If You're In Your 40s And Still Single Watch This
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- Опубликовано: 11 дек 2019
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I am a 50 year old male with 3 kids. My wife died in 2018 and I think I’m still not ready to date. I was so much in love with my wife.
You are good and sensitive. Don't rush anything, no pressure. Sorry for your lose.
You are amazing
That's really sad, man. I hope you pull through.
Sorry for your loss.. it’s nice to see that guys still “fall in love” good luck.. ❤
congratulations on the kids, they are the reminder that you did something right or you wear lucky to find someone to get 3 copys of you 2:)
I'm 42 years old, never married, no children. I love being single. No alimony, no debts, no child support, no drama, don't have to worry about losing everything I have. I'm able to accomplish all of my lifetime goals. I have total freedom over my life.
I am the same as you. Best place to be. 👍
U rock baby ❤️
@@letletlebogatsu3436 dudes
Me too. I understand
@football ⚽ theatre Why do you criticize the way I want to live my life? Live yours the way you want to, and leave me alone.
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for.
@rachealhubert74 That's actually quite impressive, I could use some Info on your FA, I am looking to make a change on my finances this year as well
@rachealhubert74 I will give this a look, thanks a bunch for sharing.
I'm sorry mate and i wish you both well. I'm 40 now and by the time i hit retirement age i fully expect not to receive my tiny pension.
Things are going to get a lot worse and take a long time before they start to get better.
For a start we've got WW3 booked in for 2025.
Anyways sorry to be a doomsayer. Best of luck to yer both 🙂
@@SoonGone Alice Marie Coraggio , lookup with her name online....
Well said
It’s obvious that 90% of the comments are from people that didn’t watch the video all the way to the end. She says “throw away the list”.
Keep your list!! Just don't use it on a man. Use it to humble yourself and remind yourself how much influence common culture marketing has warped your soul. It'll center you, I swear.
The list doesn't matter. Why should any man be okey with a "fresh" wife of 40y or more? I get why it works for men. Never had a wife, not even a girlfriend, but at 40 you have a stable income, pension plan, good place to live you own. What does the woman bring? You dont need her income, she ain't going to give you kids and if she us 40 , then the chance of her becoming a stay at home wife is zero. There is the sex of course , but that you can get from any woman any age without getting married
@@piotrjeske4599 A lot of women in their 40s still have kids, and many want to stay home with them.
@@piotrjeske4599 Have fun living by yourself without ever having a connection. I've been hit on guess l guys like you all my life and never wanted to be with any of them.
This is for 40 year old women to throw their lists away. At that point I think their only option is to date men 60 years and up. Most men, who take care of themselves, in their 50's and under will aim for women in their 20's and 30's. Mostly 20's and early 30's to be honest.
I'm 36, never got married, no kids and no desire for either of those two. Life is good when you don't have to worry about other people.
I think so too
@@muniaisworthit focus on yourself so that you can impact lives don't just make money eat sleep and repeat, make sure you are adding value to somebody's life, look for a particular person in your area/ life to bless every now and then the commitment you was suppose to give your wife and kids, give 10% to each people you encounter, don't expect anything in return because people will fail you, they're human beings or join a non profitable organisation something like that so you figure things out and who knows you might be doing all of this genuinely from the bottom of your heart without expecting anything in return and you find your future wife, she too might be in the non profitable organisation and mind, you never know, have an open mind and take calculated risks hope for the best don't focus on the worst and um accept Jesus Christ today as your lord and saviour, he ll make your life worth living
I'm single too looking for a serious relationship with the right person
Sounds lonely
It’s so difficult when people keep asking you or when your siblings keep talking about their partners
"Do not believe the list your ego has created." Words of wisdom for men and women both. Know what you think you want. Realize there is more that you don't know.
It's against nature
Keep to the real , that's were real people are
Two sets of single folks out there....one set got married had kids, bought house good career, raised families and it just never worked out, other set just never had the opportunity to get that far or wasn't interested....just be happy with where you are in life, you can't go back and undo nothing and you can't sell yourself cheap just because you feel like your missing out.
Thanks for this
This amazing
And the third set, where they fleeced and sabotaged every single relationship they had and rejected great and eligible potebtial partners thinking their options would never run out and then reality hit.
@@noinfoherebro yeah
Thanks for commenting 👍.. This is a nice group full with good people hope you are good lol 😅.....So how are you doing hope you are safe from this deadly virus 🥵.. Pray 🙏🙏God Keeps you and your family from it.. I'm new here on this group 🤗.. thank you for comment.
I'm turning 38, single, Never married no kids... To be honest, I want to get married one day and have own family.
You adopting? What were you doing half your life?
@@armandozacarias1552she doesn’t need to adopt. You can still have a baby in your 40’s.
@@armandozacarias1552 0-10 (or 12) = Too young to have children. 13-18/19= Teen and busy with school? Money is dirt or monopoly money?! 20-30= College stuff, dating but nothing past first or second dates! Guys too immature to date. Drunken parties. Job/Work getting in the way. Friends clubbing. And yes, sleeping around but that's okay, it's part of the process! 31-34 = Thought I met the right one but it didn't turn out to be the case and even harmed me a bit. 35-36= Took a well deserved break from all that (dating and finding someone so I could heal and focus on myself!). 37 = Met a Mr. Wrong again. 38 = My ex came back and stupid in love me, I took him back and that was a huge mistake to put it lighty! He even became a homeless drug addict! Oh God. 39= Still trying but no luck so far. Some people just have all the luck when it comes to finding someone stable and matured and responsible and caring! ....I am not this lady but maybe we have similiar stories!
@@armandozacarias1552 She was avoiding all of the non-committal men out there. She was avoiding "baby mama" status.
@@armandozacarias1552 Pretty rude intrusive comment.
I wish everyone peace, love and happiness! ❤You’re not alone.
yes they are. woman all bought the lie of feminism and now all of them are miserable. women effed around and now they are finding out. 😂😂😂
I am a 40's single never married male. But I am sad about it. It's like it happened to me because I never learned interpersonal skills, not something I chose to do. It's hard and I am sad and scared to be old. All relationship types have been challenging and friendships are rare.
I feel the same as you but the best remedy its to work improving yourself and the rigth person will appear
Trust me I'm a woman and I can totally relate. I struggle with social anxiety and prefer to hide at home. I can do fine and feel happier not interacting with people.
@@thevegantitian me too. but i just to cared. i be myself. and haved lost change to great woman who like me but learn and moved forward. and now ready for the right one that will come raised your child matured at a young age thats the key. to end this. inour country there modern women but they do not have this crazy standard. except for few and few celebrities.
Western society is cruel and unforgiving to men that are socially awkward. They get treated like creeps (although there's nothing creepy about lacking social astuteness). I have a cousin who is on the spectrum. Despite being a good looking guy and earning good money, he has never had a real girlfriend. It has really angered me seeing how women treat him. Socially awkward women are just seen as quirky. Unfortunately as men, all the burden is on is to make things happen. All women really have to do is not get heavy and be somewhat pleasant acting. Hope you find some happiness. If you can afford it, may I recommend touring a SE Asian country like Phillipines or Thailand...
You gotta get out there and meet as many as you can. Strength in numbers, eventually you’ll find a good one…
38 here. And no one interested in me. I ditched the list and learn to accept I'll be forever single.
why
Somewhere in my 40s (not even counting anymore), I never had a list just a knowing that a relationship was not on the cards for me. I've accepted that I'm too broken from childhood abuse to ever be able to trust someone and I will be single forever
I enjoy being single. No strange obligations, more money in my wallet, more free time, more time for exercise, not sacrificing my diet for poor quality food, more sleep…The list goes on! Also, me not getting married doesn’t make me have to walk on eggshells and potentially lose a lot if the marriage goes south.
