Why you might feel trapped at school.
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Why are you back in time, we are in 2023 and you said its 2022 in the start of the video...i am really confused bcos you uploaded this video 3 hours ago but u are still in 2022?😢
read some of robert greene books bro just trust
Please make more video about your collage and your collage life
I love this video I am love is America you are very good video
I could only do college living in my own apartment. Dorms would never have worked for me. I need control over my ratio of human contact to solitude.
Hey! I agree, that's why I only stayed my first year in the dorms because it was required. But being at home has also made me more tense with my parents, as my lifestyle and there's has grown apart as I've become an adult.
Are you the real Tay Zonday? The Chocolate Rain guy?
@@logisysmax20 that’s him yeah
Holy crap you were the first creator I ever watched. I dropped out twice before I realized college only benefits me if most of it is done from my house/online. Dorms are definitely an unnecessary stress
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The majority of this video was filmed back in November/December of 2022. I wasn't planning on releasing this video -- it was more of a time capsule for myself to re-watch one day. But, I want to stay true to documenting the college experience. In my eyes, the first semester is a large part of your first impression, so it feels only right to share this.
During this time period, I was really struggling to find meaning in the college experience. It felt like a fake version of reality, but I wanted the real thing. Part of this was a shock to my system (coming from a gap year and living on my own), but also the struggle to accept reality as it was. I'd say this was one of the lowest time periods I had in college.
Quick note: I've also gotten some comments recently that exrpess a concern that my videos have been more "negative" or critical recently. I hear this, but also want to shed light on the fact that it's not always sunlight and rainbows in college. The purpose of this series is to authentically document my experience, not to fake one that looks good for RUclips.
More episodes on the way (:
I don't know anyone who hasn't had a similar experience, you're just being brave in talking about it. Others just bottle it up. I went back to college twice and have since developed a very pessimistic view of the experience, far more so. With the emergence of AI and RUclips, it has now become (for some fields) easier to get an education for free, and often better, (unless you are going to be a doctor or lawyer or something) For the creative fields you are likely going to find better instruction online than you will from a professor.
I've told you several times before in other videos, if you want to work in FILM you don't necessarily need a degree. Many don't. Take a weekend orientation classes, and join the film union. It is THAT easy. However if you want to skip a few steps on the ladder and feel your portfolio isn't strong enough to get the position you want then I'd recommend continuing with a tech college. You will have a VERY different experience going to a specialized tech college. It will be like meeting a room full of people EXACTLY like yourself.
I wouldn't say negative. I'd say you you grew up from bright eyed everything-is-possible-kid to the more mature version of yourself. Don't let the college-bubble take you down. You already know way more about the world then probably almost everyone studying with you. Embrace the experience the same as you embrace the suck ;) Take care m8.
Your videos are unique because you are authentically yourself. This is what creating content is all about. Hope things are getting better for you❤
It's awesome seeing the true nature of college Max. As someone who has extensive ambitions and a want to do as much as possible it's great seeing someone like you go through and document what it's like. Keep doing what you're doing!
I really appreciate the honesty and transparency of your emotional experience of growing up. It makes me feel like I can go on, knowing that there are amazing, kind, optimistic people like you who also experience lows and lulls :) Without showing this side of who you are, it would be much easier for me to think there's something wrong with me for not feeling inspired and passionate all the time, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this part of your life with the world.
People saying "Keep an open mind, college is way better than highschool" are completely missing the point 🤦♀️ some people just don't click with the framework of college, for a variety of reasons. I personally hated 2 of my 4 years in college. The first two years were horrendous. Then I did a year abroad, and absolutely loved it. And THEN I did my final year and met a few people who I really felt good with. Let Max feel what he's feeling, we can't restrict the college experience (or any experience really) to something black and white.
I've never really connected in high school nor connected as an adult in college. However, I've never been mostly focused on myself, thus not making social interactions necessary.
Hence, for college has been slightly better than high school. No one really bothers me, yet u can get satisfaction in my work.
I have made one male friend, but I had to let him go since he was too full of himself.
I've made a couple of colleagues in the graphic design / film / game art / animation department of my school. One of my colleagues even got a special thanks credit in Zelda: Tears of The Kingdom. Creative professionals are some of the most open minded.
Yet, besides that 1 friend I had to let go, a creative colleague, and I went to see a movie together. But it took him a while since people can assume taking someone to the movies is a sexual move. I know many people go on dates to the movies. But going to the movies with a make friend can be a 1000% platonic thing because people like movies!
But I like my community college experience more than high school. Most of classmates are older people or in their mid twenties to 30s. And I feel at peace with myself. And I like being alone. In fact, I have seen tons of movies by myself and do solo dining.
I’m going to spend a year abroad, what a relief!
My god I literally had the same experience as you but I just feel sad after doing my study abroad year because it was so lit. Coming back, things aren't what they used to be anymore (not like it was any different before I went studying abroad).
i don’t think anyone should judge Max harshly. your last videos do not come across as extremely negative to me. i’m 25 and trust me, you’re doing okay and you’re going to be okay. my first semester at college was REALLY bad-i had bad luck with some terrible roommates and was diagnosed with depression. even though i had gotten accepted and started that fall semester at my dream university-which was also an ivy league school-i was struggling to make friends and wondered why everyone else around me seemed to be having an easier time integrating into this new chapter of our lives whereas i was dealing with toxic roommates and trying to form friendships without success. i appreciate you documenting your college experience-both the ups and downs, because the reality of college is very different to what we’re told growing up. every single feeling and questioning if college is even worth it is 100% valid. it’s a massive transition whether you’re coming from immediately finishing high school or a gap year. it’s not easy at all. but i’m confident you will definitely feel more comfortable Max. i graduated during the summer of 2020-during the pandemic-but i still remember my college journey being full of so many highs and lows. i even thought about dropping out at one point, but I’m personally glad I didn’t drop out. i hope anyone reads this also feels valid in their feelings towards college. you got this!
