Parenting Expert: The No. 1 Mistake Parents Make
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024
- Looking for parenting strategies that help children grow into successful adults? Esther Wojcicki's resume includes author of "How to Raise Successful People" and mother of three highly accomplished daughters: Susan, the CEO of RUclips; Janet, a professor of pediatrics; and Anne, co-founder and CEO of 23andMe. Wojcicki is often asked, "What is the worst parenting style?" From her research and experience as a mother, she identifies "helicopter parenting" as the most detrimental.
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Parenting Expert: The No. 1 Mistake Parents Make
The flip side of this are the parents that don't help their kids at all and just leave their kids in a vacuum to basically figure everything out alone or treat them like theyre bad when they ask for help. I honestly think without complete examples and emotional intelligence some people take this way too far. Helicopter parenting is just an over correction from latchkey kids who had neglectful parents.
I was a literal latchkey kid. I loved it ... I nearly burned the house down a couple of times, but I had a great childhood free from parental interference.
Very well said and so true. Has to be a balance and other healthy habits and behaviors in place
Well said, AS.
I endured a profoundly abusive mother and an emotionally-distant father who hid from her. I was taught absolutely nothing about puberty; next to nothing about hygiene or nutrition or balancing a checkbook, etc.
I was prohibited from dating and no skills were developed how to date safely; no skills taught how to dress appropriately, etc.
Many, many other deficits, including not receiving surgery I needed for more than two years. We had the insurance and means-it was spiteful negligence on her part. As a fifteen year old, I couldn’t seek care for myself.
It has been a struggle far into adulthood to gain adequate life skills and move forward.
We ALL deserve basic education about life-and an opportunity to proceed forward! By investing in ourselves and those around us, we lift up all of society.
Your last statement explains everything, thank you!!!
Exactly! I think the parents doing too much issue is far less an issue. Elitists don’t get it.
I agree with this so much! Helicopter parenting has been so prevalent in the past years and it’s creating adults who are unable to deal with the real world.
@@MissaLifeStyle not being a helicopter parent doesn’t mean that parents don’t care where their children are or what they’re doing. It means that they don’t do everything for them or help them with everything.
The helicopter parent that is a lot of modern schooling also doesn't help with that. I can say for certain I had to learn a lot of life skills after school because neither my parents nor school taught me. Even simple stuff like washing dishes or how to properly scrub something, to hard stuff like taxes and medical documents.
Our society neglects kids because they are not profitable.
Yes it has created snowflake self-centred self-entitled generation lacking resilience and easily offended amongst other things.
@@ErutaniaRosethe problem is a lot of parents were not taught those things either. They had (for just a part of them, mot all) to figure things out later on in life. And they naturally do not think that they should teach their kids those things. That is how the cycle continues. Those who realize they have to teach their kids do that and the results are different. They then break the cycle.
To add to that, you have parents who are so busy breaking their back at work, 6 days a week that they always come back home very tired, not even able to spare time to help their children with schoolwork. So you get that, teaching life skills will not even come to their mind.
@@mokaLARE Oh 100%. It’s Def a mix of generational cycles, overworked parents forced to neglect kids/nit having enough energy, and systems nit built in to help teach the kids in the parents/guardians place.
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This is exactly how my mom raised me. If I asked her how to spell a word, she’d tell me to look it up in the dictionary. When I was 13 she handed me the grocery list and her checkbook and told me I couldn’t go over a certain amount. She walked beside me in the store as I did the math in my head and prioritized food items. Her goal was to help me become an effective problem solver. My aunt did the exact opposite with my older cousin. She gave him everything and for the past 8 years he’s been in and out of homelessness. When he loses a job, it’s always the employers fault. I let him stay with me rent free for more than a year and when I finally said you have to leave, he tells me that I’m too blame for his situation. Everyday I thank God for my mother. RIP mommy ❤
I agree with it all, BUT: measuring the outcome by the professions these kids will have later in life? Come-on! Is the children's happiness not important? their sense of empathie, their role in communities? A hair dresser, car mechanic, teacher, can be successful, too. I want to also add: parents need to: model the behavior they want to see in their kids. If they only give orders it won't work: TALK together, get away from the screens, pick up toys together, clean the bathroom together, read together.: model reading, and your child will read, model volunteering, and your child will know what that is, model showing responsibility and empathy and your child will show this as well.
