NTA. She excluded her own sister from her wedding when she was only like a week away from being 18. The date would have had to be deliberate to exclude her sister.
Also the sister didn't tell OP she couldn't go until a few weeks before the wedding. The sister let OP be excited about the wedding for months and then at the last minute excluded her. What a weirdly deliberate and mean thing to do.
OP was excluded because she was ONE WEEK from 'making the cut'. This was a conscious, premeditated decision by big sis. She had zero empathy for OP. The parents were ok with that shitty decision, so I say OP should disregard anything any of these people say. Nobody was in her corner when the sis got married, so nobody gets a vote. I would uninvite anyone who argued with me. Eff' her sister. She 100% would NOT be at my wedding. Who wants someone who deliberately hurt you, to come witness the day that should be your happiest? I would not want to look at her smug face. She is not a good sister. I would have been LC to NC from the day I was not included.
I agree with you about everything except the parents. OP's stepmother supported her and refused to go to the sister's wedding because OP was excluded. The father was an AH though.
True i would have chosen a date after my sister's birthday if i so wanted to enforce the 18+ rule. She just didn't want her sister there or no guest would have raised the object if her sister was the only exception for the 18+ rule because everyone would have understood.
NTA. The Facebook posts and letter were her friends idea and she even said it sounded like a bad idea. But it’s her day and she gets to invite or not invite whoever she wants.
I find it endlessly fascinating that families always back the bullies, they never support the victim. OP needs to cut out EVERYONE who criticizes her - especially family - and surround herself with only people who care about her and want the best for her. It's HER wedding day. She deserves it to be drama free
I think it’s because they’re afraid that they’ll be bullied next, so they’re unsupportive and weak. That always shocks me too. I stick up for the victim, always - never for the bully.
Yesssss. This is a good way to put it. I think this is some female stuff Dusty is not understanding. I JUST had that idea replying to you . let me go make another comment.
@@kisstune 😂😂😂 Oh yeah! I think we are really tapping into the women who don't start shit.... But if someone wants to start, we will sure END IT! I want to go out drinking with all the NTAs with their great ideas here. 🐊❤💕💞😁 (The alligator was supposed to be the smiley face but I left it. I do love an alligator or crocodile SMILE but I will BITE if you cross me. 😂🐊💞🍻)
I think OP was hurt that her sister just dismissed her with her 18th being so close and never apologized for it, which lead to her holding this in and telling her sister was not going to be there for her wedding is just really as she kind of said to show the sister how she felt. If the sister had taken time to talk to her and apologize and maybe give her an overall explanation things would have been different.
DUSTY! What are CANDY's thoughts on this one? I think this is some female stuff you are NOT understanding! 😂 You know we love you! But let's hear Candy's take on this! You are DEFINITELY missing it here. ❤💕💞
I'm sorry Dusty, but I have to disagree with you on this one. NTA, because it was the friend's idea about the Facebook thing, and I don't believe she would have actually gone through with it. Also, I feel like we need more info on their relationship since then.
NTA, her sister could lower the age to 16 instead of 18. I understand, kids shouldn’t be around drunk people but teens can handle it better and it’s the parents responsibility.
I don't get it. I'd like to see an amercan wedding. In France we don't get drunk, we just enjoy the moment. If you need to get drunk toenjoy something you should consult a profesional. I had kids at my wedding and attempted multiple family wedding when I am a kid and everything was ok. Saw multiple bottle of Champagne and as never tempted to taste it.
She was one month shy of 18. The sister should have invited her. If the older sister is posting stuff all over Facebook in a snit, she’s being petty. I don’t think OP is even on the asscon scale. Her sister was an asscon one when she got married and I would never forgive her. She obviously does not value the sister relationship, so I’d write her off. It’s obvious she just wants to go on the yacht, and still doesn’t care about her sister. Good riddance.
I love when God makes your enemies your footstool. Stop taking up for bad people, she waited to the last minute to tell her sister that she wasn't invited to the wedding with a bogus excuse. Of course you can make an exception for your sister are you crazy that's not your blood sister? And then when her sister did the same thing she went on Facebook and bad mouth her to the world! She can take all the extra jabs she wants quit trying to take up for people that do the wrong thing. They should get it 10 times worse they should so they understand how to treat people what are you talking about. I'm glad that her wedding is going to be bigger and better cuz that's what happens when you trying to be evil. Lol
By the title, the only time I I can say I’d maybe expect a non- estranged sibling to not be invited is if they like, eloped, and didn’t plan it, or did it alone and no one was there. And then playing tit for tat is a bit much.
