Stopping rumination is tough! Let me show you how

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  • Опубликовано: 19 янв 2025

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  • @ocdandanxiety
    @ocdandanxiety  Год назад +61

    What thoughts do you have that just won't stop?

    • @the_beevsknees
      @the_beevsknees Год назад +9

      POCD and Harm OCD is typically what gets me ruminating the most but I try to remember this tool about being told ti get off the treadmill (rumination) and then asking well what do I do now? ANYTHING you want BESISES getting back on that treadmill. This reminds me that hey...I'm on this treadmill of rumination not going anywhere. I'm going to get off and continue with whatever it was I was doing.

    • @eequalswtf6281
      @eequalswtf6281 Год назад +3

      I thought I had OCD, EVERYONE says I do.
      Then I came to this channel to see others stories and how they handle things.
      And the First post I read from your channel was someone wrote "i thought i had OCD, but then i came here and now i am doubting it".
      I can't get this out of my head, That's me.
      I have every symptom that I have heard mentioned.
      Except I don't seem to only hate my OCD like alot of people do here.....
      I also like parts of OCD.
      (I have prevented a house fire twice by my "patrols").
      This liking my OCD partially makes me wonder if I even have it because liking it seems abnormal.
      But this doubt tends to be a symptom of OCD.
      And around and around I go wondering if I even have it. And I know I will wonder for months.
      And the circle continues.

    • @vincentschirripa532
      @vincentschirripa532 Год назад +4

      Hi Nathan. How are you? Hope all is well. Let me introduce myself. I'm 52 years old and been battling with generalized anxiety disorder for over 20 years now. For the most part, it's been under control. I've seen a psychiatrist a couple of times and I told him that I've been also experiencing intrusive thoughts of self harm (suicide) which I'm totally against. I have no desire to act on it, but for some reason these fleeting thoughts come about and it's like I'm questioning do I actually have the intention at the moment.
      It frightens me. My psychiatrist upon learning this , he diagnosed me not with OCD, BUT RATHER OCPD which I find it strange. I thought it would be OCD instead. Can you help. I'm on medication for my anxiety. 200mg of Zoloft, plus 2mg of aripiprazole for the most part, it's working except for these intrusive thoughts.

    • @lukaskuras7750
      @lukaskuras7750 Год назад +1

      Can i ask or OCD its curable ?

    • @reichan2590
      @reichan2590 Год назад +7

      Existential 😢/Death/ The unknown

  • @brianbachmeier34
    @brianbachmeier34 Год назад +411

    We're all gonna make it brahs
    🙂

    • @michellemiller8032
      @michellemiller8032 11 месяцев назад +11

      We made it so far 😊

    • @chetanyasinghbhatti69
      @chetanyasinghbhatti69 9 месяцев назад +3

      Zyzz ❤

    • @Anyoneoutthere89
      @Anyoneoutthere89 7 месяцев назад +4

      I hope so
      😢it doesn’t feel like it I swear.

    • @Birdtoes
      @Birdtoes 6 месяцев назад +1

      I hope so, thank you I hope you do too.

    • @TheCooler1993
      @TheCooler1993 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@Anyoneoutthere89Yes it doesnt feel like it. But remember its another OCD thing to trick you to feel that situation wont get any better. Still keep ignoring it and you will see how OCD slowly goes away.

  • @dillonpeterson1658
    @dillonpeterson1658 Год назад +304

    The main thing is realizing that you’re fine and thoughts are not actions.

    • @izabelazivkov8455
      @izabelazivkov8455 11 месяцев назад +9

      What if your thoughts are ABOUT ACTIONS! There’s a chance I molested someone in my past, I think I did it but did I do it? Or is this just my ocd tricking me. How do you live with that when it goes against your entire belief system

    • @lethalfumes
      @lethalfumes 11 месяцев назад +28

      We suffer more in imagination than we do in reality

    • @chudejideonwo825
      @chudejideonwo825 8 месяцев назад +7

      @@izabelazivkov8455 I think it’s what he is saying: in the present, nothing is wrong. Your thought now are different from the actions in the past. Accept that it has happened and realise it is not happening now and hopefully you have gotten better as a person. That is the present moment. That should be your focus.

    • @brentraby1
      @brentraby1 7 месяцев назад +1

      Without restraint they can lead to action.........over rumination has let to explosive anger in me.....pressure relief valve broke. Behavior uncharacteristic as I've always been referred to as the nice guy.

    • @theodorsmith5032
      @theodorsmith5032 7 месяцев назад

      This resonates with me deeply.

  • @jamlaw
    @jamlaw 11 месяцев назад +111

    "Thank you, brain, for bringing that up at midnight when im exhausted and extra sensitive to stress!" Haha! This is helpful. Thank you so much

  • @Damnitssyd
    @Damnitssyd 10 месяцев назад +173

    I am ruminating about having anxiety. I’m anxious about being anxious. That sounds ridiculous. I hope I look on this comment in a year and be so happy that I’m out of this cycle.

    • @jennielouises
      @jennielouises 9 месяцев назад +29

      You’ve just described me! I’m ruminating about ruminating! Anxious about being anxious! Have you found any relief?

