Should Link Break Up With His Therapist?
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- Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2021
- Rhett & Link discuss their experiences with therapy, the challenges they face, and the progress they've made in this episode of Ear Biscuits!
EB #312, Original Release Date: 11/22/2021
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I can't speak for anywhere else, but I've always heard a bed side table be called a Nightstand
I literally graduated from the same high school as them and I always heard it as a nightstand 🤦♀️
THANK YOU 😂 I was so confused why they struggled
Yup lol same here
I live in the U.K, England and we've always called it a Bedside Table 😊
same
When Link said that he would get stressed about what to talk about with his therapist if he wasn't going through a crisis and I have never related to anything more. I have been avoiding my therapist for this very reason.
i agree so hard man. i literally make lists in the waiting room when i dont have anything to say.
Just don't go as often. Go every 3 months. You don't have to go every couple weeks or every month. You could just go every 6 months if that is all you feel you need. And then you just unpack everything that has happened in that amount of time.
It’s helps me through the week to take notes about things I find that I might need to talk about or have some help with. So then when I go, and I’m not in a crisis, I have stuff to talk about lol
Watching Link's face while he was talking makes it clear that he knows what he needs to do, he's just not giving himself permission to do it.
Oof. I got called out too.
Is this an Adam Driver reference
What does he need to do?
Rhett: “Link has control issues.”
Also Rhett: “I think your wife and I need to sit down with your therapist.” 🤣
Seriously though, such amazing stuff-not only that y’all are vulnerable with each other, but sharing that vulnerability with us here. You are doing the work to help change the way we view mental health and therapy. Thank you so much.
Get a new therapist, Link! I had a similar issue with not clicking with a therapist, and I didn't tell him I wasn't coming back. I found a different therapist and that was that!
Link 100% needs to have this discussion with his therapist. It sounds like this is important work and avoiding it is just perpetuating a pattern. It is also possible your therapist will be receptive to the feedback and start being less passive in the sessions. Also, from a logistical point of view, telling your therapist that you want the option to come back if things don't work is important otherwise he will fill your spot with a new client.
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couldn't disagree more. he said he's already had that conversation multiple times, and he keeps grinding back to the same feeling over and over. if you aren't clicking with a therapist, and the thought of having to see your therapist is stressing you out to the point of cancelling appointments, that therapist isn't right for you. just find someone else. you don't need to tell your current therapist either, especially if the thought of it stresses you out.
I agree that it’s a style thing. If Link is trying to work on his control then he needs someone to break up that control and take control of the situation and throw him off and be like “now how did that make you feel..” and go from there(for example.)
I understand that Link doesn’t want to hurt his feelings. And if the therapist isn’t able to give Link what he needs out of this, he can just leave. He doesn’t need to explain himself.
Let's talk about life for a long time 🖤
Link, I think it is wonderful that you realize you are a deeper and more complex individual than you expected! You deserve to have a therapist who can go into those depths with you and make a lasting impact.
Link I really love the way that you think, its fascinating to me. You're mind is so bright, and maybe a bit chaotic but also so beautiful.
I think Link is most interesting when he's really not trying. He does have an interesting take on things when he's being unfiltered and direct
I have been a mental health counselor, with children, for 20 rewarding years. I appreciate Rhett and Link being so open about their personal experiences with therapy, which reduces the stigma. We need to see and treat our mental health as important as our physical health with regular 'check ups.' Yet, we also might need additional support for acute or chronic issues ( anxiety, trauma, life challenges etc ). And finding the right 'fit and connection' with your physician or your therapist is vital, and it can change based on the client experiences and changes.
No you haven’t
@@twm8513 😂🤣🤣
I agree. The stigma is why its so hard to admit that you need therapy.
