I would say be curious about people older than you, they have a LOT to offer. I agree with the lady who says you don't get much attention as a woman as you age, this is true. and men our age are out looking for younger/hotter. Bummer.
My Dad got a PhD in his 40s, wrote a book in his 50s, started a business enterprise in his 60s and is heading toward 70 and is calm, fit and healthy. He told me that compared to the Earth we are children, there is no such thing as old age, it’s how you feel and live.
My mother died of cancer when she was 48. On her deathbed she offered her regrets: "I hate that I spent so much time at work and didn't get to know my children. I hate that I spent so much time dieting and didn't get to eat my favorite foods. I hate that I spent so much time worrying about whether the house was clean. I hate that I spent so much time worrying about what people who didn't care about me thought about me. Just have a peaceful life; nothing else matters."
“Not being happy is not the same as being Ill” … “it’s just normal life. Sometimes you’re happy about things sometimes you are not.” That right there is wisdom.
Yep, that comment stuck with me, also. Happiness is not guaranteed. For most of human existence life has been a struggle and happiness was of secondary importance, surviving was the priority. Just within the past 100 years or so has humanity advanced to the point to where daily life has become much easier, with various creature comforts that were unknown to previous generations. Opportunities are much more available to the average person these days. Yet, we have an epidemic where some folks are trying to escape their reality through drugs, alcohol, gambling, pornography, even social media. Strength of character is forged in adversity.
Being content in your life is a plus. I can honestly say that as someone in my 60s. I’ve had wonderful highs and a few lows but overall I’m content with my life and there’s a lot to be said for that.
One thing that really stuck to me and i learned it from alot of older people is that no matter the worries or what happens, it will be alright over time.
I love what that guy said about feeling like the same person looking out .... but then being shocked when you see yourself in the mirror. That's the ageing experience in a nutshell.
I tell twenty year olds I meet this exact same thing. It is a surreal feeling because on the inside, the mirror inside your mind, you are the same person you were at twenty, just with loads more experience. When you are young, you think you are going to feel like a totally different person when you hit old age, but you don't. I think people over 60 should wear a badge with pix of their 25 year old self on it. THAT's who you are talking to...not the person with grey hair, wrinkles and dentures...that picture is who that person is still, on the inside. My 101 year old Gram says the same. 😅
In a world where there’s youtubers going around asking people what their body count is, or what their sexual fantasy is, this type of content is extremely rejuvenating and refreshing. This has substance and I’m using these peoples’ answers as genuine advice and reassurance that I should enjoy my 20’s instead of stressing about life.
I always wonder why and how humans can focus on such minuscule things like body count and sexual nonsense when there are starving people in the world. Why not go around asking for ideas on how to solve such issue? Or people with no medical access, how can we get together to get medical access to them? Or something simpler like this video that can teach the younger gens about life from the lenses of the wiser. It’s baffling
My father was an amazing retired fighter pilot and commercial pilot . His philosophy was , “Do not complicate things . Keep things simple - keep everything simple.” He did complex things simply. Best advice ever .
True , Life should b simple but its hard to b simple , don't get me wrong , the wants r still the same , food , shelter & some love, appreciation & we hav still not figured it out .
Oh wow! The son of a fighter pilot here! I'm 59 now. My father flew all the Cold War jets in Pakistan back.in the late 1950s and through the mid 1970s. MIGS, American F86s, F104s and some more. Like your father, he became a commercial pilot after retirement and flew the older Boeings, DC10, and the older versions of the 747 "Jumbo Jet. He passed away in 2017 at 80. His philosophy was the same as your father's. I'd like to belive that they have joined their group of hellraisers somewhere out there!😊
@@nadermazari3334 they really were a different type of person: humble hell raisers . Dad flew F -102 , F 89 , F106, F101, and I forget the rest . He flew for Pan Am for 20 years then United until 1996 . I am so glad he isn’t around to see what this country , the military, and the airline industry has become . He died at 80 as well in 2015. Super humble , chill , and skilled person .
I would like to think that I’m a good person, but nothing has worked out for me the last few years. I’ve just been bullied, used, abused by everyone that I come across
@@EpicIntegral Someone once said we can't control how others treat us, but we can choose how we respond. We can give people what they deserve, which is death ultimiately, but... those who give no mercy shall get none, on Judgment Day. As for being taken advantage of, that's happened to mee too. I once gave money to an atheist I met in high school, but he was lying about his situation. I had given him the benefit of the doubt. When it was confirmed that he was lying, since he didn't respect me even after I helped him, and he was demanding I give him more, I just called him a total pice of shit. LOL! I wasn't supposed to do that, but it was satisfying. If they bully you, then avoid them if you can. I gave my ex-wife many chanes to repent, but she had no intention to change. The lying Scambodian kept doing what she did, so when she pushed my hehad back, I snapped and was no longer Mr. Nice Guy. I beat her down. LOL! Dumb feminazi atheist Scambodian bitch thought she could get away with that! I had authroty over her to discipline her, and took that right. That bitch let people smoke near my baby! She wants a slave out of my child! That's the only reason shehas my child! She doesn't love her.... That's my biggest mistkae, was to give pearls to swine. But i DO forgive her... :God demands it. If I don't forgive, I will not be forgiven. But I must discipline those under my authority who are obstinate in their rebellion. Hope that helps. Be nice, but not too nice.
I'm 74 years of age. The two most recurring themes in this video of older peoples' advice for younger people is, "Do not care as much what others think of you.", and "Do not delay doing what you want to do in life." I can say these two pieces of advice are actually connected. In other words, we often delay pursuing our actual passions because we fear judgment from friends and family about choosing a less "regular" path in life. And conversely, we often do things we aren't actually passionate about just to appease the judgment of others. One of the hardest things to do in life is to cross the valley from your social support shaming or judging you for not being who they want anymore, to the beautiful place on the other side where a different social support network arises who love you because of your identity in the life you ACTUALLY are choosing out of passion and love. Life is short. Begin that shift as soon as possible.
It's really wonderful to come across people who freely share valuable information online. You never know what kind of knowledge you might stumble upon that could have a lasting impact on your life.
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It's amazing how much of their advice is about the "ego" or "lower self". Perhaps the key to a great life is: Being kind, knowing yourself, following your heart and adding value to the world.
@@BRIANROSER No, the point of the Bible is that the All-powerful, All-Knowing Creator of Everything messed up and now we all have to wait till He decides to fix things, but he's in no damn rush to do that.
I met a man in his 90s when I was volunteering at a hospital. He played the violin and learned how to play it in his late 60’s. It is never too late ❤️
I'm happy to say that at 67 I learned to crochet this year and am now making little hats and blankets for babies in the hospital. Who knew? It really IS never too late to pick up something new!
I started my keyboard journey 22 weeks ago and I’m in my late 30’s. I decided I’m going to regret it if I don’t ever learn so I’m shocked I haven’t missed a single week. I put myself on a 10 year journey based on 10mins a day 2-3 days a week. All about incremental progress.
Yes. I'd say make sure you develop (or reinforce) a code of ethics in your character which informs decisions, then you'll have less of a chance of being remorseful.
Your own actions, or inactions, are more likely to cause you harm than what someone else may do to you in your life. There are exceptions, of course, but you're more apt to step on your own foot than for someone else to do it.
WARNING!!! HELL IS REAL !!!!! Where will you go when you die? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If we will repent of our sins and put our trust and faith in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will be saved. ROMANS 5:8 Even when we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Just retired this year…and regretted it within six months. Already traveled the world, no other passions to explore. My job was fun and the money great. I retired because all my friends were retired and thought I was missing something. I wasn’t. Never quit a job you love.
I agree. There's so many of us who can't just sit with things or be silent. It's all about distraction and yes, life is good and bad. I had a rather frustrating shopping day at Walmart today but also had a great conversation with an elderly man in the housewares section. That's life! Isn't it great?
Yes I agree. I took up outreach work when I was 15 (60yrs ago) and learned the best way to help someone is to listen very carefully to them first. I was so impressed by those folks who thought carefully first before speaking.
Hearing all the “it’s NEVER too late” stories of people learning instruments, for example, is incredible. Excellent. You KNOW the gentleman saying “music is in me” COULD STILL learn an instrument.
I'm 34 but have a plan to do an epic work of music despite no experience creating music other than in my imagination. I wouldn't say piece of music, since that would imply it not be complete.
@@PeterNjeim Piece means part, and to say piece to mean the opposite of piece, is equivalent to saying "sick" to mean "good" or "cool." Some don't mind flipping things around, but not me. I'll stick to my own preferences instead of popular topsy-turvy-ness.
@@scintillam_dei Edit: typo you're committing one of the biggest linguistic fallacies and trying to play it cool, weirdly. It's a standard definition found in the dictionary, being confidently wrong isn't a virtue. The usage of "piece" in this instance means "a piece of work", as in "a single work", *_not,_* as you falsely claim "a piece of _a_ work". It's similar to saying "a piece of clothing", or "a piece of advice", or (referring to an article) "a hit piece" or "I wrote a piece about the history of Ronald McDonald". Anyways, I'm not going to spend any more time explaining semantics and etymology to someone who's self-admittedly close-minded
@@PeterNjeim Wow, you have sand in your vagina because someone has a preference in language where more than one option exists. It's that time of the month, isn't it? LOL!!
@@HughButler-lb6zsRomans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone. 18 Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works. 19 Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.
@@WhoThisMonkeyRomans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".❤😊
It's another way of saying we have to be in touch with ourselves, understand our values and honor them. Being true to ourselves t is the best way of not having remorse later.
@@MarianoBillinghurst Well, but everyone is changing over time and there will always be some remorse. Being true to yourself today might be a different true after you will have become wiser tomorrow.
Plan for retirement! You may live way longer than you think! It can be wonderful or a broken down hell! It is how you plan for it NOW that determines your fate! (77 and retired for 22 years)
The sad thing is that, as a 25 years old guy, I did not learn anything from this video. These people are very sympathetic, but at the end of the day, their advices are common sens. I already don't spend time on social media (except youtube to learn english and other languages), I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I practice sport, I respect people and treat them as I would like to be treated, and I try to live my life to the fullest. The only thing is that society is too much wired around work, and spending 5 days a week working during 40 or 45 years is way too much. We should have more time to enjoy our passions and loved one. That's why I do firmly advocate for the 4 days work week.
@April Tusitala I will copy the same comment I wrote under the video here. Hope that helps. I am 26. I don't have a lot of advice, but one philosophy for life I have derived from my experience is, - Make a short term (whatever you think is short term
Im 34, this video is a wake up call to be more human more here now than rushing for tomorrow. Makes me feel I need to be more grateful and joyful than stressing out daily for what I dont have yet.
In Africa ,the older you are ,the more the society sees you as the wisest person . A lot of older people live their best life,they are so respected and revered!! That is the culture I so love.
Days before my father passed away, he said: "Life goes by in a flash - just a flash." He was so right. One minute you're at high school - next minute you're 30. It just sneaks up on you. And you think: Wow, where did the time go?
I swear it was just 2 years ago I was walking to elementary school, smelling the freshly cut grass in the morning and already thinking about what game I was going to play after school. Now I'm 34 and it's all work work work.
Hahaha you’re feeling this way at 30? Wait till 50 is breathing down your neck. Don’t waste your 30’s you’ll never have more energy than you do right now.
Listen to 'Time ' no sod it, the whole album; Dark Side of the Moon. We grew up with this warning about not letting life pass you by, and also Disney's 1967 'Bare Necessities' from Jungle Book, live by that and you'll always be in charge. (I'm 59)
One lady hit it. I’m 65 and I told my grandson that one thing I regret is not being kinder to people in my youth. I have much more grace toward people now, understanding that everyone is in a different place and you never know what people are going through so, don’t take everything personal. That’s how I want people to treat me.
We need to build up a certain amount of resilience in order to embody that grace. It takes building perspective to learn why we shouldn't take things personally. The blessings of become mature.
@@dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099 that was very well put. I'm going to repeat that first chance I get......I'll act like I came up with it too. Maybe have one of those English smoking jackets and a tobacco pipe handy so I look more authentic. On second thought, I'll just tell them you said it. I'll still be cool.
@@schmingusss I feel you can be kind and not reduce yourself to the lowest common denominator; becoming as bad as they are. It’s very difficult to rise above it sometimes but very powerful when you do. Money can sometimes take the place of youth when your older; everyone wants to get in your purse.
Learning how to manage my time. I wasted way too much time worrying about what other people thought. Turned out they didn’t like me anyway, they are gone and I missed out on some of the most precious things in my life. Be brave. You are worth it.
I asked the 101 year old grand grand mom of my best childhood friend what advice she has for me. She said: „Never say impulsive things to your loved ones in anger, because you can never take them back.“ Its true, the pain you cause will stay with them forever.
That is my biggest regret. It haunts me. My oldest son was the victim. We are very close now and I have apologized many times and have told him he is a better man than any I have met. Nevertheless it haunts me.
Just know that he loves you and understand humans are not perfect. He's also aware you love him and he cherishes that even if he can't express it in words.
I’m 34. Yesterday, I spent from noon to 9pm fighting off an anxiety attack because I wasn’t able to complete a work task due to internet issues. Watching this the next morning & all I can say is thank you. To all the people who offered their wisdom…you’ve helped me recalibrate & focus on enjoying the holidays with my family ❤
I’m 59 and looking back I feel that I always focused too much on the next task or milestone and did not take enough time to enjoy the journey which is what life is actually. Enjoy the now would be my advice, things just work out whatever path you choose
I am 71 year old male Seems like my best advice would be Follow Your Joy Whatever floats your boat or spins your prop do that as ong as it isn't hurting your health or illegal Bye now worry less
This is fantastic. Elders have so much lessons to teach yet we never take the time to listen to them. I'm so glad you made this video, it's like a hidden treasure !
