Nah, Dale deserved to know who he was marrying. Though if she wanted to be just instead of petty, she could have contacted him before the wedding so he could make a decision before exchanging vows.
I think OP did it the right way. If OP had texted or called before the wedding, I doubt that the husband would have believed her and the mom would have just fed him more lies. Calling a narcissist out in front of a crowd seems to shut them up pretty fast often.
Once again. people who say victims took it too far when they retaliate should just shut up especially if they're gonna demand for apology. People like her mom deserve the pettiness and u should never be the bigger person to a jerk.
The narcissist is the eternal opportunistic parasite. They do not give, only take at the other person’s expense. The victim is just perceived as a more secure, stable supply, able to withstand a higher tolerance of abuse so that the narcissist can financially, emotionally, psychologically, and physically break them
It's also a lifetime of poverty. EVERYBODY knows who she is and it's going to make it really hard for her to get money out of anybody else. She is blacklisted from the wealthy people.
OP saved Dale from a worthless and loveless marriage as well as Dale's family from a possible lifetime of pain and exasperations. She did nothing wrong.
I bet that the reason that the mom freaked out over OP potentially moving out as a teen was because OP had some inheritance from the dad that she wanted. Also, OP did the right thing seeing as how she saved Dale from a lifetime of misery
Nah... it's because OP's paternal grandparents were paying unofficial child support, and if OP had moved in with them that money would've stopped rolling in.
@@caffeinedelusions Ya, I posted that before I got to that part. Though since the dad was rich, I bet that he also left OP some money and that the mom squandered it
don't think he would've believed her back then. The fact that she was desperate to invite OP to the wedding meant something had changed. Either she slipped up and he already had his suspicions about her, or Dale was already getting sick of her and was using her strained relationship with her daughter as an excuse to break it off. 6 years is a long time for 50yo to live together without marriage, so I'm guessing she was pushing for marriage to solidify her wealth but Dale wanted to keep her as a girlfriend. So either he used reconciling with OP as an excuse not to marry her or she used it as a an excuse to marry him. Either way, he was already open to the mother not being as squeaky clean as she claimed by that point in their relationship. Yeah he wasted 6 years, but during the beginning of those 6 years it was his ideal relationship. She was pretending to suit his tastes, so it's not like he was putting up with her psycho behavior back then. He can look at it as having gotten everything he wanted from her with none of the commitment.
You are NEVER in the wrong for telling the truth. NEVER. This woman invited her into her life for her own benefit all based on a lie, and apparently a lie in which she owed her mom an apology. Covering up for someone evil is an equally bad act. She did her mom's fiancé a favor by exposing her true self to him.
True story or not, Dale sounded like an awesome guy and doesn’t deserve to be pulled into a fake marriage. The second he included OP into the new house, that was a green flag on how willing he was to be a father figure to OP should she have wanted that. A man like him deserves so much. I also disagree with the grandparents. To an extent it was petty but that resentment eats away at a person and no level of being the “mature” one will make that bitterness evaporate. If she didn’t do what she did at the wedding, there needed to be therapy or something to help with the scars her mother left behind. There was so little resolve done for OP’s hurt feelings, she was bound to snap one way or another. I’m just glad her revenge ended up helping Dale out.
Mom was a fool. She should've kept OP. Dale would've been too busy working and being a father to OP to ever question what she could've been spending his money on.
@@southernflight5078 I’d imagine that Dale and Op could potentially have a great father and daughter relationship. Would be funny if he left an inheritance for OP and not the mom had the mom shown her true colors sooner or later.
it's not your fault it's your Narcissistic mother's because she kicked him out of the house and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she had done and she ruined him over it and she went too far not him.
"The mature thing to do " f🤬 the mature thing to do. Sometimes its not about being mature Sometimes its about getting that sweet sweet vengeance. Which is exactly what she did and she did it without lying or breaking any laws. She got vengeance through the simple act of telling the truth so good for her
Nonono, no rolling to credits like that.. op has to come back with the tea about how their mom is blaming them for their life falling apart even though it’s their own lies that made that happen.
Okay let me say this THIS WASN'T PETTY Mother was a terrible person who deserved to face the music If a mother treats their own child like this, and all she cares about is her image. Then she deserves to get her image broken apart and if the consequence of that is her life falling apart she shouldn't have build it on lies
Its actually great that Dale was welcoming even to OP, if only the mother wasn't too selfish and greedy and just let her daughter live with her and her boyfriend things would've ended positively for her.
In so many ways what happened to OP's mom was purely a case of 'if it isn't the consequences of your own actions'. If I'm reading his character right, Dale was 100% all in on being a solidly supportive step-dad, interested in building a positive relationship with his step-daughter, and OP's mom had to thwart it because she knew if that relationship formed her own parental neglect would end up center stage.
