It's not a feminist thing, it's a lazy ass thing and an entitlement thing. Get a divorce. You should get 50/50 custody. I can tell you from personal experience that it will not get better. Make sure you stay in your son's life no matter what, he'll always need you.
Yeah, he _should_ get 50/50 but _will_ get 4 days a month and 2 weeks in the summer for 7/8 of his pay. And you can't stay in your child's life unless she wants that as the court will heed her feelings.
@Hun Bun No, that the standard award for men. 50/50 is the extreme case. Next time I'm adjudicating a child custody hearing, I just might...until I'm impeached.
@Jake If you're ever exposed to Family Court, it will become clear that it is a political tribunal--no judge ever gets votes by not pandering to the deemed preferred sex (or anything else PC). Pro tip: The worst elected judges get put in Family Court so at least they're not messing up murder trials.
@Hun Bun Bill talked about this kind of reply in one of his specials. He said if a girl ends up with a scumbag, everyone is on her side and says the guy is a piece of shit, but if a guy ends up with a scumbag, everyone says, "hey, he picked her." If you would say the same thing if the roles were reversed then, cool. Plus it sounds like she "advertised" something worthy of marriage and isn't following through. He wanted to leave but he wanted to believe in his wife (which isn't a bad thing) and by the time he realized she really is a piece of shit, well now it's too late. I feel bad for him.
@Hun Bun his emotions and life experience made him a trusting and compassionate person. He felt bad about potentially hurting his wife and gave her a second chance. With the right person that second chance could have payed dividends but he made a ..mistake that people have to learn from. Doesn't mean it's easy.
@Hun Bun and that's what sad. The guy has so little sense of self-worth, he doesn't think he deserves any better. It's heart breaking. I've taken shitty decisions with shitty consequences in the past, but this dude is a new level of pure low to me.
@Hun Bun That was my point. You have to have faith in relationships. He definitely should learn from it but people are good at hiding their true selves and it's easy to get gaslighted if you are trying to believe in people.
God, doesn’t it kill you that he wanted to rightfully abandon the marriage right when he could, at a moment when he still didn’t have much to lose, but she only kept him around just long enough to build how much this guy would end up owing her once a divorce seemed beneficial to her? Nothing worse than a person who ejects themselves from any responsibility in a family and then makes excuses for it and doesn’t want to change. Poor guy, but he seems, at least based on the story, to be someone who doesn’t have a limit and just lets the absolute worst turn out before really putting their foot down.
She committed fraud using his social security number, talk to the bank, freeze all your cards, talk to a lawyer and compile as much sh!t together to use against her in court. She blatantly has no respect for you or your son.
@@josephs3973 he may be able to prove a certain period of time of him not knowing. Is there a statute of limitations with something like this? If he can prove a certain amount, lets say, 10,000, couldn't he still sue her for fraud even at that amount? Here in texas anything over 500 dollars is a felony. At the very least, something like this may sway the opinion of a judge when considering custody.
You always have the option to walk away. No matter what you might think, that is ALWAYS a valid option. You've only got one chance to be happy in this life, don't let anyone rob you of that.
If you're in that situation, you can't let someone walk all over you. That's toxic af. I feel for you, that really sucks. If you have kids, continuing an unhappy relationship will reinforce a poor understanding of relationships. Teach them about what is healthy. Good luck bro. Probably see a therapist for you, not couple's. That might help you navigate the situation.
Honestly, this scares me from relationships. I hate messy roommates sooo much that I don't think I can tolerate living with most people. We need a "not a slob" dating app.
Bill is 100% correct. Don't sweat the debt/finances. That will work itself out when you cut out her cancerous spending. Weigh your options, make a decision, create a solid exit plan, execute it and move on.
That bit if the advice at the 6:00 mark. 💯 Fuckin PERCENT. Ask about legal recourse first and build the fuck outta your case and get as much evidence as you can so you can nail her ass to the wall. Bill is absolutely right about some of these women. I hope this man gets full custody 😟
Walk. My wife was pretty much a mirror image plus an opiate addiction on top. She abandoned me and out two daughters. Judges will side with dads these days. Good luck but go for the change
I my self have been though some of this and originally when we divorced she was the custodial parent with me being with our girls for almost half the time. Within 2 years both girls made the decision on their own to live with me. It may take time but it is worth the short term pain if out is what u want
All time best selling medication: male oral contraceptive...until the new all time best seller: male libido suppressant. And feminists will fight hard against both.
Not only get a lawyer, but consult every divorce attorney in a 50 mile radius. If she contacts any of them they'll turn her away due to conflict of interest. It may be dirty but this is yours and your child's livelihood. That lady is the fucking worst.
