Single at 40 and Lonely?
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- Опубликовано: 13 июл 2024
- Take it from me...I've been there...Single at 40 ... lonely ... thinking I'm too old to find anyone now.
Yeah, I get it, but guess what?
There is a solution to being alone at 40, or 50, or even 60+.
And in this week's show I share the one quick fix that will shift your mindset from lonely to an unstoppable, confident force of nature.
How to use your thinking to turn the page on loneliness and look at this moment as a fresh new chapter in your life where you can use all of your life experience to FINALLY attract someone that DESERVES to be with you.
It's all about:
Letting Go
Finding the Flow
Feel the Glow
Stop wasting one second more of your precious life.
It's about letting go and embracing your age and experience and making it work for you to create deep, meaningful relationships.
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I’m 38 years old and single, but I still hope to see my soulmate in the future. I wish everyone happiness
If you still believe in “soulmate” you’re definitely an effeminate soy boy. God help you at 38 you’re still in blue pill hell it seems.
Good luck
I have the same😓😭
I was born in the early 80's and have been single all my life!
Good luck - hope you find the right person soon.
@@djcrownvic7017 me too
At 40 My wife put me out on the streets… I ended up homeless In a place we’re I had no friends and family… I thought it was the end of the world… I’m 45 now and I gotta say in the last 5 years I went from homeless to Accomplishing more than I ever did in my life as a single man… it’s pretty lonely at the top tho
congrats
That’s awesome!! You’ll actually be better off single and I say the less people in your life, you won’t have any of other peoples Bull Shit. I love be by myself, I constantly educate myself. I just met this guy though, thought I could get into a relationship but now I’m having second thoughts because I just don’t have time for him. Why waste all my valuable time just to get hurt in a couple of months. I just don’t know what I should do. He’s absolutely gorgeous too, and I did have that certain “Look” when our eyes connected last week. However, today I found myself wanting to run. I don’t want to lead him on either as it’s not fair to him.
Hi Supa, how are you ?
The hardest part about being single at 40 is that you know it is over but you’re not quite ready to give up. At this point I’m so disappointed about life that I’m ready to end it. I really don’t want to be an old man who never met anyone. They say most relationships end so I fear going into one someday and then suffering a heart break I don’t think I could handle it at this age anymore.
Seek God. He will never leave you nor forsake you. That you will never be alone at 40 onwards
@@derrick9504 he did my entire life. I always wonder if God is this cruel to someone who is living just how cruel would he be in the afterlife? Sounds like it's going to be harsh to have to watch entirety as everyone else has someone. I'm also reminded of Job's story about how God had an argument with the devil about who is the better believer. I always wonder what Job might have thought when he arrived before god only to learn he's the buttend of a joke? That must have been harsh to know your life was so meaningless.
@@Dan-di9jd i love the story of Job. Despite of the circumstances he went through from his wife, family possessions and to his friends, he remained faithful to God and in the end God blessed Job more and more. I see nothing bad what God did to Job for He is a Holy God and remember He is GOD and we are His creation which is very good creation of His. Think of Jesus the Son of God , how He was crucified just to save you if you believe. Who are we to deserve such love from God that in the form of Jesus died for you. We are important to God regardless if we are single. Use whatever your status to glorify the Lord. That is how we are made.
As Matthew 6:33 says
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Jeremiah 29:11 KJV
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
I hear you brother.
You are not alone. People say trust in God yet I lost hope in him. It seems he forgot for people like us.
Being 40 not having a partner, family or friends is a hard life to live
It gets really awkward while at neighbor's cookouts (if you're invited) and being surrounded by couples. Or at family functions being the third wheel.
@@randomrebuilds I am 21 and never had a girlfriend and I feel very envious when I see couples. I feel so sad these days and really want a girlfriend.
@@manosijthehero3686 I had 5 girlfriends in my life, and believe me, you probably won.
@@manosijthehero3686 MGTOW 😎
@@manosijthehero3686 I'm ini my early 40's and have been single all my life. It's pretty lonely, but I think it was was worst being single during my 20's.
