Been doing MMA for over a year now. Best decision ever. I got humbled a lot by stronger opponents and still do because there are a lot of bad mfks out there that can kill you, but I built a lot of courage and confidence facing them everytime and it pays off every day. People just feel that you are dangerous and won't mess with you. Stop being a doormat for all the psychos and narcissists out there and learn to be dangerous
I agree. In my experience, most people who are trained to fight, prefer peace in the streets. There is less to prove when you know you can handle yourself.
Thats because u understand there are stronger guys who can beat you up and if not you dont wanna hurt someone. U just dont know who is stronger. either u win or lose. Thats why I avoid fight on the street even thiugh Ive trained mma for many years.
Fight training extends far beyond the physical realm. As a blue belt in BJJ and a boxer, it's about balancing the calcified mind against emotional impulses. It's the commitment to showing up daily, irrespective of emotions, fostering consistency, discipline, and self-reflection. It unveils deeper layers of discomfort and cultivates unmatched confidence, making it an unparalleled journey in achieving physical efficiency. Most men have the emotional urge and baseless confidence of what they “think” they can do when needed physically but so many couldn’t not throw 10 seconds of punches without dying. Those men are truly a danger to society.
Rarely good YT comment. I'll add that getting punched in the face hard is the first step towards becoming a man. If you haven't taken this step, you can't benefit from the wisdom laid out by the OP.
@@World36599 Because when you're sparing at even 50% it's still a "real fight" in terms of stress level. If you're constantly exposed to that heightened level multiple times a week, it will be easier when it happens randomly
@@product_of_august Yes that explains it. I've taken time off boxing in the past, and been afraid to spar even though I have the skill to spar. But when I'm constantly sparing, just seems like another day in the office my friend.
I am still in fear, but not of the other guy. It's because I grew up in really raw environment and was with football hooligans for years here in Poland. We had many organized group fights and many not organized, random encounters. Everything changed when me and few boys met another group of hoolies. My friend punched guy who died few days after. This wrecked and changed my friend forever. I don't want this to happen to me and to a family of some random guy. You can win sport competition, but only survive real fight. I am more than capable to defend myself, but I am always avoiding this, even when I know that someone is not a reap challenge.
The best thing I learned in 15 years of law enforcement, especially when I worked in areas where backup was no closer than half an hour at best, wasn't learning what you could do but learning what you shouldn't do.
Having the ability to defend yourself in any way possible is important this day and age. A gun is the last resort , knowing how to de-escalate the situation is key.
Never was there a time in history, that a man did not need to be able to defend himself...learning to be able to defend yourself does not mean you are going to use it...but can if you have to. Not only yourself but also your family if needed!
No, it's actually good. Means that we're mostly safe and don't need to spend energy permanently looking over our shoulder for an attacker. And now that we have a choice, the choice to still train fighting is even more important and character building. Don't go romanticizing wanton violence ffs.
Trained MMA/Grappling over 20 years. I used to Teach as well.( Reza Nasri,Carlson Gracie &JJ Machado)I worked in a Jail for 10 years. Was a bouncer, Executive Protection,Etc. When you've had more brawls and fights than most. You'll do Everything to avoid it much easier and calmly than 99% of the people who have No Experience in these situations. My late dad boxed in prison. On the streets, he was very well known. One of the best things he ever taught me. "Son, just walk away. Keep your eye's on them. But just walk away." "It's not worth it son. Promise you'll always do that first."One of the last things he said to me before The Lord took him back home.
Here's another reason why you want to train: you move differently. According to the research - and Jocko Willink has talked about this - bad guys choose their victims. How do they choose them? The research indicates they choose people who move in a disorganized manner. Corollory: they stay away from people who move like they have their shit buttoned down. You simply move better when you train. Bad guys pick up on this.
I agree, I'm 61 and former kickboxer with wrestling and judo, I'm also pretty jacked and look 15 years younger than my age, I've been in bad neighborhoods, and never been bothered cause I'm not an easy target.
Non lethal combative is just as important: controlling someone who you dont want to hurt for reasons of mental illness or temporary insanity or other reasons . I see your point!
Practicing MMA saved my life. I got tuned up really bad by a 135 pounder. I'm 6'4" and 270. It was all bad. Came back to the gym the next day. I was on paper for Robbery and my life was out of control. Was staying sober, eating clean and not around the gang culture. MMA saved my life and I highly encourage everyone to learn.
You don't do well in this life being a man without the capacity to deal damage. That doesn't mean you have to be going around starting fights, it means that you know how to handle situations.
My parents were very lazy when I was a kid. They never would take me to Boy Scouts, martial arts classes, I didn't try out for the wrestling team in school because they wouldn't be there for me, etc. I've made the decision to absolutely NOT be like that if I ever have kids. These skills are incredibly valuable. There's a million clips on RUclips of some small kid getting bullied, then wrecking the bully. I want any kids I have to have that ability, and I'm going to firmly impart on them to "never start shit, end shit". I couldn't defeat my bullies when I was a kid (I was very small), and I don't want my kids to deal with that.
Have your boys play football. The overall athleticism their bodies will obtain is amazing. Even if they are benchwarmers. Going to practice every day works miracles and they will want to play other sports or workout in the offseason just to make themselves better football players.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName I'm old as heck now. Because I was an athletic hyperactive youth I am in great shape for my age. Have lots of kids because they don't cost anywhere near as much as the news media tells you they do. Have them play physical sports and learn a musical instrument. They will turn out great. Teach them to work hard and work smart at the same time !!!
@@NickM_FirstofHisName Also, punish them for being bad, not for making mistakes. Teach them to push themselves to be the best at EVERYTHING they do. Even stupid stuff like doing the dishes or taking out the garbage. that way they will be teaching themselves to learn how to do things better and more efficiently.
100% agree. If your family is in the car, you’re not going to run away. If you’re on a plane, you’re not going to run away. Every guy needs at least a blue-belt level of grappling experience. And I would argue that every woman needs that to, because you can’t rely on luck to get saved from a bad situation.
@ I fight at least one to three times a week, for the past 15 years. You? I haven’t posted videos in a long time but I have some videos posted from jiu-jitsu tournaments back in 2013-14 on my RUclips account. You might be able to see them. Broke a rib in one of them. Sucked, but gave me time to get a cool tattoo while I was healing up. I’ve broken my ankle, and dislocated fingers, toes, and shoulders. But it’s worth it.
I am 50 years old and did 20 years in prison. I have fought throughout school, in the streets, and in prison. Having fighting skills gives you confidence and a means to handle a situation violently, but short of deadly force if need be, and most will turn to that. People with no fighting skills will often pull a weapon and use it because they're afraid that they will get severely injured or killed in fight because they don't know how to fight.
@@lucyferinahe mentioned that to give perspective of having to fight inside prison for 20 years. What a stupid and disrespectful comment. You must be so proud.
My parents went insane when I fought in school. I never started a fight, but if I defended myself or needed to respond to a bully just so life wasn’t miserable, I had real problems at home. This created a “double bind”, something that makes people crazy. I hated my life much of the time. PLEASE parents, don’t do this to your boys.
Yah, my Dad was weak and would say don’t fight. It’s not even like you have to fight but more stand up for yourself. And if you have to fight then great. I hear you
As much of an abusive dick my dad was , that's one thing about him, he encouraged me to defend myself, I beat the crap out of much larger bully, I became a pro kickboxer later on in life.
Yea, I did the same thing but it was me that always ended up in trouble. I never started the fights. Getting kicked out of school and trouble with the law. It was like a snow ball effect.. The more bullies I fought the more that stood up to test me. Their friends and their friends too.. I got jumped by groups a lot. But I hurt a few bullies in the one on one fights and it ruined my life and sent me down a dark path. I was angry at the world and full of vengeance. It almost killed me because I made bad choices. The world is backwards and wicked. It protects it's own. I was never part of them. That's why they hated me so much. God taught me a lot of wisdom and knowledge over the years. He delivered and redeemed me. It changed my life. Better get to know Jesus Christ because it's about to get much worse. Stay frosty but don't be quick to violence. Be gentle but bold as a lion.
I’m so glad I found your channel when you did the Mark Bell podcast. You’ve help me learn how to have a better mindset and how to be a stronger father. Thank you Bedros
the #1 reason to learn to fight is that your body gets used to taking punishment and perform in chaos Fighting is chaos and massive adrenaline dump an untrained person will either freeze up, or have such a huge adrenaline dump as to become useless in a fight by training bjj, boxing, MT etc - your body is conditioned to control adrenaline and you wont lose control if you get hit in the face or taken down - constant training and repetition creates muscle memory, you wont tire out quickly nor be helpless (although adrenaline will be high in a real fight situation) vast majority of people have never been punched in the face nor slammed to the ground. The moment that happens to you, you will be lost mentally, in shock, esp with blows to your face. Everyone needs to be punched to the face a few times in their life to understand the feeling and to learn to control your reflex
1000% Bedros. I just put my 8 year old son in Jujitsu. I didn't push him, but encouraged him to try one class and he enjoys it. Now I will hold him accountable to stick with it. We are both training at the same academy. I would feel liable as a father if I wasn't training myself and also if I didn't teach him. 2A is great but it's usually not the answer most of the time. Plus, how conditioned are you? How aware and confident are you? You need the skills. Teach them to your kids as well.
