I cannot even begin to count how many times I’ve told myself ‘I can’t give up today. I have dogs.’ I also remember being really comfortable with the covid restrictions. I said ‘can we make it 10 feet’ and ‘do we even have to have small social gatherings with 4 or less people? Can it just be like two instead?’ As far as music goes, sometimes leaning into it is helpful for me because it makes me feel less alone. I’m not very open when I’m in my feelings so I don’t really talk about it, and therefore never really get that from social situations. But I have to switch it up with a movie that has absolutely nothing to do with my shit. Something that is purely escape entertainment, or a tv show like Dr Who, where it can get heavy but doesn’t end in a bad note.
Your lucky to get so much help and even a dog. Im 32 living in london uk and as a black woman living with Complex PDST working so hard to give back and stay positive, i can't even explain how many times the national health service nhs has almost pushed me to suicide I'm. On my own been on my own for a long time tend to get used a lot by people, i am trying to re learn everything, bring a foster kid also added to my complex pdst. I do want to know is it possible i can deal on my own? I dont have a safety net and so afraid to talk to anyone about it out of fear of Being told I am overreacting Or I need to be a strong black woman. I hear anything like that again I'll loose it.
Your feelings are valid and you’re not over reacting in the slightest. Our brains are assholes. But I’m doing it completely on my own, and slowly I’ve been getting stronger and things are getting easier. And once i started being even the slightest bit kinder to myself, i started to find myself surrounded by people who care deeply about others. Just treat yourself like you’re your own girlfriend, in every way you can, and it’ll get easier one step at a time❤
By no means am i saying that I’m completely healed or even close. But today is a million times easier than functioning a year ago. I believe in you and your ability to re-train your brain. Call back your energy that has been stolen from you, and share as much love as you can with yourself. You deserve it♥️♥️
What you said made me tear up at the end. You genuinely care and understand. I don't know how to tell you how much I appreciate your efforts here to make people feel that they are worthy. That they matter. We need this, I need this. Thank you so much.
I don't compare myself to others but I do compare myself to before diagnosis and after diagnosis. I am so use to having multiple jobs and self employment. Now I can barely function to work. How can I get over that comparison because it definitely adds on to my mental health. I want to work so badly and when I lose a job or resign because it is too stressful, I feel like a failure. And it doesn't help that my husband and family just views it as me being lazy
Thanks! I try to not get wrapped up in my CPTSD and the dissociation that it creates in my head. Disability is something that I’m trying to make less impactful in my life and by using this social distancing time to focus on my strengths (without someone dragging my mind into the muck) I’m actually beginning to feel more empowered and less debilitated. Maybe, I’m finding my more settled footing in a wobbly world. I’m glad for your videos because there’s a sense of identification that others don’t seem to share.
Nice to finally see a video about ptsd that doesn’t have the title of “how to heal” or “how to move on from” as if it’s something you just grow out of or get over Also this is a lovely video with very good vibes
thank you so much for these videos. i have cptsd from childhood and a long term abusive marriage. I have been really struggling these past few months and listening to your story made me feel much more hopeful and less alone.
Thank you so much. Your ideas are wonderful. Im a 59 years old man and have struggled with this illness for 45 years. Im doing the work. I saw way to much verbal, mental and physical abuse. Its been a constant on my life. It's tainted every part of my adult life. I'm not who I used to be. Id like to be that man again.
Your channel is full of helpful hints, interesting stories, and dogs!! Thank you for being so real about everything. I have undiagnosed CPTSD and it is so nice to hear your perspective on everything. And I absolutely adore your new rainbow glasses.
Thanks for this video! It helped a lot to just get that validation. Trying to work through my ptsd one day at a time and what you said gives me more ideas how to do that.
I am really impressed. You are so young to have yourself figured out so well. I should listen to this video every morning. Btw, do you have any feeling that you have DID (dissociative identity disorder) as well as CPTSD, or does DID always come with CPTSD? For example, I often feel there is a war going on inside my head. It took me decades, yes I am very much a senior, to discover I have CPTSD and after that, more decades to discover DID, if that is what it is. Whatcha think? Thanks for this very encouraging and supportive video PTV.