Goodluck boy . Singles always easy to get robbed
Amen
You said it right. I casually hang out with women and even after I explain all my reasons for being single they will always tell me I'm just afraid of commitment.
@@mr.knewitall2861 😂😂 So terrible to say because why the heck would you say that but soooop true! I laughed so hard. But truly... with GOD and a loaded handg---ahem--- self defense tactics, he'll survive, I'm sure. 😂
@@mr.knewitall2861
We carry credit/debit cards like everybody else.
I'm 22 and im watching this because i feel like im gonna be old alone to avoid expectations and heartbreaks. idk if my perspective in love will make me happy but im just gonna focus to myself for now
I’m 29. Please focus on yourself, it will profit you in the long run. No relationship will do it for you. I’ve made a lot of mistakes and I’m on my way to get back on track and achieve what I want to achieve. Life is short
Wtf 22, yo go take mma classes, call you parents and tell them you love them, kiss whoever you into and get back to homework. At 22 shouldn't be wasting your precious time to watch this stuff.
@@russianamerican7397 I still got 11 years to go but I don’t think this video is a waste of time. Wth you talking about
@@shazzshank6393 you are too young to be watching this, and be filling your head with unnecessary stuff. You kids now days so out of place in one or another direction getting your heads filled with things shouldn't concern you for a long time, and things that you'll make up your own opinion about with experience you gain. Knowledge is power, but in many cases ignorance is the way to go till right time comes.
I was talking to 22 year old, anyways you got long ways to 40, though you'll get here fast, but thi moment will seem as another life time. I remember 29 and thinking what I'll be like at 40. Well... no reason to think on it was needed. I am there.
43 and never married. Attracted unavailable men my whole life, too codependent to see it. First time in my whole life I’m happier single than forcing myself into someone else’s life. If it’s meant to be, so it be.
I get it. I love being a single man. All I wanna do is smoke weed, color in coloring books,make money, swim and watch Netflix. No chick to tell me what I can and can't do. Lovin' life!
That's is a great point but it seems to me like you are the real queen of my heart and my dear beautiful can you make this dream come true
@@cheshire_skatkat9093 boy what an exciting life you live! You must be in "heaven" living this way!
@@josephkennedy1065 are you mentally unbalanced or something? You're asking every single woman on here to get together with you. Read the text: she doesn't want someone to date or marry!
If you die tonight, do you know where you're going? Did you know that Jesus Christ is THE Truth, the life and the only way to Heaven?
Revelation 20:15 ''Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.''
Through Jesus Christ, God offers you a FREE gift - forgiveness. All you need to do is repent, turn away from your sins and evil ways,
from now on put your faith completely in Jesus Christ and be obedient to Him.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
39 years old, never married and childfree. Told myself that if I didn't get married by 27, I wasn't going to worry about it anymore. I know that the solitary life isn't for everyone, but I truly do have no regrets.
Wow really? I just turned 39 but with all the "men" I've met (either too fat to be healthy and too smelly, beer belly, or a player/egotistical, abusive, drug addict, homeless...) yeah, nevermind! Back when I didn't have standards I probably would have settled though.
Does it mean you won't accept having a loving and caring partner if life gives you one??
I’m just single now after 14 year relationship but I’m enjoying single life now but I don’t want to be single for the rest of my life.
For the first 10’years I didn’t want to have children now they our relationship ended I really want to be married and have a family one day 38 I don’t think it’s too late for me keep hoping and praying I love relationships I just know I’m
Not going to want to be single forever but I’m happy at the moment doing me for now
I'm 68 now and have been single most of my life. I am simply too broken to be able to establish a healthy relationship with a woman. I have chosen to remain single forever now. You reach a point in this life where you come to realize that certain things just aren't going to happen. For me that's marriage, and that's ok. Fortunately this life is not all there is!
Yeah, the same for me
Did you guys watch the end of the video? I gave a dislike when she talked about her high standards but then I realized at the end of the video she dismantled those high standards and explained how she was wrong.
Yeah, after riding the CC for twenty years.
@@UntakenNick your one never gets used which is why you’re so bitter
@@deckhead33 used for what? Meaningless thottery🤦♀️?
@@Jojo_D_Northstar why ask me when you know better? It’s not a woman’s fault if she doesn’t manage to arouse you. Try men as I think they’re more your preference since you clearly dislike women.
@@deckhead33 a lot if word salad little logic lol
Shout out to all the 40+ singles. After focusing on education and then career, here I am (like many of the commenters) 40 y.o and single. No major regrets ... I'm not sad, I'm not miserable. My mum has never put pressure on me to find a boyfriend or get married. But she did ask me a year or so ago (out of the blue) if I wanted her help to find a hubby. I just said "no" because I wasn't interested in finding a partner. Anyway, this year I've developed a big time crush on someone. I feel young again (but mind you 40 ain't old). I think there's beauty in finding love later in life. I also know there's nothing wrong in staying single if that's what you want. But for the first time in possibly forever, I want love ❤
Lol sorry you’re mistaken. Chances are you’re dating someone that is a simp (rich guys can be simps) and or someone who just wants a fling. Lol how meaningful. But whatever makes you happy
@@michaelhowington4205 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 okay simp
Life is a beautiful experience when you got someone that is loyal and got your back and do things together.. life is beautiful when you see that kid smiling at you and calling you mama... Do you think if your mum was to remain single and not give a shit... Would you exist or be dropping this comment on here... Life is too short and spending it with someone that truly love you is beautiful..
@@heinzyketchupy4175way to piss on someone happiness. What a buzzkill you are.
@@AndyAkpan-wf9kkwell maybe if more men were reliable and trustworthy women would marry. But the truth is most men are for the streets.
Notice how she doesnt bring anything to the table besides her huge ass list and demands!!!
Why are you on this video if you are not interested in women over 40. I am not even over 40 and you mgtow morons are annoying.
Lol
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40 in 5 months. Sometimes I’m okay busy living life and joyful…. But every night… right at 8pm… this feeling comes over me. It descends on me like a dark cloud. The sadness of being lonely is weighing on me so bad. I want companionship. My mind is bussing and I’d love to have someone to talk to about things and debate topics… exchanging ideas and being adventurous… I want this so bad. It hurts to not be chosen. I e lost the weight I’m keeping myself up. Not being seen hurts deeply… I’m getting older and greys are coming in fast. I just want someone to talk to and flirt with … I want to walk and hold hands… not being chosen at 40 hurts so bad……….
Can I give you an advice?
Go out and make a friend. Challenge yourself to do everything you'd like to do with a partner, but with friends! Especially having fun, support, conversation, adventure. Believe me friendship is the true gym of love.
You are seen, and you are going to choose and be chosen.
Seek therapy and invest in yourself, you will find a normal guy in his mid 40's, it's better late than never.
Girl get out there! They are not coming to you!
It's because you're not married doesn't mean you need to be alone. There is someone out there right now thinking the same thing you are and if you two could just connect.
