5 Inhuman Things a Narcissist Does To Torture You

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  • @narcabusecoach
    @narcabusecoach  Месяц назад +22

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  • @user7-o9w
    @user7-o9w Месяц назад +252

    It takes a special kind of cruelty to be jealous of a pet, but narcissists always find a way.

    • @Isabela2024-yr
      @Isabela2024-yr Месяц назад +15

      Actually, the narcissist beat the cat to hurt the owner. Poor cat.

    • @S.L.Aubourg
      @S.L.Aubourg Месяц назад +14

      Literally my two cats went missing with in the same week. Two beloved cats . I cried and begged my mom to help me find them. To this day I think she got rid of them on purpose. We drove around one time and she made me feel so horrible for making her do that.
      Also my gaming system I absolutely loved ( disappeared) . I loved to read because it was my only escape , but she was come in and just snatch my book saying I’m reading too much.
      I’m telling y’all some people are evil. The smile when I cry I will never forget . Sadistic

    • @seameology
      @seameology Месяц назад +28

      Also jealous of children. Even their own.

    • @mearaftadewos8508
      @mearaftadewos8508 Месяц назад

      How about their own children and grand children born and grown before their own eyes. You’re own blood! They are evil.

    • @PolinaB.G
      @PolinaB.G Месяц назад +6

      I experienced the opposite with my narc husband, totally ignoring me as a human being and giving his absolute full time and attention to the pet (which was actually my pet for 10 years prior and he insulted this beautiful white cat calling her "white rat" in the beginning 😢

  • @leafyveins4985
    @leafyveins4985 Месяц назад +161

    They train you to curl up into a little ball and hide from the world. Nothing makes them happier. Nothing. So to win, you have to go and find something that makes you happy. It's understandable that you want to hide, but please don't give up. Don't stay stuck. Don't let them win. You are worthy of living; you are worthy of a satisfying life; you are worthy. Get up and grow, paint, cook, read, write, play, and work. Sing your life. You deserve every moment.

    • @roberth4395
      @roberth4395 Месяц назад +12

      People need to learn this.
      Many people who experienced long term narcissistic abuse chose to have no friends, no family and no kids.
      This is the ultimate victory of a narcissist.
      The only way to win is to become an extraordinary person and to be happy.

    • @minilevi8465
      @minilevi8465 Месяц назад +4

      Yes

    • @yamisomad3486
      @yamisomad3486 Месяц назад +3

      Thank you ❤

    • @time_2_get_ready
      @time_2_get_ready Месяц назад +2

      Thank you, I needed that 💞 .

    • @roberth4395
      @roberth4395 Месяц назад +3

      @@Songbirds321 I hope you are goig to live an amazing life. Just keep building your skills, confidence and boundaries(up to a healthy level).

  • @annjohnson8437
    @annjohnson8437 Месяц назад +75

    This is all soooo true! Life with a narcissistic person destroys you. 😢

  • @shell1951
    @shell1951 Месяц назад +112

    I'll never forget how angry my narc mother would become when friends would be over and we were having fun

    • @prophet1782
      @prophet1782 Месяц назад +7

      I was in Grade 3. I had two or three friends from neighbour in a room at home. It was early night.
      Narc mum came in the room and just beat me up. She only said ," What you doing? "
      I am 72 . Till today i couldn't figure out why she did that ?
      This happened in 1961. I found out today on 6/9/24 why she did that. { no.5} Thanks Danish. You leading the World.

    • @Conscious59
      @Conscious59 Месяц назад +4

      Wow, you had a narc Mom & were allowed to have friends over? I never had friends over & only went to other's homes (which created very unbalanced relationships w/other narc frenemies-go figure) that mirrored the same energy as hers. Today I isolate sharing a small 1 bedroom apt w/my aging narc Mom who NEVER wanted me to leave her, get married. God forgive them. They are wounded people but still have so much to answer for... Yeah, definitely the 'no-fun-zone' w/narc Mothers. In a way, good I never thought myself deserving of love & to share my life w/a wonderful man. She would've found a way to destroyed that too by embarrassing/betraying me. I've heard stories of how they try to ruin your special days (weddings, etc.)

    • @shell1951
      @shell1951 Месяц назад +2

      @@Conscious59 no, you are correct, I never had friends over as a child. The anger happen after I was an adult and we were all adults in the room yet she would throw a raging fit if anyone else was having fun or just a nice friendly time

    • @romancecatsandwhimsy
      @romancecatsandwhimsy Месяц назад +1

      My mom was exactly like that!

    • @Wakka144
      @Wakka144 20 дней назад

      My mom wouldn’t let me have friends over.

  • @lukebradshaw
    @lukebradshaw Месяц назад +46

    Aww, how heartbreaking. I pictured poor little Danish with tears streaming down his face. Despite all the abuse you endured, you turned out to be a great and caring man.

  • @donnasieli2158
    @donnasieli2158 Месяц назад +61

    When I learn of children killing their parents I think about what abuse they suffered before they snapped. They can provoke you into outrageous hate for them! OMG! I knew someone whose home I visited that had no doors on the bedrooms or the bathroom either. Now I know why...the family has divorced many years ago and he got life in prison. Keep shining the light Danish and thank you so much!!!

    • @S.L.Aubourg
      @S.L.Aubourg Месяц назад +6

      Me too . I don’t excuse it but I wonder what they must of endured . Usually it’s some form of abuse.

    • @lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285
      @lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 Месяц назад

      @@donnasieli2158 omg

    • @AdmiringGreyElephant-fw4hc
      @AdmiringGreyElephant-fw4hc Месяц назад +3

      Much love to you Danish,and all those who have been through these things. My partner poison ed my champion mare. I loved her mote than any man in my life. She suffered for four days. He laughed and played loyd music when i had to have her put down.
      May God rebuke him.