Voice guy pls stop being so critical to OP. Bez she said it's not her idea and she thought it was cringe also. I am actually annoyed at you being so judgy
She deserves to be excluded, but look around you. You're perpetuating a war with your sister and your family is getting dragged further and further into it. Is that what you want? When someone wrongs me and the cost of war is steep, I come up with a way they can make it up to me. "You can come to my wedding if you take me out for a spa day followed by some apology cake. It will say, 'Sorry I excluded you from my wedding, OP,' and you and I will take a picture with it. The FB posts get deleted or I'll post the picture. Paid up front." She acknowledges and pays for doing you dirty, you both agree to bury the hatchet, and family gets out of your hair. Or she chooses not to come.
The sister intentionally sought to hurt OP. Her decision to keep OP out was premiditated. The sister was warned. It's not OP's fault that her sister's ego is so huge that she thought she was going to get away with hurting OP. OP needs to cut the sister out until the sister apologizes and admits to the real reason why she wouldn't let OP at her wedding. I don't think OP was the *sshole. I think she was justified in her response.
Erm NTA I know how this feels my sister has been married twice and I wasn't invited to either I felt very upset by this there were no valid reasons its definitely hurtful
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NTA. The deleting the posts and the appology letter were a FRIENDS idea, she said she thought it was cringe, and just asked what others thought.
NTA. One week shy of 18? Im surprised their parents let her get away with this shite.
NTA. She excluded her own sister from her wedding when she was only like a week away from being 18. The date would have had to be deliberate to exclude her sister.
My first thoughts too.
Also the sister didn't tell OP she couldn't go until a few weeks before the wedding. The sister let OP be excited about the wedding for months and then at the last minute excluded her. What a weirdly deliberate and mean thing to do.
That was my thought
OP was excluded because she was ONE WEEK from 'making the cut'. This was a conscious, premeditated decision by big sis. She had zero empathy for OP. The parents were ok with that shitty decision, so I say OP should disregard anything any of these people say. Nobody was in her corner when the sis got married, so nobody gets a vote. I would uninvite anyone who argued with me. Eff' her sister. She 100% would NOT be at my wedding. Who wants someone who deliberately hurt you, to come witness the day that should be your happiest? I would not want to look at her smug face. She is not a good sister. I would have been LC to NC from the day I was not included.
I agree with you about everything except the parents. OP's stepmother supported her and refused to go to the sister's wedding because OP was excluded. The father was an AH though.
@@cuculain78 You're right. I heard that & then 'forgot' about it when posting.
True i would have chosen a date after my sister's birthday if i so wanted to enforce the 18+ rule. She just didn't want her sister there or no guest would have raised the object if her sister was the only exception for the 18+ rule because everyone would have understood.
NTA. The Facebook posts and letter were her friends idea and she even said it sounded like a bad idea. But it’s her day and she gets to invite or not invite whoever she wants.
I find it endlessly fascinating that families always back the bullies, they never support the victim. OP needs to cut out EVERYONE who criticizes her - especially family - and surround herself with only people who care about her and want the best for her. It's HER wedding day. She deserves it to be drama free
I think it’s because they’re afraid that they’ll be bullied next, so they’re unsupportive and weak. That always shocks me too. I stick up for the victim, always - never for the bully.
NTA. The sister started this bs, and OP gets to finish it.
Yesssss. This is a good way to put it.
I think this is some female stuff Dusty is not understanding. I JUST had that idea replying to you . let me go make another comment.
Besides the sister will be too OLD and not quite right for the atmosphere op is going for.
@@kisstune 😂😂😂
Oh yeah! I think we are really tapping into the women who don't start shit.... But if someone wants to start, we will sure END IT!
I want to go out drinking with all the NTAs with their great ideas here. 🐊❤💕💞😁
(The alligator was supposed to be the smiley face but I left it. I do love an alligator or crocodile SMILE but I will BITE if you cross me. 😂🐊💞🍻)
@@JW-vd4il Absolutely...I don't start it, but will finish it.
NTA. The sister definitely was. It's OP's wedding and she deserves to enjoy it.
NTA! Your wedding, your guest list! So sad, too bad sis.
OP should just say sister is just too OLD and won't be able to relate to the guests and keep up with them.
Your wedding, your guest list. Could have easily been NTA
Hell no. Hell no! Heeeeell no! Sister left you out of her wedding, you have the right to leave her out of yours in return.
I think OP was hurt that her sister just dismissed her with her 18th being so close and never apologized for it, which lead to her holding this in and telling her sister was not going to be there for her wedding is just really as she kind of said to show the sister how she felt.
If the sister had taken time to talk to her and apologize and maybe give her an overall explanation things would have been different.
Even that said she is justified to say no and maybe a A but I know it felt really good to do it 😈
@@bladeo3408 OP should've said: sis your too OLD for the crowd attending the wedding.