Exactly!
I am sure there are other videos about parents of successful adults with the jobs you mentionned. It's more an indictment on the channel not to feature a diverse range of success. For her, those are the children she has, what do you want her to do?
I absolutely agree that people don’t have to be an Elon Musk or a Jeff Bezos to be considered successful. Not everyone is going to make above 6 figures. I think that’s a pipe dream and we set up kids for failure putting unrealistic standards in their heads. Focusing on something they’re good at, and they excel at it and do well, where they can at least live independently, I think that’s a good sign of success.
I agree… “success” portrayed as a CEO or making million of dollars should not be the gold standard of what it means to raise a happy, responsible and resilient child. Those ladies can absolutely fit the stereotype of “worldly success” but it doesn’t translate to being morally good and genuinely happy people. I personally could care less whether my children become CEOs, especially when we know you have to leave a few “dead bodies” behind to make it to C-suites. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be. The happiest and most fulfilled people I have met didn’t have a CEO status or $$$$ in their accounts.
I love everything you said!
Absolutely agree with this! My Mom was a little different in how she controlled, but she treated us like we were little kids even when we became adults. Because of how she was, I vowed to be the complete opposite of her, but my OLDER sister still acts like she is 5 yrs old and (when my Mom was alive), ran to our Mom for every little thing.
I’m 60yo. I did every single one of these things and destroyed my daughter 💔 my sister did the same to her son 💔. We were raised by 2 traumatised immigrant parents who had no ability to love us so we over corrected that. Big. Mistake.
We served them and did everything for them and never wanted them to feel any negative …anything human.
I'm the same age as you. Raised by immigrant Holocaust survivors. We were raised by 1 parent who paid little attention to us and another who was critical of everything, was abusive, and neglected us, physically and emotionally. As a parent, I tried to overcorrect, as well. Trauma does horrible things to individuals and families. Be well ❤
What happened to your daughter/nephew?
What happened to them? How are they destroyed?
@@amys0482 where do I start. The trauma from our parents to us. We did the same to them - work hard, save, be frightened of everything…don’t take risks, dont have fun, don’t trust people, be perfect, you ar won’t good enough as you are. We didn’t say this but it probably leaked out of every look and sentence to them.
@@Kiwiwanderer Thank you for sharing. Means A LOT for parents to ADMIT their wrongdoings. Thanks for your bravery
Read this woman's book! I am a teacher and I highly recommend it to teachers and parents. It is amazing.
what’s the name of it?
Are you a parent ?
Did she raise a good child to be a parent???
Whoops.
Her parenting CV is definitely convincing. Thanks for bringing this to light
what they didn't mention is that her daughters are closely associated with the google billionaires (one was married to one). Having access to $$$$ is probably more important than hands off parenting!
I work with children with ASD and I think the same thing applies. I always tell parents and staff to meet the child at their current ability/skill level - in short, this means giving them just enough support to create the illusion that they are figuring it out themselves. Then we systematically change the support to reduce dependence on help.
Would love to know how this works. My ASD child struggles to do most things for themselves and I am not at all a helicopter parent. They just don’t have much motivation
Helicopter parenting is terrible, I agree. But guidance is not. Kids need structure and discipline. Leaving kids to figure everything out on their own doesn’t necessarily help them either. There needs to be a perfect balance between the two. If you see they’re struggling to figure something out, it’s okay to step in and help them, because in real life, you’re not going to be able to figure everything out on your own and may need to rely on your community for help sometimes.
Agreed. Age appropriate guidance and independence. It’s a great conversation to have. ❤
Exactly
I am of the latchkey generation....my parents didn't help with much, we were expected to do on our own and allowed to do many things. I never felt unloved or mistreated because of it. All of us (4 including my siblings) came from humble/poor backgrounds and are successful. I have two graduate degrees and put myself through college.
Now.....I live in middle/upper middle class suburbia and most of the parents I know parent the exact opposite of the upbringing I had. I always feel like the "black sheep" as our kids are expected to take responsibility, work hard, and do things. We likely appear "strict" to other parents. All the other parents are just planning the next fun thing for their kid, it's all about the "feelings" and "good times", most don't even care much about school.