Hi there! Are you a woman? I'm from Philippines
You and me are in the same boat. Turning 40 in a month and still single, never married no kids. It sucks to never be chosen. But I am making the conscious effort to CHOOSE MYSELF EVERYDAY - to CHOOSE ME. I want to accept myself flaws and all. Learn who I am and what I want and move forward with having the best relationship with ME. Even if I don’t find a romantic partner, I will be good cause I am happy just being with me ❤
I'm glad I waited until I was 35 to marry the love of my life. I'm 41, he's 47, when I met him I was seeing 2 other guys and those 2 guys didn't have what I wanted in a potential husband. My husband was seeking 3 women and he said none of them weren't as traditional as me. My husband and I clicked so well, we both are very educated, family oriented, traditional, religious, like and hate almost the same things, down-to-earth, understanding of each other and both came from big families. Now we have 2 kids together. Don't let people on social media tell you that you're crazy if you haven't married by this age and that age, true love comes to those who wait.
Wow.. thanks for the reminder.
Sometimes we have to wait for some time to find the one.
The stats are clear; if a woman has not met her future husband by the age of 30, her chances are quite slim in ever marrying and having kids.
Especially considering that the biological window is MUCH shorter for women. These are just facts, and the statistics backs this up completely.
@LoveSweetDreams my thoughts exactly.
@LoveSweetDreams just because you're dating someone doesn't mean you're getting "split roated". You can date someone for some time, get to know them, without it being overtly sexual
Amen!
40, never been in a relationship, not expecting to ever find one, trying to just embrace being single: nobody to answer to, I can do my own thing without compromising, no threat of losing everything in a divorce, etc.
That's sad man. Try not to lose any hope.I am 21 now in last year of college so I am about 2 decades younger than you and I never had a girlfriend so I can understand how you feel. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her.
@@manosijthehero3686 why not give it a shot and get to know her? Don't tell her you have a crush on her but do your best to get her attracted to you. The dating market sucks after college as you go from being around women all the time to potentially having none around.
@@kevin15776 That's what scares me because I will be graduating by August end or first week of Sept and I am scared that what if she rejected me badly. I really like her and she is very pretty but she is 19 and 2 years my junior and I am 21 and in last year so how would I meet her after graduating? I really at least wanna take her to the bakery in front of our college to buy her some sandwich or pastries or ice cream or something but I need some more confidence for that. I would still have some options because I have 2 more crushes. One of them is 20 and in 3rd year and we follow each other on Instagram too and another one is 23 or 24 and we met in another institute and I will manage to get her name as well. Sadly I had another crush on a 1st year girl in my college too who is 18 but I know nothing about her and couldn't approach her due to shyness and I don't have friends who is in 1st year who can help me so I was weeping while going home from college because she is too cute and I would probably never see her again as college is almost over for me.
@@manosijthehero3686 honestly, it seems like you may have waited too long but why not get some experience by talking with them again and seeing if something can develop? If she's a friendly person but she's not interested, she'll let you down easily. If she's nasty about it, you dodged a bullet.
@@kevin15776 I was just shy of girls so that's why I did that. The bullying in high school made me lose some confidence. Btw I am still sad that I can never meet that other crush who is 18 and in 1st year because I know nothing about her and I will probably never meet her again as college is almost over. She was my first ever crush in college when I saw her in April 2022. She is too cute and I would have loved to be that nice guy who would keep her safe and protected. But now I have that 19 yr old girl who is replying to me and I would try my luck on her instead
Nothing wrong with being single, peace of mind, sanity, and having the freedom to do whatever you want.
What about feeling emotional and physical needs, I'm alone not by choice,
@@aftabahmed5343 I just do activities like sports, movies, shopping, reading anything that keeps my mind focused and stay motivated. Also set goals for yourself on what you want to accomplish, use this time to work on yourself and grow as an individual.
@@tonika7543 it doesn't fill the human vacuum. Your just in denial
@@actsofapostlescontinued2636 I’m not in denial, I’m just single by choice 😉.
@@tonika7543 I tried all these things your trying to explain, am also a human being speaking out of experience, the human vacuum cannot be replaced by activities , you would discover it if you have not. Trust rhis truth
At the age of 37, my wife, the mother of our two sons, decided that what she really needed, instead of a loving man (who gave her everything, treated her with respect, and loved her) was to have some affairs. I made her my ex-wife, and she now has no relationship with either son (their choice). After 26 years, I am still with my second wife, a woman who always treats me with dignity, respect, and lots of love. She is an incredible partner and a loving stepmother.
Did u loved ur second wife more than ur ex.. Did she helped u forget her? Sorry for my English
@@rorirori2260 Forget who?
@@rorirori2260 My second wife is wonderful and the love of my life.
@@johnfairweather9188 my bf is divorced and has the same situation like you. The first wife left him at 38 to marry younger man.. We met and he likes me and wants to marry me but I'm kinda scared that he may still misses his ex wife.. God bless you and your winderful wife😁❤️
@@rorirori2260 Thank you, Rayane. I certainly got over my ex.
I’m 48 years old and I’m still single. Never married, no kids and no girlfriend. I love being single and I do not want another person interfering with my life. I’m almost 50 and I love it that I’m single. Being single is not for everybody. Only a true warrior with will power can remain single or putting it in other words, you can never miss what you never had.
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@@unitedcity7120 😂😂😂😂😂
I look like a rat and am obsessed with myself, I met a Chad, who wasn't good enough, but then I decided I liked him, because he is still.. a Chad.
This right here is why I prefer to live in another dimension.
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Same
Bruh
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when they hit the wall, they tend to hit it hard.
Just be happy they’re not hitting you so quit whining.
@Material Girl Asians yes; I'll give it to you there I've met asian women in their 50s who look 30 at the oldest. Pretty crazy; I think it has a lot to do with their skin care and their diet. Black women?? lol nah all the black women I know (I'm from ATL so that would be tons ) after they have a kid or two; it's down hill from there.
most black women I've met are also overweight. same goes for black men but it seems like both the black and hispanic community when adjusted by population size have a really bad obesity problem.
Again; I understand most people in america are starting to become overweight or are already there, but it seems like black women have been there since the 80s
@Material Girl >What does being overweight have to do with aging though?
The older you get the harder it is to loose weight and get into shape. And that's across all ethnicity. ripped yoked up 40 year old men I've seen in the gym that I work out with later on after getting to know them tell me they are on testosterone therapy. basically legal juice. When your an early 20 something you can get in killer shape even if you've never worked out once in your life. but the older you become; and the more overweight you are the harder it will be. Remember skin elasticity is highest at youth. so the longer you keep that weight on the harder and worse it will be to loose when and if you do decide to take it off. that's why age matters when it comes to being overweight. not to mention if you have injuries that may stop you from working out to begin with. injuries take longer to heal when your older. and some dont fully heal at all. I fucked my back up when I was 28 moving a couch; 4 years later my back still kills me in the morning no matter the PT I do.
>You said the wall. You didn't say anything about weight.
again, a 20 year old man and woman can get fat at 20 and take the weight off at 25 and still be ok because they are still relatively young. a 35-40 year old? yeah sure; but is it harder and sometimes impossible? we both know the answer to this so I wont even go there.
>It sounds kind of stereotypical to assume we're all fat??
minorityhealth.hhs.gov/omh/browse.aspx?lvl=4&lvlid=25
but its true? there is a quick static to prove it to you right there. This is a huge problem not just when it comes to partnering off but also later in life. Most of the medical conditions people face later on in life are caused by the mistreatment they did to their bodies; either by being overweight and putting tons of strain on your heart to smoking and damaging your lungs. call it a stereotype all you want but it's true; most african american women are overweight.
>My sister is passed 30 and literally looks the same she did in high school.