Halfway though thought: This sounds very similar to my relationship with my x wife. Leave man. You'll be happier. You'll find someone who has similar passion/speed for life as you.
Depressing situation.. agree with Bill on this one, get your ducks in a row see your options with a lawyer asap - if she's 5'2 200lbs+ she'll eventually eat her way to an early grave and the kid will grow up without a mom.. Or the guy will have so much fucking financial and emotional stress, it'll fuck him up too and impact the child..
A housewife should have full responsibility for: - Keeping all areas of the house nice and tidy and clean - Doing all of the laundry, and doing it will, ironing all shirts etc - Being a good cook. A lot of people these days don't have time and never learn to be a good cook. There is no excuse if you're a housewife, that's your job. Anyone can learn to cook. - Making sure the house always has all required groceries - Attending to anything that is broken in the house and calling out workers to fix things when necessary At the weekend maybe the husband can cook a meal one night and give her a full day off and the other day the husband can have the full day off. Relationships and marriage, especially when kids are involved, are about working together and doing what you can to support the other partner. The husband works hard to provide for his family to make sure they have a nice home to live in and a secure future. The wife (if they are not working and instead have the role of a housewife) should be doing whatever she can to support her husband to ensure he can perform his best at work and progress well, and earn even more money for the family so they can have a happy retirement. Any women who say the man should share the house chores with a wife who doesn't work is a total moron... I could just not possibly continue in a marriage like this... i hope the dude got out. And wtf did she spend $100k on anyway????!?!?
Leave this woman and get custody. Seriously. Emotional abuse and there is no good in stating in a bad relationship for a kid. The kid suffers the most!
How about this for advice: install security cameras all over your house. That way, you can show the courts what a great dad you are and what a lousy mom she is. THEN get a divorce.
It's crazy cause I went through something like this when it comes to the house wife part as she did not try to be a better wife/mother she wants to sleep all day I would come home from work fyi work overnight I would come home and cook food for my son otherwise my son wouldn't not have food until like 1pm that's really fucking late and to make things worse my son is Autistic.. I eventually just left her... it's been about a year now... and feel great I see my son most of the week I want to take custody knowing what she does so yea that's my situation right now
100% get out of that shit. The feeling of freedom you'll get after ditching her is so rewarding. Trust me, once you've proven to yourself you can live without her you will be so much happier in all aspects of life.
Let me tell you guys something. I have super low self esteem. I have settled for women way below my standards almost my whole life, i would honestly say I've never been with a woman Thats an 8 out of ten, and 7 / 10 would also be a stretch. I don't feel bad for this guy at all, and this coming from a guy with low self esteem like the guy in this video. But at least i never put up with the level of bullshit this guy has. At least i knew when to draw a line in the stand I mean you can't feel bad for someone that allows that level of bullshit. Worst part is this woman is a terrible mother, im actually scared for the childs well being.
Dude, I'm never getting married. I'll just live together and if somehow after 3 years of it with her still being great then okay. And 3 more years of marriage before a kiddo. Better think of relationships as business decisions.
20 bucks says daddy got her pregnant (either himself, or he helped her find someone to knock her up) as soon as he successfully convinced this guy to stick around for a few more weeks.
Get the fuck out of there, no matter the cost, or you'll lose your sanity, how you're still sane after 10 years with her is a mystery. Get out and spread your story far and wide so others don't fall into the same trap.
@@Aknight292 assuming you’re going by BMI, it’s not. It’s apparently very close, but it’s still under “normal”. But even ignoring BMI, thinking 135 at 5’2 is fat or “a lot” means you just have stupid high standards. I’m aware 200lbs at 5’2 is real bad, but I was only talking about at 135
@@Bman54X yeah, bmi is flawed. 135 is by those standards just barely overweight. Which muscle mass can be an influence without being unhealthy. It is still loosely considered overweight though
And another thing sew the feminist or try to for starting that business before you get divorced cus that woman will end up a work free life plus the additional funds, and honestly he's speaking up, because now a days women have what they want but dont like the fact things are how they are, feminism talk about equality HAH! Me and him are on the same boat, but she recently started to not talk to me
And there you have it. No matter how bad she is and no matter what evidence, family courts will just excuse it as he must have caused it. People don't accept that a woman can be bad just because she is bad and not because of others.
This dude is bsing. So she's this awful person, yet he has no flaws? Also he has no backbone, how the hell does she constantly have access to his funds if all she does is lay on her back all day
“She pulled the goalie on you there” 😂😂
@The Deathless She either removed or stopped taking her birth control
I went through something like this and being broke is still better then living with someone like that.
So messed up.
