I’ve been alone since 47, I’m 56 now. I don’t want to be in a relationship, but I don’t have any friends. I still have to work a stressful job, and going home and back to work is all I do. Still trying to navigate this while dealing with health issues. It definitely isn’t easy.
Imagine living in a world where there's no female to ask: You know what's wrong with you? Why don't you (fill in the blank)? If I were you, you know what I'd do? How about you get up out of that chair and do something? Where do you keep (fill in the blank)? I swear, I can't find anything in your kitchen, house, garage, tool shed, car, basement, utility room, etc. Who are you leaving (fill in the blank) to when you die? You don't hear a word I say, do you?
At 82 I am finally getting to practice my classical guitar uninterrupted for several hours every day. I am really enjoying it and so lucky my fingers still move just fine.
Enjoying one's own company is a gift that keeps on giving, the reward of being able to obtain comfort in chosen things and simple self-reliance. I wrote a novel in solitary retirement and composed songs which I had recorded for my own pleasure. Poetry is an ongoing interest, creating and commenting on other work as I begin navigating my 80s.
I’ve been on my own since I was 52 . 14 years later I’m still alone. With my two terriers. Absolutely love it ! Nothing to prove no allowances to be made. Fantastic
"Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow, Creeps in this petty pace from day to day, To the last syllable of recorded time; And all our yesterdays have lighted fools The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing." -Macbeth
Foster from the shelter. If your dog accepts others, you could start now. Shelter fosters are usually for a few days to weeks. Shelters often need short term homes for dogs transitioning to permanent owners, dogs stressed out and in need of some quiet and some space, dogs too young for adoption, etc. Animal rescue fosters may be longer term but for similar reasons. I like dogs but can't commit to caring for one for 15 to 18 years. Fostering has been my solution.
I walk neighbor pooches. Gets me off the couch, I’ve become their best friend and not have the responsibility of a pet. It’s a very good compromise and there is a good health care benefit for both the dog and me.
I know a guy in a similar situation . When his dog died he was lost , took him a while to get over it. Mind you truth is . . . he stopped looking after the dog. Kept it shut up in the house, pension didn’t stretch to decent food, no vet for fear of cost. The animal was thin and miserable.
I've been alone my entire life. I do not feel that I've missed out on anything. However, people think there's something wrong with me that I'm alone. I'm a peace ✌️
Covid broke my addiction to a frequent flyer lifestyle chasing my own ass. Now I’ve left the city built a small house, planted an orchard, write, and teach a bit, I liked this clip because I’ve often felt there was something wrong with me for choosing to live so isolated. But I’m really content. My dogs and cat don’t argue with me. I have close friends who I talk to frequently and see from time to time. Life’s great at 72.
It's simple - the lash of testosterone drops to the point where we are no longer driven to put up with it all. Peace, silence and the final release of that tension we have held for decades is quite wonderful.
Testosterone is basically like genital cocaine. For the time were 12 to around the age of 50 or so it influences so many of our decisions. And when it drops and is turned down or off we are left feeling like " What the hell was all that about " ???? 😳
Made my living as a commercial artist and looked forward to creating art just for myself. Music was also a big part of my life. At 71, I can't play my guitar or get out my drawing pad without resentment from my life partner. I am at her beck and call every minute. I am contemplating a move to solitude.I don't want my last ride to be a never ending list of home improvement projects. I give her my every working hour and it's still not enough. Cheers to you guys who have managed to escape the drama.
I feel bad for you. I've never understood why so many woman feel the need to control their male partner in every aspect of his life. No one has the right to control anyone else. Not telling you to leave but I doubt it will ever change as long as you stay w/ her. Best wishes for you.
@@8tomtoms8 Thanks for your kind words. I don't think any amount of discussion with her will help. It hasn't as of yet. From conversations with friends, You are right about many women wanting control.
DUUUDE! You deserve better. I k ow you're worried about all you will lose WHEN she rakes you over the coals in court. Do it anyway. The mental relief alone! But you can live on less. You can create a life of peace and art with less money. Live cheaply in Mexico. You'll be glad you did.
@@edwardpetersen4309 You are also to blame. Your behavior invites and allows her behavior. You'll have to take time to recover, but step one is to take your life back.
@@d.f.9064 I take total responsibility. I don't blame her. She is whom she is.I have learned in all these years that taking 100% responsibility is the first and most important step.
It's the exact same for women. I'm 70 but have lived the majority of my life just like this. Freedom is key, saying no, no drama, small group of quality friends, loving solitude, complete control over my life. It doesn't get better than that!
I tired of putting energy into "friendships" but receiving little - if anything - in return. I started to feel much better once I just stopped caring and just let go of these people.
I have finally realised when I was 60 that I am much happier outside a relationship than in it , is it my age who knows but I know it’s the happiest I’ve ever been , you can’t put a price on freedom and watching your video and reading the comments I know I am not alone Thank you
No you are not alone but our society considers being uncoupled not natural or normal, I think that there is a decent percentage of us that are better off alone. It would also go a long way to solving overpopulation.
I was married for 33 years before my wife died about a year ago. Marrying her was hardly foolish. It was the wisest decision I made in my adult life. But, I have no interest in marrying again and enjoy living alone again. But, I will always miss my wife.
