But 96% of the whole world Does. Not. Care. - and they wont! So you will probably keep getting hit by 19 Trucks each month. Is this fun for you? Probably not. So, what will you DO? Developing a skill can help. Get good at something. You'll feel better about yourself. And feel more confident. That will help you face the world, like most people. Or, you can sit in your house all day and do nothing. But then, you'll keep getting hit by more and more Trucks. And Life will pass you by. Which hurts more?
What will you do? Are you employed at all? How will you stop other people's "negative energy". Can you? If not, what then? The "Trucks" will keep hitting you. Often. How will you get better at handling Life? Do you have a strategy?
@@dabbler1166 I wish I had a strategy. I have been seeing a psychologist for over a year. she won't discuss trauma or attachment style. think I need to look for another therapist, but I'm attached to her and It feels like another painful breakup. I don't think that my job will be affected because I don't interact with anyone at work and they don't seem to care. . I keep myself (sadly) separated from everyone. Don't have a plan to handle life better. Lost a 40year relationship over my failure to cope. Now I need to work on myself, but don't know how.
Same here but I try to avoid those that come across with manipulations and control freaks. I will run nor walk away. They are bad news due to my experience being around those type of people that can't mind their own business.
#3 hit way too hard. My brain is like hyper analyzing every situation I’m ever in and ever will be in all while my mind loops content I’ve consumed over and over it’s exhausting
When my daughter started throwing up every morning before going to "mothers day out" program (3 days/ week at our church), we started realizing something wasn't right. We had her tested for autism and the psychiatrist told us she was part of a 2% population that had Asperger's and sensory processing disorder (with a couple of other things). Reading Elaine Aron's book Highly Sensitive Child opened up an entirely different world for us! She was our first child, and we were tired of having to explain her sensitivities and shyness to everyone all the time. We were able to enroll her in a small preschool that helped her handle the feelings of being overwhelmed, and she's now going to college in a different state! It's been a difficult journey, including many sacrifices, but every single one of them has been worth it in the end. She's highly intelligent and received a full tuition scholarship, and wants to become a family, marriage and child therapist!
This World NEEDS The Highly Sensitive, The Empaths, The Compassionate People Who Can Help Change The Ugly, The Painful, The Wrong, The Suffering, & Make Things Better!💪✊
This is me. The slightest comment or look can set me reeling with hurt and overreaction that takes several hours to overcome. If I comment on something online, I can't let myself read any replies because if they're critical, mocking or even slightly negative, it's like getting hit by an emotional bus. I've been like this all my life. I'm most comfortable alone with my cat. I feel like I was born without the armour everyone else has. I'm just completely overwhelmed by other people. They have enormous power over me so I tend to isolate.
so, if you know that, what will you DO about it? Can you make the world more sensitive? Probably not. I cant, either. So again: What will you do? and when?
I was told this my entire career in hospitality at the front desk. I would get really sad and upset when guests would insult me and scream at me. My supervisors would always say I need to toughen up and take it less personally. I ultimately had to leave the industry because I was making myself sick. It feels validating to hear you speak about this!!
I feel like this anytime I perceive any annoyance or negative look or words from people when communicating with me. I don’t want to be a problem I actually like people but when people aren’t the same way back, I begin feeling overwhelmed with guilt that I was doing wrong and I’m never going to be a person generally thought as likable or nice. I know this is wrong thinking but I will think about the encounter until the next day. I don’t know how to stop.
I have been an HSP for 74 years and I have always struggled to fit in anywhere. It was easier when I was younger because I just put my mask on and petended I was having a nice time, but then I needed to be alone asap to de-stress. I came to dread socialising and all it entailed. As I got older I just wanted to be authentic and be myself, so I would refuse parties and gatherings and isolate. It has been like this for decades, and I am much happier now that I am not living a lie. The older I get the more alone time I need. I love going out alone in the country or to the beach, away from people and noise. I never feel lonely and I love the privacy I enjoy. I live in a Lifestyle Village, so you can imagine I don't go down well with with others living here. I just try to ignore them when they tell me I need to get out more or mix with others, they haven't got a clue, and I have given up trying to explain how it is for me. They just don't get it.
I was thinking about so many things recently, over thinking about my past and things I've gone through and being have come to the realisation that I feel things more intensely and I saw this video and I could relate to some of these things a lot. It's like I've found out more about who I truly Iam and Iam so glad that I found this because it answered a lot of things for me in my life so thank you so much Kati.
I am an empath. I’m also diagnosed schizophrenic and bipolar 1. It’s hard getting out of bed at times, because it feels like I’m a sponge and I pick up on negativity around me. However, this gift is also a blessing to me. I love going to the park and watching the ducks, it affects me profoundly. Empathy is a double edged sword.
OMG! Now things are finally making sense. I literally have 9 /10 of these signs (not very sure about dim lights). Fear of rejection has held me back in life, conflicts kill me, and being in a crowded environment with no escape is a nightmare! I have felt misunderstood all my life and seem unable to find a career that I could fit in and enjoy for long. I have always thought something was wrong with me. Now I see I have not been broken! It is just SOOOOO difficult being an HSP+INFJ.
I never thought that HSP existed or even could occur in me. I am often very introverted, try to act happy on the outside, always told I am too sensitive otherwise or as the youngest, considered a cry baby. All of the symptoms in this videos are all that I have and this video truly helped me a lot🥹🥰❤❤❤
I drink so much coffee! I am so HSP it hurts. I cannot count how many times I have heard "YOU ARE TOO SENSITIVE!" I get really upset when people hurt animals - especially in movies or videos. I have resorted to relating only to my pets! When I think about myself as a kid - I hate me so much. I hate my adult self too, but I absolutely LOATH my child self.
I knew I'm different with others since when I was kid but I didn't know what it is. Only 3 years ago I knew about HSP. Sometimes I don't like being HSP but also I started loving and caring about myself more 🍀💚 We're not weak. We were just born as HSP and it's a gift 😊
I realized I’m an HSP after becoming a mother. Being a highly sensitive parent can be very challenging. I have had to start a regular breathwork practice to regulate my nervous system through my little ones big feelings and tantrums. It’s helped her to see me heal and we are learning to co-regulate together
I got just to #6 and realized why I resigned from my job three days ago. Yes I can find another one soon so nobody should attack that. But the manager at the store was demanding too many tasks and I couldn't immediately be perfect at each one at my standard and the dismissive nature of the customers crushed my spirit daily. Empirically, with me as one sample, this is a very accurate module and you should be proud of yourselves for presenting it to us Thank you immensely.
I live in the UK and am dual diagnosed with autism and ADHD-I and this is ME. I don't know what the result of my watching this video will be, but I am glad I watched it and have added it to a new Come Back To playlist so I can return to it. I want to share this with my family but I don't know how I'd encourage them to watch it because while they work hard 5 days a week and are tired from it and can find me exhausting at times, whereas I volunteer at a charity shop when I choose and socialise when I choose to so for them it looks like I have it easy and I do have it easier but that's only because in order to get out of bed every day and do anything at all I'm having to navigate an internal battle that they don't see and cannot truly relate to no matter how much I try to explain it. Thank you so much for making this 🙏🏻
I understand. U arent alone. We are very loving ppl who have been misunderstood. Ppl tell me I don’t look like I have anything going on, they think the way I look dictates my internal world. Practicing the art of detachment helped me immensely
LED and fluorescent lights are the worse. I prefer incandescent lights. Loud noises are a jump scare for me (startle response). Never punk me or something bad might happen. No super scary movies, gore or violence in my media. HSP kinda sucks - I wasn't always like this.