What I have noticed is a lot of the kids today have helicopter parents yet they are wild behavior nightmares, don't really listen to their parents. Seems like it would be the opposite if the parent hovers, but it's because the parent is focused on fun, helping, etc. and now producing a child that functions in society. From the time my kids were in pre-school, random teachers would stop me when I was on the school campus to tell me how wonderful my kids were, respectful, and had such great behavior. It's been that way grade after grade and in multiple schools. I thought it was odd to have random teachers stop me to tell me what a delight my kids are, but realized it's because they rarely see well behaved polite kids. Are we progressing as society or regressing?
Thanks for this. Can you describe a little more about what your parenting style is
To describe my experience, I would say I am one of those kids in the upper-class (richer working class) suburbia with parents that plan the fun thing.
I think part of it is also that the parents in order to maintain that life often overwork themselves and neglect the kids--at least emotionally--so it's harder for the kids to figure out emotional intelligence, especially if they have any neurodivergence which makes society and socializing so much more daunting and terrible to experience.
It also results in A LOT of shame for the kids 'cause they simply do not know how to do things, and all the parents say is "It will be fine" without putting much effort in.
Though a lot of this is from my own experience, I have certainly seen it with other peeps who grew up like me. If you ask me, suburb culture is kinda the worst--and the nuclear family module is what is ruining our society. Kids are cut off and only have their parent(s) and close family--with few other alternatives. It's isolating, and no duh kids suffer, they don't get the chance to socialize or learn relative skills as they should. (You can blame capitalism for that one too)
my parents rarely tell me if what I've done was right or wrong, so I feel the need to figure things out by myself.. which contributes to severe anxiety / overwhelmed whenever I need to do something unfamiliar, coz I need to figure out every little details by myself to get it done
Exactly.
I get that too. I received no guidance on this either. At home I pretty much had no structure or discipline. But outside the home, they hovered over me, made it difficult for me to make friends and live my life. I had just the worst of both styles. But idk, I knew things were off and somehow figured out early in my adulthood that I needed to learn to fend for myself. I still lack important skills but at least I have a roof over my head and food on the table!
This is sound advice, whenever my 2 year old is hungry I tell him there is plenty food in the kitchen.
Helicopter parenting may be a relatively new parenting mistake that has come to our attention, but it’s in no way the worst. Parents who abandon or semi-abandon their kids, emotionally bereft, violent or abusive households, drug or alcohol-addicted parents… all far worse mistakes, and sadly common ones
Right??? It’s definitely not healthy but how is it the “worst”...
Does this mean just give your kids more chores? We Asian kids have to do chores when we were very young. I don't remember being empowered at all, just tired and bored
I respect Asian parents a lot. They teach y’all discipline from such a young age.
No. She's talking about giving kids tasks to accomplish but that's only part of it. The key part, is allowing the child to fail and experiment with how to accomplish a goal by themselves without interfering. That helps them build confidence and problem solving skills.
This needs to be a PSA
I needed to hear this…I’m a helicopter mom for sure 🥴. I’m going to do better
You got this! 🙏🏽
If you’re a parent willing to self reflect and correct you’re already doing a great job for your kids 👏
There's nothing more joyful than seeing your child succeed at something they had to struggle and practice at. You guide and teach fundamentals and they can do things. Also, they come up with some creations and innovations along the way you may not have thought of. 😎
I was raised by two helicopters. But i love them haha
Three successful daughters, I’m all ears
Great point. I tell my children it’s not what I can do for you but what I teach you to do for yourself that will be the most important in your life!!
In Graduate school we were taught about using scaffolding to help children learn. You guide them as they do it. It’s a fine line between helicopter and scaffolding.
Before the child employment laws in uk made it very difficult to find work if under age of 18, I worked in shops and supermarkets on Saturdays from age 13 -18 (whilst attending the local grammar school) It would be true to say I didn’t leave school with the highest grades either…..but know that those Saturdays were early lessons too and taught me the value of other things both economically and socially (that I find missing for so many of today’s entitled teenagers). I feel sorry for them and not surprised to learn that so many are depressed, insecure and unable to find meaningful lives for themselves. What I learned is that life is mostly full of mundane tasks that have to be done by somebody and that includes oneself….so you may as well get trained up sooner rather than later.