Already 46 still single happy and healthy thank GOD ALMIGHTY!
@@Home19888 I'm a male and asexual
Still single at 63. Never understood the concept of loneliness. I prefer my own company.
Do you have a lot friends to talk to? How do you spend most of your time?
Is it hobby or something else that make your forget about loneliness?
@@cleanfactory5561 Don't have many friends but I have never experienced loneliness as I am not a people person anyway. I have better things to do than socialise, my friend.
What kind of company? What age did you start it at?
Did you have a girlfriend before? I am 21 now in last year of college so I am over 4 decadea younger than you and I never had a girlfriend so I can understand how you feel. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her.
35 still searching for this concept called love never found someone worthy
42 still single ...well it may not be a choice but what can you do . . . You don't force the universe .!!! you never know what tomorrow will bring.
52 single and not lonely and no children 🤙
I just turned 40 and I'm coming to terms that I'm not going to get married and everyday I'm trying to appreciate and be content with being single.
I just hope I don't die alone in my house when I'm older because that won't be a pretty picture (the sight, the smell of dying alone and nobody finding me for a few weeks) and I'll feel really bad for my neighbors 🙉🙊🙈
Nice of you to think of everyone else, but you really shouldn't worry. That won't be your problem.
Personally, if I die alone and undiscovered for too long, the worst thing in my mind is the loss of viable donor tissues. But it really shouldn't bother me, it won't be my problem. 😂
Single.. never married.. no kids … I feel sad at times with pressure from my family to marry also.. im listening to this every morning now ever since i found your channel.. it makes me feel a little better and gives me hope❤
I'm sorry that your family is holding you to their own expectations regarding being married. If you think about it, it makes no sense that others would judge you on your life journey because of their own expectations. It's easy just to say, "it's your life, don't listen to them", but I know how hard that is in some family circumstances. If it helps, you have a supporter in me that focuses on gratitude...what you do have and what you do to make the world a better place...versus what you don't have. Remember, it's all about perspective and I'm positive you have a lot to offer. Sometimes life follows an unexpected path and it's just a matter of accepting that and then taking small steps to create/attract the things into your life that you want...like a healthy, fulfilling relationship. I'm glad that the show is helping...giving you hope...because, at the end of the day, you have to have hope in order to generate the energy to create the things in life that you want. If you want to take it a step further and chat with me, you can reach me at tony@javabud.com. I wish you all the best!
Thank you so much Dr.Dufrensne..
May Allah ☝️ bless you
I'm reaching 38 in 3 months single happy alhamdulillah ☝️
@@samiuddinomer8154 Get a wife soon in order to be happy.
A woman will give you kids and happiness.
Focus on imprpve your self, search on yt "Iman gadhzi" and "ryan holiday", also when you are alone you have so much freedom and peace, you want to go for a walk at 3am u can do it u want to put a video on max volume u can, seek Jeasus christ
41 and still single... Taking care of my parents and their parents too... I dont have any desires for myself... Just passing days and fulfilling their needs...
One day, you will have your light bulb moment. 41 single, no kids. I serve humanity by working at the airport. I meet people from all over the world. It's draining and hectic but I am good. You are more useful than you think 😊😊😊
@@jowaness 🙏🙏😊😊 god bless you
now one thing about being lonely and 40s is that health starts deteriorating and it is hard to endure life alone.
Everyone will die and I’ll be handling it alone thanks so much
That's what i was thinking...r u still alone?
Great, and very honest advice. I totally agree with you!
Surrender to the authentic self is so fricking true
I'm 40 and have never been married or had a relationship and I have no kids. I don't have a group of friends and really don't know how to socialize very well. I really am no more knowledgeable about meeting people and making friends than I was at 20.
Same boat minus the social problems. WIth me its mostly depression and anxiety. Also what I look for is so specific that its too hard to find I think. Best thing is repetition and becoming comfortable with rejection. Dont look at rejection as a negative thing but as gaining the knowledge that you need to try something or talk to somebody else.
