I broke up with my gf 3 days ago even tho I still love her because she told me she wanted to become a guy We still want to be friends but it’s hard to just let go of my feelings
It's important to note that detaching isn't the same as not caring. You can't help what you feel. It means channeling your energies into something constructive instead of something that keeps you stuck. I was stuck on someone, but I show love by acts of service. Instead of chasing a person, I am volunteering at the food bank. It lets me share love without romance, which is the thing that was keeping me stuck in the moment.
That's actually very clarifying. In my own process I came to notice that my love language is touch and kind words, and even if it sounds cliché, I just want to make people smile and share a feeling of wonder. So I embraced it, and instead of holding onto the person like I once did, I started to bring out my guitar more, learning songs that would indeed make others (and me) smile. I never linked this new energy outlet to my love language, but it's surprisingly fitting. Nice observation!
1. The art of surrender: just let go, challenging but liberating journey 2. Feel and process your emotions 3. Establish your boundaries 4. Focus and self-care 5. Cultivate a support system: from your family and friends
When you've never had a supportive group of friends or family in your entire life and now you have no one at all '-' Step 5 is literally impossible for me lol
@@psychedeliknightmare6988 same.... I don't have anyone I can lean on besides my gf but I had to take a major break from her because of stuff that's happened
@@psychedeliknightmare6988 I'm in the same situation. I have no one I trust to be genuine enough to support me, so I've decided to cultivate a support system within myself. Pray for me😊
@@psychedeliknightmare6988I‘m sorry for that. I‘d be glad to give you an ear an listen if you have something to pour from your heart. I‘ve been there… and kinda am and it still hurts even though I have good friends that listen to me. But believe me friends do like 30-40% of the work, your part is much more important. But still if you find yourself stuck get professional help… or answer here I‘ll wait.
People say the best thing to do after a breakup is to focus that energy on improving yourself when it’s really easier said than done, especially if you still love that person and had a very close connection. In theory, it sounds great to focus on working on yourself But in reality, it’s a rollercoaster of emotions and setbacks. It may take some time to recover, but for some of us, the pain becomes permanent. It’s like losing a part of your body that will never grow back.
@@ChocoParfaitFraYo its completely fine.I was once in your situation before but keep in mind that your ex is not important anymore and you have to rebuild up your own paths and goals in your life and even if it is hard to let go but it is ok because I was struggling before and I have having a hsrd time letting go but when I talked to my family members or my friends about it it totally helps me out and you can find your own ways to get off your ex from your mind because I believe that we are strong and an independent people but it is always fine to ask for help 😊😊
Yes, we broke up a few months ago but definitely recently. He was my best friend, my confidant, my support when I needed him.... It has been and is very hard, and I have just spent a week that has seemed like a nightmare to me. Sometimes I'm hoping we'll come back and I try not to have such hope , but I can't help it, even through he made a lot of mistake, I do still love him and I wonder if he still feels the same.
Omg, I just realised this video is basically how to handle the 5 stages of grief: to denial you have to acept that it's over, in anger you process your emotions, in bargaining you establish boundaries, in depression you take care of yourself and in acceptance you maintain a supportive group of people.
I just ended my 5 years of situationship with my first love. We didn’t take it as the usual romantic relationship as we’re too young to commit for such things. Tbf, it still hurts so much though. I cared for this person a lot and would initiate most of our conversations, believing in our “potential” to move into the next steps. Potential is just potential after all. Things happen and we came into conclusion that our life plan/goals would not go together. So here I am in the process of detaching. If you’re reading this and going through the similar things as me, I hope you find the right person who cares for you, which you deserve. And please pray for the success of my detachment journey too :)
🤝 the road of healing is long (what feels like forever can be only a couple of months) but u got this, stay strong 💪 -> from someone in an almost identical situation
I'm in a very similar situation, it's tough. My mind tricked me that everything could be toughed out with enough willpower, but I see now that she needs to heal from her suffering and work on finding out, what she wants to achieve in her life and that's alright. You'll get through this too. It's tough, but I believe it's an important life lesson to learn.
I, too have this similar situation and I, we were at a long distance relationship that could 'potentially' work but just as you stated *Potential is just Potential after all* There's things that our life is too different to ours which made it harder for us to process. Either way it's better For me to let her go. The feeling of processing so much emotion at once was hard. Guilt, grief, depression hitted me all. We ended our relationship In a Respectful way because of our differences and we were too young to even do those things in the first place. I liked her, she liked me back. But in the end it would be for the best to let go not only for me, but for her as well.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
hey man im not too wise on things like this cuz im only 18 but the only thing that helps in the long run is just giving it time and being patient with your own mind. Dont stress yourself out too much but also dont let your foot off the gas man hope you can grt through it
My girl friend broke up with me right before my college graduation, she mentioned that she wanted to focus on herself and mend her relationship with her parents. I'm still struggling to accept that she's gone from my life but this video helped me process it a lot better. Thank you
Letting go is extremely hard but once it was done I made sure to detach completely. As much as it hurt, it was freeing, and I was able to meet better people and let my friends help me out. I don't think about her all the time anymore, but anytime I have a nightmare, it's her and she's hurting me in some way, which makes me wake up in tears. I hope my mind lets go of her too, however long it takes.
It's hard to let them go because you still care about them and still love them it hurts to see someone who said that they really love you and that they can't live without you and after breaking up they replace you that fast like you never meant anything to them that was the worst pain I ever felt
@@GuidedLoveandWellness thank you so much it has been almost 4 months now I'm trying my best to stay strong but sometimes I just break down for holding everything inside for too long every day it's a battle and a challenging
The worst thing is giving up on who you love because they don't love you the same way. It's like a diabetic patient giving up on sugar not because they hate sugar but because they know it's bad for them only much worse. People are all about self love these days. In this whole big world can't there be a single person meant for you that you can just relax and trust?? Why is it so hard??
I definitely think that this is great advice for anybody who feels like they’ve lost themselves in their relationship - romantic or otherwise - with another person. There’s too many people who believe that that other person makes for their happiness, when in fact, they should only add to their happiness. Plus, I feel like this would be especially useful for anybody who maybe there coming off of a break up with someone special who maybe it’s just not the right time for the other person… Not so much the case of a bad break up, but being on different positions in life and what you want at the time… A case of basically the right person but the wrong time… I feel like this advice would be great for anybody who is experiencing that.