In my opinion, Link should find a new therapist. It is very common. Links therapist could’ve spent an hour focusing on how he felt with the fear and anxiety about not being able to control the session, so much so that he canceled the appointment. (It’s not always about the past.) He could’ve talked about healthier ways of managing his stress, not letting his stress control him, what he could’ve focused on instead, how to deal with that the next time he feels that way… all the therapist said was “Yeah. You have anxiety.” That’s not helpful. Anxiety doesn’t have to be a bad thing until it’s stopping you from doing things or making you feel fear, which is what happened. Link should find someone that addresses this and gives him guidance without being prompted to.
I definitely agree with you. I've ghosted all of my therapist in the past except the one I see currently. My problem has always been not clicking with them essentially gaslighting me. My current one understands my apprehensions and has worked with me to keep me on track. It's definitely hard but I hope he finds one he clicks with
Avoiding therapy is often a sign of needing therapy. Also there so many types of therapy. I don't think Rhett and Christie need to talk to links therapists, a good therapist will see what needs to be seen.
Not true. I don't know why everyone talking about therapy. We human beings doesnt need therapy.
Yes. We have conflict.
Yes. We have stress n depression
But it comes from an imperfect world that we struggle to live in.
Therapy is for the weak.
If you think everyone needs therapy then you are part of the problem
@@spirituallyyoujustbeenx185 Ironically, it sounds like you’d benefit from therapy.
@@SignedNaz That exactly what somebody who is brainwashed would say. Im not expecting anything less coming from a society produced programed system.
Like the Matrix, you're just the agents.
@@SignedNaz Not everyone needs therapy, only some people do. If you need therapy for every day problems/emotions that's different from having PTSD or some sort of trauma/mental illness. Some people do need it but not everyone. Sometimes you have to learn to regulate your emotions on your own
@@Hybred I never claimed everyone does. I was responding to someone who believes no one does.
I'm working on my Bachelor's in psychology and I love how openly you guys talk about your journey with therapy. I've been in therapy off and on for over 15 years and it has been so beneficial. Thank y'all for being so open and candid 💜
No one gives a shit
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I want to validate Link's feelings because I remember how difficult it was after a long period of crisis management therapy to move out of that and explore who you are when you are not in crisis. I had a similar experience with starting with someone new when my therapist went on maternity leave, and I experienced new breakthroughs quickly with the new therapist because it felt like I finally had permission to leave crisis mode behind. I ended up staying with the new therapist long-term and it unlocked a new chapter of growth for me.
The statement Link said, "I don't experience anxiety, I have anxiety," struck me hard. I have anxiety and depression, both a constant part of myself but gets harder to handle on some occasions. It's like theirs a shadowy figure walking right behind me that occasionally grabs me by the shoulders and takes control of me.
Link’s therapist watching: 👁👄👁
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Last few months were mentally the hardest in my life, although there is no external reason for this. I started therapy partly because of you speaking so comfortably about it. I cry every session. My problem is similar to Rhett's, I don't talk about how I feel and I've never realised it until now. It's very very hard to talk about my feelings. But slowly I'm trying to change this and rebuild my relationships with my closest friends and family. It's so difficult but so releasing and healing. I see myself and the things happening or not happening to me through a whole new perspective. Go to therapy, don't put it off.
I think a global pandemic is definitely an external reason that can cause those issues to bubble up. Hang in there!
I've had several therapists since I was 15, and am now 26. Some worked amazingly, some just didn't click properly. It happens, and will make you feel somewhat bad and responsible for it every time, but at the end of the day, I like to think of it like hiring an interior designer; All may be qualified, but not all will understand your style or specific needs.
It sounds like Link definitely needs a new therapist. Chemistry and match are so important for therapy. I’ve changed therapists before because their approach or style didn’t work for me and my needs. Based on what you are saying, you may need one of those “rough/mean” therapists that are more aggressive, active, and in charge. A tough, in control person might better suit your personality and needs more. Definitely shop around and have a few of those “get to know you and your approach” before you settle on a therapist.
Agree!
