9 Signs You're Being Manipulated & What To Do About It

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  • Опубликовано: 23 янв 2025

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  • @Shatakshi_099
    @Shatakshi_099 Месяц назад +70

    One of the most important trait of the manipulators are that they are way more clever than you could think of, they blame you though you haven't done anything and themselves become the victim and the most innocent person in the whole entire world. In order to deal with them you have to become even more clever than them. I have also been surrounded by manipulative and toxic friends and colleagues who always forced me to question my worth. Being a child either it leaves a scar on your mental and emotional health or you just gain that maturity that whatever you have been told about yourself by those manipulators is absolutely wrong.. your video is a boon for people to realise there self worth and take stand for themselves. Thank you so much Di❤

  • @anjanamohapatra52
    @anjanamohapatra52 13 дней назад +1

    Generally videos related to manipulation makes people anxious and confused but u made it so clear and after hearing the whole video this is so soothing and clear that what to do and what not to .
    Thanks and keep sharing such things ❤

  • @arentukaralekhya7050
    @arentukaralekhya7050 Месяц назад +41

    Videos suggestions
    1)how to stop postpone works
    2)how to stop expectations
    Plz do this this video's didi ❤🥰😍it's really help me alot

  • @greenpasturedaily
    @greenpasturedaily Месяц назад +25

    New month, new opportunities and new blessings. Claim it! 🌻

  • @rachelpandit
    @rachelpandit Месяц назад +34

    I am currently in CA Finals. I just gave my Final exams in November 24 and awaiting results. Currently I've been feeling dependent on many people around me and I could relate to being manipulated more often lately. Thankyou for sharing the Grey Rock Method. As far as it sails my boat till I qualify as a CA, I will use it for my own peace ❤❤

  • @Radhika14888
    @Radhika14888 Месяц назад +10

    Thank you for sharing all the signs and sharing solutions. All the solutions work IRL. I have applied them. Just one piece of advice to all who apply these solutions, don't get guilt-tripped by manipulators when you are grey-rocking them or keeping yourself out of the situation. They will try hard to get you in again but please be aware and don't think all the emotions you felt and faced were just your mind playing tricks on you it was real. They will try hard to keep you dependent on them (in most cases financially) but don't get caught up by them. Also, don't share any information about your progress or sensitive information about you or any plan of yours to move away from them. They might use it to control you.

  • @surbhimaloo8055
    @surbhimaloo8055 Месяц назад +10

    God bless u Adete...M also '93 born and a CA by profession ...but still sometimes people make me question my worth...
    But i have understood hard way that " How u feel about someone vs how they make u feel " i should remember.
    U r so apt in ur video...U go girl🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @EmilyJason-e1w
    @EmilyJason-e1w Месяц назад +91

    I feel like so many girls dont know the secrets we deserve to know. I found this book,' The Irresistible Seduction Formula' by Olivia Simmons and it’s literally life changer. Has anyone else heard of it?

    • @kaylacurtis111
      @kaylacurtis111 Месяц назад +1

      i heard about that book before i might buy it now

  • @purvapatil5735
    @purvapatil5735 Месяц назад +1

    Being aware of your surroundings is key to staying safe and making the most of every moment.😌
    Thank you so much Adu..❤ for making us LOOK UP, LOOK DOWN, AND TAKE IT ALL IN.🤗💓

  • @roshaniamin8466
    @roshaniamin8466 Месяц назад

    The fact that I could relate to all the signs is somehow now making me feel powerful. You said exactly what I needed to hear, thank you.

  • @thesky779
    @thesky779 Месяц назад +2

    I love how natural and normal person you seem.. just like us.. feelings very overwhelming by social media and their high standards of life & all bt i feel you're the one who feels like our person and person like us..

