Living alone, you know your heart can be broken if you lose your spouse. You will never have that sadness of losing someone or you die and break someone's heart. Hey! its great and I am not lonely. Too many things to do.to be lonesome. I am soon to be 74 and thank God I am still healthy.
'God' appears as a bright light to dead people. That's about it. Apart from the very few living people who have a distinct spiritual experience, he doesn't appear to be doing anything. When is this God going to get up off his holy arse and do something down here to improve the world and prove he exists?
Now 74, retired and living alone I agree with the points made in this excellent video. Keep in mind that the wrong partner can make your life miserable and personal freedom is wonderful compensation for solitude. No drama and stress enables satisfaction with everyday life.
I'm 71, the only thin person out of nine children, a health nut because I love fruits and vegetables, no vices, and I exercise 3 hours a day having been a martial artist since age 15. And I love creating light-hearted funny sayings. This one is for you. If you want a headache, fall in love. If you want to fall in love, get a puppy.
Wow. @Ehdrock You know everything about this person who you don’t know and have never have met. Incredible, but your projection of yourself tells us reams about yourself.
I turn 76 next month and have lived alone since I was 43, I wouldn't have it any other way. I love the silence, the solitude and not having to compromise.
@@terriseaton3049perhaps thats not really true... Just a negative thought in your head. Try following some of the tips in this video and be more proactive in creating new experiences. Reach out you might just be surprised.
@@terriseaton3049 that's not true! God loves you more than you know! I pray that you know all the true family of God loves you also. I love you and I am praying for you even today. ❤👑✝️
I am so blessed. After my 2nd husband passed away, 5 years ago, I moved back to the States from St. Croix. I really didn’t want to buy another house or live in an apartment. My son-in-law suggested I build onto their home an apartment, I designed just for me. I have my own separate entrance with a very large “L” shaped porch overlooking their pond, with large picture windows to enjoy the views. I had a roll-in shower if I’m ever in need of a wheelchair. It is small, with a huge walk-in closet. My builder was able to give me 10’ ceilings making my little apartment seem much larger. I’m 73 and see my daughter every day. Yes, I am very blessed.😊
Not once did I hear you mention that you exercise everyday. It's sad that the older people get, especially women, they haven't exercised since junior high school and all look like Everybody Loves Raymond's mom by the time they're 60. I will never date a woman who is shaped like a beach ball. I'm 71, thin, martial artist, very athletic, no vices and I exercise 3 hours a day. I should point out that I've also never been sick, never even been to a doctor. And I'm a psychologist.
@@davidplant6805 Wow, I just went to a family doctor for the first time in 10 years, this year. However, I had undiagnosed Lyme Disease for many years before I could get a diagnosis. That was 25 years ago. Since then, because of Lyme arthritis, I’ve had 7 shoulder surgeries and a reversal transplant of one shoulder. I’m not as active as I was when I could play tennis, but, I’m not a couch potato either. Never have been. Just returned from a trip to Pompano Beach, last month I went to Nashville, TN. My last husband was 8 years younger, a very good carpenter and very slim. Consider yourself blessed that you haven’t needed a doctor. I live in Arkansas.
Since I turned 85, l like to nap when I can. I still work everyday, drive about 215 to 250 miles a day (freeway and city). Cut wood for winter. Married 64 years. Not rich or even well off but what the heck. I am truly blessed and know it, I thank God for all the blessings He has given me. I try to do a good deed everyday.
I’m not surprised you nap when you can…i think you owe it to yourself as you are so busy. I think some younger people would benefit by being as motivated as you. Well done 😊
I am 85. to everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world friend
i'm 94, widowed, have lived alone for many years. made my own decision to stop driving. so fortunate to have family, friends, and neighbors who take me to church, shopping, and a weekly restaurant lunch. miss my cat, but won't replace her---i'm no longer able to give a pet the care it deserves. grateful for daughters, grands, and adult greats, who show me love, and make sure i'm okay.
I envy you your cat. My last cat died 2 yrs ago. I miss him so much. I’m 90 & don’t want another pet because I worry what would happen to it when I’m gone. I’ve settled for a Betta fish. Not like a fur buddy but something.
I never was on my own until my beautiful late husband dropped dead unexpectedly, I was frozen. I lost my voice. It was 10 years ago this month. I never thought I could ever make it without him. I Did. I’m grateful people posted. It gives us a lot of inspiration and I’m 80 now.
I'm sorry your husband passed 10 years ago. I'm happy you found your voice and discovered your independence. Great job, Congratulations!! I hope you have many more Blessed years to come! Jesus loves you!!
i often wonder what i will do when my husband passes.. ( he has terminal cancer).. i have always thought i can not make it on my own.. i am hoping i am wrong. your comment gives me hope. thank you.
@@julielivingston9207 I lost my beloved husband who was my soul mate and best friend, to cancer in 2020. 4 months later our dog passed away as well and he was only 6 years old. It was during the covid lockdown. All our family live in the UK and we have no children. I was all alone. I honestly wanted to die myself but the experience actually gave me enormous strength. I spend a lot of time alone now as most people my age (I am 66) have children and grandchildren or still have their husbands. I spend time doing hobbies I love, keeping fit, walking in nature, painting, cooking, reading, meditating etc… I never stop missing my husband and beloved pets that have passed away and sometimes I feel sad. That is okay, we feel a variety of emotions but I always feel better again. We all heal from grief at different rates. It does get easier with time. Be kind to yourself and cry your eyes out when you need to, it is a fabulous cathartic release, but also focus on what you are grateful for and do what you love. I feel my husband around a lot of the time and often see him in my dreams. You will feel better in time even if you now feel you never will. Giving you a virtual hug🤗💜
As someone living alone I found these tips very useful n inspiring. Being the one to reach out n being more proactive, embracing the freedom to create new relationships n experiences. Not neglecting self care. I do have a deep interest in spirituality n that does help me to keep grounded n focused so I rarely feel depressed.
I am an old divorced boomer with no wife, kids, or any more wonderful pets. My few friends have passed on. I'm fine, being totally alone for 10 years, but, at times it gets lonely but I have several hobbies that keep me going.
If like me you might want someone to have a meal and conversation ...I would live to have someone to talk with as I do landscape sketches....but no drama is bliss.
@@marjoriejohnson6535it is bliss most of the time I had abusive parents and two abusive husbands so I’m grateful I survived to live alone. I do have my cat and my little dog but as you say it would be wonderful to have one friend who knows when to give me space but is ready to go out for a meal and a laugh. I do have my telly on most of the day as company I have bipolar so sometimes the silence it too loud for me. We all need to care for ourselves with love and kindness say good morning to whoever we pass.
@@marjoriejohnson6535 Would love to see your landscape sketches... Have always loved etchings..Maybe a group could be formed here online of those of us who live alone to talk to each other and share our hobbies and ideas....???
When at times you feel depressed, think out loud get your thoughts heard by your brain and you will be a lot lighter and a lot happier to enjoy your hobbies even better than you do now.
I’m retired. Your story of a conservative savings profile is a common one. Any course of action involves risks. You might be avoiding market risk, but you are taking on other risks like inflation and reinvestment risk.
My wife is willing to work for another 5 years if needed. Are we in good shape? Will we be okay if I begin withdrawing from Social Security when I’m 62 and my wife is 67? Should we hire a financial planner to help us navigate this?
Certainly get a pro to look at your predicament (if you even have one, lol) A second opinion from a comprehensive financial adviser can help you look at more than just your current estimate of cash flow and needs but also longevity risk, outliving your money, tax considerations, legacy planning, healthcare costs, inflation and a myriad of other things you may not be considering when reviewing your current situation
There was a TV show which I can't remember where David Spade was one of the main characters and while talking to two married couples, and him being single, he said "well I'm going to go and do... whatever I want."
I’m 75 and have 4 cats. I lost two of my beautiful cats last year. My cats are so loved and cared for. They are the best companions I could have. I’m also living with my girlfriend. But she’s partially disabled and can’t do physical work. That makes it tough because I can’t do physical work either. I was doing ok until last November when I developed a lung problem. It wasn’t until 9 months later when I was diagnosed with emphysema. Because my health has declined in the last few months I get super depressed. Just last week I learned my PSA test for post-op prostate cancer went up so now I have to get radiation and hormone therapies. I haven’t started the treatments yet and I’m scared to death about all the side effects. The treatments cause loss of libido and a terrible feeling in my body. The treatment will mean I have to go get radiation 5 times a week for 9 weeks. That’s 45 radiation treatments. I don’t know what to do. The doctor said I wouldn’t have a problem for at least 5 years so I’m wondering if I should not have the treatments. I need to talk to the doctor again to ask more questions, like if the side effects are permanent. I love sex so having libido taken away is such a depressing thought. Anyone else dealing with these issues? All the best to everyone.
@@davidkotze4140 I have three laying on me right now, Lucky on my arm, Snow on my stomach and Brownnose on my legs. Fella is in the other room. Cats are so awesome!!! 🐈🐈⬛🐈🐈⬛
My dear friend was just widowed. Her husband was terribly sick for two years constantly in and out of the hospital and dialysis. He was running her ragged. The care, stress, worry, sleeping in a chair in the hospital, messed up eating schedule was taking its toll on her. She is 82. He died this summer in the hospital. She is feeling OK, looking better. She’s out and about and is doing very well. Being alone isn’t the worst thing.
@@mchapman132 well said. There is a period in which a partnership becomes more of a supporting role. Grieving happens as you see the gulf between what was and is.
I’m going on for my furbaby I am miserable I ache for human contact I’m homebound without assistance I’m riddled with arthritis I spent 46 years with my husband I can’t remember living without him 😢
Arthritis improves with movement and exercise. If you have a dog, please take your dog for a daily walk. Your dog will feel better, and so will you. Also, look into your local senior citizens center for socialization and activities.
@@barbaracarroll4774I’ve heard certain yoga movements are great for arthritis, there are people who say they couldn’t get out of bed but are now walking their dogs and getting out.
My mom lived in a seniors high rise. Her neighbor fell and laid there all day,until the daughter came that evening. The daughter actually blamed my Mom! She beat on mom’s door wanting to know why she didn’t help her mother! Mom told the fool she didn’t know anything about it! That she had no idea ANYTHING was wrong.
*I am 77 & I Have to Be My Own Emergency Back Up!!!! Sept. 15, 2024* *WeLL, I have ALREADY Ran My own Scientific CHECK on This!!!!* *If I Don't Pay my Rent by the 5th, I Get a "SNAIL" MaIL ( Not a Fone CaLL Nor an E-MaiL,)* *(Nor a Knoc on the Door Nor a NOTE Left the Door), But by a SnaiL MaiL 4-days Luego!!!!* *So, I Estimate That I WiLL be Dead for Up to 40 days Before I Am Discovered !!!!* *But of Course, That Won't be ANY ProbLem, that I wiLL Have to WoRRy About!!!!* Eugene, Oregon
I've lived alone since the mid-1970's and have never, ever regretted it or felt lonely. Couldn't stand roomates and definitely wasn't interested in a spouse. I've enjoyed making my way in life and making my own choices. 50 years of bliss. I own my own home and never have to worry about a divorce making me homeless. As a woman, having one's own money and home allows one to make choices out of desire rather than necessity or fear. I would never do it any other way. So growing older is just an extension of having lived my life. Except now without the pressure of work - yay freedom!
74 and living alone. Never lonely. Have always enjoyed my own company. Adopted a senior rescue dog 4 years ago that is the love of my life. Recently diagnosed with blood cancer. The cancer is slow growing and symptoms are manageable. I keep in touch daily with friends and family via social media. The more I listen to the spousal complaints of friends, I am so thankful to be alone. Well, I can’t write anything more as I have too much to do. 😊
Have you read the book Cancer, The Metacolic Disease Unravelled by Mark Sloan which tells the truth about what cancer really is and the simple remedies he recommends.
I also adopted a senior dog 4 years ago! She is likely about 17 years old now. She still bounces around happily (for short periods, between naps). We get along well.
@@justgivemethetruth Nor do I. I don't feel like engaging, except for one friend who brings me food and is so good to me. Before, I was on social media all the time. Now, after my blackout fall, I only go were I don't have to engage except to strangers.
Rock & Roll times on You Tube become my drugs of choice. The music was always a solitary love, and it still is. I play roulette..... I never know what I'll encounter, and I never feel short-changed. Coffee and the Jive Five. It's heaven. And I like that Proco Harem.
I find that faith in my loving God is essential. The bible's truths and advice for life help keep me stable when things get too difficult or confusing.
@@queenslander954 Yes they can be hard work. If it wasn't for Amazon and Tesco delivering everything they need I would not be able to do it. I'm an absolute mug when it comes to cats always have been
I’m 85, I put a combination lock on my condo door and registered my code with the fire department. I also have an extra cell phone by my bed and I have Alexa. I can ask her to call emergency as I have the number in my contact list. I take care of all my needs, exercise etc. However, I can go days without using my voice. My family only text. I rarely cook except soup etc. But, I do eat out everyday. I’m an Aries, independent and enjoy my only company. I spend lots of time reading, playing brain games and using my iPad. I would rather walk than go to the gym. I live in Florida so it’s hot. I have a goal of 6,000 steps per day. I’m not taking any prescription except eye drops. So far, I’m lucky.
I also live in Florida and prefer to go for a walk than go to gym but it’s just too hot to walk outside in the summer. Good for you doing so well at 85 - I’m 76 and have a cat who’s 19 doing great that goodness… my mom was 103 .
It's hard when you are disabled and living alone. Especially when you can't see the disability. People try to judge you thinking you can do more. I lean on the grace of my Heavenly Father to get me through the hard times.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🕊️🕊️ Peace to all who reads this.
Thank you for this post. I was old and alone and fine. Independent and healthy. Then I wasn't after I blacked out and fell out of my computer chair. No one can see that I am suffering horribly. I am functional. That's it. Can't drive. Weak. Dizzy, off balance. Undescribable feelings in my body. I wish you well and so understand what you are saying. I never felt lonely, even with no family around and few friends left. Until this year and a half. Bless you.💓🙏
With pets, make sure that they will be taken care of if something happens to you. This is so important. If you are old enough do not get young pets. Go to the "Pound" and get an older animal.
Totally agree. My older friend adopted a kitten and said, "Oh my niece will care for the kitten when I die." What a lie she told herself. I've never had a cat who did NOT live to be at least 15 years old. Poor thing.
One of the good reasons to have a pet of a positive breed and an insurance plan for it, is that it will be easier for somebody whom the pet already knows to take over, if you suddenly die or become very unable to care for the pet yourself. One has to take responsibility for the continued care of the pet and be proactive for a smooth transition, even if it is best alternative that you outlive your pet, of course, so we petowners have to be very mindful about staying our strongest and healthiest, body and mind... and especially a dog helps a lot, reciprocally.
