I ghosted my family and fiancé after what my sister did. Dusty Reacts

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  • Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024

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  • @Awsomesism1994
    @Awsomesism1994 Год назад +56

    There's another update, she doesn't take the ex back. The mom demand she forgive her sister but the dad divorces the mom lol. Dad apologized to op tho and they start to built a relationship again. It's a messed up situation

    • @sallyjopatriot
      @sallyjopatriot 9 месяцев назад +3

      thanks, I"ve seen this story before, and wondered if it was too late to go to the cops for the drugging story.. I hope that the sister's husband is told who/what he married

  • @frigid4real
    @frigid4real Год назад +51

    With a family like that, who needs enemies? They didn't believe her before. There is no need to go back now.

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 Год назад

      And screw the ex fiancé. He showed his true colors the day he ghosted OP and wouldn’t listen to her side of the story.

  • @saraht3196
    @saraht3196 Год назад +41

    if she was that drunk + roofied, there was no consent involved. even if it happened like her sister said, that is assault, not cheating. jesus, this family has no empathy

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 Год назад +4

      And the friend got dragged into the scheme which could’ve ended badly if OP had called the police. Nikki out here just ruining lives for no reason.

  • @HaleyJo1992
    @HaleyJo1992 Год назад +29

    This poor OP! I don't think I could ever go back. Mom slapped her! Slapped her!!

    • @Wendy_Scotland
      @Wendy_Scotland Год назад +10

      I know right?! How could anyone do that to their child!?

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 Год назад +1

      @@Wendy_Scotlandfavoritism. Nikki is her golden child.

  • @cabbitt
    @cabbitt Год назад +42

    I wish OP had gone to the hospital when the sister’s friend said all of those terrible things. Get a blood draw and a rape kit. Terrible, yes, but prove you’ve been drugged and (hopefully a lack of) sexual activity. Press charges. F***. Her family sucks. Her fiancé sucks.

    • @creativewriter3887
      @creativewriter3887 Год назад +5

      YES!! What the sister did was literally criminal!!! OP should sue her sister and work to destroy her marriage like she destroyed her life. I'm sorry.. she deserves revenge..

    • @bootssb
      @bootssb Год назад +2

      That is completely my reaction to this story. Like Okay you say we had a bunch of sex well I didn't consent so I'll be going to the police.
      Would have loved to have seen the sister's guy friend react to the threat of criminal charges. Sure he would have sold out the sister at that point.
      At the very least OP SHOULD have got her self checked in case that guy DID do something to her.

  • @Mathilde1469
    @Mathilde1469 Год назад +53

    That’s the most evil person I’ve ever heard of. How do you hatch that plan at the drop of a hat in a bar? She’d been planning that for a long time.

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 Год назад +2

      The level of malevolent jealousy was palpable. Nikki was willing to destroy OP’s life just because she was miserable and still spiraling.

  • @ch40sart26
    @ch40sart26 Год назад +59

    My thought. (For Op) Get a lawyer, make sure you are in one party consent state, tell your ex fiancé that you will think about coming back once your sister apologized face to face, make her admit every part of the situation, record the whole conversation, and sue her to hell for damages (and if possible sue the friend that helped her). Cut off you’re family, and if you can’t get pass the feeling of abandonment from your fiancé, move on with your life.
    Your sister seriously up ended your entire life because she was jealous and she just told the family after she got married because she felt guilt like was a “lol oops” incident. I would sue her into the ground. This is absolute insanity. Also get your friend who helped you out to cooperate your story.

    • @Victorianous
      @Victorianous Год назад +13

      I would hope that criminal charges are possible. Nikki's friend would be guilty of kidnapping at least.

    • @puppychan2086
      @puppychan2086 11 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@Victorianousher sister also was seriously risking putting her sister in a situation where she could've been SAed, she's a heartless B.

    • @sakuradayz15
      @sakuradayz15 9 месяцев назад +1

      I'd also get a hold of new hubby and let him know what kind of a person she is when she doesn't get her way...

  • @Sara_LAW
    @Sara_LAW Год назад +47

    If people will throw you away once they will throw you away again. She should befriend Nikki and record her and her friend saying they drugged her and go to the cops. They can go to jail for that shit. Be strong op. You don’t need them.

