I thought i was the only one who went through this. My son and his wife moved in and trippled my grocery bill. Plus, i never had any food to eat myself. I live with an elderly sister, and she put a fridge in her room just to keep food to eat. My son nor his wife would work or buy groceries. I finally had to kick them out.
I had the OPPOSITE happen to me. While I was married my wife and I split monthly bills, but I always thought she wasn't paying anywhere near half. I took half the mortgage, Natural Gas, house insurance, house taxes, land line, internet, cable, some of the groceries, and my cell phone. My wife paid half the mortgage, her cell phone, Electric bill, car insurance, and a majority of the groceries. Every time I brought up the bill division she'd shut me down because "I pay for hundreds of dollars of food per month". After our divorce I got the house and 50% custody of the kids. My average food bill rose a total of $30 per month. My average monthly expenses only increased $450 per month.
Wow that is gross and disgusting. There are a lot of people like your son and DIL. Learn to set boundaries right from the start. You give them an inch, they'll take a mile away. The first mistake we do is, when we are meeting new people, may it be DIL, SIL, MIL, or anybody for the matter, we want to win their respect and love, but forget that we are trying to please them more than required. Be yourself right from the start, doesn't matter if they like you or not. Pleasing others, will cost you heavily.
I can't imagine leeching off my mom like that. Even when we visit for a few weeks we buy most of the food we eat and we cook separately. We also help around the house and garden etc
Sounds like Asian story, you don't want to bet with Asian women with how much they can eat. They look skinny, but they eat like pigs. Also, where did you get this idea of women don't usually eat like that. LMFAO.
They know better its they dont care and are Karen and Ken prolly dont even help with house chores either basically making MUM a slave and paying to be one
Nearly 50 years ago l lived in a shared house, everyone was supposed to buy and cook food for themselves ( seperate stoves and fridges ). I was baking one day, l spent ages making a special cake for me a d my boyfriend. Came in from work and a huge slice was missing, another guy had started eating it! Boy was l mad, he never pulled that trick again, l locked my food in my room from then on!
I had the same problem in college. I made a big pan of lasagna planning to freeze pieces for dinners later on. It was out cooling on the counter. When I came home my room mate and her BF had cut into it and eaten about 1/4 of the pan. I lost it. She had been using my cooking supplies like flour and spices for the last six months without asking but this was over the top crazy. I was so pissed off. I told her they owed me for the portion they had eaten as it represented four dinners for me. They sheepishly admitted they were broke (neither one of them had jobs) and didn’t give me any money. I quit making more than one serving of food after that. I also started storing my supplies in my room. They were both mooches. She owed our other room mate a full year of rent. Our room mates dad paid the rent for us and we gave her the money. Unknown to me she had quit paying rent and utilities almost a year prior. Their parents were friends and room mates dad called and chewed out other room mates mom who had no idea her kid had not graduated yet. She lied and told her mom she finished when she failed classes.
I am so glad she locked up the food . Especially when he tried to move HIS Mom for HER food . They will cry when she kicks them out . # they won't miss the food # until the food is locked up 😌💅 # water/well 😂🎉 It annoys me when folks NEVER , EVER appreciate kindness. They try to take more and more until they lose EVERYTHING. 😢😢
It’s one thing to be nice and help them when family starts taking advantage of you. It’s time for them to go your son and his wife have no respect for you. It’s time to move out.
Soooooo, let's get this straight 😂. The Mom locks the fridge. Theeenn , son " Where's the key ?" # education # common sense # lost in the mix SOMEWHERE 😢😅
ARE YOU SERIOUS? You allow your adult son and his wife to stay in your home, where they pay nothing for their keep, yet eat all your food and use your amenities and THEY ARE ANGRY WITH YOU????? They have the audacity to give you the cold shoulder? WHAT? KICK THEM OUT!!!!!!!
Not only were they rude about the food , but they left all their dirty dishes for her! They need to leave. They weren't saving just money for their own place, they were stealing.
