I wore mine out after seeing your initial video. I just came to realize , why am I hiding my hair?? I’m tired of trying to fit a mold that’s not for me. Thank you for your uploads
Good question why are so many blk women hiding their hair embrace it when I learned what my hair loves it became easy to take of our hair loves water & to be left alone to grow I locked my hair which what our hair loves
I got so tired of trying to figure out what to do with my hair. It was exhausting thinking about what my next style was. What weave I’m going to wear.I came to realize that I was seeking the male gaze that’s why I didn’t wear my natural hair anymore. I get more looks and compliments with plastic hair on my head than with my own hair. A man once told me that I look 70% better with a blonde straight plastic wig. I was devastated . I had to realize that my face doesn’t change and that people associate beauty with long hair. I’m free now with my natural hair and it’s so freeing and I feel great being me. Now I find people say oh you should do lashes since your hair is so short. I’m like can we just stop with the extensions of any kind please!
I’m happy for you. I understand you, I was like you when I began my hair journey. I know it’s not easy to find your own style accepting yourself the way you are but it’s gonna come with time and trust in yourself. It’s like any enhancements ain’t gonna change who you truly are
I'm sorry that you were devastated over something a random man said. it hurts more when it's own our people i.e. family and friends but my family and friends are used to me by now...I do whatever is easiest and mentally uplifting for me at the time. Sometimes I get mentally tired styling my natural hair so I allow myself additional hair. However, my favourite style is to run around in my afro puff. Lol! But my trichologists said that it's too drying for my hair and scalp to do that all year round. so my compromise is to wear that in the summer for 12 weeks. Also when it get below 5 degrees Celsius in winter, I be reaching for my hair hat..my head is cold. Lol! I like blond with black roots...not all over blond. They can get loss with the lashes. I tell them I like swimming so no lashes or permanent extensions that I can't swim with!! I get a type of hairloss/alopecia from being a Thalassemia carrier, living somewhere with environmental stress and having neurodivergent stress. At this stage in my life, my physical and mental health is more important than my hair. If I get hair loss from cancer or menopause in my 40s or 50s or 60s I know what to do and can be confident bald ( might need a wig for winter though) or with a hair piece. I feel free with natural hair too...free to jump in the pool or the sea. I've never been in a lake or river but there's still time!! I can just pack a backpack and run off to the lake for a few days if I wanted to and not worry about my hair!!
@@marleyhill34 I hair some hair loss too at the crown 👑 of my head not sure what it is but when it gets a certain length it breaks off and it’s just very little hair there till it grows back. I love blonde hair with black roots too. It looks so cool that way.
Hi!! I wear my hair natural in a buzzcut and I am so confident this way! Some people have the nerve to ask me if I asked my hubby to cut my hair! Seriously wtf??
A blond buzzcut is like my dream cut...but I live somewhere too cold to attempt that. Lol! I think if I still lived in the tropics I would have shaved it all off by now. I shaved off half last summer but it has grown back to keep my head ( if not my ears) warm in winter and have something to attach my winter wigs too. I dated this one white guy who was like "I'm dating multiple people...this is fun!" he saw my hair in all its forms and just genuinely accepted it and embraced it. He taught me a lot about self-acceptance and being treated right by people.
Personally, I love that series of video. A black woman loving herself unapologetically. I love seeing it 🥰. You lower my blood pressure and can’t wait to see more
Thank you so much for this message. We as women have to love ourselves first. We have to love seeing ourselves in all the versions of natural we can be.
I've been single for 10 years. I wear my hair how I want. If they want my hair done differently they can pay for a stylist to do it. Not me!! My name is not Beyonce and even then Beyonce is not always running around in a butt-length blond straight wig half the time! She be in braids and a ponytail and get her Moma to do her press. My favourite Beyonce look is when she's on a yacht jumping in the sea with braids or a sew-in that matches closely to her normal curly texture and she has Blue Ivy in similar simpler styles. Yeah, men are decentred from my life. Makes it so much easier and more peaceful!! Reclaiming my time!!! Lol! But I've always done what I wanted and not always what a man wanted. I can compromise but it's got to be reasonable. I'm not sitting in a salon for 4 hours when I have work, exercise, mental health, housekeeping and basic self-care to do!
