4 Mindset Changes That Massively Improved My Life
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Today I'm sharing four mindset shifts I've made over the past several years. Each of these has massively improved my life - often in many areas, including my personal relationships, my ability to make better decisions, my learning capabilities, and more.
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1: Become okay with being the worst person in the room.
2: Treat real life challenges like video game levels.
3: Become comfortable with confronting harsh realities.
4: "How could I be wrong here?"
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Thsnks soo much for this man 👍🏾👍🏾
Thank you 😄
I was looking for this
Watch the whole video, the explanation and examples he gives are valuable information.
Being the worse person in the room is a blessing. You can learn so much from everyone
That is if you are confident enought
Thats what i felt for being the dumb kid
Exactly! Nowhere to go but up :)
@Doojin Bek my old basketball team used to joke about my warm up, shots, etc. That was a bad group, but regardless, a few years later im playing for the state and im better than all of them now.
Just push past the hate, even if you don't make it.
Not if you're egotistic and insecure ;)
Yess, I've always felt that way too
How do you not run out of ideas? You’ve been doing school/college/work/productivity videos for ages😂 It’s amazing you provide fresh content to your subscribers
Reads and reads and reads
Books my friend are the secret
He repeats a lot of info but with differents words...
I am not saying his videos are not great, they are
Because he is an ENTJ
@@ismaesp3698 When you make a lot of videos over time, you need to, especially for the most important concepts
I like the idea of always assuming that you can learn something from someone no matter how foolish they seem, this can help make sure that you double check your own beliefs while also not being dismissive of someone who seems might seem a little misguided or foolish.
Mindful Mastery we need more people like you in this world
To come to that level of humility, people almost always has to go through a lot of hardship so that the life can teach them.
@@remaithi Thank you, this is something I strive for, some days I can be stubborn but every day my goal is to be more open to other's ideals and opinions.
@@osse1n It can be very difficult. I haven't had much hardship but I realized that one should question everything, especially their deepest held beliefs. This helps you understand your own beliefs at a deeper level and helps you be open to others.
@@ma-teman1197 It was a general notion. If you are brought up in a mentally healthy environment, then I can understand your point. But, as we know, huge amount of people aren't.
1. Become ok with being the worst person in the room (forget your ego; adopt a growth mindset)
2. Treat RL goals as videogames (be ok with failure and re-trying)
3. Become ok with confronting harsh realities or bad news (look in the mirror)
4. Ask how you could be wrong? (self-reflection)
I used to do all of these things. Then I became depressed cause I was constantly doubting myself. While all of these things are true. You should also allow yourself to be confident in what you do.
Bea Creates there’s a huge difference between doubting yourself and the points he gave. For example - just because you always see yourself as the worst person in the room does not mean that you see yourself as bad at something - it just means you’re always willing to learn. You have to stay confident in your ability without developing an ego - meaning you always need to be able to point out your own failures, learn from them, and continue to move forward knowing that information. What people do too often is think that taking responsibility is the same thing is just doing something like calling yourself dumb or giving the easiest explanation that comes to mind, when in reality you have to analyze and you have to actually be WILLING TO BE WRONG
Hi Thomas, perhaps as a suggestion to improve your viewers’ retention of information -- at the end of the video presentation you could close by stating the key points (in this case the 4 key mindset hacks) or a put up a slide with the main points at the end maybe with a voiceover. I find that when I’m trying to learn new things I summarise the points (jot it down or make a mental note) and doing so increases the chances of me remembering it in the future! Then I look for ways to exercise the thing in my day to day life. Then teaching seals it in. 😆
Thank you for all the hard work you’ve put into all your videos, they’re so valuable and I get excited every time you release a video. Wish you good cheer for the new year.
Thanku too Ellie.. for z studying tips 🙋♀️
"Dying is part of the experience."
-Thomas Frank
Dying is literally the only part of life you do by experience
@@thomasbeaumont3668 That's completely not true at all.
🙂😑he want to say failure is a part of experience
Doing things with people that are better than you is a key to progression, even tho it’s scary, I’ve been doing this with snowboarding this season and my riding has improved more in the past 3 months than it has in the past 3 years at least 😂
Honestly, soaked all this information up. The debt of college and setbacks have pushed me into a deep hole today. The societal “four-year” college experience drives me insane because it’s very unrealistic with all the variables that can affect your chances of graduating smoothly. Constantly trying to work on not comparing myself to others. It’s really hard in college, but I’m constantly reflecting on myself through journal. Never think your content goes to waste Thomas. Thank you.
