When I accidentally sent a Snapchat of self harm to her (instead of my support friend), she proceeded to tell me that she was only my friend cuz she had a crush on my brother, was trying to get close to him, and told me that I should kill myself. Luckily, my brother hated all of my friends.
Wanted to go clubbing with me. She knew I really wasn't the type. Still made me go. I did my best to go along with everything. It was very draining. After a few hours of this she goes outside for a smoke and takes ages to come back. When she did it was to tell me that clubbing with me is kinda boring her and she would rather hang with the people she met outside. Told her, yeah, I'm going home and don't bother to ever get in contact again.
This is also why as a 24-year-old male and the first time I ever drank was at 18 but I was around people that were older than 21 and before that so I couldn’t do anything stupid, my mom took my car keys. AnyWho, this is why I do not go to any bars or go out partying or anything like that, yes I know majority of the time it’s guys that put things in girls drinks to knock them out but sometimes there’s girls that do it to guys.
@@chaosgamer016_5 yup, it seriously is messed up. That is probably the only reason why I won’t be having any kids, because certain girls are like this.
I wish my ex-friends had been more obvious like some of these stories. Manipulation and gaslighting is the worst. I thought I was being hypersensitive and reading too much into their subtle actions/words.
Not quite my friend, more like an acquaintance. We met when I was around 14 and he (A) was around 16. It was at a summer camp, we weren't especially close but we got along pretty well. The next year, I find out that he's dating another close friend of mine (B). Little weird, since A is 17 and B is 14, but sure. Later, B tells me that A has sexually assaulted him twice, but B loves A so much that he doesn't want to leave him. Turns out A had clearly been grooming B, but B couldn't see it no matter how much I begged him to open his eyes. A ended the relationship once he went to college, but kept texting and leading B on for months, probably keeping him on standby. B was heartbroken, and the flirty texting made it infinitely worse. If I ever see that bastard again, he's going down. I'm 5'3 and he's like 6'5, so I'm definitely going to the hospital, but I could probably get a nice groin kick in before he sends me flying.
I was friends with someone for years and she was always a little bit selfish but it really got out of hand one day. She'd been asking me to hang out after work a lot so I could drive her home, which was fine, we were friends. One day she asked me to hang out, so I picked her up at work. She spent the entire time texting silently, and sat on her couch doing the same thing when we got to her place. After a while when I asked what was up, she said someone had invited her to go out dancing that night and she was making plans with them, she'd invite me but she "knew dancing wasn't really my thing." I realized she had been using me as a chauffeur and it felt truly awful. It took one ignored text for her to stop talking to me. One.
Tried to use my house to cheat on his girlfriend at the time with his ex, threatened to punch me for saying no. His GF found out, stayed with him & all my ‘friends’ abandoned me. They kicked me out of our prom table so I went to my senior prom alone. I’ve tolerated him since but am probably cutting him off once I go to college.
11:00 hit me hard. My friend did that to me, and It's really messed me up. I at least managed to get a reason by someone else asking, and it was essentially 'you're always talking about this thing we mutually do and I feel like I can't have my own interests', even though I watched a whole tv series from start to finish, learned a bunch about the lore to understand it all, and made a three minute animation for them (While nothing like this was done regarding my personal interests)'. It made me start to think everyone f*cking hates me when I talk and so I stopped doing a lot of hobbies that I adored because i thought people secretly hated me for it. It's nearly been a year and I still have dreams where she unblocks me. I cry every time, I miss them so f*cking much.
Fuck them and go back to the hobbies you used to love. Make friends with ones who love the same hobby. You don't deserve to lose yourself because of an asshole user "friend". Make your life better just to spite them. It does work. You're happy and I can guarantee they aren't because all they think of is themselves. You can do it. Hugs to you and happiness.
@@VanityDivined i mean. I have i guess? I have trouble with these ones because i had a friend in primary school. Very close, talked to her every day, told her everything. I never cared about who she hung out with because i wanted her to be happy and have friends (i didn't have many). And then she told absolutely everything i confided in her to the kids who bullied me (threw stuff at me and called me names and insulted me and my family). Gave them all the ammunition to hurt me. She had snooped through my room to try and learn more from anything i wrote down. I had brushed that off at the time but now i know she was purposefully looking for a diary or something. She got her popularity by feeding others information on me. I confronted her and she genuinely thought she'd done nothing wrong. That i "wouldn't mind" i told her i did care, she shrugged it off. I was livid, i stopped talking to her. That rage went on for years. She had a habit of continually stabbing friends in the back still growing up. I don't know how she justified it to herself. I refused to attend any of her parties. I wouldn't look at her or respond back. If she and someone else talked to me i would talk to them. My revenge was to remember all the ways she screwed over her friends and to list them to anyone who asked why i hated her so much. And i had a very deep hatred (i don't anger easily but get me there and i can hold a grudge like no one else). At least 5 years later i left that town and she came up to be in highschool and went "we are still friends right?". And i just... couldnt. I had not talked to her in years, i had told her i didn't want to see her again, my hate had never been hidden. She couldn't not know how much she had hurt me after watching me have to fight against my bullies and her friends. I laughed and said "sure" sarcastically. But she couldn't understand sarcasm. Hell she couldn't understand why i would be angry or that i was still angry. She genuinely believed we were still friends after everything (she had even screwed over some of my newer friends a year before this). She thinks that i just stopped talking to her for no reason after i moved. No amount of explaining other than a direct "you're a complete b**ch and we aren't friends" would work to get it through to her. And even then I've seen her brush that off as something people will "get over". It's been over another decade now. I hope she's changed, but I'm not going to reach out to her and find out. Tldr: sometimes people think theyve been ghosted but they just didn't think something was as big a deal as it was to the other. My advice to anyone that has been ghosted is to work on yourself and the areas you think you could improve. If it's you that made a mistake you'll improve and maybe they'll come back and you can decided if you want to fix a friendship that was bad enough to split itself apart. If it's them just being an asshole, well the trash took itself out and you'll find others who hopefully aren't like that.
My friend was super toxic, always insulting me and even siding with my bullies that I was very annoying. She even told me once that she didn't know why she was friends with me. If we ever had a disagreement, she wouldn't talk to me for a whole day. The other girls in our friend group never did anything about it. She became a better friend but because of all the toxicity, I always felt anxious talking to her and making her mad. The second I got the opportunity, I cut all contact with her and the girls in our group.
I was friends with an absolute dumpsterfire of a woman, she burned my nerves completely off in a single year of knowing her. Just thinhking about this person makes me want to scream. - she had a habit of being involved with abusive and manipulative men, would always go back to them and then cry to me how theyre horrible, she once invited me over while her man was there and I didnt friggin know, I didnt want to meet him because she hadnt told anything positive about him - she has a teen girl, and constantly put her in awkward situations with the men in her life and she would just pour everything on her like she did to me, no filter. Stories of childhood traumas, r*pe she went through, how she had babytrapped her ex at 18yo, what her men did to her, how she didnt want to be a mother.... Just way WAY too much details - she could not hold her liquor, get very handsy touchy and get blackout drunk while her kid was coming over in a couple of hours (again I didnt know the kid was coming over no way I wouldve been drinking with her in that case ffs) - she would steal from her workplace and didnt think it was wrong at all because her coworkers did it too - I couldnt really set boundaries with her because everytime I did she would agree but in a few weeks be back to her no filter nonsense - she would always try to get me to tell just absolutely everything about every traumatic thing Ive been through, and I was NOT up for that. And this would happen over and over again, even if she had heard story x already - she asked me to babysit once, while spending time with the kid it was painfully obvious just how distressed she was with her life. (her dad wasnt a daddy of the year either) kid was happy I thought her some basic cooking because neither of her parents would - At one point she tried calling me mom??? wut. um no. not gonna happen. I very much have just repressed this whole thing and just remembered it while writing this... ew. One day I just snapped at her and told her I dont want to be her therapist, get your shit together. Youre a shitty mom, do better. Im not gonna pat you on your head and say oh poor you when you once again have lit your life on fire. Why it took a year to cut contact? All of those awful things Ive listed were kind of trickled to me, loking back she was definetly slowly pushing me and my limits with her. I dont think she even understood how awful she was acting not only towards me but to her daughter aswell. I really hope that kid is doing well
my ex-best friend ruined the friendship after a night i really needed her. Brother threatened me with a knife and didnt feel safe in my own house, tried to go over to her house but her cousin was over and apparently i couldnt come over? They were just playing video games and not doing anything really. Was so confused on how her priorities worked, haven't spoken to her in years.
Mine's actually relatively recent. We were having a minor disagreement in his Discord server, nothing us adults couldn't handle in a civilized manner. He told me to shut up. So I did; haven't spoke to him since. There's also another one that's since mended: My neighbor who was my best friend wanted a decorative sword, but his mom wouldn't let him buy it. He was in junior high, I was already graduated. He provided the money for it, so I bought him the sword, making it *very clear* it's not a toy and should only be for display purposes. Dumb fuck took it to school the day after he got it and got himself expelled, nearly got me thrown in prison, which thankfully I managed to avoid by buying said sword back from his mother; he paid cash which I kept held back. It took ten years for me to even talk to him again, but even then it's not exactly common that we do, either.
This is a novel but here it goes. - She used to be a big feminist who believe in equality for women and refused to shave her legs. Was very politically active and we often engaged in political activism together. - She met this guy and started to change. - He would be very controlling toward her. He’d tell her what to do, where to be, who she could talk to, and one time she straight up didn’t hang out with me cause he boyfriend didn’t wanna go anywhere. - She converted to Christianity when she met him and became basically submissive to him. - When the 2020 election happened she refused to talk about it with me. I snapped and told her the way she changed disgusted me and she’s become a different person and not the person I remember. - Her boyfriend messaged me the next day telling me “don’t treat my girl like shit and blah blah blah.” I responded with “says the guy who controls her, tells her what to do, where to be, who to talk to, and controls when she goes in and out of the house.” - The next day he came to my house with a gun and started banging on the door. I hid under my bed with a knife and a bat till the cops came. - He was arrested and went to jail. I confronted her about this guy. I told her “you know how this man is. You saw what he did to me as your friend since high school. Are you seriously going to choose to stay with this guy who would threaten your best friend since high school’s life?” - Her response broke my heart “It’s a Christian relationship. The man is the man of the house and protect the wife and I am a submissive wife.” I told her never to speak to me again and if her or her now fiancé ever even contacted me I would file a restraining order. They’re married now and one of my friends who ended up living down the street from her saw her with a black eye and bruises on her arm. I hate this guy and what he did to my friend.
That's the thing with political extemists: always jumping from one extreme to the other. So she went from Marxist Anarcho-Femenist to Alt-Right Trad-Wife basically overnight, and you're surprised by this? I can't feel too sorry for your friend, except for the part where she was harmed. Being harmed like that has nothing to do with the religious and/o political leanings of those in the relationship.
@@fangirl3086 It doesn’t have to, sure. I’m also involved in political activism but I’m part of the classical liberalism school of thought. This person’s former former friend’s political leanings do fall in the far left anarchist position of Marxism and anarcho-feminism.
This just happened to me strong friendship fell apart when I had a panic attack while anxiously waiting for her to show up to her own birthday at a place we couldn't book tables Apparently me panicking after being left out in the cold for 50 minutes at the place where I had a traumatic experience at (I only went to make her happy with the promise of new memories) and us not being able to get into the restaurant because they were so late That apparently was me making myself the center of attention and taking her birthday from her and apparently jokes at the table in attempt to save the day was personal attacks and that was worthy of being called a little shit in my ear when we were parting ways And now she's calling me a bully for stating my mind over text and is now posting passive aggressive posts on Facebook and Snapchat But during all this it's shown me that my friend who was with me that day is the bestest friend I could ever wish for and she's defending me throughout this ❤️
I am not good at reading people & tend to assume everyone has good intentions (can't figure out how to unprogram myself), so I've had a few doozies. One story: she called 911 and said I was beating my children & forcing them to eat poison. Why did she do it? Because I took her keys to keep her from drunk driving. At that point I would have given them back if there was a way to know for sure that no one else would get hurt. But I didn't, so I didn't. Waiting around for her to be sober enough to kick her out of my house was excruciating.
