Resentment

Sometimes, it's just about lending an open ear, holding space for them (one without judgment or defensiveness), and acknowledging the impact of our actions to nurture healing, growth, and deeper connections. If this resonates with you and you’d like to learn more about this, join me on October 23rd at my FREE event on managing conflict & navigating stressful relationships. We'll explore such topics (and more!) together. Reserve your spot here: matthiasjbarker.com/relations...
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[@Zina-Z]

ohhhh..It's true, they didn't give me the space I needed. I still feel very resentful. I don't want to work on this resentment now because it's been one-sided, and working on this resentment would feel one-sided again. I wish them the same pain they caused.

[@westTXgrl89]

How do I take responsibility, or respond to them when they're done telling me how I affected them . I'm genuinely asking a question. I am in this exact situation. I'm the one who messed up and I am faithful now and I am sober now . I've explained that when I was younger I had trauma that I wasn't aware of and didn't have a role model to show me how to love the right way , I also had a bad problem doing things on purpose to run people off 😞 I have abandonment issues and I delt with them the wrong way , but it impacts up to this day .

[@lulululu28383]

Listen actively, ask questions like "How did you feel then?", validate their emotions (you don't need to beat yourself down to do that) validating = "I understand, I guess you must have felt xyz at this moment/because blablabla. Anyone would have felt like that in this situation. I'm sorry I put you through that." Maybe end the discussion with a hug if they're okay with that. You're also allowed to state your own boundaries abd talk about it later if you don't feel ready for their emotions.