Rt on B. I do brazilian jiu jitsu and box 🥊🥊🥊. You carry yourself in a different manner when you know how to fight. Your aura is stronger and people wont mess with you as much
Been doing jiu jitsu for over 6 years. I don't think I carry myself any differently. I think initially I thought that, but now I just know most of the time if anything crazy happens then its not even interesting for me to get involved.
@@darkline56Well I mean martial arts can be more life changing for a person especially if they didn't learn how to stand up for themselves until adulthood. Carrying yourself differently is just a person killing their old weak selves imo.
Another thing... something that was touched on briefly... I feel like it makes you a bit more competent and aware in high impact situations in general. Being across from someone who is trying to knock you out is nerve wracking a first, but you do begin to normalize it after awhile. This certainly carries over to other things which you found nerve wracking before, and I'd be willing to bet it has effects generally on your nervous reaction to high impact situations. That said, it's important, in this newfound confidence and awareness, to take the humility piece into consideration, particularly the consideration of 'does he have a weapon' and critical distances.
Join the Infantry like I did for 5 years. I got medically retired from injuries in the Army. I got a Bachelors degree in Kinesiology and Nutrition with a concentration in Strength and Conditioning. I am working on finishing my Masters Degree in Sports Psychology in a year and applying to Doctorate school for Neuropsychology. Military paid 80% of it and now I will get VA claims the rest of my life. Being in an Infantry Unit taught me a lot about life, leadership skills, discipline and valuing life each day and to know when to fight at the proper time.
I spent my formulative years around a bunch of Vietnam-era Green Berets and Army Rangers…including some dudes who’d managed to get out of their fire bases being overrun. They were uniformly the NICEST dudes in the world…
I am so glad the topic of humility came up in this video. Very often a seasoned fighter learnt humility through knowing about the damage he can influct on others and recognising he can receive the same damage.
I started learning Muay Thai at 36. I've found just having a structure when you fight is great and it easily gives you advantage over someone with ego problems and doesn't do any exercise . It's hard to knock a man out but it's not hard to end the fight simply because you are overwhelming in your advance, you see gaps in their defence better as well. If you can end the fight by then submitting or backing off then it's better than any worry about them being knocked out and not recovering , it's not a game !
@@Josh-uf7ws I'm turning 36 in March and I'd really like to start some combat training like boxing or Muay Thai... My town only has boxing though I think. I've been thinking about it for ages but never got there yet. Maybe this is the time?
@@plilp Stick with boxing … it’s key. Being a fighting novice, it will school you in the essential fundamentals (i.e.) • How to throw a punch properly in order to deliver it effectively with speed, power and accuracy • Combinations of different punches to alternative areas or targets • Stance and bodily positioning (e.g. a tucked chin) • Balance / foot movement for defensive / offensive positioning and delivery • Keeping a consistent and effective guard • Evasive head movement • Overall cardio fitness, increased mobility / reflexes / coordination and projected confidence • Regular sparring acclimates the inexperienced fighter to the initial fear / shock of receiving a purposeful punch to the head and being subsequently rocked neurologically. Boxing is the best single skill for street fighting, so once you’ve begun lessons, invest in a heavy bag for home to also include practicing your elbows and lower leg kicks on it (which is an advantage of Muay Thai / kickboxing, are devastating to your opponent’s legs when delivered properly, plus high kicks become more difficult the older you become anyway). Edit : Once you have acquired some legit boxing skills, learn some grappling (like BJJ) and you will be formidable in any street situation that doesn’t involve weaponry. The time is now my man!
@@Virvum_Juggernaut High Kicks are seldom even in Kickboxing, you probably get few good high kicks in 3 or 5 rounds, they are risky and if you fight somebody in the street, chances are you wont have the range, as for boxing most street fights at some point get into clinch mode, you need elbows and feet for striking, this idea that wrestling an opponent is a good idea, you been watching too much MMA, stay on feet all times.
@@undesignated3491 You know fuck all about violence and fuck all about me. Yet, I know that you can’t fucking read. I have boxed and trained in bladed weaponry for my entire adult life. My advice to him was to learn BOXING and also practice his elbowing and kicking to the lower legs. I only referred to the fact that they teach high kicks in Muay Thai, which is a style that he was considering training in, not fighting in organised ring bouts. Ever heard of kickboxing’s fundamental roundhouse dickhead? I never stated that they were necessary or frequently used in street fighting at all. Conversely, my point was that they are fucking useless and fraught with peril. The additional BJJ training was in case he’s taken to the ground. I’ve experienced many, many, many more violent encounters than yourself, so here’s the news novice : no matter how good one’s standup is, you can and will get taken to the ground the more fights you have. Some big, heavy dudes will simply rush you and even if you manage to land one on his way in, his momentum will simply eat it and you’ll still end up on the deck. Nowadays, many more numbers of the average man in the street has at least some training, but some I’ve faced were formidably practiced. Others are solid rugby type athletes who can wear the damage of broken facial bones and still launch at you in a bid to take you down … and they can be very fucking strong. It is almost impossible to dictate the terms of engagement in a legit street brawl and as a decent boxer, upright whilst commandeering the distance between us for striking / evasion is my optimal strategy. I also trained in Judo for a period, which is extremely useful and effective in order to easily slam someone hard onto the concrete when forced into a clinch, especially when they are wearing a jacket. I’ve survived 3 separate, vicious knife fights (2 were lethal) but in one I was unarmed and was almost killed : suffering from ruptured bowel and septicaemia, but although victorious in 2, I was still badly wounded in all 3 (requiring surgery) and have decades of Katana and knife fighting training whilst my opponents did not. They were simply intent on killing me and had the stomach for achieving it, but I’m the one still here. Your ignorance and arrogance at attempting to school the likes of me (a sociopathic career criminal who served 16yrs in extremely violent maximum security prisons) is indicative of somebody who’s never had a legit fight in their life. Edit : Shove your ignorant MMA comment up your bitch ass.
7:12 A fighter's hands are not "registered." This is a myth, but if a fighter/martial artist gets into a street fight, the law will hold them to a higher standard of accountability.
The only downside is the injuries. I loved training and sparring, but I also paid the price for it as well. I’m older now and running is a physical impossibility do to my injuries, though I could still fight if I had to, but those are perishable skills and it’s been years.
I was smaller than most and used to get bullied back in Jr. school, so badly that i contemplated suicide. It was during that comtemplation that i heard a voice and it simply said "you're too valuable". That was it. So i decided to do smthn about it. I started learning the fighting moves from Tekken Tag Tournament and Backyard Wrestling on PS2. (This was the beginninhg of my martial arts journey), and i made a promise never to cower in front of my bullies again. When school reopened and i went into Sr. School, i was still terrified but that soon became overwhelming confidence as i would go on an unbeaten streak until i graduated. I was known for savage technique and quick finishes and beating guys that were larger than me as they were usually the bullies. Now i have around 15 years of training ninjutsu, krav maga, jujitsu, muay thai and some cqb. Now at the age of 31, i am very peaceful and do my best to avoid violence, but i am well aware that i got that dog in me should someone force me into that option.
Any BOY who states MEN should try other things opposed to becoming capable of defending yourself, your woman and or family is a coward. It is our duty from birth to become so.
Yup it should be a culture like those Chechens and dagestanis you need to teach your kids from Age 5 jiu jitsu wrestling and boxing especially boys Cuz no one will come to save you if you're a man
@@coryleblanc You may only need it one time in your life. I live in the suburbs (different continent) and thought I wouldn't need what I was learning so I stopped, got fat etc. a few years later I REALLY needed that strength and my fat ass nearly ended up in hospital. Like my case, you won't always have a gun or weapon on you but you'll have your elbows, fists etc.
Most people will never grasp what real violence is. I think every man should get in at least one fight so they learn those life lessons in less than 5 minutes.
It is something that has slipped out of social experience over the past generation or so. With the prohibition against rough and tumble play, boys don't learn about the application of force and how much is enough or too much. I am convinced that is why, if fights do erupt these days, the injuries are worse than when I was a young man i.e. boys grow into men not only not knowing how to defend against attacks but they don't know how to moderate their own responses. Also, now, with everyone interacting online rather than in person, they have also devolved into behaving in fashions that would have them counting their teeth in the Old School real world. Diplomatic speech and courtesy are skills that are (were) learned to *avoid* physical conflict. So they don't know how to fight and they don't know how to defuse a situation so a fight doesn't have to happen either.