@@kisstunegirl this should be at the top od the comments.
DUSTY! What are CANDY's thoughts on this one?
I think this is some female stuff you are NOT understanding!
😂 You know we love you! But let's hear Candy's take on this!
You are DEFINITELY missing it here. ❤💕💞
Immediately thought I need to hear Candy on this one too! 😂
I'm convinced the sister was jealous of OP. Since OP was younger she'd probably look hot in whatever she'd wear.
I bet you're right! Maybe she saw how good OP looked in the dress she was planning on wearing to the wedding.
Is it petty? Totally. Does it make you an asshole? Nah. NTA lol
N.T.A! Her sister sounds like the Yacht is the attraction, not the sister. Just disallow the invitation and be done. No forcing anyone to do anything.
The sister was dumb for not allowing her 17 yr old sister to come. My future husband had an 8 & 10 yr old siblings and they came.
You sister is the AH.
Naw, I would have not invited her too.
No don’t invite her for any reason
NTA
I agree.
I'm sorry Dusty, but I have to disagree with you on this one. NTA, because it was the friend's idea about the Facebook thing, and I don't believe she would have actually gone through with it. Also, I feel like we need more info on their relationship since then.
NTA, her sister could lower the age to 16 instead of 18. I understand, kids shouldn’t be around drunk people but teens can handle it better and it’s the parents responsibility.
I don't get it. I'd like to see an amercan wedding. In France we don't get drunk, we just enjoy the moment. If you need to get drunk toenjoy something you should consult a profesional. I had kids at my wedding and attempted multiple family wedding when I am a kid and everything was ok. Saw multiple bottle of Champagne and as never tempted to taste it.
NTA, she has every right to not invite anyone she doesn't want to as her sis had every right to not invite OP.
Tell your older sister that she is too old to fit in the young atmosphere of the event. XD
It’s NO 🤬‼️🤬…it’s KARMA … pretty simple…she Told her she Would NOT invite her to her wedding….so….suck it up Sis ‼️🙃‼️
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She was one month shy of 18. The sister should have invited her. If the older sister is posting stuff all over Facebook in a snit, she’s being petty. I don’t think OP is even on the asscon scale. Her sister was an asscon one when she got married and I would never forgive her. She obviously does not value the sister relationship, so I’d write her off. It’s obvious she just wants to go on the yacht, and still doesn’t care about her sister. Good riddance.
Sorry… I guess it was 1 week? Even worse.
I love when God makes your enemies your footstool. Stop taking up for bad people, she waited to the last minute to tell her sister that she wasn't invited to the wedding with a bogus excuse. Of course you can make an exception for your sister are you crazy that's not your blood sister? And then when her sister did the same thing she went on Facebook and bad mouth her to the world! She can take all the extra jabs she wants quit trying to take up for people that do the wrong thing. They should get it 10 times worse they should so they understand how to treat people what are you talking about. I'm glad that her wedding is going to be bigger and better cuz that's what happens when you trying to be evil. Lol
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By the title, the only time I I can say I’d maybe expect a non- estranged sibling to not be invited is if they like, eloped, and didn’t plan it, or did it alone and no one was there. And then playing tit for tat is a bit much.
Only when ur the tat. When ur tit all ur waiting for is tat time.
Voice guy pls stop being so critical to OP. Bez she said it's not her idea and she thought it was cringe also. I am actually annoyed at you being so judgy
She deserves to be excluded, but look around you. You're perpetuating a war with your sister and your family is getting dragged further and further into it. Is that what you want?
When someone wrongs me and the cost of war is steep, I come up with a way they can make it up to me. "You can come to my wedding if you take me out for a spa day followed by some apology cake. It will say, 'Sorry I excluded you from my wedding, OP,' and you and I will take a picture with it. The FB posts get deleted or I'll post the picture. Paid up front." She acknowledges and pays for doing you dirty, you both agree to bury the hatchet, and family gets out of your hair. Or she chooses not to come.
Is there a reason why he keeps posting the same AITA stories?
I was just kinda thinking the same thing. It’s cakes, weddings and MILs. I like them but there are a lot of other subjects w/a variety of outcomes
@@LLynneM I'm not even talking about that. I'm referring to the same exact videos. He's like uploading them twice.
The sister intentionally sought to hurt OP. Her decision to keep OP out was premiditated. The sister was warned. It's not OP's fault that her sister's ego is so huge that she thought she was going to get away with hurting OP. OP needs to cut the sister out until the sister apologizes and admits to the real reason why she wouldn't let OP at her wedding. I don't think OP was the *sshole. I think she was justified in her response.
Erm NTA I know how this feels my sister has been married twice and I wasn't invited to either I felt very upset by this there were no valid reasons its definitely hurtful