Okay, but the guy who mutually cut off the friend-turned-girlfriend and then used her words of how she never wanted to see him again against her is an ace. Good job!
No he’s a loser , when a girl says she never wants to see you again five minutes later she can be cuddling you again. He was stubborn and probably missed out on loads of memories just for taking a girls word at face value
My best friend and a couple of other friends were going to an event when the pandemic happened and it got cancelled. We all made a promise that when the crisis was over we’d try again together. Fast forward to a group of us hanging out when they start talking about said event and was clicking to me that they went and didn’t even tell me. I ask my best friend why I wasn’t made aware the plan was back on and already done she said they all assumed I wouldn’t have money or time to go. I accepted that but after a while it hurt then seeing the pictures of all of them so happy together knowing I was intentionally left behind. I didn’t make a fuss, I just fizzled out of their lives and got some new friends that genuinely care and want my presence. But the way how all those years just ended still stings
@ Throwaway account : Sorry ,to hear that😔a similar thing happened to me in '07 with my so called friends and a concert.Did not Tell me about it,went there without me and weeks after it, I was " allowed" to drink from their special concert cup😮 asked, if they had been there ? Yeeees🎉and it was so great! Asked, why I couldn't go with them ? False smiling ; " oh , we totally forgot!" Some people are simply mean and lie to your face 😡it's always better to leave them and look for real ones😉 Keep your head up high👍🏻 Many greetings from Germany ✌🏻😜
I don’t trust people who say “I’m not your therapist” during an argument because I had a “friend” who would trauma dump and “compete” with me whenever I had an issue that I need support on. What made me not want to be friends with her anymore was her taking my boyfriends number out of my phone and texting him explicit messages (my boyfriend showed me and we laughed at it. He didn’t like her because whenever she was at my house, he could see how she treated me and it made him mad). I texted her telling her that our friendship was over and she went off and one of the things she said was “I’m not your therapist” after explaining how it was toxic of me to ask for moral support when I was going through a tough time. I was in therapy at the time and just wanted someone to be there for me. So yeah, people throw that phrase around a lot these days. It’s infuriating.
The one at 13:15 hits hard. I have a friend I've had forever and me and my sibling are literally her only friends at this point, and I keep my distance because she's ALWAYS depressed. People act like that's mean of me but we always only talk about the same three things and they're draining and take it out of me.
First story: sometimes people get involved with sociopaths. They get alienated from their support network (via insidious means like manipulation, lies, or the sociopath causing the victim emotional drama "if you go out with them I'll be tragically upset") scenarios. Or the sociopathic partner will be so unpleasant no one wants to be around them, which includes the friend. It can be very subtle, like saying things such as; "you're so much better than friend is", so not everyone who suddenly drops a long term friendship is actually properly aware of why they are doing this. The sociopath consumes and begins to control the partner; and the fact that OP's friend so suddenly changed when engaged, means he is the pivotal cause. In a perfect world, friends would remain loyal, but some people can be more easily influenced in their thinking and emotional responses. Just be aware. Many parents will notice attitude changes of their teenage kids when friends' group dynamic includes a covert sociopath. Even work friends can seem to change their attitude without warning and for no real reason you can think of. Someone is sabotaging. Usually a sociopath.
Long long years ago, the years when only cellphones existed, but very close to the year where internet becomes a thing. I had 2 best friends who’s parents were friends of my parent. One day we went to the mall together, we had no issues, it was all fun and light heartedness, and that night, we were all starving, so we all went to look for somewhere to eat together, we asked each other if what foods we’re craving, but since we’re starving, we went to search for the most the least crowded restaurant around and it all went well as planned. While we were eating we showed each other what we bought from shopping and shared some story experiences outside from our friendships, such as school and other life events. So after that night, as I got home, I was full of energy and excitement telling every beautiful scenery of our malling experiences to my parent that in the end I even said I would love another trip with them next Saturday. Then unexpectedly, mom asked if why did they messaged her that I was so IMPATIENT when looking for a place to eat, they din’t know what to do to me. Which I don’t recall happening, I even told my mom, maybe she red their messages the wrong way, and then mom lets me read it, and mom turns out to be right…. I’ve never felt so betrayed. If they were real friends, they would’ve been smiling pretending everything was fine in front of my face and tell that to mom and they both know how she’ll react horribly. Since that, I decided to never speak to them again. Thankfully it worked for my favor, their family moved to a different country.
Well, I'm depressed. Perfect time to add my little story! My old best friend from high school and I were pretty tight from like 11th grade onwards. He was younger but graduated a year early, so we were both outta HS within a couple years after being friends. We played Halo 3 together and was my only close friend to spend the night where we just gamed and had a blast. I want everyone to have a friendship like we had. We went to the dollar store and bought cheap vuvuzelas just for the hell of it. We bought okd golf clubs and golfed snowballs in a field. He lent me his xbox 360 when I pulled a shoulder so I could enjoy Halo Reach for 3 days straight and he took a job with his dad out of town. We still played after I got my own Xbox 12 years ago. A few years into my work career we were talking less and less, I think it was his work? Been so long I dont remember. All I do remember was the last message we exchanged in 2015 (I think?) and exactly where I stood on that street corner, feeling that we were just done talking and that we might not talk again. He was my only true best friend as a young adult. Haven't had one since. All my "close" friends now are online, never met. I have acquaintances IRL that I might see once every week or two, but I'm never close to them or vice versa. Hope you're good, wherever you are, ray. You were a true Bro, one Barney Stinson would be proud of.