I’m turning 40 in two years. I started watching these videos of seniors telling stories. It’s very valuable, thank you for sharing your stories and experiences
I'm 64 and my best advice is to get fit and stay fit. I was 25 when I changed my entire lifestyle. My friends would give me crap for being so health conscious and say "Why do you do all that, so you can live 5 years longer?" No, that's not why, I did it because I've enjoyed a life of great health and having the ability to do anything physical that I desired. Today I'm 8 lbs heavier than I was at my peak condition and I'm still active. Living long is not the only goal, it's living well and enjoying the abilities that come with being fit.
Bob Natarell; I got same crap and now they say I am lucky, One 'crap-giver' hasn't walked in 8 yrs on his own, could die any day & is only 3 yrs older than I. I am making plans to travel south to play baseball with my grandson and help him with his practice(ing) and to help out with my 4 yo grand daughter. We have a blast !My siblings (5) are not much better than the one guy I mentioned earlier, with not much energy and seem somewhat depressed. They stay home a lot. I look forward to traveling the country and taking my two bicycles with me. One bike is an electrical assist (that helps me when needed to get exercise, mainlyy when there are hills and/or wind, it has fatter tires to get off the paved/groomed paths more often and I love it !
You don't have to wait years to feel the benefit of being in better shape. If I don't exercise for approx. a month, it only take 2-3 weeks of regular moderate running or biking or weight-lifting to feel notably better when I wake up. (I'm 55).
I'm on the cusp of turning 60. In addressing my biggest regret I'd like to offer young people my best advice. I made the mistake of thinking something was wrong with me because I wasn't like everybody else. It affected my self-esteem for a very long time and cost me many opportunities over that time span. It took a long time before I realized I had a lot to offer the world by being the real me. Though the sum of your experiences in life will shape your character, you were born exactly as you were meant to be. Embrace the real you.
You are a great interviewer, and you were very kind and respectful to these people. I actually cried through this whole thing. You recognized them as valuable, and someone hasn't done that for them in a long time.
Good interview, but it seemed it was all done up maybe in New York city. A larger pool of more diverse people would have produced more useful knowledge.
“Not being happy is not the same as being ill”......That really resonated with me. I’ve had both in my life and I’d gladly choose unhappiness over being ill. Live your life. ❤
My unhappy is a dual edged sword. It is that spirit of believing I can accomplish more that keeps me fired up.....but taking on challenges will always lead to some defeats. So I wallow when I fall.....until the next foolish idea takes hold....and then I'm all in with a big smile!
@@MrLoobu Yeah, no they're not. They're fallible, flawed human beings just like older folks. Only thing there is more of that youthful arrogance that clouds their mind.
I think it is not that simple actually. You need to be far more deliberate and intentional as life goes by so fast. You can be a good person and make poor choices, so it’s about making good choices every day. Love is the key! Love yourself, love others. Be authentic. Know your value. Choose good relationships. Be mindful of toxic people. Look after your heart above all else. 🌸
@@loveishappiness7330 It is even simpler. Look, there is no good or bad choices. There is only choices you make. If you are good person, every choice you'll make will turn out just fine. I don't think you're there just yet but you will eventually get there. Everything else you describe actually makes a good person.
when I behave well towards other people and help them, they do not appreciate it, they just use it and do not help in return when I ask for it, or they completely deceive and that's it
My dad is 81 years old he worked as a marine engineer and travelled a lot because of his job, in his 60's he retired then he studied Biblical studies and became a minister and then he be studied to be a priest. Which is now his occupation. Currently he is also learning to play guitar and the piano. He is also writing a book. My dad just never quits age means nothing to him he just focuses on his goals and keeps going I'm so proud of him.
@@skinnydee1886 thank you so much and yes I'm he has big shoes to fill genes aside lol but I do my very best to always try new things and explore new horizons. God bless and have a beautiful day!
@@shodapad07 you can do it I believe everyone is possible of achieving goodness and greatness in little things or big things don't let age dictate you. Always keep trying and pushing yourself to live your life to the fullest.
What makes me sad is that younger generations rarely pay older generations much attention or give them much acknowledgement - like the world is designed to prioritise young people that live on a separate plane of existence. I am 23 and I think there is so much life experience and valuable lessons that older people can share but much of it is left untold because people don't have enough deep conversations with them and ask them questions.
I’m 24, and I wholeheartedly agree. I only have one grandparent left alive to ask for advice or question for experience. With my parents being my next source of info. So even when interacting with those older than yourself, don’t shove them aside cause you’ll never know what you’ll learn that day.
Good for you! ❤️ you are my son's age. It is good to know that there are a lot of people in their twenties that still respect those that are older. I find it really sad that too often it's more like, "Okay, boomer".
@@tparbs it’s sad really. I know me and my best friend were raised on relying with respect and manners to the “yes sir/mam” approach, plus nuns will instill manners into you be it through fear or willpower. So the fact that many my age (not all) don’t see respect to elders are missing out on valuable life advice. They’ll learn eventually when they become the “boomer.”
I really felt bad for those who thought they were worthless bc they were old. I love getting to learn from older people bc not only do I find their stories fascinating, but I can also add anything valuable to my life. Hopefully more older ppl feel appreciated.
Unfortunately that is the way you are made to feel. I had terrible problems with finding a new job in 2015 because at 45 I was deemed "over the hill". And the younger generations interviewing me were rude enough to mention it.
6:30 Wild applause! I'm 53 and really regretting all the time I spent worrying about how I look! It didn't help that I came from coastal SoCal, where looks are given a higher priority than in other parts of the world. I've stopped wearing makeup and am letting my hair go gray and you know what? The world is still turning PLUS I have more money now!🤣
I've always hated my birthdays, but I just turned 44 last week and looked at it completely differently... I felt fortunate to make it this far. a lot of people I've known were never fortunate enough to make it to their 40s. be thankful for what you have today because tomorrow is not promised.
I turned 40 on the weekend, and I can't believe where the time is gone . I feel much younger than that and it comes as a shock..wow, 40... But I'm glad I came across your comment. It's a good perspective to have :) Thank you
Thank you, I needed that. I'm 44 turning 45 in a few days. I feel young and still "good-looking", but sad about getting older. Mainly because the dream of getting pregnant is less and less possible and I find it hard to come to terms with this.
I’m 59, turning 60 in a month, and I really, really liked this video. Thank you for giving a voice to those of us that our youth focused society ignores. It was a nice way to start my day listening to my “peers”.
I regret not asking questions to those dear souls who have passed on. I would ask my Grandmother what it was like for her when she was a teenager and continuing that conversation until the day she left us.
Agree 100% I had intended for all of my Mother-in-law’s grandchildren to sit down with her and do an “interview,” asking her all the questions they would someday not have the privilege to ask. Sadly, she passed expectedly soon, and we never got the opportunity to do so. It’s a great regret of mine. At 69, I guess I should do this NOW with my own children! 😳 That’s a startling realization! Tomorrow is promised to no one. 🥲
Yes, for sure. I have the same regrets. I have family members that live to 100 and older. I often imagine how many stories they could tell when they were alive, I never ask and i will never know. In my early years I was raised by a great grandmother who was born in 1882, past away in 1982. My recent grandmother past away at 102, I learn somethings about her younger years and about her parents, but i didn't ask enough.
Just the other day I was wishing my grandaddy was still alive to ask him for advice. Then I realized I’m 70 & a grandparent…shouldn’t I know the answers by now? Lol
3:33 "You dont have to be happy all the time. sometimes your happy sometimes youre not. Its just normal life" Wow. I really felt that. Had to pause the video. Really amazing simple wisdom.
A corollary to this is you don't have to be entertained or stimulated all the time. It's natural and healthy to be bored sometimes. This is the biggest lesson Gen-Z needs to learn, IMO. I'm 54 BTW.
Same here. If I could start again at 18 years old, I would work hard, then play hard and let the cards fall where they may. I would also embrace discipline, because discipline will lead you to success and make your playtime more enjoyable.
I met a woman who looked like she was 55 years old. She was petite and slim. I was surprised to know that she was 94 years old! So I asked her what her secret was because she looked so young. She replied, “I never worried about a thing.”
Bullshit! It's all genetics. I know of someone who smoked a lot, drank a lot, and got into lots of fights, but still lived till 105 years. The universe gives you what it gives you: Some have long lives, some have wealth, some have beauty, some have high IQ's
How nice to live in a dream world. Can anyone that is sane live without any worries at all? If you were born rich, and with alien DNA, maybe. I never worried about anything - because I was already dead ;)
I wish I could STOP worrying but I’ve been a worrier since I was a youngster. I was a hypochondriac so they said when I was a child and I’m falling right back into that title and it’s not like I want to, it’s just my makeup I suppose. Although I was raised by my dad he was a worry wart and he would say things like I’m gonna die and I would end up freaking out over stuff he was saying so I think he caused me to be that way but I’m not totally sure and I’ll tell you what if you can live life without worrying then you’re one lucky or shall I say you’re one blessed person because it’s horrible to worry about everything as I do I worry about my health and that’s probably why my health is been suffering for the last seven years. If I could change it I most definitely would. But right now I have a lot of health issues going on and I’m only 61 years old and I’m about to have surgery on my gums and I am stressing over that and I have leaky gut and any amount of money I have saved is all going towards my health issues and believe me I don’t have much money and I don’t trust medical doctors all they do is push drugs on you without finding the root cause of your problems so I worry about doctors and hospitals and try to stay away from both of them
"It looks the same looking out, but people see you entirely differently. And in today's society, they look at you like your worthless." That was powerful
I was INVISIBLE when I was YOUNG, and I had SO MUCH FREEDOM!!! It is hard when people want to know EVERY DETAIL OF YOUR PERSONAL LIFE!!! When I get older and invisible again, I will regain my FREEDOM!!!
@@rollingdudes8859 i was young and good looking, now middle aged and invisible, the invisibility started just a few years ago. It's very uncomfortable, like being a ghost.
Once you're in your 60s and beyond, you suddenly look back and wonder how so many decades could have passed since you were born, and it takes you by surprise. Well, as they say, days have a way of creeping into lifetimes. It'll happen to all of us.
My granny died a year ago with almost 102! Until the very end, she was mentally active, optimistic, very caring and she was always in a good mood. She even wanted to travel from the US to Barcelona! I will carry this energy forever in my mind and in my heart. So many learnings from my grandma ❤️ Thank you for this wonderful video!
I wish I had gotten therapy in my early 20s to come to terms with my childhood abuse. I could have come to terms with my experiences and developed coping skills instead of just bumbling along for decades. To young folks: Treat yourselves to a few therapy sessions. It feels great to have someone ask thought-provoking questions and point out things that don't occur to you.
The most important thing in my life was to be my own person. Every hobby that I fell in love with I made my occupation at some point in time. I did still manage to marry and raise a family. But the best advise I gave my children as they were growing up was to do and be what they wanted, not what anyone else wanted. They are all successful and have great families. I followed what I loved at the time and had careers as a auto body repair person who opened his own shop, at 42 years old I became a flight instructor and charter pilot, as I alwyas loved flying. I also had a great love of music and played classical and jazz guitar all of my life since I was 15, so naturally I taught and did some playing in various venues. At 60 I became a minster and started a wedding's business. I married over 800 couples and also had a small church. At the same time I became a DJ and karaokee artist for the weddings business. After I retired I started a small home repair business to make a few extra dollars. I had always done my own repairs so I made a few extra dollars to supplement my SS checks. My best advise at 81, do what you love and the money will follow. You will also die happy, although I am not in a hurry.
@@edmourgagnon1504Just curious: how can it be “stupid” to have lived a life which enables you, at 81 years old, to say you can die happy?! @ggeorge4144
The popular notion that we are entitled to happiness, that sadness is somehow wrong, has led to a nation of zombies on SSRIs, as well as a million divorces.
I am 61 now and I feel the same as I always have. I think that is the thing people do not realize! We look different as we get older but that doesn't mean we ARE different. Also, don't assume anyone is wise or not wise based on their age. Plenty of people get older without ever really learning anything, and plenty of younger people are thoughtful and wise.
WARNING!!! HELL IS REAL !!!!! Where will you go when you die? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If we will repent of our sins and put our trust and faith in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will be saved. ROMANS 5:8 Even when we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Most older people have been humbled by the idea of their mortality. As death gets closer, it starts to feel like nothing matters anymore because in 10 years you won't be here. I think its important to take their perspective and meditate on it as much as possible.
Thank you for this. I am in my 50’s and have racked up some personal regret and am trying to apply the sage advice of older folks so i can stop or mitigate future regrets. I can change future outcomes by changing what I do now….🇨🇦
I cried while watching this video. I love listening to older people as they share their advice, their journey, regrets, etc. I am so thankful you made this video. I need to stress less and enjoy my life a little more.
I am 63. I always tried to please my parents. I went to college, got a "real" job and did everything they thought I should. Mom and Dad are gone now and I realize they didn't actually know anything. I was trained as a diesel mechanic when I was in my teens. I didn't follow that career path. I got a job working in heavy equipment when I was in my 60s and I realize now I would have been very happy following that path. As for regrets I wish I had not let so many opportunities go. If you are young and reading this develop some good habits Develop and exercise program and stick with it. Read a few books. Learn new skills. Talk to new people.
Yeah...I tell the younger generation not to go over 25 pounds pass their ideal weight and if they have gained a lot to not stay at that weight. It will cause disease later for sure.
