The HARSH TRUTH About Men & Society I’d Tell You If You Were My Sister
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- My dear girls
What happened in Kolkata was horrifying. And the even sadder part is that countless similar acts go unnoticed simply because it was not talked about on the internet or the media didn’t find it hype-worthy. If the media starts focusing on this one topic, it would have to report a case every single minute. Because these monsters are everywhere and such cases are not restricted to just Kolkata. It has started spreading to even the closed homes in the most rural parts of India.
In fact, this issue has become so ingrained in our society that a lot of the time, men’s action are justified even by women - their mothers, grand mothers and this whole argument gets lost in the sea of patriarchal narrative.
Ultimately, we let the core issue slide.
With this video, I just want to make you aware of the things that are in your control, because a lot of things are not, and how you can be part of the change. These are genuinely things I’ve told my sisters and I want you all to know because every girl in this community is like my sister too and being an elder sister, I genuinely feel you need to know this.
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What can I do as a man to make a change at an individual level, most of the solutions I find said by today's feminists are not practical to follow(like locking men at home so that women can go out, it's not sensible)
Hey, wonderful question. Here are a few you can start with:
1. Speak up whenever you see anything like this in action - whether it's a small thing like a sexist joke or a big thing where someone else is making a woman feel uncomfortable.
2. Educate your peers, men and boys around you about consent - it's simple but a lot of people still don't understand because of lack of education.
3. When people are sharing their experience/talking about any injustice that happened with them - listen empathetically and validate that experience. Often just validation can help a lot with healing.
4. If you have female friends, colleagues, sisters, offer to not let them go alone at night if you can - you can offer to accompany/drop them if you have that level of trust with them.
5. Respecting physical boundaries (especially with strangers/especially at night) is a huge one. A male friend of mine told me this that at night if he's walking about and a woman comes from the other direction, he might switch lanes or just increase the physical distance between them to signal to her that he is trustworthy - it's not a question of "I am not like this" but just an attempt to actively make someone feel safe.
6. Use your power as a man to create space for women's voices to be heard. This could be something as small as advocating for a coworker or something as big as supporting a woman in her fight for justice.
Hope this helps and again, thanks for asking this question, I'll also make a video on this
And another thing which quite comes under 1 and 2 .As part of my job in public health and various social activities i have visited many schools, colleges across my state. It shook me to core when i saw the disgusting and lewd things written on the walls, counters of almost all mens washroom about thier female teachers and classmates. Shocking thing is none of male faculties who also use the same washroom never thought of doing something about it. Next is the things that boys talk about their close female friends and classmates making lewd and obscene remarks when they are not around. At first i thought it was some kind of sex education thing that we girls talk about in close knitted friend groups,but later realised that its not that. Its a whole different perverted, degrading and sexual slurs about their female classmates. Conversations like that happen so often that is considered normal for many groups to have categorising girls. These young boys literally will grow up sexualizing women and develops perverted sexual interests and you have a group of men validating it.
I hope boys realise that this is not normal. When you see something like that object, educate your peers , stop having these lewd conversations about women.Just respect women as humans.
@@AdeteDahiyaUsed Chatgpt lmao😂😂🤣🤣🤣
@@12spp obviously someone being educated enough to write that will make you feel like it is a chatgpt answer because. you, yourself, are not educated enough to write something like that without the help of any ai tools.
That's actually completely simple, treat every lady like it's your mother and sister while having strict personal/physical boundaries and respect and understand your wife/girlfriend as a human being first and then any other identity.
Completely simple.
The most shameful part is Mamta Banerjee being a woman who didn't understand another woman. We still live in an era where women are against women let alone men😢
So true 🥲
Exactly.
She needs to go..... She didn't even took Sandeshkhali victims seriously called it a conspiracy theory of the opposition party.....
How shameful!!!!!
Hopefully people of WB will vote her out of power
So true 😩
Yes and yogi Adityanaath is the only cm who has my respect
The most underrated advice: SCREAM!! WHEN YOU FEEL ATTACKED, CHASED, TOUCHED, MAKE NOISE LADIES!!! MAKE NOISE!!! SCREAM AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS.
but screaming is also what gets most of the victims killed...
thank you.
@@calicocamaroon most of us also gets freeze during these situations
@@calicocamaroon no it doesn't, the perpetrators generally want you to be quite and follow whatever they say. There are mow chances of you getting raped and killed if you don't scream. You might as well make noise and try to get as much attention to it as possible
Sometimes sound may not come out of your mouth
I am a man but sometimes I too feel intimidated by other men when I have to travel alone at night. When I see some chapri or goons standing in group at side of lonely road or street, I change my route. My safety is my priority because from men they can steal or even beat them to death, even if authorities are capable, they cannot recover my health loss. So yes, don't rely on anyone, prioritize your safety first doesn't matter if you are man and woman. Devil is everywhere, its really a sick world we are living in today.
This is when the second amendment comes in handy! Gotta love it!
As a man, I simply cannot defend the "not all men" statement anymore. There is a problem which needs to be fixed.
So go and fix it.
im not. may be u are a part of the problem. i should file a complaint then.
Bhai mai to nhi hoon vaisa so all men are not same
I would advise you to read the other comments under this video only....about not all men thing ....then we women can also say that not all men are good ,not all men @@Shivakumar-dk6ph
Why are you projecting yourself on other men? You might be like that but that doesn't mean everybody is like that.
As a fellow woman, I want to add some points to this excellent video:
The aim of patriarchy is to make women(and men) live in a constant state of dissatisfaction and frustration, because the goalpost of what it means to be an ideal woman(and man), keeps on changing according to made-up narratives. Now that I've said this:
The following is just for women. Our systemic oppression is not sexual assault or domestic violence. We are stamped as inferior from the day we are born. There is subtle to not-so-subtle disappointment in the family when the firstborn is a daughter, and there is sadness when the secondborn is also a daughter. The constant push by elders to make ourselves more soft, polite, calm, compliant, and obedient(this is also for little boys), for years, makes us end up like we have no sense of who we are and what we want.
Do this after marriage, do that after you get a job, and again, attempt to make us smaller and take up as little space as we can. This constant tolerance results in us being a doormat to the point of tolerating verbal, mental, and emotional abuse, sexual assault being an extreme case scenario that depends on a lot of factors.
To break this cycle of being a martyr/doormat, we must do one thing. We have to make women turn into biological beings, from sexual ones. What do I mean by this? Have you seen the women you see on TV, ads, music videos, movies, social media? They are almost nonhuman looking. Photoshopped skin, edited features, no pores, no signs of aging. Almost like we are objects of the male gaze. Yet men are lauded when they age, "silver fox", an empowering term given to them. The age-old patriarchy reduces women to their uterus and vagina and makes them worthless after a certain age. And it's so entrenched in women too, that even women themselves make fun of and mock women older than them, calling them derogatory names.
We break the cycle by becoming shameless and converting ourselves into the true biological beings that we are. Our bodies are not sexual objects. We have to openly talk about periods, IBS, diarrhea, pregnancy, childbirth, breast/ovarian/uterine issues, which are biological parts of us, and talk about things that are "taboo and hush hush". We have to start posting unfiltered photos on social media. We have to overestimate ourselves. We have to talk about sex because all the hush-hush has made us a land of high population and sexual assault, so might as well start talking. And we have to start now.
The more we get rid of shame about ourselves, and shame the perpetrators and creeps from the get-go, the faster we can evolve. If a child is being groped in a public bus/auto, she must shamelessly shout, hey look that pervert uncle is touching my boob/butt/crotch, eww what a molester/balatkari uncle chhiiii. The victim should never be ashamed, the pervert/abuser should be shamed in every way possible.
At first, after years of being soft, it'll be tough. But start practicing slowly. If possible, go to therapy, it's an excellent place to unlearn a lot of low confidence.
Noone is teaching you anything. It's all NATURE.
Whamen are not 'Sexual Objects'. That's just a F4lse a((us4tion by 1)umb Whamen.
Men are visual n Whamen love to S3*ualise themselves by wearing makeup n tight clothes. So, it's natural for a Man to think about S3*. However, it's also a Man's job to control himself n we know that. But as far as thinking is concerned, it's not our fault. It's your Fault.