I was replaced. We were friends since elementary school. But when we got into high school she found her clique. They were your stereotypical mean girls, who picked on others for the most miniscule thing. I was invited to a Halloween party that one of the girls hosted, via my friend. I was ignored and pushed out of the house for the majority of the night. My friend didn't even come and check on me. Foolishly I still clung onto hope that we were still friends. It only really hammered home, when she ditched me at our highschool Grad Bash, at Universal Studios. She spent the day and night with her friends, and I was alone the whole time.
She rejected me when I told her I loved her then ghosted me over b.s soon after, it took years but I realized she was just stringing me along and never really wanted to give me a chance like she had said, I have since found a girl who is much better, looks and personality wise who actually gave me the chance to be with her
I lost 2 good friends to toxic boyfriends. Their behaviour just got so toxic i couldn't be around them anymore. Friend 1: even before she met her toxic boyfriend she wasn't that amazing. If you didn't gove her attention 24/7 she would throw a fit saying you didn't care about her and would try to guilt trip you to give her attention. After she met her bf this behaviour got worse, so i just noped out. Friend 2: she was fine until she met her toxic bf, he made her believe we weren't real friends. Shit got real after me and other friends wished her happy birthday late (i was at a family event also we plammed a surprise for her). Her bf wrote my bff a long messege saying how all of us are shitty people and etc. After that a different friend had a fight with him and he harassed her, body and slut shamed her and tried to separate her from other friends. Our ex friends backed him up. We collectively decided to let her go since she's not worth it.
She was very manipulative. The icing on the cake.Wanted me to date someone she tried to set me up with. Went on one date and it didn't click. I started dating someone and my friend was so bent on breaking us up so I could date the girl she tried to set me up with. She trash talked about my girlfriend when we would hang out and try to convince me that she wasn't good enough. We were on a phone plan together and she would track me when I went out. I cut ties with her and changed my number. Friend called my gf saying it was an emergency. Those calls never are. I ended up marrying my girlfriend and still married to this day. I have not heard from my "friend" in 5 years and my mental health is all the better for it.
My ex-best friend got into streaming and decided to ghost me and our whole group friends. What really killed me was when I saw the tittle of his stream and said “playing with great friends” and it felt like he replaced his whole friends with people he has never met IRL. He currently spent $1.5k on a vtuber model and expects to get more viewers with that… He barely makes 5 views on every stream…
@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5 Lol what? So which male Vtubers are as successful as the fee mails?? There isn't one out there lmao. I'm guessing you're the friend he was talking about🤣
@@bwestacado9643 Lmao you sound salty af But mmkay pal whatever you say. Talking to you is a waste of time so keep crying buddy, I ain't losing much more of my time with the likes of you ❤
She was my best friend since we were toddlers. One day she told me not to call her again, she didn't want to be my friend any more. We were 10. She never told me the reason.
At the high school senior party she had one of her *new* friends inform me she didn't want to hang out with me anymore. I still have no idea why. Whatever problems she had with me, she never once talked to me about them the entire seven years we were friends. I should have seen it coming though since she had already "unfriended" me once befofe, at the end of eighth grade, because the boy she had a crush on didn't like me. She didn't talk to me all that summer, and then ninth grade starts and all of a sudden she's my friend again and acting like it never happened. Never should have let her get away with that. I knew it was wrong of her to treat me that way, but I was young and didn't recognize just how big of a red flag that was, plus I was just glad to have my best friend back. At least she had the guts to tell me herself the first time. Never got any explanation at all the second time. When I confronted her she just denied that she said anything like that, but then walked away and never talked to me again. Oh wait no that's not true, there was one other time, I ran into her one day a couple years later in community college, acting all friendly again. I wasn't falling for that shit twice, so I made vaguely friendly conversation for the sake of being polite and then excused myself because I was "late for class."
Ex-best friend decided to accuse my family over Facebook of exploiting me. I am a high-functioning person with special needs who is capable of considerable feats of physical labor. Namely, I manage to fill a designated area in my basement with firewood in about 2 hours. It is a pre-arranged agreement for room & board. This ex-friend couldn't seem to wrap his head around that. Given some of the toxic stuff he has said in the past, I had no qualms severing ties with this person. I pray he finds some common sense somewhere down the line, but either way, I have nothing to do with him any more.
There was a new girl at work and I was instantly attracted to her. My “friend” encouraged me to go and talk to her. After a few weeks I finally started talking to her over text and whatnot. As soon as he heard I was talking to her he did everything in his power to turn her interest to him and it worked. Thankfully neither of them work there anymore and I’ve surrounded myself with a bunch of new friends
I have COUNTLESS true examples of how my ex best friend fucked up our friendship, but to keep it short, she would constantly talk shit behind my back and tell all my personal secrets that I told her specifically NOT to tell anyone, yet I kept all of her secrets and never talked bad about her. Even when she cheated on her boyfriend like three or four times with a different guy each time (some of them were significantly older and this was in high school, she’d meet the guys on Facebook and sneak out of her parents house at night to hook up with them) and I kept my mouth shut, yet I told her about a very traumatic personal thing that happened to me and asked her to keep it between us, and the next thing I knew people were coming up to me at school (including the boy she cheated on, which I knew of at the time and he still didn’t-looking back, I could’ve and SHOULD’VE told him bc honestly he was also a shitty person and was literally laughing at me for my situation that I only told my ex best friend) and asking about my private situation almost in a way like they were making fun of me. Also the guy she cheated on multiple times ended up forgiving her (he did find out eventually that she was cheating bc this girl could NOT keep her yap shut) and they dated for a year or so, and she would NOT stop bragging about how I used to have a crush on him a year prior and now she was the one dating him. Also she would constantly say stuff like “omg I have a thigh gap” “my arms and legs are like twigs” “my stomach is so flat” KNOWING we BOTH had struggles with body image and eating disorders. She would constantly criticize and judge every little thing I did, but she always acted like she was perfect and never did anything wrong. She was also the type of person to brag about the good things that would happen to her, yet she’d always complain and try to get sympathy from everyone because she “struggled so bad” even if she’d just finished boasting about the hot guy she’d just hooked up with or the multiple, EXPENSIVE christmas presents her family got her (yet she also claimed her family was poor even though they had a very nice house and like seven horses, and she always had nice things and good clothes). Overall, she was a nasty, hideous person inside and out and I wish to never be cursed with the misfortune of seeing her ever again.
Sorry this was so long, I’m sure nobody is even going to see this but it honestly still hurts because I was so supportive of her and always tried my best to be a good friend to her. It just feels nice to vent.
7:53 This is exactly how a friendship of six years between me and this guy ended. So ninth grade I went to a new high school and while waiting for the building with my class in it to open, I saw this guy walking and he looked just mentally and physically sad and I wanted to go over and talk to him but my gut feeling was screaming at me and saying no don’t. Well I ignored it and made friends with him anyway and I wish I should’ve listened to my gut feeling but there’s also the saying (that you go through what you go through in life in order to get where you currently are) pretty much there will always be hardships in life and even if those hardships or six year old friendships you have to move past. I did move past, the only reason I tried to help him was simply because I was once like him. I technically am still like him in a way, I have depression that every single year for three months out of the year and of those three months seven days of each month, I go in horrible depression slump, I won’t talk to anyone or if I do talk to anyone it would almost be as it’s not me talking and it’s not me controlling my body, it’s like my mind clicked auto pilot and that’s what’s happening. During these depression slump’s I will get thoughts of suicide. The reason the friendship is over, he used me and manipulated me for six years, but the sad part, I realized what he was doing with the first year and I really thought that I could change him and help him but as my sister said (( you can’t help the helpless you can only help the hopeless )) and she was right. Over $6000 I wasted because I was trying to help him.
There was four of us, he once said “homosexuality is a sickness” He was raised in Ukraine so we knew he was raised not right in some ways Three of us talked in private Now there is three of us
My friend was a bit of a bully when we were younger, didn't see eachother for years until by coincidence met. She seemed like she had changed so I decided to try and mend our friendship, even befriended one of her friends. Then she started to be crazy, she would grab random things from me and make me chase her for it, I thought it was all fun and games. She grabbed my notebook one time which had some personal things in it, and in an attempt to get it back I accidentally bent it all up. I ignored her for a few minutes before she finally was able to apologize to me, so I thought she wouldn't do it again. She didn't do it again, but she started hanging out with other friends and we hardly talk to each other anymore. So, I said I befriended one of her friends. I did and as it turned out my sorta-friend stopped hanging out with her. And now she's my best friend!
He kept telling me that depression was a choice. I'm have sever depression and was suicidal at the time so he sure as hell wast helping. I also HATE having my hands being touched but he would ignore that and keep touching them and just saying that's just how he is. Gross.
I've talked about this before but, here's the story: I let go of my old friend group when I switched schools and cut all contact off with them due to them not caring and treating me like utter garbage for years: we had known each other from elementary school to highschool. The worst friends in this ex-friend group revolved around three to four people; the rest of them were okay but they were still jerks for the most part. For the sake of the story, we'll just call them ex-friend 1, 2,3, and 4; and this is the reason these people are the worst. Ex-freind 1 and I were good friends at one point but, she started to become massively immature and started dating ex- friend 4 and started to hang out with friend 2 way more than she should have. When we were in freshmen year, she had the maturity of a kid that should have been in early middleschool and started being a jerk. She started manipulating my feelings when I said I need time away from the whole toxic friendship/ group and kept sending me in the run around for her birthday by having me ask friend 3, who she claimed was her sister even though they were not. Friend 1 basically pulled a pity party every second and I eventually just didn't give a crap and blew up at her because we all have problems and to stop seeking pity from people. In all friend 1 cut me off as well as the rest of thr group when I said I was leaving the school at the end of the year and got ignored the entire time so, I ended up sitting in the hallway on the outside of the class we had next after I ate lunch cause I'd rather be alone than be ignored. Ex friend 2 is a simular story but, she got really perverted reaaaallly quickly and she was banned from my house from her inappropriate mouth and topics she would bring up. Freind 2 had friend 1 under her wing and they were glued to each other until freind 2 left. The only reason I hated friend 2 was because they punched me in the stomach, bad mouthed me all the time and made me feel inadequate all the time because they thought they were smarter than me and that they were correct. I also almost got hit by a car at friend 2's house while crossing the street so, yeah I was never allowed at her place since her mom wasn't watching us and was a sleep the entire time this happened. Friend 3 was a compulsive liar and I just never liked her because I didn't know what she said was true or not all the time, so I basically never liked her from the start, nor did I like her freind that was a cleptominiac and stole my witch book and lied to my face about it. As for friend 4, they were friend 1's boyfriend for some time but he had dated one of the other girls in this friend group. He was a massive prick that hated feminists and was very sexist and messoginist. I hated this guy and would have gladly beat the crap out of him for being a human equivalent of a dumpster fire. In all, that is that, I have nothing nice to say about these people and I don't know or care about what happened to them when I left at the end of my freshmen year. It's been 5 to 6 years since I've seen these people and in all, I have been happier since leaving that school and that friend group behind.
A series of small things, blowing up into her and her nasty sister telling me everything that was wrong with me. Toxic, toxic people. Over 40 year old friendship, that should have ended a LOT sooner! Still friends with one of their siblings.
That first story really hit me deep because this exact same thing happened to me. the friend who put me down is probably talking shit about me and trying to make it seem like they were the victim...
11:22 - lol I wouldn’t under those circumstances. Unless an abusive lover or an illness/accident was involved, it would take me a long time to forgive someone who left me in the dark.
I tried to talk to her once about her bad behavior and was gaslighted with this story her mother told her, about getting what you want in life. It was MY fault for not being pushy enough. She threw a party during Covid shut down, I didn’t go. She texted me how disappointed in me she was, I texted back her story about getting what you want in life, and how I learned to do what I wanted. She never called me again. Which I fully anticipated. This is a 48 years friendship.