Lost my wife to a heart attack after 44 years of marriage. The first year alone was a nightmare, but now a couple years after, life is good again. Freedom to eat, sleep, take a drive or trip is now on my time line. I pick the restaurants, see the movies I want to see. Sure, I do miss marriage, but building a new life can be fulfilling.
Became a widow at 35 yrs old. It was the first time I understood how fragile life/time is and was shattered. I had to get to know myself as an adult alone for the first time. Went from family to husband. It took me a good 10 years to find myself and now I never feel alone, I treasure it. It takes alone time to really know who you are and what you like as an individual. It’s a hard journey because feeling lonely is more about self neglect.
@@janpolo799 I agree people need to live alone - for a significant time period! - to get to know Self. Being a "double hermit" by nature, this came naturally to me, but I'm surprised at how many don't do it.
Sunday church, Monday shopping, Tuesday do the housework, Wednesday washing, Thursday go out for coffee with friends, Friday pamper day, Saturday have a take away treat Sunday church every day pray!
I am 82 and sold my house and moved into a retirement RV park. It is impossible for anyone to be lonely here. There are about 1500 residents in the winter and 150 in the summer. They have every kind of activity one could imagine. You can have as much solitude as you want, or you can join an activity. It is really great for anyone who wants to live alone and yet be near people.
@@64morgy this!!! Music it's one of the greatest blessings. You don't realize that when you're little and your parent wants you to practice, but being able to play an instrument is invaluable as You get older. I've never been able to find someone to play music with. I don't feel like I'm good enough to be in a band, but I've always wanted to do duets. You know that sort of thing, but I still play every single day and love every minute of piano. It's also wonderful to just listen to others play.
Another 74yr old here. My wee dogs are beside me all day, on my bed at night, and heaps of snuggles anytime. I do love the peace of being alone with God.
Getting older at 66, I live downstairs in a house where my daughter and her kids live upstairs and I love to hear the kids and I love to interact with them but I don't have to have the responsibility for them which is absolutely wonderful! In addition, I have a little online business that keeps me really busy and a couple of cats and I play classical piano so that's something I do all the time and reading, daily walks outside. it's a really ideal situation to be close to family. I think that's one thing Americans have lost. Is the older people living near or with their families like they do in other cultures. It provides a spectrum of experience for the children as well. That is valuable.
The whole West has lost it. Honestly, I always feel a mix of annoyance and amusement because so many Americans seem to think that the USA ìs the West. 😳🤔
My dear, being 66 is barely getting older, but it’s great you can live with family. I’m 79, and maybe I’m getting older soon, but I wish I could live with a family.
@@mariasisalopez262 I know Maria I feel the same way also sometimes. I too am 66 years old. When I was younger I had "NO IDEA" getting older would be like this.
As a Christian, I am never really alone. Probably a lot of other Christians will understand. I enjoy reading God's word, praying, praising the Lord in gratitude! He speaks to me through His word and in my spirit. I have wonderful times with the Lord! I do enjoy people also, but do not have a social network like when younger. Being alone with God and seeking Him can be truly a Joyous time of growing closer to Jesus. ✝️❤
@user-de8mu8xh9.. “Silence is golden.” If you don’t like it you can always put on music or TV, join a group(s), or go to a public place like coffee shop..
I was looking forward to the silence when I retired but a strange family have moved above me with a child with Autism and what would seem to be a learning disability - she bangs loudly on the wooden floor (my ceiling) continuously every 20 seconds for hour after hour. The ceiling is low and it sounds as though she is in my apartment. Unfortunately the parents seem to think she is normal. I am looking to move house. So I envy you the peace and quiet of the silence.
That's true when I was young I worried about how I was going to take care of myself. After I lost my dear best friend Louise I feel so alone. Now I my health has declined more that I'm older.
Just lost my husband 4 weeks ago. (78). It has been good for me to listen to this video and read all the comments. I realize I am not alone..Lost my mother 6 months ago to cancer. Its been a rough year.
17:06 I'm sorry for your loss. It's been a rough year for you. It's been almost a year since my husband of. 52 years passed away. First I want to tell you that you are not alone. Please reach out for grief counseling. There are many free groups and your doctor or local hospital can connect you. Take care of your health. The chances are greater for a serious illness for every stressful event you experience. Not even 2 weeks after my husband died, I was in the hospital for 9 days with pneumonia and then on oxygen for another 6 weeks. Sometimes the words in my head won't stop. So I have started a journal of sorts. Things that I remember, so I can enjoy them all over again. No one ever has to see it. It is yours. Remember that you are taking care of yourself the way your loved ones would if they were there. Take them in your pocket. As long as you tell the story of their life, they are never gone. Take care and hope for days when you can smile through your tears.
No one can really understand how you feel, but I have experienced the same kinds of loss. My daughter's father divorced me for another young girl. In that same year and the following 3 years, I lost all my family by the time I was 27. It's hard, but we learn to keep going and keep the memories. I'm sorry you are going through this...truly.
This hits the nail on the head ! I am an introvert. But my Mother has died and I have no one to share first thing in the morning and last thing at night. The grief is hard and I have to deal with that , it’s awful. 😞
I’m 67 and live alone I’m also retired but I have a very sweet daughter that checks on me everyday and refuses to let me feel lonely. I am a introvert but I like people a few at a time however when I retired there went those I would communicate with I did try and keep in touch but something happens when u retire people don’t reach out or call. It’s almost like well we don’t see each other anymore so there goes the relationship or whatever. This is what happened to me and my very best friend moved to another state we use to do fun things together and talk a lot sharing world issues and daily stuff. It is true that it’s hard to motivate myself sometimes but I do and I stay on top of medical things, preparing meals and keeping a clean apartment and caring for my plants. My most difficult problem now is i suffer from facial hair on my chin area which is very hard to live with so I wax and try to do what I can to deal with this problem so this limits me from going out much due to having a mask 😷 all the time. Yes, life can change in many ways that is for sure.
You could try prayer if you don't already, it can be a two way conversation if you can be still and listen. I read the Bible and pray about what I read as it speaks to me and I sometimes just meditate on what I read and stay still to hear what God is saying to me.
I live in India. I worked for 30 years in a British Company but had to take Voluntary retirement because of my husband's transfer to a different city. I still had 15 years more to work. Being in a new place, different language and culture I was not happy. I was missing my office work. I was then 45 years. My daughter finished her graduation, my son passed his Class 12th. They were still studying. I started going to Old Homes every week carrying goodies etc to cheer them. I took them for Eye check ups whenever they needed. I felt happy. Other days I started catering muffins, patties to Schools. I was settled with my routine. Now I am 78 years, living with my husband. Children are married, living in different Cities. Every day I have my fixed timings for every thing. After washng my self and dressing, I start my day with prayers. Then Excercises, breakfast, dusting the house, watering my plants, Bible Study, and then lunch. After lunch I watch News and then take 1 hour nap. Evenings I hardly step out because I get severe pain in my ankles so I sit in my balcony and watch outside. I love animals and feed milk to a stray cat. Sundays we go to Church. I prepare special non-veg for lunch. I love cooking and baking. Every Christmas we go to our daughter in different city. There I bake Christmas cakes, brownies and other mouth watering goodies for every relative and for visitors. We stay with our daughter and her family for a fortnight. During Christmas and New Year time I meet my sisters too. Financially I am not too sound but God is my helper and taking good care and doing miracles. I thank and praise God and am so grateful to Him.
Pets, hobbies, nice music.........I love living alone. I'm 80, still mow the lawn, do my own gardening, drive myself and do my own shopping. Granted I'm in excellent health and that's a blessing. Take care❤❤
@@lindamannix1247Good heavens! Dealing with a litter box is not as onerous as you think. Having the company of a pet or pets is wonderful and far outweighs having to sort out a litter box which is just a very small part of pet ownership. I have both outside and inside animal companions and they certainly make life a joy and along with human friends, make each day worthwhile.
Living alone will change your life. You come into this life alone, and leave as well. Good to have that safety net. And a good walk outside is a good thing.
I’m nearly 82 & have been on my own since my beloved husband died, I miss him every day but I am never bored,I have the radio for company,as I like debates, & music,apart from keeping my home,and myself clean,& cook my meals,I go out for a walk morning,& afternoon,sometimes I make myself go,as I know I shall see something to stimulate me,& have a chat to someone,we put the world to rights,& I go home satisfied,my aim in life is to keep healthy,my motto to life is “If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it” So onwards & upwards, to grow old is a privilege,so make the most of each day,we’re dead a long time,the world is beautiful,so enjoy it every day.
One of the best things about living alone as an older adult (I'm 81) is that I have time to think. I have spent much time going over the ups and downs of my life and coming to terms spiritually with who I am and that has made me happy, contented and at peace with myself.
(78male, lost my wife last year, 52 yrs married) I have to say to myself out loud very regularly, "Don't think of the past, just thank God I got through it!" - too depressing, I think ahead, how can this or that be done to best effect. Greetings to everyone from New Zealand.
During lockdown I got into Classic Corrie. When you live alone it is good to hear voices. I find the humour in the program helps. I avoid grim dialogue, I watch Tv to be entertained and laugh.
I am retired, 71 and I live alone. Living alone gives me the time to think about what kind of person I was in the past and what kind of person I am today. I can look at my Spiritual failures and take the necessary steps to correct them. I have grown closer to God and have become more tolerant of my fellow man. God Bless all the older people out there who live solitary lives.
Me too, Hon, I take time to read God's Word and think what I can do to help someone else. I live with son and his family. I don't get in their business of life and they don't always understand that I enjoy being in my room alone. Life is good.
*I am 77 & I Have to Be My Own Emergency Back Up!!!! Sept. 15, 2024* *WeLL, I have ALREADY Ran My own Scientific CHECK on This!!!!* *If I Don't Pay my Rent by the 5th, I Get a "SNAIL" MaIL ( Not a Fone CaLL Nor an E-MaiL,)* *(Nor a Knoc on the Door Nor a NOTE Left the Door), But by a SnaiL MaiL 4-days Luego!!!!* *So, I Estimate That I WiLL be Dead for Up to 40 days Before I Am Discovered !!!!* *But of Course, That Won't be ANY ProbLem, that I wiLL Have to WoRRy About!!!!* Eugene, Oregon
I am 73 years old, retired, and have lived alone for more than 20 years. This video is so accurate. I have never been this happy in my life. It's wonderful. Every day is an exciting time to live.
One thing I've noticed about living alone as I get elderly now (71) is I just get used to my own world, my own routines, the peacefulness of where I live, meal routines, and when I sleep and wake up. That's fine. Is it? Nope sometimes. I now get quite stressed if I have to go outside my own "zone", fit with unusual routines. I have realised my stress levels really elevate even if I have to go out to town for something! Or go out for a meal with friends (who all lunch, and I never do!) It's so silly to get stressed over nice things like that! I cannot wait to get home.
I got like you a few years ago. And I also love being alone. However, I had no idea what was happening to me when I went out close by to the library or across the street for fish and chips and I couldn't feel my feet as I was walking. I was startled to find that I was actually having panic attacks. My doctor diagnosed this and also warned me to get out more as living too much in your own world can give you a form of agoraphobia which I didn't even realize I was experiencing.
@@susancrawford5927- true. I suffer agoraphobia. First due to trauma, that intensified due to being home constantly. Then depression..I hope to get out some more eventually.
I think one of the worse things about 'lunching with friends' - especially those who don't live alone, too - is that you hear about ALL their 'family troubles', who is ill, who died....UGH. You feel worse, not better, for the experience ! So I'd just as soon stay home with the dog and spend time in the garden with him, or get some take-out food that I like, and pop a favorite movie into the player, and watch it, instead ! LESS hassle.
Yes. Years ago I read a novel where one character said, "I know money can't buy happiness but try being happy without it." So true! It's pretty scary to think of being old without money.
I am 70 years old , i am widower for now 14 years! To me life is sad! I'm not afraid of dying!!! Suffer is my main fear! But thank you for your kind video ! I'm.sure it's gonna help some other people! I do believe in God ! I am waiting for him!!! God Bless you all!!! Denis from.France ...My spouse is waiting for me!!!
Reading the Bible and learning is helpful. I watch religious shows that are good at explaining parts of the Bible…never too old to learn…soon to be 75. You are never alone..
At 71, having lived alone all my adult life, I cannot recall a time when the solitude & sanctuary of my urban apartment was more pleasurable. I do wish I'd done more travelling before my mobility began to fail me, but I still find plenty to occupy my time & attention and can happily remain in my home for days or weeks at a stretch without any face to face interactions. I share my space with a cat, which definitely adds a certain life energy to the place, and bless whoever conceived of grocery delivery services. This lifestyle feels like a decent payback for all those horrible school and work years.
@@judementz-gibbons6730 I do luckily have several close friends who would assist me or my cat in any dire situation. Thank you not only for reading my comment (I never expect that) but also for your concern. Have a good day.
@@LaHermitess Cats are the best. I had to have my boy put to sleep a year ago and miss him so much. I was never lonely when he was here. But now the house feels cold without him.
@@benton-benton My sincere condolences. Having lost many beloved companions over the years, I know that their absence leaves a permanent void every time. Even the oldest and most sedentary pet creates a definite emptiness when they leave us. From your comment it is clear that you provided a warm & loving home for your cat, and by letting him go when the time was right was an enormous gift as well as sacrifice. My heart goes out to you.
I'm 71 and a retired psychologist and I am constantly telling people at Walmart that I have a list on paper plus the same list on my phone's note pad just in case I leave one at home. Then I tell them I also have a note by my door that says don't forget your phone. Sometimes when I read that note I get my phone and I forget the paper note. I don't believe it's old age because stupidity has always run in my family.
I’m close to 60, disabled, and have been alone for more than 10 years. This year I decided to get a full time job, and I love the companionship at work and helping clients via phone. I have a cat, live in the city in a high rise building, use the stairs to the 11th floor and go for walks in nature. As for cooking, I use the crock pot, but mostly buy prepared meals from the Amish market. My son lives 20 minutes away. Life is good!
Their are many of us living alone in our homes who seem to be falling thru the cracks when we need help.Not needing daily health care, but needing help with things to hard for a 90 year old to do,but can’t afford to hire.The help is there for all but us.
I would love to start an organization which has a team of volunteers who find folks living alone with no help, and doing and caring and spending time for them. I would love to know how to do that.
@@Wisdom-Nuggets-Tid-Bits As an 84 year old Australian woman living alone I'm glad that I have community help through local organisations. I enjoy my own company and keep busy sewing in my studio. However if I meet with friends or anyone really, I can't shut up. I discuss world politics and local situations to the boredom of those around me. I think I need that discussion to keep my brain active. I have no desire to live with anyone but would love to have dinner with someone I can discuss things with. I suppose it's companionship I crave.