Cool, and I have a friend who is barely 160 pounds and can bench press 415 pounds. Does that men we're all capable of bending the rules? no; that's why we have averages. Not sure what you where trying to prove by telling me about your sister.
one last thing; men hit the wall as well. tons of guys who never work out and spend their 20s drinking beer and being couch potatos later go on to regret it. The difference is that most men in their 40s can still have sex and still make a baby with a women in her late 20s. But most women past the age of 40 enter what is known as risk pregnancy ages where miscarriages are extremely common due to age. and 45+ most fertile eggs of a woman die off. that's just how biology work. that's what I means by hitting the wall. This is why egg freezing is becoming more and more popular. it's an attempt to offset nature. Like it or not men can have kids from the ages of puberty to well into his 50 maybe even 60s if he doesn't develop ED but women cant do that.
@Material Girl most black woman age very Bad.
@Material Girl bs
Why 40??? I am 44 and have no hurry at all. Never wanted to have children and that is a gift. No drama, more money, more time, and I can find a man now or when I am 60 no hurry. Just living my Life.🥂💃💃💃🍻
I am 46 and never been married. Not even a long term relationship. Just a few dates. Totally shy when it comes to talking to girls. I accepted that what my life is and trying to enjoy my life by myself.
I think your problem is just shyness, the right friends can help you out of it.
And any woman that will get hold of you will be lucky, in the sense that you will stick to her cos you wouldn't have the balls to try other women.😆😆
@@catherinenwakuba8093 How dare you say this man won't have the balls to try other women. xD
@@mindfulperspective111Doesn’t matter if a woman is “feminist” or “traditional”, at the end of the day they all want a traditional man , they want a man who is in charge , a leader , an extroverted , someone who asks them out , someone who proposes marriage , someone who has good humor skills etc , etc . A shy man doesn’t have any of those traits , so it’s absurd to claim that “some” women like shy men .. That’s the same as saying that “some women” like men shorter than them ..
The reality is that finding love is not easy for so many men , since we weren’t blessed with the personality or physical traits that women demand in a man , as a result , you can find tons of men who have never been in a romantic relationship.. I think these explains why many men end up visiting prostitutes.
Now, I am glad that for women is easy to find love . It makes me happy that my female relatives have zero difficulty finding love , since men don’t judge them on their social or humor skills or their height or race .
May I contact you?
@@RivolverRani2112 Hi meri frnd banogi ?
Yeah keep searching for the perfect man.
Btw how perfect are you?
Delusional women ruin lives.
So do delusional men!
Well.... Forty something explain that.
Exactly
Come here i need u am alone 💑💑❤❤😍😍🌷🌷
At 37 she started getting serious....no wonder it was so difficult for her to find someone.
lol
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@Write it Black I'm in full agreement with you because you NEVER hear about stories like ours. It's always "OH, all these women want careers and play around in their 20's and 30's then complain about not being able to find a man, blah blah.." IT'S BULLSHIT! I have had some terrible experiences myself, and I have taken myself off the market because men are too wishy washy, and narcissistic. They want the dream girl but they aren't willing to be the dream guy. No thank you. These men who think they're gods and love to bash all single women for the same stupid FALSE reasons are only fooling themselves.
@Write it Black "had a boyfriend who had mental illness but didn’t tell me until 9 years later"
And what does that say about you and your suitability to choose a suitable husband ?
Does someone who makes poor choices make a good wife and mother ?
Or shouldn't men be allowed to have any standards ?
Do you understand how many girls out here are staying they "haven't had a relationship for 2 years" but are sleeping with FWB, ONS and EXs ?
There are many girls who say "I'm a carer of my mother" whilst she's really a Club Girl
Many "Christian" girls who want God to send them a Good Man because they are Born Again Virgins
Had my fun, now I need a sucker to pay my bills
@Write it Black You say that you have changed. That you are not going to keep making the same mistakes that you have for the last 9 years.
Perhaps you are not cut out for functional Male / Female relationships ?
Have you tried a Lesbian relationship ?
33 divorced and with one 8 yr old child. Had the picket fence, cars and I can say that there is nothing wrong with being single. As for being in a serious relationship, I will only tell through time since my last and 2nd relationship lasted 10 yrs. 4 yrs single now and I’m doing me.
So true dude. There is nothing wrong with being single.
@@user-mwreixqw I got more peace now and I learned I don’t need no one to be happy. You got to love yourself man.
At least you already have progeny. At least there is someone to entertain and make you laugh.
Many people in 30s and 40s still single with no kids and loneliness can be tough
I need a serious relationship
I hear was in a relationship for 14 years now I’m all alone 8 months but I’m ok I’m happy there are times I get lonely at night or miss the adult talk but I know there is someone for me out there I don’t want to be single forever I really love relationships
Having done the married life with children & have now been single for over 10 years, I realize that I have a much better life. Better than I ever thought I could have.
In 2012, I decided to stop dating at all.
Diverting my time & energy to helping others, more serious workouts to build strength.
Also, I started working more to raise my income then growing my wealth portfolio. I began traveling more to see the beauty in the USA. In one week from now, I will be going to a destination that I have wanted to go to for 20 years.
Even better?
I'm treating my sister as my travel companion. I'm so excited about this. When I was married, he never wanted to do this even when I had earned the money to pay for it so it wouldn't come out of family money. If I had gone by myself he would have been so angry with me. He never wanted to do anything fun.
I could only go on this dream vacation because I'm single.
Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤
@@JackAnthony-bh2lt Let's see, the photo for your YT channel is a stolen one, not really you. The name is also a lie, reverse image search busted you. There are many more lies, I just don't want to waste any more time on it. So, *no*. I don't become friends with liars & scammers.
40 single and no kids or baggage? That's prime Time right there. Super hard to find.
WORD! 💯
Right here. I’m not that rare i don’t think
I'm 42 proudly single with no kids yet and thank almighty God cos I wasn't ready for a family. I would have ruined it for my kids and husband. Now I'm smart enough to know that we can never be fully ready but the sheer recognition and humility to accept this and be teachable through the process is more than enough.
Also, time is an illusion. getting married later in life is not a sign of failure. in fact by now you kinder know yourself in out and will not settle for societal pressures and other petty stuff.
You don't have to biologically get children. There are lots that need a home and a family. consider adoption.
Have fun and be kind to yourself.
I need to talk to you mentioned the key word God.Without God none of our relationships going to work.
Send me your number I need to talk to you.
@@Chris-ou6of she doesn’t want you
Delusion
@@z-iceberg3562 bitter sob
Just smile and MGTOW boys, just smile and MGTOW.
@Onyx 2020 hahahaha, that’s why women are constantly whining about not being able to find a “good man”.
@Material Girl silly little creature with silly little feelings, stumbling across a video on RUclips and commenting on it isn’t stalking.
@Material Girl dating advice? This “advice” is delusional and will see you end up alone. You aren’t just too awesome and perfect for the men you have met. Why didn’t I just keep scrolling? Why didn’t you just keep scrolling past my comment? Actually I’m not lacking, I have a good family, a job, hobbies, and the enjoyment of watching you poor creatures talk yourselves into ruining your own futures by lying to yourselves.
@@mekelreen9869 you are a stalker. You are being reported for causing distress to innocent women with just your mere presence
@@deckhead33 pathetic, responding to people who comment to me isn’t stalking, and making other people uncomfortable is irrelevant, they don’t have a right to not be distressed.
I’m only 18 and I have a feeling that I’m gonna be in my 40’s still single. And I don’t want marriage or kids either 😔
Very good that you stay single and childless. Well done. 👍😀
You are one smart dude if you are single.
I'm 22 I'm on the same boat brother. Single life is awesome. Keep cruising. Peace be with you.