I recently just had to end a friendship because she would make everything about herself and would have a giant meltdown if anything went wrong and faked disabilities including the one I have (tourette's)
I feel like I’m in the middle of this situation right now. I’ve had a close friend for about 15 years. He came from a well to do family and I didn’t. For the bulk of our friendship he was in a better position than I was. Over the last 3 years my career has taken off as well as my income. It really changed the dynamic of our friendship. I’m quite introspective and I don’t feel that I e changed as a person. Just now I can do things that I’ve always dreamed about. Keep in mind I work 60-70hrs a week to accomplish these things. Is my friend genuinely happy for me like I thought he would be? No. I sense a large amount of jealousy from him. He just acts like these accomplishments aren’t even a thing. It hurts me. I’ve been very generous to him and his family even when I couldn’t afford to be. Of all the people I expected to be happy for me... I really started to look into it after the 4th of July. He has a little party and I usually bring fireworks. Well this year I stepped it up to a $9000 show. He sat in the house and played video games while I spent hours setting up the show. Then it turns out after the show people were giving him money toward the firework show. Few hundred bucks. He never said a word about it to me. Heard it from other friends who were there. I feel like the not helping was a passive aggressive display of his jealousy. The money thing I have no clue. Money is tight for him so I wouldn’t told him to keep it anyway for “party supplies”. I turned a bunch of sweat and $9k into smoke that night. A few hundred bucks wasn’t my concern. The dishonestly is much more hurtful. I started to distance myself at that point and focused more on work. He’s been calling me in the mornings lately to “keep himself awake on the way to work”. Dude works 40hrs a week and acts like he’s running on the ragged edge. I was kinda letting it all go and thinking we could build something back up but the other day he actually verbalized to me that he is jealous of his stepson for working and having el”all this money to spend”. This is a man that lived with his mon until 30 spending every penny he made plus some on fun. That was a last straw moment I think. If you are jealous of your own son imagine the venom he has inside of him toward me. If it were just him I’d wash my hands of him. Trouble is his family. His wife and her 2 sons are wonderful people and are genuinely happy for me. The 2 boys look up to me a whole lot. How do I deal with that? Do I have to wash my hands of all of them?
An ex friend had a total meltdown when he lied to his manager about his grandmother being in the hospital then posted on Facebook about game night, forgetting that his manager is on his friends list. I haven't spoken to him since I read him the riot act and told him how this was his problem, not mine.
She tried to turn all our mutual friends against me when I was in the hospital fighting cancer last year after I told her to stop sending flying monkeys after who she had called her lifelong best friend when she and her friend got into a fight regarding her abusive boyfriend. Thankfully, her "best friend" ignored the ultimatum of "me or her" and we're still the best of friends and planning on meeting up in the New Year when she comes to school near where I live. God I love her. Last I heard, the friend that started the drama has some CPS issues because of reports she was beating and neglecting her son. Poor kid.
When she turned the group into a mini cult, told me to not hang out with her sister, I hanged out with her sister. I got kicked of the group n tried to get my bf against me. The rest of the group doesn't talk to me, they didn't bother for my side of the story. I feel like those people who leave moronism or scientology n now I'm a repressed person. That being said, I don't miss that toxic dynamic anymore.
I ruined my friendship with a friend because I got jealous over him having gotten laid, a girlfriend, and just overall being able to succeed in life. I hate myself every day for it and wish I could take it back but I don't know how I could ever salvage it now. I don't even think I deserve to. It's been 8 or so years now I think, and as a 33 year old virgin, I find it a just punishment for me to be this miserable for ruining a friendship with someone I've known since elementary school.
Friends for over a decade. Started to treat me more like a therapist. Would get mad and call me a liar when I told her I'd be there for her, that she was my best friend. Would guilt trip me when I wouldn't drop everything and drive up an hour in the middle of the night to see her. Would promise she'd get professional help but then would drop it a month later because she didnt think it was helping. Would text me while at work if she was making an attempt so I'd have to go out of the room, frantically calling someone near her to go check on her. Got to the point just seeing her call would send me into tears, I just felt so guilty I wasn't able to help more. Ended up blocking her on everything. Started texting family to see if they could talk me into being her friend again. Got to the point one family member started ignoring her after she too was yelled at for being a liar (over saying she wasnt really interested in a hobby anymore). She messaged another family recently asking the same thing. It's been 3 or 4 months prior to this that I had heard from her. When I saw her refer to me as most important, and only person, I knew she would just go back to relying on me solely again. For my own mental health, I can't do that.
I had a lot of "Friends" ghost me like that, until i realized that most just wanted something from of me and done. So I stoped caring about friendships and now I have no friends I'm not sad i just don't care anymore like relationships i don't care about them anymore i have stuff to do that is more important.
I was the horrible friend. I was forced to invite my racist judgemental grandmother to our grad ceremony and she said something along the lines of “I can’t believe a black woman would ever gain that much weight! You’d think her people wouldn’t be able to afford that much” I didn’t immediately strangle grandma to death and my friend cut ties with me
She told me if i didn’t forgive our other friend for something they did to me, then I’m replaceable and not worth it. Funny part was i had already forgiven the other friend and it had nothing to do with this girl. I was thinking about letting it go but then she started making fun of someone because of their cancer. That was actually the deal breaker on many years of friendship
One of my former best friends kept on being creepy to one of my other best friends for months. We decided to confront him aabout it but he ignored what we said and walked away. I messaged him called him lame. He called me weird and told me to grow up and its not highschool. He tried to flip it on us and make us look bad. I kept on anatognizing him but his tone kept on getting angrier so my best friend told me to stop. I removed all traces of him form my socials and now he just stares at me in the hallways when he sees me.
Had a best friend from age 10 to 20/21 (I’m 26 now). We stopped tlkn for petty reasons a couple times during high school but always bounced back. Then we didn’t talk just bcs of college/being busy. When we linked back up she told me her bf at the time (that I also knew from HS) said he came to my house at some point during their relationship (while her and I werent really tlkn like that) and I tried coming on to him. Mind you, he’s never stepped foot in my house and if she knew me she’d know I have NEVER rolled that way. But she didn’t even ask me about it. Just believed it. That pissed me off. So I was super good on her after that. Come to find out he was just tryna find ways to rid all her friends. She’s a toxic chick anyway. No loss for me.
My friend just stopped talking to me in February, 2021. No explanation. We were close and used to talk about anything and everything, so this is still a shock. We were friends for literal decades. It still hurts not knowing what happened and wondering if she's ok.
She had a fucking kid, now I don't exist, as in she literally won't acknowledge my existence unless we're alone, which doesn't happen because on the rare chances we do hang out, she invites other people
She was mad that I asked her to cover the cost to clean my car from her sons milk that exploded in my backseat during the first hot week of summer. I’m a home body so I only found out it was back there after a week of it sitting in my black car with tinted windows cause I went to move my car for street cleaning. Almost threw up from how bad it smelt.
My sister lost her baby when she was 5 months pregnant and my so called friend said i was using my sisters pain to get attention all i told her was my sister lost the baby and the thing that makes me angry is that i had to sit and listen to all the messed up stuff her dad did when he had an affair
Had another friend, she’s a stud les. Been my DAWG, my right hand since 7th grade. Together literallllly every single day. After around the first year of college, she just cut me off all her socials, etc. No idea why at all. I think about her at times but I don’t consider these typa ppl a loss bcs if we were friends you should’ve communicated w/ me if there were an issue. But maybe she just didn’t wanna be my friend anymore, oh well.
I ruined our 10 years friendship because my mom heard that I am in love with him and she doesn't want him for me. She told me that I should stop talking to him so I did. It's been 6 years and I'm still in love with him, I want to tell him that I'm sorry for not being there for him and for leaving him behind but I really want to at least fix what I broke. Sometimes I cry at night because I felt bad because of what I did and because I miss him
I have two, actually. One decided that because she was two months older and a grade ahead, she was better and that I was "an innocent baby". It hurt, because she was my first friend I ever had. Not best friend, though she was, she was my literal first ever friend. Alex, goddamn it, if you want to avoid me then tell me you don't want to be friends anymore. It's been 2-3 years already. The other was verbally, emotionally, mentally, and occasionally physically abusive- not to mention she would often make fun and take advantage of my chronic illness. She had everyone wrapped around her finger, and I remember having near daily anxious breakdowns over whether I should be her friend or not. I was in 3rd, 4th grade. I told her to fck off one day, and we didn't talk for 4 years. She's kind of my friend now, we're somewhat close, but I still refuse to trust a word that comes out of her mouth. What's worse is that she's getting closer to another friend of mine, and is now taking them away from their and my friendship and has them wrapped around her finger as well. I'd tell them about her, but knowing her, they'd never believe me. I'd btch-slap her, but she knows various forms of martial arts. Maybe one day, I guess
Block them on everything. If you see them in person, look through them and then walk away. Do NOT interact with them. Just ignore them. If they surround you shove right through them. Don't acknowledge them. If anyone says that so and so says something, just look at them and say, I have NO IDEA who you are talking about. They don't exist for me anymore. They simply do not exist. Trust me cutting them out like that will do you much better than letting them continue to hurt you. No matter what they do refuse to acknowledge their existence. Trust me, it works. YOU are worth it and YOU are a better person than them. Stand up for yourself. YOU do NOT have to let people continue to hurt you. Believe in yourself. I know it is hard after the bs they did but you can do it. Cut them out of your life. They aren't worth it. HUGS and happiness to you.
one of my friends was both physically and mentally abusive and recently another friend stole a pen and 2 carts from me and 😒 Never had a good friendship.
I had a friend that just kept making excuses when I asked her to hang out. It was sus as hell because NOBODY works 100+ hours a week at a LAW FIRM that only sees one or two "big cases" a year. Blocked her number on fb and on my phone as she became a perpetual workaholic. Sad thing is, she's too career blind to realize she's been blocked for almost 6 months now. And im not the only one that has. And she's totally clueless
When i had to stay home during covid i realized that friends hitting other friends wasn't normal, and most people aren't actually afraid of their friends. Yeah
Had a super close friend in highschool that just ghosted me one day. Wouldn't answer my calls, respond to emails or messages, nothing. One time, her sister answered the house line (this was almost 20 years ago now) and I asked if my friend was around and she said she'd tell my friend I called. No one ever picked up my calls again. To this day i have absolutely no idea wtf I did to basically have the whole family write me off like that. It still really hurts and I still miss my friend and wish I knew what I did. I still have the last birthday gift I had gotten from her; a voucher for a girl's day out on her dime. Never did get that time with her. Pam, I know you'll never see this nothing comment on an old video but I still miss you and wish I could fix whatever I did.
Ex-friends group called me an incel behind my back for not being able to move on being cheated on by my ex gf, watched me spiral back into depression during covid, accused me of losing interest as soon as a girl was taken and of talking only with single women (in fact most of my best friends were women in relationships). What broke the camel's back was learning that 2 of the so called friends who were calling me creepy were actually r4pists. They still talk to each other nowadays. I don't.
She's currently doing it.. I called her a liar for making time for me because that's incredibly rare. And something she never did before, so she left. That was a week ago, she hasn't responded to my texts and ignoring my existence. I guess it's over ?
Then be happy about it. In fact, if it were me I'd make sure it was over with one last text. Goodbye would be all it said. Then block her everywhere and go live your life.
I was returning from a foregein country to mine, broke after a divorce. I asked for help to my friends, one of them promised me an old dirty stove, but hey, its better than no stove. When I went to his home to get it, he was in another house he have, so I made a comment to his father that I was there to get the "used stove". Result: His father scolded a adult man for giving out an used stove... he never spoke with me again
She turned against me in 7th grade after befriending a bad influence who was supposedly popular. As an "official" way to call it off, she began name-calling me "stalker" and run away from me with the bad influence. Of course I told my mom while it was happening, so she advised me to just stay away from her since she wasn't worth keeping. Over a decade later, my mom met her mom by complete chance during a hair appointment and told her my story of 7th grade. Her mom was shocked yet not surprised because she admitted that my fake friend became so obsessed with wanting the bad influence to like her by getting into trouble with frequent principal reports and failing grades. She almost didn't graduate middle school because of it, so the the parents enrolled to a rival high school to stay away from the bad influence.