Max
I’m in film school right now at penn state. I arrived in 2020 during covid and dropped out after 2 weeks.
your experience sounds a lot like mine. i’m now finishing my sophomore year. here’s some wisdom that i discovered over time.
manage the expectations. all parents overhype college, movies do it especially. eating the same food every day gets old fast, but it’s apart of the process. i made sure that i wasn’t attributing my bad mood to college as a whole, but rather on the little things: being in a new place, having to make new friends, having to work on random gen ed class stuff, eating the same dorm food.
you’ll always feel out of place. if you don’t like to party and drink and don’t care about grades you’ll automatically find yourself more isolated like I was. over time you can find your people who see it the same way you do.
don’t forget that life doesn’t stop while you are in college. you aren’t a college student, you are working towards a degree (which is a certificate that you can do something). that’s how i look at myself here. i’m here to help my future self with jobs and a career, that’s why i came back. i immediately got involved in on campus clubs and met other film students and did things that i want to do out in the real world. i got an internship my freshman year. i wanted to pursue film and storytelling like you but also didn’t want to be jobless. being a student is just the stepping stone to more credibility in the workforce. being a student is giving you access to those resources, which is why you are there.
who is easier to give funding to for a short film, the person with the degree or without? even if i learned nothing for 4 years i would still have a certificate that says i know how to make a video. once i got through the year of gen ed’s, it no longer feels like a grind. i’m in upper level film classes now and essentially building a portfolio for the professional world. yes im a student, but it basically just feels like my parents are paying my tuition to get me out of the house. college to me is subsidized living while i learn how to adult.
hope this helped. -john westmoreland
Very well said man. Wish you the best of luck
Hello fellow film kid, wishing you luck and success :))
@@HunterPanoch i’ll see you on set hunter❤️
That's well said!
john, I’m still a freshman in high school and although I have a long way to go before I’m in college I know that it will be a major change. i go to a small private school, probably the smallest in my state so I know college will be very very different. I’m will have to get used to not knowing everyone in the school or even in my grade. There are only 20 kids in my grade and 300 in the whole school which is prek to 12th. Going to college will be a huge change, but I know that my grit and determination will carry me through. I put a lot of time into my school so I can set myself up for the working world. I know that if I put in the dirty work now I will be set for my dream job and I will succeed.
Your story is very inspiring and so is max’s. Well said!
I cannot even describe how well put together your content is. All this makes a lot of sense, and is so relevant.
I love how authentic your videos are and that you show every side, bright and dark, of your life. This may sound absurd to some people, but your videos motivate me, and your videos and the messages in the videos are very helpful to me. Basically, your videos had a positive impact on my life. Thanks, Max and please keep uploading videos.
Max, i appreciate how you let yourself be so vulnerable and don't just show the best parts
I’m leaving my 4 yr uni after 2 yrs in 8 days now. I had a gap semester, and going to school afterwards has just felt like going backwards. I want to get back to the person I used to be, and not the tainted version of myself that has been the reality over the past two years. I relate so much to this Max! College just isn’t for everyone & it doesn’t have to be!
same shit :/
That’s what I did! And I’m 30 now. It was the best decision I made.
omigosh yes! thanks for your perspective. I just finished my first year of college and I noticed that I don't thrive or function like the person I want to be when in college. During quarantine I realized that I don't need the structure of a classroom or people to motivate me to talk with others/make friends/explore/experiment. I noticed how I enjoyed being around real people-older people, people in the city, people in cafes-and observing how they lived their lives. It helped me grow so much.
after this year, I decided I should transition to online school so I can pursue my plans that I've put to rest just for the sake of attaining this vision others see for me.
scientific research, writing, philanthropy, travel, and art have been through-lines in my life for as long as I can remember and I'm going to keep following my intuition and gut to the end because at the end of the day...
I need to make myself proud. I know the path I am setting out on will not be easy, but I also know that I no path is. I have to make myself proud.
good luck on this process of becoming yourself !
Please keep on making these vids! It makes our life feel normal when college sucks. It is really helpful
I have seem to notice that it is insanely bizarre how similar we are. From the small details such as loving porsche to the way of thinking and acting in our daily life. I am in my second year of uni now living in a dorm on my own and everything you say reminds me of myself. It's so similar that i am weirded out a little. Thanks for the beautiful videos and i hope you keep making more!
One last thing I loved hearing who I presume is your therapist/psychologist on the background the final result is incredible and great that she has allowed herself to be a part of the video even for a limited time is very meaningful
Your videos are so peaceful. Quality, vibe and absolutely everything is amazing. I like that someone's being real about college. Not everything should be romanticized. I felt the same way as you did back then and I tought that I was the only one... But I promise you, you will make it. Just don't forget why have you started and ofc do things that you love as much as you can. You motivate a lot of people. Wish you the best! :)
Hey Max, your videos are really motivating me to enjoy the reality of life rather than being enclosed with school where you have to finish 4 and more years to achieve degrees. I've been a fan since pandemic and your videos really fascinates me as a teenager. Keep it up, Man! You're doing great and I believe you'll conquer the things you find complicated as a college student.
this comment section is so healthy. i love you all and i hope you all are having a great day
It's so interesting the dynamics between the last two videos even though there is a time difference, it feels really new and it feels what you are going through right now.
If something i learned since I finished high school...
(And oh boy I have stories that relate so much with your latests videos)
Was to not try to live by the standards that I proyected in my mind, about my studying journey.
it took me soooo much time to process it and it was reeeally hard to actually do it still til this day. But just live the experience without any expectations that you had because it will only consume you and it will not only make you feel stuck or feeling like you don't progress but most importantly it will no let you enjoy what you are experiencing today.
We live in a world where if we don't work as fast, learn as fast we feel behind. Knowledge and stuff takes time to adjust themselves into place this is really (trust the process moment) at least in college
So if you are able to do that is going to save so much energy and unnecessary struggle.