@@Canadian_Eh_I Rejection is absolutely a negative thing. There's no way around that IMO.
@@kevin15776 you should find someone atleast get a child
@@restyrnabulya1527 why?
@@kevin15776 to give you company and you're child will always carry your blood line
I am 45 been single since 2018 and counting. Being single sucks it’s not all cracked up to be. Women don’t like me and that’s fine it’s their loss. I am a great guy with a good life , works hard , works from home , former boy scout , a military family guy. I have no children. I don’t get it yes I will be single divorced for the rest of my life.
I don’t want to be used anymore
I am divorced 15 years married for a year.
Hy, i thing you should give it a chance, i am in search of a real nice man
Are you also fat, ugly, broke, emotional and boring?
Get into self improvement, search on RUclips "Iman gadzhi" and "ryan holiday" and fix your self dont live in the illusion that those basic stuff are enough cause there are men that have those plus much much more
I want to give up on love but it hurts as much as actually fixing it, so I stay in the middle suffering. I'm so tired.
I think it is accurate and logical to assume I have not much to offer, though. I'm boring, dull, autistic. I just want to be at peace with it to stop suffering for the rest of my life even if I find no one ever.
So do I... Being a woman makes it worse in some ways
Great video Tony I'm soon turning 41 and getting divorced after 16 years! I'm scared but excited about being alone and have both good/bad days thinking about this. Thanks again 👍
Yes such a nice video. Sorry you are getting a divorce. Let's get to know each other if possible.
I’m 42 single and no kids. I’m not really lonely. A lot of people I know suffer from depression who are married with children. It’s all about how you think about life. In my case when I tell people I’m not married most tell me I’m lucky. When I tell people I have no kids. People tell me I’m lucky because I don’t have to deal with the cost and problems. Very few people make me feel bad for being single or older without children.
I lost a lot of friends and even some family. I found two hobbies (art and photography) and I am very welcome in that community.
My co-workers and neighbors like me. Sometimes I’m lonely but sometimes I feel lucky. That’s my life. 😊
• Let Go
• Find the Glow
• Feel the Glow
Dude, if you are not a True artist, you stole that one. Life is about opportunity. Size it and ride it as far as it will go. Don't stop when it ends. Prepare for the next wave 🌊.
being 40 and single wouldn't have been a difficult thing to handle, unfortunately, my background and the society I come from make it worse as they make it seem that people especially women who aren't married by 40 have spiritual problems, Still hoping that one day I get to find my soul mate but whichever way I have chosen to live my life happy and fulfilled. I have chosen to continue to enjoy my singleness doing things to build and develop myself. No children, no problem, I can always adopt if that seems to be my last option
You sholud hope not to care about your society's opinions if you are happy .😉
I am cursed? I can’t hold any relationships!
I am cursed also, no one like me
Quite relatable
8 years single but always happy smile face 😊😊😊
This is great im 40 and happy and free also your voice sounds the same exact pitch as Lou Reed’s !!
That is high praise, my friend! Lou Reed is one of my favorites! Thanks for sharing and congrats on living in that state of bliss.
Thank you very much for this. Divorced fairly recently. Some of the most inspiring advice on this topic.
By looking at today's women I am glad that I am single.
Women suck at dating, Sorry but not sorry. Especially on dating apps
@@Duckonthepond Alimony
It's easy to get hung up on generalization but truth is once you find your person, chances are it won't matter much what goes on elsewhere. I recommend trying not to generalize and instead focus on just that you're in a state of single and perhaps that might change but it doesn't have to.
34 here never expecting to get into a relationship at this point and I'm ok with it. Find something that you enjoy doing and let it consume your life.
41 single. trying to find peace with myself. Thank you.
I was more lonely when I was married. I’d rather be alone than watch people prioritize others
Hello, I'm 61 and single. Yes, I do feel the loneliness, however I don't experience it like I once did. It's a transitory moment then a bottomless pit feeling. Likewise, I don't experience the pulls and pangs to get back into the dating scene or relationship environment. Never did I come to consider that I would be single my entire life. appreciate your pod cast. thanks.