  • @June83964
    @June83964 Месяц назад +4

    Di, Thanks for sharing this . This was much needed ❤ I had to go through all of these manipulation tactics 🙄 but Some extra points too
    (MOSTLY AT THE STARTING OF THE RELATIONSHIP)
    10) They 'll try to create situations to put us in risk/ danger & tries to solve those problems themselves (SO THAT THEY COULD BE TRUSTWORTHY IN OUR EYES.)
    11) Always emotionally being available & also standing on our side trying to protect us in case of arguments with others.( SO THAT WE'LL BECOME MORE EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO THEM)
    12) Using a 3rd person to make us jealous. ( BECAUSE THE MANIPULATOR WANTS US TO BE MORE CLOSER TO THEM , IN THE FEAR OF LOSING. )
    13) They are skilled actors
    ( AT TIMES WHEN WE EVEN BECOME AWARE OF THESE SIGNS WE MIGHT NOT ABLE TO FULLY ADMIT THAT we are being manipulated by them because the way they react / respond to us is so natural ( BASICALLY HE IS A SOFT SPOKEN AMBIVERTED CHARMING & VERY ATTRACTIVE PERSON WITH ATTRACTIVE LOOKS it was even impossible for me to believe he was a manipulator but from many days of silently observing him I finally accepted the unknown darkside of him ( DUAL PERSONALITY...)
    GIRLS DON'T FALL FOR THE WRONG PERSON ❤
    GREEN FOREST IS ALWAYS A DISGUISED RED FLAG 🚩
    ONLY GREEN FLAGS CAN BE MORE REAL
    NOBODY IS PERFECT & IF U SEE AN EXCESSIVELY CHARMING PERSON that means he is deeply hiding things .😢

  • @inprogress9757
    @inprogress9757 Месяц назад +2

    This is one of the most important videos youll ever make, Adete. Thank you so much for your work

  • @susmitabanerjee2607
    @susmitabanerjee2607 Месяц назад +11

    Thank God I just have got to know about it 2 years ago and kick out the bad demon out of my life...she was the monster lady came in my life as my "best friend"... which turned out to be so dangerous.....but thanks to Hanuman ji...he opened my eyes ❤....and saved my career 😮‍💨.. thanks for picking this topic up Adete di❤

  • @ajsujit
    @ajsujit Месяц назад +5

    It's traumatic for me to even listen to different manipulation techniques. It helped when you started talking about remedies at 17:20.
    Don't you think only a morally bankrupt person who lacks empathy can become a manipulator? I can't think a person with even a little bit of empathy & kindness would do such a thing.
    It fills me with immense and crushing guilt when I think about manipulating my manipulator back even though I recognize that it's the right thing to do & I'm only acting in self-defense. Thanks for the video.
    👍

    • @AdeteDahiya
      @AdeteDahiya  Месяц назад +3

      Hey, sadly most people are manipulative at one time or another. Anyone particularly who is or has grown up in strict or restrictive surroundings (whether it's a strict household, or a strict community, culture etc) are more likely to be manipulators because that's how they learnt to cope with their circumstances. Also people with psychological issues like narcissism, psycopathy, sociopathy etc can be master manipulators. Those with high levels of empathy, however, are not. They are very less likely to be found on this spectrum.
      These techniques are therefore important to understand, not only from the perspective of self preservation, but to also understand when we are indulging in these behaviours or what might trigger us into being the manipulator instead of the manipulated.
      Hope this helps

    • @ajsujit
      @ajsujit Месяц назад

      ​@@AdeteDahiyathat was very insightful. Thank you for taking the effort to give a detailed response.

  • @Garima2837
    @Garima2837 Месяц назад +2

    This is such a well made video. All the point are so well explained. I think it is very difficult for manipulators to understand that they are being manipulated if it has become a routine. This video will be extremely helpful for them. Also I love how you have included practical solutions to these problems. Thank you so so much for making such insightful videos!

  • @rimavictoria
    @rimavictoria Месяц назад

    Hi, my name is Rima. I have been watching your RUclips videos since the middle of this year, and I must say they are the most enjoyable ones I've come across. I’ve become completely addicted to them, but it’s the kind of addiction that I consider positive because I’m accepting good things and putting them into practice. I don’t see any fault in being addicted to such content. 😊
    Another thing is that your videos have brought a lot of new insights into my life. So, I sincerely hope you continue to create more high-quality content like this because I genuinely love it. Love you! ❤️

  • @shruthys7035
    @shruthys7035 Месяц назад +6

    Perfect timing!! I needed this video

  • @irfaaparveen3085
    @irfaaparveen3085 Месяц назад +3

    i was thinking about this since a long but after this video my thoughts got a term . this is really true. it will help me a lot