Side note, I also believe that if in one year or less you feel that you are not reaching your best potential you'll make the right decision to what's best for you, that's something you have to remember, at the end of the day only you will make the right choice.
i just finished my sophomore year of college and i felt this way my entire first year. i hated it so much i cried so much about having to go back. i got an unexpected opportunity to have a internship that took a lot of my focus from just college itself my second year and it really helped me start getting used to it. it still has its struggles but personally i couldn’t be comfortable in only the “college” world if wasn’t for me but balancing with outside endeavors separated from school helped fulfill me much more. i also cut down my friends to only people who really identified with me instead of trying to fit in with people i just thought would give me the “college experience” i was supposed to have. i also felt trapped on campus…that separation is very relatable.
Thanks for making these videos. I wasn't really able to get "The College Experience" and I frequently talk about that and what it actually means and it's impact on my life. I really enjoy watching these videos to see what is like to go through these types of questions and experiences and what it is truly like to experience "real college"
I'm in college, too atm. And I just can say to you that you are not alone with these thoughts. I feel so creative and I have ideas of what to be and to do in the future, and all of these ideas have barely to do with what I learn in college. So I question this decision of my path quite often. I'm in 4th semester and I've come to the conclusion that I try to make the most of the time by choosing classes I'm really interested in and kind of create the college reality I'm okay with. And I guess the fact that I think way too much sometimes also leads to a self-reflection somehow which is part of who I am you know. You are learning so much with 4 businesses besides your studies, you can be so proud of yourself. College may not bring you the expected value but it'll still bring you further, maybe one day it'll become clear and now going with the flow is the best you can do.
This guy is actually my new favorite RUclipsr the motivation I get from it the flow of the sponsorships everything about this channel and his thought process makes him so enjoyable to watch and I love the shots as a photographer it's beautiful
Finish your degree. Get it out of the way. You have a lifetime of discovering the meaning of life. Don’t rush getting old. Xoxo
How does a “degree” assist with that goal? So he’ll be poorer and more ideologically blind, and that is going to help?
@@bruceami ideologically blind? You mean he’d have no ideology or his ideology would have no direction? University doesn’t make you lose your moral grounding. It often enhances it. People with no degrees, however, often talk gibberish.
@@contreras9776 Speaking of ideologically blind. That comment is as ignorant as it gets. The school where he is is a cultural Marxist hell hole. Universities have perverted the morality of more people than any institution or being this side of Satan himself. It doesn’t mean it has to, but why march into the lion’s den if your goal is not to be eaten? To show off? You know as well as me that the reason kids go to college is for a 4 year party with no responsibility. Yet they come out gorged in debt while their professors and administrators put in a new pool with the cash they extracted from their future earnings. You speak as one who is one of those picking his pockets. BTW: Before spouting bigoted statements about those who have no degree, check to see that theirs is not superior to yours.
@@contreras9776humble yourself.
Most people don’t have a degree and college isn’t for everyone. I mean this country was built by and still mostly run by people without degrees. The whole point of getting a degree is to have a better opportunity to land certain jobs after college but clearly this guy in the video knows where he’s going with his life and is off to a good start.
@@bibbitybobbity4823 no, this “guy” literally made this video to explain he’s lost. No, college isn’t for everyone. But if you have the opportunity to attend college, every effort ought to be made to attend and finish. 4 years of your life is only 4% of your life. The return on that investment is solid. The problem is too many kids are exposed to social media and not real life. I’m not saying don’t pursue your dreams. But finish college since you’re there and move on.
I feel more identified than ever with your content, I feel understood I feel seen and that's ok to go through all this things.
Our struggles may be differents at times because I don't run four business. But I get all the rest, on the social part as well.
The only thing I can say Max more than ever apply your perspectopia mindset.
And I'm so glad that this videos are like a diary of your more intimate aspects of your life and an escapism for you to unlock all what you are going through, just let you know your not the only one :)
When I click on videos I'm never necessarily expecting them to actually resonate with my thoughts and feelings, so it's really cool when all of a sudden you're sitting there talking through things and you're basically voicing my internal monologue from the past few months. It's happened with a bunch of your videos. I feel the exact same way about school but sometimes I feel like kind of a brat about it, like I'm taking this incredible opportunity for granted, so it's very validating to hear you work through the same feelings. I'm four semesters into school and I totally hear you dude:)
thanks for sharing - your insights and feelings on video resonated with me. i can anticipate how college might fold out like this, and recognise how i have an idealistic notion of college as this elevating experience.
I just wanted to say I’ve gone thru the same thing, and leaving school taking time to pursue my own dreams really helped me feel like I had agency in my own life path. The college dynamics def improve over time but there are also so many opportunities to learn outside of the system. much luv
I'm so glad you commented on that shot after you were done talking because all I kept thinking was how incredible it looked with the lights in the background + your framing. Never not loved something you've created, Bro. Keep it up.
had to, haha. F/1.8 is something else!!
@@MaxReisinger it’s the colour grade that is the icing on the cake. What lens were you using?
7:27, I'm sure you already do this, but Max, imagine your younger self from 2-3 years ago, and how amazed he would be that you made it to where you are today!! It's so valid to feel the emotions you're feeling, and be frustrated with the college system and lackluster bits of life and college. You are around people, professors, and friends who do care about the world and want to make the most of their experience. It's amazing to see how far you've come and I have no doubt you'll find your stride again and feel more energized than ever before.
p.s. growing up is rough. realizing that society is set up in a way to constrain beliefs and send mass numbers of people through a filter, and into the system can be a depressing thought. it's easy to lose the optimistic approach of "I can do anything, and I know that when I poke the world, I'll be rewarded back". sometimes we feel trapped and stuck and it's easy to lose the love of life, adventure, and endless optimism. but these are just waves, and you'll get through them. time always moves forward, and you get to decide when the right time to ride the waves is, and when you need to coast through for a bit.
thank you for sharing and being honest max. i do feel you
I recently finished my 4th year out of 5 years to receiving my BBA from university and I will say, at times it feels VERY challenging. Sometimes you wonder what the purpose of a certain required class is, you go through hard times when you receive a bad grade on something, or you just feel lost and lonely. As of now I still have no idea what I want to do once I graduate in one year, but I know for a fact that I have learned SO MUCH from my time at university. I also had to spend 2.5/4 years fully online because of COVID-19 and was only able to finally make true friends this year who I believe could be lifelong ones. So trust me when I say it does take time, and it comes with many ebbs and flows, but you will find your purpose eventually.
how do you deal with being lonely and feeling lost.