@@dallassukerkin6878 I think a lot of the overuse of force, is also because they are so used to being online. They think they will never get in trouble for what they do. They are so used to running their mouth and getting away with it online and no one (parents or parent) taught them there is always consequences with the wrong person. A lot of these younger kids start a fight, get their ass kicked and then sue the other kid that was basically defending himself. Like you said took it too far because they weren't taught fighting etiquette. Like if you hit someone with a weapon it is going to do a lot of damage, not just knock them down. Or not to kick someone while they're on the ground unless you're outnumbered.
Every martial arts (boxing, wrestling, karate, judo, jiu jitsu, aikido, etc) skill and ability you develop is just another tool in your self defense tool box and every situation you may encounter that may require you to do something isn’t necessarily a life, or death scenario.
Followed. ✔️ Respect for this guy immediately after his first paragraph. Pulling a gun means using a gun, and the bothersome but non-lethal interaction he mentions is common-it’s very very common-and it doesn’t warrant taking a life. The men I know who’ve dealt with danger and also know how to use their bodies will give up a cell phone or a wallet instead of killing a person trying to get a few dollars. I’m American, and I’ve spent real time in some other cultures and a HUGE lesson I’ve absorbed watching men in other cultures deal with confrontation and messed up &/or angry “line-steppers” is watching them exist and choose and think and “be” in that pre-punch timespace without backing down, but not diving straight into physical hurt-the-guy action.
It is really learning how to deal with conflict, which is the value of martial arts. That and working on mental strength to never give up. For most things, it is better to have options on a continuum than only have the extreme tools.
90% of confrontations can be avoided. When you have learned emotional control through conditioning, it's easy to stop it before it escalates. Situational awareness is EVERYTHING.
Awesome advice that comes with an understanding of how important traditional masculinity is to many of us and how confidence grounded in real work and training is key in some areas of life. I'm older now and have a severe disability but I would've wanted to continue with combative training, partially to prove that "I had what it takes," as I believe the guest said. Once you can prove it to yourself, the benefits are immeasurable and you don't have to prove it elsewhere.
Once you have been in a couple "incidents", you realize one thing: it doesn't feel good. Even if you win, you wake up in the am sore as heck, your clothes are all ripped up, you're wondering if anything is broken, and you realize it was probably a dumb move. Almost all fights can be avoided if you: approach people politely, don't engage in challenges to your ego, don't engage if there is nothing at stake, and simply walk away. Unless your property, safety, or safety of another is being threatened, there is NOTHING to gain. You'll probably never see that guy again.
@@MrVayolenceno what he's saying is true, I like my chances agasint most ppl, but I would almost always try to de escalate the situation and resolve things rather then get into a fight even knowing that i could win, obv.if someone trys to fight you defend yourself or in certain serious situations defend yourse5l, but many times fights can be avoided if you try to calm it down,
@@MrVayolenceother thing to consider to, is you never know if someone has a knife, gun, etc on them, is it really worth getting stabbed shot or possibly dying? You better make sure you knock them out before they shoot u close range.... see how it's not worth it?
How do you mean, it's not worth??! When a someone disrespects you. You need to stand up for yourself otherwise when you look in the mirror and you can't look yourself in your own eyes because you tolerate it, that someone disrespects you. Never give you respect away because, tell me what is a men without pride and without fire in his eyes. Stand your ground or accept that you are a loser. It's up to you.
@@Wko-lg3fu That's exactly what I mean. Being disrespected sucks, but its not worth a physical fight. If a stranger disrespects you...they don't know you, and don't even know what they are disrespecting. They are just throwing attitude around to see who takes the bait. Don't be the catch of the day.
Yes the health benefits are great learning to fight but I find it much easier to just carry everywhere, and keep it to yourself. But BIG RESPECT to the guys who have the ability to take care of things without having to escalate to you know what.
I was always a street fighter as a kid, every week i was in a fight, but for a good cause not just to be a troubled kid, i fought against bullies all the time, now at age 35 i been kick boxing for about 2 years, self taught and the confidence it has giving me is crazy, you walk more confident, you know you can handle any situation troubled or not, it is truly a amazing skill, and now its just a hidden weapon i dont look for trouble or try to start fights but if shit goes down i know what to do 😊
Better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it. That's the axiom for any tool in the tool chest. Being able to defend yourself is one of them. Some other guys will escalate, especially if you don't want to (mistaking that for weakness). Then they make the mistake of going hands on... a push, grabbing you, etc. At that point... they just opened the toolbox.
Bedros is right. I attended his Modern Day Knights program, failed out of course being an old fart of 54 with AFib, but think very highly of him and his team. Am high level in jiu jitsu and medium level in Muay Thai and believe me, it’s necessary both mentally and physically. Throw in some ability with firearms and I am quite confident in my ability to defend my family very well.
Before every karate lesson we would repeat our code, those words shaped me growing up. Be courteous, do not abuse your strength etc. training is so much more than just learning to hit someone. That said, training and tournaments can be intense and two decades later I still remember my firsts...taking my first kick to the head...first clean hit to the solar plexus. Taking shots isn't fun but better to take those firsts on the mat and be mentally prepared for next time than have them happen in a street fight.
That's straight up true, it's not all one way. I've been hit thrown and kicked dozens of times. It's humbling, and worse than your training hall is a street fight beating. Nobody is unbeatable, and you can't tell whats going to happen ahead of time.
I recommend Krav Maga. It teaches you how to fight "dirty". Some people will insist on which style is "best", but KM is worth considering. Whatever style you choose, good luck to you.
This guys is spot on! There are a lot of times where your ability to de-escalate with lesser force is crucial. Also, a lot of times these martial arts gyms are great communities. If you want to feel like you belong, have brothers that are constantly lifting you up, a Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu gym is one of the best places to go.
Holy shit! This guy is the first person I've heard outside of the martial arts community that doesn't think a gun is the answer to everything from sun burn to school shootings. I wish everyone had the same common sense as this guy.
I got obsessively involved in martial arts at the age of 13. It was utterly transformative to my personality. I would be a completely different, and utterly inadequate human being without it.
Just wanted to touch on the part about Texas from the first part of the video. If someone approaches you that is much larger than you and is threatening you, you have the right to shoot as size can be considered a deadly weapon.
If you're a physically capable man with a good heart, it's your responsibility to take care of your body and train it to be able to step in and protect the peace when needed.
Without full contact sport I wouldn't be where I am now. Martial Arts is far beyond the physical world like protecting on the mind level it makes you a tough boulder in hard times and helps to believe in yourself.
Spot on, I find many people are paranoid over small things because deep inside they know they can't handle emergency situations. Learning how to fight gives you peace of mind and control, Also, its an easy excuse for those that don't know how to defend themselves that knowing fighting would make one more violent, my experience its the other way around.
I have been training Jiu Jitsu, Judo and Muay Thai with my Elementary and Middle School age kids for 3 years now. I have never regretted it. It has made all of us better. My kids walk around school with a confidence and self-assuredness that I didn't have at that age. They don't fear bullies or difficult tasks because they have already been pressure tested.
To me, men with families have a responsibility to know how to fight. If you have a wife what are you gonna do if some guy is harassing your wife? Ask him to stop sure but maybe he wont. What are you gonna do. Get your butt whooped and fail to defend your loved one? You cant just shoot a guy for smacking your wife's butt or whatever. You have a duty as a man to do all you can to be able to defend your family. If you aren't doing it then you're just gambling with your families safety. Don't be one of those guys and don't assume you're good enough to beat anyone, cause if you aren't training then you're just not. Go buy a punching bag best investment you'll ever make. Your punches will level up trust me. Your hands will get bigger and thicker too.
I was taught by my mom that violence is never the solution and never to fight. So after a bully pushed me over and sat on top of me wailing at my face and I didn't fight back because "it was wrong". Learned the hard way as a kid that one needs to know how to fight.
I’ve never been more grateful for my dads knowledge to know, size don’t matter boy so u either gotta know to fight or know how to run from one if u can’t talk ur way out.
If you can't fight, carrying a gun can become more dangerous. Unless you walk around getting into fights purposely, most of the time you get jumped or at least trapped at close quarters. You are already reacting and behind the curve unless the criminal is a complete fool. Fighting skills are necessary to create the distance or position to safely draw or even assess whether the gun is appropriate for the situation. I realize some people have to carry and can't fight well because of age or being handicapped, but if you can I think you are safer having those skills as well.
I think the huge part is situational awareness. I also believe it slows things down for you. When you put yourself into stressful situations like fight training it slows time allowing you to think quicker than others and move quicker. Similar to professional drivers reacting quicker on the road
Let me be the devil's advocate here.... We can't label those who don't take any Martial Arts classes and spend time on training as cowards or irresponsible for not taking care of themselves and defending their family. I grew up with a lot of friends who had to become the man of the house at too early of an age. They just couldn't afford the money or time focusing on fight training. They just had to avoid those issues at all costs. They had to focus on working and go to school. For those who chose to focus their time and energy on it, great! Do you, but don't think lowly of those who didn't choose that path (initially).