@@EvieAswiti Exactly men be asking for all this dumb shit and they don't even know how much time, energy and money it actually cost. My father wasn't perfect but he never asked my mother for any of that alterations to her appearance. Whatever she wanted to do with her body he said not a word. Like bro perfect hair is for someone who has a stylist every day..and even then sometimes you just want to lie in bed and not have someone tugging at your hair! That's why celebrities go on vacation and leave their stylist at home!! Lol! Yeah my mom was a fat mom because she didn't have time to go to the gym because she was looking after the house, us kids and elderly relatives and working shifts as a nurse full time!! The unpaid labour that women do is unreal...It could never be me...I don't have the brain capacity for it. Being neurodivergent. sitting in a salon for 10 hours getting 1000 buck ankle length box braids..who will be looking after the kids during that time? Nope not me. Especially as I'm not getting middle aged and stiff...I can't sit for that long!! Lol!
There are so many more important things in our lives than hair. I understand that it can be a self-confidence issue and a way to bully and oppress people. I struggled for many years to understand my hair and wear my hair in a way that allows me to be happy and fits into my lifestyle. Men? They were the least of my hair problems. Lol! But I grew up in a black-majority country where the boys at school had a crush on the baldheaded female teacher! She definitely showed me that a woman could be confident with no hair!!
I think men care more about length than texture. Long kinky hair is sexy to them bc men like what’s most different from them. Since most men have short hair, long hair on a woman is attractive bc of the polarity. The question I think about is: Is desiring long hair (even if it’s long type 4) a Eurocentric beauty standard?
No it’s not because long hair is not a Eurocentric concept or feature. Any race of women on earth can grow long hair. We see all over RUclips black women with long 4c stretched hair or Afros. Now wanting long BLONDE STRAIGHT hair is different. Because blonde, brunette, or redhead straight hair is Eurocentric. Long hair is not. The problem is BW want long hair with European textures instead of long African hair texture.
I absolutely adore wearing my natural hair. I finally stopped looking for male validation it was hard at first because of the negative voices of society kept playing in my head over and over again now I'm learning to enjoy my hair and accept how God created me to be ❤
My parents are in their 70s and are still not fully grey...I thought ooh I'm going to have white hair...nope..I'll be perpetually salt and pepper unless I dye it. I shaved off half last summer but I kinda need hair in the winter....even if it's not mine. Lol!
I can careless how other men feel about my natural looks or hair as long as my husband still loves me I have small locs now for almost 5 years now I don’t wear makeup unless I am going to a event the freedom to be me is wonderful just take a shower get dressed and go out the door what you see is what you get I don’t want to look like everyone else
@@honks9484 the point was not to feel the need to live your life, including your chosen aesthetic, based on MALE (or any gender) validation or approval. The fact that he's her husband doesn't negate the fact that he's a MALE. Who cares of he likes it as long as SHE likes it. If he wakes up one day and decides he doesn't like her locs, then what? That's the point she missed. It's sad to hear women make statements like this.
I'm in my late 40s and have been natural since 2010. I have no issue getting male attention. Is it different attention? Yes! But it's not a bad thing as I'm not attracted to men who would only want me to have straight hair anyway. But no issues attracting men. Carry yourself with confidence and there will always be someone who appreciates you.
Ms. Evie Girl I love the message you are spreading so stinking much !!!! I had to wait until I had time to sit down and watch your video and I'm so happy that I did. First and foremost I can relate to that story you shared of the brother and sister that admired your hair. I too had a little girl that is mixed stop me and she was in awe of my hair that was brushed into a big afro and she could not get over the fact that my hair looked like hers before her mother added product to it and she kept telling me how pretty it was. It dang near broke my heart that was years ago and I still think back to that moment from time to time. I wanted to say not only is it liberating to wear our natural crowns but it is also very care free not having to worry if your lace is lifting, if a track is showing, or if the leave out is "Giving" lol. I can't tell you how different I receive compliments when it has to do with my natural form. Men and women have stopped me to tell me that I'm beautiful and that I carry myself very nicely and personally I have actually taken heart to those compliments much more in comparison to being complimented on something that is not actually mine ( I know not everyone will agree) but the compliments felt authentic to me because they were based on me looking the way God created me to be. I pray that every woman receives this message. BE YOURSELF and part of being yourself is knowing what you look like naturally never be afraid of the woman you are in the mirror when you first wake up no makeup, messy hair, and whatever else you come w/ don't forget that Jesus made you and he makes NO MISTAKES ! ❤ You're so lovely Evie !!!!