@@thesolitaryreaper Not even kidding when I say this, but I keep telling myself that the feeling of loneliness will eventually come to an end. Like I said, the friends that I made this year I did not have for the past three years. I felt so lonely at times in my first few years and never expected that this year I would meet some amazing people. Similar to the initial sad feeling of getting a failing grade. If you tell yourself it will pass, it eventually does! Because who really remembers the one random midterm that you failed last year, right? It was just a passing feeling that lasted a few weeks or so.
It is interesting to see your perspective on college. I caution you to have an open mind. College is different for everybody, but the majority of people find it better than high school. You find your grove, your people, and learn how to live alone. I truthfully think you've done a lot of this through your travels which is is why it feels so awkward. I want to remind you college isn't just about academics, but it can be. A lot of kids need to go to college to learn for their line of work, but a lot of people don't. Whatever your reason for being there, I hope you enjoy it. College is about those nights you are about to go to sleep after studying for an O Chem exam for 12 hours and run into the singing club at 1 am on the Quad. It's about doing random stuff that you'd never expect and have fun. Just enjoy it. Truthfully, the best advice I can give you is hop off RUclips for a month and enjoy college. Take a step back and enjoy the moment rather than focusing on documenting it.
Very well said! I'd happily go back for a week just to experience those random encounters.
I'm with max, I believe that college is to get those points and move forward, pursuing which ever degree it may be. ofc you SHOULD BE having fun along then way, BUT! majority of your time has to be on academics, cause they are expensive, very expensive. for someone like me I'd rather use all of those tuition expense for business capital. what is the point of a degree when your goal doesn't requires it?
IDK... I don't want to cause any confusion here.... but I feel what you're saying Max! I would love to see more of these series... I bet there're a lot of young kids out there who needs this.
All the kids in this generation don't seem to be happy unless they are filming themselves and talking to a computer and seeing how many subscribers listen/watch them. WTF? The world is really screwed up right now.
@@one-stopgodshop2171 that’s not the point I was making and you’re making incredible generalizations on a subject you more than likely do not have the requirements to make conclusions on. Consider not being part of the problem and don’t say stuff like that. Nobody is going to listen to you if you speak rudely to people and generalize “this generation.”
@@one-stopgodshop2171 dude, are you projecting your feelings of jealously towards a comment that doesn't even relate to what you said now?
Max-loved the log. I came into college with a massive chip on my shoulder, and through my first 2.5 years, all I did was work on my business and play ultimate...as well as my homework, every once in a while :)
I was often really unimpressed with my peers' ambition and motivation, and I almost dropped out multiple times. It wasn't until COVID took most of it away my junior year that I was able to step back and appreciate the relationships I formed purely because of those random, serendipitous, inexplicable opportunities that college provides.
Whether you stay in school or not, you hit the nail on the head: there is something really beautiful about an environment where you're allowed to mess up without repercussions, as well as eff around and have fun with your friends. You don't really get that ever again, and you have the rest of your life to work, after all!
But yes, grades are pointless - experiment, figure out what businesses you want to run, as well as what you don't like doing (equally as important). My unsolicited $0.02, you're on the right track imo -Nate
Being in a bubble is one of the most comfortable things, but it is slowly killing our dreams and ambition.
Happy birthday, Max ❤❤
Hi Max, I'm your age but didn't take a gap year, so I'm a sophomore in college. I hear what you're saying, and wanted to pose a different perspective. The whole point of college is to challenge yourself by being independent for the first time and figure out who you are as a person (your interests values, and insights into your personality). You've traveled, lived alone, and have real-world experience, which is awesome. But, like you said, college is a completely different environment: all of these people, who are basically the same age, are living together. I personally really value education and learning, and maybe this is because this mindset has been bred into my head via society and whatnot, but that is how I feel. I love going to college. The classes I take really interest me; I'm pursuing a minor and have room in my schedule to take fun classes that have nothing to do with my major but will teach me valuable skills and help me explore other passions (bee-keeping class, basketball class, cooking class, scuba diving class, etc.). The point I'm trying to make is that I think college is good for you. You think of it as a waste of time and are struggling socially, but you are out of your comfort zone right now. That is how you grow. I think it's worth sticking out, because even though people are finding ways to become rich without having a degree, taking this time to enjoy yourself and learn things and prepare yourself for the future is really healthy.
Wow nora what u said was great and that gives me a motivation to don't give up and achieve all my dreams
I always had the same relationship with college as you, but never had words to describe it. Students are just living their life and they do not care about the reality. I am on my fifth year of my studies and it has not changed a bit.
For me, my freshmen year in college was a horrible experience. My roommate and her friends absolutely hated me and I spent most of my time alone and outside cause I was too afraid to be in my dorm in case my roommate had shown up with her friends. My second year of college was when I met my friends that I have now. Some of my closest friends came from my second and third year at college. I only got a studio art degree so I was only there 3 years. I have so many positive memories of my remaining years there that they outweigh that one bad year. I also had a great mentor that encouraged me to finish. So I think you’ll be okay. Once you start taking classes that you’re excited to do, that’s when you start meeting people more like you.
Your videos definitely brighten up my day.