  • @bhagyajayakumar8269
    @bhagyajayakumar8269 Месяц назад +1

    I haven't started watching the video yet but I still wanna thank you for making this video!!😭😭😭😭

  • @XXTheDreamGirlXX
    @XXTheDreamGirlXX Месяц назад +1

    You're a very brave girl, spitting out all the truth❤️

  • @Billionaire_Standards
    @Billionaire_Standards День назад

    Current favorite influencer on youtube

  • @poulamighosh2212
    @poulamighosh2212 Месяц назад +9

    Now my sunday is complete ❤

  • @sakshiKumari-ru2rx
    @sakshiKumari-ru2rx Месяц назад +1

    Please bring more psychology videos. The way you gave solutions was really helpful!!!!thank you ❤❤❤❤

  • @Sapnanehraofficial0588
    @Sapnanehraofficial0588 Месяц назад +1

    It's very helpful for those are the people's who has been getting manupulate since years ,by their own parents and family 😢,now they have become habitual of it and they can't even identify they facing the criticism, feeling guilty without doing anything wrong and critsing their own self constantly 💔, regerting whenever they are right and deny their manipulter to do what they want ,it has become now normal to them , because it's not a first time ,but it happening since long,now they can not recognise what's actually happening in their own life ,hope it will give clarity to them 😊,and will stop to harming their own self ❤,and let it by the manipulter arround them.

  • @aryayadav9745
    @aryayadav9745 Месяц назад +1

    Just obsessed wid ur channel adete😩🎀

  • @roopalsharma1732
    @roopalsharma1732 Месяц назад +1

    Favourite channel…how this video came up at the perfect time for me❤❤❤❤❤

  • @ManishaSharma-yj2lq
    @ManishaSharma-yj2lq Месяц назад +1

    guilt tripping
    constant cristism
    Gaslighting
    passive aggressiveness
    information withholding
    triangulation
    downplay your problem
    dual personality
    solutions
    setting boundaries
    grey rock method -not responding
    become a manipulator
    be a crappy loot box
    separate your emotions from your actions

  • @user-rp7ew5ci8w
    @user-rp7ew5ci8w Месяц назад

    One of the best videos Adete ❤. Could you please do one on how to deal with narcissistic personalities as well?
    Thanks x

  • @deepakchhaparia9484
    @deepakchhaparia9484 Месяц назад +2

    I needed this❤

  • @AgnelGawdhya
    @AgnelGawdhya Месяц назад +2

    5. Dual Personality ❌ Hundred Personality ✅

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад +2

    21:50 law of conservation of manipulation 😂😂😂❤

  • @mahantamoni93
    @mahantamoni93 Месяц назад

    Yes u r right every person have different way to hurts. It's really sad😢

  • @Shruush
    @Shruush Месяц назад +2

    This was very much needed ❤🎀

  • @AayeshaWani
    @AayeshaWani Месяц назад

    Damn.... The topic we need.... Your video has all the topics we need on manipulation (manipulators gotta watch it...sharing to some of them😅... Thanks for your hardwork
    Stay healthy

  • @Par_ul___
    @Par_ul___ Месяц назад +1

    I usually don't comment on any video...buttt GIRLLLL youuuuu are justttt goddess like i literally needed this videoooo and you came up w it ..when I was seeing the video I just wanted ki yeh kbhi khtm hi na hoo...ilysmmmmm

  • @lifeasagirl-l8h
    @lifeasagirl-l8h Месяц назад +2

    Heeeyyyy dear❤ from morning i am waiting for your video.... Lots of love from Andhra Pradesh

  • @shireenahmed7450
    @shireenahmed7450 Месяц назад

    This such an amazing informative video there are so much important advice to take back.please more videos like this from your life lessons cause most of us have been or going through things like this. Looking forward to more of ur videos ❤

  • @anjanamohapatra52
    @anjanamohapatra52 13 дней назад +1

    Thanku so much 😊
    Love u a lot dii ❤❤❤
    U have been a helper, a guide and a mentor to me in many important parts of my life 😊🙂👍🏻
    Keep going diii ❤ love u a lot and I literally live your videos 😊😊😊😊