Absolutely right
Really happy to see a mature post after a long time.❤
You are so right i couldn't agree more
One of the reason Indian society was made regressive in India males go to job female doing cooking it’s including in so called oc caste Brahmins reason is if female cook for males males will do job perfectly also Brahmin males are Jews it’s one of idea of Brahmin to extract Work from Indian if women were made slave it’s huge success for Brahmins u can see some Indians run big companies this is the reason behind it when u see Indian movies series u can see girls do cooking and all job it’s not just adopted practice from past but continuously Fed through movies and serials they won’t let it destroyed because they want Indian males to work for them so that they can achieve When u see American or British companies more Indian Brahmin male will be there if some women actually hate male superiority make them do household work let girl child study u can hear in movies that male kids shouldn’t do household work like that so be careful
I don't have a big sister but when I look at you it's feels like you are my sister ❤️😢
Same 🥲
Big sister... Lodan elder hota hai
You keep your own profile photo and complain about creeps
@@lexar928what's the problem of keeping a profile photo on a social media dude?
Same
We ,Pakistanis girls are even in so much terror after this incident .
I just got out of mind seeing the details of this case,the other day i went to a hospital and felt so insecure .
Divided by borders ,united by misogynistic society .😢😢😢
no following islam is solution
Same sis,
Even now im thinking to carry pepper spray in bag.
But i dont know
Is it alowed to carry pepper spray in metro stations of pakistan?
If u know plz tell?
@@nimfall Being a Hindu I am saying that Allah or God will not come to save you, you will have to take care of your own safety, talk a little logically
@@LootOfferOfficial Hindus in Pakistan are not safe you can try to leave this country
Muslims does not follow Islam but want Hindus to be Muslim
Something happens cross the border and you are scared in your home lol doesn't even make sense tbh. And yeah you wouldn't even know what misogynistic even means
Great advice dear, I have seen girls targeted in public transport and I’ve raised voice for as much girls as I could because the girls were too afraid to speak for themselves. Because I too have faced these things when I was a school girl. The irony is when you raise the voice not even women are bothering to support you. Because they are afraid of the weird comments that men will make. I’m not generalising here. Yes, there are many women like Adete and there are women who remain silent. At least women should support a fellow woman or a girl in such a situation because the victim can be too shocked or afraid to respond . This is my request to all ladies. Please stay united for this cause.
I also felt this, similar kind of incident I raised my voice for a woman but other females there behaved weird , as if it's not their concern.
Because Wimin lie a lot .
Men don’t remain united either, but at least they have the guts to intervene
@@smritijai5065 i don't know i always have the 'shock & freeze' type reaction everytime. I hope i won't actually freeze and take a stand against myself one day🥲
Didi, even my parents think I'll be needing a man to protect me where there is no guarantee that the man won't assault me too. The whole society around us is drowned in darkness.
Just say dropadi had 5 husbands but still...
You cannot protect yourself against a Man. What can your Parents do in that? Why are you DRAGGING them into this?
@@aparajitasristy9834 There is No Guarantee, you won't misuse the law n accuse him of F4L5e things
@@annurai-sj1sx PDF FIle Muhammad had married a 6 years old child.
same like that there is no guarantee , the women he is marrying will NOT cheat , give divorce and get money from him and enjoy, its better not to marry , stay single for both the genders, become independent , no one will assault you
I will share my experience to you all, I'm a muslim, and I'm practising one, so wear an abhaya is a common thing, it was around afternoon that I was walking on road, fully covered, this guy must ne around 16-17 passed by on a scooty and he commented "you look so hot, and just drived away, man I just froze, so the point that what you wore is totally obnoxious, women's should have the right to walk around in bikinis or abhayas or whatever they feel comfortable wearing.
@@ahmadibegum1709 see that is the thing, a woman's choice of clothing was never the problem. i read this quote and it felt so true to me. “once the society decides that a woman's body invokes sin in men, no amount of covering would ever be enough”. so saying that you have to cover yourself more to protect yourself is indirectly saying that you should take all the preventive measures so that the chances of any other woman who hasn't taken those measures being harassed increases. it is sad but it is true.
I have faced the same thing, I was in tomboy mode then, I was wearing fully covered T-shirt, and a black loose jeans. I was overweight and was with other tomboy friend, who has short hairs. And we were walking away in the afternoon too….
Worst thing, they came on Scooby and called hottie, cutie etc.
And I looked at him, he froze as I knew this guy…..
But the audacity to drive by and say all that was weird…
Without anybody teaching us, we woman understand that we don’t need attention.
My girl friend pointed out some days later that you can dress anyhow you have curvy body and it shows.
That made me so conscious, I denied participating in anything that put me on stage.
My entire class had mostly men and women were slim and flat. So she used to say that I should reduce the breasts if I want no attention. … can you imagine what it created in me? Huge anxiety,
I don’t go to gym on,y because I am scared of that gaze.
Even girls around me made me conscious.
Clothing is the Problem. Why do you want to wear such revealing clothes anyway. Because you want to S3*ualise yourself n entice Men. That's a Fact. How come only Wimin wear such clothes n Men don't.
We know it's a Man Duty to Control himself all the time. But there are some Bad Men who cannot n they should be PUNISHED. However, that Whaman is a Fool for putting herself in a dangerous situation. @@daidipyaa
I was sexually harassed when I was in first grade wearing the school uniform. So yeah clothes actually don't matter
@@daidipyaa mate your missing the point, never said you have to cover to be protected, I'm comfortable with my attire ie abhaya, similarly if a woman is comfortable with bikni so be it, we should have enough freedom to wear it
A slight correction - as someone pointed out in the comments, taser guns/stun guns are not legal to carry in India (yes the irony is not lost on me). An alternative to it can be an air pistol (with a muzzle energy of less than 20 joules and a caliber of 0.177). But they can be difficult to find. So our best options are
- pocket knives
- pepper spray and
- batons.
Have linked all of these in the description
Saudi arabia has low rape cases because of islam. Implement islamic laws to protect women. Only islamic law suggests killing a rapist.
@@Anonymous18-qi6kqLMAO. 😂😂😂😂
Dang! 😂😂😂
Wtf. The law wants women to be raped, but women can't use taser guns????
Pin this.
Sh*t Country Sh*t Laws 🤷🏽
*Moral of the Kolkata Incident: Don't try to be honest while working in a corrupt system.*
This is the actual part.
However corrupt it is be honest and fight for those who are honest
Lol no that doesn't mean you have to same like them, in Thor movie, his father Odin said this beautiful line to his young sons Thor and Loki, that a wise King doesn't seek a war but always be ready for it. That's why we should always prepare for worst scenario
@@dhrutikpatel1929 Life is not a movie. If you want to go against the system, you have to leave the system i.e. resign first, and most people don't have the guts to resign from a government job.
@@arichatterjee5580 when you said don't be honest in corrupt system I thought you wanted to you should become corrupt just like them, that's how your sentence seems, but now I agree with that what you said
SAFETY IS AN ILLUSION .
As a woman we will never be truly safe everytime.
My underrated advice would be to ( from a solo girl experience)
1. FLIGHT IS SAFER THAN FIGHT. ALWAYS. If you can avoid please avoid and walk away or run. They want your attention, negative or positive if you respond they will get a reason to jump you.(Based on personal experience if you avoid them completely, and walk away they will loose interest and increase your pace,change routes etc)Your life is more important than the embarassed of running away.
1. LEARN TO IDENTIFY EARLY SIGNS OF HARM, there is always something( eg- stalking? Touched you?staring at you too much? Gave you a threat? Showed you there private part in public?asked to sleep with them? Etc Avoid and Distance yourself! And be wary of them. Don't fight! Flight.
3. PRACTICE ENDURANCE TRAINING . Practice running 2-3km without breaks.. this will help in case of emergency. They may run faster but they won't run longer like you can if you train.
4. In early phase of attack when its only talk not physical and not too late.. mention your father/ brother is POLICEMEN politely! We don't want to trigger the aggressor. Be soft. (It happened to me once when i was 8 year old, playing near my school gate while waiting for mom, a man called me , He was in his car. I went there, he showed me his private part and asked my name etc. i nonchalantly told him my name and said my father works in police and he is late today and I'm waiting for him. Then he left. Gone no where to be seen. I told my mother later and she was scared yet proud.)
5. IF POSSIBLE BE UNPREDICTABLE ABOUT YOUR TIMINGS AND DAILY ROUTES. Don't always use the same walking route(but this can be hard), and change time of your entry and exit sometimes.