@@sevenstarsofthedipper1047 I’m so sorry for your loss. My Aunt is exactly the same. My Uncle passed 12 years ago. She has no interest in marrying again or having any more relationships. She is as happy as a clam now. It is important to realise that if you have enjoyed a long and happy marriage you don’t need nor are you obliged to do it again after your beloved partner passes. Simply reflect on how good your life was and how fortunate you are to still be enjoying life alone.
Tired of sleeping next to an angry woman. Tired of being judged for what you used to do, do now, or might do in the future. Tired of constant questioning and having to justify yourself.
Amen brother. Alone is preferred over constantly feeling that the person(s) you are with, who you thought loved you, actually thinks you are awful. So many days I feel like a bad child that has been scolded for running in the road.
This video couldn’t have said it better. At 73, I prefer my own company. Always have. I’ve ridden my mountain bike across Australia twice. Couldn’t have been any happier. The further I got from people. The happier I became. For a lot of us, it’s live out our last years in peace And harmony. We are all on the final glide path and have no idea when we are coming down.
Around age 35 I adopted the motto, "You're better off being alone than wishing you were." Nothing that has happened in the 30 years since has convinced me otherwise.
Thanks for affirming and elucidating my choice to live alone at 82 - after a very busy academic life, and having had a dear partner for 38 years, who passed away in 2008, my present way of being has become enriching, fulfilling and meaningful. I have no qualms about telling people that I don't want frequent visitors. Spontaneous chats to friends , or strangers on visits to the shops are enough, and often uplifting. Give me my home alone!
Better than living with people who are inconsiderate, harass you constantly with demands on your time, to whom you are invisible except when they want somethinng from you.
Decades of chaos and lack of control over the most basic things - being expected to manage everyone else's unbridled emotions, outbursts, and meltdowns; always being the one who's expected to wait, delay, postpone, go slow. It's enough to make anyone want to be alone.
I was married to the love of my life until she passed at age 62 after 30 years together. I tried dating after she was gone, but I soon realized that I would never replace what I lost, and I would never be satisfied with less.
I am so sorry for your loss. In almost the same situation as you, lost my wife after 31 years together. There is no way to replace the level of intimacy you had with someone who you grew old with - where you became almost a single person out of two.
I'm almost in the same boat, My wife of 26 years of marriage passed away from an 11 year battle with cancer, I have no desires to try and find anyone that would "replace" her and I don't think it would be fair to anyone either, I do miss her terribly but I know I'll see her again🙏, sometimes the loneliness sux, especially at night and first thing in the morning when you "acknowledge" they are gone😢
I lost my beautiful wife of 48 years. My best friend, confidante, and wonderful human being. I miss her every day. I served in the Navy for 24 years. She was the perfect Navy wife. We tried to have children but we were unsuccessful! So, we decided we would be a childless couple. I don't want to wallow in my misery. I decided life is so short, so l needed to take the bull by the horns and learn to embrace being single. I have no family or support network. But, having said that. I have found inner strength that I didn't know I had. It is so great to realize there are others like me. ❤😊
@@keiths4874 I’m so sorry to read of your loss. My partner of 34 years and now husband (I’m gay) is about to experience his last summer on planet earth, thanks to the dreaded 6.5 years of #&@= cancer. He’s literally my other half, like some of the others who’ve made comments on here, i cant imagine what life will be like by myself 😌
I'm an older woman and I've spent a lot of years by myself. The thing I do prefer about it although it gets lonely at times is I like the peace and quiet. The only problems I have to deal with are my own.
I love coming home, putting the key in the lock, entering the house and there is silence. We live in a world where our senses are constantly under assault and where precious little has not been commercialized by the internet. Our privacy has been invaded by social media and internet browsers. We also have to look at ourselves and examine the many prejudices, preferences and habits we have built up over the years that now can be to varying degrees impediments to forming new relationships. After the death of my partner I learned how to become my own best friend and I do the things I enjoy. We come into the world alone and go out the same way.
Just discovered this video. This seemed as if it was written about me. In retirement, I'm much more selective about who I choose to spend time with, I eliminate as many commitments as possible, I am happier with simple things, I enjoy the security of self-sufficiency . Further, I have less tolerance for conflict (which is unavoidable with a woman in the house or in my life). I can completely reinvent myself and I don't care who takes issue with it. I worked hard in a difficult, dangerous, tense environment for 40 years and I owe it to myself to give my psyche a break from all that. I can attend to my health and fitness. I can pursue any activity that entertains me. I don't have to impress anyone and I refuse to even try. Friends and family will sort themselves out. Those who accept me for who I am will stay, all others will be eliminated. Enjoyed this video. Didn't know this was a known movement. Liked and subscribed.
Nothing to do with being a man. It is the same for women. Living alone has tremendous advantages for those inclined to do so. For some, it is lonely, certainly. For others, it is freedom itself.
Maybe for some women, but most men would live alone in their early adulthood to escape what women bring to a relationship; drama, constant badgering, no accountability and no reciprocation.
I can do what I want, when I want to do it, all of the time. I could not discuss any 'issues' with my ex because, according to her, discussion was considered 'conflict.' So, as a result it was silence for 10 years. Silence with a mate equals frustration and a slave role. Silence with one's self equals peace.