The first topic was a real blessing!! I just came out of my ballet class sad because i feel like i'm the one with the most improvements to make,but this really helped me looking at things differently.Thank you!!!
"my friend broke his finger back in the fall"
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Mindset is everything
You are just everywhere I go
Disregard women, acquire money
Brain tobias
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Olá, from Brazil, I'm 16 years old, and I just want to thank you, your book about getting better grades is amazing, even though I've tried to read it since a year, and procrastinated for a good reason, (getting my life back from depression) but now, I'm really thankful that you're doins this videos, the videos about wake up, schedule, successful things, it's improving my life insanely, I just wanted to be thankful, I love your content and appreciate It, your book is awesome... So
Thanks man 😊
Edit: can you talk about scheduling the future, working on it, and living in the "now"?
Aguenta aí, brasileirinho!
Tmb sou br e 16, mas eu não tenho sido nada produtivo ultimamente.
Obrigado!
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I'm right in the middle of watching the video but as soon as I heard about how fears of failure hold us back I paused to thank you. It is totally right to try over and over again until you have the thing done. With good goals in mind, it's worthy having multiple tries, let NOTHING stop you from reaching your dreams! Thanks again for reminding, persistence is a great thing!
Mindset #4 really resonated with me and made a lot of sense. a lot of times when we make decisions, we tend to not look back or test the assumptions and inputs that go into arriving at that decision but developing this habit of questioning and asking, "What can I be missing here", allows you to think about things from different perspectives and maybe see something that you have missed previously. Thanks for sharing! love your content and keep up the good work!
The “video game” mindset hack is serious!!! You got me here testifying lol 👊🏾
Hey , can you do a video about professional communication through emails or LinkedIn. That will be really great if you can .
I might do that topic in the future, but in the meantime, we've got a great article on the website about it! collegeinfogeek.com/professional-communication-guide/
Aadhishwaran S if you are looking for a book recommendation, take a look at Style: Towards Clarity and Grace. Its a full of really actionable advice on writing.
@@armorsmith43 that looks like a great book
@@armorsmith43 ok will look
I'm so happy you mentioned Celeste. I resonated with that game so much. I can't wait to play it all over again!
The first one fascinates me! Being the worst in the room is something to embrace, just as you said, you compete in a higher league! Great video, mindset is critical in all aspects of life
love this video so much! Mindset change must be summed up by practice and years of experience. Hope we all can view where we are and what we should do in life in a different way. Admitting you are the the worst is not embarrassing, actually it's a kind of relief, because the bottom line is that you know you can only go up and you will not feel ashamed if you make any mistakes in the learning process. After all the efforts and practice, you can do what you have never imagined before!
Great video, Thomas! I wish I would've adopted the "worst person in the room" mindset when I started programming. I started out as really the worst person in the room- I almost failed my first CS course and was usually the last person to finish labs. I'm succeeding in my program now, but at first, it was a steep curve to get over with imposter syndrome.
Dude keep publishing great content!! I’m not sure how but I just now ran across your content and it is legit changing the way I operate.
I love “being the worst” or “failing.” It’s how I learn. It’s hard to learn when you’re doing great 🤔...when someone is better than us, we should follow them for sure because the worst that’s gonna happen is we learn things!
I do not know how you do this weekly, but regardless we are all thank full.
Hi Thomas! You are completely right! I went myself through the same mindset change a few years ago when I started working as a developer and that mentality of "what can I learn from other persons or situations" has push me to improve my skills every single day. Its harsh at first to realize that it can help you and to get over the feeling of being wrong or not having anything smart to say, but once its done what you can get back from that is amazing :)
Thanks for the videos!
Thank you for making the videos you are making and posting them on a medium like RUclips for everyone to be able to access it.
Great video 👍 My favorite is number 2.
One mindset that helps me a lot is I am good enough as I am now!
I love all of it, especially the last one. As soon as I was willing to be the worst person in the room, my growth spiked. When I admitted I was wrong, more often, I started being the right person, more often.
I LOVE the "worst person in the room" idea: it's the confidence-maker to go to the event or talk to the person you feel you are so beneath. But, if rise to the challenge, you've overcome half the battle.
Fear of failure is crippling sometimes in my life....trying to push past it as best as I can.
You are giving me extra edge in my life...
I will be grateful to you if you kindly make a video on improving attitude..
Thanks!
The quote "Become okay with being the worst person in the room." will allow yourself improve and learn from everyone.
This channel is amazing, I sometimes feel like I don't want to watch your video because I KNOW it will make me DO THINGS. But then I watch it and I do things. Don't know if it makes sense, but thank you.