He cheated on his wife with my gf and when I found out I gave him a opportunity to confess, he didn’t… he lied and said nothing was going on between them while also telling me that I should break up with her because my happiness was more important than the relationship, he knew I wasn’t happy in that relationship. And surprise surprise two weeks after he split with his wife and I broke it off with my gf they are dating each other…….. Honestly I was already going to break up with her a few days before I found out and if he would have came clean and told the truth I would have forgave him and said she is all yours because I’m a good friend like that. And after this I haven’t talked to him since!
I don't know if this exactly counts but she abandoned me for my bullies. It was just out of the blue, but during an art class in seventh or eighth grade, one of my bullies was doing the usual thing, teacher does nothing and even if she did, she'd side with them. My friend then proceeded to join in on the bullying. One of the things she said, that I can remember but don't remember what I said to invoke such a response, "spread your legs." I'm sure I said something about rumors and she shot back with that, but.. it hurt. It still hurts to this day. We ended up becoming friends again in tenth grade, then she disappeared off the face of planet Earth. I think she became home schooled, I'm not sure.
I was friends with Toney all through high school. After high school, I ran into her on my lunch break from work. She worked down the street so we agreed to meet for lunch. She brought her friend Kathy who sang all kinds of songs and asked her if she listened to it. Toney said no. Kathy told her that she should listen to it and not that white s***. I looked at Toney and she never said a word. We never ate lunch together or talked again except for a year later when I saw her at the train station and asked her if she felt that way. She said I knew better than that. I said "But you didn't say anything " She got on the train without saying a word. I never saw her again.
Had a friend who was pretty sweet to me and we used to play games together. Well it was a pretty lore/reading heavy game and I don't have the brain to read everything so I skipped stories which didn't interest me, which would lead to me only reading stuff with my favorite characters, they, however read EVERYTHING. And when I ended up reading stuff without my fave charas in, bc the story sounded interesting they'd jokingly say stuff like "Wow who are you? I don't know a Kai who reads stories hthat don't include their faves" I ignored it at first, even if I didn't like it bc it reminded me of bad stuff. Well one day there was a super interesting story with one of the charas I absolutely didn't like but I still read it bc it was interesting. Turns out the story had some themes that would trigger my friend so I went and warned them. They gave me the "wow who are you? why are you reading this??" again and I got slightly pissed at them and told them kindly to stop saying that to me bc it brings up bad memories and they just bitched at me and blamed me and made themself into the poor hurt one and made me apologize to them for hurting them. We haven't talked since. Although I miss them sometimes but I'm not about to come crawling back to them. But because of that I'm now afraid that others will react the same when I ask them to stop doing something that makes me uncomfortable...
-One constantly talked about what she wanted and wouldn't let you talk about your interests and would ignore your texts until she had something she wanted to text you about. Got sick of it. -A group of friends for years stopped inviting me to do anything and flaked on me when I invited them. Stopped contacting them because I was always the one initiating contact and, sure enough, never heard from them again. -Decided I was transphobic because I like free speech and Harry Potter (I, and JK, certainly know more about gender dysphoria than her. I experienced it as a child). I am a very bitter, untrusting person now.
My friend stopped talking me after she said she could no longer be around me if I could not picture in the future being married and having kids with her...
It was me. I was going through a dark time (not that that excuses what I did) and thought he was no longer my friend when he unfollowed me one day (he was an Internet friend). I didn't publicly badmouth him (I wasn't and still am not that type of person), I just stopped talking to him and unfollowed him back. Looking back on it, I realize I didn't know the whole story, and there could have been something going on that I wasn't aware of that made him unfollow me. Is it all petty? Yes. Yes it was. Tl;dr, I jumped to conclusions just cause an Internet friend unfollowed me and stopped talking to him. EDIT: The story at 10:54 is actually remotely close to mine, just minus the blocking and the other details I mentioned above.
I've never had a best friend, male or female. I suppose this stuff is why I've decided to stay single forever. Better to deal with my own crap then get emotionally torn apart.
When she asked me to stop liking her Tik Tok videos because I was causing shadow banning. I wasn’t on Tik Tok that often and when I was, I liked all her videos at once to make up for it. I didn’t know I was causing harm. But I was upset she cared more about her numbers than my support.
STORY TIME (Sorry for the long post): I had my feature film debut and not only did he (my best friend) not come, he didn't even acknowledge it or say anything, not even a "I'm happy for you". I texted him a week later asking if he was happy for me and he said yes (Not knowing what I was even talking about) and I literally had to tell him about it...and he didn't say much and we never got together to talk or anything when I really wanted to celebrate with him. I cut him off then. I was there for his wedding as his best man, there for his career, and gave up an entire summer for him when he had a break up, given him money, etc. All things he would NEVER do for me. -_- I mean, I kinda knew he wouldn't do THAT much for me (cause honestly he never had...or done ANYTHING for me) but he could have at least acknowledged me and what was happening (which is apparently too much to ask for)...but no. So I had it. I had confronted this problem several times over the last decade and it always came back to becoming friends again (and it had to be back to friends immediately and trust him 100% for him otherwise I'd never hear the end of his guilting me till I finally fully took him back) and the hurtful situation would inevitably happen again. I did eventually tell him why I broke away from him by messenger, and I did it in the kindest and most civil way possible with no anger or anything. And...get this...his response showed he wasn't broken up by it or that he took it seriously as he said "Oh, I'm proud of you" and talked about "his being loyal always to me" as if he didn't even read what problems I brought up to him, and I got a wave of "likes" on everything about my stuff then and there (eyes roll, oh sure, NOW you notice and act like this so that to others it looks like you're loyal to me). He didn't even apologize or make any reference that he would change either. Whatever, I didn't friend him back or anything and thought he would get the point. ...he didn't. (He still thinks we're best friends at this time) So a couple months go by and he commented on one of my social media posts how I am a star in his book and that just made me angry. Yup, THAT did it. I privately responded to him (Again, not name calling or anything, but a lot more firm and clearly annoyed) that I didn't see how that was possible after everything I had already said to him, after not even being there this whole time I needed him and wanted him to be a part of my life too. I told him that this had nothing to do with my acting career and had everything to do with how important we are to each other, cause clearly I'm not important to him, and I straight up told him that I didn't think he took what I said to him seriously and to back off and leave me alone and that all his words are empty to me. Side note: This whole time I didn't hate him or wish him bad or anything. He later tried to "apologize" and I told him I wasn't ready to accept it and that I will later but I needed space. He went BALLISTIC! He said he did nothing wrong (so why did he apologize then?) AND accused me of wanting a romantic relationship with him (WHOA! He knew I was gay and used that as a weapon), AND that being with me meant that that was "neglecting his family" like WTF! XD He said to me too that maybe people were right about me after all in saying I'm in a fantasy world. Low blow, but that's rich coming from him cause at least I'm actually acting in movies that are being shown and getting bigger and bigger and have more friends in my life now who think nothing like the people he's talking about vs him who wants to be a pastor and ministry and is lazy and hasn't done ANYTHING to move forward in his direction for years cause his priorities aren't in order. He also "justified" his many times cancelling on me and said how I was a selfish immature adolescent, said things that he knew would have used to hit my "insecure nerve" (but he hasn't seen me grow the last few years to know that that doesn't work on me anymore, lol), name called and so on and so forth. I am certain my standing up for myself was a shock to him and he was angry he couldn't get what he wanted from me anymore. I can say with ease and confidence there is NO chance of us being friends after this. 8 months later he somehow found a way to get to me and "apologized" with "I MAY have said things in anger" or "I MIGHT have done things I shouldn't have" and a lot of "ifs" in there making it a not apology and he didn't even acknowledge why this was happening in the first place at all. And let's just say I could tell in his messages that he needed something from me...AGAIN. I pretty much told him to F off and haven't spoken to him since. He totally showed his true colors and did everything to make himself look good. I think finding new friends and working hard for my future opened my eyes to how I wanted to be treated and he couldn't accept that. He wants the me of 10 years ago. I've outgrown him and after what he said I don't ever want to see or talk to him again. He had 13 years to change...and he's just the same. I'm moving on and have other films coming up that I'm acting in and several other friends in my life who are supportive and loving who showed me what true friendship is like =) Life is good without this guy who used me for his own gain. Never again.
I didn't invite her to my wedding. I made a big mistake. What is worse than just having a friendship end is when it was one decision you made yourself. We've known each other since kindergarten, but we haven't talked much in the last 10 years.
Had a friend I’d known for years we ended up at different schools but bumped into each other often enough out of school Randomly one day he’s evasive trying to pretend he doesn’t know me I call bull Then he explains to me that I am not cool enough for him to hang around Make it my absolute mission to be very not cool an make sure every one of his “cool friends” know I’m his friend Proceed to tell them as soon as he considers you not cool enough he will ditch you To be fair most of his friends thought he was being a jerk so I make my exit
She was always super needy but I always made an effort to be there for her. But then I was having a tough time and she kicked me while I was down. That was the end.
A high school friend punched me in the boob once, but that's because I scared the absolute daylights out of her. It hurt, but I couldn't stop laughing. She was playing the piano in our club teacher's classroom and I snuck up behind her. I believe I grabbed her shoulder and she just about jumped out her skin, whipped around, and punched. She was so mad at me but she started laughing after a little bit. She had to admit I got her good. She kinda fell off the surface of the Earth after graduation so I lost contact with her. None of our mutual friends have seen or spoken to her either so I don't know how she's doing. Wherever you are, if you see this, I hope you're happy and living your best life, Momo.👽 Hail the Irken Empire!
When I accidentally sent a Snapchat of self harm to her (instead of my support friend), she proceeded to tell me that she was only my friend cuz she had a crush on my brother, was trying to get close to him, and told me that I should kill myself. Luckily, my brother hated all of my friends.
Wanted to go clubbing with me. She knew I really wasn't the type. Still made me go. I did my best to go along with everything. It was very draining. After a few hours of this she goes outside for a smoke and takes ages to come back. When she did it was to tell me that clubbing with me is kinda boring her and she would rather hang with the people she met outside. Told her, yeah, I'm going home and don't bother to ever get in contact again.
16:13, I should think not, especially given the fact THAT HE LITERALLY SHOT YOU!
The second the story started about the girl getting drunk at 18, I knew it would end in rape. It ALWAYS ends in rape.
Yeah, I was just wrong as to who did it. I thought dad because he was allowing underage girls to drink in his home. Didn't see the bf coming
Realy f up I know
This is also why as a 24-year-old male and the first time I ever drank was at 18 but I was around people that were older than 21 and before that so I couldn’t do anything stupid, my mom took my car keys. AnyWho, this is why I do not go to any bars or go out partying or anything like that, yes I know majority of the time it’s guys that put things in girls drinks to knock them out but sometimes there’s girls that do it to guys.
@@guyjackson1839 true the girls get pregnant to force the guy in to merage or to pay alimony realy f up
@@chaosgamer016_5 yup, it seriously is messed up. That is probably the only reason why I won’t be having any kids, because certain girls are like this.
I wish my ex-friends had been more obvious like some of these stories. Manipulation and gaslighting is the worst. I thought I was being hypersensitive and reading too much into their subtle actions/words.
Not quite my friend, more like an acquaintance. We met when I was around 14 and he (A) was around 16. It was at a summer camp, we weren't especially close but we got along pretty well. The next year, I find out that he's dating another close friend of mine (B). Little weird, since A is 17 and B is 14, but sure. Later, B tells me that A has sexually assaulted him twice, but B loves A so much that he doesn't want to leave him. Turns out A had clearly been grooming B, but B couldn't see it no matter how much I begged him to open his eyes. A ended the relationship once he went to college, but kept texting and leading B on for months, probably keeping him on standby. B was heartbroken, and the flirty texting made it infinitely worse.