Circumstance has me convinced that finding joy and happiness in this life is now a bridge too far. Instead, I simply search for contentment in what is left of this life and spend more time on preparing for the next one. This was an excellent and spot-on video. Thanks for producing it.
Back in 2020 The virtual closure of the NHS caused the premature death of my wife, best friend and my reason for living due to a treatable heart condition. She was 2 months from retirement and we had plans. I will never forgive and never forget. I am happy to be alone with my thoughts and memories. I do look after her grandchildren aged 13 and 9 Friday evening to Sunday morning so the parents can work (in retail). We had been doing this since they were 6 months old so I am definitely Grandad. It is their second home! I have moved away from the manufactured drama of modern life and I am quite content pursuing my many hobbies and interests. I do, however, enjoy social media! I cannot imagine living with someone again.
Being yourself is priceless Your own person I was with a narcissist OMFG evil My peace is back without being twisted and gaslighting My peace is forever now 😊
This might sound crazy, but I started to downsize my stuff a few years ago, and i'm still doing it. It is not just the bulky items that I've given to goodwill. It's all the small stuff as well. The coffee mugs, key changes, memory sticks, etc. Getting rid of this stuff, big and small, is so liberating. Thanks for the video.
I love how everything starts to slow down as I get older, and now I can look after me. I opened the gates and let all the little ducklings run free, and I’m enjoying sitting in the peaceful pond on my own. Gate is still open, and now the little ducklings can make their own decision whether they want to share my pond or not. Either way, I have found my happiness in the quiet.
I'm 67 and this video NAILED IT! for me in every item talked about. I find myself to be alone a lot. There are times I like it that way but there's little bits of time when it gets me down. I only have one friend; and he's not the best quality for me. It seems like finding good quality of people around my age is impossible. I'm sure I'm not all that great, either! I live in a city, and the community I live at has been nice and quiet. That's important to me since I can't tolerate loud noises. But lately the nice and quiet place has changed. There's all kinds of construction going on with remodeling and a new apartment building going up. I want to leave at where I live but I don't know where to go. I would like to live in a rural area but I don't know anyone in an area where I would like to move to. And I have a fear of moving to a new place by myself not knowing anyone.
I told my ex many, many times that I wanted to live in peace. She didn't take me seriously. I now live alone with a wonderful relationship with 2 daughters, 2 son-in-laws, 5.2 grandkids, a wonderful girlfriend, and just the right amount of friends (not many).
Exactly it’s about living alone happily. Not being alone. Still go out, still visit people and they visit me, but when I close the door at the end of the night total peace.
Wonderful video! Many connections are made here. I love living alone and not having a wife / girlfriend. Other people can't understand it. Or maybe they are just jealous.
Dogs are honest, transparent, do not lie or dissimulate, forgive, and love unconditionally. A medieval Arab writer wrote a book about them titled, "The Superiority of Dogs over Many of those who Wear Clothes," comparing the character of dogs to you know who.
I agree. Free of family clutter, greed, jealousy, narcissistic and demanding or controlling wife equals divorce. Hard at first but now peace and solitude.
I selected this video to check my own lack of drive to reach out for connection the way I did before I got married and widowed after 35 years. This video surprisingly connected with me as insightful, personally accurate, and only affirmed my current path. Simplifying and creating freedom particularly hit home, and I had already set up my reading corner in a comfortable part of the house. Thank you and hoping others find this video as affirming as had I.
I'm deeply in love with my husband but I am thrilled to read how so many find meaning and peace in solitude. If I ever find myself in that position, I know I'll be fine.
I'm 75, you hit the nail on the head. Lost my wife of 53 years at 72. In the 3 years since she went to be with the Lord. I find myself embracing the quiet lonely life more and more. Can't imagine myself being with anyone else, not looking but enjoying the peace I have finally found. I would take my wife back in a minute if she was healthy, I look forward to seeing her in Heaven.
It’s like RUclips is reading my mind. In just in the last couple of days I finally reached the conclusion that I’d prefer to be alone than in any more relationships.
Newly retired and divorced, I find I miss the companionship of a trusted partner. I also wish I had some trusted friends that shared some of my interests. Here’s the real issue as I see it, it’s not about being alone per se. No. Imho, it’s about choosing to be alone if the alternative is to around/with a person or people you don’t truly connect with and trust. Also, the people I let into my life now must want to be in my life and demonstrate it. Otherwise, I’d rather just be alone. Finally, yes, I do get lonely and sad at times. Cest la vie, I suppose.
Thanks. That was helpful. I was married to my accepting wife for 51 years and cared for her with MS for 26 years before she passed in 2022. I am 77. But I am gay, medically proven. I always was. My wife was totally accepting. My adult kids are accepting which great. I am now free to be the man I always was. But I am not looking looking for a boyfriend/husband. I am content to just live alone and enjoy my life. I keep well fortunately and walk a lot. I also go on seniors bus trips which helps keep me from feeling too lonely.
Excuse me, but how can you be "medically proven" to be gay? What you do is your business and I respect that. But I've never heard of anyone being medically proven to be gay.