@@caffeinedelusions true. OP before her mother cut ties with her sounded like she doesn't have any intention of throwing her mother under the bus if things worked out well with Dale, I feel like she's willing to put aside her mother's neglect and simply looking forward having a potential 2nd father and a promising parent that her mother never was. Instead on top of being neglected, OP was kicked out of her mother's life and she found out the money scam from the grandparents, mother is stupid to expect a dutiful daughter after that lol
That mom treated her daughter like crap for her entire life and frankly deserves all that she gets. Forget being the bigger person to someone who frankly didn’t feel a shred of remorse for kicking her kid to the curb just to start her new life. She’s a classic narcissist.
OP is a major AH, but not for the reason she might expect. Rather, she is TA, for not telling Dale immediately what had happened and why she wasn't moving in with him. Once she got her stuff moved to her grandparents, she should've given her mother MAXIMUM one more week to do the right thing, then tell Dale what an awful person he's in a relationship with. You let a good man waste 6 years in a relationship with a toxic pretentious witch all because it "wasn't your business." Imagine had her mother not invited her to the wedding, Dale would've got married to someone who was almost definitely cheating on him (or at least, would've cheated on him), maybe even had kid(s) with her, before his life crashed down and he learned the truth about his partner. All this would've been avoided had OP done the right thing to begin with.
Don’t blame OP, who was a child in HS at the time bc Dale wanted his hot younger trophy wife and missed all her red flags. The main one being the 6 years OPs mom went NC with her one and only child.
I have a feeling the mom's boyfriends are actually nice guys, I mean Dale literally accepted the OP right then and there even if the mom is faking it it's clear he is willing to be OP's father figure. Also there's no such thing as petty revenge
OP's big mistake was not immediately telling Dale. Man would've probably still let OP move in just because he's a decent person and wouldn't want a kid he started to see as his own to be stuck with her abusive mother.
OP’s mother was projecting HARD with her excuse of what the fight with OP was about. 6yrs ago “😭 Dale, my daughter was SO evil and didn’t want to move in here with me cause she’s angry at me for moving on and among other things she called me a GOLD DIGGER!” Present: 😭 “NO NO NO DALE!!!! She’s lying, I’m NOT A EVIL GOLD DIGGER!!!” Though it’s clear as day for everyone to see. Ahhh, poetic karmic justice!! Fake A.I. story or not 🤣
People always say "you took it too far", I say no, 100% did not. if all you did was tell the truth, then all you did was tell the truth. The gold digger should have anticipated something like this would happen. Why would daughter do a massive favour for you, when you did nothing for them their whole life, did not apologies, and said that only you would get the benefits from this before cutting said person off again. The mother is just dumb
Daughter should’ve made her mother pay her for putting on a good show at her wedding 😂🤷🏿♂️. I know ruining her marriage was cool but making her pay you money every time she needs you to make her look good could’ve been a great side hustle 😂
Screw the high road. Op did the right thing not playing along with her egg donor's bullcrap. Pushovers like op's grandparents are why deadbeats and losers keep getting away with their crap. Op has nothing to apologize for. I'm not saying she's a golddiger..no wait. Yes I am. Op's egg donor is a golddigger one hundred percent. Good for Dale to realize this too before he made the second biggest mistake of his life by staying married to her. A lot of guys would have made excuses. "She's just stressed from wedding planning. She's not really like this. She's the sweetest woman when it's just the two of us. She has never acted like this until now." (🙄) She couldn't possibly be biding her time until after the wedding vows are exchanged and the marriage is legally recognized. That's totally not a thing people do all the time.//Sarcasm Op was naively optimistic. Ofc her mom doesn't want her daughter around. In her mind she didn't want to compete with her adult daughter for attention from men and no way in heck did she want to share any piece of Dale's money with op. The delicious irony is op's egg donor could have been happily remarried if she just minded her own business and left op alone. She did this to herself. The grandparents should have sued the egg donor for misusing the money they gave her but I'm really petty.
Narcissistic mom and her narcissistic daughter... Its not like OP thrown out on road... She well taken care of.. her mom didn't come back to ruined her wedding or something stepping on it. All he gotta do show face and leave.. she wont be back in her life. And peace
She didn't come ruined ur wedding. You been taken care by grandparents and been NC with her mother, OP could come show face and leave forever... Just to step up and ruined someone wedding
Most parents don't throw their kids out once they reach the age. No one I know who is still in contact with their parents was tossed out before they moved out of their own will.