You are correct in your thinking. The beginning of school is all about thinking about it and researching the different uni's out there that fit your intentions. My first goal was a school that actually looked like a college, close to home so I could get there in a few hours if needed, and have an amazing academic reputation for research and schools. So I chose a school with 40k students, which sounds overwhelming but if you choose friends, living conditions, ease of access to things like the library and other things that you may way, you should be fine. I wanted to be in a school with top professors, top programs, and great Big 10 conference reputations. I was lucky enough to find all that and I still am even if it was in 1977. I loved walking through the wooded and limestone and ivy-covered buildings even if I was going to class or just no where at all. That works wonders on your environmental needs. It's important you find a good circle of friends both in and out of your classes. Even if your school has 40k students, you'll never meet them all. The ones that matter are the ones in your circle. Guard that circle. They'll watch your back just as you watch theirs. Academically, I am not sure the programs anywhere are a rigorous as in the past, but when I returned to my university for my graduate degree I noticed that subject concepts where easy, but many professors seemed more obsessed with form rather than function. Grades are the record of what you have done there, but your CV and campus involvement can often be used to help explain a bad grade or two. What you've said sounds to me like you're just having normal adjustment experiences. Stay focused on your goal, and remeber that it's no sin to transfer to another university. Dare to be excellent!
Hey Max,
I'm a student at the largest "party school" in North Carolina (East Carolina University), and I absolutely agree with what you're saying. College life is bizarre and its not always what we picture it to be.
My freshman year of college my roommate and I both worked our butts off studying every single day. We both had a passion for what we love and we had a lot in common. Although a good majority of the students on campus were out partying and getting drunk every single night of the week, complaining on YikYak about how its their professors faults for failing them, and how 8am classes should be illegal, we would be in our dorm room studying, attending classes, and going to bed at 8pm. My roommate and I both finished our freshman year with perfect GPAs (4.0). My roommate was offered admission into UNC Chapel Hill and transferred out freshman year.
My sophomore year I moved off campus and shared an apartment with 3 guys I had never met in my life. Just within the first two weeks of my sophomore year I failed by first test (42% lol), blacked out twice, and did some stuff I wasn't proud of. After the first month I sat myself down and made a plan to study 10 hours a day, wake up at 4:30am monday through friday, and get to know my faculty better because I knew I could improve myself. At the end of the fall semester my GPA was ~3.95 and I had successfully studied over 750 hours in one single semester. Although I studied many hours, I still made it a goal to find time to hangout with friends, go to the bars on friday nights, and have fun. At the end of my sophomore year, after all the friends I made, I only made 1 real friend. That person is someone I look up to, we respect each other, and we both admire the idea of having a good work ethic. She was the only person I knew who made a 4.0 GPA at ecu (well... besides my roommate freshman year).
I'm still working on my degree (I'll be starting my junior year this summer), and I think the most important thing about college life is who you decide to associate yourself with. I'm good friends with my advisor and we're literally on a first name basis. In fact, I actually work for my advisor as a researcher for my department. I think its important to build relationships with the people who are there to teach you, whether that be your peers or your teachers.
it really feels like a movie max..loved it
I have been watching you since before pandemic. You helped me a lot specially in dealing with negative thoughts.
Bro the production value of these is insane !
i honestly find your channel and videos so comforting. I've been struggling a lot recently with making some big decisions in my life. I'm a junior in high school, and I've been doing homeschoool since 6th grade. I'm coming to realize, probably way too late, that homeschooling was not for me. i was not meant for homeschooling. the past few years have passed in a depressive blur and i feel like i I've totally missed out on my "highschool experience". so i have a decision. i could transfer to a public school for my senior year, but i only know a few kids there. i might hate it. it's so out of my comfort zone. but i feel like if i don't, I'll spend my whole senior year regretting it. and then there's the issue of college. what college to go to? what to major in? is college even worth it? i know i'm smart, but i have no self discipline so i still end up struggling a lot in school. and then there's just day to day stuff. should i quit my job and get a new one? should i buy a car? can i afford insurance? i have some amazing friends, but i still feel lonely. everything just seems to be falling apart (or together in a way i dont like) when i was a little kid, i never imagined that 16 would feel so uncertain. oh well. i know that things will work out. but i don't know if I'll be happy. i don't know if i should place my happiness in the world around me. maybe i can be happy on my own. i dont know.
I think you should do it. As a senior with like 7 school days left and went to 3 different high schools, High School is annoying, very annoying, but there are so many fun moments and fun people in between all that annoyance. I know transferring and transitioning can be super hard (I did it like 3x lol), and there’ll be times where you don’t fit in cause everyone already knows eachother. But at the same time, you’ll be cool and new and interesting, because no one’s seen you before. Also people may be really interested in the fact that you were homeschooled for so long, and they’ll wanna hang out with you and learn more about you, and maybe you’ll get some of that “high school experience.” But academics first of course lol. But honestly, just do whatever you feel is right for you!
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Check this book, barely takes 15 minutes a day but super helpful. I am also a highschool junior and homeschooled kind. Just go out of public school.
I also was homeschooled for the entirety of high school and my two cents is that you should try it, if no other reason than to challenge yourself and build resiliency, teaching yourself that you can take a chance and go out on a whim and do something that scares you. And speaking as someone who was in that same kind of depression as a homeschooler, just going to college classes made a world of difference in lifting my spirits since humans were designed to interact with each other often, some more than others. Your learning and lifestyle needs might need more interaction. It also helps you to feel like you’re a part of something a little bigger than yourself. Wishing you all the best ❤️
The same feehlings after 2 years at University in Vienna .Still looking for the meaning for all this stuff about college , career , world problems,collecting points,young people my ages that are looking just for career things.The thing is that many young people are lost in today's world,in which they withdraw into themselvs. We will not have twice oportunity to be in 20s . Thanks for your Video,now I know that Im not the only one whit the same view on our daily College life problems.You'r not allone! Keep going ,you are great !💪🏻
This vlog was so authentic man
Max- you’re exactly right. College is a bubble and as a post-grad I can say a lot of people have trouble transitioning after college because it’s 4 years where you’re surrounded by friends, fun and no responsibilities then suddenly when you graduate- you’re without the constant noise and socialization.
I think it’s different for you as such a creative mind who has been on his own independent journey- traveling alone, juggling businesses, making videos. College isn’t right for everyone and maybe it’s not your path as an entrepreneur and filmmaker ! But don’t knock it. Years down the line when you’re doing whatever it is whether that’s business, film, etc there will be things that you wish you had learned and college may have been the opportunity to take those courses and learn those things. The coins in the games do count!! It’s all knowledge and experience that will help you in the future.