😂😂😂 Yes, I thought of that, too, and then realized that they themselves are the tapeworms! 😂 Last night, I actually watched a movie about giant monster worm creatures that came out of the ground and ate people. The movie was in English, but it supposedly took place in Mongolia. Warm water and chemicals were being pumped into old oil wells to get more oil out--fracking. It brought up the monster worms, too. The movie showed up in my RUclips feed, it was free, and I was in the mood for some mindless entertainment. 😂
@@Questor-ky2fvI saw a similar film many many years ago that took place in a desert town, presumably in the US. The sand worms were huge and gradually pulled buildings under the ground as people were sitting on top of the buildings. A few escaped. Phew!
1st Story. Food, Glorious Food, and not enough for piggies. I think you are going to throw them out. BTW, are they overweight? Do they have jobs? Maybe buy a second fridge just for them. It's hard to believe how clueless your son was.
Everyone should contribute money, time and clean up in the kitchen and bathrooms. Or the son and his wife will take care of their own meals with expectations of not taking food they have not contributed to. Plating the food is a good solution and the son and wife can either prepare something else or go out to eat..... At what point do the "son and wife" think decisions about your choices are up for debate to change.... If those gluttons want to eat the whole thing, they can buy their own food, problem solved. My guests would be gone just like that food if they did that to me.
Can you imagine being a DIL living in your in-laws home and not bothering to do any chores or cooking? Ain’t no way I would be a maid to anyone. You want a meal, then you can either contribute money towards it or purchase it and cook for yourself! DIL probably thought she was gonna be catered on, like she was back home with her mom. If they don’t like the way OP is running her house, they can go live with the DIL’s parents.
This story screams entitlement and spoiled child. Not once in this story did I hear that son & dil we’re paying rent or towards any utilities or food. They are living there, room & board FREE!! Op buys the food and cooks the food, she isn’t even so much as complaining about them eating it all but eating it all & not saving any for anyone else in the house and then expecting more? Does son & dil have an eating disorder? Op is a great mom cause after telling them more then once, I’d have put on the lock on the fridge and told them they need to buy a mini fridge and freezer and going forward they would be buying & cooking their own food and if they don’t like that? Start looking for a new place to live
If you don't work and you don't contribute to the grocery bill then you don't eat. Go out and buy your own food or move out and stop complaining that you don't have enough to eat better yet you don't have enough of other people's food to eat. Kick them out why is he living in your house with his wife and kid? If that was me I would leave him and go out and take care of me and mine and not be living in my inlaws house and eating all of their food.
The daughter in college is an adult too. All of these people are adults. Why are none of the other adults, including the daughter, doing anything about food? I had a job and managed to feed myself when I was in college.
Why are they not paying some keep/rent? I understand them not able to rent privately and save at the same time, but they still need to pay their way. Stop mollycoddling them. Let your adult kids make their own mistakes!
Either they're extremely overweight or everyone else is extremely underweight and cooking/eating tiny, tiny portions. Regardless, they're not entitled to anyone else's food and should buy their own.
OP said she cooked a pound of pasta with meatballs, I wouldn't say its enough for 4 dinners and 4 leftover lunches, but definitely enough for 4 people's dinner and a bit too much for just 2.
1. Do they have worms? 2. Are you cooking enough? A pound of spaghetti and meat does not sound enough for 4 adults 3. Why are you doing the cooking? Should they not be supplying and cooking for themselves? 4. You and your daughter were not 2 against 1. You were 2 against them. 5. What was the agreement when they moved in? All questions moot if this is just creative writing and not a real problem
No, you aren't the AH. You aren't being very wise, though, and need to stop letting them mooch off of you. Best solution: Tell them that they have to be out by the end of the month, and if they are still here the next day, you will pack their stuff and put it outside for them. Second best solution: They pay rent to cover utilities, buy a mini fridge and their own food, do their own meal preps, and clean up their own kitchen messes. They have been taking advantage of you. If you want it to stop, you are the one who needs to make it happen.
Have these 2 got worms or one of those eating disorders that makes them never feel sated? The katter us very rare and they eould have been diagnosed in childhood. If you must feed them at all, add some worming medication to their portions until they definitely don't have worms.