Not rough or mean lol just assertive calm assertive with some true life experience 😅 you want someone who knows how to act and isn't afraid of liability or conflict and can handle anything calm cool and collected will push your boundaries but be supportive and meet you where you're at and also probably has a decent knowledge of different philosophies and different forms of mysticism and uses multiple techniques . Integration is key
I've really appreciated these past few episodes of Link discussing abandonment and control issues. Very relatable.
I get a little salty whenever therapy is brought up now. I was alone and overwhelmed and struggling with two kids while my husband was deployed and I reached out for help and it went no where. I did the hard thing and I called my doctor and answered uncomfortable questions to get a referral but then no one was taking new patients. So after calling around a few different places and getting the same response I gave up. I just hate to think how someone much worse off than me wouldn’t have gotten the help they needed either. Sometimes you’re at a point where it’s too much to make that one phone call to ask for help, let alone having to try 3 or 4 times and getting turned away.
I've had the same problem for the last year. Not even a response from one person.
I'm finding people who are advertising as taking new patients too but maybe my problems aren't enough lmao
Breakthroughs aren't really about crying; It's about figuring out the origins of unwanted behaviors/feelings and making a plan to work on them.
I cry almost every session, and I'm not having a breakthrough every session. I cry because there are painful, hurtful, and scary things in my past and present and those things can make me sad (like losing my mom in 2020).
If you're not crying and feel like it would be helpful for you to do so, it's not really on your therapist. You have to dig deep and figure out why nothing you're talking about leads to an emotional response. Are you still feeling guarded of your emotions? Do you still feel like you can't fully trust your therapist and be that vulnerable? It's worth bringing this up with your therapist, with those questions in mind.
A good question for Link to ask himself is, do you really fully trust anyone enough not to leave you? Maybe you subconsciously aren’t divulging your true self because you don’t want to be abandoned, therefore you can’t find ‘a breakthrough’
In my experience with therapy, if you're asking if you need a new therapist, you should find a new therapist :)
Thanks for being so open on this topic! Therapy is awesome
These conversations here are one of the many reasons why I love Ear Biscuits. There's such an openness associated with this podcast and it's super comforting and refreshing to listen to people openly discuss these topics. Thank yall ❤
I've started going to therapy weekly, partly due to hearing Rhett and Link talking about their experiences.
In the 6 or 7 years of following you too.. I've never seen link so uncomfortable..
Whatever it is you are dealing with dude... I hope you find strength. Dont Give up.
This whole podcast is therapy for me.. Thank you for your candor. I really want to find a therapist of my own now.
Coming from the perspective of a licensed therapist, it seems like the fit, therapeutic rapport and style may be different than what Link is needing. There are many therapeutic modalities. Some more insight oriented therapies such as psychodynamic, body focused such as somatic experiencing, cognitively focused such as CBT and DBT, EMDR etc. I personally use mostly psychodynamic, somatic and EMDR but when needed will use more structured therapy. It’s important to find the right fit for you and this can take time. I started therapy many years ago and found a couple people were definitely not the right fit, one was perfect for what I needed at that stage of life and now I’ve found one for the past few years that is Jungian and is perfect for my particular needs. I’m so glad you both are spreading awareness of therapy and how helpful it can be.
I felt a lot of stress with my first therapist because I felt like she didn’t know how to pull things out of me. She validated me a lot. Agreed with me a lot. But didn’t challenge me. I am an open book in therapy and need someone who will ask about topics and ease me into a conversation. I’m willing to talk about anything and everything but my mind is so full, and so busy. I never know where to start. My new therapist is much better at this and I don’t dread “not knowing what to talk about” as much. Finding the right therapist is hard, because you can really like someone. There were things about her I did like. I was worried I wouldn’t find anyone better and then be stuck without a therapist. But the next one I tried verified I made the right choice.
screaming "NIGHTSTAND" @ 5:00 lol
Thank you for this. I've always wanted to go to therapy but never made the move to set an appointment. I feel like this is the final nudge for me. I just set an appointment for next week!