It really felt like he was the one we had a strong connection with each other then he randomly decided to cut it off he thought that he couldn’t see us getting married though he loved me a lot and he started thinking about breaking up with me once life got difficult for him and he moved away with a new job and we both didn’t feel a strong connection anymore because we didn’t spend much time with each other like we used to before he moved away and we didn’t text much like we used to. It still hurts though the break up happened 4 months ago, I miss him desperately and we don’t talk anymore and all I want is to have that connection again even just as friends 😢
Been trying to get over close friends, who I cared deeply for. I would even argue that I felt a form of "Philia", love of family, because they were an online "family"/"tribe" for me...good timing
Literally... I'm having this "We are friends but more than friend but not dating... can't put a label on what we are..." situation and I am not for it. I am tired of giving this woman my love and I'm tired of the mix signals... and tired of having hope that maybe her and I can be more.
Bro all girls do that, they just want your attention and affection but believe me I don't think she'll ever be your..... of course things are different for everyone I know that and it happened to me to but in the end she just wanted my attention because I use to treat her very good and gave her priority. I think you should try to move on and just let go of it.
I’m a girl and I felt the same way about a guy friend of mine, but I was shy and never told him how I felt, he has a girlfriend now, so I am doing the honorable thing and letting him go. I regret not having told him but acknowledge that it is too late and time to move on.
That was me, about a year ago I think I still think about her ngl, miss her even... Breadcrumbing, I think that's the word for what she did We were very closed friends, close enough to have heart-to-heart pillow talks. After my confession, she didn't reply positively, rather being elusive Eventually, I broke it off for my own mental health Nobody should be other person's second choice Love is a choice, a decision, not something for them to fall back on when their fancy dreams turned to dust
@@yogendragupta1060yeah no please don’t spread that info. idk if you’re also hurting and if you are I’m very sorry but not all girls are like that and you should know that. I know there are a few bad apples out there but just because you personally had a bad experience with a girl doesn’t mean she’s the equivalent of every lady out there. Wish you well bro
0:00 1:15 1. The Art of Surrender 1:53 2. Feel and Process Your Emotion 2:35 3. Establish Boundaries 3:07 4. Focus on Your Self-care 3:47 5. Cultivate a Support System 4:18 outro
We kinda get addicted to the chemicals of our experience in the past, get addicted to who we were and loop those over and over again. You need to let yourself go, let yourself change..
Fell in love with a old friend,absolutely smitten at 67 years old,feel like im 16 all over again,my heart took me for a ride i could not stop.🙄♥️ No amount of my head trying to reason with my heart would stop it.crazy heart.
@Jonnbgoodx got nothing to do with that, it's harder to understand a lot of times. Some of the other female voice overs have been hard to understand as well, not just the males.
Why is it needed? Just enjoy someone and still.work.om your own healing. The two are not mutually exclusive. Also it is important to distinguish between Self and self. If you leave for your own independence then you will likely just return back to the same place. Independence is still ego.
Letting go feels like going through hell. Staying with the feeling when you process your emotions is truly maddening. It hurts like crazy, like you can feel it physically in your heart. It's heavy and suffocating. 🥺
It’s the holding on that feels like going through hell, you think you’re letting go and that’s what’s causing you pain but it’s not, it’s the idea of letting go and the fact you’re still holding on to something that isn’t there.
Building a healthy level of detachment in a relationship is crucial for maintaining balance and individual growth. One piece of advice is to prioritize communication and set clear boundaries early on. It's important to understand that while love and connection are essential, maintaining a sense of self and independence is equally important. Encouraging each other's personal growth, pursuing individual hobbies and interests, and respecting each other's space are all key aspects of fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Ultimately, it's about finding the right balance between togetherness and individuality.💙💙
Its the idea of never seeing them again or how their life turns out. When you unconditionally care for someone so much you cant help but want to remain part kf their life in some way
I see it as a process of mourning the person and the relationship. Sometimes for many the person we are mourning in our heart and mind isn't actually the person we were in a relationship with. So we mourn a phantom relationship, as that person isn't always the person we are grieving. It's a feeling of grieving the story in Pur mind of what was and could have been, but if our ex had healing to do, and masked it, it's only a matter of time until the real person shows up, and it's not the one we imagined in our minds.
Incredibly toxic comment: she gave up on something incredible, and she's just going to have detachment handed to her. It's beyond unfair that she gets to cheat, give up, run away, and move on effortlessly, while I'm stuck clawing my way through every single step of detachment against my will. I hate the world we've created ... But I love and trust myself enough to become someone better than my pain.
It's part of being a man, unfortunately. We're slow to love and we invest over time in the relationship. Women are quick to love, but can also feel differently tomorrow no matter your history together, forget you, leave you and have someone new the next day. But even that is it's own hell for them as they become jaded the more they do it. It's just the hand we are dealt. Best to just detach and not catch feelings again.
That’s how life it is for men Sometimes so cruel .. U invest every bit of your last ounce and when they leave u just remain empty shell.. happened to me last month Somehow keeping my sanity and moving on to something bigger and greater..
I needed this more than ever. My ex was damaged and never grew out of the childhood trauma she suffered, and she’s developed severe narcissistic tendencies. She manipulated and lied to me countless times and I couldn’t help but try and save her, which was always my flaw. You can’t save anyone, and it’s when I chose to be better for myself that I walked away from her. She was hurting me so deeply and just didn’t care anymore. The anger was so intense, as well as the grief. I felt all of these. Confusion, Grief, Anger, Relief. I cut her off completely because I know I can’t trust her again, not allowing her to weasel her way into my life again. I pray everyone here can heal, like I pray for her to finally heal the inner child that never got the love she needed. I pray God does something good soon.
I feel like the point that stands out the most is ensuring a proper support system. For me at least, it made a world's difference. All other things require at least a bit of energy, but having a way to recharge your batteries can not only help process things better but also more efficient.
I found myself alone, things went south with my boyfriend who before that was my one and only best friend and he took with himself all the people that i thought were our people, i was just wrong. They were his people first. There was one in particular that i really loved and cherished. Being alone was ordinary for me but then i found in this girl someone really similar to me and it was awesome i didn't feel alone anymore. But then I discovered something else. You don't really know people, even if they were your shoulder, your rock. You don't know them and they don't really know you, right now I'm alone, again, but i want to cherish my loneliness, it was once a prison, something oppressive, but at the moment I can say that the loneliness is my friend and maybe a strength after all
@@serenapalleschi7821 You'll get through this for sure. Believe in yourself when no one else believes in you. Be your own best friend, because at the end of your life you'll always still have yourself even if everyone else is already gone.
The timing is scary perfect, just lost the only friend i thought i had and said that I'm always making a big deal of everything, but he doesn't know what it feels like to live eith severe depression, bad anxiety and bad trust issues and people sending pictures of me around school calling me names and bullying me on a basis like he knows what it's like
I am on the journey for about 3 months and a half now. And I get distracted quite often during the last half month. I will now take a pause, go back to remind myself the reason I started to walk this path of learning to surrender and letting go. And I will then resumed the journey again. I know I love myself. I am learning how to love myself correctly. Everything will be okay.