If I ever see that bastard again, he's going down. I'm 5'3 and he's like 6'5, so I'm definitely going to the hospital, but I could probably get a nice groin kick in before he sends me flying.
I was friends with someone for years and she was always a little bit selfish but it really got out of hand one day. She'd been asking me to hang out after work a lot so I could drive her home, which was fine, we were friends. One day she asked me to hang out, so I picked her up at work. She spent the entire time texting silently, and sat on her couch doing the same thing when we got to her place. After a while when I asked what was up, she said someone had invited her to go out dancing that night and she was making plans with them, she'd invite me but she "knew dancing wasn't really my thing." I realized she had been using me as a chauffeur and it felt truly awful. It took one ignored text for her to stop talking to me. One.
Lol free of gas
Tried to use my house to cheat on his girlfriend at the time with his ex, threatened to punch me for saying no.
His GF found out, stayed with him & all my ‘friends’ abandoned me. They kicked me out of our prom table so I went to my senior prom alone.
I’ve tolerated him since but am probably cutting him off once I go to college.
The worst kind of friends r the kind who abandon u at a social gathering for some dumb reason. 😒 what bs
11:00 hit me hard. My friend did that to me, and It's really messed me up. I at least managed to get a reason by someone else asking, and it was essentially 'you're always talking about this thing we mutually do and I feel like I can't have my own interests', even though I watched a whole tv series from start to finish, learned a bunch about the lore to understand it all, and made a three minute animation for them (While nothing like this was done regarding my personal interests)'.
It made me start to think everyone f*cking hates me when I talk and so I stopped doing a lot of hobbies that I adored because i thought people secretly hated me for it.
It's nearly been a year and I still have dreams where she unblocks me. I cry every time, I miss them so f*cking much.
It gets easier, though it took me three years to really move on, it’s still hard af some days
Awwwwwww❤ That's cruel.
Fuck them and go back to the hobbies you used to love. Make friends with ones who love the same hobby. You don't deserve to lose yourself because of an asshole user "friend". Make your life better just to spite them. It does work. You're happy and I can guarantee they aren't because all they think of is themselves. You can do it. Hugs to you and happiness.
She’s really not worth being sad about. Would you ever do that to someone?
@@VanityDivined i mean. I have i guess?
I have trouble with these ones because i had a friend in primary school. Very close, talked to her every day, told her everything. I never cared about who she hung out with because i wanted her to be happy and have friends (i didn't have many).
And then she told absolutely everything i confided in her to the kids who bullied me (threw stuff at me and called me names and insulted me and my family). Gave them all the ammunition to hurt me. She had snooped through my room to try and learn more from anything i wrote down. I had brushed that off at the time but now i know she was purposefully looking for a diary or something. She got her popularity by feeding others information on me.
I confronted her and she genuinely thought she'd done nothing wrong. That i "wouldn't mind" i told her i did care, she shrugged it off. I was livid, i stopped talking to her. That rage went on for years.
She had a habit of continually stabbing friends in the back still growing up. I don't know how she justified it to herself. I refused to attend any of her parties. I wouldn't look at her or respond back. If she and someone else talked to me i would talk to them. My revenge was to remember all the ways she screwed over her friends and to list them to anyone who asked why i hated her so much. And i had a very deep hatred (i don't anger easily but get me there and i can hold a grudge like no one else).
At least 5 years later i left that town and she came up to be in highschool and went "we are still friends right?". And i just... couldnt. I had not talked to her in years, i had told her i didn't want to see her again, my hate had never been hidden. She couldn't not know how much she had hurt me after watching me have to fight against my bullies and her friends. I laughed and said "sure" sarcastically.
But she couldn't understand sarcasm. Hell she couldn't understand why i would be angry or that i was still angry. She genuinely believed we were still friends after everything (she had even screwed over some of my newer friends a year before this).
She thinks that i just stopped talking to her for no reason after i moved. No amount of explaining other than a direct "you're a complete b**ch and we aren't friends" would work to get it through to her. And even then I've seen her brush that off as something people will "get over". It's been over another decade now. I hope she's changed, but I'm not going to reach out to her and find out.
Tldr: sometimes people think theyve been ghosted but they just didn't think something was as big a deal as it was to the other.
My advice to anyone that has been ghosted is to work on yourself and the areas you think you could improve. If it's you that made a mistake you'll improve and maybe they'll come back and you can decided if you want to fix a friendship that was bad enough to split itself apart. If it's them just being an asshole, well the trash took itself out and you'll find others who hopefully aren't like that.
My friend was super toxic, always insulting me and even siding with my bullies that I was very annoying. She even told me once that she didn't know why she was friends with me. If we ever had a disagreement, she wouldn't talk to me for a whole day. The other girls in our friend group never did anything about it. She became a better friend but because of all the toxicity, I always felt anxious talking to her and making her mad. The second I got the opportunity, I cut all contact with her and the girls in our group.
I was friends with an absolute dumpsterfire of a woman, she burned my nerves completely off in a single year of knowing her. Just thinhking about this person makes me want to scream.
- she had a habit of being involved with abusive and manipulative men, would always go back to them and then cry to me how theyre horrible, she once invited me over while her man was there and I didnt friggin know, I didnt want to meet him because she hadnt told anything positive about him
- she has a teen girl, and constantly put her in awkward situations with the men in her life and she would just pour everything on her like she did to me, no filter. Stories of childhood traumas, r*pe she went through, how she had babytrapped her ex at 18yo, what her men did to her, how she didnt want to be a mother.... Just way WAY too much details
- she could not hold her liquor, get very handsy touchy and get blackout drunk while her kid was coming over in a couple of hours (again I didnt know the kid was coming over no way I wouldve been drinking with her in that case ffs)
- she would steal from her workplace and didnt think it was wrong at all because her coworkers did it too
- I couldnt really set boundaries with her because everytime I did she would agree but in a few weeks be back to her no filter nonsense
- she would always try to get me to tell just absolutely everything about every traumatic thing Ive been through, and I was NOT up for that. And this would happen over and over again, even if she had heard story x already
- she asked me to babysit once, while spending time with the kid it was painfully obvious just how distressed she was with her life. (her dad wasnt a daddy of the year either) kid was happy I thought her some basic cooking because neither of her parents would
- At one point she tried calling me mom??? wut. um no. not gonna happen. I very much have just repressed this whole thing and just remembered it while writing this... ew.
One day I just snapped at her and told her I dont want to be her therapist, get your shit together. Youre a shitty mom, do better. Im not gonna pat you on your head and say oh poor you when you once again have lit your life on fire.
Why it took a year to cut contact? All of those awful things Ive listed were kind of trickled to me, loking back she was definetly slowly pushing me and my limits with her. I dont think she even understood how awful she was acting not only towards me but to her daughter aswell. I really hope that kid is doing well
my ex-best friend ruined the friendship after a night i really needed her. Brother threatened me with a knife and didnt feel safe in my own house, tried to go over to her house but her cousin was over and apparently i couldnt come over? They were just playing video games and not doing anything really. Was so confused on how her priorities worked, haven't spoken to her in years.
Mine's actually relatively recent. We were having a minor disagreement in his Discord server, nothing us adults couldn't handle in a civilized manner. He told me to shut up. So I did; haven't spoke to him since.
There's also another one that's since mended: My neighbor who was my best friend wanted a decorative sword, but his mom wouldn't let him buy it. He was in junior high, I was already graduated. He provided the money for it, so I bought him the sword, making it *very clear* it's not a toy and should only be for display purposes. Dumb fuck took it to school the day after he got it and got himself expelled, nearly got me thrown in prison, which thankfully I managed to avoid by buying said sword back from his mother; he paid cash which I kept held back. It took ten years for me to even talk to him again, but even then it's not exactly common that we do, either.
This is a novel but here it goes.
- She used to be a big feminist who believe in equality for women and refused to shave her legs. Was very politically active and we often engaged in political activism together.
- She met this guy and started to change.
- He would be very controlling toward her. He’d tell her what to do, where to be, who she could talk to, and one time she straight up didn’t hang out with me cause he boyfriend didn’t wanna go anywhere.
- She converted to Christianity when she met him and became basically submissive to him.
- When the 2020 election happened she refused to talk about it with me. I snapped and told her the way she changed disgusted me and she’s become a different person and not the person I remember.
- Her boyfriend messaged me the next day telling me “don’t treat my girl like shit and blah blah blah.” I responded with “says the guy who controls her, tells her what to do, where to be, who to talk to, and controls when she goes in and out of the house.”
- The next day he came to my house with a gun and started banging on the door. I hid under my bed with a knife and a bat till the cops came.
- He was arrested and went to jail. I confronted her about this guy. I told her “you know how this man is. You saw what he did to me as your friend since high school. Are you seriously going to choose to stay with this guy who would threaten your best friend since high school’s life?”
- Her response broke my heart
“It’s a Christian relationship. The man is the man of the house and protect the wife and I am a submissive wife.”
I told her never to speak to me again and if her or her now fiancé ever even contacted me I would file a restraining order. They’re married now and one of my friends who ended up living down the street from her saw her with a black eye and bruises on her arm.
I hate this guy and what he did to my friend.
I guess any idiot can get an gun these days and you stay strong you did all you culd
That's the thing with political extemists: always jumping from one extreme to the other. So she went from Marxist Anarcho-Femenist to Alt-Right Trad-Wife basically overnight, and you're surprised by this?
I can't feel too sorry for your friend, except for the part where she was harmed. Being harmed like that has nothing to do with the religious and/o political leanings of those in the relationship.
@@charlee_hotel being a activist/feminist doesn't equal Marxism or anarchy
@@fangirl3086
It doesn’t have to, sure. I’m also involved in political activism but I’m part of the classical liberalism school of thought.
This person’s former former friend’s political leanings do fall in the far left anarchist position of Marxism and anarcho-feminism.
@@charlee_hotel exactly. the feminist girls today really aren’t very smart
This just happened to me strong friendship fell apart when I had a panic attack while anxiously waiting for her to show up to her own birthday at a place we couldn't book tables
Apparently me panicking after being left out in the cold for 50 minutes at the place where I had a traumatic experience at (I only went to make her happy with the promise of new memories) and us not being able to get into the restaurant because they were so late
That apparently was me making myself the center of attention and taking her birthday from her and apparently jokes at the table in attempt to save the day was personal attacks and that was worthy of being called a little shit in my ear when we were parting ways
And now she's calling me a bully for stating my mind over text and is now posting passive aggressive posts on Facebook and Snapchat
But during all this it's shown me that my friend who was with me that day is the bestest friend I could ever wish for and she's defending me throughout this ❤️
I am not good at reading people & tend to assume everyone has good intentions (can't figure out how to unprogram myself), so I've had a few doozies. One story: she called 911 and said I was beating my children & forcing them to eat poison. Why did she do it? Because I took her keys to keep her from drunk driving. At that point I would have given them back if there was a way to know for sure that no one else would get hurt. But I didn't, so I didn't. Waiting around for her to be sober enough to kick her out of my house was excruciating.
I was replaced.
We were friends since elementary school. But when we got into high school she found her clique. They were your stereotypical mean girls, who picked on others for the most miniscule thing.
I was invited to a Halloween party that one of the girls hosted, via my friend. I was ignored and pushed out of the house for the majority of the night. My friend didn't even come and check on me.
Foolishly I still clung onto hope that we were still friends.
It only really hammered home, when she ditched me at our highschool Grad Bash, at Universal Studios. She spent the day and night with her friends, and I was alone the whole time.
She rejected me when I told her I loved her then ghosted me over b.s soon after, it took years but I realized she was just stringing me along and never really wanted to give me a chance like she had said, I have since found a girl who is much better, looks and personality wise who actually gave me the chance to be with her
I lost 2 good friends to toxic boyfriends. Their behaviour just got so toxic i couldn't be around them anymore.