Hey thanks Tony i really like the idea about the church i really have make up my mind.
I’m on my early 40’s single and happy but i can’t hold a relationship for long after my common-law wife separation, a single mistake or a simple lie i see on a woman ( she’s not the right one for me) kind of thing and i’m gone for good but when i see their txt i sometimes blame myself because there’s no one prefect starting from myself.
I was asking myself and end up on this video, if i continue like this whats the sense of life living alone work home work home saving money i don’t see any goal lol what am i suppose to do to make my life happier without woman and sex, because what ever i do to be more happier at the end i need sex. I don’t know if it’s addiction or what?
I'm 31 but I see myself in this path. I have never been in a relationship and I have no close friends. My bittersweet comfort is knowing that most of this was not on my conscious control. I did not choose to be autistic, to have odd interests, to not be good looking enough, etc.
I’m 39, last girl I was with just used me for sex, and now I feel like my bus has left.
I like your username
I'll help you out. Where is she?
“Just used me for sex”?? Bruh…that’s something women say
@@MarylandGuy-ey3st But how do you describe a situation where a girl out of town uses you for sexual fun, and then flakes on you when the summer is over and she has to go over to her place? Her place isn't that far and we could continue that.
@@colivri336 I think other bros are helping out. Don't worry.
I'm forty. No family.. (toxic) a son that doesnt want me. (Part of a toxic family) I've let go of them but hope my son contacts me one day. I am over toxic relationships. BUT.. I'm still hot. (I hear it alot) looking forward to body building as estrogen lowers. I'm one of the best in my field because I took what little I had and made it work.. I am looking to expand my skills at work. I hope and hope I get the chance to be a successful artist in my spare time
I’m 39 lost my kids wife and friends. Been through hell battling alcohol my whole life but coming out the other side. Stop worrying about the number and that it’s over. It’s only over when your heart stops or you except defeat. Keep going
My mind almost breaks why I am unable to get a nice girlfriend... While others can.. 😥
The only thing I can do is try my best and meet many people. But sometimes it is so painful.. God..
How old are you man? I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend so imagine how I feel. Got rejected by 3 girls so far recently and 2 were from my college and another was by a 19 year old girl who matched with me on a dating app and she literally insulted me. I tried following some girls on Instagram who were shown as suggested profiles and I knew those girls in my high school days. One of the girl even followed me back and she is also 21 now so the same age as me. I knew her too in high school and we were in the same grade but weren't classmates. I didn't message her yet because I just don't know what to write to her because we never really interacted in high school as we weren't classmates.
@@manosijroy8282 I am almost 40 now... It is just so extremely difficult and complicated to get a girlfriend.. And to maintain a relationship......... Impossible! I also want to be myself and not change my whole life up to just fit the picture, I just want to make videogames and have lots of free-time. I don't want a 9 till 5 job and become a regular boring guy...
@@UltimoGames Thats scary that you are 40 and in the same boat as me. BTW did you read my comment fully?
@@manosijroy8282 Yeah you tried some but they didn't respond well..
it doesn't matter really, that PHD that you got is more important... wayyy more important
I agree with you that one's focus should always be to find your path and live your best version of life. However, finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship based on friendship and support can take your life to another level. The key is to not let a relationship push you off your path. In my case, I had a relationship during the middle part of trying to finish my PhD, and it was not great...it took my focus away from completing my goal because, instead of supporting, it turns out she felt like she had to compete with it and, well, it didn't last very long after that admission. Finding a good teammate is the KEY!
Put yourself first, because when you get that partner being single was a privilege. You give up 50% or more for this person and it’s the same as your last. Now you’ve wasted more time. Stay single be free
I'll be 40 in two months. Married and divorced twice by the age of 34. I've now been single for 3 years. For whatever reason, I just haven't met anyone. I'm also a pretty alternative person and have always felt like it would take a very particular type of girl to really have an interest in me.
Hi
Being single at 42 ABSOLUTELY SUCKS!!!
I wish everyone love and happiness! ❤You’re not alone.