Aw, thank you! I love this comment so so much. I laughed when you talked about the leave out giving bc I am still very much that person with my weave lmaoooo 😂 I’m very happy that my content resonates with you and others. Also for you to spend the time to sit down and watch me to get the whole experience! More is on the way boo 🥹🫶🏾💕🌸
You look fab with your natural hair. I am so annoyed by the fact that black men will say they love natural hair but then they'll say they don't. I am a pixie cut girl I love short cuts and will rock one in a minute. I get the urge to cut my hair after wearing weaves.....it's so infuriating to see 40 inch buss downs get the love but yet a man will say they want a woman, with their own natural hair eyeroll...
Look at it like this : you weed out the superficial ones , the unempathic ones , and the ones with bad taste ( frankly ) in one strike. It's hard for me to believe that you feel invisible sometimes , being a striking woman like that. Quite the opposite is true.
I think some people go out of their way to not acknowledge striking women bc they assume if they do it’ll feed their bias of them being stuck up (which is projection imo)
I love your thought process. We’re very similar in our thought process and thoughts about natural hair. I have a similar story where early in my hair journey I was also told to wear my hair straighten because “it looks better long”- but I’m at the point in my journey where I embrace the shrinkage instead of hating it. I also don’t care what others think about my hair. I care about what I think of myself and my hair and that’s it! (well other than God- I care about what God thinks of me 😂) Confidence starts within, not externally.
I think sometimes confidence can start externally. From my experience, I initially went natural because I hated my flat relaxed hair, I wanted to save money and I was fed up of paying hairdresser to damage my hair and not give me any solutions. I didn't like what I saw on the outside but because I had those concrete objective reasons for going natural.. I was not easily swayed when it was looking..." a little crazy" The fact, that I entered the natural hair lifelong academy and learnt so much about my hair and other people's hair, gave me so much confidence. 15 years later I'm happy to go out with my hair looking a little crazy and not caring..especially if I'm at the swimming pool or spa. Lol! Now I get the most compliments on my Afro-centric/kinky coil hair.
THIS!! 3:45-4:11 The feathers be ruffled!! Thank you for this video. I've honestly thought about speaking about this topic on my channel. There is definitely a difference in how we are looked at with natural hair vs when we wear less textured styles. Thank you for the reassurance!!
Thank you for doing this much needed video embracing our natural hair! As you mentioned, our hair is the only type of hair in the universe that defies gravity! The Bible says that we are a special people, our hair sets us apart. (Peter 2:9) A chosen people!When we finally accept, care for it and love it, it will flourish! All praises to the Most High God!🙏🏾♥️ Peace and love to all my melonated natural hair sistas!🎉
Completely agree. In general, what anyone thinks of me isn't my business. It isn't my job to change anyone's mind. I think there's such a shift in how you feel and a weight off your shoulders when you start being in more of your natural state. I stopped wearing makeup when I turned thirty and it actually makes me sad how reliant I was on it for probably thirteen years.
Love your videos. I (bw) have noticed a difference in reception from platonic women when out and about as well. Still trying to put my finger on how I feel about it.
Can you please tell me all the products that you used to achieve this look, including shampoo/conditioner? Beautiful 🤩 a step by step video please!! they just found out that the fake kanakelon Hair causes cancer.
Keep coming with the great content Evie! We love to see it! I'm feeling more comfortable wearing my natural hair out these days, your conversations are like talking with a friend 😍& yass YOU ARE STILL THAT GIRL with your natural hair!!
Don’t you think the acronym TWA tinnie winnie Afro should be erased. Why should long hair be a measure of beauty, great health, good self care, etc. why is natural hair straightened either by flat iron or blow dried a measure of good healthy hair. Debate please
What in the title TWA indicates it’s being called less beautiful, or less healthy or cared for? TWA only refers to the length. Sounds like you’re projecting.