    • @TinaWard13_113
      @TinaWard13_113 Месяц назад +1

      ​@@AdmiringGreyElephant-fw4hc I'm so sorry that you had to go through that losing something that you loved so much. They get off on other people's misery (that they made) mind you... It's TOTALLY insane what these monsters, do to those that love them. 😮😢

    • @lemsip207
      @lemsip207 23 дня назад

      ​​I had a narcissist friend like that. She only wanted me to visit on a day that was most inconvenient to me which was Sunday. There are fewer buses on Sundays so I would cycle in all weathers to her flat only to be then kicked out after an hour or two. She was actually available on Saturdays and I could combine the trip with one to the Saturday morning farmers market nearby beforehand. But she didn't want that compromise and wanted to put me out. So I developed a boundary by designating Sundays as my chilling at home day once I had gone out to buy food. No visiting people or receiving visitors on Sundays for me from then on.
      I won't be cycling for over two miles in the rain or catching two buses to visit someine who hates my company so much they can only tolerate it for one hour or at a push two hours while the TV is on in the background. I also made it clear that I didn't visit her to watch TV especially the rubbishy ones she preferred when I have a TV at home with lots of channels. Months later she was bleating that I hadn't visited her in that time and that she 'missed' my company. I told her exactly why I hadn't.
      Narcissists also invite you round an hour before someone else is due to arrive such as a support worker, another 'friend', a plumber or family member so they have an excuse to get you to leave then. It also makes them look more popular than they really are. The rest of the week they have no visitors and see no one and then one day in the week arrange back to back visits from friends and to the homes of friends.
      These are friend collectors who end up having very few friends as their former friends picked up they weren't really liked by the friend collector. Friend collectors like showing off to each friend how many other friends they have. They don't even enjoy the company of each friend they have. When you ask them if they actually like that person they are going to see next they are stumped. They don't see their friends as individuals in their own right or fully formed but aa generic people who are supposed to only like the latest fads or the same things as they do. If someone shows they are an individual the friend collector then says "Why can't you adapt and go with the flow?"

  • @NoliesonLysatya
    @NoliesonLysatya Месяц назад +66

    My dad sadistically encroached my physical and mental space by making sure I had no privacy and no means to find an outlet to escape his tyranny. Doors and windows had to be open at all times, schoolbag was inspected daily for story books borrowed from the library because they were considered a form of escapism, music was banned, letters were opened and read, gifts from relatives were confiscated and given to charity, pets were abused… he even befriended my teachers and friends so that he had control over their judgement of me. My childhood was an absolute nightmare.

    • @BNyaB
      @BNyaB Месяц назад +5

      🥺🥺

    • @lolabear6788
      @lolabear6788 Месяц назад +11

      I’m so sorry this happened to you! How horrible. Unrelenting cruelty.

    • @NoliesonLysatya
      @NoliesonLysatya Месяц назад +14

      @@lolabear6788 Tks for the kind words, dear❤️. The harder he tried to break me, the stronger I became and that was his ultimate defeat. He died knowing he lost.

    • @sangeethakalaivanan4127
      @sangeethakalaivanan4127 Месяц назад +2

      I am even worried about my child. He is 18 months old now

    • @jaker-dt6fw
      @jaker-dt6fw Месяц назад +6

      My dad is the world's biggest psychopath.

  • @rememberselfcare
    @rememberselfcare Месяц назад +53

    I thought i was crazy bc what normal person would destroy my stuff on purpose and hurt the dog. Ty for the confirmation that I'm not.

    • @Four4Hundred2Twenty0
      @Four4Hundred2Twenty0 Месяц назад +1

      We had a dog that would shake if my dad raised his voice. We adopted 2 cats after he left and the most well behaved kitties and I think it's because they didn't get to experience him.

  • @lindafolks
    @lindafolks Месяц назад +16

    To add fuel to their cruelty is that “evil smirk!”
    That’s when you are seeing Satan himself!!
    Yes another evil is taking your music or music making and give it to someone else in your presence and praise/nurture their talent!
    Zero privacy is what you will have with a narcissist!
    You are in a guilt and manipulation trap as long as they are in your life!!
    💯💯💯Danish!!
    God bless you!!

    • @DoHisProphetsNoHarm
      @DoHisProphetsNoHarm 24 дня назад

      Truth!

    • @lemsip207
      @lemsip207 23 дня назад

      Psychopaths are demonic entities or the nearest thing to a demon on earth for those who don't believe in a spiritual realm. My last boyfriend's daughter was like that. She was a wolf in sheep's clothing and only I could see it at the time. She poured scorn on everything I enjoyed. He had spoilt her as a child so had created a monster in her. He still wouldn't have boundaries. When she turned up at any time to yabba yabba with her boring monologues he would sit and listen and not tell her that a conversation needs to be shared so all present can have a say.
      Then her son started doing that too and delivered his boring monologues to my ex before school and not even gave me eye contact let alone allow me to have my turn to speak. One day he turned up at around 8am after I had got up and my ex was still in bed and I told him to get out of the house after he had marched in and left the front door open on a cold January day. Then my ex's daughter turns up saying that it was her son's house too as he spent the first six years of his life there so I shouldn't have told him to leave. I replied that he no longer lived in that house. Even if my ex had allowed him to live in that house my ex was the official tenant and head of the household and shouldn't have allowed him to behave so disrespectfully there.
      I used to think that if my ex owned a mansion to live in he would only live in a small part of it on the ground floor while his family would have the run of the rest of it. He would have a small self contained flat for himself built in it. But that still wouldn't stop the children in his family marching into his private quarters in the mansion as my ex would leave the door to his flat unlocked.

  • @yugenknows740
    @yugenknows740 Месяц назад +11

    "Subtle yet horrible" explains it perfectly.

  • @Conscious59
    @Conscious59 Месяц назад +11

    Danish, i am so happy that you went no contact & free from that toxicity. God is using you now to help the rest of us that lost decades to this type of abuse & still going through this.

  • @sandrasandra2724
    @sandrasandra2724 Месяц назад +43

    You forgot to mention that narcissists a lot of times attack a person without a real reason and then they say that it is because you are like this or like that - it makes you feel very insecure and fearful all the time.

    • @clairechloe5294
      @clairechloe5294 Месяц назад +1

      Yes, very very true. 👍💯👍. My narcissistic younger female sibling did it to me. She just hated me for me being myself, minding ny own business, self-confident and being introvert. So at last I went no contact with her many years ago. The best decision I ever made forever. 👍💯👍

    • @TinaWard13_113
      @TinaWard13_113 Месяц назад +2

      That's how my narc BF is making me feel right now. All I have to do is breathe and it makes him hate me even more. The more I try to please him , it just seems to amplify even greater and greater. I can literally feel his dark aura trying to strangle me even when he's not around. He's gone to work and I can FEEL his toxic energy all over the back of my neck and upper back. It is AWFUL how much it's crushing me on the inside RIGHT NOW at this VERY moment.

    • @sandrasandra2724
      @sandrasandra2724 Месяц назад +1

      @@TinaWard13_113 , I am so sorry to hear that! Run away from him as soon as possible!