Friend 1: even before she met her toxic boyfriend she wasn't that amazing. If you didn't gove her attention 24/7 she would throw a fit saying you didn't care about her and would try to guilt trip you to give her attention. After she met her bf this behaviour got worse, so i just noped out.
Friend 2: she was fine until she met her toxic bf, he made her believe we weren't real friends. Shit got real after me and other friends wished her happy birthday late (i was at a family event also we plammed a surprise for her). Her bf wrote my bff a long messege saying how all of us are shitty people and etc. After that a different friend had a fight with him and he harassed her, body and slut shamed her and tried to separate her from other friends. Our ex friends backed him up. We collectively decided to let her go since she's not worth it.
I’m that friend, I was in love with her.
underrated
I’ve been in the same boat!
Dang, that's sad. I'm sorry 😞
@@nicholasw.3488 pppl poll l loop
@@bananapee86 por lo
She was very manipulative. The icing on the cake.Wanted me to date someone she tried to set me up with. Went on one date and it didn't click. I started dating someone and my friend was so bent on breaking us up so I could date the girl she tried to set me up with. She trash talked about my girlfriend when we would hang out and try to convince me that she wasn't good enough. We were on a phone plan together and she would track me when I went out. I cut ties with her and changed my number. Friend called my gf saying it was an emergency. Those calls never are. I ended up marrying my girlfriend and still married to this day. I have not heard from my "friend" in 5 years and my mental health is all the better for it.
My ex-best friend got into streaming and decided to ghost me and our whole group friends. What really killed me was when I saw the tittle of his stream and said “playing with great friends” and it felt like he replaced his whole friends with people he has never met IRL. He currently spent $1.5k on a vtuber model and expects to get more viewers with that… He barely makes 5 views on every stream…
Vtubing is only successful for hwymn. Testi carriers are largely ignored
@@bwestacado9643 Not really but whatever you say buddy.
@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5 Lol what? So which male Vtubers are as successful as the fee mails?? There isn't one out there lmao. I'm guessing you're the friend he was talking about🤣
@@bwestacado9643 Lmao you sound salty af
But mmkay pal whatever you say.
Talking to you is a waste of time so keep crying buddy, I ain't losing much more of my time with the likes of you ❤
@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5
That all you have? Childishness?
"If I knew where he lived, I would call CPS" I'm sorry but how haven't you come to the conclusion that you could still call CPS...?
These hurt so much, I hope that everyone in this video are doing better now💖
She was my best friend since we were toddlers.
One day she told me not to call her again, she didn't want to be my friend any more. We were 10. She never told me the reason.
At the high school senior party she had one of her *new* friends inform me she didn't want to hang out with me anymore. I still have no idea why. Whatever problems she had with me, she never once talked to me about them the entire seven years we were friends. I should have seen it coming though since she had already "unfriended" me once befofe, at the end of eighth grade, because the boy she had a crush on didn't like me. She didn't talk to me all that summer, and then ninth grade starts and all of a sudden she's my friend again and acting like it never happened. Never should have let her get away with that. I knew it was wrong of her to treat me that way, but I was young and didn't recognize just how big of a red flag that was, plus I was just glad to have my best friend back. At least she had the guts to tell me herself the first time. Never got any explanation at all the second time. When I confronted her she just denied that she said anything like that, but then walked away and never talked to me again.
Oh wait no that's not true, there was one other time, I ran into her one day a couple years later in community college, acting all friendly again. I wasn't falling for that shit twice, so I made vaguely friendly conversation for the sake of being polite and then excused myself because I was "late for class."
Ex-best friend decided to accuse my family over Facebook of exploiting me. I am a high-functioning person with special needs who is capable of considerable feats of physical labor. Namely, I manage to fill a designated area in my basement with firewood in about 2 hours. It is a pre-arranged agreement for room & board. This ex-friend couldn't seem to wrap his head around that. Given some of the toxic stuff he has said in the past, I had no qualms severing ties with this person. I pray he finds some common sense somewhere down the line, but either way, I have nothing to do with him any more.
There was a new girl at work and I was instantly attracted to her. My “friend” encouraged me to go and talk to her. After a few weeks I finally started talking to her over text and whatnot. As soon as he heard I was talking to her he did everything in his power to turn her interest to him and it worked. Thankfully neither of them work there anymore and I’ve surrounded myself with a bunch of new friends
I have COUNTLESS true examples of how my ex best friend fucked up our friendship, but to keep it short, she would constantly talk shit behind my back and tell all my personal secrets that I told her specifically NOT to tell anyone, yet I kept all of her secrets and never talked bad about her. Even when she cheated on her boyfriend like three or four times with a different guy each time (some of them were significantly older and this was in high school, she’d meet the guys on Facebook and sneak out of her parents house at night to hook up with them) and I kept my mouth shut, yet I told her about a very traumatic personal thing that happened to me and asked her to keep it between us, and the next thing I knew people were coming up to me at school (including the boy she cheated on, which I knew of at the time and he still didn’t-looking back, I could’ve and SHOULD’VE told him bc honestly he was also a shitty person and was literally laughing at me for my situation that I only told my ex best friend) and asking about my private situation almost in a way like they were making fun of me. Also the guy she cheated on multiple times ended up forgiving her (he did find out eventually that she was cheating bc this girl could NOT keep her yap shut) and they dated for a year or so, and she would NOT stop bragging about how I used to have a crush on him a year prior and now she was the one dating him. Also she would constantly say stuff like “omg I have a thigh gap” “my arms and legs are like twigs” “my stomach is so flat” KNOWING we BOTH had struggles with body image and eating disorders. She would constantly criticize and judge every little thing I did, but she always acted like she was perfect and never did anything wrong. She was also the type of person to brag about the good things that would happen to her, yet she’d always complain and try to get sympathy from everyone because she “struggled so bad” even if she’d just finished boasting about the hot guy she’d just hooked up with or the multiple, EXPENSIVE christmas presents her family got her (yet she also claimed her family was poor even though they had a very nice house and like seven horses, and she always had nice things and good clothes). Overall, she was a nasty, hideous person inside and out and I wish to never be cursed with the misfortune of seeing her ever again.
Sorry this was so long, I’m sure nobody is even going to see this but it honestly still hurts because I was so supportive of her and always tried my best to be a good friend to her. It just feels nice to vent.
7:53
This is exactly how a friendship of six years between me and this guy ended.
So ninth grade I went to a new high school and while waiting for the building with my class in it to open, I saw this guy walking and he looked just mentally and physically sad and I wanted to go over and talk to him but my gut feeling was screaming at me and saying no don’t. Well I ignored it and made friends with him anyway and I wish I should’ve listened to my gut feeling but there’s also the saying (that you go through what you go through in life in order to get where you currently are) pretty much there will always be hardships in life and even if those hardships or six year old friendships you have to move past. I did move past, the only reason I tried to help him was simply because I was once like him. I technically am still like him in a way, I have depression that every single year for three months out of the year and of those three months seven days of each month, I go in horrible depression slump, I won’t talk to anyone or if I do talk to anyone it would almost be as it’s not me talking and it’s not me controlling my body, it’s like my mind clicked auto pilot and that’s what’s happening. During these depression slump’s I will get thoughts of suicide.
The reason the friendship is over, he used me and manipulated me for six years, but the sad part, I realized what he was doing with the first year and I really thought that I could change him and help him but as my sister said (( you can’t help the helpless you can only help the hopeless )) and she was right. Over $6000 I wasted because I was trying to help him.
I hope you've learned two things: #1 always to listen to your intuition and heed it; #2 you can't change people.
There was four of us, he once said “homosexuality is a sickness”
He was raised in Ukraine so we knew he was raised not right in some ways
Three of us talked in private
Now there is three of us
My friend was a bit of a bully when we were younger, didn't see eachother for years until by coincidence met. She seemed like she had changed so I decided to try and mend our friendship, even befriended one of her friends. Then she started to be crazy, she would grab random things from me and make me chase her for it, I thought it was all fun and games. She grabbed my notebook one time which had some personal things in it, and in an attempt to get it back I accidentally bent it all up. I ignored her for a few minutes before she finally was able to apologize to me, so I thought she wouldn't do it again. She didn't do it again, but she started hanging out with other friends and we hardly talk to each other anymore.
So, I said I befriended one of her friends. I did and as it turned out my sorta-friend stopped hanging out with her.
And now she's my best friend!
He kept telling me that depression was a choice. I'm have sever depression and was suicidal at the time so he sure as hell wast helping. I also HATE having my hands being touched but he would ignore that and keep touching them and just saying that's just how he is. Gross.
I've talked about this before but, here's the story:
I let go of my old friend group when I switched schools and cut all contact off with them due to them not caring and treating me like utter garbage for years: we had known each other from elementary school to highschool. The worst friends in this ex-friend group revolved around three to four people; the rest of them were okay but they were still jerks for the most part. For the sake of the story, we'll just call them ex-friend 1, 2,3, and 4; and this is the reason these people are the worst.
Ex-freind 1 and I were good friends at one point but, she started to become massively immature and started dating ex- friend 4 and started to hang out with friend 2 way more than she should have. When we were in freshmen year, she had the maturity of a kid that should have been in early middleschool and started being a jerk. She started manipulating my feelings when I said I need time away from the whole toxic friendship/ group and kept sending me in the run around for her birthday by having me ask friend 3, who she claimed was her sister even though they were not. Friend 1 basically pulled a pity party every second and I eventually just didn't give a crap and blew up at her because we all have problems and to stop seeking pity from people. In all friend 1 cut me off as well as the rest of thr group when I said I was leaving the school at the end of the year and got ignored the entire time so, I ended up sitting in the hallway on the outside of the class we had next after I ate lunch cause I'd rather be alone than be ignored.
Ex friend 2 is a simular story but, she got really perverted reaaaallly quickly and she was banned from my house from her inappropriate mouth and topics she would bring up. Freind 2 had friend 1 under her wing and they were glued to each other until freind 2 left. The only reason I hated friend 2 was because they punched me in the stomach, bad mouthed me all the time and made me feel inadequate all the time because they thought they were smarter than me and that they were correct. I also almost got hit by a car at friend 2's house while crossing the street so, yeah I was never allowed at her place since her mom wasn't watching us and was a sleep the entire time this happened.
Friend 3 was a compulsive liar and I just never liked her because I didn't know what she said was true or not all the time, so I basically never liked her from the start, nor did I like her freind that was a cleptominiac and stole my witch book and lied to my face about it.
As for friend 4, they were friend 1's boyfriend for some time but he had dated one of the other girls in this friend group. He was a massive prick that hated feminists and was very sexist and messoginist. I hated this guy and would have gladly beat the crap out of him for being a human equivalent of a dumpster fire.
In all, that is that, I have nothing nice to say about these people and I don't know or care about what happened to them when I left at the end of my freshmen year. It's been 5 to 6 years since I've seen these people and in all, I have been happier since leaving that school and that friend group behind.
Good for you feals lot beter when you know some chains are broken
@@chaosgamer016_5 you are right, it is quite nice feeling a bit more free.
i don’t think they destroyed it, I think me being introverted and not speaking up for myself destroyed my trust and i withdrew it.
A series of small things, blowing up into her and her nasty sister telling me everything that was wrong with me.
Toxic, toxic people. Over 40 year old friendship, that should have ended a LOT sooner!
Still friends with one of their siblings.
That first story really hit me deep because this exact same thing happened to me. the friend who put me down is probably talking shit about me and trying to make it seem like they were the victim...
11:22 - lol I wouldn’t under those circumstances. Unless an abusive lover or an illness/accident was involved, it would take me a long time to forgive someone who left me in the dark.
I tried to talk to her once about her bad behavior and was gaslighted with this story her mother told her, about getting what you want in life. It was MY fault for not being pushy enough.
She threw a party during Covid shut down, I didn’t go. She texted me how disappointed in me she was, I texted back her story about getting what you want in life, and how I learned to do what I wanted.