Give it some time- you’ll find your niche and college is where I met so many people and learned about people (and myself) and found some of my best friends. Don’t give up!!
Crazy… I relate to this on such a similar level. All the stress I put myself through is almost enabled. There’s so much of everything from opportunities to people, but then there’s also so little of so many other things. What depicts freedom in college, also feels like restrictions sometimes. You put the beginning college experience for a lot of people into a real perspective. Something I hope we can both grow out of, lol, but also something that seems to be more universal than I thought.
I'm watching you from turkey and i was very happy to see the little poster that says istanbul!
My first semester of college sucked. I was so disappointed, felt like classes were not what I expected them to be, and didn’t consider I’d made any real good friends. It was very tough because it felt as if I was the only one who felt this way, opposed to so many others who claimed their first semester had been the best time of their lives. However, second semester came along and things changed drastically. I think it was a mix between having a mindset and attitude change in general, and learning to be open to new people and experiences. Although I had always considered myself to be a very social and extroverted person, I now know that it had become hard to grasp the idea of starting over, as I had always been comfortable in my own space even if I felt I hadn’t. I promise you, when my mindset changed, everything did. I now love my classes, adore my friends and wouldn’t trade the college experience for anything else because it really feels like I’m living in the good old days. So, in case it helps, I really believe that you’ve barely just started and the best times are yet to come. We will always support you whatever path you choose to take, but don’t give up!
I truly love your videos and they give me another perspective on life. Thank you for making every last one
I really can't relate more to "College is a fake world, a resort where people are running away from responsibilities and reality." 🙏🏻 It is especially scary because I got to know this after graduating college, crying about the precious days and nights I wasted... Going to society blindly without any preparation (like building up my core competency) in college would be a disaster, trust me! There are no student loans or financial support from parents, the harsh truth is we are solely on our own after college (bills, taxes, loneliness, getting laid off... tons of shitty things we have to face ALONE!)
I guess that's why colleges are called the "Ivory towers", and kids inside of those towers mostly aren't ready for what's going on outside, it is also why the higher education system is in an emergency to be changed! 🙏
الله يعين وييسر لنا امورنا التفكير بما هو قادم امر صعب
Max,
I totally get what you’re feeling in this video. College is weird, and it can be hard to get used to college because it is so different. I’m going to be graduating in just over 2 weeks, and I think the best advice I can give is that everyone needs to find their own balance of school to other activities, for some people that’s being in a few clubs but mostly focusing on school, for others that’s going to parties every weekend and focusing on school during the week.
Tomorrow is my last day of college. I can definitely see what you mean, especially since you've dipped your feet into the real world more than most students. If you get off campus frequently, that will give you some needed exposure to the real world. I also think having an organization that you are a part of really helps with getting to know people, which a lot of people struggle with. I was in marching band and pep band and basically all my friends here are from those two programs. I also got plenty of travel experiences with those two programs from New York City to Frisco, TX to Roanoke, VA. I know you enjoy travel and you don't have to be outside of college to do it.
Well done, Max, and a happy belated birthday to you.
Thank you, Mr. Straub
Woow I have been watching your videos and I really appreciate you, and your videos, when you speak you look so natural and authentic. I will be watching your videos for a lot of time 😊
College as a video game is such a great analogy. You're expressing what I knew but couldn't articulate 10 years ago
honestly i feel like taking a study abroad somewhere would help add a lot of meaning to this college experience, i might be wrong but i know for myself, being outside of the states is what excited me about university. I’m going to University College Dublin this fall, and it’s super nerve racking because I haven’t ever visited the university and i’ll only know 2 people personally in the country, but I also think it is going to be very rewarding. I think the experience of a european education in a different culture will be so valuable to me. I wanted to leave the country for university because I knew going to a US school would feel too safe, it wouldn’t push me outside my comfort zone enough. This way, being in another country gives me a greater purpose I think. I’ll find out how it goes the fall, but I just wanted to share my thought process because I think a lot of people benefit a lot from study abroad’s. I’m not doing a study abroad in the traditional sense, but I still have much of the same reasoning as someone doing one of those I think. Best of luck on your college adventures, I hope I can learn a couple things from your journey as I begin mine.
I really connected with your latest piece of art more than any other work of yours. Despite being in a good place and studying at the best college in Asia, I've lost the excitement and happiness of meeting new people and attending college. It seems like everyone around me is caught up in a rat race, worrying about internships, societies, and scores. I sometimes feel like I'm doing less because I don't feel burdened with such things. I wonder if this is because I'm careless or too relaxed. Nonetheless, your art provides me with comfort. Sometimes, I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't want material possessions to matter in my life. I hope this captures the essence of your message accurately.
Your videos are really soothing
I have such a love-hate relationship with college. Somedays I get so happy to just walk on campus and smell the freshly mowed lawn with the sound of my feet every step I take. Some days I can't stand the way all my classes start to sound similar with no distinction from one another. The days of feeling like college is JUST THAT "college" yet the days of feeling like I am working my way towards something great, something that will make me the one ULTIMATE HUMAN. But then reality sets in... Will it grant me success? is college even worth it? When will I have the time where i can say "YES! This is what i wanted out of college"?