  • @Wendy_Scotland
    @Wendy_Scotland Год назад +18

    When they did not even gave you the benifit of the doubt they lost her. End off.

  • @ImaKittyKatt95
    @ImaKittyKatt95 Год назад +8

    That sister doesn't deserve the happiness she's found

  • @sierrarose1512
    @sierrarose1512 Год назад +8

    I have been drugged by a stranger. I cannot *imagine* the trauma and the amount of work it would take to undo having your own fucking sister do that.

  • @kisstune
    @kisstune Год назад +2

    She should've said thanks for admitting to r-ing me I'll go to the cops now. I guarantee he would've came clean.

  • @deniseburkard3806
    @deniseburkard3806 Год назад +5

    How do you give good advice to that hot mess. Girl, you are doing great. Never forget that!!

  • @ammarose9742
    @ammarose9742 Год назад +3

    That's a "you didn't believe me then, so why should I bring you back into my life now" story.

  • @pinkyblessed2218
    @pinkyblessed2218 Год назад +13

    Meet with the family, fiancé & sister. Get her to confess. Get everyone to apologize. Excuse yourself to get something out of your car you “brought just for them” & leave instead. No words. Just leave.
    Don’t look back.

  • @Lemonsmaybe
    @Lemonsmaybe Год назад +3

    So much to unpack here- if I was Op you can bet I would never speak to any of those people again. I wish all the best for her.

  • @mabodeely
    @mabodeely Год назад +5

    The family knew before this HORRIBLE event transpired that Nikki was making horrible choices in life. WHY would they automatically believe her??? Definitely not a family I’d want to be around again.

  • @vernss3092
    @vernss3092 Год назад +11

    How can anyone be as evil as OP's sister.

  • @EsotericRavenclaw
    @EsotericRavenclaw Год назад +17

    What. The. Fuck?! With family like that, who needs family?! This is gross, disturbing, cruel, and sinister. It seems like she was drugged, not just drunk, this is 100% criminal if that's the case. Also, I can NEVER EVER imagine my mom slapping me, or hitting me in general. I would look at my mother as a stranger from that day forward. Also, I'd be so fucking pissed at my friend for giving my address out like that. I don't want people giving away my phone number, but my address?! You NEVER give out someones address without permission. That would end that friendship for me, that crosses a huge line for me. Why not tell them that their ex is looking for them? I'd legit feel rage if someone gave out my address.

    • @live_troublemaker
      @live_troublemaker Год назад +1

      To be fair, that may be a lie about the friend. It is easy to look people up these days

    • @EsotericRavenclaw
      @EsotericRavenclaw Год назад +1

      @@live_troublemaker That's a very real possibility, thanks for pointing that out. I really hope her friend didn't just give out her personal info like that.

  • @seahorse5689
    @seahorse5689 Год назад +1

    Totally agree--remain no-contact forever with all of these people. In many cases, the family you choose (friends, etc.) is waaaay better than the family you're born into.

  • @CreeperKiller666
    @CreeperKiller666 Год назад +3

    These people deserve... things that I can't say on RUclips. Mom is evil, sister is evil, and fiancee is evil. 'Ascon' doesn't even begin to cut it. Do not forgive them.

  • @DeidresStuff
    @DeidresStuff Год назад +5

    It sounds like her sister did her a favor. She found out who these people really were. Better sooner than later.

    • @creativewriter3887
      @creativewriter3887 Год назад +2

      and her fiance was so BARGAIN BASEMENT. I mean what kind of Silence of the Lambs kind of boyfriend/fiance is he to believe everyone over his fiance, dumps her, has her exiled and STILL is part of the family, goes on trips with them, and is like a sibling while his supposed FIANCEE is in exile and takes TWO Years to locate her???? As evil as her sister is, it exposed how much of a louse OP would be married to.. he'd never believe her and always side (and did) with the family as NOT lose his position and perks with them.