My parents told me "never start a fight...but you better finish it." Besides that anyone who is going to pull his firearm with intention to shoot at every situation is someone who shouldn't carry a firearm. Side note as a Canadian we don't get to carry so if your protect yourself and your family, you learn to fight.
Almost a 60 year old man. Lifetime, sport, hunting, hiking, 3:01 gym rat got married late in life let your body go to hell and realized I gotta get back in the shape. But I didn’t want to go hit the gym again. I started a mixed martial arts program. Absolutely incredible. Everything in this video is true. In the benefits that you get.
This guy is saying its better to learn BJJ than Boxing in a subtle way. Boxing is more practical when you factor in potential variables in the street. He said rear naked choking a guy to sleep is better than knocking him out with a punch. Not really and both can potentially lead to manslaughter. A lot of people in prison because the guy didn't wake up. Also if there is a large size and strength disparity the efficient boxer has a better chance than the grappler. Seen much smaller boxers dismantle much bigger stronger guys in the street. Good luck trying to grab and submit a guy superior in strength and size. Self defense just like pulling a hand gun should always be the very last resort when all diplomacy has been exhausted.
martial arts saved me and loved ones from being assaulted/hurt/attacked in many instances. Some people should know that if you step up to certain people who are trained, with a weapon, that might just piss the artist off more. YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO USE A WEAPON, IF YOU YOURSELF ARE NOT ONE. I always hated when people with guns thought they are superior. Loved this video, thanks guys. Shout out from South Africa :)
@@EMMmaximino haha well.. I'm working 2 jobs, a business startup for over a year, surviving inflation during a divorce.... So I guess that's why not lol. I only have a little time but I want to start a nice habit. I've done muay tai when I was younger for a bit.
@@Last_Chance. Is there any striking in BJJ? I have to pick one and unsure. I feel like the striking would really help me Hahaha. As a stress reliever.
Though I definitely want to start taking MMA to learn to defend my family (now that I have a son)... I believe a much more important skill that most people lack is the art of deescalation. It's something I am masterful at. In my youth I've been held at gun point, knife point (twice), and even in a situation where I had to stop a fight with two drunk special forces guys. In every single scenario, I used deescalation and words to diffuse the situation. The guy holding me at gun point ended in laughter. Both knife points ended with a hug (albeit awkward for me). The special forces guys definitely f*cked each other and some stuff up before I could calm them down... but it avoided anyone going to the hospital and they apologized to each other after. Now given, had any of those been handled with a tiny error on my part and it could have ended badly... Hence why I want to learn MMA as a backup... but deescalation is the skill 99% of people lack, and it typically just comes down to empathy and understanding that persons needs and motivations.
Love how he mentions martial arts making you not only more physically capable but also just knowing that makes you more confident in yourself too. I say that all the time and it's so true. I've really noticed a huge difference in my confidence levels since I started training in Jiujitsu and a little MMA years ago. Other people notice it too which is usually great because then other guys won't mess with you but it can also be a bad thing too. Some guys have such huge egos that they feel your confidence level is a threat to them so they want to challenge you, usually passive aggressively, with like giving attitude for no reason or whatever. It can also be a bad thing because that confidence level can attract toxic people in different ways such as narcissistic or even sociopathic women who want to date you just to break that confident man down. Same applies in any other type of relationship too, whether it be platonic, business, a pure stranger, or even familial relationships where they want to break down a confident person so be aware of that possible downside. There's far more positives to being a martial artist though so it's definitely worth it.
People get guns and think they got the badge with it taking justice in their hands instead doing exactly what dude says , walk away you don’t have the right to take a life because you got the right to carry.
Every man needs to learn how to fight. It was a lost art for many decades in the US. Now, there are opportunities to learn everywhere. I'm a 184_lb ex collegiate wrestler. Wrestling ability is great in a fight, but it's not everything. After college, I practiced stand-up and submissions for several years. I'm 47 now, and I've unfortunately been disabled by 2 systemic diseases, and 6 serious orthopaedic injuries. Despite all that, I still don't lack confidence in defending myself. I'm still a 225_lb, 6' tall, heavy muscular guy. I lack muscular endurance due to disease. But unless I'm attacked by 2 or more people, I can still end your average dumbass in less than a minute. That confidence and ability is important, and it makes your family members feel safe with you.
I legit know how to fight 6 years of kickboxing at a high level in the Netherlands is honestly one of the best things i ever did the level of confidence you have in yourself is unreal.
Never be harmless, be peaceful but capable when the situation arises.
JBP
If you see a purring house cat and tiger which one would you pet.
'Speak softly but carry a big stick' is an old saying.
@@aaftiyoDkcdicurak neither
But most importantly you should never be eager to provocate for something which some childish guys do
Been doing MMA for over a year now. Best decision ever. I got humbled a lot by stronger opponents and still do because there are a lot of bad mfks out there that can kill you, but I built a lot of courage and confidence facing them everytime and it pays off every day. People just feel that you are dangerous and won't mess with you.
Stop being a doormat for all the psychos and narcissists out there and learn to be dangerous
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I agree. In my experience, most people who are trained to fight, prefer peace in the streets. There is less to prove when you know you can handle yourself.
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Bullies and criminals can do combat sports too.
Thats because u understand there are stronger guys who can beat you up and if not you dont wanna hurt someone. U just dont know who is stronger. either u win or lose. Thats why I avoid fight on the street even thiugh Ive trained mma for many years.
Faaaaaax
ITS BETTER TO BE A WARRIOR IN A GARDEN THAN TO BE A GARDENER IN A WAR
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I love that
Yes, but
IT IS BETTER TO BE A GARDENER WHO IS A WARRIOR WHO CAN FARM AND HARVEST ENEMIES IN A WAR. 🤠
What if there's a famine. It's Best to be smart
This gives the saying "you want peace, get ready for war" a whole new meaning! Thank you🙂
Europe knows that now all too well.
I saw a variant of that; " cry in training, laugh in battle"
In other words, it means "a warrior prays for peace but prepares for war".
Si vis pacem para bellum
@@bogse Are you referring to America's latest proxy war against Russia?
Fight training extends far beyond the physical realm. As a blue belt in BJJ and a boxer, it's about balancing the calcified mind against emotional impulses. It's the commitment to showing up daily, irrespective of emotions, fostering consistency, discipline, and self-reflection. It unveils deeper layers of discomfort and cultivates unmatched confidence, making it an unparalleled journey in achieving physical efficiency.
Most men have the emotional urge and baseless confidence of what they “think” they can do when needed physically but so many couldn’t not throw 10 seconds of punches without dying. Those men are truly a danger to society.
Beautifully said man. You truly spread some wisdom.
Perfectly said 🙏🏽
Nicely said man.
Rarely good YT comment. I'll add that getting punched in the face hard is the first step towards becoming a man. If you haven't taken this step, you can't benefit from the wisdom laid out by the OP.
This was well put.
As a boxer I gotta say that after I started I felt way more confident in stressful situations that were happening around me like in a club for example
It's almost like fear goes away after you've trained for a while.
@@World36599 Because when you're sparing at even 50% it's still a "real fight" in terms of stress level.
If you're constantly exposed to that heightened level multiple times a week, it will be easier when it happens randomly
@@product_of_august Yes that explains it. I've taken time off boxing in the past, and been afraid to spar even though I have the skill to spar. But when I'm constantly sparing, just seems like another day in the office my friend.
@@World36599true. That fear comes back unless you spar regularly.
Fear and passiveness is something I’ve struggled with my entire fighting career
I am still in fear, but not of the other guy. It's because I grew up in really raw environment and was with football hooligans for years here in Poland. We had many organized group fights and many not organized, random encounters. Everything changed when me and few boys met another group of hoolies. My friend punched guy who died few days after.
This wrecked and changed my friend forever.
I don't want this to happen to me and to a family of some random guy.
You can win sport competition, but only survive real fight.
I am more than capable to defend myself, but I am always avoiding this, even when I know that someone is not a reap challenge.
The best thing I learned in 15 years of law enforcement, especially when I worked in areas where backup was no closer than half an hour at best, wasn't learning what you could do but learning what you shouldn't do.
Having the ability to defend yourself in any way possible is important this day and age. A gun is the last resort , knowing how to de-escalate the situation is key.
It’s sad that we are at a point to where we question whether a man should learn to defend himself.
Good point!
Never was there a time in history, that a man did not need to be able to defend himself...learning to be able to defend yourself does not mean you are going to use it...but can if you have to. Not only yourself but also your family if needed!
Yeah..that is where we are currently..like you said though..it really shouldn’t even be a question.