Thank you so much for your video on the Rocketbook everlast. I've always struggled with carrying around too much and having a huge backpack, also always wasting paper at the end of old notebooks. After watching your video I ordered one and love it. And literally for the first time in my life, have a normal-sized backpack. You're the best! :)
This guy is explaining my life , best video on RUclips so far
AMAZING VIDEO- As someone who already thinks like you, these videos are so motivating. The comments on your videos remind me that in not alone in trying to be a better version of myself
I really like the one about being okay with being the worst person in the room and I really need to work on not needing to be right all the time, too.
I love all your tips. Being the worst one in the room is fantastic. It took me until my 40s to really believe that no one is paying any attention and things that I remember being embarrassed about are things no one else remembers at all. I still get embarrassed but I don't have any shyness about showing I don't know what I'm doing if I want to improve. Also, about your self-reflection advice, there's a quote by Robert Heinlein I like that I'll paraphrase: "I never learned anything from someone who agreed with me." I've had my mind changed many times (even politically if you can believe it!) by just listening carefully to people I respect when I think they are totally wrong...
Absolutely LOVE Thomas Frank ❤ best videos hands down!!!
Thankyou so much. Your straightforward but gentle approach to the topics discussed in your videos makes it so easy for me to keep up with you and really listen to what you're saying. It is amazing how beneficial it can be to make an observation (or acknowledge a flaw) in your personality or actions, because once you do you are infinitely more capable of addressing them and improving. This skill has saved my life.
Plz do another book recommendation video..the books that you suggested really helped me. You're the reason I started reading books. Thank you
Every single one of these was helpful! Thanks. I know some really amazing people and I constantly feel like I'm the black sheep in the room. I'd love to be able to ask them how they got so comfortable and vulnerable but they'll just say, "It comes naturally to me. "
Great video, Thomas! I find my ego likes to be the best in the room but I don’t grow in those situations. That mindset is a great shift to take on
Thomas I cant stress enough how thankfull I am for this videos. My week always gets better when I listen to you. You are the best!
Thomas this is exactly what I needed to hear. Your videos have really helped me through college, thanks so much!
You earned my subscription , i saw you in crash corse and you revolutionated my academic life
This is so much guiding and also motivates to do much better in the future.
Just wanted to say thank you for your work. I really appreciate the content you convey. Wish you all the best! Greetings from Switzerland
number 4 is something most people cannot come to terms with!
Analyzing our own mistakes was the best part as I have also started noticing it from quite a time. I have become more aware at the situations where I generally argued.
Thanks for sharing your life experiences. Highly relatable and practical.
I get motivated from you, you get motivated from books, authors get motivated from somewhere else... Who is the person that starts the first motivation? Or do we find things that are not a motivation source for the one who write or say those things?
Actually who cares, we get motivated from each other, you need us, we need you. Thanks Thomas.
Great points all, thanks for sharing.
That last mindset change is exactly what I needed to hear.
I am grate ful for havin listened to these mentality changes. I will remind myself to switch to these menalities when i find myself being preachy or taking myself too seriouly.
Doing activities with people who are in a better league is a great way to improve your skills. I used to be the slowest person on my cross country team in high school but that experience helped me to become a better runner to the point that I ran a half marathon I’m my freshman year of college. Also I love Celeste! It’s the best platformer ever made IMO. 😁
The first one is a huge one!!! From Time to time I get myself into music production, but very often I stand in my own way because I'm afraid to show my music to anyone. I really need to work on that.
Great video Thomas and very timely. I'm currently in a course that I should have been done with over a year ago but life continuously got in the way and I'm still in it plugging away but was feeling very unmotivated. Your tips struck a few chords. Thanks.
Thanks Tom for uploading this video! It really opens my mind
Thank you, honestly I think I’m going down the same path as you so from now on I’ll try my best to follow what I’m saying doing and changing myself to make me the man I want to be instead of the man I’m on the path of thank you you’ve changed my life I’ll be waiting for the next video:)
thomas should be the world top youtuber regarding the content ...i think his every content have excellent impact in every viewers..!!!
Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality is an amazing read! Glad you mentioned it
I'm constantly amazed at how many words are taken directly from german to english. wanderlust, zeitgeist, kindergarten, now einstellung, I'm surprised everytime I find out about a new one😂
Thank you so much for your first strategy of mindset change. I was in the same situvation.
Thanks for sharing Tom!