  • @ahana4923
    @ahana4923 26 дней назад

    I'm grateful that I had watch this video 🥺

  • @FunZoneer
    @FunZoneer Месяц назад

    There's always a fine line between asking parents to Respect your choices , opinions and Disrespecting them that one needs to be very careful of
    Because the fact of the matter still is that yes they're absolutely right in saying that they have done everything for you, they have made countless sacrifices for you which you think every parent would do but nowadays with the concept of parents disowning their child, abandoning their child and other disturbing things coming up on social media it really makes you sit back and think that what they've done for you isn't something to ever be taken granted for

  • @bhagyashreeborde4060
    @bhagyashreeborde4060 Месяц назад +2

    Your my favourite youtuber infact my big sister 🥰💌
    Lots of love 💕

  • @Sunidhi-b9f
    @Sunidhi-b9f Месяц назад +1

    I feel guilty and I am blaming myself for something that I didn't did intentionally 😔 I know it was was my fault but I can't escape from this feeling🥺🥺 I really didn't mean to hurt anyone 😞
    And now I am hurting myself for hurting them🥺

  • @hempriyaraj6708
    @hempriyaraj6708 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you so much Di this is really helpful. ❤❤

  • @ebenezeri7336
    @ebenezeri7336 Месяц назад

    such valuable insights from you mam, seems like a person mastered in psychology! kuddos mam! need more stuffs like this keep goin mam>

  • @prachiverma1179
    @prachiverma1179 Месяц назад +1

    Recently I came across to your channel and then I subscribed after watching your videos and now I'm addicted to your channel , your content is actually very inspiring for every girl , the way you guide us and share your experiences just like an elder sister and as you'd told in one of your video that for improving our communication skills we should consume content in English and for that I always sit and watch your videos and from each video of yours I learn something and day by day my English communication skills are improving as well... Thank you so muchh for all the efforts you put to form these kinds of videos for us.. I really love you dii ❤

  • @RitaJadhao
    @RitaJadhao Месяц назад

    YOU SAVED ME!!❤

  • @sukanyasahu9608
    @sukanyasahu9608 Месяц назад

    One of the best videos

  • @jetylinemaryjacobadukalil2827
    @jetylinemaryjacobadukalil2827 Месяц назад

    Most needed one

  • @devsanjay7063
    @devsanjay7063 Месяц назад

    Waiting for your video eagerly and if fully watched its my end of Sunday 🙏🙏thanks adete

  • @merlinthomas8911
    @merlinthomas8911 Месяц назад +1

    I was waiting for your video😊

  • @damnsam13
    @damnsam13 Месяц назад

    Your videos have always came to me at the right time! Thankyou for being you and making content like this!🤍

  • @anukoolthapa
    @anukoolthapa Месяц назад +6

    Here's a concise summary of the video "9 Signs You're Being Manipulated & What To Do About It":
    Key Manipulation Tactics:
    1. Guilt-Tripping: Making someone feel guilty to control their actions
    2. Love Bombing: Showering affection initially, then withdrawing it to manipulate
    3. Constant Criticism: Continually belittling to create self-doubt
    4. Gaslighting: Making you question your memory and reality
    5. Passive-Aggressiveness: Using silent treatment or subtle taunts to control
    6. Withholding Information: Keeping key details as leverage
    7. Humiliation: Making jokes at your expense to undermine self-esteem
    8. Triangulation: Getting others to side against you
    9. Downplaying Your Problems: Always trying to appear as the bigger victim
    Strategies to Handle Manipulation:
    1. Gray Rock Method: Become emotionally unresponsive
    2. Appear Weak: Strategically frame interactions to reduce manipulator's emotional reward
    3. Separate Emotions from Actions: Feel emotions without immediately acting on them
    Key Advice:
    - Recognize manipulation early
    - Set boundaries carefully
    - Seek professional help if needed
    - Ultimately, try to distance yourself from manipulators when possible

  • @yogitameera
    @yogitameera Месяц назад

    everything of whatever you said happened to me . i cant decide anything because of that .