I relate so much to Rhett's experience as in tending to conceal or not addressing emotions and some of Link's control issue of going to therapy. I don't know what I should bring up in the first appointment and trying to come up with the 'perfect' topics to make use of the appointment's time span. And that really stressed me out and made me procrastinate setting an appointment. All in all, this podcast episode really helped pushed me to make the move. Thanks guys and the crews!
Also in the church (or at least at mine correct me if I’m wrong) a lot of the time if you mention going to therapy there’s a stigma unless it’s a medically diagnosed issue because it’s “all you need is the inner peace that passes understanding.”
just found out the guy ive been going out with has a girlfriend plus a child so i really need this entertainment thank you i love you guys
Im so sorry to hear this. Happened to me something very similar. Chin up queen .
You are a great representation of america as a whole. Easily manipulatable. So I'm that fact find comfort. Your not alone. There are many. many oh so many like you.
You should tell them because he does not deserve a happy home to go to and he will continue to cheat even if not with you ...
@@dustinwise6136 dont worry i already did
I don't have a girlfriend or a child.......👀👀👀👀👀👀💜💜
I started therapy a few months ago and i feel exactly how link is feeling, i also noticed i started getting nervous for appointments and i felt like i was preparing things to say or even in the session like i was performing, not actually having a conversation and my therapist never asked me enough deep questions or noticed how much i struggled with therapy itself and that’s why i needed therapy. i’m pretty sure it’s that i have social anxiety but i feel very validated by this episode thank you guys
i also think i should find a new therapist and link should too (maybe rhett’s therapist because he sounds really good)
I love this so much thank you for this topic. I personally struggled with my family seeing therapy as something you only do on a need basis and that you "graduate" from therapy. They view me as having something wrong with me because they have this mentality but to me its a lifelong commitment towards self growth. Such a great discussion from you two as always
Link - If someone isn’t giving you helpful insights as time passes... it may be helpful to take a break and find someone who specializes in the area where you have you greatest struggles... also a therapist vs a psychologist . Just a thought. Be well and may your good graces stay with you through this 👍🏼
If you dont feel like your therapist is a fit for you, try another therapist, for sure. However, just judging from this conversation, it does seem like Link has to get more comfortable with being open and actually communicating with his therapist about his expectations and experience. If you dont feel like the approach is working, tell them. Therapists arent mind-readers, they need your feedback.
It's taken me a year to find a therapist I like. I've seen at least 5 different therapists in the past year, maybe even more. I just found the right one a few weeks ago. I could tell right away! She's helping me uncover some aspects of my personality that I was aware of, but wasn't sure if they were issues. She's very good at structuring the sessions so I'm not just ranting the whole time because I will do that if I'm given the opportunity. I don't like being the one leading the sessions, so I'm really glad that she does that.
Thank you for this episode. I was able to listen before my session with my therapist and I was really able to have a bit of insight about what I wanted to cover before starting. It really helped get me ready for my zoom meeting which I always feel slightly anxious for. I appreciate you both for being so open and vulnerable.
I really appreciate this conversation. As a person who goes to therapy, it's given me a way to verbalize something I want to work on with my therapist that I wasn't sure how to say - so thank you. As a person who provides therapy, it's tempting to play armchair therapist given the title prompt and the discussion. My best advice would be to evaluate your expectations for therapy and to discuss them with your therapist. Based on the conversation, I think that these aren't in alignment (to no fault of either party): communication about this issue is a good way to decide what direction you'd like to move forward in.
Link, I know you said you didn't want advice but I want to give perspective coming from a counselor...playing "devil's advocate"...at the beginning of your therapy experience...you said you were looking to just better yourself. It didn't sound like you were looking for a diagnosis. It sounded pretty exploratory. So he might have felt cautious about telling you there was diagnosable anxiety because it may have given you more anxiety. I'm a huge advocate for finding the right therapist and know that it could take a couple of therapists before you find the right one. But I wouldn't suggest 2 therapists at the same time and I think most therapists would agree. Tell him you need a therapy break....spend some time looking at other options, try it out. Or tell him the truth, if he's a good professional, he won't be offended! We should all want the best for the client!