The everlasting routine of rinse wash and repeat gets so tedious but i know there is beauty in the routine where i have to keep digging deeper to see. I am still in this Love-Hate relationship with college, maybe next year will be better? Will next semester bring about new faces? new people? new ideas? Maybe they will be closer to me than my dorm peephole? Only time will tell. However, I am happy this semester is almost over. Lessons have been learned, Smiles and sorrows have been felt, and gorgeous places have been discovered. What will the NEXT Academic year bring?
my first year was last year, and i understand you so much, it goes away trust me.
i went to a small private school my first semester and left bc it felt like a bubble but it was a great school and i had friends. then did community for a semester and then went to state school for a year and joined a sorority to make friends again. i hate my state school as it’s so big and everyone just wants to party. i am now going back to my first school as a junior as my mindset about college has changed. i didn’t receive the stereotypical college experience first semester which made me leave. but now at a big 10 school i feel lost and can’t make real connections. i realized that all colleges are a bubble. everyone trying to race to make friends and get the best grades and internships for a career after. i think that’s what i hate the most. the media makes everything worse which is another reason why i left my first school. everyone was out at these huge parties and i wasn’t. however i was spending quality time with friends staying in instead of getting drunk every night. but for some reason i thought that it wasn’t the college experience i should’ve been experiencing. so i left. worst mistake of my life. best advice i can give anyone is you don’t have to live up to the college experience people say you should have. and don’t compare others experiences to yours.
Hey Max, man I can very much so appreciate your take on the dichotomy between the fleeting consequences of college mishaps and real world WORKING adult consequences. However, I must add this as someone who spent my freshman year having developed a small amount of real growth accompanied by an equally gross development of addiction and the bad habit of hurting the relationships I was building by my lack of honesty and presence in nurturing them, that it takes time to really come to a consensus about the experience. I left my school after freshman year-convincing myself I’d continue online which just resulted in me dropping out-and came home in search of a career in entertainment and I did really well for someone with no real major connections. After all that time away from school and having to grow as a man and in my personal relationship with Jesus so much changed for me, and the fact that I was doing well and had been on television and made great money never sufficed to the joy I had in getting an education by and around my peers. I am now back in school studying to become an attorney while actively writing televisions shows and doing major campaigns with large brands. College is a beautiful place full of a bountiful number of discoveries but sometimes you have to actually be committed to being there and sitting in the stillness of it all to truly appreciate its benefits. We all want our lives to produce the maximum in experiences and success, so much so that we forget stillness and subsequently how the progressive steadfastness in wilderness of that stillness that can shape our identity. Sometimes we have to just be still. Embrace being content, because there will be a time when providing for yourself and possibly a family will be of the upmost importance. God bless you man and keeping goin. Praying for you whatever path you take.
Max, your thoughts are so valid and authentic. Your videos feel like a journal that you invite others into so willingly. I have found that for me *college life* is not it, but I still go to college, but just at a slower pace while doing things that feel productive, life giving, and learning opportunities that often teach me more than my classes do. Yet, with this double life comes a wave of busyness--you can't catch a breath because the waves keep coming. (kinda like you were saying about having a hard time running three businesses and being in college.) Have you ever read the Ruthless Elimination Of Hurry by John Mark Comer? I Think it would be a helpful tool considering your lifestyle. It sure has helped me as I pursue a counter cultural lifestyle. Thanks for all your content! Keep up the good work. You make people smile.
Max is a great storyteller. Learning a lot from you!
I saw the 10 pesos bill and the Ushuaia card, and I needed to see the backstory so I went and watch the Argentina videos and loved them so much. If you put the word Argentina in the titles, you´ll be flooded with argentinian viewers and I know they will love those videos as much as I did. I´m definitely subscribing! Much love from Argentina :)
6:55 I can relate a lot to this. Out of the approximately 90 people in my course, I felt like I clicked with 3 by the end of college. Realistically there could have been more in my course but I didn't get to know everyone on that level. So let's say I would have clicked with 3.3% of the people in my university. That means I would have had 1000+ people I could have potentially clicked with.
I went into college hoping I'd be surrounded by curious people who are willing to learn and discuss interesting ideas. Those people are out there but it was difficult finding them on a drunken cruise ship. Its very easy to find drinking buddies in college but I think it's a lot more difficult to find like-minded individuals. College can be difficult for people whose number 1 priority isn't alcohol.
Grateful for your videos Max!
You're like me. I really relate to you. When you said about getting and earning coins but can't really redeem them in real life, we are taught to be workers but most of us wants to beyond that and achieve something far more meaningful than climbing up a corporate leader through finishing college. I am currently holding a nursing handbook but also find it more exciting to build businesses, even though my mom think it's stupid and dumb, it puts me down but I love doing it, I feel alive and passionate doing it.
College life is kind of the first step into adulthood, so of course it can be depressing at times. I'm glad you're keeping the vids honest instead of sugar-coating it. A lot of people have external fronts they put up for the public, so it's hard to tell that they're struggling too. It may sound silly and ironic, but almost everyone in college seems to feel like they're out of place or they don't belong, at least at some point in their journey. You're climbing a mountain, not going for a stroll through the park. Just when it seems like it can't get any harder, it will be over and you'll have a few moments to enjoy the view from the top.
hi,guy u know i watched ur video about ur high school life,and now i watching this video that i found u are change a lot :)
I went into college with absolutely no knowledge, no preparation, nothing. I felt alone. I was alone. For a while. It affected me mentally, physically, and, unfortunately, academically as well. I went down a deep hole that was so hard to get out of. While I was in that hole, I questioned every single decision that I had made up to that point in my life. Was all of it worth it? Was going to college and spending the next 4 years of my life worth all the anxiety and stress and pain and money just for a piece of paper? I still haven’t found an answer to those questions but I keep moving forward. I’ve found the people I love, my passion, my future. And maybe it might change but who knows, I’m just going along with it. Whatever happens, happens and it’s because I decided to continue with my education. I just finished my sophomore year of college and this last semester was worth all the stress. I finally made it off academic probation and am on the right track to hopefully graduate in 2025 alongside with my friends that I hope stick with me to the end.
Watching your videos has made me realize how precious this time is. How to take everything in one day at a time. How to focus on the most important thing in your life but also cherish it and take time for yourself to find balance in your mind, your body, etc. I think moving forward I’m going to try to become the person I want to be for myself and not the person my parents want me to be. Not the person my friends want me to be. I am going to learn to accept myself.