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Nah, Dale deserved to know who he was marrying. Though if she wanted to be just instead of petty, she could have contacted him before the wedding so he could make a decision before exchanging vows.
I think OP did it the right way. If OP had texted or called before the wedding, I doubt that the husband would have believed her and the mom would have just fed him more lies. Calling a narcissist out in front of a crowd seems to shut them up pretty fast often.
Once again. people who say victims took it too far when they retaliate should just shut up especially if they're gonna demand for apology. People like her mom deserve the pettiness and u should never be the bigger person to a jerk.
"Evil triumphs when good people do nothing."
At some point, that is the only reply you send to those enablers.
Anyone notice that at 14:39 OP refers to the grandparents as her parents? Just goes to show how well her relationship was with them.
Op just gave her mother the best gift ever. A heavy dose of REALITY CHECK.
The narcissist is the eternal opportunistic parasite. They do not give, only take at the other person’s expense. The victim is just perceived as a more secure, stable supply, able to withstand a higher tolerance of abuse so that the narcissist can financially, emotionally, psychologically, and physically break them
18 years of neglect, I think an hour worth of embarrassment, she got off easy.
It's also a lifetime of poverty. EVERYBODY knows who she is and it's going to make it really hard for her to get money out of anybody else. She is blacklisted from the wealthy people.
@@yamairad1 good :3
She ought to be in prison for neglect and abuse. She's a gold digger who baby trapped the op bio dad for money.
OPS mum got the best reality check
OP saved Dale from a worthless and loveless marriage as well as Dale's family from a possible lifetime of pain and exasperations. She did nothing wrong.
"Well well well if it isn't the consequences of my actions."
OP's mom got her gift
How ironic that OP's Mom spun the story of OP "accusing" her Mom as a Gold Digger when that's exactly what OP's Mom is?
OP just save Dave from disaster.....
I bet that the reason that the mom freaked out over OP potentially moving out as a teen was because OP had some inheritance from the dad that she wanted.
Also, OP did the right thing seeing as how she saved Dale from a lifetime of misery
While Op did warn Dave, Op needs to invest in some cameras. Something tells me that the mom isn't going down with out a fight
Nah... it's because OP's paternal grandparents were paying unofficial child support, and if OP had moved in with them that money would've stopped rolling in.
@@caffeinedelusions Ya, I posted that before I got to that part. Though since the dad was rich, I bet that he also left OP some money and that the mom squandered it
Living a lie of a life is no way to live. Good for calling her out.
It would have been better if she told him earlier than let the poor man waste 6 years of his life with her mom
don't think he would've believed her back then.
The fact that she was desperate to invite OP to the wedding meant something had changed.
Either she slipped up and he already had his suspicions about her, or Dale was already getting sick of her and was using her strained relationship with her daughter as an excuse to break it off.
6 years is a long time for 50yo to live together without marriage, so I'm guessing she was pushing for marriage to solidify her wealth but Dale wanted to keep her as a girlfriend.
So either he used reconciling with OP as an excuse not to marry her or she used it as a an excuse to marry him.
Either way, he was already open to the mother not being as squeaky clean as she claimed by that point in their relationship.
Yeah he wasted 6 years, but during the beginning of those 6 years it was his ideal relationship. She was pretending to suit his tastes, so it's not like he was putting up with her psycho behavior back then. He can look at it as having gotten everything he wanted from her with none of the commitment.
100% did the right thing. Dale deserved the truth.
Never apologize for this
The mental gymnastics of what people will do for clout.
You are NEVER in the wrong for telling the truth. NEVER. This woman invited her into her life for her own benefit all based on a lie, and apparently a lie in which she owed her mom an apology. Covering up for someone evil is an equally bad act. She did her mom's fiancé a favor by exposing her true self to him.
Yep. That which CAN be destroyed by the truth SHOULD be.
Finally an OP who's not a doormat
I feel like the most of these stories boil down to "Was it wrong? Yes. Did they deserve it? Also yes."
True story or not, Dale sounded like an awesome guy and doesn’t deserve to be pulled into a fake marriage. The second he included OP into the new house, that was a green flag on how willing he was to be a father figure to OP should she have wanted that. A man like him deserves so much.
I also disagree with the grandparents. To an extent it was petty but that resentment eats away at a person and no level of being the “mature” one will make that bitterness evaporate. If she didn’t do what she did at the wedding, there needed to be therapy or something to help with the scars her mother left behind. There was so little resolve done for OP’s hurt feelings, she was bound to snap one way or another. I’m just glad her revenge ended up helping Dale out.
Mom was a fool. She should've kept OP. Dale would've been too busy working and being a father to OP to ever question what she could've been spending his money on.