6. GET AWAY FROM THE AGGRESORS RADAR. Run, hide, camouflage if that works. If they keep on following you, even after ignoring and walking away, Make it a mission to distance yourself!
THE COUNTRY WILL NOT BECOME SAFE ANYTIME SOON. THIS COULD TAKE DECADES! IF NOT CENTURIES.
So This comes down to luck. Yes luck! The face of rapist and victim will change but this incident will always happen. So to have luck we have no choice but to become warriers that we truly are. We can overcome this together!
My mantra
Learn early signs, Avoid, Don't Engage, Run, Be cautious, Distance yourself.
I sincerely pray for everyone's safety and good health!🙏
Thank you for that advice! Im an high school student there is a guy who is stalking me with his friends from 3months following me everywhere I go I'm scared but then I see your comment and today I go and try to talk to him and his friends he talked with me very nicely and his friends asking my number ig acc and all but Ik his intentions earlier soo I ask him what his parents do and his both parents are teachers
Teaching in school but forgot to teach thier son manner lol
After that I politely tell him and his friends that my father and brother is a respected high rank police officers and guess what he and his friends where looking eachothers face and then they tell me please don't tell to your family that we meet today I don't like that if you do and then I also say it's better you and your friends don't follow me everywhere then they those creepy boys say sorry multiple times your advice worked successfully
AS long as men exist on this planet, women are never going to be safe. And that realization is terrifying.
I'm a man and I'm saying this. A man who doesn't respect women is not a real man. He is a disgrace to other men. I have a mom and a girl that I'm gonna marry. I respect them both and my girl she is a real woman who respects me back and she addresses me as. it is like you are a gentleman. Whenever I'm here (we are long distance) with her means. It's by my behavior in all ways and means. I feel proud about myself at that time and say thanks to my mom and dad for raising me like this ❤
And what about those women who disrespect men
Stay unmarried kid
@@CineverseWithRaj they also are a shame. It goes both ways pal. Only when the man and woman respects and loves each other could only be called a true woman and man. It's not only for men and it's not only for women. It goes both ways.
@@CineverseWithRajDo what you would do if your mother would disrespect you , even when you were right. You have too many options. This doesn't mean you would give rape threat or commit something wrong with her. I m a girl, and dear trust me the kind of disrespect you are talking about is what a every girl goes through. Hope you would take it in a positive way😢
@@Believer-A29 I get it. 💗🫂 let's hope for the best
The 4B movement started by South Korean women is looking more and more appealing and something Indian women should definitely think about
In India, it's challenging when many women do not earn an income and thus cannot support themselves financially.
@@HDB41 better than getting raped and killed. Can't respect the nation which doesn't guarantee me any safety.
we need to focus on educating and uplifting all the women around us so that women are financially independent and can atleast dream of living a life that doesn't have to include marriage if she doesn't want it
won't happen
It's not even the solution
It is not only women, it is anyone who is weak is vulnerable for exploitation.
Yup true.
This is why raise your voice, empower yourself be it a man or woman.
True but what's worse is women are EXPECTED & THAUGHT to be 'weak' not talk out , not do this that whatever
@@limboslim4296 what did you write
I know women are victims in overwhelming majority of the cases, adding to that most of the men also can recall atleast 3-4 there private parts were touched innappropriately by others (mostly men).
So the question is, the way men and women process that experience is way different. Do we need separate solutions in both the cases? As in we should approach both using separate lenses? Or there is a unified solution?
Raising voice about women gets really important nowdayz .......we need to be get out of current situations
influencers need to realise that many men who truly need advice on how to make women feel comfortable and avoid being creepy, including those at risk of commiting rape, are often not active on social media, aren't well educated, or dont understand english. This makes much of the advice feel superficial and disconnected from the real issues.
Yup…ik
Even if the potential rapists were educated and active on social media why would they even turn towards advice? If they were capable of that they would have got it by any means. Advice is the last thing for people who feel they know everything already.
@@vidhyaanbu9167 You make a valid point that individuals who are at risk of engaging in harmful behavior might not seek out advice, especially if they feel they already know better or dismiss external input. However, addressing this issue isn’t solely about waiting for these individuals to seek help. It’s about creating a broader culture of understanding and respect, where prevention and education are part of everyday conversations.
Even if someone feels they know everything, they are still influenced by the environment around them. By expanding the reach of advice through various channels-community programs, educational initiatives in schools, and collaborations with local organizations-we can work to shift attitudes and behaviors before they escalate to harmful actions. It's about embedding these conversations into places where people who might not be active on social media still interact, such as community centers, workplaces, or educational institutions.
In this way, we're not just relying on social media to solve the problem; we're working to change the broader cultural and social contexts that influence behavior.
@@vidhyaanbu9167 I agree, we just need to look at all these comments to know that. So many people speaking out about their experiences, and then you'll see these comments lacking empathy, acting so high and mighty, as if their opinions is the end all be all and everything else be f-ed. These are definitely the same kind of people who do these heinous crimes. It's a sad world we live in.
I was on a local bus and there was this creepy guy who kept asking where I wanted to go. I was alone and scared and he kept lurking around me. I quickly blended in the bus crowd and got off at the next stop and literally ran away. I feel so scared to go to college and travel my parents also feel worried to let me travel from home for college.
i wish the world was a better place for us...
As a man, I understand. The frustration of being afraid of All men is normal after seeing how society has mistreated women. As the transformation will not happen overnight, symptoms such as having pepper spray, speaking up, and doing everything to be safe must first be addressed.
However, the root cause of this problem needs to be solved. And there are so many. From a young age, Indian society has normalized following a woman, forcing her to do things out of her will and so much more. Bollywood has only acted as a catalyst for this mindset. Also, I remember that, as a kid, my schoolteachers made sure that we boys didn't talk to girls and the other way around. Most of us men who were part of such schools had a hard time interacting with women, having a friendly connection, and learning to act around the opposite gender later on. The problem starts from childhood and school life itself.
India has a vast human rights issue in the world you can look that up. I have also seen men getting harassed at work and getting their lives ruined by false cases from some women. Honestly, This country needs to work on its citizens' safety urgently, especially women's, and not just plan but implement them to make them safe for everyone, regardless of gender, income, or power. And all of it starts with us!
Stop S1mping for these Wimin. All I see is CLICHE Narratives like 'Society's Fault'.
Society NEVER teaches you anything like that. If Society taught us that then ALL or MOST Men would indulge in these types of behaviour. It's an Individual Crimes n has nothing to do with Society. Also, there is a NATURAL rate of crime n it will never stop
if a man faces some problem then its the man's problem , if a women faces an issue then it should be everyones else , because of this dismissive nature , most men who are willing to support also ignoring issues faced by women , why the reason simply because of double standards, whether its love , friendship , empathy wont lasts longer if it one sided , ahhh iam so angry i will say all men are grapers , and then men have to accept and support that even they are not in reality otherwise you are the problem , now this poor dude will support, tommorow he will get some problem when he says that these same women will come and say .... dude are you even a man ?? oh common these are your isses , because of 1 women you should say "Not all Women but everytime a women when it comes fake cases" that dont work
As women I completely agree with you ..
@@Leo-gh5um I agree bro
As usual it's starts from home . Gender discrimination is common in Indian families . That's the root cause . Majority of women aren't respected and valued by their own family then what to expect from others .
As a man, I am not authorized to add much on this issue except supporting what you are doing. I appreciate your effort. I also appreciate the part where you mentioned that silence of women empowers the misogynist elements. I would like to add my observation, in some cases women even support the misogynists to demonize the female victims. Maybe you can advise women how to deal with them as well. Because that number seems quite high where some women(specially mother figures) support and encourage misogyny in a family setup. Everything starts at home after-all. I have seen it in my family when I was young and I had to raise my voice against it in support of my sister. But what if there is no such voice in other families? I asked this question to few self-proclaimed feminists, but failed to get an answer yet.
@@TheIndianTechie007 There is no such thing as Misogyny. It's a Shaming Tactic to Silence the Man speaking the uncomfortable truths.
That is all the result of this misogynistic society , as you said mostly older women have this mindset but it is because of their upbringing & they have been brainwashed
Only real men will not be offended by the statement “we are afraid of all men”.
They are hurt, disturbed and scared for themselves. Be supportive not chaotic
I know your concern is serious because I also have sister
the device on which you're typing this comment, your internet provider, RUclips, The place where you're in right now, your home and other approx. 95% assets which you use are all created/manufactured by men.