Easy peasy... They can buy their own food, cook it, and clean up the mess afterwards...NO EXCUSES, AND NO EXCEPTIONS !!! You and your daughter can still enjoy your meals...your son and his wife can enjoy theirs. ALL dirty dishes, glasses, silverware, pots, pans, cooking utensils, leaky sloppy and gloopy that they leave will be placed on their bed to deal with... after an exceptable time frame (say...2 or 3 hours ???). Or they can find somewhere else to live and save money. Don't let ANYONE walk all over you...NOT even family...because family can SOMETIMES be the WORST. Your son and his wife are NOT children anymore...and their extreme lack of courtesy and level of greed is unexceptable. Respect goes both ways...or they can hit the highway...the path they decide to choose is up to them. QUESTION: Do the son and his wife contribute to groceries, utility bills, basic cleaning, maintenance, yard work (mowing, etcetera) ??? Yes...I understand they are trying to save money. But even paying a smaller portion, with shared responsibilities...is less expensive than having ALL the bills and ALL the responsibilities. If they want to treat you as a cruel landlord and demanding slave master...then, DON'T hold anything back.
To be fair a pound of spaghetti is NOTHING, it might be a strong meal for two people but it's a measly portion for four adults. Son and DIL should definitely contribute to groceries and cooking, but it's obvious that OP doesn't know how to cook for all of them.
I thought i was the only one who went through this. My son and his wife moved in and trippled my grocery bill. Plus, i never had any food to eat myself. I live with an elderly sister, and she put a fridge in her room just to keep food to eat. My son nor his wife would work or buy groceries. I finally had to kick them out.
I had the OPPOSITE happen to me. While I was married my wife and I split monthly bills, but I always thought she wasn't paying anywhere near half. I took half the mortgage, Natural Gas, house insurance, house taxes, land line, internet, cable, some of the groceries, and my cell phone. My wife paid half the mortgage, her cell phone, Electric bill, car insurance, and a majority of the groceries. Every time I brought up the bill division she'd shut me down because "I pay for hundreds of dollars of food per month". After our divorce I got the house and 50% custody of the kids. My average food bill rose a total of $30 per month. My average monthly expenses only increased $450 per month.
Wow that is gross and disgusting. There are a lot of people like your son and DIL. Learn to set boundaries right from the start. You give them an inch, they'll take a mile away. The first mistake we do is, when we are meeting new people, may it be DIL, SIL, MIL, or anybody for the matter, we want to win their respect and love, but forget that we are trying to please them more than required. Be yourself right from the start, doesn't matter if they like you or not. Pleasing others, will cost you heavily.
I can't imagine leeching off my mom like that. Even when we visit for a few weeks we buy most of the food we eat and we cook separately. We also help around the house and garden etc
Kick the freeloaders out
Wondering if they were smoking weed
They should be doing shopping and cooking themselves
Not 10 minutes in and I think the OP needs to evict son and DIL or used locked containers for leftovers.
It's time for them to go, and why in the hell do they eat so much ? Most women don't usually eat like that
I would like to see the waistline of son and DIL...
@@vsijbenif they aren’t overweight now, they sure will be by the time they leave!
Sounds like Asian story, you don't want to bet with Asian women with how much they can eat. They look skinny, but they eat like pigs. Also, where did you get this idea of women don't usually eat like that. LMFAO.
It's past time for them to go. Your house your rules, if they can't follow the rules then they have to get out!
They're adults they should know better than to eat all the food before everyone eats, and they definitely need to contribute towards groceries
They know better its they dont care and are Karen and Ken prolly dont even help with house chores either basically making MUM a slave and paying to be one
Mother is wrong for housing them, feeding them, and paying for the livelihood, even after all this chaos.
@@MCBRUCE76 Yep. No good deed goes unpunished.
@@itsjustme7487 Giving chances to change is good, but making it a habit is not good.
Nearly 50 years ago l lived in a shared house, everyone was supposed to buy and cook food for themselves ( seperate stoves and fridges ). I was baking one day, l spent ages making a special cake for me a d my boyfriend. Came in from work and a huge slice was missing, another guy had started eating it! Boy was l mad, he never pulled that trick again, l locked my food in my room from then on!