She never called me again. Which I fully anticipated.
This is a 48 years friendship.
I recently just had to end a friendship because she would make everything about herself and would have a giant meltdown if anything went wrong and faked disabilities including the one I have (tourette's)
I feel like I’m in the middle of this situation right now. I’ve had a close friend for about 15 years. He came from a well to do family and I didn’t. For the bulk of our friendship he was in a better position than I was. Over the last 3 years my career has taken off as well as my income. It really changed the dynamic of our friendship. I’m quite introspective and I don’t feel that I e changed as a person. Just now I can do things that I’ve always dreamed about. Keep in mind I work 60-70hrs a week to accomplish these things. Is my friend genuinely happy for me like I thought he would be? No. I sense a large amount of jealousy from him. He just acts like these accomplishments aren’t even a thing. It hurts me. I’ve been very generous to him and his family even when I couldn’t afford to be. Of all the people I expected to be happy for me...
I really started to look into it after the 4th of July. He has a little party and I usually bring fireworks. Well this year I stepped it up to a $9000 show. He sat in the house and played video games while I spent hours setting up the show. Then it turns out after the show people were giving him money toward the firework show. Few hundred bucks. He never said a word about it to me. Heard it from other friends who were there. I feel like the not helping was a passive aggressive display of his jealousy. The money thing I have no clue. Money is tight for him so I wouldn’t told him to keep it anyway for “party supplies”. I turned a bunch of sweat and $9k into smoke that night. A few hundred bucks wasn’t my concern. The dishonestly is much more hurtful. I started to distance myself at that point and focused more on work. He’s been calling me in the mornings lately to “keep himself awake on the way to work”. Dude works 40hrs a week and acts like he’s running on the ragged edge.
I was kinda letting it all go and thinking we could build something back up but the other day he actually verbalized to me that he is jealous of his stepson for working and having el”all this money to spend”. This is a man that lived with his mon until 30 spending every penny he made plus some on fun. That was a last straw moment I think. If you are jealous of your own son imagine the venom he has inside of him toward me. If it were just him I’d wash my hands of him. Trouble is his family. His wife and her 2 sons are wonderful people and are genuinely happy for me. The 2 boys look up to me a whole lot. How do I deal with that? Do I have to wash my hands of all of them?
An ex friend had a total meltdown when he lied to his manager about his grandmother being in the hospital then posted on Facebook about game night, forgetting that his manager is on his friends list. I haven't spoken to him since I read him the riot act and told him how this was his problem, not mine.
She tried to turn all our mutual friends against me when I was in the hospital fighting cancer last year after I told her to stop sending flying monkeys after who she had called her lifelong best friend when she and her friend got into a fight regarding her abusive boyfriend. Thankfully, her "best friend" ignored the ultimatum of "me or her" and we're still the best of friends and planning on meeting up in the New Year when she comes to school near where I live. God I love her. Last I heard, the friend that started the drama has some CPS issues because of reports she was beating and neglecting her son. Poor kid.
When she turned the group into a mini cult, told me to not hang out with her sister, I hanged out with her sister. I got kicked of the group n tried to get my bf against me. The rest of the group doesn't talk to me, they didn't bother for my side of the story. I feel like those people who leave moronism or scientology n now I'm a repressed person. That being said, I don't miss that toxic dynamic anymore.
I ruined my friendship with a friend because I got jealous over him having gotten laid, a girlfriend, and just overall being able to succeed in life. I hate myself every day for it and wish I could take it back but I don't know how I could ever salvage it now. I don't even think I deserve to. It's been 8 or so years now I think, and as a 33 year old virgin, I find it a just punishment for me to be this miserable for ruining a friendship with someone I've known since elementary school.
Friends for over a decade. Started to treat me more like a therapist. Would get mad and call me a liar when I told her I'd be there for her, that she was my best friend. Would guilt trip me when I wouldn't drop everything and drive up an hour in the middle of the night to see her. Would promise she'd get professional help but then would drop it a month later because she didnt think it was helping. Would text me while at work if she was making an attempt so I'd have to go out of the room, frantically calling someone near her to go check on her. Got to the point just seeing her call would send me into tears, I just felt so guilty I wasn't able to help more. Ended up blocking her on everything. Started texting family to see if they could talk me into being her friend again. Got to the point one family member started ignoring her after she too was yelled at for being a liar (over saying she wasnt really interested in a hobby anymore). She messaged another family recently asking the same thing. It's been 3 or 4 months prior to this that I had heard from her. When I saw her refer to me as most important, and only person, I knew she would just go back to relying on me solely again. For my own mental health, I can't do that.
I had a lot of "Friends" ghost me like that, until i realized that most just wanted something from of me and done.
So I stoped caring about friendships and now I have no friends I'm not sad i just don't care anymore like relationships i don't care about them anymore i have stuff to do that is more important.
I was the horrible friend. I was forced to invite my racist judgemental grandmother to our grad ceremony and she said something along the lines of “I can’t believe a black woman would ever gain that much weight! You’d think her people wouldn’t be able to afford that much”
I didn’t immediately strangle grandma to death and my friend cut ties with me
She told me if i didn’t forgive our other friend for something they did to me, then I’m replaceable and not worth it. Funny part was i had already forgiven the other friend and it had nothing to do with this girl.
I was thinking about letting it go but then she started making fun of someone because of their cancer. That was actually the deal breaker on many years of friendship
One of my former best friends kept on being creepy to one of my other best friends for months. We decided to confront him aabout it but he ignored what we said and walked away. I messaged him called him lame. He called me weird and told me to grow up and its not highschool. He tried to flip it on us and make us look bad. I kept on anatognizing him but his tone kept on getting angrier so my best friend told me to stop. I removed all traces of him form my socials and now he just stares at me in the hallways when he sees me.
Friends are overrated.
Had a best friend from age 10 to 20/21 (I’m 26 now). We stopped tlkn for petty reasons a couple times during high school but always bounced back. Then we didn’t talk just bcs of college/being busy. When we linked back up she told me her bf at the time (that I also knew from HS) said he came to my house at some point during their relationship (while her and I werent really tlkn like that) and I tried coming on to him. Mind you, he’s never stepped foot in my house and if she knew me she’d know I have NEVER rolled that way. But she didn’t even ask me about it. Just believed it. That pissed me off. So I was super good on her after that. Come to find out he was just tryna find ways to rid all her friends. She’s a toxic chick anyway. No loss for me.
Why do I have a feeling that rekindling the relationship with the high school friend was just a ruse to get access to the OP's wife?
My friend just stopped talking to me in February, 2021. No explanation. We were close and used to talk about anything and everything, so this is still a shock. We were friends for literal decades. It still hurts not knowing what happened and wondering if she's ok.
A friendship that can cease was never really real.
He killed himself from the emotional and social abuse brought down by his parents
That is aweful 😭
All those nice rich friends and I don't have friends 😭😭😭😭
She had a fucking kid, now I don't exist, as in she literally won't acknowledge my existence unless we're alone, which doesn't happen because on the rare chances we do hang out, she invites other people
She was mad that I asked her to cover the cost to clean my car from her sons milk that exploded in my backseat during the first hot week of summer.
I’m a home body so I only found out it was back there after a week of it sitting in my black car with tinted windows cause I went to move my car for street cleaning. Almost threw up from how bad it smelt.
The best way to end friendship with me is to either ghost me or have a nasty fight with me
My sister lost her baby when she was 5 months pregnant and my so called friend said i was using my sisters pain to get attention all i told her was my sister lost the baby and the thing that makes me angry is that i had to sit and listen to all the messed up stuff her dad did when he had an affair
Had another friend, she’s a stud les. Been my DAWG, my right hand since 7th grade. Together literallllly every single day. After around the first year of college, she just cut me off all her socials, etc. No idea why at all. I think about her at times but I don’t consider these typa ppl a loss bcs if we were friends you should’ve communicated w/ me if there were an issue. But maybe she just didn’t wanna be my friend anymore, oh well.
The first story describes my exact situation with my ex best friend.
I ruined our 10 years friendship because my mom heard that I am in love with him and she doesn't want him for me. She told me that I should stop talking to him so I did.
It's been 6 years and I'm still in love with him, I want to tell him that I'm sorry for not being there for him and for leaving him behind but I really want to at least fix what I broke. Sometimes I cry at night because I felt bad because of what I did and because I miss him
Umm, it’s your life. Listening to your mother is foolish, unless there’s something wrong with him
@@VanityDivined Yes but I'm scared that she'll be mad at me. I'm scared of her
@@shinigami5716 are you able to go no contact with her?
@@bruvlord1133 I don't know... I still love my mom but I really hope that she would let me do what I want as long as I'm not doing something wrong
@@shinigami5716 You should try to contact him again
I have two, actually.
One decided that because she was two months older and a grade ahead, she was better and that I was "an innocent baby". It hurt, because she was my first friend I ever had. Not best friend, though she was, she was my literal first ever friend. Alex, goddamn it, if you want to avoid me then tell me you don't want to be friends anymore. It's been 2-3 years already.
The other was verbally, emotionally, mentally, and occasionally physically abusive- not to mention she would often make fun and take advantage of my chronic illness. She had everyone wrapped around her finger, and I remember having near daily anxious breakdowns over whether I should be her friend or not. I was in 3rd, 4th grade.
I told her to fck off one day, and we didn't talk for 4 years. She's kind of my friend now, we're somewhat close, but I still refuse to trust a word that comes out of her mouth. What's worse is that she's getting closer to another friend of mine, and is now taking them away from their and my friendship and has them wrapped around her finger as well. I'd tell them about her, but knowing her, they'd never believe me.
I'd btch-slap her, but she knows various forms of martial arts.
Maybe one day, I guess
5:24 Ok, that one is just upsetting.
My ex and her friends stabbed me in the back and only used me and caused me pain and keep reminding me of it casing me more and more pain
Block them on everything. If you see them in person, look through them and then walk away. Do NOT interact with them. Just ignore them. If they surround you shove right through them. Don't acknowledge them. If anyone says that so and so says something, just look at them and say, I have NO IDEA who you are talking about. They don't exist for me anymore. They simply do not exist. Trust me cutting them out like that will do you much better than letting them continue to hurt you. No matter what they do refuse to acknowledge their existence. Trust me, it works. YOU are worth it and YOU are a better person than them. Stand up for yourself. YOU do NOT have to let people continue to hurt you. Believe in yourself. I know it is hard after the bs they did but you can do it. Cut them out of your life. They aren't worth it. HUGS and happiness to you.
I started to realise how much he talked down to be when we were around out other friends and was always insulting me
one of my friends was both physically and mentally abusive and recently another friend stole a pen and 2 carts from me and 😒 Never had a good friendship.
@20:05 Ow. ow. ow ow. Okay internet, imna go outside and meditate now. damn that hurts too bad.
How is someone a bastard because their father died???? 🤡🤡🤡
I had a friend that just kept making excuses when I asked her to hang out. It was sus as hell because NOBODY works 100+ hours a week at a LAW FIRM that only sees one or two "big cases" a year. Blocked her number on fb and on my phone as she became a perpetual workaholic. Sad thing is, she's too career blind to realize she's been blocked for almost 6 months now. And im not the only one that has. And she's totally clueless
When i had to stay home during covid i realized that friends hitting other friends wasn't normal, and most people aren't actually afraid of their friends. Yeah
Had a super close friend in highschool that just ghosted me one day. Wouldn't answer my calls, respond to emails or messages, nothing. One time, her sister answered the house line (this was almost 20 years ago now) and I asked if my friend was around and she said she'd tell my friend I called. No one ever picked up my calls again. To this day i have absolutely no idea wtf I did to basically have the whole family write me off like that. It still really hurts and I still miss my friend and wish I knew what I did. I still have the last birthday gift I had gotten from her; a voucher for a girl's day out on her dime. Never did get that time with her. Pam, I know you'll never see this nothing comment on an old video but I still miss you and wish I could fix whatever I did.