Thank you for this wonderful video I actually needed to hear all this today its been rough for me lightly, so this made perfect timing for me personally so thank you. I feel I not understood and its just frustrating sometimes, so all this is a wonderful reminder. Oh and I finally got the package from you thank you Kelela ✌💚🧩
Thank you for this video I went from physically abuse from my father and I've been through a lot of abusive relationships up until last year and I've been through the list of forms of abuse and I would be lieing if I said I wasn't struggling
I don't have an automated machine but I use coffee as a promised reward to go to bed and then get out of bed and it works! The dogs definitely help too!
Looking for work outside the entertainment industry is so disappointing. I'm going to have to start looking for something soon too, but between COVID anxiety and my 10 years of previous retail experience I'm not thrilled about the idea of it.
I allways say im not technichly dignosed. However i know I have trauma(weather its PTSD,C-PTSD or something else..its there) and I have adhd and GAD so,its a rollercoster sometimes. Seeing things like this can be helpfull. Also I rilly understand the "I don't feel confident and if I do its confident anuther shoe is going to drop" thing. I get that whenever I feel okay as well..just waiting to be throwen back to square 1.
I have complex PTSD, and I have a service dog for anxiety, PTSD, and depression. As a young teen, with depression and overwhelming thoughts. This has been so helpful!!! Do u have any advice for taking a service dog to school? It is going to be his first year going to middle school!!
I have nothing to contribute but... Commenting for engagement woop woop I don't listen to music but always constantly listen to RUclips videos...i always like the music in the background of your vids because I'm always sewing and I can just vibe ha
I think ‘exhausted’ is probably a better description than ‘lazy’ :) Having all the thoughts, the feelings, the Inner Critic, and the hypervigilance going on is absolutely draining. I wish you all the best in finding your own way and place. I think you’re off to a good start, you’ve found this place. Kelela is wise.
@@grindsaurwith the dog, I feel too overwhelming, without the dog, i feel depression... What's really wrong with me ? Also, I asked so many people, they all told me in wrong way.
@@sll110 I’m sorry to hear that you, and the dog, had to go through that heartache :( Overwhelm and depression are both awful, and both fit perfectly within the C-PTSD framework so there doesn’t have to be anything ‘more’ that is ‘wrong’ with you (for what that is worth). The brain has an amazing capacity to learn and re-wire itself when it gets forced to do so. It’s not easy, it’s exhausting, it’s often painful - but improvement IS possible AND worthwhile. Just remember that when it resists it is only trying it’s best to protect you, in the way it learned a long time ago (which may not be so long ago, I don’t know your specifics). Be gentle with it. It can learn but only through sufficiently small steps. I fail at this too all the time too, you’re not alone in this at all. But I have also succeeded enough to see that I have actually made some progress :) I fall back into depression and despair often enough, and down there I sure can’t see any (acceptable) way out. But somehow at some point, often when I share my thoughts and feelings with someone trusted, the curse lifts for a time and I can continue trying to understand myself and what happened. Sorry for the wall of text. I really hope that you catch a breakthrough soon ❤️
I cannot even begin to count how many times I’ve told myself ‘I can’t give up today. I have dogs.’ I also remember being really comfortable with the covid restrictions. I said ‘can we make it 10 feet’ and ‘do we even have to have small social gatherings with 4 or less people? Can it just be like two instead?’ As far as music goes, sometimes leaning into it is helpful for me because it makes me feel less alone. I’m not very open when I’m in my feelings so I don’t really talk about it, and therefore never really get that from social situations. But I have to switch it up with a movie that has absolutely nothing to do with my shit. Something that is purely escape entertainment, or a tv show like Dr Who, where it can get heavy but doesn’t end in a bad note.
Been having really bad CPTSD stuff lately so thank youuuu!!!
Me too. It's hell.
@@kosmic_tarantula547X good luck bro we got this
Your lucky to get so much help and even a dog. Im 32 living in london uk and as a black woman living with Complex PDST working so hard to give back and stay positive, i can't even explain how many times the national health service nhs has almost pushed me to suicide I'm. On my own been on my own for a long time tend to get used a lot by people, i am trying to re learn everything, bring a foster kid also added to my complex pdst. I do want to know is it possible i can deal on my own? I dont have a safety net and so afraid to talk to anyone about it out of fear of Being told I am overreacting Or I need to be a strong black woman. I hear anything like that again I'll loose it.