I had this journey as well when deciding my hair in twists/braids are for the health of my hair… for a long time I refused to wear them due to how I would be perceived now lmao I be shaking them back and forth in dance class 😂😭💕💕 it’s sooo freeing to accept yourself and let go love love love this convo keep it going !!
@jasmineimanii1111 😂 cmon shaking them in dance class! 💃🏾 Thank you sistren. Definitely will keep sharing my thoughts and other interests on this channel.
why cant we not like our hair like other races without people assuming you want long straight hair or dont like it because it's black. I always wanted regular black hair so called 4c, no i dont want it long. Also like any race of woman i want hair that styles easy and keeps a style . Can i be female withou black hatred being the scapegoat for how i feel? We need to growup as a raace and be ok and not have to say all blk hair is good , its like saying we all have to win. im an adult vi can deal with others being smarter or prettier, no my self worth is not tied to my hair. Why don't we start saying we are attracted to every blk person and we like fat same as we do skinny its disingenuous.
Idk I have a different experience. I’ve always had attention and eyes on me and I’ve always been natural. I think i even get more attention after I just wash my hair and my curls are extra large and poppin.
I think some people miss the point. Your natural hair does not have to have “extra large curls and poppin” to be worn proudly. You wear your natural hair proudly because it grows out of your head. Whatever it looks like, it’s a part of you.
Men love beauty. Natural looks so basic and you don’t stand out. Men like having the most beautiful women they marry beautiful women I’ve never dated only relationships and marriage let them know upfront the men stay and marry based on ur attitude and personality only if ur vain like me and have tons of make up on love fake hair etc etc men will support it and pay for it if they love u I asked if they liked my natural hair better all said it doesn’t matter they liked both. Men don’t care about natural versus glam they want beautiful at all times and beautiful personality don’t bring them the screaming and emotional bullshit don’t control them or check their phone let them be themselves and that’s it. If they love u they will give u thousands for the beauty I’ve had a husband that did and he was not rich we were average. But he knew I came from a rich background and he did whatever to keep me at the same lifestyle. I’ve spent thousands on Botox and filler and lasers. Beauty is expensive but I do it cause I hate the aging. So men like you if ur personality is real u can be fake on the outside as long as ur inside is humble and real and treat them good all these people telling women men don’t like glam this is bullshit. They like whatever is beautiful and normally that’s women that stand out because of make up hair beauty and body.
We see you and we like it. Mans rejection is Gods protection.
Perioso. Thank you. ☺️
I wore mine out after seeing your initial video. I just came to realize , why am I hiding my hair?? I’m tired of trying to fit a mold that’s not for me. Thank you for your uploads
oh wow that makes me so happy 🥹☺️🫶🏾 doesn’t that first realization hit so different???
So true !!
Good question why are so many blk women hiding their hair embrace it when I learned what my hair loves it became easy to take of our hair loves water & to be left alone to grow I locked my hair which what our hair loves
I got so tired of trying to figure out what to do with my hair. It was exhausting thinking about what my next style was. What weave I’m going to wear.I came to realize that I was seeking the male gaze that’s why I didn’t wear my natural hair anymore. I get more looks and compliments with plastic hair on my head than with my own hair. A man once told me that I look 70% better with a blonde straight plastic wig. I was devastated . I had to realize that my face doesn’t change and that people associate beauty with long hair. I’m free now with my natural hair and it’s so freeing and I feel great being me. Now I find people say oh you should do lashes since your hair is so short. I’m like can we just stop with the extensions of any kind please!
I'm glad you accepted yourself. Those people just can't love a woman if she's not artificial.