Story Time - I had my feature film debut and not only did he (my best friend) not come, he didn't even acknowledge it or say anything, not even a "I'm happy for you". I texted him a week later asking if he was happy for me and he said yes (Not knowing what I was even talking about) and I literally had to tell him about it...and he didn't say much and we never got together to talk or anything when I really wanted to celebrate with him. I cut him off then. I was there for his wedding as his best man, there for his career, and gave up an entire summer for him when he had a break up, given him money, etc. All things he would NEVER do for me. -_- I mean, I kinda knew he wouldn't do THAT much for me (cause honestly he never had...or done ANYTHING for me) but he could have at least acknowledged me and what was happening (which is apparently too much to ask for)...but no. So I had it. I had confronted this problem several times over the last decade and it always came back to becoming friends again (and it had to be back to friends immediately and trust him 100% for him otherwise I'd never hear the end of his guilting me till I finally fully took him back) and the hurtful situation would inevitably happen again. I did eventually tell him why I broke away from him by messenger, and I did it in the kindest and most civil way possible with no anger or anything. And...get this...his response showed he wasn't broken up by it or that he took it seriously as he said "Oh, I'm proud of you" and talked about "his being loyal always to me" as if he didn't even read what problems I brought up to him, and I got a wave of "likes" on everything about my stuff then and there (eyes roll, oh sure, NOW you notice and act like this so that to others it looks like you're loyal to me). He didn't even apologize or make any reference that he would change either. Whatever, I didn't friend him back or anything and thought he would get the point. ...he didn't. (He still thinks we're best friends at this time) So a couple months go by and he commented on one of my social media posts how I am a star in his book and that just made me angry. Yup, THAT did it. I privately responded to him (Again, not name calling or anything, but a lot more firm and clearly annoyed) that I didn't see how that was possible after everything I had already said to him, after not even being there this whole time I needed him and wanted him to be a part of my life too. I told him that this had nothing to do with my acting career and had everything to do with how important we are to each other, cause clearly I'm not to him, and I straight up told him that I didn't think he took what I said to him seriously and to back off and leave me alone and that all his words are empty to me. Side note: This whole time I didn't hate him or wish him bad or anything. A few weeks later he tried to "apologize" (very half hearted and a lot of "IF" I did something wrong type of stuff) and I told him I wasn't ready to accept it and that I will later but I needed space. He went BALLISTIC! He said he did nothing wrong (so why did he apologize then?) AND accused me of wanting a romantic relationship with him (WHOA!), AND that being with me meant that that was "neglecting his family" like WTF! XD He said to me too that maybe people were right about me after all in saying I'm in a fantasy world. Low blow, but that's rich coming from him cause at least I'm actually acting in movies that are being shown and getting bigger and bigger and have more friends in my life now who think nothing like the people he's talking about vs him who wants to be a pastor and ministry and is lazy and hasn't done ANYTHING to move forward in his direction for years cause his priorities aren't in order. He also "justified" his many times cancelling on me and said how I was a selfish immature adolescent, said things that he knew would have used to hit my "insecure nerve" (but he hasn't seen me grow the last few years to know that that doesn't work on me anymore, lol), name called and so on and so forth. I can say with ease and confidence there is NO chance of us being friends after this =) He totally showed his true colors and did everything to make himself look good. I think finding new friends and working hard for my future opened my eyes to how I wanted to be treated and he couldn't accept that. He wants the me of 10 years ago. I've outgrown him and after what he said I don't ever want to see or talk to him again. I did hope that he got the point then. Either that or he'll think what happened before will happen again: I get guilty and then I do all the apologizing and we become friends again (will full trust on HIM, not me, cause I'm the dumb immature one) and move on the way HE wants to go. Sorry dude, NOT this time. He had 13 years to change...and he's just the same. 8 months later he tried to message me through social media (I thought I blocked him) and he "apologized" but never specifically said why and minimized it a lot, and he definitely did not get the gravity of why I left. I think he was expecting me to have crawled back to him a long time ago and apologize to HIM. As if every word I said did not register to him. I basically told him to F off and that I would never speak to him again. I'm moving on and have other films coming up that I'm acting in and several other friends in my life who are supportive and loving who showed me what true friendship is like =) Life is good without this guy. Never again.
My best friend started dating the one person so I told him specifically it was a bad idea to get in a relationship with, and multiple other people told him the same thing, but it hurt extra, because we have known each other for more than a decade, we still talk all the time and stuff, and hang out just like normal, but I do still feel a little bit betrayed
Your best friend hasn't betrayed you, yet? Unless he deliberately leaves you out of gatherings, parties or events. It sounds more like you are covertly jealous that your friend has another person in their life. Time will tell if you're assessment of the new friend is correct, but in the meantime, keep positive in your dealings with your friend. Try not to burn that bridge. Sometimes our gut feeling about a new person is entirely correct, but it's up to your best friend to figure that out for themselves. If you are jealous, and trying to control another person's choices in life, you need to self reflect a bit more. Good luck.