He is into you if he's CONSISTENT. No mixed signals. Keep your spirit of discernment sharp, ladies! Giving the same energy that you're getting is key and if you don't like that energy then move on. It can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself (over the damn illusion/fantasy!) A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. Simple. Simple. Non-dramatic and uncomplicated. I don’t, under any circumstance: play these childish-abusive-controlling mind games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen, I AM. (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!) Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period. 1. Visualize. Pray. 2. Act as if: you already have that relationship that you desire! 3. Celebrate love whenever and wherever you can 4. Have fun, build trust within yourself 5. Have faith, they’re on their way!
“Love yourself” it’s real easy to say, but hard to do. When you have just left a relationship and that is the right thing to do , it’s still hard finding what loving yourself even looks like when you have sacrificed for another for so long, even years in some cases. Then there is the mental fortitude needed to stand in that decision even when you encounter new obstacles in your new way of living. I think that’s why many people backslide into negative thinking and negative relationships. Sometimes the devil you know seems like a better option than a new and scary endeavor. I love this advise and it’s a great video, just remember that doing the right thing can still hurt. 💜💜💜
I love this guy with all my heart and I don’t see myself with anybody else. But we often fight and makeup. We live together. He often brings up breaking up and it shakes something in me so hard in the thought of losing him. I want to learn to detach in order to make him feel like I’m not hovering him anymore. I’ve lost myself in fighting for this relationship that I hardly feel alive or myself anymore. I want to detach to regain myself back. He said he loved who I was in the beginning and now hates who I am today. He said the only way to love me again is to be myself again, but I don’t know why it’s so hard for me.
Just recently had to detach from a toxic friendship. You think it would be easy because they're toxic. But it's not. Especially when you still genuinely care about this person, but you know they'll never change... This person was like an older brother to me... this freaking hurts so much...💔😭
This is very true. I honestly feel that sometimes, taking a break from a romantic relationship or a relationship where you’re highly affectionate with someone, can really be helpful, it isn’t that you don’t care about that other person, but sometimes you may need to separate from them. It’s just that, at times, it can be better for your mental health/ well being and sometimes it’s just a healthier choice to make in any relationship, because it could possibly improve it or make it stronger, anyway, I really appreciate this advice in this video, it is extremely helpful. Thank you so much, Psych2go. This is just awesome, I really appreciate and love your videos, the content is so good and very useful, thanks again and I am really looking forward to more of these videos, for sure. ❤💕😘😊
I actually went through this a few weeks ago. I made myself scarce for two weeks, during which time I detached successfully and though it was rough, I had to do it. The worst part to me was the thought that something as innocent, pure and precious as new love, had to be snuffed out. Such a shame and a waste, but sometimes when the love is unrequited, it's the only healthy choice.
I wish I had the ability to watch this about 5 years ago, when I had been struggling with a messy end to a connection I had with someone I loved. I'd have done just about anything for them, only for them to eventually start using me, and then accuse me of being toxic when I (at the urging of family, friends, and therapists) questioned why they kept avoiding/pushing me away further. I have a new friend whom is far more accepting of my feelings and things are much more honest and open, and my only refret is if I hadn't had previous mistakes, we could have been happier that much more quickly.
the person i thought was the love of my life realized i was not his and found his person in another. that was 4 mos ago, i was devastated and still lost. and as much as i want to, is still having a hard time detaching from the idea of him. i will watch this video everyday hoping it will help me heal.
This was right on time and so very helpful. I've been on this healing journey a while now and now realizing how impatient I have been with myself and the process but not anymore. There is no time frame on healing no matter how much I want it to be over already, so bad!🤦🏾♀️ Now I have a few confirmations and new reinforcement exercises to try! Thank you for this!🙏🏾😌🙏🏾
In actual love is motivational..it motivates to do things put effort be responsible..not everyone can be that person.. sometimes when struck with a wrong bonding mistsking it as love can be a greater risk
I think that the best I've ever been able to manage is steps 3 and 4. For whatever reason, completely letting go, processing emotions and anything resembling a support system aren't things that I seem to be capable of.
Absolutely, setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining your well-being and preserving healthy relationships. But how do you strike the balance between detachment and caring deeply for someone?
@@Psych2gocan i ask one question? my wife of 12 yrs just ended our relationship 4 months ago. but i just recently started no contact 2 weeks ago. but the thing is, we have a child so im not sure exactly how can i continue this. we have a 7 yr old daughter. im not sure exactly what to do.. im really hurt right now so im trying my hardest to detach from her.
The video is actually very positive ......I tried hard to be with him and then a time came when I realized that it is hurting me more so I let him go and I got myself back , I realized my self worth , I got back my positivity and power. Thanks to God to let me embark on the new journey of positivity and self care.❤❤
I can't relate to this, despite just having heard what should have been rejection to me. Love is wanting to help each other become better versions of themselves. If there's no Growth or at least contentment, then that was never love.
@@KittyHeadSetOSC I have had a friend since the last 7.5 years or so. And he was the best possible friend one could have. I can't emphasize how important he was in my life. In some cases, friendships which have so much depth turn into romance, but that didn't happen for us. In a platonic way though, he was much more than a friend. The lengths to which he would go for me were unimaginable. He was the one I went to for everything - be it stinging memories of an ex, family issues, relationship shenanigans, work pressure and whatnot. The list is unending. And he always turned up wherever I needed him - both physically and virtually. It sounds too good to be true but it was. I was also the one he shared his deepest secrets with. I'm not taking any names here, so I guess it's safe to say this. Last year, he fell in love with someone already in a relationship. He confided in me initially, but stopped after a few months. And not just about that issue, about everything. He just stopped talking to me. And I had literally no clue what I did wrong. I did ask him eventually, but he only said he was going through a difficult phase and needed to close off from everyone. Except that he did not. I was the only one he withdrew from. He declined to meet me or talk to me, but went on outings with many other friends, including those he used to complain to me about. And most shockingly, even _that_ girl herself. I was hurt but I tried my best to give him the space I wanted. But after a few months I reached my limit. I finally asked him for an explanation regarding his attitude towards me. And he just said some traumatic events (related to the girl) had happened to him, and since I knew about it a little, I became a trigger for him. So he was avoiding me while mingling superficially with others. And he needed more time before he could meet me. Well we finally met a couple weeks ago. It was bittersweet; while I was finally glad to see him, he didn't want to share what happened. He only told me he's still quite worn out and struggling. And I could see he wasn't his former self. It's just that - it's been more than a year now since our distance grew. And it _still_ hurts the same. I know he can't be blamed but I've not been able to come to terms with how he treated me. And how undesired he made me feel. And all those past years, all the memories of how different things were keep causing me a lot of pain. I really dk what to do. I've tried everything - giving him space, trying to talk about other stuff, trying to help. At this point I gravely doubt that our friendship can go back to how it was. I'm worried about him too, but even talking to him and getting those one-liner responses hurts too much now. I really can't figure out how to deal with this without getting hurt repeatedly. I don't want to cause him pain but my threshold is getting breached too.