Yes you can, try to reach out to a local support group or crisis line. They're there to help you and will not judge you. 🙏
Your feelings are valid and you’re not over reacting in the slightest. Our brains are assholes. But I’m doing it completely on my own, and slowly I’ve been getting stronger and things are getting easier. And once i started being even the slightest bit kinder to myself, i started to find myself surrounded by people who care deeply about others. Just treat yourself like you’re your own girlfriend, in every way you can, and it’ll get easier one step at a time❤
By no means am i saying that I’m completely healed or even close. But today is a million times easier than functioning a year ago. I believe in you and your ability to re-train your brain. Call back your energy that has been stolen from you, and share as much love as you can with yourself. You deserve it♥️♥️
What you said made me tear up at the end. You genuinely care and understand. I don't know how to tell you how much I appreciate your efforts here to make people feel that they are worthy. That they matter. We need this, I need this. Thank you so much.
I don't compare myself to others but I do compare myself to before diagnosis and after diagnosis. I am so use to having multiple jobs and self employment. Now I can barely function to work. How can I get over that comparison because it definitely adds on to my mental health. I want to work so badly and when I lose a job or resign because it is too stressful, I feel like a failure. And it doesn't help that my husband and family just views it as me being lazy
Thanks! I try to not get wrapped up in my CPTSD and the dissociation that it creates in my head. Disability is something that I’m trying to make less impactful in my life and by using this social distancing time to focus on my strengths (without someone dragging my mind into the muck) I’m actually beginning to feel more empowered and less debilitated. Maybe, I’m finding my more settled footing in a wobbly world. I’m glad for your videos because there’s a sense of identification that others don’t seem to share.
All good advice, coming from a ptsd person this helps allot
Nice to finally see a video about ptsd that doesn’t have the title of “how to heal” or “how to move on from” as if it’s something you just grow out of or get over
Also this is a lovely video with very good vibes
I'm getting a service dog and I decided on a golden retriever as the breed. There full of energy and smart.
thank you so much for these videos. i have cptsd from childhood and a long term abusive marriage. I have been really struggling these past few months and listening to your story made me feel much more hopeful and less alone.
Thank you for sharing, it can be very isolating to live with trauma - but none of us are actually alone ❤️
you look like joy from inside out. thnaks for your video
Thank you for being here! 🥹💛
Thank you so much! Been looking on RUclips for someone to relate, not many people are out there sharing their lives with C PTSD .
Thank you so much. Your ideas are wonderful. Im a 59 years old man and have struggled with this illness for 45 years. Im doing the work. I saw way to much verbal, mental and physical abuse.
Its been a constant on my life. It's tainted every part of my adult life. I'm not who I used to be. Id like to be that man again.
Your channel is full of helpful hints, interesting stories, and dogs!! Thank you for being so real about everything. I have undiagnosed CPTSD and it is so nice to hear your perspective on everything. And I absolutely adore your new rainbow glasses.
I just love that haircut so much on you!! really brings out your beautiful features.
Thanks for this video! It helped a lot to just get that validation. Trying to work through my ptsd one day at a time and what you said gives me more ideas how to do that.
I am really impressed. You are so young to have yourself figured out so well. I should listen to this video every morning. Btw, do you have any feeling that you have DID (dissociative identity disorder) as well as CPTSD, or does DID always come with CPTSD? For example, I often feel there is a war going on inside my head. It took me decades, yes I am very much a senior, to discover I have CPTSD and after that, more decades to discover DID, if that is what it is. Whatcha think? Thanks for this very encouraging and supportive video PTV.
I fully support you doing a video on the meanings of your tattoos. In depth. I'm also looking to get tattoos soon so I want to bounce ideas off yours.
Great advice! I totally relate to the joy of social distancing. Best. Thing. Ever. ...for someone who is hypervigilant. lol.
thank u ♡ feeling so seen!!
You're a star and I have so much respect for you. So strong. ❤️
Great tips in here!