    • @AraceliGarcia-ke9uz
      @AraceliGarcia-ke9uz 9 месяцев назад +12

      Soo me!!! Anxious about being anxious. Depressed about being depressed! Ugh! Makes no sense!

    • @tiffanyms2881
      @tiffanyms2881 8 месяцев назад +6

      Same, sadly. It’s horrific

    • @KhushiKala-ig6cp
      @KhushiKala-ig6cp 8 месяцев назад +3

      Same same, thinking about what if I repeat my x's name endlessly like a madman in a perfectly healthy relationship, then logic myself why I won't and this cycle goes on lol it's just funny at this point I wanna die

    • @rogerfournier3284
      @rogerfournier3284 7 месяцев назад +2

      Same here, it’s a thought process that is annoying for sure.

  • @Sarah-zs3ux
    @Sarah-zs3ux Год назад +170

    I’m literally going through a scary moment at the moment. I haven’t slept today yet but thank you. This is helping a lot. I need to sleep now lol

    • @macariosakayy
      @macariosakayy Год назад +13

      I hope everything is fine🙏

    • @SammynAlgeria
      @SammynAlgeria Год назад +8

      Oh god uh can i ask if you're feeling ok? i hope things gets better for you keep on watching mr.nate's video trust me they gonna enhance your treatment but please always prioritize your health first over everything, have a good day!

    • @SammynAlgeria
      @SammynAlgeria Год назад +11

      @usergodcandy777 situation awareness please, thanks.

    • @harisimran8
      @harisimran8 11 месяцев назад +5

      I was an OCD sufferer. My OCD may get started when I was 12 years old. I might had many kinds of OCD. I cured my OCD by myself completly. Believe me its possible. I have recently started a RUclips channel and I am going to shere my personal experience and tips on how you can cure it by yourself without taking anyone's help. I promise u that it will be helpful you u. So stay tune with my channel because many useful content is yet to come. ❤

    • @stelvis7413
      @stelvis7413 11 месяцев назад +2

      "Literally" going through a scary moment is so much more intense than simply going through a scary moment.

  • @Pixelpin668
    @Pixelpin668 10 месяцев назад +45

    Idk who needs to hear this but the best thing you can do about ocd is “nothing”

  • @kungfumcgee7992
    @kungfumcgee7992 10 месяцев назад +68

    “I bet you that the thing you’re ruminating over you have zero control over.” You are so right. This brings to my mind the Christian way of thinking that God is in control and we should learn to have faith.

    • @kungfumcgee7992
      @kungfumcgee7992 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@Shito88-de2gx true lol

    • @reclusiarchgrimaldus1269
      @reclusiarchgrimaldus1269 9 месяцев назад +2

      Amen 🙏

    • @evannationarmy7769
      @evannationarmy7769 7 месяцев назад

      Amen

    • @kalyahkaitangian3267
      @kalyahkaitangian3267 5 месяцев назад

      Amen

    • @beototbungong1560
      @beototbungong1560 4 месяца назад +1

      Amen, he’s so real for saying that man, i literally have no control over my imagination of my brain and 3 tenses, it’s all creating these scenario in my head which i really hate, but we will make it brah

  • @Joethebro101
    @Joethebro101 Год назад +33

    I’m glad you mentioned simply ignoring the obsessions passively and not doing the compulsions to “fix” the obsessions. I find this helps a lot more.

  • @games68775
    @games68775 9 месяцев назад +20

    And there's something in your mind that's like "if you keep engaging in this thought loop, maybe something will come of it" insanity lol, same thing over and over expecting different results

  • @Bearskickass976
    @Bearskickass976 Год назад +44

    Thanks Nathan. I've been struggling really bad with OCD and rumination on an intrusive thought I had about 2 weeks ago. Really scares me and has me questioning so much but your videos have really helped me. I think this is one of your best videos yet. I've noticed that I've probably had OCD my entire life - in good ways and in bad ways. But this has totally thrown me. Like I said - your videos have helped me so much. So thank you!

  • @sidraparveen4192
    @sidraparveen4192 10 месяцев назад +11

    Whooof , my brain was in pressure cooker.I can't explain how I feel now. Thank you for being an amazing therapist ❤

  • @opencurtin
    @opencurtin 11 месяцев назад +87

    I ruminate about what others might be saying about me behind my back and play out the dialogue they are saying about me

    • @LeeAnnaHolbrook
      @LeeAnnaHolbrook 3 месяца назад +1

      Same

    • @KatelynnMarie-i4n
      @KatelynnMarie-i4n 2 месяца назад +1

      Yup🙃

    • @Yocef80
      @Yocef80 25 дней назад

      Do you feel better now??

    • @opencurtin
      @opencurtin 25 дней назад

      @@Yocef80 I’m using cognitive therapy which helps to spot when I do it and try to change how I’m thinking

    • @Yocef80
      @Yocef80 24 дня назад

      @@opencurtin did you notice any progress since you wrote your first comment 10 months ago? Do you workout regularly

  • @JMU0
    @JMU0 Год назад +37

    Man . . . You changed my life

    • @ocdandanxiety
      @ocdandanxiety  Год назад +7

      You're amazing! Thanks for your continued support!