I had the same problem in college. I made a big pan of lasagna planning to freeze pieces for dinners later on. It was out cooling on the counter. When I came home my room mate and her BF had cut into it and eaten about 1/4 of the pan. I lost it. She had been using my cooking supplies like flour and spices for the last six months without asking but this was over the top crazy. I was so pissed off. I told her they owed me for the portion they had eaten as it represented four dinners for me. They sheepishly admitted they were broke (neither one of them had jobs) and didn’t give me any money. I quit making more than one serving of food after that. I also started storing my supplies in my room. They were both mooches. She owed our other room mate a full year of rent. Our room mates dad paid the rent for us and we gave her the money. Unknown to me she had quit paying rent and utilities almost a year prior. Their parents were friends and room mates dad called and chewed out other room mates mom who had no idea her kid had not graduated yet. She lied and told her mom she finished when she failed classes.
I am so glad she locked up the food . Especially when he tried to move HIS Mom for HER food . They will cry when she kicks them out . # they won't miss the food # until the food is locked up 😌💅 # water/well 😂🎉
It annoys me when folks NEVER , EVER appreciate kindness. They try to take more and more until they lose EVERYTHING. 😢😢
So entitled to not only steal the food, but to leave the washing up!
It’s one thing to be nice and help them when family starts taking advantage of you. It’s time for them to go your son and his wife have no respect for you. It’s time to move out.
Son: WHAT! You expect us to pay our own way!!
DIL: You're so mean to us!
Soooooo, let's get this straight 😂. The Mom locks the fridge. Theeenn , son " Where's the key ?" # education # common sense # lost in the mix SOMEWHERE 😢😅
ARE YOU SERIOUS? You allow your adult son and his wife to stay in your home, where they pay nothing for their keep, yet eat all your food and use your amenities and THEY ARE ANGRY WITH YOU????? They have the audacity to give you the cold shoulder? WHAT? KICK THEM OUT!!!!!!!
They're parasites
Not only were they rude about the food , but they left all their dirty dishes for her! They need to leave. They weren't saving just money for their own place, they were stealing.
Let them buy their own fridge and their own food. If they continue with this attitude, tell them they are free to leave
They need worming
Lolol 😂
LOL. Good one.
😂😂😂 Yes, I thought of that, too, and then realized that they themselves are the tapeworms! 😂 Last night, I actually watched a movie about giant monster worm creatures that came out of the ground and ate people. The movie was in English, but it supposedly took place in Mongolia. Warm water and chemicals were being pumped into old oil wells to get more oil out--fracking. It brought up the monster worms, too. The movie showed up in my RUclips feed, it was free, and I was in the mood for some mindless entertainment. 😂
@@Questor-ky2fvI saw a similar film many many years ago that took place in a desert town, presumably in the US. The sand worms were huge and gradually pulled buildings under the ground as people were sitting on top of the buildings. A few escaped. Phew!
You are enabling them.
1st Story. Food, Glorious Food, and not enough for piggies.
I think you are going to throw them out. BTW, are they overweight? Do they have jobs? Maybe buy a second fridge just for them.
It's hard to believe how clueless your son was.
Im not sure if it's being clueless and not just plain self entitled.
Why don't those two have jobs? They definitely need to pay for groceries, and should also be helping to cook and wash dishes.
Everyone should contribute money, time and clean up in the kitchen and bathrooms.
Or the son and his wife will take care of their own meals with expectations of not taking food they have not contributed to.
Plating the food is a good solution and the son and wife can either prepare something else or go out to eat.....
At what point do the "son and wife" think decisions about your choices are up for debate to change....
If those gluttons want to eat the whole thing, they can buy their own food, problem solved.
My guests would be gone just like that food if they did that to me.
Can you imagine being a DIL living in your in-laws home and not bothering to do any chores or cooking? Ain’t no way I would be a maid to anyone. You want a meal, then you can either contribute money towards it or purchase it and cook for yourself! DIL probably thought she was gonna be catered on, like she was back home with her mom. If they don’t like the way OP is running her house, they can go live with the DIL’s parents.