This is for the giving friend..there is an old saying "if you are a giver make sure you set limits because takers don't have any..better luck to you ...because after dealing with a person like that it gets harder to trust anyone else 😕
Happened to a friend and I just recently. A person we were friends and working with on a project backstabbed us. Claiming we were against people on the autism spectrum. Which makes no sense because me and my friend are on the spectrum ourselves along with the rest of his animation team. So this former friend tried to take us down on social media but the attack flopped. The reason why she backstabbed us was because we had to kick her off a project. This was because she was not following the rules by spreading negativity by constantly spilling personal issues in her life to get us to feel bad for her; among other issues. And for bothering other team members by messaging them out of the blue on a repetitive cycle. So we had to fire her from our project. So in a fit of emotional rage and childish games. She made a few negative posts about us and got her pussy of a Boyfriend (who she had issues with) to hire a a "Karen" who was their friend to try and do a review bomb with the hopes of getting us cancelled. It failed. Although we didn't do a public statement since we felt this situation had a lifespan of a fly and that many people knew who we truly are. We knew right there and then to never work with her ever again and narcissists just like her. Before we fired her, the girl even went as far to change her own profile pictures on Discord and Facebook to reflect her mood. Which was a mechanic of her's to get us to feel bad for her. Feeling betrayed sucks because my friend and I helped her out at one time getting a microphone. But the time we did it and she got it. She shat on the gift saying it was terrible quality and she didn't appreciate what we did from our heart after we initially felt bad for her. That and we encouraged her to do better but she refused to do so and even at one point was trying to be too nice when we told her that her negativity was too much and made our team members feel uncomfortable. Which was a shame because my friend and I were giving her a second chance several times. But it all stopped once she slandered us recently. Lesson of the day: If you spot a narcissist who constantly thinks that her role is gonna change the world and that it is gonna be claim to fame. Do not work with them. I beg of you. Also, if you catch them trying to play games with your emotions. Please cut them out before it is too late. Do some research of them before you hire them. Because the moment you fire them, they will start to ruin your reputation. A narcissist is never a friend.
I had a stupid dude friend, who didn't like doing anything for any project or any other school work for that matter and a chick friend who joined last minute. They both chose to work together and excluded me on the science project for the 8th grade science fair. Their idea was a new brand of non-toxic glow in the dark make-up and mine was a type of multi flavored candy straws made of sugar cane to help with less plastic in the ozone layer. Guess who won? I even got 2nd place and still have the silver ribbon with my name engraved into it!
When I was in high school, I really admired this one popular boy. One day I did not go to school because I fell sick. The next day I came back to school to find a letter from that popular boy telling me how much he likes me. Of course, excitedly I replied to that letter and gave it to him. He looked surprised but he took the letter. The next day, I became the laughing stock in school. Came to find out my own best friend wrote that letter pretending to be him and that popular boy shared that letter to all his friends. I ended my friendship with my best friend and I had to hide from that boy until I graduated 😞
I had to stop talking to a long time friend of 18 years (that at one point was a best friend) when she was talking crazy to me, then made wild accusations that would hurt my life, called me a liar when I called her out, then proceeded to show me she didn't care about my pain and struggles. I haven't talked to her since.
Now that I think about it, I never really had a best friend, just temporary ones. I've never really had a close friend due to moving a lot, and even now where I've lived for 8 years, I've yet to make a friend that lasts. Most just hung out with me till they no longer needed me and cut me off. It's given me long lasting self esteem issues.
Best Friend from K-12, spent every weekend together and I helped her when her mom was going through cancer. One day both my parents get into a terrible accident, I called her for some help, I was emotional in need of someone. She hung up the call and blocked me on everything. She left for college and never spoke to me again. I never got a reason why she left me when I needed her the most.
Lost my best friend because her girlfriend hated me, even though they never admitted, but it was oblivious. He just stopped talking to me, the few times he replied was just one word. I was angry, and very sad, but I just let go, I realised he made his choice, and I wanted to see him happy. It was hard, but it was for the best, I just hope he and his gf are doing well now
22:00 almost the same thing happened to me. Still not completely sure what her reason was. It’s really pathetic when people can’t straight up tell you what their problem is, but can tell other people but then tell those people they can’t tell you.
imagine a fake friend in highschool, planning to con you out of money, playing stupid, watching you destroying yourself in the workplace secretly stealing hours at the job.- _ - What Goes Around, comes Around...
Had a best friend tried to say I've traced their artwork but they know I'm serious about my work and would never have done that. Got a group of mutual friends to believe her... That was 4 years ago
Long story short, I was best friends with this girl that I met back in high school (about freshman year.) The both of us were nerds, constantly gaming, drawing and making time to hang out. Her family was close with mine, so we pretty much considered them family. It all changed when one of her other friends was caught with child pornography on his computer, as well as plenty of messages proving that he was trying to solicit from minors online. For reasons I don't care to understand, she chose to continue to associate with him, and even tried to date him... which in retrospect, explains why she disappeared from my life without saying a word. She knew I would be furious, and she was correct. I just wish she would've said something at the time, so I wasn't left worrying about her.
I was this friend. I got jealous of him having a girlfriend and the fact he'd gotten laid. it was nearly 10 years ago now. I wish I could go back in time and stop myself from doing it. I've had no IRL friends since and no one to go out and hang with. Now I just see it as "I deserve this loneliness."
I cut contact with a best friend and never gave her an explanation bc I’m convinced she knows why, so I don’t feel that sorry for some of these people honestly, they probably did something without caring it hurt the other person.
I was bestfriends' with my next door neighbor, he was like a brother to me. We were best friends and hung out every single day from 4th grade to 11th Grade, one day I moved across town to a new house. At that point he stopped talking to me. I tried to call him and reach out multiple times. He never reached out, and to this day I don't know what happened.
Had a so called friend accuse me of being a pedo because I had made an ad in the personals on craigslist a long time ago just looking for hookups. Her logic was that I listed 18 as the minimum age. Mind you I was 23 at the time, I can see if it was an 18 year old that was still in high school but I didn't even hear from anyone under the age of 19 during this time. This chick NEVER asked me about what was going on or anything, just jumped to conclusions and blocked me on Facebook. Only reason I know that's the reason is because she told someone else and they told me. Years later she tried adding me again and tries to act like she never tried to slander my name. I never want to see her again if she could easily do that to me
Hello there (general kenobi). I had a very bad childhood. I used to be an extrovert, until 3rd grade. For four years my bestest friends tortured me by: Trigger warning Stabbing, punching, kicking, tying up, locking in a cold and dark room, trying to skin alive, burning me, and tasing me. All of that happened, by my best friends.