The person i liked (and still do) is very close to me. I've known her for 6 years, and we've done so many things together. Our families are great friends, and i know all her close relatives. We talk every day, and i see her every day. It's close to impossible for me to move on from someone im so close to. I'm really desperate, and moving on really feels harder than climbing Mount Everest.
I’m in highschool, he said we would have many more years to find someone new, and wishing me happiness and all is well. He’s a tear older than me, but I really believed in us in making it out together.. This has been impacting my performance at school, and I wish he could have trusted me a bit more.
I love her with all my heart but all her actions show me she doesn’t care for how her behavior hurts me and my healing process. It’s all about revenge. I wish it would stop but I’ve just accepted what I can’t change is and now it’s finally gotten better
This recently happened to me. I had someone that we both had great chemistry between us but on the communication level it didn't work out. I came to the conclusion that this isn't going to work, the best thing is to detach yourself from that person, yes it hurts but without a solid communication both ways then you only delaying the eventual hurt anyway. A romantic relationship is like building a solid bridge that must last centuries in all kinds of weather and traffic. If it is built to brittle then it won't last, better to nope out early before you get too emotionally intertwined with that person. Also I am looking for work in a big city where I hope to meet other people with same interest and core values, I miss having a tribe of trusted friends and hopefully someone to connect with love. But for now I am stuck in middle of nowhere, the only thing I can do is to work on my hobby because everything else around me is falling down in chaos, I am like a round Lego brick that won't fit anywhere where everyone is squared, hence I wish to move in to big city where people like me are drawn into.
Anyone who is reading this should know that everything happens for a reason and that you probably dodged a bullet if someone broke up with you. Like I was heartbroken when that one girl rejected me saying stuff like „I am not interested in relationships at the moment“. A year later she married someone and after 2 weeks divorced the same man taking everything he had from him. When I heard this I was glad that it didn‘t happen with her. Now I am engaged to a woman who is actually happy when I am around and tries to support me in every way.
It's been 2 months since she broke my heart. It wasn't reciprocated at all, I did most of the work but I was so attached and in love that I didn't realize that she wasted my time completely and disrespected me....I think I can finally let go since I've made a lot of new friends and created a support system to help me find my purpose again along with finding my inner peace ❤️🙏
Wow. Video came in clutch i removed myself from a situation 2 days ago. Been hurt asf i went out and drink alot of alcohol but at the end of the day i felt nothing from it. Currently on day 3 & im going to be fine!
Can you make a video on how to stop caring about other's unrealistic expectations from people you love? And to what extent does this video apply to a father or mother figure rather than a crush/partner?
It is springtime, the second season we all can embrace… Letting go means to fear less & love more … We are humans after all & quite normal when it hurts because we care about others too much but we end up hurting ourselves in the process because of expectations are not the same wavelengths. Sunsets after all do have beautiful endings… Who knows? The ending can indeed bring out a new beginning. Sometimes the timing is not right at the moment. So plant the seed when it is warmer & magic will appear before your eyes while giving it tender loving and care. That seed is about you ! Seek love within because you can’t hurt yourself by loving you ! Whoever you will meet, it will always require understanding & compromise. How much you can tolerate depends on the level of self care you are willing to detach yourself from. If it doesn’t make you feel good, let go.. embrace life as it is in the present moment.. embrace it in whatever way which will make you happy. Life is beautiful after all!
Is anyone feeling stuck in a situation where you can't let someone go for your own good? We hope this video will help those are feeling stuck
Thank you so much I've been trying to detach from my friend who keeps asking for money everyday :)❤
how do I help someone to move on?
I used this trick after being insulted by 2 girls at March 27th, 2023
Maybe this our greatest challange maybe. Thanks for the vid x This is a very tough one ❤
I broke up with my gf 3 days ago even tho I still love her because she told me she wanted to become a guy
We still want to be friends but it’s hard to just let go of my feelings
The timing was oddly right.......
For real. Even the artists I listen to or songs I’ve been recommended know, but makes sense 😢
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It's important to note that detaching isn't the same as not caring. You can't help what you feel. It means channeling your energies into something constructive instead of something that keeps you stuck. I was stuck on someone, but I show love by acts of service. Instead of chasing a person, I am volunteering at the food bank. It lets me share love without romance, which is the thing that was keeping me stuck in the moment.
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thank you for the advice
"Love without romance"
The summary of around 70% of all marriages.
That's actually very clarifying. In my own process I came to notice that my love language is touch and kind words, and even if it sounds cliché, I just want to make people smile and share a feeling of wonder.
So I embraced it, and instead of holding onto the person like I once did, I started to bring out my guitar more, learning songs that would indeed make others (and me) smile. I never linked this new energy outlet to my love language, but it's surprisingly fitting. Nice observation!
Hmm that's a great idea ! I'll try something that fits my love language.
1. The art of surrender: just let go, challenging but liberating journey
2. Feel and process your emotions
3. Establish your boundaries
4. Focus and self-care
5. Cultivate a support system: from your family and friends
When you've never had a supportive group of friends or family in your entire life and now you have no one at all '-' Step 5 is literally impossible for me lol
@@psychedeliknightmare6988 same.... I don't have anyone I can lean on besides my gf but I had to take a major break from her because of stuff that's happened
@@psychedeliknightmare6988 I'm in the same situation. I have no one I trust to be genuine enough to support me, so I've decided to cultivate a support system within myself. Pray for me😊
@@psychedeliknightmare6988support Yourself bruhh, you're enough for yourself 🪿
@@psychedeliknightmare6988I‘m sorry for that. I‘d be glad to give you an ear an listen if you have something to pour from your heart. I‘ve been there… and kinda am and it still hurts even though I have good friends that listen to me. But believe me friends do like 30-40% of the work, your part is much more important. But still if you find yourself stuck get professional help… or answer here I‘ll wait.
People say the best thing to do after a breakup is to focus that energy on improving yourself when it’s really easier said than done, especially if you still love that person and had a very close connection. In theory, it sounds great to focus on working on yourself But in reality, it’s a rollercoaster of emotions and setbacks. It may take some time to recover, but for some of us, the pain becomes permanent. It’s like losing a part of your body that will never grow back.