Great vid, running theme seems to be maintaining intellectual humility, and reducing pride so you can take action. Great job
I learnt that last one by watching Philip de Franco. I think I’m pretty good at it and definitely helped my life an insane amount
Dude, I love the way you speak. Like where you make emphasis. You are pretty awesome at public speaking. I wish I could do that.
"Following" is a classic rookie strategy in Nascar. By following the veteran racers, the rookies learn how to attack the corners as a professional.
Constantly asking "How am I wrong here?" is how I know my final response is always right. The trick is not letting anyone else in the room know how extensively I deconstruct my work in private.
Not sure if that's the trick. I'm very honest about my doubt, and now people close to me almost always trust me when I say i'm sure.
Great video! Really gives you a perspective on how much we all can still improve in our lives and what we're missing out on. Definitely looking forward to trying to put these ideas into my day to day life.
Love the fresh perspective! So:
1: If people are better than you, punch them
2: Deal with real life challenges by reading about them on Quora, then ignoring them
3: Carry a reality distortion field at all times
4: If someone thinks you're wrong, see 1.
Thank you for the video Thomas 😁
Celeste? A man of culture I see.
Thank you for sharing these beautiful and well thought-out insights!
Nice video brother👌👌👌. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts. Your videos are very motivating. Have a great day 😊 and keep rocking!
This is great. I love learning from other's experiences. Very short but rich. Thank you.
Thank you for this video! I'm a med student at the end of year two in Germany. I constantly think I'm the worst person in the room... I hope the mindset changes improve my grades. Like to think of it as a video game hmmm *Final level: become a good doctor* --> current level: *don't cry, don't cry*
Great video. Thank you so much. This is refreshing.
I like the quote "to become good at something you must first be willing to be bad at it".
I have been watching your channel and content for 2 years now i find your videos very motivating and inspiring.....side note: i have to disagree with you on ' accepting that it is ok to be the worst person in the room means you will be able to compete to be better"
my friend " accepting it is ok to be the worst person in the room means ypu will always be that , nothing more" i am speaking from personal experience but generally hating that spot motivates you to do better not accepting it by any means , at least that how i see it.
Thank u for the great work , keep on
I’m still working on confronting harsh realities, but the other three have been dramatically life changing for me. Being the worst person in the room often leads to you being the best person in the room pretty much anywhere else you go. It helps you to grow and to be an expert in any other setting (which is pretty cool). I also had an issue where I was “never wrong”. I instead looked to see the merit behind others arguments and the book that really helped me with this was “Getting To Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In” by Roger Fisher and William Ury. I also was afraid of pursuing something or attempting something until I was 100% sure I could pull it off perfectly. This kept me from doing anything because you simply CAN’T be perfect at something if you’re too afraid to try.
omg you are almost the opposite to me. I used to keep on chewing on every tiny mistakes I made. And I thought everything was my fault when my exs dumped me. Thank god I think I am gradually making changes.
Ooooohh, man.. i really really really needed this!!!!!!
Big thank you!
#4 is not just for high achieving people. People who are depressed or anxious also are subject to blind spots when it comes to their own worth or capabilities. How they are wrong is often in how tied they are to their negative thought patterns when there are other ways they could evaluate themselves or a situation. Good tip for anyone, really.
I just love listening to you , your content is so meaningful and enriching .
The last one! We lie to ourselves all the time and it closes our minds to others.
Hey Thomas, awesome video as usual, yeah it's all about the mindset.
These are really great and counter-intuitive tips. Mind challenged. And glad you didn't hold off until you got more. In my opinion, fewer ideas are more impactful than many.
"The only way to prove yourself right is by failing to prove yourself wrong" - some scientist (I forget)
Good stuff, you’re humble and grounded and these characteristics only in favor of yours.
This spoke directly to my soul
I praise you for your content and actually helping people so thank you PEACE ✌️
At this point number 4 seems to be my lifes breakthrough. I started working on that in ED recovery. Now I find great pleasure in analizing how I might be viewing a situation from a privilege standpoint, I think it brings me closer to understand it.
Doing Curls in the Squat Rack.. Spot on.
I really liked this video and I'm going to rewatch it because, if you're into "self-improvement", you can really notice that this video, as He says at the beginning , is the result of weeks of taking notes and this is reflected into how deep and thought through the concepts He explained are. Than you for putting the effort, appreciated it.
That is totally what I needed! Thank you🙌🏼
I’ve been struggling with this and this was the exact video I needed. Thank you
„Einstellung“ simply means „attitude“, speaking of the mind, or, even simpler, just „setting“. 🙂
No.4 comes with maturity, but I too had to go through a hard situation to realise
Great video Thomas!