There's one thing that helps all of us, or we wouldn't be here. The internet ! So wonderful for continued learning, social chats, following & discussing shared interests, discussing news, watching "how to" videos, communicating with loved ones overseas or interstate, getting riled up about politics, world affairs, and seeing how others less fortunate are having to live. It's all here at our fingertips if we're lucky enough. ❤
71 years old and have been living alone since 1994, and I'm still loving it. Married twice, and after having spent money and time with no respect, I've decided to live with the solitude of memories. And it's not bad!
All these points in this video are things to keep in mind but reading these comments will show that most people are just fine with living alone and you have many options available to prevent boredom or loneliness. In fact it seems most people prefer their solitude.
There's a All-one-oness about enjoying your own company. I've found I take people on a case by case basis in passing for the most part, which satisfies. Two long distance friends for phone talk. Contentment says it all.
As a 79 yr old i ca identify with a lot here..however i read ,have a good video liberary.and a dog,also i as a christian i go to church not to meet people but it is the high moment of my life when i really invite the risen lord into my life and cherish Him as a very close companion who i confide in in total confidence and am open to the promptings of the holy spirit.my day consists of prayer,cooking,house cleaning and walking the dog.i read and look at tv just for a few hours and keep up with the news listening to the radio aswell.lhope if you ar reading this do not be lonely,be alone its ok..but not lonely
I'm 70 living alone for 20 yrs, most of the time it's great, but went thru hip replacement surgery a few months ago and it was hell taking care of myself for months, now 5 months I'm back being active, love it
I am blessed with the sanity and comfort that living alone has given me. I’m my own best friend, my own caregiver and creativity abounds ! All worth waiting for, Amen !
I’m 62…I’ve been alone on my own for over 10 yrs. No one has been to my apt in yrs…my choice. Ive been to one social gathering this yr…by design. I do not call people and I don’t take phone calls. I treasure and protect my time on my own…it’s my most valued lifestyle preference that I have. I go exploring, I travel, hike and backpack, dine out, see shows…and I love doing all of those things ALONE! Your video has some validity, but not for all of us.
I'm impressed, not only by what you posted here, but also by the choices that you have made to guard your privacy and your solitary lifestyle. You are a person who is honoring the importance and value of being alone. Good for you for sticking up for what you believe works for you.
@@wandasciarrino7466 you’re absolutely right, but a person’s introverted personality and lifestyle preferences don’t just change after living that way for 5 decades. My preferences are the deepest roots of how my brain is wired. If I can’t function alone then it’s better for me to call it. Forcing me to live and interact w others is the same as asking me to flap my arms and fly to the moon. For me it would be the same as a prison sentence, and untenable.
@@DesertlizzyThemmm…not a hermit…I live in a large city, and I work in the service industry so I see and interact w ppl all the time. I separate my personal needs from my financial ones. Maybe because I work w the public all the time I don’t want to socialize at all. Maybe I’m schizophrenic and have 2 people living in my head LOL!
I live alone and I'm older. I still cook for four, that's what freezers are for. I use a treadmill and have Alexa with medical alert in every room. I find my alone-ness to be peaceful. You set things up as best you can and you carry on.
A great video I really enjoyed it. I’m 83 and widowed 6 years ago after 54 years of marriage. I loved my husband dearly and would love to have him back. However I have been fine and am enjoying life on my own. I realise that marriage was a compromise it has to be. I have been brave enough to fly abroad on my own for a couple of holidays, I took my granddaughter on a Caribbean cruise, got another dog ( a rescue ) changed the garden layout to make it easier and declutterred. I do everything mentioned in your video and it works. I wish everyone happiness and peace in old age.
So many people equate alone with lonely. I am 82 and have lived alone for 50 years. When I was younger, I had a very active social life and many friends. My last long-time friend died in April and I am now really alone except for the cats. It's strange to realize that I have outlived almost everyone I know. I miss having a shared history with others and never will have that again. When mobility and health issues show up, it is frustrating to be unable to do all the things you once did without giving it a thought. Your video talks about organizing get togethers. That's impossible if all your friends have died. I spent most of my youth raising my sons and then caring for my family so it's nice to have absolutely no responsibility towards anyone except myself. I honestly like the peace, quiet and solitude.
Laurel Curtis I can totally relate to that you have said. I too have outlived almost all of my long time friends. I have two left that are still alive but i do not live close to them. I am going to get a newer truck so i have reliable transportation and I am going to drive to Warsaw, Missouri where my friend Kenny lives and also out to Beaumont, California where my friend Bill lives. I I've in San Pedro, California and have been putting it off for far too long.
Laurel, I'm 66 and in excellent health I never married, parents long gone (they were old when I was born), and it's occurring to me now that new friends will never mean shared history. It's a sad thought. But I don't dwell on it. I'm looking forward to being with Jesus
I am 64 and have lived alone all my adult life. Only time I have issues while living alone is if I have to have a medical procedure done and need someone to take me home. That can be difficult. But having access to the internet helps big time. I can interact with people on social media and it helps with not having someone to talk to. For the most part, I am very happy. Do what I want when I want to do it. Taking care of my cat, who is a great companion.
At 75 five years ago, I reslised I was failing with exercise. So I built a simple spreadsheet and determined to hike, with poles, 6 kilometers per day. That thing drives me, but now, at 80, I am fit and have purpose. I'm quite proud too of seeing over 10,000 kms of "overall total".
Physical activity is most important. A hot cup of coffee, confidence, knowing you belong in this world are all important. Be confident, indifferent, and stay active.
I am lazy, I don't think I have to do anything except if I want to and whenever I want to. I don't feel overly upset that I am not a social butterfly. I am thrilled to have to do nothing if I don't want to. I don't mind being alone most of the time; I enjoy peace and quiet. I am pretty content with my life right now and don't seem to have any complaints worth making any issues over.
In my 79th year, hubby died 15 years ago, never went on a date, have a busy life gardening, doing choirs around the house, prepare my breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday. I have no problem at all in living alone. Many men says I should go out on dates because they think I am in my 50ties, but I just say I am too old, this way they leave me alone, which is good for me.
@@totallynieve7108 Cats make all the difference. There is no love like a cat's love. My sweet boy got really sick and had to be put to sleep almost a year ago now. The house is so empty without him. We loved each other so much. I am thinking of fostering cats now. I might do it.
When I cook for 1, I use my Itaki electric lunch box. You can cook meats, veggies and rice/pasta etc, all in one container. (With trays/dividers within the Itaki)
I live in an apartment complex and have no family. The apartment management never checks in on you and your neighbors don’t think to check on you either. The world needs to change and we help each other. 😢
Maybe you can change circumstances at your apartment complex you start smiling at people when you come in contact say hello start friendly chat.ask how they doing you may just be surprised. How.many people in your complex need that it.mighy seem like nit working at first but be persistent and you will see good results and more and .more people will take time to chat to check.on each other building a friend ship takes time
I agree. . Since I'm independent, health and financially independent, my son and daughter RARELY call me and ask if I need anything. There are rare instances where I could use some assistance with some physical task. Thank goodness, God has blessed me with good neighbors, who actually call me to as if I need anything. I don't complain. God sees and provides. So grateful.
Ppl have lives as our younger selves did. I love the idea our kids are busy. Means they are independent usually. None of our kids are gonna fall apart when I leave this earth. I take GREAT HONOR in that I once showed my kids how to manage life and now I can show them this phase of life without being needy. And they show me the same.
I live in an apt building for those over 62. It’s a bit better because we’re more aware of the difficulties of this time of life. Management is young and still doesn’t care, but some neighbors do. You might check into something like that.
My wife died 5 years ago. We had been married for 55 years. I have been a woodworker for many years and continue to work in my shop and even though I change my wood projects I still find interest in making things to give away. I have a dog as a partner and she keeps me on the move.
I'm pleased I've listened to this; I thought I was the only one who felt this way about chores etc. My health is a little compromised and thats the hardest thing for me. I've learned to accept what I cannot change and to try to stay positive. I've been in a deep, dark place since my husband died but all I can do is to try to keep going. My thoughts are with all those who are struggling..
@@Christine-j7b Prayer is wonderful, and it works! Thank you for offering it to this individual, as it was very kind of you to take the time to express your concerns.
My neighbors 85 and 88 have spent two full days a week cleaning all their lives and their house was always immaculate. At this time, they realized it was too dangerous to be climbing or too hard cleaning floors. They had a housekeeper come every two weeks to do the hard chores. They still clean and keep up with the little stuff. They also hired a gardener to mow the lawn even though they did that for years. They know when to ask for help 😊
@@Appzeei sadly not everyone can afford a Housekeeper and a Gardner. Everything begins to fall apart and becomes overgrown and before you know it things are insurmountable.
Decluttering is the hardest. I have 2 storage units, plus a 2-bdrm apt which is over-flowing. I am 81 years old, in good health. I just can't mentally face this challenge. My family is troublesome to me. I hesitate to have unknown people into my apt. Excellent article. Thank you.
Hey .. I’m younger by a little n moving n Declutter ing is the Most overwhelming Thing I have had to Do.. My mom will get overwhelmed n say I like to take a match Walk out N Never Look Back😅
@@AngelBabe Well, it makes you feel that way. I was shocked to find that my high-end possessions were not wanted by anyone: thrift stores, consignments, charities (they all want cash). I put things out on the street "for free." Finally, when I had to be out if my house by midnight due to sale, I put all my furniture out on the street. Got into the moving van and drove off. I was 75 years old at the time.
@@sharonstanley5054 Goodness .. Did you smile on the way .. N say “Farewell “ I’m just kidding.. we all have treasures .. But .. sometimes You have to let go? Hard Hard .. If the love of my Life showed up.. probably Just drop everything n just Go.. Hmmm😂🤣✅✅
You probably have an emotional attachment to everything you own so it is hard to deculter. Take a picture of the things taking up space and get rid of them. If you miss them in the future you'll have a of them to look at. That's what I do and it has worked out fine for me. Good luck!
I always had cats. Now I have a small dog. She loves life and other people. When she wakes up, she jumps up as if to say: 'Great! Another day!' So funny. She's great companion and keeps me active. Thanks to her I meet and talk to a lot of people. I even made a best friend. A woman who lives nearby and gives me the feeling I belong. My husband died. I don't have children. I'm an introvert. But this tiny dog really helps me staying cheerful and social. The most important thing for me is taking good care of me and my dog. I love clothes and even when I'm not going anywhere, I'm well-dressed cause it gives me a good feeling. The hardest thing for me is house work, cleaning and cooking. I hate a mess but I just don't have the energy to do a good job. That really annoys me and worries me. I love music and singing. And there's nobody who says: 'Keep it down.' I grew up with five siblings and never had any privacy. Now I do and I love it.
Looking good Hettie! L don't have children either but still have a husband, he is a keen fisherman, we are both 72. I would get a little dog too if I was left alone. I do have a strong faith and prayer life that sustains me a lot.
I’m 77 and my husband died 12 yr ago. I live alone. At first I was active. I volunteered at the local soup kitchen in the pantry. I met new people and friends . Had about 5 yrs of that then injured my back. Had 2 long surgeries and practically became invalid. 2 of my new friends died and one moved into a nursing home. Last 6 years I’m totally alone. I eat frozen meals mostly because it easy. I have 2 small dogs, which has become my dearest companions. They give me joy and purpose. I have a strict schedule. Up at 7am sleep at 11. I don’t walk well because of my back and surgeries. I fall a lot. I’m quite small so I don’t get badly hurt with these falls. Sometimes I can’t get up so I have to figure out how. I had a stair lift put in in 2017 but now broken. It’s outside so corrosion took over. I’m doing the stairs now. Very difficult but I make myself do it. Few things I can’t do. Mowing grass and changing my bed. I do have a daughter and 2 grand children. They will do it but not on a timely basis. I really dont want to live with anyone. I do keep my great granddaughter 2 hrs after school . It helps her and helps to fill my day. I was very lonely at first but now I wouldn’t want anyone around all the time.
When I had difficulty changing .my bed I would get a person to put on three sheets and peeled them off as I needed and throw a duve on ...another alternative Is a sleeping bag with a bag style sheet 😊
You sound like you put forth effort to be at peace with your circumstances and blessed to have grandchild I hope someone will notice your needs and help you with repairs
wife walked out in 87 when I got cancer, left me with 3 kids and fighting cancer. by 00 kids were on their own in other states. I have been alone since. not allowed to drive, use a walker but each day it gets better. all the delivery options now make it much easier. video doctor visits, etc mean I very rarely leave the house but I'm not lonely. rather enjoy reading, music, and just watching all the wildlife that visits my yard. I'm blessed.
SOUNDS LIKE YOU GOT HIT HARD IN LIFE BUT YOU CAN OVERCOME TRY REACHING OUT TO PEOPLE MUCH AS CAN I PRAY YOU BE HEALED AND YOU FIND GOOD CHURCH AND MAKE THE LORD A BIG PART.OF YOUR LIFE AND I.PRSY.YOUR LIFE GETS MUCH BETTER
Have you ever read any of John Muir's writings? I think you could identify with him in such wonderful ways and be even more inspired to carry on as you are.
I'm 68 and since I started living alone five years ago, I got barely any exercise because I wasn't around many people so I had no real reason to go out and get in the motions. Thank you for sharing about needing to be intentional about staying active, ever since I decided to start going on walks around my block I have felt way more at peace and happier every day. It truly does make a big difference
At 78, I’ve lived on my own for many years. I do have a cat and take many precautions. I actually do take my phone with me when I take a shower. I love living alone.
Loneliness is the worse , of living alone ,it really sucks !! Living on SS is the Worse . No money with inflation so high ,and having cerebral fluid around my. Brain ,back problems ,an terrible inballance falling far too many time Sciatica in both legs ,can only stand on feet for ten minutes at a time ,trying to walk with my walker everyday ,nothing. Helps . Thanks for the news though. G.bless .
My wife died in2021. She was older than me. I started doing volunteer work to busy my self. When you are able to do that it’s a whole new world. Try it if you are able.
My best friend is 91 this year. He is fully mobile, good eye sight. His wife died 40 years ago. His secret? He is always busy, he visits friends, relatives, people from church. Church is very important for social interaction, especially the church groups, the craft groups. He goes to so many lectures and talks. If you sit in a room staring at the walls all day, you’ll degrade and die.
I lived with a narcissist for years so living alone is like freedom!! I GRT lonely sometimes but am not afraid to go places alone. I have some friends but they are often busy. I enjoy walks and binge watching good tv shows and movies. I also have two cats who like to cuddle.
yes, getting free from a narcissist is amazing. I ended a relationship with someone I thought was a close friend, (but realized she was a wolf in sheep's clothing) and also a family member, both of whom were draining me, and actually sometimes cruel. I love the peace of not hearing from them (blocked both). Living alone is so peaceful but you have to get rid of toxic people who want to drain you...