How have I reached 65 & only just found this! This explains how I get so exhausted & ruminate over things done & said to us. This explains so much...I've subscribed
This is me 💯I also have fibromyalgia, Crohn's disease, Gastroparesis, Depression, Diabetes, high blood pressure, My nervous system feel like it's in overdrive, I feel everything. My doctors tell me I am very in tune with my body, it's like I can tell when something is about to happen with my body before the doctors knew it. they ask me how did you know that. But of course they don't always listen to me, so I just wait until it happens.
After 9 years of being in a relationship with an high functioning autistic partner who also has cptsd and signs of bpd alongside me being diagnosed cptsd and a hsp with major intuitive abilities, I’m creating content based on what I’m learning. It is my belief that a large portion of the population has one or more of these traits. Lack of diagnosis and awareness is the root of many relationship challenges. I’m So exited to help ppl be free of the shame often associated with neurodivergent people.
Please do a video on the similarities and differences between HSP and ASD! I know a lot of people who thought they were just HSP but were also Autistic
theres so much overlap between that, HSP, ASD, ADHD, DID, schizo related stuff. makes ya wonder if these circuits are closer related in the brain somewhere or something as simple as circuit bussing systems not having proper edge detection or filtering systems from elsewhere
As a hsp on partnership with a high functioning autistic man, I have discovered some major pros and cons of being in a relationship like this. I was actually inspired to write a book about it. I feel all autistic people have areas where they are highly sensitive such as criticism and rejection. Ultimately this is a NU territory for humanity that has never been explored in this way. Neurodivergence is a gift despite being demonized by many.
I feel like this video was made just for me. I actually started laughing and stupidly almost felt ashamed at how much I relate to literally every single sign. My horoscope sign is Cancer and people tell me things like “You’re such a Cancer!!”,but I’m just a hsp and that’s okay! I’ve been rejected from jobs due to being to sensitive and hard on myself. They preferred someone with more confidence and that killed me! Is it so bad that I care as much as I do?! This is a video I’ll definitely replay more than once. Thank you Kati. We’re strangers but I feel like you know exactly how to help me. I appreciate you so much. You make such a huge difference in my life.
You are so right about how mean people can be online. RUclips comments these days are like a cesspool of hate and judgement. Men in particular get shamed by the shame police for Number 8 (crying).
I can relate to many of these points, especially feeling constantly overwhelmed, preferring dim lighting, and naturally, always feeling misunderstood. I've also been called highly sensitive as well.
I'm a highly sensitive person, but I'm not sure if it's related to my autism diagnosis. For me, one benefit of being highly sensitive is that I can really emote when I sing or play a character onstage. It has also helped me to connect with other people sometimes. Even if I feel disregulated, my husband understands and helps me through it.
I have autism too and can relate to having hsp traits, on top of that, I may have quiet bpd as well ( I haven't been diagnosed with bpd yet). I try not to let all these things become overwhelming. It's definitely challenging and easy for me to fall into a victimized mindset, but I know I am making progress, slowly but surely. I'm glad your husband is supportive of you. All the best with your journey😊
Hi! I'm 63 and have always felt this way so I'm definitely a HSP. You are a real gem, and I absolutely adore your shirt! Our daughter loves elephants! I like what you say. Thank you for the video.
Katie just wanted to say thank you very much for this video. Yes as a child I was looked down on being overly sensitive especially by my NPD dad who constantly told me that you're just too sensitive all the time crying like a big baby..😢 I came to believe through therapy that being sensitive was not so bad. It's me and it's how my emotions or my feelings are expressed and can't nobody tell me that being too sensitive is being weak I have boundaries now and with especially my dad if he does not like me expressing my emotions and being sensitive then he can leave my home as an adult I will not be treated with disrespect made to feel weak like something was wrong with me. No more! Won't you see it you can't unsee it, it's not me I'm allowed to feel the way I want to.. thanks again. Oh and I'm not sure about the autism being highly sensitive doesn't always mean You have autism. But definitely being neglected and or mental and physical abuse can definitely make you overly sensitive people
This information should be shared far and wide. I've seen this run in families and become severe psychiatric disorders when they're traumatized in early childhood. It gets passed down until someone starts getting help and breaking cycles. When we grow up in nurturing environments we thrive in our natural talents and learn how to adapt our environments to suit us better. I believe it's very important to help this population of people shift from forms of intergenerational trauma to using our talents in service to others while following our bliss. ☺
im 14 and horribly sensitive i just hate being emotional and i know that its because im stressing too much about my future and thinking that because of my horrible grades i will just fail and i hate the fact that i take it out on the people i love but i also just wish they could understand me and not think of me as a crybaby so i not really sure if im HSP but now i believe it.
I have only recently become aware of “highly sensitive person” as a thing. Crazy because I’m definitely an HSP and I had never heard that term used. Many of your 10 HSP markers apply to me, not all, but here’s one you don’t mention, one that I have suffered with much of my life - blushing. In my old age (I’m 78) I have finally stopped blushing easily, though I still do at times. But much of my life I blushed so easily that I would avoid social situations or almost any setting where I would draw attention to myself. It would be difficult to overstate how much this affliction has circumscribed my life. Just the fear of blushing would cause me to blush! I have never talked with a therapist about this problem, but I feel this is tied to my being an HSP. I wonder if you would agree.
Thank you for this video. I am 65 years old, and have most of these signs. I think I am too old to change. This has affected most parts of my life.👍👏🙏💯🤷
Throughout my years growing up and just all throughout my life in general, I’ve had people tell me that I am “Too Sensitive” mainly as it pertains to the tone people would use as they speak to me or certain jokes that people would make about others, be it me or someone else. I have always known that I tend to thrive in settings on my own since my days in school and quite frankly, I tend feel a sense of relief when I have my own space especially after a long day mingling with others. I will admit that I am sometimes embarrassed to mention this, but I would be quicker to cry when I younger, but nowadays I have a hard time getting myself to cry. I think I may possibly meet the criteria for a HSP, although I’m not completely sure.
I relate to this. I’ve been told by an attachment specialist that I lean avoidant, but once I started expressing my needs, and becoming increasingly aware of my feelings. I have noticed how sensitive I am. All of these points line up for me. My husband is saying that he thinks I have bpd, but this is so far from my reality and just hurts. I am aware of my triggers and have worked on RAIN / radical compassion and still notice some really mean ways that I speak to myself. I like the way you worded “the bridging statement” That’s so helpful for me. I like the idea of building a bridge and reframing like in CBT.
Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart, for this video. Finally I'm having clues of who I am, why I feel what I feel and patterns to follow to live with it. Thank you.
Back in Sept 2018, I was 44 yo and I lost it! I confronted my parents about the horrible things they used to say to me. I was adopted by them. They knew my 16 yo bio mom, and they hated her. As I grew up they kept saying, "Don't be like your mother!" I felt confused and unloved because... wasn't she supposed to be my mother? Wasn't he supposed to be my father? All Dad said was, "You were always too sensitive. Stop having a pity party."