Way to be vulnerable like this guys, honestly it's amazing. It takes a lot to do it with a stranger, like a therapist, it's a little whole other level to do it for soooo many ppl. And telling them it's okay to do it too
Im so glad they were able to be so open about this. It made me feel a little better about my own anxiety.
Extroadinarily grateful to Rhett, Link for sharing their experiences. My sons grew up watching GMM. Ear Biscuits is fast becoming my favourite podcast.
I always needed a therapist that will do more than just listen to me. It really comes down to preference
Very nice discussion; thank you both for being vulnerable and relatable.
It's crazy how much i related to link's approach to therapy - i went to therapy last year for three months then stopped cuz "the clouds cleared" and the plan was to not do our weekly meetings and come back when needed -- after much reflections i've realized that during my time in therapy i had those weeks where i didn't do the things my therapist suggested or when i didn't have something to talk about that i wanted it to end cuz of much stress that aspect of therapy unconsciously brought me, so i did as my therapist suggested and "got better" to the point where my therapist suggested that we don't need to do our weekly meetings --- stress gone, i got better but underlying issues still remain and now i've realized i need to go to therapy and work through how i approached therapy my first go at it -
Thank you so much for sharing your mental health and what therapy does for you! I loved hearing about what you two do to get through struggles and relationships in life.
Rhett @ 39:00 - PREACH. I think a lot of men in our culture feel this way. In fact the tendency is so overwhelming to me it feels like objective truth. Thanks for sharing.
We've always called a bedside table a nightstand, but that might not be proper either
Same
It actually is proper. A bedside table doesn’t have drawers, but a nightstand has at least 1 drawer.
I used to live 2 minutes from the ELMS, my friend told me she had met rhett while he was there and I was so happy for her but so sad, I've been watching for years and RHETT from GMM came to my hometown :(((
Loved this guys. Thank you again over and over. You have made a difference in the way I see life and want to live. I hope to someday afford therapy myself.
@ 5:20 - It's nightstand!
Went to therapy for 14 years (from 14 to 28 years old). I'm now turning 32. I think I've gone through 6 therapists? The last one I had was the perfect match and she saved my life. Now, my reason for going to therapy seems to have been very different than you guises reasons, but I'd just like to say that trying more therapists is fine, it's a good idea!
I really appreciate that subtitles are available from the moment it's uploaded
YES!!! THIS! So many creators do not include them at upload and as someone that NEEDS them to enjoy content, that is disheartening. I really appreciate creators that include them at upload.
I find it too good to be true that my very first ear biscuits episode is this one. Its like my former therapist is still trying to guide me. Thank you both for this episode. This was the reinforcement i needed that im not a freak for needing therapy
I started therapy in February of this year. Around July is when I felt like I needed a new therapist. I started with a new therapist in October and it was good to get a fresh perspective.
I- have a lot to talk about in my next therapy session. Loved this whole conversation 💗
As a person who is currently training to be a therapist, I would say change therapists. If you feel you aren't getting out what you're putting in, it's ok to seek help elsewhere. At every intake session I do, I tell my clients it's ok if they feel we don't click together and that I can refer them elsewhere if that's what they're most comfortable with. I'm a person, as are all therapists. We try to be as flexible as we can, but we all have our own style. It can take time to find a therapist whose style works well with you. It's also ok to acknowledge that you may have outgrown your therapist and now need a different level of care! I wish you luck in your mental health journey, Link!
I mean I've noticed from previous episodes on therapy that Link might be feeling a little left behind in terms of feeling like he's getting results with his therapist, and the therapist doesn't seem to tell him what he needs to work on and whatnot
Been looking forward to the video because I only listened to portion of podcast version. So, let's see what the guys have to say...