Still sucks
I use the fade transition a lot too, but we both should chill on it a bit bro.
Nowadays a lot of people are alone, thanks to the internet we have civilization of lonley people...
I'm 29y been single for the last 3years I am looking for a serious christian guy ready to settle down with. 🙏
"Let go, find the flow, feel the glow"
I'm trying to do that now but it's really hard
I like a friend that's 40'ees , problably never had a girlfriend. He uses to call me out but no girlfriend treatment. How do I know if he is interested in me? He's shy, I'm shy. Like... really shy... Till now,, the excuse to we met is our love for movies.
I've always been perfectly content being alone. But since my last (very brief) relationship ended, my choice, I'm struggling. He was so charismatic & fun. But he & I didn't match up well due to work/personal lives etc. It's much more difficult accepting being single and alone when you've experienced true love and leave that person behind.
It's the age old question: Would you rather love then lost or never loved at all? Honestly, I think, depending on the person, it could go either way. I do find it interesting that you framed your situation to where it didn't work for you (and you left him behind), which shows a healthy level of clarity and self-prioritization. It also brings up a HUGE point not many take into consideration...Love is a foundation in a relationship, but it alone cannot sustain one due to other life circumstances. This should give you a little solice in the fact that you made the right choice for yourself instead of staying in something that wouldn't have worked and not being fulfilled. Given your level of awareness and understanding, I would think a truly functional relationship with a lot of love is definitely in your near future.
If it were true love, it woiuldn't be over
I have been single all my 30s mostly. Makes me very sad because 30s are almost the best years of youth and confidence. I am now 40 and started to date. Yet it’s complicated. You realise your mortality and also that you can’t ever go back… and have the years lost. It’s sad.
I hope there is another life, another reality after this one ❤ Because I feel I have not truly lived…
I never really dated myself but found someone in my late 30s. I think its best to put yourself out there. I believe there is a soulmate for everyone out there but you just need to give it time for them to find you and you finding them. Sometimes its sooner but others a little later. Whatever it is just don't feel down about it. I mean the good news is you made it this far by yourself and you didn't need a partner to get here. So you're in much better shape than your married counterparts in that regard. They probably couldn't do what you did. And whenever you do meet your partner, you'll be so thankful that it doesn't matter what your ages are. Good luck to you!
@@Dan-di9jd thank you. That’s a great perspective 🌞
Divorced kids grown. Was married 20 years . At 47 and single wow life is different . I’m an introvert so being alone isn’t bad even though there are lonely moments . Moved to a new state so having no friends in a new state is a biiiiiig change. Most of my friends are on text messages from other states but meeting new people is HARD
I'm 40, been single pretty much all my life and longest relationship was 3 months. I've been one of those who never prioritised relationships and am happy to be alone, which is not everyones cup of tea. I've watched too many lads i know sacrifice everything not to be alone and i look at their lives and singledom isn't so bad. It would be nice at times to meet someone, but I don't see being alone as the bogeyman a lot of others seem to think it is.
We should design society more around the things that matter most - relationships.
Am also Single female and Introvert too i don't like gatherings or hangouts but yes a good caring loving soulmate
What about us who has NEVER been in a relationship? My shyness/anxiety has robbed me of ever really meeting my woman, but it seems like everyone around seems to find someone..
Same here I am 41 never been in a relationship. I don't know how did this happened, time go fast
What’s the gist physicist? Talk pretty to me!
I am 39 years old, single, never been married and I don't have children. I am beginning to think it was the best decision I have ever made. Too many people deal with divorce, paying alimony and child support and I am glad I'm not in that position. I never wanted to be a boyfriend let alone a husband to anyone, even when I was a teenager. I am open to casual dating but not to have a long term committed relationship, I never described myself as romantic.