Don't make this a gender war or generalize men by acts which are done by few considering the population.
and you aren't afraid of all men, it depends on the situation and condition that you're afraid or not.
btw i am not offended by your statement its just that it is illogical as how you would even live in a society where you're afraid of every 2nd person you meet including your family members
@@yabaiotaku
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Or usi ny COBOL, duniya ki pehli programming language banai thi.
She is known as The Mother of Programming World.
Hedy lamar-jis ny frequncy hoping system invent kiya jo ky sari wireless networks ki bunyaad hai, bluetooth, wifi, gps etc
That's why she's Called "Mother of Wifi"( OR TERAY JAİSA JAHİL MARD AURAT KY BUNYAAD RAKHAY HOAY İNTERNET PR BAİTH KR AURAT KY İNVENT KİYE GAYE COMPİLER SY CHALTİ APPS KA İSTEMAL KR KY AURAT KO Hİ GAALİ DY RAHA, yeh hai mard ki aukaat🤦♀️💀🤣🤣)
Marie Curie, human history ki pehli insaan jis ny do fields maen Nobel prize jeeta, Physics and Chemistry, usi ny cancer ka elaaj karnay walay isotops daryafat kiye thy or usi ny atom bombs maen use honay walay radium or polonium discover kiye thy, even "radio-active" lafaz bhi usi ki aijaad hai
Rosalind Franklin-us ny DNA discover kiya tha, yeh jo tu 🧬 daikhta hai jadeed science maen yeh aik aurat ki hi daryaft hai)
Chien-Shiung Wu- Us ny discover kiya thy ky uranium ko atomic bomb bananay ky liye kaisay istemal kiya jaey, us ny yeh bhi discover kiya tha ky red-blood cell anemia maen kaisay convert hotay haen.
Stephanie Kwolek-jis ny bullet proof fibre banaya tha jo aj bullet proof jackets maen kitnay admiyo ki jaan bachata hai
Yvonne C. Brill-known for her great contributions in rocket propulsion system.
Mary Sherman Morgan-jis ny rocket propellent(hydane) banaya tha, jiski wajah sy ameeica ka pehla rocket Explorer 1 kamyab hoa tha.
Maria Goeppert Mayer- She won nobel Prize in 1963 for discovering nuclear shell of nucleus inside atom.
Duniya ki pehli programmer aik aurat thi-Ada lovelace.
Inge Lehmann ny daryafat kiya ky zameen ki core aik solid ball( jisay pehlay mana jata tha ky woh liquid hai)
Mária Telkes-jis ny solar powered heating system banaya tha and thermo-electric power generator, uski complexity maen yahan likhti lekin teri samajh maen nhi aye ga.
Vera Rubin- proved that dark matter existed in the universe by concluding that invisible gravity sources were pulling planets and stars in certain directions.( Tujh jaisay jahil admi ko pata bhi nhi ho ga ky dark matter is universe ki kitni bari cheez hai)
Barbara McClintock-her discovery of genetic transposition, or the ability of genes to change position on the chromosome, she won Nobel prize.
Rita Levi-Montalcini-us ny hamain bataya ky brain maen cancer or dementia ki beemari kaisay hoti, she won Nobel prize for that.
Gertrude Elion-leukemia or kidnay transplant reject na karay body uskay liye elaaj banaya.
British chemist Dorothy Hodgkin, jis ny penicillin, B12 or insulin ky atomic structures dryafat kiye thy (a major breakthrough in the treatment of diabetes)
Katherine Johnson-jis ny Nasa ny 1961 maen Nasa ky sab sy pehlay spacecraft ki trajectory calculte ki thi( ab teray jaisay jahil mard ko shayada yeh na pata ho ky trajectory kya hoti hai or kitni important cheez hai)
Cecilia Payne-Gaposchkin, ny duniya ko bataya ky stars helium or hydrogen sy mil kr bantay haen
Lise Meitner- jis ny nuclear fission reactions ko duniya ko introduce kiya or us pr papers publish kiye, jis sy chemistry maen unhay Nobel prize mila
Cynthia Kenyon- woh duniya ki pehli insaan hai jis ny genes ki study ki or discover kiya ky genes kaisay mutate hotay haen and hiw they process of aging happens
Wifi, gps or Bluetooth ky liye wireless system ki bunyaad rakhnay wali aik aurat thi, duniya ki pehli programming language bananay wali aik aurat thi, compiler bana kr software ko hardware sy connect krnay wali aurat thi, rocket propellent-hydane, rocket propulsion system, central heating system, ice cream maker, bullet-proof fiber, cancer ki treatment ky liye isotopes or atom bombs maen use honay walay radium or polonium ki discovery aik aurat ny ki, nuclear fission reaction, dishwasher, Dna ki discovery, call waiting or caller id,car heater, chemotherapy , circulat saw, airplane muffler,duniya ki sab sy best anti-fungal drug nystatin,aquarium, automatic roti maker, birth control pill, jo log bol nhi saktay unkay liye printer, airlines, mobile companies etc maen use honay wala call center system, electron microscopy, khorak ki naali, globes, hydane rocket feul,laser cataract surgery, life raft, locomotive chimney, liquid paper, mydical syrenge, duniya ki sab sy best board game monopoly jo chess ko mat dy sakti hai, Signal flares, semi-conductor mirrors, software jiski wajah sy moon landing possible hoi thi,science fiction ki category sab sy pehlay aik aurat ny invent ki thi, Frankenstein ki writer, duniya ka sab sy poupular genre ban gaya,space station batteries, stem cell isolation, submarine telescope and lamp,
Wash and wear fabric( jo pakistani admi bohot pehantay haen yeh aik aurat ki aijaad hai, she discovered the cross-linking procedure that reinforced the bones between the chainlike cellulose molecules of cotton, resulting in reduced wrinkles after washing. İsi aurat ny fire-proof fabric bhi banaya tha)
Waterproof leather protector, windshield wiper,duniya ka pehla word processor or duniya ka pehla comouterized airline system,vaccum cleaner, system for cancelling train noise, thermoelectric power generator, ultrafast lasers.
@@yabaiotakuor abhi hundreds of thousands inventions and creations haen women ki jis ny humanity ki buniyaad rakhi and I haven't mentioned it all
@@yabaiotakuwomen created 117 billion humans with their own blood by fighting death.
So, even if you wanted to show men as people who are co-operative and harmless people towards women, the take you took by mentioning materialistic things was wrong
Because creation maen agar competition lagaya jaey toh mard kabhi jeet nhi sakta aurat sy
Ulta it seemed like you were challenging the abilities of women.
Lastly, if you want to show better side of men, show it by giving examples of supportive men, humble men, co-operative men, friendly men and give examples of their actions that they took for women
Like the men who started making sanitary pads for women when he found that women in his village were facing difficulty, and to appreciate his effort and thinking, a movie was made on him.
This is how you fill the gap between two groups
They method you adopted is literally the method of challenging women and not of consolidating them of the immense wrong-doings and sins male gender has committed against women since the beginning of humanity.
Pr is maen hum aurato ki hi ghalti hai
Jo physically weak ho uskay sath aisa hi hota hai
İf you are weak, then it's your fault that you are weak
Ghareeb KY sath bhi bura hi hota hai, isi liye ghareeb ki ghalti hoti hai ky woh ghareeb kyo hai because baki log toh usay bully karain gy hi, that's how world works, it's a jungle.
@@yabaiotaku yes, we are afraid of every man. and all of the "internet" thing you said, was it made by men because they were more 'intelligent' or 'passionate' about it or was it made by them because they were the only ones who were given the environment and right to actually study and learn and invent. and by the way, the technology for wifi was invented by a woman, the initial codes and conputer programs were mostly done by women, so where does that put your "most men" logic. all you're being is tone deaf. because you never know what it is like to be in a room full of men, and be f*cking terrified. you do not know what it feels like to be in a stressed out mode whenever you're out of your house, alone. so if you can't sympathise, then shut up. women have been withheld fundamental human rights you men don't even realise that you have. women have been exploited and victims to violence and gaslighting since years on end, so where does that put you and your "all hail the men" agenda. of course women are angry, they have every right to be so.
Am in tears continuously dear...from my childhood I have been in awkward situations, didn't understand, couldn't voice out, till today I am not safe. Your words recharged myself,thank you thank you thank you...abundant blessings from me to you.