Some of us only knew a life of largely rejection, sat down and looked at the big picture, and adjusted to those doors that were open, and those doors that were closed. If you chose to navigate life, you made the choices that made sense to YOU YOURSELF. No one else. And if you set sail with the right mindset, you came out on the other side, smiled and said, “Not Bad!”
There are complex people that take a lot of energy to know. Being alone allows you to eliminate those people from your path and choose to know people who are more simple and humble. The competition is gone, Enjoy!
congratulations on your move guys! you have support and fans here in Vermont - love that you are ignoring the trolls. please continue the unique banter and reviews ... and most if all, be yourselves!
Many men have dedicated years to being the provider, caretaker, babysitter and householder; and now for whatever reason they’re alone. These men have nothing to prove to the world. These men have come to enjoy their peace and quiet alone.
I can’t say, I choose to be alone because I’m broken and aren’t getting fixed at this point. Growing up I couldn’t wait to be living on my own, I spent a couple years here and there alone until I got married. 14 years after I was looking for a residence again, then at 61 I finally got a place for me alone, 9 years later still alone. Love it. I have family close by.
I’m 60 and check all these boxes. I’m married and we’re happy but we give each other plenty of space. She loves her friends and socializes a lot and I love to hike, hunt and fish. I really only stay friends with my hunting buddies. I’ve got a mountain cabin and it works out great.
Very true and insightful! Thanks for this, I want to share it with my children and friends and family. No matter how hard life was for me since a boy no one looked out for me or took care of me but I took care of all of them. Now I just want to have peace and leave this world peacefully when the time comes. I wish everyone all be to have inner peace.
This describes me to a T. I was the oldest of 8 kids, so I always had to watch out for them and left babysitting. I went into the Military for 20 years then retired. Worked in municipal government for 25 and I am now retired. I just want to live alone in my own peace without being dragged into other people's problems and drama.
I'm pushing 60. My main reason for being alone is I'm FED UP with betrayal, drama and ALL forms of Narcissistic abuse. As George Washington said, _"It is better to be alone than to be in bad company."_
They're sick of the drama
Exactly!
@@gwwayner bingo
And done with it!
Correct it just ain’t worth it
Yep!!!!!
I’m 64 and will never be involved with anyone again. I value my peace.
You and me both (the more people I meet, the more I realize how rude they are. They are just trash).
I been alone since 50 for various reasons but finally I am really grateful to be alone and enjoy my own time whether peace or activities!
I’ve been alone since 47, I’m 56 now. I don’t want to be in a relationship, but I don’t have any friends. I still have to work a stressful job, and going home and back to work is all I do. Still trying to navigate this while dealing with health issues. It definitely isn’t easy.
God speed Sir......
@@EricT3769 Sometimes..... Sometimes, just one decent human friend can help. God speed Sir.....
Being alone means we have total freedom and control over our own life.
right and who wants to wine and dine some old stone,get that over with the hot chicks when your young
And control of money
@@rogerthornhill1491 That's the number one issue.
no work no woman no house no issues no problems ... no demands no criticism no drama no conflict ..
@@direwolf6234 life's good 👍
Imagine living in a world where there's no female to ask: You know what's wrong with you? Why don't you (fill in the blank)? If I were you, you know what I'd do? How about you get up out of that chair and do something? Where do you keep (fill in the blank)? I swear, I can't find anything in your kitchen, house, garage, tool shed, car, basement, utility room, etc. Who are you leaving (fill in the blank) to when you die? You don't hear a word I say, do you?
So, you’re a bum?
@@ascgazz retired un-attached & downsized ... and surprisingly with more disposable income then when i was working .. time for another guitar ...
@@ascgazzA bum?……..not hardly. More like comfortably retired.
If an older man speaks in the forest,
and there's no woman there to hear him,
is he still wrong?
You made me laugh out loud!!
Woman: Yes, because we never take accountability and we blame you for our actions wherever you are.
Lol😅
THATS JUST DANG FUNNY....AND TRUE
The man is always wrong…you know that
Some people are just meant to be alone.
Oh, another expert.
@@tominmtnvw You bet. I'm perfectly happy being alone, but no need to praise me for it. Thanks anyway. I'm sure you mean well.
At 82 I am finally getting to practice my classical guitar uninterrupted for several hours every day. I am really enjoying it and so lucky my fingers still move just fine.
Good for you!!!
I hope to play until I’m 100!
Check my channel for classical guitar
Excellent!
You unknowingly nudge me that it has been two years since I picked up my guitar last - time to work on these soft finger-tips again :)
Enjoying one's own company is a gift that keeps on giving, the reward of being able to
obtain comfort in chosen things and simple self-reliance. I wrote a novel in solitary
retirement and composed songs which I had recorded for my own pleasure. Poetry
is an ongoing interest, creating and commenting on other work as I begin navigating
my 80s.
The peace and solitude of being single is priceless
I’ve been on my own since I was 52 . 14 years later I’m still alone. With my two terriers. Absolutely love it ! Nothing to prove no allowances to be made. Fantastic
As long as you are happy with yourself. That's all that matters.
@1:40: “But as men age the tolerance for unnecessary arguments and drama often diminishes.” 👍🏼 No need for any other explanation.
"Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing."
-Macbeth
Stop video right there 😂
At age 84, I can tell you for a fact that everything you said in this video is 100% true!