No, it's actually good. Means that we're mostly safe and don't need to spend energy permanently looking over our shoulder for an attacker. And now that we have a choice, the choice to still train fighting is even more important and character building.
Don't go romanticizing wanton violence ffs.
@@raresmocanu1743 People not knowing how to protect themselves doesn’t correlate to safety.
Trained MMA/Grappling over 20 years. I used to Teach as well.( Reza Nasri,Carlson Gracie &JJ Machado)I worked in a Jail for 10 years. Was a bouncer, Executive Protection,Etc. When you've had more brawls and fights than most. You'll do Everything to avoid it much easier and calmly than 99% of the people who have No Experience in these situations. My late dad boxed in prison. On the streets, he was very well known. One of the best things he ever taught me. "Son, just walk away. Keep your eye's on them. But just walk away." "It's not worth it son. Promise you'll always do that first."One of the last things he said to me before The Lord took him back home.
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Wise words
Your father was a wise man. May he rest in peace.
@@xxstormbringerxx Thank you John.
How do you keep your eyes on them while walking way? Did you mean walking backwards?
Here's another reason why you want to train: you move differently. According to the research - and Jocko Willink has talked about this - bad guys choose their victims. How do they choose them? The research indicates they choose people who move in a disorganized manner. Corollory: they stay away from people who move like they have their shit buttoned down. You simply move better when you train. Bad guys pick up on this.
Yes. Great comment.
very true
Those who are in the know, know who is who and who's not to mess with... FAFO.
I agree, I'm 61 and former kickboxer with wrestling and judo, I'm also pretty jacked and look 15 years younger than my age, I've been in bad neighborhoods, and never been bothered cause I'm not an easy target.
Sigh. It's passive body language. Passive body language is the movement criminals spot for future victims. Nervousness, distraction, timidity, etc.
Non lethal combative is just as important: controlling someone who you dont want to hurt for reasons of mental illness or temporary insanity or other reasons . I see your point!
Practicing MMA saved my life. I got tuned up really bad by a 135 pounder. I'm 6'4" and 270. It was all bad. Came back to the gym the next day. I was on paper for Robbery and my life was out of control. Was staying sober, eating clean and not around the gang culture. MMA saved my life and I highly encourage everyone to learn.
i feel so glad that someone like u got a reality check i bet u thought u were the king being slightly tall and 270 xd
You don't do well in this life being a man without the capacity to deal damage. That doesn't mean you have to be going around starting fights, it means that you know how to handle situations.
My parents were very lazy when I was a kid. They never would take me to Boy Scouts, martial arts classes, I didn't try out for the wrestling team in school because they wouldn't be there for me, etc. I've made the decision to absolutely NOT be like that if I ever have kids. These skills are incredibly valuable. There's a million clips on RUclips of some small kid getting bullied, then wrecking the bully.
I want any kids I have to have that ability, and I'm going to firmly impart on them to "never start shit, end shit". I couldn't defeat my bullies when I was a kid (I was very small), and I don't want my kids to deal with that.
Remember, it doesnt begin with your kids. It begins with you. Get out there and start fighting brother.
Have your boys play football. The overall athleticism their bodies will obtain is amazing. Even if they are benchwarmers. Going to practice every day works miracles and they will want to play other sports or workout in the offseason just to make themselves better football players.
My parents refused me martial arts. I left home at 18, and I take care of me myself now. I live with my own rules.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName I'm old as heck now. Because I was an athletic hyperactive youth I am in great shape for my age. Have lots of kids because they don't cost anywhere near as much as the news media tells you they do. Have them play physical sports and learn a musical instrument. They will turn out great. Teach them to work hard and work smart at the same time !!!
@@NickM_FirstofHisName Also, punish them for being bad, not for making mistakes. Teach them to push themselves to be the best at EVERYTHING they do. Even stupid stuff like doing the dishes or taking out the garbage. that way they will be teaching themselves to learn how to do things better and more efficiently.
100% agree. If your family is in the car, you’re not going to run away. If you’re on a plane, you’re not going to run away. Every guy needs at least a blue-belt level of grappling experience. And I would argue that every woman needs that to, because you can’t rely on luck to get saved from a bad situation.
😂😂😂😂Last time you fought?
@ I fight at least one to three times a week, for the past 15 years. You? I haven’t posted videos in a long time but I have some videos posted from jiu-jitsu tournaments back in 2013-14 on my RUclips account. You might be able to see them. Broke a rib in one of them. Sucked, but gave me time to get a cool tattoo while I was healing up. I’ve broken my ankle, and dislocated fingers, toes, and shoulders. But it’s worth it.
I am 50 years old and did 20 years in prison. I have fought throughout school, in the streets, and in prison. Having fighting skills gives you confidence and a means to handle a situation violently, but short of deadly force if need be, and most will turn to that. People with no fighting skills will often pull a weapon and use it because they're afraid that they will get severely injured or killed in fight because they don't know how to fight.
Well put.
Spoken like a true warrior.
Like having been in prison is something to be proud of....😂
@@lucyferinahe mentioned that to give perspective of having to fight inside prison for 20 years. What a stupid and disrespectful comment. You must be so proud.
@@lucyferina you must be the jerk of most family events.
My parents went insane when I fought in school. I never started a fight, but if I defended myself or needed to respond to a bully just so life wasn’t miserable, I had real problems at home. This created a “double bind”, something that makes people crazy. I hated my life much of the time. PLEASE parents, don’t do this to your boys.
Yah, my Dad was weak and would say don’t fight. It’s not even like you have to fight but more stand up for yourself. And if you have to fight then great. I hear you
As much of an abusive dick my dad was , that's one thing about him, he encouraged me to defend myself, I beat the crap out of much larger bully, I became a pro kickboxer later on in life.
Awful, I’m so sorry you had to go through that brother. Very unfair.
Please recognize you are in the right though, your parents are at fault for that mindset.
Yea, I did the same thing but it was me that always ended up in trouble. I never started the fights. Getting kicked out of school and trouble with the law. It was like a snow ball effect.. The more bullies I fought the more that stood up to test me. Their friends and their friends too.. I got jumped by groups a lot. But I hurt a few bullies in the one on one fights and it ruined my life and sent me down a dark path. I was angry at the world and full of vengeance. It almost killed me because I made bad choices. The world is backwards and wicked. It protects it's own. I was never part of them. That's why they hated me so much. God taught me a lot of wisdom and knowledge over the years. He delivered and redeemed me. It changed my life. Better get to know Jesus Christ because it's about to get much worse. Stay frosty but don't be quick to violence. Be gentle but bold as a lion.
I’m so glad I found your channel when you did the Mark Bell podcast. You’ve help me learn how to have a better mindset and how to be a stronger father.
Thank you Bedros
the #1 reason to learn to fight is that your body gets used to taking punishment and perform in chaos
Fighting is chaos and massive adrenaline dump
an untrained person will either freeze up, or have such a huge adrenaline dump as to become useless in a fight
by training bjj, boxing, MT etc - your body is conditioned to control adrenaline and you wont lose control if you get hit in the face or taken down - constant training and repetition creates muscle memory, you wont tire out quickly nor be helpless (although adrenaline will be high in a real fight situation)
vast majority of people have never been punched in the face nor slammed to the ground. The moment that happens to you, you will be lost mentally, in shock, esp with blows to your face. Everyone needs to be punched to the face a few times in their life to understand the feeling and to learn to control your reflex
This. Sooooo many ppl disregard this, even ppl who train but don't ever really fight can have these issues. Exposure is the only real way
If you have nobody to take care of you can do whatever you want. If you have a family, you have a duty to protect them!
1000% Bedros. I just put my 8 year old son in Jujitsu. I didn't push him, but encouraged him to try one class and he enjoys it. Now I will hold him accountable to stick with it. We are both training at the same academy. I would feel liable as a father if I wasn't training myself and also if I didn't teach him.
2A is great but it's usually not the answer most of the time. Plus, how conditioned are you? How aware and confident are you? You need the skills. Teach them to your kids as well.
Rt on B. I do brazilian jiu jitsu and box 🥊🥊🥊. You carry yourself in a different manner when you know how to fight. Your aura is stronger and people wont mess with you as much
I'm 30 and want to learn BJJ for self-defence
@@archangel0137 get in there you will thank yourself later😊. Also learn how to strike. In the street the ground is a bad place to be.
Been doing jiu jitsu for over 6 years. I don't think I carry myself any differently. I think initially I thought that, but now I just know most of the time if anything crazy happens then its not even interesting for me to get involved.
Your aura is stronger? That's rich. And totally deluded. If you're unarmed, size and weight are the only things that violent morons respect.
@@darkline56Well I mean martial arts can be more life changing for a person especially if they didn't learn how to stand up for themselves until adulthood. Carrying yourself differently is just a person killing their old weak selves imo.