Even if I focus on something else my brain will go back to my ex who betrayed my trust 😢
@@ChocoParfaitFraYo its completely fine.I was once in your situation before but keep in mind that your ex is not important anymore and you have to rebuild up your own paths and goals in your life and even if it is hard to let go but it is ok because I was struggling before and I have having a hsrd time letting go but when I talked to my family members or my friends about it it totally helps me out and you can find your own ways to get off your ex from your mind because I believe that we are strong and an independent people but it is always fine to ask for help 😊😊
Yes, we broke up a few months ago but definitely recently. He was my best friend, my confidant, my support when I needed him.... It has been and is very hard, and I have just spent a week that has seemed like a nightmare to me. Sometimes I'm hoping we'll come back and I try not to have such hope , but I can't help it, even through he made a lot of mistake, I do still love him and I wonder if he still feels the same.
I don’t get this. After a break up why would you be sad?
@@ToniToniChopaaa Because you still could love that person a lot
What I've learned:
Detach. Rebuild. Rediscover.
Redetach rerebuuld rerediscover
Reredetach. Rererebuild. Rererediscover.
It hurts so badly when you love someone so deeply, but will never have them. I walked away from her, but I can't walk away from the love in my heart.
i just think of the bad way she left me , and didn't care about the love i gave her
I suppose we're all in the same situation. I hope you find someone who truly loves you and is better for you.
Getting through this situation is similar to a bereavement - Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance.
exactly this
Yep.
Can confirm.
Omg, I just realised this video is basically how to handle the 5 stages of grief: to denial you have to acept that it's over, in anger you process your emotions, in bargaining you establish boundaries, in depression you take care of yourself and in acceptance you maintain a supportive group of people.
I just ended my 5 years of situationship with my first love. We didn’t take it as the usual romantic relationship as we’re too young to commit for such things. Tbf, it still hurts so much though. I cared for this person a lot and would initiate most of our conversations, believing in our “potential” to move into the next steps. Potential is just potential after all. Things happen and we came into conclusion that our life plan/goals would not go together. So here I am in the process of detaching.
If you’re reading this and going through the similar things as me, I hope you find the right person who cares for you, which you deserve. And please pray for the success of my detachment journey too :)
🤝 the road of healing is long (what feels like forever can be only a couple of months) but u got this, stay strong 💪 -> from someone in an almost identical situation
I'm in a very similar situation, it's tough. My mind tricked me that everything could be toughed out with enough willpower, but I see now that she needs to heal from her suffering and work on finding out, what she wants to achieve in her life and that's alright. You'll get through this too. It's tough, but I believe it's an important life lesson to learn.
I feel you,I have the same situation on me
I, too have this similar situation and I, we were at a long distance relationship that could 'potentially' work but just as you stated *Potential is just Potential after all*
There's things that our life is too different to ours which made it harder for us to process. Either way it's better
For me to let her go.
The feeling of processing so much emotion at once was hard. Guilt, grief, depression hitted me all.
We ended our relationship In a
Respectful way because of our differences and we were too young to even do those things in the first place.
I liked her, she liked me back.
But in the end it would be for the best to let go not only for me, but for her as well.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
hey man im not too wise on things like this cuz im only 18 but the only thing that helps in the long run is just giving it time and being patient with your own mind. Dont stress yourself out too much but also dont let your foot off the gas man hope you can grt through it
My girl friend broke up with me right before my college graduation, she mentioned that she wanted to focus on herself and mend her relationship with her parents. I'm still struggling to accept that she's gone from my life but this video helped me process it a lot better. Thank you
probably an avoidant . i hope you went 0 contact and stopped trying to chase her
This makes me want to cry. I don't want to detach from my friend for 12 years but current circumstances says this is the time to let go 🥺🤧
I know what you mean by that.. 😕
❤❤
Its scary how RUclips predicts when you need videos like this
That's God
So Scary
Letting go is extremely hard but once it was done I made sure to detach completely. As much as it hurt, it was freeing, and I was able to meet better people and let my friends help me out. I don't think about her all the time anymore, but anytime I have a nightmare, it's her and she's hurting me in some way, which makes me wake up in tears. I hope my mind lets go of her too, however long it takes.
i feel this, you have some PTSD
@@liztowers2058 well it's not a serious as PTSD but it is trauma related
It's hard to let them go because you still care about them and still love them it hurts to see someone who said that they really love you and that they can't live without you and after breaking up they replace you that fast like you never meant anything to them that was the worst pain I ever felt
Such a terrible thing to experience, I have personally been there. It gets better with time, I promise❤
@@GuidedLoveandWellness thank you so much it has been almost 4 months now I'm trying my best to stay strong but sometimes I just break down for holding everything inside for too long every day it's a battle and a challenging
The worst thing is giving up on who you love because they don't love you the same way. It's like a diabetic patient giving up on sugar not because they hate sugar but because they know it's bad for them only much worse. People are all about self love these days. In this whole big world can't there be a single person meant for you that you can just relax and trust?? Why is it so hard??
I wonder too
Internet/online has destroyed the fabric of society
You must learn to love yourself before loving another one"..💖
That part❤️ big facts!
I definitely think that this is great advice for anybody who feels like they’ve lost themselves in their relationship - romantic or otherwise - with another person. There’s too many people who believe that that other person makes for their happiness, when in fact, they should only add to their happiness.
Plus, I feel like this would be especially useful for anybody who maybe there coming off of a break up with someone special who maybe it’s just not the right time for the other person… Not so much the case of a bad break up, but being on different positions in life and what you want at the time… A case of basically the right person but the wrong time… I feel like this advice would be great for anybody who is experiencing that.
It really felt like he was the one we had a strong connection with each other then he randomly decided to cut it off he thought that he couldn’t see us getting married though he loved me a lot and he started thinking about breaking up with me once life got difficult for him and he moved away with a new job and we both didn’t feel a strong connection anymore because we didn’t spend much time with each other like we used to before he moved away and we didn’t text much like we used to. It still hurts though the break up happened 4 months ago, I miss him desperately and we don’t talk anymore and all I want is to have that connection again even just as friends 😢
Been trying to get over close friends, who I cared deeply for. I would even argue that I felt a form of "Philia", love of family, because they were an online "family"/"tribe" for me...good timing
Literally... I'm having this "We are friends but more than friend but not dating... can't put a label on what we are..." situation and I am not for it.
I am tired of giving this woman my love and I'm tired of the mix signals... and tired of having hope that maybe her and I can be more.
same here
Bro all girls do that, they just want your attention and affection but believe me I don't think she'll ever be your..... of course things are different for everyone I know that and it happened to me to but in the end she just wanted my attention because I use to treat her very good and gave her priority. I think you should try to move on and just let go of it.
I’m a girl and I felt the same way about a guy friend of mine, but I was shy and never told him how I felt, he has a girlfriend now, so I am doing the honorable thing and letting him go. I regret not having told him but acknowledge that it is too late and time to move on.
That was me, about a year ago I think
I still think about her ngl, miss her even...