There's a huge difference between 1. helping your child with something by explaining how it works or showing how it's done (when it's clearly struggeling and you offer your help or when it's asking for your help) and 2. (just) doing it for them ('cause you think your child can't do it or doesn't understand it). The first is actually helpful and supportive and the second is controlling and not believing in your child. The second is no help. It's the opposite 'cause the only thing that your child learns from that is that it's not able to do things alone. Children need to learn that they have to (/should) do things by themselves (being active and not passive in life) to reach goals and for that, they need to believe in themselfes that they're able to do things by themselfes.
(Sorry if my english is bad. It's my second language and I'm still learning.)
Agree, but. I sometimes help my toddler because I want her to be sensitive to another person’s need for help. I want to model that helping others out is just as important as everyone being independent.
1. There is no such thing as a parenting expert. I certainly commend the success of all her daughters, but it’s odd that she seems to be taking credit.
2. Like all parenting “expert” advice, she’s taking the extreme of something and saying “don’t do this”. Virtually no parents hover over their kids at all times and do everything for them.
3. There are far too many variables involved in human development to point to one thing (or even a few things) and say this thing, if done right or wrong, makes a huge difference.
4. I’d argue the number one mistake *some* parents make is abusing and neglecting their kids, not being a helicopter parent.
Most parents just need to trust their instincts. We have a natural base ability to parent children; if we didn’t, we’d have died out as a species long ago. Like most things, the West, the US in particular, overcomplicates parenting. Every parent is different, every child is different, and you know your child better than anyone. I’m not saying that hearing ideas isn’t good, just beware of those who are claimed to be “experts” and take their parenting advice, like most anyone’s, with a large grain of salt.
Agree with you. Plus why are we supposed to just take her word for it that her kids are doing well? The fact that they are all CEOs doesn't mean that they are happy, content or fulfilled
Completely my thought! You said so much better than me :)
@@tikusblue 100% agree. I cringed at this part of the video.
Completely agreed. Be the parent your child needs. As long as you nurture and foster their interests, purpose, and ability to confidently navigate society, you cannot fail. It’s also not lost on me how many dysfunctional adults are parents today. Reparent yourself along the way, would be my other advice.
I had to laugh when she said during the pandemic we had the seven year old vaccum, meaning their/her housekeeper wasnt doing the cleaning ?( as it was family only in the home possibly?)so they had the kids do it. Why are not the children regulary doing the cleaning then ?
Funny a child expert finger wagging at helicopter parenting but then her kids have maid do everything for them. These child experts are jokes
Wow what a resume she has with her children
I couldn't disagree more. The number one mistake parents make is being selfish as opposed to selfless. So many cultures engage in helicopter parenting, such as Jewish, Indian, and Chinese, and these three cultures often produce highly functional, successful, and kind children who also look after their parents in old age as opposed to throwing them in a seniors home. I'm sorry, but I don't endorse this notion.
Well all 3 of her kids are successful. Her method works for most to be honest
You give the child a certain foundation and then you let them do it, challenges do ensure growth. Children do need guidance and no matter what she days about her daughters' successes in business they for sure have many areas they are lost in.
she never said children don't need guidance, she just said don't do everything for them...yall BW are always combative.
@@shish9168 are you not yourself a black woman?
Love it! Thank you for sharing
It's really telling that this is the #1 mistake that she identifies - it's clearly a huge problem in the population that seeks out parenting advice!
As someone who works in mental health, I have other things I'd call "mistakes" as my top priority, but that's also because I see a skewed population that has been affected by different parenting.
I'm 45 and I can honestly say that this was the biggest mistake my parents made with me. I don't think I can do anything, most of the time.
So many neglected people feel the same so.....
You can!
Me too. Got the idea somehow that if I didnt do something well right away I wasnt good at it. You need to practice and give yourself chances. Also make sure no one is bullying your kid.
I have a niece and she does everything for her son. Everything. He is about to turn four and relies in her so much it's hard to watch. She doesn't see that she's setting both of them up for misery and failure.