@@bf5209 My parents just knew I wouldn't be happy and able to provide for a family as a diesel tech. They pushed me into corporate office jobs where I felt lost and useless most of the time.
I love the French woman who says, "Don't be a follower. Have an independent mind, your own judgment about things. Otherwise, you're going to become a robot." 🥰
Being in my early 70s, I found your video very entertaining. I really don't sit around regretting things these days. I actually regretted more things when I was young. Regret is a worthless endeavor. It is akin to worrying. My friend that died at 68 from Agent Orange Cancer basically had this advice, "focus on the passions in your life, because you won't get everything done, anyway, and focus on conveying your love for your loved ones, as much as possible."
@@ifuknjk in my onion there is only good art and bad art. The same with music, only good or bad. I like all forms of music and art. The solution to all the confusion is simple honesty and positive criticism. People can be very opinionated and start to believe their opinion is the only opinion that counts. Some are opinionated without basing their opinions in any facts but only in their emotions or taste. And some people have terrible taste. There are ways to judge music and art, with rationality as well as with emotion and taste. I might not like a painting or a song, but it still could be Good, if I base my critique of it both rationally and emotionally..
WARNING!!! HELL IS REAL !!!!! Where will you go when you die? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If we will repent of our sins and put our trust and faith in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will be saved. ROMANS 5:8 Even when we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
This made me remember that I'm only 20 and there's so many things I'm worried about that really don't matter. It also helped me remember that I have plenty of time to get my life together. I really do appreciate this.
Live boldly. I've seen studies that say most old people regret not having followed their own path in life, but having just done what was expected of them by family and friends. In the end other people's opinions don't matter much. Besides which they really don't think about you anywhere near as much as you imagine. Finally figuring that out is one of the best things about growing old. Young people are so obsessed with other people's opinions of them, and it creates a lot of unnecessary suffering.
The lady that said she regrets not taking more trips when they were younger with less money really hits home to me. Im 35 now but constantly push off trips bc i cant afford nice trips but instead i should focus on what trips i can afford and do those.
with cheaper trips i have learnt that more can go wrong because not everything is taken care of for you so instead of worrying about getting stuck somewhere just embrace it and take it as it comes. Maybe your trip will become even better than originally planned or maybe not, then try it next time again. I have made some awesome longterm friends from mishaps during my travels.
@ 72 my advice is; don't put off those things you want to do thinking there will always be time. I did everything I wanted to do and now I'm in a wheelchair and have almost no regrets and no feelings that I missed something..
The lack of respect for old people in our society saddens me. It really depresses me to think that one day I'll get older and everyone will see me as worthless.
I'm old and it doesn't bother me because I have a shxx ton of money. The kid that changed the oil on my car asked if I was a Janitor because I have so many keys! I said "No those are for all my houses"
I like Zhuangzi and the Useless Tree. When you are worthless, you have nothing to be exploited. Nobody bothers with you, except the government I love it.
@@thedoor5442 good one I love it, I'm working towards to get tons of money as well. I'm 35 and almost millionaire and I already don't give a sh..t what people say no even care what they think about me cause most of them are fcking broke hehehehehe.
My dad always told me that even if an old person is not wise, they have still been on this planet longer than you, so you owe them your respect, and you should learn from them whatever they are willing to teach. Unfortunately many old people are still just children in many ways.
That's such a bad advice. There's A LOT of rude and unhelpful elders out there. Perhaps you could hear what they have to say, but you have to take it with a grain of salt because many times they think things still work out the same way things did 40 years ago
This is excellent. Thank you. I’m a 54 year old, very youthful man. But its starting to creep in…the reality of aging. I’ve not really felt this until fairly recently. And the biggest thought I have is this: as I lose more and more people I love, due to aging and time, I realize that we NEED TO DO THE THINGS WE WANT TO DO….NOW. Tomorrow is not promised to the young, let alone the older. Live your life, be a happy and good person. Contribute and help others.
I will be 46 next month and I feel like I am BATTLING FATHER TIME EVERY YEAR!!! I also noticed that the older I get the HARDER I have to work to maintain good health!!!
Hi buddy Right now I am 67 years old when I was 40years old I wanted to do the same thing what you are doing now interview older people and get advice ❤ don’t stop keep up the great work you do . God bless you
I'm 63. Been through ups and downs. Since 50 it has been more ups (fortunately). Travel whenever you can because for me, it is one of the few things a person can do later in life that gives them the same excitement as the magic of a Christmas morning when small. I actually empathize for the younger generation because accomplishing financial freedom is so much damn harder now than even 20 years ago. In my day, a high school diploma opened doors to employment at companies with well paid positions and opportunity to advance into the upper echelon. Now is way more competition for limited resources and decent employment, even for those with college doctorate degrees.
Totally disagree. With the internet, there are now far more opportunities for young people to make their OWN money. You've got brainwashed into thinking the only way to make money is to work for other people. WRONG. I've been self employed since 2005 and I'm very wealthy because of the internet, but I'm old enough to remember pre-internet times when making money was a lot harder.
@@blackporscheroadster6415 I'm self employed and have done quite well. My being empathetic should not translate to mean I work for anybody. Most people are not risk takers (if your self-employed you should know this) Risk taking and tenacity is the club most self-employed belong to excepting certain people who inherit a thriving enterprise from daddy . Sure there may be more opportunities to make money on the internet, but the majority people have a serf (I need a job) mentality and for them, it's definitely more difficult.
@@blackporscheroadster6415 Our money went a lot farther though and we had more time for other parts of life. I do see (literally) what you're saying though. It is tougher out there for the slow starters and those who aren't coached at all by their parents growing up. For instance, I was never told in high school that the reason to learn and get good grades was so you would have the opportunity to have more choices and opportunities to start your adult life. I was oblivious in high school and made sure my daughter wasn't. I wasn't a tyrant at all, just gave her the information. Might be the only thing she ended up listening to me about, lol!
It's much more wealthier than before when considering the economy as a whole. When 20 or 40 years ago, you thought it was easier for financial freedom but the truth is there was much more poverty that you didn't see.
I have been saying that community feels disconnected. We ship our kids off to school and our parents off to nursing homes. We need to hear from the older generations so badly. To the older people who believe that society looks down on them as worthless, this saddens me...we are not all that way. Some of us look at you for wisdom and respect you more than our own age bracket. Thank you 😊
Because we live in a mercantile world. Everytime you are disconencted to society, you are usually connected to buying something and a company WON your attention. We have to teach ourselves and young people about free cool stuff ! dancing in a basement, great dinners of local famer's food, board games, playing cards, chess, basketball, swim, walk a lot, visit friends, play music, learn a craft, repair stuff, laugh, bicycle trips, bird watching etc etc etc hurray !
I’m 61. The lady that said to avoid “remorse” made a very wise statement. Remorse comes from hurting yourself and/or others and having awareness that you did so. Try not to hurt anyone, including yourself, as you walk through this life.
Lets include not hurting animals as well if we dont have to. This means we should go vegan if we dont want to cause unnecessary pain and premature death to animals.
@@jonas3590 I’ve been vegan for 6 years now, since age 55. I have perfect blood work and take no medications. Best decision I ever made for my health and the animals.
@@mw3027 That depends on what kind of mistakes people make. Some mistakes have lifelong consequences which do affect people’s future lives. Such mistakes may even be the cause of how people die. For instance, drug abuse is a mistake that can affect one’s health even after they quit using drugs. Past drug abuse can lead to illnesses such as kidney failure, heart failure, etc. Killing someone could land a person in prison for the rest of their lives. So some mistakes do define one’s future.
The answer by the lady wearing a read jacket to the part 6:38 is just so real. Yes, be nice to people. Even in my age of 39, I've come to realize that the meaner you're to people, the more negative accumulates within you. And the more you live like this, the worse you feel. Be kind to people. Be genuinely kind
Your video may be the most meaningful thing I've ever seen on RUclips. Also, you were very respectful and genuine with everyone. I am 73 by the calendar, but 25 in my heart. I have good health, a terrific wife, and a warm, dry place to sleep at night. I'm an American and an ex-Marine. Good Lord, what else could a man want?
I am happy for you, Sir. I wish you a long a healthy life. The sad thing is that, as a 25 years old guy, I did not learn anything from this video. These people are very sympathetic, but at the end of the day, their advices are common sens. I already don't spend time on social media (except youtube to learn english and other languages), I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I practice sport, I respect people and treat them as I would like to be treated, and I try to live my life to the fullest. The only thing is that society is too much wired around work, and spending 5 days a week working during 40 or 45 years is way too much. We should have more time to enjoy our passions and loved one. That's why I do firmly advocate for the 4 days work week.
As of 1/7/2023, I am 18, going on 19 in April this year. The one thing that I learned about in this video is to not care about what other people think, but at the same time, try to improve your character as you see fit. Never try to change or conform to a "trend" because it'll die out eventually. As the lady said at 8:49, do not worry about other people's words. You are your own person and define who you are as an individual. Be true and authentic to yourself.
Don't take it too far, though. You do not have to listen to everything everyone says, but try to understand why they are saying it. Think about whether or not they might be making a valid point. Sometimes they are.
One thing I regret is wasting so much money in Bars!! I was making really good money in my 20's & 30's. I probably spent close to $1000 a month in Bars. ($60+ a night, 4 nights a week. It's not hard to do!) I wish I would have bought land. A retirement home! That's my advice to youngsters. It's OK to have fun. But life goes by fast. Don't waste your money on booze!
What an awesome video! I'm 44 and have anxiety about getting old but this helped lift a lot of that away. Notice, it's all about experiences. No one ever says, "I wished I'd bought a bigger TV..."
correct man. I'm also 44 and I have similar anxiety but even more so I can not stop reminiscing about the past. It's unhealthy but it's water under the bridge. Experiences are SO important, learning from positive and negative life events. I wrote recently in this video's comment section about travel. That I've been fortunate to experience it, and a lot of it. 44 U.S. States and 9 Countries in less than 45 years. A coworker of mine is our age and he never left the area he was born in. NEVER. so sad and wasteful. Good luck to you I agree this video helped me a bit too.
I am a single mother brought up two great kids. My biggest regret in my whole life was and still is my marriage. I am happy and relieved that it was over years ago. Only after a bad marriage that I appreciate my happy and free single life.
I can well understand what you mean,55 years ago I got devorsed ,I found I couldnt stand to be around that person I married. So glad to be single again I didnt even date for 30 yrs ,never got married again
Absolutely amazing video, I’m 26 and I personally feel that this content needs to be shared with people children in High School and young adults. The substance of this is truly incredible.
The sad thing is that, as a 25 years old guy, I did not learn anything from this video. These people are very sympathetic, but at the end of the day, their advices are common sens. I already don't spend time on social media (except youtube to learn english and other languages), I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I practice sport, I respect people and treat them as I would like to be treated, and I try to live my life to the fullest. The only thing is that society is too much wired around work, and spending 5 days a week working during 40 or 45 years is way too much. We should have more time to enjoy our passions and loved one. That's why I do firmly advocate for the 4 days work week.
What a great video. I am 32, I feel like I dont wanna go on anymore. No life goals, ambitions, skills, partners just surviving paycheck to paycheck with no future. It really eased my soul hearing these wonderful human beings’ answers. I found myself in some of these people and only when u stop progressing in life after university u can truly understand getting old. Thank u for this, really needed it.
I'm in the same boat, a few years older. Just getting that paycheck at the end of the month, nothing else going on, no friends or partner. I think you can always change this, it's up to us to make that change.. at least I have money now compared to when I was younger. True, once university stops, it seems like progress stops. But you can always develop more skills professionally, or learn a musical instrument. I for one plan to travel more this year, that should help with perspective.
It does not have to be old to regret. I'm 29 now and I feel regret so much for the years I didn't keep writing consistently (What I love). I've written so much when I was 18-20 but almost stop for about 8 years. It's a long time guys. The consequence here is I feel lost my enthusiasm in life, that's really matter. Tried to run away from fear and not facing with what I should do is a big regret. I almost lose 8 years for not living with the things I want. Whatever the reason, I feel shame for myself right now. At this time, I remember a quote: "The dream would not down...for even though I reasoned with myself that the thing was impossible, there was something inside which simply would not stop working." - Robert H.Goddard I will be back, soon! Can't let the remorse ruins my life anymore... I think we really need to find out and stick to something we love. That makes us spend our energy on meaningful thing and live a motivated life. Thanks for the meaningful video! It reminds me many important things.
To all those feeling like this I suggest you look into and research Islam.. I GUARANTEE if you do this with an open heart it will be the best decision of your life.
Travelling is really something that keeps one's mind active and growing. I travelled like hell starting from late 20's up to my 40's (backpacking in Europe, Asia and my home country , hiking, rafting, some posh business travels). First I did it alone, then with my wife and my kid. Frankly I have spent way too much of my budget on this, my parents and some friends telling me 'oh, you'd rather get a loan, buy a house, a nicer bigger car, stop spending your time and money on this bla bla'. Now we're locked up in war torn Ukraine where you can only shuttle between some shops and your home hiding from the russian missile raids (it's that 'meteor' the old guy was talking about) and I'm really happy I did what brought me and my family joy and happiness. We've seen different countries, met different people, lived in different places...Sweet memories somehow help us survive these dark times we're going through now. Life is so short and you never know when that 'meteor' will hit you.
Prayers for you and your family Jesus loves you!! Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints- Ephesians 6:10-18 NKJV bible.com/bible/114/eph.6.10-18.NKJV
I regret that I didn’t realize much earlier that I could sing well, and act on stage. I had the opportunity when I was 75! Such fun, and so validating!