I am sure you at least had a gf before unlike me who never even been on a date. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. I got rejected by 4 girls recently and recently I asked out my childhood friend too who is 21 turning 22 soon and she actually replied yeah ok but she isn't that active on Instagram so she gives replies after weeks or even a month. We decided tho we will meet some weekend but still idk when exactly due to her being so inactive on insta. I got crush on 3 more girls for the past 5 days in a class where I started going for exam preparation for getting into MBA as I am graduating college very soon but I just have a massive crush on one of them who is also 22 or maybe 23. She initiated convo with me saying hi and telling her name and asking mine last week Thursday(our first class there) and we did shake hand and it was the first time I shake hand with a girl. I really can't stop thinking about this girl as she is very pretty and she is very sweet as she tries to initiate convo with me asking whether I had lunch and yesterday she also asked how far my home is from the classes but I just answer what she asks and I am too shy to initiate a convo further with her but I really wanna get to know her and idk whether it would be fine to message her on Whatsapp by seeing her number from our class whatsapp group. I also have been chatting with another girl who is 19 year old on Instagram for over a month. We both used to be in the same school but didn't know each other in school and now we are in different colleges but her college is very near to my home. We share about everything and send each other virtual hugs too. I wanna ask her out too but I am scared due to my previous rejections and she still seems to see me as a friend. Now I am confused too as I like this 19 year old girl, my childhood friend and also this new 22/23 year old on whom I newly got crush.
At least you were married once with daughter, please talk about those people who are still single and are in their 40s and facing loneliness. I am also one of them.
I am 40 in 20 days (ish) I have a family unit, very toxic from top to bottom, my 8 year old son will be heartbroken, he has witnessed so much toxic behaviour in the family, his mother is unwell, mean, cruel…
I have tried to help her, it is killing me staying, but I am so stuck, I feel in check mate.
I am suicidal, I know I can be a better me, but how can I break my children’s heart, even though in the long run it has to be better than this!! Help !!!! 💙🙏
You have to think about yourself too because no one will do that for you. Prioritizing people just brought me disappointment. They were always thinking about themselves and being toxic while I was trying to change things around for their sake. But I woke up many year ago. You think about your 8 year old son but, when he grows older, he probably will be thinking and prioritising himself too. That's what most people do.
My purpose is to make videogames... Not really a good thing for dating... Unless my game becomes very succesfull maybe..
Yeah... Most girls are super boring and superficial and know nothing esp not about cool nerdness and tech geekiness. I can do without girlies.
You're looking at the wrong pool then. There are women interested in creative partners.
Marriage is a must and the best 👌 it must be just the matter of time when? Prepare yourself for it 👍
I am always working and have no time to go out, I work on weekends even. 😢
Lol same
Hello
I'm 62 single Divorced.. expat who lives in Colombia 🇪🇨
I see the train wrecks everywhere..
Single is for men.can get hooked up anytime..I like my life ..
5:04....facts
So where's the link to the dog video?
Sorry man...I could have sworn I put it up. I haven't listened to the show in a while but I think you are referring to this one ruclips.net/video/ly3QXFhsVxk/видео.html
@@TheConfidenceDoc holy sh... that was an insanely quick response! Thanks! :)
@@DukeJohnny Ha! You just caught me right as I was logging in to RUclips
Just remember this: one day you’ll be gone, and the problems you have now simply won’t matter anymore.
I'm christian Lady looking for 40ry ND above guy,plz pray for me
Hello hope you don't mind sending me your email so we can know each other better as friend's I need relactionship that will lead to marriage
I am single
Looking for a partner for 50 years
Damn
Thanks,mu h am cathy,in uganda,at
Am 37 yrs hoping to meet my life partner.
Keep dreaming old lady
Being a single man in his 40s is more of a blessing. No more nagging, financial problems, and being dominated. Real men can can deal with being alone. Idk with women in their 40s.
Im 39 but I feel 29.... at least mentally, difficult to find a 25 year old at my age though! XD
I had a stupid woman tell me a few weeks before Christmas that I didn’t have much life experience for her. This coming from a stupid woman who’s 45, divorced and has a child. Also not that good looking either.
Well, you sure sound like a nice guy & not judgement at all.
@@surfdreamer918 well maybe it is time I start being judgmental and giving them a taste of their own medicine. And you know what, I’ve tried being nice and everything and that’s gotten me nowhere.