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад

    22:26 Devesh Dixit after accident or shock ( stand up comic)😂😂

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад

    In the wider spectrum manipulation is essential and conservative , if you get manipulative you want to manipulate others for the same
    Example:if your mother is emotionally manipulated to do something that you don't want to buy you do, the same way you tend to manipulate your friend or colleague to do your port of work,❤

  • @gargeeN
    @gargeeN Месяц назад +1

    Hello Adete please please make a video on --> " How not get affected by the people's behaviour around you "...I am unable to find solution for it!

  • @Lessons_Learned_04
    @Lessons_Learned_04 Месяц назад +1

    What a timing of this video

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад +2

    23:06 act like Nobita 😂😂

  • @soumilighosh452
    @soumilighosh452 Месяц назад

    Thank u for this very relatable and required video

  • @divyam1741
    @divyam1741 Месяц назад

    Love you dear.thank you so much this is very helpful .

  • @keshhh._20
    @keshhh._20 Месяц назад

    Absolutely great video❤️
    But the amount of ads you've put into this video is something very disappointing, coz I'm a person who listens to your videos while doing any work, coz other than that I've got study to do, the only time I can here you is while doing any work, which is why I can't skip the ads and it hinders my focus to the video!! Will request you to improve that 🙌

  • @vivekvb281
    @vivekvb281 Месяц назад

    It happening around me always 😢

  • @sakshiKumari-ru2rx
    @sakshiKumari-ru2rx Месяц назад

    How to handle a toxic in law's house?
    And how to respond to people who constantly compare you and say bad things on your face(relatives)

    • @aadityadahiya8575
      @aadityadahiya8575 Месяц назад +1

      Don't give importance these toxic people and their word they doing comparing thing just because its feel you unhappy, just focus to improve life

    • @aadityadahiya8575
      @aadityadahiya8575 Месяц назад

      Once you financial independent, just say to them go to hell

    • @sakshiKumari-ru2rx
      @sakshiKumari-ru2rx Месяц назад

      ​@@aadityadahiya8575🙏 Thanks

  • @Ssc_aspirant_Divya
    @Ssc_aspirant_Divya Месяц назад

    Sorry it is adete ❤❤ good content

  • @yourfoodstories1619
    @yourfoodstories1619 Месяц назад

    I want to know about my passive aggression trait. Whenever conflicts arise, I bury everything under the rug, and if needed, I will discuss the issues upfront. I have observed that since there are not many people bothered about my anger, I tend to get passive-aggressive and would get silent. I have tried to talk across, but the silent treatment allows me to protect myself. Am I being manipulated into it, or am I the manipulator? I have been on both sides of getting the silent treatment and giving it to others. But my aggression is born out of hopelessness with bundles of miscommunication and twisted meanings.

  • @Miss_editzz3
    @Miss_editzz3 Месяц назад +1

    How to stop expectations...make a video on it plssss

  • @popcornpot7421
    @popcornpot7421 Месяц назад

    Need help with emotional manipulation! Video on hot and cold technique, please?

  • @khushigupta70
    @khushigupta70 Месяц назад

    you are life saver . 😭

  • @harshavardhini7805
    @harshavardhini7805 Месяц назад

    Can you talk about depression and how to overcome it?

  • @anverreehan9983
    @anverreehan9983 Месяц назад +1

    Sister I have a question that I'm from a middle class family . I save my pocket money and I buy some useful or things I loved to buy from online shopping. after the things get in my hands they'll be like why didn't you tell about this earlier? It's better to tell us(to my parents ) before take decisions !.
    But I don't like it because I saved the pocket money they gave me and now I am an adult like I'm 18 years old. Then why would you expect me to tell all about the decision I have take in my life ?! . What the heck is their problem . Is it my problem or theirs ? . Tell me the answer please !? . Because I'm so confused. If i have problem in my side I'll try to change it . But if there any problem in their side I'll understand that's not my problem . It's theirs . Right ?

  • @likithadantuluri4491
    @likithadantuluri4491 Месяц назад +1

    Omgg i just love her such good vid woww

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад

    19:25 I practice it by not noticing it 😂❤

  • @abisharufina
    @abisharufina Месяц назад

    Thank youu❤

  • @pavithrarajakumar5215
    @pavithrarajakumar5215 Месяц назад +1

    Dual personality but I think many of the couples like most couples fight in their homes yet be polite and kind to the other..I think it happens in relationships and marriages not talking about domestic violence but arguments,fights all of us can't do with anyone right?? To our colleague or other persons as we don't have rights towards them..most of the people I have seen as couples fight a lot with themselves and living happily..is this a dual personality or what?? Everyone have different equation with everyone and has some level of comfort level ryt?