Yes, true! They were suppose to be your parents.im sorry you were treated that way. The phrase" too sensitive, " down plays a persons feelings. 😾 Thats awful. You deserve to be listened too !
Whether you're sensitive or not, your a-parents acted completely out of line. What you describe is simply abuse. What they told you about your bio mom and how you may be like her (which to a certain level is inevitable, because of genes), says nothing about you, and all about them. Every healthy, normal person would be "sensitive" about such things being told by anyone, let alone by their parents; it's toxic AF. Excuse my French.
@maxim3830 Thank you for the validation. I appreciate you. I've cut them out of my life intermittently over the past 30 years. I float between anger and obligation. My mother has apologized. My father is an asshole still. They're in their 70's and he's verbally abused her since myself and my brother have left home. He's offended if anyone calls him out on it. I refuse to even talk to him. I realize now how strong my mom is.
@@melissamason2983 I am afraid many people are insensitive like your dad, unfortunately. Mine too. I was never adopted and I never doubted parental love, but I feel like he rarely thought of me as a person to truly converse with, but more like of a project that needed to be completed and sent off to the world asap. My sister grew up just like him in character: she makes sure her kids have everything they need to thrive, but forgets about love and attention, almost always dismissive, barking orders, not willing to sit down, listen, wipe tears or support in any way. She insists they move on, toughen up, not be babies, etc. She is not sensitive herself, so she doesn't get it no matter how much I try to talk to her about it
Kati thank you. Thats me!!!! I've been searching for a reason for all these symptoms. My loved ones heckled me because of these traits. Thank you. Headed to theropy. 😊
All those 10 signs apply to me and I knew I was a HSP but thought it was only me and did not know why and people ask me all the time why I am so sensitive and never knew how to explain it, so thank you for making this video so I CAN finally share with others how I feel on my daily life.
all points checked off. I am the sensitive one for sure. Thank you, Kati, for putting a name on it for me - it does help and does make a difference for me, even though I am 52 years old
This is an encouraging video! Good to have the knowledge. A positive thing about being real perceptive to make people feel better: I once went to a public restoom and felt like "This place is WRONG. Do not go back! In fact, this building seems messed up." Months later, there was a fire that started in that bathroom. So, when I feel something is off, I make a mental note and move on. This seeming sixth sense is not 100%, but its always a heads up. Also, what if someone doesn't have all the sensitivities? Like, I enjoy crowded events and don't really get how someone can be sensitive to rejection, but then I notice subtle things and cry over beautiful music.
I wish I wasn’t sensitive to caffeine but I am, it was giving me ulcers at one point! That’s another thing about being HSP my body is sooo sensitive to food! Just got to stay positive and take really good care of yourself mentally & physically! ❤
Thank you for this. At 52yrs I am just beginning to understand myself. Perhaps, in slight defence, I feel that people who don't choke up at certain things are the ones that need the regulation. I often hear this quote in my head: 'It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society', and wonder why most of the effort from humans on this planet isn't to create a more utopian place to live starting with our minds and how to empathise and solve conflict. Instead we have a world in turmoil based on profit and productivity. To appear or even feel borderline emotionless about the current human condition is either ignorance or escapsm. Empaths/HSP, etc are only trying to hide as we're so different to the majority of people mindlessly consuming and focusing on their own desires that we feel like we have the problem. Thanks from New Zealand
I've always been told, I wear my heart on my sleeve, I need to grow tougher skin, I'm too sensitive. And every single time someone said these things to me I felt offended! Why couldn't they see that yes, I was sensitive, and yes I "feel" things more. That it doesn't make me a bad person, just that yes, I am highly sensitive and thats ok. 😊
I am like this , especially when I see homeless people , my heart cries. Omg you just hit the spot with bright lighting , I wear sunglasses at work cause it is too bright for me
Thank you for this nudge with such divine timing! I’m a clinical psychology student interested in creative arts therapies as well and in practicum currently, and I’m already aiming to be as alert as I can about my inner wellbeing and emotions. I’m also considering how I will be with those I work with to while also aiming to keep faith in myself too. Content like this is (re)assuring and so much appreciated, thank you for being here, Kati, much love 🤍🧿✨❤️
I'm HSP, avoidant, OCD, aspie, (to sum it up, "Shinji Ikari" from Evangelion lol.) As a GUY, some might feel "defective" being wired this way, but I embrace it. In our relationship my wife is the breadwinner & it works well as I find doing the cooking/cleaning duties therapeutic. On #7, while it's true that I can't handle caffeine from soda & coffee, the type that is in green tea/matcha & yerba mate agrees with me just fine & is actually quite calming, (for me at least!)
More than half of these signs I definitely can relate to. I struggle with many of these, especially one of the last things you mention in the video about the "old stories from our childhood" thing. That I can definitely relate to as well. Thank you for uploading this video!
I’m an HSP and I love being with people and love bright lights. Some of us are not all of these. I have a strong sense of taste, smell and hearing though.
It is very, very,VERY common for people, especially AFAB people, to identify as HSP at first only to move on and discover that they are in fact autistic (often in combination with ADHD). If you identify with HSP, do yourself a favour and look into autistic masking and the hidden autism profile, sometimes referred to as the female profile or high-masking/camouflaging profile. And yes, autistic people can be, and often are, highly empathetic, so having empathy does not mutually exclude autism.
I thought for YEARS I had ADHD or autism. I have neither. I actually have a dissociative disorder. It can be difficult, if not impossible, to tease out what's nature and what was caused by trauma
That’s what I’ve been wondering too- 0-0 I’m ABSOLUTELY highly sensitive. I’ve known this for years. But autistic, I’m not sure- :,)) but it’s possible.
Autism and HSP have traits in common, but Autism is more than that. But you are right to aware consciousness about Autism, cause it is very often diagnoses late, during adulthood.
Autism needs work. Its all tooooo Broad, too fuzzy, not specific enough. But that doesn't mean we should divide it all up into 14 sub-categories, either. But it needs a fairly pin-pointed better definition. And, whatever happened to "Aspberger's?" How is it different? Do those folks even want to "get better"? SOME, of them, keep relentlessly referring to the great majority of people as "Neuro-typical's", as if Typical were a disorder. They remind me of Deaf people who want to STAY Deaf because they prefer to stay with their "Community" rather than to "be Well". Go figure. Tooo many things can be lumped under Autistic. And yet, we dont need 17 sub-divisions of it, either. Perhaps focusing on DIFFERENCES between this and that, and that, can help. But the differences need to be DISTINCT and when the "list" hits 4 variants or more, you've already gone too far. My opinion.
For me my issue is if I have something that’s overly caffeinated or too much caffeine.i remember I not only ended up mentally/emotionally wacky from that once but also ended up with a health issue that had me bed ridden for almost 1 month.