Now 80, retired and living alone I agree with the points made in this excellent video. Keep in mind that the wrong partner can make your life miserable and personal freedom is wonderful compensation for solitude. No drama and stress enables satisfaction with everyday life.🥰🥰🥰🥰
I lost my wife of 60 yrs last may. I have never felt so absolutely alone. I'm 78 now, and my daily prayer is that God take me home so I can be with my wife.The will to live is now gone in me, we were everything to each other. I've read most of the comments and am so surprised at the number of people so happy to be living alone. This I do not understand! So much unhappiness in the world I guess. I am a born again Christian, and I know I will be with my wife again......as the Scriptures promises believers. I cling to that hope, it is the only thing that you can trust in these times....... God's Word!! Ron
The first months of bereavement are as you describe. Soon you will make a decision that your life has value without your spouse at your side. Not now, but soon. The second year of your loss will bring renewed hope in living and the third year will have you living as many here do, with zest and gratitude. This is sacred time, honor it as such.
I'm very sorry you lost your lifelong companion. I lost everyone in my family by the time I was 27. Some of us have had extremely difficult lives that were not the result of our choices but other people's choices. So that has a strong bearing for why those people find being alone liberating. My childhood and younger adult years were full of fear, heartbreak, and loss of trust. Those years were very isolating and lonely. Surrounded by people but lonely. Now I'm 75 and don't have those barriers, and because I learned during those years to be resourceful and creative alone, I now prefer it. I am not lonely. It is the best years of my life and they didn't start until I retired at 68.
Ron, I understand your pain. Keep hanging in there. Trust in the Lord completely. Meditate on Psalm 121. And remember, there are people the world over heartbroken following a loved one's death. God will wipe away every tear
Living alone yes its peaceful, your own boss, no one to answer to but if you have no visitors like family etc, it is the most depressing and saddest thing in the world trust me I have tried it.
I have to agree with you . I turned 60 about a month ago. I've been divorced and have lived alone for over the past 10 years. I have a few friends but they're all married or have significant others. So, I'm a little out of place with them. I have no family left. So.... it's just me and the dog. They're are times when my phone doesn't ring with a call or a text for days. Loneliness is everything its cracked up to be. But.... there's worse things I suppose
I feel the same.. I love nature and wildlife,my pets but since losing my partner of 45 years, I feel very lonely at times...when I FEEL PHYSICALLY Able to get stuck in to household chores and my garden, it's not so bad but when you feel in total pain and have other health issues, it's far more difficult to keep happy... I believe in God so he is a great comfort.. wishing you all well and joy always xx
I'm 71, single, and retired. My adopted kids are now in college. And I *love* living alone! I have a daily routine, exercise, and read a lot of books, and often have videos or audiobooks going, as mentioned in this video. I participate in online clubs and venture out at times for in-person groups, but my favorite days are always at home alone. I enjoyed the video and the online comments.
Even though I live alone, I have family I keep in contact with daily. My family has a copy of my house and car keys. We get together about once a week to run around town, go out for coffee, eat dinner, or just gossip and be together. I don't have much of a routine; I don't even have set meal times. I like to experiment with cooking. I usually make enough for three or four meals. I used to have the TV on, but the quality of programming annoyed me, so I've switched to music or videos about things that interest me. Reading is important to me and I've been known to read entire books at once. I have to remember to get up and move around so I don't sit too long.
I love cooking, the last year I started cooking cat foods, the store bought is getting so expensive, one of my feral cats will bring me a fresh squirrel and hang out while I cook it. Usually, we can feed three cats that way,
This all sounds great. However if financially your not in a good place, it’s very hard. Worst of all is if you have health issues that prevent you from being very active. And making friends is very hard. Being old n alone sucks.
I'm loving my retirement so far! My wife and I worked hard to reach this point - we're both retired, debt-free, and fortunate to have over $3 million in net worth. We achieved this through a saving and investing lifestyle in the stock market, which now generates weekly income for us. And now, we get to enjoy the fruits of our labor! We're traveling, golfing, and spending quality time with the grandkids. We feel grateful to be living smart and frugal, making the most of our golden years.
Absolutely! I'm in the same boat. I just got back from a road trip across the country. It's amazing how much energy and freedom we have now. Make the most of it, because it won't last forever!
I'm a young dad and I'm really glad to hear your story - it inspires me! I'm still working, but I'm counting down the days until I can enjoy the Go Go Years. Can you please share your tips? What's the key to achieving this milestone and making the most of your retirement years? Any tips would be greatly appreciated!
There’s a lot of investing options (real estate,airbnb,stocks,cr.ypto,ETFs) my best advice? Find an expert who can help grow your funds , Create a personalized plan and better prepare you for a successful retirement.
sure .He's known as a Glen Howard Chester '. One of the finest portfolio managers and expert in the field also widely recognized. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with
Living with the grief of losing my wife has been the hardest, but I definitely agree that self care and a strict fitness regime is very important. I also go out everyday to interact with people, there’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely.
I have lived alone since 2005, and am 77 years. I was put onto Long Term Care after being diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. That got me a caregiver who visits 3 days per week, and a nurse who comes on Wednesday to check my blood sugar and vital signs. That is enough human contact for me. After 15 years of PD i am too weak to stand much or walk more than a very short distance. I have a cat to give me purpose and affection. I used to read a lot and do miss that. I also miss gardening . The late stages of PD and vision problems have impacted my life adversely, of course. Yet i am reasonably happy and content.
It’s inspiring to hear how you've found contentment despite the challenges. Your cat sounds like a wonderful companion, and it's great that you've found a balance with the care you receive. I wish you continued peace and strength!
You put me to shame with your positive acceptance of your situation and your fortitude. I know we have no choice in such a turn of the cards, but that is what makes it hard, so hats off to you. I love that you have a cat. I'm 70 and have 6 (plus outsiders I feed.) I do not live in a very nice area & need to downsize, but difficult with so many animal responsibilities. I need to establish a safety net for them in the obviously eventual event of my demise or diminished capability. Difficult when you live in a city overrun with neglected cats.*Sigh* So first I would say set up that safety net for your cat and free your mind of that worry. Secondly, do look to audiobooks to give you access to both reading and the human voice. Choosing readers/actors you really like adds so much to the satisfaction. It has become part of my daily routine and is such a joy and a comfort. It really takes you out of yourself. Good luck going forward. Xx.
I ❤ living alone !! I shut off my phone a lot because I don't want to convert. I have 2 dog's so I take my health seriously because of them . I cook for them , I sleep with them . Both are 9ver a 100 lbs . I have needed help getting up off the floor and they come right over to help . They pick up anything I drop and clean my dishes 😂 . I have spine issues so as I get older I will make sure I get meals on wheels and other means of being checked on . Moved from Boston Massachusetts to West Virginia Appalachia. I am at peace for the first time in my life . I've been here for almost 4 years with no regret ❤❤❤
Excellent video. I always remind myself how truly alone you can feel with the wrong people in your life. Also, there is alone and there is lonely, which are distinctly different.
I just turned 79 and although I am married, I am lonely. My wife is from a different culture and is bipolar. She and the children and grandson treat me like a stranger because of a comment I made several years ago. I haven't seen or talked to my kids for almost 4 years. My daughter lives about a mile away. I used to have friends that I would get together with for lunch a beer or just a phone call but they have all died. I think I know how Custer felt.
Ik ben vanaf mijn 38ste jaar singel met twee dochters en veel vrienden en vriendinnen, heerlijk die vrijheid. Ben nu bijna 89 en ik geniet nog van wat er te genieten valt.
I’d rather live alone than to be married and still feel alone.
Living alone, you know your heart can be broken if you lose your spouse. You will never have that sadness of losing someone or you die and break someone's heart. Hey! its great and I am not lonely. Too many things to do.to be lonesome. I am soon to be 74 and thank God I am still healthy.
Been there. Done that.
AMEN!! been there!!!
Bang on !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So, so true. If I'm lonely I go out, maybe catch up with friends or have them over.
Everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world
Same to you!!
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Wishing you good health and all the best!!❤
Thank you! Wish you many blessings in life. 🙏🏻🥰💞
@@lilliearvizu9447 thank you
Staying close to God gives me hope.and purpose.
Amen, you may be lonely, but you are never alone if you have a relationship with Jesus
beautifully said!! What a Friend We Have in Jesus ……….. ❤
Me too. 😊🎉❤
4:36 hi, I agree. God has become my best friend.
'God' appears as a bright light to dead people. That's about it. Apart from the very few living people who have a distinct spiritual experience, he doesn't appear to be doing anything. When is this God going to get up off his holy arse and do something down here to improve the world and prove he exists?
Now 74, retired and living alone I agree with the points made in this excellent video. Keep in mind that the wrong partner can make your life miserable and personal freedom is wonderful compensation for solitude. No drama and stress enables satisfaction with everyday life.
Great truth expressed . WRONG partner is worse than hell, so rather live alone.
@@brianhansen4550so true, I’m 78 yo and stuck with a deadbeat. Is this how life ends? I need out. It’s worse than loneliness
@@patriciamillar5496 You have my deepest sympathies. Your ungrateful son needs a reality check.
@@patriciamillar5496That’s terrible , there must be some solution somewhere , chin up 👍
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I am 72 and have lived alone since I divorced mt husband at 37. I wake every morning grateful for my solitude.
I'm 71, the only thin person out of nine children, a health nut because I love fruits and vegetables, no vices, and I exercise 3 hours a day having been a martial artist since age 15. And I love creating light-hearted funny sayings. This one is for you. If you want a headache, fall in love. If you want to fall in love, get a puppy.
Wow. @Ehdrock You know everything about this person who you don’t know and have never have met. Incredible, but your projection of yourself tells us reams about yourself.
Me too!!!❤
@@derekhayes9854 Matter of fact, "I do."
@@therapistconrad Are you male or female? I'm still addicted to the old ways when gender was woven into life to enhance reality.
I turn 76 next month and have lived alone since I was 43, I wouldn't have it any other way. I love the silence, the solitude and not having to compromise.
Lived alone since I was 42. I'm now 62. Wouldn't want it any other way.
I h@te being alone.
But no one wants me.
@@terriseaton3049perhaps thats not really true... Just a negative thought in your head. Try following some of the tips in this video and be more proactive in creating new experiences. Reach out you might just be surprised.
@@terriseaton3049 that's not true! God loves you more than you know! I pray that you know all the true family of God loves you also. I love you and I am praying for you even today. ❤👑✝️
100 pct agreed
I am so blessed. After my 2nd husband passed away, 5 years ago, I moved back to the States from St. Croix. I really didn’t want to buy another house or live in an apartment. My son-in-law suggested I build onto their home an apartment, I designed just for me. I have my own separate entrance with a very large “L” shaped porch overlooking their pond, with large picture windows to enjoy the views. I had a roll-in shower if I’m ever in need of a wheelchair. It is small, with a huge walk-in closet. My builder was able to give me 10’ ceilings making my little apartment seem much larger. I’m 73 and see my daughter every day. Yes, I am very blessed.😊
𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕕𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕝𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕒𝕝𝕠𝕟𝕖. 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕝𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕚𝕟 𝕒𝕟 𝕖𝕩𝕥𝕖𝕟𝕤𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕠𝕟 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕤𝕠𝕟'𝕤 𝕙𝕠𝕦𝕤𝕖.
You’re truly blessed indeed!
Not once did I hear you mention that you exercise everyday. It's sad that the older people get, especially women, they haven't exercised since junior high school and all look like Everybody Loves Raymond's mom by the time they're 60. I will never date a woman who is shaped like a beach ball. I'm 71, thin, martial artist, very athletic, no vices and I exercise 3 hours a day. I should point out that I've also never been sick, never even been to a doctor. And I'm a psychologist.
@@terringuyen5470 Thank you! I’m grateful.
@@davidplant6805 Wow, I just went to a family doctor for the first time in 10 years, this year. However, I had undiagnosed Lyme Disease for many years before I could get a diagnosis. That was 25 years ago. Since then, because of Lyme arthritis, I’ve had 7 shoulder surgeries and a reversal transplant of one shoulder. I’m not as active as I was when I could play tennis, but, I’m not a couch potato either. Never have been. Just returned from a trip to Pompano Beach, last month I went to Nashville, TN. My last husband was 8 years younger, a very good carpenter and very slim. Consider yourself blessed that you haven’t needed a doctor. I live in Arkansas.
Since I turned 85, l like to nap when I can. I still work everyday, drive about 215 to 250 miles a day (freeway and city). Cut wood for winter. Married 64 years. Not rich or even well off but what the heck. I am truly blessed and know it, I thank God for all the blessings He has given me. I try to do a good deed everyday.
Awesome and astonishing.
I bet your gas bill is high
You, @retired lover, are blessed.
I’m not surprised you nap when you can…i think you owe it to yourself as you are so busy. I think some younger people would benefit by being as motivated as you. Well done 😊
❤👍🙏🏼😊very encouraging
I am 85. to everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world friend
Thankyou and bless you too❤
Right back at YA 😂🎉👍
Likewise
@@WiseFutureyt you have a good attitude 👌
Thank you, same to you, friend.
i'm 94, widowed, have lived alone for many years. made my own decision to stop driving. so fortunate to have family, friends, and neighbors who take me to church, shopping, and a weekly restaurant lunch. miss my cat, but won't replace her---i'm no longer able to give a pet the care it deserves. grateful for daughters, grands, and adult greats, who show me love, and make sure i'm okay.
Blessed ❣️
You seem like a very cool lady! You go, girl!
You must be a good person to have people looking out for you. ❤
You are blessed....may God continue blessing you.
Yup, you got it made and God bless you, your age shows their love for you.
I'm 75& have lived alone since 2003, I have nature all around me & my cat is a wonderful companion.. love being a Childless Cat Lady ❤😂
Wonderful!
Sounds great; Nature is very healing ✨💖✨
You and me both.
Me too...❤
I envy you your cat. My last cat died 2 yrs ago. I miss him so much. I’m 90 & don’t want another pet because I worry what would happen to it when I’m gone. I’ve settled for a Betta fish. Not like a fur buddy but something.
I never was on my own until my beautiful late husband dropped dead unexpectedly, I was frozen. I lost my voice. It was 10 years ago this month. I never thought I could ever make it without him.
I Did. I’m grateful people posted. It gives us a lot of inspiration and I’m 80 now.
Don't retire...refiire. Life is still good.
I'm sorry your husband passed 10 years ago.
I'm happy you found your voice and discovered your independence. Great job, Congratulations!!
I hope you have many more Blessed years to come!
Jesus loves you!!
i often wonder what i will do when my husband passes.. ( he has terminal cancer).. i have always thought i can not make it on my own.. i am hoping i am wrong. your comment gives me hope. thank you.