A guy who I thought was a good friend would always tell hyperbolic stories about me to others to try and get them to like him more. A guy cut me off in traffic when I was riding my motorcycle, so I punched his rear view mirror. He told everyone that I rode around with a big piece of metal and smashed people's cars up. I had sex with a coworker of ours that he liked, do he told people I raped girls from the office. I started a small business, he kept getting fired from jobs and told people that I was a greedy bastard who only talked to people to get money from them. He ended up abandoning his wife and son because they interfered with his bar hopping and drinking.
Okay my turn ig. So me and a few of my male friends (three or four of us) decided to join our school and our sister schools combined musical. This was all good and well and it went great until the last night where the girl I was crushing on at the time decided to say a bunch of shit about me and a bunch of racist stuff about me. Anyway, I confronted them about it, got blocked by them on everything they turned most of my year level at their school against me yada yada yada. The part that hurt me the most is that my close friends that entered into the musical with me believed that I was in the wrong and that the girl would never have said anything like that. I'm still dealing with this problem one month later and they've been getting worse convincing almost all my friends at my own school to dislike me. My close friend that entered the musical I now only have polite conversation with if even that when passing them at school.
My ex fiance was my best friend we never fought no arguments one night we were saying i love you and the next day it was like she disappeared from the planet i was literally sick with worry questioning myself what i did wrong cause she knew the thing that hurts me the most is someone abandoning me. I find out that not only is she alive but she is with the manliest looking wo-Man i ever saw. No sorry, or see you later not even a bye felicia i wouldn't wish that on anyone but i dont regret meeting her cause she taught me how to love someone other than myself but still that was super harsh i mean we were getting married and its like i never existed. All i want to know is why Irma?
My (now ex) best friend in college got impregnated by my then boyfriend while in a 3some with him AND my ex prior him. We were in an active monogamous relationship, and everyone knew about it. It's not like she didn't know. We weren't popular, but we went to a community college, and all of our parents went to the same church, so literally, the entire city knew about it. Anyways, I found out via a Facebook post of a picture of the baby that he was tagged in, and I was tagged in.... 8 months after I had already moved away from the city. Huh. He later confessed that he also dated that same ex-boyfriend 2 years prior to meeting me. Never knew either one of them were Bi, not that it mattered cuz I was, and still am very much Pan, but I still can't visit that city without wanting to secretly set fire to the place. 😅 The child is now a beautiful, caring, smart young lady studying neurology and neonatal care. She's thriving despite the parents not getting along and hating each others guts. She didn't do anything wrong. If nothing else, the child is the true victim.
Kinda. She just contacted me last night but for 3 days I was cut off after she went back to her abuser, another friend who she was ready to cut off for abusing her mentally HARD but then he worded his way back in.
My best friend moved a few towns away with new partner. If they got married I was promised I'd be bridesmaid, fast forward a few years I do my random rare check on social media to find out they'd got married a few month before that. I wasn't asked to be bridesmaid - ok their choice I wasn't invited - ok maybe numbers mattered. I wasn't even told I couldn't even send them a card if I wanted to cause I still don't know their home address. I hope they had a wonderful day and get the life they deserve but I still don't know what I have done wrong?
I'm a gay man, and early this year, I was sitting with other people and stopped sitting with them for 1 week because I was hanging out with my other friends and then a while later on Snapchat I saw how in a chat called ✨️✨️birds✨️✨️ I saw how the 2 of them where saying how I should kill myself and my father should have left me and later while reading the chats I saw how they called me a homophobic slur and then I basically blocked them and now avoid them. Note: I am still friends with only one of the people who where in the group.
My ex best friend and my ex cheated on me when I was asleep in bed next to them :/ I still talk to the ex best friend I don't think it was entirely her fault they were both drunk and my ex definitely took advantage to an extent but she still knew what she was doing enough that our friendship will never be the same :( I care about her a lot but some things you might be able to forgive but I can never forget
Shout out to the other manic depressives that one story hit hard. Just like the OP I'm sorry I ghosted you because I don't cope well. I'm still here if you want to call or text me 🤗🤗
I've heard quite a few stories recently about mental illness/shame cause people to cut off friends despite their friends being innocent and I just can't help but not feel sympathy for them and jusr feel frustrated towards them. The friend deserves better and is a victim with that situation (assuming they are a good friend that is)
So, when I was hospital, a staff member walked into my room while I was changing, saw my breasts, then groped and kissed me *5 times* without my consent. But when I told, my best friend at the time, she gaslighted me and didn't think it counted as sexual assault. She even thought I wanted it and liked it. So we don't talk anymore.
Okay, but the guy who mutually cut off the friend-turned-girlfriend and then used her words of how she never wanted to see him again against her is an ace. Good job!
No he’s a loser , when a girl says she never wants to see you again five minutes later she can be cuddling you again. He was stubborn and probably missed out on loads of memories just for taking a girls word at face value
@@DumboSanchez What kind of loser lets girls play with him like that? Most dudes don't want to play games.
@@DumboSanchez Except everything about those exchanges screamed 'this won't be a healthy relationship'. OP dodged a bullet
@@Sanodi21 I think you missed the satire
@@davidburns1781 I've unfortunately seen too many people that would seriously say that
My best friend and a couple of other friends were going to an event when the pandemic happened and it got cancelled. We all made a promise that when the crisis was over we’d try again together. Fast forward to a group of us hanging out when they start talking about said event and was clicking to me that they went and didn’t even tell me. I ask my best friend why I wasn’t made aware the plan was back on and already done she said they all assumed I wouldn’t have money or time to go. I accepted that but after a while it hurt then seeing the pictures of all of them so happy together knowing I was intentionally left behind. I didn’t make a fuss, I just fizzled out of their lives and got some new friends that genuinely care and want my presence. But the way how all those years just ended still stings
@ Throwaway account : Sorry ,to hear that😔a similar thing happened to me in '07 with my so called friends and a concert.Did not Tell me about it,went there without me and weeks after it, I was " allowed" to drink from their special concert cup😮 asked, if they had been there ? Yeeees🎉and it was so great! Asked, why I couldn't go with them ? False smiling ; " oh , we totally forgot!"