  • @deniserobinson8294
    @deniserobinson8294 Год назад +2

    I would never speak to any of them. Never let them back in my life

  • @hmixon99
    @hmixon99 Год назад +13

    Perhaps I am petty, but how did the family react to the sister who set this up? Did they do to her what they did to OP?

    • @lindsaycarr4354
      @lindsaycarr4354 Год назад +1

      On the Podcast, Dusty read an update that the Dad came to ask OP's forgiveness. The Mom cried to the Dad because she wants him to forgive the evil sister so she doesn't "lose another daughter."

  • @mikehabic6314
    @mikehabic6314 Год назад +4

    The best thing OP did was move on, and wash her hands of everyone involved.
    If I were in her shoes, it would stay that way.

  • @strawberi6257
    @strawberi6257 Год назад +2

    OP is NTA. You not only survived, but you thrived. You now know you can do it on your own no matter what. Trust that it happened for a reason. Stay where you're happy and respected.

  • @glendahart955
    @glendahart955 Год назад +2

    The truly sad thing is her family should have known her character. No contact would be the way I would go.

  • @wendywalters4930
    @wendywalters4930 Год назад +6

    When the friend said they had sex several times the night before she should have taken herself immediately to the ER and said she was possibly raped.

    • @laurakerschenbaum4079
      @laurakerschenbaum4079 Год назад +2

      A lot of folks are saying, 'go to the hospital/police'. To my understanding it had been 2 years past the incident. There is no way to prove any of this now, unfortunately. The only possible cause of action I see at this point would be slander (civil), perhaps false imprisonment (for the sister's friend keeping her at his place and lying about it) (also civil--think the statute of limitations for criminal would be expired depending on the state). I think if OP makes the decision to reconcile with her family, she needs to consider what they did to her and not trust them again. It's a terrible story.

    • @SheSheBoom21
      @SheSheBoom21 Год назад

      @@laurakerschenbaum4079could she file a rape charge? Everyone heard him say sex several times, so if she was inebriated, and it wasn’t consensual, then that’s rape and that man should go to jail

  • @nathandc
    @nathandc Год назад +2

    You should look up the update, some things are explained and things get both better and worse...

  • @susanabler3039
    @susanabler3039 Год назад +2

    They didn't take your side and kicked you out. You can let them know you forgive them, but I'm not sure I'd want to reconnect on a more permanent basis. 😢

  • @cathybrookeburt2616
    @cathybrookeburt2616 Год назад +5

    I would 'consider' forgiving the parents & fiancé', only because they were lied to & then the sisters friend verified the lie, so I kinda understand why they might have believed the sister. 'Knowing about the sisterly jealousy, everyone should have at least listened to OP because they did go crazy with their reactions. The only way I would even consider reconciliation, is if they immediately disowned the sister, like they had done to her. No more family get togethers etc. going forward. OP should never have to set eyes on her evil sisters face again. Sister set up the entire thing, from 'lets go clubbing' so we can bond, on through the horrific ending. Pure evil. Sis's hubby better watch his back.

    • @katrinascarlet5637
      @katrinascarlet5637 Год назад +3

      I honestly wouldn't. In the update her father shows up and she confronts him about throwing her away over what they believed she did but NEVER did anything to the sister but give her support when she was literally doing drugs. They all went on vacation to get her away from drugs but she ended up addicted to alcohol instead. But when OP "cheats" suddenly she's disowned by everyone. The mother is still on the sister's side after all of this so father is nc with sister and divorcing mom. Still think 2 years to reach out to your own kid is too long but better late than never I guess.

  • @katherinepfister4177
    @katherinepfister4177 Год назад +2

    It seems like sis wants OP’s man or is atleast jealous of OP’s happiness.

  • @gravitybombx6112
    @gravitybombx6112 Год назад +6

    This is just despicable! Why would anyone do that to their own sister?! I really can’t stop thinking about this story now and if someone did something like this to me, I would seriously never trust that person again no matter what the circumstance is because this is a sign that the sister really doesn’t care about anyone but herself and would be willing to throw other people’s lives no matter who they are in the dirt just to make their life better!

  • @Red-qz5ry
    @Red-qz5ry 5 месяцев назад

    Imagine if she had reported that friend of her sister, the guy could have ended up in jail and sister in deep shit.