But the advice is sound.
Hope life is better for you dude and you prosper in life.
Sounds tough Best wishes John
You can feel the pain in Bill’s voice while reading this
It's not a feminist thing, it's a lazy ass thing and an entitlement thing. Get a divorce. You should get 50/50 custody. I can tell you from personal experience that it will not get better. Make sure you stay in your son's life no matter what, he'll always need you.
Yeah, he _should_ get 50/50 but _will_ get 4 days a month and 2 weeks in the summer for 7/8 of his pay. And you can't stay in your child's life unless she wants that as the court will heed her feelings.
@Hun Bun No, that the standard award for men. 50/50 is the extreme case. Next time I'm adjudicating a child custody hearing, I just might...until I'm impeached.
@Jake If you're ever exposed to Family Court, it will become clear that it is a political tribunal--no judge ever gets votes by not pandering to the deemed preferred sex (or anything else PC). Pro tip: The worst elected judges get put in Family Court so at least they're not messing up murder trials.
50/50? Four he literally said she sits at home eats and watches RUclips all day. Full custody.
@@melainewhite6409 oh god please tell me this isn't true. I really cannot handle anymore harsh realities such as these.
This is insanely depressing. Poor guy has zero control over his life.
@Hun Bun Bill talked about this kind of reply in one of his specials. He said if a girl ends up with a scumbag, everyone is on her side and says the guy is a piece of shit, but if a guy ends up with a scumbag, everyone says, "hey, he picked her."
If you would say the same thing if the roles were reversed then, cool. Plus it sounds like she "advertised" something worthy of marriage and isn't following through. He wanted to leave but he wanted to believe in his wife (which isn't a bad thing) and by the time he realized she really is a piece of shit, well now it's too late. I feel bad for him.
@Hun Bun his emotions and life experience made him a trusting and compassionate person. He felt bad about potentially hurting his wife and gave her a second chance. With the right person that second chance could have payed dividends but he made a ..mistake that people have to learn from. Doesn't mean it's easy.
@Hun Bun and that's what sad. The guy has so little sense of self-worth, he doesn't think he deserves any better. It's heart breaking. I've taken shitty decisions with shitty consequences in the past, but this dude is a new level of pure low to me.
@Hun Bun That was my point. You have to have faith in relationships. He definitely should learn from it but people are good at hiding their true selves and it's easy to get gaslighted if you are trying to believe in people.
@@diegoleiva7242 agreed. And if the kid is actually his(its not), then he needs to lawyer up. Cause this lady sounds like a terrible mother.
God, doesn’t it kill you that he wanted to rightfully abandon the marriage right when he could, at a moment when he still didn’t have much to lose, but she only kept him around just long enough to build how much this guy would end up owing her once a divorce seemed beneficial to her? Nothing worse than a person who ejects themselves from any responsibility in a family and then makes excuses for it and doesn’t want to change. Poor guy, but he seems, at least based on the story, to be someone who doesn’t have a limit and just lets the absolute worst turn out before really putting their foot down.
She committed fraud using his social security number, talk to the bank, freeze all your cards, talk to a lawyer and compile as much sh!t together to use against her in court. She blatantly has no respect for you or your son.
All she has to do is claim she did it with his permission. He would have to prove in court he didn't know about it, and good luck proving that.
@@josephs3973 he may be able to prove a certain period of time of him not knowing. Is there a statute of limitations with something like this? If he can prove a certain amount, lets say, 10,000, couldn't he still sue her for fraud even at that amount? Here in texas anything over 500 dollars is a felony.
At the very least, something like this may sway the opinion of a judge when considering custody.
Doesn't matter. Courts hold that anything she does wrong is due to him. Other than taking the child on the Midnight Express his life is gone.
@@josephs3973 Doesn't she have to prove it? How do you prove a negative? What kind of fucked up system is it that forces you to prove a negative?
Good catch on the fraud thing
This was a lot more depressing than I was hoping for
I could have written that email. I feel so bad for him.
You always have the option to walk away. No matter what you might think, that is ALWAYS a valid option. You've only got one chance to be happy in this life, don't let anyone rob you of that.
If you're in that situation, you can't let someone walk all over you. That's toxic af. I feel for you, that really sucks. If you have kids, continuing an unhappy relationship will reinforce a poor understanding of relationships. Teach them about what is healthy. Good luck bro. Probably see a therapist for you, not couple's. That might help you navigate the situation.
Time to put on the break up suit and go for a drive
" Pulled the Goalie on you there.... "
Such a great expression. Thank you Bill
You just know her plan is to get all she can out of him and go through divorce and get custody and the money left that she hasn’t already taken.