Some people are simply mean and lie to your face 😡it's always better to leave them and look for real ones😉
Keep your head up high👍🏻
Many greetings from Germany ✌🏻😜
I don’t trust people who say “I’m not your therapist” during an argument because I had a “friend” who would trauma dump and “compete” with me whenever I had an issue that I need support on. What made me not want to be friends with her anymore was her taking my boyfriends number out of my phone and texting him explicit messages (my boyfriend showed me and we laughed at it. He didn’t like her because whenever she was at my house, he could see how she treated me and it made him mad). I texted her telling her that our friendship was over and she went off and one of the things she said was “I’m not your therapist” after explaining how it was toxic of me to ask for moral support when I was going through a tough time. I was in therapy at the time and just wanted someone to be there for me. So yeah, people throw that phrase around a lot these days. It’s infuriating.
The first one sounds like a case of abuse. It's common for an abuser to state isolating from close friends.
The one at 13:15 hits hard. I have a friend I've had forever and me and my sibling are literally her only friends at this point, and I keep my distance because she's ALWAYS depressed. People act like that's mean of me but we always only talk about the same three things and they're draining and take it out of me.
First story: sometimes people get involved with sociopaths. They get alienated from their support network (via insidious means like manipulation, lies, or the sociopath causing the victim emotional drama "if you go out with them I'll be tragically upset") scenarios. Or the sociopathic partner will be so unpleasant no one wants to be around them, which includes the friend. It can be very subtle, like saying things such as; "you're so much better than friend is", so not everyone who suddenly drops a long term friendship is actually properly aware of why they are doing this. The sociopath consumes and begins to control the partner; and the fact that OP's friend so suddenly changed when engaged, means he is the pivotal cause. In a perfect world, friends would remain loyal, but some people can be more easily influenced in their thinking and emotional responses. Just be aware. Many parents will notice attitude changes of their teenage kids when friends' group dynamic includes a covert sociopath. Even work friends can seem to change their attitude without warning and for no real reason you can think of. Someone is sabotaging. Usually a sociopath.
Long long years ago, the years when only cellphones existed, but very close to the year where internet becomes a thing. I had 2 best friends who’s parents were friends of my parent. One day we went to the mall together, we had no issues, it was all fun and light heartedness, and that night, we were all starving, so we all went to look for somewhere to eat together, we asked each other if what foods we’re craving, but since we’re starving, we went to search for the most the least crowded restaurant around and it all went well as planned. While we were eating we showed each other what we bought from shopping and shared some story experiences outside from our friendships, such as school and other life events. So after that night, as I got home, I was full of energy and excitement telling every beautiful scenery of our malling experiences to my parent that in the end I even said I would love another trip with them next Saturday. Then unexpectedly, mom asked if why did they messaged her that I was so IMPATIENT when looking for a place to eat, they din’t know what to do to me. Which I don’t recall happening, I even told my mom, maybe she red their messages the wrong way, and then mom lets me read it, and mom turns out to be right…. I’ve never felt so betrayed. If they were real friends, they would’ve been smiling pretending everything was fine in front of my face and tell that to mom and they both know how she’ll react horribly. Since that, I decided to never speak to them again. Thankfully it worked for my favor, their family moved to a different country.
Well, I'm depressed. Perfect time to add my little story!
My old best friend from high school and I were pretty tight from like 11th grade onwards. He was younger but graduated a year early, so we were both outta HS within a couple years after being friends.
We played Halo 3 together and was my only close friend to spend the night where we just gamed and had a blast. I want everyone to have a friendship like we had. We went to the dollar store and bought cheap vuvuzelas just for the hell of it. We bought okd golf clubs and golfed snowballs in a field. He lent me his xbox 360 when I pulled a shoulder so I could enjoy Halo Reach for 3 days straight and he took a job with his dad out of town. We still played after I got my own Xbox 12 years ago.
A few years into my work career we were talking less and less, I think it was his work? Been so long I dont remember. All I do remember was the last message we exchanged in 2015 (I think?) and exactly where I stood on that street corner, feeling that we were just done talking and that we might not talk again.
He was my only true best friend as a young adult. Haven't had one since. All my "close" friends now are online, never met. I have acquaintances IRL that I might see once every week or two, but I'm never close to them or vice versa.
Hope you're good, wherever you are, ray. You were a true Bro, one Barney Stinson would be proud of.
Story Time - I had my feature film debut and not only did he (my best friend) not come, he didn't even acknowledge it or say anything, not even a "I'm happy for you". I texted him a week later asking if he was happy for me and he said yes (Not knowing what I was even talking about) and I literally had to tell him about it...and he didn't say much and we never got together to talk or anything when I really wanted to celebrate with him.
I cut him off then. I was there for his wedding as his best man, there for his career, and gave up an entire summer for him when he had a break up, given him money, etc. All things he would NEVER do for me. -_- I mean, I kinda knew he wouldn't do THAT much for me (cause honestly he never had...or done ANYTHING for me) but he could have at least acknowledged me and what was happening (which is apparently too much to ask for)...but no. So I had it.