Same with me
Yes don’t date these gold diggers bro they Literally only want money is kinda Disturbing
I'm 38, divorced, 2 kids. Loving my single life.
How many cats do you have???🤣🤣🤣
Thank your ex for your children.
Mr Silver & Black did you miss that she said she has two kids
Atleast you have children
Good for him
Love is the best feeling on this planet ,if you have it then keep tight hold ,hope i get it back one day
Hello Paulie, How are you doing? Im single too
Awwwww..... hugs handsome
Someone needs to spread this message to Boston women. Up here if you're not brad pit or Tom Brady, you're not good enough.
I never wanted Pitt for Brady, but I also don't live in Boston. But there are plenty of great women there who'll want you! Just open your eyes to it, just like she says in this video for women, it works for men too.
👍 What do you expect, Boston, Massachusetts is a very liberal feminist leftist city and state, I'm from Boston myself and i know about it.
@@beebuzz959
True but not false
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That's everywhere
When l was in my 20's and early 30's. I never dated any one. Because l am focused on my self and other things in life. I tried to date and it was not meant to be. I feel depressed when my grandparents and my father passed away. I've been single for many years. I never think that l will ever get married. But when l went abroad. My life changed. I got married and l feel happy. Which l never felt when l was still single.
Just out of curiosity, what country did you travel to?
@@alisoncanty1894 India.. so he can own a REAL UNTOUCHABLE (me.)
If you die tonight, do you know where you're going? Did you know that Jesus Christ is THE Truth, the life and the only way to Heaven?
Revelation 20:15 ''Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.''
Through Jesus Christ, God offers you a FREE gift - forgiveness. All you need to do is repent, turn away from your sins and evil ways,
from now on put your faith completely in Jesus Christ and be obedient to Him.
Biblical explanation of the Gospel:
God doesn’t want anybody in hell, but you must understand why
we deserve hell and why those who refuse to live under His authority will go
there. He gave us the law (Ten Commandments) not to make us righteous, but
rather to show us our sin (Romans 3:20). God gave us free will and since Adam
sinned in the garden, sin is the nature of our flesh and we ALL have sinned. (Romans 3:23)
The law demands death to those who sin (Romans 6:23). Since we have all sinned, we all deserve hell.
Revelation 21:8 says that all liars will go to hell. Yes, even if you have lied once in your life, you are sentenced to hell - that's how
high God's standards are of moral perfection because God is holy and righteous, there is not one sin in Him.
For someone to be justified before holy God they have to be sinless, that's why everyone need Jesus Christ
- for He lived a sinless life, died on the cross and rose from the dead on the third day.
None of us are good in God’s eyes, because for God good means moral perfection. We all
have broken God’s commandments, we all have sinned in our lives so none of us
are good. ‘’For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is
guilty of breaking all of it.’’ (James 2:10). Our carnal mind is hostile to God; it does not submit
to God's moral law and it never will (Romans 8:7). We hate the thought of God for the same reason a criminal
hates a policeman - we know we have sinned against God and are guilty of it and we don't want to be damned.
No good works will ever save you. You can't earn salvation by good works, because God will judge us for our sin.
Good News is that Jesus Christ lived a perfect, holy, sinless life and He died for our sins according to the Scriptures,
He was buried and He was raised from the dead on the third day according to the Scriptures (1 Corinthians 15:3-4)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’’ (John 3:16)
We aren’t saved by our good works, but only by the grace of God through faith in Christ.
''For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God -
not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Jesus said ‘’it is finished’’ (John 19:30) just before He died on the cross, which means He paid the fine for our sins
(past, present, future) to be forgiven only IF we repent and trust in Him.
This is how you can get saved from sin and hell - repent of your sins and trust in Jesus Christ. Get to know Him
by reading God's Word.
So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him.” (Luke 11:13)
''What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not!'' (Romans 6:15)
''Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out'' (Acts 3:19)
Repentance is a turning away from sin and all evil works, and it always results in changed behavior (Luke 3:8).
Biblically, a person who repents does not continue willfully in sin.
While sorrow from sin is not equivalent to repentance, it is certainly an element of scriptural repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10).
Do not play a hypocrite. ''God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.
If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.'' (1 John 1:5-6)
(John 3:3) Jesus replied, "Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again."
If you have repented and have genuine faith in Jesus Christ then you will receive the gift of Holy Spirit and be born-again spiritually.
When you believed, you were marked in Him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance
until the redemption of those who are God’s possession - to the praise of His glory. (Ephesians 1:13-14)
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. (John 3:36)
''You will know them by their fruits'' (Matthew 7)
If you have been truly born-again with the Holy Spirit and He has regenerated your heart, you will desire righteousnes -
to do what is good and righteous in God's eyes, to seek God everyday in His Word and prayer, to strengthen your relationship with God.
You will no longer desire to willfully continue living in sin but will want to obey God out of your love for Him because of His amazing grace
revealed to us through the death and resurrection of His Son.
''Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.'' (2 Corinthians 5:17)
''For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.'' (Eph 2:10)
You will have a testimony - of what your life had been before and how has it changed now when you have surrendered it to Lord Jesus Christ.
As a declaration and affirmation of your faith in Jesus Christ, get baptised in water because He commanded us to do so.
In John 3:5 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.''
''Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit'' (Matthew 28:19)
''Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.'' (Acts 2:41)
''And this water symbolizes the baptism that now saves you also - not the removal of dirt from the body,
but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God - through the resurrection of Jesus Christ,'' (1 Peter 3:21)
''We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that,
just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.'' (Romans 6:4)
''Having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God,
who raised him from the dead.'' (Colossians 2:12)
Please get right with God and get to know Jesus Christ personally today before it’s too late, because there’s not much time left!
"But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.’’ (Mark 13:32)
Get to know Christ through God's Word - Bible. At first I recommend reading Gospel of John and book of Romans. God bless you!
Jeremiah 29:13 - ''You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.''
"I gave everything up and became a commited girlfriend." Poor Chad and Tyrone...
How long did you spend with Chad and Tyrone before becoming Martha Stewart?
Lmao. People are not gonna get your joke. Mostly woke ppl lying to themselves here. And that's the best part. No one has to do shit.
Girl used for sex is 4 times less likely to stay married , compared to zero body count wife
Don’t settle men ,,,,seek global
*Chad & Tyrone still in those guts*
@@letmelickbud Please tell me what purpose marriage serves for you? YOU ARE 60 YEARS OLD
Since you are talking about about statistics and talk about how girls used for sex is 4 times less likely to stay married. Well what about the fact that statistics show that the larger the age gap then higher chance of divorce. For example, those who are 20 years apart has 95% chance of divorce. Now if you are 60 and your wife is 24 as you say, then that 36 years apart. And it's usually women who file for divorce. But Luckily for her she won't have to divorce you as you'll probably kick the bucket first, hopefully she inherit some money from you so she can go spend it with a younger man.
As a man I've been treated as a security blanket, a wallet, a weapon, a punching post, a foot massager, a sex toy... but never as myself, never as a man. The women I've been with have proven to me that there is no longer any benefit to looking for a mate. They don't want one.
I've become comfortable with that.
Yeah man it really sucks. But how do you deal with lonliness?