Oh man... I cannot understand how anyone would let a relationship get to this point. He should have left way sooner. The signs were too many.
Like a great philosopher once said “you treat her like a star and she’ll treat you like a fan”
Haven't heard that yet, but that's a good one.
Sex dries up, and she somehow gets pregnant? Dollar says that's not his child.
He definitely needs to check.
I don’t think this guy is that stupid to not be able to do basic math.
@@AllTimeAesthetic
He said the kid is the apple of his eye and denial can be a strong force keeping you from seeing the truth. :/
Why did he marry her in the first place?
GTFO!
Please don't say thing kind of things
People do change
It can happen to you too
@@1001001a wtf
Honestly, this scares me from relationships. I hate messy roommates sooo much that I don't think I can tolerate living with most people. We need a "not a slob" dating app.
DiiiVORCE
I'm going to come back to this whenever I feel bad about being single, because this is a goddamn nightmare.
Thank you for reminding me being single aint that bad!
Walk away, I'm the son of divorced parents and I'm doing just fine. It's not worth leaving in such a shitty situation
*living
Bill is 100% correct. Don't sweat the debt/finances. That will work itself out when you cut out her cancerous spending. Weigh your options, make a decision, create a solid exit plan, execute it and move on.
Bill I’m literally so impresssed by your insight god bless u brother
That bit if the advice at the 6:00 mark. 💯 Fuckin PERCENT. Ask about legal recourse first and build the fuck outta your case and get as much evidence as you can so you can nail her ass to the wall. Bill is absolutely right about some of these women. I hope this man gets full custody 😟
Walk. My wife was pretty much a mirror image plus an opiate addiction on top. She abandoned me and out two daughters. Judges will side with dads these days. Good luck but go for the change
He's basically the George Bailey of marriage.
Wow! Thats the American dream mixed with an EF5 tornado. Hope he's privately stockpiling up some of his money.
I my self have been though some of this and originally when we divorced she was the custodial parent with me being with our girls for almost half the time. Within 2 years both girls made the decision on their own to live with me. It may take time but it is worth the short term pain if out is what u want
RUNNNNNNNN!!!
Never get married. Also never have kids.
All time best selling medication: male oral contraceptive...until the new all time best seller: male libido suppressant. And feminists will fight hard against both.
100%
Not only get a lawyer, but consult every divorce attorney in a 50 mile radius. If she contacts any of them they'll turn her away due to conflict of interest. It may be dirty but this is yours and your child's livelihood. That lady is the fucking worst.
Just know however bad your life is, at least you’re not this guy...
Leave and declare bankruptcy
I would declare bankruptcy first 😂. But how would he get custody of his child? Is it possible to declare bankruptcy and still win a custody battle.
Halfway though thought: This sounds very similar to my relationship with my x wife. Leave man. You'll be happier. You'll find someone who has similar passion/speed for life as you.
I can relate scarily closely to this guy - minus the business/social security stuff.
Depressing situation.. agree with Bill on this one, get your ducks in a row see your options with a lawyer asap - if she's 5'2 200lbs+ she'll eventually eat her way to an early grave and the kid will grow up without a mom.. Or the guy will have so much fucking financial and emotional stress, it'll fuck him up too and impact the child..
"at this point 10 years later..."
dude, come on
A housewife should have full responsibility for:
- Keeping all areas of the house nice and tidy and clean
- Doing all of the laundry, and doing it will, ironing all shirts etc
- Being a good cook. A lot of people these days don't have time and never learn to be a good cook. There is no excuse if you're a housewife, that's your job. Anyone can learn to cook.
- Making sure the house always has all required groceries
- Attending to anything that is broken in the house and calling out workers to fix things when necessary
At the weekend maybe the husband can cook a meal one night and give her a full day off and the other day the husband can have the full day off.
Relationships and marriage, especially when kids are involved, are about working together and doing what you can to support the other partner. The husband works hard to provide for his family to make sure they have a nice home to live in and a secure future. The wife (if they are not working and instead have the role of a housewife) should be doing whatever she can to support her husband to ensure he can perform his best at work and progress well, and earn even more money for the family so they can have a happy retirement. Any women who say the man should share the house chores with a wife who doesn't work is a total moron...
I could just not possibly continue in a marriage like this... i hope the dude got out. And wtf did she spend $100k on anyway????!?!?
I understand this guy. I fucken hate being late on anything. Bills, appointments, female periods. Lmmfao
Leave this woman and get custody. Seriously. Emotional abuse and there is no good in stating in a bad relationship for a kid. The kid suffers the most!
How about this for advice: install security cameras all over your house. That way, you can show the courts what a great dad you are and what a lousy mom she is. THEN get a divorce.