    • @PainduPets
      @PainduPets Год назад

      @@ocdandanxietyHello Sir plz iam from Pakistan 🇵🇰 .. 😢😢😢😢😢

    • @PainduPets
      @PainduPets Год назад

      @@ocdandanxietyI want to talk you personally 😢😢😢

    • @PainduPets
      @PainduPets Год назад

      @@ocdandanxietyCan you tell me is OCD 100% manage .. My thoughts is normal but when I see video of someone that says ocd is not manage -- My thoughts 💭 is increasing 😢

    • @SamGodwin.
      @SamGodwin. Год назад +1

      ​@PainduPets Just don't take any stress and let go. Distract yourself from such thoughts, practice meditation, and mindfulness. Whenever you get such thoughts, just respond by saying, "It's alright, I can manage it," or "Yeah, that'd be wonderful, ain't it". Just render the thoughts powerless and continue enjoying your life!

  • @sampriktamukherjee1712
    @sampriktamukherjee1712 11 месяцев назад +12

    No matter how bad the day is, your videos make me feel better

  • @MichelleGold
    @MichelleGold 26 дней назад +1

    Best video ever on rumination!
    Step one from the 12 steps is alluded to here. I’m powerless over (people places and things)…” I love that this speaker reminds us that we truly do not have control over the things we worry about. Realizing that is extremely calming.
    Another great idea I’m loving here is to talk back to the thought with a “so what?” Or I can’t control this. All I can do is - go walking, pray, etc.
    Lately, the famous author, dale Carnegie said to allow yourself to think of the worst thing could happen. Then create a solution.

  • @danjaruss2001
    @danjaruss2001 10 месяцев назад +8

    I ruminate a lot about the fact that we're always thinking, and how the brain works. It freaks me out! haha. Also, when my anxiety is bothering me, I'll often times ruminate about Anxiety.. the causes, what the symptoms are, what I can do / not do to make it better, if I have other forms of it, etc. My therapist has told me that I "overthink things, and work myself up". I agree. haha.

  • @prakashm1468
    @prakashm1468 5 месяцев назад +10

    Limit what you see online and especially on social media. It will solve 99% of this issue. The remaining 1% is self motivation like early sleep, proper exercises and keeping yourself alone for sometime reflecting on worthful things.

  • @Birdtoes
    @Birdtoes 6 месяцев назад +8

    Can’t believe I’m 68 and am finally finding out there are terms for what I’ve struggled with since I was about 10🤯

  • @robertrodriguez9445
    @robertrodriguez9445 6 месяцев назад +5

    Im 60 years old, and have been suffering from anxiety and rumination for years, it's brought me down a very dark path. It's a battle like no other. From the time I open my eyes in the morning, I get on that scary rollercoaster, and hold on for terrifying ride, until I fall asleep from exhaustion. All while smiling, and pretending that everything is going to be fine, so others wont think I'm going crazy. This is a good video

    • @robertsacia6245
      @robertsacia6245 4 месяца назад

      Thank you

    • @Dorito_Djinn
      @Dorito_Djinn 4 месяца назад

      I'm 29 but been dealing with it for a few years now and isolated myself from everyone except my mom. I feel this same exact way

  • @ethanchadwick8584
    @ethanchadwick8584 Год назад +10

    I feel like you and nocd have saved my life. I ruminate about the meaning of life and finding purpose, or if i should even search for purpose. Thank you, Nathan ❤

    • @eequalswtf6281
      @eequalswtf6281 Год назад

      IMO the search for meaning/purpose is a worthless endeavor.
      We are primates on a floating rock circling a ball of hot gas.
      We should avoid hurting others.
      Be true to ourselves.
      Value those we love.
      These should be your purpose, anything else is preferences.
      Again IMO

    • @ethanchadwick8584
      @ethanchadwick8584 Год назад +1

      @@eequalswtf6281 thank you. Unfortunately, it brings me immense anxiety thinking that way. That's why I obsess with it

    • @naomicummings
      @naomicummings Год назад

      @@ethanchadwick8584 believing God brings much hope. There is good reason to believe, but faith is also needed. When I was struggling once, I read Beth Moore’s book ‘Believing God’ and it really helped me. ❤ He also says ‘do not worry’.

    • @dilbertfish
      @dilbertfish 11 месяцев назад

      @ethanchadwick8584 The pursuit of meaning can be a purpose in itself.

  • @drdabdo2763
    @drdabdo2763 11 месяцев назад +7

    I constantly ruminate about bad stuff that happened when I was a teenager coming back to haunt me. It makes it really hard to move forward with my biggest passion, writing my novel and making a RUclips channel. I constantly imagine the first time I post anything or publish anything some tell all hit piece coming out and ruining my life and reputation. It's been debilitating.

    • @esrameric6072
      @esrameric6072 2 месяца назад

      Hey, how’s life going? I just wanted to get an update. Hope things are better now

  • @annelindsey3016
    @annelindsey3016 8 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you so much!
    Just ran across this. I have such a hard time ruminating about work. I once counted how many times in 30 minutes I was doing this. Surprised how many times in a short amount of time I was doing this and not aware. One trick I now use is naming my brain, "Amy" (after the amygdala that causes a flight or fight response)
    Giving thoughts (and my crazy brain) a name helps me bring the thoughts and feelings into the light. It also helps you control your brain and not have it control you.
    If it gets too bad I will stop and focus on the colors around me. It helps ground me and bring me back to the preset time.