I’m happy for you. I understand you, I was like you when I began my hair journey. I know it’s not easy to find your own style accepting yourself the way you are but it’s gonna come with time and trust in yourself. It’s like any enhancements ain’t gonna change who you truly are
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability! I’m sorry you had to go through that devastation. Definitely a familiar song
I'm sorry that you were devastated over something a random man said. it hurts more when it's own our people i.e. family and friends but my family and friends are used to me by now...I do whatever is easiest and mentally uplifting for me at the time. Sometimes I get mentally tired styling my natural hair so I allow myself additional hair. However, my favourite style is to run around in my afro puff. Lol! But my trichologists said that it's too drying for my hair and scalp to do that all year round. so my compromise is to wear that in the summer for 12 weeks. Also when it get below 5 degrees Celsius in winter, I be reaching for my hair hat..my head is cold. Lol! I like blond with black roots...not all over blond. They can get loss with the lashes. I tell them I like swimming so no lashes or permanent extensions that I can't swim with!! I get a type of hairloss/alopecia from being a Thalassemia carrier, living somewhere with environmental stress and having neurodivergent stress. At this stage in my life, my physical and mental health is more important than my hair. If I get hair loss from cancer or menopause in my 40s or 50s or 60s I know what to do and can be confident bald ( might need a wig for winter though) or with a hair piece. I feel free with natural hair too...free to jump in the pool or the sea. I've never been in a lake or river but there's still time!! I can just pack a backpack and run off to the lake for a few days if I wanted to and not worry about my hair!!
@@marleyhill34 I hair some hair loss too at the crown 👑 of my head not sure what it is but when it gets a certain length it breaks off and it’s just very little hair there till it grows back. I love blonde hair with black roots too. It looks so cool that way.
You're a truly gorgeous woman. Never lose your confindence.
Appreciate you! I won’t 🤞🏾
Hi!! I wear my hair natural in a buzzcut and I am so confident this way! Some people have the nerve to ask me if I asked my hubby to cut my hair! Seriously wtf??
Howdy hey, bae! Wait are people that unhinged? Glad you feel like a confident girlie 💕💗🥹
A blond buzzcut is like my dream cut...but I live somewhere too cold to attempt that. Lol! I think if I still lived in the tropics I would have shaved it all off by now. I shaved off half last summer but it has grown back to keep my head ( if not my ears) warm in winter and have something to attach my winter wigs too. I dated this one white guy who was like "I'm dating multiple people...this is fun!" he saw my hair in all its forms and just genuinely accepted it and embraced it. He taught me a lot about self-acceptance and being treated right by people.
Personally, I love that series of video. A black woman loving herself unapologetically. I love seeing it 🥰. You lower my blood pressure and can’t wait to see more
Yessss to lowering the blood pressure!!!! Thank you for that it cracked me up 💕😂 I’ll keep it going
Thank you so much for this message. We as women have to love ourselves first. We have to love seeing ourselves in all the versions of natural we can be.
You’re so welcome 😉 appreciate you
I've been single for 10 years. I wear my hair how I want. If they want my hair done differently they can pay for a stylist to do it. Not me!! My name is not Beyonce and even then Beyonce is not always running around in a butt-length blond straight wig half the time! She be in braids and a ponytail and get her Moma to do her press. My favourite Beyonce look is when she's on a yacht jumping in the sea with braids or a sew-in that matches closely to her normal curly texture and she has Blue Ivy in similar simpler styles. Yeah, men are decentred from my life. Makes it so much easier and more peaceful!! Reclaiming my time!!! Lol! But I've always done what I wanted and not always what a man wanted. I can compromise but it's got to be reasonable. I'm not sitting in a salon for 4 hours when I have work, exercise, mental health, housekeeping and basic self-care to do!
heavy on the let them pay for it - my hand is OUT! 🖐🏾
@@EvieAswiti Exactly men be asking for all this dumb shit and they don't even know how much time, energy and money it actually cost. My father wasn't perfect but he never asked my mother for any of that alterations to her appearance. Whatever she wanted to do with her body he said not a word. Like bro perfect hair is for someone who has a stylist every day..and even then sometimes you just want to lie in bed and not have someone tugging at your hair! That's why celebrities go on vacation and leave their stylist at home!! Lol! Yeah my mom was a fat mom because she didn't have time to go to the gym because she was looking after the house, us kids and elderly relatives and working shifts as a nurse full time!! The unpaid labour that women do is unreal...It could never be me...I don't have the brain capacity for it. Being neurodivergent. sitting in a salon for 10 hours getting 1000 buck ankle length box braids..who will be looking after the kids during that time? Nope not me. Especially as I'm not getting middle aged and stiff...I can't sit for that long!! Lol!