My childhood wasn't anywhere near perfect, but I made my own pbj sandwiches by the time I was seven, I was allowed to microwave my own hot dogs to eat when I got home from school. I was the quintessential latchkey kid. I was responsible for tidying up the living room. She's right - don't coddle your kids. I'm not a CEO, but I'm successful. I have always had the belief that I could overcome any challenge and I attribute that to my mom letting my try stuff without her interference and figure things out on my own when I was. a child.
She came with receipts!! 3 crazy successful daughters
Parental Alienation - Science and Law, Litigating Parental Alienation: Evaluating and Presenting an Effective Case in Court, Parental Alienation: The Handbook for Mental Health and Legal Professionals (Behavioral Science and Law)
Wow. She has some serious successful kids. She must have been a great mum
and still is
Just white and privileged
@@XclusiveChiq when are we going to stop this 'oh they are white/ privileged'... just stop it
@@XclusiveChiq plenty of other white people that don’t have three grown adults who world class successful! Your point doesn’t make sense
@@XclusiveChiq there is problems in black community with how many they raise their kids or single family homes.
Wow! What a great and powerful message. Thank you enormously for this wisdom. May you remain blessed Mam.
I kind of think of teaching children something like when your TAing for a class. Your not giving answers but rather are guiding them to answers
Hence why the current generation & beyond will be soft. Schools are just like this. For example, kids no longer take notes. The teachers do the notes & upload them to a class folder. In my state, they have lowered the diploma credits from 28 credits for a regular diploma to 22. An advanced diploma used to be 32- it’s now 24 credits. Kids these days are dumb. At least in VA they are 🙄. Sounds harsh but true. These kids can’t even write simple paragraphs. Cursive writing is a thing of the past. Before y’all come for me, I have 3 kids. Two middle and one high schooler. I had to reteach or backpedal to the fundamentals, and cover the basics. I had to teach them cursive writing, how to correctly write a sentence, form a paragraph etc. So that as working professionals, they’ll know how to format a proper email and not get embarrassed 😞
I would say that kids today may lack skills in the areas you say but are probably much better with digital media that previous generations.
That’s why I am homeschooling my kids.
“Kids are dumb”. What a ridiculous comment.
I have to get that book ASAP.
She basically said: “I’m MUVA! Check my credentials!”
“The worst parenting style” wow she is sheltered… someone actually sheltered and helicopter parented these people way too much…
First time hearing the term empowered used correctly
The snowplow analogy is really good
I'm not the worst, but on reflection, I could have hovered away from my children a little more often than I did. They're fairly independent teenagers now, but they still occasionally remind me of baby birds in the nest with their beaks wide open, waiting for me to drop in the worms.
I think even the most independent children will always do that. I am an adult but I call my mother once in a while to "help" me. It's nice to know you have a parent who cares and as a parent it's nice to know you'll always be needed (not in a 'I can't do it' way but in a 'I know I can count on my parents who love me unconditionally')
How about correcting their mistakes
This has enabled the generations coming up and I was just thinking this. I don't mind helping them however they can't think operate or function properly. I agree 👍🏾💯
Great advice!!! Totally agree!!
She is right. Not that I knew how to do this. My son has become self-directed and it's a good thing.
Read these 3 books: If power and control is being used on the children by one parent. The other parent is in a powerless situation. What this person is saying is right but they are not taking this in to account. 1. Parental Alienation - Science and Law, 2. Litigating Parental Alienation: Evaluating and Presenting an Effective Case in Court, 3. Parental Alienation: The Handbook for Mental Health and Legal Professionals (Behavioral Science and Law)
tried to tell that to some parent before😥they would clean after a child, help with every homework, and then scold them for having dirty room and not doing homework
Parenting is hard. No, not just the raising of kids aspect, but being a parent in general, especially when you have to juggle all the trials and tribulations that come with it.
How happy are your children with their careers? How are they balancing family and career?
My mom definitely didn’t need this video. She had 6 daughters/ slaves. I am empowered and can do anything Amen. Thanks MOM
This is the best advice that I so needed to hear! thank you :)
what she says is right but the fact that her daughters are so successful probably has a lot to do with the fact that they grew up in a wealthy family in a rich part of the country/state they were living in and had access to educational opportunities etc. Still her advice is good. I will take her advice I just don't think my kid is going to be a CEO of a company because of it.