Wonderful video 🙂! I am 63, an MD,and I have been working in humanitarian aid for the last 35 years all over the world. I feel great and I am deeply thankful for the life I have had so far. My motto from a very young age has been: live every day so that you can drop dead tomorrow and say "it was worth it". My biggest regret: in 2008 I was working in Eritrea in the security zone. I was tired after a long day of work, standing at the side of my truck when a small boy asked me if I could give him the water bottle I was drinking from, and I said no to him quite harshly. I still feel deep shame remembering the hurt and despair in his eyes. Kindness and respect towards others in every situation are priceless. I failed myself and that boy that day. It was a lesson I will never forget.
Thank you for sharing! I have to say, pray for the boy and it’s okay to forgive yourself now. Don’t carry that baggage anymore. The Bible says, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” (James 5:16).
@@shoshanas5251 you’re using religion to excuse yourself out of a callous act? Just say, hey, snap out of it and move on! Drop all the other baggage. You didn’t know you have one too, huh?
@@heythave Huh? You never “fall short”? You always have it all together? BTW I don’t have a religion. Faith in Him does not require religion or sect. Of course I have baggage that’s why I need a Savior.
My grandmother is 102 years old. She still walks, cooks, laughs. She had a hard, hard life. At one point she was in a very physically abusive marriage. I've asked her about life. She told me this. Forgive. Learn to forgive and talk to God. Fight for your family, don't fight against your family.
I am eighty five and I would say there are no mistakes that people make..Only lessons to be learned. Whatever you did is fine, because it got you where you are and 🧒 are still alive.
I'm 32 and this video had me choked up. I lived the past decade struggling with alcoholism and regret not seeking help and defeating it by now. As result, for my 20s have been spending time alone and drinking myself into unconsciousness. But, I'm still trying and hope to start living a life my 80 year old self will regret less of. Edit: Thank you so much for the support folks and happy new year! I hope 2023 is as prosperous for you as it will be for me.
Don't you dare think your life is wasted. Soon you'll be 45... 55... and you can say you lived the past 23 years to the fullest. You have so much more life. Stop looking at the past as a reflection of who you are now. The greatest lesson I've learned is to let go and look at the past as a learning experience on what not to do. I've had so many friends fall into alcoholism once they've reached all their accomplishments, in their 30's, only to lose it all.
You can do this! I did not start to get myself together til I was 30 and I thought I was so old in doing so.....that was THIRTY years ago!! The way you worded it was so good! Make those good habits now until they become so ingrained you don't notice them.....they will carry you into a healthy, active old age. But a good Cognitive Therapy Therapist will help the most. Seek one out. They are awesome. As are Cognitive Therapy books. You can conquer this and live happily your next 70 years on the planet!
This video made me remind a trip my mum and I did to Buenos Aires. That was our first time ever abroad and we had so much fun together. Each lunch, dinner time and when we sat on the grass she shared something about my childhood, her childhood, about her 20s, about her feelings and in every detail I learnt something new. I laugh a lot when I'm with her and that trip made me want to listen and care more about her. One thing I've learnt is: be a friend of your parents and always take them out to do anything. And do the same thing with your uncles and aunts too.
You are absolutely right, I am 72 now, I had wonderful parents (in heaven now) travelled a lot lived abroad. Be grateful for everything God loves you & wants a relationship with you. Life makes more sense when you know Jesus. ❤️
I’ve got regrets about things I said to my parents …… & things I didn’t say. Regrets about things I did & didn’t do. Too late now. I imagine this is perfectly normal for most elderly adults.
Regrets? YES! My wife! We were around each other for years, we had common friends, but we never met. IF I could go back we would have met in school, and married the weekend after graduation. I also regret that after many decades of being together we can't spend another 60-70, or more years together. She is by far my best friend.
Waiting so long to except Jesus!! Working 70hrs a week for 40 years !! Regret not Going to trade school for car mechanic. Tired of paying for someone to fix my car !! Regret not Going to trade school to be electrician !! Tired of paying people.. Regret not going to to trade for carpentry!! Tired of paying people Never learn to fly small planes !!!
Appreciate this work of art. I’m 25, often in a position finding my place in society, worrying about various aspect of such. Hearing these testimonies made me realized that life alone is something that shouldn’t be taken with a faint of heart and reminded that now is the time to commit to dreams, health and my character. Please continue publishing more as this encourages myself and my peers to shift our lives for the better, ‘smart man learns from his mistake, wise man learn from mistakes of others”. Thank you.
Go to alaska and work your ass off period..Travel on your down time with your money earned in LatinAmerica. Get fluent in Spanish. retire at 48 to Miraflores Lima. marry a 35 year old professional babe. don't think. do.
As a “middle-aged” person that is closing in on old age all too fast, what has come as a realization to me is that….old folks weren’t always old; they were young and hip (or nerds) and had adventures and worries and good times and raised hell and were bored and all the other things that younger people think are unique to their own lives….old people weren’t always old, and that young person they were is still in there and is a big part of who they are!
This made me tear up a bit, especially the parts where they advise a younger person to not worry too much about being happy all the time or the pressure that comes when life is flying by without much improvement. It really hit home because I'm so hard on myself at 27 for not being married (all of my 6 siblings are married) and the expectation for a not-so-young man to have it all together; especially with status and maturity.
Stay true to yourself. There is a reason you are not married yet - and it’s to your advantage. It’s hard following the beat of your own drum. Stay focused on what you want, not what others expect of you. This is how you will “make a dent in the universe” - to quote Steve Jobs.
You don't have to be married ever if you don't want to, but if you do want to, know that you're MUCH better off waiting until the time and person are right than rushing into it to meet some arbitrary deadline. You will be happier this way whether you have to wait until you're 30 or 60. Best of luck to you!
Dude.... don't feel anyway bad....you could meet someone tomorrow or in a decade however you'll be more GRATEFUL that you waited for the "right one" not the "one"... & trust me; your siblings although maybe delighted they are with someone, they too can harbor feelings at times of wishing for the single life also.... To make you feel somewhat better & to put life into prospect..... Am considered WAY over the hill compared to you....46 & luck hasn't brought a significant other into my life yet, however; I've fulfilled my life in other ways & have found my true happiness within me, not through finding someone else to do that for me.
My eldest sister died unexpectantly in her early 20's. My dad died unexpectantly in his late 50's. A few years ago, i almost lost my brother (he was 33 at that time) in a car crash. By the grace of God he survived. But recently, my second sister passed unexpectantly in her early 40's. Death doesn't care about how old you are so. Death don't care whether you're prepared or are ready. If you're young, don't think you have plenty of time. Even if 20 years went by since the last death. If you're older, thank God you were given this much time. And keep contact, check in and tell all your loved how you feel about them. That's what I've learned so far, these are my biggest regrets
What is the biggest lesson that YOU have learned that you would like to pass on to a stranger? Drop it below!
comfort kills you, dont live to only be happy, learn to enjoy problems and live your present day
Don't worry about the result, just focus on making it with love
I would say be curious about people older than you, they have a LOT to offer. I agree with the lady who says you don't get much attention as a woman as you age, this is true. and men our age are out looking for younger/hotter. Bummer.
What words of wisdom do you treasure most from your parents or guardian?
Have high hopes, have lower expectations and do your best ☺️.
My Dad got a PhD in his 40s, wrote a book in his 50s, started a business enterprise in his 60s and is heading toward 70 and is calm, fit and healthy. He told me that compared to the Earth we are children, there is no such thing as old age, it’s how you feel and live.
Nice
That's great, I like to hear those stories.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ this
That's amazing. Praying that everyone who sees this will experience similar success in their own lives.
The body gets old but if we do not have any aches or pains I feel like I am in my mid 20's.
My mother died of cancer when she was 48. On her deathbed she offered her regrets: "I hate that I spent so much time at work and didn't get to know my children. I hate that I spent so much time dieting and didn't get to eat my favorite foods. I hate that I spent so much time worrying about whether the house was clean. I hate that I spent so much time worrying about what people who didn't care about me thought about me. Just have a peaceful life; nothing else matters."
Thank you 🙌
Great advice
She wanted you to know that and she didn’t want you to make the same mistakes
Truths and I’m so sorry. 🙏😢
Thank you
“Not being happy is not the same as being Ill” … “it’s just normal life. Sometimes you’re happy about things sometimes you are not.” That right there is wisdom.
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Yep, that comment stuck with me, also. Happiness is not guaranteed. For most of human existence life has been a struggle and happiness was of secondary importance, surviving was the priority. Just within the past 100 years or so has humanity advanced to the point to where daily life has become much easier, with various creature comforts that were unknown to previous generations. Opportunities are much more available to the average person these days. Yet, we have an epidemic where some folks are trying to escape their reality through drugs, alcohol, gambling, pornography, even social media. Strength of character is forged in adversity.
Being content in your life is a plus. I can honestly say that as someone in my 60s. I’ve had wonderful highs and a few lows but overall I’m content with my life and there’s a lot to be said for that.
@@agf1700 kidding 2 say content... just so misses r fewer... "I live it my way " is just a song...no choice..u made bad choices
@@ifuknjk English is obviously NOT your first language because your comment makes zero sense.
One thing that really stuck to me and i learned it from alot of older people is that no matter the worries or what happens, it will be alright over time.
Nah
Sometimes it isn’t
@@Aubrey2004-j4k sadly true
I love what that guy said about feeling like the same person looking out .... but then being shocked when you see yourself in the mirror. That's the ageing experience in a nutshell.
LOL, looked great till I put my reading glasses on and looked in mirror!
Ditto! That's me.
could not agree more. i was mind blown by that (true!) statement.
I tell twenty year olds I meet this exact same thing. It is a surreal feeling because on the inside, the mirror inside your mind, you are the same person you were at twenty, just with loads more experience. When you are young, you think you are going to feel like a totally different person when you hit old age, but you don't. I think people over 60 should wear a badge with pix of their 25 year old self on it. THAT's who you are talking to...not the person with grey hair, wrinkles and dentures...that picture is who that person is still, on the inside. My 101 year old Gram says the same. 😅
@@lisaahmari7199 Oh to be back in a 20 yr old body with the wisdom gained at 60 - wouldn't that be something?
“I take no medication, I can’t remember when I’ve had a headache, I feel good” god bless him he sounds like such a sweet guy🙏🏼🙏🏼🥺
My father in law was just like that, and lived 88 years, most of them good
hes forgot to say that hes also got a sclerosis
"I take no madication, I can't remember when I've had a headache, I can't remember the beginning of this conversation."
In a world where there’s youtubers going around asking people what their body count is, or what their sexual fantasy is, this type of content is extremely rejuvenating and refreshing. This has substance and I’m using these peoples’ answers as genuine advice and reassurance that I should enjoy my 20’s instead of stressing about life.
I always wonder why and how humans can focus on such minuscule things like body count and sexual nonsense when there are starving people in the world. Why not go around asking for ideas on how to solve such issue? Or people with no medical access, how can we get together to get medical access to them? Or something simpler like this video that can teach the younger gens about life from the lenses of the wiser. It’s baffling
Same. Its wonderful
Oscar, me thinks you are wise. 😊
spend more time studying
I think sex is a wonderful and interesting thing, but life advice is fascinating too :)
The nurse who said we don't have to be happy all the time nailed it.
@@RURALWORLD-fe7eu they are addicted to instant gratification...
Life is not about happiness, it’s about survival
Its about the mode@@steelearmstrong9616
That was my favorite part ❤️
@@steelearmstrong9616 the worst way to live your life
My father was an amazing retired fighter pilot and commercial pilot . His philosophy was , “Do not complicate things . Keep things simple - keep everything simple.”
He did complex things simply. Best advice ever .
Couldn't agree more
True , Life should b simple but its hard to b simple , don't get me wrong , the wants r still the same , food , shelter & some love, appreciation & we hav still not figured it out .
Oh wow! The son of a fighter pilot here! I'm 59 now. My father flew all the Cold War jets in Pakistan back.in the late 1950s and through the mid 1970s. MIGS, American F86s, F104s and some more. Like your father, he became a commercial pilot after retirement and flew the older Boeings, DC10, and the older versions of the 747 "Jumbo Jet. He passed away in 2017 at 80. His philosophy was the same as your father's. I'd like to belive that they have joined their group of hellraisers somewhere out there!😊
@@nadermazari3334 they really were a different type of person: humble hell raisers . Dad flew F -102 , F 89 , F106, F101, and I forget the rest . He flew for Pan Am for 20 years then United until 1996 . I am so glad he isn’t around to see what this country , the military, and the airline industry has become . He died at 80 as well in 2015. Super humble , chill , and skilled person .
It's called Occam's razor or the law of parsimony, first stated back in the 14th century.
"Just be a good person. If you're a good person, somehow everything works out to be good." Simple but powerful
i hope this works for me
@@iunderstanphotography2780 hope it works well for you
I would like to think that I’m a good person, but nothing has worked out for me the last few years. I’ve just been bullied, used, abused by everyone that I come across
God: NO ONE IS GOOD. NOT EVEN ONE.
@@EpicIntegral Someone once said we can't control how others treat us, but we can choose how we respond.
We can give people what they deserve, which is death ultimiately, but... those who give no mercy shall get none, on Judgment Day.