Noone cares
@@modernman1240 Could you elaborate what you want to convey, “noone cares” has two different meanings
@@Aditya-od2sv She needs to learn to deal with her pain on her own n STOP Advertising it on Social Media. We all go through it n process it on our own.
Also, no one cares about you, me or her. The sooner you realise n adapt, the better. Otherwise you are just a Child.
Take it or Leave it ! 😎
@@modernman1240 I know no one cares but they should, what would your reaction be if someone violated the people you love? Would you still have that ‘deal with it attitude’? Even if people don’t care at least justice system should
@@modernman1240 exactly
This is what a true influncer does ❤❤
"Being feared is better than living in fear."❤
I request all of the girls present here please write a letter to prime minister office. The increasing rape cases is too much we have to make aware the leader of our nation.what we feel the , the felling of fear and insecurity please irrespective of whether you support the party or not. Please write safety is not privilege but basic right. We have to take the matter in our hands otherwise it will never change.
Yes. Need of the hour
I remember, I still remember, I can never forget the haunting experience I felt as a 'Kid' back then.. I was in grade 3 when it all started, to be honest I had zero knowledge about sexual harassment. I used go by van where we were three girls around my age and rest were senior boys who I used to call 'Bhaiya' out of respect. Then there was this boy who was in grade 7, I can never forget his name, my body still gets stiffened when I hear the same name even when it's a different person. I was the last girl to get out of the van with two boys including him who lived two or three lanes away that time. When the last girl was dropped off to her house, the van used to have a lot of space and I always felt so uncomfortable around him like he used to try to sit next to me and when I switched to next seat or shifted a little far away, he used to come even more closer to me. Bringing his nasty hands to my pubic region from the back, it was frightening.. I feel like crying while writing this but I know I have to let it out. I had that school uniform on, even wearing skirts made me feel bad. He always touched or tried to touch me and when once I couldn't hold back, and asked him ' What are you doing Bhaiya?' He replied saying, ' It was an ant creeping inside your skirt' I loathe him and still do but what hurts the most is, the other boys never really tried to help me, because this boy used to shut em up. One was and still is close to my family, it hurts seeing him, I get reminded of everything I felt back as a kid. After two years," that" boy shifted to a different van but I could always see his nasty look creeping me in the school..Finally, after he left our neighborhood and school after two more years, I was relieved. I couldn't explain how I felt relaxed? pathetic of myself? or scared that he might come back? The fact that I didn't tell my family still holds me in guilt. They are still unaware but I hope one day I get the courage to tell them but then I think, what's done is done, what's the use of telling them now? When he left, the other two girls told me how good they felt when he left..they told me another side of the story where it was not only me who was a victim. I'm still in school but I no longer go by a van, I can never.
Sister you got that courage already
I didn't even tell my family how gross my school students were .not all. Bullying also hurts.
Reading this just fills me with burning rage and i wish i could give you a tight hug. I hope and pray you're safe and will stay Safe and secure. I hope when next time this happens which I dread it never does, but if it does, you feel strong enough to take a stand, please look after yourself and have people close to you know what you go through, please cultivate enough support for yourself, you're not alone, you were never alone, you just need to speak and I know it's hard, been through it many times myself and still do, even I find it terrifying to do sometimes, but that's the first step into helping yourself and you deserve help, love and support.
@@hearteu5260 this is nothing my dear ,I'm a guy, I've been forcibly grabbed,touched in my privates multiple times,forced to give oral, forcibly masturbated and even have sperm dropped on my chest by force,all this without consent,we are laughed at when we come out,but I really feel women and men can never be equal , society will always have different standards for different genders, female perpetrators are often overlooked, infact there's no law for male rape and harrassed in this country.
He should be jailed.
@@hearteu5260 Thank You so much, love. I appreciate your kind words and support. I know that by not informing my close ones back then, I committed a huge mistake but I'm much more aware now and confident about myself than before. I have younger sisters and I do teach them about these things, so that in future, I hope that day never comes, they don't have to think twice before complaining about anything to us. I seriously don't have a good image of the males to be very honest and if you have to live in this cruel world, you gotta stick to protective measures because a good man only comes in rare species. That's what I tell myself.
Adete, I am way more thankful to you then you'll ever get to know. Not just with this particular video. Every video I've ever watched from your channel, all of that helped a lot and therefore, I am very grateful of you and the content you put up .
I have NEVER seen a better video than this. You killed it girl! All the things u mentioned are so so important, I hope the algorithm helps this video reach more women and more men. Thankyou so much for this ❤ it’s only us who can make each other feel heard, supported and cared for.
You're the elder sister that every elder sister needs 🙌🏻💗
So Thankful to the day i found your channel and continued watching your videos ✨
Thank you dii❤️
Totally agree ❤...as a elder sister I look upto her for advice and I always see her as my elder sister.
As much as it is crucial to change the mentality of men in this country, it is important to protect ourselves because we need to be safe to actually take a stand. Bullshit laws, bullshit safety in this country! Thanks for the video!
Actually its bullshit people in lok sahab babasaheb try his hard to protect women this people just ruined it 😢😢😢😢
Family ki izzat is nothing but emotionally fooling a woman/ girl by their own family to silence voice and just control women ,
Yup
If we wanted to control Wimin, we won't even give you rights.
Noone wants to control Wimin. It's all in ur head.
Izzat, tradition, parampara are all tools to control women.
90% of rps are marital that every man does with full support of society.
During covid domestic violence case had a rise because men were not getting out
true.
I don’t get it, does that mean they violated their own family members?
:')
@@Aditya-od2sv yes this what the statistics say, but if you visit low areas like slums or many villages you'll see domestic violence is not even a thing it's very normal
Roshani sharma I mean you are Brahmin you are sharma Sharma's literacy rate is very high still tumhara randi Rina kabhi khatam nahi hota
The saddest part is that, mssg like "Do not make any woman around u uncomfortable" will reach only the already aware men but those sick people who commit these crimes will never be bothered. This is truly a sickening feeling.
Thank you so much for this .
Yes , financially independent should be every woman's first priority...
Feminism and feminists too exist because of men who are feminist.
If all men are united with same ideology and vision ( like in several Muslim countries) then their would no feminism and feminist.
So women, always appreciate and interact with good men.
Remember no one is independent, we all are codependent.
Taliban 🤡
What you said is kinda true but giving muslim countries as example is 😂 bro are you on drugs?
@@itshallpass If you think taliban is radical, then you are living in delusion !
@@skumar8817 women have to fight like women are fighting in Iran against men and redical religious people
@@itshallpass Saudi Arabia ? the laest human rights. the whole of middleast.
Ur mother is great. She has given birth to this beautiful soul.❤🧿🙏🏻
what about her father then ?
@@nikolatesla399 I don't want to talk abt him. And it's none of ur business though.
@@rndm24800 🥴🥴
@@nikolatesla399 whay are you here spreading hate? butthurt? did the father carry her for nine months? did he stopped eating certain foods altogether? did he go through mood swings? did he left his job for the baby? did he felt a hell lota pain while delivery? NO NO NO AND NO!!!
stun guns are illegal to carry in india(but marital r*pe is not). anyway, any alternative for stun guns or tasers?
Pocket knifes, pepper spray and air pistols
Air pistols are not there to shoot someone and you cannot intimidate one by waving a weapon like a firearm.@@AdeteDahiya
Kindly read the arms act.
Blame Feminism for thet. they are the one who is against GN laws. so its not criminalised,
Thank you so much for this, Adete!
Being financially independent is crucial!
the doctor who was attacked also financially independent
So??
And it's really frustrating when some people say "not all men" when almost every r@pist turns out to be a man.
when the culprits of any crime, repeatedly turn out to be members of one particular community or group of people, there is a pattern, and denying it is really unhelpful.
" Oh but nOt all ....................... aRe LiKe tHaT ", OK FINE. but how does the pattern keep repeating time and time again ???!!!!
burying our heads in the sand like ostriches doesn't help, acknowledging the pattern does.
So we should use that pattern to target 🎯 ALL men for POLITICAL gains...?.