It's crazy cause I went through something like this when it comes to the house wife part as she did not try to be a better wife/mother she wants to sleep all day I would come home from work fyi work overnight I would come home and cook food for my son otherwise my son wouldn't not have food until like 1pm that's really fucking late and to make things worse my son is Autistic.. I eventually just left her... it's been about a year now... and feel great I see my son most of the week I want to take custody knowing what she does so yea that's my situation right now
Interesanti interesanti
*sees the title of the video*
Oh jeezus, here we go :D
XD
Someone else posted this same clip today and I watched it there. You guys should hire those people to post for you or clamp down on them.
100% get out of that shit. The feeling of freedom you'll get after ditching her is so rewarding. Trust me, once you've proven to yourself you can live without her you will be so much happier in all aspects of life.
Let me tell you guys something. I have super low self esteem. I have settled for women way below my standards almost my whole life, i would honestly say I've never been with a woman Thats an 8 out of ten, and 7 / 10 would also be a stretch.
I don't feel bad for this guy at all, and this coming from a guy with low self esteem like the guy in this video.
But at least i never put up with the level of bullshit this guy has. At least i knew when to draw a line in the stand I mean you can't feel bad for someone that allows that level of bullshit. Worst part is this woman is a terrible mother, im actually scared for the childs well being.
Georgia strong keep up the good work sir
Oh jeezussss 😲
The problem is that she never really had any respect for him. Probably because he never stood up for himself.
God damn I want a follow up
another day another red pill
Dude, I'm never getting married. I'll just live together and if somehow after 3 years of it with her still being great then okay. And 3 more years of marriage before a kiddo.
Better think of relationships as business decisions.
Lol bildo
Leave her declare bankruptcy, leave her with the kid he will figure it out at 18
Sounds like he had plenty of opportunities to notice the red flags, and he ignored them.
I don't feel bad for him, he's a goof.
Stay with her, go to gym, record everything, take care of yourself. Hide your money. Tell her nothing.
What the actual fuck
20 bucks says daddy got her pregnant (either himself, or he helped her find someone to knock her up) as soon as he successfully convinced this guy to stick around for a few more weeks.
“Who cares if they put the 100 grand on you”
Tsk tsk tsk, ol Billy ballsack is too Hollywood these days. Only a rich guy would say that
She is beyond selfish
What’s the email to his podcast
Well if she watches youtube all day, she'll probably end up here at some point 🤷♂️
Get out, you and your some will be much happier in the long run
Bildo I'm hear for this
That went dark
wtf i came here to laugh man
I am sure she's cheating on him and the child isn't his
5' 2" and 200+ lbs? She couldn't cheat on him if she tried
holy crap
This is like bill wrote in to himself.
Get the fuck out of there, no matter the cost, or you'll lose your sanity, how you're still sane after 10 years with her is a mystery. Get out and spread your story far and wide so others don't fall into the same trap.
She got pregnant. Oh nooooo.
135 pounds at 5’2” is a lot.
It really isn’t
@@Bman54X It's knocking on obesity's door. Then she ballooned up to two C-notes.
@@Bman54X it's considered overweight. 200lbs at 5'2" is very obese
@@Aknight292 assuming you’re going by BMI, it’s not. It’s apparently very close, but it’s still under “normal”. But even ignoring BMI, thinking 135 at 5’2 is fat or “a lot” means you just have stupid high standards.
I’m aware 200lbs at 5’2 is real bad, but I was only talking about at 135
@@Bman54X yeah, bmi is flawed. 135 is by those standards just barely overweight. Which muscle mass can be an influence without being unhealthy. It is still loosely considered overweight though
And another thing sew the feminist or try to for starting that business before you get divorced cus that woman will end up a work free life plus the additional funds, and honestly he's speaking up, because now a days women have what they want but dont like the fact things are how they are, feminism talk about equality HAH! Me and him are on the same boat, but she recently started to not talk to me
😬
Stop marrying women like this ffs
I wonder what her side of the story is.
And there you have it. No matter how bad she is and no matter what evidence, family courts will just excuse it as he must have caused it. People don't accept that a woman can be bad just because she is bad and not because of others.
"he doesn't understand me...he doesn't pay me enough attention...he doesn't make me feel special"
Didn't you apologize to your wife for being white? Not very manly of you Bill
This dude is bsing.
So she's this awful person, yet he has no flaws? Also he has no backbone, how the hell does she constantly have access to his funds if all she does is lay on her back all day
jesus christ
She might need to speak to a doctor about her behavior. Maybe she’s clinically depressed.
Most wives just 'are'
Some 'do'.