If you're "being nice" because you want a reward for it, you're not actually being nice.
If she's a stupid woman then it doesn't really makes sense getting offended at her not being attracted to you.
@@suzymoon2067 thank you for such a nice comment. I am tired of being single and a lone, but I am also tired of being judged and rejected just because I don’t meet up to some high standard or just for liking things that are not mainstream. I am tired of the rejection and the rude comments.
@@suzymoon2067 also I am sure you’ll find someone. 👍🏽🇨🇦
I don’t need a woman nothing but problems
They can create something out of nothing! That's talent!
At this age is a good problem to have
@@hoodfellah Yeah life is a string of problems, it is a matter of choosing the problems that will make your life complete! :)
'I can't liiiivee, with or without youuuu'
I would rather have a 100 dimes then one sow
@@Timbermannetje That's a good song
Looking to speak on this topic, got some good ideas. Fortune to not marry (39 now) I enjoy companionship “moderately and selectively. men are more feminine and clingy than women. I know 4 women who divorced with literally zero guilt or fear, at 37 they’re telling me they are excited to be on their “2nd hoe phase”! dudes need to man up cuz women are not crying over loneliness in 2022.
What exactly are you saying.
Truth
It's hard to "man up" when women have ridiculous standards. Can't make them happy so why try?
I agree with this somewhat because I’m nearing 40 and a single man. Despite seeing and meeting other single women within my age range they are not interested in me despite me having a good job and otherwise good with everything else. This tells me that either women must be waiting for the right person or they are capable of being on their own and not interested in pairing. Either way I’m screwed at 40 and I feel most men have a better chance in their 20s.
@@Dan-di9jd screwed? Ok, that is a destructive outlook. If you have decent income like you stated, you’re healthy, and have potential to increase your income and assets, then 40 is still in the game. This applies anywhere, and especially in Asia, Middle East, Europe or Latin America.
A lot of wining and worrying here in the comments! A man at 40 is on top of the world l. Put in the work, women will still be drawn to you even young women! 🤦🏻 y’all are still young and but old enough for people to take you seriously, yet young enough to still meet someone and start fresh.
Tony, I would love to shake your hand and give a BIG thank you for posting this video, it was nice to finally find a relationship coach/therapist who talks sense at a level of real care and concern for people, and who genuinely understands what someone in their 40's is going through. Most of the "so-called" relationship and dating coaches/therapists seem to be proclaming this alpha male, take the red pill, women only are interested in bad boys, money, love guys who smoke weed and drink like a fish, and are attracted to the guy with the expenssive designer outfits, sports cars, and fancy houses. These so called experts also proclaim that if you aren't an alpha male bad boy, you show a woman you care and have a heart, you don't have the things I just mentioned, and you struggle with dating as a result, it's because you are a big loser beta simp who deserves what they get.
I appreciate the very nice comments. Unfortunately, I agree with you... lots of bad info out there. I think the coaches or influencers that create the most shock or cater the most to the lowest common denominator (alpha, power, bad boys, etc.) are the one's that get the most views which work the algorithms best to get even more exposure. There's no denying that the world of alpha and image and materialism and ego-driven nonsense exists and attracts people. But it's the person who can ground themselves in who they are, create a life around them based on gratitude, appreciation and helping others...those are the people who are the most fulfilled and, if single, attract others to their presence.
Women are seeking a beautiful Husband that they can relate to (in all ways). July 4, 2023. USA.
Anyone here with a deep love for God thag is catholic and have Stong Morals... (you followwhat the bible says) thats all i need anyone outthere? In therir 30's esrly 40's hit me up
Are you still interested?
Women have been given to much power to the point they feel they can do anything they want. It’s aweful out there for men. I used to have a big crush on my boss and I would work my ass off for her, work overtime for whatever it took to make her happy it was never enough and she fired lol 20 years later she hits me up on Facebook and wants to get to know me again 😂 yeah ok you hit the wall at 40 and now no man wants you anymore with 3 kids no thanks ✌🏻
You could always be friends
Yes, women have too much power and influence these days. feminism is destroying relationships and family life. Girls should be in the kitchen at home, and men doing the work. I'm conservative and that's how I see things.