  • @tammydownes2413
    @tammydownes2413 Год назад

    Forgive but never forget. They don't have to be in your life at all but you need to move forward with your life without them.

  • @joanwharff6483
    @joanwharff6483 10 месяцев назад +1

    Oh, Yes…she should’ve gone Straight to the ER…..&, reported it as a Rape‼️‼️‼️

  • @candypettynettie487
    @candypettynettie487 Год назад

    I wish op would've went through with the police report and r@pe kit. I see the family didn't disown the sister. 🙄

  • @missmoneypenny3917
    @missmoneypenny3917 Год назад +1

    Her sister is just pure evil . One day karma will come back to bite her sister in the butt .

  • @ebbss4
    @ebbss4 7 месяцев назад +1

    If op was smart, she would have pressed charges on the guy

    • @StudlyFudd13
      @StudlyFudd13 7 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah, I get that emotions were high, but if she had pressed charges for SA on the friend, that friend would've come clean real fast once he was in the firing line. Cause she knew she didn't consent, so if he admitted to getting it on with her, that only means one thing. If it was true, he SA'd her.

    • @ebbss4
      @ebbss4 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@StudlyFudd13 exactly!

  • @flamingpen18
    @flamingpen18 Год назад

    OP needs to cut the family off entirely. OP needs to get an attorney and see what she can do. She should sue her sister's jealous mug off. OP needs to move on from the ex. He turned his back on her once. He'll do it again. He should have supported her or at the very least, as her for her side of things. That entire family is pathetic. OP needs to move on.

  • @amberhaire
    @amberhaire Год назад

    Oh hell naw, stay away from them all. They all dropped you in an instant, don't even speak to them.

  • @lostsoldier212
    @lostsoldier212 Год назад +1

    Please say there is an update...this hurt to listen to 😮😢 Niki is Evil (not was)
    Ok, Niki is the devil...100% There is zero redemption for what she did. Her level of Main Character Syndrome is over 1,000! Even her sending this X to her sister is probably just her messing more with her Sister now that she is out of the game. Did the family abandon Niki?
    Her Mom...she absolutely sucks. Mom loved the fiance and managed to believe her junkie daughter with issues with the law more than OP! She than kicks out her daughter, making her young and homeless. Mother of the year award winner for sure! And to take OPs family on vacation means that OP was dead to her. That's something Mom/the fam would do if OP made the X a widower...but she wasn't really dead, just dead to her Mom...sorry...female DNA investor. You can't call her a Mom anymore. If I thought my kid cheated, I'd be unhappy but wouldn't chose my kid to be dead ro me. She didn't cheat on her X with a parent or something that would earn that kind of outcome.
    The rest of her family...they all let her be homeless? Was her X Jesus or something? Did he save the family from eternal damnation that they would let her be homeless, where she could have been robbed, raped or murdered out on the streets? They are all unworthy of her resuming a relationship with them.
    Hard to be initially aggressive towards the X. He got duped by a Disney villan...a woman who ruined her sister and made her go home with someone who really could have taken advantage of her, than lied about it all for what? Shits and giggles? She didn't end up with the X, so why, why, why do that? Crack heads behave slightly better than this demon. But I do give him a butt hole score because he could have calmed down and heard her out. If he believed her or not is one thing, but he didn't even listen to her side of things. He shouldn't be able to just go in and rip off the scab over OPs wounded heart. Again...he was only their because the sister manipulated his dumb ass once again into messing with her.
    OP can forgive them so they font have free rent in the back of her head, but they should forever remain No Contact by her, blocked on every front, and the X should have just stayed away. (IMO)
    I can usually just be entertained by these stories and don't always believe what I'm hearing as really the truth, maybe at best it's just one person's perspective and on average just a made up story to entertain us, like something from Dickenson, Christi, or Rice...but this one hit me good.