Ex-friends group called me an incel behind my back for not being able to move on being cheated on by my ex gf, watched me spiral back into depression during covid, accused me of losing interest as soon as a girl was taken and of talking only with single women (in fact most of my best friends were women in relationships).
What broke the camel's back was learning that 2 of the so called friends who were calling me creepy were actually r4pists. They still talk to each other nowadays. I don't.
This thread reminds me that I’ve had terrible friends over the years hahaha
She's currently doing it..
I called her a liar for making time for me because that's incredibly rare. And something she never did before, so she left. That was a week ago, she hasn't responded to my texts and ignoring my existence. I guess it's over ?
Then be happy about it. In fact, if it were me I'd make sure it was over with one last text. Goodbye would be all it said. Then block her everywhere and go live your life.
I was returning from a foregein country to mine, broke after a divorce. I asked for help to my friends, one of them promised me an old dirty stove, but hey, its better than no stove. When I went to his home to get it, he was in another house he have, so I made a comment to his father that I was there to get the "used stove".
Result: His father scolded a adult man for giving out an used stove... he never spoke with me again
9:15
I dont blame em. Like we went through thick and thin and then got the nerve to abandon me for another plane of existence?
10:57
Me too. My friend ghosted me. I just hope she's doing all right.
She turned against me in 7th grade after befriending a bad influence who was supposedly popular. As an "official" way to call it off, she began name-calling me "stalker" and run away from me with the bad influence. Of course I told my mom while it was happening, so she advised me to just stay away from her since she wasn't worth keeping. Over a decade later, my mom met her mom by complete chance during a hair appointment and told her my story of 7th grade. Her mom was shocked yet not surprised because she admitted that my fake friend became so obsessed with wanting the bad influence to like her by getting into trouble with frequent principal reports and failing grades. She almost didn't graduate middle school because of it, so the the parents enrolled to a rival high school to stay away from the bad influence.
He cheated on his wife with my gf and when I found out I gave him a opportunity to confess, he didn’t… he lied and said nothing was going on between them while also telling me that I should break up with her because my happiness was more important than the relationship, he knew I wasn’t happy in that relationship. And surprise surprise two weeks after he split with his wife and I broke it off with my gf they are dating each other……..
Honestly I was already going to break up with her a few days before I found out and if he would have came clean and told the truth I would have forgave him and said she is all yours because I’m a good friend like that. And after this I haven’t talked to him since!
I don't know if this exactly counts but she abandoned me for my bullies.
It was just out of the blue, but during an art class in seventh or eighth grade, one of my bullies was doing the usual thing, teacher does nothing and even if she did, she'd side with them. My friend then proceeded to join in on the bullying. One of the things she said, that I can remember but don't remember what I said to invoke such a response, "spread your legs." I'm sure I said something about rumors and she shot back with that, but.. it hurt. It still hurts to this day.
We ended up becoming friends again in tenth grade, then she disappeared off the face of planet Earth. I think she became home schooled, I'm not sure.
I was friends with Toney all through high school. After high school, I ran into her on my lunch break from work. She worked down the street so we agreed to meet for lunch. She brought her friend Kathy who sang all kinds of songs and asked her if she listened to it. Toney said no. Kathy told her that she should listen to it and not that white s***. I looked at Toney and she never said a word. We never ate lunch together or talked again except for a year later when I saw her at the train station and asked her if she felt that way. She said I knew better than that. I said "But you didn't say anything " She got on the train without saying a word. I never saw her again.
Had a friend who was pretty sweet to me and we used to play games together. Well it was a pretty lore/reading heavy game and I don't have the brain to read everything so I skipped stories which didn't interest me, which would lead to me only reading stuff with my favorite characters, they, however read EVERYTHING. And when I ended up reading stuff without my fave charas in, bc the story sounded interesting they'd jokingly say stuff like "Wow who are you? I don't know a Kai who reads stories hthat don't include their faves" I ignored it at first, even if I didn't like it bc it reminded me of bad stuff. Well one day there was a super interesting story with one of the charas I absolutely didn't like but I still read it bc it was interesting. Turns out the story had some themes that would trigger my friend so I went and warned them. They gave me the "wow who are you? why are you reading this??" again and I got slightly pissed at them and told them kindly to stop saying that to me bc it brings up bad memories and they just bitched at me and blamed me and made themself into the poor hurt one and made me apologize to them for hurting them. We haven't talked since. Although I miss them sometimes but I'm not about to come crawling back to them. But because of that I'm now afraid that others will react the same when I ask them to stop doing something that makes me uncomfortable...
-One constantly talked about what she wanted and wouldn't let you talk about your interests and would ignore your texts until she had something she wanted to text you about. Got sick of it.
-A group of friends for years stopped inviting me to do anything and flaked on me when I invited them. Stopped contacting them because I was always the one initiating contact and, sure enough, never heard from them again.
-Decided I was transphobic because I like free speech and Harry Potter (I, and JK, certainly know more about gender dysphoria than her. I experienced it as a child).
I am a very bitter, untrusting person now.
My friend, Trinity. She ruined it, completely. Now, she's my girlfriend
My friend stopped talking me after she said she could no longer be around me if I could not picture in the future being married and having kids with her...
It was me. I was going through a dark time (not that that excuses what I did) and thought he was no longer my friend when he unfollowed me one day (he was an Internet friend). I didn't publicly badmouth him (I wasn't and still am not that type of person), I just stopped talking to him and unfollowed him back. Looking back on it, I realize I didn't know the whole story, and there could have been something going on that I wasn't aware of that made him unfollow me. Is it all petty? Yes. Yes it was.
Tl;dr, I jumped to conclusions just cause an Internet friend unfollowed me and stopped talking to him.
EDIT: The story at 10:54 is actually remotely close to mine, just minus the blocking and the other details I mentioned above.
I've never had a best friend, male or female. I suppose this stuff is why I've decided to stay single forever. Better to deal with my own crap then get emotionally torn apart.
9:15 i should NOT be laughing oh dear god
When she asked me to stop liking her Tik Tok videos because I was causing shadow banning. I wasn’t on Tik Tok that often and when I was, I liked all her videos at once to make up for it. I didn’t know I was causing harm. But I was upset she cared more about her numbers than my support.
I'm sorry but shadow banning isnt caused by spam likes- mabye its because her content was boring
They were obsessive over a guy that wasn’t even interested in them
STORY TIME (Sorry for the long post): I had my feature film debut and not only did he (my best friend) not come, he didn't even acknowledge it or say anything, not even a "I'm happy for you". I texted him a week later asking if he was happy for me and he said yes (Not knowing what I was even talking about) and I literally had to tell him about it...and he didn't say much and we never got together to talk or anything when I really wanted to celebrate with him.
I cut him off then. I was there for his wedding as his best man, there for his career, and gave up an entire summer for him when he had a break up, given him money, etc. All things he would NEVER do for me. -_- I mean, I kinda knew he wouldn't do THAT much for me (cause honestly he never had...or done ANYTHING for me) but he could have at least acknowledged me and what was happening (which is apparently too much to ask for)...but no. So I had it.
I had confronted this problem several times over the last decade and it always came back to becoming friends again (and it had to be back to friends immediately and trust him 100% for him otherwise I'd never hear the end of his guilting me till I finally fully took him back) and the hurtful situation would inevitably happen again.
I did eventually tell him why I broke away from him by messenger, and I did it in the kindest and most civil way possible with no anger or anything. And...get this...his response showed he wasn't broken up by it or that he took it seriously as he said "Oh, I'm proud of you" and talked about "his being loyal always to me" as if he didn't even read what problems I brought up to him, and I got a wave of "likes" on everything about my stuff then and there (eyes roll, oh sure, NOW you notice and act like this so that to others it looks like you're loyal to me). He didn't even apologize or make any reference that he would change either. Whatever, I didn't friend him back or anything and thought he would get the point. ...he didn't. (He still thinks we're best friends at this time)
So a couple months go by and he commented on one of my social media posts how I am a star in his book and that just made me angry. Yup, THAT did it.
I privately responded to him (Again, not name calling or anything, but a lot more firm and clearly annoyed) that I didn't see how that was possible after everything I had already said to him, after not even being there this whole time I needed him and wanted him to be a part of my life too. I told him that this had nothing to do with my acting career and had everything to do with how important we are to each other, cause clearly I'm not important to him, and I straight up told him that I didn't think he took what I said to him seriously and to back off and leave me alone and that all his words are empty to me.
Side note: This whole time I didn't hate him or wish him bad or anything.
He later tried to "apologize" and I told him I wasn't ready to accept it and that I will later but I needed space.
He went BALLISTIC! He said he did nothing wrong (so why did he apologize then?) AND accused me of wanting a romantic relationship with him (WHOA! He knew I was gay and used that as a weapon), AND that being with me meant that that was "neglecting his family" like WTF! XD He said to me too that maybe people were right about me after all in saying I'm in a fantasy world. Low blow, but that's rich coming from him cause at least I'm actually acting in movies that are being shown and getting bigger and bigger and have more friends in my life now who think nothing like the people he's talking about vs him who wants to be a pastor and ministry and is lazy and hasn't done ANYTHING to move forward in his direction for years cause his priorities aren't in order. He also "justified" his many times cancelling on me and said how I was a selfish immature adolescent, said things that he knew would have used to hit my "insecure nerve" (but he hasn't seen me grow the last few years to know that that doesn't work on me anymore, lol), name called and so on and so forth. I am certain my standing up for myself was a shock to him and he was angry he couldn't get what he wanted from me anymore. I can say with ease and confidence there is NO chance of us being friends after this.
8 months later he somehow found a way to get to me and "apologized" with "I MAY have said things in anger" or "I MIGHT have done things I shouldn't have" and a lot of "ifs" in there making it a not apology and he didn't even acknowledge why this was happening in the first place at all. And let's just say I could tell in his messages that he needed something from me...AGAIN. I pretty much told him to F off and haven't spoken to him since.
He totally showed his true colors and did everything to make himself look good. I think finding new friends and working hard for my future opened my eyes to how I wanted to be treated and he couldn't accept that. He wants the me of 10 years ago. I've outgrown him and after what he said I don't ever want to see or talk to him again. He had 13 years to change...and he's just the same.
I'm moving on and have other films coming up that I'm acting in and several other friends in my life who are supportive and loving who showed me what true friendship is like =) Life is good without this guy who used me for his own gain. Never again.
our friend confessed his love to my fiance, we tried to still be friends but acted like a clingy boyfriend.... haven't talked to him in 5 yrs.....
I didn't invite her to my wedding. I made a big mistake. What is worse than just having a friendship end is when it was one decision you made yourself.
We've known each other since kindergarten, but we haven't talked much in the last 10 years.
Why didn’t you invite her?
Had a friend I’d known for years we ended up at different schools but bumped into each other often enough out of school
Randomly one day he’s evasive trying to pretend he doesn’t know me I call bull
Then he explains to me that I am not cool enough for him to hang around
Make it my absolute mission to be very not cool an make sure every one of his “cool friends” know I’m his friend
Proceed to tell them as soon as he considers you not cool enough he will ditch you
To be fair most of his friends thought he was being a jerk so I make my exit
She was always super needy but I always made an effort to be there for her. But then I was having a tough time and she kicked me while I was down. That was the end.
I had a friend from we were 6 years old. All of a sudden he stop talking to me, it's been a year and I still wonder why he stopped talking to me
A high school friend punched me in the boob once, but that's because I scared the absolute daylights out of her. It hurt, but I couldn't stop laughing. She was playing the piano in our club teacher's classroom and I snuck up behind her. I believe I grabbed her shoulder and she just about jumped out her skin, whipped around, and punched. She was so mad at me but she started laughing after a little bit. She had to admit I got her good. She kinda fell off the surface of the Earth after graduation so I lost contact with her. None of our mutual friends have seen or spoken to her either so I don't know how she's doing. Wherever you are, if you see this, I hope you're happy and living your best life, Momo.👽 Hail the Irken Empire!
My friend ended the relation ship over minecraft. Im done with that kid