I’m 41 and first realised I was a HSP a couple of years ago. I get overwhelmed and don’t have any friends just loving family. I need to recharge my battery quite often. I don’t like loud noises and smells can make me feel sick. I no longer watch the news or social media (apart from YT to leave) because it made me feel so sad for something I couldn’t control. I moved to decaf after palpitations and panic attacks and moving ti caffeine free which means no chocolate but it’s worth it cos it triggers me so much. Hope some of these tips help others 😊
I check all of these boxes except the caffeine one. I am so habituated to strong coffee that it doesn't even have a stimulant effect on me anymore. I just enjoy the taste and the ritual of having coffee with my breakfast. I am definitely dependent on it, though. If I don't have it, I have withdrawal symptoms that are very unpleasant. But coffee is very high in antioxidants, so I don't consider it a problem that I depend on it. It's one of life's great pleasures!
I'm a HSP and my ex-husband is a HSP, our son is extremely, highly sensitive and has struggled a lot with it. One thing he was able to do since he was a toddler was hold himself together in public untill he was at home and could break down. It took me into my adult years to be able to hold myself together in public.
I'd suggest to check if it's not autism or ADHD. Autistic people often have meltdown or shutdown due to over-stimulation, and as you describe they'll often keep it together in public and crumble at home (either calmly if it's a shutdown or loudly/violently if it's a meltdown).
I realized this was me when I asked a question on Reddit. Instead of opinions in the responses, I was personally attacked for caring so much about the topic. I have never felt the same about humanity or more alone since.
I have had times in the past few months, that I wanted to cry! Our society has shamed or hasn't let men a chance to cry or show our feelings. Crying or showing feelings is a sign of weakness.
That's me. To the point. Except #5 is opposite. I need good light and dislike dim lighting. It's like, my body tries harder to focus on seeing with dim light. Maybe it's related to my bad vision, who knows.
I deal w pseudo tumor cerebri (too much spinal fluid and could cause blindness) and adhd, so I'm a mess. lights can hurt and very pale skin so I do not prefer to be in the sun. Night or dark quiet 4 or 5 am when the streets are empty im out walking, it is my favorite time. I still have fun at anytime its just what i love most. ❤
This is an amazing video. Thanks so much. This offers encouragement and realistic aids to deal with the characteristics of being an HSP. I appreciate it.
I'm an HSP, I have major/persistent/treatment resistant depression, general anxiety disorder, high social anxiety, a tendency for panic attacks, borderline personality disorder, OCD, and ADHD. Been in treatment for 14 years. I feel like I've "won" the mental health lottery.
Your not alone. I feel I fall into all that you listed, but I wasn't diagnosed for BPD nor believed by my therapist (she's not updated on the DMS5) or being help/treated for them.
I am HSP. I like to watch movies that I know so I'm not overly stimulated. And at the casino I was immediately overwhelmed. I am often told I'm too sensitive. WOW! Now I don't feel like such an odd duck.
Would you be willing to make a video on the differences seen between HSP’s and females on the autism spectrum? I feel like there are so many similarities and I’m genuinely confused which one I am😅. Getting evaluated this summer.
I think you can be both: a lot of people on the autism spectrum are highly sensitive. I am also a female on the autism spectrum who struggles a lot with high sensitivity... 🫂
And I relate to some hsp things but not all of them. So I’m technically an hsp but maybe in a different way.i just feel emotions more strongly but that goes along with my other mental struggles.
Thank you Kati! All of them resonated. That thing about coffeine was interesting. I don't drink coffee partly becouse It makes me feel anxious but wasn't sure if it was just my imagination or not. Now I know im probably right ☕️
I used to hate when my boss would say "you're not going to cry are u?". My kids make fun of me sometimes when we're watching a movie and ask "you're not going to cry are u?" also. I also have ADHD and caffeine doesn't affect me. Can anyone else hear brite lights? Like the buzzing or humming?
I am almost sure I am an HSP-almost all of the things apply to me, except for maybe crying easily… I seem to respond to things more with a lot of fear rather than tears.
What about the Low Sensitive People?? All this talk of HSP is discriminatory towards LSP! As a 61 year old avoidant INTP, I've buried my emotions in a place I doubt I will ever find. I avoid social and emotional interactions at all costs! I am socially and emotionally clueless!! Well, maybe not completely, but enough that most of the time I don't know what I'm feeling, so I just ignore or bury it. After doing lots of research I find the root cause is Childhood Emotional Neglect, and bullying in school. I never had anyone to trust, confiding in, or learn about/how to deal with emotions. All I had was me. Instead of having an HSP meltdown, I'd just deal with it in my head and move on. Obviously, it was never completely dealt with, it was just buried and "forgotten" about. I've gone to therapy on and off my whole life, but only recently have I dove in to find the root cause, but I still have no idea what to do about, or (at my age) if I even want to do anything about it. I think all I'm doing is educating my young therapist,
I was assaulted by my grandfather at age 5. When I tried to get counseling for it, a retired police officer had three therapists make jokes about it to me. So I'm sorry if it's a little difficult to trust, when they people that are supposed to protect me, make things worse on purpose. Then they have everyone make fun of me for it, and act like I should just "walk it off"
I'm definitely an HSP, but also avoidant. Life is so difficult because any negative energy coming towards me is like being hit by a truck.
But 96% of the whole world Does. Not. Care. - and they wont!
So you will probably keep getting hit by 19 Trucks each month. Is this fun for you? Probably not.
So, what will you DO?
Developing a skill can help. Get good at something. You'll feel better about yourself. And feel more confident. That will help you face the world, like most people.
Or, you can sit in your house all day and do nothing. But then, you'll keep getting hit by more and more Trucks. And Life will pass you by. Which hurts more?
What will you do? Are you employed at all?
How will you stop other people's "negative energy". Can you?
If not, what then? The "Trucks" will keep hitting you. Often. How will you get better at handling Life? Do you have a strategy?
@@dabbler1166 I wish I had a strategy. I have been seeing a psychologist for over a year. she won't discuss trauma or attachment style. think I need to look for another therapist, but I'm attached to her and It feels like another painful breakup. I don't think that my job will be affected because I don't interact with anyone at work and they don't seem to care. . I keep myself (sadly) separated from everyone. Don't have a plan to handle life better. Lost a 40year relationship over my failure to cope. Now I need to work on myself, but don't know how.
I hope you learn to make your mind stronger , there’s more to life than trying to protect yourself from the world.
Same here but I try to avoid those that come across with manipulations and control freaks. I will run nor walk away. They are bad news due to my experience being around those type of people that can't mind their own business.
#3 hit way too hard. My brain is like hyper analyzing every situation I’m ever in and ever will be in all while my mind loops content I’ve consumed over and over it’s exhausting
When my daughter started throwing up every morning before going to "mothers day out" program (3 days/ week at our church), we started realizing something wasn't right. We had her tested for autism and the psychiatrist told us she was part of a 2% population that had Asperger's and sensory processing disorder (with a couple of other things). Reading Elaine Aron's book Highly Sensitive Child opened up an entirely different world for us! She was our first child, and we were tired of having to explain her sensitivities and shyness to everyone all the time. We were able to enroll her in a small preschool that helped her handle the feelings of being overwhelmed, and she's now going to college in a different state! It's been a difficult journey, including many sacrifices, but every single one of them has been worth it in the end. She's highly intelligent and received a full tuition scholarship, and wants to become a family, marriage and child therapist!
We hate to be caught off guard. We like to know things in advance. We also adore nature and art.