Not true. If that were so, why do so many immigrants come here with nothing and have successful children? That’s just a lie that liberals tell people. Your zip code doesn’t determine anything. It’s all you and the choices you choose to make. You can work as smart as you want (notice I didn’t say hard) or you can just work. It’s up to you. Kids that do well can come from the poorest neighborhoods, but have the right skills in life and build a life of wealth and prosperity. This country allows us still to do that.
@@ntmn8444 while I agree that we need to remember things are possible in this country still I want to comment on your immigrant comment: I am going to assume you’re not an immigrant yourself but I am one and I can tell you a few things: 1. There are many immigrants whose children are not that successful especially from countries that are geographically close to the US. 2. Immigrants from Overseas (Asia) are a selected group that is already educated and has many advantages over the other citizens of their home countries just by the virtue of being able to come here. Also remember that higher education in those countries is free so their parents do not have to pay back student debt the way Americans do. 3. The immigrants who raise “successful” children do so by doing everything thing they can possibly do to give their kids an advantage over other children. It helps them when liberal private schools and universities prefer children of immigrant background for diversity reasons.
And It also does not lead to very happy childhoods. It is all about being very selfish and success or test-score-focused and helping no one but yourself. There is a reason the children of immigrants do not raise their children the same way. I agree with you that we need to remember this a country where it is possible to do well but I think the topic of immigrants is misunderstood by both those on the left and right and it is hard when few immigrant children talk about certain things. (They cannot being that they are children)
I've thought about writing the modern parenting book entitled...................Done at conception.
Instead of raising successful children, how about raising happy and emotionally healthy children? I don't care if her children are CEOs, what I would like to know is if they feel fulfilled in their lives!
The Nr. 1 Mistake 111.000 people did: watching this video. 🎉
Lol this lady thinks she invented the Montessori method
The #1 mistake is not acknowledging their emotions, ignoring their expressions during the formative years. This creates mental illness or personality disorders. Helicopter parenting would be #2.
Wow, I never thought of this.
I agree and believe"success" is in the eye of the beholder and as a mom of 3 kids, I know that true success is a happy child and not so much on their "accomplishments ' according to societies standards.
I agree that happiness is key, but there are also objective measures of success. For example, a happy person who never leaves home and leaches off their parents is objectively unsuccessful.
If you’re a helicopter mom and y’all are happy just say that 😅. The video didn’t talk about happiness because it’s a temporary state of being. A “happy” child hood does not result in a “happy” adulthood.
@@issavibe4436 it's ok to respond and reply about things not present in this short video. But yes we know a happy childhood could result In something different in adulthood, however what I have experienced personally and with my children and students ( early childhoodfor 18 years), success in whatever they choose to define success as, and happiness along with many other important foundational skills and experiences will most likely lead to a happier adult. But of course we know this might not be the case, but there's nothing wrong with saying a happy child has a better shot at success in whatever they choose to be.
@@ryanl3812 thats true lol.
@@issavibe4436 also it is possible to be happy more than not, just saying. Try it out!
23 years ago when I was dating my husband, I witnessed my mother in law constantly doing her daughter's highschool homework. Then she was doing her college homework for her. Now she is planning her wedding for her. I've talked with her about it and she considers it teamwork. Interesting. I have no idea how my husband turned out normal. He said she tried to do his homework and he refused telling her that he can't learn that way
Why I love the African culture
That part! They still taking from the culture and calling it psychology now. Weren’t we the ”uncivilized” ones lol?
Wow! You are one successful mom. Didn't know about you until now. But you are/was a journalist and your husband a Harvard professor. I think you got some advantage there. Not too impress now.
She's apparently a fantastic teacher, but also I'd like to know what it was like letting those two guys set up Google in their Garage in the 90's.
This therapist and mother of a CEO approve of this message! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The teacher in me is only :17 seconds into the video. Praising God because I teach this everyday now at 2 years old. 3 & up for the past YEARS before this Pandemic. 👏🏾😍🙏🏾
They don't mention at all how close these women are to the google billionaires. I hate the media. It wasn't hands off parenting that made them successful it was the luck of knowing/marrying people that became some of the richest men on the planet.