@@julielivingston9207 I lost my beloved husband who was my soul mate and best friend, to cancer in 2020. 4 months later our dog passed away as well and he was only 6 years old. It was during the covid lockdown. All our family live in the UK and we have no children. I was all alone. I honestly wanted to die myself but the experience actually gave me enormous strength. I spend a lot of time alone now as most people my age (I am 66) have children and grandchildren or still have their husbands. I spend time doing hobbies I love, keeping fit, walking in nature, painting, cooking, reading, meditating etc… I never stop missing my husband and beloved pets that have passed away and sometimes I feel sad. That is okay, we feel a variety of emotions but I always feel better again. We all heal from grief at different rates. It does get easier with time. Be kind to yourself and cry your eyes out when you need to, it is a fabulous cathartic release, but also focus on what you are grateful for and do what you love. I feel my husband around a lot of the time and often see him in my dreams. You will feel better in time even if you now feel you never will. Giving you a virtual hug🤗💜
As someone living alone I found these tips very useful n inspiring. Being the one to reach out n being more proactive, embracing the freedom to create new relationships n experiences. Not neglecting self care.
I do have a deep interest in spirituality n that does help me to keep grounded n focused so I rarely feel depressed.
I am an old divorced boomer with no wife, kids, or any more wonderful pets. My few friends have passed on. I'm fine, being totally alone for 10 years, but, at times it gets lonely but I have several hobbies that keep me going.
If like me you might want someone to have a meal and conversation ...I would live to have someone to talk with as I do landscape sketches....but no drama is bliss.
@@marjoriejohnson6535it is bliss most of the time I had abusive parents and two abusive husbands so I’m grateful I survived to live alone. I do have my cat and my little dog but as you say it would be wonderful to have one friend who knows when to give me space but is ready to go out for a meal and a laugh. I do have my telly on most of the day as company I have bipolar so sometimes the silence it too loud for me. We all need to care for ourselves with love and kindness say good morning to whoever we pass.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers you have a friend who you have not met
@@marjoriejohnson6535 Would love to see your landscape sketches... Have always loved etchings..Maybe a group could be formed here online of those of us who live alone to talk to each other and share our hobbies and ideas....???
When at times you feel depressed, think out loud get your thoughts heard by your brain and you will be a lot lighter and a lot happier to enjoy your hobbies even better than you do now.
It’s definitely harder to keep track of the days when you have 6 Saturdays and a Sunday!!
Everyday is a holiday!
@@karenklingborg8554Yes but don’t tell the Labour Party.😉
I have several people I clean house for and walk all over the city - I’m 77 and keeping very fit
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We are in our 50s with nearly $3M saved, no debt and $50K annual spending. But we avoid the stock market completely.
I’m retired. Your story of a conservative savings profile is a common one. Any course of action involves risks. You might be avoiding market risk, but you are taking on other risks like inflation and reinvestment risk.
My wife is willing to work for another 5 years if needed. Are we in good shape? Will we be okay if I begin withdrawing from Social Security when I’m 62 and my wife is 67? Should we hire a financial planner to help us navigate this?
No one likes market risk, but without longer retirement, taking on risk is often a necessary evil to compensate for inflation.
Certainly get a pro to look at your predicament (if you even have one, lol) A second opinion from a comprehensive financial adviser can help you look at more than just your current estimate of cash flow and needs but also longevity risk, outliving your money, tax considerations, legacy planning, healthcare costs, inflation and a myriad of other things you may not be considering when reviewing your current situation
How does one get a comprehensive fa who isn’t looking to just make a buck from consultancy and whatnot
Being able to take naps whenever I like is absolutely wonderful !!!!!!
There was a TV show which I can't remember where David Spade was one of the main characters and while talking to two married couples, and him being single, he said "well I'm going to go and do... whatever I want."
I take an afternoon nap and I’ve conditioned my dogs to do the same, they look forward to their day and sometimes initiate the nap.
@@dmariewalker6880 At my age, "happy hour" means a good nap!
I never nap (screws up my "clock") but I sleep until 11 most days - usually up until 1 or 2 AM.
@davidplyjnant6805
I live alone with my lovely cat. He's an indoor cat and follows me around most of the time so I never feel completely alone.
I took on an old Calico cat when her owner went into a home. She is a character and a good companion.
I’m 75 and have 4 cats. I lost two of my beautiful cats last year. My cats are so loved and cared for. They are the best companions I could have. I’m also living with my girlfriend. But she’s partially disabled and can’t do physical work. That makes it tough because I can’t do physical work either. I was doing ok until last November when I developed a lung problem. It wasn’t until 9 months later when I was diagnosed with emphysema. Because my health has declined in the last few months I get super depressed. Just last week I learned my PSA test for post-op prostate cancer went up so now I have to get radiation and hormone therapies. I haven’t started the treatments yet and I’m scared to death about all the side effects. The treatments cause loss of libido and a terrible feeling in my body. The treatment will mean I have to go get radiation 5 times a week for 9 weeks. That’s 45 radiation treatments. I don’t know what to do. The doctor said I wouldn’t have a problem for at least 5 years so I’m wondering if I should not have the treatments. I need to talk to the doctor again to ask more questions, like if the side effects are permanent. I love sex so having libido taken away is such a depressing thought. Anyone else dealing with these issues? All the best to everyone.
Me too ...got one lovely cat...and she's a Godsend ! ❤😊
@@davidkotze4140 I have three laying on me right now, Lucky on my arm, Snow on my stomach and Brownnose on my legs. Fella is in the other room. Cats are so awesome!!! 🐈🐈⬛🐈🐈⬛
@@MovieMakingManyou should get a second opinion.
My dear friend was just widowed. Her husband was terribly sick for two years constantly in and out of the hospital and dialysis. He was running her ragged. The care, stress, worry, sleeping in a chair in the hospital, messed up eating schedule was taking its toll on her. She is 82. He died this summer in the hospital. She is feeling OK, looking better. She’s out and about and is doing very well. Being alone isn’t the worst thing.
@@mchapman132 It sounds like you are blaming her husband for being sick.
@ - I never said that, I never implied that. Do not put words in my mouth. The caregivers of this world are terribly under appreciated.
@@incognito595Only those who have experienced this kind of life can really understand what the caregiver goes through.
@@mchapman132 well said. There is a period in which a partnership becomes more of a supporting role. Grieving happens as you see the gulf between what was and is.
Pets are very important, my cat is why I want to live on, to look after him for his whole life.
I’m going on for my furbaby I am miserable I ache for human contact I’m homebound without assistance I’m riddled with arthritis I spent 46 years with my husband I can’t remember living without him 😢
Arthritis improves with movement and exercise. If you have a dog, please take your dog for a daily walk. Your dog will feel better, and so will you. Also, look into your local senior citizens center for socialization and activities.
@@barbaracarroll4774 Can t you get medication for that arthritis?
@@barbaracarroll4774I’ve heard certain yoga movements are great for arthritis, there are people who say they couldn’t get out of bed but are now walking their dogs and getting out.
My mom lived in a seniors high rise. Her neighbor fell and laid there all day,until the daughter came that evening.
The daughter actually blamed my Mom! She beat on mom’s door wanting to know why she didn’t help her mother! Mom told the fool she didn’t know anything about it! That she had no idea ANYTHING was wrong.
I am 85 and LOVE LOVE LOVE lining alone.
Me too,n I am 88
Awesome!
I am 91 and love living alone!
*I am 77 & I Have to Be My Own Emergency Back Up!!!! Sept. 15, 2024*
*WeLL, I have ALREADY Ran My own Scientific CHECK on This!!!!*
*If I Don't Pay my Rent by the 5th, I Get a "SNAIL" MaIL ( Not a Fone CaLL Nor an E-MaiL,)*
*(Nor a Knoc on the Door Nor a NOTE Left the Door), But by a SnaiL MaiL 4-days Luego!!!!*
*So, I Estimate That I WiLL be Dead for Up to 40 days Before I Am Discovered !!!!*
*But of Course, That Won't be ANY ProbLem, that I wiLL Have to WoRRy About!!!!* Eugene, Oregon
@@suespeers5468 You're really blessed.
I've lived alone since the mid-1970's and have never, ever regretted it or felt lonely. Couldn't stand roomates and definitely wasn't interested in a spouse. I've enjoyed making my way in life and making my own choices. 50 years of bliss. I own my own home and never have to worry about a divorce making me homeless. As a woman, having one's own money and home allows one to make choices out of desire rather than necessity or fear. I would never do it any other way. So growing older is just an extension of having lived my life. Except now without the pressure of work - yay freedom!
I followed a similar path to what you have described, but don't have as sunny of an outlook. Reading comments like yours helps!
74 and living alone. Never lonely. Have always enjoyed my own company. Adopted a senior rescue dog 4 years ago that is the love of my life. Recently diagnosed with blood cancer. The cancer is slow growing and symptoms are manageable. I keep in touch daily with friends and family via social media. The more I listen to the spousal complaints of friends, I am so thankful to be alone. Well, I can’t write anything more as I have too much to do. 😊
Have you read the book Cancer, The Metacolic Disease Unravelled by Mark Sloan which tells the truth about what cancer really is and the simple remedies he recommends.
I also adopted a senior dog 4 years ago! She is likely about 17 years old now. She still bounces around happily (for short periods, between naps). We get along well.
I'm smiling with your response to life I share your sentiments
I don't think of people with friends as living alone. Glad your cancer is manageable, sorry you have it.
@@justgivemethetruth Nor do I. I don't feel like engaging, except for one friend who brings me food and is so good to me. Before, I was on social media all the time. Now, after my blackout fall, I only go were I don't have to engage except to strangers.
I'm 81 and still active and love rock n roll listening on youtube. Take care and enjoy life.
Yes, 81 just love to dance, but I do miss a partner to dance with when going out to dinner. Music gives me energy
Me, too, at 74. I enjoy watching the young people reacting to the great music of the '50s, '60s, and '70s.
I’m sixty seven and still rock out to heavy metal . Arena rock play lists on RUclips are my favorites .
Rock & Roll times on You Tube become my drugs of choice. The music was always a solitary love, and it still is. I play roulette..... I never know what I'll encounter, and I never feel short-changed. Coffee and the Jive Five. It's heaven. And I like that Proco Harem.
@@Sunluvr1I'm a Dan Vasc fan on Utube
I find that faith in my loving God is essential. The bible's truths and advice for life help keep me stable when things get too difficult or confusing.
@@willowwobble Amen!
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How good it is , animals are always better friends
I've got seven cats and have to agree with you
Oh so very true, but where I live in a 55 year and older, animals are not allowed.
@@ChickpeatheTortie Wow … seven different nutty personalities , I’ve got 1 ex stray & she’s enough work
.. but saving 7 is huge , well done mate. 👊
@@EHDROCK You could always leave little can’s of Cat food out & you’ll make a new friend
@@queenslander954 Yes they can be hard work. If it wasn't for Amazon and Tesco delivering everything they need I would not be able to do it. I'm an absolute mug when it comes to cats always have been
I’m 85, I put a combination lock on my condo door and registered my code with the fire department. I also have an extra cell phone by my bed and I have Alexa. I can ask her to call emergency as I have the number in my contact list. I take care of all my needs, exercise etc. However, I can go days without using my voice. My family only text. I rarely cook except soup etc. But, I do eat out everyday. I’m an Aries, independent and enjoy my only company. I spend lots of time reading, playing brain games and using my iPad. I would rather walk than go to the gym. I live in Florida so it’s hot. I have a goal of 6,000 steps per day. I’m not taking any prescription except eye drops. So far, I’m lucky.
Awesome!👍😎🇨🇦
I also live in Florida and prefer to go for a walk than go to gym but it’s just too hot to walk outside in the summer. Good for you doing so well at 85 - I’m 76 and have a cat who’s 19 doing great that goodness… my mom was 103 .
You're blessed
Just like me…!!!
Luck is all we need 😉
Keep on keeping on...
It's hard when you are disabled and living alone. Especially when you can't see the disability. People try to judge you thinking you can do more. I lean on the grace of my Heavenly Father to get me through the hard times.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🕊️🕊️ Peace to all who reads this.
Same for you!
Amen !!
People like you describe simply don't understand what disabled people go through. Being disabled is not easy, and nobody has the right to judge you.
Thank you for this post. I was old and alone and fine. Independent and healthy. Then I wasn't after I blacked out and fell out of my computer chair. No one can see that I am suffering horribly. I am functional. That's it. Can't drive. Weak. Dizzy, off balance. Undescribable feelings in my body. I wish you well and so understand what you are saying. I never felt lonely, even with no family around and few friends left. Until this year and a half. Bless you.💓🙏
Thank you and peace to you.
With pets, make sure that they will be taken care of if something happens to you. This is so important. If you are old enough do not get young pets. Go to the "Pound" and get an older animal.
Totally agree. My older friend adopted a kitten and said, "Oh my niece will care for the kitten when I die." What a lie she told herself. I've never had a cat who did NOT live to be at least 15 years old. Poor thing.
One of the good reasons to have a pet of a positive breed and an insurance plan for it, is that it will be easier for somebody whom the pet already knows to take over, if you suddenly die or become very unable to care for the pet yourself. One has to take responsibility for the continued care of the pet and be proactive for a smooth transition, even if it is best alternative that you outlive your pet, of course, so we petowners have to be very mindful about staying our strongest and healthiest, body and mind... and especially a dog helps a lot, reciprocally.
older animal expensive bills from vet care. get young and tell you family to take your pet if go to hospital or old people care home.
Matthew 28:20 And teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.
@@tesstefera6334That’s a fictional book of fables. There is zero evidence that god exists.
Lost my wife to a heart attack after 44 years of marriage. The first year alone was a nightmare, but now a couple years after, life is good again. Freedom to eat, sleep, take a drive or trip is now on my time line. I pick the restaurants, see the movies I want to see. Sure, I do miss marriage, but building a new life can be fulfilling.
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Became a widow at 35 yrs old. It was the first time I understood how fragile life/time is and was shattered. I had to get to know myself as an adult alone for the first time. Went from family to husband. It took me a good 10 years to find myself and now I never feel alone, I treasure it. It takes alone time to really know who you are and what you like as an individual. It’s a hard journey because feeling lonely is more about self neglect.
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@@janpolo799 I agree people need to live alone - for a significant time period! - to get to know Self. Being a "double hermit"
by nature, this came naturally to me, but I'm surprised at how many don't do it.
Sunday church, Monday shopping, Tuesday do the housework, Wednesday washing, Thursday go out for coffee with friends, Friday pamper day, Saturday have a take away treat Sunday church every day pray!