Very true, if I don't have my daily dog walk in nature I get depressed.
Life is hell
But somehow you go on. Day after day. But I think you get points for not doing yourself in.
You’re not alone!
Thank you for your comment
I agree, so i thought i had to be doomguy.. but that didnt work for me.
This World NEEDS The Highly Sensitive, The Empaths, The Compassionate People Who Can Help Change The Ugly, The Painful, The Wrong, The Suffering, & Make Things Better!💪✊
I feel the strongest sense of rejection and failure if I misinterpret a request or miss something at work.
This is me. The slightest comment or look can set me reeling with hurt and overreaction that takes several hours to overcome. If I comment on something online, I can't let myself read any replies because if they're critical, mocking or even slightly negative, it's like getting hit by an emotional bus. I've been like this all my life. I'm most comfortable alone with my cat. I feel like I was born without the armour everyone else has. I'm just completely overwhelmed by other people. They have enormous power over me so I tend to isolate.
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I'm 100% like this too!
Soo damn relatable oh my gosh
You're a lovely kitty, btw! 💜
@@idiliusmidilius thank you 😊
It is especially difficult to be an HSP in an insensitive world 💔🌪
Amen!!
so, if you know that, what will you DO about it?
Can you make the world more sensitive? Probably not. I cant, either. So again:
What will you do? and when?
Completely agree
Yup!
Yes
I was told this my entire career in hospitality at the front desk. I would get really sad and upset when guests would insult me and scream at me. My supervisors would always say I need to toughen up and take it less personally. I ultimately had to leave the industry because I was making myself sick. It feels validating to hear you speak about this!!
I've witnessed that before. My apologies ❤❤❤❤
I feel like this anytime I perceive any annoyance or negative look or words from people when communicating with me. I don’t want to be a problem I actually like people but when people aren’t the same way back, I begin feeling overwhelmed with guilt that I was doing wrong and I’m never going to be a person generally thought as likable or nice. I know this is wrong thinking but I will think about the encounter until the next day. I don’t know how to stop.
People are getting more rude. My sister was a bully since I was 5. We deserve to be respected no apologies.
I have been an HSP for 74 years and I have always struggled to fit in anywhere. It was easier when I was younger because I just put my mask on and petended I was having a nice time, but then I needed to be alone asap to de-stress. I came to dread socialising and all it entailed. As I got older I just wanted to be authentic and be myself, so I would refuse parties and gatherings and isolate. It has been like this for decades, and I am much happier now that I am not living a lie. The older I get the more alone time I need. I love going out alone in the country or to the beach, away from people and noise. I never feel lonely and I love the privacy I enjoy. I live in a Lifestyle Village, so you can imagine I don't go down well with with others living here. I just try to ignore them when they tell me I need to get out more or mix with others, they haven't got a clue, and I have given up trying to explain how it is for me. They just don't get it.
I was thinking about so many things recently, over thinking about my past and things I've gone through and being have come to the realisation that I feel things more intensely and I saw this video and I could relate to some of these things a lot. It's like I've found out more about who I truly Iam and Iam so glad that I found this because it answered a lot of things for me in my life so thank you so much Kati.
I am an empath. I’m also diagnosed schizophrenic and bipolar 1. It’s hard getting out of bed at times, because it feels like I’m a sponge and I pick up on negativity around me. However, this gift is also a blessing to me. I love going to the park and watching the ducks, it affects me profoundly. Empathy is a double edged sword.
7/10 mostly worrying what people think about me, not fitting in and always feeling out of place
I’m too sensitive to watch reality shows because it gives me anxiety
OMG! Now things are finally making sense. I literally have 9 /10 of these signs (not very sure about dim lights). Fear of rejection has held me back in life, conflicts kill me, and being in a crowded environment with no escape is a nightmare! I have felt misunderstood all my life and seem unable to find a career that I could fit in and enjoy for long. I have always thought something was wrong with me. Now I see I have not been broken! It is just SOOOOO difficult being an HSP+INFJ.
You're not alone. There I go being sensitive again. LOL
Never related more to a comment
I avoid bright artificial lighting but sunlight I enjoy. I was shocked at how much I identify with this list!
I never thought that HSP existed or even could occur in me. I am often very introverted, try to act happy on the outside, always told I am too sensitive otherwise or as the youngest, considered a cry baby. All of the symptoms in this videos are all that I have and this video truly helped me a lot🥹🥰❤❤❤
I drink so much coffee! I am so HSP it hurts. I cannot count how many times I have heard "YOU ARE TOO SENSITIVE!" I get really upset when people hurt animals - especially in movies or videos.
I have resorted to relating only to my pets!
When I think about myself as a kid - I hate me so much. I hate my adult self too, but I absolutely LOATH my child self.
I knew I'm different with others since when I was kid but I didn't know what it is. Only 3 years ago I knew about HSP. Sometimes I don't like being HSP but also I started loving and caring about myself more 🍀💚 We're not weak. We were just born as HSP and it's a gift 😊
I realized I’m an HSP after becoming a mother. Being a highly sensitive parent can be very challenging. I have had to start a regular breathwork practice to regulate my nervous system through my little ones big feelings and tantrums. It’s helped her to see me heal and we are learning to co-regulate together
I got just to #6 and realized why I resigned from my job three days ago. Yes I can find another one soon so nobody should attack that. But the manager at the store was demanding too many tasks and I couldn't immediately be perfect at each one at my standard and the dismissive nature of the customers crushed my spirit daily. Empirically, with me as one sample, this is a very accurate module and you should be proud of yourselves for presenting it to us
Thank you immensely.
Me too!!
@@butterflyfly4033lol me too what lol which part
I am sensitive and proud of it
I live in the UK and am dual diagnosed with autism and ADHD-I and this is ME. I don't know what the result of my watching this video will be, but I am glad I watched it and have added it to a new Come Back To playlist so I can return to it. I want to share this with my family but I don't know how I'd encourage them to watch it because while they work hard 5 days a week and are tired from it and can find me exhausting at times, whereas I volunteer at a charity shop when I choose and socialise when I choose to so for them it looks like I have it easy and I do have it easier but that's only because in order to get out of bed every day and do anything at all I'm having to navigate an internal battle that they don't see and cannot truly relate to no matter how much I try to explain it.
Thank you so much for making this 🙏🏻
I understand. U arent alone. We are very loving ppl who have been misunderstood. Ppl tell me I don’t look like I have anything going on, they think the way I look dictates my internal world. Practicing the art of detachment helped me immensely
LED and fluorescent lights are the worse. I prefer incandescent lights. Loud noises are a jump scare for me (startle response). Never punk me or something bad might happen. No super scary movies, gore or violence in my media. HSP kinda sucks - I wasn't always like this.
How have I reached 65 & only just found this! This explains how I get so exhausted & ruminate over things done & said to us. This explains so much...I've subscribed
Right...I'm 62yr and it's like WOW! This is exactly how I have felt my whole life.
This is me 💯I also have fibromyalgia, Crohn's disease, Gastroparesis, Depression, Diabetes, high blood pressure, My nervous system feel like it's in overdrive, I feel everything. My doctors tell me I am very in tune with my body, it's like I can tell when something is about to happen with my body before the doctors knew it. they ask me how did you know that. But of course they don't always listen to me, so I just wait until it happens.