I love how unbothered you are about the nay sayers
😂😂😂
There are so many more important things in our lives than hair. I understand that it can be a self-confidence issue and a way to bully and oppress people. I struggled for many years to understand my hair and wear my hair in a way that allows me to be happy and fits into my lifestyle. Men? They were the least of my hair problems. Lol! But I grew up in a black-majority country where the boys at school had a crush on the baldheaded female teacher! She definitely showed me that a woman could be confident with no hair!!
I think men care more about length than texture. Long kinky hair is sexy to them bc men like what’s most different from them. Since most men have short hair, long hair on a woman is attractive bc of the polarity. The question I think about is: Is desiring long hair (even if it’s long type 4) a Eurocentric beauty standard?
💯💯so true!!
Oh and no long full and thick, black hair is also an African beauty standard.
No it’s not because long hair is not a Eurocentric concept or feature. Any race of women on earth can grow long hair. We see all over RUclips black women with long 4c stretched hair or Afros.
Now wanting long BLONDE STRAIGHT hair is different. Because blonde, brunette, or redhead straight hair is Eurocentric. Long hair is not.
The problem is BW want long hair with European textures instead of long African hair texture.
I love the fact that you enjoy being yourself so much. You're inspiring for everybody.
Thank you for that. Hoping to reach as many as I can.
I absolutely adore wearing my natural hair. I finally stopped looking for male validation it was hard at first because of the negative voices of society kept playing in my head over and over again now I'm learning to enjoy my hair and accept how God created me to be ❤
That’s beautiful love
You look radiant and vibrant. Natural hair is soo beautiful. ❤Continue to live your truth. The right people for you will come to you
Thank you so much!! Very well said.
Wait until you start turning grey and now damn near 70. Who you are is who you are. Beautiful!!!
My parents are in their 70s and are still not fully grey...I thought ooh I'm going to have white hair...nope..I'll be perpetually salt and pepper unless I dye it. I shaved off half last summer but I kinda need hair in the winter....even if it's not mine. Lol!
The birds are birding in the background 🎤 🎶 🐦
They wanna chime in so bad. I love them though. They don’t miss with the songs every day.
So beautiful and elegant! God Bless you ❤️
Thank you so much. God bless you too. 💕🌸
I can careless how other men feel about my natural looks or hair as long as my husband still loves me I have small locs now for almost 5 years now I don’t wear makeup unless I am going to a event the freedom to be me is wonderful just take a shower get dressed and go out the door what you see is what you get I don’t want to look like everyone else
You missed the point.
@@MT-yx5cuwhat was the point?
@@honks9484 the point was not to feel the need to live your life, including your chosen aesthetic, based on MALE (or any gender) validation or approval. The fact that he's her husband doesn't negate the fact that he's a MALE. Who cares of he likes it as long as SHE likes it. If he wakes up one day and decides he doesn't like her locs, then what? That's the point she missed. It's sad to hear women make statements like this.
I'm in my late 40s and have been natural since 2010. I have no issue getting male attention. Is it different attention? Yes! But it's not a bad thing as I'm not attracted to men who would only want me to have straight hair anyway. But no issues attracting men. Carry yourself with confidence and there will always be someone who appreciates you.
Ms. Evie Girl I love the message you are spreading so stinking much !!!! I had to wait until I had time to sit down and watch your video and I'm so happy that I did. First and foremost I can relate to that story you shared of the brother and sister that admired your hair. I too had a little girl that is mixed stop me and she was in awe of my hair that was brushed into a big afro and she could not get over the fact that my hair looked like hers before her mother added product to it and she kept telling me how pretty it was. It dang near broke my heart that was years ago and I still think back to that moment from time to time. I wanted to say not only is it liberating to wear our natural crowns but it is also very care free not having to worry if your lace is lifting, if a track is showing, or if the leave out is "Giving" lol. I can't tell you how different I receive compliments when it has to do with my natural form. Men and women have stopped me to tell me that I'm beautiful and that I carry myself very nicely and personally I have actually taken heart to those compliments much more in comparison to being complimented on something that is not actually mine ( I know not everyone will agree) but the compliments felt authentic to me because they were based on me looking the way God created me to be. I pray that every woman receives this message. BE YOURSELF and part of being yourself is knowing what you look like naturally never be afraid of the woman you are in the mirror when you first wake up no makeup, messy hair, and whatever else you come w/ don't forget that Jesus made you and he makes NO MISTAKES ! ❤ You're so lovely Evie !!!!