Thank you for sharing your weekly routine! It sounds like a lovely balance of activities and self-care. 😊
Thank u for sharing it sounds good
@@CarolynAitken-yp2rq you have got it together🩷! Bless you❤️🙏😁
❤ just great.. inspiring
Sounds like my grandmother's embroidered dish towels. She told me 'so you know what you should be doing and where you are.'
I am 82 and sold my house and moved into a retirement RV park. It is impossible for anyone to be lonely here. There are about 1500 residents in the winter and 150 in the summer. They have every kind of activity one could imagine. You can have as much solitude as you want, or you can join an activity. It is really great for anyone who wants to live alone and yet be near people.
Me neither!
Do you feel safe?
I did the same thing, I turned 55 in February, and immediately bought an rv and rv lot in a retirement community at the Ga/SC state line. Love it!!
That is brave!! I’m glad you’re happy!
Nice!
I play in 5 bands for seniors. I play clarinet, saxophone, and piano. We play concerts for communities.
I played trumpet, and as a retiree I’d love to join a brass band or a musical ensemble.
@@64morgy this!!! Music it's one of the greatest blessings. You don't realize that when you're little and your parent wants you to practice, but being able to play an instrument is invaluable as You get older. I've never been able to find someone to play music with. I don't feel like I'm good enough to be in a band, but I've always wanted to do duets. You know that sort of thing, but I still play every single day and love every minute of piano. It's also wonderful to just listen to others play.
Wow🎉
Cool
Another 74yr old here. My wee dogs are beside me all day, on my bed at night, and heaps of snuggles anytime. I do love the peace of being alone with God.
Getting older at 66, I live downstairs in a house where my daughter and her kids live upstairs and I love to hear the kids and I love to interact with them but I don't have to have the responsibility for them which is absolutely wonderful! In addition, I have a little online business that keeps me really busy and a couple of cats and I play classical piano so that's something I do all the time and reading, daily walks outside. it's a really ideal situation to be close to family. I think that's one thing Americans have lost. Is the older people living near or with their families like they do in other cultures. It provides a spectrum of experience for the children as well. That is valuable.
The whole West has lost it. Honestly, I always feel a mix of annoyance and amusement because so many Americans seem to think that the USA ìs the West. 😳🤔
So this video dosent apply to you then. Your blessed
You're not really living alone.
My dear, being 66 is barely getting older, but it’s great you can live with family. I’m 79, and maybe I’m getting older soon, but I wish I could live with a family.
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Yes it’s so hard when you lose the one you love Until it happens to you you don’t understand 🇬🇧🇬🇧
I do understand I lost a dear best friend I love so much. We were friends for 38 years I feel so alone . Things are not the same.
I'm depressed I'm 74
That is so true.
Lonely at 66
@@mariasisalopez262 I know Maria I feel the same way also sometimes. I too am 66 years old. When I was younger I had "NO IDEA" getting older would be like this.
As a Christian, I am never really alone. Probably a lot of other Christians will understand. I enjoy reading God's word, praying, praising the Lord in gratitude! He speaks to me through His word and in my spirit. I have wonderful times with the Lord!
I do enjoy people also, but do not have a social network like when younger. Being alone with God and seeking Him can be truly a Joyous time of growing closer to Jesus. ✝️❤
amen☦
Amen 🙏🏻
I listen to sermons every day. Pray read God's Word. Yes. Living alone, I am not alone. God a d friends.
Amen
AMEN !!! 🙏 ✝️
December 12, 2024
11:51 AM
Silence is deadly - I have Talk Radio on all day and it makes all the difference. It’s like having company.
@user-de8mu8xh9.. “Silence is golden.” If you don’t like it you can always put on music or TV, join a group(s), or go to a public place like coffee shop..
I loooovvvee the complete silence. If you can have it, you are lucky. I would not have it any other way.
I was looking forward to the silence when I retired but a strange family have moved above me with a child with Autism and what would seem to be a learning disability - she bangs loudly on the wooden floor (my ceiling) continuously every 20 seconds for hour after hour. The ceiling is low and it sounds as though she is in my apartment. Unfortunately the parents seem to think she is normal. I am looking to move house. So I envy you the peace and quiet of the silence.
@@veronicafullford1697 I blame those parents. Selfish
@@Wisdom-Nuggets-Tid-Bits
How does blaming change anything?
Good advice. Old age alone is a challenge that you don't understand until it's your turn. 😊
That's right!
SOOOOO TRUE it’s just shocking to me
That's true when I was young I worried about how I was going to take care of myself. After I lost my dear best friend Louise I feel so alone. Now I my health has declined more that I'm older.
Matthew 28:20 And teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.
So SoSo true!
Just lost my husband 4 weeks ago. (78). It has been good for me to listen to this video and read all the comments. I realize I am not alone..Lost my mother 6 months ago to cancer. Its been a rough year.
Blessings
17:06 I'm sorry for your loss. It's been a rough year for you. It's been almost a year since my husband of. 52 years passed away.
First I want to tell you that you are not alone. Please reach out for grief counseling. There are many free groups and your doctor or local hospital can connect you.
Take care of your health. The chances are greater for a serious illness for every stressful event you experience. Not even 2 weeks after my husband died, I was in the hospital for 9 days with pneumonia and then on oxygen for another 6 weeks.
Sometimes the words in my head won't stop. So I have started a journal of sorts. Things that I remember, so I can enjoy them all over again. No one ever has to see it. It is yours.
Remember that you are taking care of yourself the way your loved ones would if they were there.
Take them in your pocket. As long as you tell the story of their life, they are never gone. Take care and hope for days when you can smile through your tears.
No one can really understand how you feel, but I have experienced the same kinds of loss. My daughter's father divorced me for another young girl. In that same year and the following 3 years, I lost all my family by the time I was 27. It's hard, but we learn to keep going and keep the memories. I'm sorry you are going through this...truly.
@@Marie-lf8ut Sorry to hear that….my heart goes out to you and everyone else experiencing loss.
We are here for you if you need to chat.
This hits the nail on the head ! I am an introvert. But my Mother has died and I have no one to share first thing in the morning and last thing at night. The grief is hard and I have to deal with that , it’s awful. 😞
I’m 67 and live alone I’m also retired but I have a very sweet daughter that checks on me everyday and refuses to let me feel lonely. I am a introvert but I like people a few at a time however when I retired there went those I would communicate with I did try and keep in touch but something happens when u retire people don’t reach out or call. It’s almost like well we don’t see each other anymore so there goes the relationship or whatever. This is what happened to me and my very best friend moved to another state we use to do fun things together and talk a lot sharing world issues and daily stuff. It is true that it’s hard to motivate myself sometimes but I do and I stay on top of medical things, preparing meals and keeping a clean apartment and caring for my plants. My most difficult problem now is i suffer from facial hair on my chin area which is very hard to live with so I wax and try to do what I can to deal with this problem so this limits me from going out much due to having a mask 😷 all the time. Yes, life can change in many ways that is for sure.
You could try prayer if you don't already, it can be a two way conversation if you can be still and listen. I read the Bible and pray about what I read as it speaks to me and I sometimes just meditate on what I read and stay still to hear what God is saying to me.
I live in India. I worked for 30 years in a British Company but had to take Voluntary retirement because of my husband's transfer to a different city. I still had 15 years more to work. Being in a new place, different language and culture I was not happy. I was missing my office work. I was then 45 years. My daughter finished her graduation, my son passed his Class 12th. They were still studying.
I started going to Old Homes every week carrying goodies etc to cheer them. I took them for Eye check ups whenever they needed. I felt happy. Other days I started catering muffins, patties to Schools. I was settled with my routine.
Now I am 78 years, living with my husband. Children are married, living in different Cities. Every day I have my fixed timings for every thing. After washng my self and dressing, I start my day with prayers. Then Excercises, breakfast, dusting the house, watering my plants, Bible Study, and then lunch. After lunch I watch News and then take 1 hour nap. Evenings I hardly step out because I get severe pain in my ankles so I sit in my balcony and watch outside. I love animals and feed milk to a stray cat. Sundays we go to Church. I prepare special non-veg for lunch. I love cooking and baking. Every Christmas we go to our daughter in different city. There I bake Christmas cakes, brownies and other mouth watering goodies for every relative and for visitors.
We stay with our daughter and her family for a fortnight. During Christmas and New Year time I meet my sisters too.
Financially I am not too sound but God is my helper and taking good care and doing miracles. I thank and praise God and am so grateful to Him.
Both 4 me. If you have 1 cling to your dad. I understand you have grief..but as long as you have 1, you have someone who ❤s you and has your back.
@@RuthHale-g7n try to find hobbies and or a pet you can interact with (not fish) or go to any local social setting and talk to people.
The silence and the solitude are hard. My pets make all the difference.
Pets, hobbies, nice music.........I love living alone. I'm 80, still mow the lawn, do my own gardening, drive myself and do my own shopping. Granted I'm in excellent health and that's a blessing.
Take care❤❤
@@annetteelliott1494 Great! Glad you’re doing so well! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 All the best to you!
I'd love a cat but I don't want to do the cat box !
@@lindamannix1247 I had an automatic litter box and that was great. Then I ended up with 7 cats. I can’t afford 7 automatic litter boxes.
@@lindamannix1247Good heavens! Dealing with a litter box is not as onerous as you think. Having the company of a pet or pets is wonderful and far outweighs having to sort out a litter box which is just a very small part of pet ownership. I have both outside and inside animal companions and they certainly make life a joy and along with human friends, make each day worthwhile.
Living alone will change your life. You come into this life alone, and leave as well. Good to have that safety net. And a good walk outside is a good thing.
I’m nearly 82 & have been on my own since my beloved husband died, I miss him every day but I am never bored,I have the radio for company,as I like debates, & music,apart from keeping my home,and myself clean,& cook my meals,I go out for a walk morning,& afternoon,sometimes I make myself go,as I know I shall see something to stimulate me,& have a chat to someone,we put the world to rights,& I go home satisfied,my aim in life is to keep healthy,my motto to life is “If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it” So onwards & upwards, to grow old is a privilege,so make the most of each day,we’re dead a long time,the world is beautiful,so enjoy it every day.
Blessings.
@@daviddavies5975 David, sounds like you have a nice peaceful and full life. I notice you did not mention God.
Amen..well said.😊
One of the best things about living alone as an older adult (I'm 81) is that I have time to think. I have spent much time going over the ups and downs of my life and coming to terms spiritually with who I am and that has made me happy, contented and at peace with myself.
(78male, lost my wife last year, 52 yrs married) I have to say to myself out loud very regularly, "Don't think of the past, just thank God I got through it!" - too depressing, I think ahead, how can this or that be done to best effect.
Greetings to everyone from New Zealand.
During lockdown I got into Classic Corrie. When you live alone it is good to hear voices. I find the humour in the program helps. I avoid grim dialogue, I watch Tv to be entertained and laugh.
I am retired, 71 and I live alone. Living alone gives me the time to think about what kind of person I was in the past and what kind of person I am today. I can look at my Spiritual failures and take the necessary steps to correct them. I have grown closer to God and have become more tolerant of my fellow man. God Bless all the older people out there who live solitary lives.
Me too, Hon, I take time to read God's Word and think what I can do to help someone else. I live with son and his family. I don't get in their business of life and they don't always understand that I enjoy being in my room alone. Life is good.
*I am 77 & I Have to Be My Own Emergency Back Up!!!! Sept. 15, 2024*
*WeLL, I have ALREADY Ran My own Scientific CHECK on This!!!!*
*If I Don't Pay my Rent by the 5th, I Get a "SNAIL" MaIL ( Not a Fone CaLL Nor an E-MaiL,)*
*(Nor a Knoc on the Door Nor a NOTE Left the Door), But by a SnaiL MaiL 4-days Luego!!!!*
*So, I Estimate That I WiLL be Dead for Up to 40 days Before I Am Discovered !!!!*
*But of Course, That Won't be ANY ProbLem, that I wiLL Have to WoRRy About!!!!* Eugene, Oregon
I am 73 years old, retired, and have lived alone for more than 20 years. This video is so accurate. I have never been this happy in my life. It's wonderful. Every day is an exciting time to live.
That's wonderful to hear!
One thing I've noticed about living alone as I get elderly now (71) is I just get used to my own world, my own routines, the peacefulness of where I live, meal routines, and when I sleep and wake up. That's fine. Is it? Nope sometimes. I now get quite stressed if I have to go outside my own "zone", fit with unusual routines. I have realised my stress levels really elevate even if I have to go out to town for something! Or go out for a meal with friends (who all lunch, and I never do!) It's so silly to get stressed over nice things like that! I cannot wait to get home.
Understand perfectly seldom want to leave my home
I got like you a few years ago. And I also love being alone. However, I had no idea what was happening to me when I went out close by to the library or across the street for fish and chips and I couldn't feel my feet as I was walking. I was startled to find that I was actually having panic attacks. My doctor diagnosed this and also warned me to get out more as living too much in your own world can give you a form of agoraphobia which I didn't even realize I was experiencing.
@@susancrawford5927- true. I suffer agoraphobia. First due to trauma, that intensified due to being home constantly. Then depression..I hope to get out some more eventually.
That's just a lack of confidence, I'm the same if I don't have to go out for a few days it takes a lit for me to get out if the front door
I think one of the worse things about 'lunching with friends' - especially those who don't live alone, too - is that you hear about ALL their 'family troubles', who is ill, who died....UGH. You feel worse, not better, for the experience ! So I'd just as soon stay home with the dog and spend time in the garden with him, or get some take-out food that I like, and pop a favorite movie into the player, and watch it, instead ! LESS hassle.
As long as you have financial freedom, everything goes well.
@@surendrabyragani4278 That's half true. But money can't buy good health.
@@my2cworth4U money buys decent food and good health care insurance
The GOP made sure that didn't happen.
I absolutely agree with you.
Yes. Years ago I read a novel where one character said, "I know money can't buy happiness but try being happy without it." So true! It's pretty scary to think of being old without money.
I am 70 years old , i am widower for now 14 years! To me life is sad! I'm not afraid of dying!!! Suffer is my main fear! But thank you for your kind video ! I'm.sure it's gonna help some other people! I do believe in God ! I am waiting for him!!! God Bless you all!!! Denis from.France ...My spouse is waiting for me!!!
Reading the Bible and learning is helpful. I watch religious shows that are good at explaining parts of the Bible…never too old to learn…soon to be 75. You are never alone..
Toute mes sympathies Denis !!
@@jean-paullanglois5452 Merci!
Do you have YMCA join any kind of program to be around people
@@limoore120 Life is very short!!! Said the Beatles in a song! They were quite right!!!
At 71, having lived alone all my adult life, I cannot recall a time when the solitude & sanctuary of my urban apartment was more pleasurable.
I do wish I'd done more travelling before my mobility began to fail me, but I still find plenty to occupy my time & attention and can happily remain in my home for days or weeks at a stretch without any face to face interactions.