As for being taken advantage of, that's happened to mee too. I once gave money to an atheist I met in high school, but he was lying about his situation. I had given him the benefit of the doubt. When it was confirmed that he was lying, since he didn't respect me even after I helped him, and he was demanding I give him more, I just called him a total pice of shit. LOL! I wasn't supposed to do that, but it was satisfying. If they bully you, then avoid them if you can. I gave my ex-wife many chanes to repent, but she had no intention to change. The lying Scambodian kept doing what she did, so when she pushed my hehad back, I snapped and was no longer Mr. Nice Guy. I beat her down. LOL! Dumb feminazi atheist Scambodian bitch thought she could get away with that! I had authroty over her to discipline her, and took that right. That bitch let people smoke near my baby! She wants a slave out of my child! That's the only reason shehas my child! She doesn't love her.... That's my biggest mistkae, was to give pearls to swine. But i DO forgive her... :God demands it. If I don't forgive, I will not be forgiven. But I must discipline those under my authority who are obstinate in their rebellion. Hope that helps. Be nice, but not too nice.
I'm 74 years of age. The two most recurring themes in this video of older peoples' advice for younger people is, "Do not care as much what others think of you.", and "Do not delay doing what you want to do in life." I can say these two pieces of advice are actually connected. In other words, we often delay pursuing our actual passions because we fear judgment from friends and family about choosing a less "regular" path in life. And conversely, we often do things we aren't actually passionate about just to appease the judgment of others. One of the hardest things to do in life is to cross the valley from your social support shaming or judging you for not being who they want anymore, to the beautiful place on the other side where a different social support network arises who love you because of your identity in the life you ACTUALLY are choosing out of passion and love. Life is short. Begin that shift as soon as possible.
Love this!
Great advice.
Well said!
Well said. I got goosebumps reading this!
Thank you.
It's really wonderful to come across people who freely share valuable information online. You never know what kind of knowledge you might stumble upon that could have a lasting impact on your life.
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What specific type of investment are you referring to? I'm aware that making money through investing is not as straightforward as it may appear.
Cryptocurrency trading appears to be quite lucrative. Despite the constantly changing nature of Bitcoin, it's evident that the cryptocurrency community is here to stay. John Joseph, you're doing an excellent job.
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It's amazing how much of their advice is about the "ego" or "lower self".
Perhaps the key to a great life is: Being kind, knowing yourself, following your heart and adding value to the world.
Great point
Perhaps the key to life is rightousness. Literally the point of the bible
@@BRIANROSER No, the point of the Bible is that the All-powerful, All-Knowing Creator of Everything messed up and now we all have to wait till He decides to fix things, but he's in no damn rush to do that.
I met a man in his 90s when I was volunteering at a hospital. He played the violin and learned how to play it in his late 60’s. It is never too late ❤️
I'm happy to say that at 67 I learned to crochet this year and am now making little hats and blankets for babies in the hospital. Who knew? It really IS never too late to pick up something new!
I started my keyboard journey 22 weeks ago and I’m in my late 30’s. I decided I’m going to regret it if I don’t ever learn so I’m shocked I haven’t missed a single week. I put myself on a 10 year journey based on 10mins a day 2-3 days a week. All about incremental progress.
Wow.
@@teenytinytoons Good for you!
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"Never do anything that causes remorse, because remorse is something you cannot repair" that brought me to tears, that's how profound it was
Yes. I'd say make sure you develop (or reinforce) a code of ethics in your character which informs decisions, then you'll have less of a chance of being remorseful.
I would just never do anything then
You can repair it by doing good deeds that eventually carry their weight higher than your bad deeds. Don't ever give up folks. We got this.
Your own actions, or inactions, are more likely to cause you harm than what someone else may do to you in your life. There are exceptions, of course, but you're more apt to step on your own foot than for someone else to do it.
WARNING!!! HELL IS REAL !!!!! Where will you go when you die? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If we will repent of our sins and put our trust and faith in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will be saved. ROMANS 5:8 Even when we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Just retired this year…and regretted it within six months. Already traveled the world, no other passions to explore. My job was fun and the money great. I retired because all my friends were retired and thought I was missing something. I wasn’t. Never quit a job you love.
I have been retired for 18 years. The biggest thing I miss about working is all the people. The second biggest is I feel worthless.
Having a job you loved sounds so nice. I wish more people could say the same. You're so fortunate.
No need to retire, just find another job that suits your current lifestyle. I don't see myself ever retiring.
I retied when I was 77, and have regretted doing so for the past 2 yrs.
Never retire, too many empty hours.
"sometimes ur happy about things and sometimes ur not happy about things... and that's normal life." true words of wisdom 👌🏾
Life is not all about Happiness, and that's the reality that most of us can't accept or realize
I agree. There's so many of us who can't just sit with things or be silent. It's all about distraction and yes, life is good and bad. I had a rather frustrating shopping day at Walmart today but also had a great conversation with an elderly man in the housewares section. That's life! Isn't it great?
I am so impressed about how good they are at expressing themselves. Not all people get wise like that as they get older.
Yes I agree. I took up outreach work when I was 15 (60yrs ago) and learned the best way to help someone is to listen very carefully to them first. I was so impressed by those folks who thought carefully first before speaking.
True 👍🏻
@@peternicholsonu6090 I learned from you🫡
Hearing all the “it’s NEVER too late” stories of people learning instruments, for example, is incredible. Excellent. You KNOW the gentleman saying “music is in me” COULD STILL learn an instrument.
I'm 34 but have a plan to do an epic work of music despite no experience creating music other than in my imagination. I wouldn't say piece of music, since that would imply it not be complete.
@@scintillam_dei "piece" in musical speak means a complete work. That's why terms like "masterpiece" exist.
@@PeterNjeim Piece means part, and to say piece to mean the opposite of piece, is equivalent to saying "sick" to mean "good" or "cool." Some don't mind flipping things around, but not me. I'll stick to my own preferences instead of popular topsy-turvy-ness.
@@scintillam_dei Edit: typo
you're committing one of the biggest linguistic fallacies and trying to play it cool, weirdly. It's a standard definition found in the dictionary, being confidently wrong isn't a virtue. The usage of "piece" in this instance means "a piece of work", as in "a single work", *_not,_* as you falsely claim "a piece of _a_ work".
It's similar to saying "a piece of clothing", or "a piece of advice", or (referring to an article) "a hit piece" or "I wrote a piece about the history of Ronald McDonald".
Anyways, I'm not going to spend any more time explaining semantics and etymology to someone who's self-admittedly close-minded
@@PeterNjeim Wow, you have sand in your vagina because someone has a preference in language where more than one option exists. It's that time of the month, isn't it? LOL!!
Talking to old people is like finding a treasure. May God take care of them.
Ditto. I could listen for hours to an older person describing life when they were young.
I know so many people over 60 who say, their biggest regret was not waking up out of religion sooner.
@@WhoThisMonkey Yeah Religion is a business.
@@HughButler-lb6zsRomans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone. 18 Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works. 19 Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.
@@WhoThisMonkeyRomans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".❤😊
"Never do anything that might cause remorse because remorse is something you cannot repair" .... What a statement!
She sounds French but maybe it's just me...
Thank you bro for your shooting such nice interviews, we are young generation and really need of advise which already crossed life way, life school.
@@hirozensarutobi4838 Yes, I would say so (I'm French)
It's another way of saying we have to be in touch with ourselves, understand our values and honor them. Being true to ourselves t is the best way of not having remorse later.
@@MarianoBillinghurst Well, but everyone is changing over time and there will always be some remorse. Being true to yourself today might be a different true after you will have become wiser tomorrow.
I’m 35 and worry way too much about things we’re not gonna care about in 20-30 years. Thank you for this. Such a good wake up call.
Same!!
Plan for retirement! You may live way longer than you think! It can be wonderful or a broken down hell! It is how you plan for it NOW that determines your fate! (77 and retired for 22 years)
I feel the exact same!!❤
The sad thing is that, as a 25 years old guy, I did not learn anything from this video. These people are very sympathetic, but at the end of the day, their advices are common sens. I already don't spend time on social media (except youtube to learn english and other languages), I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I practice sport, I respect people and treat them as I would like to be treated, and I try to live my life to the fullest.
The only thing is that society is too much wired around work, and spending 5 days a week working during 40 or 45 years is way too much. We should have more time to enjoy our passions and loved one. That's why I do firmly advocate for the 4 days work week.
@April Tusitala I will copy the same comment I wrote under the video here. Hope that helps.
I am 26. I don't have a lot of advice, but one philosophy for life I have derived from my experience is, - Make a short term (whatever you think is short term
Im 34, this video is a wake up call to be more human more here now than rushing for tomorrow. Makes me feel I need to be more grateful and joyful than stressing out daily for what I dont have yet.
Kudos for you
Well said
In Africa ,the older you are ,the more the society sees you as the wisest person .
A lot of older people live their best life,they are so respected and revered!!
That is the culture I so love.
In Bangladesh too❤🇧🇩🎉
Old age does not equal wisdom...
@@SamiaAkthar-gj5ix Mashallah
Days before my father passed away, he said: "Life goes by in a flash - just a flash." He was so right. One minute you're at high school - next minute you're 30. It just sneaks up on you. And you think: Wow, where did the time go?
Time - Pink Floyd
I swear it was just 2 years ago I was walking to elementary school, smelling the freshly cut grass in the morning and already thinking about what game I was going to play after school. Now I'm 34 and it's all work work work.
Hahaha you’re feeling this way at 30? Wait till 50 is breathing down your neck. Don’t waste your 30’s you’ll never have more energy than you do right now.
Most people have poor memories. That’s where the time went.
Listen to 'Time ' no sod it, the whole album; Dark Side of the Moon. We grew up with this warning about not letting life pass you by, and also Disney's 1967 'Bare Necessities' from Jungle Book, live by that and you'll always be in charge. (I'm 59)
One lady hit it. I’m 65 and I told my grandson that one thing I regret is not being kinder to people in my youth. I have much more grace toward people now, understanding that everyone is in a different place and you never know what people are going through so, don’t take everything personal. That’s how I want people to treat me.
We need to build up a certain amount of resilience in order to embody that grace. It takes building perspective to learn why we shouldn't take things personally. The blessings of become mature.
Don't be too kind.
People look for easy marks.
I ruined my life lending out huge sums of money.
Don't give anybody a shekel.
@@rentslave I’m well aware of that.
@@dudewhathappenedtomycountr9099 that was very well put. I'm going to repeat that first chance I get......I'll act like I came up with it too. Maybe have one of those English smoking jackets and a tobacco pipe handy so I look more authentic.
On second thought, I'll just tell them you said it. I'll still be cool.
@@schmingusss I feel you can be kind and not reduce yourself to the lowest common denominator; becoming as bad as they are. It’s very difficult to rise above it sometimes but very powerful when you do. Money can sometimes take the place of youth when your older; everyone wants to get in your purse.
Learning how to manage my time. I wasted way too much time worrying about what other people thought. Turned out they didn’t like me anyway, they are gone and I
missed out on some of the most precious things in my life. Be brave. You are worth it.
I hope that you no longer waste your previous time on uncaring ones
I asked the 101 year old grand grand mom of my best childhood friend what advice she has for me. She said: „Never say impulsive things to your loved ones in anger, because you can never take them back.“
Its true, the pain you cause will stay with them forever.
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That is my biggest regret. It haunts me. My oldest son was the victim. We are very close now and I have apologized many times and have told him he is a better man than any I have met. Nevertheless it haunts me.
Just know that he loves you and understand humans are not perfect. He's also aware you love him and he cherishes that even if he can't express it in words.
@@Neil-ht8fv together we learn: Trees good, military bad!
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Thanks
I’m 34. Yesterday, I spent from noon to 9pm fighting off an anxiety attack because I wasn’t able to complete a work task due to internet issues. Watching this the next morning & all I can say is thank you. To all the people who offered their wisdom…you’ve helped me recalibrate & focus on enjoying the holidays with my family ❤
I’m 59 and looking back I feel that I always focused too much on the next task or milestone and did not take enough time to enjoy the journey which is what life is actually.
Enjoy the now would be my advice, things just work out whatever path you choose
That's what the holidays is all about, family 🙏
I am 71 year old male
Seems like my best advice would be Follow Your Joy
Whatever floats your boat or spins your prop do that as ong as it isn't hurting your health or illegal
Bye now worry less
Mariano, is that you?
@@diprefranco Nope, not me, but close enough
This is fantastic. Elders have so much lessons to teach yet we never take the time to listen to them. I'm so glad you made this video, it's like a hidden treasure !
I’m turning 40 in two years. I started watching these videos of seniors telling stories. It’s very valuable, thank you for sharing your stories and experiences
I'm 64 and my best advice is to get fit and stay fit. I was 25 when I changed my entire lifestyle. My friends would give me crap for being so health conscious and say "Why do you do all that, so you can live 5 years longer?" No, that's not why, I did it because I've enjoyed a life of great health and having the ability to do anything physical that I desired. Today I'm 8 lbs heavier than I was at my peak condition and I'm still active. Living long is not the only goal, it's living well and enjoying the abilities that come with being fit.
Bob Natarell; I got same crap and now they say I am lucky, One 'crap-giver' hasn't walked in 8 yrs on his own, could die any day & is only 3 yrs older than I. I am making plans to travel south to play baseball with my grandson and help him with his practice(ing) and to help out with my 4 yo grand daughter. We have a blast !My siblings (5) are not much better than the one guy I mentioned earlier, with not much energy and seem somewhat depressed. They stay home a lot. I look forward to traveling the country and taking my two bicycles with me. One bike is an electrical assist (that helps me when needed to get exercise, mainlyy when there are hills and/or wind, it has fatter tires to get off the paved/groomed paths more often and I love it !
I think they are bothered more by the attitude that comes with being "health conscious".
This is something I'm currently working on at the age of 38. Very encouraging advice :)
I had to screen shot this. Thanks so much bobnat.