I had confronted this problem several times over the last decade and it always came back to becoming friends again (and it had to be back to friends immediately and trust him 100% for him otherwise I'd never hear the end of his guilting me till I finally fully took him back) and the hurtful situation would inevitably happen again.
I did eventually tell him why I broke away from him by messenger, and I did it in the kindest and most civil way possible with no anger or anything. And...get this...his response showed he wasn't broken up by it or that he took it seriously as he said "Oh, I'm proud of you" and talked about "his being loyal always to me" as if he didn't even read what problems I brought up to him, and I got a wave of "likes" on everything about my stuff then and there (eyes roll, oh sure, NOW you notice and act like this so that to others it looks like you're loyal to me). He didn't even apologize or make any reference that he would change either. Whatever, I didn't friend him back or anything and thought he would get the point. ...he didn't. (He still thinks we're best friends at this time)
So a couple months go by and he commented on one of my social media posts how I am a star in his book and that just made me angry. Yup, THAT did it.
I privately responded to him (Again, not name calling or anything, but a lot more firm and clearly annoyed) that I didn't see how that was possible after everything I had already said to him, after not even being there this whole time I needed him and wanted him to be a part of my life too. I told him that this had nothing to do with my acting career and had everything to do with how important we are to each other, cause clearly I'm not to him, and I straight up told him that I didn't think he took what I said to him seriously and to back off and leave me alone and that all his words are empty to me.
Side note: This whole time I didn't hate him or wish him bad or anything.
A few weeks later he tried to "apologize" (very half hearted and a lot of "IF" I did something wrong type of stuff) and I told him I wasn't ready to accept it and that I will later but I needed space.
He went BALLISTIC! He said he did nothing wrong (so why did he apologize then?) AND accused me of wanting a romantic relationship with him (WHOA!), AND that being with me meant that that was "neglecting his family" like WTF! XD He said to me too that maybe people were right about me after all in saying I'm in a fantasy world. Low blow, but that's rich coming from him cause at least I'm actually acting in movies that are being shown and getting bigger and bigger and have more friends in my life now who think nothing like the people he's talking about vs him who wants to be a pastor and ministry and is lazy and hasn't done ANYTHING to move forward in his direction for years cause his priorities aren't in order. He also "justified" his many times cancelling on me and said how I was a selfish immature adolescent, said things that he knew would have used to hit my "insecure nerve" (but he hasn't seen me grow the last few years to know that that doesn't work on me anymore, lol), name called and so on and so forth. I can say with ease and confidence there is NO chance of us being friends after this =)
He totally showed his true colors and did everything to make himself look good. I think finding new friends and working hard for my future opened my eyes to how I wanted to be treated and he couldn't accept that. He wants the me of 10 years ago. I've outgrown him and after what he said I don't ever want to see or talk to him again. I did hope that he got the point then. Either that or he'll think what happened before will happen again: I get guilty and then I do all the apologizing and we become friends again (will full trust on HIM, not me, cause I'm the dumb immature one) and move on the way HE wants to go. Sorry dude, NOT this time. He had 13 years to change...and he's just the same.
8 months later he tried to message me through social media (I thought I blocked him) and he "apologized" but never specifically said why and minimized it a lot, and he definitely did not get the gravity of why I left. I think he was expecting me to have crawled back to him a long time ago and apologize to HIM. As if every word I said did not register to him. I basically told him to F off and that I would never speak to him again.
I'm moving on and have other films coming up that I'm acting in and several other friends in my life who are supportive and loving who showed me what true friendship is like =) Life is good without this guy. Never again.
My best friend started dating the one person so I told him specifically it was a bad idea to get in a relationship with, and multiple other people told him the same thing, but it hurt extra, because we have known each other for more than a decade, we still talk all the time and stuff, and hang out just like normal, but I do still feel a little bit betrayed
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Your best friend hasn't betrayed you, yet? Unless he deliberately leaves you out of gatherings, parties or events. It sounds more like you are covertly jealous that your friend has another person in their life. Time will tell if you're assessment of the new friend is correct, but in the meantime, keep positive in your dealings with your friend. Try not to burn that bridge. Sometimes our gut feeling about a new person is entirely correct, but it's up to your best friend to figure that out for themselves. If you are jealous, and trying to control another person's choices in life, you need to self reflect a bit more. Good luck.
This is for the giving friend..there is an old saying "if you are a giver make sure you set limits because takers don't have any..better luck to you ...because after dealing with a person like that it gets harder to trust anyone else 😕
Happened to a friend and I just recently. A person we were friends and working with on a project backstabbed us. Claiming we were against people on the autism spectrum. Which makes no sense because me and my friend are on the spectrum ourselves along with the rest of his animation team. So this former friend tried to take us down on social media but the attack flopped. The reason why she backstabbed us was because we had to kick her off a project. This was because she was not following the rules by spreading negativity by constantly spilling personal issues in her life to get us to feel bad for her; among other issues. And for bothering other team members by messaging them out of the blue on a repetitive cycle. So we had to fire her from our project.
So in a fit of emotional rage and childish games. She made a few negative posts about us and got her pussy of a Boyfriend (who she had issues with) to hire a a "Karen" who was their friend to try and do a review bomb with the hopes of getting us cancelled. It failed. Although we didn't do a public statement since we felt this situation had a lifespan of a fly and that many people knew who we truly are. We knew right there and then to never work with her ever again and narcissists just like her. Before we fired her, the girl even went as far to change her own profile pictures on Discord and Facebook to reflect her mood. Which was a mechanic of her's to get us to feel bad for her. Feeling betrayed sucks because my friend and I helped her out at one time getting a microphone. But the time we did it and she got it. She shat on the gift saying it was terrible quality and she didn't appreciate what we did from our heart after we initially felt bad for her. That and we encouraged her to do better but she refused to do so and even at one point was trying to be too nice when we told her that her negativity was too much and made our team members feel uncomfortable. Which was a shame because my friend and I were giving her a second chance several times. But it all stopped once she slandered us recently.