Aw, thank you! I love this comment so so much. I laughed when you talked about the leave out giving bc I am still very much that person with my weave lmaoooo 😂 I’m very happy that my content resonates with you and others. Also for you to spend the time to sit down and watch me to get the whole experience! More is on the way boo 🥹🫶🏾💕🌸
@@EvieAswiti you’re most welcome i will definitely be staying tuned for your upcoming content ☺️🙌🏾
@Truechildofgod Thanks doll!
The energy we all need..!
Who cares what they like..so tiring...
Trust me...just be how you want and you will attract the right ppl
You look fab with your natural hair. I am so annoyed by the fact that black men will say they love natural hair but then they'll say they don't. I am a pixie cut girl I love short cuts and will rock one in a minute. I get the urge to cut my hair after wearing weaves.....it's so infuriating to see 40 inch buss downs get the love but yet a man will say they want a woman, with their own natural hair eyeroll...
Thank you so much ☺️ 🩷At this point I just go where I am admired and cherished. Who cares about those hypocrites?
Look at it like this : you weed out the superficial ones , the unempathic ones , and the ones with bad taste ( frankly ) in one strike. It's hard for me to believe that you feel invisible sometimes , being a striking woman like that. Quite the opposite is true.
I think some people go out of their way to not acknowledge striking women bc they assume if they do it’ll feed their bias of them being stuck up (which is projection imo)
I agree with everything you said! 🌼🌼🌼🙏🏿
Thanks for watching doll!
loved this !!!! wow, this hit HOME.
thanks doll 😊
I love your thought process. We’re very similar in our thought process and thoughts about natural hair. I have a similar story where early in my hair journey I was also told to wear my hair straighten because “it looks better long”- but I’m at the point in my journey where I embrace the shrinkage instead of hating it. I also don’t care what others think about my hair. I care about what I think of myself and my hair and that’s it! (well other than God- I care about what God thinks of me 😂) Confidence starts within, not externally.
Girl yes. All of this. Thank you. That’s why I always end my videos with saying they were at lit from within beyond skin deep! ✨
I think sometimes confidence can start externally. From my experience, I initially went natural because I hated my flat relaxed hair, I wanted to save money and I was fed up of paying hairdresser to damage my hair and not give me any solutions. I didn't like what I saw on the outside but because I had those concrete objective reasons for going natural.. I was not easily swayed when it was looking..." a little crazy" The fact, that I entered the natural hair lifelong academy and learnt so much about my hair and other people's hair, gave me so much confidence. 15 years later I'm happy to go out with my hair looking a little crazy and not caring..especially if I'm at the swimming pool or spa. Lol! Now I get the most compliments on my Afro-centric/kinky coil hair.
Glowing friend yes speaking facts
Thank you so much bookie! 🫶🏾🤗💕💕
THIS!! 3:45-4:11 The feathers be ruffled!! Thank you for this video. I've honestly thought about speaking about this topic on my channel. There is definitely a difference in how we are looked at with natural hair vs when we wear less textured styles. Thank you for the reassurance!!
You’re so very welcome 🤗 make the video if you feel it in your spirit!
Yess we need this therapy 😊❤️❤️🥰
Thank you for doing this much needed video embracing our natural hair! As you mentioned, our hair is the only type of hair in the universe that defies gravity! The Bible says that we are a special people, our hair sets us apart. (Peter 2:9) A chosen people!When we finally accept, care for it and love it, it will flourish!
All praises to the Most High God!🙏🏾♥️
Peace and love to all my melonated natural hair sistas!🎉
Completely agree. In general, what anyone thinks of me isn't my business. It isn't my job to change anyone's mind. I think there's such a shift in how you feel and a weight off your shoulders when you start being in more of your natural state. I stopped wearing makeup when I turned thirty and it actually makes me sad how reliant I was on it for probably thirteen years.
Love my natural hair. Great video!!
Love your videos. I (bw) have noticed a difference in reception from platonic women when out and about as well. Still trying to put my finger on how I feel about it.
Thank you! What differences have you been noticing?
Can you please tell me all the products that you used to achieve this look, including shampoo/conditioner? Beautiful 🤩 a step by step video please!! they just found out that the fake kanakelon Hair causes cancer.