I have my dog. He is pretty much my constant companion, and the only one I want. When he passes though, it’s going to be tough.
Foster from the shelter. If your dog accepts others, you could start now. Shelter fosters are usually for a few days to weeks. Shelters often need short term homes for dogs transitioning to permanent owners, dogs stressed out and in need of some quiet and some space, dogs too young for adoption, etc. Animal rescue fosters may be longer term but for similar reasons. I like dogs but can't commit to caring for one for 15 to 18 years. Fostering has been my solution.
I walk neighbor pooches. Gets me off the couch, I’ve become their best friend and not have the responsibility of a pet. It’s a very good compromise and there is a good health care benefit for both the dog and me.
I got my current dog five days after my last one died. There are so many dogs needing caring homes.
I know a guy in a similar situation . When his dog died he was lost , took him a while to get over it. Mind you truth is . . . he stopped looking after the dog. Kept it shut up in the house, pension didn’t stretch to decent food, no vet for fear of cost. The animal was thin and miserable.
I just lost mine....🐾❤️
I've been alone my entire life. I do not feel that I've missed out on anything. However, people think there's something wrong with me that I'm alone. I'm a peace ✌️
We are all tired of the lies and games and BS of people just enjoy peace and calm and my cat does too.
Right there with you!
You nailed it! I'm happily single and 69... enjoying life on my terms at my pace.
This 78 year old has been doing the same for over 40 years.
Yes. Exactly.
Covid broke my addiction to a frequent flyer lifestyle chasing my own ass. Now I’ve left the city built a small house, planted an orchard, write, and teach a bit, I liked this clip because I’ve often felt there was something wrong with me for choosing to live so isolated. But I’m really content. My dogs and cat don’t argue with me. I have close friends who I talk to frequently and see from time to time. Life’s great at 72.
It's simple - the lash of testosterone drops to the point where we are no longer driven to put up with it all. Peace, silence and the final release of that tension we have held for decades is quite wonderful.
Testosterone is basically like genital cocaine.
For the time were 12 to around the age of 50 or so it influences so many of our decisions.
And when it drops and is turned down or off we are left feeling like " What the hell was all that about " ???? 😳
Made my living as a commercial artist and looked forward to creating art just for myself. Music was also a big part of my life. At 71, I can't play my guitar or get out my drawing pad without resentment from my life partner. I am at her beck and call every minute. I am contemplating a move to solitude.I don't want my last ride to be a never ending list of home improvement projects. I give her my every working hour and it's still not enough. Cheers to you guys who have managed to escape the drama.
I feel bad for you. I've never understood why so many woman feel the need to control their male partner in every aspect of his life. No one has the right to control anyone else. Not telling you to leave but I doubt it will ever change as long as you stay w/ her. Best wishes for you.
@@8tomtoms8 Thanks for your kind words. I don't think any amount of discussion with her will help. It hasn't as of yet. From conversations with friends, You are right about many women wanting control.
DUUUDE! You deserve better. I k ow you're worried about all you will lose WHEN she rakes you over the coals in court. Do it anyway. The mental relief alone! But you can live on less. You can create a life of peace and art with less money. Live cheaply in Mexico. You'll be glad you did.
@@edwardpetersen4309
You are also to blame. Your behavior invites and allows her behavior. You'll have to take time to recover, but step one is to take your life back.
@@d.f.9064 I take total responsibility. I don't blame her. She is whom she is.I have learned in all these years that taking 100% responsibility is the first and most important step.
Peace, quiet, good health, and financial security at my age? It’s heaven on Earth. My dogs are an added bonus.
It's the exact same for women. I'm 70 but have lived the majority of my life just like this. Freedom is key, saying no, no drama, small group of quality friends, loving solitude, complete control over my life. It doesn't get better than that!
I tired of putting energy into "friendships" but receiving little - if anything - in return. I started to feel much better once I just stopped caring and just let go of these people.
BINGO!
I'm a woman and I completely approve of this message.
I have finally realised when I was 60 that I am much happier outside a relationship than in it , is it my age who knows but I know it’s the happiest I’ve ever been , you can’t put a price on freedom and watching your video and reading the comments I know I am not alone
Thank you
No you are not alone but our society considers being uncoupled not natural or normal, I think that there is a decent percentage of us that are better off alone. It would also go a long way to solving overpopulation.
Exactly! Same for me.
You are so right. I am 69 and you described my own life.
Hit the nail on the head !!!! Constantly working to pay bills your whole life...disappointing marriage...divorce....want to RELAX!!!!
Not all men are fools. Some of us are bachelor's.
26 years for me, no regrets
Me, I’ve been single all my life. Wouldn’t have it any other way.
I was married for 33 years before my wife died about a year ago. Marrying her was hardly foolish. It was the wisest decision I made in my adult life. But, I have no interest in marrying again and enjoy living alone again. But, I will always miss my wife.
@@sevenstarsofthedipper1047 I’m so sorry for your loss. My Aunt is exactly the same. My Uncle passed 12 years ago. She has no interest in marrying again or having any more relationships. She is as happy as a clam now. It is important to realise that if you have enjoyed a long and happy marriage you don’t need nor are you obliged to do it again after your beloved partner passes. Simply reflect on how good your life was and how fortunate you are to still be enjoying life alone.