@@ashuranero5721 I work, I go out with friends, recently I've been attending Mens groups that go for bush walks, cycling, meet up for drinks with likeminded individuals, I hit up other parents and hang out with them and their kids and when I'm most lonely I remember all the horrible things I've been put through by women and my lonliness doesn't seem so bad in comparison. I'm not close minded to meeting another woman and giving it another go, I'm just not going to allow my past to repeat itself. I accept that not all women are the same, but I do not accept being treated poorly by anyone (not jsut women). Also I'm lucky enough to have a daughter who I think is one of the coolest people on the planet and is a joy to parent during our limited time together, so i look to that most of all.
@@ashuranero5721 I guess what I'm trying to say is don't deal with lonliness by introspection, just be out in the world with a positive attitude, don't be a push over and let good things happen. Just because several women treat you like garbage, doesn't mean the world hates you and there's more to life than women. THere's billions of people on the planet, talk to more of them, see other peoples perspectives, make friends with those you enjoy being around and avoid people that you see are toxic.
lol
I'm pleased you can deal with it. For me I just don't care anymore. Only upside is when I die I, ll welcome it.
I AM 39YRS ... STILL SINGLE
FROM SIDDHARTHA - BANGALORE - INDIA 🙏🇮🇳💖
If you are a man at least you don’t have to worry about biological clock
If you make decent money, you can simply contract a wife. Hire her to be your wife and have your children and a fidelity clause plus a separation fee on her and a bonus when she completes the marriage contract. You figure out like five years or 3 years and a woman will do that. This is not a story or movie. You have power, bro. You can be as kind and loving as you want to be to her. Just make a legal contract with her to do her duties or she doesn't get paid. You can't pay all of it but maybe 1/3 and the rest is stored until completion of the contract. Be smart and make a contract.
Forty something: 'I want a man with an Aston Martin.'
Me: 'Oh.'
Forty something: 'I want him to be six foot four.'
Me: 'Damn.'
Forty something: 'I want him to have a six pack.'
Me: 'Well shit.'
Six foot four Aston Martin driver with six pack: 'I'll take the twenty-something.'
Forty something: '!!!'
Lol
Which would you choose? Angry, embittered, gold-digging, desperate, entitled, and wrinkly middle-aged woman or optimistic, bright-eyed, twenty-something with supple skin?
@@jzen1455 Of course the second that girl shows her first wrinkle or sign of intelligence, she'll already be "too old" for him & he'll be off to find an even younger twenty-something.
40 something never married no kids. Red flag 🚩 ask her what is her body count. Ask her how many eggs 🥚 are dying and how many eggs 🥚 are floating upside down.
@@UddinNo1Wow - you must have women just *chasing* you down.
43 and divorced. I have so much freedom it's crazy. It's like a second chance at life.
I hiked the Appalachian Trail 7 months last year lol. Can't wait for the years to come.
Most of my married friends are envious of happiness.
I'm 41 and still single and haven't found the one for me yet, I'm tired of being single, I'm ready to settle down not later but right now
I know this feeling too well but for me, between work and just living life on my own terms, the feeling of loneliness passes quick and I enjoy my own space and company all over again. Also, I find myself refusing to date. Everyone thinks I am too picky but sincerely I just want the simplest things like lengthy conversations, laughing about nothing exactly, sincerity and a positive outlook and attitude towards life in general - it will surprise you to know the simplest qualities are hard to find in people
I'm 41 single with no children. I used to be afraid of being like this when I was younger and now I've realized that the woman I am today is pretty awesome 💞
Yeah, yeah we believe you.
What's your Instagram?
I am single and 40 with 2 small children, no proper career and scared. Because I so want to be successful. Yet no finances and I feel so alone.
Was married for 7 years in my 20s-30s, don't rush marriage and you'll absolutely learn many new things about your more authentic self (values, boundaries, etc) in the 30s and 40s.
Having the relationship and living together is just the beginning - people evolve together, for better or worse - it's that test of emotional maturity on both parts, and the willingness to keep a curios compassion mind in times on conflict. How sustainable are the imperfections - I think it's wise to place equal emphasis on weighing how compatible the good and bad traits are (of both sides). Not going in blind hoping everything just works out. Not avoiding learning, therapy, healthier communities, etc that can always help. Learning to embrace imperfections, many in my 20s took a decade to really make peace with and move on from or accept with full ownership.
I'm 48 and not married, no children, have had boyfriends and I'm perfectly happy. I been hurt to many times to bother again
Hello
Hi there! Need friend? I'm from Philippines...it's more fun here
yeah yeah get back to your anti depressents oldie
Beautiful message to all those women who are always chasing their ego.
Nothing wrong with having standards or expectations. Without them you'll end up falling for anything!!!
thats true, ,you need to have a long list of what your perfect husband is going to be like and if he doesn;t tick just one single box then he;s not the one - your prince charming is out there, there is no need to rush, you are female and you have all the time in the world - women also get hotter with age so the older you are as a female the better for you because most guys tbh only want to marry 50 year old women so live your life, speak your truth until 50 then you can marry, have 8 kids, see all your grandchildren as well. Its a win-win blueprint. Please use it!
You need to have meaningful expectations. You can't match anyone matching these expectations. And yes, the connection or acceptance is more important in decision making.
I'm 37 and my biggest decision today was whether to play two point hospital or civilisation 6...I went with two point hospital
Right on
Are those video games?
My ex-wife took my house and is taking 27% of my income every month even though I have 50% custody. Never marry!!!!
When I was 40, single and childless, I was starting to accept that I will remain single forever. When I hit 45, I have fully accepted that i will be single. Add the fact that I came from a bad breakup, I fully accepted with myself that I am fine remaining alone.
Then someone came along. He is not my ideal physically, he smokes and occasionally drinks (a no-no in my list), and I earn more than him. But he treats me the best among all the guys I liked and/or dated. He makes me feel taken care of, he walks his talk, he has ambition, and he has plans to make his life better financially speaking.
Yes, I threw away the list and said I'm okay being single, only for the right guy to show up :)
All of these people saying they are happy with their freedom are focusing only on the bad side of relationships.
I am single and I hate it. I see happiness in many couples. I see holidays, kids laughing, partners who hold you when things are scary, people who ask you how you are, maybe dying while having your hand held.
There is absolutely no amount of accepting your singlehood that will bring the same level of joy as being happily joined with another soul.
Stop fooling yourselves. The problem isn't relationships, the problem is being with the wrong person, being the wrong person, living the wrong life, and living for the wrong people.
thank u for your honesty.. finally a comment i can relate to. when your younger its so much easier to say" im happy being single" and u mean it bcoz its true! but once your older n u go through everything u could possibly go through in life, u start to realize that you want to connect with another soul, someone who understands you and cares, someone u can be there for and love. if those ppl r so happy with being single why r they watching a video that has a title "if youre 40 and still single watch this" its because deep down they know something is missing in their life although i do not wish unhappiness or lonliness on anyone n i do hope they are happy, its ok to admit that you are happy but also need to share that happiness with the love of your life❤❤ sending u all much love
Speak for yourself.
On point,!
Going through this situation right now, I'm 42yrs and still single. It's very depressing especially if you don't have a girlfriend and kids at 42yrs old.
@@edwinosae many people are married and miserable and also 42… the grass is not greener on the other side… don’t feel bad… enjoy your solitude and the right partner will come along or if you really need the company then go look for him or her I don’t know… make it easier for that person to come if that’s what you really desire
I am 20 and my fortune cookie told me I'll marry a rich woman in her 40s and so I had to check what the woman wud be like ......
🤣🤣🤣
Dream on...