Another thing... something that was touched on briefly... I feel like it makes you a bit more competent and aware in high impact situations in general. Being across from someone who is trying to knock you out is nerve wracking a first, but you do begin to normalize it after awhile. This certainly carries over to other things which you found nerve wracking before, and I'd be willing to bet it has effects generally on your nervous reaction to high impact situations. That said, it's important, in this newfound confidence and awareness, to take the humility piece into consideration, particularly the consideration of 'does he have a weapon' and critical distances.
Join the Infantry like I did for 5 years. I got medically retired from injuries in the Army. I got a Bachelors degree in Kinesiology and Nutrition with a concentration in Strength and Conditioning. I am working on finishing my Masters Degree in Sports Psychology in a year and applying to Doctorate school for Neuropsychology. Military paid 80% of it and now I will get VA claims the rest of my life. Being in an Infantry Unit taught me a lot about life, leadership skills, discipline and valuing life each day and to know when to fight at the proper time.
I spent my formulative years around a bunch of Vietnam-era Green Berets and Army Rangers…including some dudes who’d managed to get out of their fire bases being overrun. They were uniformly the NICEST dudes in the world…
What injuries did you get in the military and how?
@@andrewtanczyk4009ops legs and lower back are probably shot from the weight and heavy gear he carries every day
Except now u have to get the jab to be in the service
Can we talk
Not men only. This is a life skill. Everyone should learn and plus it’s good for your health.
It's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war 🙏
Spartans! What's your profession?!? ARROOOO!!
@Burner-Adventure-Chronicles you see? I brought more warriors than you did.
I am so glad the topic of humility came up in this video. Very often a seasoned fighter learnt humility through knowing about the damage he can influct on others and recognising he can receive the same damage.
I started learning Muay Thai at 36. I've found just having a structure when you fight is great and it easily gives you advantage over someone with ego problems and doesn't do any exercise . It's hard to knock a man out but it's not hard to end the fight simply because you are overwhelming in your advance, you see gaps in their defence better as well. If you can end the fight by then submitting or backing off then it's better than any worry about them being knocked out and not recovering , it's not a game !
I'm also 36 and have been considering getting into Muay Thai. Tough to not feel like I should've started earlier, but better late than never!
@@Josh-uf7ws I'm turning 36 in March and I'd really like to start some combat training like boxing or Muay Thai... My town only has boxing though I think. I've been thinking about it for ages but never got there yet. Maybe this is the time?
@@plilp Stick with boxing … it’s key. Being a fighting novice, it will school you in the essential fundamentals (i.e.) • How to throw a punch properly in order to deliver it effectively with speed, power and accuracy • Combinations of different punches to alternative areas or targets • Stance and bodily positioning (e.g. a tucked chin) • Balance / foot movement for defensive / offensive positioning and delivery • Keeping a consistent and effective guard • Evasive head movement • Overall cardio fitness, increased mobility / reflexes / coordination and projected confidence • Regular sparring acclimates the inexperienced fighter to the initial fear / shock of receiving a purposeful punch to the head and being subsequently rocked neurologically. Boxing is the best single skill for street fighting, so once you’ve begun lessons, invest in a heavy bag for home to also include practicing your elbows and lower leg kicks on it (which is an advantage of Muay Thai / kickboxing, are devastating to your opponent’s legs when delivered properly, plus high kicks become more difficult the older you become anyway).
Edit : Once you have acquired some legit boxing skills, learn some grappling (like BJJ) and you will be formidable in any street situation that doesn’t involve weaponry. The time is now my man!
@@Virvum_Juggernaut High Kicks are seldom even in Kickboxing, you probably get few good high kicks in 3 or 5 rounds, they are risky and if you fight somebody in the street, chances are you wont have the range, as for boxing most street fights at some point get into clinch mode, you need elbows and feet for striking, this idea that wrestling an opponent is a good idea, you been watching too much MMA, stay on feet all times.
@@undesignated3491 You know fuck all about violence and fuck all about me. Yet, I know that you can’t fucking read. I have boxed and trained in bladed weaponry for my entire adult life. My advice to him was to learn BOXING and also practice his elbowing and kicking to the lower legs. I only referred to the fact that they teach high kicks in Muay Thai, which is a style that he was considering training in, not fighting in organised ring bouts. Ever heard of kickboxing’s fundamental roundhouse dickhead? I never stated that they were necessary or frequently used in street fighting at all. Conversely, my point was that they are fucking useless and fraught with peril. The additional BJJ training was in case he’s taken to the ground. I’ve experienced many, many, many more violent encounters than yourself, so here’s the news novice : no matter how good one’s standup is, you can and will get taken to the ground the more fights you have. Some big, heavy dudes will simply rush you and even if you manage to land one on his way in, his momentum will simply eat it and you’ll still end up on the deck. Nowadays, many more numbers of the average man in the street has at least some training, but some I’ve faced were formidably practiced. Others are solid rugby type athletes who can wear the damage of broken facial bones and still launch at you in a bid to take you down … and they can be very fucking strong. It is almost impossible to dictate the terms of engagement in a legit street brawl and as a decent boxer, upright whilst commandeering the distance between us for striking / evasion is my optimal strategy. I also trained in Judo for a period, which is extremely useful and effective in order to easily slam someone hard onto the concrete when forced into a clinch, especially when they are wearing a jacket. I’ve survived 3 separate, vicious knife fights (2 were lethal) but in one I was unarmed and was almost killed : suffering from ruptured bowel and septicaemia, but although victorious in 2, I was still badly wounded in all 3 (requiring surgery) and have decades of Katana and knife fighting training whilst my opponents did not. They were simply intent on killing me and had the stomach for achieving it, but I’m the one still here. Your ignorance and arrogance at attempting to school the likes of me (a sociopathic career criminal who served 16yrs in extremely violent maximum security prisons) is indicative of somebody who’s never had a legit fight in their life.
Edit : Shove your ignorant MMA comment up your bitch ass.
7:12 A fighter's hands are not "registered." This is a myth, but if a fighter/martial artist gets into a street fight, the law will hold them to a higher standard of accountability.
Your wrong your hands basically are registered because of your knowledge of martial arts like you just said they’ll hold you to a higher standard.
The only downside is the injuries. I loved training and sparring, but I also paid the price for it as well. I’m older now and running is a physical impossibility do to my injuries, though I could still fight if I had to, but those are perishable skills and it’s been years.
Situational awareness is everything
Ouch. Good luck having that with autism and ADHD
I was smaller than most and used to get bullied back in Jr. school, so badly that i contemplated suicide. It was during that comtemplation that i heard a voice and it simply said "you're too valuable". That was it. So i decided to do smthn about it. I started learning the fighting moves from Tekken Tag Tournament and Backyard Wrestling on PS2. (This was the beginninhg of my martial arts journey), and i made a promise never to cower in front of my bullies again.
When school reopened and i went into Sr. School, i was still terrified but that soon became overwhelming confidence as i would go on an unbeaten streak until i graduated. I was known for savage technique and quick finishes and beating guys that were larger than me as they were usually the bullies. Now i have around 15 years of training ninjutsu, krav maga, jujitsu, muay thai and some cqb.
Now at the age of 31, i am very peaceful and do my best to avoid violence, but i am well aware that i got that dog in me should someone force me into that option.
Any BOY who states MEN should try other things opposed to becoming capable of defending yourself, your woman and or family is a coward. It is our duty from birth to become so.
Yup it should be a culture like those Chechens and dagestanis you need to teach your kids from Age 5 jiu jitsu wrestling and boxing especially boys Cuz no one will come to save you if you're a man
i'm in the Canadian suburbs, not much to defend off here
Any parent that doesn’t teach their child to fight needs to be charged with abuse. Teaching children to be warriors is a parental responsibility.
@@coryleblanc You may only need it one time in your life. I live in the suburbs (different continent) and thought I wouldn't need what I was learning so I stopped, got fat etc. a few years later I REALLY needed that strength and my fat ass nearly ended up in hospital. Like my case, you won't always have a gun or weapon on you but you'll have your elbows, fists etc.
No in some countries you will go to jail if you defend yourself.
Most people will never grasp what real violence is. I think every man should get in at least one fight so they learn those life lessons in less than 5 minutes.
Do you want to know what real violence is?!
It is something that has slipped out of social experience over the past generation or so. With the prohibition against rough and tumble play, boys don't learn about the application of force and how much is enough or too much. I am convinced that is why, if fights do erupt these days, the injuries are worse than when I was a young man i.e. boys grow into men not only not knowing how to defend against attacks but they don't know how to moderate their own responses.
Also, now, with everyone interacting online rather than in person, they have also devolved into behaving in fashions that would have them counting their teeth in the Old School real world. Diplomatic speech and courtesy are skills that are (were) learned to *avoid* physical conflict. So they don't know how to fight and they don't know how to defuse a situation so a fight doesn't have to happen either.