  • @RaidenKhan
    @RaidenKhan Год назад +7

    I cant explain how awesome you are, Nathan. Please never stop making videos on OCD - thank you so much!

  • @SHIDDYDRAHLS
    @SHIDDYDRAHLS 4 месяца назад +2

    I ruminate about not sleeping…and I don’t sleep! 😂
    I’ve started watching your videos back to back now.
    You’re the first person I’ve found that actually made sense.
    Your video on sleep anxiety made me think about the Taoist philosophy to “let go”.
    Thank you very much for all of your videos, they’re awesome!

  • @SerenityJ777
    @SerenityJ777 11 месяцев назад +6

    I've learned to let the thoughts be. The challenge I have now is how to deal with what happens in my body as a result of these thoughts.

    • @bruceorozco777
      @bruceorozco777 9 месяцев назад +3

      Same here, I get headaches, sweaty palms, fast heartbeat, and my tinnitus goes up a bit

  • @clau_sing_
    @clau_sing_ Год назад +13

    I can't stop ruminating about the mistakes I make at work. It's so hard for me to concentrate and I keep making dumb mistakes that make me so embarrassed. I just started this job and I already feel like a failure at it

  • @samuelabebe1354
    @samuelabebe1354 3 месяца назад +2

    I want to share this hack I use when i find myself ruminating at night, while trying to fall asleep in bed. I'll watch a short video clip (something light hearted, funny, wholesome) or listen to a favorite song, and then replay or repeat that in my head, like a video loop. What i find with this intentional act is that it interrupts the nagging/negative ones and replaces it with the much more tolerable thoughts. I think this helps put my mind into a calmer receptive mode, which eventually drifts into other thoughts which gradually makes it easier to fall asleep. What I like about this is that you can do it without disrupting your spouse if they're sleeping in the same bed, it's a low-key, but very effective tactic to relax your mind and get restful, without exerting a lot of physical activity. Lastly remember that just by resting with your eyes closed is as good for you as actual sleep, you are recharging your body, and getting the same benefits of sleep regardless if you're actually asleep or not.

  • @weiszsantosify
    @weiszsantosify Год назад +5

    thanks for the idea that ruminating can be or is a thought that we don't have control over. It relaxes my anxiety a little.

  • @miriamemery8034
    @miriamemery8034 2 месяца назад +1

    The past present and future helped so much. I wrote it down and read over it and even laughed because it put into perspective how silly it is!

  • @shanet451
    @shanet451 8 месяцев назад +9

    Anyone else stuck ruminating about how they can't stop ruminating? Or ruminating about your ocd? Brains are dumb 😂

  • @Eflodur
    @Eflodur 11 месяцев назад +6

    One of my big rumination topic is which job would be the right one. Having had lots of bad experiences in jobs and being raised where work was the most important thing in the world on one hand side and experienced being weaker in many different ways on the hand side makes it difficult. Having adhs and mcas and trd makes it even much more complicated. I feel trapped and doomed.

  • @stargirl-9000
    @stargirl-9000 11 месяцев назад +5

    The problem is the anxiety that comes with the thoughts is so overwhelming it’s hard not to push it away!!

  • @fabianantochi5171
    @fabianantochi5171 11 месяцев назад +2

    Bro the editing improved so much keep it up 💪🏼

  • @cgdsolstice9663
    @cgdsolstice9663 6 месяцев назад +4

    Usually I’m scared of anxiety attacks, intrusive thoughts and my results in august. My thoughts become loud when anxious and I don’t want any racing thoughts as it leads to anxiety attacks so I ruminate on how much I think and how fast my mind is going. I just need to chill

    • @juliomartinez3840
      @juliomartinez3840 Месяц назад +1

      Im exactly the same, I just solved my problems that gave me panic and anxiety attacks but the thought of “am I going to live like this forever “ scares me and im trying to learn how to not react to it but it’s really hard

  • @SamGodwin.
    @SamGodwin. Год назад +1

    Thank you so much sir, you've been of great help to me. I keep stressing about my upcoming exams, my responsibilities, my goals that I must fulfill and often worry that OCD might intervene my pursuit. It is often accompanied by anxiety, stress, demotivation. It keeps draining every bit of hope I have and tries to stop me from doing things I must be doing. To all my friends out there suffering from OCD, anxiety or anything. Do not worry you're not alone and we will beat this!