You don't have to wait years to feel the benefit of being in better shape. If I don't exercise for approx. a month, it only take 2-3 weeks of regular moderate running or biking or weight-lifting to feel notably better when I wake up. (I'm 55).
I'm on the cusp of turning 60. In addressing my biggest regret I'd like to offer young people my best advice. I made the mistake of thinking something was wrong with me because I wasn't like everybody else. It affected my self-esteem for a very long time and cost me many opportunities over that time span. It took a long time before I realized I had a lot to offer the world by being the real me. Though the sum of your experiences in life will shape your character, you were born exactly as you were meant to be. Embrace the real you.
Beautiful, thank you.
What a lovely gift. Thank you.
Wow! That's a great advice, thank you!
That is so profound. Thank you very much ❤
oh no this me
You are a great interviewer, and you were very kind and respectful to these people. I actually cried through this whole thing. You recognized them as valuable, and someone hasn't done that for them in a long time.
Hello Elizabeth
How are you doing today?
Good interview, but it seemed it was all done up maybe in New York city. A larger pool of more diverse people would have produced more useful knowledge.
Yes you were respectful and it shows that you had a good upbringing.
Awe gee, I hadn’t cried the whole video until I got to your comment. Are you a water sign too? Cancer?
@@rebeccaw8820 what?
I love the straightforwardness of these people. Worth watching over and over again.
“Not being happy is not the same as being ill”......That really resonated with me. I’ve had both in my life and I’d gladly choose unhappiness over being ill. Live your life. ❤
right after that she said "youre not gonna be happy everyday. its ok, its normal life". Literally 50-80% of young people dont understand that.
@@PolishBehemoth Young people understand, they are smarter than you because their brains work faster and more logically with less bias.
My unhappy is a dual edged sword. It is that spirit of believing I can accomplish more that keeps me fired up.....but taking on challenges will always lead to some defeats. So I wallow when I fall.....until the next foolish idea takes hold....and then I'm all in with a big smile!
@@MrLoobu Yeah, no they're not. They're fallible, flawed human beings just like older folks. Only thing there is more of that youthful arrogance that clouds their mind.
@@jeffmorse645 We are both generalizing of course but biology would agree with me.
"If you are a good person, some-how everything turns out to be good". This is one of the most under rated advice.
I think it is not that simple actually. You need to be far more deliberate and intentional as life goes by so fast.
You can be a good person and make poor choices, so it’s about making good choices every day.
Love is the key!
Love yourself, love others. Be authentic. Know your value.
Choose good relationships. Be mindful of toxic people. Look after your heart above all else. 🌸
@@loveishappiness7330 It is even simpler. Look, there is no good or bad choices. There is only choices you make. If you are good person, every choice you'll make will turn out just fine. I don't think you're there just yet but you will eventually get there. Everything else you describe actually makes a good person.
To me it means that even when life deals you a bad blow, be kind, have positive thoughts, and keep on persevering.
“Good” is a subjective term and has a different meaning for everyone.
when I behave well towards other people and help them, they do not appreciate it, they just use it and do not help in return when I ask for it, or they completely deceive and that's it
My dad is 81 years old he worked as a marine engineer and travelled a lot because of his job, in his 60's he retired then he studied Biblical studies and became a minister and then he be studied to be a priest. Which is now his occupation. Currently he is also learning to play guitar and the piano. He is also writing a book. My dad just never quits age means nothing to him he just focuses on his goals and keeps going I'm so proud of him.
I want to be like him when I get to his age. Inspiring! Thank you to him and to you for sharing.
You do have an amazing dad! Hope you did get his good genes! God bless you both!
God I wish my Dad was like him
@@skinnydee1886 thank you so much and yes I'm he has big shoes to fill genes aside lol but I do my very best to always try new things and explore new horizons. God bless and have a beautiful day!
@@shodapad07 you can do it I believe everyone is possible of achieving goodness and greatness in little things or big things don't let age dictate you. Always keep trying and pushing yourself to live your life to the fullest.
Keep active, don't smoke, don't drink and have fun!!! best advice ever!!!
What makes me sad is that younger generations rarely pay older generations much attention or give them much acknowledgement - like the world is designed to prioritise young people that live on a separate plane of existence. I am 23 and I think there is so much life experience and valuable lessons that older people can share but much of it is left untold because people don't have enough deep conversations with them and ask them questions.
Im 24 & we’re on the same page
That’s not the case in Asia. Older people get a lot of respect and people really pay attention to making sure it was done correctly.
I’m 24, and I wholeheartedly agree. I only have one grandparent left alive to ask for advice or question for experience. With my parents being my next source of info. So even when interacting with those older than yourself, don’t shove them aside cause you’ll never know what you’ll learn that day.
Good for you! ❤️ you are my son's age. It is good to know that there are a lot of people in their twenties that still respect those that are older. I find it really sad that too often it's more like, "Okay, boomer".
@@tparbs it’s sad really. I know me and my best friend were raised on relying with respect and manners to the “yes sir/mam” approach, plus nuns will instill manners into you be it through fear or willpower. So the fact that many my age (not all) don’t see respect to elders are missing out on valuable life advice. They’ll learn eventually when they become the “boomer.”
I really felt bad for those who thought they were worthless bc they were old. I love getting to learn from older people bc not only do I find their stories fascinating, but I can also add anything valuable to my life. Hopefully more older ppl feel appreciated.
What you said is so sad and so true. Old people do feel irrelevant in today's times. Don't know why and what caused it.
yes , at least they move to japan
Thanks treat people the way you want to be treated…
Unfortunately that is the way you are made to feel. I had terrible problems with finding a new job in 2015 because at 45 I was deemed "over the hill". And the younger generations interviewing me were rude enough to mention it.
I'm 20 and I see that a lot of young people are just ignores old people and that makes me sad. C'mon you can learn from them good stuff.
6:30 Wild applause! I'm 53 and really regretting all the time I spent worrying about how I look! It didn't help that I came from coastal SoCal, where looks are given a higher priority than in other parts of the world. I've stopped wearing makeup and am letting my hair go gray and you know what? The world is still turning PLUS I have more money now!🤣
You're 53? You look 35
I respect and admire much more for those without much makeup and natural hair. I feel like they're more confident in themselves that way.
She is so right on the social media/selfies thing. So self absorbed.
I'm heartened by the reverence towards our elders here. They have so much to teach us
I've always hated my birthdays, but I just turned 44 last week and looked at it completely differently... I felt fortunate to make it this far. a lot of people I've known were never fortunate enough to make it to their 40s. be thankful for what you have today because tomorrow is not promised.
I turned 40 on the weekend, and I can't believe where the time is gone . I feel much younger than that and it comes as a shock..wow, 40... But I'm glad I came across your comment. It's a good perspective to have :) Thank you
Thank you, I needed that. I'm 44 turning 45 in a few days. I feel young and still "good-looking", but sad about getting older. Mainly because the dream of getting pregnant is less and less possible and I find it hard to come to terms with this.
I can so relate to that at 45,, it’s a big shift,,
It’s not that far if you look at it. Maybe half way
I'm right behind you at 43.
I couldn't agree with you more, many don't get close to us.
I’m 59, turning 60 in a month, and I really, really liked this video. Thank you for giving a voice to those of us that our youth focused society ignores. It was a nice way to start my day listening to my “peers”.
I regret not asking questions to those dear souls who have passed on. I would ask my Grandmother what it was like for her when she was a teenager and continuing that conversation until the day she left us.
I am 76 I always say to myself why I didn't ask my parents and grand parent questions. I have a million now.
Agree 100% I had intended for all of my Mother-in-law’s grandchildren to sit down with her and do an “interview,” asking her all the questions they would someday not have the privilege to ask. Sadly, she passed expectedly soon, and we never got the opportunity to do so. It’s a great regret of mine. At 69, I guess I should do this NOW with my own children! 😳 That’s a startling realization! Tomorrow is promised to no one. 🥲
And parents, both of mine died 3 years (ish) ago at 62 I'd love to ask them about their childhood,thoughs & aspirations.
Yes, for sure. I have the same regrets. I have family members that live to 100 and older. I often imagine how many stories they could tell when they were alive, I never ask and i will never know. In my early years I was raised by a great grandmother who was born in 1882, past away in 1982. My recent grandmother past away at 102, I learn somethings about her younger years and about her parents, but i didn't ask enough.
Just the other day I was wishing my grandaddy was still alive to ask him for advice. Then I realized I’m 70 & a grandparent…shouldn’t I know the answers by now? Lol
3:33 "You dont have to be happy all the time. sometimes your happy sometimes youre not. Its just normal life" Wow. I really felt that. Had to pause the video. Really amazing simple wisdom.
A corollary to this is you don't have to be entertained or stimulated all the time. It's natural and healthy to be bored sometimes. This is the biggest lesson Gen-Z needs to learn, IMO.
I'm 54 BTW.
“ I feel like I’ve learned enough to just get started.” Wonderful response
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Because of you, these people felt as they should, important… worthwhile, not invisible. And had so much to share! Thank you!
My biggest regret is worrying about everything my whole life, which prevented me from appreciating all the good things I had.
I just wasted my most precious years of life just by thinking the same
Same here. If I could start again at 18 years old, I would work hard, then play hard and let the cards fall where they may. I would also embrace discipline, because discipline will lead you to success and make your playtime more enjoyable.
Me too......
“Just be a good person, and if you’re a good person things will just work out”… words well spoken.
Nah, you'll just get used.
That is definitely not always true. I know some great people that terrible things have happened to.
Wishful thinking
@@schmingusss Be nice to thankful people but say no to the felfish ones who are trying to use your kindness.
You have to do what you need to do. You can’t just “be a good person” and hope things work out well for you. I know, that was my mistake.
I met a woman who looked like she was 55 years old. She was petite and slim. I was surprised to know that she was 94 years old! So I asked her what her secret was because she looked so young. She replied, “I never worried about a thing.”
Bullshit! It's all genetics. I know of someone who smoked a lot, drank a lot, and got into lots of fights, but still lived till 105 years.
The universe gives you what it gives you: Some have long lives, some have wealth, some have beauty, some have high IQ's
I believe that!! Cuz stress is so destructive for our (mental) health!
@@MentalGrowthBuddy
So true, it's very de-energizing 😞
How nice to live in a dream world. Can anyone that is sane live without any worries at all? If you were born rich, and with alien DNA, maybe. I never worried about anything - because I was already dead ;)
I wish I could STOP worrying but I’ve been a worrier since I was a youngster. I was a hypochondriac so they said when I was a child and I’m falling right back into that title and it’s not like I want to, it’s just my makeup I suppose. Although I was raised by my dad he was a worry wart and he would say things like I’m gonna die and I would end up freaking out over stuff he was saying so I think he caused me to be that way but I’m not totally sure and I’ll tell you what if you can live life without worrying then you’re one lucky or shall I say you’re one blessed person because it’s horrible to worry about everything as I do I worry about my health and that’s probably why my health is been suffering for the last seven years.
If I could change it I most definitely would.
But right now I have a lot of health issues going on and I’m only 61 years old and I’m about to have surgery on my gums and I am stressing over that and I have leaky gut and any amount of money I have saved is all going towards my health issues and believe me I don’t have much money and I don’t trust medical doctors all they do is push drugs on you without finding the root cause of your problems so I worry about doctors and hospitals and try to stay away from both of them
"It looks the same looking out, but people see you entirely differently. And in today's society, they look at you like your worthless." That was powerful
Truth
I was INVISIBLE when I was YOUNG, and I had SO MUCH FREEDOM!!! It is hard when people want to know EVERY DETAIL OF YOUR PERSONAL LIFE!!! When I get older and invisible again, I will regain my FREEDOM!!!
UNLESS YOU PULL UP IN AN AVENTADOR! THEN THEY LOOK AT YOU LIKE YOUR AS POWERFUL AS THE CAR!
I feel that, and I'm 42
@@rollingdudes8859 i was young and good looking, now middle aged and invisible, the invisibility started just a few years ago. It's very uncomfortable, like being a ghost.
Once you're in your 60s and beyond, you suddenly look back and wonder how so many decades could have passed since you were born, and it takes you by surprise. Well, as they say, days have a way of creeping into lifetimes. It'll happen to all of us.
I’m 67 and know exactly what you’re saying.
This is by far the most heart felt video I've seen in a long time. I honestly appreciate this pal.well done
My granny died a year ago with almost 102! Until the very end, she was mentally active, optimistic, very caring and she was always in a good mood. She even wanted to travel from the US to Barcelona! I will carry this energy forever in my mind and in my heart. So many learnings from my grandma ❤️ Thank you for this wonderful video!
My grandma was like that too. Most active people I know led a disciplined life with a lot of social interactions.
I wish I had gotten therapy in my early 20s to come to terms with my childhood abuse. I could have come to terms with my experiences and developed coping skills instead of just bumbling along for decades. To young folks: Treat yourselves to a few therapy sessions. It feels great to have someone ask thought-provoking questions and point out things that don't occur to you.
The most important thing in my life was to be my own person. Every hobby that I fell in love with I made my occupation at some point in time. I did still manage to marry and raise a family. But the best advise I gave my children as they were growing up was to do and be what they wanted, not what anyone else wanted. They are all successful and have great families. I followed what I loved at the time and had careers as a auto body repair person who opened his own shop, at 42 years old I became a flight instructor and charter pilot, as I alwyas loved flying. I also had a great love of music and played classical and jazz guitar all of my life since I was 15, so naturally I taught and did some playing in various venues. At 60 I became a minster and started a wedding's business. I married over 800 couples and also had a small church. At the same time I became a DJ and karaokee artist for the weddings business. After I retired I started a small home repair business to make a few extra dollars. I had always done my own repairs so I made a few extra dollars to supplement my SS checks. My best advise at 81, do what you love and the money will follow. You will also die happy, although I am not in a hurry.