@@dallassukerkin6878 I think a lot of the overuse of force, is also because they are so used to being online. They think they will never get in trouble for what they do. They are so used to running their mouth and getting away with it online and no one (parents or parent) taught them there is always consequences with the wrong person. A lot of these younger kids start a fight, get their ass kicked and then sue the other kid that was basically defending himself. Like you said took it too far because they weren't taught fighting etiquette. Like if you hit someone with a weapon it is going to do a lot of damage, not just knock them down. Or not to kick someone while they're on the ground unless you're outnumbered.
@@TheFriendlyPsychopath*STUBS TOE*
this isnt fight club
Thank you for the amazingly positive message you are leaving in the World 🙌
Every martial arts (boxing, wrestling, karate, judo, jiu jitsu, aikido, etc) skill and ability you develop is just another tool in your self defense tool box and every situation you may encounter that may require you to do something isn’t necessarily a life, or death scenario.
if you can fight at least you can choose to fight or not but if you cant you wont have the confidence so you wont be able to threaten people away
Followed. ✔️ Respect for this guy immediately after his first paragraph. Pulling a gun means using a gun, and the bothersome but non-lethal interaction he mentions is common-it’s very very common-and it doesn’t warrant taking a life. The men I know who’ve dealt with danger and also know how to use their bodies will give up a cell phone or a wallet instead of killing a person trying to get a few dollars. I’m American, and I’ve spent real time in some other cultures and a HUGE lesson I’ve absorbed watching men in other cultures deal with confrontation and messed up &/or angry “line-steppers” is watching them exist and choose and think and “be” in that pre-punch timespace without backing down, but not diving straight into physical hurt-the-guy action.
It is really learning how to deal with conflict, which is the value of martial arts. That and working on mental strength to never give up. For most things, it is better to have options on a continuum than only have the extreme tools.
90% of confrontations can be avoided. When you have learned emotional control through conditioning, it's easy to stop it before it escalates. Situational awareness is EVERYTHING.
Awesome advice that comes with an understanding of how important traditional masculinity is to many of us and how confidence grounded in real work and training is key in some areas of life.
I'm older now and have a severe disability but I would've wanted to continue with combative training, partially to prove that "I had what it takes," as I believe the guest said. Once you can prove it to yourself, the benefits are immeasurable and you don't have to prove it elsewhere.
Fighting skills are life skills, like reading, writing, and basic math.
Once you have been in a couple "incidents", you realize one thing: it doesn't feel good. Even if you win, you wake up in the am sore as heck, your clothes are all ripped up, you're wondering if anything is broken, and you realize it was probably a dumb move. Almost all fights can be avoided if you: approach people politely, don't engage in challenges to your ego, don't engage if there is nothing at stake, and simply walk away. Unless your property, safety, or safety of another is being threatened, there is NOTHING to gain. You'll probably never see that guy again.
BUT they can fataly harm you though..
@@MrVayolenceno what he's saying is true, I like my chances agasint most ppl, but I would almost always try to de escalate the situation and resolve things rather then get into a fight even knowing that i could win, obv.if someone trys to fight you defend yourself or in certain serious situations defend yourse5l, but many times fights can be avoided if you try to calm it down,
@@MrVayolenceother thing to consider to, is you never know if someone has a knife, gun, etc on them, is it really worth getting stabbed shot or possibly dying? You better make sure you knock them out before they shoot u close range.... see how it's not worth it?
How do you mean, it's not worth??!
When a someone disrespects you. You need to stand up for yourself otherwise when you look in the mirror and you can't look yourself in your own eyes because you tolerate it, that someone disrespects you.
Never give you respect away because, tell me what is a men without pride and without fire in his eyes. Stand your ground or accept that you are a loser. It's up to you.
@@Wko-lg3fu That's exactly what I mean. Being disrespected sucks, but its not worth a physical fight. If a stranger disrespects you...they don't know you, and don't even know what they are disrespecting. They are just throwing attitude around to see who takes the bait. Don't be the catch of the day.
Even if you have to use your gun, having combative skills will help to make the right decisions while under pressure.
Yes the health benefits are great learning to fight but I find it much easier to just carry everywhere, and keep it to yourself. But BIG RESPECT to the guys who have the ability to take care of things without having to escalate to you know what.
I feel ya man you have to protect yourself and your family when the shit hits the fan 💯 preciated Bedros and great video too man keep up the good work
The family need to protect you as well as themselves. You can't win a war without an army.
"Not teaching them these skills makes me a liable father, like a negligible, liable father." So much respect for that statement!
If you grow up in the hood you get free fight training at school starting in elementary.
People who learn to fight on the streets fight like ass.
100% I can’t even count how many fights I was in growing up as a kid.
Facts
Yes.
@@Dbrown2844but that doesn't mean they. Know mma they'd still get Smashed if they got jumped where as someone who knows mma might defeat 2 people
I was always a street fighter as a kid, every week i was in a fight, but for a good cause not just to be a troubled kid, i fought against bullies all the time, now at age 35 i been kick boxing for about 2 years, self taught and the confidence it has giving me is crazy, you walk more confident, you know you can handle any situation troubled or not, it is truly a amazing skill, and now its just a hidden weapon i dont look for trouble or try to start fights but if shit goes down i know what to do 😊
Self taught brother that is cool how many days a week?
@anarunikora2996 minimum of 5 days a week just a 30 min workout
@@oldhpirs4how do You self teach kickboxin?
Walk more confident? Like more than the President?😂😂😂
Better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it. That's the axiom for any tool in the tool chest. Being able to defend yourself is one of them. Some other guys will escalate, especially if you don't want to (mistaking that for weakness). Then they make the mistake of going hands on... a push, grabbing you, etc. At that point... they just opened the toolbox.
Bedros is right. I attended his Modern Day Knights program, failed out of course being an old fart of 54 with AFib, but think very highly of him and his team. Am high level in jiu jitsu and medium level in Muay Thai and believe me, it’s necessary both mentally and physically. Throw in some ability with firearms and I am quite confident in my ability to defend my family very well.
Since training self defense and learned situational awarness I reckon you are even more capable to not get in a fight.
Before every karate lesson we would repeat our code, those words shaped me growing up. Be courteous, do not abuse your strength etc. training is so much more than just learning to hit someone.
That said, training and tournaments can be intense and two decades later I still remember my firsts...taking my first kick to the head...first clean hit to the solar plexus. Taking shots isn't fun but better to take those firsts on the mat and be mentally prepared for next time than have them happen in a street fight.
That's straight up true, it's not all one way. I've been hit thrown and kicked dozens of times. It's humbling, and worse than your training hall is a street fight beating. Nobody is unbeatable, and you can't tell whats going to happen ahead of time.
Been wanting to start some sort of proper combat training for like over 10 years now.. I think this is finally the sign to get started
I started 3 months ago and it’s the best decision I’ve made in a while.
@@jordannorris2406 I always hear this from people, kind of like starting gym same thing I guess.. I've been looking around
I recommend Krav Maga. It teaches you how to fight "dirty". Some people will insist on which style is "best", but KM is worth considering. Whatever style you choose, good luck to you.
@@SaladbarSlytherin BJJ, Muay Thai and Boxing are my top picks just in terms of what looks interesting, fun and improving cardio fitness
@@DethrowDestructionBro don’t do Krav Maga. They don’t spar or test ANY of the shit they teach. Do bjj or muay thai or boxing.
Every bullet has a lawyer attached to it.
The guy in the black hat is right it’s about inner confidence besides developing specific skills that can save your and other lives
This guys is spot on! There are a lot of times where your ability to de-escalate with lesser force is crucial.
Also, a lot of times these martial arts gyms are great communities. If you want to feel like you belong, have brothers that are constantly lifting you up, a Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu gym is one of the best places to go.
Holy shit! This guy is the first person I've heard outside of the martial arts community that doesn't think a gun is the answer to everything from sun burn to school shootings. I wish everyone had the same common sense as this guy.
I love everything he talked about. Having options to handle a wide range of threats is so important, especially if you want to stay out of jail.
I got obsessively involved in martial arts at the age of 13. It was utterly transformative to my personality. I would be a completely different, and utterly inadequate human being without it.
Just wanted to touch on the part about Texas from the first part of the video.
If someone approaches you that is much larger than you and is threatening you, you have the right to shoot as size can be considered a deadly weapon.
It’s got me out of a few situations in my life and it’s also giving me the confidence to go into situations that I normally would not have.
If you're a physically capable man with a good heart, it's your responsibility to take care of your body and train it to be able to step in and protect the peace when needed.
The benefits of combat or contact sport activities are extremely underrated.
Sooo good for you!!!
Without full contact sport I wouldn't be where I am now. Martial Arts is far beyond the physical world like protecting on the mind level it makes you a tough boulder in hard times and helps to believe in yourself.
Last time I was in an altercation, he showed respect by bringing his friends to help him.
We have since been able to find an understanding.