  • @DenaKaye13
    @DenaKaye13 Месяц назад +37

    OMG, right out of the gate! 💯 Yes, Danish! This is how my dad ruined my consulting business. I was seeing about him after my Mom died. I worked from our shared home and only traveled to sites for audits when needed.
    He would constantly interrupt me while I was concentrating and would interrupt my business phone calls & in-office meetings. He told his family I wasn’t working or doing anything. They helped him try to destroy me. I bounced back. 💖

    • @dv52528
      @dv52528 Месяц назад +1

      My mum does the same when I am on the phone.

    • @shivakrishnan9206
      @shivakrishnan9206 Месяц назад +1

      DenaKaye13, I have experienced the same thing too and well I had to end all the ties with a narcissistic father ( well I hate to call him a father) ..Danish your data is parallel with free volunteer minister course from Scientology and it is known as cause of suppression. Now it is upto you if you want to check it out or not and I am not going to emphasize much on that. Overall I like most of your videos, they are good and keep communicating!!

    • @DenaKaye13
      @DenaKaye13 Месяц назад

      @@shivakrishnan9206 ❤️

    • @orandachildren1051
      @orandachildren1051 Месяц назад +1

      My narc father told me I slept all day when I worked two jobs 7 days a week from 7 ro 11pm at night for 6 months and was almost never home except to sleep at night.

    • @DenaKaye13
      @DenaKaye13 Месяц назад

      @@orandachildren1051 Isn’t it infuriating?😡 I empathize with you 🤍

  • @Liz-Grace
    @Liz-Grace Месяц назад +11

    My nar husband gave away my family heirloom china dishes from my mother who passed away. They meant so much to me. I just cried and cried. He smiled. He also took away my art space and had my supplies put out in the garage instead. He has made me lift heavy things and overwork until my legs gave out. He would come into the bathroom when I was using the toilet, or when I was getting dressed, or in the shower. I learned to dress in the closet, and take showers after he went to bed. I live like a frightened child waiting for him to jump out or creep up behind me. He would wait til I was asleep and then start coughing loudly. I became exhausted. He kicked my dog and was so impatient with him when he was old and didn’t shed a tear when he was put to sleep. Meanwhile I cried and cried. He scared me often, sneaking up behind to tickle my neck or grab my waist. I told him to stop but he continued. Or sneaking up behind me when I was near a high window or on a steep hill. He sprays pesticides constantly and has an entire room of yard fertilizers and ant sprays. I have to wash out my water glasses and watch my food because I don’t trust him. He listens outside the door to my rare phone conversations to a friend or family member. I don’t have many friends left as he separated me from them. He got sued and made me pay for it. Lost all of our retirement. He lost a lot of our money to crooks but never saw his part in it. He enjoyed when my dad died. I got sick and he liked that too. He never gets sick. How is this. He invited his guy friend over, then made me sit and talk to the friend all day while he listened for information or vulnerabilities he could use against me. He told his friends I was a bad mom, and too out of shape to climb a hill when it was his injuries that hurt my leg. My kids said I was a good mom. He always went to the kids school and tried to get the teachers to like him. Like he was the only parent. He made fun of me sleeping in. Obviously I am tired. He made fun of my height. He never complimented me. I cooked, cleaned, got the groceries, kept a tidy home, and was once beautiful. He hated me because I was a kind, open, honest person. Now I am closed off and pessimistic and distrustful after living with him. I am planning to leave but he has financial control over me. He has a nice truck but I drive an old van. I had to get the neighbor to help with car maintenance even though he could have done it . He has equipment, 15 guitars, a tractor, a huge work shed, an office, a music room. I just stay in one room. He talks on the cell phone or reads the news constantly. He thinks he owns me and the kids and our house. He always has to make himself look great while putting me down. I used to be confident and happy before I met him. Now I am just so weak and depressed. I feel there is no way to get out. It’s so tangled. He thrives on chaos and complicates everything. He is very vengeful and says he will always win. He loves attorneys and paperwork. He stands over me when I am cooking. Scrutinizing every detail and stealing my recipes. Then tells his friends about the good food he made,or the fun activity that he came up with when it was my idea. Not sure, but I feel he goes into my closet and tears my clothes, and gets my documents. I pray to God to please just somehow remove him. I don’t have the courage or strength to get out. I stopped sleeping with him and now he hates me even more. He used my name for his bad business deals. He ruined my good credit. He controls the kids. He puts my daughter ahead of me and she always gets the front seat in the car. Now he love bombs her, then is mean to her,obsessing about her hair or clothes. He brags and thinks very highly of himself. Thinks of himself as much smarter than me and most people. He hates heavy or flawed people or sick people. I get sick alot now but used to be very healthy. He thinks I am fat but I only weigh 120 lbs. He has flirted with so many women in front of me, like I am invisible. Living with him is miserable but he won’t let me go. It’s like I am his personal rug to walk all over. He has a schedule to eat and I am responsible for his meals. If I try to talk to him to discuss things or work through issues he says he has no idea what I’m talking about. That he is perfectly innocent and I am crazy. He has a selective memory. He sees only one way…his. I feel as though he wants me to wither and die. I begged him to just let me go away. Then he will get another victim. A fresh new supply. Like a spider weaving a web. To the world he is Mr nice great family guy. To me he is a controlling heartless narcissist who can’t love or feel empathy. He talks in this fake nice voice to fool people. He steals my creative ideas and takes credit for them. To him I am not worthy of an opinion. He makes all the decisions. I used to dress in bright colors. Now I wear a plain black shirt every day. I don’t dare make myself stand out or look nice. He stares at my legs or my stomach with disgust. He says aging has been cruel to me. He rolls his eyes if I try to discuss parenting solutions or money matters. He walks in front of me and has left me at public places. I am getting out even if it takes a year to do it! We’ve been married thirty years. I want a fresh new start even if it means losing everything. I want to live alone the rest of my life. To just sleep and read a book. Thank you for your support Danish, and for real life examples so I know it’s not my fault. Please pray for me to be free.

    • @carmencentore8457
      @carmencentore8457 25 дней назад

      I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I will keep you in my prayers

    • @gailcook2352
      @gailcook2352 24 дня назад

      😢 praying you escape the abuse.

    • @tonybarnes4096
      @tonybarnes4096 22 дня назад

      I’m so sorry he put you through all of that .