Thanks Matt!
Refreshing thank you
Thank you for this wonderful video I actually needed to hear all this today its been rough for me lightly, so this made perfect timing for me personally so thank you. I feel I not understood and its just frustrating sometimes, so all this is a wonderful reminder. Oh and I finally got the package from you thank you Kelela ✌💚🧩
Thank you for this video I went from physically abuse from my father and I've been through a lot of abusive relationships up until last year and I've been through the list of forms of abuse and I would be lieing if I said I wasn't struggling
Just found your channel today, really glad I did!
Also coincidentally just washed my brushes earlier 😂💖
I don't have an automated machine but I use coffee as a promised reward to go to bed and then get out of bed and it works!
The dogs definitely help too!
Woah I just realized who you are. I didn't recognize you. Love the haircut! =) 🙏 thanks for the great content
Noone understand or really trys much. I come here to feel validation
I am happy to validate you - it also validates me!
Looking for work outside the entertainment industry is so disappointing. I'm going to have to start looking for something soon too, but between COVID anxiety and my 10 years of previous retail experience I'm not thrilled about the idea of it.
We'll get through this - even if it means that our industry just stops for a while 😭🖤
I allways say im not technichly dignosed. However i know I have trauma(weather its PTSD,C-PTSD or something else..its there) and I have adhd and GAD so,its a rollercoster sometimes. Seeing things like this can be helpfull. Also I rilly understand the "I don't feel confident and if I do its confident anuther shoe is going to drop" thing. I get that whenever I feel okay as well..just waiting to be throwen back to square 1.
I have complex PTSD, and I have a service dog for anxiety, PTSD, and depression. As a young teen, with depression and overwhelming thoughts. This has been so helpful!!! Do u have any advice for taking a service dog to school? It is going to be his first year going to middle school!!
I have nothing to contribute but... Commenting for engagement woop woop
I don't listen to music but always constantly listen to RUclips videos...i always like the music in the background of your vids because I'm always sewing and I can just vibe ha
Love ya..❤️☘️
You tell me I'm not lazy and I say "wait what". I just have Alot of things in my mind. Thoughts hurt
I think ‘exhausted’ is probably a better description than ‘lazy’ :)
Having all the thoughts, the feelings, the Inner Critic, and the hypervigilance going on is absolutely draining.
I wish you all the best in finding your own way and place. I think you’re off to a good start, you’ve found this place. Kelela is wise.
@@grindsaurI had a Labrador, but too noisy Because of CPTSD, I gave it Away, I felt big mistake.. I am so sad everyday now
@@grindsaurwith the dog, I feel too overwhelming, without the dog, i feel depression... What's really wrong with me ? Also, I asked so many people, they all told me in wrong way.
@@sll110 I’m sorry to hear that you, and the dog, had to go through that heartache :(
Overwhelm and depression are both awful, and both fit perfectly within the C-PTSD framework so there doesn’t have to be anything ‘more’ that is ‘wrong’ with you (for what that is worth).
The brain has an amazing capacity to learn and re-wire itself when it gets forced to do so. It’s not easy, it’s exhausting, it’s often painful - but improvement IS possible AND worthwhile.
Just remember that when it resists it is only trying it’s best to protect you, in the way it learned a long time ago (which may not be so long ago, I don’t know your specifics). Be gentle with it. It can learn but only through sufficiently small steps. I fail at this too all the time too, you’re not alone in this at all. But I have also succeeded enough to see that I have actually made some progress :)
I fall back into depression and despair often enough, and down there I sure can’t see any (acceptable) way out. But somehow at some point, often when I share my thoughts and feelings with someone trusted, the curse lifts for a time and I can continue trying to understand myself and what happened.
Sorry for the wall of text. I really hope that you catch a breakthrough soon ❤️
@@grindsaur Thank you so much 🌹🌹🌹🌹
Oddly enough I listen to what most considder kiddy music.
Um how do you cope with Complex Ptsd when the people who caused it are still in your life and you cant escape them?
I love this and your use of # millennial 😂❤
You may have Cpstd if you purposely edited your comment to break the hash tag link… just in case… 😣🤷🏼♀️