Well... that was pretty stupid...
WOW! That is a life well lived!❤
What is wrong with you?! Lol
That is awesome!
@@edmourgagnon1504Just curious: how can it be “stupid” to have lived a life which enables you, at 81 years old, to say you can die happy?! @ggeorge4144
"It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own." --Marcus Aurelius
So true!
Because we see ourselves how we think others see ourselves.
WOW,,,Well said,,,
Thx for sharing this. Powerful
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Being unhappy is not the same thing as being ill, sadness is just a part of normal life🙌🏽
This one hit me the most.
The popular notion that we are entitled to happiness, that sadness is somehow wrong, has led to a nation of zombies on SSRIs, as well as a million divorces.
Dont let the pharmaceutical companies hear you repeat that. A big chunk of their profits is on Psych meds.
@@steveneardley7541 Well put!
I am 61 now and I feel the same as I always have. I think that is the thing people do not realize! We look different as we get older but that doesn't mean we ARE different.
Also, don't assume anyone is wise or not wise based on their age. Plenty of people get older without ever really learning anything, and plenty of younger people are thoughtful and wise.
That’s beautiful, what a nice nuanced view!
I'm 54 those and those are great points Lena. Funny some days I feel in my 20's and other's I imagine I'm in my 70's. Time has a way of reminding us..
I've seen 5-year-olds showing more responsibility and good sense than some 50-year-olds.
So true. This is something i realized after growing up. Not all old people are wise which is really sad
WARNING!!! HELL IS REAL !!!!! Where will you go when you die? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If we will repent of our sins and put our trust and faith in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will be saved. ROMANS 5:8 Even when we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Most older people have been humbled by the idea of their mortality. As death gets closer, it starts to feel like nothing matters anymore because in 10 years you won't be here. I think its important to take their perspective and meditate on it as much as possible.
i agree with you dude. its hugely important so at the time we feel less afraid. how old are you?
Absolutely bang on
@@vvelvettearssov
There is the offer and promise of everlasting life with Christ. Every person is known by God. Our lives are meaningful.
🖐✝️📖🙏🕊
Thank you for this. I am in my 50’s and have racked up some personal regret and am trying to apply the sage advice of older folks so i can stop or mitigate future regrets. I can change future outcomes by changing what I do now….🇨🇦
You got this
you go get it, boy!!
I cried while watching this video. I love listening to older people as they share their advice, their journey, regrets, etc. I am so thankful you made this video. I need to stress less and enjoy my life a little more.
I am 63. I always tried to please my parents. I went to college, got a "real" job and did everything they thought I should. Mom and Dad are gone now and I realize they didn't actually know anything. I was trained as a diesel mechanic when I was in my teens. I didn't follow that career path. I got a job working in heavy equipment when I was in my 60s and I realize now I would have been very happy following that path. As for regrets I wish I had not let so many opportunities go. If you are young and reading this develop some good habits Develop and exercise program and stick with it. Read a few books. Learn new skills. Talk to new people.
talk to new people
I resonate with the top half of this paragraph. Did you mean when you shifted career paths your parents wanted for you and is regretting it now?
@@bf5209 no the opposite
Yeah...I tell the younger generation not to go over 25 pounds pass their ideal weight and if they have gained a lot to not stay at that weight. It will cause disease later for sure.
@@bf5209 My parents just knew I wouldn't be happy and able to provide for a family as a diesel tech. They pushed me into corporate office jobs where I felt lost and useless most of the time.
I love the French woman who says, "Don't be a follower. Have an independent mind, your own judgment about things. Otherwise, you're going to become a robot." 🥰
Being in my early 70s, I found your video very entertaining. I really don't sit around regretting things these days. I actually regretted more things when I was young. Regret is a worthless endeavor. It is akin to worrying. My friend that died at 68 from Agent Orange Cancer basically had this advice, "focus on the passions in your life, because you won't get everything done, anyway, and focus on conveying your love for your loved ones, as much as possible."
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@@ifuknjk Not interested but thanks for the suggestion. I have hobbies of both Art and Music, and they take up all my time, and I love them!
@@kernjames art can b junk ; hip hop can b music...
@@ifuknjk in my onion there is only good art and bad art. The same with music, only good or bad. I like all forms of music and art. The solution to all the confusion is simple honesty and positive criticism. People can be very opinionated and start to believe their opinion is the only opinion that counts. Some are opinionated without basing their opinions in any facts but only in their emotions or taste. And some people have terrible taste. There are ways to judge music and art, with rationality as well as with emotion and taste. I might not like a painting or a song, but it still could be Good, if I base my critique of it both rationally and emotionally..
WARNING!!! HELL IS REAL !!!!! Where will you go when you die? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If we will repent of our sins and put our trust and faith in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and we will be saved. ROMANS 5:8 Even when we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
This made me remember that I'm only 20 and there's so many things I'm worried about that really don't matter. It also helped me remember that I have plenty of time to get my life together. I really do appreciate this.
How do you want to live your life? What do you want to experience?
@@DamienWilpitzEDC What if you don't know? I spend days thinking about it and nothing comes to mind.
Live boldly. I've seen studies that say most old people regret not having followed their own path in life, but having just done what was expected of them by family and friends. In the end other people's opinions don't matter much. Besides which they really don't think about you anywhere near as much as you imagine. Finally figuring that out is one of the best things about growing old. Young people are so obsessed with other people's opinions of them, and it creates a lot of unnecessary suffering.
@@steveneardley7541 And what if you don't know what path to follow because you are not interested in anything?
@@Re69. If nothing interests you, you are suffering from depression. Counseling maybe, but stay away from SSRIs if you can.
The lady that said she regrets not taking more trips when they were younger with less money really hits home to me. Im 35 now but constantly push off trips bc i cant afford nice trips but instead i should focus on what trips i can afford and do those.
Do it that way!!! Traveling does not have to be expensive if you look for good prices
Do it!!! I'm 44 and love to travel, whether it's low budget or luxury (I do both). It doesn't matter HOW you do it, just do it!
with cheaper trips i have learnt that more can go wrong because not everything is taken care of for you so instead of worrying about getting stuck somewhere just embrace it and take it as it comes. Maybe your trip will become even better than originally planned or maybe not, then try it next time again. I have made some awesome longterm friends from mishaps during my travels.
Yes and don’t limit your trips - do the dream trips now, just do them on a shoestring. You’ll figure it out!
Go for it.
@ 72 my advice is; don't put off those things you want to do thinking there will always be time. I did everything I wanted to do and now I'm in a wheelchair and have almost no regrets and no feelings that I missed something..
The lack of respect for old people in our society saddens me. It really depresses me to think that one day I'll get older and everyone will see me as worthless.
I'm old and it doesn't bother me because I have a shxx ton of money. The kid that changed the oil on my car asked if I was a Janitor because I have so many keys! I said "No those are for all my houses"
I like Zhuangzi and the Useless Tree. When you are worthless, you have nothing to be exploited. Nobody bothers with you, except the government I love it.
Not everyone. But there are some that have adopted strange ways of treating people much older then themselves. But its personal not general.
Let you ask this. Who would see warren buffet as worthless?
@@thedoor5442 good one I love it, I'm working towards to get tons of money as well. I'm 35 and almost millionaire and I already don't give a sh..t what people say no even care what they think about me cause most of them are fcking broke hehehehehe.
My dad always told me that even if an old person is not wise, they have still been on this planet longer than you, so you owe them your respect, and you should learn from them whatever they are willing to teach. Unfortunately many old people are still just children in many ways.
I like your Dad. Good man,!
That's such a bad advice. There's A LOT of rude and unhelpful elders out there. Perhaps you could hear what they have to say, but you have to take it with a grain of salt because many times they think things still work out the same way things did 40 years ago
This is excellent. Thank you. I’m a 54 year old, very youthful man. But its starting to creep in…the reality of aging. I’ve not really felt this until fairly recently. And the biggest thought I have is this: as I lose more and more people I love, due to aging and time, I realize that we NEED TO DO THE THINGS WE WANT TO DO….NOW. Tomorrow is not promised to the young, let alone the older. Live your life, be a happy and good person. Contribute and help others.
Hear! Hear! So true.
I will be 46 next month and I feel like I am BATTLING FATHER TIME EVERY YEAR!!! I also noticed that the older I get the HARDER I have to work to maintain good health!!!
@@rollingdudes8859 yes. I agree. Age is what happens if we are lucky enough to live. Doesn’t make it any easier, though.
Hi buddy
Right now I am 67 years old when I was 40years old I wanted to do the same thing what you are doing now interview older people and get advice ❤ don’t stop keep up the great work you do . God bless you
I'm 63. Been through ups and downs. Since 50 it has been more ups (fortunately). Travel whenever you can because for me, it is one of the few things a person can do later in life that gives them the same excitement as the magic of a Christmas morning when small. I actually empathize for the younger generation because accomplishing financial freedom is so much damn harder now than even 20 years ago. In my day, a high school diploma opened doors to employment at companies with well paid positions and opportunity to advance into the upper echelon. Now is way more competition for limited resources and decent employment, even for those with college doctorate degrees.
Totally disagree. With the internet, there are now far more opportunities for young people to make their OWN money. You've got brainwashed into thinking the only way to make money is to work for other people. WRONG. I've been self employed since 2005 and I'm very wealthy because of the internet, but I'm old enough to remember pre-internet times when making money was a lot harder.
@@blackporscheroadster6415 I'm self employed and have done quite well. My being empathetic should not translate to mean I work for anybody. Most people are not risk takers (if your self-employed you should know this) Risk taking and tenacity is the club most self-employed belong to excepting certain people who inherit a thriving enterprise from daddy . Sure there may be more opportunities to make money on the internet, but the majority people have a serf (I need a job) mentality and for them, it's definitely more difficult.
@@blackporscheroadster6415 Our money went a lot farther though and we had more time for other parts of life. I do see (literally) what you're saying though. It is tougher out there for the slow starters and those who aren't coached at all by their parents growing up. For instance, I was never told in high school that the reason to learn and get good grades was so you would have the opportunity to have more choices and opportunities to start your adult life. I was oblivious in high school and made sure my daughter wasn't. I wasn't a tyrant at all, just gave her the information. Might be the only thing she ended up listening to me about, lol!
It's much more wealthier than before when considering the economy as a whole. When 20 or 40 years ago, you thought it was easier for financial freedom but the truth is there was much more poverty that you didn't see.
I have been saying that community feels disconnected. We ship our kids off to school and our parents off to nursing homes. We need to hear from the older generations so badly. To the older people who believe that society looks down on them as worthless, this saddens me...we are not all that way. Some of us look at you for wisdom and respect you more than our own age bracket.
Thank you 😊
Because we live in a mercantile world. Everytime you are disconencted to society, you are usually connected to buying something and a company WON your attention. We have to teach ourselves and young people about free cool stuff ! dancing in a basement, great dinners of local famer's food, board games, playing cards, chess, basketball, swim, walk a lot, visit friends, play music, learn a craft, repair stuff, laugh, bicycle trips, bird watching etc etc etc hurray !
Well in the home you are shown every day. You can't sugar coat that much.
I’m 61. The lady that said to avoid “remorse” made a very wise statement. Remorse comes from hurting yourself and/or others and having awareness that you did so. Try not to hurt anyone, including yourself, as you walk through this life.
Lets include not hurting animals as well if we dont have to. This means we should go vegan if we dont want to cause unnecessary pain and premature death to animals.
People make mistakes. That should not define their future.
No abortion. No ignratitude like atheism.
@@jonas3590 I’ve been vegan for 6 years now, since age 55. I have perfect blood work and take no medications. Best decision I ever made for my health and the animals.
@@mw3027 That depends on what kind of mistakes people make. Some mistakes have lifelong consequences which do affect people’s future lives. Such mistakes may even be the cause of how people die. For instance, drug abuse is a mistake that can affect one’s health even after they quit using drugs. Past drug abuse can lead to illnesses such as kidney failure, heart failure, etc. Killing someone could land a person in prison for the rest of their lives. So some mistakes do define one’s future.
The answer by the lady wearing a read jacket to the part 6:38 is just so real. Yes, be nice to people. Even in my age of 39, I've come to realize that the meaner you're to people, the more negative accumulates within you. And the more you live like this, the worse you feel. Be kind to people. Be genuinely kind
Your video may be the most meaningful thing I've ever seen on RUclips. Also, you were very respectful and genuine with everyone. I am 73 by the calendar, but 25 in my heart. I have good health, a terrific wife, and a warm, dry place to sleep at night. I'm an American and an ex-Marine. Good Lord, what else could a man want?
Lucky you and God bless you and your wife
Hello Robert Sir
My best wishes for you and your wife
I am happy for you, Sir. I wish you a long a healthy life.
The sad thing is that, as a 25 years old guy, I did not learn anything from this video. These people are very sympathetic, but at the end of the day, their advices are common sens. I already don't spend time on social media (except youtube to learn english and other languages), I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I practice sport, I respect people and treat them as I would like to be treated, and I try to live my life to the fullest.
The only thing is that society is too much wired around work, and spending 5 days a week working during 40 or 45 years is way too much. We should have more time to enjoy our passions and loved one. That's why I do firmly advocate for the 4 days work week.
Belief in Allaah and his messenger is what you're missing.
You're kidding, right?