    • @encouragingcorner2549
      @encouragingcorner2549 20 дней назад

      I left my narc husband and have peace again in my life and is living it. I have no contact with him at all. Your narc sounds like he is ready to really do sometime bad to you. Take your children and run!!!!! The next time he hear from you will be in court when you divorce him. If you do not leave, he will destroy you and your children's life. Narc are demonic. Run sister!!!!

    • @laurasainz4836
      @laurasainz4836 6 дней назад +2

      You have a beautiful heart that is incredibly wounded and abused but it’s still there. Let me tell you sweetheart. When you leave, no matter what you see from him, you need to know, trust and believe your leaving is going to completely DESTROY HIM! He’s going to work hard to hide it. He is going to do everything he can to destroy YOU, but believe me dear one, you are going to live and he is going to slowly DIE!!! My whole and best wishes to you!!

  • @IsraelXOX-gh9mr
    @IsraelXOX-gh9mr Месяц назад +124

    Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

    • @lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285
      @lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 Месяц назад +2

      @@IsraelXOX-gh9mr 👍👍🎉🎉🎉🎉🙏🙏🙏💙💙💙🎯

    • @j.w8680
      @j.w8680 Месяц назад +1

      Scam.

    • @sibongilemangai4501
      @sibongilemangai4501 Месяц назад

      I am scared to leave because he is a covet nars who easily destroys, been in prison for same things 😢

  • @jodioravets6805
    @jodioravets6805 Месяц назад +23

    I'm so sorry you went thru that😢

  • @carolnimitz1317
    @carolnimitz1317 Месяц назад +78

    When I was 13, I found a black poodle on the street and my dad let me keep him ( he was a dirty long haired stray), I kept him cleaned and groomed, he was my little buddy. When I was 16 and in high school, I came home one day from school and my dog was gone, no where to be found. My narc mom wouldn’t talk about my dog or what happened to him but a couple days later, my dad told me my mom took him and did something with him, mom wouldn’t say what. 3 weeks later, my younger brother was at a school sponsored car wash and saw an older lady in a Cadillac with my dog! He told the lady the dog was his sisters and he wanted it back, she wouldn’t let him have my dog, she said a lady gave her the dog and now it was hers! Never saw my dog again and my mom refused to tell me why she did it, she’s been dead nearly 10 years and I still think about how cruel she was to me for no reason.

  • @chariblackwood5056
    @chariblackwood5056 Месяц назад +12

    My mother did so many things like that to me and she enjoyed every moment of it. She loved to take my human rights away from me. She enjoyes my pain and truly believes that I am her property and that I have no rights when it comes to her. That I permanently owe her for my life. I now take care of her, and I do not understand why I'm doing this. I feel as if I have reverted back to being that trapped kid with no way out. I feel suffocated and trapped, and she loves it. I never asked to take care of an entitled infant. The entrapment is surreal

    • @lynnemarylou7611
      @lynnemarylou7611 Месяц назад +1

      @@chariblackwood5056 so terribly sorry you're dealing with this.
      Sending you big hugs

  • @vivianMarvin-z6k
    @vivianMarvin-z6k Месяц назад +166

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 Месяц назад

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k Месяц назад +1

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 Месяц назад

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 Месяц назад

      he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k Месяц назад

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive

  • @klarissam8719
    @klarissam8719 Месяц назад +17

    My narcissistic mother would torment me about everything. She would say things like "are other people going to like my clothes, shoes, hair, etc. My appearance is for my self not to please anyone else. My narcissist mother could never be herself.
    Who ever can not accept me for me. Then they are not meant to be
    in my Life!!

  • @soniaperez9269
    @soniaperez9269 Месяц назад +3

    My husband was jealous one morning of the radio - that I was listening to it as I got ready for work and was ‘clearly having fun without him’

  • @DKilgallen
    @DKilgallen Месяц назад +4

    I’ve seen more empathy and humanity in some interviews with a serial killer than I have from my narc ex husband

  • @jacquelinemarie1078
    @jacquelinemarie1078 Месяц назад +7

    Danish, you are a good soul, and you have suffered so much. thank you for turning your torture into helping us. WE LOVE YOU!!!

  • @rhujutaadkar9747
    @rhujutaadkar9747 Месяц назад +5

    Just want to send hugs to you and all those who went through such dejection in their growing up years ❤

    • @miketexas4549
      @miketexas4549 Месяц назад

      Trying to figure out which is worse - going through childhood with parents like this, or unknowingly marrying and having kids with one. I am currently going through the latter.

  • @XxBrittany20xX
    @XxBrittany20xX Месяц назад +23

    True. My dad bust down my door and broke it when i decided to lock it, so i had some time to myself without my parents bursting through the door the second i got inside my room. I never had a door again after that. My mom always hated my cat sticking by me. She never hurt him, thankfully, as she values the animals higher than me. My mom never let me take my cat with me when i moved out because "technically" it was her cat. She burned my drawings, took out all my stuff, and my room was nothing but a cot, sleeping bag, and her idea of furniture was cinder blocks with boards on em. I had a tv and gaming console, thankfully, BUT i only had onw cause my moms closest friend gave it to me, and if she took it away, id say something and her friend would notice. I had nothing of my own choice. It was my moms way, or no way

    • @S.L.Aubourg
      @S.L.Aubourg Месяц назад

      Yes locking the door was a Nono . It was like panic rage. I’ll never forget it either. Told nothing is mines in here. I raise my kids different. They get to dress hai they want and my son when he says he needs space he closes the door I check on him and crack the door a tiny bit . He is 9 so he is still small. Children should be allowed to have space .

    • @dv52528
      @dv52528 Месяц назад

      That is awful!

  • @rememberselfcare
    @rememberselfcare Месяц назад +20

    👂the sound kept popping in and out towards the end.

    • @narcabusecoach
      @narcabusecoach  Месяц назад +3

      Noticed that. Something happened while uploading

  •  Месяц назад +15

    My narcissistic mom slept in the same bed as my sister until the age of 21!! Then my sister finally moved to sleep in the couch or literally in the floor. She never allowed her to have a room, organize her stuff. Now you can image she is a complete dirty hoarder. I feel compassion towards my sister, how can an adult be clean and organized if those skills where never taught to her? I try to clean for her but she gets mad at me.
    It would be nice if you make an episode about clutter and narcissism.

    • @Freethnkr
      @Freethnkr Месяц назад +6

      It's a real issue.
      The clutter, hoarding, being messy, don't clean up after themselves, leave messes everywhere, they don't shower sometimes, hygiene issues, neglectful health issues, some of them look disheveled all of the time, they do not care about their appearance or cleanliness.