Lesson of the day: If you spot a narcissist who constantly thinks that her role is gonna change the world and that it is gonna be claim to fame. Do not work with them. I beg of you. Also, if you catch them trying to play games with your emotions. Please cut them out before it is too late. Do some research of them before you hire them. Because the moment you fire them, they will start to ruin your reputation. A narcissist is never a friend.
She sounds like a huge crybaby who wasn’t told the word “no” in her entire life.
3:40 this happened to me first day of 6th grade. My best friend was like “oh I have a new best friend now”. 😭😭😂😂 we spent the whole summer together!
I had a stupid dude friend, who didn't like doing anything for any project or any other school work for that matter and a chick friend who joined last minute. They both chose to work together and excluded me on the science project for the 8th grade science fair. Their idea was a new brand of non-toxic glow in the dark make-up and mine was a type of multi flavored candy straws made of sugar cane to help with less plastic in the ozone layer. Guess who won? I even got 2nd place and still have the silver ribbon with my name engraved into it!
When I was in high school, I really admired this one popular boy. One day I did not go to school because I fell sick. The next day I came back to school to find a letter from that popular boy telling me how much he likes me. Of course, excitedly I replied to that letter and gave it to him. He looked surprised but he took the letter. The next day, I became the laughing stock in school. Came to find out my own best friend wrote that letter pretending to be him and that popular boy shared that letter to all his friends. I ended my friendship with my best friend and I had to hide from that boy until I graduated 😞
I had to stop talking to a long time friend of 18 years (that at one point was a best friend) when she was talking crazy to me, then made wild accusations that would hurt my life, called me a liar when I called her out, then proceeded to show me she didn't care about my pain and struggles. I haven't talked to her since.
Now that I think about it, I never really had a best friend, just temporary ones. I've never really had a close friend due to moving a lot, and even now where I've lived for 8 years, I've yet to make a friend that lasts. Most just hung out with me till they no longer needed me and cut me off. It's given me long lasting self esteem issues.
Best Friend from K-12, spent every weekend together and I helped her when her mom was going through cancer. One day both my parents get into a terrible accident, I called her for some help, I was emotional in need of someone. She hung up the call and blocked me on everything. She left for college and never spoke to me again. I never got a reason why she left me when I needed her the most.
Lost my best friend because her girlfriend hated me, even though they never admitted, but it was oblivious.
He just stopped talking to me, the few times he replied was just one word.
I was angry, and very sad, but I just let go, I realised he made his choice, and I wanted to see him happy.
It was hard, but it was for the best, I just hope he and his gf are doing well now
Damn, seeing these pisses me off.
Like seriously, do people ever communicate how they truly feel anymore?
22:00 almost the same thing happened to me. Still not completely sure what her reason was. It’s really pathetic when people can’t straight up tell you what their problem is, but can tell other people but then tell those people they can’t tell you.
imagine a fake friend in highschool, planning to con you out of money, playing stupid, watching you destroying yourself in the workplace secretly stealing hours at the job.- _ -
What Goes Around, comes Around...
Had a best friend tried to say I've traced their artwork but they know I'm serious about my work and would never have done that. Got a group of mutual friends to believe her... That was 4 years ago
Sister asked a friend to be her maid of honor for her wedding. Friend accepted. Never heard from her again-been 38 years now.
Long story short, I was best friends with this girl that I met back in high school (about freshman year.) The both of us were nerds, constantly gaming, drawing and making time to hang out. Her family was close with mine, so we pretty much considered them family.
It all changed when one of her other friends was caught with child pornography on his computer, as well as plenty of messages proving that he was trying to solicit from minors online. For reasons I don't care to understand, she chose to continue to associate with him, and even tried to date him... which in retrospect, explains why she disappeared from my life without saying a word. She knew I would be furious, and she was correct. I just wish she would've said something at the time, so I wasn't left worrying about her.
I was this friend. I got jealous of him having a girlfriend and the fact he'd gotten laid. it was nearly 10 years ago now. I wish I could go back in time and stop myself from doing it. I've had no IRL friends since and no one to go out and hang with. Now I just see it as "I deserve this loneliness."
I cut contact with a best friend and never gave her an explanation bc I’m convinced she knows why, so I don’t feel that sorry for some of these people honestly, they probably did something without caring it hurt the other person.
I was bestfriends' with my next door neighbor, he was like a brother to me. We were best friends and hung out every single day from 4th grade to 11th Grade, one day I moved across town to a new house. At that point he stopped talking to me. I tried to call him and reach out multiple times. He never reached out, and to this day I don't know what happened.
Had a so called friend accuse me of being a pedo because I had made an ad in the personals on craigslist a long time ago just looking for hookups. Her logic was that I listed 18 as the minimum age. Mind you I was 23 at the time, I can see if it was an 18 year old that was still in high school but I didn't even hear from anyone under the age of 19 during this time. This chick NEVER asked me about what was going on or anything, just jumped to conclusions and blocked me on Facebook. Only reason I know that's the reason is because she told someone else and they told me. Years later she tried adding me again and tries to act like she never tried to slander my name. I never want to see her again if she could easily do that to me
I'm the one left behind. I have nerodivgence and have trouble connecting to people who don't just want to use me. A lot of narcissists
Hello there (general kenobi).
I had a very bad childhood.
I used to be an extrovert, until 3rd grade.
For four years my bestest friends tortured me by:
Trigger warning
Stabbing, punching, kicking, tying up, locking in a cold and dark room, trying to skin alive, burning me, and tasing me.