I cried so much when I heard about this case...cried a lot when I read about nirbhaya, kathua, unnao, hathras, manipur, disha case...and these are just the infamous ones. everyday women are raped and murdered, what happens if she is a lower caste woman with no money? thousands of such cases go unreported. With all this, I still see people against feminism, so many people worried about defending men rather than the woman's life. We know it's not all men but we don't know which men, so we are told to be careful from all men. Yes, even my own father tells me to be careful of men. I have faced harassment since my school days, all of my friends have been through scary incidents, unless we accept that there is something deeply wrong with our society and work together to make it a safe place, nothing will change. The cycle repeats: another brutal case, few days of outrage, then back to mocking women's issues, feminists, and blaming them whenever something like this happens
"Not all Men" sure, we're not oblivion to the obvious, we know not all men but somehow always a man. We're afraid of snakes because we know they're venomous, not all of them, but they are. We fear all snakes because we can't tell the difference between them. Just like Men. How would we know the difference? It could be anyone. Anywhere, at any time. As a teen girl in this country, unfortunately I feel scared every time I step out of my house. Can I really live in this fear all my life?
yeah just like every false case there is always a woman this is why I stay away from them
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I guess women aren't criminal if it's all man . Women ☕
Powerful always dominates😊.
Women ☕ hahahahahahahahaha
I was coming from library 2 day back i saw 2 boys like 3 time they were on a bike then i understand they were stalking me so i start walking fast they drive pass me then they go far and stop to wait for me sort of then start driving . I was so scared to go home that they will get mu adress but i was also scared not to go home as what if they do something so i went home and they saw my house . Now i am seeing them near my house . I never saw them in my area . I can't tell my parents too because they will stop me from going library and i am preparing for neet . Its so hopless situation i am carrying knife . I hate men that 3 rds this happened with me first time it happened when i was in 5th class 🙂 and they say not all men are same. What u expect from me to think that ok koi baat nahi baki to aache hote trust me this never comes in mind when u got stalked u start judging ever on around u .
"Stalking Is A Serious Crime" ,
I advice you to definitely talk About this with your parents and let them complain in the police station, maybe capture a video of those degenerates as a proof !! It is better end the suffering once in for all, rather then to endure it everyday. Please, focus on your Neet preparation as it will serve you for your future independence.
Trust me i have been on the same path,..😣Wishing you all the best for your examination.
From your Elder Brother and Ex-Aspirant !! 😊
"Stalking Is A Serious Crime" ,
I advice you to definitely talk About this with your parents and let them complain in the police station, maybe capture a video of those degenerates as a proof !! It is better end the suffering once in for all, rather then to endure it everyday. Please, focus on your Neet preparation as it will serve you for your future independence.
Trust me i have been on the same path,..😣Wishing you all the best for your examination.
From your Elder Brother and Ex-Aspirant !! 😊
You r my life savior sis❤️I'm 20 yrs old currently .The topics u discuss are so much insightful to me . Thank you so much for uploading thoughtful content 💕. Love u alot from south India
actually mere eek frnd thi mere se 2 saal badi hai i consider her like a didi ji, one day day her boyfriend was giving me threats he was saying stay away from, her and bla bla bla and didi was also using abusive words against me since i respect her so i didn't used any offensive words against my didi but infact told her parents about the whole thing
As A MAN, I Feel ashamed jo bhi Kolkata main huva aur 2 din tak main trauma main tha,abhi bhi wohi news sunta hu muje rona Aa jata hain ki Ek doctor ke sath asa huva.? Or wo bhi hospital main.? we can't imagine wo doctor ke sath kitna galat huva hoga kitni pain main rahi hogi wo... agar ek doctor apne working place main safe nhi re sakti toh , ladkiyan kahi bhi safe nhi hain Aaj.......As a man hame responsibility Utne he padegi ham unko safe feel karvaye...
❤️❤️
@@akIndia10 how can they find anything when everything is erased already ,Kolkata p has already done their part in erasing all evidence
You shouldn't be ashamed of what you didn't do, feminists want to put you in the same group so they have an excuse to punish you.
If this was in IG men would have shown their true colors
I feel like these videos should be made in every language of India. These kind of videos motivate us to take step against evil. Every women knowing any language should be motivated to speak against injustice. Hope other content creators make more videos in every single language of India and we never stop speaking about injustice against women until it stops.
I as a male don't support either patriarchy nor matriarchy. I support uniformity.
I support equal gender rules.
India was a land of secularism but now?, its becoming more like a gender biased society, completely messed up or lost in nos.
If women are not safe, our Bharat maata, is not safe 🫥
Not only crime against Women but Men as well.
I know the number is pretty low but this has took a rise in past few years.
Women safety is more important but moral education is even more. What I am trying to do is that talk about such thing for now and point out others...
If it's towards a man they don't care
Don't bring the issue of male victims when it is specifically about female victims. Like yeah, we know men face it too, but the aggregation of SA in comparison of men vs women is too big to ignore.
No but like seriously, every single horrid case of rape has only been noted between a man as a perpetuator and the women as the victim. Men don't face such degree of cases, making the media talk less about it.
Hiii adete didi, sometimes i thought being boy is good then being girl. The mindset of these man who see women or girl as a object should be changed. We talk about equality but no one follow these. Increasing case, make me think why i am born as a girl?
Same here yar. Think about this so many times. But we cannot control the cards we were dealt, we can only control how we show up in the world. So, I am to show up as the best goddamn woman I can be and I hope somehow that makes the world a little bit better.
@@AdeteDahiya Honestly, I can't live my life according to my choice because my parents are so overprotective towards Me. I understand , they want to protect me but this made me more insecure and unworthy. I don't have friends or someone to talk. Your videos inspire me alot. I hope one day , I will be grateful to be a girl and inspire other girls to live their life happily on their choices.
@@simranyadav3789 If u feel alone and have no friends then from today on wards stop feeling this because we r friends now feel free to speak
@@AdeteDahiya BTW Sis. please don't ever think in this way ki kaash m ladka hoti kyunki unlogo ne khuko power di h aur hmme woh dbaana chahte hai so hmme ye nhi sochna ki hum ladko jaise bnne tomboy etc balki hmme feminine behaviour strong bnaana pdega aur aese darindo ke liye bilkul bhi emotion show nhi krna hoga aur ladkiyon ko support krna etc, apni ladki pehchan ko popular aur strong bnaayenge toh hum aesa nhi sochenge ...
@@BimlaSharma-c8m Mai boy hu.....mai girl banna chah rha tha......bahut saare boys yeh sochte hai ke woh girl bane.......
I live in Europe…and some of my friends especially those from Nordik countries don’t even know that a woman should be alert while walking alone after midnight…They have never experienced any kind of assault or inappropriate touch ever in their life…when women wear bikinis in the beaches here, no one cares to look at them, its just normal…I wish and pray one day in India and the entire world, women can roam around freely at any time of the day, wearing whatever they want, feeling completely safe and no one gives a damn…
so u are saying wmen should be allowed to be roam naked ? thats never gonna happen in india. dont even dream lol. every culture has a custom. if u wear saree in Europe they definately look at u. similarly if someone wears those mini skirts in india people will stare.
i hear opposite from these Nordic women and Korean women. even though they are said to be safe on papers. but thier women tell different.
No one’s saying what women should be “allowed” to do or not…its about men not caring about what a woman is wearing…and wearing a bikini isn’t equal to being naked…its about respecting whether someone wants to stay fully covered or if someone wants to wear a swimsuit…no one gives a damn…women are treated as fellow humans and not objects…The law in India already allows that, its a matter of people following the law or not…Lol…
Don’t know where you have heard from Nordik women that they’re unsafe, i personally know a huge lot of them and have even lived there…none of them complain about feeling unsafe or being assaulted…if at all, they say that, their level of feeling unsafe would be way different from ours…Nd that too because of the recent mass immigration…Of crse, in Korea, it may not not the same…
Thank you so much! This is much needed now 🕊
As a Sri Lankan, my sympathy and condolences go out to Dr. Moumita and her family.
The issue here is that we don't know if men are doing enough to change things because this societal issue is complex.
We can never stop bad men, or all men, from committing such acts. THE MEN WHO WOULD SEXUALLY ASSAULT A WOMAN DON'T CARE MUCH ABOUT THESE CONVERSATIONS. MEN WHO ARE INVOLVED IN SUCH DISCUSSIONS ARE LESS LIKELY TO BE A PART OF THIS ISSUE(but women chose the bear over a man for a reason), but what's happening is that the gender dividence increases every day.
This is why some men end up in jail, while others are in the Olympics-no system is perfect. But sexually assaulting a woman is against the law, is it not?