The ONLY job a parent has is to prepare their child to live on it's own. Provide for itself, feed itself, have a work ethic, etc. So many parents fail at this.
but.. and it’s a big BUT.. it might be totally different in developing countries, where the living conditions for kids are totally different than in more developed countries, because lots of parents can’t give their kids a decent living condition, let alone giving their children a sense of purpose in life. left unattended, it just become a cycle of poverty or worse let the kids be involved in criminal activities 😢
She didn’t say anything about leaving them unattended though. She said to allow kids to make mistakes and learn from them so they can learn they are capable.
As a person living in a developing country I can say that I don't understand what you're saying. We're independent from a very young age. We're taught to clean up after ourselves, mind younger siblings, do chores. I'd say ending up criminal has more to do with wanting things fast and that's a trait that is born out of people who didn't acquire patience and hard work ethic which comes with learning from a young age to do things.
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Quite right ✅
So she's suggesting that kids should be left alone to just figure things out. Good luck with that.
She definitely has successful kids
I totally agree with you ma'am cause that's what I noticed being an Indian kid noticing every parents they just do everything for their babies and that's something I would not like to do for my children. You must teach your kid the hard way and tragedies of life.
In short ,follow that Montessori system
How is being a ceo of some company succesfull parenting?
My kid doesnt need to be succesfull or independent, I want him to love the world around him. So thats what I am teaching him.
Tell your daughter to quit messing up RUclips
Who is this??? 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Yes! Daughters kept their last names
Just remember people that her advice isn't blanket to every situation. Her advice is a clearly a correction for helicopter parenting. Kids who now have CPTSD had neglectful parents who hearing her advice would think it justifies their neglectfulness.
Most helicopter parents don't think they are helicopter parents. They think they are helping their child have a safe life. How do you get a helicopter parent to understand the harm they are doing? It is a very delicate situation.
Wait so it's not normal to have a mom who screams and just says i'll do it everytime you attempted to do something or asked a question? I think another issue is a lot of people believe they should just repeat whatever parenting style their parents had
Agreed
Her children’s accomplishments was a great argument WOW
Yeah, but at what age do you start not helicoptering them?
You have to take it slow and gradually release the reigns.
What about parents who think their children are never wrong or have done wrong? Don't accept others giving their child redirection?
Pararnts who allow their cildren to manipulate grandparents? Ask you grandpa, if he says "no: ask grandma; only talk with grandparents when a holiday or birthday is appreaoching/.
Yeah this is why we have so many kids and people in their 20s riddled with anxiety and depression. The real world isnt like tumblr where everyone agrees with you and the bare minimum effort in life gets you everything you want.
I have anxiety but my mum didn’t do everything for me. In fact she has schizophrenia and hasn’t been able to help me with as much as what another parent may help their child with. I believe anxiety is a symptom of other issues a person might have.
So it’s quite an assumption to say people have anxiety because of helicopter parents.
The rapid rise in adolescent anxiety and depression coincides closely with the rise in heavy internet & social media use. The news and politics have also continued to become more polarizing and negative, which is having a negative effect on adults mental health as well. There's a lot more going on than just helicopter parenting.
@@tikusblue yes thats a given, i didnt say it was the only reason but it certainly contributes. Nothing more pathetic than a generation of kids that pay general contractors to install lightbulbs or dont know how to work a dishwasher my kids friends die of anxiety if they have to work a non electrical can opener
Don't have kids but I don't let my cousins win at video games. They gotta earn that w 😤
Personally I think this parenting style could lead the kids to abusive relationships because they don't learn to establish boundaries.
This works for adults too
Wanted to read her book until she said her daughter is CEO of RUclips.
I wish my parents “ helicoptered” me. Instead they chose the daily beatings and psychologically damaging route. Did teach me the difference between needing help and being helpless.
Abusing is a problem N1. And not this nonsense.
How about raising Grandchildren?
How did that go???
Your child??? How good of a parent was she?
I’ll give you 24 camels for the 7yo😅
CEO of RUclips : massive red flag.