And, yes, some therapy is essential these pandemic-times days.
oh my goodness, this was so enlightening. i have many of the same habits in my own life, even years now into therapy!
So cool you came to KC! I live in KC and have been to The Elms. Great place. Glad you enjoyed the stay! #earbiscuits
Haven't watched the video yet, but just wanted to say that a good therapist is one that wants you to get well, no matter if it's with them or with someone else. That's a sentiment my current therapist has.
I for one, KNOW I need therapy. Been through a lot of things over the years that I KNOW I haven't dealt with. But, visiting one and knowing Ill have to unpack those very emotional and traumatizing pieces of my life, literally make me tear up. I keep pushing it to the side hoping it goes away or that I somehow figure out how to let go. But, here we are, 7 years later and I never have unpacked it, fixed it or got rid of these thoughts, feelings, emotions, experiences, outcomes, etc.
I am one of those who so far, after 3-4 tries - have never found therapy to really work. It actually makes me more anxious before the session and then I OCD on the actual discussions for the rest of the day. I could probably use it but the level of "you expect too much" and the therapist saying "I don't have a problem talking to xxxxx" hinting the problem has to be me only.
This episode actually helped me decide to break up with my therapist, thank you so much Rhett, Link and crew :)
Sounds like doing the podcast is a whole therapy session in itself.
Therapy is the best thing I have done for myself. I haven't been able to go since I had my daughter (2 years) but I'm hoping to go back once she is in school.
lol i have a similar problem of feeling like ive never super connected with my therapist but what i learned from my first therapist is that its okay to bring that up and talk about your feelings about therapy which can help you see patterns in other relationships. what ive learned from my current one is that i dont have to feel like besties to learn and grow and get better
Look Link, it's been almost 2 years and your still questioning if you should try another therapist... think it's time to try another one and could always go back
I love u guys I've been watching since I was 11-12. However, I've been in and out of therapy since I was 14 and I'm 18 now. Every time I went into it I was apprehensive because opening up to people is very hard for me but over the past 4 years I've become more willing to open up to therapists and build trust. You have to find the right therapist for you. My first 3 therapists just didn't match with me and sometimes it can be hard to tell ur therapist that its not working. But in reality they want to u to be with the right one for you. Also, group therapy has been very beneficial for me because it helped me open up to people like me and I've even built some friendships that I still have to this day. With all that said therapy is extremely beneficial to everyone, even for people that think they haven't been through enough stuff to go. Everybody has stuff they need to work through. :)
Maybe he understands that you enjoy having control of the situation and he’s allowing you to do that. And if you’ve been dealing with crisis, he hasn’t been able to break that cycle off because he hasn’t built rapport just with you- he’s been helping you survive.
Wow this was my first time watching ear biscuits and I've def been missing out sm just watching gmm
Just met with a new therapist for the first last week. I was having a very similar situation to Link. Instead of actually giving me advice or telling it like it is, she would try to help lead me to the solution/answer in a way that was not effective for me
It was less a cognitive behavioral therapy approach and more a talk therapy approach which is not rly what I was looking for. It’s super common to change therapists until u find someone who’s right for you, even if you have a relationship with another one, and even if what’s right for you now is different than what was right for you a year ago!
I went to therapy and was very reluctant but now I wish everyone could go to therapy.
Hi Link, and thanks to you both for sharing your experiences. Im wondering if the tepid nature (my interpretation) of your therapist is exactly what was needed during a crisis, but not so much what is needed for exploratory therapy. Sounds like maybe crisis management is more this person’s skillset which is great, but just not the right tool for the job. I would suggest finding a therapist who is skilled and very experienced in EMDR to do your exploratory work. Hope this helps! Great show, guys!
Good rec Rhett. Why we sleep is a really fascinating book. Rich Roll interviewed Matthew Walker on his podcast, good in depth discussion, but still shorter than the book.