  • @elbotoface
    @elbotoface 6 месяцев назад +7

    Whenever I have a automatic "oh no" type of thought, it's usually fear of the loop of ruminating. It's distracting. I almost sabotage myself at times when I notice I'm not ruminating. How rude is that?😅 Anyway, it reminded me of how the brain is with any fear, that it avoids it and says something is wrong and needs to be fixed or solved. So I loved all of the validation from this video to let me know that I'm on the right path. What I like to do is when an uninvited thought comes with its attempt to derail my thoughts off the tracks I wanted them on, I through a new set of tracks for that thought to go on. I mean, come on, how awesome is it that somehow I forget all sorts of things and yet without even trying, I get these automatic "reminders." I figure I would take the things I DO want to remember, or positive habits of thinking I do want and enter them in as the next step and destination of the intrusive thought. For example, I think of things I'm super grateful for and give thanks to God in that moment t. Often my heart will then soar with joy and what was negative e or annoying becomes a benefit rather than negative. I love it! And I am working on excepting and loving this process and as I do,sure enough those automatic things just do t happen near as often. Such a catch 22 huh? So use it to your advantage! Be creative. I love placing light and truth where there were fears and lies. With God all things are possible. As He said, " the truth will make you free." And the truth is that because of Christ, we have nothing to fear and everything will be made right one day. ❤

    • @matthewrocca4197
      @matthewrocca4197 4 месяца назад +1

      Beautifully stated and very inspiring, thanks for sharing!

    • @elbotoface
      @elbotoface 4 месяца назад

      @matthewrocca4197 thank you! You're very welcome!

  • @DOMIN958
    @DOMIN958 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you very much! I didn't even know what was happening to me and I came across your video on rummination and I dicovered that that was what had been torturing me for a long time. I'm much better now that began to follow your advice. All my love from Argentina ❤️

  • @eequalswtf6281
    @eequalswtf6281 Год назад +17

    You guys gotta stop thinking your crazy for obsessing over things like we do.
    I have dealt with people who hear demons/people talking to them and who actually think they are a God.
    OCD may be hard to deal with, even debilitating.
    But your not crazy because of it.

  • @tiannacross3841
    @tiannacross3841 4 дня назад

    Thank you! Watched you since 2020! Your amazing

  • @bradleyspinks7922
    @bradleyspinks7922 8 месяцев назад +2

    I don't know where it came from but I now struggle to make conversation with people because I have this voice in my head saying "you don't know how to talk to people"
    Now I believe it and I'm in need to shut it off!

  • @tomwhitten7336
    @tomwhitten7336 7 месяцев назад

    Watching videos of this kind helps me. To hear it from someone that cares, and gives positive advice. Also hearing others speak about they're experiences, is a relief.
    I have had pure o ocd/anxiety for 6 years. I can manage it now. Takes time and effort. Work on all areas, mind and body. Diet and fitness does help. Also exposure to everyday life.
    I have now crippling obsessive thoughts. Always did but they have taken a more disturbing role.
    I hope everyone out there suffering gets relief.

  • @zeinamayhop1346
    @zeinamayhop1346 Год назад

    Thank you Nathan, everything you says just calm my soul, as a person who suffered from ocd her whole entire life hearing this is so helping..

  • @dtpugliese318
    @dtpugliese318 7 месяцев назад +8

    I tend to worry that if my anxiety gets out of control, it will lead to depression and then I will ultimately end my own life. I don’t know why my mind has to take it that far but I don’t like that thought train.

  • @izabelazivkov8455
    @izabelazivkov8455 11 месяцев назад +2

    Nathan your videos are so good thank you for posting

  • @henryzhao4622
    @henryzhao4622 7 месяцев назад

    Thanks Nathan again you’ve helped me so much in my life. Thank god there are good people like you around.

  • @theluckshow9617
    @theluckshow9617 7 месяцев назад +7

    I can’t let go of the past hurts in my relationship.

  • @saltydog22179
    @saltydog22179 Год назад +1

    Thank you so much for this! This is my number one compulsion!!!

  • @Smoke_DMT
    @Smoke_DMT Год назад +2

    Thank you for making this content, you have helped me a lot.

  • @mechadave
    @mechadave 3 месяца назад

    Your videos are helpful and I appreciate you for making them. Thank you.

  • @teresaspees1613
    @teresaspees1613 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you bro I really needed this

  • @theowlfromduolingo7982
    @theowlfromduolingo7982 Год назад +2

    Thank you for the video. I have certain kinds of intrusive thoughts and patterns of rumination afterwards and I can’t find anything that regarding this specific issue. I have to remember anything or rather recall specific things (like “what did person x say ten minutes ago” “what are the last three thoughts I had” and so on). It’s frustrating because these intrusive thoughts can be triggered anywhere at anytime by myself or other people, situations and objects. I’m aware of the fact that these aren’t normal and are considered as intrusive thoughts, I also know that this whole issue wastes tons of time and energy. But I can’t find a good way to deal with them also due to good feeling and the gut feeling / connotation that I benefit from the things that I remember.

  • @valerie963
    @valerie963 Год назад +1

    You literally are amazing! I love your content and I want more of it!

  • @Alonelybedindesert
    @Alonelybedindesert Год назад

    Thank you so much for helping. I want to change for all the people who care and love me! Thank you.

  • @anthonette-o1g
    @anthonette-o1g 4 месяца назад

    thankyou so much nathan im so with it ruminating future 😢 and im so devastated but now im feeling ok,. and im feeling better now. thank you

  • @danielsmith3628
    @danielsmith3628 Год назад +1

    I ruminate a lot. I'm gonna try this. Thank you!

  • @shell192
    @shell192 9 месяцев назад +1

    This is incredibly helpful! Thank you 🙏

  • @TaquitoDeAsada
    @TaquitoDeAsada Год назад +3

    I always fall for the heart feelings even after 12 years! Anyone else?