Diagnosed with BPD & CPTSD, and I am EXTREMELY highly sensitive. Thank you for speaking about our experiences! 💗💗
After 9 years of being in a relationship with an high functioning autistic partner who also has cptsd and signs of bpd alongside me being diagnosed cptsd and a hsp with major intuitive abilities, I’m creating content based on what I’m learning. It is my belief that a large portion of the population has one or more of these traits. Lack of diagnosis and awareness is the root of many relationship challenges. I’m
So exited to help ppl be free of the shame often associated with neurodivergent people.
Please do a video on the similarities and differences between HSP and ASD! I know a lot of people who thought they were just HSP but were also Autistic
Overlap between hsp and borderline personality disorder as well, and adhd. All likely to experience sensory sensitive and rsd.
theres so much overlap between that, HSP, ASD, ADHD, DID, schizo related stuff. makes ya wonder if these circuits are closer related in the brain somewhere or something as simple as circuit bussing systems not having proper edge detection or filtering systems from elsewhere
As a hsp on partnership with a high functioning autistic man, I have discovered some major pros and cons of being in a relationship like this. I was actually inspired to write a book about it. I feel all autistic people have areas where they are highly sensitive such as criticism and rejection. Ultimately this is a NU territory for humanity that has never been explored in this way. Neurodivergence is a gift despite being demonized by many.
I feel like this video was made just for me. I actually started laughing and stupidly almost felt ashamed at how much I relate to literally every single sign. My horoscope sign is Cancer and people tell me things like “You’re such a Cancer!!”,but I’m just a hsp and that’s okay! I’ve been rejected from jobs due to being to sensitive and hard on myself. They preferred someone with more confidence and that killed me! Is it so bad that I care as much as I do?! This is a video I’ll definitely replay more than once. Thank you Kati. We’re strangers but I feel like you know exactly how to help me. I appreciate you so much. You make such a huge difference in my life.
You are so right about how mean people can be online. RUclips comments these days are like a cesspool of hate and judgement. Men in particular get shamed by the shame police for Number 8 (crying).
I can relate to many of these points, especially feeling constantly overwhelmed, preferring dim lighting, and naturally, always feeling misunderstood. I've also been called highly sensitive as well.
Look into an autism diagnosis.. I know it’s scary but it’s worth it.
Me
I have more of an issue with colored lighting than bright lighting.
I'm a highly sensitive person, but I'm not sure if it's related to my autism diagnosis. For me, one benefit of being highly sensitive is that I can really emote when I sing or play a character onstage. It has also helped me to connect with other people sometimes. Even if I feel disregulated, my husband understands and helps me through it.
Sensory issues are part of the diagnostic criteria, so, yeah it has everything to do with it
I have autism too and can relate to having hsp traits, on top of that, I may have quiet bpd as well ( I haven't been diagnosed with bpd yet). I try not to let all these things become overwhelming. It's definitely challenging and easy for me to fall into a victimized mindset, but I know I am making progress, slowly but surely. I'm glad your husband is supportive of you. All the best with your journey😊
Hi! I'm 63 and have always felt this way so I'm definitely a HSP. You are a real gem, and I absolutely adore your shirt! Our daughter loves elephants! I like what you say. Thank you for the video.
我就是个典型的HSP，我经常听着感人的歌曲就哭出来了，但是这是我的优势，而不是劣势。我不经过任何训练就能够轻松察觉陌生人的意图，预判对方维拉id行动；我也经常在自己消费的过程中直接看透商家的盈利模式，轻松复制。另外，有一点不同意，并不是所有HSP都对咖啡因极度敏感。
Katie just wanted to say thank you very much for this video. Yes as a child I was looked down on being overly sensitive especially by my NPD dad who constantly told me that you're just too sensitive all the time crying like a big baby..😢 I came to believe through therapy that being sensitive was not so bad. It's me and it's how my emotions or my feelings are expressed and can't nobody tell me that being too sensitive is being weak I have boundaries now and with especially my dad if he does not like me expressing my emotions and being sensitive then he can leave my home as an adult I will not be treated with disrespect made to feel weak like something was wrong with me. No more! Won't you see it you can't unsee it, it's not me I'm allowed to feel the way I want to.. thanks again. Oh and I'm not sure about the autism being highly sensitive doesn't always mean You have autism. But definitely being neglected and or mental and physical abuse can definitely make you overly sensitive people
Being a HSP who is also an Introvert, with OCD and extreme perfectionism is oh so much fun. Or, not really.
I agree.
I'm this way too. Ur def not alone.
Holy Shit you just described me!! 😢Feels good to know I am not the only one, and I totally understand what you would be going through.
This information should be shared far and wide.
I've seen this run in families and become severe psychiatric disorders when they're traumatized in early childhood. It gets passed down until someone starts getting help and breaking cycles.
When we grow up in nurturing environments we thrive in our natural talents and learn how to adapt our environments to suit us better.
I believe it's very important to help this population of people shift from forms of intergenerational trauma to using our talents in service to others while following our bliss. ☺
im 14 and horribly sensitive i just hate being emotional and i know that its because im stressing too much about my future and thinking that because of my horrible grades i will just fail and i hate the fact that i take it out on the people i love but i also just wish they could understand me and not think of me as a crybaby so i not really sure if im HSP but now i believe it.
I have only recently become aware of “highly sensitive person” as a thing. Crazy because I’m definitely an HSP and I had never heard that term used. Many of your 10 HSP markers apply to me, not all, but here’s one you don’t mention, one that I have suffered with much of my life - blushing. In my old age (I’m 78) I have finally stopped blushing easily, though I still do at times. But much of my life I blushed so easily that I would avoid social situations or almost any setting where I would draw attention to myself. It would be difficult to overstate how much this affliction has circumscribed my life. Just the fear of blushing would cause me to blush!
I have never talked with a therapist about this problem, but I feel this is tied to my being an HSP. I wonder if you would agree.
Thank you for this video. I am 65 years old, and have most of these signs. I think I am too old to change. This has affected most parts of my life.👍👏🙏💯🤷
Your shirt is sooo coool!
Let alone the content itself is educating and helping in so many ways
Throughout my years growing up and just all throughout my life in general, I’ve had people tell me that I am “Too Sensitive” mainly as it pertains to the tone people would use as they speak to me or certain jokes that people would make about others, be it me or someone else. I have always known that I tend to thrive in settings on my own since my days in school and quite frankly, I tend feel a sense of relief when I have my own space especially after a long day mingling with others.
I will admit that I am sometimes embarrassed to mention this, but I would be quicker to cry when I younger, but nowadays I have a hard time getting myself to cry. I think I may possibly meet the criteria for a HSP, although I’m not completely sure.
I relate to this. I’ve been told by an attachment specialist that I lean avoidant, but once I started expressing my needs, and becoming increasingly aware of my feelings. I have noticed how sensitive I am. All of these points line up for me.
My husband is saying that he thinks I have bpd, but this is so far from my reality and just hurts.
I am aware of my triggers and have worked on RAIN / radical compassion and still notice some really mean ways that I speak to myself.
I like the way you worded “the bridging statement”
That’s so helpful for me. I like the idea of building a bridge and reframing like in CBT.
Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart, for this video. Finally I'm having clues of who I am, why I feel what I feel and patterns to follow to live with it. Thank you.
Back in Sept 2018, I was 44 yo and I lost it! I confronted my parents about the horrible things they used to say to me. I was adopted by them. They knew my 16 yo bio mom, and they hated her. As I grew up they kept saying, "Don't be like your mother!" I felt confused and unloved because... wasn't she supposed to be my mother? Wasn't he supposed to be my father?
All Dad said was, "You were always too sensitive. Stop having a pity party."
Im so sorry you went through that.
Yes, true! They were suppose to be your parents.im sorry you were treated that way. The phrase" too sensitive, " down plays a persons feelings. 😾 Thats awful.
You deserve to be listened too !
Whether you're sensitive or not, your a-parents acted completely out of line. What you describe is simply abuse. What they told you about your bio mom and how you may be like her (which to a certain level is inevitable, because of genes), says nothing about you, and all about them. Every healthy, normal person would be "sensitive" about such things being told by anyone, let alone by their parents; it's toxic AF. Excuse my French.
@maxim3830
Thank you for the validation. I appreciate you.
I've cut them out of my life intermittently over the past 30 years. I float between anger and obligation. My mother has apologized. My father is an asshole still. They're in their 70's and he's verbally abused her since myself and my brother have left home. He's offended if anyone calls him out on it. I refuse to even talk to him. I realize now how strong my mom is.
@@melissamason2983 I am afraid many people are insensitive like your dad, unfortunately. Mine too. I was never adopted and I never doubted parental love, but I feel like he rarely thought of me as a person to truly converse with, but more like of a project that needed to be completed and sent off to the world asap.
My sister grew up just like him in character: she makes sure her kids have everything they need to thrive, but forgets about love and attention, almost always dismissive, barking orders, not willing to sit down, listen, wipe tears or support in any way. She insists they move on, toughen up, not be babies, etc. She is not sensitive herself, so she doesn't get it no matter how much I try to talk to her about it
Kati thank you. Thats me!!!! I've been searching for a reason for all these symptoms. My loved ones heckled me because of these traits. Thank you. Headed to theropy. 😊
This is one of the best talks on this topic. Well done, Ms. Morton.
I'm very sensitive to everyone and everything in the world around me. Having autism, I also have sensory processing issues.
All those 10 signs apply to me and I knew I was a HSP but thought it was only me and did not know why and people ask me all the time why I am so sensitive and never knew how to explain it, so thank you for making this video so I CAN finally share with others how I feel on my daily life.
all points checked off. I am the sensitive one for sure. Thank you, Kati, for putting a name on it for me - it does help and does make a difference for me, even though I am 52 years old
Wow I feel very seen and heard... Never experienced such feelings in my life before. Thank you!
This is an encouraging video! Good to have the knowledge.
A positive thing about being real perceptive to make people feel better: I once went to a public restoom and felt like "This place is WRONG. Do not go back! In fact, this building seems messed up." Months later, there was a fire that started in that bathroom. So, when I feel something is off, I make a mental note and move on. This seeming sixth sense is not 100%, but its always a heads up.
Also, what if someone doesn't have all the sensitivities? Like, I enjoy crowded events and don't really get how someone can be sensitive to rejection, but then I notice subtle things and cry over beautiful music.
I really appreciate your videos (especially the personal vulnerability you showed in a few of them). I also LOVE that shirt!
Wow thanks I didn't know what I was going through yet super great advice n knowledge to share n help us out.
I wish I wasn’t sensitive to caffeine but I am, it was giving me ulcers at one point! That’s another thing about being HSP my body is sooo sensitive to food! Just got to stay positive and take really good care of yourself mentally & physically! ❤
Thank you for this video! Now I am convinced that I am a real HSP and nothing else.😊
Truth!! Yes to every sign!!
Thank you for this. At 52yrs I am just beginning to understand myself. Perhaps, in slight defence, I feel that people who don't choke up at certain things are the ones that need the regulation. I often hear this quote in my head: 'It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society', and wonder why most of the effort from humans on this planet isn't to create a more utopian place to live starting with our minds and how to empathise and solve conflict. Instead we have a world in turmoil based on profit and productivity. To appear or even feel borderline emotionless about the current human condition is either ignorance or escapsm. Empaths/HSP, etc are only trying to hide as we're so different to the majority of people mindlessly consuming and focusing on their own desires that we feel like we have the problem. Thanks from New Zealand
It's hard to be highly sensitive, especially as a man and a child of the 80's when boys were told to not be sensitive or show emotions. Confusion
Thank you Katie. As usual, very informative and you’ve got me pegged!😊
Caffeine calms me down and sometimes makes me go to sleep. Funny but Caffine doesn't seem to wake me up.
I think this is true for people with ADHD.
i dont avoid hurtful content or anything like that. but Sometimes I chose to feel the pain, or just cry instead.
pain demands to be felt.
I've always been told, I wear my heart on my sleeve, I need to grow tougher skin, I'm too sensitive. And every single time someone said these things to me I felt offended! Why couldn't they see that yes, I was sensitive, and yes I "feel" things more. That it doesn't make me a bad person, just that yes, I am highly sensitive and thats ok. 😊
I am like this , especially when I see homeless people , my heart cries. Omg you just hit the spot with bright lighting , I wear sunglasses at work cause it is too bright for me
Thank you for this nudge with such divine timing! I’m a clinical psychology student interested in creative arts therapies as well and in practicum currently, and I’m already aiming to be as alert as I can about my inner wellbeing and emotions. I’m also considering how I will be with those I work with to while also aiming to keep faith in myself too. Content like this is (re)assuring and so much appreciated, thank you for being here, Kati, much love 🤍🧿✨❤️
I'm HSP, avoidant, OCD, aspie, (to sum it up, "Shinji Ikari" from Evangelion lol.) As a GUY, some might feel "defective" being wired this way, but I embrace it. In our relationship my wife is the breadwinner & it works well as I find doing the cooking/cleaning duties therapeutic. On #7, while it's true that I can't handle caffeine from soda & coffee, the type that is in green tea/matcha & yerba mate agrees with me just fine & is actually quite calming, (for me at least!)
More than half of these signs I definitely can relate to. I struggle with many of these, especially one of the last things you mention in the video about the "old stories from our childhood" thing. That I can definitely relate to as well. Thank you for uploading this video!
I’m an HSP and I love being with people and love bright lights. Some of us are not all of these. I have a strong sense of taste, smell and hearing though.
It is very, very,VERY common for people, especially AFAB people, to identify as HSP at first only to move on and discover that they are in fact autistic (often in combination with ADHD).
If you identify with HSP, do yourself a favour and look into autistic masking and the hidden autism profile, sometimes referred to as the female profile or high-masking/camouflaging profile.
And yes, autistic people can be, and often are, highly empathetic, so having empathy does not mutually exclude autism.
I thought for YEARS I had ADHD or autism. I have neither. I actually have a dissociative disorder. It can be difficult, if not impossible, to tease out what's nature and what was caused by trauma
That’s what I’ve been wondering too- 0-0 I’m ABSOLUTELY highly sensitive. I’ve known this for years. But autistic, I’m not sure- :,)) but it’s possible.