    • @br4tb4by
      @br4tb4by Месяц назад +1

      @@Freethnkr I am exactly like what you describe.. I even have issues brushing my teeth, I cannot bring myself to care. I only wash my hair if I see other people, I cannot do any self care just for me. I hope I can overcome this somehow.

    • @pamperqueen1238
      @pamperqueen1238 Месяц назад

      @@br4tb4by If you look nice, you’ll feel better. Try one thing at a time❤

  • @FunBee888
    @FunBee888 Месяц назад +1

    Children being continually subjected to a narcissist parent is horribly debilitating. You are an amazing person to have survived & thrived after the unimaginable abuse of two parents.

  • @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose
    @RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose Месяц назад +11

    Again, a brilliant video of yours, dear Danish 🙏🙌💯 The guy who SA'D me was, after his abvse, at our home, from the morning to the evening, just to make sure we have no privacy anymore & that I keep my mouth shvt about his actions. Please keep them distant from yourself. They want to harm you & also to tear you apart. Stay safe, ladies & gentlemen 🙏

    • @Stardustpal25
      @Stardustpal25 Месяц назад +1

      🩵🌸🌸✨🫂🪷✨🩷🌸🌟 Beautiful Strong Message, thank you! 🤝🌞🌸

  • @Kelz1136
    @Kelz1136 Месяц назад +16

    OMG! Both parents were narcissistic?? Yikes! Narcissistic parents are truly evil 😕

    • @katieb2098
      @katieb2098 Месяц назад

      Pretty common in India

  • @yellowmint5
    @yellowmint5 Месяц назад +4

    Very sorry for everything you went through,it was in human n painful.

  • @lulukallinen3057
    @lulukallinen3057 Месяц назад +1

    Danish I am so sorry you have been through such horrible experiences. I can feel a lot of these things to my core aswell. It is good that you are using your experiences to help others. Much love to you and all the other wonderful people healing their wounds .

  • @thunter8718
    @thunter8718 Месяц назад +24

    Wow. This is so true. My narc husband is jealous of my son. Whenever my son visits and I stay up late talking or watching tv with my son, he would keep coming downstairs for no reason and interrupt. Or if I’m away from the house keeps calling me for no reason. I went on a trip for my birthday he still found a way to pester me from afar. Destroys anything I purchase for the house too.

    • @BNyaB
      @BNyaB Месяц назад +5

      Ruuuun! 🏃

    • @Freethnkr
      @Freethnkr Месяц назад +2

      My narcx was jealous of our oldest son, too. He always had a disfir him, and that hatred finally came out when I said I wanted a divorce and he came home drunk one night from work and assaulted our son while I was at the grocery store. I had to call the cops because he threw our son out and locked me outta the house. But when the cops suggested he file a protective order against him, he refused. Now my son has some of the same traits as his father, even though I tried everything in my being to protect him and his brother.

    • @Egh0127
      @Egh0127 Месяц назад +1

      @@BNyaBit's not that easy for everyone 🙄🙄

  • @virginiahart4480
    @virginiahart4480 Месяц назад +3

    When I was a child, my parents refused to even put draperies on my bedroom window, only shears that could be seen through. I wasn't a bad kid, I had almost all A's with very few B's on my report cards, yet zero privacy. I am my family's scapegoat. For my personal safety, I am now forever no-contact with my birth family, as they have willfully, knowingly and intentionally committed multiple felonies against me and even tried to have me murdered, for their financial gains. They have literally destroyed every aspect of my life.
    I am so sorry Danish that you had to endure such horrors! 😢 I am so proud of the man you have become! ❤

  • @noreenryan1144
    @noreenryan1144 Месяц назад +1

    This is the best description I have heard of the narcissist's behavioural patterns. Thank you,

  • @pradeeshalbert1625
    @pradeeshalbert1625 Месяц назад +3

    Prayers for providence for all narcissists trespassing into my privacy in all aspects.

  • @patricianeville1941
    @patricianeville1941 Месяц назад +5

    Thanks Danish, I appreciate your videos and hope you will keep making them. When you are brought up by a narcissistic parent it seems entirely logical it will influence the choice of how a partner is picked! I wish the information about narcissists was available decades ago! The information is very necessary for making life’s most important decisions! 👍🙏🏻

  • @lindsaylou2712
    @lindsaylou2712 Месяц назад +1

    I felt like I was no longer myself but filled with something else, that certainly wasn't myself.....I never thought there was life beyond the abuse...but there is! xx

  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x Месяц назад +3

    I am so sorry Danish you had to go through that hell 😢I can relate to so much of what you have said as well. The loss of innocence when you are 10 or 12 is devastating. You must become an adult because you are being raised by children . It’s heartbreaking.

  • @Moonpie657
    @Moonpie657 Месяц назад +3

    No empathy , selfish , demanding , gaslighting , violent , verbal and emotional , physical abuse . Classic line “ look what you made me do “ ! Shame , fear of failure and ridicule . Then , you begin getting ill , hospitalized . Told “ nah , nothing wrong with you , you’re dramatic , you have nine lives “ ! They make sure you have no outside relationships . They isolate you . Drain your finances , leave you desolate ! And , they will not divorce you ! Screw the narcissist ! Run !

  • @olutoni_lifestyle
    @olutoni_lifestyle Месяц назад +6

    Deliberately keeping stuff in your room that they could keep literally anywhere else, but because they need constant access to your personal space, it has to be there. And they have to come get it EVERYTIME.

    • @puremaledark8305
      @puremaledark8305 Месяц назад +1

      Ewwww, thats a good one! I never had that but what a nice excuse to invade your privacy

  • @Julie-bj9jn
    @Julie-bj9jn Месяц назад +3

    I agree with all of this. Thank you for sharing, and being someone who calls out this behavior, as disrespectful in caring relationships. My NPD mother used to put on rubber gloves, and go through the garbage. She claimed that it was so that she could burn paper items in the fireplace, but I believe that it was another doorway to the encroachment , and elimination of privacy, of her six children.

    • @puremaledark8305
      @puremaledark8305 Месяц назад +1

      Yoooooooo! That is a good one!!!! Mine would go through the garbage too! Just to look for any reason to judge or cause a "problem".
      They would always do it in secrecy and start the fight later.
      So i tested it one time and buried something (that i knew would make them mad) deeep under all the other trash. Then i waited.
      Wouldnt you know a couple hours later, they had found it and started the fight. Thats when i really, really knew.

