Great take. As I spent a good portion of my career doing R@pe exams, leaving a bar with any new acquaintance is just a terrible idea. You get along, great. Get their number and invite them to a sporting or music event to get to know them better … when you’re thinking clearly. Also, alcohol and antidepressants are a terrible combination- too many of my patients woke up in an unfamiliar place missing some clothing. Don’t put yourself in harms way. It’s just not worth it. And yes, a sober true friend makes an excellent companion.
I agree that the friend is not a friend. However, a 37 year-old man needs to be responsible for himself and not look to friends to mind him when he is out.
That person is not a friend. If you go out with your friends, you come home with your friends. No exceptions. Look at the recent case of the young man who was kicked out of the bar and wandered off alone and is no longer with us. His so called friends/frat brothers didn't leave with him.
Sounds like she knew the guy had sugar buggars at his home and that's all she was interested in she also knew of his persuasion and set you up as the sacrificial lamb to get what she wanted. Basically she used you and is not your friend. (When will people stop saying they called you several times but your phone shows no missed calls). Drop this associate because things could have ended up much worse.
Wow. Unforgivable. As a female, & former bartender, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cut someone off, & made sure they got home safely. I’ve personally driven them myself, after my shift. I kept an eye on people’s drinks, to the best of my ability, but fortunately, most were regulars I could pretty much trust. And the men were good guys, who looked out for the women, too. But, there are bad people everywhere, & men can absolutely be victims too.
Sounds like the guy in question needs a father like you, because he sounds like he is fatherless to be so confused. Life should be an experience to enjoy, not hard lessons to be learned again and again. As for the friend, when someone shows you their true colours, believe them the first time around. At some point I was thinking if it was a P Diddy party?
OMG!! You NEVER leave your friends!! It’s bad enough they’re both drinking and decide it’s a good thing to go to a complete stranger’s house…..continue drinking AND NOW you’re doing drugs!!? Neither one of them are a good friend to the other… and that being said …..neither one of them has the sense that God gave them! WOW!
There have been dark comedies movies about being at the wrong place. After hours ,Go ,& Something Wild. And a few dramas too, like l Looking for Mr. Goodbar, The Accused, & The Game .
The guy should have stuck to saying no. The woman's actions are/were suspicious. Appears to me she and the stranger had had a prior conversation and guy (37) was set up.
Great advice James. I have to say I respect your decision to just step back for a minute when everyone was carrying on a couple weeks ago with Garrett. I lost my son and it changes your life forever. It’s indescribable but to share a quote from Gloria Vanderbilt that is so true… “I’ve heard it said that the greatest loss a human being can experience is the loss of a child. It’s true. It doesn’t just change you, it demolishes you. The rest of your life is spent on a different level” ✌🏼
Wait a minute. Where is this story from? Do we know her side? Something doesn't add up. If I care enough about you to call you an Uber (paying for it) I'm gonna make sure you get in it. I feel like I need her side on what went down. Not from his mouth. As a female, I may make some poor choices but if I need to flee the scene, I'll do just that. I don't believe she'd bring him to a strangers house to get drugged and then just leave him there. Like, what's even the point of something like that. Idk. I need more info.
As a woman, we used the buddy system when going out! You NEVER ever left your buddy…NEVER! I think this guy needs new friends
Great take. As I spent a good portion of my career doing R@pe exams, leaving a bar with any new acquaintance is just a terrible idea. You get along, great. Get their number and invite them to a sporting or music event to get to know them better … when you’re thinking clearly. Also, alcohol and antidepressants are a terrible combination- too many of my patients woke up in an unfamiliar place missing some clothing. Don’t put yourself in harms way. It’s just not worth it. And yes, a sober true friend makes an excellent companion.
I agree that the friend is not a friend. However, a 37 year-old man needs to be responsible for himself and not look to friends to mind him when he is out.
That person is not a friend. If you go out with your friends, you come home with your friends. No exceptions. Look at the recent case of the young man who was kicked out of the bar and wandered off alone and is no longer with us. His so called friends/frat brothers didn't leave with him.
Sounds like she knew the guy had sugar buggars at his home and that's all she was interested in she also knew of his persuasion and set you up as the sacrificial lamb to get what she wanted. Basically she used you and is not your friend. (When will people stop saying they called you several times but your phone shows no missed calls). Drop this associate because things could have ended up much worse.
Look forward to your thoughts on this. After-hours places were a good way to keep the party going and not be isolated and vulnerable like this.
Yes! All night cafes are good hangouts after the club has closed. Dennys anyone? Waffle House?
Hi James, I agree 💯. She was never his friend. Friends stay together and keep each other safe. Especially if your friend gets sick.
Remember P Diddy wasn't the first and won't be the last!
Wow. Unforgivable. As a female, & former bartender, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cut someone off, & made sure they got home safely. I’ve personally driven them myself, after my shift. I kept an eye on people’s drinks, to the best of my ability, but fortunately, most were regulars I could pretty much trust. And the men were good guys, who looked out for the women, too. But, there are bad people everywhere, & men can absolutely be victims too.
Sounds like the guy in question needs a father like you, because he sounds like he is fatherless to be so confused. Life should be an experience to enjoy, not hard lessons to be learned again and again. As for the friend, when someone shows you their true colours, believe them the first time around. At some point I was thinking if it was a P Diddy party?
LOL that's what I tgought
OMG!! You NEVER leave your friends!! It’s bad enough they’re both drinking and decide it’s a good thing to go to a complete stranger’s house…..continue drinking AND NOW you’re doing drugs!!? Neither one of them are a good friend to the other… and that being said …..neither one of them has the sense that God gave them! WOW!
You never leave your friend.
Keep your perifipharil watch your six...there's some ff..ed up people around
There have been dark comedies movies about being at the wrong place. After hours ,Go ,& Something Wild.
And a few dramas too, like l
Looking for Mr. Goodbar, The Accused, & The Game .
How much wood would the diddler puff if the diddler could puff wood
.....lots...gtfo...
Thank you James I was looking forward to hear your Take today. God Bless from Gladewater Texas 😊😊
The guy should have stuck to saying no. The woman's actions are/were suspicious. Appears to me she and the stranger had had a prior conversation and guy (37) was set up.
Great advice James. I have to say I
respect your decision to just step back for a minute when everyone was carrying on a couple weeks ago with Garrett. I lost my son and it changes your life forever. It’s indescribable but to share a quote from Gloria Vanderbilt that is so true… “I’ve heard it said that the greatest loss a human being can experience is the loss of a child. It’s true. It doesn’t just change you, it demolishes you. The rest of your life is spent on a different level” ✌🏼
Wait a minute. Where is this story from? Do we know her side? Something doesn't add up. If I care enough about you to call you an Uber (paying for it) I'm gonna make sure you get in it. I feel like I need her side on what went down. Not from his mouth. As a female, I may make some poor choices but if I need to flee the scene, I'll do just that. I don't believe she'd bring him to a strangers house to get drugged and then just leave him there. Like, what's even the point of something like that. Idk. I need more info.
Sounds like a invitation to a true crime situation. Like Having a after hours party with Jordan van der Sloot. Not a good idea .
I was asked in Atlantic city by a hot girl to go home with her....and then wanted to bring her male friend too......I ran
This thumbnail is everything!!
I’m really confused.
Ehhhhhh, this whole thing has Dahmer vibes.
You right!
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