  • @m0L3ify
    @m0L3ify 11 месяцев назад

    So, I think what happened is the perfect example of someone growing up in a toxic, dysfunctional family, who doesn't know they're in a toxic, dysfunctional family because it's all they've ever known so it's their normal. A family disowning their daughter and leaving her homeless because she potentially cheated on her partner is NOT healthy or normal. Not in the slightest. I personally think her sister did her a favor by showing her that her family never loved her, and forced her to go live her life on her terms away from the crazy. I know it was a cruel and heartless thing to do, and a living hell to go through, but a silver lining is a silver lining. It gave her the opportunity to start fresh at a young age and a chance at a much healthier life. If it were me, (and I actually do have a situation like this in my life, although not quite as dramatic,) I wouldn't take any of them back. The trust is broken, and there's no telling when they'll turn on her again. If they had truly loved her, they'd have given her a chance to explain like they demanded of her when it was their turn. Hard "no" from me, thanks.

  • @jeffdavis8590
    @jeffdavis8590 6 месяцев назад

    I would have loved to see them do the updates

  • @jambalie
    @jambalie 10 месяцев назад

    My first question if I were OP would be: did the family kick her sister out of their lives with nothing and no contact? Because if they didn't, eff them. What her sister did was a million times worse than cheating would have been. Roofies are DANGEROUS. Not just because of what someone could do to you but because they can kill you. Did they let Nicky apologize and that's that? That's what I want to know here.

    • @StudlyFudd13
      @StudlyFudd13 7 месяцев назад

      According to the update, yes that is what happened. All of them except the dad. He is the only one that actually did the right thing.

  • @tohrurikku
    @tohrurikku Год назад +1

    From my experience, never date someone who is good friends with your siblings or close friends, especially if they friends before you dated. They will be more loyal to them, and if you have an issue with said sibling/friend and need someone to complain to you will not be able to do that with your spouse, and if you do there is a big chance your words are going to reach the person you are complaining about. I suspect that the ex may like her sister more than just friends.

  • @esmooth919
    @esmooth919 11 месяцев назад

    This story is infuriating! How can anyone be so quick to take a certain person side without hearing both sides of the story first? There is a special place in hell for people like your sister, OP! I don't care if she confessed, the damage is done! I know I would be hard pressed to go back to a family who could find it so easy to do something like that to me!

  • @DerrickUltima
    @DerrickUltima Год назад

    This can't be real.

  • @Infernal_Hellhound
    @Infernal_Hellhound Год назад +4

    Arrange a meeting with family and ect and proceed to tell them all off and not give them a chance to speak seeing as how they didn’t really give you a chance then drop them out of your life

    • @creativewriter3887
      @creativewriter3887 Год назад +1

      I'd make HELLA sure that sister's husband is there and if possible, get the video from the bar and from Facebook and from the phone to show HIM and to tell him what kind of b-tch he married and how she destroyed her own sister's life!!! Of course, being the petty pr-ck I am, I'd sue the hell out of her.

  • @alissonvonderlane862
    @alissonvonderlane862 Год назад

    I she got drugged; 100% sister's fault
    If she got drunk; I feel she's partially responsible... staying aware and concsious is your personal responsability.
    If she blacked out she might have slept with that dude...
    Horrible & viscious sister!

  • @taraclemens2339
    @taraclemens2339 2 месяца назад

    Why did she not call Nikki’s friend or go to the cop. She was drunk and drugged and he says they were together with out her consent. He would tell the truth then

  • @4mtnkat
    @4mtnkat Год назад

    Is there an update??! This is so sad 😞

  • @Jane-ij3vy
    @Jane-ij3vy 9 месяцев назад

    Seems like you were doing good without them. Keep On Moving

  • @rachelmortensen4261
    @rachelmortensen4261 6 месяцев назад

    Family and ex can eat glass

  • @Rainbowofthefallen
    @Rainbowofthefallen Год назад

    💛

  • @kathleenweidmann3100
    @kathleenweidmann3100 Год назад

    👏👏👏👏👏

  • @rebastevens5378
    @rebastevens5378 4 месяца назад

    I bet that story is fake.

  • @Chezzy9791
    @Chezzy9791 Год назад +2

    That's evil and to be honest if he didn't believe you he is not the person you thought he was your better off hun be strong, and as for your family that is not family at all, a family stands by you and no way would I ever talk to my sister again