  • @hiameena9682
    @hiameena9682 Месяц назад

    Best video ❤

  • @zzzz-tb4rq
    @zzzz-tb4rq Месяц назад

    hello sister, I really need a video on how to improve communication and on how to interact with people of different language (I'm a South indian, I have trouble talking and stutter a lot)

  • @RituYadav-vy5uk
    @RituYadav-vy5uk Месяц назад

    Love your video di ❤❤

  • @pranjaliverma6922
    @pranjaliverma6922 Месяц назад +1

    So trueee 😢

  • @Jasmineitisss
    @Jasmineitisss Месяц назад

    Faced this when I was 16-17 🙂🙂

  • @ashunegi358
    @ashunegi358 Месяц назад

    very helpful

  • @diresaami
    @diresaami Месяц назад

    very usefullllll

  • @Class10th_ak
    @Class10th_ak Месяц назад +1

    Thank you

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад

    23:39 be like VIRUS in 3 idiot's 😂😂😂

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад +2

    25:45 26 mins is not long at all 😂😂

  • @shriya1500
    @shriya1500 Месяц назад

    Can u do a video about teenage business ideas?

  • @akritiawasthi6
    @akritiawasthi6 Месяц назад

    Adete plzz plzz make a video on how to deal with toxic parents?

  • @AaryanManyala
    @AaryanManyala Месяц назад

    20:57 peaky Blinders 😂❤

  • @Kelly_-tv8wi
    @Kelly_-tv8wi Месяц назад

    Regarding love bombing, I do love bomb my partner. I give him so many gifts etc. But all that comes genuinely from my heart. Am i inadvertently manipulating?

  • @vocabocean
    @vocabocean Месяц назад

    Hi! di❤🌟
    Did you read book ( the laws of human nature).

  • @mustaqueansari3879
    @mustaqueansari3879 Месяц назад +1

    Apka smile bhot cute hai

  • @rohitjaiswal3462
    @rohitjaiswal3462 Месяц назад

    Please from perspectives of both man and woman

  • @shahinyaqub7
    @shahinyaqub7 Месяц назад +1

    After watching this video I realized that I am a manipulator😢😢

    • @sb853547
      @sb853547 Месяц назад

      That is a growth go seek some help

  • @Ritubhati06
    @Ritubhati06 Месяц назад

    All the points in this video were very accurate and I can easily relate BUT just wanna say, don't generalize by saying "Indian parents" again and again, not everyone's parents show this behaviour including mine and I have multiple friends who have extremely supportive parents

    • @AdeteDahiya
      @AdeteDahiya  Месяц назад +1

      sure. noted

    • @Ritubhati06
      @Ritubhati06 Месяц назад

      @@AdeteDahiya love how you take every remark positively❤

  • @winnie2144
    @winnie2144 Месяц назад

    Pls can u make video on online manipulation too

  • @abhilash7381
    @abhilash7381 Месяц назад

    You are now manipulating me, not fair...

    • @sb853547
      @sb853547 Месяц назад

      Clearly you don't know what manipulation is. Maybe you are one. Go seek some help sir

  • @NakshatraH.J.26480
    @NakshatraH.J.26480 Месяц назад

    Hi di , I want you to make a very detailed video for year 2025 which includes each and every areas of our life to become the bestest version of us .
    And one more thing i am preparing for my competitive exam so for that i want you to recommend me some very useful youtube channels which will help me in my exam preparation. Thank you.

  • @Vasudevnamah5
    @Vasudevnamah5 18 дней назад

    So be single and work for nature and society with no expectations

    • @AdeteDahiya
      @AdeteDahiya  18 дней назад

      Manipulation does not just happen in romantic relationships

  • @nevergiveup6127
    @nevergiveup6127 Месяц назад +3

    Under 25 sec❤😊

  • @Ssc_aspirant_Divya
    @Ssc_aspirant_Divya Месяц назад

    Aditi ❤❤