Breadcrumbing, I think that's the word for what she did
We were very closed friends, close enough to have heart-to-heart pillow talks.
After my confession, she didn't reply positively, rather being elusive
Eventually, I broke it off for my own mental health
Nobody should be other person's second choice
Love is a choice, a decision,
not something for them to fall back on when their fancy dreams turned to dust
@@yogendragupta1060yeah no please don’t spread that info. idk if you’re also hurting and if you are I’m very sorry but not all girls are like that and you should know that. I know there are a few bad apples out there but just because you personally had a bad experience with a girl doesn’t mean she’s the equivalent of every lady out there. Wish you well bro
0:00
1:15 1. The Art of Surrender
1:53 2. Feel and Process Your Emotion
2:35 3. Establish Boundaries
3:07 4. Focus on Your Self-care
3:47 5. Cultivate a Support System
4:18 outro
Thanks a lot for this synopsis😊
We kinda get addicted to the chemicals of our experience in the past, get addicted to who we were and loop those over and over again. You need to let yourself go, let yourself change..
Fell in love with a old friend,absolutely smitten at 67 years old,feel like im 16 all over again,my heart took me for a ride i could not stop.🙄♥️ No amount of my head trying to reason with my heart would stop it.crazy heart.
Wow I know this feeling ! Its hard to detach but you've got to be strong and walk especially if care isn't reciprocated
@@nataliegallego6526 Gave back to me then changed her mind,scared ,unsure,?
Perfect Timing 😭😭
we got your back
Who wants to love someone who doesn't love them back... it's got to be the worst feeling I've ever had to feel
Where's the female voice?😭😭😭😭
Agreed OG voice not being used anymore losses some of my interest in the videos...
Ye where iz amenda?!
Interesting that the female voice is more important than the information being conveyed.
@Jonnbgoodx got nothing to do with that, it's harder to understand a lot of times. Some of the other female voice overs have been hard to understand as well, not just the males.
Why is it needed? Just enjoy someone and still.work.om your own healing. The two are not mutually exclusive. Also it is important to distinguish between Self and self. If you leave for your own independence then you will likely just return back to the same place. Independence is still ego.
Letting go feels like going through hell.
Staying with the feeling when you process your emotions is truly maddening. It hurts like crazy, like you can feel it physically in your heart. It's heavy and suffocating. 🥺
It’s the holding on that feels like going through hell, you think you’re letting go and that’s what’s causing you pain but it’s not, it’s the idea of letting go and the fact you’re still holding on to something that isn’t there.
Building a healthy level of detachment in a relationship is crucial for maintaining balance and individual growth. One piece of advice is to prioritize communication and set clear boundaries early on. It's important to understand that while love and connection are essential, maintaining a sense of self and independence is equally important. Encouraging each other's personal growth, pursuing individual hobbies and interests, and respecting each other's space are all key aspects of fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Ultimately, it's about finding the right balance between togetherness and individuality.💙💙
Its the idea of never seeing them again or how their life turns out. When you unconditionally care for someone so much you cant help but want to remain part kf their life in some way
I see it as a process of mourning the person and the relationship. Sometimes for many the person we are mourning in our heart and mind isn't actually the person we were in a relationship with.
So we mourn a phantom relationship, as that person isn't always the person we are grieving.
It's a feeling of grieving the story in Pur mind of what was and could have been, but if our ex had healing to do, and masked it, it's only a matter of time until the real person shows up, and it's not the one we imagined in our minds.
Incredibly toxic comment: she gave up on something incredible, and she's just going to have detachment handed to her. It's beyond unfair that she gets to cheat, give up, run away, and move on effortlessly, while I'm stuck clawing my way through every single step of detachment against my will. I hate the world we've created ... But I love and trust myself enough to become someone better than my pain.
It's part of being a man, unfortunately. We're slow to love and we invest over time in the relationship. Women are quick to love, but can also feel differently tomorrow no matter your history together, forget you, leave you and have someone new the next day. But even that is it's own hell for them as they become jaded the more they do it. It's just the hand we are dealt. Best to just detach and not catch feelings again.
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@@chari5151 I need an IRL hug so bad, thank you so much for you consideration
This sounds like me and my situation. He did the same.
That’s how life it is for men
Sometimes so cruel ..
U invest every bit of your last ounce and when they leave u just remain empty shell..
happened to me last month
Somehow keeping my sanity and moving on to something bigger and greater..
I needed this more than ever. My ex was damaged and never grew out of the childhood trauma she suffered, and she’s developed severe narcissistic tendencies. She manipulated and lied to me countless times and I couldn’t help but try and save her, which was always my flaw. You can’t save anyone, and it’s when I chose to be better for myself that I walked away from her. She was hurting me so deeply and just didn’t care anymore. The anger was so intense, as well as the grief. I felt all of these. Confusion, Grief, Anger, Relief.
I cut her off completely because I know I can’t trust her again, not allowing her to weasel her way into my life again. I pray everyone here can heal, like I pray for her to finally heal the inner child that never got the love she needed. I pray God does something good soon.
I love how RUclips knows what to bring at the right time
It all sounds logical, reasonable and even brave to move on, yet a great sadness still overshadows all reason.
I feel like the point that stands out the most is ensuring a proper support system. For me at least, it made a world's difference. All other things require at least a bit of energy, but having a way to recharge your batteries can not only help process things better but also more efficient.
I found myself alone, things went south with my boyfriend who before that was my one and only best friend and he took with himself all the people that i thought were our people, i was just wrong. They were his people first. There was one in particular that i really loved and cherished. Being alone was ordinary for me but then i found in this girl someone really similar to me and it was awesome i didn't feel alone anymore. But then I discovered something else. You don't really know people, even if they were your shoulder, your rock. You don't know them and they don't really know you, right now I'm alone, again, but i want to cherish my loneliness, it was once a prison, something oppressive, but at the moment I can say that the loneliness is my friend and maybe a strength after all
@@serenapalleschi7821 You'll get through this for sure. Believe in yourself when no one else believes in you. Be your own best friend, because at the end of your life you'll always still have yourself even if everyone else is already gone.
Thank you I needed this ❤
Hope this video helps you!
The timing is scary perfect, just lost the only friend i thought i had and said that I'm always making a big deal of everything, but he doesn't know what it feels like to live eith severe depression, bad anxiety and bad trust issues and people sending pictures of me around school calling me names and bullying me on a basis like he knows what it's like
Self Love is the best. At the right time, the right person will come your way. Thank you for this. ❤
The fact that this video is even needed is heartbreaking
I am on the journey for about 3 months and a half now. And I get distracted quite often during the last half month. I will now take a pause, go back to remind myself the reason I started to walk this path of learning to surrender and letting go. And I will then resumed the journey again.