I share my space with a cat, which definitely adds a certain life energy to the place, and bless whoever conceived of grocery delivery services.
This lifestyle feels like a decent payback for all those horrible school and work years.
Do you have anyone to call in an emergency?
@@judementz-gibbons6730
I do luckily have several close friends who would assist me or my cat in any dire situation.
Thank you not only for reading my comment (I never expect that) but also for your concern.
Have a good day.
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@@LaHermitess Cats are the best. I had to have my boy put to sleep a year ago and miss him so much. I was never lonely when he was here. But now the house feels cold without him.
@@benton-benton
My sincere condolences.
Having lost many beloved companions over the years, I know that their absence leaves a permanent void every time.
Even the oldest and most sedentary pet creates a definite emptiness when they leave us. From your comment it is clear that you provided a warm & loving home for your cat, and by letting him go when the time was right was an enormous gift as well as sacrifice.
My heart goes out to you.
Make lists or you'll forget what needs doing. A shopping list is a must.
I'm 71 and a retired psychologist and I am constantly telling people at Walmart that I have a list on paper plus the same list on my phone's note pad just in case I leave one at home. Then I tell them I also have a note by my door that says don't forget your phone. Sometimes when I read that note I get my phone and I forget the paper note. I don't believe it's old age because stupidity has always run in my family.
I have post-it-notes inside my cupboard doors to remind me of the ingredients in my most used recipes.
71 not happening yet
@@davidplant6805 If I write a shopping list, I will then remember it.
I’m close to 60, disabled, and have been alone for more than 10 years. This year I decided to get a full time job, and I love the companionship at work and helping clients via phone. I have a cat, live in the city in a high rise building, use the stairs to the 11th floor and go for walks in nature. As for cooking, I use the crock pot, but mostly buy prepared meals from the Amish market. My son lives 20 minutes away. Life is good!
Their are many of us living alone in our homes who seem to be falling thru the cracks when we need help.Not needing daily health care, but needing help with things to hard for a 90 year old to do,but can’t afford to hire.The help is there for all but us.
I would love to start an organization which has a team of volunteers who find folks living alone with no help, and doing and caring and spending time for them. I would love to know how to do that.
My dear dear friends we are not alone ❤️ our loving God will never so sake us 🙏 he is with us as usual as always 💯 🙌
@@Wisdom-Nuggets-Tid-Bits As an 84 year old Australian woman living alone I'm glad that I have community help through local organisations. I enjoy my own company and keep busy sewing in my studio. However if I meet with friends or anyone really, I can't shut up. I discuss world politics and local situations to the boredom of those around me. I think I need that discussion to keep my brain active. I have no desire to live with anyone but would love to have dinner with someone I can discuss things with. I suppose it's companionship I crave.
@@marieravening927 That is awesome. You sound like a great friend to have. Blessngsl.
@@Afulio-p1c WE need to gather prayer groups.
There's one thing that helps all of us, or we wouldn't be here. The internet ! So wonderful for continued learning, social chats, following & discussing shared interests, discussing news, watching "how to" videos, communicating with loved ones overseas or interstate, getting riled up about politics, world affairs, and seeing how others less fortunate are having to live. It's all here at our fingertips if we're lucky enough. ❤
Yes, Yes! It's all here...available. but we have to approach Life.. It holds Nothing Back. It's all mind set
71 years old and have been living alone since 1994, and I'm still loving it. Married twice, and after having spent money and time with no respect, I've decided to live with the solitude of memories. And it's not bad!
All these points in this video are things to keep in mind but reading these comments will show that most people are just fine with living alone and you have many options available to prevent boredom or loneliness. In fact it seems most people prefer their solitude.
There's a All-one-oness about enjoying your own company. I've found I take people on a case by case basis in passing for the most part, which satisfies. Two long distance friends for phone talk. Contentment says it all.
You can be completely content with living alone and solitude and still have some brushes with loneliness
As a 79 yr old i ca identify with a lot here..however i read ,have a good video liberary.and a dog,also i as a christian i go to church not to meet people but it is the high moment of my life when i really invite the risen lord into my life and cherish Him as a very close companion who i confide in in total confidence and am open to the promptings of the holy spirit.my day consists of prayer,cooking,house cleaning and walking the dog.i read and look at tv just for a few hours and keep up with the news listening to the radio aswell.lhope if you ar reading this do not be lonely,be alone its ok..but not lonely
Amen brother...
Praise the Lord!
You have a wonderful attitude! God bless you
I'm 70 living alone for 20 yrs, most of the time it's great, but went thru hip replacement surgery a few months ago and it was hell taking care of myself for months, now 5 months I'm back being active, love it
I am blessed with the sanity and comfort that living alone has given me. I’m my own best friend, my own caregiver and creativity abounds ! All worth waiting for, Amen !
I’m 62…I’ve been alone on my own for over 10 yrs. No one has been to my apt in yrs…my choice. Ive been to one social gathering this yr…by design. I do not call people and I don’t take phone calls. I treasure and protect my time on my own…it’s my most valued lifestyle preference that I have. I go exploring, I travel, hike and backpack, dine out, see shows…and I love doing all of those things ALONE! Your video has some validity, but not for all of us.
I'm impressed, not only by what you posted here, but also by the choices that you have made to guard your privacy and your solitary lifestyle. You are a person who is honoring the importance and value of being alone. Good for you for sticking up for what you believe works for you.
Lot of difference being 62 as opposed to 72.
@@wandasciarrino7466 you’re absolutely right, but a person’s introverted personality and lifestyle preferences don’t just change after living that way for 5 decades. My preferences are the deepest roots of how my brain is wired. If I can’t function alone then it’s better for me to call it. Forcing me to live and interact w others is the same as asking me to flap my arms and fly to the moon. For me it would be the same as a prison sentence, and untenable.
Would your call yourself a loner or even a hermit?😳
@@DesertlizzyThemmm…not a hermit…I live in a large city, and I work in the service industry so I see and interact w ppl all the time. I separate my personal needs from my financial ones. Maybe because I work w the public all the time I don’t want to socialize at all. Maybe I’m schizophrenic and have 2 people living in my head LOL!
I live alone and I'm older. I still cook for four, that's what freezers are for. I use a treadmill and have Alexa with medical alert in every room. I find my alone-ness to be peaceful. You set things up as best you can and you carry on.
A great video I really enjoyed it. I’m 83 and widowed 6 years ago after 54 years of marriage. I loved my husband dearly and would love to have him back. However I have been fine and am enjoying life on my own. I realise that marriage was a compromise it has to be. I have been brave enough to fly abroad on my own for a couple of holidays, I took my granddaughter on a Caribbean cruise, got another dog ( a rescue ) changed the garden layout to make it easier and declutterred. I do everything mentioned in your video and it works. I wish everyone happiness and peace in old age.
You are inspiring 😊
So many people equate alone with lonely. I am 82 and have lived alone for 50 years. When I was younger, I had a very active social life and many friends. My last long-time friend died in April and I am now really alone except for the cats. It's strange to realize that I have outlived almost everyone I know. I miss having a shared history with others and never will have that again. When mobility and health issues show up, it is frustrating to be unable to do all the things you once did without giving it a thought.
Your video talks about organizing get togethers. That's impossible if all your friends have died.
I spent most of my youth raising my sons and then caring for my family so it's nice to have absolutely no responsibility towards anyone except myself. I honestly like the peace, quiet and solitude.
Laurel Curtis I can totally relate to that you have said. I too have outlived almost all of my long time friends. I have two left that are still alive but i do not live close to them. I am going to get a newer truck so i have reliable transportation and I am going to drive to Warsaw, Missouri where my friend Kenny lives and also out to Beaumont, California where my friend Bill lives. I I've in San Pedro, California and have been putting it off for far too long.
@@vincentmackay4927 Blessings - Always be safe as possible when traveling
Laurel, I'm 66 and in excellent health
I never married, parents long gone (they were old when I was born), and it's occurring to me now that new friends will never mean shared history. It's a sad thought. But I don't dwell on it. I'm looking forward to being with Jesus
I am 64 and have lived alone all my adult life. Only time I have issues while living alone is if I have to have a medical procedure done and need someone to take me home. That can be difficult. But having access to the internet helps big time. I can interact with people on social media and it helps with not having someone to talk to. For the most part, I am very happy. Do what I want when I want to do it. Taking care of my cat, who is a great companion.
At 75 five years ago, I reslised I was failing with exercise. So I built a simple spreadsheet and determined to hike, with poles, 6 kilometers per day. That thing drives me, but now, at 80, I am fit and have purpose. I'm quite proud too of seeing over 10,000 kms of "overall total".
Careful they now say too much exercise in old age is not good for muscles n joints.
Now you can walk the Camino in Spain ..I'm doing it now at 63. Lots of older folks walking here .. walk as much or little as you want
@@aberavonI've not heard that. Would you share the source please? Thank you.
Physical activity is most important. A hot cup of coffee, confidence, knowing you belong in this world are all important.
Be confident, indifferent, and stay active.
SO TRUE
Great practical advice. Thanks.❤
I started out with nothing and I still have most of it...❤😂❤... stay strong people... keep moving...
I love your saying @carley ♥
A wonderful sense of humor will get you through life much better than grumbling about life being unfair.
I am lazy, I don't think I have to do anything except if I want to and whenever I want to. I don't feel overly upset that I am not a social butterfly. I am thrilled to have to do nothing if I don't want to. I don't mind being alone most of the time; I enjoy peace and quiet. I am pretty content with my life right now and don't seem to have any complaints worth making any issues over.
I do my housework bit by bit. Nothing is completely tidy or dusted but I do not care. Eat well, do not get ill, what is not to like?
@@howardsimpson489 I love that 'bon mot' @howard. "Eat well, do not get ill, what is not to like/"
I'm 74yo and I'm thinking these are the best years of my life
In my 79th year, hubby died 15 years ago, never went on a date, have a busy life gardening, doing choirs around the house, prepare my breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday. I have no problem at all in living alone. Many men says I should go out on dates because they think I am in my 50ties, but I just say I am too old, this way they leave me alone, which is good for me.
@@pastryshack551 Much the same sort of story,feeling lucky,rather than unwanted
79, in good health and have 4 dogs and a cat so I'm never lonely. Take car sweet
Lady.😊😊😊😊😊
I just told a friend this is the best I have ever “had it”. 74 and having the time of my life. Alone with toys! And my cats!
@@totallynieve7108 Cats make all the difference. There is no love like a cat's love. My sweet boy got really sick and had to be put to sleep almost a year ago now. The house is so empty without him. We loved each other so much. I am thinking of fostering cats now. I might do it.
When I cook for 1, I use my Itaki electric lunch box. You can cook meats, veggies and rice/pasta etc, all in one container. (With trays/dividers within the Itaki)
I live in an apartment complex and have no family. The apartment management never checks in on you and your neighbors don’t think to check on you either. The world needs to change and we help each other. 😢
Maybe you can change circumstances at your apartment complex you start smiling at people when you come in contact say hello start friendly chat.ask how they doing you may just be surprised. How.many people in your complex need that it.mighy seem like nit working at first but be persistent and you will see good results and more and .more people will take time to chat to check.on each other building a friend ship takes time
I agree. . Since I'm independent, health and financially independent, my son and daughter RARELY call me and ask if I need anything. There are rare instances where I could use some assistance with some physical task. Thank goodness, God has blessed me with good neighbors, who actually call me to as if I need anything. I don't complain. God sees and provides. So grateful.
God bless you ❤
Ppl have lives as our younger selves did. I love the idea our kids are busy. Means they are independent usually.
None of our kids are gonna fall apart when I leave this earth.
I take GREAT HONOR in that I once showed my kids how to manage life and now I can show them this phase of life without being needy. And they show me the same.
I live in an apt building for those over 62. It’s a bit better because we’re more aware of the difficulties of this time of life. Management is young and still doesn’t care, but some neighbors do. You might check into something like that.
My wife died 5 years ago. We had been married for 55 years. I have been a woodworker for many years and continue to work in my shop and even though I change my wood projects I still find interest in making things to give away. I have a dog as a partner and she keeps me on the move.
Good for you !!😊 keep that good attitude and keep enjoying work in your shop a good frame of mind so.important
Exercise those muscles, to keep strength, especially the glutes (derriere) for balance and mobility. Physical therapist taught me that. All the best.❤
I am never alone. I have the Lord and my 2 dogs. I am blessed
Thanks for all the lovely and inspiring comments it’s comforting to know that there are the mature older generation out
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I'm pleased I've listened to this; I thought I was the only one who felt this way about chores etc. My health is a little compromised and thats the hardest thing for me. I've learned to accept what I cannot change and to try to stay positive. I've been in a deep, dark place since my husband died but all I can do is to try to keep going. My thoughts are with all those who are struggling..
Do you pray? I find comfort in prayer and it is like therapy, I can off load all my cares and share my joys.
Blessings.
@@Christine-j7b Prayer is wonderful, and it works! Thank you for offering it to this individual, as it was very kind of you to take the time to express your concerns.
My neighbors 85 and 88 have spent two full days a week cleaning all their lives and their house was always immaculate. At this time, they realized it was too dangerous to be climbing or too hard cleaning floors. They had a housekeeper come every two weeks to do the hard chores. They still clean and keep up with the little stuff. They also hired a gardener to mow the lawn even though they did that for years. They know when to ask for help 😊
@@Appzeei sadly not everyone can afford a Housekeeper and a Gardner. Everything begins to fall apart and becomes overgrown and before you know it things are insurmountable.
Decluttering is the hardest. I have 2 storage units, plus a 2-bdrm apt which is over-flowing. I am 81 years old, in good health. I just can't mentally face this challenge. My family is troublesome to me. I hesitate to have unknown people into my apt.
Excellent article. Thank you.
Hey .. I’m younger by a little n moving n
Declutter ing is the
Most overwhelming
Thing I have had to
Do..
My mom will get overwhelmed n say
I like to take a match
Walk out
N Never Look Back😅
@@AngelBabe Well, it makes you feel that way. I was shocked to find that my high-end possessions were not wanted by anyone: thrift stores, consignments, charities (they all want cash). I put things out on the street "for free." Finally, when I had to be out if my house by midnight due to sale, I put all my furniture out on the street. Got into the moving van and drove off. I was 75 years old at the time.
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Goodness .. Did you smile on the way .. N say
“Farewell “
I’m just kidding.. we all have treasures .. But .. sometimes
You have to let go?
Hard Hard .. If the love of my Life showed up.. probably
Just drop everything n just
Go.. Hmmm😂🤣✅✅
You probably have an emotional attachment to everything you own so it is hard to deculter. Take a picture of the things taking up space and get rid of them. If you miss them in the future you'll have a of them to look at. That's what I do and it has worked out fine for me. Good luck!