All of that happened, by my best friends.
And no.
It didn't end there.
If anyone wants to hear more of the story just say.
Im just saying, its a gruesome one
@@aname8169 sounds interesting. I hope things have gotten better
Thank you Anthony, but sadly i cannot say it got better, it just changed.
Before a few months i got sexually assaulted by a classmate
A guy who I thought was a good friend would always tell hyperbolic stories about me to others to try and get them to like him more. A guy cut me off in traffic when I was riding my motorcycle, so I punched his rear view mirror. He told everyone that I rode around with a big piece of metal and smashed people's cars up. I had sex with a coworker of ours that he liked, do he told people I raped girls from the office. I started a small business, he kept getting fired from jobs and told people that I was a greedy bastard who only talked to people to get money from them. He ended up abandoning his wife and son because they interfered with his bar hopping and drinking.
I only found out because a mutual friend told me what he was saying.
Okay my turn ig. So me and a few of my male friends (three or four of us) decided to join our school and our sister schools combined musical. This was all good and well and it went great until the last night where the girl I was crushing on at the time decided to say a bunch of shit about me and a bunch of racist stuff about me. Anyway, I confronted them about it, got blocked by them on everything they turned most of my year level at their school against me yada yada yada. The part that hurt me the most is that my close friends that entered into the musical with me believed that I was in the wrong and that the girl would never have said anything like that. I'm still dealing with this problem one month later and they've been getting worse convincing almost all my friends at my own school to dislike me. My close friend that entered the musical I now only have polite conversation with if even that when passing them at school.
Ghosting people, without an explanation, is bad.
Being a guy and crying about a "friend" ghosting you is worse.
My ex fiance was my best friend we never fought no arguments one night we were saying i love you and the next day it was like she disappeared from the planet i was literally sick with worry questioning myself what i did wrong cause she knew the thing that hurts me the most is someone abandoning me. I find out that not only is she alive but she is with the manliest looking wo-Man i ever saw. No sorry, or see you later not even a bye felicia i wouldn't wish that on anyone but i dont regret meeting her cause she taught me how to love someone other than myself but still that was super harsh i mean we were getting married and its like i never existed. All i want to know is why Irma?
What sucks is that no matter who I've met since then it didn't matter because it wasn't her. Plus I didn't want to get my heart broken again.
My (now ex) best friend in college got impregnated by my then boyfriend while in a 3some with him AND my ex prior him. We were in an active monogamous relationship, and everyone knew about it. It's not like she didn't know. We weren't popular, but we went to a community college, and all of our parents went to the same church, so literally, the entire city knew about it.
Anyways, I found out via a Facebook post of a picture of the baby that he was tagged in, and I was tagged in.... 8 months after I had already moved away from the city. Huh.
He later confessed that he also dated that same ex-boyfriend 2 years prior to meeting me. Never knew either one of them were Bi, not that it mattered cuz I was, and still am very much Pan, but I still can't visit that city without wanting to secretly set fire to the place. 😅
The child is now a beautiful, caring, smart young lady studying neurology and neonatal care. She's thriving despite the parents not getting along and hating each others guts. She didn't do anything wrong. If nothing else, the child is the true victim.
Kinda. She just contacted me last night but for 3 days I was cut off after she went back to her abuser, another friend who she was ready to cut off for abusing her mentally HARD but then he worded his way back in.
The first guy sounds like someone who tried some questionable things in the past and was cut off for the sake of her new relationship
22:17 He/She needs a new set of friends too. Dafuq is that...
Last year for my birthday my ex tried to kill me. This year I spent it alone. I'm thinking alone is. the way to go
My best friend moved a few towns away with new partner. If they got married I was promised I'd be bridesmaid, fast forward a few years I do my random rare check on social media to find out they'd got married a few month before that. I wasn't asked to be bridesmaid - ok their choice I wasn't invited - ok maybe numbers mattered. I wasn't even told I couldn't even send them a card if I wanted to cause I still don't know their home address. I hope they had a wonderful day and get the life they deserve but I still don't know what I have done wrong?
I'm a gay man, and early this year, I was sitting with other people and stopped sitting with them for 1 week because I was hanging out with my other friends and then a while later on Snapchat I saw how in a chat called ✨️✨️birds✨️✨️ I saw how the 2 of them where saying how I should kill myself and my father should have left me and later while reading the chats I saw how they called me a homophobic slur and then I basically blocked them and now avoid them. Note: I am still friends with only one of the people who where in the group.
satan, he criticized me 😭
My ex best friend and my ex cheated on me when I was asleep in bed next to them :/ I still talk to the ex best friend I don't think it was entirely her fault they were both drunk and my ex definitely took advantage to an extent but she still knew what she was doing enough that our friendship will never be the same :( I care about her a lot but some things you might be able to forgive but I can never forget
that's unforgivable.
Shout out to the other manic depressives that one story hit hard. Just like the OP I'm sorry I ghosted you because I don't cope well. I'm still here if you want to call or text me 🤗🤗
Calling it from the start. More repeat videos.
Of course, you lost religious friends after you left the religion.
Religion is just a series of popular cults.
These stories make me angry
I've heard quite a few stories recently about mental illness/shame cause people to cut off friends despite their friends being innocent and I just can't help but not feel sympathy for them and jusr feel frustrated towards them. The friend deserves better and is a victim with that situation (assuming they are a good friend that is)
So, when I was hospital, a staff member walked into my room while I was changing, saw my breasts, then groped and kissed me *5 times* without my consent. But when I told, my best friend at the time, she gaslighted me and didn't think it counted as sexual assault. She even thought I wanted it and liked it. So we don't talk anymore.
Misleading title. Betrays is something different then 'stopped talking.'