Jiujitsu is probably the least perishable skill. I’ll never forget submissions
Spot on, I find many people are paranoid over small things because deep inside they know they can't handle emergency situations. Learning how to fight gives you peace of mind and control, Also, its an easy excuse for those that don't know how to defend themselves that knowing fighting would make one more violent, my experience its the other way around.
"What if you don't have a gun with you?"
Me: crys in Australian
I have been training Jiu Jitsu, Judo and Muay Thai with my Elementary and Middle School age kids for 3 years now.
I have never regretted it. It has made all of us better. My kids walk around school with a confidence and self-assuredness that I didn't have at that age. They don't fear bullies or difficult tasks because they have already been pressure tested.
To me, men with families have a responsibility to know how to fight. If you have a wife what are you gonna do if some guy is harassing your wife? Ask him to stop sure but maybe he wont. What are you gonna do. Get your butt whooped and fail to defend your loved one? You cant just shoot a guy for smacking your wife's butt or whatever. You have a duty as a man to do all you can to be able to defend your family. If you aren't doing it then you're just gambling with your families safety. Don't be one of those guys and don't assume you're good enough to beat anyone, cause if you aren't training then you're just not. Go buy a punching bag best investment you'll ever make. Your punches will level up trust me. Your hands will get bigger and thicker too.
I was taught by my mom that violence is never the solution and never to fight. So after a bully pushed me over and sat on top of me wailing at my face and I didn't fight back because "it was wrong".
Learned the hard way as a kid that one needs to know how to fight.
same.
Learned to fight afterwards, as a way of life.
I fking LOVE Muay Thai! My whole life changed from Muay Thai
I know boxing and I' been doin muay that for 6 month and both have been really good to me both are lethal
Refreshing to hear this. Am tired of negative opinions from uninformed and unaware. Thank you.
They need to bring boxing back into the school like how it was in the 50s. There would be less violence.
Yeah, because there are NO rules in fighting in the streets.
Or just don't throw people in cages for setting things or hell just defending yourself.
Settling not setting
I’ve never been more grateful for my dads knowledge to know, size don’t matter boy so u either gotta know to fight or know how to run from one if u can’t talk ur way out.
If you can't fight, carrying a gun can become more dangerous. Unless you walk around getting into fights purposely, most of the time you get jumped or at least trapped at close quarters. You are already reacting and behind the curve unless the criminal is a complete fool. Fighting skills are necessary to create the distance or position to safely draw or even assess whether the gun is appropriate for the situation. I realize some people have to carry and can't fight well because of age or being handicapped, but if you can I think you are safer having those skills as well.
Also, the arts humble you and makes you into a better person.
I thought it was cheesy as a kid, but it's as real as it gets.
I'm the first to watch.❤
I think the huge part is situational awareness. I also believe it slows things down for you. When you put yourself into stressful situations like fight training it slows time allowing you to think quicker than others and move quicker. Similar to professional drivers reacting quicker on the road
Let me be the devil's advocate here.... We can't label those who don't take any Martial Arts classes and spend time on training as cowards or irresponsible for not taking care of themselves and defending their family. I grew up with a lot of friends who had to become the man of the house at too early of an age. They just couldn't afford the money or time focusing on fight training. They just had to avoid those issues at all costs. They had to focus on working and go to school. For those who chose to focus their time and energy on it, great! Do you, but don't think lowly of those who didn't choose that path (initially).
There are also men with disabilities and health problems that can't do combat sports/martial arts.
There are also men with disabilities and health problems that can't do combat sports/martial arts.
My parents told me "never start a fight...but you better finish it." Besides that anyone who is going to pull his firearm with intention to shoot at every situation is someone who shouldn't carry a firearm. Side note as a Canadian we don't get to carry so if your protect yourself and your family, you learn to fight.
This is why I'm in judo 3 times a week. At age 50.
Almost a 60 year old man. Lifetime, sport, hunting, hiking, 3:01 gym rat got married late in life let your body go to hell and realized I gotta get back in the shape. But I didn’t want to go hit the gym again. I started a mixed martial arts program. Absolutely incredible. Everything in this video is true. In the benefits that you get.
This guy is saying its better to learn BJJ than Boxing in a subtle way. Boxing is more practical when you factor in potential variables in the street. He said rear naked choking a guy to sleep is better than knocking him out with a punch. Not really and both can potentially lead to manslaughter. A lot of people in prison because the guy didn't wake up. Also if there is a large size and strength disparity the efficient boxer has a better chance than the grappler. Seen much smaller boxers dismantle much bigger stronger guys in the street. Good luck trying to grab and submit a guy superior in strength and size. Self defense just like pulling a hand gun should always be the very last resort when all diplomacy has been exhausted.
martial arts saved me and loved ones from being assaulted/hurt/attacked in many instances. Some people should know that if you step up to certain people who are trained, with a weapon, that might just piss the artist off more. YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO USE A WEAPON, IF YOU YOURSELF ARE NOT ONE. I always hated when people with guns thought they are superior. Loved this video, thanks guys. Shout out from South Africa :)
I have boxed before but not much. Which stack is preferred? Box and some rolling?
Muay Thai and BJJ is the best combination
just do it all, why not?
@@EMMmaximino haha well.. I'm working 2 jobs, a business startup for over a year, surviving inflation during a divorce.... So I guess that's why not lol. I only have a little time but I want to start a nice habit. I've done muay tai when I was younger for a bit.
@@Last_Chance. Is there any striking in BJJ? I have to pick one and unsure. I feel like the striking would really help me Hahaha. As a stress reliever.
@@abgportal no not really. Muay Thai is striking and it is the best martial art for self defense in my opinion
All great points. The more men learn how to fight, the less fights we will have.
Though I definitely want to start taking MMA to learn to defend my family (now that I have a son)... I believe a much more important skill that most people lack is the art of deescalation. It's something I am masterful at. In my youth I've been held at gun point, knife point (twice), and even in a situation where I had to stop a fight with two drunk special forces guys. In every single scenario, I used deescalation and words to diffuse the situation. The guy holding me at gun point ended in laughter. Both knife points ended with a hug (albeit awkward for me). The special forces guys definitely f*cked each other and some stuff up before I could calm them down... but it avoided anyone going to the hospital and they apologized to each other after. Now given, had any of those been handled with a tiny error on my part and it could have ended badly... Hence why I want to learn MMA as a backup... but deescalation is the skill 99% of people lack, and it typically just comes down to empathy and understanding that persons needs and motivations.
Why the hell did people pull two knives and a gun on you? Did you know any of them?
Love how he mentions martial arts making you not only more physically capable but also just knowing that makes you more confident in yourself too. I say that all the time and it's so true. I've really noticed a huge difference in my confidence levels since I started training in Jiujitsu and a little MMA years ago. Other people notice it too which is usually great because then other guys won't mess with you but it can also be a bad thing too. Some guys have such huge egos that they feel your confidence level is a threat to them so they want to challenge you, usually passive aggressively, with like giving attitude for no reason or whatever. It can also be a bad thing because that confidence level can attract toxic people in different ways such as narcissistic or even sociopathic women who want to date you just to break that confident man down. Same applies in any other type of relationship too, whether it be platonic, business, a pure stranger, or even familial relationships where they want to break down a confident person so be aware of that possible downside. There's far more positives to being a martial artist though so it's definitely worth it.
It’s better to have a gun and not need it than to need it and not have it. It’s imperative to have hands
I've never watched a RUclips video where I agreed with everything said apart from this. Good job, guys!
People get guns and think they got the badge with it taking justice in their hands instead doing exactly what dude says , walk away you don’t have the right to take a life because you got the right to carry.
There is a confidence you have when you know you can handle most people.
Bedros has lived life. He is 100 percent spot on.
Thinking you can fight without real training is insane. Studying techniques on RUclips without real training is useless
Every man needs to learn how to fight. It was a lost art for many decades in the US. Now, there are opportunities to learn everywhere. I'm a 184_lb ex collegiate wrestler. Wrestling ability is great in a fight, but it's not everything. After college, I practiced stand-up and submissions for several years. I'm 47 now, and I've unfortunately been disabled by 2 systemic diseases, and 6 serious orthopaedic injuries. Despite all that, I still don't lack confidence in defending myself. I'm still a 225_lb, 6' tall, heavy muscular guy. I lack muscular endurance due to disease. But unless I'm attacked by 2 or more people, I can still end your average dumbass in less than a minute. That confidence and ability is important, and it makes your family members feel safe with you.
You wanna straight up intimidate someone it's being violent with your own hands.
Be careful, be violent with the wrong guy and get shanked a different day
A guy told me he wanted my wallet...I told him to go F*** himself. He had a shocked Pikachu face 😮 that I dared him. He chickened.
I legit know how to fight 6 years of kickboxing at a high level in the Netherlands is honestly one of the best things i ever did the level of confidence you have in yourself is unreal.