@@sharonstanley5054 Wow! How brave. Eight years down the line and I still can't go into my late husband's wardrobe to clear out.
I always had cats. Now I have a small dog. She loves life and other people. When she wakes up, she jumps up as if to say: 'Great! Another day!' So funny. She's great companion and keeps me active. Thanks to her I meet and talk to a lot of people. I even made a best friend. A woman who lives nearby and gives me the feeling I belong. My husband died. I don't have children. I'm an introvert. But this tiny dog really helps me staying cheerful and social. The most important thing for me is taking good care of me and my dog. I love clothes and even when I'm not going anywhere, I'm well-dressed cause it gives me a good feeling. The hardest thing for me is house work, cleaning and cooking. I hate a mess but I just don't have the energy to do a good job. That really annoys me and worries me. I love music and singing. And there's nobody who says: 'Keep it down.' I grew up with five siblings and never had any privacy. Now I do and I love it.
Looking good Hettie! L don't have children either but still have a husband, he is a keen fisherman, we are both 72. I would get a little dog too if I was left alone. I do have a strong faith and prayer life that sustains me a lot.
@@Christine-j7b ❤️
Pets do so much more for us then we realize.
I’m 77 and my husband died 12 yr ago. I live alone. At first I was active. I volunteered at the local soup kitchen in the pantry. I met new people and friends . Had about 5 yrs of that then injured my back. Had 2 long surgeries and practically became invalid. 2 of my new friends died and one moved into a nursing home. Last 6 years I’m totally alone. I eat frozen meals mostly because it easy. I have 2 small dogs, which has become my dearest companions. They give me joy and purpose. I have a strict schedule. Up at 7am sleep at 11. I don’t walk well because of my back and surgeries. I fall a lot. I’m quite small so I don’t get badly hurt with these falls. Sometimes I can’t get up so I have to figure out how. I had a stair lift put in in 2017 but now broken. It’s outside so corrosion took over. I’m doing the stairs now. Very difficult but I make myself do it. Few things I can’t do. Mowing grass and changing my bed. I do have a daughter and 2 grand children. They will do it but not on a timely basis. I really dont want to live with anyone. I do keep my great granddaughter 2 hrs after school . It helps her and helps to fill my day. I was very lonely at first but now I wouldn’t want anyone around all the time.
Sending you hugs,may your back be healed totally sis.Amen.
Back surgery is dificult for revalidation I know@@sudhakhristmukti1930
*"I am a smaLL Person & sooo, I Don't GET Hurt when I FaLL"!!!*
*& Noooo I am NOT Saying that in an =>EViL
When I had difficulty changing .my bed I would get a person to put on three sheets and peeled them off as I needed and throw a duve on ...another alternative Is a sleeping bag with a bag style sheet 😊
You sound like you put forth effort to be at peace with your circumstances and blessed to have grandchild I hope someone will notice your needs and help you with repairs
wife walked out in 87 when I got cancer, left me with 3 kids and fighting cancer. by 00 kids were on their own in other states. I have been alone since. not allowed to drive, use a walker but each day it gets better. all the delivery options now make it much easier. video doctor visits, etc mean I very rarely leave the house but I'm not lonely. rather enjoy reading, music, and just watching all the wildlife that visits my yard. I'm blessed.
SOUNDS LIKE YOU GOT HIT HARD IN LIFE BUT YOU CAN OVERCOME TRY REACHING OUT TO PEOPLE MUCH AS CAN I PRAY YOU BE HEALED AND YOU FIND GOOD CHURCH AND MAKE THE LORD A BIG PART.OF YOUR LIFE AND I.PRSY.YOUR LIFE GETS MUCH BETTER
Blessings
Living alone is alright…70 and widowed for 5 years. Living alone is very different than being lonely.
I'm 71 and living alone in the mountains. Peace tranquility freedom and bird song. No woman, no abuse. I never felt lonely.
That’s my dream. Recently retired and I reside in Florida.
I hope to end up living in the mountains.
Have you ever read any of John Muir's writings? I think you could identify with him in such wonderful ways and be even more inspired to carry on as you are.
I'm 68 and since I started living alone five years ago, I got barely any exercise because I wasn't around many people so I had no real reason to go out and get in the motions. Thank you for sharing about needing to be intentional about staying active, ever since I decided to start going on walks around my block I have felt way more at peace and happier every day. It truly does make a big difference
At 78, I’ve lived on my own for many years. I do have a cat and take many precautions. I actually do take my phone with me when I take a shower. I love living alone.
Loneliness is the worse , of living alone ,it really sucks !! Living on SS is the Worse . No money with inflation so high ,and having cerebral fluid around my. Brain ,back problems ,an terrible inballance falling far too many time Sciatica in both legs ,can only stand on feet for ten minutes at a time ,trying to walk with my walker everyday ,nothing. Helps . Thanks for the news though. G.bless .
God help and bless you❤❤
God bless you always. Peace my friend.
Blessings to you
My wife died in2021. She was older than me. I started doing volunteer work to busy my self. When you are able to do that it’s a whole new world. Try it if you are able.
Well done! Wish you the best. Great suggestion!
I LOVE being alone! I can do anything I want. I never could before. I have 2 children and they keep an eye on me. ❤
My best friend is 91 this year. He is fully mobile, good eye sight. His wife died 40 years ago. His secret? He is always busy, he visits friends, relatives, people from church. Church is very important for social interaction, especially the church groups, the craft groups. He goes to so many lectures and talks. If you sit in a room staring at the walls all day, you’ll degrade and die.
It is so lonely living alone. It is HORRIBLE, miss my family so much, 😢
I lived with a narcissist for years so living alone is like freedom!! I GRT lonely sometimes but am not afraid to go places alone. I have some friends but they are often busy. I enjoy walks and binge watching good tv shows and movies. I also have two cats who like to cuddle.
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yes, getting free from a narcissist is amazing. I ended a relationship with someone I thought was a close friend, (but realized she was a wolf in sheep's clothing) and also a family member, both of whom were draining me, and actually sometimes cruel. I love the peace of not hearing from them (blocked both). Living alone is so peaceful but you have to get rid of toxic people who want to drain you...
Now 80, retired and living alone I agree with the points made in this excellent video. Keep in mind that the wrong partner can make your life miserable and personal freedom is wonderful compensation for solitude. No drama and stress enables satisfaction with everyday life.🥰🥰🥰🥰
The wrong partner, this is so true Welcome to Africa
@@zanree38 What?! Did I miss something?! Or are you just rambling while proselytizing?
am 64 and feel this way now. thou i plan on moving along shortly. no help with bills and put me 6k behind
I lost my wife of 60 yrs last may. I have never felt so absolutely alone. I'm 78 now, and my daily prayer is that God take me home so I can be with my wife.The will to live is now gone in me, we were everything to each other. I've read most of the comments and am so surprised at the number of people so happy to be living alone. This I do not understand! So much unhappiness in the world I guess. I am a born again Christian, and I know I will be with my wife again......as the Scriptures promises believers. I cling to that hope, it is the only thing that you can trust in these times....... God's Word!! Ron
The first months of bereavement are as you describe. Soon you will make a decision that your life has value without your spouse at your side. Not now, but soon. The second year of your loss will bring renewed hope in living and the third year will have you living as many here do, with zest and gratitude. This is sacred time, honor it as such.
Love you and I understand.
@@constancecozzini9330 I am now 8 years into widowhood having been married for 50 years. It doesn't get better.
I'm very sorry you lost your lifelong companion. I lost everyone in my family by the time I was 27. Some of us have had extremely difficult lives that were not the result of our choices but other people's choices. So that has a strong bearing for why those people find being alone liberating. My childhood and younger adult years were full of fear, heartbreak, and loss of trust. Those years were very isolating and lonely. Surrounded by people but lonely. Now I'm 75 and don't have those barriers, and because I learned during those years to be resourceful and creative alone, I now prefer it. I am not lonely. It is the best years of my life and they didn't start until I retired at 68.
Ron, I understand your pain. Keep hanging in there. Trust in the Lord completely. Meditate on Psalm 121. And remember, there are people the world over heartbroken following a loved one's death. God will wipe away every tear
Living alone yes its peaceful, your own boss, no one to answer to but if you have no visitors like family etc, it is the most depressing and saddest thing in the world trust me I have tried it.
I have to agree with you . I turned 60 about a month ago. I've been divorced and have lived alone for over the past 10 years. I have a few friends but they're all married or have significant others. So, I'm a little out of place with them. I have no family left. So.... it's just me and the dog. They're are times when my phone doesn't ring with a call or a text for days. Loneliness is everything its cracked up to be. But.... there's worse things I suppose
My family don’t visit nor call it’s as if I’m forgotten isolated. Sometimes I think I’ll be happy when I die . No more loneliness.
@@Carolwarr448- so sorry. 😢 can you join groups etc?
I feel the same.. I love nature and wildlife,my pets but since losing my partner of 45 years, I feel very lonely at times...when I FEEL PHYSICALLY Able to get stuck in to household chores and my garden, it's not so bad but when you feel in total pain and have other health issues, it's far more difficult to keep happy... I believe in God so he is a great comfort.. wishing you all well and joy always xx
May god bring someone into your life to make your days brighter
I'm 71, single, and retired. My adopted kids are now in college. And I *love* living alone! I have a daily routine, exercise, and read a lot of books, and often have videos or audiobooks going, as mentioned in this video. I participate in online clubs and venture out at times for in-person groups, but my favorite days are always at home alone. I enjoyed the video and the online comments.
At 78 I cycle and walk daily.
If I can't walk you probably aren't driving.
My mother was 39 when my brother and I were in college! Geeze
People with high intellectual curiosity have a great big weapon
Even though I live alone, I have family I keep in contact with daily. My family has a copy of my house and car keys. We get together about once a week to run around town, go out for coffee, eat dinner, or just gossip and be together.
I don't have much of a routine; I don't even have set meal times. I like to experiment with cooking. I usually make enough for three or four meals.
I used to have the TV on, but the quality of programming annoyed me, so I've switched to music or videos about things that interest me. Reading is important to me and I've been known to read entire books at once. I have to remember to get up and move around so I don't sit too long.
I love cooking, the last year I started cooking cat foods, the store bought is getting so expensive, one of my feral cats will bring me a fresh squirrel and hang out while I cook it. Usually, we can feed three cats that way,
This all sounds great. However if financially your not in a good place, it’s very hard. Worst of all is if you have health issues that prevent you from being very active. And making friends is very hard. Being old n alone sucks.
Absolutely right 😢
So true. As I always say: Better rich and healthy than poor and sick. LOL ! ;-)
I'm loving my retirement so far! My wife and I worked hard to reach this point - we're both retired, debt-free, and fortunate to have over $3 million in net worth. We achieved this through a saving and investing lifestyle in the stock market, which now generates weekly income for us. And now, we get to enjoy the fruits of our labor! We're traveling, golfing, and spending quality time with the grandkids. We feel grateful to be living smart and frugal, making the most of our golden years.
Absolutely! I'm in the same boat. I just got back from a road trip across the country. It's amazing how much energy and freedom we have now. Make the most of it, because it won't last forever!
I'm a young dad and I'm really glad to hear your story - it inspires me! I'm still working, but I'm counting down the days until I can enjoy the Go Go Years. Can you please share your tips? What's the key to achieving this milestone and making the most of your retirement years? Any tips would be greatly appreciated!
There’s a lot of investing options (real estate,airbnb,stocks,cr.ypto,ETFs) my best advice? Find an expert who can help grow your funds , Create a personalized plan and better prepare you for a successful retirement.
Thanks for the tip! Can you point me in the direction of a trusted expert who can help me make the most of my investments?
sure .He's known as a Glen Howard Chester '. One of the finest portfolio managers and expert in the field also widely recognized. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with
Living with the grief of losing my wife has been the hardest, but I definitely agree that self care and a strict fitness regime is very important. I also go out everyday to interact with people, there’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely.
Yes, so true. There is also going out n interacting w ppl n having companionship...
Good for you ! Stay active long as possible life is precious enjoy it much as can good attitude helps abundantly
I have lived alone since 2005, and am 77 years.
I was put onto Long Term Care after being diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. That got me a
caregiver who visits 3 days per week, and a nurse who comes on Wednesday to check my blood sugar and vital signs. That is enough human contact for me. After 15 years of PD i am too
weak to stand much or walk more than a very short distance. I have a cat to give me purpose and affection. I used to read a lot and do miss that.
I also miss gardening . The late stages of PD
and vision problems have impacted my life
adversely, of course. Yet i am reasonably
happy and content.
It’s inspiring to hear how you've found contentment despite the challenges. Your cat sounds like a wonderful companion, and it's great that you've found a balance with the care you receive. I wish you continued peace and strength!
You put me to shame with your positive acceptance of your situation and your fortitude. I know we have no choice in such a turn of the cards, but that is what makes it hard, so hats off to you.
I love that you have a cat. I'm 70 and have 6 (plus outsiders I feed.) I do not live in a very nice area & need to downsize, but difficult with so many animal responsibilities. I need to establish a safety net for them in the obviously eventual event of my demise or diminished capability. Difficult when you live in a city overrun with neglected cats.*Sigh*
So first I would say set up that safety net for your cat and free your mind of that worry.
Secondly, do look to audiobooks to give you access to both reading and the human voice. Choosing readers/actors you really like adds so much to the satisfaction.
It has become part of my daily routine and is such a joy and a comfort. It really takes you out of yourself. Good luck going forward. Xx.
You might try audio books - a friend of mine enjoys them so much and she is 90.
God help and bless you ❤
Blessings
I ❤ living alone !! I shut off my phone a lot because I don't want to convert. I have 2 dog's so I take my health seriously because of them . I cook for them , I sleep with them . Both are 9ver a 100 lbs . I have needed help getting up off the floor and they come right over to help . They pick up anything I drop and clean my dishes 😂 . I have spine issues so as I get older I will make sure I get meals on wheels and other means of being checked on . Moved from Boston Massachusetts to West Virginia Appalachia. I am at peace for the first time in my life . I've been here for almost 4 years with no regret ❤❤❤
Excellent video. I always remind myself how truly alone you can feel with the wrong people in your life. Also, there is alone and there is lonely, which are distinctly different.
I just turned 79 and although I am married, I am lonely. My wife is from a different culture and is bipolar. She and the children and grandson treat me like a stranger because of a comment I made several years ago. I haven't seen or talked to my kids for almost 4 years. My daughter lives about a mile away. I used to have friends that I would get together with for lunch a beer or just a phone call but they have all died. I think I know how Custer felt.
Ik ben vanaf mijn 38ste jaar singel met twee dochters en veel vrienden en vriendinnen, heerlijk die vrijheid. Ben nu bijna 89 en ik geniet nog van wat er te genieten valt.