  • @KhwairakpamRussel-x6c
    @KhwairakpamRussel-x6c 11 месяцев назад

    This was really helpful. I'm really grateful for your help🙏😇

  • @klanderkal
    @klanderkal 10 месяцев назад

    This.., You've helped me with this ruminating problem. Haven't applied yet,.. but I like your application. I retired, but I didn't want to, .... and found out...I DIDN'T HAVE TO!😢
    IM constantly ruminating on the coulda shouda wouldas.!!.
    I'm experiencing depression and anxiety.!! Horrible.
    4 months of agony so far.
    Can't get over my loss, and knowing it was myself at fault.

  • @sandypierce2956
    @sandypierce2956 Месяц назад

    Thank you for your videos!

  • @alankeni
    @alankeni Год назад +3

    I don’t know how to be kind to myself 😔 My therapist says that if I learn to be kind to myself my anxiety will improve 80%..I ruminate a lot about insomnia because I had a long period of time where I suffered severe insomnia, now because of a one nighter I keep thinking about what if insomnia comes back, and it came back…

  • @enjoyer903
    @enjoyer903 Год назад +4

    The editing got better! 😮

  • @YOLO_GGY
    @YOLO_GGY 7 дней назад

    I tend to create scenarios that are unlikely to happen. The thoughts are more prevalent when I just wake up

  • @jesswoodhere
    @jesswoodhere Год назад +1

    Super helpful! I ruminate about everything or so it seems lol

  • @eaea2332
    @eaea2332 8 месяцев назад

    For me limiting rumination was a result of thinking much more positively and use more empathy with humans. when the world was becoming less intimidating and my idealism for how to cope with it, was dwindling, I have could seen the "light" in a lot of new things

  • @samuelabebe1354
    @samuelabebe1354 3 месяца назад

    I found when I have the rumination thing going on... I respond to it with self-talk that's authoritative, assertive and protective... Like a bodyguard or big brother talking to a bully. In other words, I put the low level thinking, false alarm, obsessive thoughts in their place by talking back to it (mentally or out loud sometimes **do when alone) in an objective way that takes all the power away from it. Pattern Interruption. In other words treat your thoughts like a random telemarketer or stranger calling you to bug you about the same questions 30-50 times a day. It works for me because, I noticed when I was timid or avoiding the ruminating thoughts (which act like a feedback loop or thought patterns) (mine are specific to financial matters) it tends to interrupt what I'm doing more frequently... vs when I am more assertive in tone, and actually take time to address the thoughts in my head like I'm talking back to a real person on the other end if that makes sense. I think this method is effective because it disrupts the feedback loop, and if you do it enough, it gets weaker and weaker in response, until it sees its pointless to keep bringing it up... funny just like a real person would! If the same sales guy keeps calling you asking to sell you a car warranty, if you answer the phone timid every time or keep ignoring his calls... he's just going to keep calling. But if you use authoritative (but non-abusive) language and address the thoughts by speaking to them like a real person... you will get instant relief and a sense of satisfaction. I find I can usually get on with what I was doing, uninterrupted hopefully for a while or all day. Never back down from irrational and obsessive fears, show them who's boss, and that you know your stuff. One last note; I will say journaling helps with identifying the root causes of our fears/anxieties. In my case, I was able to identify why I was stressing about such a small issue, because It was linked to past unresolved issue that had faded away from memory (but never resolved). If I hadn't taken a methodical approach, and journaled all the thoughts and emotions... it would have taken weeks of therapy to finally get to the root causes. Hope this helps some folks, and thank you for sharing your awesome videos Nathan... worth the sub, and more!

  • @brandana9553
    @brandana9553 10 месяцев назад +1

    Even though it's been seven years I think about my ex almost every single day. I just miss her constantly. I understand that's never going to happen but the thoughts just keep coming especially when life's not going the way I want.

  • @NerdyScubaDiver
    @NerdyScubaDiver 8 месяцев назад +1

    This saved me tonight.

  • @SurekhaSalve-z3x
    @SurekhaSalve-z3x 3 месяца назад

    thank you sir god bless you, mamanji🙏🏻😢

  • @Prottasha-w1b
    @Prottasha-w1b Год назад +3

    Hey Nathan Peterson.
    Thanks for your videos. 🙂
    You're awesome....
    May Almighty bless you guide you and keep you happy....
    You are really awesome..
    Your tips videos are really really effective..
    Love form my heart friend.❤

  • @Bourgman
    @Bourgman 28 дней назад

    I absolutely LOVE ruminating. So much so, that I just spend several hours a day doing it. Literally can't get enough.