@@southernflight5078 I’d imagine that Dale and Op could potentially have a great father and daughter relationship. Would be funny if he left an inheritance for OP and not the mom had the mom shown her true colors sooner or later.
Her mom was so desperate for an easy life
Way to go OP! Staying silent only ever benefits the abuser.
Mother: do me this favor and I will give you the ultimate gift -> I will go back to staying away from you which is my greatest gift
OP just saved Dave form a narcissist.
it's not your fault it's your Narcissistic mother's because she kicked him out of the house and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she had done and she ruined him over it and she went too far not him.
Fair point but did you know your favourite toy technically has unlimited plot armor during a fight
"The mature thing to do " f🤬 the mature thing to do. Sometimes its not about being mature Sometimes its about getting that sweet sweet vengeance. Which is exactly what she did and she did it without lying or breaking any laws. She got vengeance through the simple act of telling the truth so good for her
You did the right thing.
i love telltales
Nonono, no rolling to credits like that.. op has to come back with the tea about how their mom is blaming them for their life falling apart even though it’s their own lies that made that happen.
It wasn’t right for OP to do that but no one should think she was TA.
was op an ah? yea kinda. did the mom deserve it? absolutely!
It was definitely the right thing because she also spread a lie about the situation, so you cleared it all up.
Okay let me say this
THIS WASN'T PETTY
Mother was a terrible person who deserved to face the music
If a mother treats their own child like this, and all she cares about is her image. Then she deserves to get her image broken apart and if the consequence of that is her life falling apart she shouldn't have build it on lies
A foundation of lies will crack easily.
Forgot who said it, but it's words to remember.
@@southernflight5078 I tried to Google the qoute lol and all I got was construction tips and religious stuff😂 we never finding out who said that
Damn. Reddit & Telltales are really showing the world how many unfit mothers there are out here. 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
You'd be surprised. Real or not, these stories are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what horrible parents tend to do.
OP is pretty dumb, I guess they were a kid but the moment mother dearest pulled out the fake tears she should have left LMAO
The audacity of these entitled people
Narcissists are never fair. You could have let it go, but you didn’t which is no sin. In the end you saved Dale which I am sure he appreciated.
Its actually great that Dale was welcoming even to OP, if only the mother wasn't too selfish and greedy and just let her daughter live with her and her boyfriend things would've ended positively for her.
In so many ways what happened to OP's mom was purely a case of 'if it isn't the consequences of your own actions'.
If I'm reading his character right, Dale was 100% all in on being a solidly supportive step-dad, interested in building a positive relationship with his step-daughter, and OP's mom had to thwart it because she knew if that relationship formed her own parental neglect would end up center stage.
@@caffeinedelusions true. OP before her mother cut ties with her sounded like she doesn't have any intention of throwing her mother under the bus if things worked out well with Dale, I feel like she's willing to put aside her mother's neglect and simply looking forward having a potential 2nd father and a promising parent that her mother never was. Instead on top of being neglected, OP was kicked out of her mother's life and she found out the money scam from the grandparents, mother is stupid to expect a dutiful daughter after that lol
Oh man was she ready for bloodlust
15:15 wow, family that listens when you disagree and admit their differing opinion might be a luxury OP doesn't have.
That mom treated her daughter like crap for her entire life and frankly deserves all that she gets. Forget being the bigger person to someone who frankly didn’t feel a shred of remorse for kicking her kid to the curb just to start her new life. She’s a classic narcissist.
You saved Dale's ass
OP is a major AH, but not for the reason she might expect. Rather, she is TA, for not telling Dale immediately what had happened and why she wasn't moving in with him. Once she got her stuff moved to her grandparents, she should've given her mother MAXIMUM one more week to do the right thing, then tell Dale what an awful person he's in a relationship with. You let a good man waste 6 years in a relationship with a toxic pretentious witch all because it "wasn't your business." Imagine had her mother not invited her to the wedding, Dale would've got married to someone who was almost definitely cheating on him (or at least, would've cheated on him), maybe even had kid(s) with her, before his life crashed down and he learned the truth about his partner. All this would've been avoided had OP done the right thing to begin with.
Don’t blame OP, who was a child in HS at the time bc Dale wanted his hot younger trophy wife and missed all her red flags. The main one being the 6 years OPs mom went NC with her one and only child.
i doubt he would’ve believed her
No no, sometimes you gotta be petty to a petty person. The mother deserves what she got, and Dale doesn’t deserve some like her. OP is NTA.
I personally wouldn't do that, and I'm a very spiteful person, but honestly OP needed to tell Dale the truth.