Tired of sleeping next to an angry woman. Tired of being judged for what you used to do, do now, or might do in the future. Tired of constant questioning and having to justify yourself.
Amen brother. Alone is preferred over constantly feeling that the person(s) you are with, who you thought loved you, actually thinks you are awful. So many days I feel like a bad child that has been scolded for running in the road.
This video couldn’t have said it better. At 73, I prefer my own company. Always have. I’ve ridden my mountain bike across Australia twice.
Couldn’t have been any happier. The further I got from people. The happier I became. For a lot of us, it’s live out our last years in peace
And harmony. We are all on the final glide path and have no idea when we are coming down.
I'm an American who hitchhiked the east coast of Australia alone. I identify with your concept of peace and harmony.
Around age 35 I adopted the motto, "You're better off being alone than wishing you were."
Nothing that has happened in the 30 years since has convinced me otherwise.
Thanks for affirming and elucidating my choice to live alone at 82 - after a very busy academic life, and having had a dear partner for 38 years, who passed away in 2008, my present way of being has become enriching, fulfilling and meaningful. I have no qualms about telling people that I don't want frequent visitors. Spontaneous chats to friends , or strangers on visits to the shops are enough, and often uplifting. Give me my home alone!
Freedom to be myself and no drama.
Better than living with people who are inconsiderate, harass you constantly with demands on your time, to whom you are invisible except when they want somethinng from you.
Tired of mean and controling people. I'm in control.
No arguments, always coming second, sometimes it’s just
Better to live alone…
I prefer life alone.
Decades of chaos and lack of control over the most basic things - being expected to manage everyone else's unbridled emotions, outbursts, and meltdowns; always being the one who's expected to wait, delay, postpone, go slow. It's enough to make anyone want to be alone.
As a friend of mine who now lives alone in retirement observed "For the first time in 50 years I order WHAT I WANT ON THE PIZZA".
I'm 74, I prefer to be alone, every woman that has been in my life has been a golddigger, I'm done,like the solitude. Just leave me alone, thank you!
I was married to the love of my life until she passed at age 62 after 30 years together. I tried dating after she was gone, but I soon realized that I would never replace what I lost, and I would never be satisfied with less.
I am so sorry for your loss. In almost the same situation as you, lost my wife after 31 years together. There is no way to replace the level of intimacy you had with someone who you grew old with - where you became almost a single person out of two.
I'm almost in the same boat, My wife of 26 years of marriage passed away from an 11 year battle with cancer, I have no desires to try and find anyone that would "replace" her and I don't think it would be fair to anyone either, I do miss her terribly but I know I'll see her again🙏, sometimes the loneliness sux, especially at night and first thing in the morning when you "acknowledge" they are gone😢
Same here, lost my wife to cancer. She was my best friend. She was 60, I'm 64 , retired, and taking one day at a time now.
I lost my beautiful wife of 48 years. My best friend, confidante, and wonderful human being. I miss her every day. I served in the Navy for 24 years. She was the perfect Navy wife. We tried to have children but we were unsuccessful! So, we decided we would be a childless couple. I don't want to wallow in my misery. I decided life is so short, so l needed to take the bull by the horns and learn to embrace being single. I have no family or support network. But, having said that. I have found inner strength that I didn't know I had. It is so great to realize there are others like me. ❤😊
@@keiths4874 I’m so sorry to read of your loss. My partner of 34 years and now husband (I’m gay) is about to experience his last summer on planet earth, thanks to the dreaded 6.5 years of #&@= cancer. He’s literally my other half, like some of the others who’ve made comments on here, i cant imagine what life will be like by myself 😌
Tired of game playing, drama, insincerity, lies, and immaturity.
I'm an older woman and I've spent a lot of years by myself. The thing I do prefer about it although it gets lonely at times is I like the peace and quiet. The only problems I have to deal with are my own.
Nag, nag, nag, “why you doing this?” “I need this” along with zero sex.
I love coming home, putting the key in the lock, entering the house and there is silence. We live in a world where our senses are constantly under assault and where precious little has not been commercialized by the internet. Our privacy has been invaded by social media and internet browsers. We also have to look at ourselves and examine the many prejudices, preferences and habits we have built up over the years that now can be to varying degrees impediments to forming new relationships. After the death of my partner I learned how to become my own best friend and I do the things I enjoy. We come into the world alone and go out the same way.
Exactly! On all counts.
Better to come home and be alone, than to come home to someone you wish weren't there.
@@jc4evur661 Exactly.
Retiring in two, TWO years!!! And yes, I'll be the seeking quiet and tranquil solitude of my own company..... God damn it man, I've earned it.
Just discovered this video. This seemed as if it was written about me. In retirement, I'm much more selective about who I choose to spend time with, I eliminate as many commitments as possible, I am happier with simple things, I enjoy the security of self-sufficiency . Further, I have less tolerance for conflict (which is unavoidable with a woman in the house or in my life). I can completely reinvent myself and I don't care who takes issue with it. I worked hard in a difficult, dangerous, tense environment for 40 years and I owe it to myself to give my psyche a break from all that. I can attend to my health and fitness. I can pursue any activity that entertains me. I don't have to impress anyone and I refuse to even try. Friends and family will sort themselves out. Those who accept me for who I am will stay, all others will be eliminated. Enjoyed this video. Didn't know this was a known movement. Liked and subscribed.