  • @bonniewilkes9268
    @bonniewilkes9268 11 месяцев назад +1

    Love this just so afraid of the what ifs

  • @GZU
    @GZU 10 месяцев назад

    Brain is doing a poor job handling worst way possible on the “passing thought” good video mate

  • @stefanmolnapor910
    @stefanmolnapor910 Год назад +1

    This is my 3rd time watching this.... i need to learn this

  • @shershahkhan8938
    @shershahkhan8938 Год назад +1

    Thanks your videos work I have severe ocd with intrusive thoughts rumination I always stop one thought to replace another one then the second thought become my ocd now I will try to not care about my rumination

  • @RavenLordOfficials
    @RavenLordOfficials 6 месяцев назад +1

    The reason why I ruminate is because throughout my childhood, I felt as though I never could just be myself. I've always been into metal rock, Halloween, horror movies and all things dark but I grew up in a close minded Christian area where those things were deemed as weird. As a kid, there were moments when I would be asked about my interests and if I gave the honest truth, my mom would spend the rest of the night scolding me about how much I embarrassed her and how I'm an embarrassment to be around which made me feel as though I needed to hide my true self behind a mask of conformity built on things such as mainstream music, being an extrovert, and all things that came with that but the more I wore that fake smile and pretended that I wasn't the black sheep of the family, the more I died inside every day.
    When I got to highschool, I went through a lot of bullying from both kids and teachers for being different and when I got home and told my mom, she would blame it on my interests and if she did try to defend me, they would always bring up my failing grades and whatever else they would throw at her. When I wasn't dealing with that, I was being subjected to extended religious talks, meant to convert my mindset to more "normal" and acceptable behavior. I could have stood up for myself but I was too scared to because my mom always had a problem with her hanger and lack of patience and would smack me or hit me with a belt at time, which instilled fear in me at an early age. Due to this, I began to hate myself and would indulge in physical and emotional self-harm just to alleviate the consuming numb feeling inside. Suicidal thoughts and urges became prevalent around this time as well and I grew reclusive and apathetic towards everyone and everything. In the midst of this, my mom was extremely clingy with me and would invade my personal space without warning. There were times where we'd be in the car and she would randomly squeeze my thighs or tickle me and when I would move her hand, there was a chance that she would smack me for it or get upset. In the store, she would wrap her arms around my arm while I'm pushing the basket and would take offense to me pulling away, even at home, if I gave a fake smile when she came around or refused to lay in bed and cuddle with her, she got mad at me.
    The reason I ruminate these things is cause I still live in the house where the horrible memories occurred and the highschool where it happened is just down the street from me. I wake up everyday and walk around this house and in every room, there's an awful memory. Since my grandpa got sick and died, these thoughts have been getting worse and it doesn't help that my relationship with my grandma has fallen apart. I wanna leave this whole area behind but I can barely afford food right now and I'm not in the place where I'd wanna end my life anymore, me and my mom's relationship has gotten better but I feel like I'm practically inhaling poison in this house and it's making me sick. I don't wanna keep bringing this up to my mom cause I don't want her to constantly beat herself up about the past when she's been making an effort to be better and she's doing great, even though she slips up at times. Whoever got this far, thank you for listening.

    • @oyunoyun4711
      @oyunoyun4711 2 месяца назад

      hi raven. how are you? i hope you are in good health condition. i have been dealing ocd for 35 years. sometimes good sometimes gettin worse.what about you?

  • @Pratham__07
    @Pratham__07 9 месяцев назад

    Great work sir 🛐

  • @cathypowell5634
    @cathypowell5634 9 месяцев назад

    I ruminate about resentments toward people who have hurt me (mainly my family) -trying to explain to them how they come across and how it makes me feel, trying to get them to understand past mistakes I've made so they don't judge me, even though even I judge myself for those mistakes. I ruminate about guilt involving past mistakes.

  • @alizaghimire743
    @alizaghimire743 Год назад

    Thanks for these videos 😊

  • @deathsbride4490
    @deathsbride4490 8 месяцев назад +1

    I keep ruminating whenever I'm studying about different fictional events that will unlikely happen or people or certain events or videos I've seen, and they get repeated in my head for hours sometimes, once I had a fight with my mom and the fight scene kept getting repeated in my head for almost 3 hours. I hate it because it effects my studying and focus horribly and makes me anxious.

  • @David__Z
    @David__Z Год назад

    Another great video 👍🏼

  • @hannahedwards1626
    @hannahedwards1626 11 месяцев назад

    Love this👏🏼

  • @MrKrazyjays
    @MrKrazyjays Месяц назад

    I ruminate out loud about conversations or interactions with others moments after they occur. Whether good or bad, my brain loops that conversation or interaction the second I walk away.

  • @michaelluan6590
    @michaelluan6590 17 дней назад

    Nathan, while practicing letting the thought be there (or actively seeking out to it - find it before it finds me), I find myself constantly checking in on the thought. As a result I cannot focus on the task at hand or the present moment, I am constantly thinking "am I letting it be there", "am I allowing the thoughts", "I must keep reminding myself of it", "I must keep checking in on it" etc. How do I let the thoughts be there naturally without constantly being conscious about it? Thanks. Also the opposite is true, when I finally forget about it and start focusing on life, I suddenly think "am I pushing it away?".

  • @isaacjohnson6517
    @isaacjohnson6517 7 месяцев назад

    on a cruise and i’m stuck in an anxious loop seeking validation and friends. feels like i’m going crazy even though i’ve met so many great people and i should be having a happy vacation.

  • @namjoonstolejiminsjams
    @namjoonstolejiminsjams 4 месяца назад +1

    Its so hard to not response to the thought bc then i feel like its my thought and im bad person 😭

  • @jomicallef19
    @jomicallef19 12 дней назад

    How little I knew when I got married. About him and myself. How small my world was.