As a therapist in training, this was really illuminating for me. There is a major emphasis on the importance of the therapeutic relationship, and we discuss at length how - just like any other relationship - some people will simply not mesh with you. Your styles of communication, your expectations, etc. may simply be incompatible or maybe not as beneficial as it could be. That's normal and ok.
Link - you very clearly communicated that you are not getting what you need/want out of the relationship with your therapist anymore, and that's ok. You don't need to feel bad about it. It is not a reflection on you and your performance in therapy. It isn't even necessarily a reflection on your therapist and their effectiveness. Maybe what you need is simply not in the toolbox of your particular therapist, and you need to find it elsewhere. That does not have to reflect a criticism or failure on anyone's part, nor does it negate how much your therapist has helped you up until this point.
I strongly encourage you to try out other therapists and see how it goes. You do not need to explain yourself to your current therapist if you don't want to.
I recently started therapy and have experienced that, not knowing what I want to talk about. In my case, it was because there was something I needed to talk about, but didn’t want to or didn’t know how to.
I’ve had blind spots before migraines in very stressful situations.
But glaucoma runs in my family and the eye continuously having that blind spot. Also high blood pressure in the eye can cause a blood vessel to break. It doesn’t always go away. My family members have had to had several eye drops a day to keep it under control and avoid it happening again.
Should always have your eye blood pressures checked, which is not something regularly done. Once something like glaucoma is diagnosed you should see an eye specialist regularly.
I got that same blind spot(central cirrus retinopathy) from stress, it lasted for about 6 months, and my eye sight is still not the same several years later. It was absolutely terrifying when it happened, I literally thought I was going blind. I haven't yet found a therapist, but I have been considering it for years. I almost had the courage to find someone, and then the pandemic hit and I knew doing it over zoom would not be helpful for me.
I self soothe by telling others things I need for myself as well! Had anxiety my whole life.
I think everyone can use professional help/support. I’ve been doing therapy for 2 years now since my mother passed away. It was due to depression and stress from having been up home to help out when my mother was in hospice care for 6 weeks. Those 6 weeks reawakened a lot of childhood trauma
Proud of you Link.. and Rhett/ But mostly Link.. because I share similar childhood trauma and anxiety. I have had many different counselors and switching does help and you can learn alot from different ones
About time i catch this when it comes out
Link's therapist watching this like 👁👄👁
I just clicked on this by chance but oh my God im a 33 year old guy and hearing them talk makes me feel like I'm about to cry because they're opening up and now I think I might need therapy lol
Link, you talking sounds like what goes on in my brain. 😊. My first counselor helped me with certain things. Then I felt like I had gone as far as I could go with her. Started going to someone new and I’ve worked through some major things. This was awesome and I’m thankful you both shared. Going through a rough time and this encouraged me. ❤️
*sees title of this video*
Someone: “THEY WERE ON A BREAK!!”
Loving ear biscuits; especially this episode.
What Rhett said about their parenting at around 1:23:00+ resonated with me in that that's how my parent would deal with us, that they would give us the solution instead of actually listening and validating. That's why I don't confide in them anymore.
as someone who grew up in a very strict catholic household that was ultra dependent on whether those of the cloth deemed us worthy of being forgiven or not, I can completely understand link's anxiety in his relationship with someone who we're supposed to see as a guide. I'm glad he talked about it... i hadn't really thought about it before this, and I just assumed it was normal to always be wary of what you tell your therapist with the worry that you might be seen as "wrong"
thanks link
I trust your instincts, Link.
Nightstand is the word you're looking for.
Rhett - my therapist basically redirects me when I start projecting my own feelings onto cats and people. It's totally true, I get it.
Link - when i am between crises, I usually start with "i don't know what to say but..." and then start rambling and I usually get where I need to go. Good for you sticking it out, whether it's this therapist or another - my therapist says that true work is done between crises, but too many people only care about the crisis.
Links experience was so much like my experience with therapy. Now I want to know if he switched therapists and if it helped!
Good morning!!! Excited to listen to y'all on my way to work
link: internet dad
rhett: internet daddy