@@deckhead33 omg you’re in every comment, how unemployed are you
@@Jojo_D_Northstar I can say the same about you since you’re scrawling through ALL the comments lol
This is the side effects of finding the "knight and shining armor" girls stop watching Disney characters like snow white, cinderella 😂
41 and single. My time will come. Dont know when but it will
After breaking up, I felt my own breath, lots of my own space and time to do whatever I want without have to asking or waiting for anyone to agree on my plan.😍💃💕❣️
I'm 38, single. And I still want to build a family with someone that I have heart connection.
Have no expectations for romantic love is freeing yourself and let the process of knowing someone organically. No pressure of turning into a love relationship. We can meet a great guy and became good friends. Now a days if the person say one thing that show insecurity or a disagreement, they turn away and label you as "DAMAGED". At 40+ everyone has baggage and traumas. I don't expect perfection, The basics of the expectations will be enough to start: respect, communication, and vulnerability. Idc if the guy is 5'5" or 6'4". If is a little chubby or skinny. As long as he love working, enjoy having hobbies, is clean, understand that I have flaws to work with, and enjoy been together. That will be a great friend to start and that might became something else in the future.
👋 i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world 🙏🌍
I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
wise word. just like what the bible say. love your man or woman regardless of her flaws. with honesty she or he will open up we never know her life for becoming like that.
Wow,I need to keep being ME.Thanks for posting.
My mom was 41 y/o when I was born in 1987. I think she just test herself to find out if she's barren or not 🙈🙈🤣
I think this man who helps me can also help you okay
Here is watzap number.. just give him a direct message on watzap ok
+/"1/" (/"7/"5/"7/") 7/"0/"4-3/"5/"6/"4/''.....k
@@unitedcity7120 why should I do that ?
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There’s a choice to keep your standards high as you get older and continuing to be single or settle for less than.
Never settle. Never be someone's second choice.
As you get older you have to realize you’re not as great as you once were..you might be a Mercedes Benz but most people don’t want to drive an OLD Mercedes-Benz..so either lower your price or remain forever “on sale”
👋 i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world 🙏🌍
I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask
@@sayoshinakamario ouch 🙈
Yes my dear beautiful your sound makes me believe that you are the real queen of my heart ❤ my dear can you make this dream come true..
single in 40s, great, the best age to be single again, after 40 you finally don't care what other people think and what is normal, I was single in 20s I was miserable, been in 2 long relationships, been single for 6 months only in 30s and was sad to be alone, been in relationship for 12 years and now at 42 I'm single and I'm sooooo happy about it, yessss finally free, I'm loving it, you can't enjoy being single at younger age, it is like superpower, I can enjoy life alone, I don't need anyone to share my life with, I can find company for anything and when I want to be alone I enjoy alone time, no stress, no frustration like in 20s or 30s
I am 41 and wish i was in relationship. I get lonely a lot and i think ill be alone for the rest of my life. Sad
Smile love Will take your heart away
Hello pretty. Relationship is not easy to build once. It's 2 different people join together and have to understand each other. May God give us our own everlasting relationship
@@mitch5222 Get Male friends get some hobbies and try to get some one night stands.
@@mitch5222 don’t worry u will love ❤️ if not enjoy ring single god will show u the way
From the other side, I'm still single and staying that way. I'll never understand people's obsession of trying to find happiness in someone else. i guess it gives you an excuse when you're not happy. You can blame someone.
You can be happy alone.
I think it give u some security also. I am alone and dont want to be alone for the rest of my life. But i think ill be.
The narcissism and self entitlement of this old woman is off the charts - stay single gents
You clearly didn’t watch the entire video.
I'm a man, 40 & never married and I feel relate to this. Thank you. Come what may is what me now
But I'm scared if I'll regret my decision 😔
@@karthykrajan6329 Not everyone is going to find a partner, my friend. That is just reality. Find other things that make you happy.
I'm a male and 40. I've been single all my life! I've asked women out but they always have a partner. It's near impossible to find someone who is available.
Hello I do understand or feel you. You are not alone man.
You are in your prime years! Get your body, paper and straight get your confidence up and date women in their twenties and early thirties.
They all weren’t taken. Women say that if they’re not interested. Man or no man Brody.
That was an awesome and inspirational video. Thank you.
I love not being controlled, I love not being treated like I'm too stupid to know my own mind, I love not being told that I need to morph into something he wants. I love not having to baby a grown man, I love having no one to find things to fight about, Iove not being pressured to do things he likes sexually while disregarding my feelings... I love not having to check in. I love not having to give up my life so that he can live his best life.... I love not having to feel lonely while I'm with him. I love not having to dumb myself down because he can't keep up, I love not being criticised because he finds fault. ITS peaceful being Alone. I love not feeling like I've been purchased and am now owned because of a ring on my finger, I love not having too watch what I say because he's threatened by my intelligence. I love not having to dress, walk and act the way he dictates I should. I love not having to do everything at home while he sits on the couch being waited on. I love not having to deal with his anger. I love no longer having to hear the lies, I love no longer having to walk on eggshells, I love no longer feeling emotionally traumatised. I love being able to breathe. I love not having to stay with him to raise kids that he barely helps with. I love being able to breathe.
Sounds like u love not being abused. Healthy relationships don’t look like this.
@@oliveknaus and yet most men I meet have some or many of these traits
@@makeitcount2985 you described my last relationship w this pos covert demonic narc. So I hear you. Makes you lose hope.
Smile 😊
Hello Friend. How are you doing today?
@@makeitcount2985 you are looking beautiful where are you located
I kept my chastity for my future husband and I found him at age 26. We got married and i am very happy i made the decision to get married early. I did not concieve right away so i realize that marrying young has its advantage especially in terms of getting pregnant.i am well off and i earn more than him when we were starting. But now he will be graduating from law school. I really am happy for making the decision for marrying a good man rather than chasing a perfect man. Now we have a son and i couldn't be more happy. So ladies dont judge a man for who he is right now. Be a good wife to him and a good man will be a great man someday.
You lucky. I tried but couldn't force it!...Also congrats on affording a child!... I too learned that you can always make money but not children. Learned it a bit late I am thinking. I am 36 and child "free".
@ not gonna happen. I'm a law student too. We are classmates but i got pregnant so i am a little bit behind. I did not take a lot of subjects since i have pregnancy induced hypertension. I'm just one year behind him so if his going to screw with me I know my rights.
@@svasianfilipiname6603 my mom got married at 36 and had me when she was 37. I know its depressing trying to have a baby but its not too late. My mom had me when she least expected it.
I love u forever
Really
I make u so so happy
I like u do you 💑💑❤😍😍🌷 with me ???
Why are you watching this? Pondering if the grass is greener?
She was in the carousel for 15 or 20 years getting plow by chad and Tyrone. At the end she settle
Lmao
And the sucker is now putting his mouth on it. 😂
@@NotoriousN_I_G_ lol its like eating expired eggs that smell rotten. When th can go to store to buy fresh ones.
@@vanxl9 you sound like you’ve had a lot of experience lol 😂
She’ll get what she wants but it obviously doesn’t sit well with you haters though
Live your life, be happy, what is supposed to be will find a way. Concentrating on being lonely only causes stronger feelings of sadness.
Why a long list of demands? It’s such a turn off. It would be better and refreshing to see a list of what one offers or brings to a relationship.
This video rejuvenated my outlook
You should not have a problem and I doubt you are 40 cause you dont look like it.
@@8thhousealchemist600 Trust me I am. As much as I don't want it to be true, Iam. Thanks for the sweet compliment, it definitely gave me a moment there lol
She didn’t change, she just run out of options.
"Run out of options" -- There are 8.5 billion+ people in the world who aren't prone to having low critical thinking skills, nor equate women's worth to her age. There are also many ways to research and self-improve. Maybe it's your growth that's just stunted.