I'm a 78 year old solo guy and I agree on all counts.
Nothing to do with being a man. It is the same for women. Living alone has tremendous advantages for those inclined to do so. For some, it is lonely, certainly. For others, it is freedom itself.
Touché , you unwittingly offered a great example for one of the author's leading assertions!
Maybe for some women, but most men would live alone in their early adulthood to escape what women bring to a relationship; drama, constant badgering, no accountability and no reciprocation.
I'm 60 alone and happy, :-)
The greatest bliss is being able to sit alone & be completely at peace. Needing no one needing nothing.
I can do what I want, when I want to do it, all of the time. I could not discuss any 'issues' with my ex because, according to her, discussion was considered 'conflict.' So, as a result it was silence for 10 years. Silence with a mate equals frustration and a slave role. Silence with one's self equals peace.
Circumstance has me convinced that finding joy and happiness in this life is now a bridge too far. Instead, I simply search for contentment in what is left of this life and spend more time on preparing for the next one.
This was an excellent and spot-on video. Thanks for producing it.
Back in 2020 The virtual closure of the NHS caused the premature death of my wife, best friend and my reason for living due to a treatable heart condition. She was 2 months from retirement and we had plans. I will never forgive and never forget.
I am happy to be alone with my thoughts and memories. I do look after her grandchildren aged 13 and 9 Friday evening to Sunday morning so the parents can work (in retail). We had been doing this since they were 6 months old so I am definitely Grandad. It is their second home!
I have moved away from the manufactured drama of modern life and I am quite content pursuing my many hobbies and interests. I do, however, enjoy social media!
I cannot imagine living with someone again.
I was very fortunate to retire with a pension on April 1, 2013.
Since then, I've told people I own my time!
At 72 I thought I was being odd. Points made in your video are spot on. Thank you
Being yourself is priceless
Your own person
I was with a narcissist OMFG evil
My peace is back without being twisted and gaslighting
My peace is forever now 😊
This might sound crazy, but I started to downsize my stuff a few years ago, and i'm still doing it. It is not just the bulky items that I've given to goodwill. It's all the small stuff as well. The coffee mugs, key changes, memory sticks, etc. Getting rid of this stuff, big and small, is so liberating. Thanks for the video.
I'm 67 and I still like people...for about 2 or 3 minutes 😂
Ha, ha....Understood!
…..that’s twice as long as me!! 🤷🏼♂️😂
Same
An excellent video! You spelled out my life to the tee. At 72, I have finally become....me! God bless you, and thank you.
It is a trouble free life. Dealing with most women is like dealing with a spoiled kid.
I love how everything starts to slow down as I get older, and now I can look after me. I opened the gates and let all the little ducklings run free, and I’m enjoying sitting in the peaceful pond on my own. Gate is still open, and now the little ducklings can make their own decision whether they want to share my pond or not. Either way, I have found my happiness in the quiet.
I'm 67 and this video NAILED IT! for me in every item talked about. I find myself to be alone a lot. There are times I like it that way but there's little bits of time when it gets me down. I only have one friend; and he's not the best quality for me. It seems like finding good quality of people around my age is impossible. I'm sure I'm not all that great, either!
I live in a city, and the community I live at has been nice and quiet. That's important to me since I can't tolerate loud noises. But lately the nice and quiet place has changed. There's all kinds of construction going on with remodeling and a new apartment building going up. I want to leave at where I live but I don't know where to go. I would like to live in a rural area but I don't know anyone in an area where I would like to move to. And I have a fear of moving to a new place by myself not knowing anyone.
Look upon it as an adventure. Start out by exploring a few places that seem to speak to you.
I think most older men would like to leave their kids something when they die. And I think women go after older men to keep that from happening.
I told my ex many, many times that I wanted to live in peace. She didn't take me seriously. I now live alone with a wonderful relationship with 2 daughters, 2 son-in-laws, 5.2 grandkids, a wonderful girlfriend, and just the right amount of friends (not many).
Not alone, entirely in control of MY time.
People visit , I visit people.
Exactly it’s about living alone happily. Not being alone. Still go out, still visit people and they visit me, but when I close the door at the end of the night total peace.
Exactly!
Wonderful video! Many connections are made here. I love living alone and not having a wife / girlfriend. Other people can't understand it. Or maybe they are just jealous.
This is true of older women as well. Everyone ages and priorities change.
I choose to live with my 2 dogs, instead of a woman. My 2 dogs, truly are my best friends"
Dogs are honest, transparent, do not lie or dissimulate, forgive, and love unconditionally. A medieval Arab writer wrote a book about them titled, "The Superiority of Dogs over Many of those who Wear Clothes," comparing the character of dogs to you know who.
Over the years I've travelled to some 40 countries. Now that I'm home, I really want to be alone.
To each of you reading this: though we may never meet, I wholeheartedly wish you a life filled with joy, peace, and boundless good fortune.
I'm 82. Alone and never more content in my entire life.
I may be alone, but I'm not lonely.
True.
