’t done yet 🫠
What feeling does OCD give you?
A broken heart.
Bouts of anxiety 😢
Fear, shame, confusion!
Shame that i put my gf thru this. I feel lost! My brain tells me i see things but i know i dont. Its like visualizations is stuck. So what feeling? Empty, afraid, almost paralyzed😢
@@ocdandanxiety seems like people are sweeping the trauma lens under the rug
Shame and disgust are the biggest ones. Along with fear!
These videos are beyond worth more then any amount of money
Thank you sir keep up the great work and helping us all out!
Thank you for using humor!! This helps make OCD more tolerable!!😃
Shame and regret for things I should have / could have done but didn't.
Going through some of that right now 😢
Same
Thank you. The OCD and the shame that comes with it have stopped me from having intimacy for many years. I was so afraid of my thoughts. I struggled with HOCD, POCD, and ROCD. Now, I won’t let it control me anymore because I’m learning to accept my thoughts. I know that OCD is the reason I don’t have a wife and kids, which is something I’ve always wanted. Thanks to CBT and SSRIs, I’ve come a long way, but it has taken time. It started in my teens, and I’m now 45. I was diagnosed with OCD at 37.
i think your vids really calm me down to a point where it makes me fall asleep every time
Shame, guilt and fear. Thank you Nate. You are special. ❤
This is so helpful. I have learned the importance of self compassion lately and it is not easy, but a journey. Thank you!
Can “hyper-confession” be a ritual of reassurance? Like feeling the need to tell others about my thoughts or past actions in order to get their approval/forgiveness/reassurance… even if ive already gotten it before
Yup! Most definitely.
I suffer from this ., can we be friends
Yes absolutely and you won’t really feel better afterwards. Maybe just for a few minutes.
See brother your OCD will do all its things to make you react about the thought.As you react and gave importance to it it amplifies.no need to do about the thoughts no matter hiw much discomfort they produce let it stay with you.And move on with your life as they dont matter to you.with time you will feel better
I think this video was literally made for me specifically 🤣
Fear, Guilt and SHAME
Your videos have helped me tremedously.
Thank you sir for this wonderful vedio I had been suffering from real life event ocd since my childhood and was always taught that we are the product of our thoughts and we always need to do daily self introspection it made my condition worse . I just became overthinker and the most cautious person because of this I never tried anything new and I feel that OCD is root cause of every mental disorder .
This video feels like it was made for me. So it can be intrusive thoughts AND real memories of things youve done? Didnt know that! Its the “figuring it out for me”. I spend a majority part of my day trying to figure it out and it seems like i am looking for the “key” that will let it go and why does no one else have these thoughts or continue to harp on those things that they remember. Cognitive restructuring has helped fuel it. I didnt realize.
But i dont have extrinsic rituals. So ive never gotten an OCD diagnosis. Only the internal loop and shame.
Same I can spend the entire day trying to figure it out and when I think I got it, I doubt it and do it again the next day. It's like mental compulsions, but I also haven't gotten a diagnosis cause I keep doubting I have it. It could be pure o or Meta o but not sure.
Just the feeling stay no need to:
1.fix
2.focus
3.fight
4.frustrate
5.fear
About the feeling they are just access adrenaline burn off thats it. With time with your correct response you brain stops adding emotinal puch on the thoughts.
Great video thanks!
I haven’t been diagnosed yet, but I think I might be struggling from ocd. Especially hocd, I’ve been straight my whole life and have never been attracted to men. But around 2 months ago after being teased about being gay, I started questioning everything I did, seeing if it was gay, like if I sat weirdly, if how I spoke was gay, if how I acted was gay, etc.. idk what to do and it’s getting worse
I had this theme too actually. The worst part was that I was in a great relationship so it made me feel like I could lose everything - OCD targets focus on the things you care about most. This is what I did to get better ruclips.net/video/ZgrRnt76K_s/видео.html.
@ alright thanks man. I’ve had anxiety for about a year and a half now, and I was way better but this has just brought me down to around the same spot or probably worse than when I started,
@ like sometimes I don’t even wanna leave the house or I think ill feel attracted to guys, for example the gym or if I go get food. Which I had never had a problem with before. And I get these responses with my body and feelings which makes me think I have an “emotional pull”. Like I’ve been trying to ignore it, but if I don’t feel anxious It makes me think I actually am gay, which is driving me crazy.
Idk bc if someone told me they were having certain thoughts I'm not sure I'd know if it was normal or OCD so I still have a hard time knowing if I'm normal lol
Does ocd make bdd ? Sometimes i look pretty and i try to convince my self, but my brain still produce flash backs that make me feel anxious about my appearance so i pick my phone selfie for reassurance
I have ocd indeed
@@safi9411hlo safi you are just trying to feel better about you thoughts. Do not do that feel the discomfort and let it be and focus on your work in hand.As you seek reassurance you are fueling it.next time the thoughts occurs let be. Do what you want paying it no respect.after some time your brain understands that its not important for you and the thoughts vanish by their own.
OCD is an adaptation from growing up in a traumatic environment. Safety rituals.
Are you saying like being raised in a troubled household or area? Because i grew up in a really good environment and still ended up with severe OCD. In my late teens I did have stress and a particular job that looking back on I showed early signs of ocd. But I can't say my ocd stemmed from growing up in a traumatic environment. Although I can fully understand why it would!
@@the_beevsknees Could be one or the other or both. What would get your nervous system in a constant state of heightened arousal?
It's genetic and bad environment make it worse
@@safi9411 what are epigenetics
@@HalfJapMarine wdym?
When I don't have any thoughts, sometimes my brain says so you just forgot so and so...and I be like okay and starts doing erp... it's awesome guys
@ocdandanxiety I am very thankful for your channel! I grew a lot this year using your advices! (Sorry for my english. I am not a native speaker)
I didn’t know shame is part of the ocd, now makes sense why I feel shame of things I’ve done, or words I’ve said, not bad things, just normal things makes me feel shame, even things I haven’t done yet 🫠