  • @kelligray1848
    @kelligray1848 Месяц назад +1

    You have helped me soooo much. Thank you for putting into words what we go through/ have gone through.

  • @petalflowers4765
    @petalflowers4765 Месяц назад +2

    Oh Danish… I’m so sorry to learn of the abuses you endured as a child. But please know that everything you went through and conquered has made you one of the strongest men that I have ever known of!
    Thank you for sharing your experiences with us and of how you became victorious😅 in the face of evil! You inspire me every second of the day! ☺️ 💜💜💜💜

  • @valiizajames925
    @valiizajames925 Месяц назад +9

    My mother...I grew up with no door on my room, I have never felt safe! I find out my step-father was watching me all those years growing up and eventually made a sexual advance towards me! I told my mother and automatically she made moves to protect my younger sister, his child. Said nothing to me. She would also over parentify me either micro manage everything I did or give me no instructions and expect everything to be perfect...Needless to say I could never satisfy her and I was always wrong!

  • @SW-oy5zw
    @SW-oy5zw 26 дней назад

    Thank you! This explains some people in my family and what they have done. It also explains the narc partner I have. Thank you for making these videos and helping people like me become stronger, more protected. You're making a difference!

  • @kateL991
    @kateL991 Месяц назад +5

    the public validation is the worst because they expect you to act fake like them all ugh

  • @v4756nb1rs
    @v4756nb1rs Месяц назад

    Oh, Danish -- I relate so much and my heart breaks for you. Thank you for being kind and channeling all this horror you've experienced into content that is helpful for others. Praying for you, my friend.

  • @kateL991
    @kateL991 Месяц назад +2

    omg jesus you are so right on point!,,, my mother talking to me as if she was on my side, but behind my back constantly on my father s ears to get what she wanted two psychopaths

  • @lynnemarylou7611
    @lynnemarylou7611 Месяц назад +1

    So so sorry you went through all that Danish.
    Sending you big hugs
    Thank you for your life and love for others

  • @irinamladenoska7539
    @irinamladenoska7539 Месяц назад +1

    Tnx Danish

  • @tokyoblur24
    @tokyoblur24 Месяц назад

    Spot on as always Danish. I used to think of demons as purely spiritual until I started to feel that something isn't quite right within my family. Many years later I found out what that was and that I was not going crazy, but also the horror of finding that I was their target. Thank you Danish.
    Just to mention: I think your mike kept cutting off towards the end. I value time, efforts and info so I wouldn't want to miss a single word.

  • @jonathantheyorkie
    @jonathantheyorkie Месяц назад +3

    Narcissists always want things done in an impossible time. It's like the world will end if I take an extra minute to do something.

  • @meditationrelaxation4565
    @meditationrelaxation4565 Месяц назад

    So sorry Danish ! Keep healing and changing the world ❤

  • @kelligray1848
    @kelligray1848 Месяц назад +1

    My ex narc put my dog down because he didn’t like how close we were. He told me that it but the baby- I found out after that he did not bite the baby- he was jealous. Stopped my artwork too. Had to take everything away. So many cruel schemes. Took away my music. Super jealous about my relationships with my children. Tried to convince them that I was a narcissist. I’m not. Tried to take away my friends, made up complete lies about me. YES!! Definitely parentified me!! This video really hit hard.

  • @lauracengelmagen6379
    @lauracengelmagen6379 Месяц назад

    You’re helping many of us out of our re-traumatizing ways by your work and your sharing of this.

  • @amitad1390
    @amitad1390 Месяц назад +2

    Thanks, all true, stealing money, destroying your books, hide your medicines n your valueable things n small things, throw your eatable items, break, destroy your worship etc. n if you ask about then he starts shouting, querreling, destroying items, things in the house. Life is living hell. Situation is this yout can't live in such evil circumstances n can't leave having no support outside allready destroyed by him. Destroy your mental, emotional peace, happiness, your health, wealth. Thanks Danish.

  • @scovyaporsha
    @scovyaporsha Месяц назад

    Listening to your Childhood stories made me really Upset. God bless you brother. And blessings and Light to all of the other kids struggling with difficult Parents or Care Givers..Love from London England 🤍🤍🤍

  • @kat71580
    @kat71580 Месяц назад

    Dear Danish, half way thru today, I left in tears, you dear man, my heart goes out to you..here you are helping me, thousands and others to be strong, understand how they are not alone..thank you..I keep saying, I'm nearly gone..just waiting for somewhere to live, a new home ❤ and peace. ❤

  • @Shineonutoo99
    @Shineonutoo99 Месяц назад +1

    I am here in Canada by the way I don’t see any other comments saying that there sound problems but there is and I’m hoping that you can re-put this out so I can hear the parts that I missed. Thank you for all you do.🥰🦅🥰

  • @deborahedwards3736
    @deborahedwards3736 Месяц назад

    Im sorry you went through that,you have turned out to be a wonderful man in despite of what you have been through, love and light to you😊 also peace. 😊

  • @allisonm.8497
    @allisonm.8497 Месяц назад

    I really appreciate your deep and sincere honesty. And I’m sorry you had to endure that kind of abuse/treatment from your own parents. I really related (and was surprised but then again, nothing was ever a surprise with the narcissist’s behavior) with the mentioning of the door. My ex-boyfriend not only broke my bedroom door off the hinges but one night after we had broken up (in fact 6 months or so after) he broke down the back door of my apartment at 1:30 in the morning and when he could see I had been sleeping (which is why I didn’t an see his phone call 2 hours earlier) he lied and told me that he had been worried because I wasn’t coming to the door to let him in. He hadn’t even knocked because I didn’t sleep very deeply back then and it would have woken me up. If that wasn’t one of the worst if not THE worst invasion of privacy I have ever experienced in my life! Now I live in a second floor apartment thank God and it’s been over 2 years since that incident but still, he feels the need to just pop over every now and then and when he does, he always tries to open the door without even knocking or ringing the doorbell. I’ve gotten my kids in the habit of locking the door after they come in so that we don’t have to necessarily answer the door. Although if we don’t, sometimes he’ll continue to be an absolute pest and keep ringing the doorbell. One day, he’ll have a little surprise when I finally have someone new and hopefully that will be that.