At 73 I find everything you said true. I am living your comments and still working at being unencumbered.
I agree. Free of family clutter, greed, jealousy, narcissistic and demanding or controlling wife equals divorce. Hard at first but now peace and solitude.
I selected this video to check my own lack of drive to reach out for connection the way I did before I got married and widowed after 35 years. This video surprisingly connected with me as insightful, personally accurate, and only affirmed my current path. Simplifying and creating freedom particularly hit home, and I had already set up my reading corner in a comfortable part of the house. Thank you and hoping others find this video as affirming as had I.
I'm deeply in love with my husband but I am thrilled to read how so many find meaning and peace in solitude. If I ever find myself in that position, I know I'll be fine.
I'm 75, you hit the nail on the head. Lost my wife of 53 years at 72. In the 3 years since she went to be with the Lord. I find myself embracing the quiet lonely life more and more. Can't imagine myself being with anyone else, not looking but enjoying the peace I have finally found. I would take my wife back in a minute if she was healthy, I look forward to seeing her in Heaven.
It’s like RUclips is reading my mind. In just in the last couple of days I finally reached the conclusion that I’d prefer to be alone than in any more relationships.
You've covered it all. Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Newly retired and divorced, I find I miss the companionship of a trusted partner. I also wish I had some trusted friends that shared some of my interests. Here’s the real issue as I see it, it’s not about being alone per se. No. Imho, it’s about choosing to be alone if the alternative is to around/with a person or people you don’t truly connect with and trust. Also, the people I let into my life now must want to be in my life and demonstrate it. Otherwise, I’d rather just be alone. Finally, yes, I do get lonely and sad at times. Cest la vie, I suppose.
You’ve just described my life as it is now 😊
Former life 😵💫.
Thanks. That was helpful. I was married to my accepting wife for 51 years and cared for her with MS for 26 years before she passed in 2022. I am 77. But I am gay, medically proven. I always was. My wife was totally accepting. My adult kids are accepting which great. I am now free to be the man I always was. But I am not looking looking for a boyfriend/husband. I am content to just live alone and enjoy my life. I keep well fortunately and walk a lot. I also go on seniors bus trips which helps keep me from feeling too lonely.
Excuse me, but how can you be "medically proven" to be gay? What you do is your business and I respect that. But I've never heard of anyone being medically proven to be gay.
Man, you hit the nail on the head! I fit that profile exactly!
Some of us only knew a life of largely rejection, sat down and looked at the big picture, and adjusted to those doors that were open, and those doors that were closed. If you chose to navigate life, you made the choices that made sense to YOU YOURSELF. No one else. And if you set sail with the right mindset, you came out on the other side, smiled and said, “Not Bad!”
Thank you I guess I am on the right path but music plays a big part of solitude
Agree, my piano has been a wonderful companion.
Music means EVERYTHING to me, a 78-year old. Have you discovered Dimash Kudaibergen? ruclips.net/video/Y0H1OE_mOsg/видео.html
There are complex people that take a lot of energy to know. Being alone allows you to eliminate those people from your path and choose to know people who are more simple and humble. The competition is gone, Enjoy!
Freedom, and peace.
congratulations on your move guys! you have support and fans here in Vermont - love that you are ignoring the trolls. please continue the unique banter and reviews ... and most if all, be yourselves!
We're just tired of the B.S.
Many men have dedicated years to being the provider, caretaker, babysitter and householder; and now for whatever reason they’re alone. These men have nothing to prove to the world. These men have come to enjoy their peace and quiet alone.
I can’t say, I choose to be alone because I’m broken and aren’t getting fixed at this point. Growing up I couldn’t wait to be living on my own, I spent a couple years here and there alone until I got married. 14 years after I was looking for a residence again, then at 61 I finally got a place for me alone, 9 years later still alone. Love it. I have family close by.
I’m 60 and check all these boxes. I’m married and we’re happy but we give each other plenty of space. She loves her friends and socializes a lot and I love to hike, hunt and fish. I really only stay friends with my hunting buddies. I’ve got a mountain cabin and it works out great.
Not just men.
Very true and insightful! Thanks for this, I want to share it with my children and friends and family. No matter how hard life was for me since a boy no one looked out for me or took care of me but I took care of all of them. Now I just want to have peace and leave this world peacefully when the time comes. I wish everyone all be to have inner peace.
I'm 71 and cherish my privacy and solitude above all else especially away from family
I agree. If my wife passes before me, it’s single until the end. I already have declutterred and have peace.
Greater freedom and privacy, deeper fulfillment, simplicity and practicality and greater manageability of one's own beautiful life.
This describes me to a T. I was the oldest of 8 kids, so I always had to watch out for them and left babysitting. I went into the Military for 20 years then retired. Worked in municipal government for 25 and I am now retired. I just want to live alone in my own peace without being dragged into other people's problems and drama.
I GREATLY appreciate the large amount of reasons, and the brevity about them.
OMG ~ how did you know all this about me …?
At age 63, you have described my life perfectly …
I'm pushing 60.
My main reason for being alone is I'm FED UP with betrayal, drama and ALL forms of Narcissistic abuse.
As George Washington said,
_"It is better to be alone than to be in bad company."_
"It's not about disliking people..." um yes it is LOL
Freedom