This story screams entitlement and spoiled child. Not once in this story did I hear that son & dil we’re paying rent or towards any utilities or food. They are living there, room & board FREE!! Op buys the food and cooks the food, she isn’t even so much as complaining about them eating it all but eating it all & not saving any for anyone else in the house and then expecting more? Does son & dil have an eating disorder? Op is a great mom cause after telling them more then once, I’d have put on the lock on the fridge and told them they need to buy a mini fridge and freezer and going forward they would be buying & cooking their own food and if they don’t like that? Start looking for a new place to live
If you don't work and you don't contribute to the grocery bill then you don't eat. Go out and buy your own food or move out and stop complaining that you don't have enough to eat better yet you don't have enough of other people's food to eat. Kick them out why is he living in your house with his wife and kid? If that was me I would leave him and go out and take care of me and mine and not be living in my inlaws house and eating all of their food.
No money doesn't prevent them from doing dishes and helping with meal prep.
The daughter in college is an adult too. All of these people are adults. Why are none of the other adults, including the daughter, doing anything about food? I had a job and managed to feed myself when I was in college.
Why are they not paying some keep/rent? I understand them not able to rent privately and save at the same time, but they still need to pay their way. Stop mollycoddling them. Let your adult kids make their own mistakes!
Either they're extremely overweight or everyone else is extremely underweight and cooking/eating tiny, tiny portions. Regardless, they're not entitled to anyone else's food and should buy their own.
OP said she cooked a pound of pasta with meatballs, I wouldn't say its enough for 4 dinners and 4 leftover lunches, but definitely enough for 4 people's dinner and a bit too much for just 2.
1. Do they have worms?
2. Are you cooking enough? A pound of spaghetti and meat does not sound enough for 4 adults
3. Why are you doing the cooking? Should they not be supplying and cooking for themselves?
4. You and your daughter were not 2 against 1. You were 2 against them.
5. What was the agreement when they moved in?
All questions moot if this is just creative writing and not a real problem
She was referring to an entire one-pound package of uncooked spaghetti. Quite a bit more weight is added once cooked.
Im just so confused. Why can’t they work?
No, you aren't the AH. You aren't being very wise, though, and need to stop letting them mooch off of you. Best solution: Tell them that they have to be out by the end of the month, and if they are still here the next day, you will pack their stuff and put it outside for them. Second best solution: They pay rent to cover utilities, buy a mini fridge and their own food, do their own meal preps, and clean up their own kitchen messes. They have been taking advantage of you. If you want it to stop, you are the one who needs to make it happen.
If they buy it AND clean up after meals, then they can eat.
They are greedy gluttons
Have these 2 got worms or one of those eating disorders that makes them never feel sated? The katter us very rare and they eould have been diagnosed in childhood.
If you must feed them at all, add some worming medication to their portions until they definitely don't have worms.
Easy peasy...
They can buy their own food, cook it, and clean up the mess afterwards...NO EXCUSES, AND NO EXCEPTIONS !!!
You and your daughter can still enjoy your meals...your son and his wife can enjoy theirs.
ALL dirty dishes, glasses, silverware, pots, pans, cooking utensils, leaky sloppy and gloopy that they leave will be placed on their bed to deal with... after an exceptable time frame (say...2 or 3 hours ???).
Or they can find somewhere else to live and save money.
Don't let ANYONE walk all over you...NOT even family...because family can SOMETIMES be the WORST.
Your son and his wife are NOT children anymore...and their extreme lack of courtesy and level of greed is unexceptable.
Respect goes both ways...or they can hit the highway...the path they decide to choose is up to them.
QUESTION: Do the son and his wife contribute to groceries, utility bills, basic cleaning, maintenance, yard work (mowing, etcetera) ???
Yes...I understand they are trying to save money. But even paying a smaller portion, with shared responsibilities...is less expensive than having ALL the bills and ALL the responsibilities.
If they want to treat you as a cruel landlord and demanding slave master...then, DON'T hold anything back.
To be fair a pound of spaghetti is NOTHING, it might be a strong meal for two people but it's a measly portion for four adults. Son and DIL should definitely contribute to groceries and cooking, but it's obvious that OP doesn't know how to cook for all of them.