Damn girl good for you
I have a feeling the mom's boyfriends are actually nice guys, I mean Dale literally accepted the OP right then and there even if the mom is faking it it's clear he is willing to be OP's father figure. Also there's no such thing as petty revenge
2 hours ago is diabolical
the most adult decision is to save her future children from her.
lol what if OP just messaged him "HEY DO YOU WANT TO BE MY KID'S GODFATHER?"
"my new family hates me cause you told the truth!"
"Womp womp"
BRAVO!
OP's big mistake was not immediately telling Dale. Man would've probably still let OP move in just because he's a decent person and wouldn't want a kid he started to see as his own to be stuck with her abusive mother.
Lmao why are we this early🤣
OP’s mother was projecting HARD with her excuse of what the fight with OP was about.
6yrs ago “😭 Dale, my daughter was SO evil and didn’t want to move in here with me cause she’s angry at me for moving on and among other things she called me a GOLD DIGGER!”
Present: 😭 “NO NO NO DALE!!!! She’s lying, I’m NOT A EVIL GOLD DIGGER!!!” Though it’s clear as day for everyone to see. Ahhh, poetic karmic justice!!
Fake A.I. story or not 🤣
14:25 No,tell this to the mother, who was absolutely not mature
People always say "you took it too far", I say no, 100% did not. if all you did was tell the truth, then all you did was tell the truth. The gold digger should have anticipated something like this would happen. Why would daughter do a massive favour for you, when you did nothing for them their whole life, did not apologies, and said that only you would get the benefits from this before cutting said person off again. The mother is just dumb
W grandparents
Who's writing this messy wording stories? Are they typos or just some AI mistakes?
Fuck that noise of everyone telling you not to hurt someone who did horrible damage to you.
Daughter should’ve made her mother pay her for putting on a good show at her wedding 😂🤷🏿♂️. I know ruining her marriage was cool but making her pay you money every time she needs you to make her look good could’ve been a great side hustle 😂
Hold up, how did she graduate college at 20? She said she met her husband after college and 3 and a half years ago and she said was 24
Plenty of ppl graduate college at 20, a month or two shy of their 21st birthday.
I graduated HS at 17 and got my AA at 19. Birthday is 2 months after graduation. It's very possible
Screw the high road. Op did the right thing not playing along with her egg donor's bullcrap. Pushovers like op's grandparents are why deadbeats and losers keep getting away with their crap. Op has nothing to apologize for.
I'm not saying she's a golddiger..no wait. Yes I am. Op's egg donor is a golddigger one hundred percent. Good for Dale to realize this too before he made the second biggest mistake of his life by staying married to her. A lot of guys would have made excuses. "She's just stressed from wedding planning. She's not really like this. She's the sweetest woman when it's just the two of us. She has never acted like this until now." (🙄) She couldn't possibly be biding her time until after the wedding vows are exchanged and the marriage is legally recognized. That's totally not a thing people do all the time.//Sarcasm
Op was naively optimistic. Ofc her mom doesn't want her daughter around. In her mind she didn't want to compete with her adult daughter for attention from men and no way in heck did she want to share any piece of Dale's money with op.
The delicious irony is op's egg donor could have been happily remarried if she just minded her own business and left op alone. She did this to herself. The grandparents should have sued the egg donor for misusing the money they gave her but I'm really petty.
wow
what petty little b
Its kinda sad that there dad died
Grandparents r right let him,learn if he doesn’t see red flags 14:52
Narcissistic mom and her narcissistic daughter... Its not like OP thrown out on road... She well taken care of.. her mom didn't come back to ruined her wedding or something stepping on it. All he gotta do show face and leave.. she wont be back in her life. And peace
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this is just a bit bad and also good
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Please which dating apps can one meet good and real people with good intentions? Asking for a friend 😅
She didn't come ruined ur wedding. You been taken care by grandparents and been NC with her mother, OP could come show face and leave forever... Just to step up and ruined someone wedding
When i was a kid i thought every family was perfect cause mine was then i learned English (i’m from italy mamma mia) 🙃
This is some serious AI issues.
“Got kicked out at 18”. Ma’am that is called becoming an adult.
True she is adult, but she was still in highschool, and her mother disowned her for selfish reasons.
Most parents don't throw their kids out once they reach the age. No one I know who is still in contact with their parents was tossed out before they moved out of their own will.
You sound like the parents who make their 15yo pay hundreds each month for “rent”.
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fake. it all seemed sort plausible until "then i got a phone call after years" yea imma call BS for $1000 Alex (RIP)
wow thanks sherlock did you know most TV shows are performed by paid actors/actresses and are therefore fake? Shocking!
OP is TA, but they are justified.