  • @Deborah-uw5ip
    @Deborah-uw5ip Месяц назад

    OMG Danish, it's like you've been reading my mail! (an expression from 12-step groups). My best friend has turned into my tormentor. He is my roommate of 20 years and so very subtle, he tries to wear me down. Recently, I had the flu and retreated to my room (on the other side of the home) and just as I'm falling to sleep, he starts singing loudly outside my door or cranking up his amplifier for his guitar (he's a musician). We have a dog "Peps" that we were to share, but he has taken complete control of him: no collar or leash! even though the dog would run away. In fact, he does the opposite of what a well-behaved dog requires. He worked all day and that's when I had my total peace, but now his work hours have shortened and his torment has increased. He will cook a meal of liver or hamburger (2 of my fav meats) and make a serving for himself and the dog, leaving me a tidbit. The dog has a very loud bark: so loud it rings the metal lampshade. And he barks at everything! I went online to learn how to stop a dog from barking & he wouldn't even try doing any of it. He enjoyed that it bothered me until he spends more time at home, now he can't handle it. Lol I got tired of his yelling @ the dog so I bought a "bark deterrent" that emits a high-pitch sound and it worked! The narc was visibly 'defeated'. He's tried so hard to get the dog to favour him but guess what? As soon as he's finished controlling "Peps" he cries to get into my room to be with me or runs to me and it visibly defeats this narcissist. I have a few supportive friends and he has none, as I no longer consider him a friend either.

  • @AM-..
    @AM-.. Месяц назад +1

    I saw a comment about not hearing some things you said. The comment prompted me to make an official statement about it since it wasn’t just me.

  • @carlaplotner
    @carlaplotner Месяц назад +3

    Yes, you are so on point!

  • @nimmesisbp2395
    @nimmesisbp2395 Месяц назад +1

    My parents did that my WHOLE LIFE!! And then isolated me as well from 13- 29yrs old.. I never realized HOW CRIPPLING they made my life 😓

  • @MrsMom-bm2yq
    @MrsMom-bm2yq Месяц назад

    I'm sorry you had to go through that. Praying that God sets you free from your past that haunts you. God bless~💜💜💜~

  • @ceilconstante640
    @ceilconstante640 Месяц назад

    My situation wasn't as painful. Deeply sorry. Thank you for speaking out to help others. God bless you.

  • @dearyful
    @dearyful Месяц назад

    Thank you Danish for sharing not only invaluable insights but also for sharing with us your srories with your narc parents. I too was raised by a narc Mother. I was also victimized by her -so called- sacrifices she did for me. I have lived with this burden till 40's trying to compensate for till I realized that so called sacrifices are nothing but parental responsibilities but also useful instruments and investments to control your life

  • @S.L.Aubourg
    @S.L.Aubourg Месяц назад +4

    Everything that brought me joy.
    I collected teddy bears nope had to throw them all away. Gaming system ( disappeared). 2 cats disappeared, healthy cats. Mysteriously. Books snatched away trying to find peace.
    Couldn’t go with my moms friend to buy dolls but the golden child my sister got to do everything. NO PRIVACY . Told me nothing belong to me . Got me dressed even in middle school. Ask me do I feel ugly today. Can’t eat what I won’t pick out my clothes nothing. Screaming and yelling constantly.
    AND ON TOP OF THAT she has muncheasen by proxy towards me. Some people have evil spirit inside of them. I’ve never seen my mother happy ever. And my dad is just an enabler an inverted narc. Called me to vent for years but was stabbing me in the back the whole time. Just as worse. When I got married that’s when I found peace and true love.

  • @rekhavishwanath5026
    @rekhavishwanath5026 Месяц назад

    Yes...my kids and I are facing these things. As you became an adult at a very young age, my daughter too has become the same because of all the experiences

  • @sunshinejenny777
    @sunshinejenny777 Месяц назад

    WOW!!!! That is an extreme situation!!!! OH MY GOSH!!!! NO BOUNDARIES!!! SADISTIC for sure!! CRUEL!! So sorry Danish that you & your sister had to go through this!!!!

  • @Denise-tt1hq
    @Denise-tt1hq Месяц назад +3

    It takes courage to recognize the Powers of Darkness.Most people are going to be horrified when the inevitable truth is inescapable.

  • @lyndastewart1944
    @lyndastewart1944 Месяц назад

    I understand because I’ve been there. I’m glad you understand too.

  • @SA-ud9nf
    @SA-ud9nf Месяц назад

    OMG!!!!!!!😯😯😯 Where have you been all my life. I thought I knew almost enough but you helped me be ware of more. I always worked n dered why people or my parent made me hesitate to come around and I thought I elt goid I could handle it because I care so much but your teachings help me be more careful.
    My mom put me through some of these things including with pets as an adult and child.
    Thank you fir your efforts and your help. God bless you. ❤

  • @nancyhjort5348
    @nancyhjort5348 Месяц назад

    I appreciate your truthful story. Thank you.

  • @julia912d5
    @julia912d5 Месяц назад +1

    My malignant narc mom did same to me yours did, only worse. She'd pound in doors, screaming, taking things she knew I loved. I had to develop a frozen face, if I winced as she picked up something I loved she'd break or take it. She'd only feed me one meal a day and deprived my sleep too. They control everything. I was groomed to their parents to. If my mother or twisted freak covert narcissists step father removed door to my room, I'd have gone to cops. I wish the Internet was around then. I would have put both of them in prison. I had to grow up early too, for same reason. But knowing these things hasn't done anything to help me heal remove the constant sadness and trauma I've felt since I was 5 years old.

  • @carmenrodon1121
    @carmenrodon1121 Месяц назад +1

    Danish you are a real hero and a genious❤

  • @puremaledark8305
    @puremaledark8305 Месяц назад +2

    You nailed it.
    1. Yep, privacy in the bathroom or in the shower was always interrupted. There was no such thing as alone time!
    2Yep, they knew my cat was afraid of loud noises. So they would intentionally be very loud to scare her away. Any affection to the cat had to be done in complete secrecy
    3. Yep, my PC would always somehow "break" or the internet would be cut off so that i couldnt play my online games with friends. Also any time i would have the chance to hang out with friends in person, they would always show up and demand i come home.
    4. I never had the door taken off, but i damn sure was NOT allowed to lock it.
    5.yep, i had to be a parental figure. A type of emotional and physical support. I was only a small child expected to carry their burdens.