@@weareone5768 a professional would have to tease it out
Autism and HSP have traits in common, but Autism is more than that. But you are right to aware consciousness about Autism, cause it is very often diagnoses late, during adulthood.
Autism needs work.
Its all tooooo Broad, too fuzzy, not specific enough.
But that doesn't mean we should divide it all up into 14 sub-categories, either. But it needs a fairly pin-pointed better definition.
And, whatever happened to "Aspberger's?"
How is it different? Do those folks even want to "get better"?
SOME, of them, keep relentlessly referring to the great majority of people as "Neuro-typical's", as if Typical were a disorder.
They remind me of Deaf people who want to STAY Deaf because they prefer to stay with their "Community" rather than to "be Well". Go figure.
Tooo many things can be lumped under Autistic.
And yet, we dont need 17 sub-divisions of it, either. Perhaps focusing on DIFFERENCES between this and that, and that, can help. But the differences need to be DISTINCT and when the "list" hits 4 variants or more, you've already gone too far. My opinion.
For me my issue is if I have something that’s overly caffeinated or too much caffeine.i remember I not only ended up mentally/emotionally wacky from that once but also ended up with a health issue that had me bed ridden for almost 1 month.
I remember years ago when someone told I was an HSP and I should read this book. I'm so grateful I did because it explains so much.
I’m 41 and first realised I was a HSP a couple of years ago. I get overwhelmed and don’t have any friends just loving family. I need to recharge my battery quite often. I don’t like loud noises and smells can make me feel sick. I no longer watch the news or social media (apart from YT to leave) because it made me feel so sad for something I couldn’t control. I moved to decaf after palpitations and panic attacks and moving ti caffeine free which means no chocolate but it’s worth it cos it triggers me so much. Hope some of these tips help others 😊
I check all of these boxes except the caffeine one. I am so habituated to strong coffee that it doesn't even have a stimulant effect on me anymore. I just enjoy the taste and the ritual of having coffee with my breakfast. I am definitely dependent on it, though. If I don't have it, I have withdrawal symptoms that are very unpleasant. But coffee is very high in antioxidants, so I don't consider it a problem that I depend on it. It's one of life's great pleasures!
I'm a HSP and my ex-husband is a HSP, our son is extremely, highly sensitive and has struggled a lot with it. One thing he was able to do since he was a toddler was hold himself together in public untill he was at home and could break down. It took me into my adult years to be able to hold myself together in public.
I'd suggest to check if it's not autism or ADHD. Autistic people often have meltdown or shutdown due to over-stimulation, and as you describe they'll often keep it together in public and crumble at home (either calmly if it's a shutdown or loudly/violently if it's a meltdown).
I second that ^
Good session Kate. Very interesting.
I realized this was me when I asked a question on Reddit.
Instead of opinions in the responses, I was personally attacked for caring so much about the topic.
I have never felt the same about humanity or more alone since.
I have had times in the past few months, that I wanted to cry! Our society has shamed or hasn't let men a chance to cry or show our feelings. Crying or showing feelings is a sign of weakness.
That's me. To the point. Except #5 is opposite. I need good light and dislike dim lighting. It's like, my body tries harder to focus on seeing with dim light. Maybe it's related to my bad vision, who knows.
Yes! Me too! I get really stressed if I don’t have a good amount of light. It’s really uncomfortable for me to be in dim lighting.
I used to be HSP. Bing drinking helped alot.
Thank you for talking about this ❤
Thank you ,❤so many symptoms I have!
That was very helpful
I identify with all of these
This is a good psa, Kati. Thank you!
I deal w pseudo tumor cerebri (too much spinal fluid and could cause blindness) and adhd, so I'm a mess. lights can hurt and very pale skin so I do not prefer to be in the sun. Night or dark quiet 4 or 5 am when the streets are empty im out walking, it is my favorite time. I still have fun at anytime its just what i love most. ❤
This is an amazing video. Thanks so much. This offers encouragement and realistic aids to deal with the characteristics of being an HSP. I appreciate it.
I'm an HSP, I have major/persistent/treatment resistant depression, general anxiety disorder, high social anxiety, a tendency for panic attacks, borderline personality disorder, OCD, and ADHD. Been in treatment for 14 years. I feel like I've "won" the mental health lottery.
Your not alone. I feel I fall into all that you listed, but I wasn't diagnosed for BPD nor believed by my therapist (she's not updated on the DMS5) or being help/treated for them.
Hello from Paris ! Im a HSP and Im happy about it.
I am HSP. I like to watch movies that I know so I'm not overly stimulated. And at the casino I was immediately overwhelmed. I am often told I'm too sensitive. WOW! Now I don't feel like such an odd duck.
Would you be willing to make a video on the differences seen between HSP’s and females on the autism spectrum? I feel like there are so many similarities and I’m genuinely confused which one I am😅. Getting evaluated this summer.
I think you can be both: a lot of people on the autism spectrum are highly sensitive.
I am also a female on the autism spectrum who struggles a lot with high sensitivity... 🫂
High sensitivity is a trait of autism and very common among females :)
Outstanding video. You got me. And helped me. Peace ☮️
And I relate to some hsp things but not all of them. So I’m technically an hsp but maybe in a different way.i just feel emotions more strongly but that goes along with my other mental struggles.
Thank you Kati! All of them resonated. That thing about coffeine was interesting. I don't drink coffee partly becouse It makes me feel anxious but wasn't sure if it was just my imagination or not. Now I know im probably right ☕️
I used to hate when my boss would say "you're not going to cry are u?". My kids make fun of me sometimes when we're watching a movie and ask "you're not going to cry are u?" also.
I also have ADHD and caffeine doesn't affect me.
Can anyone else hear brite lights? Like the buzzing or humming?
I am almost sure I am an HSP-almost all of the things apply to me, except for maybe crying easily… I seem to respond to things more with a lot of fear rather than tears.
Being sensitive, I can relate to some of these signs.
Hi, HSP here. #1 and #6 YES, so much me
HSP here trying to escape a narcissist for the past two years.
What about the Low Sensitive People?? All this talk of HSP is discriminatory towards LSP! As a 61 year old avoidant INTP, I've buried my emotions in a place I doubt I will ever find. I avoid social and emotional interactions at all costs! I am socially and emotionally clueless!! Well, maybe not completely, but enough that most of the time I don't know what I'm feeling, so I just ignore or bury it. After doing lots of research I find the root cause is Childhood Emotional Neglect, and bullying in school. I never had anyone to trust, confiding in, or learn about/how to deal with emotions. All I had was me. Instead of having an HSP meltdown, I'd just deal with it in my head and move on. Obviously, it was never completely dealt with, it was just buried and "forgotten" about. I've gone to therapy on and off my whole life, but only recently have I dove in to find the root cause, but I still have no idea what to do about, or (at my age) if I even want to do anything about it. I think all I'm doing is educating my young therapist,
I was assaulted by my grandfather at age 5. When I tried to get counseling for it, a retired police officer had three therapists make jokes about it to me. So I'm sorry if it's a little difficult to trust, when they people that are supposed to protect me, make things worse on purpose. Then they have everyone make fun of me for it, and act like I should just "walk it off"