Wait wut? I haven’t braided my hair in years, but dang. I’ll feature hair products for my wash and go in a future video. 😉
Keep coming with the great content Evie! We love to see it! I'm feeling more comfortable wearing my natural hair out these days, your conversations are like talking with a friend 😍& yass YOU ARE STILL THAT GIRL with your natural hair!!
Thank you so much! I love those types of videos. Happy it resonated!
Yes it is what we needed to hear!!
glad you enjoyed!
👏👏👏👏 cause it dontttt matter
Perioso!
Real talk. Love it
I wear my natural hair out of laziness. I wear twists (natural). I don't care to attract men.
Nice hair!
Thank you!
Don’t you think the acronym TWA tinnie winnie Afro should be erased. Why should long hair be a measure of beauty, great health, good self care, etc. why is natural hair straightened either by flat iron or blow dried a measure of good healthy hair. Debate please
What in the title TWA indicates it’s being called less beautiful, or less healthy or cared for? TWA only refers to the length. Sounds like you’re projecting.
Yess love this 💕💕
What matters is you and what you love 💕💕
Perioso! 🫶🏾🌸💗
I had this journey as well when deciding my hair in twists/braids are for the health of my hair… for a long time I refused to wear them due to how I would be perceived now lmao I be shaking them back and forth in dance class 😂😭💕💕 it’s sooo freeing to accept yourself and let go love love love this convo keep it going !!
The little girl content 🥹💕💕 healing your inner girl as well!! Thank you we are so lacking positive content thank you so much for this 💕😭
@jasmineimanii1111 😂 cmon shaking them in dance class! 💃🏾 Thank you sistren. Definitely will keep sharing my thoughts and other interests on this channel.
why cant we not like our hair like other races without people assuming you want long straight hair or dont like it because it's black. I always wanted regular black hair so called 4c, no i dont want it long. Also like any race of woman i want hair that styles easy and keeps a style . Can i be female withou black hatred being the scapegoat for how i feel? We need to growup as a raace and be ok and not have to say all blk hair is good , its like saying we all have to win. im an adult vi can deal with others being smarter or prettier, no my self worth is not tied to my hair. Why don't we start saying we are attracted to every blk person and we like fat same as we do skinny its disingenuous.
Most men prefer natural. FYI
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We don’t care. What men say they prefer and what they actually pursue always contradicts
Idk I have a different experience. I’ve always had attention and eyes on me and I’ve always been natural. I think i even get more attention after I just wash my hair and my curls are extra large and poppin.
That’s great. Depends on the audience for me but at this point, whatever is in stock is in stock. The fro will fro. Perioso.
I think some people miss the point. Your natural hair does not have to have “extra large curls and poppin” to be worn proudly. You wear your natural hair proudly because it grows out of your head. Whatever it looks like, it’s a part of you.
Your beautiful 🌹
😊 thank you
@@EvieAswiti your welcome
Liked it before you even started 😂
Haha! thanks for watching
Are you from Esan because of your name ? Evie …
I’m not but I do get that a lot from Nigerians! At this point give me my ivie orange beads already 🤭 I’m from Kenya 🇰🇪
@@EvieAswiti❤❤❤
Men love beauty. Natural looks so basic and you don’t stand out. Men like having the most beautiful women they marry beautiful women I’ve never dated only relationships and marriage let them know upfront the men stay and marry based on ur attitude and personality only if ur vain like me and have tons of make up on love fake hair etc etc men will support it and pay for it if they love u I asked if they liked my natural hair better all said it doesn’t matter they liked both. Men don’t care about natural versus glam they want beautiful at all times and beautiful personality don’t bring them the screaming and emotional bullshit don’t control them or check their phone let them be themselves and that’s it. If they love u they will give u thousands for the beauty I’ve had a husband that did and he was not rich we were average. But he knew I came from a rich background and he did whatever to keep me at the same lifestyle. I’ve spent thousands on Botox and filler and lasers. Beauty is expensive but I do it cause I hate the aging. So men like you if ur personality is real u can be fake on the outside as long as ur inside is humble and real and treat them good all these people telling women men don’t like glam this is bullshit. They like whatever is beautiful and normally that’s women that stand out because of make up hair beauty and body.