What I initially saw was a movement for justice for Dr. Moumita. But it soon shifted into a heated gender debate between angry feminists and men. For once, we should set that aside and focus on fighting for justice and, most importantly, addressing the root causes.
Many leftists and feminists avoid discussing the actual root causes of these issues. Making women strong, independent "boss babes (CEOs)" doesn't necessarily make anyone safer. Dr. Moumita was stronger and more financially independent than most people in this conversation, but that did not stop her from being raped and murdered.
EDUCATING YOUNG MEN (although whenever anyone suggests supporting men, many feminists disparage it as a support movement for patriarchy, which it is not), having community programs for men (especially men under 25), sex education, improving communication skills, understanding how women's behaviour and their bodies, addressing addictions, etc., are more important than anything.
This has been a long discussion, and there may be many reasons for women's indignation, but it's time for both women and men to have a different approach to this issue.
Thank you. God bless you all.
Listen it's illegal to take victim's name.. please address her as Dr. Dii
@@Mallikaaa_04 🤣🤣🤣
@@Mallikaaa_04 Cry about it, girls 👧🏼!
Can u do it in Hindi language too because in villages girls should also be aware of all this loved this video felt calm “ lil ” 😢 may god protects us Ameen.
I am a well educated woman, coming from family background seeing my mom and myself in constant domestic violence through my father and his family and I had always called out my mom (not blaming her) on why she didn’t leave that marriage. She answered that was because of her children. She wasn’t financially independent and she didn’t want us to have our future destroyed (though I know she was really really intelligent, she would have made a great career if she moved away from that marriage but she was really scared because of constant violence and lack of support from her brothers) and
When the similar happened to me in my marriage (which was a love marriage btw) I did the same, I didn’t take a stand for myself. And though I did take divorce but now I realise that the moment violence was inflicted on me for the very first time, I should have reported FIR against my husband and his mom and his sister right then and there. It’s because I didn’t do anything but suffer by myself to the core, his mother’s audacity increased exponentially and she started doing that every moment she felt convenient. And that so called my love, was blind, literally blind, who said- it was all in my head!! Imagine that someone inflicting physical violence, verbal abuse and constant manipulation on you and your partner says it’s all in your head?? And additionally, There were clear restrictions on me, what I wear, where I go, to inform each and every member of his family etc etc in name of my security while I was not safe in the house itself.
At the end, I would like to say to all the women, please don’t tolerate abuse at any cost!! No kind of abuse, neither physical nor otherwise, emotional, mental.. none!! Please do not tolerate even one instance of abuse. Please.
This was truly a very informative and practical video. I'm a boy in my late teens and listening to my female friends about their encounters with harrassment made me realise that thid is not something rare and those friends i used to meet everyday were carrying so much trauma behind their smiles. But still i see many boys in college or gym having zero respect for women, like they can't see women as humans with feelings. I try to fix the perspective of males close to me and even try to be better myself. I'm ashamed of what women has to go through because of men.
I'd like to request you to make a similar practical video for boys as well to fix their their perspective and learn to respect women. ❤️🩹
Hey Akshat, that's a good idea. Will work on this video
There are so many of them actually like archarya and shewtabh tell your friends about this
Hey akshat , thankyou for understanding and for ur concern also the society needs more gentlemans like you ✨
@@awesomeanime3644 Thankyou for your recommendations, I'll make sure to check these out and share them as well.
@@nehakapoor48 Thankyou for your kind words Neha. It's important for everyone to feel safe and respected ❤️
Adete Dahiya, Your videos are fantastic! I just had to subscribe!
The most problematic words NOT ALL MEN
Those aren't not problematic words! Those are accurate words! NOT ALL MEN are like that! Even Men are also protesting with Women! Your father is also a Man! Please think again before you say that!
yes, please stop trusting us!
@@prajju8114 trust on men long gone
@@agnishbrahma4858 my father is also a problematic man 🤷♀️ tho he passed away if he is alive I would never consider him as my inspiration
Yes NOT ALL MEN are bad but how are we suppose to know who is good or who is bad, women doesn't have any super power to know who is good or who is bad
@@Praneetha0713exactly!!!
Listen to me girls be independent be educated and always strive to learn something new make yourself your first priority be independent.and don't let anyone to insult you or abuse you so speak up for yourself stand by every girl who went through this be their emotional support and celebrate every girl's success as your own and make it your own inspiration to work towards yourself we have to eradicate the patriarchy from our society completely we are not the slave of men we deserve to be respected.
Its weird how it took an opposition party's crime to get highlighted for ppl to speak up. Varna toh hum rapists logo ko ticket dete hai aur maala chadhate h.
I cannot thank you enough for sharing this information ❤
Glad you spoke about this!! ❤️
⚠️TO ALL MEN HERE ⚠️
BRO IF YOU ARE A GOOD SENSIBLE GUY . U MUST FEEL HAPPY BECAUSE SHE NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU BUT MEN OF YOUR COMMUNITY AND WHEN WE TALK COLLECTIVELY ABOUT THINGS WE TALK IN A GENERALIZED WAY like human make pollution but u can't say that yooooo!!! I don't do it exclude me please. No that's not how it works men don't call out boys in their group who objectify womens because this will feel like their manhood is not strong i hev seen many good guys but when their freinds talk shit about gurls they don't correct them AND IF U CORRECT THEM THEN BE HAPPY AGAIN U ARE A GOLDEN MAN WHICH I THINK NOT EXIST TILL NOW ....ANYWAYS THIS VIDEO ONLY TRIGGER TO THOSE MEN WHO ARE REALLY LIKE THIS AS SHE SAID BECAUSE TRUTH HURTS .
@@Whogotucryinglikethat well said. Being a boy I completely understand this. Her intention is not to disrespect boys but they should do something to stop such incidents.
Always mens do raps, women never raps. I haven't heard single incident of any women rap*d men or done acid attack on him. But A boy always do this.
If mens stop doing raps then why anyone will target men ?
Those people who get angry bcoz of her words are so weak and napunsak. Don't give importance to them
@@bigbang3235 maybe because grape laws are not gender neutral...? How old are you..? 9.??
@@KashyapKashyap-zb5hg what do u mean explain. I know some women's are there doing false rape cases. And I also say such womens should be punished. But that doesn't mean real raps are not happening.
In india safety= restrictions 😅
sad but true
Yea but they let potential criminals walk around freely like insects from a very young age. Most Indian parents don't bother raising their sons right. They don't teach them moral values, check who they're hanging out with, whether their trying out d-ugs/alcohol behind their backs, etc
Humans are animals pretending to be different
I feel like crying i m so afraid after this incident but no one to share wid it feels like what u say is true no one really cares much . But listening to u feels like a therapy i feel better. Stay safe girls. Lots of luv and blessings to all of you ❤
feminists don't talk enough about the differences between men and women and the importance of family. feminists say that women should focus on their careers when they're young and that this will solve all their problems.If women only focus on their careers, it might be hard for them to have a good family, because as they get older, it becomes harder to have children. Feminists should think about these differences and encourage women to balance their careers with their personal lives, including having a family."
It's their choice whether to get married or not you are not the one who is going to tell how women should live their lives and everyone dies alone family doesn't need to just by blood
The most mature content regarding women safety. Things are getting messier and it doesn't seem to get better. This video brings more clarity in the everyone's mind. Thank you for this video.
The logical opposite of 'Not all men' is literally 'All men'.
I am not an indian. Not only women people are killed everyday, there are so much torture around the world that its a living hell. We just need to survive.
If it's towards a man they don't care
I am so happy I found your channel a long time ago. I Myself am the eldest daughter of my family and needed an elder sister too.
Thank you so much for sharing this video❤
The most important thing is to be emotionally independent.
Being financially independent or having a career is useless if your spouse is the one taking care of your bank accounts, credit cards, and tax return. You have to be independent in all ways and know how to handle your own money.
i am the eldest in my family. Like every older child, I always wanted a sister or brother older than me. You are becoming one. Thanks Adete! Your videos have really helped me.💗
Very nice didi salute ....
Am a men i know that we are shaped by that patriarchal society to some of problems are there within me sometimes unknowingly we don't treat women equally... But i guarantee you that i am working on myself and making change in me as well as myv surrounding....