As of 1/7/2023, I am 18, going on 19 in April this year. The one thing that I learned about in this video is to not care about what other people think, but at the same time, try to improve your character as you see fit. Never try to change or conform to a "trend" because it'll die out eventually. As the lady said at 8:49, do not worry about other people's words. You are your own person and define who you are as an individual. Be true and authentic to yourself.
Don't take it too far, though. You do not have to listen to everything everyone says, but try to understand why they are saying it. Think about whether or not they might be making a valid point. Sometimes they are.
One thing I regret is wasting so much money in Bars!! I was making really good money in my 20's & 30's.
I probably spent close to $1000 a month in Bars. ($60+ a night, 4 nights a week. It's not hard to do!)
I wish I would have bought land. A retirement home! That's my advice to youngsters. It's OK to have fun. But life goes by fast. Don't waste your money on booze!
What an awesome video! I'm 44 and have anxiety about getting old but this helped lift a lot of that away. Notice, it's all about experiences. No one ever says, "I wished I'd bought a bigger TV..."
correct man. I'm also 44 and I have similar anxiety but even more so I can not stop reminiscing about the past. It's unhealthy but it's water under the bridge.
Experiences are SO important, learning from positive and negative life events. I wrote recently in this video's comment section about travel. That I've been fortunate to experience it, and a lot of it. 44 U.S. States and 9 Countries in less than 45 years.
A coworker of mine is our age and he never left the area he was born in. NEVER. so sad and wasteful.
Good luck to you I agree this video helped me a bit too.
I am a single mother brought up two great kids. My biggest regret in my whole life was and still is my marriage. I am happy and relieved that it was over years ago. Only after a bad marriage that I appreciate my happy and free single life.
BUT I m sad being unmarried because I feel alone and I want a partner
destroying a family and ruining a man is nothing to regret in our base society
Amen...
I can well understand what you mean,55 years ago I got devorsed ,I found I couldnt stand to be around that person I married. So glad to be single again I didnt even date for 30 yrs ,never got married again
Absolutely amazing video, I’m 26 and I personally feel that this content needs to be shared with people children in High School and young adults. The substance of this is truly incredible.
Exactly what I was thinking. This is one of the most relevant videos I have seen in years!
High school kids wouldn't care. Aging doesn't apply to them.
Part of being young is you don't believe "old" people
@@stephenmichael1515 that’s not true at all. There are many kids who would cherish this content. Mainly being Honors and AP students.
The sad thing is that, as a 25 years old guy, I did not learn anything from this video. These people are very sympathetic, but at the end of the day, their advices are common sens. I already don't spend time on social media (except youtube to learn english and other languages), I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I practice sport, I respect people and treat them as I would like to be treated, and I try to live my life to the fullest.
The only thing is that society is too much wired around work, and spending 5 days a week working during 40 or 45 years is way too much. We should have more time to enjoy our passions and loved one. That's why I do firmly advocate for the 4 days work week.
What a great video. I am 32, I feel like I dont wanna go on anymore. No life goals, ambitions, skills, partners just surviving paycheck to paycheck with no future. It really eased my soul hearing these wonderful human beings’ answers. I found myself in some of these people and only when u stop progressing in life after university u can truly understand getting old.
Thank u for this, really needed it.
Getting old is the BEST!
I believe in you!
I'm in the same boat, a few years older. Just getting that paycheck at the end of the month, nothing else going on, no friends or partner. I think you can always change this, it's up to us to make that change.. at least I have money now compared to when I was younger. True, once university stops, it seems like progress stops. But you can always develop more skills professionally, or learn a musical instrument. I for one plan to travel more this year, that should help with perspective.
It does not have to be old to regret. I'm 29 now and I feel regret so much for the years I didn't keep writing consistently (What I love). I've written so much when I was 18-20 but almost stop for about 8 years. It's a long time guys. The consequence here is I feel lost my enthusiasm in life, that's really matter. Tried to run away from fear and not facing with what I should do is a big regret.
I almost lose 8 years for not living with the things I want. Whatever the reason, I feel shame for myself right now. At this time, I remember a quote:
"The dream would not down...for even though I reasoned with myself that the thing was impossible, there was something inside which simply would not stop working." - Robert H.Goddard
I will be back, soon! Can't let the remorse ruins my life anymore...
I think we really need to find out and stick to something we love. That makes us spend our energy on meaningful thing and live a motivated life.
Thanks for the meaningful video! It reminds me many important things.
To all those feeling like this I suggest you look into and research Islam.. I GUARANTEE if you do this with an open heart it will be the best decision of your life.
Travelling is really something that keeps one's mind active and growing. I travelled like hell starting from late 20's up to my 40's (backpacking in Europe, Asia and my home country , hiking, rafting, some posh business travels). First I did it alone, then with my wife and my kid. Frankly I have spent way too much of my budget on this, my parents and some friends telling me 'oh, you'd rather get a loan, buy a house, a nicer bigger car, stop spending your time and money on this bla bla'.
Now we're locked up in war torn Ukraine where you can only shuttle between some shops and your home hiding from the russian missile raids (it's that 'meteor' the old guy was talking about) and I'm really happy I did what brought me and my family joy and happiness. We've seen different countries, met different people, lived in different places...Sweet memories somehow help us survive these dark times we're going through now. Life is so short and you never know when that 'meteor' will hit you.
I wish you can continue the safe journey with your family soon...♥
Wow. Greetings from Kharkiv! Слава Україні :)
Hope you and you're family are okay and can do what you enjoy the most again! Take care!
Pray for you my friend. Thank you for your story. It brings me inspiration. Regards and best wishes from Hong Kong
Prayers for you and your family Jesus loves you!! Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints-
Ephesians 6:10-18 NKJV
bible.com/bible/114/eph.6.10-18.NKJV
I regret that I didn’t realize much earlier that I could sing well, and act on stage. I had the opportunity when I was 75! Such fun, and so validating!
Wonderful video 🙂! I am 63, an MD,and I have been working in humanitarian aid for the last 35 years all over the world. I feel great and I am deeply thankful for the life I have had so far. My motto from a very young age has been: live every day so that you can drop dead tomorrow and say "it was worth it".
My biggest regret: in 2008 I was working in Eritrea in the security zone. I was tired after a long day of work, standing at the side of my truck when a small boy asked me if I could give him the water bottle I was drinking from, and I said no to him quite harshly. I still feel deep shame remembering the hurt and despair in his eyes. Kindness and respect towards others in every situation are priceless. I failed myself and that boy that day. It was a lesson I will never forget.
Wow.
The fact that it still bothers you to this day tells me you are a really good person.
Thank you for sharing! I have to say,
pray for the boy and it’s okay to forgive yourself now. Don’t carry that baggage anymore. The Bible says, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” (James 5:16).
@@shoshanas5251 you’re using religion to excuse yourself out of a callous act? Just say, hey, snap out of it and move on! Drop all the other baggage. You didn’t know you have one too, huh?
@@heythave Huh? You never “fall short”? You always have it all together? BTW I don’t have a religion. Faith in Him does not require religion or sect. Of course I have baggage that’s why I need a Savior.
My grandmother is 102 years old. She still walks, cooks, laughs. She had a hard, hard life. At one point she was in a very physically abusive marriage. I've asked her about life. She told me this. Forgive. Learn to forgive and talk to God. Fight for your family, don't fight against your family.
Wonderful advice...also please tell her to ask Jesus in her heart too, she probably has already. God Bless you both.
Good advice
I am eighty five and I would say there are no mistakes that people make..Only lessons to be learned. Whatever you did is fine, because it got you where you are and 🧒 are still alive.
Treat people as you wanted to be treated. It's gold. This is the teaching of Lord Jesus Christ.❤
I'm 32 and this video had me choked up. I lived the past decade struggling with alcoholism and regret not seeking help and defeating it by now. As result, for my 20s have been spending time alone and drinking myself into unconsciousness. But, I'm still trying and hope to start living a life my 80 year old self will regret less of.
Edit: Thank you so much for the support folks and happy new year! I hope 2023 is as prosperous for you as it will be for me.
It’s never too late!you’ve got this! 💪🏾
quit drinks ,man. .
Don't you dare think your life is wasted. Soon you'll be 45... 55... and you can say you lived the past 23 years to the fullest. You have so much more life. Stop looking at the past as a reflection of who you are now. The greatest lesson I've learned is to let go and look at the past as a learning experience on what not to do. I've had so many friends fall into alcoholism once they've reached all their accomplishments, in their 30's, only to lose it all.
You can do this! I did not start to get myself together til I was 30 and I thought I was so old in doing so.....that was THIRTY years ago!! The way you worded it was so good! Make those good habits now until they become so ingrained you don't notice them.....they will carry you into a healthy, active old age. But a good Cognitive Therapy Therapist will help the most. Seek one out. They are awesome. As are Cognitive Therapy books. You can conquer this and live happily your next 70 years on the planet!
Same. But when we are 70, we will give anything to be 32 again and start a new life from there. Men’s life begins in 30s!!
This video made me remind a trip my mum and I did to Buenos Aires. That was our first time ever abroad and we had so much fun together. Each lunch, dinner time and when we sat on the grass she shared something about my childhood, her childhood, about her 20s, about her feelings and in every detail I learnt something new. I laugh a lot when I'm with her and that trip made me want to listen and care more about her. One thing I've learnt is: be a friend of your parents and always take them out to do anything. And do the same thing with your uncles and aunts too.
You are absolutely right, I am 72 now, I had wonderful parents (in heaven now) travelled a lot lived abroad. Be grateful for everything God loves you & wants a relationship with you. Life makes more sense when you know Jesus. ❤️
Thank you cunha & Frankiln
I’ve got regrets about things I said to my parents …… & things I didn’t say. Regrets about things I did & didn’t do. Too late now. I imagine this is perfectly normal for most elderly adults.
Regrets? YES! My wife! We were around each other for years, we had common friends, but we never met. IF I could go back we would have met in school, and married the weekend after graduation. I also regret that after many decades of being together we can't spend another 60-70, or more years together. She is by far my best friend.
Wack
Timing is everything.
That’s lovely but how is that a regret if you never met her then it wasn’t that you chose not to
Waiting so long to except Jesus!!
Working 70hrs a week for 40 years !!
Regret not Going to trade school for car mechanic. Tired of paying for someone to fix my car !!
Regret not Going to trade school to be electrician !! Tired of paying people..
Regret not going to to trade for carpentry!! Tired of paying people
Never learn to fly small planes !!!
Thank you for the great interview.
Appreciate this work of art. I’m 25, often in a position finding my place in society, worrying about various aspect of such. Hearing these testimonies made me realized that life alone is something that shouldn’t be taken with a faint of heart and reminded that now is the time to commit to dreams, health and my character. Please continue publishing more as this encourages myself and my peers to shift our lives for the better, ‘smart man learns from his mistake, wise man learn from mistakes of others”. Thank you.
Well said!
You’re at the age now where you’ll have the most physical energy. Live in the moment, enjoy your life. Don’t worry too much everything will be fine.
Go to alaska and work your ass off period..Travel on your down time with your money earned in LatinAmerica. Get fluent in Spanish. retire at 48 to Miraflores Lima. marry a 35 year old professional babe. don't think. do.
Talk to God and pray to be able to listen
Grateful to know some young people are listening...
As a “middle-aged” person that is closing in on old age all too fast, what has come as a realization to me is that….old folks weren’t always old; they were young and hip (or nerds) and had adventures and worries and good times and raised hell and were bored and all the other things that younger people think are unique to their own lives….old people weren’t always old, and that young person they were is still in there and is a big part of who they are!
We need to accept that a lot of them were way cooler than us when they were young. A lot of them still are. 😀
This made me tear up a bit, especially the parts where they advise a younger person to not worry too much about being happy all the time or the pressure that comes when life is flying by without much improvement.
It really hit home because I'm so hard on myself at 27 for not being married (all of my 6 siblings are married) and the expectation for a not-so-young man to have it all together; especially with status and maturity.
Stay true to yourself. There is a reason you are not married yet - and it’s to your advantage. It’s hard following the beat of your own drum. Stay focused on what you want, not what others expect of you. This is how you will “make a dent in the universe” - to quote Steve Jobs.
There are several billion people in the world and to compare yourself to 6 of them seems a little ridiculous, don't you think? You need to be you.
It is possible to get merried in any age! That is what my mother always told me.
You don't have to be married ever if you don't want to, but if you do want to, know that you're MUCH better off waiting until the time and person are right than rushing into it to meet some arbitrary deadline. You will be happier this way whether you have to wait until you're 30 or 60. Best of luck to you!
Dude.... don't feel anyway bad....you could meet someone tomorrow or in a decade however you'll be more GRATEFUL that you waited for the "right one" not the "one"...
& trust me; your siblings although maybe delighted they are with someone, they too can harbor feelings at times of wishing for the single life also....
To make you feel somewhat better & to put life into prospect.....
Am considered WAY over the hill compared to you....46 & luck hasn't brought a significant other into my life yet, however; I've fulfilled my life in other ways & have found my true happiness within me, not through finding someone else to do that for me.
My eldest sister died unexpectantly in her early 20's. My dad died unexpectantly in his late 50's. A few years ago, i almost lost my brother (he was 33 at that time) in a car crash. By the grace of God he survived. But recently, my second sister passed unexpectantly in her early 40's. Death doesn't care about how old you are so. Death don't care whether you're prepared or are ready. If you're young, don't think you have plenty of time. Even if 20 years went by since the last death. If you're older, thank God you were given this much time. And keep contact, check in and tell all your loved how you feel about them. That's what I've learned so far, these are my biggest regrets