I know I love myself. I am learning how to love myself correctly. Everything will be okay.
He is into you if he's CONSISTENT.
No mixed signals.
Keep your spirit of discernment sharp, ladies!
Giving the same energy that you're getting
is key
and if you don't like that energy
then move on.
It can be hard
but that's when you need to choose yourself
(over the damn illusion/fantasy!)
A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.
So...
If he ignores me
I will step back
and he will lose me.
Simple. Simple.
Non-dramatic
and uncomplicated.
I don’t, under any circumstance:
play these childish-abusive-controlling
mind games.
I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
and treats me as the Queen, I AM.
(Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)
Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
who knows my worth.
Period.
1. Visualize. Pray.
2. Act as if: you already have that relationship that you desire!
3. Celebrate love whenever and wherever you can
4. Have fun, build trust within yourself
5. Have faith, they’re on their way!
Narcissism and entitlement at its finest
SOUTH AFRICAN VOICEOVER YEEE!! It's so nice to hear a south african person doing the voice for this message.
“Love yourself” it’s real easy to say, but hard to do. When you have just left a relationship and that is the right thing to do , it’s still hard finding what loving yourself even looks like when you have sacrificed for another for so long, even years in some cases. Then there is the mental fortitude needed to stand in that decision even when you encounter new obstacles in your new way of living. I think that’s why many people backslide into negative thinking and negative relationships. Sometimes the devil you know seems like a better option than a new and scary endeavor. I love this advise and it’s a great video, just remember that doing the right thing can still hurt. 💜💜💜
This is the exact video I needed to see right now. Heart break is killing me and I'm relieved to have this video recommended! ❤
I love this guy with all my heart and I don’t see myself with anybody else. But we often fight and makeup. We live together. He often brings up breaking up and it shakes something in me so hard in the thought of losing him. I want to learn to detach in order to make him feel like I’m not hovering him anymore. I’ve lost myself in fighting for this relationship that I hardly feel alive or myself anymore. I want to detach to regain myself back. He said he loved who I was in the beginning and now hates who I am today. He said the only way to love me again is to be myself again, but I don’t know why it’s so hard for me.
Thank you, I’ve been struggling for a while…
That makes 2 of us, we'll get there, it can take some time. Now it's time to bulster yourself up
We hope this video helps :) How did you feel after watching this video?
Just recently had to detach from a toxic friendship. You think it would be easy because they're toxic. But it's not. Especially when you still genuinely care about this person, but you know they'll never change... This person was like an older brother to me... this freaking hurts so much...💔😭
The timing of this video. I’m literally going through a break up as we speak
Currently experiencing heartbreak. Thank you for this. 🥺♥️
Sorry to hear that :( hope this video helps
This is very true. I honestly feel that sometimes, taking a break from a romantic relationship or a relationship where you’re highly affectionate with someone, can really be helpful, it isn’t that you don’t care about that other person, but sometimes you may need to separate from them. It’s just that, at times, it can be better for your mental health/ well being and sometimes it’s just a healthier choice to make in any relationship, because it could possibly improve it or make it stronger, anyway, I really appreciate this advice in this video, it is extremely helpful. Thank you so much, Psych2go. This is just awesome, I really appreciate and love your videos, the content is so good and very useful, thanks again and I am really looking forward to more of these videos, for sure. ❤💕😘😊
I actually went through this a few weeks ago.
I made myself scarce for two weeks, during which time I detached successfully and though it was rough, I had to do it.
The worst part to me was the thought that something as innocent, pure and precious as new love, had to be snuffed out.
Such a shame and a waste, but sometimes when the love is unrequited, it's the only healthy choice.
Its going to be ok. Its this first leap if faith thats the hardest, telling someone its over is easier said than done.
I wish I had the ability to watch this about 5 years ago, when I had been struggling with a messy end to a connection I had with someone I loved. I'd have done just about anything for them, only for them to eventually start using me, and then accuse me of being toxic when I (at the urging of family, friends, and therapists) questioned why they kept avoiding/pushing me away further.
I have a new friend whom is far more accepting of my feelings and things are much more honest and open, and my only refret is if I hadn't had previous mistakes, we could have been happier that much more quickly.
where is Amanda Silvera?
I’ve been dealing with this for months, thank you for helping
the person i thought was the love of my life realized i was not his and found his person in another. that was 4 mos ago, i was devastated and still lost. and as much as i want to, is still having a hard time detaching from the idea of him. i will watch this video everyday hoping it will help me heal.
sitting outside crying and this video came up. perfect timing. thank you
This is scaring me how perfect these vids pop up on my fyp
The timing on this video is impeccable.🙏🏼🙏🏼
I’ve struggled with doing this for years now. And I think I’m finally accepting it in my heart.
This was right on time and so very helpful. I've been on this healing journey a while now and now realizing how impatient I have been with myself and the process but not anymore. There is no time frame on healing no matter how much I want it to be over already, so bad!🤦🏾♀️ Now I have a few confirmations and new reinforcement exercises to try! Thank you for this!🙏🏾😌🙏🏾
At this point, the algorithm can't deny that it spies on me
In actual love is motivational..it motivates to do things put effort be responsible..not everyone can be that person.. sometimes when struck with a wrong bonding mistsking it as love can be a greater risk
The timing of this video is impeccably perfect... It scares me
Join us in the gym brother
I got the Preworkout!
Dab me in I got da water
Gymcels are soo into cope
Deadlifting is key!!💪😎
@@xiphine least we look good while doing it. 🔥
I think that the best I've ever been able to manage is steps 3 and 4. For whatever reason, completely letting go, processing emotions and anything resembling a support system aren't things that I seem to be capable of.
Detaching from someone just means setting a boundary for yourself and not just for the person you love but it doesn't mean you should stop caring...
Absolutely, setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining your well-being and preserving healthy relationships. But how do you strike the balance between detachment and caring deeply for someone?
@@Psych2gocan i ask one question? my wife of 12 yrs just ended our relationship 4 months ago. but i just recently started no contact 2 weeks ago. but the thing is, we have a child so im not sure exactly how can i continue this. we have a 7 yr old daughter. im not sure exactly what to do.. im really hurt right now so im trying my hardest to detach from her.
The video is actually very positive ......I tried hard to be with him and then a time came when I realized that it is hurting me more so I let him go and I got myself back , I realized my self worth , I got back my positivity and power. Thanks to God to let me embark on the new journey of positivity and self care.❤❤
I haven't been in love in such a long time I don't even remember how it feels
When it happens again take your time and feel them out. Not only physically, xbut emotionally and mentally ❤
@@GuidedLoveandWellness thanks i will
Yess…lets learn ♥️
I detached myself from every single emotion in the process
I can't relate to this, despite just having heard what should have been rejection to me.