Max, thank you for being such an inspiration. A person someone can look at and go “Wow, that person has a purpose. I do too.” ❤
Thanks for sharing ur ideas, i learn from how u view college and life :) oh and I appreciate ur goofiness, its great
Can you please make a video on how you taught yourself filmmaking and editing it, hows the journey like, your film and video editing skills are right on point, it would be super helpful to know!
Thanks for reading, keep making more videos Max !
Max just described my life of school in like 25 seconds. That's the magic of film. That's his magic.
I thought i should comment because i actually was at this school last year for my freshmen year and i felt the same way so much so that i transferred to a different school for next fall. I’m seeing this now over the summer it’s crazy that we could be feeling the same way in the same place and never know
Just a random thought I had watching, I'm a MAJOR supporter for the study abroad aspect of college myself- have you considered it as someone who already has a lot of experience abroad?
I think it is something that you could potentially really benefit from, it's travel and school together and usually allows for more personal growth and freedom. And I imagine as a traveler, it could really rewarding helping other students find their way and grow abroad and personally. I did 5 months in the UK and Europe last year, and I'm heading back this summer for a film festival in Germany all through my college. I was offered a free ride semester abroad in a film program that I had to turn down because of how busy I've been.
I've also been curious, what are you studying? (I'm a Film/Theater and History major myself)
Max I feel you so much in this. I had kinda same experience in the sense that I had gap year between highschool and college where I started to live alone and had to make money. It really taught me a lot of practical real life lesson I am really greatful for but man it was hard for me. Then I came to college and the first semester was weird. I felt so out of place there. Like you said it felt so fake and meaningless where nothing had real consequences. Now its end of second semester and its better because we had more subject to my actual field but still I question myself if its worth the time.
Love that ur dorm room looks like ur room from home 🥹
I can understand how you feel. When I first entered uni, I was excited, but when going through my degree, I do sometimes feel that I am out of place. But thinking about me getting degree after the final year keeps me going on.
Max, I want you to know I'm always here for you.
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going to scu in the fall idk whether this video scares me or not.... Thank you so much for making these videos!
your videos are awesome!!!
It's totally normal. I guess most of the people feel the same. Don't be so harsh on yourself. Just do your best. Everything is going to be fine in the end. Good luck bro ❤
I'm literally about to move away for college & the honesty in your videos is like no other it's so nice to see the reality of dorm life & what college is like. I've been so curious on living that "college life" but I realize that it's just a facade & it's almost definitely just FOMO. I'm in community college & I'm about to transfer to a university where I will move to a place near the university cause dorms are too expensive & not the most comfortable imo. Like I'm not saying college is all bad but I don't think I should be worrying about "missing out" since college is going to be what you make it of. Regardless I've came with the happy realization there I'm not "missing out" I'm just living in the current moment & enjoying it for what it is & that should be enough. Everything is what we make of it so why make myself feel bad about "missing out" when thinking of that is making me miss out on the current moment. It's crazy how it all works when you think about it. Then again maybe I thought of it a little too much but that's just me
Im a freshman questioning everything around me right now, i moved to a tolly new city with so so much new relationship, it’s actually a reset. It is hard for me now, like im still hanging out having some small talk but i just cant connect with some of them. Its nearly 6 months and luckily i have someone who really matches the energy. I know it has just the beginning but Im so sensitive and be cautious with so much things and maybe there are barriers dividing me with the rest, even with the one im thinking im closed to
Thank you señor!!!😊 The older you get the more you'll realize that your way of looking at things will change as you go. It may seem that you may be a walking contradiction, but it's just growing pains. And as i said before; 'laugh through the uncertainty and embrace the ambiguity.' Is a bumpy road señor. 😊
you're cute
it feels like you're talking to your friends not a screen
love your vibes
I love how we kinda make this college adventure with you
I had to put away a lot of things to focus in college - many things - but the focus needs to be the mundane classes - you’ve lived more than most and your expectations rations are very high
As someone who is doing pretty well for a freshman in college, school feels completely pointless and sort of “backup”. I personally live in my own place because I believe it is the only way I would be able to get through it simply because I have more control on my days and what I am able to do (thankfully my school doesn’t require dorming). I have about a month and a half and honestly I am done with it🤣. I think it’s one of those things where I’m using it to just change up my life path for the early years of my adulthood, but the more I am the more I realize it’s just a waste of time🤷♂️
Thanks ✌️
love this video
Thank u!
he needs to enjoy being young and go out there and live a life... i regret that i didnt do that until i met my co worker who is opposite of me... so i guess live your life out and meet a lot of people and have fun
Felt this video and your last to my core!
Hello max, I'm Rosario, I am in a military school from this January, I'm 23 years old, I'm living all of that at 50x speedo due of military rules. I can understand you I believe, I can feel all your words, try to find your meaning and your balance, even if you probably have already in you by yourself. Don't be hard with yourself. We are here, I'm here. I'm struggling.
I just finished up my first year of comunity college and I kind of feel the same way. It felt meanigless and like a bubble from the real world. It feels outdated that being said I tink its what you make of it.
Max you’re talented dude. They way how you do transitions, use music to describe and set the mood, and being authentic is inspiring.
I just wanted to let you know that I feel like God wants me to tell you and remind you that you are known, seen, and loved and that he has a plan and a purpose over your life. Jeremiah 29:11.
He knows what you’re feeling and going through and especially in college bc I’m in the same boat as you. He’s my rock as I’m trying to figure out life in college too and he’s the one that motivates me, is my number one fan, and the one who has abundant grace. I need a whole lot of grace as I’m tryin to figure out me and my future career haha 😂 but I feel like the lord really wanted to share this with you and that Im cheering you on and to remind you that you are known, seen, and loved! Have a great day man and continue to be authentic and continue to make inspiring videos.
when such youtube videos are totally relatable, you know that everybody is suffering from the same things ( as college students here), u feel comfortable knowing the fact that you are not the only one, but a part of my mind tells me: this is wrong and u should escape even if everybody experiences it but you shouldn't .on the other hand, knowing that everything has a beginning and an end; nothing lasts, so enjoy every moment and don't overthink it ........ that's the battle in my head I'm trying to win.