  • @JoshuaJH1987
    @JoshuaJH1987 Год назад +1

    I had been in a “situationship” for a good 5+ months. Started as “dating” and a month in she told me she wasn’t romantically interested but genuinely wanted to be friends. This led to long daily communication and messages. We had everything in common and shared all the same values. End of September she began rehearsing for a play and communication slowed immensely. Came and saw the play twice including closing night. She suggested we get together for a meet up day to catch up but ghosted me after the play. So that whole “situation” is what I ruminate over. Comes down to a lot of insecurities on my part. She also had issues of her own, but come on man! Oh good ole rumination.

    • @TaquitoDeAsada
      @TaquitoDeAsada Год назад

      That's not ruminating brother! She obviously isn't into you and you might be obsessed.

    • @JoshuaJH1987
      @JoshuaJH1987 Год назад

      @@TaquitoDeAsada according to my therapist, it’s a combination of rocd and real event ocd. And my ruminations aren’t strictly based on the romantic side either.

    • @JoshuaJH1987
      @JoshuaJH1987 Год назад

      Also, obsessed yes, hence obsessive compulsive disorder. The situation and how it makes me feel is the obsession and my ruminations are the compulsions. Sometimes referred to as pure o.

    • @joblack8090
      @joblack8090 Год назад

      She's suggested a meet up and then ghosted. Given you a crumb of hope to follow then nothing. Happens all the time. Most people really into someone would feel just the same.
      The minute someone you really want says no to you you need to cut them out for your own well being. If they want friendship - tough. Neither of you gets what you want, but you don't suffer as much.

    • @JoshuaJH1987
      @JoshuaJH1987 Год назад

      And to be clear, we’d hung out as friends a few times already, so it wasn’t something new or unheard of. But regardless, gotta cut them out from the beginning for your own good. Lesson for next time I guess.

  • @fibee8324
    @fibee8324 Год назад +1

    My problem is, I feel that I DO have some control over something as long as I check it enough - for example, I have control over whether I make a mistake in my work by checking it - and checking, and checking and checking! I guess the answer is to complete the work to the best of my ability, and then, when I start ruminating on possible mistakes, use the 'maybe, maybe not' statements.

    • @clau_sing_
      @clau_sing_ Год назад

      I feel you. And even after checking sometimes I make the mistake anyway.

  • @SJ_2758
    @SJ_2758 9 месяцев назад +1

    May God bless you🥰

  • @halleelizabeth
    @halleelizabeth Год назад +2

    Last night I didnt go to sleep till 5 am I was just laying there

  • @JosiahShank
    @JosiahShank 3 месяца назад

    I ruminate about whether there is any objective reality or absolute truth in the world since we all perceive life through our own perceptive lenses. I’ve gotten stuck in that rabbit hole for days before 🙃 but right now I’m ruminating about a breakup

  • @kristofergustavsson7171
    @kristofergustavsson7171 Год назад +4

    Thank you

  • @coquetta006
    @coquetta006 Год назад +3

    I ruminate over the past alot from serious traumas...thinking I can problem solve.

    • @stefanmolnapor910
      @stefanmolnapor910 Год назад +1

      Idk if this will help, but I too once did the same thing. We can not change the past or future. We can live our daily life to the best we can tho, life problems will still happen. All we can do is be healthy and happy. I hope you find good health and happiness.

    • @cathypowell5634
      @cathypowell5634 9 месяцев назад

      Same-I go from thinking "why me" to maybe it's my cross in life to bear. I try to see people's side as to why they caused me trauma but then I feel like I'm making excuses for them. It's maddening. Wish I could go back and defend myself with the tools I have now that I didn't have then.

    • @BlessedJewel7
      @BlessedJewel7 7 месяцев назад

      @@cathypowell5634
      Sm

  • @jamessawyer9018
    @jamessawyer9018 Год назад +6

    Same thing as the last time I commented. Fears about death and decaying away into nothing

  • @shantaramaswamy1997
    @shantaramaswamy1997 Год назад +1

    Very informative video tq sir

  • @Spulga-x3q
    @Spulga-x3q Месяц назад

    Hi! I’m wondering from where this come from. Why some people live without rumination and why some people stuck in this thought process?
    My husband showed me this video and we both agreed - this is me. But thing is - I’m ruminating almost all day long, also at nights when I woke up. Firts thing I do when open my eyes - I start to think. It’s like a switch to my brain - it’s show time! But thing is - I don’t ruminate only about past, I do it also about events (even simple ones) in current day and specially about future. And mostly question that I ask myself is - how, how, how? I don’t even know how can I stop to catch atleast one thought and respond to it, because they going like fast speed train abot everything!

  • @jesterlpm5054
    @jesterlpm5054 5 месяцев назад +2

    i wish i could hug you

  • @Sarahann1993
    @Sarahann1993 7 месяцев назад

    But if I think about the worst possible scenario it makes me feel like if it does happen I won't be completely blindsided. Rumination about the past causes me much more stress because they are like flashbacks with thoughts and repeating phrases, (negative) that people said to me. I feel like if I don't hold on and keep thinking about it, I'll let my guard down and end up getting hurt and not believed again.