Notice how the comments is 99% men. LOL Men will always be in lower demand unless your top 5%er
@@Canadian_Eh_I Good that I'm gay
Hahaha not really... Sometimes it's the life revolving around
I'm short figure out the rest
Hey man dont let that get in the way of pursuing your happiness. Everybody has somethign about themselves that they consider a dealbreaker, believe me. There are women out there that dont care as much about height as you probably think.
How tall are you?
This is just a long stream of useless platitudes.
At 40 you know it’s over. There is no starting over. There is no reinventing yourself. You’re not going back to college. You’re not going to change. This is it. End of the line.
When you alone, faith can be your very good friend too. The true faith gives you hope , confidence and life to taking care of yourself, also people around you . Faith in Jesus Christ protects you from all evilness, including bad thoughts 🙏. I am 39, haven't had any sexual relationship with any female. I had married once. During the marriage, she didnt allow me to touch her and we slept separately. She also left me in a few days with very strange reasons(she said she had mental illness) . I have forgiven her and also myself too. Life is not easy in this ending world but life is beautiful in Jesus Christ. In his cursifixion and resurrection given into my life, I have joyfulness and strengths to live next day. 🙏🙏🙏.
May the LORD I believe in be your ultimate strength to helping you in following Jesus Christ! May we all one day have our husbands and wifes in God's wish.
40 and single 😂
I’ve given up on women for 5 years after my last relationship. - I have kids, but I feel like I’ve been blacklisted by women because I’m not kid free.
Being single has its benefits and weaknesses at times
My experience has been there are a lot of women who are looking for a man that knows how to be a good father and a good teammate in a mixed parent household. I took almost seven years off after my marriage to figure out what I really wanted and at the same time raise my daughter...practically on my own. So, I think if you wanted to get back out there...if you're ready to...then you'll be a good catch, especially for women with kids themselves.
What a load of bull.
Exactly . Sorry you missed your chance and welcome to lonely for life
40. Male. Single. From Nigeria
Im 46 and NEVER had girlfriend. Women hate me I'm just a piece of garbage obviously. You don't know what it's like never in your life without even getting a chance to even experience a relationship.
Change your perspevtive and it will change your life. You are special like others. Love yourself, give love and you will find love.
Damn man really at 46? I am a guy who turned 23 last month(on 22nd December) and never had a girlfriend before. I went on my first ever date 4 months ago at the age of 22. She was 19(turned 20 few days ago) and we went to the mall, ate in Mcdonalds there and got my first hug from a girl but still yet to get my first kiss and I was pulling her cheeks a lot as she was cute. But 2 weeks after the date she became toxic and mean to me and blocked me on all social media. She basically used me for free lunch and to take lots of pics of her so she can post them on social media. I also have massive crush on this another girl for the past 6 months where I go for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college about 6 months ago and going to study MBA next. She also turned 23 just a few days ago. She has even called me cute several times and I pulled her cheeks too but I am shy near women in person so she is the one who initiates conversation with me. Few months ago I gave her a chocolate too but I often see her with her male friends so I get worried whether I have chance with her or not.
3 months ago, I went out with this another girl in the same class who is also 23 but so far we are just friends. We just roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant and I pulled her cheeks a bit too when we took selfie but was shy to ask for a hug. It was a fun day and we might go out again probably next month. I also have been following some girls on Instagram who are in the 21-25 age range from the same institute but different classrooms and messaged few of them and had been chatting with 2 or 3 of them who are also about 22 and 23 year olds. Since July 2023, I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who is 19(turning 20 in April). We were in the same school but didn't know each other in school days so we only have been knowing each other for 6 months. We also send each other virtual hugs and she is very sweet and we have many things in common like we are both foodies, like similar types of movies and many more and we plan to meet up to eat somewhere very soon too but in the end I am still single.