Best vedio .....i request you to please make this vedio again or please use Hindi language if you're making this vedio in India. So that this message equally educates all women. Thank you.
thank you for making this video, i am a person who was trying to change myself as a man and this video gave me clarity about what I was searching for. I'll try to implement what I learn from this to the fullest potential.
As a man I totally agree. 👍🏻
Speak loud girls.
Chahe kuch v ho jaye apni maan ko mat chhune dena.
West Bengal as a whole is a very dangerous place for women. We had Sandeshkhali incident in which nothing happened. As a man and doctor, i would try my best to make a safe environment for my female collegues and protect them from pervert patients and people .
Another factor that often goes unnoticed is the entertainment and music industry... Such degrading and undermining songs are written about women and we are completely okay with it. It has become so common that we are starting to view it as non-offensive and normal.
Such songs should be boycotted and such songwriters should be shamed for how they view women and degrade them as a whole publicly.
While this got recommended to me and I am a man, I personally really can't stand the situation of women in this "country" if you can even call it one. And yes it is true that you *really should not trust whatever people comment online* , I would rather do whatever I can to want to help women (I say they are both the form Prakriti and Goddess Saraswati takes) so if there is more than speaking up and being decent then I'll do what it takes. As much as I would request any female reading this comment to be wary of any male including me commenting, I personally am interested in seeing a world and India where women be given the rights they deserve.
Finally, to live in a world where the worst can happen to your and my dear mother, sister, female friends and other females is just... I can't stand it I just want to see this abuse towards women stop.
I don't know if this is a feminist concept or not, but i believe that men and women are not equal at all. Both can do wrong things and crime so you can't blame someone based on Gender.
BUT the equality I demand are the human rights only. Just treat everyone as a human not a girl or boy. If they are wrong noth should be punished equally.
BUT they should also offered equal amount of safety to live.
For example if you think of rape as a kind of physical abuse where someone is using your body for their own pleasures.
So Boys , please imagine a physical abuse on your body where someone is beating you up and making you do a kind of physical work ,you don't wanna do.
Won't you feel disgusted?
Or imagine (like in movies that the world is taken up by monsters and then a hero saves us)
Imagine that kind of senerio where you can't go out as there are monsters outside your house(in disguise of a human) who can murder you at any point , even walking on road, going to a shop, your workplace etc.
Won't you feel horrified of who to trust?
So it's not about equality or feminism, it's a human right to feel safe.
And we have to eradicate those monsters whether they are male and female.
❤
compare rape with rape
so you're telling me that boys don't have reproductive parts or a body and they can't get raped? please compare rape with RAPE
Men and women are never and will never be equal.
Not just financial independence this includes self defense too.
Thank you so much 💓 true big sister energy, we love you
The main problem of our society is patriarchy and the guardians of patriarchy till these 2 exists in this society no women, child or trans can be safe.
Each word coming from you is something I have been trying to tell people around me for long . But they don't care .
Exactly 💯 it's too accurate! Such an outstanding Observation to the root of these cases 🥺❤.
Really grateful finally someone is talking about all these !!!
How everything is going round and round with these people's hypocrisy against women .....❤ Really appreciate it di!
Extremely Thankful as a women ❤....
Im not even from India but this is a problem woman face world wide so informative subscribed ❤
I think most of the parents should take this ideology off that there raja betas dont just become a grown a$$ man from being a toddler! They need to be taught about things...men are humans too...everything comes at certain because of the learning, bcz these things are taught...a teenager probably is a person with a brain of child and body of an adult...every human should be more encouraged to read good books atleast...and reading shouldn't be considered a hobby but a mandatory thing in people's life...getting educated about mathematics and science is indeed great but its still is done career wise tho reading more about helping oneself or about literally anything boosts the brain and cognition and let one's mind open to ground...
I want to add something....we need to change our focus from the victim to the culprits. It has been enough now to just tell girls about the problems, methods to safeguard ourselves etc from our childhood. The protective measures need to be taken by women but more importantly it is crucial to tell boys about the same, educate them, putting restrictions and treat them equally. From the childhood itself it has been taught that if you're a girl you cannot wear this, can't go out late night while their brothers are free to do anything. It naturally inculcates that "1 ache ghar ki ladki" vala stereotype and restrictions are only for women....its MEN & BOYS who needs focus nd protection from bad influences now!!
The best way of defense is to weaponize yourself and stay aware in any situation. Keep any kind of safety gadgets and always be aware of your surroundings. Both of my elder sisters are very strong and keep safety weapons together all the time when they are away from home. Don't be scared become stronger and make them fear you.
Dear Adete, thank you for using this platform to inform us women and pointing out our society's systemic challenges. More power to you!!
i really have been traumatized because of such cases, from young age i got to know the brutality and actually went through somethimg similar and blamed myself for months that i didnt speak up though i got justice by god as most mentally he is feeling my pain which i am greatful to let go off to live my life but i do have this question....how am i going to feel safe and achive things i always dreamed of when people in the socitety we live in have normalised such traumatical behaviour
thanku for saying these points which really made me feel better
ig every women out there have same question like me ...how i can live in this hideious world?
all i can pray is they have to go through the same pain such women have went through and it must be known to the rest of the world that and make them feared about such thoughts
may our future generations mainly women should never go through these never
My biological father belives that rape is natural, till recently my brother belived incestial rape happens because of lack of socializing between men and women
Both the claims are false, even claiming so degrades a man.
Immediately subscribed
Let me tell you my story:
I was going to my coaching class and i was wearing a full length kurta and totally covered. It was just 50m away from the center and since it was afternoon residential area, nobody was around. I suddenly felt a slap on my ass. Mind you i was wearing a fully covered dress. It was a guy with black shirt on red pulsar bike no helmet. He turned looks disgusting and he had a look of "tarak" in his eyes. Absolutely no fear. I still remember his face clearly even though its been 10 years. I screamt he left obviously.. that guy got no real balls ... Not one house opened the door. This is relatively in a safer city Hubli, north Karnataka.
Cut to after 4 years i was walking to meet my friend. 2 galis after the tution wala road. Suddenly light goes off and ofcourse i got scared. It was around 7 pm and no street light. I was running to meet him. I could see him standing in a bike waiting for me. The moment he saw me running he took the bike and turned as i was jogging/walking faster. There must be few meters of distance again same slap, same bike, same guy and this time i froze. Mostly i feel because it's pitch black. My friend followed him and he just disappeared in traffic as that red pulsar guy ran light and went in opposite direction of vehicle. I started crying. Went to a nearby shop with light, called up my parents and stay put.
We went to the police and no use, as we din see number plate itseems. That guy violated traffic signal but back then there were no cameras.
I am still petrified of red pulsar and walking alone on road. I either walk in a park or track. I feel even an innocent man walking behind me, i stop, i let him pass and then i walk. Even though i am in Bangalore currently. Those incidents scarred me deeply. I was not raped, but faced borderline harrasment. and still this is the fear and impact an incident can have despite this happened 7-10 years ago in a different city. I can only imagine what the rape victims across the world must have gone through. INDIA IS NOT FUCKING SAFE.
Ps: when i see a guy in police uniform. I dont feel protected, i feel scared. I shiver.
Now, all l want is to change my country, no judiciary for women here 😢thought to contribute to this country's development but now all l want is to leave. I can't spend my whole life protesting against this bullshit system in my country
The advice and the document was so damn helpful. More power to you. Lets stand against inequality of any kind. No matter what the gender.❤
@@LaVanilla19 Wimin should stop going for TALLER Men. They should find someone of Equal Height. That could be the first step.
@@modernman1240 yeah. Choices. Btw... what height would you like in a women*.
@@LaVanilla19 Irrelevant except if it's abnormal like D\/\/4rf or Freakishly Tall.
Also, I won't mind 'banging' in the latter case.
@@LaVanilla19 Are you going to say that Men like shorter Whamen.
If thats what you were going to say, lemme tell you a Sceret' That's a Complete LIE'. Men say that because they know Whamen will only go for Taller Men. So men are stuck with shorter Whamen.
@@LaVanilla19 Irrelevant except if it's abnormal like D\/\/4rf or Fre4kishly Tall.🫨
Also, I won't mind 'B4nging' in the latter case. 😎
Not me listening to this sitting around men in the train
There's good and bad in everything including women and men.
yes financially independent is very important.
Not all men but ALWAYS MEN
And all women are the same
Just like how it’s always women being gold diggers and misandrists 😂😂😂
may be ur father. not us.