  • @khadijasaleh9507
    @khadijasaleh9507 Месяц назад

    Thank -You so much 🙏 for posting these videos 😂

  • @mtbkmaniac1
    @mtbkmaniac1 Месяц назад

    I experienced most everything you did, but my mom was the one. I am sorry! Thank you for talking about this topic

  • @roxannevalles5636
    @roxannevalles5636 Месяц назад

    Wow you are rt with everything you said. I been watching videos for few years now on this is not mentioned much.... thanks for sharing. You have been through a lot I wonder how you ever pulled yourself out of the mindset you were programmed as a child. I was only for 3 years in a relationship and in my 40s I had a hard time escaping and it's been a few years and I'm learning it's not easy to just snap back. It's really been hard... I can't imagine how you ever made it... good job... thank you for helping others...bless you

  • @TerryAlexander
    @TerryAlexander Месяц назад

    God Bless You! Learn about positive things and have a balance.

  • @cynthiaboger7538
    @cynthiaboger7538 Месяц назад

    I’m so sorry you had to go through that.. both parents narcissist? I can’t imagine. I married a narcissist and had no idea til last year and every since I’ve set boundaries and called him out , he got worse and has been stonewalling and been distant, when I was the one being distant for my mental health

  • @time_2_get_ready
    @time_2_get_ready Месяц назад +2

    WOW, right on!
    My daughter was always jealous of our stray cat who adopted us.
    She even frequently made, what I see now, was a kind of TOURETTES, an hiss sound as she screwd up her face!

    •  Месяц назад +1

      My mom was also jealous of our adopted stray cat. She said that we cared more about the cat than her xD

    • @time_2_get_ready
      @time_2_get_ready Месяц назад

      Interesting - I always got the same vibes from my daughter

    • @cheriegriffith7070
      @cheriegriffith7070 Месяц назад

      What about the clenched teeth growl?and never let you sleep.

  • @stephanniekotalik9339
    @stephanniekotalik9339 Месяц назад +3

    My narc mother constantly criticized everything I did. She tried to bribe me by buying things I did not need or want so she could justify telling me I owed her for all she provided me with. She even stole my privacy by moving her things into my room. She even told me that every decision I made was a direct reflection on her. She passed away with none of her family members attending her funeral.

    • @tashatooshla7151
      @tashatooshla7151 Месяц назад

      So relatable 😮

    • @tashatooshla7151
      @tashatooshla7151 Месяц назад

      She has an insane amount of bags and clothes and keeps all of them in everybody's room in the house! For years my sister didn't even have a wardrobe and she used to put her stuff in my room, and out of 4 of the wardrobes, my sister and I shared one 💀

  • @liammiles5218
    @liammiles5218 Месяц назад +6

    Six doors punched in, plus the garage door, at my last home…utterly destroyed…frightening!
    yes I understand trust me I know!
    I treasured my photography passionately. He picked my expensive family camera up right in front of me by the strap and overarm smashed it into the concrete.
    Smashed beyond repair. Destroyed!
    No reason whatsoever. Just to hurt me because he knew how much it meant to me. That’d be the same reason he also took my photos and 8 years of personal diaries and still has them to this day. Stealers of joy amongst every other kind of abuse.
    Talk about emotional damage and abuse! I’ve gotta say I think about my photos, diaries and other personal sentimental things way more than the physical abuse. Emotional and mental abuse cuts deep and it’s cruel and inhumane.
    I hope there’s justice coming for these demonic arseholes from hell!
    Thanks Danish

    • @sickofcrap8992
      @sickofcrap8992 Месяц назад

      They will rule the world soon.

    • @Conscious59
      @Conscious59 Месяц назад

      They have too much to answer for when they meet their Creator.

    • @andrewrees8749
      @andrewrees8749 Месяц назад

      My ex Narsisist G.F went crazy after I put a lock on my phone , I've learnt so much today from this one video .

    • @emmarae4322
      @emmarae4322 7 дней назад

      Mine caused property damage, destroyed my things, hid things...all of it.

  • @boething
    @boething Месяц назад +1

    He was always criticizing anything I loved…

  • @queendom4cyber
    @queendom4cyber Месяц назад

    Thank you for sharing your story and I hope you are in a good place in life! ❤

  • @forecastjanna9229
    @forecastjanna9229 Месяц назад

    I went through not respecting personal space, (Entering the room all the time, walking in bathroom or speaking behind it) also judging and ridiculing my interests and music choices, so I stop sharing or I stop doing them. It was exhausting to be with a narcissist and I feel so much energetic now that I don't have to deal with it.😊

  • @Four4Hundred2Twenty0
    @Four4Hundred2Twenty0 Месяц назад

    OMG you did my one about the door! Thank you Danish!

    • @Four4Hundred2Twenty0
      @Four4Hundred2Twenty0 Месяц назад

      Afterthought: it caused a lot of what I call "territorial/material warfare". I would cry if someone ate my food. Things never felt like they were mine and resulted in a major case of anorexia.

  • @mandygreen9152
    @mandygreen9152 Месяц назад

    i went to the same, my father was controling me all the time! i had no privece never! i could not closes my bedroom it as to be open all the time, how i sit how i laugh ,cry, i was one my card all the time ,my mother is a covert narsissist and was jelous of me, there bouth psycopats, im now in my 50ties and i still not can completly relax because deep down inside im only good if i do someting, in my childhoud i was not aloud to rest never!, thank you so much for the video make me feel that im not alone in this.

  • @nancyrupp5893
    @nancyrupp5893 Месяц назад

    I understand... my mom would get rid or sell my childhood toys....and things becme worse as I got older. I was also raised by a child in an adult body...I very much relate!!!

  • @Rita-p8i9e
    @Rita-p8i9e Месяц назад +1

    Enjoy your channel you are helping so many people this is so true love and blessings to you❤ 4:04 4:05

  • @growingonthegriddle4945
    @growingonthegriddle4945 Месяц назад +1

    My husband's mother got rid of 2 of my dogs, my late husband would time my showers. He constantly picked on me until I would just leave the room or our bed. He would argue after I got home from church. He refused to let me listen to music and he refused to let me work. Now, age 59, re entered the work place has been hard, but I'm doing better now.

  • @samchalohana4423
    @samchalohana4423 Месяц назад +3

    Narcissist does everything inhumane to their victims

  • @peggyerickson2549
    @peggyerickson2549 Месяц назад

    Thank u Danish. Remember my Dad took my bedroom door off hinges, and don't recall why.

  • @ohhmyyken
    @ohhmyyken Месяц назад

    Danish, thank you for your insight and advice! I also appreciate you sharing your personal experiences. ❤

  • @reneerobinson6275
    @reneerobinson6275 Месяц назад +1

    SICK, SICK PEOPLE 😢