@@user-yl4qm6zv7n you master the art of saying absolutly nothing
I am 63. I met the woman I want to love forever. She is 63. We believe the same things.
I am confident in her power and love.
She is not, in mine.
I will go away.
I will seek God.
Solitude is my portion.
I am strong like a racehorse.
Show me the course before me oh God.
Nothing will stay me from the course of your purpose.
She does not even know I am alive....
But you do, oh God.... strengthen me, equip me to be either, the loving husband and partner, or the bold, and ruthless warrior..... there are no other options.
I am 50 and still single and think I am doing pretty good...
Hmmm really...
I'm 46 single no children no stress no drama love it
If you listen until the end you will get her message. Thanks because my list is really long lol good words💯
Hello b
Thats so beautiful! Thanks for sharing that story!
I am so wowed by this!.Its amazing to know to know you still can find love at 40 without expectations.Thanks a lot
She the exception to the rules like look at some of them celebrity girls that were stripper or hooker and landed a rich sucker i..mean man and now all them slutty girls thinks they can sleep with every man around and get a rich man when in reality all that does is make sure the women remain single because women hate that there man had an ex wife/gf and it burn inside them that he was with someone else before will it works the same as a man in a sense he can't hold his family name or himself with pride if his women was with other men that's why virgin are highly sought because she can't compare him to all the other men she been with and she make a much better wife and mother but women want what they can't have and when they realize it by then it's too late and with women high list of demand and pushing men out of work places for more women men can't make the money they use to so they don't date and the older and the longer men goes without sex or relationship they just don't care anymore and that's when women there age start getting mean and aggressive because now they want the family life when the men were trying and got rejected or replaced without notice
Sorry but it's no longer possible! 304's are drama queens and they get bored easily! With so many DM's to choose from they just cannot pick just 1man! Many men revolving door getting plowed! But none want to commit to her and wont later in life ither! They have missed the boat! MGTOW created by women (304)! Men are keeping their money and living without your problems! Not intimidated, you are smash only! P.S. I don't know your gender thought female?
Exceptions don’t negate rules.
I am in my 40's single its actually challenging to be single if all your friends are married and have kids but not all story are the same right? Its hard if you have build standards just to find your souls match but I do believe that its okay to have boundaries and if you really met a special person your standards will change :)
I m here for you ❤ to show you good love trust and honesty ❤
Hi pretty you good? you have nothing to worry about I'm here to show you love and care; Let's talk okay?
dont settle for less - there are lots of men who will marry you at 60 so you have 20 years of fun times ahead girl!! you go!
Hi dear
I’m 52years old widower and business owner and ain’t giving up on love yet.💕☝️❤️
Not everyone becomes married in this world... You get one life... Pursue your interests and explore the world. As a single person you can meet all kinds of new people without the restraints of a spouse... When you are single, you are free... I don't understand why single women are so miserable...
It’s societal pressure. You see it with the red pills too, they really have a deep hatred for single women. Eventually it hurts a person’s confidence. But you’re right, everyone should learn to be happy whether single or in a relationship. The divorce rate speaks for itself, marriage isn’t the best thing ever for a lot of people.
I'm 54 no wife no kids I got divorced 7yrs and these video was 4years ago but I came across today. I pray someone could come across me today 😿
Happier single... no more lies dropped in my lap... Focus on how I avoid you now... FOCUS...
All I've wanted was to find true love, someone who is passionate about life and about me, 36 and single and in away I think it's God saying can you find meaning in life without love?! Before I might have said no, but today it's a big yes. Life can be meaningful even without love. Without my constant heart breaks I might have never realized this.
Hi nappy
I will really like to know you,
Let’s connect
Nappy, Jesus Christ is life with love! Real love, not what this world calls love. I am single again and I just want to experience the love of Jesus in a real, tangible way. I don't want to remarry because I am over with human relationships.
So... During your peak sexual market value, that is before the age of 30. You gave away your greatest asset and road the carousel with the Chad's, Miguel's and Tyrone's. And more than likely, you enjoyed playing the game of; "hide the cucumber 🥒". Because that's what the hookup culture of modern feminism is all about. But what I think is this. Modern feminism lied to women and led them astray from their true selves.
And now you've hit the wall at 30. You can't bond with anyone and therefore you're damaged. That's right, you're not a good investment for a high quality man. Good luck with your 30 cats.
Wow that was deep. Good luck. I was 36 and single too. Now 39 and single.
37? run western man RUN!
You pretty much summed up the situation of the problem. One having the unobtainable shopping list without resources to close a deal.
Ohh
You set the list, things that matter for us are in the list. That is when you mentioned you and your husband believe in the same value system. You are just lucky. You don't ditch your list.
I like how she says a week later I gave them everything
Ditch that list unless you're super self-driven, hard-working, attractive, well-off and secure in yourself. You'd be competing with eye-candy supermodels for the same guys you ignored a decade ago when you did not know he had a solid start-up that rendered him "boring" in your narcissistic eyes. If you did not offer him your best why should he give you his?
@Material Girl delusional are the women that in the decline of their youth demand Brad Pitt
@@Jojo_D_Northstar nothing wrong with having high standards. You can stick to low quality people as that’s all you deserve with your sorry attitude and mentality.
@@deckhead33 Adolf Hitler also told people not to 'stick to low quality people.' Something tells me you're not exactly the pick of the litter.
I think if you're seeing a lot of people then that is easier to get used to being single because you know you are capable of being with many people. Some of those, including myself, have one or two chances and once that's it, it's really over. I'm about to be 40 and barely gotten so far to that first date and despite all the "research," videos, books, and whatnot, only very little improvements or progress has been made. With that said, I doubt I'll find anyone and yeah I'm a bit sadden by it that I'll never know what is wrong with me other than somehow I'm not exactly seen as a viable person. I have a job, go to the gym, and really have a lot to give but I don't know how to make someone else see that no matter how hard I try.
Would you like to date me?? 😆 38, same experience! I'm quite normal and open hearted but just met all the possible wrong suitors..
@@ipercalisse579 I found people who say they want to date don’t actually want to at least not me. I’m thinking at this age most people want perfection and will say anything less is settling. But it would be nice to go on a date with someone though.
I did not expect this video to go this way ! Lol It was a good one. Thanks !
Sounds like she just decided to settle or changed her personal perspective. Relationships can last or end rather in your 20, 30s, 40s or 50s etc. Just like you can find everything you want in a person or settle for less and in either case it can last for a short or long period of time. This is just life. Everyone who wants true love or whatever they want will not find it at the same time..some are willing to change their perspective on what they want and some are not. Everyone is different.
Hello
You're right dear! but it isn't bad to find a true man that will love and trust you in life here. If you don't mind give me a chance in your life i promise to take care of you darling💋❤
Holy shit what were you doing in all that time before you reached 40.
Riding CC's and doing a lot of pole dancing.
Suck seeding.
@@kiwia8271 not your own for sure
@@deckhead33 LOL no.
@@deckhead33 She was riding the CC untill she met her man at age 37.
Funny, I stopped watching this video when you said Aston Martin.
Hi
@@roseduckson3075 hello 🙈🙈🤣
@@roseduckson3075 hi
@@ivanfunctionx8431 hey
I'm a single 33 male... watching this video in April 2021.
I never had any girlfriend since I was a teen even till this present day. I dated some. but some of them left me for a rich man, and some only using me.
But I won't stop. I know someone might be out there to be my wife. I just need to find her.