Love is wanting to help each other become better versions of themselves.
If there's no Growth or at least contentment, then that was never love.
Perfect timing! I need to detach from my ex-best friend. I'm struggling with it :(
It's oki to struggle btw❤️🩹
@@KittyHeadSetOSC I have had a friend since the last 7.5 years or so. And he was the best possible friend one could have. I can't emphasize how important he was in my life. In some cases, friendships which have so much depth turn into romance, but that didn't happen for us. In a platonic way though, he was much more than a friend. The lengths to which he would go for me were unimaginable. He was the one I went to for everything - be it stinging memories of an ex, family issues, relationship shenanigans, work pressure and whatnot. The list is unending.
And he always turned up wherever I needed him - both physically and virtually. It sounds too good to be true but it was.
I was also the one he shared his deepest secrets with. I'm not taking any names here, so I guess it's safe to say this. Last year, he fell in love with someone already in a relationship. He confided in me initially, but stopped after a few months. And not just about that issue, about everything. He just stopped talking to me. And I had literally no clue what I did wrong. I did ask him eventually, but he only said he was going through a difficult phase and needed to close off from everyone.
Except that he did not. I was the only one he withdrew from. He declined to meet me or talk to me, but went on outings with many other friends, including those he used to complain to me about. And most shockingly, even _that_ girl herself.
I was hurt but I tried my best to give him the space I wanted. But after a few months I reached my limit. I finally asked him for an explanation regarding his attitude towards me. And he just said some traumatic events (related to the girl) had happened to him, and since I knew about it a little, I became a trigger for him. So he was avoiding me while mingling superficially with others. And he needed more time before he could meet me.
Well we finally met a couple weeks ago. It was bittersweet; while I was finally glad to see him, he didn't want to share what happened. He only told me he's still quite worn out and struggling. And I could see he wasn't his former self.
It's just that - it's been more than a year now since our distance grew. And it _still_ hurts the same. I know he can't be blamed but I've not been able to come to terms with how he treated me. And how undesired he made me feel. And all those past years, all the memories of how different things were keep causing me a lot of pain.
I really dk what to do. I've tried everything - giving him space, trying to talk about other stuff, trying to help. At this point I gravely doubt that our friendship can go back to how it was.
I'm worried about him too, but even talking to him and getting those one-liner responses hurts too much now. I really can't figure out how to deal with this without getting hurt repeatedly. I don't want to cause him pain but my threshold is getting breached too.
Oh my god.....the timing and what I'm going through ❤
Exactly what I need
Nothing like love...nothing like being in love. But man can it sting...
Thank you, for this video. The timing is really perfect with my current suture situation right now
You’re right! I went through that 40 years ago. This video is correct. It works. You must get on with the rest of your life. 😅
Why did this come up JUST on the right time?
The person i liked (and still do) is very close to me. I've known her for 6 years, and we've done so many things together. Our families are great friends, and i know all her close relatives. We talk every day, and i see her every day. It's close to impossible for me to move on from someone im so close to.
I'm really desperate, and moving on really feels harder than climbing Mount Everest.
I’m in highschool, he said we would have many more years to find someone new, and wishing me happiness and all is well. He’s a tear older than me, but I really believed in us in making it out together.. This has been impacting my performance at school, and I wish he could have trusted me a bit more.
I love her with all my heart but all her actions show me she doesn’t care for how her behavior hurts me and my healing process. It’s all about revenge. I wish it would stop but I’ve just accepted what I can’t change is and now it’s finally gotten better
This recently happened to me. I had someone that we both had great chemistry between us but on the communication level it didn't work out. I came to the conclusion that this isn't going to work, the best thing is to detach yourself from that person, yes it hurts but without a solid communication both ways then you only delaying the eventual hurt anyway. A romantic relationship is like building a solid bridge that must last centuries in all kinds of weather and traffic. If it is built to brittle then it won't last, better to nope out early before you get too emotionally intertwined with that person. Also I am looking for work in a big city where I hope to meet other people with same interest and core values, I miss having a tribe of trusted friends and hopefully someone to connect with love. But for now I am stuck in middle of nowhere, the only thing I can do is to work on my hobby because everything else around me is falling down in chaos, I am like a round Lego brick that won't fit anywhere where everyone is squared, hence I wish to move in to big city where people like me are drawn into.
This timing was perfect for me...
ps - This voice is 🔥
Anyone who is reading this should know that everything happens for a reason and that you probably dodged a bullet if someone broke up with you. Like I was heartbroken when that one girl rejected me saying stuff like „I am not interested in relationships at the moment“. A year later she married someone and after 2 weeks divorced the same man taking everything he had from him. When I heard this I was glad that it didn‘t happen with her. Now I am engaged to a woman who is actually happy when I am around and tries to support me in every way.
I love this! Your animations brought it home. I speak about this a lot on my channel. Detachment is necessary!
why did this appear so perfectly timed
Letting go and saying goodbye is never easy.
The timing od this video is too good to be true...
I really REALLY hoped i wouldn't need this video, but here i am.
This came at the right time. Yet also somehow the worst time. Thank you.
It's been 2 months since she broke my heart. It wasn't reciprocated at all, I did most of the work but I was so attached and in love that I didn't realize that she wasted my time completely and disrespected me....I think I can finally let go since I've made a lot of new friends and created a support system to help me find my purpose again along with finding my inner peace ❤️🙏
Wow. Video came in clutch i removed myself from a situation 2 days ago. Been hurt asf i went out and drink alot of alcohol but at the end of the day i felt nothing from it. Currently on day 3 & im going to be fine!
You can stand on your own.
Once you realise, you understand the power of Love.
a month after a break up i needed this thank you.
it really hurts when life has been going upside down and having trust issues and other problem doesn't help
Can you make a video on how to stop caring about other's unrealistic expectations from people you love? And to what extent does this video apply to a father or mother figure rather than a crush/partner?
It is springtime, the second season we all can embrace…
Letting go means to fear less & love more …
We are humans after all & quite normal when it hurts because we care about others too much but we end up hurting ourselves in the process because of expectations are not the same wavelengths.
Sunsets after all do have beautiful endings…
Who knows? The ending can indeed bring out a new beginning. Sometimes the timing is not right at the moment. So plant the seed when it is warmer & magic will appear before your eyes while giving it tender loving and care. That seed is about you ! Seek love within because you can’t hurt yourself by loving you ! Whoever you will meet, it will always require understanding & compromise. How much you can tolerate depends on the level of self care you are willing to detach yourself from. If it doesn’t make you feel good, let go.. embrace life as it is in the present moment.. embrace it in whatever way which will make you happy. Life is beautiful after all!
Your voice is calm which settles down wandering mind, makes to listen your thoughts. Good work...